0:00:03 > 0:00:07Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:07 > 0:00:13As I'm the head of the house, I expect them to obey these rules whether we are right or not.
0:00:13 > 0:00:17- ..rigid boundaries... - Say sorry, you will not do again.
0:00:17 > 0:00:20My father controls my life every day.
0:00:20 > 0:00:22Will we see some progress in five minutes?
0:00:22 > 0:00:25- ..and immediate consequences... - LIDS CLATTER
0:00:25 > 0:00:27Stop!
0:00:32 > 0:00:37But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:37 > 0:00:39Come and get me, I'm drinking underage!
0:00:39 > 0:00:46I took LSD, cocaine, ecstasy, weed, MDMA, ketamine...
0:00:46 > 0:00:49When you're 17, you definitely need to go out and party,
0:00:49 > 0:00:52because, before you know it, you'll be like, "That's it, game over."
0:00:52 > 0:00:55I'm not coming back today, by the way. See you in 20 years!
0:00:55 > 0:00:59She's so incredibly rude. She's just a cow, really.
0:00:59 > 0:01:02- Do not swear at me. - Dad, just be quiet!
0:01:02 > 0:01:07I don't really care what people think about me, rules are made for breaking.
0:01:09 > 0:01:14To find out, two teens who have never met before will leave their fraught families behind...
0:01:14 > 0:01:19- Come on, give us a hug...- Behave yourself, I'm not joking, behave.
0:01:19 > 0:01:23..and head off to the far corners of the world where they will live
0:01:23 > 0:01:25according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:25 > 0:01:27HOWLS OF LAUGHTER
0:01:27 > 0:01:30- Do you want a punch?- No. - Do you want a punch?- No.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33Get off me, get off.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36Do me a favour and, for once, put some effort into your life!
0:01:36 > 0:01:40Move out, go out, just go out!
0:01:40 > 0:01:44- The world does not revolve around you.- That's why I'm trying to walk away, she's following me!
0:01:44 > 0:01:46They can't programme me.
0:01:46 > 0:01:51If all the British teenagers were like them...no good.
0:02:01 > 0:02:04Come and get me, I'm drinking underage!
0:02:04 > 0:02:0717-year-old schoolgirl Charlie Denny
0:02:07 > 0:02:09treats life like one big joke.
0:02:09 > 0:02:12There's nothing serious to my life at all
0:02:12 > 0:02:14and I refuse to take anything seriously.
0:02:14 > 0:02:17I've been drinking since I was about 12.
0:02:17 > 0:02:21I go out three or four times a week and down nine or ten pints....
0:02:21 > 0:02:25Yes! There's been points where I've been crawling across tables,
0:02:25 > 0:02:28when I've been so pissed, like knocking glasses over in pubs
0:02:28 > 0:02:31and I've been kicked out for being too drunk!
0:02:31 > 0:02:36'Bringing Charlotte up has been a very, very challenging'
0:02:36 > 0:02:37experience from day one.
0:02:37 > 0:02:39Put a lid on it.
0:02:39 > 0:02:42She never thinks for one minute about anybody else other than herself.
0:02:42 > 0:02:44Bring your dirty clothes down,
0:02:44 > 0:02:49learn how to use the washing machine, a Hoover, clear the table.
0:02:49 > 0:02:51No, that's bollocks, no, that's bollocks!
0:02:51 > 0:02:54We don't exist, we're purely, sort of what we would call,
0:02:54 > 0:02:57- what's the word I'm looking for...? - I think we're just staff!
0:02:57 > 0:02:59- You're- BLEEP,- a total- BLEEP!
0:02:59 > 0:03:01SHE SNIGGERS
0:03:01 > 0:03:04Despite thousands of pounds spent on a private education,
0:03:04 > 0:03:07Charlie barely scraped together six GCSEs.
0:03:07 > 0:03:13- The cost of educating one child from 2½ to 16 is approximately £300,000.- Yes
0:03:13 > 0:03:17I think my parents did waste a lot of money on my education, yeah.
0:03:17 > 0:03:19I feel very sorry for them.
0:03:19 > 0:03:23Her teachers always described her as being somebody that had
0:03:23 > 0:03:26- a lot of potential, but... - Just doesn't bother.- She's lazy.
0:03:26 > 0:03:28Though her parents have given her everything,
0:03:28 > 0:03:31they don't get much back in the way of thanks,
0:03:31 > 0:03:36especially as dad Bob has been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis,
0:03:36 > 0:03:40a disease that attacks nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord.
0:03:40 > 0:03:45- She was quite young when you were first diagnosed, probably four or five, wasn't she?- Yes.
0:03:45 > 0:03:47And probably too young to understand what it was then.
0:03:47 > 0:03:51I don't really talk to my dad about my future or anything,
0:03:51 > 0:03:55cos he's probably got his own stuff going on, you know.
0:03:55 > 0:03:57And why would he want to hear about that?
0:03:57 > 0:04:00We want to see her feel fulfilled with her life
0:04:00 > 0:04:02and, the way she's going at the moment,
0:04:02 > 0:04:05she's self destructing and it's looking like a crashing mess.
0:04:05 > 0:04:08Up the road in Woking, there's another teenager
0:04:08 > 0:04:11pushing the self-destruct button.
0:04:11 > 0:04:1617-year-old Hamzah Wali always likes to act the big man.
0:04:16 > 0:04:19Spending time hitting the town with his mates
0:04:19 > 0:04:23is more important than planning his future.
0:04:23 > 0:04:25Going out with the lads smoking, chilling, drinking,
0:04:25 > 0:04:27getting high - standard.
0:04:27 > 0:04:30You think why not, you know, you only live once.
0:04:32 > 0:04:34When he can be bothered to turn up,
0:04:34 > 0:04:38Hamzah is supposed to be at college studying mechanics.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40Absent, absent, absent...
0:04:40 > 0:04:42This is bollocks, man.
0:04:42 > 0:04:44No, Mum, I don't need those exams.
0:04:46 > 0:04:48No, I don't. Relax, Mum.
0:04:50 > 0:04:52I'm not lying and cheating.
0:04:52 > 0:04:56My mum is saying how come you're not going to college? You've got to go.
0:04:56 > 0:05:00Why have you been bunking all this, stuff like I've got to sort myself out.
0:05:00 > 0:05:03Relax, Mum. Chill.
0:05:03 > 0:05:07Hamzah's older sister Sairah spends her time trying to keep tabs on him.
0:05:07 > 0:05:10And you've not attended your exams!
0:05:10 > 0:05:15Oh, yeah, I've got to redo that, that's standard. Woo! Chillax!
0:05:15 > 0:05:17The reason why I'm angry
0:05:17 > 0:05:20is because we want him to get the qualifications.
0:05:20 > 0:05:24I mean, I don't want him to be one of the drop outs.
0:05:24 > 0:05:30Hamzah's behaviour has his traditional Pakistani family fearing the worst.
0:05:30 > 0:05:33'He used to be a very fine boy,'
0:05:33 > 0:05:35but now he's getting out of hand.
0:05:35 > 0:05:39Go to town, piss around and see the lads and see what's going on.
0:05:39 > 0:05:42- BLEEP,- standard!
0:05:42 > 0:05:44Their mentality is different from mine.
0:05:44 > 0:05:47Mine is more Western, theirs is more from Pakistan.
0:05:50 > 0:05:53The things I'm not allowed are drinking, smoking,
0:05:53 > 0:05:55smoking weed, having a girlfriend,
0:05:55 > 0:05:58having a conversation with a woman right now, if you get me.
0:05:58 > 0:06:00He makes it difficult for my parents,
0:06:00 > 0:06:02he makes it really hard for my mum.
0:06:02 > 0:06:05Because there's only so much you can tolerate.
0:06:05 > 0:06:06Fridays are our prayer day.
0:06:06 > 0:06:10When it comes to Friday, Hamzah's still asleep and it's already
0:06:10 > 0:06:13one o'clock and that's normally the prayer time he should be in Mosque.
0:06:13 > 0:06:16They want to pick and choose for me and I don't want that,
0:06:16 > 0:06:17I want to do it for myself.
0:06:17 > 0:06:21To me, it seems as if Hamzah has just lost that respect then...
0:06:21 > 0:06:23he's lost himself.
0:06:25 > 0:06:29To teach the teenagers to grow up and take responsibility for their lives,
0:06:29 > 0:06:34both families are sending them to stay with new parents to live under a strict regime.
0:06:34 > 0:06:37- Be good.- I will. OK.
0:06:37 > 0:06:40Take care, yeah, see you soon.
0:06:40 > 0:06:42Don't worry, I'll sort myself out.
0:06:42 > 0:06:45Take good care, OK, Hamzah!
0:06:52 > 0:06:54Now, Charlie,
0:06:54 > 0:06:58if you hear anything go raaarr, just run!
0:06:58 > 0:07:00- Bye, sweetheart.- Bye.
0:07:01 > 0:07:03We're going to miss you.
0:07:03 > 0:07:05Bye, sweetheart.
0:07:05 > 0:07:09I hope that she will be a little bit more helpful when she comes home.
0:07:09 > 0:07:13Perhaps be more respectful towards Bob and I.
0:07:13 > 0:07:17- A bit of constructive input from her wouldn't go amiss.- Yeah.
0:07:17 > 0:07:20We look forward to seeing how and if there are any changes upon her return.
0:07:23 > 0:07:25- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you too.
0:07:25 > 0:07:28- SHE LAUGHS NERVOUSLY - Dreading it?- Yeah. Scared as.
0:07:28 > 0:07:31Oh, wow, we're going on an adventure together. Ha, ha!
0:07:32 > 0:07:35The teens are travelling over 6,000 miles
0:07:35 > 0:07:38to South Africa's Western Cape.
0:07:38 > 0:07:42It's Africa's richest nation, home to 50 million people,
0:07:42 > 0:07:44both the super rich and the destitute.
0:07:48 > 0:07:52They will be staying in Plettenberg Bay, with the du Toit de Vos family.
0:07:52 > 0:07:57Mum Anna-Marie is a barrister, and second Mum Suzanne is an artist.
0:07:57 > 0:08:01They have two children, Nuschka, 22 and Reid, 19.
0:08:01 > 0:08:03As long as you live in this house,
0:08:03 > 0:08:06doesn't matter whether you're 22 or 12,
0:08:06 > 0:08:08you have to follow our rules and principles,
0:08:08 > 0:08:13- honesty, responsibility. - Compassion.
0:08:13 > 0:08:16Anna-Marie and Suzanne love challenges.
0:08:16 > 0:08:18Together as a gay couple,
0:08:18 > 0:08:21they took on the entire South African legal system
0:08:21 > 0:08:23to fight the laws preventing gay adoption.
0:08:23 > 0:08:26We decided to challenge the rule in South Africa that says
0:08:26 > 0:08:30gay people can't adopt together, because it's, it's ridiculous,
0:08:30 > 0:08:32and we won the case.
0:08:35 > 0:08:39The mums have worked just as hard ensuring their kids get a good education.
0:08:39 > 0:08:44Daughter Nuschka is in her third year at University studying wine-making.
0:08:44 > 0:08:46Most of the population in the country
0:08:46 > 0:08:49don't have enough to actually feed the whole family.
0:08:49 > 0:08:54If you can go to school and improve your lifestyle, it's an absolute privilege.
0:08:54 > 0:09:00And 19-year-old Reid is studying for his matric, the South African equivalent to A-levels.
0:09:00 > 0:09:04Basically, that's the foundation to your future.
0:09:04 > 0:09:08Education to me is important because my future is important.
0:09:08 > 0:09:11The mums bought the farm eight years ago, so they could spend
0:09:11 > 0:09:15more time with their children and live a more sustainable lifestyle.
0:09:15 > 0:09:18We haven't got electricity, you've got
0:09:18 > 0:09:23to fetch wood to make a fire, you've got to carry water for your bath.
0:09:23 > 0:09:27You've got to feed the animals, you've got to milk the cows,
0:09:27 > 0:09:31so it's the kind of environment where you have to make a contribution.
0:09:31 > 0:09:34Nothing is for free. Everything comes with effort.
0:09:34 > 0:09:38If you want to take part in life, you have to put that effort in.
0:09:41 > 0:09:43After an 11-hour flight,
0:09:43 > 0:09:45the teens touch down in South Africa.
0:09:54 > 0:09:58The drive to Anna-Marie and Suzanne's farm takes the teens past the local township.
0:09:58 > 0:10:00What the...? Look at the houses here!
0:10:02 > 0:10:05Would you like to live in one of those?
0:10:05 > 0:10:08- Nah, I don't think so. - It looks good.
0:10:08 > 0:10:10- Yeah, looks good, my arse. - It's just different.
0:10:12 > 0:10:16The dad's probably like the quiet one, it'll be the mum that's really strict.
0:10:20 > 0:10:24Look at the place. "Our dogs eat people".
0:10:24 > 0:10:28In a traditional Pakistani family like Hamzah's,
0:10:28 > 0:10:31the man is always the head of the household.
0:10:33 > 0:10:36Are those two blokes. Are those two blokes?
0:10:36 > 0:10:39No, don't say that. I think that's a woman.
0:10:39 > 0:10:42Actually, no, is it two women? I don't know.
0:10:42 > 0:10:45- Oi! There's two women. What the- BLEEP!- Oh, wow!
0:10:51 > 0:10:54- HAMZAH:- You go in there, I ain't going!
0:10:54 > 0:10:57Maybe they don't want to get out?
0:10:57 > 0:10:59Oh...two women!
0:11:08 > 0:11:10- Hi, guys.- Yeah, hi.
0:11:10 > 0:11:14Hello, hello, hello. I'm Anna-Marie, nice to meet you.
0:11:14 > 0:11:16- I'm Charlie.- Nice to meet you.
0:11:16 > 0:11:21- Hamzah.- Hamzah. Anna-Marie, nice to meet you. Welcome, welcome, welcome.
0:11:21 > 0:11:23Hopefully.
0:11:23 > 0:11:26OK, let's go.
0:11:26 > 0:11:30Come on, this is Nuschka. This is Charlie, Hamzah.
0:11:30 > 0:11:32Nice to meet you.
0:11:32 > 0:11:34I'm Charlie, nice to meet you.
0:11:34 > 0:11:39The five-bed farmhouse will be the teens' home for the next week.
0:11:39 > 0:11:42OK, now, Hamzah, this is your room.
0:11:42 > 0:11:46If you're cold at night, please tell us to get more blankets, OK.
0:11:46 > 0:11:48- That's not going to be a problem. - OK.- OK.
0:11:50 > 0:11:52Oh, wow!
0:11:52 > 0:11:55So this is real farm living,
0:11:55 > 0:11:58no electricity, no hot water,
0:11:58 > 0:12:00you'll just get used to it.
0:12:03 > 0:12:05This is the thing though that scares me.
0:12:05 > 0:12:09Literally think about it, we are so far away no-one can hear us scream.
0:12:10 > 0:12:13I had no idea it was going to be like this, honestly.
0:12:13 > 0:12:17- And we're staying with two women as well, how the- BLEEP- does that work?
0:12:17 > 0:12:21I forgot the names again, innit?
0:12:21 > 0:12:24- The names are Anna-Marie.- Yes.
0:12:24 > 0:12:25- And I'm Suzanne.- Suzanne?- Yes.
0:12:25 > 0:12:29And, actually, at your age in South Africa,
0:12:29 > 0:12:32in our Afrikaans-speaking community, you should call me Tunny.
0:12:32 > 0:12:35- Tunny?- Tunny means Auntie!
0:12:35 > 0:12:37And then there's...
0:12:37 > 0:12:41- Nuschka.- Nuschka. - And Reid.- Reid.- Yah.
0:12:41 > 0:12:43And we can write them down if that helps.
0:12:43 > 0:12:46- And did you like adopt them or...? - We did.
0:12:46 > 0:12:49Yes, we adopted them together, they are brother and sister.
0:12:49 > 0:12:54But we adopted them when Nuschka was six-years-old and Reid was two and a half.
0:12:54 > 0:12:57'It's a way of being that he doesn't know,
0:12:57 > 0:12:59'and I think that is worrying him a bit.'
0:12:59 > 0:13:03He looks to me a combination of being scared and angry,
0:13:03 > 0:13:06which those things usually go together.
0:13:06 > 0:13:08I think at the moment he is a bit scared, I suspect that,
0:13:08 > 0:13:11once the fear has subsided, more of the anger will come out.
0:13:15 > 0:13:18Before they fully welcome Hamzah and Charlie
0:13:18 > 0:13:20as new members of the family,
0:13:20 > 0:13:23the mums want to lay down the law for the next seven days.
0:13:23 > 0:13:29Maybe you don't know this, but I'm a lawyer and, for me, the law is very important.
0:13:29 > 0:13:35We are offering you hospitality, we expect you to also accept our rules.
0:13:35 > 0:13:37No drinking, no drugs, no sex,
0:13:37 > 0:13:39or obscene language whilst staying with us.
0:13:39 > 0:13:41Definitely no smoking in the house.
0:13:41 > 0:13:46Your rules seem fair enough, it's just the drinking one I have a problem with.
0:13:46 > 0:13:47But it's against the law.
0:13:47 > 0:13:50I know, but a small drink with dinner is not a problem, is it?
0:13:50 > 0:13:53- It is and I'll tell you why... - If you're 17, it's a problem.
0:13:53 > 0:13:58Because I'm a lawyer, I can't allow people to break the law in our house.
0:13:58 > 0:14:00I'm sure you're going to be fine.
0:14:00 > 0:14:02Everybody who lives in this house does have to contribute
0:14:02 > 0:14:05to the running of the house. Because it is a farm
0:14:05 > 0:14:08and because there's a lot to do, everybody has to pull their weight.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11We get up at 6:30 in the morning.
0:14:11 > 0:14:13I've got a problem with that one.
0:14:13 > 0:14:14You won't have a problem.
0:14:14 > 0:14:17Yeah. You will see. You will go to school with Reid.
0:14:17 > 0:14:19I don't like going to school.
0:14:19 > 0:14:24Let's just take it one day at a time. I want you to sign the document
0:14:24 > 0:14:27so that we know you have accepted our rules.
0:14:27 > 0:14:30OK, there is one for each of you.
0:14:30 > 0:14:35Because the family are switching to renewable energy, power is rationed in the evenings.
0:14:35 > 0:14:38I'm back in Charles Dickens' time.
0:14:38 > 0:14:40Why am I back in Charles Dickens times?
0:14:40 > 0:14:44Eating dinners with them. Oh, that's awkward situations.
0:14:44 > 0:14:47Like talking, having jokes while you're eating dinner.
0:14:47 > 0:14:51The school situation as well, ah, we've got to go to school here.
0:14:51 > 0:14:53Man, I don't want to go to school.
0:14:53 > 0:14:57You can't live with no electricity.
0:14:57 > 0:15:00I think it's almost, against human rights, almost, to live like that.
0:15:00 > 0:15:02That's not right.
0:15:02 > 0:15:06Back home, Hamzah is used to doing his own thing
0:15:06 > 0:15:09and that includes avoiding eating with his own family.
0:15:09 > 0:15:11Have you peeled potatoes before?
0:15:13 > 0:15:16Can I not go have some rest or something?
0:15:16 > 0:15:21As soon as you peel the potatoes, I can cook the chips and I do make nice chips.
0:15:21 > 0:15:24- Then you can have supper and you can go to bed. - But I don't want to do it.
0:15:24 > 0:15:28I know you don't want to do it. Come on.
0:15:28 > 0:15:31I'm not going to eat the chips. So why do I need to peel them?
0:15:31 > 0:15:34Because I'm asking you nicely. Come on.
0:15:34 > 0:15:36You're doing very well there.
0:15:37 > 0:15:39You look like a natural.
0:15:39 > 0:15:43Despite the encouragement, Hamzah loses interest.
0:15:48 > 0:15:52I think it's called throwing a tantrum of some sort.
0:15:52 > 0:15:56He has to participate. I'm not going to allow this again.
0:15:56 > 0:15:59He seems not willing to be open or share.
0:15:59 > 0:16:02- And it is not going to go very well. - It won't go well.
0:16:02 > 0:16:04He probably won't get very far.
0:16:04 > 0:16:08Hamz...wake up.
0:16:13 > 0:16:17Wake up, Jesus... I am so pissed off.
0:16:17 > 0:16:20I've got to go have dinner with them on my own.
0:16:22 > 0:16:26In this house, every meal starts the same way.
0:16:26 > 0:16:30# Thank you, God, for helping us Through rain and sunny weather
0:16:30 > 0:16:32# Thank you, God For this good food
0:16:32 > 0:16:35# And that we are together. Amen. #
0:16:35 > 0:16:39We are very pleased to announce Reid is doing really well at school at the moment,
0:16:39 > 0:16:42which is fantastic, because it wasn't always like that.
0:16:42 > 0:16:47I had a terrible time at like school. I used to not get on with my teachers at all,
0:16:47 > 0:16:52this is like the age of five, I'm not joking, I used to argue with teachers and stuff,
0:16:52 > 0:16:56- I used to argue back.- That sounds familiar, Nuschka and Reid.
0:17:06 > 0:17:07And grade ten!
0:17:07 > 0:17:11- That's all right. I mean, there's no shame here. - No, no, no, that's what you think.
0:17:11 > 0:17:16You know, if you look at school and you think, "OK, I don't like this class, I don't like that teacher."
0:17:16 > 0:17:21I tried to explain to both Reid and Nuschka that it's not about liking the teacher,
0:17:21 > 0:17:26because the teacher's going to get 3,000 other kids through.
0:17:26 > 0:17:28It's about liking yourself and thinking,
0:17:28 > 0:17:32"Where am I going with this? Where am I going with my life?"
0:17:32 > 0:17:34Do I want to take part? You know.
0:17:47 > 0:17:49It's 6.30.
0:17:51 > 0:17:52Dang!
0:17:52 > 0:17:54It's 6.30.
0:17:54 > 0:17:57- It's not even light yet, where's the- BLEEP- sun?
0:17:57 > 0:18:01In South Africa, there is no social welfare
0:18:01 > 0:18:06and, without a good education, it's a short step away from poverty.
0:18:06 > 0:18:12This morning, the mothers are sending the teens to the same school that Reid goes to, Wittedrift High.
0:18:12 > 0:18:17All you need to do is stand... There you go.
0:18:17 > 0:18:22- Hamzah.- Mm-hm.- We've got to leave in about two minutes.
0:18:22 > 0:18:24I just don't want to go, man.
0:18:24 > 0:18:30It's just that same feeling I used to get before.
0:18:33 > 0:18:37We know the headmaster quite well. We know all the teachers, Nuschka has been through that school,
0:18:37 > 0:18:40Reid's in his final year.
0:18:40 > 0:18:44- Try to remember today. - Set an example and stuff.- Exactly.
0:18:44 > 0:18:47And we all get what we want.
0:18:47 > 0:18:49OK, Good luck, hey.
0:18:53 > 0:19:00Wittedrift is a strict and well disciplined school of 450 pupils.
0:19:01 > 0:19:03The head master, Mr Bouwer,
0:19:03 > 0:19:07believes in nurturing the students as individuals.
0:19:07 > 0:19:10What we expect of our students is to allow the best in themselves
0:19:10 > 0:19:15to come out to the full, whatever their best is.
0:19:15 > 0:19:19We want every child to know their value, their importance.
0:19:19 > 0:19:24Back in the UK, both Charlie and Hamzah hated school.
0:19:24 > 0:19:27First of all, just let me say welcome to Wittedrift High.
0:19:27 > 0:19:31If I can summarise exactly what our school is about,
0:19:31 > 0:19:33our school is about respecting one another.
0:19:33 > 0:19:37We expect you to respect what we have,
0:19:37 > 0:19:40who we are and what we do, that's all.
0:19:40 > 0:19:45We hope you're going to learn a lot and that, when you go back, you're going to have a fond memories.
0:19:46 > 0:19:50SINGING
0:20:01 > 0:20:04This morning, we have special guests from the UK.
0:20:04 > 0:20:09Charlotte on the right-hand side and then, on the left-hand side, is Hamzah.
0:20:09 > 0:20:15And I'm going to ask one or two of you unprompted just to say a short word of welcome.
0:20:15 > 0:20:21I would like to welcome our two guest, two students from the UK,
0:20:21 > 0:20:26Charlotte and Hamzah, to our small school with a great big heart.
0:20:28 > 0:20:33Back home, instead of studying, Hamzah spends his time doing drugs with his college mates.
0:20:33 > 0:20:36A habit he's finding hard to quit here.
0:20:36 > 0:20:39- Do you get buzz in here?- A what? - Can you get buzz in here?
0:20:43 > 0:20:47- Really. Can you get some for me anyway?- Um, no.
0:20:47 > 0:20:49I want to get...
0:20:49 > 0:20:55Hamzah, he's different to the people back here, I don't think he has many boundaries.
0:20:55 > 0:20:58There's differences here like there's punishment,
0:20:58 > 0:21:01there's physical activity you have to do if you do something wrong,
0:21:01 > 0:21:05- which probably will be happening pretty soon.- Yeah, it's tough
0:21:05 > 0:21:08It's exam time, so Hamzah and Charlie are going
0:21:08 > 0:21:10to be sitting the basic English language test
0:21:10 > 0:21:12along with the rest of their year group.
0:21:12 > 0:21:16You will probably find them pretty basic.
0:21:16 > 0:21:20The exam will be supervised by deputy head, Mrs Olfstead.
0:21:20 > 0:21:24We cover the comprehension, we do the summary, we do visual literacy.
0:21:24 > 0:21:25- Right?- Mm-hm.
0:21:26 > 0:21:30- Right, any questions?- No.- Right, in you go and let's get you seated.
0:21:30 > 0:21:34They'll have two hours to finish the English language paper.
0:21:35 > 0:21:43With 11 official languages in South Africa, English is not the mother tongue of Wittedrift pupils.
0:21:43 > 0:21:47So this exam should be a doddle for the British teens.
0:21:47 > 0:21:52(Piss easy. Like, I'm actually offended.)
0:21:52 > 0:21:57Charlie's finding it a breeze, but Hamzah seems to be struggling.
0:21:57 > 0:21:59Have you tried everything?
0:21:59 > 0:22:02- Or have you just done this? - So far, I've done up to there.
0:22:06 > 0:22:10You must try, don't be such a wuss, keep trying. Come on.
0:22:18 > 0:22:19Hamzah doesn't seem to be trying.
0:22:19 > 0:22:25He just put his head down. It's as if he doesn't care and I said to him,
0:22:25 > 0:22:29"You know, I need something to mark" and that didn't even motivate him.
0:22:29 > 0:22:32I'd be interested to hear what his reason is
0:22:32 > 0:22:35for putting his head down and having a quick nap.
0:22:35 > 0:22:37ALARM BEEPS
0:22:41 > 0:22:44The exam is over.
0:22:44 > 0:22:47But coping with an entire morning of the school and its rules
0:22:47 > 0:22:49is starting to wear Charlie down.
0:22:49 > 0:22:52I don't even know where I'm supposed to go?
0:22:52 > 0:22:55I don't know where I'm supposed to be going.
0:22:56 > 0:23:00It does actually remind me of my old school quite a lot.
0:23:00 > 0:23:06Because, like, you know everyone is quite friendly and stuff,
0:23:06 > 0:23:08but no-one really understands.
0:23:12 > 0:23:16It's just everyone is like getting on and with their own thing and I can't do it.
0:23:18 > 0:23:22I'm just totally lost like in this like sea of people.
0:23:22 > 0:23:24I mean, it's a small school and everything
0:23:24 > 0:23:28but I don't know the timetable, I don't know anything. I don't know where I'm going.
0:23:31 > 0:23:33Can we just bunk? Seriously.
0:23:33 > 0:23:37- Do you want to bunk? - Please I just can't be arsed. - You wanna bunk? Seriously?
0:23:37 > 0:23:41I don't actually care. Anything is actually better than just like sitting in a classroom
0:23:41 > 0:23:43doing a subject that I don't need to do.
0:23:50 > 0:23:54I've been doing it for 16 years, I don't see why I have to go back.
0:23:54 > 0:23:56I don't see why I've got to do this again.
0:23:57 > 0:24:02- Who's coming?- It's strictly against school rules to leave the premises without permission.
0:24:02 > 0:24:06The headmaster, Mr Bouwer, has had enough of their bad behaviour.
0:24:06 > 0:24:11Listen, you two, are you acting up now? Give it to me flat, straight up, are you acting up?
0:24:11 > 0:24:15- The quiz was hard.- No, I think you're acting up, I must be honest.
0:24:15 > 0:24:17You didn't want to put in any effort.
0:24:17 > 0:24:21And it seems like now you're not interested in that.
0:24:21 > 0:24:24- You're important to me.- OK. - You're important to the school
0:24:24 > 0:24:27and we're responsible for you.
0:24:27 > 0:24:31So now, what I have to do is I'm going to take you with me
0:24:31 > 0:24:34and you're going to spend the day with me in my company.
0:24:37 > 0:24:39We've been here two hours
0:24:39 > 0:24:43and we've already been called into the headmaster's office.
0:24:44 > 0:24:47I don't think we've actually done anything that wrong.
0:24:47 > 0:24:51Corporal punishment was banned in South Africa in the 1990s.
0:24:51 > 0:24:56But physical punishment is still widely used to reinforce good behaviour.
0:24:56 > 0:24:59So the teens are going on an eight-kilometre bike ride.
0:24:59 > 0:25:03OK. There's no way the young lady can beat you.
0:25:10 > 0:25:13How does that work? Ride a bike for punishment.
0:25:13 > 0:25:19We have the option, when students transgress, to suspend them from school.
0:25:19 > 0:25:25We feel suspending the child and sending them back home is actually worsening the problem.
0:25:25 > 0:25:32So we do this type of positive activity which reinforces the basics of life,
0:25:32 > 0:25:37and that is that you do what is right and you do it properly.
0:25:44 > 0:25:48In Afrikaans, we call him a... "pampoen"
0:25:48 > 0:25:54because it kind of describes the main speed that he is driving at.
0:25:56 > 0:26:00Look at me, man. I feel like shit, man, honestly.
0:26:00 > 0:26:06Despite her bravado, Charlie only received 26 out of 50 in her English paper
0:26:06 > 0:26:10and Hamzah didn't even try to finish.
0:26:10 > 0:26:12Appalled by their performance,
0:26:12 > 0:26:16Mrs Olfstead has called Suzanne in to talk through the problems.
0:26:16 > 0:26:19- Eh, Hamzah he went to sleep. - Did he?- I had to wake him
0:26:19 > 0:26:22and remind him that here we write exams.
0:26:22 > 0:26:27And then, almost like the cherry on the cake, they hit the road and they left the property.
0:26:27 > 0:26:31- Mr Bouwer running after them... - Oh, dear.- ..bringing them back.
0:26:31 > 0:26:33He had to reprimand them.
0:26:33 > 0:26:38And I just got the feeling that they see this as a bit of a joke.
0:26:38 > 0:26:43I am disappointed, because I didn't think it would be quite this bad.
0:26:43 > 0:26:48Hamzah...will you both come down?
0:26:48 > 0:26:51OK. You remember when you arrived here.
0:26:51 > 0:26:54If I speak, I would like you to look at me. OK?
0:26:54 > 0:27:00When you arrived here, we explained to you that we are opening our house and our home for you guys
0:27:00 > 0:27:07and I don't expect any favours back or any love or kindness, I do expect participation.
0:27:07 > 0:27:11And you will remember that both Suzanne and I asked you guys please don't embarrass us.
0:27:11 > 0:27:13Now the question is why would you do that
0:27:13 > 0:27:16after all the effort that everybody put in?
0:27:16 > 0:27:18You know, you fell asleep, the teacher had to wake you up.
0:27:18 > 0:27:21You're not going to try and tell me that you didn't know
0:27:21 > 0:27:24you're not allowed to go out of the school gates.
0:27:26 > 0:27:28Are you impressed with yourself, young lady?
0:27:28 > 0:27:32I don't think that I have, like, made myself look that bad at all.
0:27:32 > 0:27:34I mean, I've been pleasant, I've been polite
0:27:34 > 0:27:35But that is exactly my point,
0:27:35 > 0:27:38being pleasant and polite is not what it's all about only.
0:27:38 > 0:27:43What would it help if somebody who is paying me to do their court case?
0:27:43 > 0:27:45If I go to court tomorrow for Mr Nel,
0:27:45 > 0:27:47I can be as pleasant and polite as I want.
0:27:47 > 0:27:50If I don't put in the effort, what am I doing there?
0:27:50 > 0:27:56And the same for you. You go to school, these people, they put in the effort to assist you
0:27:56 > 0:27:59and, although it's boring, and you are not interested in it,
0:27:59 > 0:28:02being pleasant and polite is not enough.
0:28:02 > 0:28:06Effort, you have to put in the effort.
0:28:07 > 0:28:11Sorry, but I'm done with this. That is bollocks.
0:28:11 > 0:28:13Because we haven't done anything wrong.
0:28:13 > 0:28:15I don't think we've done anything wrong at all.
0:28:21 > 0:28:24School was a disaster for the British teens.
0:28:24 > 0:28:27But Anna-Marie is determined that Hamzah and Charlie
0:28:27 > 0:28:30learn the value of hard work and preparing for the future.
0:28:30 > 0:28:34So today, the teens are set to work on the farm.
0:28:35 > 0:28:39There you go. Our first tree, Suzanny!
0:28:39 > 0:28:41The plan is to plant a circle of fig trees.
0:28:44 > 0:28:48- Are you feeling exhausted? - Yeah.- How many holes?
0:28:48 > 0:28:51I feel like a slave.
0:28:52 > 0:28:56- I'm getting old. - I feel old right now.
0:28:56 > 0:28:59- It's a mission, innit? - It's a mission. But the thing is,
0:28:59 > 0:29:02planting trees is a bit like studying more.
0:29:02 > 0:29:06It's not about the moment, the moment may not be so fantastic,
0:29:06 > 0:29:08but it's what you achieve in the end.
0:29:08 > 0:29:11I tend not to think about it and put it in the back of my head.
0:29:11 > 0:29:14Well, it's probably the kind of outlook one would have
0:29:14 > 0:29:17when you're 17, but it's not going to get you anywhere.
0:29:18 > 0:29:20Are you making your parents happy?
0:29:22 > 0:29:24I tend not to think about that either.
0:29:24 > 0:29:26I think that means the answer is "no".
0:29:26 > 0:29:28SHE LAUGHS
0:29:28 > 0:29:30OK, let's not worry about your future,
0:29:30 > 0:29:33let's worry about my tree house. OK.
0:29:35 > 0:29:39Thinking ahead is not one of my strong points, no.
0:29:39 > 0:29:41Why should you plan ahead?
0:29:41 > 0:29:45What's the point? You could die tomorrow. Live for now.
0:29:48 > 0:29:52This is bollocks. I ain't doing this, man.
0:29:54 > 0:29:56At home in Woking,
0:29:56 > 0:29:5917-year-old Hamzah is used to running away from his problems.
0:30:06 > 0:30:08- I can't be- BLEEP,- innit? I see no point in it.
0:30:08 > 0:30:13Hamzah's rebellion has only lasted six minutes,
0:30:13 > 0:30:15but Anna-Marie has had enough.
0:30:17 > 0:30:21Listen, Hamzah, I'm not quite sure where you think you are.
0:30:21 > 0:30:24Can you please look at me when I talk you to you?
0:30:24 > 0:30:26I'm very angry. I'll tell you why,
0:30:26 > 0:30:28you've been behaving extremely badly.
0:30:28 > 0:30:32Look at me when I speak to you. You're a child in this house.
0:30:32 > 0:30:36I am your parent whilst your parents are not here, OK?
0:30:36 > 0:30:38I don't care whether you like planting trees.
0:30:38 > 0:30:41I don't care whether you think it's a good idea
0:30:41 > 0:30:43or whether it's purposeless or purposeful.
0:30:43 > 0:30:45You know what I care about?
0:30:45 > 0:30:47I care about the fact that you, at the moment,
0:30:47 > 0:30:49are leading a purposeless life.
0:30:49 > 0:30:51And you know that and that's why you're here.
0:30:51 > 0:30:54- Put down that cigarette. - Can I finish it?
0:30:54 > 0:30:57No, kill it, I've had enough of you. Kill that cigarette now.
0:30:57 > 0:31:00In case you're going to burn the farm down.
0:31:00 > 0:31:04Get into the car and let's go and work. Come on.
0:31:04 > 0:31:07Just do me a favour and, for once, put some effort into your life.
0:31:07 > 0:31:10Don't be so useless, man. Come on!
0:31:10 > 0:31:14If your parents could see you now, they would be absolutely horrified.
0:31:14 > 0:31:15Come on!
0:31:18 > 0:31:21Don't do this to me, OK? It's embarrassing.
0:31:21 > 0:31:23I don't want to be angry with you.
0:31:23 > 0:31:26We are doing our bloody damndest to help you.
0:31:26 > 0:31:29You're the problem, not me, I'm a success in life.
0:31:29 > 0:31:32- You are going nowhere. - SHE MUTTERS IN AFRIKAANS
0:31:32 > 0:31:34Get a life.
0:31:34 > 0:31:38I planted that one and that one.
0:31:40 > 0:31:44The thing that he does is, he treats everybody as his equal, but he's not my equal.
0:31:44 > 0:31:48Not only am I much older than him, I've achieved something in my life.
0:31:48 > 0:31:50He has no life.
0:31:50 > 0:31:53And, in that sense, he can learn something from us,
0:31:53 > 0:31:55but it's as if he's blocking himself.
0:31:55 > 0:31:59Despite Hamzah's work-shy attitude,
0:31:59 > 0:32:02the job is finished to the mums' satisfaction.
0:32:02 > 0:32:05- We did it!- Yeah, we did it.
0:32:05 > 0:32:07- It took a bit of huffing and puffing.- Thanks, Charlie.
0:32:07 > 0:32:12- Thanks, Hamzah. Thanks, Charlie. - You've done a great job. Amazing.
0:32:15 > 0:32:19- What happened then?- She went off at me, I did a minor little thing here.
0:32:19 > 0:32:22The way she had a go at me was like I killed someone.
0:32:22 > 0:32:24What did she say because I didn't...
0:32:24 > 0:32:27She said, "You're acting like a kid, put out your cigarette,"
0:32:27 > 0:32:30and all this shit. "Get in the car, I've dealt with kids like you!
0:32:30 > 0:32:33"Look at me, get in the car, finish the job and..."
0:32:33 > 0:32:37I was so close to storming off, I was just like,
0:32:37 > 0:32:38"Oh, I just want to go to bed."
0:32:38 > 0:32:41I thought I could sweet-talk her, but no, you can't.
0:32:41 > 0:32:44I knew she had some balls in her, bruv.
0:32:44 > 0:32:46I could tell she is the solid one out of the family.
0:32:46 > 0:32:48She is the man of the family.
0:32:48 > 0:32:53She can probably tell that I'm, like, scared of her a little bit, so I'm like...
0:32:53 > 0:32:57- They are going to be nicer with you because you're a girl, 100%. I'm a guy.- Yeah, probably.
0:32:57 > 0:33:00Anna-Marie believes that children need discipline
0:33:00 > 0:33:02AND love from their parents.
0:33:02 > 0:33:05- Give me that side. - Are you sure? Fantastic, wonderful.
0:33:05 > 0:33:09So she doesn't hold a grudge and quickly draws Hamzah back in.
0:33:09 > 0:33:11Here he comes.
0:33:11 > 0:33:14Bath time might be Dickensian,
0:33:14 > 0:33:18but the mums have a long-term plan to generate their own electricity.
0:33:18 > 0:33:21- Thank you very much.- All right.
0:33:21 > 0:33:24I'm putting money away every month for that
0:33:24 > 0:33:27and, as soon as I have enough, we're going to put up wind power.
0:33:27 > 0:33:29You've got everything planned and that
0:33:29 > 0:33:31and, like, you've got something to look forward to.
0:33:31 > 0:33:34I haven't even got a plan to finish college or not so...
0:33:34 > 0:33:37When I was 17, I didn't have everything planned.
0:33:37 > 0:33:40I went to seven schools,
0:33:40 > 0:33:42we lived in 27 places.
0:33:42 > 0:33:44My father couldn't keep a job,
0:33:44 > 0:33:46so we kept on moving from one place to the other.
0:33:46 > 0:33:50And I thought, "Hmm, do I want to have that kind of life?"
0:33:50 > 0:33:53I just had a picture in my head
0:33:53 > 0:33:57and I think pretty much I've done well in terms of my picture
0:33:57 > 0:34:00and I was wondering what your picture was.
0:34:00 > 0:34:03It's a lot different, like, a lot of family issues,
0:34:03 > 0:34:06a lot of family problems, so it is hard.
0:34:06 > 0:34:11I've grown up with problems all my life, to be honest with you. Um, I don't tend to think about it,
0:34:11 > 0:34:13I just keep it at the back of my head because it gets to me.
0:34:13 > 0:34:17And like it's got to that point now where my parents have not...
0:34:17 > 0:34:18Given up, in other words,
0:34:18 > 0:34:21because I don't really do anything at home.
0:34:21 > 0:34:25And your parents, what do they say if you're not taking part?
0:34:25 > 0:34:29I don't sit and eat with them, nothing like that. I eat in my room.
0:34:29 > 0:34:32I basically live in my room, to be honest with you.
0:34:32 > 0:34:33Don't they miss you?
0:34:34 > 0:34:36I think they do, yeah.
0:34:36 > 0:34:39I used to go to college and that and, you know, I don't go now,
0:34:39 > 0:34:42I just can't be bothered, I find it long.
0:34:42 > 0:34:46- What are you studying?- Mechanics. - So why didn't you go on?
0:34:46 > 0:34:49- It's just long. - No. No, you have to.
0:34:49 > 0:34:53You can't forever be 17 and go dancing and drinking. It gets boring.
0:34:53 > 0:34:59And, if that's what you've done and you've got nothing else to fall back on, you will be bored.
0:34:59 > 0:35:01That's the problem.
0:35:01 > 0:35:04But it's just my way of looking at things
0:35:04 > 0:35:06and you'll find your own philosophy.
0:35:16 > 0:35:20# Thank you, God for a happy house For rain and sunny weather
0:35:20 > 0:35:22# Thank you, God For this good food
0:35:22 > 0:35:23# And that we are together
0:35:23 > 0:35:25# Amen. #
0:35:25 > 0:35:28It's Hamzah's first dinner at the table with the family.
0:35:28 > 0:35:31All I've got to say, yeah? And don't take this in a bad way,
0:35:31 > 0:35:34but I don't want to get on the wrong side of you again, bro!
0:35:34 > 0:35:37LAUGHTER
0:35:43 > 0:35:48It's halfway through Charlie and Hamzah's time in South Africa.
0:35:48 > 0:35:52Hamzah? Hello, sweetie, it's time to get up.
0:35:52 > 0:35:58This is a joke. I feel really tired, I want to go back to sleep.
0:35:58 > 0:36:01HE LAUGHS THEN WHINES
0:36:01 > 0:36:05Come, guys, let's move, let's move, we're going to be late.
0:36:05 > 0:36:07Today, the British teens
0:36:07 > 0:36:10will be visiting the local townships for the first time.
0:36:10 > 0:36:13Both Suzanne and I feel that we should a make a difference
0:36:13 > 0:36:16and I think, today, we are going to make a difference, you will see.
0:36:16 > 0:36:20And the most important thing for us is lots of people in the township know us,
0:36:20 > 0:36:22they know the name Kraaiboskloof very well,
0:36:22 > 0:36:26our name's on your back and I hope it's going to be fine.
0:36:32 > 0:36:36The mums live in Plettenberg Bay, a beautiful holiday destination.
0:36:36 > 0:36:38But ten minutes drive from their farm
0:36:38 > 0:36:41lie the surrounding townships. These settlements are home
0:36:41 > 0:36:44to the majority of South Africa's black population.
0:36:47 > 0:36:51The plan is to help a local family rebuild their home.
0:36:51 > 0:36:57Mum and Dad and son Enrico all live in this tiny one-room shack.
0:36:57 > 0:37:01That is out of order. That is definitely out of order.
0:37:01 > 0:37:05You see it on the telly and you think, "It can't be that bad,"
0:37:05 > 0:37:09but, when you actually come here and experience it, then you realise.
0:37:09 > 0:37:11We've got everything, to be honest with you -
0:37:11 > 0:37:14a roof over our heads, a bed at least, we've got clothes...
0:37:16 > 0:37:18They don't have anything.
0:37:21 > 0:37:25The roof is clearly not waterproof, so what we're going to do
0:37:25 > 0:37:29is put plastic over, then the corrugated iron, so it's waterproof.
0:37:29 > 0:37:33The inside - put a wooden floor in and put a small extension, yeah?
0:37:33 > 0:37:36Because there's three people living in this house.
0:37:43 > 0:37:45Hamzah seems proud to be identified
0:37:45 > 0:37:48as a member of Suzanne and Anna-Marie's family.
0:37:48 > 0:37:51I'm representing both mums, innit?
0:37:51 > 0:37:53And I can't do anything stupid or anything like that,
0:37:53 > 0:37:56because I have the T-shirt on and it says it on the back, so...
0:37:56 > 0:38:00Um, a lot of people know Anna-Marie and Suzanne,
0:38:00 > 0:38:04so we've just got to get on with it, to be honest with you,
0:38:04 > 0:38:08and just make them happy. And... make the kid happy and the mum,
0:38:08 > 0:38:11so they can live in, like, a better environment.
0:38:17 > 0:38:1822-year-old Nuschka
0:38:18 > 0:38:22has brought Charlie up the road to the Masizame Children's Centre.
0:38:26 > 0:38:29The Masizame help the most deprived children
0:38:29 > 0:38:32whose parents can't provide for their education.
0:38:32 > 0:38:33Say "Charlie".
0:38:33 > 0:38:41CHILDREN: Hello, Charlie, how are you? How are you today?
0:38:41 > 0:38:43Education is very important.
0:38:43 > 0:38:45Because, in South Africa, if you haven't got it,
0:38:45 > 0:38:47you will not get a nice job.
0:38:47 > 0:38:51And, for our kids, who are the poorest of the poor,
0:38:51 > 0:38:53they are neglected and abused children.
0:38:53 > 0:38:59So, if we can help them, I know they have a good life forward.
0:38:59 > 0:39:01Monica, the head teacher,
0:39:01 > 0:39:04takes Nuschka and Charlie to meet Angel,
0:39:04 > 0:39:06one of the Masizame parents
0:39:06 > 0:39:09who recently adopted two neglected children.
0:39:09 > 0:39:13So this is one of our parents, this is Angel.
0:39:13 > 0:39:16So we have two kids who are staying in the shelter,
0:39:16 > 0:39:19so the mum really neglected her.
0:39:19 > 0:39:23The child was burning. The whole of the hair here is off.
0:39:23 > 0:39:26And then God really sent this angel out.
0:39:26 > 0:39:29- Six, eight months ago, she adopted them from that side.- Oh, wow.
0:39:29 > 0:39:32So now the kids are staying with her now,
0:39:32 > 0:39:35- so this is the new mama of the kids.- Wow.
0:39:35 > 0:39:37Two months ago, her husband passed away,
0:39:37 > 0:39:41and thank God she adopted those two kids now,
0:39:41 > 0:39:43those kids bring joy back in her life.
0:39:43 > 0:39:46Such a strong woman.
0:39:46 > 0:39:48I agree.
0:39:48 > 0:39:52If you want to ask her something, you can ask.
0:39:52 > 0:39:55- Do you have a question?- No, I haven't really got anything. No.
0:39:56 > 0:39:58Very nice to meet you.
0:40:00 > 0:40:04Nuschka is surprised by Charlie's apparent lack of empathy
0:40:04 > 0:40:07with other people and wants to find out why.
0:40:07 > 0:40:10So, how have you felt about everything today?
0:40:10 > 0:40:13I find it hard to show how I'm feeling
0:40:13 > 0:40:16and, when I do show how I'm feeling, I feel really bad about it.
0:40:16 > 0:40:18Why do you feel bad about it?
0:40:18 > 0:40:21I don't know. I don't like to show people how I'm feeling.
0:40:21 > 0:40:25I don't like people to show... How I'm genuinely like feeling.
0:40:25 > 0:40:27It's just something I'm bad about.
0:40:27 > 0:40:31When I cry, I get embarrassed, cos I don't want people to see me cry,
0:40:31 > 0:40:34- I never like people seeing me cry.- Are you scared it's a sign of weakness?
0:40:34 > 0:40:37It is showing my true inner self and I don't like doing that.
0:40:37 > 0:40:40- But it's showing honesty.- Yeah.
0:40:40 > 0:40:44- It's showing honesty of who you are. - Yeah.- So people understand you.
0:40:44 > 0:40:49I do just want to cry, but I just, you know, I do the nervous laugh instead.
0:40:49 > 0:40:53At times like this, I just laugh it off.
0:40:53 > 0:40:57Charlie is the type of person that says everything to make everyone else happy
0:40:57 > 0:41:00and not necessarily standing up for what she thinks.
0:41:00 > 0:41:03I think she's not being honest with herself,
0:41:03 > 0:41:07she's not being honest with her real self and bringing that out to people.
0:41:09 > 0:41:13The shack extension is starting to take shape.
0:41:13 > 0:41:16What do you think, eh? what do you think? Huh?
0:41:16 > 0:41:18That looks crazy, that does.
0:41:18 > 0:41:20Isn't that brilliant?
0:41:20 > 0:41:22It's looking pretty good in there, like.
0:41:22 > 0:41:24I never thought it would be that good.
0:41:24 > 0:41:27I thought it would be getting planks of wood, dumping them on the floor,
0:41:27 > 0:41:29but they did a proper job, so yeah, it's pretty sick.
0:41:32 > 0:41:35Digging the shack foundations
0:41:35 > 0:41:38reminds Hamzah of the last hole he dug himself into.
0:41:38 > 0:41:40- Mum!- Yeah?
0:41:40 > 0:41:42- Are you free at the moment?- Yeah.
0:41:42 > 0:41:47I just wanted to say that the last time that I dug a hole
0:41:47 > 0:41:51I moaned like a little girl, I admit that.
0:41:51 > 0:41:54And I was a bit stupid, I didn't see the point of doing it.
0:41:54 > 0:41:56But this time I am doing it, I'm really enjoying it
0:41:56 > 0:41:59and I never thought I would enjoy it this much
0:41:59 > 0:42:02and I just want to say thank you so much, honestly.
0:42:02 > 0:42:05It's an absolute, absolute pleasure. Thank you.
0:42:05 > 0:42:07It's all right.
0:42:07 > 0:42:11Most parents like me don't always have to think about
0:42:11 > 0:42:15why you're doing things and how you're feeling about it
0:42:15 > 0:42:19and what is going to be the outcome of your actions and so on.
0:42:19 > 0:42:22And suddenly this week everything you do you have to think,
0:42:22 > 0:42:25why am I doing this? What am I trying to do? Where am I going to?
0:42:25 > 0:42:29And I think it has done me the world of good, and Suzanne.
0:42:35 > 0:42:38You know, it's quite amazing how...
0:42:41 > 0:42:46..how quickly a child can get into your heart.
0:42:46 > 0:42:47Anyway...
0:42:52 > 0:42:55An animal rescue charity has come to the township to offer
0:42:55 > 0:42:57free antiseptic baths and medical help.
0:43:00 > 0:43:03Worried by Charlie bottling up her emotions,
0:43:03 > 0:43:06Suzanne has decided to show her their work.
0:43:06 > 0:43:08It's all right.
0:43:08 > 0:43:10We all feel Charlie could just be a little more open
0:43:10 > 0:43:14and honest about what is going on inside herself.
0:43:14 > 0:43:17She has a good front and brave front,
0:43:17 > 0:43:21but she doesn't always show what's going on behind the scenes.
0:43:21 > 0:43:24Putting her in situations where she has to give a little more
0:43:24 > 0:43:28of herself, you know, extend herself a beyond just the superficial.
0:43:28 > 0:43:31So we'll put this first...
0:43:31 > 0:43:33The average township wage is about £3 a day,
0:43:33 > 0:43:37so the medical help given by team leader Kate and her staff
0:43:37 > 0:43:40is essential to keep the pets healthy.
0:43:40 > 0:43:41We offer primary help.
0:43:41 > 0:43:45We dip the dogs, we're going to give some free vaccinations.
0:43:45 > 0:43:48We're privileged enough to be able to go to the vets,
0:43:48 > 0:43:50it's 100 bucks, they don't have that kind of money.
0:43:56 > 0:44:00There we go, whose dog is this?
0:44:00 > 0:44:03We just got a call from one of the guys up the road.
0:44:03 > 0:44:05This dog was stabbed earlier on,
0:44:05 > 0:44:08so we are just getting the vet to have a look at it.
0:44:08 > 0:44:10The owners, they stabbed him,
0:44:10 > 0:44:15because they couldn't afford to feed him and they're offering to,
0:44:15 > 0:44:18you know, fix him and stuff, and they don't want him back.
0:44:18 > 0:44:21I just think that's, you know, awful.
0:44:21 > 0:44:24Just to put you in the picture,
0:44:24 > 0:44:28we get 200 unwanted animals per month,
0:44:28 > 0:44:32and we've got 25 kennels at our facility and we adopt out maybe 20,
0:44:32 > 0:44:35so that means that our euthanasia figures are quite high
0:44:35 > 0:44:38due to no choice.
0:44:38 > 0:44:41So what's going to happen to this dog that's been stabbed?
0:44:41 > 0:44:45The honest reality is we'll probably have to put him to sleep.
0:44:45 > 0:44:48- You know, it's difficult. - Yeah, it's hard.
0:44:48 > 0:44:50Yeah, it's a tough one.
0:44:56 > 0:45:01Until now, Charlie has kept her emotions to herself.
0:45:05 > 0:45:11I laugh things off and kind of just pretend it's all OK.
0:45:11 > 0:45:15I like to show that I don't care, but obviously I do care.
0:45:17 > 0:45:20I'm just scared of people seeing the real me.
0:45:20 > 0:45:24The shack extension is nearly finished.
0:45:24 > 0:45:29I think Hamzah did brilliantly well, because he wanted to help,
0:45:29 > 0:45:31you could see that and I think he made a big difference.
0:45:31 > 0:45:36Before they leave, Hamzah wants to talk to the owner, Mr Bouysens.
0:45:36 > 0:45:39I just want to say to him that it's been good working with him
0:45:39 > 0:45:45- and helping him and to say thank you, and it's been a privilege.- OK.
0:45:45 > 0:45:46SHE TRANSLATES MESSAGE
0:45:53 > 0:45:57After a long day of hard work, Charlie has gone to the dog kennels
0:45:57 > 0:46:01to help feed the animals who are going to be put down.
0:46:05 > 0:46:09Ah, come on, take the tablet, boy. Come on!
0:46:10 > 0:46:13He's so cute!
0:46:14 > 0:46:18What you did today made a big difference, a really big difference.
0:46:18 > 0:46:20- I hope so.- Absolutely.
0:46:20 > 0:46:25And it was a braver thing than most people do in their life sometimes.
0:46:25 > 0:46:28It's really nice that someone can be like that with me,
0:46:28 > 0:46:32like really like, yeah, I'm so proud of you, I'm so proud of you.
0:46:32 > 0:46:33I never hear that at home.
0:46:33 > 0:46:35- Don't you?- No.
0:46:35 > 0:46:38I don't know, I don't know, I suppose I don't do anything
0:46:38 > 0:46:43that makes them particularly proud, so I suppose that's probably why.
0:46:43 > 0:46:45I can't imagine that.
0:46:46 > 0:46:50There you are. Oh, thank you, that's so nice.
0:46:50 > 0:46:53- You're so lovely!- Thank you.
0:46:53 > 0:46:56I think what happened was that she got so emotionally involved,
0:46:56 > 0:46:58it kind of broke down her defences.
0:46:58 > 0:47:02And I think, once one's defences are down,
0:47:02 > 0:47:05that gives other things the chance to come out.
0:47:05 > 0:47:07You know, you see a dog like that
0:47:07 > 0:47:10and your heart goes out to it and, in a sense,
0:47:10 > 0:47:12your heart goes out to every living being including yourself.
0:47:18 > 0:47:21The teens' time in South Africa is almost over
0:47:21 > 0:47:24and Hamzah has received a letter from home.
0:47:24 > 0:47:28He's not had a proper conversation with his parents for several months.
0:47:28 > 0:47:30Your father sent you a letter.
0:47:30 > 0:47:34I want you to read it and, if you want to talk to me thereafter,
0:47:34 > 0:47:37- we'll talk about it. OK?- Yeah.
0:47:43 > 0:47:46"Since I dropped you off at the airport, I looked back
0:47:46 > 0:47:50"and I wanted to run after you and tell you how much I love you.
0:47:52 > 0:47:54"From day one, I always loved you.
0:47:55 > 0:47:59"No matter what, you are still our little baby, Hamzah.
0:48:01 > 0:48:05"When you come back, we all will sit as a family.
0:48:05 > 0:48:08"We will support you in your studying.
0:48:08 > 0:48:11"We really appreciate you for who you are
0:48:11 > 0:48:14"every day that has passed by."
0:48:17 > 0:48:22I never thought my dad would actually send me this, to be honest.
0:48:22 > 0:48:26I'm kind of shocked in a way, but happy as well.
0:48:26 > 0:48:29If you behave at home like you've behaved this week,
0:48:29 > 0:48:32he will be the proudest dad that you can imagine.
0:48:32 > 0:48:37- Definitely, yeah.- I think you and your dad and your family must learn
0:48:37 > 0:48:40to trust one another, although you come from different places.
0:48:40 > 0:48:45You know, they're traditional, so don't reject them because of that.
0:48:45 > 0:48:49You are a young British boy, they must not reject you because of that.
0:48:49 > 0:48:54You must both trust one another and you see why you can trust him.
0:48:54 > 0:48:57Why do you think you can trust him?
0:48:57 > 0:48:59Because of what he's said to me in this letter.
0:48:59 > 0:49:01- He loves you.- He does.- Exactly.
0:49:06 > 0:49:08Do you know hide and seek?
0:49:08 > 0:49:13Charlie has returned to the Masizame Children's Centre for a final visit.
0:49:13 > 0:49:14One, two, three...
0:49:14 > 0:49:17Many of the orphaned children at the shelter
0:49:17 > 0:49:21have been traumatised by their experiences.
0:49:21 > 0:49:23Coming ready or not.
0:49:24 > 0:49:27I found you straightaway.
0:49:29 > 0:49:31Aw, you're a sweetie, aren't you?
0:49:31 > 0:49:34The staff get the children to draw a family tree,
0:49:34 > 0:49:37a simple device to bring out issues that are troubling them
0:49:37 > 0:49:41if they can't or don't want to talk openly
0:49:41 > 0:49:44That's my dad. I can't remember how old my parents are.
0:49:44 > 0:49:46That's so bad.
0:49:46 > 0:49:49That's me. I'm 17.
0:49:49 > 0:49:51How do you get on?
0:49:52 > 0:49:54- Like him.- Yeah, I'm like him.
0:49:54 > 0:49:57What sort of qualities would you say you are like him?
0:49:57 > 0:49:59We're both quite clever and stuff, I think,
0:49:59 > 0:50:03and we just didn't do as well as we could at school.
0:50:03 > 0:50:05We were both a bit lazy and messed about.
0:50:05 > 0:50:08So you're saying you're clever, but you're lazy.
0:50:08 > 0:50:13He does try very hard, my dad does try very hard, I mean, he's got MS.
0:50:13 > 0:50:14Write MS there...
0:50:17 > 0:50:19..because that is a challenge.
0:50:19 > 0:50:23It makes you realise who you're connecting with and who you're not
0:50:23 > 0:50:25and maybe where you're going wrong with people.
0:50:25 > 0:50:28Unknown to Charlie's family,
0:50:28 > 0:50:32her dad's illness has had an enormous impact on her life as well.
0:50:32 > 0:50:35Obviously, I was really upset about it when I found out he had it,
0:50:35 > 0:50:38but I was only ten at the time, so...
0:50:38 > 0:50:41I just, you know, used to just, kind of, like,
0:50:41 > 0:50:45brush it off and pretend it wasn't happening.
0:50:45 > 0:50:49I don't talk to him about it at all. Never.
0:50:51 > 0:50:53I don't know, it'd be too difficult.
0:50:56 > 0:50:59Of course, I worry about him every day.
0:51:00 > 0:51:02He doesn't know that, but I do.
0:51:11 > 0:51:17Yeah, my dad is important to me, I just don't want to upset him.
0:51:17 > 0:51:20I just don't tell him I worry, I do worry, though.
0:51:25 > 0:51:29Since day one, Anna-Marie and Suzanne have taught the teens
0:51:29 > 0:51:34that honesty is key to a healthy family life.
0:51:34 > 0:51:37Why do you want to write a letter to your dad particularly?
0:51:37 > 0:51:40- Because I think I should be honest with him.- Yeah.
0:51:40 > 0:51:43I'm not a particularly honest person sometimes.
0:51:43 > 0:51:45I do tend to hide my feelings.
0:51:45 > 0:51:48I think he thinks that I've grown up
0:51:48 > 0:51:51and just not given a shit about his illness
0:51:51 > 0:51:55and, you know, his symptoms and I just don't care,
0:51:55 > 0:51:57but it's time to be honest with him, and just let him know.
0:51:57 > 0:52:01- I think he'd like to hear that as well.- I'm sure he would.- OK.
0:52:01 > 0:52:05I think it's going to mean a great deal to her father
0:52:05 > 0:52:08because she can appear to be really disaffected
0:52:08 > 0:52:11um, and...
0:52:11 > 0:52:16Yeah, for him to know that she really cares is very significant.
0:52:22 > 0:52:25The teens' time living as members of Suzanne and Anna-Marie's family
0:52:25 > 0:52:27has come to an end.
0:52:27 > 0:52:30I've seen some things,
0:52:30 > 0:52:33I've done things I would never have done in the UK,
0:52:33 > 0:52:38which has made me realise what I take for granted back at home.
0:52:38 > 0:52:42This experience in South Africa is once in a lifetime,
0:52:42 > 0:52:45it makes me see the other side of life and what life is really about.
0:52:45 > 0:52:48You have your ups and downs, but you need your family.
0:52:48 > 0:52:50Without your family, you're nothing.
0:52:52 > 0:52:55- Take care, yeah.- You too, mate.
0:52:59 > 0:53:03Bye bye, sweetheart, you look after yourself. And I love you.
0:53:03 > 0:53:07I want to say thank you so much for giving us the opportunity
0:53:07 > 0:53:11and you're lovely parents and I have a lot of love for you.
0:53:11 > 0:53:13You did this thing.
0:53:13 > 0:53:17You were brave enough, you were smart enough, you survived.
0:53:34 > 0:53:37Charlie's letter was sent on ahead of her.
0:53:38 > 0:53:42It's a shame she hadn't really spoken to us about it before
0:53:42 > 0:53:46and, kind of, kept it under wraps and it obviously hasn't been
0:53:46 > 0:53:49very good for her, so I'm glad it's out in the open now.
0:53:49 > 0:53:52I know someone who'll be pleased to see you.
0:53:52 > 0:53:54God, it's been ten days.
0:53:54 > 0:53:56Hello, sweetie, how are you? All right?
0:53:56 > 0:53:58Yeah, I've had a great time.
0:53:58 > 0:54:01- Look who's here!- Hello!
0:54:05 > 0:54:07I take it you got my note?
0:54:07 > 0:54:08I did get your note.
0:54:08 > 0:54:10It just worries me sometimes, Dad.
0:54:10 > 0:54:13It's not like I can pretend that it's not happening.
0:54:13 > 0:54:16It might be helpful for you to read some of the notes
0:54:16 > 0:54:19from the neurologist
0:54:19 > 0:54:21because you're grown up now and that will give you some insight,
0:54:21 > 0:54:25what might happen or what might not happen, we don't know.
0:54:25 > 0:54:27But you know what, I live for the present,
0:54:27 > 0:54:30I look constructively and positively to the future
0:54:30 > 0:54:33and that's what keeps me on my feet and out of a wheelchair.
0:54:33 > 0:54:36So don't be too concerned.
0:54:36 > 0:54:39- Follow me. - In the spirit of starting afresh,
0:54:39 > 0:54:43Dad's not taking any chances with the family's stash of alcohol.
0:54:43 > 0:54:45A padlock! SHE LAUGHS
0:54:45 > 0:54:50Here's the key, which is in here.
0:54:50 > 0:54:53Do not try and take away.
0:55:02 > 0:55:06We have missed Hamzah a lot. Very much.
0:55:06 > 0:55:09I just want to know whether he's changed or not really.
0:55:09 > 0:55:12I hope he's made the most out of it.
0:55:16 > 0:55:18Hello, Dad, how are you? You good?
0:55:29 > 0:55:32- So did you have a good time? - Yeah, I sorted myself out now.
0:55:32 > 0:55:35I know I was a bit on the wrong track, Dad.
0:55:35 > 0:55:37I admit that, and I just want to say sorry.
0:55:41 > 0:55:44The plan for my future now is to get back to college,
0:55:44 > 0:55:46finish my qualification, it's going to be hard at first,
0:55:46 > 0:55:49but I'm determined to push myself to that limit
0:55:49 > 0:55:51and I will be able to do it definitely, 100%.
0:55:53 > 0:55:55I just want to apologise for the stuff I did.
0:55:55 > 0:55:57What you crying for, Mum?
0:55:57 > 0:56:00Bloody hell, it's not the end of the world.
0:56:00 > 0:56:02I love you so much.
0:56:04 > 0:56:08Next time on The World's Strictest Parents...
0:56:08 > 0:56:10Will you stop swearing? What's wrong with you?
0:56:10 > 0:56:13..image-crazy Shola Bruce-Coker...
0:56:15 > 0:56:18..and binge-drinking dropout Joey Birch...
0:56:18 > 0:56:22- The party doesn't start until I get there. - ..get new parents in India.
0:56:22 > 0:56:25Move out, move out, just get out.
0:56:25 > 0:56:26Get off me, please get off me.
0:56:26 > 0:56:28They're letting my parents down.
0:56:28 > 0:56:30I called security. That's never happened before.
0:56:30 > 0:56:33I'm calling time out, you know what I mean.
0:56:33 > 0:56:35I hate it.
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