0:00:03 > 0:00:05Around the world, many parents
0:00:05 > 0:00:07raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:07 > 0:00:09As the head of the house,
0:00:09 > 0:00:13I expect them to obey these rules whether we are right or not.
0:00:13 > 0:00:17- ..rigid boundaries... - Say sorry. You will not do again.
0:00:17 > 0:00:20My father controls my life every day.
0:00:20 > 0:00:23Are we going to see some progress in five minutes?
0:00:23 > 0:00:25..and immediate consequences.
0:00:25 > 0:00:27Stop!
0:00:32 > 0:00:35But can traditional parenting change the lives
0:00:35 > 0:00:37of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:37 > 0:00:39Come and get me! I'm drinking underage.
0:00:39 > 0:00:42I took LSD, cocaine, ecstasy,
0:00:42 > 0:00:46weed, MDMA, ketamine.
0:00:46 > 0:00:49When you're 17, you need to go out and party,
0:00:49 > 0:00:52because, before you know it, you'll be like "That's it, game over."
0:00:52 > 0:00:54I'm not coming back today, by the way.
0:00:54 > 0:00:55See you in 20 years!
0:00:55 > 0:00:57She's so incredibly rude.
0:00:57 > 0:00:59She's just a cow, really.
0:00:59 > 0:01:03- Do not swear at me. - Dad, just be quiet!
0:01:03 > 0:01:07I don't care what people think. Rules are made for breaking.
0:01:09 > 0:01:11To find out, two teens who have never met before
0:01:11 > 0:01:14will leave their fraught families behind...
0:01:14 > 0:01:16Come on, give us a hug, come on!
0:01:16 > 0:01:19Behave yourself, Shola. I'm not joking, behave.
0:01:19 > 0:01:21..and head off to the far corners of the world
0:01:21 > 0:01:25where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:26 > 0:01:27HE BURPS
0:01:27 > 0:01:30- Do you want a punch?- No. - Do you want a punch?- No, gosh.
0:01:30 > 0:01:33Get off me, get off.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36Do me a favour and for once put some effort into your life!
0:01:36 > 0:01:38- Go out! Go out!- Get off!
0:01:38 > 0:01:40Just go out!
0:01:40 > 0:01:42The world does not revolve around you!
0:01:42 > 0:01:44That's why I'm walking away and she's following me!
0:01:44 > 0:01:46They can't programme me.
0:01:46 > 0:01:51If all the British teenagers were like them...no good.
0:02:05 > 0:02:07Shola, will you stop swearing?
0:02:07 > 0:02:09I asked you, how many hours ago?
0:02:09 > 0:02:11- No, I'm doing something.- Do what?
0:02:11 > 0:02:13- It's none of your business. - Exactly, nothing.
0:02:13 > 0:02:14And don't ignore me.
0:02:14 > 0:02:18- Do you want me to leave a kettle on the cooker?- Don't speak like that!
0:02:18 > 0:02:24She will not be told about anything. Thinks she knows everything.
0:02:24 > 0:02:2917-year-old Shola Bruce-Coker only cares about how she looks.
0:02:29 > 0:02:33My mum told me to stop dying my hair cos it's damaging it and that but...
0:02:35 > 0:02:37..she can't really do anything.
0:02:37 > 0:02:41She doesn't like Shola's behaviour, but beleaguered mum Andrea
0:02:41 > 0:02:45always backs down - even fixing Shola's hair extensions.
0:02:45 > 0:02:48I'm such a sucker. I should just say "no" and stick to it.
0:02:48 > 0:02:51Since leaving school and starting college
0:02:51 > 0:02:54Shola's had a major image overhaul.
0:02:54 > 0:02:56In secondary school we had to wear the same.
0:02:56 > 0:02:57We had to have plain hair.
0:02:57 > 0:03:00It was all boring and then, like, the summer after that,
0:03:00 > 0:03:02I just went a bit mad.
0:03:02 > 0:03:06And then, ever since then, I just like being unique and different.
0:03:06 > 0:03:09I've been every colour but green or grey.
0:03:09 > 0:03:12I think she goes for shock value. She wants to shock people
0:03:12 > 0:03:14with her appearance and her language.
0:03:14 > 0:03:16She's always been a very confident girl,
0:03:16 > 0:03:18always been very sure of herself.
0:03:18 > 0:03:20She loves to stand out in a crowd,
0:03:20 > 0:03:22she loves to be the centre of attention.
0:03:22 > 0:03:25Shola's parents split up when she was ten,
0:03:25 > 0:03:28and she and brother TJ live with their mum.
0:03:28 > 0:03:33It was complicated for ages, but I didn't really, like, mind.
0:03:33 > 0:03:34I knew it was coming.
0:03:34 > 0:03:38I'm not really bothered cos I still see both of 'em.
0:03:38 > 0:03:42Mum, Andrea, works shifts and has no time for Shola's laziness.
0:03:42 > 0:03:45My room's so messy and I actually do need to tidy it up
0:03:45 > 0:03:47but I just can't be bothered.
0:03:47 > 0:03:50She doesn't believe in work, everything should be given to her.
0:03:50 > 0:03:54MUSIC: "S&M" by Rihanna
0:03:58 > 0:04:02Having done OK at GCSEs, instead of hitting the books...
0:04:02 > 0:04:06Shola now prefers to hit on the boys.
0:04:07 > 0:04:09She's done exams, I've not seen her revise.
0:04:09 > 0:04:13She seems to think she's failed before she's even got the results.
0:04:14 > 0:04:16Now Andrea is at her wits' end.
0:04:16 > 0:04:18Shola, get in the house!
0:04:18 > 0:04:21- Chill out.- Do you want environmental health here again?!
0:04:21 > 0:04:24If this is how she spends her time, I'm glad I've seen it in my own home
0:04:24 > 0:04:27to know that she's more out of control than I thought.
0:04:31 > 0:04:33- I love this girl.- Yeah, man.
0:04:33 > 0:04:36The party doesn't start till I get there.
0:04:38 > 0:04:42In rural Wales, 18-year-old Joiee Birch is binge drinking
0:04:42 > 0:04:44to hide his extreme shyness.
0:04:44 > 0:04:47He's a rebel! He's a rebel!
0:04:47 > 0:04:50Your inhibitions go away so it's easier to, like, talk to people,
0:04:50 > 0:04:53to make new friends, to make conversation.
0:04:57 > 0:05:00Parents Linda and John moved to the Welsh valleys thinking it
0:05:00 > 0:05:02an idyllic place to raise their kids.
0:05:02 > 0:05:06But Joiee, youngest of two boys, struggled to make friends.
0:05:06 > 0:05:08Unfortunately for him,
0:05:08 > 0:05:13there was nobody around the area of his age or that he got on with.
0:05:13 > 0:05:14He was very much a loner
0:05:14 > 0:05:17and suddenly, now, he's gone the opposite way,
0:05:17 > 0:05:19he's got a large circle of friends
0:05:19 > 0:05:21who we know very little about to be truthful.
0:05:24 > 0:05:27Despite being talented at art, Joiee's flunked out of college
0:05:27 > 0:05:31and spent the last year drinking his life away.
0:05:33 > 0:05:36I just feel a bit like I don't really have much direction.
0:05:36 > 0:05:40I think that's partly why I do, like, sort of, go out and get wasted
0:05:40 > 0:05:43because it's like you don't have to think about reality.
0:05:43 > 0:05:45You just sort of escape it.
0:05:45 > 0:05:48When he is at home he drinks openly during the day.
0:05:48 > 0:05:51- I get mixed up with your friends. - Why bother even trying to keep up?
0:05:51 > 0:05:54Obviously you say, like, "Oh, who was he with last night?"
0:05:54 > 0:05:57They're just names. You don't know them so it doesn't matter.
0:05:57 > 0:06:00Maybe I don't know them because you never bring them home.
0:06:00 > 0:06:04Well, yeah, I've had mates... Oh, I don't really want to talk to you.
0:06:05 > 0:06:09Feeling guilty about his lonely childhood, Joiee's parents
0:06:09 > 0:06:10let him get away with murder.
0:06:10 > 0:06:12I will worry about you.
0:06:13 > 0:06:15Am I supposed to feel guilty about that?
0:06:15 > 0:06:18You're not meant to feel guilty at all. You carry on doing your thing.
0:06:18 > 0:06:22And ferry him to and from his all-night parties.
0:06:22 > 0:06:25If his life's so shit that all he wants to do is go out
0:06:25 > 0:06:28and get wasted and that's the only time he can enjoy himself
0:06:28 > 0:06:30then that makes me feel bad.
0:06:32 > 0:06:34As a parent, it makes me feel bad.
0:06:37 > 0:06:40To get the troubled teenagers back on track,
0:06:40 > 0:06:42their families are sending them
0:06:42 > 0:06:45to live with super strict parents on the other side of the world.
0:06:45 > 0:06:47- Please be good.- I will.
0:06:47 > 0:06:49- Behave yourself, Shola, I'm not joking, behave.- I will.
0:06:49 > 0:06:50Don't die.
0:06:50 > 0:06:54I hope she comes back better behaved.
0:06:54 > 0:06:56Living 200 miles from Heathrow,
0:06:56 > 0:06:59Joiee's saying his goodbyes at his front door.
0:06:59 > 0:07:00Goodbye, sweetheart.
0:07:02 > 0:07:05I hope that he learns to be a bit more respectful to us
0:07:05 > 0:07:08and to appreciate the things that he's got.
0:07:08 > 0:07:10Sometimes it takes a shock to the system,
0:07:10 > 0:07:13to let him see just how fortunate he has been.
0:07:15 > 0:07:17- Hiya!- I'm Shola.- I'm Joiee.
0:07:17 > 0:07:19- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
0:07:21 > 0:07:24Shola and Joiee are headed to northern India
0:07:24 > 0:07:29where on the outskirts of Delhi lies the new city of Gurgaon.
0:07:29 > 0:07:33A hub of international investment, the teens will be staying
0:07:33 > 0:07:35in a luxury gated community with the Virk family.
0:07:38 > 0:07:42Mum Rashmi was a teacher who now stays at home.
0:07:42 > 0:07:45And dad Ashwani is an estate agent to India's new moneyed elite.
0:07:45 > 0:07:50Their children are 15-year-old Akriti, 13-year-old Anoushka,
0:07:50 > 0:07:52and three-year-old Sahej.
0:07:52 > 0:07:55For an uncontrolled child, whoever comes to live with us,
0:07:55 > 0:07:57we will definitely be a big match for them.
0:07:59 > 0:08:02The Virks are Sikhs by faith.
0:08:02 > 0:08:05Their core values include obedience.
0:08:05 > 0:08:09You are not going, that is for sure. Every time you creating scene.
0:08:09 > 0:08:13Children are like kites. The more you release the string,
0:08:13 > 0:08:16the higher they will go. So that needs to be checked.
0:08:16 > 0:08:21And education is key, with homework checks a regular feature.
0:08:21 > 0:08:25In 18 days, if you tell me there is no chemistry, then I'm a fool.
0:08:29 > 0:08:33If there is any page on which you are not circled red
0:08:33 > 0:08:35then you can let me know.
0:08:36 > 0:08:38Ashwani comes from a poor rural background.
0:08:38 > 0:08:42His dad made huge sacrifices to send him to boarding school.
0:08:42 > 0:08:45I am where I am today due to education, you know.
0:08:45 > 0:08:48Without it, I would have been maybe...
0:08:48 > 0:08:51Another guy on the road.
0:08:51 > 0:08:53..another person on the street.
0:08:53 > 0:08:57Instead, he moved up into the wealthy middle class
0:08:57 > 0:09:00and insists his children follow in his footsteps.
0:09:00 > 0:09:02If we can shape our children, we can shape any child.
0:09:06 > 0:09:10After a long flight, the teens have arrived at Delhi airport.
0:09:10 > 0:09:14- Joiee, everyone's staring!- I know.
0:09:17 > 0:09:21Anxious about spending a week with a family of strangers,
0:09:21 > 0:09:23seriously shy Joiee has come prepared.
0:09:23 > 0:09:26- They're not taking these. They can- BLEEP.
0:09:26 > 0:09:28We could make this a good holiday.
0:09:29 > 0:09:31You haven't drank it yet.
0:09:34 > 0:09:36My worst case scenario would be that we turn up
0:09:36 > 0:09:40and they're like "Let's search your bags, we want to take your fags,
0:09:40 > 0:09:44"take your alcohol" and give us like a list of chores or something.
0:09:44 > 0:09:47To ensure his gin doesn't get confiscated,
0:09:47 > 0:09:50the teens decant some into an empty water bottle.
0:09:53 > 0:09:55Oh, my God.
0:09:55 > 0:09:59- I hope they're not strict. - I think they'll try and be.
0:09:59 > 0:10:02- They might give up if we push. - As long as we don't back down
0:10:02 > 0:10:04then I can't see how they could win.
0:10:07 > 0:10:10Oh, my God, I can see 'em.
0:10:12 > 0:10:15I'm scared, oh, my God, turn back, turn back.
0:10:15 > 0:10:18They don't look strict, they really don't.
0:10:22 > 0:10:23- Hi, Shola. - You all right?
0:10:23 > 0:10:27- I'm Ashwani Virk, good to see you. - Nice to meet you.- Hi.
0:10:27 > 0:10:30Good to see you. Hi, Joiee, good to see you.
0:10:30 > 0:10:35- Nice to meet you.- I'm Joiee. - I'm Rashmi, your mum.
0:10:37 > 0:10:39Come, please.
0:10:47 > 0:10:51- This is Joiee's room. - Going to be Joiee's room.
0:10:51 > 0:10:56- For the time being.- Yeah?- I hope you like it.- Yeah, this is nice.- Yeah?
0:10:56 > 0:10:59But Shola won't have quite as much space.
0:10:59 > 0:11:01You share with the other children.
0:11:01 > 0:11:03Your sisters will sleep with you,
0:11:03 > 0:11:06- you're the elder one now.- Yeah? - Fine?
0:11:06 > 0:11:08I'm a bit jealous because Joiee got his own room,
0:11:08 > 0:11:11with a fat TV and I've got to share.
0:11:13 > 0:11:17Not only has he got a room to himself, but Joiee's also got his own balcony.
0:11:17 > 0:11:21Erm, they seem quite like welcoming, but obviously like I don't know,
0:11:21 > 0:11:27the mum seems like she's got the potential to sort of...be a bitch.
0:11:27 > 0:11:31- I was actually shocked when I first saw them.- Yeah.
0:11:31 > 0:11:38Because I am yet to come across such oddly dressed up children.
0:11:38 > 0:11:41What kind of hairstyle Shola is having it, I don't know,
0:11:41 > 0:11:45why they need such kind of hairstyle.
0:11:45 > 0:11:49Shola, will you come down, please?
0:11:49 > 0:11:52Mr Virk is a great believer in the power of communication.
0:11:52 > 0:11:56Yeah, Joiee have a seat. Shola, please come this side.
0:11:56 > 0:12:00So at the first opportunity, he wants to talk through the house rules with the teens.
0:12:00 > 0:12:02See now that you are part of our household
0:12:02 > 0:12:06there are a few things I would like to be very clear upon.
0:12:10 > 0:12:16Shola, please look at the rules very carefully.
0:12:16 > 0:12:21Only wear respectable Indian and Western clothes. Casual jeans and decent tops permitted.
0:12:21 > 0:12:24For Indian girls definitely, respect is to cover their body.
0:12:24 > 0:12:28I'm in India, but I'm not Indian. Sometimes someone's image means a lot to someone.
0:12:28 > 0:12:32As a parent, I must tell you that we don't have to attract trouble
0:12:32 > 0:12:34once we are out on the street.
0:12:34 > 0:12:39Smoking, you're not allowed and if you have any smoking packs I want them right at the table.
0:12:39 > 0:12:42- Do you have any?- No. - Be true to yourself!
0:12:42 > 0:12:47- All right!- Of course the most important, drinking liquor.
0:12:47 > 0:12:52Do you have any of such habits which I may not know of?
0:12:52 > 0:12:56- What, like alcohol? No.- Good.
0:12:56 > 0:12:59You are going to go to the school tomorrow, with the children,
0:12:59 > 0:13:02- in the school dress.- In school dress? - In the school dress.
0:13:02 > 0:13:06- We may like to change the hair colour.- Huh, who, huh?
0:13:06 > 0:13:11- Change my hair, no way, good luck! - DOORBELL SOUNDS
0:13:11 > 0:13:14Saved by the bell, Ashwani's daughters are home.
0:13:14 > 0:13:16Model examples of schoolchildren.
0:13:16 > 0:13:20- Hi, Arkiti.- Hello, Papa. - Hi, Anoushka, come...
0:13:22 > 0:13:26Akriti, this is your elder sister, Shola.
0:13:26 > 0:13:28Anoushka, Shola.
0:13:28 > 0:13:30And that's your elder brother, Joiee.
0:13:30 > 0:13:33Akriti... Anoushka...
0:13:33 > 0:13:36- I hope those are easy Indian names to remember.- I'll try my best.
0:13:36 > 0:13:38Good.
0:13:40 > 0:13:44Oh, my God, she looks like prostitute, having red hair.
0:13:46 > 0:13:49The worst problem is the hair I'm facing.
0:13:49 > 0:13:52But Ashwani's not done, and the talks recommence.
0:13:52 > 0:13:55If you have to go to school you cannot go the way you are.
0:13:55 > 0:13:58Why do you want to bring a disrespectful thing to us?
0:13:58 > 0:14:02What's disrespectful about our hair? I don't understand, you're kicking up a fuss.
0:14:02 > 0:14:07- Because it is not acceptable. - Everyone has their human rights. - We're not talking about human rights.
0:14:07 > 0:14:09I'm getting my stuff and going for a walk.
0:14:15 > 0:14:19I'm feeling so stressed, they want to know like everything.
0:14:19 > 0:14:22They want to be all in your business 24/7
0:14:22 > 0:14:25and I've only been here like half a day.
0:14:25 > 0:14:27Right, let's go and get drunk.
0:14:29 > 0:14:32Joiee and Shola still have their cleverly disguised gin.
0:14:32 > 0:14:35- Oh!- It does the job.
0:14:35 > 0:14:38I'll put the rest of that gin into this bottle
0:14:38 > 0:14:42so it looks like water and, I'm supposed to be drinking water,
0:14:42 > 0:14:45so they'll think it is water, but it's not water...
0:14:45 > 0:14:48I'm a genius, aren't I?
0:14:48 > 0:14:52The teens want to go for a walk, but Shola's outfit goes against rule number one.
0:14:52 > 0:14:55I think if you want to go down, please change your clothes,
0:14:55 > 0:14:57otherwise stay here, don't go.
0:14:57 > 0:15:01- Do you know what,- BLEEP. - I'll just do it to get everyone off my case.
0:15:08 > 0:15:12But it's not only secret gin drinking that's on the agenda.
0:15:12 > 0:15:15You know how bad it is for you?
0:15:16 > 0:15:21Whilst Akriti dislikes their smoking, she has no idea that they're getting drunk.
0:15:21 > 0:15:23Can I have some water?
0:15:23 > 0:15:25Lovely!
0:15:25 > 0:15:29- Don't drink it all, don't drink all my water.- I won't.
0:15:29 > 0:15:31- How old are you?- 15.
0:15:31 > 0:15:33Wow, really?
0:15:33 > 0:15:37- Oh, my god, she's only two years younger than me. - You look quite young for 15.
0:15:39 > 0:15:42I'm feeling a bit... woo-hoo.
0:15:42 > 0:15:44It's all them fags you've been smoking!
0:15:44 > 0:15:47Yeah, and all that water I've been drinking, you know.
0:15:47 > 0:15:51I feel a bit tipsy, the gin's doing the job.
0:15:51 > 0:15:56I think, stressful parents you need fags and alcohol, don't you?
0:15:56 > 0:15:59Now drunk, the teens can either come clean over dinner
0:15:59 > 0:16:01or carry on deceiving their new parents.
0:16:01 > 0:16:04- Hi.- They've been smoking.
0:16:04 > 0:16:07Oh, OK...
0:16:07 > 0:16:10I'm going to take my shoes off, my feet are killing me.
0:16:10 > 0:16:12SHE LAUGHS
0:16:15 > 0:16:17Would anybody like some buttered toast?
0:16:17 > 0:16:19- No, thanks.- No, thank you.
0:16:19 > 0:16:25OK, I'm really worried because the stress is showing on your face.
0:16:25 > 0:16:29- I'm just tired, it's like... - OK, I'm sure.
0:16:29 > 0:16:32It's a bit overwhelming, to be honest, being here.
0:16:32 > 0:16:34Like, the whole of India, like, didn't expect it
0:16:34 > 0:16:37and it's a bit overwhelming.
0:16:37 > 0:16:40I just need to sleep, to be honest.
0:16:40 > 0:16:43You should rest immediately after this.
0:16:43 > 0:16:45Akriti, give him something cold also to drink,
0:16:45 > 0:16:48he should not be short of liquids.
0:16:48 > 0:16:50I've got water, like, in my bottle.
0:16:50 > 0:16:53- Yeah, he's drinking a lot of water. - Yeah, a lot...
0:16:55 > 0:16:58I'm making up all these bullshit excuses, I'm like...
0:16:58 > 0:17:02I'm tired, all the jet lag is getting to me, like all the heat.
0:17:02 > 0:17:05I can't even see in a straight line, everything's like all blurry.
0:17:05 > 0:17:08So... Oh... I don't know, this is day one
0:17:08 > 0:17:12and I'm calling time out, if you know what I mean.
0:17:12 > 0:17:14No-one's clocked, I don't think.
0:17:14 > 0:17:17I think they just think we're a bit weird.
0:17:19 > 0:17:23They're pretty interesting, they're behaving normally,
0:17:23 > 0:17:27it's just that they were too tired today.
0:17:27 > 0:17:30Let's see, a lot depends on tomorrow, how they behave in the school.
0:17:30 > 0:17:32- Tired?- Yeah.
0:17:37 > 0:17:416am dawns and, at the Virk house, it's time to get up for school.
0:17:41 > 0:17:45Joiee, good morning, wake up time.
0:17:45 > 0:17:49- Shola, wake up.- In a minute!
0:17:49 > 0:17:54Joiee's hangover cure consists of an illegal cigarette.
0:17:54 > 0:17:58I regret drinking too much, because I feel like shit today.
0:17:58 > 0:17:59I've got a banging head.
0:18:04 > 0:18:06All the best.
0:18:06 > 0:18:08- Shola, all the best.- OK.
0:18:08 > 0:18:11Like most children attending an Indian private school,
0:18:11 > 0:18:12the teens will be going by bus.
0:18:12 > 0:18:18As part of Ashwani's family, if Shola or Joiee get in trouble, it'll reflect on him.
0:18:18 > 0:18:22Last quick advice Shola, Joiee, don't let me down.
0:18:22 > 0:18:24All the best to both of you, listen to your teachers
0:18:24 > 0:18:29and behave in a proper manner and tell me you've learnt a lot when you come back. Bye.
0:18:31 > 0:18:32See you. Bye.
0:18:35 > 0:18:39I'm sure both of them are a good boy and a girl
0:18:39 > 0:18:44so they'll keep my name up. I'm sure they're going to do well. That's what I'm hoping.
0:18:45 > 0:18:49I'm not worried or excited, because I'm dressed like this.
0:18:49 > 0:18:51- I look like a bit of a- BLEEP.
0:18:53 > 0:18:56The Virk children attend Dehli Public School,
0:18:56 > 0:19:00one of the most prestigious private schools in India.
0:19:00 > 0:19:03Get back to your class, move back to class.
0:19:03 > 0:19:07The principal Aditi Misra puts her success down to strict discipline.
0:19:07 > 0:19:09Are you wearing socks?
0:19:09 > 0:19:11- Yes, I am.- Then let's see them.
0:19:11 > 0:19:15Discipline is according to me the cornerstone of any good education,
0:19:15 > 0:19:19not just today but throughout life.
0:19:19 > 0:19:23But Joiee, who hasn't been to school in a year, is used to doing whatever he wants.
0:19:25 > 0:19:28I'm not happy about this.
0:19:29 > 0:19:32We're rebels, we don't care.
0:19:39 > 0:19:41It's just strange, you know.
0:19:41 > 0:19:45Really strange to see people who are so different from you.
0:19:46 > 0:19:48Good morning, Akriti.
0:19:48 > 0:19:51- First stop is the Principal's office.- Hello.
0:19:51 > 0:19:54Word's reached her that they have been smoking.
0:19:54 > 0:19:58Welcome to India. Welcome to Delhi Public School.
0:19:58 > 0:20:01There are some rules that you need to follow when you're in this school.
0:20:01 > 0:20:03As far as I know you're coming from...
0:20:03 > 0:20:06- It's not amusing at all.- Sorry.
0:20:06 > 0:20:10- I don't expect to be laughed at. - I'm not laughing at you.
0:20:10 > 0:20:12Whatever, you're not supposed to laugh.
0:20:12 > 0:20:14Smoking within school premises, is a complete no, no,
0:20:14 > 0:20:19I can't have you setting a bad example for the rest of my students.
0:20:19 > 0:20:23You respect the school, we'll respect you back and give you a very, very nice time.
0:20:23 > 0:20:26Thank you. Can you take them to the class.
0:20:28 > 0:20:31The girl's hair is obviously coloured, which we don't accept.
0:20:31 > 0:20:36I think I'll let that pass, because that's a very small thing compared to what they've just done.
0:20:36 > 0:20:40- She's a bit easy. - She's a pushover.
0:20:40 > 0:20:41Pillock!
0:20:42 > 0:20:44- Oh,- BLEEP.
0:20:44 > 0:20:49Oh, God, it's so crazy here. I don't know... Where are they going? We have to go to the class...
0:20:49 > 0:20:54Despite their telling off, the teens disappear to find a quiet corner of the school.
0:20:58 > 0:21:00But there's nowhere to hide.
0:21:05 > 0:21:08Come on, come on, let's move.
0:21:08 > 0:21:10Can we move, please?
0:21:12 > 0:21:14Yes, or no?
0:21:14 > 0:21:17- Shall we just go? - Let's move, come on, let's go.
0:21:17 > 0:21:20To the principal's office.
0:21:20 > 0:21:22- Let's walk.- We're walking!
0:21:22 > 0:21:25They've been caught in the act by the vice-principal.
0:21:25 > 0:21:28Joiee and Shola are escorted to the head.
0:21:28 > 0:21:30I haven't said you can sit down, have I?
0:21:30 > 0:21:31Sorry.
0:21:31 > 0:21:33- Can I have the packet?- No
0:21:33 > 0:21:36- Now! - You're not going to give it back.
0:21:38 > 0:21:39Thank you.
0:21:39 > 0:21:42- Do you want my lighter and all? - Obviously.
0:21:42 > 0:21:45OK, but you're not checking my bag.
0:21:48 > 0:21:52You have been told certain rules, the least you can do is respect those.
0:21:52 > 0:21:55- Don't grab my bag.- I said, "No," I don't want you to search my bag.
0:21:55 > 0:21:58I also told you I don't want you to smoke, listen to me.
0:21:58 > 0:22:01Why are you still holding my bag, it's not yours, is it?
0:22:01 > 0:22:04It's against the school rules. Don't back chat.
0:22:04 > 0:22:08- I'm not chatting back, I'm giving my opinion.- You are answering back. I'm not used to that.
0:22:08 > 0:22:10Well, I'm not used to not smoking but...
0:22:20 > 0:22:23Hey! Where are you going?
0:22:23 > 0:22:27Joiee doesn't want his stash of gin hidden in his bag to be discovered.
0:22:27 > 0:22:28- Get off me, please.- No.
0:22:28 > 0:22:32- Get off me.- Come on.
0:22:32 > 0:22:35Please. Please, let me calm down then.
0:22:35 > 0:22:38Get off me, please. Get off me, please.
0:22:38 > 0:22:41He'll get off when you give him the bag.
0:22:41 > 0:22:44No, you're not having my bag. I'm sick of... Argh!
0:22:45 > 0:22:48- All of you, just- BLEEP!
0:22:48 > 0:22:50Call Mr Virk, right away.
0:22:50 > 0:22:53Very bad. They're letting my parents down.
0:22:53 > 0:22:58Having to call the security in, that's never happened before, ever.
0:22:58 > 0:23:00So I have taken a pretty serious view.
0:23:01 > 0:23:06Yet again, Joiee's alcohol dependency has gone undetected.
0:23:07 > 0:23:11Everyone's there looking around like it's a crime scene.
0:23:12 > 0:23:16- It wasn't far off. - Really, he's going mad.
0:23:20 > 0:23:24Ashwani has no idea why he's been summoned.
0:23:24 > 0:23:26Thank you for coming in at such short notice.
0:23:26 > 0:23:30- The moment they came to school they were caught smoking.- Right.
0:23:30 > 0:23:34To cut a long story short we won't be able to keep them in the school.
0:23:34 > 0:23:37I would like to request you to just give me one more chance
0:23:37 > 0:23:40because I'd like to speak to them later in the evening.
0:23:40 > 0:23:43It's a request which I'm with a heavy heart making to you.
0:23:43 > 0:23:45- They go home today.- OK.
0:23:45 > 0:23:49On Monday when they come, should this happen they will be taken home immediately.
0:23:49 > 0:23:52- OK.- Right?- Thank you so much.
0:23:52 > 0:23:57Joiee, come. Shola, let's go home.
0:24:11 > 0:24:15As ever, Ashwani believes all problems can be solved by discussion.
0:24:15 > 0:24:18First day and first impression you get is this, you get expelled from school.
0:24:18 > 0:24:22- And face your parents in certain embarrassing situation.- Oh, my God.
0:24:22 > 0:24:26- You're disrespecting by laughing. - I don't mean to disrespect you.
0:24:26 > 0:24:29- It's because we're nervous. - I didn't mean to disrespect you.
0:24:29 > 0:24:32What it is. According to us, it is disrespect.
0:24:32 > 0:24:37Shameless fellows, you are. You did mistake. Did you, or not?
0:24:37 > 0:24:40If I was drinking and smoking and doing drugs at school
0:24:40 > 0:24:42I would understand where you're coming from.
0:24:42 > 0:24:46- I'm not being funny, It's just a little cigarette. - Try to understand, Shola...
0:24:46 > 0:24:50- But it could be worse... - You have certain responsibilities. What could be worse?
0:24:50 > 0:24:54- The situation, imagine if I was sniffing coke in the toilets? - Don't say, "if".- I wish!
0:24:54 > 0:24:56SHE LAUGHS
0:24:56 > 0:24:58Don't say, " if".
0:24:58 > 0:25:01- Joiee it's not a thing to laugh. - It is a mark of disrespect.
0:25:01 > 0:25:03I'm sorry.
0:25:03 > 0:25:07- How many cigarettes do you smoke in a day?- Ten, around ten, 12.
0:25:07 > 0:25:10- How about you Joiee? - Yeah, about the same, yeah.
0:25:10 > 0:25:15Same? If I allow you certain cigarettes outside down below, in certain places,
0:25:15 > 0:25:18then is that an activity which may not happen during school?
0:25:18 > 0:25:22- During school times, I won't smoke. - Yeah, I won't smoke.
0:25:22 > 0:25:26- Yeah, Joiee?- Yeah.- Is that a promise I can take from you?- Yeah.
0:25:26 > 0:25:28I need to get changed.
0:25:28 > 0:25:30You want to go up, yeah?
0:25:32 > 0:25:34Realising the teens are addicted to smoking,
0:25:34 > 0:25:38Ashwani compromises for the first time.
0:25:38 > 0:25:42There is certain liberty which has been given to them
0:25:42 > 0:25:46and which I am sure my children will be very surprised when they get to know.
0:25:46 > 0:25:49Because they know their father doesn't compromise.
0:25:51 > 0:25:54And Ashwani's approach has had quite an impact on Joiee.
0:25:54 > 0:25:56I think it's good the fact
0:25:56 > 0:25:58that they do want to sit down and talk to you.
0:25:58 > 0:26:00And, like, if you have any problems
0:26:00 > 0:26:02then you get them aired out in the open
0:26:02 > 0:26:04and everyone sort of says what they think.
0:26:04 > 0:26:07They want to hear your side of the story...
0:26:07 > 0:26:09Well, sort of.
0:26:09 > 0:26:14After it you feel a lot better because it's, like, resolved.
0:26:14 > 0:26:21Whereas in my house, it's just like issues just carry on, like.
0:26:21 > 0:26:23There's never a resolution.
0:26:24 > 0:26:27But the teens haven't got off scot-free.
0:26:27 > 0:26:31Former teacher, Rashmi has asked them to write an essay about themselves.
0:26:31 > 0:26:33She wants to get to know them better.
0:26:35 > 0:26:37I told them to do an essay on myself,
0:26:37 > 0:26:42to get them to know what kind of children are they?
0:26:42 > 0:26:44What they are thinking about their family
0:26:44 > 0:26:46as well as about their parents.
0:26:46 > 0:26:52So let's see what they write and we can cover it.
0:26:52 > 0:26:54My biggest fear was that I was going to start writing
0:26:54 > 0:26:57and it was all going to sort of come out.
0:26:57 > 0:26:59And I prefer to, like put up a barrier
0:26:59 > 0:27:02and, like, not let everyone see all my emotions,
0:27:02 > 0:27:04but it has all come out.
0:27:04 > 0:27:07I've been writing about everything about myself,
0:27:07 > 0:27:08it's gone proper personal.
0:27:08 > 0:27:13Today these lovely kids from British - is that right?
0:27:13 > 0:27:16- Britain.- Britain, yeah.
0:27:16 > 0:27:21They have done something for me as well as for themselves.
0:27:21 > 0:27:25- True?- I suppose.- You can read that.
0:27:25 > 0:27:27OK.
0:27:27 > 0:27:29"I am Shola, and I am seventeen years of age
0:27:29 > 0:27:33"and I've got mixed ethnicity.
0:27:33 > 0:27:36"I express myself personally through my appearance,
0:27:36 > 0:27:40"like these brightly-coloured crazy, hair styles."
0:27:40 > 0:27:44Thank God at least you call your hair styles crazy.
0:27:44 > 0:27:51Unique. "My appearance is very important in other ways too.
0:27:51 > 0:27:56"For example, how people see you or judge you on the..."
0:27:56 > 0:27:57Outside.
0:27:57 > 0:28:03"Another way of expression for me are my body piercings and tattoos."
0:28:03 > 0:28:06Are you sucking your thumb, why's that?
0:28:06 > 0:28:08- She's nervous.- She's nervous.
0:28:08 > 0:28:11Really? But that you don't write here.
0:28:11 > 0:28:13I want to clap on that.
0:28:13 > 0:28:17At least, you know, I appreciate you are very true.
0:28:17 > 0:28:20You didn't hide anything.
0:28:20 > 0:28:22"My name is Joiee. I'm 18 years old.
0:28:22 > 0:28:24"I don't have a job. That's fine.
0:28:24 > 0:28:29"And I don't go to college, I feel that I have no career plans
0:28:29 > 0:28:32"and I failed in regards to my education."
0:28:33 > 0:28:38You know, Joiee, failure should not stop you from doing so many things.
0:28:38 > 0:28:39Yeah, I know.
0:28:39 > 0:28:43You know Einstein, he always failed in mathematics
0:28:43 > 0:28:49and he went on to make the most complicated theories in the world.
0:28:49 > 0:28:51"But I feel that I am a lost cause.
0:28:51 > 0:28:55"It's so much easier to forget about my problems
0:28:55 > 0:28:57"than to take responsibility for the pain
0:28:57 > 0:29:00"I have caused to my family and to myself.
0:29:00 > 0:29:03"Somewhere along the way I have got lost and become out of control."
0:29:03 > 0:29:06Your family always has time for you.
0:29:06 > 0:29:09If you ask your parents, they always have time for you.
0:29:09 > 0:29:12- It always ends in an argument. - Some problem or...
0:29:12 > 0:29:13You just tell your mum,
0:29:13 > 0:29:17"I want to say something, can you listen, please?"
0:29:17 > 0:29:20- You can always say. - Joiee, if you really feel this,
0:29:20 > 0:29:24it's a thing that you can easily overcome.
0:29:24 > 0:29:27'I'm used to putting up a barrier,
0:29:27 > 0:29:29'so it's quite, like, a daunting thing to do.'
0:29:29 > 0:29:32I suppose it feels like they know me a little bit better now
0:29:32 > 0:29:37and maybe they can understand why I do some of the things I do.
0:29:37 > 0:29:41And that I'm actually human and I'm not just, like,
0:29:41 > 0:29:44- a robot who misbehaves. - 'He keeps everything to himself.'
0:29:44 > 0:29:48He doesn't like to talk to people about his problems and that.
0:29:50 > 0:29:54But I haven't learnt anything about myself really, not yet.
0:29:54 > 0:29:58OK, both of you, good night. I hope you have a good sleep.
0:29:58 > 0:30:01'If you know somebody a little bit more intensely,
0:30:01 > 0:30:02'you can definitely find a way'
0:30:02 > 0:30:06to get through to them, to reach them and tell them,
0:30:06 > 0:30:10"look, this is the way it should be done, this is not right."
0:30:10 > 0:30:13I don't want that they should change for a week or so.
0:30:13 > 0:30:18I want they change deeply from their heart...permanently.
0:30:18 > 0:30:21And learn some good things from us.
0:30:26 > 0:30:28After yesterday's behaviour,
0:30:28 > 0:30:31Ashwani has a plan that involves eating humble pie.
0:30:31 > 0:30:35He's taking the British teens back to his roots,
0:30:35 > 0:30:37poverty-stricken rural India.
0:30:37 > 0:30:41I really want to let them feel that life is tough out there,
0:30:41 > 0:30:43because that's where I come from.
0:30:43 > 0:30:45If you don't educate yourself,
0:30:45 > 0:30:48you can still end up in that same place.
0:30:48 > 0:30:52The teens need to wear respectable clothes for the trip.
0:30:52 > 0:30:55But again, Shola's worried about her street cred.
0:30:55 > 0:30:57Wow, what's wrong with this?
0:30:57 > 0:31:00Look where her length of the suit is, right up to the knees,
0:31:00 > 0:31:01yours is the same story.
0:31:01 > 0:31:03You keep comparing me, but I'm not...
0:31:03 > 0:31:06Not comparing. You were saying you had a problem with the length.
0:31:06 > 0:31:09Why do you want to tie up the knots? Just leave it loose.
0:31:09 > 0:31:10I'm covered, ain't I?
0:31:10 > 0:31:12It's not a party time there, you know?
0:31:12 > 0:31:14You bought me this, I'm wearing this.
0:31:14 > 0:31:17This is the furthest I'm going to go, so deal with it.
0:31:17 > 0:31:18You're trying to make a favour
0:31:18 > 0:31:21that I bought you this, you're wearing it.
0:31:21 > 0:31:24Since we are going to the countryside which is an Indian one,
0:31:24 > 0:31:27you need to wear an Indian dress. That's what I'm trying to explain.
0:31:27 > 0:31:30- Do you want me to get out my hot pants?- You can pull it down.
0:31:30 > 0:31:33It's not allowed there, that's what I'm trying to tell you.
0:31:37 > 0:31:3920km away is the village of Abhaypur
0:31:39 > 0:31:43where there's no water supply or electricity
0:31:43 > 0:31:45and newly married women keep their faces covered.
0:31:45 > 0:31:50In contrast, Shola's barely covered her behind.
0:31:50 > 0:31:52It seems Ashwani's picking his battles.
0:31:52 > 0:31:56How are you, Captain Sharma? Akriti, my daughter, Anoushka.
0:31:58 > 0:32:01- This is Joiee. - Hello, hiya?
0:32:01 > 0:32:06And that's Shola. Captain Sharma is a family friend.
0:32:06 > 0:32:09I have been brought up here, so I do want to show you
0:32:09 > 0:32:12how life is in an Indian village.
0:32:12 > 0:32:15Where I am today, I also stared my life from here.
0:32:15 > 0:32:20I would want you to know what life is about in these parts, yeah? Come.
0:32:20 > 0:32:26Here, the extended family is vast and showing respect is critical.
0:32:26 > 0:32:28These are your aunts, OK?
0:32:28 > 0:32:31Same family in the village for many years,
0:32:31 > 0:32:34and they've been living here since then.
0:32:36 > 0:32:42You had to go miles away to fetch water in such earthen pots,
0:32:42 > 0:32:45on their heads, you had to carry it for miles.
0:32:45 > 0:32:48They don't have the appliances and electronics and everything.
0:32:48 > 0:32:50They have to do everything by hand,
0:32:50 > 0:32:53like, put a lot of time and effort in.
0:32:53 > 0:32:57I suppose it makes you feel lucky for, like, what we have back home.
0:32:57 > 0:33:00I've seen it before because I've been to Africa.
0:33:00 > 0:33:05Most of this village struggle to make a living as farmers.
0:33:05 > 0:33:06I'm going to ask my children
0:33:06 > 0:33:08to cut the grass here and cut the plants
0:33:08 > 0:33:10which is a corn field, basically.
0:33:10 > 0:33:13We just came here just to stand in a field,
0:33:13 > 0:33:15- that's so- BLEEP- pointless.
0:33:19 > 0:33:21Your initiation is done, try it out.
0:33:22 > 0:33:25Shola, why are you standing there? Come here.
0:33:25 > 0:33:29- I'm not that interested. - You can see it.- I can see.- OK, good.
0:33:30 > 0:33:34Mind your fingers and it's just with one stroke of hand beneath you.
0:33:34 > 0:33:41See that, there you are. She's good. Move here.
0:33:41 > 0:33:44Joiee, Joiee, do just one plant, and yeah,
0:33:44 > 0:33:46just put there, Joiee, it's so easy.
0:33:46 > 0:33:51You're doing a great thing, that's interesting. Shola?
0:33:51 > 0:33:55- I'm not doing it.- Most of the women do it in the village.
0:33:55 > 0:33:57You say most of the women do it, I don't care.
0:33:57 > 0:33:59I understand, but this is what life is,
0:33:59 > 0:34:01there are many things you don't care.
0:34:01 > 0:34:03I've been in Africa, I've seen poverty.
0:34:03 > 0:34:06There are many things in life you don't care.
0:34:06 > 0:34:08You're putting it down to women, that's sexist.
0:34:08 > 0:34:12- Where I'm from, women and men are both independent. - I'm not taking you to the Stone Age,
0:34:12 > 0:34:15I'm trying to explain how difficult life is.
0:34:15 > 0:34:17- I'm saying I just want to go home. - We'll go home.
0:34:17 > 0:34:21- We'll go home, don't worry. - When? You keep saying we'll go home after this.
0:34:21 > 0:34:25- After this we'll go home, no issues. - You said that last time.
0:34:25 > 0:34:27I've got one cigarette left and I'm hot and I'm tired
0:34:27 > 0:34:30and I've got to wear this and it's boiling.
0:34:30 > 0:34:33I think Shola, I don't think she was trying as hard
0:34:33 > 0:34:35as she could have with trying new things.
0:34:35 > 0:34:38Obviously, yes, it's going to be different
0:34:38 > 0:34:40and you won't enjoy everything,
0:34:40 > 0:34:42but I've been trying to make the effort
0:34:42 > 0:34:45whereas I think she's been a bit sulky.
0:34:45 > 0:34:50Today's been shit. I hate it, I just want to go home.
0:34:50 > 0:34:53Shola particularly is pretty stressed out.
0:34:53 > 0:34:56Joiee was, in fact, more curious you know?
0:34:56 > 0:34:59He wanted to see a lot of other things, activities,
0:34:59 > 0:35:03but I think he's just wanting to accompany Shola
0:35:03 > 0:35:08and I would love to continue with a couple of more activities.
0:35:15 > 0:35:19Despite progress today, Joiee's still dependent on his gin.
0:35:19 > 0:35:22I'm drinking this in front of them and they don't even know.
0:35:27 > 0:35:29Oh, it's so stressful, you need it.
0:35:31 > 0:35:34I think by 12, we will be free.
0:35:34 > 0:35:40The teens are halfway through their stay and Ashwani has an important announcement.
0:35:40 > 0:35:44Sundays we generally go to the temple, where we worship. OK?
0:35:44 > 0:35:49Tomorrow is more auspicious because my father passed away,
0:35:49 > 0:35:54so we hold a small ceremony and this is going to be towards my father
0:35:54 > 0:35:56and definitely I'm not going to tolerate
0:35:56 > 0:35:58anything which is against religion. OK?
0:35:58 > 0:36:02And Shola, you must see this dress
0:36:02 > 0:36:06and whether it's long or short or loose or tight,
0:36:06 > 0:36:09because I don't want to hear anything about it in the morning, OK?
0:36:09 > 0:36:12Inside the Gurdwara you need to cover your head.
0:36:12 > 0:36:15But look how thick that is, like, why can't I just have one like that?
0:36:15 > 0:36:19It looks nice on her, but green doesn't go with my skin complexion.
0:36:19 > 0:36:21I don't really want to wear that.
0:36:21 > 0:36:23- That you are arguing... - I don't like it.
0:36:23 > 0:36:27- I told you the reason you like it. - You're raising your voice at me, for what?
0:36:27 > 0:36:29You're, like, getting a boner over nothing.
0:36:29 > 0:36:32I should listen to your choice or I should respect my father?
0:36:32 > 0:36:36- Respect your father.- I've told you, I told you what it is for
0:36:36 > 0:36:37and you're arguing over the dress?
0:36:37 > 0:36:42- Is temple a showcase? Is it a model house?- No.
0:36:42 > 0:36:44Do you want to show God how well you are dressed?
0:36:44 > 0:36:47- That's not my God, that's your God. - You can't walk out of here,
0:36:47 > 0:36:52you have to finish this argument right now, or you walk out of the house from here.
0:36:52 > 0:36:54I'm not going out of the house, I'm going upstairs.
0:36:54 > 0:36:56- Shall I take you out? - I'm getting a- BLEEP- lighter.
0:36:56 > 0:37:00- Again you said- BLEEP? BLEEP- word for you!
0:37:00 > 0:37:04- Why are you using this word?- Because what's your problem? Leave me alone.
0:37:04 > 0:37:08- What's your problem? Don't say - BLEEP- in my house, move out.
0:37:08 > 0:37:10Get off me! Get off me! Get off me!
0:37:10 > 0:37:13Just move out of my house, just move out.
0:37:13 > 0:37:16Don't try to... Move out, move out, just move out!
0:37:16 > 0:37:17- You're not allowed here. - BLEEP!
0:37:17 > 0:37:21I will to talk to your parents and then throw you out of the house.
0:37:21 > 0:37:25- You bring shame!- BLEEP!- You don't have any respect for anybody's life. - BLEEP! BLEEP!
0:37:25 > 0:37:29I am here, I am trying to do something for my dead father
0:37:29 > 0:37:32and you're trying to teach me what I should do? Just move out.
0:37:32 > 0:37:38That's what I'm doing. Get off me! I swear to God!
0:37:43 > 0:37:46I have explained the reason and she wants to act smart.
0:37:46 > 0:37:50- SHE SOBS - Oh, my God.
0:37:55 > 0:37:57Are you all right?
0:37:59 > 0:38:00Just chatting so much shit.
0:38:05 > 0:38:09It's his father so, like, I do respect that.
0:38:09 > 0:38:11I just think, like, I dunno...
0:38:13 > 0:38:16Like, I can understand why he's angry, to be honest.
0:38:16 > 0:38:18Yeah, the same but...
0:38:18 > 0:38:20I'd be the same if it was my dad and, like,
0:38:20 > 0:38:23someone was like refusing to wear a shirt to respect my dad.
0:38:23 > 0:38:25Even if she'd like...
0:38:25 > 0:38:28I wore a dress from, like, my shoulders to my feet,
0:38:28 > 0:38:31that would even be better than wearing that.
0:38:31 > 0:38:35I'm really angry, it will still take time to sink in.
0:38:35 > 0:38:39Joiee, Joiee, just have a nice sleep, don't worry.
0:38:39 > 0:38:43I don't think she means to be disrespectful to you, like, I appreciate that...
0:38:43 > 0:38:46You need to give me time and space, OK?
0:38:46 > 0:38:49Yeah, don't worry just go to sleep, good night.
0:38:49 > 0:38:52- Thank you, good night. - Good night.
0:38:57 > 0:39:01Shola has been sat on the stairs for half an hour.
0:39:01 > 0:39:03I've been thinking a bit, like,
0:39:03 > 0:39:07also I didn't want to disrespect his dad or whatever.
0:39:07 > 0:39:10But he should know that's how I am, I'm stubborn like that.
0:39:12 > 0:39:15I don't know. I'm not used to, like, living in a family with a dad
0:39:15 > 0:39:18and maybe that's it, I don't know.
0:39:36 > 0:39:38I didn't mean to make you angry.
0:39:38 > 0:39:41I think everyone sort of thought I was trying to
0:39:41 > 0:39:46- disrespect his father on purpose. - What you did, big mistake.- I know.
0:39:46 > 0:39:48Life is not about fashion and clothes.
0:39:48 > 0:39:53So many kids, they don't have even money to get that kind of clothes.
0:39:53 > 0:39:57You're living in, I don't know which world.
0:39:57 > 0:40:00You know, giving satisfaction to others,
0:40:00 > 0:40:04or listening to others will give you a lot of satisfaction.
0:40:04 > 0:40:07You know, give and take is life.
0:40:16 > 0:40:21- Can you give me five minutes?- OK. - Thanks.
0:40:24 > 0:40:28Where I live, like, what you wear is, like, everything sort of.
0:40:28 > 0:40:30But here they don't even have much,
0:40:30 > 0:40:33they don't really have a choice of what they wear.
0:40:33 > 0:40:35It's whatever they can get and, like,
0:40:35 > 0:40:38the conversation with Mum was just like...
0:40:38 > 0:40:45It made me realise. I never say sorry to anyone
0:40:52 > 0:40:53I'm sorry.
0:40:53 > 0:40:58I didn't mean to disrespect, I overreacted.
0:40:58 > 0:41:02It's really hurt me, by doing what I have done to you also.
0:41:02 > 0:41:06No, Shola, go and sleep and be ready for the morning tomorrow, OK?
0:41:06 > 0:41:08Where is the outfit?
0:41:13 > 0:41:15Thanks. Just have a quick sleep.
0:41:15 > 0:41:19Don't bring stress to yourself, OK?
0:41:20 > 0:41:22I feel really bad.
0:41:22 > 0:41:25Really, really bad cos, I don't know.
0:41:25 > 0:41:28That's just how I react at home, like,
0:41:28 > 0:41:33but I didn't think that it would be such a big thing here.
0:41:36 > 0:41:40If Shola understood my perspective of feelings,
0:41:40 > 0:41:42that means she has feelings, right?
0:41:42 > 0:41:47And that's what I would have expected from my daughter.
0:42:05 > 0:42:09After last night's upset, this morning the mood is subdued
0:42:09 > 0:42:13and the family ready themselves for the memorial service for Ashwani's father.
0:42:13 > 0:42:17Going to the temple means a lot to Dad,
0:42:17 > 0:42:21so I'm just going to keep my mouth shut and just do whatever.
0:42:23 > 0:42:26Shola is looking the best.
0:42:26 > 0:42:30- My headscarf is upstairs. - Great, your scarf is coming? Great.
0:42:30 > 0:42:33It's suiting you, this. It's fantastic.
0:42:35 > 0:42:39Ashwani's family have been coming to this temple for six years
0:42:39 > 0:42:42and due to the importance of today's ceremony,
0:42:42 > 0:42:47- it's crucial the teens behave. - HARMONIUM PLAYS
0:42:49 > 0:42:54Ashwani's father died 11 years ago and he honours him every year.
0:42:54 > 0:42:56PRIEST SINGS
0:43:09 > 0:43:14It is a very special day. We are all together in such a holy place.
0:43:14 > 0:43:18The British teens are given trophies, which are only handed out
0:43:18 > 0:43:22to people who do something important for the Sikh faith.
0:43:23 > 0:43:26PRIEST CHANTS
0:43:26 > 0:43:29And there's a marked change in Shola's attitude towards her outfit.
0:43:29 > 0:43:32'I was just being good, on my best behaviour.
0:43:32 > 0:43:35'I think it's a good experience, it's something to learn'
0:43:35 > 0:43:38and I'll probably remember it.
0:43:38 > 0:43:41The village is not very important to me or to Shola,
0:43:41 > 0:43:45but I respect, like, this so I'm trying my best to sort of like...
0:43:46 > 0:43:49- ..get on with it. - PRIEST PRAYS
0:43:54 > 0:43:57It was an amazing change
0:43:57 > 0:44:00which I have discovered today
0:44:00 > 0:44:03and it has really made me emotional and I...
0:44:14 > 0:44:17The teens return to school tomorrow.
0:44:17 > 0:44:21Geography's their first class and they're actually doing their homework.
0:44:21 > 0:44:26- I bet this is the first piece of homework you've done in years. - Yeah.- I thought so.
0:44:26 > 0:44:32I usually do it at the start of the lesson, turn up early before the teacher comes then scribble it down
0:44:32 > 0:44:34while they're like writing shit on the board,
0:44:34 > 0:44:37or copy someone else's!
0:44:37 > 0:44:40Joiee also seems to be enjoying family life.
0:44:40 > 0:44:43- What are you doing? - Straightening my hair.
0:44:46 > 0:44:49To top it off, he's been working on a caricature
0:44:49 > 0:44:52of his Indian baby brother, Sahej.
0:44:52 > 0:44:55I am quite proud of it. I don't know, I just hope they like it.
0:44:55 > 0:44:57Hi, Joiee.
0:44:59 > 0:45:02This is a picture I drew of Sahej.
0:45:02 > 0:45:04My goodness!
0:45:04 > 0:45:07- Do you like it?- Oh, very nice.
0:45:07 > 0:45:10Joiee, I'm really proud. Just show it to me.
0:45:10 > 0:45:13I never knew it was the same exactly like Sajeh.
0:45:13 > 0:45:17See? That's the most powerful thing in this whole...
0:45:17 > 0:45:20His hair style and the eyes, man.
0:45:20 > 0:45:25Well, Joiee, come and give me a hug. I'm really proud. Come.
0:45:29 > 0:45:33'I'm not very confident with my artwork and, like, anything that I've done.'
0:45:33 > 0:45:36I find it easier to... If somebody insults me, I find that easier to handle
0:45:36 > 0:45:41than if someone compliments me. I don't really know how to take it when people compliment me.
0:45:41 > 0:45:45Well...I'm feeling proud to take them to school now.
0:45:51 > 0:45:53It's 7.15 at Delhi public school.
0:45:53 > 0:45:57There are no fags or booze in the teens' schoolbags this morning.
0:45:57 > 0:46:00All the best for your exam, take care.
0:46:00 > 0:46:04I hope they have understood, because today is actually a test by fire.
0:46:04 > 0:46:07- I hope you have done your homework. - Yes.- How many of you have made the poster?
0:46:07 > 0:46:09Those who have got it, stand up.
0:46:13 > 0:46:15OK. Sit, sit, sit.
0:46:15 > 0:46:18Who wants to go first and talk about the poster they have made?
0:46:18 > 0:46:22Who will come forward? Joiee, do you want to, your turn?
0:46:22 > 0:46:24Would you like to talk about it?
0:46:24 > 0:46:27This is the first time in two years that Joiee's spoken
0:46:27 > 0:46:28in front of a class.
0:46:28 > 0:46:30- Hi. - HE GIGGLES
0:46:30 > 0:46:35Um, I made my poster. Obviously, it's about water conservation.
0:46:35 > 0:46:39My slogan is, "Conserving water in the present for a better future,"
0:46:39 > 0:46:43because obviously, like, you need to, like, prepare for the future
0:46:43 > 0:46:47by, like, acting now, yeah.
0:46:47 > 0:46:50- That's my poster.- That's very nice.
0:46:50 > 0:46:51APPLAUSE
0:46:53 > 0:46:57The class reports have said that they have been very supportive,
0:46:57 > 0:47:01they're participating in discussions, they're talking, and they've done their homework!
0:47:01 > 0:47:05Seeing all the kids here, how dedicated they are to their education and their learning,
0:47:05 > 0:47:09and they sort of like ask me. "Oh, what do you do with your life?"
0:47:09 > 0:47:13And I sort of think, like, "All I do is like...
0:47:13 > 0:47:16"get drunk and like party and just, like, laze about." I just think
0:47:16 > 0:47:19I need to find like a balance -
0:47:19 > 0:47:22either go back to college or try and find like a job or something
0:47:22 > 0:47:24to help my parents out in the meantime.
0:47:25 > 0:47:29As well as being a fee-paying school by day, once the wealthy students
0:47:29 > 0:47:34go home, the school opens its doors to underprivileged kids.
0:47:34 > 0:47:39Children, this is Akriti Virk and she's hosting these two children,
0:47:39 > 0:47:42she is Shola and this is Joiee.
0:47:42 > 0:47:46Children, would you like to tell us what all you do in the morning?
0:47:46 > 0:47:49I help my father.
0:47:49 > 0:47:51I get up in the morning at five o'clock.
0:47:51 > 0:47:56And what about you, Abhishek? How do you help your parents?
0:47:56 > 0:48:00In the morning I get up at four o'clock, I fetch the water,
0:48:00 > 0:48:02- half a kilometre. - OK, about half a kilometre.
0:48:02 > 0:48:05- Yes, ma'am.- What do you want to become in the future?
0:48:05 > 0:48:08- And you have to tell us from the heart.- Teacher!
0:48:08 > 0:48:10Teacher!
0:48:10 > 0:48:14You know, Shola and Joiee, when she grows up she wants to be a teacher.
0:48:14 > 0:48:17- Your papa will send you to the college?- Yes, ma'am.
0:48:17 > 0:48:21There is no looking back. Since they got education,
0:48:21 > 0:48:24they are only looking upwards
0:48:24 > 0:48:27and they will graduate from here and college.
0:48:27 > 0:48:29Children, whatever you dream,
0:48:29 > 0:48:33one day definitely you shall become whatever you want to be.
0:48:33 > 0:48:34- Is that OK? - ALL: Yes, ma'am.
0:48:36 > 0:48:39- Please can I give a friendship band? - Friendship band for you.
0:48:42 > 0:48:46- You can write whatever you like. - Aw, can I have a hug? Thank you.
0:48:51 > 0:48:52Friends forever!
0:48:52 > 0:48:55'That sort of made me value education'
0:48:55 > 0:48:57a lot more because...
0:48:57 > 0:49:00they have so much to do in the day
0:49:00 > 0:49:04and they still make time, whereas I get tired from, like,
0:49:04 > 0:49:09the littlest things, but they still try really hard to get an education.
0:49:16 > 0:49:20The teens' time in India is almost over
0:49:20 > 0:49:22and Rashmi has a surprise for Shola.
0:49:22 > 0:49:27Something is for you. From a mum to the daughter.
0:49:27 > 0:49:32- Tattooing your hands.- Really? - Yeah.- Aww! Thank you!
0:49:34 > 0:49:38I can see your eyes are more clear now. You are more confident
0:49:38 > 0:49:42and you start to understand others' feelings now.
0:49:42 > 0:49:47- Am I wrong or right?- Right. - I can read? OK, that's great.
0:49:47 > 0:49:49What is your plan?
0:49:49 > 0:49:51I'm going to be more, like, open,
0:49:51 > 0:49:56- be able to apologise and, like, open with my mum.- Mm-hm.
0:49:56 > 0:49:58I'm going to, like...
0:49:58 > 0:50:00keep my head down and study a lot more.
0:50:02 > 0:50:05You know now that apologies mean a lot, isn't it?
0:50:05 > 0:50:08You can see the difference. Good.
0:50:09 > 0:50:14And after a week of soul searching, Joiee has made a decision.
0:50:14 > 0:50:17All gone. I've learnt here that you can deal with your problems
0:50:17 > 0:50:21in other ways. You can sit down and talk and, like, I think
0:50:21 > 0:50:26it's definitely, like, I don't feel that I need alcohol anymore, like.
0:50:27 > 0:50:29There's no reason to have it.
0:50:42 > 0:50:44After their week's stay with the Virk family,
0:50:44 > 0:50:46the teens fly home tonight.
0:50:46 > 0:50:49I've learnt that you just have to accept what you have.
0:50:49 > 0:50:52I'm pretty lucky with what I have,
0:50:52 > 0:50:54whereas I didn't really realise that before.
0:50:58 > 0:51:02When I go back to the UK I'm going to, like, just find something
0:51:02 > 0:51:04to focus on, like a hobby that is constructive.
0:51:04 > 0:51:07Not just going out all the time and getting drunk
0:51:07 > 0:51:09because it's pointless. I need to grow up.
0:51:10 > 0:51:13- Thanks, girls.- Oh, I love it.
0:51:13 > 0:51:16When they came into my house, it was like I asked myself
0:51:16 > 0:51:20in the middle of the night, "What are you doing, you know?"
0:51:20 > 0:51:23They were just like aliens for me!
0:51:23 > 0:51:26- Now they're my kids. - Aww, thank you.
0:51:26 > 0:51:31'I like the potentials they have in their talents and their approach'
0:51:31 > 0:51:35to life. I think if they apply that correctly and they remember what we have told them,
0:51:35 > 0:51:38they can go places, let me tell you that.
0:51:39 > 0:51:41And after an eventful trip,
0:51:41 > 0:51:45Ashwani wants to know if Joiee's ready to go home.
0:51:45 > 0:51:48So it's your last day with us today.
0:51:48 > 0:51:52You're going to finally meet your parents back home. Did you miss them?
0:51:52 > 0:51:56Since I've been here, I've been trying not to think about home because I think I'd get emotional.
0:51:56 > 0:52:00All I just want is for, like, everyone to be happy.
0:52:06 > 0:52:08They are there for you.
0:52:10 > 0:52:12Yeah, I know.
0:52:12 > 0:52:16You have found the best of your life so your relationship can be improved.
0:52:16 > 0:52:18I think I'd given up on myself
0:52:18 > 0:52:22so I just, like, assumed everyone else had given up on me,
0:52:22 > 0:52:28but my parents are, like, the two people who are, like, there for me.
0:52:29 > 0:52:32You probably didn't try to understand their feelings
0:52:32 > 0:52:36- at any point. You were too busy... - I was selfish, I was just selfish.
0:52:36 > 0:52:40Before I didn't care if I upset my mum or anything.
0:52:40 > 0:52:44I just didn't care, I'd always argue with my dad...
0:52:47 > 0:52:52- ..but I don't want to do that anymore.- Come and hug me.
0:52:53 > 0:52:56This is something which I have been doing with you.
0:52:56 > 0:52:57Thank you for everything.
0:53:04 > 0:53:06Bye, Mum.
0:53:06 > 0:53:10- You too, and take care of you and your mum as well.- I will.
0:53:11 > 0:53:14- You too, you're both beautiful. - Wish you all the best.
0:53:14 > 0:53:16Love to your parents.
0:53:16 > 0:53:19- And just listen to what they say. - Look after everyone.
0:53:26 > 0:53:28Write to me!
0:53:28 > 0:53:30- Yes, I will, OK.- Bye, sayonara.
0:53:30 > 0:53:33- Love you, Mum. Love you, Dad. Love you.- Bye!
0:53:44 > 0:53:48I hope she's got a more responsible attitude,
0:53:48 > 0:53:52willing to help out, willing to take better care of herself
0:53:52 > 0:53:54and just that she's grown up a bit.
0:53:58 > 0:54:00Shola!
0:54:03 > 0:54:04Aww!
0:54:04 > 0:54:07I've missed you so much, honestly, I really have.
0:54:07 > 0:54:10I'm going to concentrate more at college
0:54:10 > 0:54:12and not just going to lessons.
0:54:12 > 0:54:16I'm sorry for being lazy and stubborn and stuff
0:54:16 > 0:54:18and I'm going to try and change.
0:54:19 > 0:54:23Good. Come here. I'm glad.
0:54:23 > 0:54:26Mum in India taught me to just, like, how to open up
0:54:26 > 0:54:30so I think me and my mum will have a better relationship now that
0:54:30 > 0:54:33I'm, like, going to be open with her and stuff.
0:54:33 > 0:54:36It makes me very proud to see the change in Shola,
0:54:36 > 0:54:38very proud and very happy,
0:54:38 > 0:54:42and I will tell her so as often as possible.
0:54:43 > 0:54:45I hope that it's given him
0:54:45 > 0:54:49the opportunity to realise how lucky he is
0:54:49 > 0:54:52and just generally that you don't need alcohol
0:54:52 > 0:54:55to enjoy life to the full, really.
0:54:56 > 0:54:58- Hello!- Hello.- Hiya!
0:55:03 > 0:55:07- You all right?- I'm fine. Hiya.
0:55:07 > 0:55:10Did you have a good time, kid, eh?
0:55:10 > 0:55:13We weren't allowed any alcohol in the house, but I smuggled in some gin.
0:55:13 > 0:55:18The first night, I got absolutely off my face
0:55:18 > 0:55:20so I didn't have to face reality, but then I realised
0:55:20 > 0:55:23that facing up to things isn't actually all that bad.
0:55:23 > 0:55:26That's when I sort of poured it away.
0:55:26 > 0:55:29- I'm just so glad to hear you saying this.- Are you surprised?
0:55:29 > 0:55:30I'm really pleased.
0:55:33 > 0:55:36'I still think there's a lot of work to be done on relationships'
0:55:36 > 0:55:40and on deciding what I want to do as, like, a career or college,
0:55:40 > 0:55:44but it's definitely something that I'm not afraid of looking into any more.
0:55:44 > 0:55:48It's something that I'm, like, a lot more prepared to, like, face up to.
0:55:48 > 0:55:50Already I can see in him straight away
0:55:50 > 0:55:55there is a certain brightness that's there that's nice to see, which we haven't seen for a long time.
0:55:55 > 0:56:00We've known it's always been there, but it's nice to see it coming back again.
0:56:00 > 0:56:02It's brilliant. Thank you.
0:56:05 > 0:56:08- What's your problem?- Next time on The World's Strictest Parents...
0:56:08 > 0:56:10I'm not going to say what I feel that you look like.
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0:56:18 > 0:56:21- Your brother had £10 in his wallet.- I never touched it.
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