0:00:01 > 0:00:07'Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...'
0:00:07 > 0:00:13As I am the head of the house, I expect them to obey the rules, whether we are right or not.
0:00:13 > 0:00:17- 'rigid boundaries...' - Say sorry. You will not do again.
0:00:17 > 0:00:20My father controls my life. Everything.
0:00:20 > 0:00:25- Are we going to see some progress in five minutes? - '..and immediate consequences.'
0:00:25 > 0:00:27HE BANGS PAN
0:00:31 > 0:00:34'But can traditional parenting
0:00:34 > 0:00:37'change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?'
0:00:37 > 0:00:39Come and get me! I'm drinking underage!
0:00:39 > 0:00:43I took LSD, cocaine, ecstasy, weed,
0:00:43 > 0:00:46MDMA, ketamine.
0:00:46 > 0:00:52When you're 17, you definitely need to go out and party because before you know it, that's it, game over.
0:00:52 > 0:00:55I'm not coming back today, by the way. See you in 20 years!
0:00:55 > 0:00:59She's so incredibly rude. She's just a cow, really.
0:00:59 > 0:01:03- So disrespectful, telling me to eff off.- Dad, just be quiet!
0:01:03 > 0:01:07- Cheers! - I don't care what people think about me. Rules are made for breaking.
0:01:09 > 0:01:11'To find out, two teens who've never met before
0:01:11 > 0:01:14'will leave their fraught families behind...'
0:01:14 > 0:01:19- Come on, give us a hug. Come on! - Behave yourself. I'm not joking.
0:01:19 > 0:01:21'..and head off to the far corners of the world
0:01:21 > 0:01:25'where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.'
0:01:25 > 0:01:27LAUGHING / BELCHING
0:01:27 > 0:01:30Do you want a punch? Do you want a punch?
0:01:30 > 0:01:33- Get off me.- Er...- Get off.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36Do me a favour and for once put some effort into your life.
0:01:36 > 0:01:40- SHE SHOUTS - Go out! Just go out!
0:01:40 > 0:01:43- The world does not revolve around you!- I'm trying to walk away
0:01:43 > 0:01:46and she's following me! They can't programme me.
0:01:46 > 0:01:51If all British teenagers were like that, no good.
0:02:02 > 0:02:04You're cleaning the bloody chairs!
0:02:04 > 0:02:08'17-year-old stroppy Essex girl Georgie Weir
0:02:08 > 0:02:11- 'always gets her own way.' - That's just a waste of energy.
0:02:11 > 0:02:16My mum doesn't tell me what to do anymore. If she does, I will purposely try not to do it.
0:02:16 > 0:02:19Just leave! I'm serious, just leave, please.
0:02:19 > 0:02:23She's so incredibly rude. She's just a cow, really.
0:02:23 > 0:02:27Sorry, I don't mean to say that, and I love her dearly, but she's a cow.
0:02:27 > 0:02:30And I'm just hoping she's going to grow up.
0:02:30 > 0:02:34Guys, it's all about me! It's going to be about me anyway.
0:02:34 > 0:02:38'But single mum Julie still gives in to her every demand.'
0:02:38 > 0:02:41She pays my phone bill, my gym membership,
0:02:41 > 0:02:44my driving lessons, my car insurance. Everyone having a good time?
0:02:44 > 0:02:47My tax, my MOT. I need money, so she should give it to me.
0:02:47 > 0:02:54- Georgie!- 'And any attempt at challenging Georgie's behaviour isn't worth the angry outburst.'
0:02:54 > 0:02:57Have you washed your hands? It's Georgie's way or no way.
0:02:57 > 0:03:00What? Don't stare at me.
0:03:00 > 0:03:02She smashes things. Her language is atrocious.
0:03:02 > 0:03:05I can't get any peace if Georgie's on the warpath.
0:03:07 > 0:03:10'Georgie's parents had a acrimonious divorce,
0:03:10 > 0:03:13'which was tough on her as the youngest of three kids.'
0:03:13 > 0:03:17Dad left when I was, like, three, and he lives quite far away.
0:03:17 > 0:03:20I don't really see him or hear from him at all.
0:03:20 > 0:03:23With my mum, I don't have a relationship with my mother.
0:03:23 > 0:03:27It's just a person you pass, like, somebody you say hi and bye to.
0:03:27 > 0:03:32I get angry with myself because I think, "What if I'd done this?" or "What if I'd done that?"
0:03:32 > 0:03:37or "What if my husband and I had stayed together? Would it have made any difference?
0:03:37 > 0:03:40"Could I have stopped her being so angry?"
0:03:40 > 0:03:44- You look very smart. - You look very horrible.
0:03:44 > 0:03:47- Big day, isn't it?- It is a bitch!
0:03:47 > 0:03:52I've built up a character of having to be bolshy and loud and stand my ground,
0:03:52 > 0:03:55a kid that didn't give a shit, and now it's hard to get out of.
0:03:55 > 0:03:57Once you're so far down a road, you can't turn around.
0:04:00 > 0:04:04- Oh, let me have a go. - '17-year-old Callum Watson
0:04:04 > 0:04:08- 'is the life and soul of the party.' - I'll have some of that, you have some of that.
0:04:08 > 0:04:12On a good night out, we go in a bar. Just have a ball. That's what you go out for.
0:04:12 > 0:04:15Suck it dry! Suck it dry!
0:04:15 > 0:04:17Oh, and get drunk.
0:04:17 > 0:04:20'But it's not just the drinking that's a problem.'
0:04:20 > 0:04:25I have took LSD, cocaine, ecstasy, weed,
0:04:25 > 0:04:29MDMA, ketamine. All fun, though, really.
0:04:29 > 0:04:33He'll go out till two, three in the morning. He won't know his own name.
0:04:33 > 0:04:39The worst thing for me is policemen knocking on my door saying they've dragged a body out of the canal.
0:04:40 > 0:04:44'With parties and socialising taking priority,
0:04:44 > 0:04:47'Callum's been struggling with college for the past year.'
0:04:47 > 0:04:52Callum was pulling As and Bs and now he's pulling Ds.
0:04:52 > 0:04:56He's already had a warning saying that he might have to resit the year.
0:04:56 > 0:04:58I'm not getting out of bed, I don't want to yet.
0:04:58 > 0:05:03Obviously, things are going downhill and the reason why is I can't be arsed.
0:05:03 > 0:05:06I can't be arsed with much. I'm just a lazy person.
0:05:06 > 0:05:09- Cal!- What?- Tea!
0:05:09 > 0:05:12'His lazy attitude spills over into his home life,
0:05:12 > 0:05:16'where he expects his mum Athene to do everything around the house.'
0:05:16 > 0:05:19- I'm not having quiche. - Well, just have the salad, then.
0:05:19 > 0:05:21I don't want it. I'll have the cucumber.
0:05:21 > 0:05:26I do think Callum takes me for granted. I think he takes this whole situation for granted.
0:05:26 > 0:05:28'His mum had Callum as a teenager
0:05:28 > 0:05:31'and his dad left before he was born.'
0:05:31 > 0:05:35My dad's called Dave and that's all I want to know about him, really.
0:05:35 > 0:05:37- Mum, can I have that tenner? - What's it for?
0:05:37 > 0:05:40- For beer.- You're 17!
0:05:40 > 0:05:42I can't discipline Callum. No should mean no,
0:05:42 > 0:05:48- but it doesn't in Callum's world. No means, "Let's just bully Mum and I'll get it."- Right.
0:05:48 > 0:05:53I have human rights, as well, so why should I do something that other people don't have to do?
0:05:55 > 0:05:59'To teach the teens respect for their parents and themselves,
0:05:59 > 0:06:04'their mums are sending them to live with a strict family halfway across the world.'
0:06:04 > 0:06:08I don't know why I'm doing this. Be good, behave yourself.
0:06:08 > 0:06:11Listen. Come on, give us a hug. Come on!
0:06:13 > 0:06:16- Bye.- Be good, all right? - Yep. Can we just go?
0:06:16 > 0:06:21I want her to just look at things a bit differently and not be so confrontational and angry.
0:06:21 > 0:06:23That's what I'm really hoping for.
0:06:23 > 0:06:28- See you later.- Be good. No swearing.
0:06:28 > 0:06:31- Bye, Mum.- Bye!- Bye.
0:06:31 > 0:06:35What I'm hoping for Callum when he comes back is that
0:06:35 > 0:06:39he realises that he cannot be totally disrespectful like he is at times.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42Fingers crossed he comes back a different person.
0:06:42 > 0:06:44- Hello!- Hello.
0:06:44 > 0:06:47- How are you? - I'm fine, thanks.- Hello.
0:06:47 > 0:06:51- Aww!- Nice to meet you. What's your name?- Callum.- I'm Georgie.- Hello.
0:06:51 > 0:06:55- Where do you live? - Manchester. What about you?- Essex.
0:06:55 > 0:06:57- Oh, Essex girl!- Yeah.- Nice!
0:06:57 > 0:07:00- Is your tongue pierced?- Yeah. - Oh, yes!- High five! That's so cool!
0:07:00 > 0:07:03- Have you got piercings? - Nose and I have my lip done.
0:07:03 > 0:07:06- I've got my chest.- Wow!
0:07:06 > 0:07:10'They're heading to the affluent city of Charlotte, North Carolina.
0:07:11 > 0:07:17'The gateway to the American South in the country's humid sub-tropical belt.
0:07:18 > 0:07:22'They will be staying in Providence Downs,
0:07:22 > 0:07:25'a private gated community and home to
0:07:25 > 0:07:30'Chinese-American family the Lis.
0:07:30 > 0:07:33'Father Benjamin, mother Shasha
0:07:33 > 0:07:35'and kids Alex and ReeRee.
0:07:37 > 0:07:40'In keeping with their Chinese culture,
0:07:40 > 0:07:44'Benjamin and Shasha have high expectations of their kids.'
0:07:45 > 0:07:49For me, American culture is too soft.
0:07:49 > 0:07:53We're thinking that that's not a good way to raise kids.
0:07:53 > 0:07:56My children look at me as a very stern father.
0:07:56 > 0:08:00There must be rules. There must be a standard for them to meet
0:08:00 > 0:08:04in order that they become successful in their life.
0:08:05 > 0:08:09'Benjamin emigrated to America when he was just 24.'
0:08:09 > 0:08:11I came here on a scholarship,
0:08:11 > 0:08:15but when I boarded the airplane from China,
0:08:15 > 0:08:18I only had 35 on me.
0:08:18 > 0:08:22'Supported by wife Shasha, he worked his way through university to become a lawyer.'
0:08:22 > 0:08:26I always believed in hard work. The harder you work, the better you become.
0:08:27 > 0:08:31'22-year-old Alex is a high-flying business graduate
0:08:31 > 0:08:34'who owes his ambitious drive to his father.'
0:08:34 > 0:08:37Dad grew up with nothing and he relied on absolutely nobody
0:08:37 > 0:08:43and it's that independence and that realisation that if I work hard, I know I'll succeed.
0:08:43 > 0:08:45My dad's a resounding example of that.
0:08:45 > 0:08:49- Thanks again. - Thank you for the lovely food!
0:08:49 > 0:08:53'Both kids are expected to adhere to their parents' traditional beliefs.'
0:08:53 > 0:08:58In my family, if you're older, you immediately have to be respected
0:08:58 > 0:09:00because it's part of our culture.
0:09:00 > 0:09:05ReeRee, do you know, who was the president during World War II?
0:09:05 > 0:09:10- 'In the Li household, education is key.'- Franklin D Roosevelt.
0:09:10 > 0:09:15We're a traditional Chinese family, we are all thinking that education is the most important thing.
0:09:15 > 0:09:18He was elected for four terms?
0:09:18 > 0:09:21'Anything less than an A is unacceptable.'
0:09:21 > 0:09:26Recently my grades, I got 90 in history
0:09:26 > 0:09:29and an 89 in English and the rest were all As.
0:09:29 > 0:09:32My dad was very upset with me.
0:09:32 > 0:09:35He actually said, "I never want to see that grade again".
0:09:35 > 0:09:38My children understand, if they don't do well,
0:09:38 > 0:09:42they will bring shame to the family. They will face the consequences.
0:09:42 > 0:09:46'After a nine-hour flight, the teens land in Charlotte.'
0:09:46 > 0:09:51- Are you excited?- Yeah. - I'm not. I'm scared!
0:09:54 > 0:09:58'They're heading 40 minutes outside of the city centre
0:09:58 > 0:10:01'to the exclusive millionaire suburb of Providence Downs.'
0:10:02 > 0:10:04Oh, fucking hell!
0:10:04 > 0:10:08- SHE GASPS - Ohh!- Look at the size of that house!
0:10:08 > 0:10:12THEY GASP Look at the fucking size of it!
0:10:12 > 0:10:13Oh, my God!
0:10:15 > 0:10:18# Sweet Jesus
0:10:19 > 0:10:22Ah, they're here.
0:10:23 > 0:10:27- THEY SCREAM - No way!
0:10:27 > 0:10:29- Oh, no! Oh, no!- Shit!
0:10:29 > 0:10:33- THEY SQUEAL - Here we go.
0:10:36 > 0:10:38- Hi!- Hello!- How are you?- Hello.
0:10:38 > 0:10:44- I'm Callum.- Shasha. - Shasha. Hello.- Benjamin Li.
0:10:44 > 0:10:47- I'm Georgie. - Hi, Georgie. How are you?
0:10:47 > 0:10:50'For the next week, Callum and Georgie will be living
0:10:50 > 0:10:53'as members of this strict Chinese-American family.'
0:10:53 > 0:10:55- ReeRee.- Hi, I'm Georgie.
0:10:55 > 0:10:59- Hi, Alex. - Hi. I'm Georgie. Nice to meet you.
0:10:59 > 0:11:02- Oh, my God!- I really need the toilet! - THEY LAUGH
0:11:02 > 0:11:06I really, really need the toilet. We need it really bad.
0:11:06 > 0:11:10'Nature calls, but the Lis are still a bit surprised by the teens' manners.'
0:11:21 > 0:11:25THEY LAUGH That's the best pee I've ever had in my life.
0:11:25 > 0:11:27- Hi.- Hello.
0:11:27 > 0:11:30Oh, your house is amazing!
0:11:30 > 0:11:32Georgie, your room is this way.
0:11:33 > 0:11:37Wow. This is quite a size.
0:11:37 > 0:11:41The bathroom is here. You can enter from here or from outside.
0:11:41 > 0:11:44Look at the size of the shower!
0:11:44 > 0:11:46Oh, my God, that is so nice!
0:11:46 > 0:11:48Callum, that's your bed.
0:11:48 > 0:11:50- Thank you.- No problem.
0:11:50 > 0:11:53That is not what I expected at all.
0:11:53 > 0:11:57They're Asian. That's what you call them, isn't it?
0:11:57 > 0:12:00No, they're American, aren't they? Are they American?
0:12:00 > 0:12:03'Anticipating a smoking ban,
0:12:03 > 0:12:06- 'Callum hides his cigarettes in the room.'- All done.
0:12:06 > 0:12:10- The kids were very, very... - Lovely.- ..lovely.
0:12:10 > 0:12:12SHE GASPS I just broke the fucking tap!
0:12:12 > 0:12:14SHE GASPS
0:12:14 > 0:12:19This is what I expected. Some decent British teenagers.
0:12:19 > 0:12:24They're really nice. At least, they appear to be. Well, we'll see.
0:12:25 > 0:12:27Callum!
0:12:27 > 0:12:31'In Chinese families, children have to obey their parents' wishes,
0:12:31 > 0:12:36'so the Lis want the British teens to understand what their expectations are.'
0:12:36 > 0:12:39Welcome to the Lis'. We're happy you're here.
0:12:39 > 0:12:42But there are some house rules we need to run by you.
0:12:42 > 0:12:46- I'll give you a copy of this. - God, a copy.- Yes.- Thanks.
0:12:46 > 0:12:51They may be strict, but they are fair. Right, rule number one,
0:12:51 > 0:12:55you need to respect parents and adults at all times.
0:12:55 > 0:12:59Yeah, that's all right. If we give you respect, we get respect back.
0:13:00 > 0:13:03No swearing or inappropriate language.
0:13:03 > 0:13:06- This is... - That's going to be a hard one.
0:13:06 > 0:13:09Well, you'll get used to it.
0:13:09 > 0:13:13We believe education always comes first in our culture.
0:13:13 > 0:13:17- Getting Bs is not honourable. - I didn't even get Bs.
0:13:17 > 0:13:22- I just get Bs throughout my life. That's all I get.- I didn't even get that. I got Cs.- I got one A.
0:13:22 > 0:13:28- Not in this family.- God. - Smoking and drinking are off-limits.
0:13:28 > 0:13:31Absolutely no drugs.
0:13:31 > 0:13:33Right, we don't smoke, anyway.
0:13:34 > 0:13:40Be honest and take complete responsibility for one's own actions.
0:13:41 > 0:13:45- Right.- So do you have any questions?
0:13:45 > 0:13:47- No.- No.
0:13:47 > 0:13:51Do you have any contrabands that we should be aware of?
0:13:51 > 0:13:55- Like what?- Just like, er, smoke or anything?- Drugs?- No.- No.
0:13:55 > 0:13:58- No, I haven't.- You sure? No?
0:13:58 > 0:14:01In our home, honour is above all,
0:14:01 > 0:14:07- so we just have your word now? - Yeah.- OK?- Yeah.
0:14:07 > 0:14:11- Welcome home. - Welcome to this family. You're part of our family now.
0:14:11 > 0:14:14- God.- Yeah.- This is unreal.
0:14:16 > 0:14:21I think that the children responded to the rules very positively.
0:14:21 > 0:14:24- They're a load of shit. - Yeah, I know.- I will have cigarettes.
0:14:24 > 0:14:28- And I will do them without people noticing. - And we've hidden them, so...
0:14:28 > 0:14:33Hopefully, together we'll share Chinese values
0:14:33 > 0:14:37and they'll get something positive before they go home.
0:14:39 > 0:14:42'Worried about the hidden cigarettes,
0:14:42 > 0:14:46'the British teens need to work out where they stand with Alex and ReeRee.'
0:14:46 > 0:14:51- Have you ever been to England?- No. My parents have.- It's a lot different. - Culture's a lot different.
0:14:51 > 0:14:56- American culture is different, but we're a Chinese household. - Our culture's a lot different.
0:14:56 > 0:14:59- Are you grasses? - Are we grasses?- Grasses?
0:14:59 > 0:15:03- If we did something, would you run to your mum and dad?- Depends what it is.
0:15:03 > 0:15:08Oh, don't do it. You're one of us, yeah? You're like children. We're not children, but you know what I mean.
0:15:08 > 0:15:13- If you do something pretty serious. - What would you class as serious? - Smoking.
0:15:13 > 0:15:18- Especially if they've already laid out the rules.- 'Realising his new siblings aren't on side,
0:15:18 > 0:15:22- 'Callum changes tack.'- Do you think I could do a deal with them?
0:15:22 > 0:15:28- Like what?- Say, like, "If I give you my fags, could I have three a day?"
0:15:28 > 0:15:29I think you should. Let's do that.
0:15:29 > 0:15:33- 'The plan is to pretend to be honest...'- Hello.
0:15:33 > 0:15:37- '..whilst telling a big, fat lie.' - I have three cigarettes on me
0:15:37 > 0:15:40and that's all I have and I was just wondering,
0:15:40 > 0:15:45- could I have one a day just to set me off and then that'll be it? - No.- No.
0:15:45 > 0:15:50- Can I have one now? - No. Absolutely not. - Can he please have one?- Just one.
0:15:50 > 0:15:54- This is the last one that I'll have for the whole time I'm here.- No.
0:15:54 > 0:15:57- Why?- Why? There is no why.
0:15:57 > 0:16:02- Let me have this last one. I'll give you the rest of them. - No. No. Absolutely no.
0:16:02 > 0:16:04I don't care.
0:16:06 > 0:16:09'It's only been a couple of hours since the teens landed in Charlotte...'
0:16:09 > 0:16:12Callum. Georgie.
0:16:12 > 0:16:18'..and already the quiet streets of Providence Downs are seeing some unusual action.'
0:16:18 > 0:16:21- What are you doing now? - We're just going to go for a walk.
0:16:21 > 0:16:24I have no idea what's going on.
0:16:24 > 0:16:28I just heard them talking about smoking and asking permission
0:16:28 > 0:16:31and then they started running out.
0:16:31 > 0:16:35- Would you like to hand over your smokes?- No.- How many do you have?
0:16:35 > 0:16:40I have three and a half. There's three and a half there.
0:16:40 > 0:16:43- And that's all you have?- That's all I have.- Are you sure?- 100 percent.
0:16:43 > 0:16:45- 100 percent? - 100 percent sure that's all I have.
0:16:45 > 0:16:48- Take a fag and just give them... - They're the only ones.
0:16:48 > 0:16:52- If I can just have that one and then that's it.- No.
0:16:52 > 0:16:56- Come on, come on, come on. - He's going for a fag and I'm going with him. We'll be back.
0:16:56 > 0:17:01Where are you going? Callum. Put your smoke out, please.
0:17:01 > 0:17:03Why can't I just finish this last one?
0:17:03 > 0:17:05- Can I have these two? - Yeah, you can have them.
0:17:05 > 0:17:08- And can I have that one, please? - No!- Let him just finish it.
0:17:08 > 0:17:12- Please!- Let me have two more on it. - No.- No, don't...
0:17:13 > 0:17:16Can I have it? Can I have your lighter, please?
0:17:16 > 0:17:21- Can I have your lighter, please? - Right, you can have the fag, but you're not having the lighter.
0:17:21 > 0:17:27- There. Have it.- Thank you. Thank you very much.- Have it.
0:17:29 > 0:17:33He is a good boy, but we cannot let him smoke.
0:17:33 > 0:17:37If we let him smoke today, you know what will happen the next seven days.
0:17:37 > 0:17:43- You'll be OK.- Right.- I love you, you'll be OK. I'm so proud of you, giving the three cigarettes.
0:17:43 > 0:17:46- Right.- OK?- Yeah, I'm fine now.
0:17:46 > 0:17:50- Sorry for lying to you. - It's OK. It's fine. Yeah.
0:17:50 > 0:17:55'But with cigarettes still hidden all over his room, Callum's still lying.'
0:17:55 > 0:17:58I thought, "Fuck it, have it!"
0:17:58 > 0:18:00But he didn't get them all.
0:18:04 > 0:18:09- Let's welcome the new members of our family.- Cheers.- Yeah, cheers.
0:18:09 > 0:18:12'It's lunchtime, and in the Li household,
0:18:12 > 0:18:16- '16-year-old ReeRee is expected to serve her elders.'- Thank you.
0:18:16 > 0:18:20- I want the fish.- OK.
0:18:20 > 0:18:22'And that includes the teens.'
0:18:22 > 0:18:25- Very strange.- I don't like you serving. I don't like it.
0:18:25 > 0:18:28I don't really want you to do it. I don't feel comfortable.
0:18:28 > 0:18:32- I just don't feel right. - I'll just give you a little.- OK.
0:18:32 > 0:18:38This way, you appreciate others doing work for you, so I think it is a good way.
0:18:38 > 0:18:42- OK, shall we start? - We'll try the chopsticks.- We'll try.
0:18:42 > 0:18:49- It's really hard to pick up rice.- Do you know people say using chopsticks helps your brains, too?
0:18:49 > 0:18:54- One minute.- You can't give up, you've got to stick with it. You have the whole week to master it.
0:18:54 > 0:18:58- Georgie, where do you come from, what part of England?- Essex.
0:18:58 > 0:19:02- Essex.- Essex?- Near London. - Oh, near London?
0:19:02 > 0:19:06- Really near London.- I come from Manchester.- Oh, Manchester.
0:19:06 > 0:19:11- You know Manchester but you don't know Essex?- I've heard of it. - THEY LAUGH
0:19:11 > 0:19:14'The culture shock is proving difficult for Callum.'
0:19:14 > 0:19:17It's a bit weird, really. A bit too full-on.
0:19:17 > 0:19:19The girl has to, like, serve the dinner.
0:19:19 > 0:19:24The adults should look after the children, not the young person looking after their parents,
0:19:24 > 0:19:27serving their food out for them. That's just strange.
0:19:27 > 0:19:30I know I'm going to get stressed because I can't have cigarettes.
0:19:30 > 0:19:35Absolutely dying for one. I really, really, really need one.
0:19:36 > 0:19:38I've got this bloody thing.
0:19:38 > 0:19:40It tastes foul!
0:19:46 > 0:19:49'Not happy with the nicotine replacements,
0:19:49 > 0:19:53'Callum and Georgie are trying another plan to sneak in a cigarette.'
0:19:53 > 0:19:55- Is that OK, Dad? - Shall we go for a walk on our own?
0:19:55 > 0:20:00- 'But after this morning, the Lis aren't letting them out of their sight.'- We want to walk on our own.
0:20:00 > 0:20:02Yeah, you go.
0:20:02 > 0:20:05But we're not. You're following us. It's getting on my nerves.
0:20:05 > 0:20:08No-one can leave us alone for two minutes.
0:20:08 > 0:20:11You're still following us!
0:20:11 > 0:20:14- Watch your language.- I didn't swear!
0:20:14 > 0:20:17- You are not using...- What did I say?
0:20:17 > 0:20:22- You're not very polite.- You're not our parents! You're not our parents!
0:20:22 > 0:20:28- But we're the eldest. At least we are your elders.- It's not fair.
0:20:28 > 0:20:29I'm so aggravated!
0:20:29 > 0:20:34'Benjamin and Shasha aren't used to kids questioning their authority.'
0:20:34 > 0:20:38If we say it's time to go home, they just go home.
0:20:38 > 0:20:41That's not acceptable. They will apologise.
0:20:43 > 0:20:46- We need to talk.- Yep.
0:20:46 > 0:20:49Can you sit up, please?
0:20:52 > 0:20:56Benjamin and I were not happy with your action.
0:20:56 > 0:21:00You have bad attitude, you show no respect when addressing elders.
0:21:00 > 0:21:04You're staying in our house and you promised you would observe the rules.
0:21:04 > 0:21:09At the end of the day, I went to you and went, "Can we go for a walk?" You said, "Yeah, sure".
0:21:09 > 0:21:12Don't say to us that we can if you're going to follow us.
0:21:12 > 0:21:16I did say yes, you can walk, but we tag along.
0:21:16 > 0:21:18Our responsibility is to take good care of you,
0:21:18 > 0:21:23- make sure nothing happens to you. - You don't let your 16-year-old daughter walk up the road?
0:21:23 > 0:21:26We do not allow ReeRee to go on her own.
0:21:26 > 0:21:30- You're not out with her every single day.- No, stop it. You cannot treat adults that way.
0:21:30 > 0:21:33Rule number one, respect.
0:21:33 > 0:21:36- OK? That's above all. - You give me respect, then.
0:21:36 > 0:21:39We are past the discussion. OK?
0:21:39 > 0:21:46- Nah.- So if you do not apologise for what happened...- OK, I'm sorry. - I accept your apology.
0:21:46 > 0:21:51'The teens are realising it's not got to be as easy as they thought to get around the Lis.'
0:21:51 > 0:21:55I just want my space! I don't ever have anyone telling me what to do.
0:21:55 > 0:21:58I don't have rules, I don't have boundaries.
0:21:58 > 0:22:00I do what I want to do when I want to do it.
0:22:00 > 0:22:05And this is just... They're telling me I can't do this and I've got to do this. I don't like it.
0:22:08 > 0:22:11The first day was not uneventful,
0:22:11 > 0:22:15but I think we handled it well.
0:22:15 > 0:22:17I like it. I like the kids.
0:22:25 > 0:22:28They have some issues, some problems
0:22:28 > 0:22:31we'll have to work out with them.
0:22:38 > 0:22:42- KNOCK AT DOOR - Time to wake up.
0:22:42 > 0:22:44Good morning.
0:22:44 > 0:22:48'It's an unusually early start for Callum and Georgie.'
0:22:48 > 0:22:51It's too early! SHE GROANS
0:22:51 > 0:22:54- 6:30.- Oh, go away!
0:22:54 > 0:22:57'As a first-generation immigrant,
0:22:57 > 0:23:00'Benjamin has had to work his way up from nothing.'
0:23:00 > 0:23:03Children need to know nothing comes easy.
0:23:03 > 0:23:08If you want to do something, do it right. They start work, they finish, and finish to the standard we set
0:23:08 > 0:23:10and make it good.
0:23:15 > 0:23:18'To help the kids understand the value of hard work,
0:23:18 > 0:23:23'Benjamin's taking them to volunteer at a local charity that he supports.'
0:23:23 > 0:23:26- Rescue Mission?- What do you rescue?
0:23:26 > 0:23:31'The Charlotte Rescue Mission is a residential centre that helps recovering drug addicts.'
0:23:31 > 0:23:34- Good morning!- Good morning, sir.
0:23:34 > 0:23:38'The kitchen manager Rico will be in charge of the kids while at the mission.'
0:23:38 > 0:23:41Let me give you an idea of what's going on right here.
0:23:41 > 0:23:43This is the Charlotte Rescue Mission
0:23:43 > 0:23:48which administers a drug and alcohol rehab programme.
0:23:48 > 0:23:52We have over 100 guys here that come here, they live here, they go to class here.
0:23:52 > 0:23:56It's a life-saving programme. Got any questions? If not, let's go.
0:23:56 > 0:23:59'As major donors to the mission,
0:23:59 > 0:24:03'the family expect the kids to be on their best behaviour.'
0:24:03 > 0:24:06Remember, be respectful, just follow instructions, please.
0:24:06 > 0:24:10- Follow the rules. - Yes. All right?- BOTH: Yep.
0:24:10 > 0:24:13- Thanks. See you later.- Yeah.
0:24:13 > 0:24:15How long have you worked here?
0:24:15 > 0:24:19I've been an employee of the mission since 2007.
0:24:19 > 0:24:24- Are you, like, in charge of everyone? Are you the top dog?- I'm in charge of the kitchen.- Oh, OK.
0:24:24 > 0:24:28But I'm not really in charge. God's in charge.
0:24:28 > 0:24:31'All of the kitchen staff are recovering addicts
0:24:31 > 0:24:36'and after a quick tour, Rico puts the kids to work with the chef.'
0:24:36 > 0:24:40So what we're going to do is we're going to do some prep on some food.
0:24:40 > 0:24:42We're chopping up some vegetables.
0:24:44 > 0:24:48- This hurts my arms. - Oh, my goodness. She's fired.
0:24:48 > 0:24:52I'm fired. I can't do it. My arms hurt!
0:24:54 > 0:24:58- Oh, my arms really hurt.- Oh, God! You've not even started yet!
0:24:58 > 0:25:03- Stop complaining. - I'm not complaining, I'm just saying my arms hurt.- She's being a baby.
0:25:04 > 0:25:09- Will you do mine? - Could I do yours? No.
0:25:09 > 0:25:11'Georgie is trying to palm her work off
0:25:11 > 0:25:14'and Rico is not impressed.'
0:25:14 > 0:25:17- She's going to finish her loaf. - That's right.- I'm trying!
0:25:17 > 0:25:20- She's got about three more slices. - Oh, you do it.
0:25:20 > 0:25:23- You want me to do it? - I said do you want to do it?
0:25:23 > 0:25:26No, I would like to see you continue to do it and finish your job.
0:25:30 > 0:25:35'Georgie and Callum have taken a break, leaving Alex alone to finish the clean-up.'
0:25:35 > 0:25:37It's kind of frustrating me right now.
0:25:39 > 0:25:42Because they act like this is for them. This is for someone else.
0:25:42 > 0:25:45This is the whole point of them being here, to help other people.
0:25:51 > 0:25:56'Alex isn't the only one noticing Callum and Georgie's work-shy attitude.'
0:25:56 > 0:26:01They are typical kids. Strong-willed and self-centred.
0:26:01 > 0:26:05- You guys want to help? - Yeah, you guys, come on.
0:26:05 > 0:26:08Y'all can't bail out on me now.
0:26:08 > 0:26:11I have to show them that this is how it works,
0:26:11 > 0:26:16because unless we show them, teach them and guide them, they won't know.
0:26:16 > 0:26:21'Rico's being patient, but Alex has had enough of picking up Georgie's slack.'
0:26:21 > 0:26:25Yours is really clean compared to ours.
0:26:25 > 0:26:28Can we swap? Cos you've got a really easy one
0:26:28 > 0:26:32and you're a good child, so... Thanks!
0:26:34 > 0:26:39- I'm not switching with you because it's easier for you, I'm doing this because I'll do a better job.- Whoa.
0:26:39 > 0:26:42CALLUM LAUGHS You're not better than me!
0:26:42 > 0:26:45- I'll do a better job on this than you.- And how do you know that?
0:26:45 > 0:26:47Because you just asked to switch.
0:26:47 > 0:26:52- Cos I didn't want the harder work. Doesn't mean you'll do a better job. - Then prove it.
0:26:52 > 0:26:56If I did the full job, I would do it to its full capability. Doesn't mean...
0:26:56 > 0:27:01So is it worse that you are capable but choose not to out of laziness
0:27:01 > 0:27:05- or that you're incapable of doing it?- I'm here, aren't I? - OK.- Am I here doing it? Yes.
0:27:05 > 0:27:10- You're here because you're being forced to.- No, if I didn't want to do this, I wouldn't do it.
0:27:10 > 0:27:14I'd be sunbathing. But I am doing it. You're making me not want to do it with your attitude.
0:27:14 > 0:27:19- Stop talking to me like that! End of. - You have the worst attitude of anyone I know.- I don't care.
0:27:19 > 0:27:24- Thank you. - Pour a little bit of this. Not much. Not a lot. Yeah, that's enough.
0:27:24 > 0:27:27I thought they'd take it more seriously, and they really didn't.
0:27:27 > 0:27:33Georgie was trying to hand off every task. Callum was a little better, but they just thought it was fun.
0:27:33 > 0:27:38They talk a good game at times, but then when it comes down to it, they don't ever deliver.
0:27:48 > 0:27:52'The busy schedule is routine for the Lis.
0:27:52 > 0:27:56'But upstairs, Callum and Georgie are reeling.'
0:27:56 > 0:28:00It is a big shock to our system and they're not realising that.
0:28:00 > 0:28:03This holiday's just becoming boring and robotronic
0:28:03 > 0:28:07and it's just become an effort and days are just going by so slowly.
0:28:07 > 0:28:12'At dinner, the kids present a rose-tinted view of their day.'
0:28:12 > 0:28:17There was points where we wanted to stop but part of us thought, "No, cos this is helping everybody else".
0:28:17 > 0:28:22- It's really strange. - Made such a difference...- Yeah. - ..to our understanding.
0:28:22 > 0:28:27Yeah, the main thing is to take more responsibility
0:28:27 > 0:28:31and maybe learn something from their mistakes.
0:28:31 > 0:28:34I'm really understanding what I have now.
0:28:34 > 0:28:37I had everything handed to me on a plate back at home.
0:28:37 > 0:28:40I had my car, I had my money, I had everything.
0:28:40 > 0:28:44And to understand that it is hard for some people
0:28:44 > 0:28:47and you have to work for your stuff.
0:28:47 > 0:28:50'Georgie is putting on a fine performance.
0:28:50 > 0:28:53'But Alex wants his parents to know the truth about her behaviour.'
0:28:53 > 0:28:56- They really were not doing that good of a job today.- Wow.
0:28:56 > 0:29:02- So they were not quite honest with us. They did not tell us everything. - No.
0:29:02 > 0:29:06I think that they're perfectly OK with this cos this is how they behave normally.
0:29:06 > 0:29:12As representatives of the Li family, I wanted to do an extra-good job to make up for their really poor jobs.
0:29:12 > 0:29:14Like, it really upset me.
0:29:14 > 0:29:17This is not a problem, because kids make mistakes.
0:29:17 > 0:29:21But you need to learn. That's the whole purpose. You cannot lie.
0:29:22 > 0:29:26'Shasha's determined to get the truth out of Georgie.'
0:29:26 > 0:29:33- Can I talk to you?- Can we do this tomorrow? I'm really tired. - No, we need to finish talk today.
0:29:34 > 0:29:38Georgie, could you tell me what happened today, what you did today?
0:29:38 > 0:29:42Why are we talking about it now? I want to sleep.
0:29:42 > 0:29:45Because I don't think you did a good job today.
0:29:45 > 0:29:50- You don't think I did a good job? - No, because Alex talked to me.
0:29:50 > 0:29:54- Yeah, I ain't doing this. - OK? Come on.- Nah.
0:29:56 > 0:29:58Georgie. Georgie.
0:29:59 > 0:30:01What are you doing?
0:30:02 > 0:30:06- Georgie.- No, I'm really, really angry now. Really, really angry.
0:30:06 > 0:30:09- I tried today. - You need to tell me the truth.
0:30:09 > 0:30:14- Because you...- You believe what your son said? Me, your son and him had a disagreement for five minutes.
0:30:14 > 0:30:19So don't say I didn't try, cos you were not there, you have no right to put a judgement there.
0:30:19 > 0:30:23I trust Alex because he did most of the job.
0:30:23 > 0:30:26- Were you there?- I...- Were you there?
0:30:26 > 0:30:28- I'm not there. - Were you there, yes or no?- But...- No!
0:30:28 > 0:30:33So you did not see if he did most of the job. No. We all did our equal share. You were not there!
0:30:33 > 0:30:36That is the end of it! Cos I'm getting very frustrated right now!
0:30:36 > 0:30:42- Doesn't matter if you're frustrated or not! OK?- If you don't think I tried, then I will not go back there.
0:30:42 > 0:30:44Do you want me to bring Alex now to talk to you?
0:30:44 > 0:30:48No, not when you're like this! I'll talk to him in my own time.
0:30:48 > 0:30:52- Alex, why did you tell your mum I didn't try today? - You didn't try. You're not serious.
0:30:52 > 0:30:56If you're going to yell... Do not yell at my mom. All right?
0:30:56 > 0:31:00Listen to how she's talking to me and saying I didn't fucking try!
0:31:00 > 0:31:03- I am pissed off!- The world does not revolve around you!
0:31:03 > 0:31:06I'm trying to fucking walk away and she's following me!
0:31:06 > 0:31:08I'm going to ask you nicely once.
0:31:08 > 0:31:12- You cannot say bad word in this family! OK? - You do not talk to my mom like that.
0:31:12 > 0:31:16- Listen to how she's talking to me! - No, I don't care! You do not talk to my mom like that!
0:31:16 > 0:31:20- I'm going to keep walking away and you'll eventually give up. - No, we won't.
0:31:20 > 0:31:23We're not like you. We're not going to give up!
0:31:23 > 0:31:26- It's not that easy!- Oh, you're putting it on for the cameras.
0:31:26 > 0:31:31I'm not! If you want to talk about putting it on for the cameras, you're the only one that does that.
0:31:31 > 0:31:34- You're like a three-year-old! - The reason I'm upset, Alex,
0:31:34 > 0:31:39is because your mum has just walked into the room I'm staying in and said, "I don't think you tried".
0:31:39 > 0:31:43Most of the time, you really were not that into it. That's my honest opinion.
0:31:43 > 0:31:47Well, your opinion that you have to share with everyone to make a situation.
0:31:47 > 0:31:52- You are disrespectful to my mom! - She's disrespectful to me! - How? You are just a liar!
0:31:52 > 0:31:56I'm getting angry now cos you are calling me a liar about how I felt.
0:31:56 > 0:31:59Don't film me with that fucking thing like this!
0:31:59 > 0:32:04- Listen, Georgie.- No!- Georgie, you're just acting like a very bad kid!
0:32:04 > 0:32:07No, Mom, let her walk. It's fine.
0:32:09 > 0:32:12- She's never had anyone stand up to her, OK?- Mm-hm.
0:32:12 > 0:32:14- You all right?- Yeah.
0:32:17 > 0:32:23She's not used to it. She said, "I'll walk away and you'll leave me alone, that's what everyone does".
0:32:23 > 0:32:25It's a cry for attention.
0:32:25 > 0:32:29I think... If she thinks everyone can follow her, just let her go.
0:32:30 > 0:32:33It's just not fair, at the end of it.
0:32:33 > 0:32:35They started this whole problem.
0:32:35 > 0:32:39What do they expect, for me to go, "Oh, you are right, I should've tried harder"?
0:32:39 > 0:32:42What? They're really going to expect me to say that?
0:32:42 > 0:32:47What did she expect when she walked in my room and said that to me? Stupid bitch.
0:32:47 > 0:32:49- Don't listen to her.- Mm-hm.- OK?
0:32:50 > 0:32:54You were doing the right thing. You did it because you care about her.
0:32:56 > 0:33:00- You're the world's best parent, OK? - Mm-hm.
0:33:01 > 0:33:06They knock you down so they can build their perfect person, like they've done with their kids.
0:33:06 > 0:33:10They are programmed to do this, this and that. They can't fucking programme me!
0:33:10 > 0:33:12Oh, it's difficult.
0:33:12 > 0:33:15It is hard for me to see kids lying.
0:33:18 > 0:33:23- I'm not going to have her talk to you like that. Either she's going to change or she's gone.- Yeah.
0:33:23 > 0:33:26- Let's go and get something to drink. - Maybe a coffee.
0:33:30 > 0:33:32'Georgie's been missing for nearly an hour
0:33:32 > 0:33:36'so Benjamin goes to search the neighbourhood.
0:33:37 > 0:33:41- Georgie.- Oh, are you kidding me?
0:33:41 > 0:33:43- Georgie.- Go away!
0:33:43 > 0:33:46Have some respect when I say that!
0:33:46 > 0:33:49- I'm not talking at all!- Georgie.
0:33:49 > 0:33:52No, listen to me. I'm not going back to the house tonight.
0:33:52 > 0:33:55- So where you want to spend the night?- I'll stay here.
0:33:55 > 0:34:00Please, get up. The police will take you into custody.
0:34:00 > 0:34:04- That's fine. I'd rather stay there than your house. - Be respectful. Be respectful.
0:34:04 > 0:34:07Please.
0:34:12 > 0:34:14'After a two-hour stand-off,
0:34:14 > 0:34:19'Benjamin's softly-softly approach coaxes Georgie back to the house.
0:34:27 > 0:34:32'The next morning, everyone's feeling the aftermath of the argument.'
0:34:32 > 0:34:37I feel exhausted. I do not have that experience before, so it is very hard for me.
0:34:38 > 0:34:41I think she's supposed to say sorry
0:34:41 > 0:34:45because I think that that's the... that's the first step.
0:34:46 > 0:34:48Hey, Daddy.
0:34:48 > 0:34:54The situation last night, I think the family will put it behind them, but Georgie will hold a grudge.
0:34:54 > 0:34:57She's just leaving herself on her own then, basically.
0:34:57 > 0:35:00No, I'm not eating down there. I'm not.
0:35:00 > 0:35:04- 'Benjamin is trying everything to keep the peace.'- Alex.- No.- Alex.
0:35:04 > 0:35:08- No.- Just say good morning, OK? We're family.- No, we're not.
0:35:08 > 0:35:11- Georgie.- No, I'm not, so there's no point wasting your breath.
0:35:12 > 0:35:15Georgie.
0:35:15 > 0:35:18- Alex, say good morning. - Good morning, Georgie. - Good morning, Georgie.
0:35:18 > 0:35:21- Good morning. At least show respect. - Morning.
0:35:21 > 0:35:24Look at him! Look at him!
0:35:24 > 0:35:27- Georgie.- Dad.
0:35:27 > 0:35:29Dad.
0:35:30 > 0:35:32OK.
0:35:36 > 0:35:39Dad, can I talk to you for a second?
0:35:41 > 0:35:43Can you pass me a drink, please?
0:35:46 > 0:35:50We don't have to put up with it. We don't need this, Dad.
0:35:50 > 0:35:53No, I'm trying to teach her
0:35:53 > 0:35:56how to learn to be respectful.
0:35:56 > 0:36:00I know. Dad, I know. But she's disrespecting you to your face.
0:36:00 > 0:36:02Lead with patience.
0:36:02 > 0:36:05- You know, maybe she will turn around.- But why?
0:36:05 > 0:36:09Try to show respect, to show how respectful you are.
0:36:09 > 0:36:13We've been more than respectful. Now we're just bending our back over a barrel.
0:36:13 > 0:36:19Give it a last try. I just want to say... No, I don't ask, I'm insisting.
0:36:21 > 0:36:26'Respecting his elders, Alex bows to his father's greater experience.'
0:36:26 > 0:36:28My dad has always had a never-give-up attitude.
0:36:28 > 0:36:32I'd like to think that's why he refuses to give up on Georgie.
0:36:32 > 0:36:36And he's literally trying everything he knows to understand her.
0:36:36 > 0:36:39- Muffins.- Yeah, I was wondering what the things were.
0:36:39 > 0:36:41I'm not a very patient man,
0:36:41 > 0:36:45but when I encounter challenging situations,
0:36:45 > 0:36:49raising your voice, shouting, do not help.
0:36:49 > 0:36:53What else can you do? Try something different.
0:36:53 > 0:36:56Drink your juice. We are really late. We need to go.
0:37:01 > 0:37:06'Determined not to give up, Benjamin is bringing the teens back to the rescue mission.
0:37:06 > 0:37:09'It's a chance to show they can improve their attitude.'
0:37:09 > 0:37:13- You ready for some muscle-building work today?- Yeah.- Yeah, let's do it.
0:37:13 > 0:37:18- 'Callum is staying on the men's side with Alex.'- Give 100 percent today, OK? I'm proud of you.
0:37:18 > 0:37:22'While Georgie is going down the road to the Dove's Nest,
0:37:22 > 0:37:27'a separate part of the mission exclusively for women in rehab for drug and alcohol problems.'
0:37:27 > 0:37:31- Hi.- This is Georgie.- Hi, Georgie. Glad you're here. Welcome. - Thank you.
0:37:31 > 0:37:36Georgie, you know, er, I'm sure you will enjoy your stay here, and, er,
0:37:36 > 0:37:43- just, er...- Be respectful. - Yes, that's it.- I will.- OK?- Yep.
0:37:44 > 0:37:49I want you and Alex to kind of arrange this little area right here.
0:37:49 > 0:37:51I want to be able to see what's over here.
0:37:51 > 0:37:56'At the men's mission, Callum and Alex are helping Rico clean up the warehouse.
0:37:59 > 0:38:04'Away from Georgie, Callum seems to be getting stuck in.'
0:38:04 > 0:38:06- Yes.- Very good.
0:38:07 > 0:38:12- Yeah, in between.- 'His improved work ethic hasn't gone unnoticed.'
0:38:13 > 0:38:19He's doing the work, he's not complaining, he's not slacking on his responsibilities.
0:38:19 > 0:38:22And I've noticed that, that's a great improvement from yesterday.
0:38:22 > 0:38:28- Yeah! We've done this bit and now we just have that bit to do. - That's really nice, guys.
0:38:28 > 0:38:30'Back at the Dove's Nest...'
0:38:30 > 0:38:35So now I have to put boxes in a bin? How is that helping in any way? I don't want to do it.
0:38:35 > 0:38:38'Georgie has been asked to help with some simple volunteer jobs.'
0:38:38 > 0:38:42- You need to do this. - I don't need to do this.
0:38:42 > 0:38:46And it's not unreasonable. It's just willingness. It's just what we do.
0:38:46 > 0:38:49It's not unreasonable. It's a good thing.
0:38:49 > 0:38:52'For once, Georgie gives in.'
0:38:52 > 0:38:54I am doing it!
0:38:57 > 0:39:00Have you got a trolley?
0:39:00 > 0:39:03So we're done. Thank you.
0:39:07 > 0:39:14'Four days in and Shasha is still no closer to understanding Georgie's behaviour.'
0:39:14 > 0:39:19If I have a chance to talk to her mother, maybe she can talk to me,
0:39:19 > 0:39:22what happened, you know, past.
0:39:22 > 0:39:28- PHONE RINGS - Hello?- Oh, hi. My name is Shasha I am ReeRee and Alex's mum.
0:39:28 > 0:39:31Hello! Is Georgie behaving herself?
0:39:31 > 0:39:34She's a little bit different from my children,
0:39:34 > 0:39:41- because she yell and she's sometimes difficult to deal with, yeah. - I know, she can be very difficult.
0:39:41 > 0:39:44She's very changeable. Sometimes you can get the sweet Georgina,
0:39:44 > 0:39:49and then the other side of Georgina is this surly, rude child.
0:39:49 > 0:39:52You know, she was argumentative, even as a little one.
0:39:52 > 0:39:58She is 17 years old, but she is so angry.
0:39:58 > 0:40:02Have you tried a lot of ways?
0:40:02 > 0:40:08Oh, my goodness, yes, I have. I've almost exhausted every angle.
0:40:08 > 0:40:12I mean, I almost think this is the last chance for her
0:40:12 > 0:40:16to see how a functional family succeeds
0:40:16 > 0:40:19if they respect other people, more importantly respect themselves.
0:40:19 > 0:40:22Yeah. Yeah. That's what we're trying to do.
0:40:24 > 0:40:27- Shall we sit down?- Sit right here.
0:40:27 > 0:40:30'At the Dove's Nest, Georgie is getting to know the residents,
0:40:30 > 0:40:33'and seems to be letting her defences down.'
0:40:33 > 0:40:37- You guys are all so friendly. - We love you.- Well, I'm from Alabama, that's a Southern thing.
0:40:37 > 0:40:42- I'm from Jersey, that's the northern hospitality. - I'm from Essex.
0:40:42 > 0:40:48- Are you here for the 90 days? Is that the guide?- I will be here for five months. It's 120 days.
0:40:48 > 0:40:51And it's actually an awesome programme.
0:40:54 > 0:40:57You'll have a much more... A better appreciation of life.
0:40:57 > 0:41:03You know, it's not all that. You know, being in the fast lane. I was 17 and in the fast lane.
0:41:03 > 0:41:07And what I've learnt is that sometimes you have to motivate yourself
0:41:07 > 0:41:11in spite of circumstances around you. It's like, what do you want from your life?
0:41:11 > 0:41:16- I don't know.- You're 17, you got your whole life ahead of you.
0:41:16 > 0:41:19Take it easy on yourself. Do it for you.
0:41:19 > 0:41:21Now look at that. You picked it up so quickly.
0:41:21 > 0:41:26- Oh, that's pretty! - I made an earring!
0:41:27 > 0:41:34'On the men's side, having spent the morning working hard, Callum and Alex are having a well-earned rest.'
0:41:34 > 0:41:39It's a lot better today, actually. Cos you haven't got Georgie moaning and all that.
0:41:39 > 0:41:42Cos then we just hit off each other.
0:41:42 > 0:41:45Plus, I've had time to get to know you more, and it's just nicer.
0:41:45 > 0:41:50- It's good today. I've enjoyed it. Have you? - Yeah, it's not bad to work hard.
0:41:50 > 0:41:55You know what I mean, though? Knowing that you're working hard, it's a signal you've been working hard.
0:41:55 > 0:41:59It's nice knowing you're cleaning their place up to give them something.
0:41:59 > 0:42:04It's inspiring to see these people but the lesson I'm learning is that I don't want to end up here.
0:42:04 > 0:42:10No, I don't, either. Cos I have took drugs. Seeing where it gets people, I don't really want to do it now.
0:42:10 > 0:42:13- But it's all about you believing that, you know?- Yeah.
0:42:16 > 0:42:22- They really did a great job today. - Yeah. I think so. You did a good job, we're so proud of you.
0:42:23 > 0:42:25Thank you, man. All right.
0:42:28 > 0:42:31'It's over halfway through the teens' time in North Carolina,
0:42:31 > 0:42:35'and although there is still a tense atmosphere after the argument,
0:42:35 > 0:42:38'the Lis are noticing small changes.'
0:42:40 > 0:42:45The attitude, you know, they say, "Thanks" and "Good night". Especially Callum.
0:42:45 > 0:42:48Thank you.
0:42:48 > 0:42:53I think he's willing to change. But Georgie, I think I still have some strange feelings.
0:42:54 > 0:42:57Georgie, she has calmed down.
0:42:57 > 0:43:02But she still wants to do things her own way.
0:43:02 > 0:43:04But I still see a glimpse of hope.
0:43:11 > 0:43:15- Hi!- 'As education is a top priority for the Lis...'
0:43:15 > 0:43:17- This is Georgie.- BOTH: Hi!
0:43:17 > 0:43:21'..even when daughter ReeRee meets up with friends, they all have to study.'
0:43:21 > 0:43:27Did anyone do the question where it's like the culture and experience, erm...
0:43:28 > 0:43:32- Can you ever have objective knowledge?- What are you doing? Are you doing assignments?
0:43:32 > 0:43:35We're all doing a theory of knowledge class.
0:43:35 > 0:43:39You are 16 years old. We should be outside having fun.
0:43:39 > 0:43:43- Have you guys never drank?- No. No.
0:43:43 > 0:43:46- Has anyone tried a cigarette?- No.- No.
0:43:46 > 0:43:51'Like ReeRee, her friends are on track to get into top university Yale.'
0:43:51 > 0:43:53- What do you want to be when you grow up?- A doctor.
0:43:53 > 0:43:56- Wow.- What about you? - Something with languages.
0:43:56 > 0:44:00- What about you? - Probably an editor of a magazine.
0:44:00 > 0:44:04I can see your parents are saying, "Do this, you're not doing that,"
0:44:04 > 0:44:08that is why you are excelling so well in everything that you are doing
0:44:08 > 0:44:13- because you all have that prod in the back pointing you in the right direction.- Yeah, we have.
0:44:13 > 0:44:19I mean, it's not like we enjoy sitting doing homework all the time, but our school's really competitive.
0:44:27 > 0:44:30SHE SPEAKS FRENCH
0:44:30 > 0:44:34'Even after the study group, there's still more homework for ReeRee.
0:44:37 > 0:44:42'But Georgie is starting to realise that there are benefits to the Lis' strict parenting.'
0:44:42 > 0:44:46They might be pushy, they might say "do this, do that," but it's not to make her miserable,
0:44:46 > 0:44:50it's to give her the better life they have. It's an amazing house,
0:44:50 > 0:44:57and she now is probably going to go to Yale and have an amazing future ahead of her.
0:44:57 > 0:45:00Your life is determined on the first 20 years.
0:45:00 > 0:45:03- And that is... - And we've only got three left.
0:45:03 > 0:45:08And that's what life is, it's trying to get the best out of yourself that you can get,
0:45:08 > 0:45:10and I don't think we have. I don't think we've tried.
0:45:15 > 0:45:18'It's Georgie's last day at the Dove's Nest.'
0:45:18 > 0:45:22All right, pumpkin. We're doing yard work today.
0:45:22 > 0:45:26We're just going to do the front. It's very small and it doesn't take that long,
0:45:26 > 0:45:29but it's the real world, baby.
0:45:29 > 0:45:32'All of the girls in recovery help with the upkeep of the house.'
0:45:32 > 0:45:35- OK. We're going to do the front. - Awesome.
0:45:35 > 0:45:40'And today, Georgie is helping Cindy, a long-term resident, with her chores.'
0:45:40 > 0:45:42Oh! That is so hard!
0:45:42 > 0:45:45Oh! I can't do it!
0:45:45 > 0:45:48I can't do that. That is so hard.
0:45:49 > 0:45:55- MOTOR STARTS Agh! I've lost a wheel! I don't want it to fall off.- You got it.
0:45:55 > 0:45:57SHE GROANS
0:45:57 > 0:46:03OK. It's too hard. I can't move it! I'm weak!
0:46:04 > 0:46:07- There you go. - I feel like an American gal.
0:46:09 > 0:46:12- Oh, come on! - SHE SQUEALS I did it!
0:46:12 > 0:46:16- Really good.- IN AMERICAN ACCENT: I'm mowing the yard!
0:46:20 > 0:46:25She did not want to do it in the beginning, but look, now she volunteered to do this other half.
0:46:25 > 0:46:29Yay! Look at that! See, you can see your work.
0:46:31 > 0:46:36I can see through her somewhat, because I'm older and she reminds me of my children,
0:46:36 > 0:46:40but you can see in her eyes, she's mad at the world, you know, seems like,
0:46:40 > 0:46:44and it's very sad to see people that age that angry.
0:46:50 > 0:46:54'Callum and Alex are also spending the day at the mission.
0:46:54 > 0:46:57'With Callum admitting to his own drug use,
0:46:57 > 0:47:00'Rico is showing him the reality of life in the rehab centre.'
0:47:00 > 0:47:05- This is where I live. - 'Rico himself is a resident, having had a drug problem in the past.'
0:47:05 > 0:47:11- If you are in the halfway house and you are a staff member, you have no real restrictions.- OK.
0:47:11 > 0:47:17The only difference being that they have curfews. And we have guys sometimes that break the rules.
0:47:17 > 0:47:21And there are consequences. There's always consequences to bad behaviour.
0:47:21 > 0:47:25And I'm here to tell you, I got a lot of experience with bad behaviour and consequences.
0:47:25 > 0:47:30So today I try to do the right thing. But that's basically it.
0:47:30 > 0:47:36'Having battled with his own addictions, Rico doesn't want to see Callum make the same mistakes.'
0:47:36 > 0:47:42One of the things that I wish that I could go back and change was the drugs and the alcohol.
0:47:42 > 0:47:44For so many years I got high,
0:47:44 > 0:47:49the drugs made me happy, made me have... You know, I liked getting high.
0:47:49 > 0:47:54- But I never knew that eventually it would almost kill me.- Mm-hm.
0:47:54 > 0:47:58- I probably was trying to cover up some feelings.- Mm.
0:47:58 > 0:48:01What do you think is the reason you started getting high?
0:48:01 > 0:48:04I don't know. It's basically to fit in with friends and that.
0:48:04 > 0:48:09But it's also a way of getting out of reality, and you don't have to worry about what's out there.
0:48:09 > 0:48:13Take it from me, and don't have to go through what I went through.
0:48:13 > 0:48:20But it starts right now. The choices that you make right now will determine how you live later on,
0:48:20 > 0:48:24- and what happens to you. - Yeah, I get you.
0:48:24 > 0:48:29'Hearing about Rico's past has made Callum take a look at his own drug use.'
0:48:29 > 0:48:33He's gone through the programme, so he has more understanding than most.
0:48:33 > 0:48:37So he helped me open my eyes to it. I don't want to end up in a place like that.
0:48:37 > 0:48:41My heart goes out to everyone here, but I don't want to end up in the same situation.
0:48:41 > 0:48:46I think the earlier I stop, the more early I concentrate on everything else, the easier it will be.
0:48:46 > 0:48:51Rather than just carrying on with it all and end up somewhere like here.
0:48:51 > 0:48:54- Thank you very much.- OK. All right.
0:48:54 > 0:48:58- See you.- All right. Take care, man. - You, too.
0:49:02 > 0:49:06'Cindy has been in rehab for the last five months.
0:49:06 > 0:49:10'She has two kids of her own and wants to chat with Georgie before she leaves.'
0:49:10 > 0:49:14I've been a teenager and now I'm a mom, so I get to see both.
0:49:14 > 0:49:18And really, everything that aggravates the stew out of you,
0:49:18 > 0:49:24I promise you're going to one day go, "Wow, I wish I'd listened to my mom."
0:49:24 > 0:49:28It's not even... We don't have that thing, we don't talk at all.
0:49:28 > 0:49:33She's out to lunch and she's doing this and this and I'm doing my thing, and we're just so separated.
0:49:33 > 0:49:36Do you miss her? Do you want more time with her?
0:49:36 > 0:49:40I've tried and just been rejected. So I've given up, I guess.
0:49:40 > 0:49:44Keep trying until you do because she's going to hear you one day.
0:49:44 > 0:49:48Sometimes parents, we don't know how to sit down like I'm trying to get you to do.
0:49:48 > 0:49:52It's like, "Don't you do what your sister... You're going to end up pregnant.
0:49:52 > 0:49:58"You'll end up a drug addict," instead of, "I love you, I don't want you to go down that road."
0:49:58 > 0:50:04As hard as it is for you to talk to her, I'm sure it is for her. I didn't know how to talk to my kids.
0:50:04 > 0:50:09I do understand, I have quite an attitude problem and I can get quite snappy.
0:50:09 > 0:50:12Just understand, if nothing else, that she loves you.
0:50:12 > 0:50:16She may not know how to show it, she may be busy, busy, or...
0:50:16 > 0:50:18But, you know, she really wants the best for you.
0:50:18 > 0:50:24I realise now that I should just take my time and not be so "ughhh" with her.
0:50:24 > 0:50:28- I mean, if nothing else, you don't want to end up like us. - SHE LAUGHS
0:50:32 > 0:50:35- I love you, baby. - I love you, too. You taught me a lot.
0:50:35 > 0:50:38'Georgie's time at the Dove's Nest has come to an end.'
0:50:38 > 0:50:41I'm going to need more than this trip to build that relationship with mum,
0:50:41 > 0:50:44but I think I will try and I want to try.
0:50:44 > 0:50:47- Bye!- Bye!- I love you.
0:50:47 > 0:50:53I need to stop being so snappy and aggressive, and I'll be more willing to listen to her opinions,
0:50:53 > 0:50:58and realise, even if we argue, I will think and remember I am lucky to have what I have.
0:50:58 > 0:51:01- Bye!- 'The Dove's Nest has made an impression,
0:51:01 > 0:51:08'but back at the house, there's still an uneasy truce between Shasha and Georgie.' Dinner's ready!
0:51:09 > 0:51:14After she and my mom got into the fight,
0:51:14 > 0:51:17I feel like it just went downhill from there.
0:51:17 > 0:51:20- I've never had shrimp, but I'm going to try it.- Really?
0:51:20 > 0:51:24In our family, even if you're wrong, you're right because you're the parent,
0:51:24 > 0:51:30- and your children can never speak to you like that, no matter what they're saying.- You like soy sauce.
0:51:38 > 0:51:42'It's been a tough week for Georgie and Callum.'
0:51:42 > 0:51:46I found living with the Lis challenging at times, but I've learnt a lot, as well.
0:51:46 > 0:51:48I've learnt to be less selfish.
0:51:48 > 0:51:53And also about my mum, I noticed she has done a lot for me and that she is a mum rather than a friend,
0:51:53 > 0:51:56by looking at Shasha and Ben and how they work.
0:51:56 > 0:52:00We've got to get to a 50/50 way, I've got to help her and she's got to help me.
0:52:00 > 0:52:03Hopefully become a better relationship and a better mother and son.
0:52:03 > 0:52:07'And even Georgie is looking towards her future.'
0:52:07 > 0:52:13Before, it was just have fun, you only live once, but that's the point, you only live once, don't waste it.
0:52:13 > 0:52:19So I need to take responsibility now and just try and do it. Get on with it.
0:52:21 > 0:52:26- Goodbye!- See you.- I will miss you. - I will miss you, too.
0:52:26 > 0:52:29- You be good, OK? Love you so much. - Love you, too.
0:52:29 > 0:52:33Have a good trip home. Bye.
0:52:36 > 0:52:39- See you later.- Yeah.
0:52:39 > 0:52:43At the beginning. I thought I could straighten them out, whatever their problems.
0:52:43 > 0:52:46As time went by, I almost wanted to give up.
0:52:46 > 0:52:51- See you.- But because I saw progress in Callum,
0:52:51 > 0:52:57it made me believe that my method of teaching them, or helping them, may have worked.
0:52:57 > 0:52:59- See you.- Bye.
0:52:59 > 0:53:04Maybe we had some impact. Georgie, maybe at the bottom of her heart,
0:53:04 > 0:53:07there is something good from this trip.
0:53:07 > 0:53:11Aww! Mommy!
0:53:12 > 0:53:15For Georgie, I pray that the Dove's Nest has been good for her.
0:53:15 > 0:53:19I think when she looks back and reflects, whether she wants to admit it or not,
0:53:19 > 0:53:24she'll realise that what we were doing was for her best, and I do hope the best for her.
0:53:24 > 0:53:26But at the same time, I'm glad she's gone.
0:53:26 > 0:53:29Homework time! No distractions!
0:53:29 > 0:53:32- It's really quiet now.- Yeah.
0:53:39 > 0:53:44Hopefully, living with a different family and her comfort zones taken away,
0:53:44 > 0:53:48she can appreciate what I tried to do for George.
0:53:48 > 0:53:54- Ughhh! Freedom! - I really do hope she's had a good time. I've missed her.
0:53:54 > 0:53:56Hello.
0:53:56 > 0:53:59You all right?
0:54:00 > 0:54:04- How are you?- I'm good.- How was it?
0:54:07 > 0:54:12- Let's have a look at you.- Stop it! - You all right?- Yeah. - Did you have a good time?
0:54:12 > 0:54:16For me to be able to hug her was wonderful. Of course, you can't change anybody in a week,
0:54:16 > 0:54:22it would be unrealistic to think that, but I think, perhaps, she will realise how lucky she actually is.
0:54:22 > 0:54:26- So come on, tell me all about it. - I ate a lot of Chinese food.
0:54:26 > 0:54:29'It was good to see her cos she was happy and stuff.'
0:54:29 > 0:54:33Hopefully, it will get better with time, we'll get into a system of it becoming natural
0:54:33 > 0:54:36that we talk to each other normally instead of always arguing.
0:54:43 > 0:54:46Oh, I don't care anymore.
0:54:48 > 0:54:51- I'm so sorry.- It's all right.
0:54:55 > 0:54:59- Nice being home. - What have you been doing?- A lot.
0:54:59 > 0:55:06- We went to a charity thing, where people who are on drugs, like addiction, really...- Yeah.
0:55:06 > 0:55:09- I don't want to be held back by drugs.- That's so good to hear.
0:55:09 > 0:55:12I could see you going down that road.
0:55:12 > 0:55:15Another thing, I've seen Shasha and Ben,
0:55:15 > 0:55:20they're parents who have done so much for their kids,
0:55:20 > 0:55:25- it's put it into perspective, all what you've done.- Yeah.- It's made me appreciate it a lot more.
0:55:25 > 0:55:30The only way this little unit can work is if we go together, mate, we pull together.
0:55:30 > 0:55:34- I can help you every step of the way. I love you, buddy.- I know.
0:55:35 > 0:55:42Callum's come back willing to try, compromise. I think we'll make it. I think he's going to make it.
0:55:44 > 0:55:48I feel like if I just do baby steps at a time, I will get there one day.
0:55:48 > 0:55:51I feel quite optimistic about my future now.
0:55:51 > 0:55:55I think the Lis are amazing. And I want to say thank you.
0:55:55 > 0:55:58I've got my son back now.
0:55:59 > 0:56:03'Next time on World's Strictest Parents,
0:56:03 > 0:56:08- 'vodka vixen Hannah Button...'- I've been called home again.- OK. My bad.
0:56:08 > 0:56:12- '..and rebellious Richie Ready...' - Come on! Up you get!- Leave me alone!
0:56:12 > 0:56:15- I hate it. I hate living with my dad.- '..get new parents in Turkey.'
0:56:15 > 0:56:18- You go through my pockets? I swear...- Richie.- Get off me.
0:56:18 > 0:56:22- Are you going to a party? - I wear this whatever.
0:56:22 > 0:56:26I just worked, like, in the heat, like, sweating my balls off for nothing.
0:56:26 > 0:56:30Nah, it's fucking ridiculous. Nah.
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