0:00:03 > 0:00:07Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
0:00:07 > 0:00:11As I'm the head of the house, I expect them to obey these rules,
0:00:11 > 0:00:13whether we are right or not.
0:00:13 > 0:00:14..rigid boundaries...
0:00:14 > 0:00:17Say sorry. You will not do again.
0:00:17 > 0:00:20My father controls my life every day.
0:00:20 > 0:00:22Are we going to see some progress in five minutes?
0:00:22 > 0:00:25..and immediate consequences.
0:00:25 > 0:00:27LIDS BANG Stop!
0:00:31 > 0:00:36But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
0:00:36 > 0:00:39- SIREN WAILS - Come and get me. I'm drinking under age.
0:00:39 > 0:00:43I took LSD, cocaine, ecstasy, weed,
0:00:43 > 0:00:45MDMA, ketamine...
0:00:45 > 0:00:49When you're 17, you definitely need to go out. You need to party,
0:00:49 > 0:00:52because before you know it you'll be, like, "That's it, game over."
0:00:52 > 0:00:55I'm not coming back today, by the way. See you in 20 years!
0:00:55 > 0:00:59She's so incredibly rude. She's just a cow, really.
0:00:59 > 0:01:03- Do not swear at me. - Dad, just be quiet!
0:01:03 > 0:01:07I don't really care what people think about me. Rules are made for breaking.
0:01:09 > 0:01:14To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind...
0:01:14 > 0:01:16Come on, give us a hug. Come on!
0:01:16 > 0:01:19Behave yourself, Shola. I'm not joking - behave.
0:01:19 > 0:01:21..and head off to the far corners of the world,
0:01:21 > 0:01:25where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
0:01:25 > 0:01:26THEY SCREAM
0:01:26 > 0:01:27HE BELCHES
0:01:27 > 0:01:30- Do you want a punch?- No. - Do you want a punch?- No. Gosh!
0:01:30 > 0:01:33Get off me! Get off.
0:01:33 > 0:01:36Do me a favour and for once put some effort into your life.
0:01:36 > 0:01:40- SHE YELLS - Go out! Just go out.
0:01:40 > 0:01:44- The world does not revolve around you.- That's why I'm trying to walk away, and she's following me.
0:01:44 > 0:01:46They can't programme me.
0:01:46 > 0:01:49If all the British teenagers were like them...
0:01:49 > 0:01:51no good.
0:01:59 > 0:02:01DANCE MUSIC PLAYS
0:02:01 > 0:02:04TEENAGERS SCREAM
0:02:04 > 0:02:05I don't even know who's here.
0:02:05 > 0:02:0917-year-old Hannah Button's out of control.
0:02:09 > 0:02:11- Where's your mum?- At work. She gets back at four.
0:02:11 > 0:02:15While her mum's out working a night shift, Hannah and her friends
0:02:15 > 0:02:17use the house to party all night.
0:02:17 > 0:02:21The most drunk I've ever been is when I filled up a whole bath of sick.
0:02:21 > 0:02:24Whitey!
0:02:26 > 0:02:33When I'm drunk, I can end up doing stuff with boys. Not just boys, it can be girls as well.
0:02:33 > 0:02:34Party! Party!
0:02:35 > 0:02:40I don't want my house to be known as a doss house for all the teenagers in the town.
0:02:40 > 0:02:44She doesn't respect my home at all. It doesn't bother her what happens in here.
0:02:46 > 0:02:51The party's so loud one of the neighbours has called Hannah's mum at work.
0:02:51 > 0:02:53Shut up!
0:02:53 > 0:02:56Everybody sit down and shut up! This is my house.
0:02:56 > 0:02:58Who's smoking in here?
0:02:58 > 0:03:00I've been called home by the neighbours.
0:03:00 > 0:03:02- I went round...- Again.
0:03:02 > 0:03:06- OK, my bad.- No, it's not your bad, Hannah, it's not funny.
0:03:06 > 0:03:10- I don't know half of these people. - I know all of them.
0:03:10 > 0:03:11Well, I don't care.
0:03:13 > 0:03:16I really don't care. I've been called out of work again.
0:03:16 > 0:03:19- We're going to be inside now. - No. Out!
0:03:19 > 0:03:22- No.- Out!- No.- Out.- No.
0:03:24 > 0:03:29Despite getting 12 GCSEs, Hannah left school at 16
0:03:29 > 0:03:31and now spends all her time partying.
0:03:31 > 0:03:34Mum Suzanne's had enough.
0:03:34 > 0:03:38We argue more than anything else. We very rarely actually talk.
0:03:38 > 0:03:41Me and Mum have, like, ended up fighting and stuff.
0:03:41 > 0:03:43I've given her a black eye before.
0:03:45 > 0:03:48Suzanne fell pregnant with Hannah when she was 16.
0:03:48 > 0:03:52As a little girl, Hannah was lovely. We always used to have laughs
0:03:52 > 0:03:57and we just haven't had that for the last few years. It's just, sort of, disappeared.
0:03:57 > 0:04:03Hannah had no contact with her dad until three years ago, when he turned up on her 14th birthday.
0:04:03 > 0:04:05The relationship's faded away.
0:04:05 > 0:04:10He used to come and see her every week - sort of once, twice a week - and then it sort of got to,
0:04:10 > 0:04:11"Oh, I can't come tonight."
0:04:11 > 0:04:16I think that's when she started losing her respect for adults, sort of thing,
0:04:16 > 0:04:17and sort of went off the rails.
0:04:17 > 0:04:22- Mum. Can you go to Tesco's, please? - For what?- Alcohol!
0:04:22 > 0:04:24You're supposed to be tidying your room.
0:04:24 > 0:04:26You're supposed to be going to Tesco's.
0:04:26 > 0:04:29I just want her to realise that she can't live her life
0:04:29 > 0:04:34having somebody follow her around and pick up the pieces all the time.
0:04:35 > 0:04:37KNOCK AT DOOR
0:04:37 > 0:04:38Ritchie, come on. Up you get.
0:04:38 > 0:04:41Oh, my God. Leave me alone. Go away.
0:04:41 > 0:04:44- Ritchie, please.- No. Go away.
0:04:44 > 0:04:48Angry 17-year-old Ritchie Reddey doesn't listen to a word his dad says.
0:04:48 > 0:04:51- I basically think my dad's a BLEEP. - HE CHUCKLES
0:04:51 > 0:04:54- Come on, Ritchie, come on. This room stinks.- Yeah, cool.
0:04:54 > 0:04:57We know it does. Smells like somebody's died in here.
0:04:57 > 0:05:00I wanted to get my ears pierced and then my dad was, like, "No."
0:05:00 > 0:05:04So I was, like, "I'm going to get a big hole in it."
0:05:04 > 0:05:07That's Daddy's wee man. That's the picture I have in my heart.
0:05:07 > 0:05:09The contrast between
0:05:09 > 0:05:12this and now is shocking.
0:05:12 > 0:05:15Ritchie's marked himself for life with that ear.
0:05:15 > 0:05:18And it's not only his ear that Ritchie's marked for life.
0:05:18 > 0:05:20I drew the knob design onto my leg
0:05:20 > 0:05:24and then he just went over it with the gun.
0:05:24 > 0:05:28He'll try anything. Drink the most or smoke the most or do the silliest thing, you know?
0:05:28 > 0:05:31It's like he doesn't really care about himself.
0:05:31 > 0:05:35Ritchie left school with no qualifications and a bad school record.
0:05:35 > 0:05:37Detention, detention.
0:05:40 > 0:05:41Detention.
0:05:41 > 0:05:44"Argumentative, confrontational."
0:05:44 > 0:05:47Er..."Lazy."
0:05:47 > 0:05:50That's my son. That's MY son.
0:05:50 > 0:05:55You know, that's not the... That's not the son anybody really wants.
0:05:55 > 0:05:56They may be in the same house,
0:05:56 > 0:05:59but with dad Steve working long hours as a lorry driver
0:05:59 > 0:06:01they live more like strangers.
0:06:02 > 0:06:03- Ritchie.- Yes?
0:06:03 > 0:06:07Washing machine first, and then you can do whatever you like.
0:06:09 > 0:06:13I hate it. I hate living with my dad. We haven't really spent any good times together.
0:06:13 > 0:06:15Well, not that I can remember, anyway.
0:06:15 > 0:06:17When Ritchie was just three years old,
0:06:17 > 0:06:19Steve walked out on him and his mum.
0:06:19 > 0:06:23Of course I blame myself. I cleared off, I was selfish.
0:06:23 > 0:06:27The damage it's caused - some of that damage has rubbed off on Ritchie.
0:06:27 > 0:06:30Ritchie's mum couldn't cope on her own,
0:06:30 > 0:06:34so, aged 11, Ritchie went back to live with his dad.
0:06:34 > 0:06:36But the relationship's never recovered.
0:06:36 > 0:06:39I want to go back to the start.
0:06:39 > 0:06:42I want to go back to the beginning and make it better.
0:06:43 > 0:06:47If I had one prayer for one, I would love to...
0:06:47 > 0:06:50I want to turn it all around for Ritchie and I.
0:06:53 > 0:06:56In a desperate bid to salvage their home lives,
0:06:56 > 0:07:00Ritchie and Hannah are being sent to live with strict parents,
0:07:00 > 0:07:02under a new regime.
0:07:02 > 0:07:05And it can't come too soon for Hannah,
0:07:05 > 0:07:08as things at home have taken a turn for the worse.
0:07:08 > 0:07:12My mum didn't want to come, cos she kicked me out of the house two days ago.
0:07:12 > 0:07:16I went to work with a hangover the other day, so I lost my job...
0:07:16 > 0:07:19- SHE CHUCKLES - ..and so she didn't want me at home.
0:07:22 > 0:07:25- OK then, son. - Can I have 20 quid, please?
0:07:25 > 0:07:26- There you go.- Thank you! Bye.
0:07:26 > 0:07:29Don't go spending it on anything you shouldn't be, right?
0:07:29 > 0:07:32- Fags, booze and weed. - RITCHIE CHEERS
0:07:34 > 0:07:38- Hiya, you all right?- Hello, yeah, not bad, thank you. Let's roll.
0:07:38 > 0:07:40- I'm BLEEP bricks.- Yeah!
0:07:42 > 0:07:44The teens are travelling to Silifke,
0:07:44 > 0:07:48a small town on Turkey's stunning south coast.
0:07:48 > 0:07:52It may be a popular holiday destination,
0:07:52 > 0:07:55but Hannah and Ritchie won't be hitting the beach.
0:07:55 > 0:07:57They'll be living with the Vural family,
0:07:57 > 0:08:00headed by schoolteachers Ali and Canan.
0:08:00 > 0:08:01The couple have two children -
0:08:01 > 0:08:0515-year-old Erdem and nine-year-old Goksu.
0:08:05 > 0:08:12In Ali and Canan's household, it's clear who rules the roost...
0:08:12 > 0:08:13As I am the head of the house,
0:08:13 > 0:08:16I expect them to obey these rules
0:08:16 > 0:08:18whether we are right or not.
0:08:18 > 0:08:21Ali controls everything about his kids, including their diet.
0:08:21 > 0:08:24If I won't eat olive,
0:08:24 > 0:08:27I think my dad, er, gets angry with me.
0:08:27 > 0:08:31The couple moved from the bustle of Istanbul
0:08:31 > 0:08:35to small-town life 12 years ago, to devote more time to their family.
0:08:35 > 0:08:37There's a hair here.
0:08:37 > 0:08:41My father controls my life every day.
0:08:41 > 0:08:44Even nine-year-old Goksu has to pull her weight.
0:08:44 > 0:08:49'They change our plates. They give us tea and they are always around us.'
0:08:49 > 0:08:51Thank you very much.
0:08:51 > 0:08:55If I don't do what my father tells me,
0:08:55 > 0:08:57my father punishes me.
0:08:57 > 0:09:00I must be strict to my children for their future.
0:09:02 > 0:09:07After travelling over 2,000 miles, Hannah and Ritchie touch down in Turkey.
0:09:07 > 0:09:09Hmm...
0:09:09 > 0:09:12- What?- No!
0:09:12 > 0:09:14I'm really confused and quite scared!
0:09:20 > 0:09:23Oh, look! That sea looks so nice, as well.
0:09:23 > 0:09:25I want it to be a holiday...
0:09:25 > 0:09:29- but I don't think it will. - I don't think it's going to be anything like a holiday.
0:09:29 > 0:09:33I think it's going to be, like, a slave labour camp.
0:09:35 > 0:09:38They're coming. Oh.
0:09:40 > 0:09:42Really?
0:09:42 > 0:09:43HE CHUCKLES
0:09:46 > 0:09:47Oh, no!
0:09:49 > 0:09:52- Hello.- Hey.
0:09:52 > 0:09:53Welcome.
0:09:53 > 0:09:57- This is my wife Canan.- My name is Canan, hello.- Hello, I'm Ritchie.
0:09:57 > 0:10:01- Did you have a nice flight? - No.- No?- No, it was horrible.
0:10:01 > 0:10:03Shall we go upstairs?
0:10:03 > 0:10:05- Yeah, let's go.- All right.
0:10:06 > 0:10:08HE SPEAKS TURKISH
0:10:08 > 0:10:09Hey.
0:10:09 > 0:10:11For the next seven days, the teens will be living
0:10:11 > 0:10:15as part of the Vural family, in their three-bedroom apartment.
0:10:15 > 0:10:17- You will stay in this room.- OK.
0:10:17 > 0:10:21- Hannah.- Yeah?- This is your room - you will stay here.- OK.
0:10:22 > 0:10:27This is the first time I am seeing that stupid-looking earring.
0:10:27 > 0:10:31I-I-It looks terrible.
0:10:31 > 0:10:35I mean, I didn't like that. So I should...
0:10:35 > 0:10:37warn the boy to take it off.
0:10:37 > 0:10:39- Hannah, Ritchie.- Yeah?
0:10:39 > 0:10:42- Shall we go to the living room?- Yeah.
0:10:43 > 0:10:48Before the teens settle in, Ali and Canan want to make a few things clear.
0:10:48 > 0:10:51Right. HE SIGHS
0:10:51 > 0:10:54- Ritchie, do you smoke?- No. - Good. Very good.
0:10:54 > 0:10:57- Hannah, what about you? - No, I don't smoke.- Very good.
0:10:57 > 0:11:00I'm really happy. Nobody smokes in this house.
0:11:00 > 0:11:05Respect is really essential in our society.
0:11:05 > 0:11:10No shouting, no swearing, no going out on your own without permission.
0:11:10 > 0:11:12We must see the respect from you.
0:11:12 > 0:11:16Ritchie, you look a good guy but there is only one problem -
0:11:16 > 0:11:17earring.
0:11:17 > 0:11:19It's not coming out.
0:11:19 > 0:11:22Your appearance is really bad at the moment.
0:11:22 > 0:11:27You had better take it off, because you're living under my rule.
0:11:27 > 0:11:30Not happening. It's not coming out. Sorry.
0:11:30 > 0:11:33SHE GIGGLES Can I have a look at the earring?
0:11:39 > 0:11:41- Is it an earring?- Yeah.- God.
0:11:42 > 0:11:44It looks more terrible like that.
0:11:44 > 0:11:46- CANAN:- Terrible.
0:11:46 > 0:11:48- It's terrible.- It's terrible.
0:11:48 > 0:11:51Why did you decide to do this?
0:11:51 > 0:11:53Dunno. Just cos I was bored.
0:11:53 > 0:11:58- Just because you are bored?- Yeah. - Very good, I got the answer.
0:11:58 > 0:12:00Can I just have it now?
0:12:00 > 0:12:04Just for a while, stay like that. OK?
0:12:04 > 0:12:07I think it's ridiculous that you won't let me keep it in, to be fair.
0:12:09 > 0:12:12Shut the door please, blood.
0:12:12 > 0:12:14See you in a minute.
0:12:16 > 0:12:17What a wanker.
0:12:20 > 0:12:23- Good, isn't he? - SHE CHUCKLES
0:12:23 > 0:12:26I kind of figured something like that'd happen,
0:12:26 > 0:12:28so I brought a spare just in case.
0:12:29 > 0:12:32He looks so strange without this.
0:12:32 > 0:12:34And with this.
0:12:34 > 0:12:37Canan was affected badly - she can't stand it.
0:12:37 > 0:12:38it's terrible.
0:12:38 > 0:12:43I just pity him and I think we will give it back.
0:12:43 > 0:12:45I'm going to BLEEP roll a fag, as well.
0:12:47 > 0:12:50"Do you smoke?" "No!"
0:12:50 > 0:12:53- "Do you drink?" "Nah!"- I was laughing through the whole thing.
0:12:53 > 0:12:57I didn't tell him I smoke cos it'd be easier cos he'd have took my fags off me,
0:12:57 > 0:13:00so I'm just going to try and hide it for a week.
0:13:00 > 0:13:04- I am going out.- Shall we ask?
0:13:04 > 0:13:05(Let's just go.)
0:13:05 > 0:13:07They've been in Ali's house just two hours,
0:13:07 > 0:13:10and Ritchie's already throwing the new rules out the window.
0:13:12 > 0:13:15(No come on, come on, come on, grab your shoes.)
0:13:17 > 0:13:19- No, it'll look rude.- What?
0:13:19 > 0:13:20- In a bit!- Go on, then.
0:13:22 > 0:13:25She's up there, like, "Oh, I feel rude!"
0:13:25 > 0:13:27I was just, like, "In a bit, then."
0:13:28 > 0:13:32- Where is Ritchie?- I...don't know.
0:13:32 > 0:13:34Don't know? OK.
0:13:34 > 0:13:37I'm going to go play in the park. I don't care.
0:13:37 > 0:13:39HE CHUCKLES
0:13:39 > 0:13:41He went out?
0:13:41 > 0:13:43Huh? OK.
0:13:49 > 0:13:51- Ritchie.- Yeah?
0:13:51 > 0:13:53Come.
0:13:53 > 0:13:54- How old are you?- 17.
0:13:54 > 0:13:58Good, very good. But you're just behaving as if you are ten.
0:14:00 > 0:14:03Can you give me that packet, please? Cigarette packet.
0:14:03 > 0:14:07No, I'm not giving my fags. Don't go through my pockets.
0:14:07 > 0:14:11- Don't go through my pockets. - Yeah, OK, but...- Yeah, but don't go through my pockets.
0:14:11 > 0:14:14- You're smelling of cigarette. - Yeah. Don't go through my pockets.
0:14:14 > 0:14:18- You just told me you never smoked. - Cos I knew you were going to take my fags off me.
0:14:18 > 0:14:19You're not having my fags.
0:14:22 > 0:14:24Ritchie, what's that?
0:14:24 > 0:14:26- What's what?- This one.
0:14:26 > 0:14:30What? Don't go through my pockets. Don't go through my pockets. I swear down, don't...
0:14:30 > 0:14:32- Don't go through my pockets. - Can you give it to me?
0:14:32 > 0:14:35Get off me. No, don't go through my pockets.
0:14:35 > 0:14:39Get off. Oh, don't! Get off. Get off.
0:14:39 > 0:14:41- Listen.- Nah, get off me.
0:14:41 > 0:14:44- Ritchie.- Don't even talk to me. - Ritchie, Ritchie.- Get off me.
0:14:44 > 0:14:46You are in my house.
0:14:46 > 0:14:49- Yeah, then I'll go. - You want to go?- Yeah.- Please go.
0:14:49 > 0:14:51All right, safe. Get the BLEEP off me, then!
0:14:51 > 0:14:54Get off. Let go of me.
0:14:54 > 0:14:57- Listen, listen, listen.- What? - Knowing everything...
0:14:57 > 0:15:03- Yeah, cool, get off.- Accepting... Listen, listen. Knowing everything, accepting everything, you are here.
0:15:03 > 0:15:07- Yeah, get off me. - You know what I mean? - Yeah. D'you want to get off me now?
0:15:09 > 0:15:11Just sit here for a while.
0:15:11 > 0:15:15No I'm going. You said, "Go," so I'm going. I'm not putting up with this shit already.
0:15:24 > 0:15:25Get off of me now.
0:15:25 > 0:15:29- Get off. What are you doing? - Where are you going? - You said, "Go," so I'm going.
0:15:29 > 0:15:33- Just tell me where you are going. - Going.- Just tell me where you are going.
0:15:33 > 0:15:36- Going...to the park.- The park? - Yeah, to chill. - Will you sleep in the park?
0:15:36 > 0:15:40- No. Yeah.- Where will you sleep? - In the park. Whatever.
0:15:41 > 0:15:44- Ritchie, come here.- No, don't push me. Ritchie, Ritchie.
0:15:44 > 0:15:46- Who the...?- I'm not pushing you.
0:15:46 > 0:15:49- Go and sit over there.- So you're telling me to go in my room
0:15:49 > 0:15:53and then you tell me to go, and then you say to go in the front room.
0:15:54 > 0:15:55Just sit here.
0:15:57 > 0:15:59'It's too bad.'
0:15:59 > 0:16:03It's TOO bad and I'll talk to him again.
0:16:03 > 0:16:05If he doesn't listen to me, sorry.
0:16:05 > 0:16:07I can't let him stay here.
0:16:07 > 0:16:09He's a BLEEP mug.
0:16:09 > 0:16:13I'm just proper... I'm not going to get on with him at all.
0:16:16 > 0:16:19It's so strange! Like, normally it's me,
0:16:19 > 0:16:23the one, like, getting in trouble, shouting, getting shouted at.
0:16:29 > 0:16:31Come closer.
0:16:32 > 0:16:34Why did you leave so quickly?
0:16:34 > 0:16:37Because you said, "Go," so I was like, "All right, then."
0:16:37 > 0:16:40Has anyone told you to leave house before, in England?
0:16:40 > 0:16:42Yeah, my dad.
0:16:42 > 0:16:44Your dad?
0:16:44 > 0:16:47Don't you have a good relationship with your dad?
0:16:47 > 0:16:51I just don't get on with him. I've left, like, two, three times.
0:16:51 > 0:16:53I've stayed out for, like, a year.
0:16:53 > 0:16:58Like, a year? Year? It's too bad for you.
0:16:58 > 0:17:02Your home life makes me unhappy.
0:17:04 > 0:17:09A 17-year-old boy must have a very good family life.
0:17:09 > 0:17:12You must be near your dad and your mum.
0:17:12 > 0:17:15Do you want to have a good family life?
0:17:15 > 0:17:19- Dunno. I don't really know what it's like, so...- OK, OK.
0:17:19 > 0:17:22It's really bad, you know.
0:17:22 > 0:17:25He has some problems,
0:17:25 > 0:17:28and cigarette is the least important, in my opinion.
0:17:28 > 0:17:31First of all, he has to solve those problems -
0:17:31 > 0:17:33for example, family ties.
0:17:33 > 0:17:36Even if I can't teach him anything,
0:17:36 > 0:17:40he will see the family ties here - maybe he will understand.
0:17:41 > 0:17:45Ali's decided to return Ritchie's earplug
0:17:45 > 0:17:50and concentrate on getting the teens used to a good family life as soon as possible.
0:17:51 > 0:17:55In the Vural household, eating meals all together is important.
0:17:55 > 0:17:58- It's got a head. - Yeah, OK, but don't eat the head.
0:17:58 > 0:18:00- Oh!- Don't eat the head.
0:18:00 > 0:18:03- Hello! - THEY CHUCKLE
0:18:03 > 0:18:07Sorry, I shouldn't play with my fish.
0:18:08 > 0:18:11Hannah, why did you drop art school?
0:18:12 > 0:18:16Um, I had...
0:18:16 > 0:18:19an appointment at the same time as my exam,
0:18:19 > 0:18:22so I went to my hair appointment rather than my exam.
0:18:22 > 0:18:26It's incredible - you might go to a hairdresser any time.
0:18:26 > 0:18:29What do your parents say about this?
0:18:29 > 0:18:31They didn't like it, but...
0:18:31 > 0:18:35They didn't like it? But they said, "OK," they didn't say anything?
0:18:35 > 0:18:37- No.- Interesting.
0:18:38 > 0:18:41That's grim. I can't eat any more.
0:18:43 > 0:18:49'Her attitude was not so good. She looked a little bit disobedient.'
0:18:49 > 0:18:52A girl in her age must attend her school.
0:18:53 > 0:18:58It's nearly bedtime. But for Ali, the day's discoveries aren't over.
0:18:58 > 0:19:01That picture on your leg -
0:19:01 > 0:19:05you must wipe it out immediately.
0:19:05 > 0:19:09- I can't - it's a tattoo. It can't go.- You can't?
0:19:09 > 0:19:11No, it's a tattoo - it's there for ever, yeah.
0:19:11 > 0:19:15I didn't realise it was a tattoo. It's really offensive.
0:19:15 > 0:19:19Don't wear shorts. Never. Never. Never.
0:19:20 > 0:19:23This is the most important point for us.
0:19:33 > 0:19:35- Wanker! - HE CHUCKLES
0:19:35 > 0:19:40"Oh, set the table. Can't wear shorts. Take your ear out."
0:19:40 > 0:19:41It's like...
0:19:44 > 0:19:47It's the teens' first night as part of the Vural household,
0:19:47 > 0:19:50but 15-year-old Erdem's already thinking about the end of the week.
0:19:50 > 0:19:52They are not polite.
0:19:52 > 0:19:55They always say bad words.
0:19:55 > 0:19:58I am looking forward to them leaving the house.
0:20:04 > 0:20:08It's the school holidays in Turkey...
0:20:08 > 0:20:09It's already half past seven.
0:20:09 > 0:20:12..but not in the Vural household.
0:20:12 > 0:20:16- Hannah, good morning.- What?- Come around to the kitchen and help us.
0:20:16 > 0:20:19Ali believes children should work hard all year round.
0:20:19 > 0:20:23Now, half an hour later, we will go to a lemon field...
0:20:23 > 0:20:28- Lemons?- Yes, and you will do some work.
0:20:28 > 0:20:33I just want you, er, to see how hard life is.
0:20:33 > 0:20:36- Do we get paid?- Er... HANNAH LAUGHS
0:20:36 > 0:20:39- Yes, if you work hard, you will be paid, all right?- OK.- Yeah.
0:20:46 > 0:20:51Turkey's Mediterranean coast is famous for its citrus farms.
0:20:51 > 0:20:55To get the lemon grove ready for harvest,
0:20:55 > 0:20:59the teens have to sweep up the dead leaves for Ali's friend Farmer Said.
0:21:01 > 0:21:03Said, I will see you.
0:21:03 > 0:21:06The whole grove floor needs to be cleared -
0:21:06 > 0:21:12and with temperatures exceeding 30 degrees, it's going to be tough for city kids Ritchie and Hannah.
0:21:12 > 0:21:14- Ritchie.- Yeah.- Come on.
0:21:21 > 0:21:24Without her mum around to do the work for her,
0:21:24 > 0:21:27Hannah gets stuck in.
0:21:27 > 0:21:30But Ritchie's dragging his heels.
0:21:30 > 0:21:32It's just boring - that's why I don't want to do it.
0:21:32 > 0:21:35That's why I'm taking long about it, just longing it out.
0:21:37 > 0:21:40Please, you must be hard. Hard!
0:21:46 > 0:21:50- OK?- Yeah. That's what I was doing.
0:21:59 > 0:22:01You are very slowly...
0:22:01 > 0:22:05- Very slowly.- Because I'm doing a good job. You can't rush a good job.
0:22:07 > 0:22:10Can I go get my drink?
0:22:10 > 0:22:12Wherever he's gone.
0:22:16 > 0:22:19I did SOME work, to be fair.
0:22:19 > 0:22:24I did quite a lot, actually. More than what I thought I was going to do.
0:22:24 > 0:22:26Hannah is better than Ritchie.
0:22:26 > 0:22:30I am angry, er, because he is lazy.
0:22:32 > 0:22:37At the end of their three-hour shift, Ali comes to pick them up.
0:22:37 > 0:22:41Farmer Said pays Hannah and Erdem 20 Turkish lira,
0:22:41 > 0:22:45which is around £7. But there's a problem with Ritchie's pay.
0:22:45 > 0:22:48- He says you didn't work hard. - Are you serious?
0:22:48 > 0:22:51Am I still getting paid at all? Or am I getting nothing?
0:22:51 > 0:22:54HE SPEAKS TURKISH He doesn't want to pay anything.
0:22:54 > 0:22:56So I've just worked, like, in the heat,
0:22:56 > 0:22:59like, sweating my balls off for nothing?
0:22:59 > 0:23:02- Mm-hm. - Nah, that's BLEEP ridiculous.
0:23:02 > 0:23:04- Nah!- OK.
0:23:05 > 0:23:10That's a piss-take, proper.
0:23:12 > 0:23:13Like, what an arsehole.
0:23:14 > 0:23:17As if he's not paying me.
0:23:17 > 0:23:21I'm going to set fire to this stupid lemon yard. I don't give a shit.
0:23:21 > 0:23:27Having made his apologies to the farmer, Ali goes after Ritchie.
0:23:27 > 0:23:32He should have talked to me, he should have talked to the farmer. He shouldn't have overreacted.
0:23:34 > 0:23:35Hi, Ritchie.
0:23:35 > 0:23:37All right?
0:23:38 > 0:23:41- How do you feel?- Annoyed.
0:23:41 > 0:23:43Here, showing respect is really important.
0:23:43 > 0:23:47I was getting nothing for doing what I've done today,
0:23:47 > 0:23:50- which was bloody hard.- Mm-hm, mm-hm.
0:23:50 > 0:23:54Like, in this heat, as well. Like, I can't stress enough, this heat is hot.
0:23:54 > 0:23:57Please apologise to him.
0:23:57 > 0:24:01- For what?- For...overreacting.
0:24:01 > 0:24:04What? For working my balls off, for him,
0:24:04 > 0:24:08sweeping his BLEEP leaves and then to not pay me?
0:24:08 > 0:24:10I'm not saying sorry to him!
0:24:10 > 0:24:13I'm going to buy some fags.
0:24:13 > 0:24:16Come, come, don't go away. Come, come, come, come...
0:24:16 > 0:24:19Ritchie, you don't know the way.
0:24:19 > 0:24:20Ritchie!
0:24:23 > 0:24:28For the second time in as many days, Ritchie's anger has got the better of him.
0:24:28 > 0:24:32A teenager can't behave like that. Let him walk.
0:24:35 > 0:24:4020 years of teaching experience has given Ali insight into dealing with turbulent teens.
0:24:40 > 0:24:43I think he's quite troubled.
0:24:43 > 0:24:47I think I need to help him, to make him cool down,
0:24:47 > 0:24:51to make him less, er, explosive.
0:24:55 > 0:25:00The walk home in the midday sun is giving Ritchie time to think.
0:25:00 > 0:25:02It's just half-day stuff.
0:25:02 > 0:25:05Walk out of school, house, arguments,
0:25:05 > 0:25:10relationships, everything - I just walk out of them, cos I can't be bothered with them.
0:25:21 > 0:25:25Two hours later, an exhausted Ritchie makes it back to Ali's.
0:25:25 > 0:25:27Come, Ritchie.
0:25:27 > 0:25:31At home, Ritchie's left to his own devices, but here it's different.
0:25:31 > 0:25:36I just want to talk in short about the garden today.
0:25:36 > 0:25:37Forget the payment.
0:25:37 > 0:25:41Main point - we should know how to treat each other.
0:25:43 > 0:25:46Do you react like that when you are in England?
0:25:46 > 0:25:48What - just walk away from things?
0:25:48 > 0:25:51- Yeah.- Shouting, swearing -
0:25:51 > 0:25:54you know, they're not good.
0:25:54 > 0:25:56And I know you swore a lot.
0:25:56 > 0:26:01Before you explode, you should keep yourself calm.
0:26:03 > 0:26:05- All right, Ritchie?- Yeah.
0:26:11 > 0:26:14Canan wants Hannah's help in the kitchen.
0:26:14 > 0:26:16Hannah does nothing for her mum at home
0:26:16 > 0:26:20but in Turkey, female family members all share the cooking.
0:26:20 > 0:26:23And cousin Seva has also come to lend a hand.
0:26:23 > 0:26:25Turn it now,
0:26:25 > 0:26:29and continue to cut it in this way.
0:26:30 > 0:26:34Do you spend any time with your mother for cooking?
0:26:34 > 0:26:36- Never.- Never?
0:26:37 > 0:26:42- She says, "Bad. It's all bad." - Oh, god!- So dramatic!
0:26:42 > 0:26:48- She kicked me out of the house cos I lost my job, and so she got angry.- Why you lost your job?
0:26:48 > 0:26:49Cos I got drunk.
0:26:49 > 0:26:52THEY SPEAK TURKISH
0:26:55 > 0:26:58- How much do you drink?- Er...
0:26:58 > 0:27:02when I go out with my friends, I go through, like, two bottles of vodka.
0:27:02 > 0:27:05Glass of vodka, you said?
0:27:05 > 0:27:06Two bottles, not glasses.
0:27:06 > 0:27:08Two bottles?!
0:27:09 > 0:27:11THEY SPEAK TURKISH
0:27:17 > 0:27:19Are you still living, still? are you still living?
0:27:19 > 0:27:21Yeah, I'm still living.
0:27:21 > 0:27:23Oh, my god!
0:27:25 > 0:27:26Big problem!
0:27:26 > 0:27:28You see Canan's face -
0:27:28 > 0:27:31really very worried about you.
0:27:31 > 0:27:34One time, we had a fight. I punched my mum in the face and she got a black eye.
0:27:34 > 0:27:37Oh! How can I say to Canan?
0:27:37 > 0:27:39THEY SPEAK TURKISH
0:27:42 > 0:27:44What happened? What happened?
0:27:45 > 0:27:49Dunno. I just hit her and then went out, cos I wanted to go.
0:27:49 > 0:27:51No.
0:27:52 > 0:27:55You cannot give shocks to our mothers, to our family,
0:27:55 > 0:27:57to our elder people.
0:27:57 > 0:28:00You should apologise to your mother.
0:28:00 > 0:28:04Our mothers are very valuable for us.
0:28:05 > 0:28:08I think what they said is true. I just like to drink,
0:28:08 > 0:28:12but then when I come home it has a bad effect with my mum.
0:28:12 > 0:28:16The hitting of my mum, that was when I was drunk.
0:28:16 > 0:28:18Yeah, it's quite bad.
0:28:20 > 0:28:25Ali and Canan want to show the teens how important family bonds can be,
0:28:25 > 0:28:32so they're travelling to their house in the remote Taurus Mountains to meet Ali's elderly mother and aunt.
0:28:39 > 0:28:42This is the best way to show our respect.
0:28:42 > 0:28:45Don't kiss, but...
0:28:46 > 0:28:47OK?
0:28:47 > 0:28:49SHE LAUGHS
0:28:49 > 0:28:51- OK?- What?!
0:28:51 > 0:28:53OK.
0:29:02 > 0:29:05This is Ritchie and Hannah...
0:29:07 > 0:29:09OK, good.
0:29:11 > 0:29:15It's a bit weird, innit? Like, chinning someone's hand
0:29:15 > 0:29:18and then head-butting it and... That's what they do.
0:29:20 > 0:29:22Turkish families are close,
0:29:22 > 0:29:26so even though they live an hour away, Ali visits his mum and aunt a few times a week.
0:29:26 > 0:29:32We often come here because they are two old people who need our care.
0:29:32 > 0:29:34Would you do the same thing?
0:29:34 > 0:29:36Every...once a month.
0:29:36 > 0:29:39Yeah, I wouldn't come up here three or four times a week.
0:29:44 > 0:29:48The teens settle in for their overnight stay in the mountains.
0:29:50 > 0:29:53After the turbulence of the last two days,
0:29:53 > 0:29:57Hannah's surprised at the trust Ali's shown her and Ritchie.
0:29:57 > 0:29:59We're two complete strangers,
0:29:59 > 0:30:02we're in his family because we're known to be naughty,
0:30:02 > 0:30:04and then he introduces me to his mum,
0:30:04 > 0:30:09I mean, it doesn't really make sense. He's a brave man.
0:30:20 > 0:30:22It's 5am in the mountains.
0:30:22 > 0:30:25Good morning, Ritchie, morning...
0:30:25 > 0:30:27Wake up.
0:30:27 > 0:30:30Ali's arranged for the teens to spend a day with a goat herder
0:30:30 > 0:30:32to experience a different way of life.
0:30:32 > 0:30:33Five minutes.
0:30:33 > 0:30:38They've been told to wear suitable clothes for a day in the country...
0:30:38 > 0:30:42but Hannah's outdoor wear is leaving a lot to be desired.
0:30:45 > 0:30:47Are you going to party?
0:30:47 > 0:30:51- No, I wear this every day. - Every day?
0:30:51 > 0:30:54Not just to parties, I wear a skirt every day,
0:30:54 > 0:30:55this is what I wear.
0:30:55 > 0:30:57That is party... You going to party?
0:30:57 > 0:30:59No, no...
0:30:59 > 0:31:02- This...what, no party?- No!
0:31:02 > 0:31:03I wear this, whatever -
0:31:03 > 0:31:05I'll wear this farming
0:31:05 > 0:31:08- if I have to. - You won't be OK in that skirt.
0:31:09 > 0:31:11It's longer than my shorts.
0:31:13 > 0:31:16- Five minutes, come on, come on, come on.- I don't want to wear that.
0:31:17 > 0:31:20OK, you just stay here, all right.
0:31:25 > 0:31:27I hate nature, anyway!
0:31:28 > 0:31:30At home,
0:31:30 > 0:31:33Hannah gets away with doing whatever she wants,
0:31:33 > 0:31:36but in the Vural family, disobedience gets punished.
0:31:36 > 0:31:39So while Ali takes Ritchie, Erdem and 19-year-old cousin Doruk
0:31:39 > 0:31:44to the goat herder's, Hannah gets her just desserts...
0:31:45 > 0:31:47Kitchen and balcony...
0:31:47 > 0:31:49OK?
0:31:49 > 0:31:50Mm-hm.
0:31:53 > 0:31:56Yeah, I think Canan's scary and strict.
0:31:56 > 0:31:59When she tells me to do stuff, she looks quite angry.
0:32:02 > 0:32:06While Hannah pulls her weight for once, Ali and the boys
0:32:06 > 0:32:08arrive at the goat herder's.
0:32:10 > 0:32:1528-year-old Kirim supports his family selling the milk and cheese
0:32:15 > 0:32:17from his herd of 140 goats.
0:32:17 > 0:32:20Every morning, he takes the goats to be grazed at the top of the mountain.
0:32:20 > 0:32:24Be good boys. Bye-bye.
0:32:30 > 0:32:32I'm not hungry, I feel ill.
0:32:32 > 0:32:37These flies are disgusting and I hate goats, as well.
0:32:37 > 0:32:41Well, let's go because we are a little bit late.
0:32:41 > 0:32:43Well, let's go then.
0:32:49 > 0:32:54GOATS BLEAT
0:32:56 > 0:33:00Oh, my God, I hate goats so much.
0:33:03 > 0:33:06I'm terrified of goats,
0:33:06 > 0:33:07I hate goats so much.
0:33:11 > 0:33:14HE BREATHES HEAVILY
0:33:14 > 0:33:17Why? Are you afraid of them?
0:33:17 > 0:33:21- TEARFULLY: - Yeah, I hate goats so much.
0:33:21 > 0:33:24I'm not doing this today, no way...
0:33:24 > 0:33:26Nah, not happening.
0:33:30 > 0:33:32Hey, Ritchie, where are you going?
0:33:32 > 0:33:37I'm terrified of goats! I hate them so much, I don't want to be here at all.
0:33:37 > 0:33:39HE LAUGHS
0:33:39 > 0:33:40It's not funny.
0:33:41 > 0:33:44I think you should at least try it.
0:33:44 > 0:33:47No, you've just seen, they've just walked out and I'm crying,
0:33:47 > 0:33:51I hate them so much! I'm not going with them goats.
0:33:51 > 0:33:54I'm not coming, it's not happening.
0:33:54 > 0:33:55They're not monsters.
0:33:55 > 0:33:59They scare the BLEEP out of me, and that's just that.
0:33:59 > 0:34:05With Ritchie refusing to go with the goats, Ali's been called back.
0:34:05 > 0:34:07Can you just stand up, Ritchie?
0:34:07 > 0:34:09HE SNIFFS
0:34:09 > 0:34:11Are you crying?
0:34:11 > 0:34:14What? Yeah, as soon as I saw them.
0:34:16 > 0:34:22- I don't even want to talk about goats, I hate them so much. - What's the problem with the goats?
0:34:22 > 0:34:24- I just don't like 'em. - Why not?- I just don't.
0:34:24 > 0:34:26Don't,
0:34:26 > 0:34:28or just because you don't want to go up?
0:34:28 > 0:34:32Well, no, I wouldn't cry over BLEEP goats for nothing,
0:34:32 > 0:34:35- I hate goats.- Do not swear...
0:34:35 > 0:34:37Do not swear, first, OK?
0:34:37 > 0:34:40I organised this for you, right,
0:34:40 > 0:34:44and for Hannah, and I can't let them down,
0:34:44 > 0:34:48and they are disappointed at the moment. I know them.
0:34:48 > 0:34:52Yeah, and do you know how terrified I am of goats?
0:34:52 > 0:34:56- If you do, I don't think... - I'm trying to understand you.
0:34:56 > 0:34:58Yeah, but I don't think you'll be able to.
0:34:58 > 0:35:00I hate them so much.
0:35:00 > 0:35:02All right, just go.
0:35:07 > 0:35:10It was just a wasted opportunity for them,
0:35:10 > 0:35:12they wasted it.
0:35:13 > 0:35:15If you compare with Turkish teens,
0:35:15 > 0:35:21they seem to be younger, not 17.
0:35:23 > 0:35:27Back at the house, Ritchie's still upset.
0:35:27 > 0:35:31Did something happen bad in the past, with the goats?
0:35:31 > 0:35:32- Yeah.- What happened?
0:35:32 > 0:35:36I was on holiday and a goat just kept butting me,
0:35:36 > 0:35:40like, repeatedly, when I was really little, and I just don't like them.
0:35:40 > 0:35:42OK, I understand you,
0:35:42 > 0:35:46- I understand you, all right? - I would go up there, like,
0:35:46 > 0:35:50for you and for Canan, but I won't because I don't like goats at all.
0:35:50 > 0:35:51I understand you,
0:35:51 > 0:35:55I just wanted to show you what the hard life can be.
0:35:55 > 0:35:59Yeah, I know what you mean and I'm sorry I couldn't do it.
0:35:59 > 0:36:01The first thing, you overreacted.
0:36:01 > 0:36:07I mean, you raised your voice, which I don't like very much,
0:36:07 > 0:36:13but today, you were unhappy, but at least you didn't raise your voice.
0:36:13 > 0:36:16- All right?- Yeah.
0:36:16 > 0:36:17Keep going like that.
0:36:25 > 0:36:26Anything you want to say?
0:36:28 > 0:36:30- No.- Apart from sorry I didn't go up to the farm.
0:36:30 > 0:36:34Sorry I'm petrified of goats and I had to let you down.
0:36:34 > 0:36:38Come on, good boy, be strong, OK?
0:36:38 > 0:36:41You are already strong.
0:36:42 > 0:36:45Have a look at me, look at me, OK...
0:36:46 > 0:36:48Good boy,
0:36:48 > 0:36:49let's go.
0:36:52 > 0:36:54Ali's encouragement is giving Ritchie
0:36:54 > 0:36:58a new perspective on how father and son relationships can be.
0:37:00 > 0:37:03I think his approach is good to his parenting ways,
0:37:03 > 0:37:05he's just chilled out and it's, like,
0:37:05 > 0:37:08good to be like that because he's like a friend most of the time
0:37:08 > 0:37:12and then he's a dad when he, like, has to be.
0:37:12 > 0:37:17I prefer approaching the teens more softly because being hard, so hard,
0:37:17 > 0:37:21to these kind of teens don't work, you know.
0:37:21 > 0:37:25They are already...disobedient
0:37:25 > 0:37:29and I must slow them down, first of all.
0:37:29 > 0:37:32Hannah, can you come here?
0:37:32 > 0:37:34Ritchie didn't make it up the mountain,
0:37:34 > 0:37:39but refusing to change her clothes meant Hannah didn't make it out the door.
0:37:39 > 0:37:43Do you think you broke the rule this morning?
0:37:43 > 0:37:46Um, kind of, but...
0:37:46 > 0:37:47I was disappointed.
0:37:47 > 0:37:52Some certain clothes must be in some certain places.
0:37:52 > 0:37:59I mean, you can't... Can you climb up the mountain in skirts?
0:37:59 > 0:38:00- Yeah.- No.
0:38:00 > 0:38:03Do you go to parties in pyjamas?
0:38:03 > 0:38:04Yeah.
0:38:05 > 0:38:07Do you go to parties naked?
0:38:07 > 0:38:09Yes.
0:38:11 > 0:38:13I have actually been to a party naked.
0:38:13 > 0:38:18OK, so I mean, Canan warned you just to change your skirt.
0:38:18 > 0:38:24You must trust Canan, you must trust your mum in England.
0:38:24 > 0:38:29Canan just wants you to write a letter and say,
0:38:29 > 0:38:33"Oh, I love you, Mum, I'm really sorry for the things
0:38:33 > 0:38:38"I did bad up to now", and I'm sure without saying anything she will forgive you.
0:38:38 > 0:38:40Really?
0:38:40 > 0:38:43- Honestly, just believe me, OK? She thinks so.- OK.
0:38:43 > 0:38:46- Right, you will do that?- Yeah. - Good.
0:38:47 > 0:38:49I'm sorry.
0:38:52 > 0:38:54I'm happy.
0:38:54 > 0:38:56I'm glad you're happy.
0:38:58 > 0:39:03'Things about this family that I like are just, like, they explain themselves
0:39:03 > 0:39:06'as to why they're telling me to do stuff
0:39:06 > 0:39:08'and it kind of makes me think twice,
0:39:08 > 0:39:11'like, why don't me and my mum have that bond'
0:39:11 > 0:39:13where we can talk about stuff? And I want that,
0:39:13 > 0:39:16instead of just being shouted at all the time.
0:39:23 > 0:39:26Large family barbecues are a Turkish tradition.
0:39:26 > 0:39:30At home, Hannah and Ritchie never help their parents,
0:39:30 > 0:39:34but as part of Ali's family, they're getting stuck in.
0:39:34 > 0:39:36Shake, shake your bum!
0:39:39 > 0:39:42Hannah's helping the women make a typical Turkish dish.
0:39:42 > 0:39:44Kofte.
0:39:44 > 0:39:48- Is that a burger?- Burger, yes, yes, it is very similar to burger.
0:39:48 > 0:39:50I made them.
0:39:50 > 0:39:53You made them?
0:39:53 > 0:39:55We say... HE SPEAKS TURKISH
0:39:55 > 0:39:57"You made it very well". Thank you.
0:39:57 > 0:39:59You're welcome.
0:40:01 > 0:40:04- No, no, no, no.- Have it, have it.
0:40:04 > 0:40:07For me, thank you!
0:40:07 > 0:40:09Urgh!
0:40:09 > 0:40:14Some time, my mum does the same to me.
0:40:14 > 0:40:17'It's been one of the best nights so far, I think.
0:40:17 > 0:40:19'I haven't heard any of them arguing,'
0:40:19 > 0:40:24like, this is another night where they're all just, like, chilling,
0:40:24 > 0:40:26and I think one of them is even knitting!
0:40:26 > 0:40:30My family aren't like this family at all.
0:40:30 > 0:40:33If I was to have a family I would kind of want them like this,
0:40:33 > 0:40:37like, all together and helping each other and, like,
0:40:37 > 0:40:42the youngers helping the olders and just, like, I dunno, just really nice.
0:40:44 > 0:40:46HE SPEAKS TURKISH
0:40:46 > 0:40:49ALL: Ooh!
0:40:53 > 0:40:57- Very good! His pronunciation is very clear.- Very clear.
0:40:57 > 0:41:03The tight-knit family atmosphere seems to be rubbing off on Hannah, too.
0:41:03 > 0:41:05You're welcome.
0:41:07 > 0:41:08They are getting better.
0:41:08 > 0:41:11In this family occasion, in this family gathering,
0:41:11 > 0:41:13I realise that they look happier.
0:41:29 > 0:41:33It's time to leave the mountains.
0:41:33 > 0:41:38Ali's driving the teens back to Silifke to visit the residents of an old people's home.
0:41:38 > 0:41:40I hate old people.
0:41:40 > 0:41:42Old people are long.
0:41:42 > 0:41:43Do you like old people?
0:41:43 > 0:41:46- Yes, I like them.- You're crazy.
0:41:51 > 0:41:56Ali wants Hannah and Ritchie to spend time with people who have no family of their own.
0:41:58 > 0:42:00We are just here
0:42:00 > 0:42:05to show our respect. They will see you, that's enough, it makes them happy, it's very nice.
0:42:05 > 0:42:08I'm not cleaning them or helping them go to the toilet?
0:42:08 > 0:42:11- You don't have to clean, OK?- I'm not helping them go to the toilet.
0:42:11 > 0:42:15- If you want...wait, no, you're not going to the toilet.- Dog. - Wait a minute.
0:42:15 > 0:42:16Be a good girl just for me, OK?
0:42:16 > 0:42:18Yeah.
0:42:19 > 0:42:21It's teatime at the home
0:42:21 > 0:42:25and Hannah and Ritchie get serving...
0:42:38 > 0:42:39It's pretty grim,
0:42:39 > 0:42:41it's gash, I can't be bothered with it.
0:42:44 > 0:42:45I'm leaving these gloves on
0:42:45 > 0:42:49so I don't get any old lurgies or anything.
0:42:50 > 0:42:54Ritchie, she's a little bit tired,
0:42:54 > 0:42:59er, can you help walk her to her room?
0:42:59 > 0:43:03- OK.- You can help.- How?
0:43:03 > 0:43:04You can help.
0:43:09 > 0:43:11LADY SPEAKS TURKISH
0:43:17 > 0:43:21Zeynap is 83 and has no children.
0:43:21 > 0:43:24She's lived in the home for the last three years.
0:43:24 > 0:43:28- It's good to help someone, I think, yes?- Yeah.
0:43:43 > 0:43:47- She's crying.- Is she crying at me?
0:43:47 > 0:43:50Have I done something wrong?
0:43:50 > 0:43:51No, no,
0:43:51 > 0:43:56sometimes she cries... and melancholic...
0:43:56 > 0:44:00- Why?- I will ask. I don't know.
0:44:00 > 0:44:03THEY SPEAK TURKISH
0:44:03 > 0:44:07LADY SPEAKS TEARFULLY
0:44:09 > 0:44:11(What have I done?)
0:44:15 > 0:44:18She hasn't got any family,
0:44:18 > 0:44:23and now melancholic because she is happy we are here
0:44:23 > 0:44:28and also you help her, Hannah and you helping her.
0:44:28 > 0:44:30Oh, that's well nice.
0:44:30 > 0:44:35Yes, she said, "I am very happy you are here and you are helping me".
0:44:37 > 0:44:40Aww!
0:44:40 > 0:44:47She said, "I have nobody, so that I am all the time crying."
0:44:47 > 0:44:48Would you like a hug?
0:44:48 > 0:44:51Yeah! SHE SPEAKS TURKISH
0:44:51 > 0:44:52You can, Ritchie, you can do this.
0:44:52 > 0:44:54Ahh!
0:44:54 > 0:44:57SHE SPEAKS TURKISH
0:45:02 > 0:45:04She said, "Thank you."
0:45:04 > 0:45:05It's OK.
0:45:05 > 0:45:10I was like, "Oh, shit, what have I done? Have I like offended her?"
0:45:10 > 0:45:14But no, she was just happy that me and Hannah came to see her.
0:45:14 > 0:45:16Like, I dunno - it was quite nice.
0:45:16 > 0:45:19She's just in here on her own
0:45:19 > 0:45:23with nobody else and it must be, like, rubbish.
0:45:26 > 0:45:28Ritchie, what did you feel about old people?
0:45:28 > 0:45:32Um, some old woman cried to me, she was, like, really happy
0:45:32 > 0:45:36that I come and saw her and I gave her a hug and she was really happy.
0:45:36 > 0:45:39- Oh, how nice. - I feel better about myself.
0:45:39 > 0:45:42How nice. One day, everybody will be old.
0:45:42 > 0:45:46I'll come and see you when you're old, as well.
0:45:46 > 0:45:49Ah, good boy, good boy! Thank you. What about you?
0:45:49 > 0:45:52- No, never coming back!- Oh, I'm sure you'll change your mind later.
0:45:52 > 0:45:55'He's an absolute dick for bringing me here'
0:45:55 > 0:45:57because now I feel like a dick,
0:45:57 > 0:46:01because I just don't care about old people.
0:46:04 > 0:46:08Ali's disappointed with Hannah's attitude at the home.
0:46:08 > 0:46:11I just want her to feel compassion
0:46:11 > 0:46:14for the people who have less than her.
0:46:14 > 0:46:16Come, Hannah.
0:46:16 > 0:46:21He's arranged for her to teach English to a poor girl from the country.
0:46:21 > 0:46:26- They are not a very rich family - she's a girl who works very hard, all right?- Yes, that's fine.
0:46:31 > 0:46:34Erdem's cousin Doruk has brought Hannah
0:46:34 > 0:46:38to teach her lesson in a small village 20 miles outside Silifke.
0:46:38 > 0:46:43In Turkey, over a third of all rural families
0:46:43 > 0:46:47live below the poverty line, and adult literacy rates are low.
0:46:47 > 0:46:51Eda is 20 years old and lives with her family on their tomato farm.
0:46:51 > 0:46:55- Hey!- My name is Eda.
0:46:55 > 0:46:59- Eda.- My mother. - Your mum.- Grandmother.
0:46:59 > 0:47:02I'm Hannah, Hannah.
0:47:02 > 0:47:07Before the lesson begins, Eda shows Hannah around.
0:47:07 > 0:47:09She says this is the kitchen.
0:47:09 > 0:47:11Where does everyone sleep?
0:47:11 > 0:47:13SHE SPEAKS TURKISH
0:47:19 > 0:47:23She says they are living and sleeping in that room, all five people,
0:47:23 > 0:47:25these are their beds.
0:47:25 > 0:47:29So do they not have a bedroom? No, just a living room?
0:47:29 > 0:47:33- Yes, one room and one kitchen and one bathroom, I think.- Is that it?
0:47:33 > 0:47:36Yes, that's all.
0:47:36 > 0:47:38My God.
0:47:40 > 0:47:45At home I have my own bedroom and my own bathroom.
0:47:47 > 0:47:50- Hello.- Hello.
0:47:50 > 0:47:53Hello means, like, "hi".
0:47:53 > 0:47:55- Hi.- Happy is good.- Good.
0:47:55 > 0:47:57- Sad is bad.- Bad.
0:47:57 > 0:47:59- Happy, sad.- Yeah.
0:47:59 > 0:48:04As well as attending university, Eda helps her mum
0:48:04 > 0:48:08by working in the fields and doing all the cooking at home.
0:48:08 > 0:48:11It's a stark contrast to Hannah and her mum.
0:48:11 > 0:48:14I didn't fully appreciate everything that she did for me
0:48:14 > 0:48:19just because back in England I thought that that's what every child got.
0:48:19 > 0:48:23Being over here makes me realise how fortunate I actually am.
0:48:23 > 0:48:26My life is just so much more simple than hers.
0:48:29 > 0:48:31Bye.
0:48:33 > 0:48:35Oh, thank you!
0:48:35 > 0:48:40There's been no contact between Hannah and her mum since she was kicked out a week ago.
0:48:40 > 0:48:44So Hannah's decided to follow Canan's advice and write her a letter.
0:48:44 > 0:48:49The thing I want to apologise most for is just my general, like, attitude towards her.
0:48:49 > 0:48:52I know the punching in the face was really not acceptable
0:48:52 > 0:48:55and, like, the major things that I've done,
0:48:55 > 0:48:58they wouldn't have happened if I didn't have a bad attitude.
0:49:02 > 0:49:04I feel like...
0:49:04 > 0:49:06I've taken a first step
0:49:06 > 0:49:08and that I feel a lot better for it.
0:49:16 > 0:49:20It's the teens' last full day in Silifke.
0:49:20 > 0:49:24After breakfast, Ali delivers a letter he's received for Ritchie.
0:49:24 > 0:49:27Hello, Ritchie, do you know this?
0:49:27 > 0:49:30Yes, it's my dad's writing.
0:49:33 > 0:49:39Ritchie's lived with his dad since he was 11, but they've never spoken about the time
0:49:39 > 0:49:42Dad walked out on the family when Ritchie was just three years old.
0:49:42 > 0:49:47"I'm really sorry that I was not man enough to stay with you both,
0:49:47 > 0:49:51"but I was selfish and hurting so I ran away."
0:49:51 > 0:49:56I didn't, like, know how he felt because he's never said anything.
0:49:56 > 0:50:00It makes me feel like he does actually, like,
0:50:00 > 0:50:01care for me and love me,
0:50:01 > 0:50:05even though he doesn't show it all the time.
0:50:09 > 0:50:13It's Hannah and Ritchie's final evening.
0:50:13 > 0:50:17They rarely cook at home but they want to show the family their thanks by cooking dinner,
0:50:17 > 0:50:19all by themselves.
0:50:21 > 0:50:23It's on fire.
0:50:23 > 0:50:26Wow, look at this,
0:50:26 > 0:50:28Look at this.
0:50:28 > 0:50:34The table looks wonderful, but everything's more beautiful when it is shared with you.
0:50:34 > 0:50:35Ah, thanks, Ali.
0:50:36 > 0:50:38Very delicious.
0:50:39 > 0:50:41Thank you.
0:50:41 > 0:50:44Did you miss your parties?
0:50:44 > 0:50:49I missed, like, two parties and a wedding, but it was much better here.
0:50:49 > 0:50:52- Much better here?- Yeah.
0:50:52 > 0:50:55Goksu, do you want some help?
0:50:55 > 0:50:57How nice, very good.
0:50:57 > 0:51:02She's a real alba, you know "alba"? Elder sister.
0:51:02 > 0:51:05Is that better? I take that as a yes.
0:51:05 > 0:51:07This home is your home.
0:51:07 > 0:51:10- Thank you.- All the time.
0:51:10 > 0:51:12Thanks.
0:51:18 > 0:51:23Hannah and Ritchie's time with the Vural family has come to an end.
0:51:25 > 0:51:27I don't want to leave.
0:51:27 > 0:51:30I'm quite enjoying it here now.
0:51:30 > 0:51:34They've made me realise that, like, family life is quite important.
0:51:34 > 0:51:37I do want to be more of a son to my dad,
0:51:37 > 0:51:41but I want him to be, like, more of a dad to me as well,
0:51:41 > 0:51:46not just two people that live in a house like housemates,
0:51:46 > 0:51:48like, I want to be like a family.
0:51:50 > 0:51:56Being part of the Vural household has also given Hannah a new outlook on family life.
0:51:56 > 0:51:59It was just really genuinely nice atmosphere,
0:51:59 > 0:52:01which I don't have at home.
0:52:01 > 0:52:04When I go back home, I guess I am going to have to take the first step
0:52:04 > 0:52:10to, like, changing the relationships with my mum to be more of an adult.
0:52:10 > 0:52:12Hannah hasn't heard from her mum all week
0:52:12 > 0:52:16and still doesn't know if she's allowed to come home.
0:52:16 > 0:52:21I just hope that she can accept the letter and accept that I am willing to change.
0:52:26 > 0:52:28- Don't cry, don't cry. - Take care, boy.
0:52:28 > 0:52:32See you later, man. Are we going to do the handshake one last time?
0:52:34 > 0:52:36Oh, yeah!
0:52:36 > 0:52:42'Canan and me have tried to give them attention and affection and it worked.
0:52:45 > 0:52:48'Just for one week, we have taught them a lot,
0:52:48 > 0:52:50'but they have taught something to us -'
0:52:50 > 0:52:53we shouldn't leave our kids alone.
0:52:59 > 0:53:03As the teens start their long journey home,
0:53:03 > 0:53:05Hannah's mum receives her letter.
0:53:05 > 0:53:09To hear her actually say, "I love you so much",
0:53:09 > 0:53:12which she hasn't said for years...
0:53:13 > 0:53:14..so...
0:53:17 > 0:53:23I'm hoping that she has spoken from the heart and it is true.
0:53:25 > 0:53:29The next day, there's a surprise at the airport for Hannah.
0:53:38 > 0:53:43- I'm sorry for everything. Did you get my letter?- I did.
0:53:43 > 0:53:45- Did you like my letter? - I did like your letter.
0:53:45 > 0:53:49This week I just, like, realised how much you do do for me
0:53:49 > 0:53:53and just, like, and how I should appreciate a lot more.
0:53:53 > 0:53:57You can come back home, but it is for a trial period only.
0:53:57 > 0:53:58OK.
0:53:58 > 0:54:00Things are going to be different.
0:54:00 > 0:54:03- All right, shall we go home? - Yeah, that's fine.- Come on, then.
0:54:03 > 0:54:06I'm so looking forward to my bed.
0:54:06 > 0:54:09Me and Ritchie cooked dinner on the last day
0:54:09 > 0:54:12and we burnt the spaghetti and the whole house nearly went on fire!
0:54:12 > 0:54:16I'll cook you something - not spaghetti bolognese, cos that was so hard!
0:54:30 > 0:54:32Oh, hello, son.
0:54:32 > 0:54:34How you doing?
0:54:36 > 0:54:40- Did you get a chance to read over the letter I sent you? - Yes, I read it a couple of times.
0:54:40 > 0:54:45I thought about it and I agree with a lot of things you say,
0:54:45 > 0:54:49like, I need to, I dunno, kind of learn from your mistakes
0:54:49 > 0:54:53and stuff like that, and do better.
0:54:53 > 0:54:56I don't want you to go through what I went through, son. You can stop now
0:54:56 > 0:55:03and you can learn from us and you can not make the mistakes I've made.
0:55:03 > 0:55:06I agree. Would you like a hug? You look like you want a hug.
0:55:06 > 0:55:08I would like a hug, father-son hug.
0:55:08 > 0:55:10Ahhh!
0:55:11 > 0:55:14Well done.
0:55:24 > 0:55:27Is there anything else you want me to do after?
0:55:27 > 0:55:31Can you put the washing up out of the sink and into the dishwasher, please?
0:55:31 > 0:55:36She's just come home and had a total turnaround,
0:55:36 > 0:55:37it's a lot better.
0:55:37 > 0:55:43She does help out around the house now, so that I can go to bed when I come in from working the night shift
0:55:43 > 0:55:46and I'm happy with her change.
0:55:46 > 0:55:51I've definitely realised how important my family is. I've definitely learnt stuff.
0:55:53 > 0:55:57- Love you, Mum.- Love you.
0:55:57 > 0:55:59Next time on The World's Strictest Parents...
0:55:59 > 0:56:02I think she's a spoilt little cow, yeah.
0:56:02 > 0:56:05..12 rebellious teens were sent to stay with strict families.
0:56:05 > 0:56:08You just lie.
0:56:08 > 0:56:13But did a dose of firm discipline make any lasting impression on their lives back home?
0:56:13 > 0:56:17The biggest thing I learnt was to completely stay off weed.
0:56:17 > 0:56:21I'm just gobsmacked. It's just like a new kid, you know?
0:56:21 > 0:56:24It was definitely the best experience so far in my life.
0:56:24 > 0:56:28I would not go back, even if you paid me. I couldn't stand them.
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