Haroon Family

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0:00:02 > 0:00:05Could you convince your partner to put aside their doubts

0:00:05 > 0:00:08and risk everything for a new start abroad,

0:00:08 > 0:00:11especially if it meant giving up a life you love

0:00:11 > 0:00:14for a country you've never been to before?

0:00:14 > 0:00:20If you dreamt of a new life for your family, but no-one shared your passion...

0:00:20 > 0:00:23It is you that wants to go. It's not me.

0:00:23 > 0:00:26..and the reality left you more than disappointed...

0:00:26 > 0:00:30I expected maybe too much from Australia.

0:00:30 > 0:00:35..could you bear to leave behind everyone you know and love?

0:00:35 > 0:00:39- I think family belong to each other. - I don't want them to go.

0:01:03 > 0:01:09Being blessed with a warm climate, endless beaches and wide open countryside,

0:01:09 > 0:01:14Australia is a magnet for Brits looking for a more relaxed lifestyle,

0:01:14 > 0:01:18but for many, the new life they sought doesn't live up to their expectations

0:01:18 > 0:01:21and they return home, giving up their dreams.

0:01:21 > 0:01:23Over the next week,

0:01:23 > 0:01:27the Haroon family will get a taste of life in Australia.

0:01:27 > 0:01:31At the end of it, they'll face one of the biggest decisions of their lives -

0:01:31 > 0:01:35whether to stay in the UK or make the move down under for good.

0:01:37 > 0:01:41The journey to Australia is a massive 25-hour flight

0:01:41 > 0:01:44that takes them right to the other side of the world.

0:01:46 > 0:01:50Neither Harry or Nabeela have ever visited the Antipodes,

0:01:50 > 0:01:54but fortunately, there's something familiar about Melbourne.

0:01:54 > 0:02:00It feels like home because of the rain. In Manchester, it's always raining. It just feels like home.

0:02:00 > 0:02:06I think that plane ride was the most exhausting flight I've ever been on,

0:02:06 > 0:02:09mainly because Eliza was a nightmare.

0:02:09 > 0:02:14I can't imagine myself doing that flight too often.

0:02:14 > 0:02:20Now Harry has just one week to convince his family Australia is a dream worth pursuing.

0:02:22 > 0:02:27Back in the UK, the Haroons live in Rochdale near Manchester.

0:02:27 > 0:02:32Along with Harry and Nabeela are five-year-old Amani and Eliza who's nearly two.

0:02:32 > 0:02:36Harry works as a police officer and loves his job.

0:02:36 > 0:02:40However, achieving success in his career has come at a high cost.

0:02:41 > 0:02:44We've been married eight years

0:02:44 > 0:02:48and most of them eight years I've spent working, constantly working,

0:02:48 > 0:02:52missing out seeing my daughter growing up.

0:02:52 > 0:02:58I've also missed out spending time with Nabeela and building a bond together.

0:02:58 > 0:03:03Desperate for a change, Harry is convinced the life he wants can only be found in Australia.

0:03:03 > 0:03:05I want my two daughters...

0:03:06 > 0:03:11..to see and experience things that I never have.

0:03:11 > 0:03:18And hopefully, me aspiring to go to Australia and having quality time with my kids

0:03:18 > 0:03:21will also give me more quality time with Nabeela

0:03:21 > 0:03:28and we can hopefully be there happily married for, you know, for ever.

0:03:28 > 0:03:31However, Nabeela doesn't share Harry's aspirations.

0:03:31 > 0:03:36It was about four years ago when he did mention going to Australia

0:03:36 > 0:03:40and I thought it was just an absurd idea.

0:03:40 > 0:03:43But I don't agree with him.

0:03:43 > 0:03:46We've got everything here.

0:03:46 > 0:03:49As both the Haroons have a large and close-knit family,

0:03:49 > 0:03:53moving to Australia would come at a high price.

0:03:53 > 0:03:58It's massively important for me to have my mum around.

0:03:58 > 0:04:01It's good for the kids, but it's good for my mum as well.

0:04:01 > 0:04:04And, you know, we're very, very close.

0:04:04 > 0:04:10My mum's always saying, "When are you coming round?" Every day she asks the kids, "When are you coming round?"

0:04:10 > 0:04:14I didn't have a father figure. My mum brought me up.

0:04:14 > 0:04:16Me and my mum are very close.

0:04:16 > 0:04:22My mum has made so many sacrifices for me and my sister.

0:04:26 > 0:04:31And I just hope she understands the sacrifices that I'm making.

0:04:31 > 0:04:37And Harry knows he still has a long way to go to convince Nabeela to make the move.

0:04:37 > 0:04:39I want to go.

0:04:39 > 0:04:41But I need your support.

0:04:41 > 0:04:47I don't want this all to be about, "Oh, it's me. Harry's doing everything. He's the one..."

0:04:47 > 0:04:51- I want...- But it is you. It is you that wants to go, remember.

0:04:51 > 0:04:55It's not... It's not me. I'm happy to stay here in the UK.

0:04:55 > 0:04:59I think we've got everything that we need here.

0:05:00 > 0:05:05So, yeah, it is you that wants to... that wants to go.

0:05:05 > 0:05:08Harry has just seven days to show Nabeela

0:05:08 > 0:05:12that Australia is worth giving up the life she knows and loves.

0:05:16 > 0:05:19The Haroons are torn over where their future lies.

0:05:19 > 0:05:23Harry is convinced they could have a better life in Australia,

0:05:23 > 0:05:27but Nabeela can't bear the thought of leaving her family behind.

0:05:27 > 0:05:32With so much at stake, it's a dilemma that could leave someone broken-hearted.

0:05:33 > 0:05:38The Haroons want to see if Melbourne can provide everything they need.

0:05:38 > 0:05:44As a vibrant and multi-cultural city, it's well-suited for a young family looking to start a new life.

0:05:44 > 0:05:48The Haroons' home for the week is in the Airport West suburb.

0:05:48 > 0:05:52Close to the centre of Melbourne, it should be an ideal base,

0:05:52 > 0:05:57so what will they make of their first taste of Australian living?

0:05:57 > 0:06:02- It's a bit strange having a bedroom... - As soon as you walk in.- Yeah.

0:06:02 > 0:06:05- I'm not...- Yeah. - I'm not used to that.

0:06:05 > 0:06:08Australian housing might not be quite what he expected,

0:06:08 > 0:06:11but Harry is quick to adapt.

0:06:11 > 0:06:17I like this. I just don't understand. Is this the kitchen and the living room?

0:06:17 > 0:06:22Or is this the kitchen and the dining area and they've converted it into a living room?

0:06:22 > 0:06:24This is the living room.

0:06:24 > 0:06:27- So it's open-plan.- Yeah, all open.

0:06:27 > 0:06:31So I can be sat here watching the footie and you can be making the food.

0:06:31 > 0:06:33Yeah, we'll see.

0:06:33 > 0:06:38I can say to you, "Nabeela, come on, chicken kebabs!"

0:06:38 > 0:06:44Harry might be able to tease Nabeela now, but he knows how serious the next seven days will be.

0:06:44 > 0:06:48I think the realisation is hitting home that I'm here,

0:06:48 > 0:06:51something that I've always thought about,

0:06:51 > 0:06:57and now I'm sat here with a brew in my hand and I'm in Australia.

0:07:00 > 0:07:03I think Nabeela, if everything is not there...

0:07:04 > 0:07:08Nabeela will say, more than likely, she's not ready for the move.

0:07:09 > 0:07:15It's got to be something special that we don't already have back home in the UK.

0:07:15 > 0:07:19And for me, that is the bottom line.

0:07:19 > 0:07:22It's got to work for the family.

0:07:22 > 0:07:25Not just for Harry, but for all of us.

0:07:29 > 0:07:33In the UK, the Haroons own a four-bedroom house in Rochdale.

0:07:33 > 0:07:37They've poured their heart and soul into making it a home they love

0:07:37 > 0:07:43and an Australian house would have to be able to deliver just as much, if not more.

0:07:43 > 0:07:47We're looking for a modern house, quite similar to this, spacious.

0:07:47 > 0:07:53- At least four bedrooms.- Yeah. - We need to be able to accommodate the family when they come over.

0:07:53 > 0:07:58A big drive for me is the achievement that I've made in the property that I own.

0:07:58 > 0:08:01And maybe that's what I want as well in Australia,

0:08:01 > 0:08:05something that I can say that I have achieved.

0:08:05 > 0:08:10Today, we're giving the Haroons a taste of Melbourne's property market.

0:08:10 > 0:08:12We'll show them three typical options,

0:08:12 > 0:08:17based upon what they want from an ideal Aussie home to what they can afford.

0:08:17 > 0:08:22After seeing for themselves what's on offer, they'll discover the price of each house.

0:08:22 > 0:08:26So with a child-minder on hand to help look after the girls,

0:08:26 > 0:08:30the Haroons are off to explore Melbourne properties.

0:08:30 > 0:08:34The first stop is in the Meadow Heights area.

0:08:34 > 0:08:39Being well situated for an easy commute to the city centre and with a large Muslim community,

0:08:39 > 0:08:41it should appeal to the Haroons.

0:08:41 > 0:08:43Well, this is nice.

0:08:43 > 0:08:47It's like a living room-dining area like ours.

0:08:47 > 0:08:51- Yeah, it's like our one. - What do you think? Do you like it?

0:08:51 > 0:08:52Yeah.

0:08:52 > 0:08:59- That's just the response Dad wanted and he's keen to see the rest of the house.- I'll go into the kitchen.

0:08:59 > 0:09:01Is this supposed to be the kitchen?

0:09:01 > 0:09:04- I don't know.- This can't just be it.

0:09:04 > 0:09:07It just doesn't feel big enough for a kitchen.

0:09:07 > 0:09:11Oh, dear. Suddenly, this house is not looking so attractive.

0:09:11 > 0:09:17- OK, small again. The kitchen's small, the bathroom's small. - I'm not going to get upset.- OK.

0:09:20 > 0:09:24- Is this the master? - Look, it leads on to the front.

0:09:24 > 0:09:28I wouldn't be comfortable, me and you sleeping here,

0:09:28 > 0:09:31knowing that it leads up to the front of the house.

0:09:31 > 0:09:37It's not going well for Aussie housing and the garden only makes matters worse.

0:09:37 > 0:09:40- What's in front of you? The main road.- The main road.

0:09:40 > 0:09:43- It's about... I want the quiet life.- Yeah.

0:09:43 > 0:09:47It's not what I expected from a house in Australia.

0:09:47 > 0:09:50I don't know. I'm just getting a bit...

0:09:50 > 0:09:52I don't know. It's just...

0:09:54 > 0:09:57I don't know, I don't know.

0:09:57 > 0:10:00Having had Australia as a dream for so long,

0:10:00 > 0:10:04the disappointment of this house seems to have affected Harry.

0:10:04 > 0:10:08- What do you think of this room? - I don't care. You know...

0:10:08 > 0:10:11For me, the big thing was you come to Australia,

0:10:11 > 0:10:15big houses, living the dream, sunshine...

0:10:15 > 0:10:20You know, I've seen the first house. I don't care now. For me, the whole...

0:10:21 > 0:10:23I don't know. I just...

0:10:23 > 0:10:28I expected maybe too much from Australia already.

0:10:28 > 0:10:30The first...

0:10:32 > 0:10:34HE SOBS

0:10:36 > 0:10:41This just shows the sheer emotional investment Harry has put into this move

0:10:41 > 0:10:43and how much it means to him.

0:10:43 > 0:10:48He may be bitterly disappointed, but will seeing the price make some difference?

0:10:48 > 0:10:52If this house is far enough below their £300,000 budget,

0:10:52 > 0:10:56they could be able to afford something much better.

0:10:56 > 0:11:00- I'm going to let you do it. I don't want to do it.- Are you ready?

0:11:04 > 0:11:07£205,000.

0:11:07 > 0:11:12£95,000 below budget, but has that given any hope?

0:11:12 > 0:11:16I can get a really nice house in the UK for that price.

0:11:16 > 0:11:18Yeah, I agree.

0:11:18 > 0:11:21I'll stick with where I am and that's disheartening.

0:11:21 > 0:11:26Don't be too deflated because maybe the next property might be...

0:11:26 > 0:11:29It's got to be better than this one, surely.

0:11:29 > 0:11:31This is a really bad start.

0:11:31 > 0:11:34After years of trying to persuade Nabeela on Australia,

0:11:34 > 0:11:37suddenly, Harry is losing faith in his dream.

0:11:37 > 0:11:39I feel let down.

0:11:39 > 0:11:43I feel I've sold Nabeela a dream

0:11:43 > 0:11:45which is not a dream.

0:11:45 > 0:11:48And therefore, that's making me upset

0:11:48 > 0:11:52because I'm the one that's trying to drive this dream forward.

0:11:52 > 0:11:56Perhaps the second property will help Harry's case.

0:11:56 > 0:12:01It's in the newer area of Roxburgh Park which has been developed for family living

0:12:01 > 0:12:05with plenty of parks, lakes and shops close to hand.

0:12:05 > 0:12:08It's a larger four-bedroom house with a more modern styling.

0:12:08 > 0:12:12Can this make up for the upset of the first property?

0:12:12 > 0:12:14Oh! Nice.

0:12:16 > 0:12:20Oh, this is a little baby's room, like a little nursery.

0:12:20 > 0:12:24- Yeah, it's like our Eliza's back at home.- Yeah.

0:12:24 > 0:12:27- I think this looks all right.- Yeah.

0:12:27 > 0:12:30- Master bedroom, is it? - It's modern. It's like ours.

0:12:30 > 0:12:33- I like this.- Yeah. - I'm just a bit worried about this -

0:12:33 > 0:12:38- the bedrooms always being at the front of the house. - It's not like that back in...

0:12:38 > 0:12:44But maybe from the UK to Australia, you have to adapt and maybe this is what it's all about.

0:12:44 > 0:12:47- But so far, it's OK.- Yeah.

0:12:47 > 0:12:53Things are certainly looking up. Nabeela is warming to this house and Harry is back on form.

0:12:53 > 0:12:55That's nice, isn't it?

0:12:55 > 0:12:59- You're not having one.- It is nice. - Not having one.

0:12:59 > 0:13:01Oh, nice!

0:13:01 > 0:13:03- OK...- It's nice.

0:13:03 > 0:13:05- It's...- Yeah.- It's better.

0:13:05 > 0:13:07- Yeah.- It's better.- Yeah.

0:13:07 > 0:13:14- This kitchen is big enough, isn't it?- It's big enough for people to gather round and have a chit-chat.

0:13:14 > 0:13:20- Do you think you could cook in here?- Definitely.- Yeah. I think I could make something in...- Yeah.

0:13:20 > 0:13:22- It's better. - This has got the wow factor.

0:13:22 > 0:13:26I could easily picture myself in this property.

0:13:26 > 0:13:31- And the kitchen is not that far. - You could have a chat with someone while they're cooking.

0:13:31 > 0:13:36If I was in the kitchen and we had guests round, we could have a chat.

0:13:36 > 0:13:41The Haroons are certainly looking settled in, but could they afford to call this their home?

0:13:41 > 0:13:43It all depends on the price.

0:13:47 > 0:13:51- Last time I made you do it, but this time I'm more confident.- Go for it.

0:13:52 > 0:13:57This house might be well within their £300,000 budget,

0:13:57 > 0:13:59but Harry isn't satisfied.

0:13:59 > 0:14:03Everything that I've seen, I'd be content and happy living here,

0:14:03 > 0:14:06but I want something even better.

0:14:06 > 0:14:09After years of wanting to move to Australia,

0:14:09 > 0:14:14it's understandable that Harry doesn't want to settle for a house they only just like,

0:14:14 > 0:14:19but now everything stands or falls on the last house.

0:14:19 > 0:14:21It's also in the same area.

0:14:21 > 0:14:26This is a modern-style house, but bigger and in a more scenic setting than the last one.

0:14:29 > 0:14:33Straight away, Harry is quick to spot a difference that makes it more appealing.

0:14:33 > 0:14:37- It's not a bedroom at the front. - I totally agree with you.

0:14:37 > 0:14:43- I don't like bedrooms being right at the front where you open the door and it's there.- So far, it's a plus.

0:14:43 > 0:14:46This is good.

0:14:50 > 0:14:53- It's massive.- Yeah.

0:14:53 > 0:14:56- Absolutely massive. - It is so big, isn't it?

0:14:56 > 0:14:58It's got the wow factor, I think.

0:14:58 > 0:15:01It's what we wanted.

0:15:01 > 0:15:04- I'm definitely coming round to this concept of open-plan.- Yeah.

0:15:04 > 0:15:10At last, the Haroons have found a house that has got both of them excited.

0:15:10 > 0:15:14- Oh, wow!- It's massive. Look at the master. It's massive.

0:15:14 > 0:15:16Massive master bedroom.

0:15:16 > 0:15:20- It's so spacious, isn't it? - Come here.

0:15:20 > 0:15:21Oh!

0:15:22 > 0:15:26Wow, wow, wow, wow!

0:15:26 > 0:15:30- His and hers. So when you're here... - And you're brushing your teeth...

0:15:30 > 0:15:34No, when you're here doing your hair and I'm shouting at you,

0:15:34 > 0:15:40- I can just walk across here... - You can use your own.- I can walk across here and use my own.

0:15:40 > 0:15:41Yeah.

0:15:41 > 0:15:47Outside, the garden is the final piece in Harry's vision of life down under.

0:15:47 > 0:15:50This is what I expected from a house in Australia.

0:15:50 > 0:15:53You have a big, massive house

0:15:53 > 0:15:55and a porch area where you serve...

0:15:55 > 0:16:00Even if it starts raining, I think it'll be OK, won't it?

0:16:00 > 0:16:05- It doesn't rain in Melbourne. - It does. It rained on the first day we got here, Harry.

0:16:05 > 0:16:10So is this house within their £300,000 budget?

0:16:10 > 0:16:13It's one aspect Harry just can't bear to face.

0:16:13 > 0:16:15- You turn it over.- OK.

0:16:15 > 0:16:19- I'm not even going to look at it.- OK.

0:16:20 > 0:16:22I'm not looking at it.

0:16:22 > 0:16:27- I want you to look at it. - I don't want to look at it. I just want you to be happy.

0:16:27 > 0:16:30- Are you going to look at it now?- No.

0:16:31 > 0:16:32No!

0:16:36 > 0:16:38- No?- Yeah.

0:16:40 > 0:16:43Can you believe that?

0:16:43 > 0:16:44No.

0:16:44 > 0:16:47Oh, my gosh! I think I need to sit down.

0:16:51 > 0:16:56With this house bang on budget, have the Haroons found the perfect home?

0:16:58 > 0:17:00It's been a day of real ups and downs.

0:17:00 > 0:17:06The first house left Harry in a terrible state and regretting the entire move.

0:17:06 > 0:17:10The second gave them hope that a home they liked was within reach

0:17:10 > 0:17:14and the third property had the space and style to wow them both.

0:17:14 > 0:17:21So after a day of raw emotions, has anyone been convinced by Australian houses?

0:17:21 > 0:17:26Based on our experiences of Australian property, we are voting for...

0:17:30 > 0:17:32BOTH: Australia!

0:17:32 > 0:17:34Let's have a look.

0:17:34 > 0:17:37Yes! Australia!

0:17:37 > 0:17:41- I'll be honest. Before this house, I was undecided.- Yeah.

0:17:41 > 0:17:43And now...

0:17:43 > 0:17:46- the final house made me go for Australia.- Yeah.

0:17:46 > 0:17:52- You?- It was that final house that did it. If we hadn't been shown that final house... Yeah.

0:17:56 > 0:18:03After a day of highs and lows, Nabeela's vote for Melbourne was exactly what Harry was hoping for,

0:18:03 > 0:18:06but their dream home isn't going to come cheap.

0:18:06 > 0:18:09And taking on a bigger mortgage means it's vital

0:18:09 > 0:18:13that Harry finds good work prospects and a salary to match.

0:18:13 > 0:18:16In the UK, Harry is a policeman.

0:18:16 > 0:18:22It's a career he loves and wants to continue in Australia, but he knows the clock is ticking.

0:18:22 > 0:18:26I'm coming to the age of 36, going on 37.

0:18:26 > 0:18:28How long have I got left

0:18:28 > 0:18:33to get to Australia or get into the Australian police?

0:18:33 > 0:18:39So I'm just thinking maybe the time that I've got left to apply

0:18:39 > 0:18:44is minimising and I need to now do something about it.

0:18:44 > 0:18:47In Australia, there are two types of police force -

0:18:47 > 0:18:53state police for each region and federal police covering the whole of the country.

0:18:53 > 0:18:57Harry would love to join the federal police, but as a new citizen,

0:18:57 > 0:19:00he'd only be able to work in the state division.

0:19:00 > 0:19:05However, after one year, he would be able to apply for jobs as a federal officer.

0:19:05 > 0:19:09Harry is going to spend the morning with Agent Aaron Thomson

0:19:09 > 0:19:14who starts off by showing him around their Melbourne headquarters.

0:19:14 > 0:19:18So this is just an outdoor area we can use for our fitness training.

0:19:18 > 0:19:23- Wow!- If it's a nice day, on a Friday afternoon, we might even have a barbecue out here.

0:19:23 > 0:19:26I just can't believe it. You're on top of the building,

0:19:26 > 0:19:31- you can see skyscrapers and this is where you do your training? - That's right.- Wow!

0:19:31 > 0:19:37It shows you again what a great position we're in in Melbourne in the heart of the city.

0:19:37 > 0:19:40The facilities have certainly impressed Harry.

0:19:40 > 0:19:44Across town, Nabeela is on her own fact-finding mission.

0:19:44 > 0:19:50She is worried that leaving her life in the UK would mean losing contact with her Muslim roots,

0:19:50 > 0:19:55so she is spending the day exploring Melbourne with Tania who moved here six years ago.

0:19:55 > 0:20:00You'll find very mixed ethnicities here. It's great. I love it. It's a nice place.

0:20:00 > 0:20:06- This is just like being in Manchester.- Does it remind you of home?- Yeah, on a weekend.

0:20:06 > 0:20:09It does remind me very much of home.

0:20:09 > 0:20:13You'll find everything there - halal shops and clothing and food.

0:20:13 > 0:20:16- So you've got a good selection of...?- Yes.

0:20:16 > 0:20:22Lots of places to stop by with the kids. Yeah, you don't have to worry about finding halal food.

0:20:22 > 0:20:26- Like party wear and Asian weddings? - Yeah, as well.

0:20:26 > 0:20:30CBD has got lots as well. Sydney Road is great.

0:20:30 > 0:20:36Back at the station, Harry is finding out about his main reasons for wanting to emigrate.

0:20:36 > 0:20:42For me, the most important thing is - can I find that work/life balance?

0:20:42 > 0:20:48And I'm trying to get it to where I can spend a lot of time with my family, especially being young.

0:20:48 > 0:20:52There are situations where we have to be here for long periods of time,

0:20:52 > 0:20:57but generally speaking, the AFP operates for the core business hours of eight till four every day

0:20:57 > 0:21:01and I've had no complaints from my family about being away too much.

0:21:01 > 0:21:06They understand that it's an important job that we do, but 90% of the time, I'm home on time.

0:21:06 > 0:21:12Harry looks happy with those hours, but is the pay anything to smile about?

0:21:12 > 0:21:16As a probationary constable straight out of the Police Academy,

0:21:16 > 0:21:21- you'd be looking in the vicinity of about 65,000 dollars, Australian, a year.- Right.

0:21:21 > 0:21:25- That obviously progresses. Each year, you get a raise.- Right.

0:21:25 > 0:21:30Then promotions would increase that even higher later on in your career.

0:21:31 > 0:21:36That's a starting salary which is nearly £10,000 more than he earns in the UK.

0:21:36 > 0:21:43After a day full of positive news, Harry drops into the State Police station to pick up a job form.

0:21:45 > 0:21:51Meanwhile, Nabeela is addressing her biggest worry - leaving family and friends.

0:21:51 > 0:21:57I feel that we've got everything back home in England.

0:21:57 > 0:22:00We've got our family, our friends, a good infrastructure there.

0:22:00 > 0:22:05I understand where you're coming from. I had to go through the same.

0:22:05 > 0:22:10I was very fortunate to meet really lovely people here right from the beginning.

0:22:10 > 0:22:17- So, yeah, that helped me a lot. - Right. So you've made friends here? - Easily. It's a beautiful community.

0:22:17 > 0:22:24- What's it like for you living in Melbourne as a Muslim woman? - I find it much easier, in general.

0:22:24 > 0:22:30- They seem very easygoing in Australia.- And you can practise your religion here?- Oh, absolutely.

0:22:30 > 0:22:34- No problem at all.- OK. - The community is very diverse.

0:22:34 > 0:22:38- You think the kids would fit in? - Oh, yes. They're so gorgeous.

0:22:38 > 0:22:41They'll make friends really quickly.

0:22:41 > 0:22:47With those reassurances in mind, Nabeela heads across town to see how Harry got on.

0:22:47 > 0:22:52After a day filled with good news, do we need to ask which way Harry will vote?

0:22:52 > 0:22:57Based on my job experience in Australia today, I'm voting for...

0:23:00 > 0:23:02UK!

0:23:03 > 0:23:07No, it's Australia. I wanted to see your reaction.

0:23:07 > 0:23:13- It's Australia. Were you shocked? - Yeah, I was like, "What's going on?!"

0:23:13 > 0:23:19- It's Australia.- Why have you voted Australia again?- You know why I've voted Australia.

0:23:19 > 0:23:24First of all, excellent day with the Fed Police, which I want to do.

0:23:24 > 0:23:29Victoria Police, interesting. It's what I do on a day-to-day basis.

0:23:29 > 0:23:33- Most importantly, the work/life balance. Were you surprised?- No.

0:23:33 > 0:23:36- See.- No.- Am I predictable?

0:23:37 > 0:23:40- Yes.- It's Australia!

0:23:44 > 0:23:49I don't think playing practical jokes on Nabeela is the best way to win her over,

0:23:49 > 0:23:55but there's no pretending - Harry's even more convinced about moving Down Under.

0:23:55 > 0:24:01One thing, though, even he can't joke about is the cost of living in Australia.

0:24:02 > 0:24:07Back in the UK, the Haroons own a four-bedroom detached house in Rochdale.

0:24:07 > 0:24:15They bought it for £230,000 and need a good price to be able to afford their dream home in Australia.

0:24:17 > 0:24:19Let's have a look.

0:24:19 > 0:24:24We sent round two estate agents to give us an up-to-date valuation.

0:24:24 > 0:24:26Our house!

0:24:29 > 0:24:31He's too tall for the room!

0:24:31 > 0:24:34Nice and light. Good for the family.

0:24:34 > 0:24:40- I want to see the kitchen. - Really nice kitchen. Very modern. Lots of integrated appliances.

0:24:40 > 0:24:46- Exactly what the modern family are looking for. Really lovely room. - Thank you.

0:24:48 > 0:24:56Right. So a very good size main bedroom. Obviously, the parents' bedroom.

0:24:56 > 0:24:58Nicely-fitted wardrobes.

0:24:58 > 0:25:01Nice-sized conservatory. Great overlooking the garden.

0:25:03 > 0:25:07- Your room. Harry's room - the garage.- Oh!

0:25:09 > 0:25:13Good-sized garage. Going to be really popular, this, with modern families.

0:25:13 > 0:25:18With current market conditions, I anticipate the value to be £220,000

0:25:18 > 0:25:23and, for a quicker sale, £210,000. A great family home.

0:25:23 > 0:25:25Based on today's market,

0:25:25 > 0:25:28I'd value the property at £225,000.

0:25:28 > 0:25:34If they wanted to achieve a quick sale, probably look at marketing it around £219,950.

0:25:34 > 0:25:40- We bought it for more.- Yeah. - So slightly disappointed at the value.

0:25:40 > 0:25:45Because we have, obviously, put a conservatory in. And the en suite.

0:25:45 > 0:25:49With both of those figures lower than they'd hoped for,

0:25:49 > 0:25:53everything depends on a closer look at their finances,

0:25:53 > 0:26:01so we've drawn up comparisons of their living costs. Will it add up to a life in Australia or UK?

0:26:01 > 0:26:07- It's £10 more. Just for cucumbers! - Yeah, it's everything, really. It's quite a big chunk of it.

0:26:07 > 0:26:11Australia is renowned for its relatively high food prices,

0:26:11 > 0:26:18- but how do all the family outgoings add up?- Oh, my God. It's actually less than the UK.

0:26:18 > 0:26:20That's a surprise.

0:26:20 > 0:26:2424,600.

0:26:24 > 0:26:25Whereas...

0:26:26 > 0:26:29the UK was 27,600.

0:26:29 > 0:26:32So it's 3,000 less a year.

0:26:32 > 0:26:37Why would the cost of living be cheaper here than in the UK?

0:26:37 > 0:26:39Here in Australia

0:26:39 > 0:26:45I don't have to put into the pension fund because the police pay into the pension for me.

0:26:45 > 0:26:52However, without family to help with childcare in Australia, Nabeela would give up work and stay at home

0:26:52 > 0:26:56until the children were settled. How does that affect their income?

0:26:56 > 0:26:59In the UK we had £8,400 left over.

0:26:59 > 0:27:02In Australia, we've got less.

0:27:02 > 0:27:06We are £3,500 worse off,

0:27:06 > 0:27:10- a year.- In Australia. - In Australia.

0:27:10 > 0:27:14Lower living costs, but also a lower income.

0:27:14 > 0:27:18Have their calculations sold them on a life Down Under?

0:27:18 > 0:27:22Based on the reality check, we are voting for...

0:27:27 > 0:27:29- Australia!- Undecided.

0:27:31 > 0:27:33- Why?- Because...

0:27:33 > 0:27:38- we're still better off in the UK. - No, the figures don't say that.

0:27:38 > 0:27:42- They don't. - What do the figures say, then?

0:27:42 > 0:27:46OK, the figures DO say that, but they don't say that.

0:27:46 > 0:27:54- My understanding is that we are still better off in the UK. - For £3,500 every year,

0:27:54 > 0:28:01you haven't worked that whole year. So for one year's... and £3,500 difference,

0:28:01 > 0:28:06- I think the figure's show we're better off in Australia. - That's why I'm undecided.

0:28:06 > 0:28:10- No, I don't get it. - That's why I'm undecided.

0:28:10 > 0:28:15The figures do show we've still got more disposable income,

0:28:15 > 0:28:19but, yeah, that's based on just you working, not me.

0:28:19 > 0:28:22So for that reason I'm undecided.

0:28:22 > 0:28:27- I still don't get it.- Don't argue with me. That's my choice.

0:28:27 > 0:28:30- OK. That's your choice. Australia.- Undecided.

0:28:34 > 0:28:38It looks like this week is becoming a battle of heart versus head.

0:28:38 > 0:28:44For Harry, Australia has always been about a quality of life he could have with his family.

0:28:44 > 0:28:48Now he's got to show Nabeela exactly what he means.

0:28:48 > 0:28:55Back in the UK, shift patterns and long working hours have meant Harry missed out on time with his family.

0:28:55 > 0:29:00He's hoping emigrating Down Under would offer the lifestyle he craves.

0:29:00 > 0:29:05I think going to Australia is all about family

0:29:05 > 0:29:10and spending time with my daughters. It's about actually, when we are together,

0:29:10 > 0:29:14doing something together.

0:29:14 > 0:29:20When he's there, he's really good with them. He does spend quality time with them when he gets an opportunity

0:29:20 > 0:29:24but to be able to do, like, do this more often

0:29:24 > 0:29:27it would be nice.

0:29:27 > 0:29:32So this morning the Haroons are joining an activity group for young families

0:29:32 > 0:29:35to sample outdoor living, Melbourne style.

0:29:35 > 0:29:38- Look at that go!- There's mine.

0:29:38 > 0:29:44- Let's go play in some trees! - From the serious to the silly, it's a real chance

0:29:44 > 0:29:48for the Haroons to enjoy time together.

0:29:48 > 0:29:52Let's throw that on and give it a little fly, shall we?

0:29:52 > 0:29:55One! Two! Three!

0:29:58 > 0:30:01I'm not sure who's enjoying this more, Harry or the children.

0:30:01 > 0:30:08And once the fun slows down there's a chance to speak to other people who've also made the move.

0:30:08 > 0:30:12- What's it like raising children in Melbourne?- I think it's really good.

0:30:12 > 0:30:18There's lots of sport. Sport is a really big thing here, for children in particular.

0:30:18 > 0:30:25I found that if I met some mums, you'd chat and if you went back the next week, they knew you by name,

0:30:25 > 0:30:31they remembered things about you. You just make friends like that. Australians are very friendly people.

0:30:31 > 0:30:36That's what I was told all the time, back in the UK in the police.

0:30:36 > 0:30:43"Harry, Australians are lovely people, friendly people." This is what I want to experience.

0:30:43 > 0:30:47It certainly seems like Harry has heard just what he wanted to hear.

0:30:47 > 0:30:52Then the Haroons are off for a whole new experience.

0:30:52 > 0:30:58- I think this is the first time she's seen sand.- Yeah. First time we've had a picnic on the beach.

0:30:58 > 0:31:04- Yeah, but she doesn't know you don't throw the sand on the food! - Yeah!

0:31:04 > 0:31:07That's not right! Come on!

0:31:08 > 0:31:10This is what I've wanted, honestly.

0:31:10 > 0:31:18This is what I always thought Australia was all about. The sun, the sand and the peace and quiet.

0:31:18 > 0:31:22It's nice. It's nice being on the beach.

0:31:22 > 0:31:27This is exactly the kind of lifestyle that's motivating Harry to emigrate.

0:31:27 > 0:31:31However, it doesn't seem to have had the same effect on Nabeela.

0:31:31 > 0:31:35I'm not feeling like you actually want to be here.

0:31:35 > 0:31:39What is stopping us doing this back home?

0:31:39 > 0:31:43Why do you have to come to the other side of the world

0:31:43 > 0:31:47to appreciate a beach, a picnic on the beach?

0:31:47 > 0:31:53- No, we don't have to move to the other side of the world.- But that's what you're asking.- I'm not.

0:31:53 > 0:32:00I'm just saying the experience we're getting here...is a brilliant experience.

0:32:00 > 0:32:04And maybe, yes, we could have this closer to home,

0:32:05 > 0:32:08but overall I think this is

0:32:08 > 0:32:11a picture-perfect situation.

0:32:11 > 0:32:16But what you don't get here is to get grandparents to come along.

0:32:16 > 0:32:19Amani's cousins, Amani's grandma

0:32:19 > 0:32:23to come along and have a picnic with us.

0:32:23 > 0:32:27Can you see it from that point of view?

0:32:27 > 0:32:33I don't think Harry and Nabeela are going to see eye-to-eye on this just yet.

0:32:33 > 0:32:39So is there any chance of an agreement when it comes to voting?

0:32:41 > 0:32:43- Australia!- Undecided!

0:32:44 > 0:32:47Mine's Australia. Why are you undecided?

0:32:47 > 0:32:53- We can do this, back in England, if the weather permits. - You can't do this,

0:32:53 > 0:32:56- what we've got here, in the UK. - You can.

0:32:56 > 0:33:01- There's no way I can change your mind?- For now it's undecided.

0:33:05 > 0:33:09Both Harry and Nabeela want the best future for their family,

0:33:09 > 0:33:13but their day in Melbourne left them worlds apart on where it should be.

0:33:13 > 0:33:19One thing they do agree on is that emigrating means leaving behind the people they love.

0:33:19 > 0:33:25Harry and Nabeela are going to watch a DVD from friends and family in the UK without the girls,

0:33:25 > 0:33:29- as the messages can be quite upsetting.- OK. Ready for this?

0:33:29 > 0:33:32- No! - Could this be the deciding factor?

0:33:35 > 0:33:39'It's hard to describe Harry.

0:33:39 > 0:33:41'He's quite a force.'

0:33:43 > 0:33:46He's got a massive heart. It's this big.

0:33:46 > 0:33:50Harry's a very close-knit family person.

0:33:50 > 0:33:54He's got his sister and his mum.

0:33:54 > 0:33:57'He's the only brother I've got.'

0:33:57 > 0:34:01And he's my brother, my sister, everything.

0:34:03 > 0:34:06'He's loving, he's caring.'

0:34:06 > 0:34:13And my sister-in-law is just the same. And the two princesses, the girls, they are everything to me.

0:34:17 > 0:34:22It's quite difficult to imagine that they are going to be going so far away.

0:34:25 > 0:34:31I think family kind of belong to each other. It's the way... That's what family is.

0:34:31 > 0:34:36You know, I can't imagine him not being here for Christmas,

0:34:36 > 0:34:39or for Eid. Or for one of the birthdays.

0:34:39 > 0:34:43And watching the kids grow up. It's not all about Harry or Nabeela.

0:34:43 > 0:34:47It's really about being part of their family life.

0:34:47 > 0:34:51We're expecting our second child

0:34:51 > 0:34:58so I think Harry not being here is going to be a bit of a shame

0:34:58 > 0:35:02because then he won't be able to see the baby grow up and...

0:35:06 > 0:35:09I'll be honest with you, Harry.

0:35:09 > 0:35:13A routine will happen, inevitably, where, you know,

0:35:13 > 0:35:19we just get used to not speaking to you. I don't want that, but that's what will happen.

0:35:19 > 0:35:23You're not just moving and going away and we'll still be part of your life.

0:35:23 > 0:35:26It won't exactly be like that.

0:35:28 > 0:35:31No, I don't want them to go.

0:35:31 > 0:35:37I think he knows that we're going to miss them. It goes almost without saying,

0:35:37 > 0:35:38but...

0:35:40 > 0:35:46he might be surprised just how much it affects us if we think about it.

0:35:48 > 0:35:52We need you as much as you probably need us.

0:35:52 > 0:35:56Without you guys here, there's a part of us that will be really lost.

0:35:57 > 0:36:02You know I love you so much. You're my little sister and everything

0:36:02 > 0:36:06and Eliza and Amani, you know how much I adore them.

0:36:06 > 0:36:10I know you want the best for the girls, but at the same time

0:36:10 > 0:36:15I hope you can think about us, too, that we will miss you a lot.

0:36:17 > 0:36:22I will really, really miss you because you're a very special brother.

0:36:23 > 0:36:31- I don't know. I'm... - These are the family that our kids will lose touch with.

0:36:31 > 0:36:37- I know moving here is the right thing to do for me... - You don't know that, Harry.

0:36:37 > 0:36:40There's no way you could know that.

0:36:40 > 0:36:46You think. You hope it would be the right thing to do.

0:36:46 > 0:36:48I'm just...

0:36:48 > 0:36:54- That's...- ..looking at Amani and just thinking what am I taking...

0:36:56 > 0:37:01Away from her. Grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins.

0:37:12 > 0:37:17Watching those messages hit everyone hard, but for Harry in particular

0:37:17 > 0:37:23it was a painful reminder that his dream will come at a very high price.

0:37:23 > 0:37:28So as they reach their final vote, is it one the Haroons are really willing to pay?

0:37:33 > 0:37:38I've built Australia up to be this dream that I've got.

0:37:39 > 0:37:43Once I get my heart set on something, I can achieve that goal.

0:37:43 > 0:37:46And maybe sometimes I need to...

0:37:47 > 0:37:52not have tunnel vision, but look at the bigger picture.

0:37:52 > 0:37:57And that, if I'm being honest, I've not done on previous occasions.

0:37:57 > 0:38:03I think if they had said, "Go," it would have been easier.

0:38:03 > 0:38:08But it's the fact that they weren't saying that.

0:38:09 > 0:38:14The fear that I have is my dream to live in Australia,

0:38:14 > 0:38:20my dream for a better life for my children, could drive me apart from my family that I love

0:38:20 > 0:38:23- back at home. - There's a possibility

0:38:23 > 0:38:27we could vote the same or we could vote differently.

0:38:27 > 0:38:32I'm not really sure where we'd go from there.

0:38:40 > 0:38:46We've had an amazing time here in Australia. Based on it, the country we're going to live in is...

0:38:54 > 0:38:56- Australia!- UK!

0:38:57 > 0:38:59- What did you vote?- UK.

0:38:59 > 0:39:01OK, go on. Why?

0:39:01 > 0:39:08It's made me realise how much we have back home that we don't appreciate.

0:39:08 > 0:39:14The only second that I had any doubt was when I watched the family and friends messages.

0:39:14 > 0:39:17How are we going to decide?

0:39:25 > 0:39:31I've always said I want this because of what's best for the family.

0:39:31 > 0:39:38And the last thing I want is me forcing something on you that you are not happy with,

0:39:38 > 0:39:42but I want you to open your heart, open your mind to the possibility

0:39:42 > 0:39:49- of what this wonderful place... - Yeah.- ..could bring to you, me and our two daughters.

0:40:01 > 0:40:08Despite pulling out all the stops, Harry was unable to convince Nabeela to share his Australian dream

0:40:08 > 0:40:12and the Haroons were left unable to decide where their future lay.

0:40:12 > 0:40:15So has anything changed?

0:40:15 > 0:40:19Well, they've been back a few weeks now, so I've come to find out.

0:40:22 > 0:40:26Last time we saw you, it was a 50/50 split vote, wasn't it?

0:40:26 > 0:40:32- Harry, surprise surprise, loved Australia.- Unbelievable.

0:40:32 > 0:40:35- You voted for the UK, didn't you? - Yes, I did.

0:40:35 > 0:40:42I started imagining us living there whilst we were out there, picturing us living there permanently.

0:40:42 > 0:40:48And then it made me realise how much family meant to me when they weren't there.

0:40:48 > 0:40:53I started missing them, even in that space of time.

0:40:53 > 0:40:57I just felt it wasn't the right time for us to go.

0:40:57 > 0:41:01- It is a high price to pay. - It's a massive price to pay.

0:41:01 > 0:41:04- Yeah, I have realised that.- Yeah.

0:41:04 > 0:41:09If I take anything back, it's family and friends and what they mean.

0:41:09 > 0:41:14- You were both very surprised by that strength of feeling, especially you, Harry.- Yeah.

0:41:14 > 0:41:18- You were in bits. - It was a complete shock.

0:41:18 > 0:41:24And I'm talking to you now and I'm still getting a funny... in my stomach.

0:41:24 > 0:41:29I'd have thought I'd have overcome that, but I'm still feeling it now.

0:41:29 > 0:41:33You always had that in the back of your mind. Were you surprised?

0:41:33 > 0:41:41I wasn't expecting him to get so upset, but then I wasn't expecting the messages to be so powerful

0:41:41 > 0:41:47- and to be so...- Yeah.- ..emotional. Is that the right word?- Overwhelming. - Yeah, overwhelming.

0:41:47 > 0:41:50- They were very honest.- Very honest.

0:41:50 > 0:41:55When they said they didn't want me to go, that just put the brakes on everything.

0:41:55 > 0:42:00Normally they understand why I do things, and why I'm doing it,

0:42:00 > 0:42:06but now I'm getting, "We don't want you to go." That's changed the whole complexion of what I'm thinking.

0:42:06 > 0:42:10Nabeela, how would you vote if I asked you today?

0:42:10 > 0:42:14At this present time, UK,

0:42:14 > 0:42:16but for the future it's undecided.

0:42:16 > 0:42:21- So it's not UK, you know, forever. - So that flag's slightly moving!

0:42:21 > 0:42:23And that's more than enough.

0:42:23 > 0:42:29OK, so if you've got to make a decision - Australia, new life,

0:42:29 > 0:42:34- or being with all your loved ones? - Loved ones. Whatever happens, whatever happens,

0:42:34 > 0:42:39if the loved ones said to me, "Harry, we're happy for you to go,"

0:42:39 > 0:42:44and I got some support, it would be Australia. But at this stage, loved ones all day long.

0:42:44 > 0:42:46They mean everything to me.

0:42:46 > 0:42:52Nabeela, I have a feeling that your husband will spend the next two years convincing everyone

0:42:52 > 0:42:55- to give their blessing! - I think you might be right.

0:42:55 > 0:42:58But we're in it together.

0:42:58 > 0:43:01- So let's see what the future brings. - Yeah.

0:43:01 > 0:43:08We wish you all the very best of luck, wherever it is, the UK or Australia. Thank you very much.

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