0:00:10 > 0:00:17This programme contains some strong language.
0:00:32 > 0:00:36'She said, "Do you think it'd be fun if we got married?"'
0:00:36 > 0:00:38'And what did you say?'
0:00:38 > 0:00:42'I took her up on it. I never wanted to be away from her.'
0:00:42 > 0:00:44'She had the spark of life.'
0:00:44 > 0:00:46(MOUTHS)
0:02:06 > 0:02:07Careful.
0:02:11 > 0:02:13When did we last wash that sweater?
0:02:15 > 0:02:18- Right after the war. - (CHUCKLES)
0:02:22 > 0:02:26- Christmas. In the '50s sometime or the '60s.- Shut up!
0:02:56 > 0:02:57I'll go make the fire.
0:03:32 > 0:03:34' "You climbed the bank and said,
0:03:34 > 0:03:37"This is how you touch other women,
0:03:37 > 0:03:41"the grass-cutter's wife, the lime-burner's daughter.
0:03:41 > 0:03:45"And you searched your arms for the missing perfume and knew..."
0:03:45 > 0:03:50Don't worry, darling. I expect I'm just losing my mind.
0:03:50 > 0:03:52(Ssh.)
0:03:52 > 0:03:55"What good is it to be the lime-burner's daughter,
0:03:55 > 0:04:00"left with no trace as if not spoken to in the act of love,
0:04:00 > 0:04:03"as if wounded without the pleasure of a scar."
0:04:03 > 0:04:07"You touched your belly to my hands in the dry air
0:04:07 > 0:04:09"and said,
0:04:09 > 0:04:13"I am the cinnamon-peeler's wife. Smell me."
0:05:15 > 0:05:18When I look away, I forget what yellow means.
0:05:19 > 0:05:22But I can look again.
0:05:22 > 0:05:25Sometimes there's something delicious in oblivion.
0:05:25 > 0:05:29I think you're supposed to be able to put your fingers
0:05:29 > 0:05:33inside the curled petal and feel the heat.
0:05:34 > 0:05:36Well?
0:05:38 > 0:05:41I can't be sure.
0:05:41 > 0:05:47I can't be sure if what I can feel is the heat or my imagination.
0:05:49 > 0:05:51The heat attracts the bugs.
0:05:53 > 0:05:56Nature never fools around just being decorative.
0:06:23 > 0:06:26(KNOCKS ON DOOR)
0:06:30 > 0:06:34- Yes?- I don't quite know how to introduce myself.
0:06:34 > 0:06:38I used to see your husband at Meadowlake.
0:06:38 > 0:06:40I'm a regular visitor there myself.
0:06:44 > 0:06:46Those are lovely flowers.
0:06:48 > 0:06:51I've never seen those purple ones before.
0:06:51 > 0:06:55Mm. The earth there must really appeal to them.
0:07:00 > 0:07:02- (CHUCKLES) - What?
0:07:02 > 0:07:06You could just open the drawers. Remind yourself.
0:07:06 > 0:07:10- What?- Maybe all the labels and lists are defeating the purpose.
0:07:12 > 0:07:15If you stop thinking about things the moment you write them down,
0:07:15 > 0:07:18maybe that's the end of your need to recall.
0:07:19 > 0:07:23I heard a story at a dinner party about the German soldiers
0:07:23 > 0:07:27on border patrol in Czechoslovakia during the war.
0:07:27 > 0:07:31I heard it from that Czech student of yours, Veronica.
0:07:31 > 0:07:34We spoke once at a dinner party.
0:07:34 > 0:07:37Don't be nervous. It's a good story.
0:07:38 > 0:07:43She told me that each of the German patrol dogs
0:07:43 > 0:07:48wore a sign saying "Hund". "Why?" said the Czechs.
0:07:48 > 0:07:53And the Germans replied,... "Because that is a Hund."
0:08:12 > 0:08:15It was one of those craft shows where you look around and wonder
0:08:15 > 0:08:18that the laws of supply and demand can allow for the production
0:08:18 > 0:08:22- of so many macrame ducks. - Those things are everywhere.
0:08:22 > 0:08:25- What do you do with them?- Oh, come on, Phoebe, you've got one of those.
0:08:25 > 0:08:29- You use it as a light-fixture holder or something.- I do not.
0:08:29 > 0:08:32- In the...- Oh, yes, wait a second, I do. Fiona gave it to me.
0:08:32 > 0:08:35- Oh, yes, I did. - (ALL LAUGH)
0:08:36 > 0:08:38- Would anybody like some more...? - Mm.
0:08:49 > 0:08:51Ween...
0:08:56 > 0:08:59Wai... Wain...
0:09:00 > 0:09:02No, but I'll have a touch of wine.
0:09:02 > 0:09:05Yeah, Fiona, that'd be lovely, some more wain. (CHUCKLES)
0:09:08 > 0:09:10The thing is...
0:09:12 > 0:09:15..half the time I wander around
0:09:15 > 0:09:18looking for something which I know is very pertinent.
0:09:19 > 0:09:22I can't remember what it is.
0:09:24 > 0:09:28Once the idea is gone, everything is gone.
0:09:30 > 0:09:32I just wander around
0:09:32 > 0:09:37trying to figure out what it was that was so important earlier.
0:09:40 > 0:09:43I think I may be beginning to disappear.
0:09:51 > 0:09:55- And what year is it? - 2003.
0:09:55 > 0:09:58Fiona, if you found a letter on the street,
0:09:58 > 0:10:02addressed, with a stamp on it, what would you do with it?
0:10:02 > 0:10:06- I'd mail it.- And where would you put it to mail it?
0:10:17 > 0:10:20And if there was a fire in a movie theatre
0:10:20 > 0:10:23and you were the first person to spot that fire,
0:10:23 > 0:10:25what would you do?
0:10:28 > 0:10:31Well, we don't go to the movies much any more, do we, Grant?
0:10:31 > 0:10:35All those multiplexes showing the same American garbage.
0:10:48 > 0:10:53- Have you seen my coat?- There it is, dear. It's on your chair.
0:10:54 > 0:10:56Oh, yes.
0:10:56 > 0:10:59Fiona, would you mind if I asked you a few more questions?
0:10:59 > 0:11:02Would you mind taking a seat?
0:11:04 > 0:11:07I was just feeling a little cold, that's all.
0:11:10 > 0:11:12(BABY CRIES)
0:11:16 > 0:11:20What an ugly baby.
0:11:36 > 0:11:38When did we move into this cottage?
0:11:38 > 0:11:41Was it last year or the year before?
0:11:47 > 0:11:49(SIGHS)
0:11:50 > 0:11:52No, it was longer than that.
0:11:52 > 0:11:57It was when I left the university, 20 years ago.
0:12:01 > 0:12:05Hmm. Well, that's shocking.
0:12:09 > 0:12:11(CHUCKLES)
0:12:17 > 0:12:21Let's just see how it goes, shall we? Hm?
0:12:22 > 0:12:24Hm?
0:12:24 > 0:12:26How's your husband doing?
0:12:26 > 0:12:30- OK.- He and my wife struck up quite a close friendship.
0:12:32 > 0:12:35I heard about that.
0:12:35 > 0:12:39So, er, I'd like to speak to you about something.
0:12:41 > 0:12:43If you have a minute.
0:12:43 > 0:12:46My husband did not try to start anything with your wife,
0:12:46 > 0:12:50if that's what you're getting at. He did not try to molest her,
0:12:50 > 0:12:52he's incapable of it. And, anyway, he wouldn't.
0:12:52 > 0:12:55From what I hear, it was the other way around.
0:12:55 > 0:12:59No, er, that isn't it at all. I didn't come here with any complaints.
0:13:00 > 0:13:05Oh. Oh, well, I'm sorry. I thought you did.
0:13:09 > 0:13:13Maybe you should come in. It's not as warm a day as it looks.
0:13:17 > 0:13:23"Never let a person make you feel guilty for your anger with God."
0:13:23 > 0:13:26Hmm. Random.
0:13:28 > 0:13:30I can't even see what the point is.
0:13:32 > 0:13:36We can't be certain this is what... You're far too young.
0:13:36 > 0:13:40"Should the patient afflicted with the disease remain at home,
0:13:40 > 0:13:44"the caregiver will very often be the spouse.
0:13:45 > 0:13:48"The caregiver must preside over the degeneration of someone
0:13:48 > 0:13:52"he or she loves very much, must do this for years and years
0:13:52 > 0:13:55"with the news always getting worse, not better,
0:13:55 > 0:13:58"must put up sometimes with deranged but very personal insults
0:13:58 > 0:14:01"and must somehow learn to smile through it all."'
0:14:01 > 0:14:04"Caregivers must be able to diagnose
0:14:04 > 0:14:08"a wide variety of ailments under extraordinary circumstances.
0:14:08 > 0:14:11"Imagine the person you love the most upset about something
0:14:11 > 0:14:14"but unable to communicate the problem
0:14:14 > 0:14:17"or even to understand it himself."
0:14:20 > 0:14:23- Sounds like a regular marriage. - (CHUCKLES)
0:15:23 > 0:15:25(SIGHS)
0:16:54 > 0:16:56Hello, there!
0:16:58 > 0:17:01Oh! Hello, there.
0:17:47 > 0:17:50We are at that stage, Grant.
0:17:53 > 0:17:55We are at that stage.
0:18:01 > 0:18:03(SIGHS)
0:18:04 > 0:18:06Well...
0:18:09 > 0:18:12..if we do think of it... if we do...
0:18:14 > 0:18:18..then...it must be as something that isn't permanent.
0:18:21 > 0:18:25A kind of...experimental treatment or...
0:18:27 > 0:18:30..a rest cure of sorts.
0:18:41 > 0:18:43All right.
0:18:44 > 0:18:47All right. We can think of it that way.
0:18:51 > 0:18:55- (TV CHATTER)- We have to sit in the kitchen where I can hear Aubrey.
0:19:01 > 0:19:06- Well, you might as well have a cup of coffee.- Thank you.
0:19:06 > 0:19:11My son put him on the, er, Sports Channel a year ago Christmas.
0:19:11 > 0:19:13I don't know what we'd do without it.
0:19:13 > 0:19:18- Must be a struggle. - Well, you know...
0:19:18 > 0:19:21You know what struggle is by now.
0:19:24 > 0:19:26- You're sure? - I'm sure.
0:19:27 > 0:19:30You don't want to just get a sense of the place?
0:19:31 > 0:19:34I don't want to make this decision alone.
0:19:37 > 0:19:39What place?
0:19:43 > 0:19:47- Just kidding! (LAUGHS) - Fuck off.
0:19:55 > 0:19:58You're not making this decision alone, Grant.
0:19:58 > 0:20:01I've already made up my mind.
0:20:06 > 0:20:08OK.
0:20:35 > 0:20:39- It's time to go home now. - Mrs Taylor. Hi.
0:20:39 > 0:20:42- Is this your son?- Yeah. - Hi, I'm Betty.
0:20:42 > 0:20:46- It's time for your bath. - Bath?- Yeah.
0:20:46 > 0:20:49- You have to have a bath now. - Mom...
0:20:49 > 0:20:51Mr Andersson? Madeleine Montpellier.
0:20:51 > 0:20:54- I'm the supervisor here at Meadowlake.- Hi, there.
0:20:54 > 0:20:57I'm gonna take you on a tour of the facility
0:20:57 > 0:21:00and then we can discuss Mrs Andersson's condition
0:21:00 > 0:21:03and the appropriate time for admitting her.
0:21:05 > 0:21:09- As you can see, we get a lot of natural light.- Yes, I can see that.
0:21:10 > 0:21:15This is my favourite room. Over there, they have a puzzle on the go.
0:21:15 > 0:21:18They always have a puzzle on the go. It's real important to us here
0:21:18 > 0:21:21that our residents maintain social function,
0:21:21 > 0:21:24so a lot of our activities and our whole layout...
0:21:24 > 0:21:28- Hello, there, Miss Madeleine. - Hello, Michael.
0:21:28 > 0:21:31We're coming into our common room. Again, we're really emphasising
0:21:31 > 0:21:35everybody being social. So you can bring the family.
0:21:35 > 0:21:38We have a state-of-the-art entertainment system,
0:21:38 > 0:21:42- so the residents can watch together. - Hi, Madeleine.- Hello, ladies.
0:21:42 > 0:21:44- Hello. - I got a Christmas sweater.
0:21:44 > 0:21:46Aren't you festive?!
0:21:46 > 0:21:50This is our quiet corner for crafts and reading and reflection.
0:21:50 > 0:21:53We have a lot of activities for physical activity -
0:21:53 > 0:21:56balloon badminton and sit-and-fit.
0:21:56 > 0:22:00And here we have our lovely new dining room.
0:22:00 > 0:22:03We can accommodate any dietary preferences or restrictions.
0:22:03 > 0:22:07We're serving up a little Christmas dinner early for the families.
0:22:07 > 0:22:11The old Meadowlake is just next door and that's a day centre now
0:22:11 > 0:22:14but, erm, this for the permanent residents,
0:22:14 > 0:22:17this is brand-spanking new. Let's go upstairs, shall we?
0:22:20 > 0:22:22Just taking my tea for a ride.
0:22:22 > 0:22:25Oh, look at this one, Flo.
0:22:25 > 0:22:28He's a real charmer, isn't he?
0:22:28 > 0:22:31Would you say, are you a charmer?
0:22:31 > 0:22:34- I think you could say I was kind of a charmer.- (CHUCKLES)
0:22:34 > 0:22:38- You're a rascal.- Mr Andersson is here about his wife. Behave.
0:22:38 > 0:22:41Ah, I should have known it! At this age, it's...
0:22:43 > 0:22:46What do the kids call it, Flo? It's...
0:22:46 > 0:22:50It's a real clusterfuck. All the charmers are taken.
0:22:50 > 0:22:53Or dead. Mostly dead.
0:22:53 > 0:22:57- You're kind of charming yourself, sweetheart.- Shall we?
0:23:01 > 0:23:03(POP MUSIC PLAYS ON STEREO)
0:23:05 > 0:23:08This is the extended-care wing. The elevators, of course,
0:23:08 > 0:23:12have the lockdown system. This is where the patients can move to
0:23:12 > 0:23:16- once they become more progressed. - Interesting choice of words.
0:23:17 > 0:23:20Why don't I show you some of the rooms here?
0:23:20 > 0:23:24Then we can go down and see where Mrs Andersson will be living.
0:23:24 > 0:23:26No, that will not be necessary.
0:23:26 > 0:23:31- My wife will not be progressing to this floor.- All right.
0:23:32 > 0:23:36- Who chooses the music?- Sorry? - I'm assuming it's not the residents.
0:23:36 > 0:23:40- I don't see any of them singing along.- Yeah, well...
0:23:40 > 0:23:44The rooms on the regular floors have their own stereos,
0:23:44 > 0:23:47- so the patients can listen to whatever they like.- How kind.
0:23:48 > 0:23:51Now, we don't admit anyone during the month of December,
0:23:51 > 0:23:55so Mrs Andersson will have to wait till January to make the move.
0:23:55 > 0:23:59Just December, Christmas, you know, too many emotional pitfalls.
0:23:59 > 0:24:01- Right. - Sorry to interrupt.
0:24:01 > 0:24:05- I'm looking for those documents on Aubrey Burke.- Sure. Go ahead.
0:24:05 > 0:24:08Mr Andersson, this is Kristy, our new managing nurse.
0:24:08 > 0:24:11- Against some people's better judgment.- Now, now.
0:24:11 > 0:24:16- Mr Andersson's wife will be joining us in January.- Hi, there.
0:24:16 > 0:24:21- Hi.- Now, our new residents are not allowed visitors
0:24:21 > 0:24:23or calls during the first 30 days,
0:24:23 > 0:24:27- just to give them a chance to settle in.- What sort of visitors?
0:24:30 > 0:24:34- Everyone, even close relatives. - I couldn't just leave her.
0:24:34 > 0:24:37We understand, it is very difficult to leave a loved one
0:24:37 > 0:24:40in a new environment for so long but most people
0:24:40 > 0:24:44need that time to settle in. Before we had this rule in place,
0:24:44 > 0:24:47residents would forget why they were being left here.
0:24:47 > 0:24:51Whereas we find, you give them the month to settle in
0:24:51 > 0:24:55and they're happy as clams. And after that,
0:24:55 > 0:24:58a little visit home every now and then, perfectly fine.
0:24:58 > 0:25:02We'll take good care of her, I promise.
0:25:05 > 0:25:07- Knock-knock. - Oh, no, not again!
0:25:07 > 0:25:10- Knock-knock. Boo! - (ALL LAUGH)
0:25:10 > 0:25:12(ALL CHATTER)
0:28:04 > 0:28:06Smells good.
0:28:08 > 0:28:11I was gonna go for a ski but I thought I shouldn't chance it,
0:28:11 > 0:28:15- what with the Alzheimer's and all. - Why didn't you wake me?
0:28:15 > 0:28:18What are these, Grant?
0:28:22 > 0:28:24(SIGHS)
0:28:25 > 0:28:28Those are the documents you are supposed to sign
0:28:28 > 0:28:31if you decide to go to Meadowlake.
0:28:31 > 0:28:33That is exactly what I have decided.
0:28:33 > 0:28:36You were to go and sign these and leave them there.
0:28:36 > 0:28:40I wouldn't be allowed to visit you for 30 days.
0:28:46 > 0:28:5230 days isn't such a long time after 44 years.
0:28:52 > 0:28:54I don't think I like the place.
0:28:58 > 0:29:02I don't think we should be looking for something we like, Grant.
0:29:03 > 0:29:06I don't think we'll ever find that.
0:29:07 > 0:29:10I think all we can aspire to in this situation
0:29:10 > 0:29:12is a little bit of grace.
0:29:18 > 0:29:20(SIGHS)
0:29:24 > 0:29:27MUSIC: "Harvest Moon" by Neil Young
0:29:55 > 0:29:58I suppose I'll be dressed up all the time.
0:29:59 > 0:30:01It will be sort of like...
0:30:02 > 0:30:05..in a hotel.
0:30:08 > 0:30:11- How do I look? - Just like always.
0:30:11 > 0:30:15- Just as you've always looked. - And how does that look?
0:30:17 > 0:30:19Direct and vague...
0:30:20 > 0:30:23..sweet and ironic.
0:30:26 > 0:30:28(SIGHS)
0:30:28 > 0:30:30Is that how I look?
0:30:34 > 0:30:36MUSIC: "Harvest Moon" by Neil Young
0:30:41 > 0:30:45Oh. Remember?
0:30:47 > 0:30:51- Surprised, Grant? - No, I'm not surprised,
0:30:51 > 0:30:54I'm just grateful you can remember that.
0:30:54 > 0:30:59Oh, I'm not all gone, Grant, just... (SIGHS) ..going...
0:31:01 > 0:31:04There are things I wish would go away...
0:31:06 > 0:31:08..but won't.
0:31:08 > 0:31:11You know, things we don't talk about.
0:31:16 > 0:31:18You never left me.
0:31:19 > 0:31:23You still made love to me, despite disturbing demands elsewhere.
0:31:26 > 0:31:29But all those sandals, Grant.
0:31:29 > 0:31:32All those bare female toes.
0:31:33 > 0:31:37What could you do but be a part of the time you were a part of?
0:31:37 > 0:31:40All those pretty girls.
0:31:40 > 0:31:43Didn't seem like anyone was willing to be left out.
0:31:44 > 0:31:49I think you did all right, compared to some of your colleagues.
0:31:50 > 0:31:53Those who left their wives.
0:31:55 > 0:31:58And the women who wouldn't put up with it.
0:32:01 > 0:32:04I think people are too demanding.
0:32:05 > 0:32:08People want to be in love every single day.
0:32:08 > 0:32:10What a liability.
0:32:11 > 0:32:16And then that silly girl. That silly girl, Veronica.
0:32:16 > 0:32:19Girls that age are always going around
0:32:19 > 0:32:22saying they're gonna kill themselves.
0:32:22 > 0:32:24But that was that.
0:32:25 > 0:32:28You promised me a new life.
0:32:28 > 0:32:32We moved out here and that is exactly what you gave me.
0:32:35 > 0:32:37How long ago was that?
0:32:39 > 0:32:42- 20 years. - Oh! (CHUCKLES)
0:32:43 > 0:32:46God, that's shocking.
0:32:48 > 0:32:50So, you see, I'm going...
0:32:52 > 0:32:55..but I'm not gone.
0:33:16 > 0:33:18(SIGHS)
0:33:22 > 0:33:24- Fiona. - Grant?
0:33:27 > 0:33:30Don't go.
0:33:31 > 0:33:36That's what is happening, Grant. It's happening...right now.
0:33:39 > 0:33:41(SIGHS)
0:34:04 > 0:34:06Fiona.
0:34:07 > 0:34:12Hello. I'm checking in today. My name is Fiona Andersson.
0:34:12 > 0:34:14We have your room all ready for you.
0:34:14 > 0:34:18- Perfect.- We'll have our supervisor, Mrs Montpellier, show you.
0:34:18 > 0:34:22- I'll go fetch her. She's expecting you.- Thank you.
0:34:22 > 0:34:24Fiona.
0:34:24 > 0:34:27- Grant. - I can't go away from you like this.
0:34:27 > 0:34:31We had nothing to tie us down, Grant.
0:34:32 > 0:34:35You could have just driven away and forsaken me.
0:34:35 > 0:34:37But you didn't.
0:34:38 > 0:34:40I thank you for that.
0:34:44 > 0:34:47- Mrs Andersson. - Oh, hello.
0:34:47 > 0:34:50- I'm Madeleine.- Hello. - Should I give you a moment?
0:34:50 > 0:34:52- No, thank you. - Yes, please.
0:34:52 > 0:34:54We'll get you settled in your room
0:34:54 > 0:34:58- and then I'd like to give you a tour.- Lovely. Thank you.
0:34:58 > 0:35:01- Right this way. - (SIGHS)
0:35:04 > 0:35:08So, as you can see, we get a lot of natural light.
0:35:08 > 0:35:11Here we go.
0:35:18 > 0:35:22- Yes, this'll do just fine. - Good.
0:35:22 > 0:35:26I'm so glad you like it. Is this all you brought with you today?
0:35:26 > 0:35:30- For now. - We'll see how it goes.
0:35:30 > 0:35:34Well, if you need any help arranging things, you just let me know.
0:35:34 > 0:35:37Thank you, Mrs Montpellier.
0:35:37 > 0:35:40Now, if you wouldn't mind, I'd like to say goodbye to my husband.
0:35:40 > 0:35:45We haven't been apart for a month for the last 44 years.
0:35:45 > 0:35:47- It could be quite something. - OK.
0:35:53 > 0:35:56(SIGHS) Please, Fiona.
0:35:59 > 0:36:02- (SIGHS) Grant. - Fiona...
0:36:03 > 0:36:06You know what I'd like?
0:36:10 > 0:36:14I'd like to make love and then I'd like you to go.
0:36:14 > 0:36:18Because I need to stay here and if you make it hard for me,
0:36:18 > 0:36:20I might cry so hard I'll never stop.
0:36:51 > 0:36:54Go now. (SIGHS)
0:36:56 > 0:36:58Go now. (SIGHS)
0:37:06 > 0:37:08(SIGHS)
0:37:23 > 0:37:25(SIGHS)
0:37:42 > 0:37:44"All of the officers were from outside the local area
0:37:44 > 0:37:48"and it probably had not entered their minds that almost all of us
0:37:48 > 0:37:52"were named MacDonald. Nobody moved except for the shuffling..."
0:37:53 > 0:37:56- Hey.- Hello, there. - Kristy. We met on your tour.
0:37:56 > 0:37:58How's Mrs Andersson? Has she settled in?
0:37:58 > 0:38:02- I'm wondering if I could have a moment of your time?- Oh, sure.
0:38:02 > 0:38:05Maybe when we're finished this chapter,
0:38:05 > 0:38:09- I can come find you in the dining room?- Sure. That's fine.
0:38:10 > 0:38:13Er... "The red roof lights revolved in the afternoon sun
0:38:13 > 0:38:16"and even the dogs were temporarily quiet."
0:38:28 > 0:38:31Hi, there, Mr Andersson.
0:38:31 > 0:38:34Now, how can I help you?
0:38:34 > 0:38:36- (MUTTERS IN COMMENTARY STYLE) - That's Frank.
0:38:36 > 0:38:40- He used to be the play-by-play guy for the Winnipeg Jets.- Really?
0:38:40 > 0:38:43Yeah. He loved his job too much to retire.
0:38:43 > 0:38:45Frank's on the second floor.
0:38:49 > 0:38:52I just... (SIGHS)
0:38:52 > 0:38:56My wife has always been a different sort of person.
0:38:56 > 0:39:00I've been told that Alzheimer's can't be confirmed until after...
0:39:01 > 0:39:06And on our way here today, we passed this conservation area
0:39:06 > 0:39:08where we went for a walk last spring.
0:39:08 > 0:39:11And there were these gorgeous flowers, the skunk lilies.
0:39:11 > 0:39:15- Beautiful, aren't they? - Yes, they really made an impression.
0:39:15 > 0:39:18And even though the whole place was covered in snow,
0:39:18 > 0:39:20she said, "Oh, remember?"
0:39:21 > 0:39:25Now, that was... that was quite recently.
0:39:25 > 0:39:28And isn't the short-term memory the thing that goes first?
0:39:28 > 0:39:34Well, yeah, but not all at once. And what's comforting
0:39:34 > 0:39:37is the long-term memory sometimes stays for quite a long time.
0:39:39 > 0:39:42Yeah, her long-term memory seems quite intact.
0:39:42 > 0:39:45But when she mentioned that, about the skunk lilies,
0:39:45 > 0:39:48it was all I could do not to turn the truck around.
0:39:48 > 0:39:53What if this is just her just being herself?
0:39:54 > 0:39:57She's far too young to...
0:39:58 > 0:40:01She is young.
0:40:01 > 0:40:04And it is hard... no doubt about that.
0:40:05 > 0:40:07A month is a real long time.
0:40:09 > 0:40:13I mean, between you and me, I don't know about the policy myself.
0:40:13 > 0:40:16I think it makes it easier for the staff is what I think.
0:40:16 > 0:40:20Look... I'll give you my pager number.
0:40:22 > 0:40:25Call me whenever you want. Call me every day if you feel like it.
0:40:29 > 0:40:31I don't know what to do.
0:40:32 > 0:40:36Mr Andersson... your wife wrote you this note
0:40:36 > 0:40:38and she asked me to pass it along.
0:40:47 > 0:40:49OK.
0:40:54 > 0:40:56Thank you so much.
0:41:08 > 0:41:10(DROWNED OUT BY INCIDENTAL MUSIC)
0:41:19 > 0:41:23"Throughout much of the thinking brain,
0:41:23 > 0:41:29"gooey plaques now crowd neurons from outside the cell membranes."
0:41:30 > 0:41:33"And knotty tangles
0:41:33 > 0:41:38"mangle microtubal transports from inside the cells."
0:41:46 > 0:41:51"All told, tens of millions of synapses dissolve away
0:41:51 > 0:41:55"because the structures and substructures of the brain
0:41:55 > 0:41:57"are so highly specialised,
0:41:57 > 0:42:01"the precise location of the neuronal loss
0:42:01 > 0:42:06"determines what specific abilities will become impaired.
0:42:11 > 0:42:15"It is like a series of circuit breakers
0:42:15 > 0:42:20"in a large house, flipping off one by one."
0:43:16 > 0:43:18That's a great-looking coffee maker.
0:43:18 > 0:43:21I always meant to get one of those.
0:43:22 > 0:43:26I saw they had them on sale at Canadian Tire.
0:43:26 > 0:43:29They gave it to us, my son and his wife.
0:43:29 > 0:43:31They live in Kamloops, BC.
0:43:31 > 0:43:34They send us more stuff than we can handle.
0:43:34 > 0:43:38Wouldn't hurt if they spent the money to come see us instead.
0:43:39 > 0:43:42- I suppose they're busy with their own lives.- Not so busy
0:43:42 > 0:43:46they couldn't go to Hawaii last year. You could understand it
0:43:46 > 0:43:50if there was someone in the family closer at hand but, er...
0:43:51 > 0:43:54..he's the only one.
0:43:56 > 0:43:58People do get lonely... (SIGHS)
0:43:59 > 0:44:03..especially when they're deprived of seeing someone they care about.
0:44:07 > 0:44:09Fiona, for instance.
0:44:12 > 0:44:16- My wife.- I thought you said you went and visited her.
0:44:18 > 0:44:22I do. No, that's not it.
0:44:24 > 0:44:27- 'She's really settling in well.' - Good, good.
0:44:27 > 0:44:29'Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow.'
0:44:29 > 0:44:32- Right. I'll see you tomorrow. - 'Now, remember,
0:44:32 > 0:44:35'she may be a little surprised to see you.
0:44:35 > 0:44:37'Don't be shaken by that.
0:44:37 > 0:44:40'Just... She hasn't seen you in a while.
0:44:40 > 0:44:42'She's sort of settled in here.'
0:44:43 > 0:44:46'I understand.'
0:44:57 > 0:45:02There you are. I'll walk you down to her.
0:45:02 > 0:45:06Wow, narcissus this early. You must have spent a fortune.
0:45:06 > 0:45:10Hi, Mr Andersson. It's great to see you.
0:45:13 > 0:45:16Alright. Here we are. There is her room.
0:45:16 > 0:45:19You remember from last time you were here, don't you?
0:45:19 > 0:45:23Her nameplate's right on the door. I'll leave you to it.
0:46:01 > 0:46:05There she is. Now, you just go over and say hello.
0:46:05 > 0:46:09And try not to startle her. Remember, she may not...
0:46:09 > 0:46:11Well, just go ahead.
0:46:28 > 0:46:34(Bridge. Deadly serious. Quite rabid about it.)
0:46:35 > 0:46:39I can remember being like that at college for a while.
0:46:39 > 0:46:43My friends and I would cut class and sit in the common room
0:46:43 > 0:46:46and smoke and play like cut-throats.
0:46:46 > 0:46:49One's name was Phoebe. I don't remember the others.
0:46:49 > 0:46:53- Phoebe Hart. - Oh, you knew her, too.
0:46:54 > 0:46:56Er, can I get you something? Er, a cup of tea?
0:46:56 > 0:47:00- I'm afraid the coffee's not up to much here.- I don't drink tea.
0:47:00 > 0:47:04- Oh. - I brought you some flowers.
0:47:04 > 0:47:07I thought they might do to brighten up your room.
0:47:07 > 0:47:12- I went to your room but you weren't there.- Well, no, I'm here.
0:47:13 > 0:47:16So you've made a new friend.
0:47:17 > 0:47:19Oh, that's just Aubrey.
0:47:19 > 0:47:24The funny thing is, I knew him years and years ago.
0:47:24 > 0:47:27He used to work in the store, the hardware store
0:47:27 > 0:47:31where my grandpa used to shop. He and I were always kidding around
0:47:31 > 0:47:35but he never could get up the nerve to ask me out.
0:47:35 > 0:47:39Until the very last weekend when he took me to a ball game.
0:47:39 > 0:47:43But my grandpa showed up to drive us home.
0:47:44 > 0:47:49I was up visiting for the summer. Visiting my grandparents.
0:47:50 > 0:47:52They lived in a cottage on a lake.
0:47:53 > 0:47:56Fiona, I know where your grandparents lived.
0:47:56 > 0:48:00- It's where we lived. We live. - Really?
0:48:02 > 0:48:04I'd better go back.
0:48:04 > 0:48:07He thinks he can't play without me sitting there.
0:48:07 > 0:48:10It's silly. I hardly know the game any more. (CHUCKLES)
0:48:10 > 0:48:12I'm afraid you'll have to excuse me.
0:48:12 > 0:48:15- Will you be through soon? - We should be.
0:48:15 > 0:48:19If you ask that grim-looking lady over there nicely,
0:48:19 > 0:48:22- she'll get you a cup of tea. - No, I'm fine.
0:48:22 > 0:48:25I can leave you, then? You can entertain yourself?
0:48:25 > 0:48:29It must all seem strange to you but you'll get used to it.
0:48:29 > 0:48:32You'll get to know who everybody is, except that some of them
0:48:32 > 0:48:36are... pretty well off in the clouds, you know? Mmm.
0:48:37 > 0:48:41Can't expect them all to get to know who you are.
0:49:56 > 0:49:59Hey, I've been thinking of dyeing my hair. What do you think?
0:49:59 > 0:50:03- Do you think I'd look good with red hair?- (ALL CHATTER)
0:50:21 > 0:50:24You caught her at a bad moment, involved in a game.
0:50:24 > 0:50:29- She isn't even playing.- Well, but her friend's playing, Aubrey.
0:50:29 > 0:50:32- Now, who is Aubrey? - That's who he is, Aubrey.
0:50:32 > 0:50:35They get these attachments. That kinda takes over for a while.
0:50:35 > 0:50:38Best buddy kinda thing. Sort of a phase.
0:50:38 > 0:50:41Does she even know who I am?
0:50:43 > 0:50:48No, she might not. Not today and then tomorrow you never know.
0:50:48 > 0:50:51Things change back and forth all the time.
0:50:51 > 0:50:54You'll see the way it is once you get used to coming.
0:50:54 > 0:50:58You'll learn not to take it so personal.
0:51:02 > 0:51:04(INAUDIBLE)
0:51:21 > 0:51:24Oh, I'm sorry, I'll have to go and fix that now.
0:51:53 > 0:51:55TV CHATTER
0:52:01 > 0:52:03BOTH GASP
0:52:05 > 0:52:08BOTH SIGH
0:52:18 > 0:52:22Look at you, Mr Andersson.
0:52:23 > 0:52:25I think you might be one of our most frequent visitors.
0:52:34 > 0:52:36Hi, Fiona.
0:52:36 > 0:52:40- You are persistent, aren't you? - I brought you some books.
0:52:40 > 0:52:43They don't seem to have an awful lot around here.
0:52:43 > 0:52:45Letters From Iceland by Auden.
0:52:45 > 0:52:48We always meant to read that together, didn't we?
0:52:48 > 0:52:51- Do you think it'd be possible to talk alone?- Well, I don't know.
0:52:51 > 0:52:54Aubrey's card game starts in a few minutes,
0:52:54 > 0:52:57then we usually go walking and then he does his drawing...
0:52:57 > 0:53:02Or perhaps you can find a bit of time later on. Erm, I'll stay here.
0:53:02 > 0:53:06- Or I'll come back in a few hours. - You are persistent, aren't you?
0:53:28 > 0:53:31Here we are at the Spectrum in Philadelphia.
0:53:31 > 0:53:35It's sudden-death overtime. 2-2. Here's Andreychuk.
0:53:35 > 0:53:38He carries it over the blue line, lines up a shot right on!
0:53:38 > 0:53:41The rebound comes back behind the net.
0:53:41 > 0:53:45It goes back on the left wing and here come the Flyers.
0:53:45 > 0:53:49- Roenick and Mitchell, what a twosome. A shot! Oh, it went wide. - TURNS VOLUME DOWN
0:53:49 > 0:53:54- Go for it, Frank.- Here's Sundin.
0:53:54 > 0:53:59Can't get a shot away and it's cleared away...
0:53:59 > 0:54:02I just came down to say Aubrey is having his nap
0:54:02 > 0:54:05- if you'd like to, erm, talk. - Oh, sure.
0:54:05 > 0:54:09- Er, can we go somewhere a little more private?- He shoots, he scores!
0:54:09 > 0:54:13- If you'd like.- Philly wins this series by a score of 3-2.
0:54:13 > 0:54:15That's it this season for the Leafs.
0:54:15 > 0:54:18Look at Hitchcock, is he a happy coach.
0:54:18 > 0:54:21Philadelphia wins. The game is over in sudden-death overtime.
0:54:41 > 0:54:45- You said you had some books for me? - Yes.
0:54:46 > 0:54:50- Letters From Iceland. - Yes, yes, you said. By Auden.
0:54:52 > 0:54:55Yes...that's right.
0:54:55 > 0:54:58Now...where is Iceland?
0:55:01 > 0:55:04Well, Iceland is in the middle of the Atlantic.
0:55:04 > 0:55:07It's an island.
0:55:09 > 0:55:13'Youngest country in the world. It's constantly erupting.
0:55:13 > 0:55:16'Volcanoes, earthquakes.
0:55:16 > 0:55:20'It's always shaking itself off.'
0:55:22 > 0:55:25Wouldn't it be nice to come from a young country?
0:55:25 > 0:55:29You do. That's where you're from. That's where your people are from.
0:55:30 > 0:55:33They immigrated here in the late 1800s.
0:55:35 > 0:55:39That's where you're from, Fiona. And I teach...
0:55:39 > 0:55:44Well, I taught the myths from there - Norse mythology.
0:55:44 > 0:55:49- I must have been there, then. Have I been there?- No.
0:55:50 > 0:55:52Oh.
0:55:52 > 0:55:56- Why not? Wasn't I curious? - You were very curious.
0:55:58 > 0:56:00Very curious.
0:56:00 > 0:56:05You always said there ought to be one place
0:56:05 > 0:56:08that you knew about and you thought about and maybe even longed for
0:56:08 > 0:56:11but you never did get to see.
0:56:17 > 0:56:19Did I say that?
0:56:19 > 0:56:22Yes, you said that.
0:56:36 > 0:56:38I'd better go and see to Aubrey.
0:56:38 > 0:56:42He'll be wanting a little walk around. It was nice chatting.
0:56:42 > 0:56:46- You'll be back again tomorrow? - Fiona, what are you doing?
0:56:47 > 0:56:49What are you doing with Aubrey?
0:56:52 > 0:56:54He doesn't confuse me.
0:56:55 > 0:56:58He doesn't confuse me at all.
0:57:02 > 0:57:04Well, it's been nice chatting.
0:57:05 > 0:57:08I'll see you again tomorrow, I suppose.
0:57:27 > 0:57:31'These affections between residents, do they ever go too far?
0:57:31 > 0:57:34'Well, that depends on what you mean.'
0:57:34 > 0:57:37The problem we have here, it's funny. It's often the ones
0:57:37 > 0:57:40who haven't been friendly with each other at all.
0:57:40 > 0:57:43They maybe don't even know each other beyond knowing, like,
0:57:43 > 0:57:46is it a man or is it a woman. You'd think it'd be the old guys
0:57:46 > 0:57:50trying to crawl in bed with the old ladies but half the time
0:57:50 > 0:57:52it's the old ladies going after the old men.
0:57:52 > 0:57:55It could be they aren't so worn out.
0:58:00 > 0:58:04Now, don't get me wrong. I don't mean Fiona.
0:58:05 > 0:58:07Fiona is a lady.
0:58:07 > 0:58:10She's a real lady.
0:58:11 > 0:58:13I sometimes wonder...
0:58:14 > 0:58:17You wonder what?
0:58:19 > 0:58:24I wonder if she isn't putting on some kind of...charade.
0:58:24 > 0:58:28- A what? - Some kind of act.
0:58:28 > 0:58:32Maybe...it's a kind of punishment.
0:58:35 > 0:58:37Why would she do that?
0:58:43 > 0:58:45Oh.
0:59:13 > 0:59:15ALL CHATTER
0:59:23 > 0:59:27- Excuse me. - Yes, Mr Andersson?
0:59:27 > 0:59:29How can I help you?
0:59:29 > 0:59:32Fiona's wearing someone else's sweater.
0:59:32 > 0:59:36- Well, it's pretty, isn't it? - No, it's not pretty, it's tacky.
0:59:36 > 0:59:40- She would never wear it.- Well, you can talk to the duty attendant
0:59:40 > 0:59:44on Mrs Andersson's wing. Boy, it's a marvel, really,
0:59:44 > 0:59:47the way she's getting him up and out of that chair.
0:59:52 > 0:59:54Can you manage?
0:59:55 > 1:00:00Will you be all right? I'll be back in a second.
1:00:03 > 1:00:07Fiona...I'm your husband. Fiona, it's Grant.
1:00:07 > 1:00:10We've been married for 45 years. Look at me, Fiona.
1:00:10 > 1:00:14That is not your sweater. We had a good life together.
1:00:14 > 1:00:18Those are your words, Fiona, not mine. That is not your sweater.
1:00:23 > 1:00:24HE WHIMPERS
1:00:24 > 1:00:25It's all right.
1:00:26 > 1:00:31It's all right. It's all right. I'm coming straight back.
1:00:31 > 1:00:35I'm coming straight back. It's going to be all right.
1:00:52 > 1:00:55I'll see you again tomorrow, I suppose.
1:00:59 > 1:01:01Please...
1:01:02 > 1:01:05..don't.
1:01:06 > 1:01:09Please, please, don't.
1:01:12 > 1:01:15You're very persistent, aren't you?
1:01:21 > 1:01:23I wish I...
1:01:24 > 1:01:26I wish I knew what...
1:01:34 > 1:01:37We'll see you again tomorrow, I suppose.
1:02:18 > 1:02:21You're not doing too well, are you?
1:02:21 > 1:02:23Well, no big surprise.
1:02:23 > 1:02:26What we're handling isn't so easy.
1:02:27 > 1:02:30I thought when I married,
1:02:30 > 1:02:33I'd...be with someone to the final stretch.
1:02:33 > 1:02:35I'm betting you thought the same.
1:02:36 > 1:02:39Well, didn't work out.
1:02:41 > 1:02:45So, I, er, think you're here for a reason.
1:02:46 > 1:02:50I'm the kind of person you can say things flat out to, so shoot.
1:02:53 > 1:02:57I wonder if you would consider taking Aubrey back to Meadowlake,
1:02:57 > 1:02:59maybe just for a visit.
1:02:59 > 1:03:03Or I suppose I could take Aubrey out there myself.
1:03:03 > 1:03:05I wouldn't mind that at all.
1:03:07 > 1:03:09SHE SIGHS
1:03:09 > 1:03:11Home-made.
1:03:17 > 1:03:19Really?
1:03:22 > 1:03:26No. No, I can't do that. And the reason is
1:03:26 > 1:03:29- I don't want to upset him.- Wouldn't he understand it was just a visit?
1:03:29 > 1:03:33He understands everything. If I go to all that trouble,
1:03:33 > 1:03:36I'd prefer to take him someplace that'd be more fun, hm?
1:03:36 > 1:03:39It would make more sense to take him to the mall
1:03:39 > 1:03:43where there are kids and whatnot. And I'd have to get him ready,
1:03:43 > 1:03:45manoeuvre him into the, er, car.
1:03:45 > 1:03:49- He's big. He's not that easy to manage.- Even if I agreed to do it?
1:03:49 > 1:03:52You don't know him. You couldn't manage him.
1:03:52 > 1:03:55And he wouldn't stand your doing for him. And after all that,
1:03:55 > 1:04:00- what would he get out of it? - Er...
1:04:01 > 1:04:04- Hmnh. - SHE SIGHS
1:04:20 > 1:04:23- Smoke? - No. No, thanks.
1:04:23 > 1:04:28- What, did you never or did you quit? - I quit.
1:04:28 > 1:04:34- How long ago? - Oh...30 years, maybe more.
1:04:34 > 1:04:36- I quit quitting. - SHE CHUCKLES
1:04:37 > 1:04:40Just made a resolution to quit quitting, that's all.
1:04:41 > 1:04:44So your wife's depressed, huh?
1:04:45 > 1:04:49- What's her name again? I forget. - Fiona.
1:04:50 > 1:04:54- And how old were you when you met? - She was 18.
1:04:54 > 1:04:56Holy, that's pretty young to get married, eh?
1:04:56 > 1:04:58HE CHUCKLES
1:04:59 > 1:05:03- It wasn't my idea. - You mean she proposed to you?
1:05:03 > 1:05:06Well, that's lovely, that's what I think. How'd she do it?
1:05:06 > 1:05:09She hadn't planned it, necessarily.
1:05:09 > 1:05:12We were in Tobermory waiting for the ferry to Manitoulin
1:05:12 > 1:05:18and it was miserable and rainy and she was in a good mood.
1:05:18 > 1:05:21And she didn't want any part of my sour mood.
1:05:21 > 1:05:23And what'd she do? What'd she say?
1:05:23 > 1:05:28Well, she said, "Do you think it'd be fun...
1:05:28 > 1:05:33- "Do you think it'd be fun if we got married?"- And what did you say?
1:05:33 > 1:05:36I took her up on it. I shouted, "Yes!"
1:05:41 > 1:05:43I never wanted to be away from her.
1:05:45 > 1:05:48She had the spark of life.
1:05:50 > 1:05:53'You know, nothing can take away what's happened to you
1:05:53 > 1:05:58'and what you've experienced. I don't think so, anyway.
1:05:58 > 1:06:03'Even if it goes away somehow, it's still there.
1:06:03 > 1:06:05'It's still what you are.'
1:06:06 > 1:06:09- It's curious. - What's curious?
1:06:09 > 1:06:14All of that madly-in-love business. The beginning.
1:06:14 > 1:06:19I hear myself tell the story and it all sounds so...crucial.
1:06:20 > 1:06:22I suppose it is.
1:06:22 > 1:06:27But compared to what we ended up with, until recently...
1:06:29 > 1:06:32..all of that seems so superficial somehow.
1:06:33 > 1:06:36CHATTERING
1:07:10 > 1:07:13ROCK MUSIC PLAYS FROM HEADPHONES
1:07:13 > 1:07:16Not such a fun place to visit, eh?
1:07:17 > 1:07:21- Excuse me? - Not such a fun place to visit.
1:07:21 > 1:07:23Fucking depressing.
1:07:24 > 1:07:27- No offence.- None taken.
1:07:28 > 1:07:33No-one came to visit you, huh? That must suck huge.
1:07:33 > 1:07:37Well, it would suck huge but I don't live here.
1:07:37 > 1:07:40- I'm just visiting someone. - Who?
1:07:40 > 1:07:45- Which one?- Beautiful woman with the shock of hair.
1:07:45 > 1:07:48- The one sitting with her husband? - You might say that.
1:07:48 > 1:07:52- Why wouldn't you?- I wouldn't say that because I'm her husband.
1:07:52 > 1:07:55So why aren't you sitting with her, then?
1:07:55 > 1:07:56HE SIGHS
1:07:58 > 1:08:01Just learned to give her some space.
1:08:01 > 1:08:04She's in love with that man she's sitting with.
1:08:04 > 1:08:09I don't like to disturb her. I just like to see her, I suppose.
1:08:09 > 1:08:11Make sure she's doing well, you know?
1:08:15 > 1:08:19I suppose that must seem rather pathetic.
1:08:19 > 1:08:21I should be so lucky.
1:08:27 > 1:08:29Come on.
1:08:53 > 1:08:59She's not here. She's sick. He's not here, either.
1:09:16 > 1:09:18KNOCKS ON DOOR
1:09:25 > 1:09:28I brought you a book.
1:09:29 > 1:09:33It's all about Iceland. Thought you might like to take a look at it.
1:09:33 > 1:09:36Why, thank you.
1:09:36 > 1:09:37HE SOBS
1:09:37 > 1:09:41Oh, what is it, dear heart? What is it?
1:09:41 > 1:09:43Oh, I see. Here, here, here.
1:09:43 > 1:09:45HE SNIFFS
1:09:45 > 1:09:47Here, here. Yes.
1:09:49 > 1:09:53Do you by any chance have any influence around here?
1:09:53 > 1:09:55I've seen you talking to them.
1:09:56 > 1:09:59Oh.
1:10:03 > 1:10:08We'll get to see each other. You'll see. We have to.
1:10:08 > 1:10:12I'll come and see you... and you'll come and see me.
1:10:16 > 1:10:18HE SIGHS
1:10:19 > 1:10:23You know, I just wish his wife would hurry up and get here.
1:10:23 > 1:10:26I wish she'd get him out of here and cut the agony short.
1:10:26 > 1:10:30- Should I stay? - What for? She's not sick, you know.
1:10:31 > 1:10:33To keep her company.
1:10:33 > 1:10:36They have to learn to get over these things by themselves.
1:10:36 > 1:10:40They've got short memories and that's not always so bad.
1:10:42 > 1:10:44OK?
1:11:08 > 1:11:14'Fiona. Her name is Fiona. And what's yours?'
1:11:14 > 1:11:19- I don't think I was ever told that. - Oh, I'm sorry. It's Grant.
1:11:21 > 1:11:24Hello, Grant. I'm Marian.
1:11:29 > 1:11:32Well, now that we know each other's name,
1:11:32 > 1:11:35I can tell you straight out what I'm thinking.
1:11:36 > 1:11:40I don't know if he's still so stuck on seeing your...
1:11:41 > 1:11:44..seeing Fiona. I don't ask him, he doesn't tell me.
1:11:45 > 1:11:48But I don't feel like putting him back in there
1:11:48 > 1:11:50in case it turns out to be more than that.
1:11:50 > 1:11:54I don't want him getting hard to handle. I don't have any help,
1:11:54 > 1:11:59- it's just me here. I'm it. - It is very hard for you.
1:11:59 > 1:12:03- Did you ever consider his going in there for good?- No.
1:12:03 > 1:12:08- I'm keeping him right here.- Well, that's very good and noble of you.
1:12:08 > 1:12:10Oh, you think so? Well...
1:12:11 > 1:12:15- ..noble is not what I'm thinking about.- No, but it isn't easy.
1:12:15 > 1:12:19It isn't, but I don't have a choice. If I pay to put him in there,
1:12:19 > 1:12:21I won't hold on to the house
1:12:21 > 1:12:24and the house is the only thing we own outright.
1:12:25 > 1:12:29And it means a lot to me... this house does.
1:12:29 > 1:12:35- It's very nice. - Well, I guess it's all right.
1:12:35 > 1:12:39I've done a lot on it, fixing it up, keeping it up.
1:12:39 > 1:12:41- Yes, I can see that. - I don't want to lose it.
1:12:41 > 1:12:45- No.- I'm not going to lose it. - I see your point.
1:12:45 > 1:12:47The company left us high and dry. In the end,
1:12:47 > 1:12:51they...they said he owed them money.
1:12:53 > 1:12:56What do I think? Well, he was pretty stupid.
1:12:58 > 1:13:03But, erm, I'm not supposed to ask, so I shut up.
1:13:03 > 1:13:05You've been married, huh? You are married.
1:13:05 > 1:13:08You know what it's like.
1:13:09 > 1:13:11And then, in the middle of all this,
1:13:11 > 1:13:16he gets sick from this virus and he goes into a coma.
1:13:20 > 1:13:25So that pretty much... takes him off the hook, hm?
1:13:27 > 1:13:29It's bad luck.
1:13:30 > 1:13:33No, just life.
1:13:36 > 1:13:38Can't beat life.
1:13:38 > 1:13:41No.
1:13:44 > 1:13:47KNOCK AT DOOR
1:13:52 > 1:13:55Oh. Hello.
1:14:23 > 1:14:25SHE GASPS
1:14:34 > 1:14:37Perhaps you'd like me to read to you.
1:14:38 > 1:14:41I don't have any books.
1:14:43 > 1:14:46Oh, there are some.
1:14:48 > 1:14:50Letters From Iceland.
1:14:58 > 1:15:01"Isn't it true, however far we've wandered
1:15:01 > 1:15:06"into our provinces of persecution, where our regrets accuse,
1:15:06 > 1:15:09"we keep returning back to the common faith
1:15:09 > 1:15:12"from which we've all dissented,
1:15:12 > 1:15:16"back to the hands, the feet, the faces?
1:15:16 > 1:15:19"Children are always there and take the hands,
1:15:19 > 1:15:21"even when they are most terrified."
1:15:21 > 1:15:25"Those in love cannot make up their minds to go or stay.
1:15:25 > 1:15:29"Artist and doctor return most often."
1:15:29 > 1:15:32"Only the mad will never, never come back.
1:15:32 > 1:15:35"For doctors keep on worrying while away,
1:15:35 > 1:15:39"in case their skill is suffering and deserted.
1:15:39 > 1:15:43"Lovers have lived so long with giants and elves,
1:15:43 > 1:15:46"they want belief again in their own size.
1:15:46 > 1:15:50"And the artist prays ever so gently,
1:15:50 > 1:15:53"Let me find pure all that can happen.
1:15:53 > 1:15:56"Only uniqueness is success.
1:15:56 > 1:16:01"For instance, let me perceive the images of history.
1:16:01 > 1:16:04"All that I push away with doubt and travel,
1:16:04 > 1:16:09"today's and yesterday's, alike like bodies."
1:16:09 > 1:16:13TELEVISION: 'To all the men and women of our armed forces in the Middle East,
1:16:13 > 1:16:16'the peace of a troubled world and the hopes of an oppressed people
1:16:16 > 1:16:18'now depend on you.'
1:16:19 > 1:16:21How could they forget Vietnam?
1:16:21 > 1:16:23TELEVISION CHATTER CONTINUES
1:16:39 > 1:16:41Here you go.
1:16:41 > 1:16:44Next time you do it, just go pick it up, OK?
1:16:48 > 1:16:50SHE SIGHS
1:16:50 > 1:16:54Her muscles are deteriorating. If she doesn't improve soon,
1:16:54 > 1:16:57we're going to have to put her on a walker.
1:16:57 > 1:17:00I keep trying to get her walking but she doesn't want to go anywhere.
1:17:00 > 1:17:04But once they get on a walker, they start to depend on it
1:17:04 > 1:17:08and then they don't want to walk much any more.
1:17:08 > 1:17:12You're going to have to work at her harder. Try and encourage her.
1:17:13 > 1:17:15Sorry.
1:17:19 > 1:17:21Here you go.
1:17:32 > 1:17:36Mrs Andersson, how would you like to go on a field trip?
1:18:18 > 1:18:20They've kept it so like it was.
1:18:23 > 1:18:27- Who has? - The people who live here.
1:19:18 > 1:19:20SHE SIGHS
1:19:35 > 1:19:37Everything...
1:19:43 > 1:19:46Everything just reminds me of him.
1:19:48 > 1:19:50It wasn't enough, I suppose.
1:19:51 > 1:19:54Who, Fiona?
1:19:55 > 1:19:58Who does everything remind you of?
1:20:15 > 1:20:19I'd like to go home now, if you don't mind.
1:20:24 > 1:20:29Now, as you know, we don't do extended care on the first floor.
1:20:29 > 1:20:33We do it temporarily if someone isn't feeling well
1:20:33 > 1:20:35but if they progress too far...
1:20:36 > 1:20:40..we have to consider... moving upstairs.
1:20:43 > 1:20:47- Do you happen to have Aubrey's address?- I'm sorry?
1:20:51 > 1:20:53Aubrey and his wife.
1:20:54 > 1:20:57Where do they live?
1:21:12 > 1:21:16Well, it was probably a mistake putting him there in the first place
1:21:16 > 1:21:19but, er, I wasn't going to get another chance to get away,
1:21:19 > 1:21:23so I took it. Well, so...
1:21:25 > 1:21:27Now I know better.
1:21:30 > 1:21:33Did your husband ever work in a hardware store in the summers
1:21:33 > 1:21:36when he was going to school?
1:21:36 > 1:21:40No, I never heard about that. But I wasn't raised here.
1:21:41 > 1:21:44No...I didn't think so.
1:21:51 > 1:21:55Thank you very much for your time, Miriam.
1:21:55 > 1:21:58It's Marian.
1:21:58 > 1:22:00Sorry.
1:22:09 > 1:22:10What a jerk.
1:22:29 > 1:22:34Yeah, maybe someone could just drop in on her. All right.
1:22:35 > 1:22:39I don't think there's much to it but call me back. OK.
1:22:40 > 1:22:43Thanks a lot. Bye-bye.
1:22:43 > 1:22:46- Hey.- Hi.
1:22:46 > 1:22:48Er...
1:22:49 > 1:22:52I think I want to ask you about the second floor...
1:22:53 > 1:22:56..just to know a little more about it.
1:22:56 > 1:22:59Well, it's for people who've really lost it.
1:23:06 > 1:23:10What do they do, then? What happens after that,
1:23:10 > 1:23:13after they've...lost it?
1:23:13 > 1:23:16You don't really want to know. But sometimes they get it back.
1:23:16 > 1:23:20They go into their room for a year, they don't know you from Adam,
1:23:20 > 1:23:23and then one day it's, "Oh, hi." All of a sudden,
1:23:23 > 1:23:26they're back to normal. But it doesn't last for long.
1:23:26 > 1:23:31You think, "Wow, back to normal," and then they're gone again.
1:23:34 > 1:23:39I haven't even asked you about yourself. You married?
1:23:39 > 1:23:41Well, technically, yeah, I guess.
1:23:42 > 1:23:46I got three kids and their dad lives in Alberta, I think.
1:23:46 > 1:23:49He's making it rich, maybe. I wouldn't know.
1:23:49 > 1:23:51Must be quite a struggle.
1:23:51 > 1:23:55It, er...knocks the wind out of you every now and then
1:23:55 > 1:23:59but...you just pick yourself back up like everyone else.
1:24:00 > 1:24:03I suppose our lives must seem easy to you.
1:24:03 > 1:24:06We got through life without too much going wrong
1:24:06 > 1:24:10and what we have to suffer now, when we're old,
1:24:10 > 1:24:14hardly counts, I suppose. That's what you must think.
1:24:18 > 1:24:22How would you know what I think? To tell you the truth,
1:24:22 > 1:24:25I'd rather be the one that stayed than the one that left.
1:24:26 > 1:24:29I'll bet you weren't always the devoted husband. Am I right?
1:24:30 > 1:24:34I mean, you said that you...wondered
1:24:34 > 1:24:37if maybe she was punishing you for something?
1:24:37 > 1:24:41I'll bet you had something pretty specific in mind, didn't you?
1:24:43 > 1:24:48You know...you see a lot of things in this job.
1:24:49 > 1:24:52You see the end of things all day long
1:24:52 > 1:24:55and at the end of things it's almost always the men that think
1:24:55 > 1:24:58that not too much went wrong.
1:24:59 > 1:25:02I wonder if your wife feels the same way.
1:25:02 > 1:25:04I wonder that, too.
1:25:05 > 1:25:08I bet you do.
1:25:26 > 1:25:28PHONE RINGS
1:25:30 > 1:25:32ANSWERPHONE BEEPS
1:25:32 > 1:25:35'Hello, Grant. I hope I got the right person.
1:25:35 > 1:25:37'I just thought of something.
1:25:37 > 1:25:40'There is a dance in town at the Legion on Saturday night
1:25:40 > 1:25:43'and I am on the supper committee,
1:25:43 > 1:25:46'which means I can bring a free guest. So I wondered
1:25:46 > 1:25:50'whether you would happen to be interested in that.
1:25:50 > 1:25:55'Call me back when you get a chance, 555-3457.'
1:25:57 > 1:25:59ANSWERPHONE BEEPS
1:25:59 > 1:26:03'I just realised, I'd forgotten to say who it was.
1:26:03 > 1:26:06'Well, you probably recognise the voice, the accent.
1:26:06 > 1:26:09'It's Marian. I'm still not so used to these machines
1:26:09 > 1:26:12'and I wanted to say I realise you're not single
1:26:12 > 1:26:16'and I don't mean it that way. I'm not, either,
1:26:16 > 1:26:19'but it doesn't hurt to get out once in a while.
1:26:19 > 1:26:22'Anyway, now I've said all this,
1:26:22 > 1:26:24'I really hope it's you I'm talking to.
1:26:24 > 1:26:27'It did sound like your voice. If you're interested,
1:26:27 > 1:26:31'you can call me and if you are not, you don't need to bother.
1:26:31 > 1:26:35'I just thought you might like the chance to get out.
1:26:35 > 1:26:37'It's Marian speaking.'
1:26:37 > 1:26:38SHE CHUCKLES
1:26:38 > 1:26:41'I guess I already said that.
1:26:42 > 1:26:44'OK, then. Goodbye.'
1:26:49 > 1:26:53"The desires of the heart are as crooked as corkscrews.
1:26:53 > 1:26:56"Not to be born is the best for man.
1:26:56 > 1:26:59"The second-best is a formal order.
1:26:59 > 1:27:03"The dance's pattern, dance while you can."
1:27:04 > 1:27:06SHE SIGHS
1:27:08 > 1:27:10Fiona...
1:27:11 > 1:27:15Is there any way to let this go... do you think?
1:27:20 > 1:27:22If I let it go,
1:27:22 > 1:27:25it'll only hit me harder when I bump into it again.
1:27:31 > 1:27:33OK.
1:27:36 > 1:27:40"Dance, dance, for the figure is easy.
1:27:40 > 1:27:44"The tune is catching and will not stop.
1:27:45 > 1:27:49"Dance till the stars come down from the rafters.
1:27:49 > 1:27:52"Dance, dance, dance till you drop."
1:27:52 > 1:27:55PHONE RINGS
1:27:58 > 1:28:01- 'Yes?' - Hello, Marian.
1:28:11 > 1:28:13So...
1:28:15 > 1:28:17There you are.
1:28:18 > 1:28:20Here I am.
1:28:22 > 1:28:24Thank you.
1:28:24 > 1:28:27SOFT JAZZ
1:28:48 > 1:28:51What are you thinking?
1:28:53 > 1:28:55Not an awful lot, really.
1:28:57 > 1:28:59Skiing.
1:29:01 > 1:29:03Downhill?
1:29:04 > 1:29:06Cross-country.
1:29:09 > 1:29:13I'm more of a thrill-seeker, I guess.
1:29:18 > 1:29:20What are you thinking?
1:29:20 > 1:29:24I'm thinking you never know how things are going to turn out.
1:29:27 > 1:29:32You almost know... but you can never be...
1:29:33 > 1:29:35..quite sure.
1:30:08 > 1:30:10Mr Andersson?
1:30:17 > 1:30:22Mr Andersson? Now, as you know, we're going to have to think about
1:30:22 > 1:30:25moving Mrs Andersson upstairs fairly soon, I'm afraid.
1:30:25 > 1:30:28She hasn't been out of that bed for two weeks now and...
1:30:28 > 1:30:31I'm quite aware of your policies.
1:30:31 > 1:30:34I'm more than aware of your fucking policies.
1:30:37 > 1:30:40Nurse Kristy is taking me back to the second floor.
1:30:40 > 1:30:43The area to my right are the elevators
1:30:43 > 1:30:48and as we go on down the hall, there's a man with a broken heart.
1:30:48 > 1:30:53Well, we'll go past the lunchroom. The cannelloni was cold yesterday
1:30:53 > 1:30:57but let's see what it's doing today. I'm going to have some Cokes,
1:30:57 > 1:30:59that's what I'm going to do.
1:31:01 > 1:31:03Wouldn't it be better if...
1:31:05 > 1:31:07..when we go out again...
1:31:08 > 1:31:13..to put Aubrey back into Meadowlake? Just for a day?
1:31:14 > 1:31:17What do you think?
1:31:18 > 1:31:21I'm thinking that sometimes you...
1:31:23 > 1:31:27..just have to make the decision to...be happy.
1:31:29 > 1:31:32Just decide.
1:31:33 > 1:31:36Things aren't ever what you hoped they'd be.
1:31:36 > 1:31:39Not ever, for anybody.
1:31:40 > 1:31:44The only thing that separates one kind of person from another
1:31:44 > 1:31:47is there are some who stay angry about it
1:31:47 > 1:31:49and there are some who...
1:31:49 > 1:31:53accept what comes their way.
1:31:54 > 1:31:59- And which kind of person are you? - I was pretty mad about it.
1:32:00 > 1:32:03But now...
1:32:04 > 1:32:08..looking at what came my way...
1:32:10 > 1:32:13SHE CHUCKLES
1:32:13 > 1:32:16..I think I could be the other kind of person.
1:32:18 > 1:32:21Quite the philosopher, huh?
1:32:24 > 1:32:30Look, why don't you pull over here? Just pull over, could you?
1:32:45 > 1:32:47I know what you're doing.
1:32:48 > 1:32:54It would be easier for me... if you could pretend a little.
1:32:55 > 1:32:57Do you think you could do that?
1:33:07 > 1:33:09BOTH PANT
1:33:11 > 1:33:14Now, what were we talking about?
1:33:15 > 1:33:18BOTH CHUCKLE
1:33:57 > 1:33:59She was the only one in her family
1:33:59 > 1:34:04who bothered to learn sign language. Now she can't remember how
1:34:04 > 1:34:06or maybe even who she is.
1:34:06 > 1:34:09- Her daughter? - Yeah.
1:34:09 > 1:34:13It's left her pretty stranded. Marooned.
1:34:15 > 1:34:18You know, I thought of you the other day.
1:34:18 > 1:34:21You know that billboard in front of the United Church in Bradford,
1:34:21 > 1:34:24they post all that biblical-type stuff?
1:34:24 > 1:34:27The other day, it said,
1:34:27 > 1:34:31"It's never too late to become what you might have been."
1:34:32 > 1:34:34Doesn't sound all that biblical.
1:34:36 > 1:34:39Maybe they're getting creative on us.
1:36:01 > 1:36:04See you soon, Aubrey.
1:36:41 > 1:36:44STAFF CHATTER
1:37:01 > 1:37:04Thanks.
1:37:55 > 1:37:58Would you mind if I had a moment alone before you come in?
1:37:59 > 1:38:02To explain things to her?
1:38:17 > 1:38:20I found this beautiful book about Iceland.
1:38:21 > 1:38:25You wouldn't think they'd leave valuable books lying around.
1:38:25 > 1:38:28The people who stay here aren't all necessarily honest.
1:38:29 > 1:38:33And I think they got the clothes mixed up.
1:38:34 > 1:38:37I never wear yellow.
1:38:45 > 1:38:48I seem to remember you reading this to me.
1:38:50 > 1:38:53You were trying to make me feel better.
1:38:54 > 1:38:57You tried so hard.
1:39:00 > 1:39:06You're a lovely man, you know? I'm a very lucky woman.
1:39:07 > 1:39:12- Fiona?- You've been gone a long time. Are we all checked out?
1:39:12 > 1:39:14I have a surprise for you.
1:39:18 > 1:39:20Do you remember Aubrey?
1:39:42 > 1:39:45Names elude me.
1:39:57 > 1:39:59I'm happy to see you.
1:40:04 > 1:40:06You could have just driven away.
1:40:06 > 1:40:10Just driven away without a care in the world...
1:40:12 > 1:40:14..and forsook me.
1:40:16 > 1:40:18Forsooken me.
1:40:20 > 1:40:22Forsaken.
1:40:23 > 1:40:26Not a chance.
1:41:02 > 1:41:05MUSIC: "Helpless" by KD Lang
1:41:21 > 1:41:23# Blue, blue windows
1:41:23 > 1:41:28# Behind the stars
1:41:28 > 1:41:31# Yellow moon
1:41:31 > 1:41:35# On the rise
1:41:35 > 1:41:37# And big birds flying
1:41:37 > 1:41:42# Across the sky
1:41:42 > 1:41:44# Throwing shadows
1:41:44 > 1:41:48# In our eyes
1:41:48 > 1:41:49# Leaves us
1:41:49 > 1:41:52# Helpless, helpless
1:41:52 > 1:41:55# Helpless... #