0:00:02 > 0:00:07This film contains some strong language.
0:01:33 > 0:01:35Sathnam!
0:01:35 > 0:01:37- Sathnam!- Yes?
0:01:37 > 0:01:40Unbelievable, you jammy bastard.
0:01:40 > 0:01:44- Why? What? - Samuel L Jackson says yes.
0:01:44 > 0:01:46You can see him on the 16th, out in Los Angeles.
0:01:46 > 0:01:47Samuel L Jackson?
0:01:47 > 0:01:50But also, on the 17th,
0:01:50 > 0:01:53Simon Cowell has invited you to the X Factor mansion in the Cotswolds.
0:01:53 > 0:01:55Now, you can't do both, so, what's it to be?
0:01:55 > 0:01:58Mr Cool, or Mr Cowell?
0:01:58 > 0:01:59Aren't you to move in that week?
0:01:59 > 0:02:01Exchanging contracts.
0:02:01 > 0:02:04- Mr Cowell.- OK.
0:02:04 > 0:02:06You love Samuel L Jackson.
0:02:06 > 0:02:09Yeah, but I'd be gone for a week, and I love someone else more.
0:02:11 > 0:02:15- He's picked the one he thinks most people want to read about.- Ah!
0:02:17 > 0:02:19He's going home this weekend to tell his parents about us.
0:02:19 > 0:02:21- Oh!- I know.
0:02:21 > 0:02:23Hello, ladies.
0:02:23 > 0:02:25- Everything all right?- Hi, Matt.
0:02:29 > 0:02:30You don't think they suspect anything?
0:02:30 > 0:02:32Absolutely nothing.
0:02:41 > 0:02:43TRADITIONAL MUSIC PLAYS
0:02:45 > 0:02:46IN PUNJABI:
0:02:47 > 0:02:48London.
0:02:50 > 0:02:51I'm from London.
0:02:54 > 0:02:56I've just... I'm just out of practice.
0:03:02 > 0:03:04Yeah, I'm from here, from Wolverhampton.
0:03:11 > 0:03:12I can't remember.
0:03:12 > 0:03:14Somewhere near Jalandhar. I think.
0:03:24 > 0:03:25WHISPERS: Dick.
0:03:34 > 0:03:37Mum, Dedi?
0:03:37 > 0:03:40- Sathnam?- Sathnam! Sathnam.
0:03:53 > 0:03:55What time is your flight? I've got to get back.
0:04:13 > 0:04:15How many chapatis I give you?
0:04:17 > 0:04:19Three? OK, four.
0:04:25 > 0:04:27I hope you're not buying that comic, Dedi?
0:04:27 > 0:04:30Please tell me someone left it here.
0:04:30 > 0:04:31Someone left it here.
0:04:31 > 0:04:32Mm-hm.
0:04:32 > 0:04:37But you still read it. What time is your flight this evening?
0:04:37 > 0:04:39Flight is...
0:04:39 > 0:04:41Everyone comes for lunch at one.
0:04:43 > 0:04:44MOTHER SPEAKS PUNJABI
0:04:44 > 0:04:46Small snack.
0:04:48 > 0:04:52But I need to be at the airport by three.
0:04:53 > 0:04:57You and Puli can come in our car with us.
0:04:57 > 0:05:00Right. What time is your flight?
0:05:00 > 0:05:027:20.
0:05:02 > 0:05:05What are you going to do at the airport for four hours?
0:05:05 > 0:05:09We be there, we say goodbye. And your cousin, Hardip,
0:05:09 > 0:05:10is coming this afternoon.
0:05:25 > 0:05:28- Ah, Bins, how are you doing? - Yeah, I'm all right.
0:05:33 > 0:05:37- Hi.- Sathnam! How you doing?
0:05:37 > 0:05:39I'm good, thanks. You?
0:05:39 > 0:05:43Couldn't be better, yeah. I took delivery of an M3 this week.
0:05:43 > 0:05:4619-inch alloys, low mileage, heads-up display.
0:05:46 > 0:05:47I heard, yeah.
0:05:50 > 0:05:51Nice. Nice car.
0:05:51 > 0:05:53Oh, superb.
0:05:53 > 0:05:56Well, 180 grand a year before bonuses, you know.
0:05:58 > 0:05:59What are you driving?
0:05:59 > 0:06:02You don't really need a car in London.
0:06:02 > 0:06:03It depends where you live.
0:06:03 > 0:06:05Hi, Puli.
0:06:05 > 0:06:08I'm buying a flat in Dalston, so it's pretty central.
0:06:09 > 0:06:12- Buying a flat? - How much are you earning?
0:06:12 > 0:06:13Property is my thing.
0:06:13 > 0:06:15London in particular.
0:06:15 > 0:06:18And you earn enough to buy a flat in Dalston on your own?
0:06:19 > 0:06:20Puli.
0:06:24 > 0:06:26Right, a family photo.
0:06:26 > 0:06:27Again?
0:06:27 > 0:06:30If you visited more often, we wouldn't need a photo.
0:06:30 > 0:06:35EVERYONE TALKS AT ONCE
0:06:46 > 0:06:47Ready?
0:06:47 > 0:06:49The proud parents with their offspring.
0:06:50 > 0:06:51Only one single.
0:06:51 > 0:06:53Don't embarrass him.
0:06:56 > 0:06:58The suitcases are in shot.
0:06:59 > 0:07:00Mum, what have you got in here?
0:07:00 > 0:07:01Have you weighed this?
0:07:01 > 0:07:03SHE SPEAKS IN PUNJABI
0:07:03 > 0:07:05Sathnam, back in line, face the front for India!
0:07:06 > 0:07:09- You can come and stand by me. - I'm fine here, just take the photo.
0:07:09 > 0:07:12- Come on. Smile!- Cheese!
0:07:12 > 0:07:15- And one again!- ALL: Cheese!
0:07:15 > 0:07:18PHONE RINGS
0:07:18 > 0:07:19Who is it?
0:07:19 > 0:07:23- OK, yeah.- Come on, Sat.- Ready?
0:07:23 > 0:07:25Three, two, one.
0:07:25 > 0:07:27ALL: Cheese.
0:07:27 > 0:07:28And here he goes.
0:07:29 > 0:07:30Hi. Hi.
0:07:32 > 0:07:36It's pretty mad. Mum decided to invite the whole family,
0:07:36 > 0:07:38and now I can't get her on her own to speak to her.
0:07:38 > 0:07:39But I will.
0:07:41 > 0:07:42What about you? What are you doing?
0:07:44 > 0:07:45I'm showing Mum and Dad the flat.
0:07:45 > 0:07:47Oh, nice!
0:07:47 > 0:07:49- Do you think they like it?- Love it.
0:07:49 > 0:07:51- Especially the garden.- Ah.
0:07:55 > 0:07:56OK, speak later, yeah?
0:07:58 > 0:07:59Bye.
0:08:19 > 0:08:21So what's the postcode on this flat you're buying?
0:08:21 > 0:08:23E8 or N16?
0:08:23 > 0:08:25I'm not sure. I'll look it up.
0:08:25 > 0:08:27Sorry, I've just got to...
0:08:27 > 0:08:30I think my parents have an excess baggage problem.
0:08:30 > 0:08:31Long haul is 23 kilos.
0:08:44 > 0:08:45Absolutely ridiculous!
0:09:07 > 0:09:08Come on!
0:09:23 > 0:09:24Seriously?
0:09:43 > 0:09:46- DOCTOR'S VOICE: - This patient, Mr Jagjiti Sanghera,
0:09:46 > 0:09:48suffers from acute paranoid schizophrenia,
0:09:48 > 0:09:53and has been registered as severely mentally ill since 1979.
0:09:53 > 0:09:56Communication is best done through his wife,
0:09:56 > 0:09:59- who also controls his medication. - Fuck.
0:09:59 > 0:10:02Mr Sanghera is visiting his family in India...
0:10:02 > 0:10:03- Fuck.- ..for a short visit.
0:10:03 > 0:10:05DOCTOR'S VOICE FADES OUT
0:10:17 > 0:10:18Sorry.
0:10:21 > 0:10:22- WHISPERS:- The door wasn't locked.
0:10:22 > 0:10:25- What's he doing?- I hope he's not taking everything out.
0:10:25 > 0:10:27Mum's going to go mental.
0:10:29 > 0:10:33- Oh, what are you doing? - I was weighing the luggage.
0:10:33 > 0:10:34No, no, I found this.
0:10:34 > 0:10:37Yeah, yeah, this goes in with Dedi's medicines.
0:10:37 > 0:10:39Oh, my God, I've taken these out twice already!
0:10:39 > 0:10:41- You know about this? - Sathnam, Dedi always takes a note
0:10:41 > 0:10:43like this when he travels, it's fine.
0:10:43 > 0:10:46- What do you mean? - Now, out of here, come on.
0:10:46 > 0:10:49Go and eat. Go downstairs.
0:10:49 > 0:10:52- Look at this.- Make sure that this goes back in the medicine bag.- Done.
0:11:18 > 0:11:20Well, what did your brother and sisters say?
0:11:20 > 0:11:21They just act like it's normal.
0:11:22 > 0:11:24You must have spoken to them.
0:11:24 > 0:11:26Yeah, I mean... Not...
0:11:26 > 0:11:28Laura, I'm the youngest.
0:11:28 > 0:11:30They don't always include me in stuff.
0:11:30 > 0:11:34I went to Cambridge, I live here now, they've stayed in Wolves.
0:11:34 > 0:11:35It's like we are in two different worlds.
0:11:35 > 0:11:38They watch Britain's Got Talent for God's sake!
0:11:38 > 0:11:39So do we, sometimes.
0:11:41 > 0:11:42Yeah, I mean...
0:11:43 > 0:11:46I had to come and talk to you about the schizophrenia my dad's had
0:11:46 > 0:11:47since before I was born, because...
0:11:49 > 0:11:52- ..I could have it too.- What do you mean, you could have it too?
0:11:52 > 0:11:54It runs in families, doesn't it?
0:11:54 > 0:11:56In fact, it's practically certain.
0:11:56 > 0:11:59- Come on, Sathnam!- Oh, don't laugh.
0:11:59 > 0:12:01Don't. I'll show you. I can prove it.
0:12:01 > 0:12:02Where's my phone?
0:12:06 > 0:12:08- I've got it here. - Darling, come here.
0:12:11 > 0:12:12Come back to mine.
0:12:14 > 0:12:15Come on.
0:12:16 > 0:12:17Come on, let's get home.
0:12:30 > 0:12:33OK, so I've found this site which gives 15 symptoms
0:12:33 > 0:12:37- associated with schizophrenia, tick the ones that apply.- Mm-hm.
0:12:37 > 0:12:40Now, here's the thing, though. I score more than my dad.
0:12:40 > 0:12:42I get eight dead certs.
0:12:42 > 0:12:44First one up, hypochondria.
0:12:44 > 0:12:46Yeah?
0:12:46 > 0:12:47And I'm a hypochondriac, aren't I?
0:12:47 > 0:12:49Yep. Yeah, that one's for definite.
0:12:51 > 0:12:55Right, next, I'm overly interested in religious things.
0:12:55 > 0:12:58- Since when? - What do you mean "since"?
0:12:58 > 0:13:01Mum thinks I'm the Messiah.
0:13:01 > 0:13:03She says I'm special in the eyes of God.
0:13:03 > 0:13:05Laura, I had a topknot until I was 14.
0:13:05 > 0:13:07A symbol of devotion.
0:13:07 > 0:13:09And I think you're going to give me the next one.
0:13:09 > 0:13:11I am preoccupied with sex.
0:13:11 > 0:13:14- Aren't we all?- I am often mistakenly thought to be gay.
0:13:14 > 0:13:15You are not serious?
0:13:15 > 0:13:18- I am a little, yes.- Sathnam. - But there's...
0:13:18 > 0:13:22I have been with you long enough to know that you are many things,
0:13:22 > 0:13:23but you are not mentally ill.
0:13:25 > 0:13:29Having said that, what I find interesting
0:13:29 > 0:13:33is how you have managed to make this all about yourself
0:13:33 > 0:13:35when it already is about you.
0:13:35 > 0:13:40I mean, if your dad has had this severe mental illness
0:13:40 > 0:13:45for the whole of your life, have you really never noticed anything?
0:13:47 > 0:13:50I was just told he had diabetes and had to retire.
0:13:50 > 0:13:52From what?
0:13:52 > 0:13:54What was his job? What did he do?
0:14:00 > 0:14:01I don't...I don't know.
0:14:03 > 0:14:05- I don't know. - You need to talk to someone.
0:14:07 > 0:14:09- Talk to your mum.- She is...
0:14:09 > 0:14:11- She's away now.- When she's back.
0:14:12 > 0:14:13Yeah.
0:14:13 > 0:14:15And in the meantime, why not try
0:14:15 > 0:14:17and talk to your brother and your sisters?
0:14:41 > 0:14:44# You've gone away
0:14:44 > 0:14:48# To a place where I can't touch you
0:14:48 > 0:14:52# And I want to fly away
0:14:52 > 0:14:55# And I'll come right up
0:14:56 > 0:15:01# To your front door just to say
0:15:01 > 0:15:03# Hello
0:15:03 > 0:15:08# And I will try and keep my best
0:15:08 > 0:15:10# Face on
0:15:15 > 0:15:21# You've been gone for oh-so long
0:15:21 > 0:15:22# No
0:15:22 > 0:15:28# And I have to tell you that I'm sorry for my frown
0:15:28 > 0:15:31# But things are not the same for me. #
0:15:31 > 0:15:33- Hey.- Hey.
0:15:33 > 0:15:34You OK?
0:15:34 > 0:15:36- Mm-hm.- Mm-hm.
0:15:37 > 0:15:40I was just thinking about my dad, you know.
0:15:40 > 0:15:42What you said.
0:15:42 > 0:15:43How can I not have known?
0:15:43 > 0:15:44You know?
0:15:45 > 0:15:48The thing is, with my dad, he's always had...
0:15:49 > 0:15:52..such an easy presence.
0:15:52 > 0:15:53I mean, always.
0:15:54 > 0:15:57You know, the only time I've ever seen him upset...
0:15:58 > 0:16:01..was when my sister Puli got married.
0:16:02 > 0:16:04And everyone cries at weddings, don't they?
0:16:06 > 0:16:08As you'll very soon find out.
0:16:13 > 0:16:15Don't you try and back out now.
0:16:15 > 0:16:17Cos you said yes, you're stuck with me now.
0:16:19 > 0:16:21That was lovely, being asked.
0:16:21 > 0:16:25Good, because as soon as my parents are back from India,
0:16:25 > 0:16:26there's no waiting for the right moment.
0:16:26 > 0:16:28I'm just... I'm just going to say to Mum,
0:16:28 > 0:16:30"We're getting married, and that's it."
0:16:30 > 0:16:31Right.
0:16:36 > 0:16:37Go on.
0:16:39 > 0:16:40This thing with your dad.
0:16:41 > 0:16:43It's a big deal.
0:16:43 > 0:16:44So...
0:16:46 > 0:16:47HE SIGHS
0:16:47 > 0:16:48Give it its due.
0:16:50 > 0:16:51Deal with one thing at a time.
0:16:55 > 0:16:58- And, just a question...- Mm-hm.
0:16:58 > 0:17:00When you do tell them,
0:17:00 > 0:17:02do you really want to hit them straight off with,
0:17:02 > 0:17:04"We're getting married"?
0:17:05 > 0:17:09Maybe just introduce the idea of me first?
0:17:10 > 0:17:11Yeah?
0:17:19 > 0:17:22Can I just say that that's why you're going to get that promotion?
0:17:22 > 0:17:24- Hm?- Yeah.
0:17:24 > 0:17:26You just step back and see the bigger picture.
0:17:29 > 0:17:31Thank you for this evening.
0:17:31 > 0:17:34I know it's been difficult. I know I've been difficult...
0:17:35 > 0:17:38..but coming back to talk to you was a really good decision.
0:17:38 > 0:17:40SHE LAUGHS What? What?
0:17:42 > 0:17:45You're the only person I know who can hand out praise
0:17:45 > 0:17:48and pat yourself on the back at the same time!
0:18:17 > 0:18:18Sathnam.
0:18:18 > 0:18:20It's arrived.
0:18:20 > 0:18:23Are you going to come and see?
0:18:23 > 0:18:24I'm going to be in it later.
0:18:30 > 0:18:32Pretty discreet... Hardly even notice it!
0:18:33 > 0:18:35Rosso corsa.
0:18:36 > 0:18:39- What's all the fuss about? - The Simon Cowell interview.
0:18:39 > 0:18:41God, he's not here, is he?
0:18:41 > 0:18:43No. Apparently, he's a car freak,
0:18:43 > 0:18:46Sathnam plans to drive there in a Ferrari.
0:18:46 > 0:18:49- How vulgar.- It's fantastic.
0:19:01 > 0:19:02- Hi.- Hello.- Oh, hello.
0:19:02 > 0:19:04- How are you?- Good.
0:19:04 > 0:19:06You're so good, doing this.
0:19:06 > 0:19:08Hey.
0:19:08 > 0:19:10- Sold your flat yet?- He rents.
0:19:11 > 0:19:13PHONE RINGS
0:19:13 > 0:19:17- Oh, this will be the X Factor office confirming ETA, no doubt.- Oh!
0:19:19 > 0:19:20Hi, this is Sathnam Sanghera.
0:19:20 > 0:19:22Sathnam, it's Auntie Jugi.
0:19:22 > 0:19:24Your Auntie Jugi. Hiya.
0:19:24 > 0:19:27- Auntie Jugi, hi.- Can you see us?
0:19:27 > 0:19:28I can see you.
0:19:28 > 0:19:30Yeah. Hang on, Auntie, one sec.
0:19:37 > 0:19:38Yeah...
0:19:38 > 0:19:41There we go. Sorry about that, Auntie. Hi.
0:19:41 > 0:19:43Is that where you live?
0:19:43 > 0:19:45No, no, no, I'm at work.
0:19:45 > 0:19:47I thought I saw a kitchen.
0:19:47 > 0:19:50Yeah, we have a kitchen in the office.
0:19:50 > 0:19:51- How are you?- Fine, I'm fine.
0:19:51 > 0:19:54I'm just worried about your mum.
0:19:54 > 0:19:56Why, what's happened?
0:19:56 > 0:19:58She is very upset, Sathnam.
0:19:58 > 0:20:00- Very.- Why?
0:20:00 > 0:20:04Someone told her you're going out with a white girl.
0:20:04 > 0:20:07Someone said you had been seen
0:20:07 > 0:20:10being all deewana with a gori in London.
0:20:10 > 0:20:13I have never seen your mum so upset.
0:20:13 > 0:20:15- Christ!- Sorry?
0:20:15 > 0:20:17Yeah.
0:20:17 > 0:20:19So... What do you want me to say?
0:20:19 > 0:20:21Cos she asked me to phone, you know.
0:20:21 > 0:20:22Well...
0:20:26 > 0:20:29It's not true, obviously, I'm not with a gori, or anybody.
0:20:29 > 0:20:31I'm not with anyone, Auntie.
0:20:34 > 0:20:35Auntie, I'll call you back, yeah?
0:20:35 > 0:20:38I've got a meeting. Give me ten minutes, I'll get right back to you.
0:20:38 > 0:20:41- Thank you. Laura! - Just popping round the shop.
0:20:50 > 0:20:53- Laura.- You just told someone I don't exist.
0:20:53 > 0:20:55- No.- What do you mean no?
0:20:55 > 0:20:56It was my auntie.
0:20:56 > 0:20:59I was ambushed. I had to say that.
0:20:59 > 0:21:02Otherwise it would spread like wildfire,
0:21:02 > 0:21:04and it can't happen that way.
0:21:04 > 0:21:07It just can't.
0:21:07 > 0:21:09- Those were just words.- Not to me.
0:21:09 > 0:21:12I said, I've told you, I'm going to tell my mum, and I am.
0:21:15 > 0:21:17When did your parents get back?
0:21:19 > 0:21:20The day before yesterday.
0:21:21 > 0:21:22And you didn't tell me?
0:21:23 > 0:21:26It's delicate. That's all.
0:21:26 > 0:21:28It's about doing it right, yeah?
0:21:29 > 0:21:32I have 54 first cousins, and so far all of them have married...
0:21:32 > 0:21:35- Married a Sikh girl or a Sikh boy, I know this.- Yeah.
0:21:35 > 0:21:38..and I'm the one who's going to break ranks.
0:21:38 > 0:21:41I'll be the first, Laura, I mean, it's...
0:21:41 > 0:21:43..possible and probable I'll be disowned.
0:21:43 > 0:21:46What, so you'll never tell them about me because...
0:21:48 > 0:21:49..you can't?
0:21:49 > 0:21:51You'll just live two separate lives?
0:21:52 > 0:21:54You're wrong.
0:21:54 > 0:21:55You are so wrong.
0:21:57 > 0:21:59I'm going to drive up and tell them now.
0:22:01 > 0:22:03And I mean right now.
0:22:03 > 0:22:04Enough is enough.
0:22:53 > 0:22:57DOOR OPENS, CLOSES
0:22:59 > 0:23:00Sathnam?
0:23:05 > 0:23:06Mum.
0:23:10 > 0:23:11Thank you.
0:23:14 > 0:23:16And now you've come to see me, so...
0:23:29 > 0:23:32PHONE VIBRATES
0:23:32 > 0:23:34She looks like Cheryl Cole!
0:23:34 > 0:23:35So pretty.
0:23:39 > 0:23:43Shall I arrange for it? Yes, huna?
0:23:43 > 0:23:45Yes, yes, you leave it to me. I'll fix it.
0:23:45 > 0:23:47PHONE CONTINUES VIBRATING
0:24:16 > 0:24:18What are you reading about, Dedi?
0:24:18 > 0:24:20What's in the paper? What does it say?
0:24:21 > 0:24:23I'm reading about America.
0:24:25 > 0:24:29I am reading about the Prime Minister of America.
0:24:30 > 0:24:31Isn't it?
0:24:32 > 0:24:33There are two governments.
0:24:35 > 0:24:39One there and one here, and they both work very closely.
0:24:40 > 0:24:44- Don't they?- You mean the American and British governments?
0:24:44 > 0:24:46Yeah.
0:24:52 > 0:24:55Do you understand the words and letters in English, Dedi?
0:24:55 > 0:24:56Can you actually read any of it?
0:25:02 > 0:25:06That's great. I wish Mum would learn to read English.
0:25:06 > 0:25:07It's important.
0:25:14 > 0:25:17We have a Sathnam alert.
0:25:19 > 0:25:20Sathnam...
0:25:22 > 0:25:23Sathnam...
0:25:25 > 0:25:27Sathnam Sanghera...
0:25:27 > 0:25:29Sathnam...
0:25:30 > 0:25:32Sathnam...
0:25:35 > 0:25:36Can I tell you something?
0:25:38 > 0:25:39Yeah, yeah, sure.
0:25:41 > 0:25:43Your mum tells me not to talk about this with you.
0:25:45 > 0:25:47It's fine, I won't say anything.
0:25:49 > 0:25:51When the sun rises...
0:25:55 > 0:25:58..but everything is OK, because...
0:25:59 > 0:26:00..I can raise the sun.
0:26:03 > 0:26:04Yeah.
0:26:04 > 0:26:06I can raise the sun...
0:26:08 > 0:26:10..and I have worked it out myself.
0:26:18 > 0:26:21PHONE VIBRATES
0:26:24 > 0:26:26HE CRACKS KNUCKLES
0:26:37 > 0:26:40His outpatient appointment for tomorrow.
0:26:42 > 0:26:45Nothing special, regular checkup.
0:26:48 > 0:26:49No need to come.
0:27:33 > 0:27:36- Would you like to follow me to Dr Dutta's office?- Yeah.
0:27:39 > 0:27:40It's the last door on the left.
0:27:44 > 0:27:46- KNOCKING - Come in.
0:27:49 > 0:27:51Hi. THEY GREET IN PUNJABI
0:27:57 > 0:27:59Mum, mum, just sit down.
0:28:03 > 0:28:05I've not seen you before.
0:28:05 > 0:28:07Your sisters and brother, yes, but not you.
0:28:07 > 0:28:08I live in London.
0:28:08 > 0:28:12I just wanted to know a bit more about my father's condition.
0:28:12 > 0:28:14That's no problem, no problem.
0:28:23 > 0:28:28OK, one for the heart, blood pressure, diabetes.
0:28:28 > 0:28:31These are for his mental health problems,
0:28:31 > 0:28:36your father is on quetiapine and a monthly injection of Modecate.
0:28:36 > 0:28:37Injections?
0:28:38 > 0:28:41Your father is not so reliable when it comes to taking his medicines,
0:28:41 > 0:28:43so it's just a backup to ensure he doesn't deteriorate
0:28:43 > 0:28:47beyond a certain point. Jagjiti?
0:29:06 > 0:29:10And I can make the sun rise and both the countries are friends,
0:29:10 > 0:29:12I know that, thank you very much.
0:29:15 > 0:29:16Are you all right?
0:29:18 > 0:29:20Yeah, yeah.
0:29:20 > 0:29:23I've just never seen him so animated.
0:29:23 > 0:29:24At home, he just, you know,
0:29:24 > 0:29:28reads the newspaper or watches the shopping channel,
0:29:28 > 0:29:30I mean, obsessively.
0:29:30 > 0:29:32He may think it's talking to him or about him,
0:29:32 > 0:29:34but if he's becoming delusional,
0:29:34 > 0:29:37let's nip it in the bud - we'll increase his dose.
0:29:37 > 0:29:38Don't do it on my say-so.
0:29:38 > 0:29:41Please, I've been monitoring him for some time,
0:29:41 > 0:29:43I think it'll be good to increase a little -
0:29:43 > 0:29:45with his agreement, of course.
0:29:45 > 0:29:46Jagjiti?
0:29:49 > 0:29:50You're taking two, huna?
0:29:53 > 0:29:55So, to keep you well, we will keep it the same,
0:29:55 > 0:29:57but we'll just double the dosage.
0:30:04 > 0:30:06Thank you very much. Thank you.
0:30:07 > 0:30:10You should know that your father is only doing as well as he is
0:30:10 > 0:30:14because of your mother. She enables him to remain at home,
0:30:14 > 0:30:17although, and I say this with some pride,
0:30:17 > 0:30:20Indian families cope because the entire family rallies around.
0:30:20 > 0:30:24I promise you, 95 out of 100 people like your father
0:30:24 > 0:30:27would be in a nursing home by now - and a closed unit, at that.
0:30:29 > 0:30:32Try not to worry. Continuity is everything,
0:30:32 > 0:30:35it's change that causes the problems.
0:30:35 > 0:30:36Change can throw him off balance,
0:30:36 > 0:30:41but, well, since we have seen no aggression for many years and...
0:30:41 > 0:30:42What, aggression?
0:30:42 > 0:30:44What do you mean, aggression?
0:30:44 > 0:30:45No, I mean, he's...
0:30:45 > 0:30:49Please, remember what I said. Let us not be at loggerheads.
0:30:49 > 0:30:52Oh, he's used to people arguing.
0:30:52 > 0:30:53But not you with me.
0:30:55 > 0:30:56So.
0:31:00 > 0:31:03- Not to worry.- Jagjiti?
0:31:03 > 0:31:05Thank you, thank you.
0:31:05 > 0:31:08THEY SPEAK IN PUNJABI
0:31:16 > 0:31:18Yeah, he was admitted to hospital last night.
0:31:18 > 0:31:20- That's terrible.- Yeah.
0:31:20 > 0:31:23So I just felt I couldn't bring us up now,
0:31:23 > 0:31:25you know, cos the doctor said, at times like this,
0:31:25 > 0:31:28the only reason my dad is not being transferred to a secure unit
0:31:28 > 0:31:31is because his family life is stable.
0:31:33 > 0:31:36- Right.- I mean, you do see that, don't you?
0:31:36 > 0:31:38Of course I do. Yeah, of course.
0:31:40 > 0:31:42- OK.- Listen, do you want me to call Greg
0:31:42 > 0:31:43and get the interview rearranged?
0:31:43 > 0:31:45What time does your dad get out of hospital?
0:31:45 > 0:31:49What do you mean out of hos...? Yeah, yeah, you should.
0:31:51 > 0:31:54Oh, my God.
0:31:54 > 0:31:57- You've lied to me.- Yeah, no, no... Laura, listen...
0:32:02 > 0:32:03- MOTHER:- Sathnam?
0:32:07 > 0:32:09The editor's called me back to London.
0:32:09 > 0:32:12- Sorry.- Is it really urgent?
0:32:12 > 0:32:14- Very.- Important?
0:32:18 > 0:32:20PHONE RINGS
0:32:22 > 0:32:25Sathnam, fuck off.
0:32:28 > 0:32:31MOTOR REVS
0:32:38 > 0:32:39She's on her way to Lisbon.
0:32:40 > 0:32:42- For the travel pages. - Who else is on that piece?
0:32:42 > 0:32:45- Is it Matt on that? - Sathnam, quick word.
0:32:47 > 0:32:50Laura has asked us to withhold her contact details from you.
0:32:50 > 0:32:53I have no idea what's going on between you two,
0:32:53 > 0:32:55but we're all professionals, all right?
0:32:55 > 0:32:56Matt's out in Lisbon, too, isn't he?
0:32:56 > 0:32:58Matt's over there.
0:33:00 > 0:33:01Sathnam...
0:33:01 > 0:33:04Sathnam, listen, mate, there's lots to concentrate on, yeah?
0:33:04 > 0:33:08You've got your interview with Simon Cowell... Sathnam, Sathnam...
0:33:08 > 0:33:11- Laura, come on. - Your stuff's down there.
0:33:11 > 0:33:12Changing the locks?
0:33:12 > 0:33:15- Take your stuff and go. - What about our new flat?
0:33:15 > 0:33:17You love that place, we've just put a deposit down.
0:33:17 > 0:33:19Yeah, you've lost that, too.
0:33:19 > 0:33:21Take your bags and go.
0:33:21 > 0:33:22I don't...I don't want to.
0:33:26 > 0:33:28Laura!
0:33:32 > 0:33:35What? What exactly do you want to say to me, Sathnam?
0:33:38 > 0:33:40Right. Yeah, absolutely nothing.
0:33:40 > 0:33:44- This is, I can't...- "My dad's illiterate but I went to Cambridge,
0:33:44 > 0:33:45"I got a first."
0:33:45 > 0:33:47Big deal! If it makes you so much better,
0:33:47 > 0:33:49then what are you hiding from?
0:33:49 > 0:33:51Cos that's what you're doing.
0:33:51 > 0:33:53"Let's pretend my dad was never ill
0:33:53 > 0:33:56"and let's keep the peasants up in Wolverhampton
0:33:56 > 0:33:59"while I have another life down here," which, incredibly,
0:33:59 > 0:34:01given you don't know the basic facts about your own family,
0:34:01 > 0:34:05includes a job where you're paid to ask strangers about their lives.
0:34:05 > 0:34:08Brilliant! Also, just imagine your reaction
0:34:08 > 0:34:10if it was me telling you I can't introduce you to my family
0:34:10 > 0:34:12because you're Punjabi.
0:34:12 > 0:34:13It's not the same, that is not the same.
0:34:13 > 0:34:15It's a bit the same, Sathnam!
0:34:15 > 0:34:17Not at all, actually, because Sikhs believe all human beings,
0:34:17 > 0:34:20even though they appear different, are one. We are all one, Laura!
0:34:20 > 0:34:23Then what's the fucking problem?!
0:34:26 > 0:34:27Argh!
0:34:45 > 0:34:46Laura...
0:34:55 > 0:34:58MUSIC: It's Happening Again by Agnes Obel
0:35:13 > 0:35:15# I swear it is true
0:35:18 > 0:35:21# The past isn't dead
0:35:21 > 0:35:25# It's alive, it is happening
0:35:25 > 0:35:29# In the back of my head
0:35:29 > 0:35:33# No future, no past
0:35:33 > 0:35:38# No laws of time
0:35:38 > 0:35:42# Can undo what is happening
0:35:42 > 0:35:46# When I close my eyes
0:35:46 > 0:35:50# And with the stars and the moon
0:35:51 > 0:35:54# I woke up in the night
0:35:54 > 0:36:02# In the same place
0:36:02 > 0:36:08# It's sailing
0:36:08 > 0:36:11# Before my eyes
0:36:11 > 0:36:13# It's happening, it's happening
0:36:13 > 0:36:15# It's happening, it's happening
0:36:15 > 0:36:18# It's happening
0:36:18 > 0:36:21# It's happening, it's happening
0:36:21 > 0:36:23# It's happening, it's happening
0:36:23 > 0:36:26# It's happening again. #
0:36:48 > 0:36:50I'm not with a gori or anybody, I'm not with anyone.
0:36:50 > 0:36:53If it makes you so much better than them, what are you hiding from?
0:36:53 > 0:36:55This patient, Mr Jagjiti Sanghera,
0:36:55 > 0:36:57suffers from acute paranoid schizophrenia.
0:36:57 > 0:36:59"Let's pretend my dad was never ill."
0:36:59 > 0:37:02- You know about this?- These are for his mental health problems.
0:37:02 > 0:37:04"Let's keep the peasants up in Wolverhampton
0:37:04 > 0:37:05"while I have another life down here."
0:37:05 > 0:37:07He may think it's talking to him.
0:37:07 > 0:37:09Well, since we have seen no aggression for many years...
0:37:09 > 0:37:11What do you mean, aggression?
0:37:11 > 0:37:13Given you don't know the basic facts about your own family...
0:37:13 > 0:37:16But everything is OK, because I can raise the sun,
0:37:16 > 0:37:19and I have worked it out myself!
0:37:33 > 0:37:36Have you really never noticed anything?
0:38:00 > 0:38:02Sathnam.
0:38:02 > 0:38:04- Sathnam. - SATHNAM ANSWERS IN PUNJABI
0:38:04 > 0:38:05Sathnam...
0:38:15 > 0:38:16Dedi?
0:38:19 > 0:38:23Can I ask about when you first came to this country?
0:38:25 > 0:38:27When you first came here, when you were young...
0:38:29 > 0:38:31..you were younger than me, weren't you?
0:38:34 > 0:38:36I used to ride a bike.
0:38:36 > 0:38:37Did you?
0:38:39 > 0:38:42I used to go everywhere on it.
0:38:44 > 0:38:45I went to... I...
0:38:46 > 0:38:48..went everywhere on the bike.
0:38:51 > 0:38:53- "Everywhere..."- Mum...
0:38:53 > 0:38:55He can't ride a bike.
0:38:55 > 0:38:57I can, I can.
0:39:03 > 0:39:04You didn't have a bike.
0:39:09 > 0:39:10When was that?
0:39:10 > 0:39:14When I first came to this country in...
0:39:15 > 0:39:18- ..1986.- 1986!
0:39:18 > 0:39:21It was 1979.
0:39:21 > 0:39:22I rode a bike.
0:39:23 > 0:39:26I was the strongest man in this country.
0:39:27 > 0:39:30And I used to...lift weights.
0:39:35 > 0:39:37Why are you asking him all these questions?
0:39:37 > 0:39:41Week in, week out, I ask strangers about their lives,
0:39:41 > 0:39:45and I don't know the first thing about my own family,
0:39:45 > 0:39:47and it turns out it's your story, Mum,
0:39:47 > 0:39:49yours and Dedi's, yeah?
0:39:49 > 0:39:51How you've coped, that's the story I need to hear.
0:39:54 > 0:39:55I used to ride a bike.
0:40:10 > 0:40:13I mean, I don't even know how old you were when you first met Dedi.
0:40:14 > 0:40:16You know, when your marriage was arranged.
0:40:25 > 0:40:3015, maybe 16.
0:40:34 > 0:40:36And did you know he was ill?
0:40:43 > 0:40:44What did you know?
0:40:46 > 0:40:50Look, I don't want you to start worrying about all this.
0:40:50 > 0:40:53Mum, I worry about what I don't know.
0:40:54 > 0:40:55OK?
0:41:23 > 0:41:26And then, I mean, they, what, showed you a photo?
0:41:26 > 0:41:28- LAUGHS:- Photo!
0:41:42 > 0:41:44So, you didn't even know what he looked like?
0:41:58 > 0:42:00I told you about a Sikh girl,
0:42:00 > 0:42:03I have a number for her now, she's a doctor.
0:42:03 > 0:42:05- Mum, Mum...- Doctor!
0:42:05 > 0:42:08Mum, this is about you, not me.
0:42:09 > 0:42:12OK? Go on.
0:42:22 > 0:42:24SHE SIGHS
0:42:36 > 0:42:39TRADITIONAL SINGING
0:43:16 > 0:43:18He just sat there.
0:43:23 > 0:43:25What happened after that?
0:43:27 > 0:43:31Mum, what about afterwards, after the wedding?
0:43:33 > 0:43:38Firstly, we were sent to Southall to live with
0:43:38 > 0:43:42Auntie Sharanjit and Uncle Mohinder.
0:44:20 > 0:44:23PHONE VIBRATES
0:44:44 > 0:44:46- So, what year was it?- 1666.
0:44:46 > 0:44:491666. And where did it start?
0:44:49 > 0:44:50In the bakery.
0:44:50 > 0:44:51In the bakery, very good.
0:44:51 > 0:44:54So, who have you interviewed lately, Sathnam?
0:44:54 > 0:44:55- Salman Rushdie.- Who?
0:44:55 > 0:44:58Go bring it to the table.
0:44:58 > 0:45:00- Carlos Slim Helu.- What?
0:45:00 > 0:45:01Sounds like a dish.
0:45:01 > 0:45:03He's the second richest man in the world.
0:45:05 > 0:45:08Oh, I'm doing Simon Cowell tomorrow.
0:45:08 > 0:45:10- Oh.- Nice.
0:45:15 > 0:45:17Are you sat back at the table, yeah?
0:45:17 > 0:45:19Have you washed your hands?
0:45:20 > 0:45:22Hey, you know what,
0:45:22 > 0:45:24Mum's got our Sathnam on a hot date later.
0:45:24 > 0:45:26- Oh, yeah?- Yeah.
0:45:26 > 0:45:28Little bro has a date with a doctor.
0:45:28 > 0:45:31- Hey!- Yeah. Geriatrics doctor.
0:45:31 > 0:45:33What, a geriatric?
0:45:33 > 0:45:34Oh, we hope not!
0:45:34 > 0:45:36LAUGHTER
0:45:39 > 0:45:41She looks like Alesha Dixon.
0:45:44 > 0:45:46Sathnam, I've ironed your jeans.
0:45:46 > 0:45:48- Oi-oi!- Oh, yes!
0:45:48 > 0:45:51- Nice.- Yeah, thanks.
0:45:52 > 0:45:55MUSIC: Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go by Wham!
0:45:57 > 0:45:58- Do you remember this one?- Yeah!
0:46:34 > 0:46:38Hey, do remember with Michael Jackson's Liberian Girl
0:46:38 > 0:46:41how you thought it was librarian girl?!
0:46:41 > 0:46:43Yeah, yeah, yeah, with that Swahili bit at the beginning!
0:46:43 > 0:46:46# Piya-Mpenziwe... #
0:46:46 > 0:46:49And you thought it was the librarian saying, "Put your pens away!"
0:46:49 > 0:46:52- Oh, yeah!- Well, at least I didn't think Walsall was the capital
0:46:52 > 0:46:56of Poland and that the Famous Five books are written by Grid Blyton -
0:46:56 > 0:46:59Noddy Goes To Toyland by Grid Blyton.
0:46:59 > 0:47:03- EMBARRASSED:- It was the way her signature looked on the book covers.
0:47:03 > 0:47:04How she did her E.
0:47:04 > 0:47:07- MUSIC: Club Tropicana by Wham! - Remember this?- Oh!
0:47:07 > 0:47:09- Yeah? Remember this? - Do you remember this?
0:47:09 > 0:47:10It's Club Tropicana. You remember.
0:47:20 > 0:47:21Puli, do you remember this?
0:47:21 > 0:47:24Of course she does, it was her favourite. Come on.
0:47:46 > 0:47:47With the girls...
0:47:50 > 0:47:52We haven't seen you this much in ages.
0:47:52 > 0:47:54Hey, it's good. It's nice.
0:47:54 > 0:47:55Steady on.
0:47:56 > 0:48:00I went with Dedi to see his doctor at the clinic the other day.
0:48:00 > 0:48:03- Doctor Dutta?- Yeah.- Good man.- Yeah.
0:48:03 > 0:48:06Why don't we ever talk about Dedi's schizophrenia?
0:48:06 > 0:48:08- SHE SIGHS - What's there to talk about?
0:48:08 > 0:48:11Well, Doctor Dutta mentioned aggression.
0:48:11 > 0:48:13What are you saying?
0:48:13 > 0:48:16When was the last time you saw Dedi be aggressive?
0:48:16 > 0:48:18Never, never.
0:48:18 > 0:48:19He's the kindest, gentlest man.
0:48:19 > 0:48:22No, I'm not saying he isn't, and he's on medication now.
0:48:22 > 0:48:24He's been on medication since before you were born.
0:48:24 > 0:48:26Why are you bringing this up now?
0:48:26 > 0:48:28Bindi, I didn't know this till two days ago.
0:48:28 > 0:48:29Of course you knew.
0:48:29 > 0:48:31- I-I didn't.- You knew.
0:48:31 > 0:48:35- I didn't.- Listen, you're off doing important stuff down in London.
0:48:35 > 0:48:37What's that supposed to mean?
0:48:37 > 0:48:40You're there, we're here, Dedi is Dedi.
0:48:40 > 0:48:43Nothing's new. Why make a big deal when things are OK?
0:48:43 > 0:48:47Look, Dedi's happy, he's got Mum, he takes his medicine,
0:48:47 > 0:48:49it is what it is and always has been.
0:48:49 > 0:48:51And if anything needs doing, we rally round.
0:48:51 > 0:48:53- Mummy, I need the toilet. - SHE SIGHS
0:48:53 > 0:48:56If you want something to worry about, have kids.
0:48:56 > 0:48:59- Come on, hun, come on. - Rajah, you're wanted.
0:48:59 > 0:49:01Yeah, coming.
0:49:05 > 0:49:08So, what time are you meeting your geriatric doctor?
0:49:08 > 0:49:09Oh, come on, don't start that again.
0:49:09 > 0:49:11You want to fight, yeah?
0:49:41 > 0:49:43Oh, thank you.
0:49:46 > 0:49:47Hi.
0:49:53 > 0:49:55Just trying to decide what to have.
0:49:57 > 0:49:58Hi.
0:49:58 > 0:50:00- Are you...?- Hi.
0:50:00 > 0:50:02Kirin, sorry I'm late.
0:50:02 > 0:50:05Sathnam. Yeah, no problem.
0:50:05 > 0:50:08Can I get you a drink? Decaf, triple venti, non-fat, three splendour,
0:50:08 > 0:50:09extra hot, stirred, no foam,
0:50:09 > 0:50:13caramel macchiato with whipped cream and extra caramel.
0:50:13 > 0:50:15I'll just have an Americano, please.
0:50:15 > 0:50:17- Fat milk, thanks.- Fat milk.
0:50:23 > 0:50:26Hi, yeah, an Americano and a flat white, please.
0:50:33 > 0:50:34- Thanks.- Here we are.
0:50:41 > 0:50:43My mum ironed them.
0:50:43 > 0:50:46Something my brother very much enjoys.
0:50:48 > 0:50:49These chairs!
0:50:53 > 0:50:55So, do you have siblings?
0:50:55 > 0:50:57Just the one, I'm eldest of two.
0:50:57 > 0:50:58Oh, youngest of four.
0:51:00 > 0:51:04And where did you study medicine?
0:51:04 > 0:51:05At Trinity College, Oxford.
0:51:05 > 0:51:07Cool. English at Cambridge.
0:51:07 > 0:51:08- Ah.- A first.
0:51:10 > 0:51:13Yeah. And are your parents doctors?
0:51:13 > 0:51:16Uh-uh. My mum's a seamstress.
0:51:16 > 0:51:17No, where?
0:51:17 > 0:51:21- SPNL.- Oh, my mum worked at GGED.
0:51:21 > 0:51:23- No?- Yeah, yeah.
0:51:23 > 0:51:24I worked there, too,
0:51:24 > 0:51:28as a kid with my brothers and sisters doing up buttons,
0:51:28 > 0:51:29clipping threads,
0:51:29 > 0:51:31doing 14 hours a day.
0:51:31 > 0:51:33- What?- Child labour!
0:51:34 > 0:51:36Weekends, every holiday.
0:51:36 > 0:51:40If you ever need anything wrapped in cellophane, just call Sathnam.
0:51:42 > 0:51:44So what does your dad do?
0:51:44 > 0:51:45Mine's a bus driver.
0:51:45 > 0:51:47HE LAUGHS
0:51:49 > 0:51:51Sorry, it's...
0:51:56 > 0:51:58Yeah...
0:51:58 > 0:52:01I mean, mine has a severe mental illness.
0:52:02 > 0:52:03Oh.
0:52:03 > 0:52:05That must be really difficult.
0:52:05 > 0:52:09But you and your siblings help support the family, I mean,
0:52:09 > 0:52:11- that's admirable.- No, no.
0:52:11 > 0:52:15I mainly use my wages to buy George Michael records, so...
0:52:16 > 0:52:17I'm sure you helped a bit.
0:52:18 > 0:52:22I seem to have convinced myself there was nothing wrong with my dad,
0:52:22 > 0:52:24so no help needed, which is interesting.
0:52:24 > 0:52:26I lie to myself as well as to others...
0:52:28 > 0:52:30..Kirin. I lie all the time, I lie to everyone -
0:52:30 > 0:52:33I lie to my parents, I lie to my girlfriend.
0:53:49 > 0:53:52BELL DINGS
0:54:33 > 0:54:36SPOKES RATTLE
0:56:18 > 0:56:20Mum, you know what we were talking about the other day?
0:56:20 > 0:56:22The station is that road.
0:56:22 > 0:56:24You've gone wrong, it is back there.
0:56:24 > 0:56:26Yeah, yes, I'm taking you all the way there, Mum,
0:56:26 > 0:56:28I'm taking you to the hospital.
0:56:28 > 0:56:29What? No.
0:56:29 > 0:56:32- Yes.- What about your interview?
0:56:32 > 0:56:33I'm not due there till two,
0:56:33 > 0:56:36and this is one of the best cars in the world,
0:56:36 > 0:56:39so door-to-door service with style, Mum.
0:56:40 > 0:56:42So if it's OK with you,
0:56:42 > 0:56:45I just thought maybe we could talk some more about those early days.
0:56:50 > 0:56:52- I have to have water! - Yes, yes, I'll get you some.
0:56:58 > 0:57:02Mum, how did you find out that Dedi, you know...?
0:57:10 > 0:57:12Mum...
0:57:12 > 0:57:13Mum...
0:57:13 > 0:57:15SHE TURNS ON RADIO
0:57:15 > 0:57:17HE TURNS IT OFF
0:57:18 > 0:57:19Mum...
0:57:33 > 0:57:36SIREN BLARES
0:58:05 > 0:58:07THEY GREET ONE ANOTHER
0:58:07 > 0:58:10Hey, stranger!
0:58:10 > 0:58:14Hello, Sathnam, long time no see.
0:58:14 > 0:58:17How are you? You're looking well.
0:58:17 > 0:58:21And I hear you're on your way to interview Mr X Factor.
0:58:21 > 0:58:22I am, yes.
0:58:22 > 0:58:24You've met everyone. Go now.
0:58:24 > 0:58:27When you come back for your mother, if you want,
0:58:27 > 0:58:31we are happy to talk about Mum and Dad in the early days.
0:58:31 > 0:58:34Well, not happy, but it's no problem.
0:58:34 > 0:58:36Your mum texted and asked.
0:58:37 > 0:58:39You have a very important meeting.
0:58:42 > 0:58:43I'll see you in a bit.
0:58:50 > 0:58:52- JOKINGLY:- Go back!
0:59:09 > 0:59:11He cancels you just like that?
0:59:11 > 0:59:15How rude. Mind, he does what he wants, doesn't he?
0:59:15 > 0:59:18He's very full to the brim of himself.
0:59:18 > 0:59:21The way he talks to Louis, I don't like him.
0:59:21 > 0:59:24To be honest, Auntie, I'd rather be here talking to you.
0:59:24 > 0:59:27Now, I'm a little concerned about you eating all this...
0:59:27 > 0:59:30Indian food is the best for building strength,
0:59:30 > 0:59:32and we can talk while we eat.
0:59:42 > 0:59:44It's fine, leave her be.
0:59:48 > 0:59:50Er, OK.
0:59:50 > 0:59:52No, no, no.
0:59:52 > 0:59:54PHONE BEEPS
0:59:54 > 0:59:55Um...
0:59:58 > 1:00:01- Popular!- They're all old ones.
1:00:01 > 1:00:04Auntie, do you mind if I record this?
1:00:09 > 1:00:10Um...
1:00:13 > 1:00:15Mum got as far as telling me about the wedding.
1:00:15 > 1:00:17- Oh, yes.- Yes, very good.
1:00:19 > 1:00:21So, what happened after that?
1:00:24 > 1:00:28We helped them up and they came home with us.
1:00:58 > 1:01:01So my dad was ill when he first arrived in England.
1:01:01 > 1:01:02Ill?
1:01:02 > 1:01:04No, he was not ill when he came here.
1:01:04 > 1:01:06No, not ill at all.
1:01:06 > 1:01:10He was as strong as an ox.
1:01:10 > 1:01:13He was a star kabaddi player.
1:01:13 > 1:01:15Oh, and what a weightlifter he was.
1:01:15 > 1:01:17He said he did weightlifting.
1:01:17 > 1:01:19Oh, he was really very strong.
1:01:22 > 1:01:25He would eat half a packet of butter with each meal.
1:01:25 > 1:01:27At least half a pack.
1:01:27 > 1:01:29So, Dad was happy when he arrived?
1:01:29 > 1:01:31Yes, very happy.
1:01:31 > 1:01:32Happy, happy.
1:01:32 > 1:01:37He worked hard, played hard and he was like everyone else.
1:01:37 > 1:01:39Never fighting or anything, nothing.
1:01:41 > 1:01:44That's not entirely true.
1:01:44 > 1:01:49Soon after he arrived, he becomes...strange.
1:01:51 > 1:01:53Yes.
1:01:53 > 1:01:54He was different.
1:01:54 > 1:01:58He...he gets upset over nothing.
1:01:58 > 1:01:59Nothing at all.
1:02:00 > 1:02:01And after the wedding...
1:02:03 > 1:02:06..then it's worse, much worse.
1:02:44 > 1:02:49Now, he's in fights all the time.
1:02:49 > 1:02:54Hurting himself, getting sacked from every job,
1:02:54 > 1:02:55and, of course,
1:02:55 > 1:02:57he takes it out on your mother.
1:03:01 > 1:03:02It was...
1:03:03 > 1:03:07..around then that some people started saying he'd gone mad.
1:03:07 > 1:03:10Who said that? We never said that, and we never would.
1:03:10 > 1:03:12- They were right, though, weren't they?- What do you mean?
1:03:12 > 1:03:15Auntie, something went wrong with his mind, he became ill.
1:03:15 > 1:03:18Yes, well, everything got better when you arrived.
1:03:18 > 1:03:19No, it was nothing to do with me.
1:03:19 > 1:03:23Yes, when you were born, when you arrived, from then he got better.
1:03:23 > 1:03:25You changed everything.
1:03:25 > 1:03:28It was the medicine that made him better, the medication he was on,
1:03:28 > 1:03:30it was nothing to do with me.
1:03:31 > 1:03:35Well, you should also know a lot of people think maybe your mum does
1:03:35 > 1:03:38something. No, I have to say this.
1:03:38 > 1:03:40- Does something?- Yes.
1:03:40 > 1:03:42My mother, your grandmother,
1:03:42 > 1:03:45she says she has done something to...
1:03:45 > 1:03:50- Like what?- Like magic, black magic, like a witch.
1:03:50 > 1:03:52We think she cast spells on your father.
1:03:52 > 1:03:55Mum is the only reason my dad survived.
1:03:56 > 1:04:00But why do Indians always need to blame someone?
1:04:00 > 1:04:02It's an illness,
1:04:02 > 1:04:03just an illness.
1:04:16 > 1:04:19This illness you speak of...
1:04:19 > 1:04:22- Schizophrenia.- Yes.
1:04:22 > 1:04:24It affects young people?
1:04:24 > 1:04:26That's when it often sets in, yes.
1:04:26 > 1:04:28And it runs in the family?
1:04:28 > 1:04:29It can, yes.
1:04:30 > 1:04:33So is that what your sister has?
1:04:36 > 1:04:38Is that what Puli has, too?
1:04:45 > 1:04:46It is, yeah.
1:05:07 > 1:05:08Hi.
1:05:11 > 1:05:14- Yeah, good.- Never come in! - Eh, shush!
1:05:14 > 1:05:16- Hello! How are you?- OK.
1:05:18 > 1:05:19Is Puli in?
1:05:19 > 1:05:21Yes, of course. Puli!
1:05:28 > 1:05:29Can we talk?
1:05:51 > 1:05:53Sorry.
1:05:54 > 1:05:55I find it easier to write things down.
1:05:59 > 1:06:00Here.
1:06:02 > 1:06:03Do you want me to read it?
1:06:06 > 1:06:09"Sathnam's been asking Mum the same questions I asked once.
1:06:12 > 1:06:14"He wants to know what happened.
1:06:15 > 1:06:17"He's like me, very like me.
1:06:17 > 1:06:19"We might have been the same if things were different.
1:06:21 > 1:06:25"I was clever, too, but as soon as I started to get ill, I slowed down.
1:06:25 > 1:06:27"Once I was on medication..."
1:06:27 > 1:06:29No, just the first bit.
1:06:29 > 1:06:30No, it's so true.
1:06:31 > 1:06:33- Yeah.- I was cleverer than you.
1:06:33 > 1:06:35You are cleverer.
1:06:52 > 1:06:53I've been...
1:06:55 > 1:06:58..very wrapped up in myself.
1:07:01 > 1:07:06In my work, and in my life in London, too wrapped up in...
1:07:09 > 1:07:11And I want to be a better brother.
1:07:15 > 1:07:16Oh, yeah.
1:07:20 > 1:07:21You know how...
1:07:23 > 1:07:26..space capsules separate?
1:07:27 > 1:07:28And are on their own?
1:07:34 > 1:07:35I'm a part.
1:07:39 > 1:07:41I punch below sometimes.
1:07:43 > 1:07:48I can't help thinking my life could have gone a different way.
1:07:48 > 1:07:51- Yeah, it could have. - And I still try, I'm not lazy,
1:07:51 > 1:07:53I've never stopped having goals.
1:08:00 > 1:08:03Do you know when I knew how ill I was?
1:08:07 > 1:08:09It was when I was first sectioned.
1:08:17 > 1:08:18You looked disgusted.
1:08:38 > 1:08:42Mum says that was the day you went and had your topknot cut off.
1:08:44 > 1:08:47She said that was the day she knew you would leave us.
1:09:16 > 1:09:18Puli...
1:09:23 > 1:09:25SOBS: I'm so... I'm sorry.
1:09:27 > 1:09:30I don't know why, but I need you to know how I feel.
1:09:32 > 1:09:34You more than anyone, I think...
1:09:35 > 1:09:39..because we are almost the same.
1:09:39 > 1:09:40It's like...
1:09:48 > 1:09:49..to be...
1:09:50 > 1:09:53..who I really am...
1:09:59 > 1:10:00..that must...
1:10:02 > 1:10:03..be like flying.
1:11:06 > 1:11:08BEEP
1:13:03 > 1:13:05Why would you ask that?
1:13:05 > 1:13:07Have you? Would you like to tell us...?
1:13:07 > 1:13:11- Just showing off! Go on. Once again...- Yeah.
1:13:11 > 1:13:13It was actually a female this time.
1:13:15 > 1:13:16- OK.- Are you serious?
1:13:17 > 1:13:19Certainly serious. Certainly serious.
1:13:21 > 1:13:22Laura...
1:13:24 > 1:13:28- Sathnam.- I just want to say congratulations.
1:13:28 > 1:13:30I mean, I assume you got that promotion.
1:13:30 > 1:13:32Sathnam, don't let Greg see you.
1:13:32 > 1:13:34- Where's the Ferrari?- It's outside.
1:13:34 > 1:13:36They've reported it stolen.
1:13:36 > 1:13:39And...you've been sacked.
1:13:42 > 1:13:45Congratulations again, you deserve it.
1:14:18 > 1:14:21Hello. Where you going?
1:14:24 > 1:14:26Sit down. Sit down.
1:14:28 > 1:14:30Press play, and watch the DVD.
1:14:31 > 1:14:33Because I'm asking you to.
1:14:38 > 1:14:39Ready?
1:17:49 > 1:17:51You understand?
1:18:03 > 1:18:04Mum, have you watched it?
1:18:06 > 1:18:07Yes, watched enough.
1:18:07 > 1:18:08No, no...
1:18:08 > 1:18:11- Yes.- No, watch it all.
1:18:11 > 1:18:12Watch all of it.
1:18:12 > 1:18:15Come on, this is important. I made this for you.
1:18:15 > 1:18:16Sit down.
1:18:17 > 1:18:18And how much...
1:18:20 > 1:18:22..it cost, this translate?
1:18:22 > 1:18:24If you must know, £300.
1:18:27 > 1:18:30Watch it. Watch it.
1:18:34 > 1:18:36He's too funny.
1:19:36 > 1:19:39RAIN AND THUNDER
1:19:52 > 1:19:54You've seen it all now, right?
1:19:55 > 1:19:57Yes.
1:19:57 > 1:19:58So my girlfriend's name was...?
1:20:01 > 1:20:03- Mum, what was her name?- Laura.
1:20:04 > 1:20:05Thank you.
1:20:10 > 1:20:12But you have now split, huna?
1:20:21 > 1:20:24No. No, no. Mum, Mum, listen...
1:20:24 > 1:20:26Look at me.
1:20:26 > 1:20:27Look at me.
1:20:32 > 1:20:35I love you, Mum. I love you.
1:20:37 > 1:20:38And I loved Laura.
1:20:39 > 1:20:41I still do, I love her.
1:20:44 > 1:20:47We were going to get married and have children.
1:20:48 > 1:20:49But she's gone.
1:20:51 > 1:20:52And she's gone because...
1:20:54 > 1:20:56..I wanted your blessing, Mum.
1:20:56 > 1:21:00I needed your blessing, we both did.
1:21:03 > 1:21:05I just... I just couldn't... I couldn't ask.
1:21:05 > 1:21:06I was too scared.
1:21:11 > 1:21:12You know, I want to have...
1:21:12 > 1:21:17..a joined up life with no fear and no more lies.
1:21:17 > 1:21:18I need you to be part of that.
1:21:18 > 1:21:19Do you understand?
1:21:31 > 1:21:33Yes.
1:21:48 > 1:21:50She's a dentist.
1:21:50 > 1:21:51She's so pretty.
1:21:53 > 1:21:56She looks just like Kylie Minogue.
1:21:56 > 1:21:58Right, I'm off.
1:22:05 > 1:22:07Right, Dedi, I'm going.
1:22:07 > 1:22:09FATHER SPEAKS IN PUNJABI
1:22:17 > 1:22:21DOOR OPENS, CLOSES
1:22:41 > 1:22:43- SPEAKER:- The train now standing at platform three
1:22:43 > 1:22:49is the 18:03 CrossCountry service to Birmingham New Street,
1:22:49 > 1:22:52- calling at Birmingham New Street. - PHONE RINGS
1:22:57 > 1:22:58Sathnam Sanghera.
1:23:00 > 1:23:01Hello?
1:23:03 > 1:23:04- Hello?- It's me.
1:23:06 > 1:23:08Laura, hi.
1:23:09 > 1:23:10How's it going?
1:23:14 > 1:23:15Well, I'm...
1:23:17 > 1:23:19I'm up in Wolves. And, erm...
1:23:26 > 1:23:29I just...I just told my mum everything, and it was...
1:23:35 > 1:23:37But I did it.
1:23:39 > 1:23:40I actually did it!
1:23:42 > 1:23:44And, erm...
1:23:44 > 1:23:46I'm sorry I wasn't brave enough sooner.
1:23:46 > 1:23:47Sathnam...
1:23:50 > 1:23:51Sathnam.
1:24:01 > 1:24:02I, erm...
1:24:04 > 1:24:06..found this in the office, and...
1:24:07 > 1:24:09..I saw my name.
1:24:11 > 1:24:12Five times.
1:24:14 > 1:24:16So...eventually guessed.
1:24:16 > 1:24:19But it's...it's all in Punjabi.
1:24:19 > 1:24:22Oh, yeah, I know.
1:24:22 > 1:24:25Put it into Google Translate, which gives the gist.
1:24:27 > 1:24:29Yeah.
1:24:29 > 1:24:30Yeah.
1:24:33 > 1:24:34I as...
1:24:37 > 1:24:39I as good as ran away.
1:24:39 > 1:24:40You know?
1:24:41 > 1:24:43Cut my topknot off and left.
1:24:43 > 1:24:46You were right. I was hiding.
1:24:47 > 1:24:48You're back now, though.
1:24:50 > 1:24:52I told my mum I'd wanted to marry you.
1:25:12 > 1:25:14You know, I also said I wished she'd met you.
1:25:16 > 1:25:18And since you're here...
1:25:18 > 1:25:19You know, maybe...
1:25:20 > 1:25:21Do you fancy it?
1:25:24 > 1:25:25Yeah.
1:25:56 > 1:25:59By the way, I've exchanged on the flat.
1:26:14 > 1:26:15I love you.
1:26:37 > 1:26:40# Show me, show me, show me how you do that trick
1:26:40 > 1:26:43# The one that makes me scream, she said
1:26:43 > 1:26:47# The one that makes me laugh, she said
1:26:47 > 1:26:50# And threw her arms around my neck
1:26:50 > 1:26:52# Show me how you do it
1:26:52 > 1:26:58# I promise you, I promise that I'll run away with you
1:26:59 > 1:27:02# I'll run away with you. #