Oritse Williams

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0:00:02 > 0:00:0470 years ago, plans for a revolution took place

0:00:04 > 0:00:07that changed all of our lives in Britain.

0:00:08 > 0:00:13We're out to improve the health of every family and the whole nation.

0:00:13 > 0:00:16Its name? The National Health Service.

0:00:17 > 0:00:20We're taking a look at the NHS then and now...

0:00:20 > 0:00:24- Adrenaline!- He's had six adrenaline.

0:00:24 > 0:00:26..to see how much has changed.

0:00:27 > 0:00:31- Is that real? - To meet staff and patients...

0:00:31 > 0:00:34Let me help you out. Sorry, it's my first day here.

0:00:34 > 0:00:37..with extraordinary medical stories.

0:00:38 > 0:00:41- You died, basically. - For three minutes, yes.

0:00:41 > 0:00:44It's quite emotional seeing you. Thank you.

0:00:44 > 0:00:47- Surprise! - ALL: Surprise!

0:00:47 > 0:00:50I'm Oritse Williams and I know first-hand how hard it can be

0:00:50 > 0:00:54caring for someone you love when they fall ill.

0:00:54 > 0:00:58- They've gone from being our men to being our kids.- Yeah.

0:00:58 > 0:01:00And now I want to find out more about how the NHS

0:01:00 > 0:01:02takes care of our ageing population.

0:01:02 > 0:01:06That's all our mums and dads, grannies and grandpas.

0:01:06 > 0:01:09This is my favourite singer now. Yeah, my new favourite singer!

0:01:20 > 0:01:23I'm mostly known for my time in JLS.

0:01:23 > 0:01:25We sold over ten million records worldwide

0:01:25 > 0:01:26and had five UK number ones.

0:01:28 > 0:01:30It was quite a ride.

0:01:30 > 0:01:32But what's less well-known is what fuelled that journey.

0:01:38 > 0:01:40When I was 12 years old,

0:01:40 > 0:01:42my mother was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis.

0:01:42 > 0:01:46And, er...it was a huge impact on all of our family.

0:01:46 > 0:01:49Obviously, I'm my mother's eldest son -

0:01:49 > 0:01:52I just felt like I had to be the one to be there.

0:01:52 > 0:01:55I lost a bit of my childhood, you could say,

0:01:55 > 0:01:59but at the same time, I had to grow up a lot quicker and, er...I learnt

0:01:59 > 0:02:03about taking responsibility and taking care of the people you love.

0:02:06 > 0:02:09Obviously, that was my whole determination behind music,

0:02:09 > 0:02:11was to give my mum a better life.

0:02:11 > 0:02:15And without that, I don't think I'd be doing music.

0:02:15 > 0:02:19I don't think I would've been a quarter as successful as I,

0:02:19 > 0:02:23you know, was fortunate enough to become, you know.

0:02:24 > 0:02:27It was hard to enjoy the success knowing that my mum

0:02:27 > 0:02:29was going through such a difficult time.

0:02:29 > 0:02:32Thankfully, she also had the support of the NHS,

0:02:32 > 0:02:33but it's never been easy.

0:02:35 > 0:02:37When I look back on it, it affected me

0:02:37 > 0:02:40more than I realised in many ways.

0:02:40 > 0:02:44And, um...as I get older, I thought it would probably get easier,

0:02:44 > 0:02:48but it actually gets harder to accept and deal with.

0:02:48 > 0:02:51And I know for, you know,

0:02:51 > 0:02:54obviously, many people caring for loved ones,

0:02:54 > 0:02:56no matter what the age...

0:02:57 > 0:03:01..it probably doesn't get any easier, if truth be told.

0:03:03 > 0:03:05I'm on my way to visit my mum.

0:03:05 > 0:03:08She recently moved into supported accommodation.

0:03:08 > 0:03:11It's the first time in nearly ten years that she's had her own place

0:03:11 > 0:03:14and I'm dying to see how she's settling in.

0:03:14 > 0:03:17- Hello, Oritse! Hi!- Hi, Mum!

0:03:17 > 0:03:19- How are you? Mwah!- Mwah!

0:03:19 > 0:03:22- This place has changed so much. - Yeah!

0:03:22 > 0:03:25Oh, my goodness! Is this your artwork?

0:03:25 > 0:03:27Yes, it is.

0:03:27 > 0:03:30What, you painted all these? That's amazing!

0:03:32 > 0:03:35- How are you settling in, Mum? - Very well.

0:03:35 > 0:03:36Yeah? Are you enjoying it?

0:03:36 > 0:03:40It's very nice because you get around

0:03:40 > 0:03:43and you meet the other residents.

0:03:43 > 0:03:47- You got all these new red cushions. You put red in it.- Yeah.

0:03:47 > 0:03:51- Do you think that's enough? Three there...- Yeah.

0:03:51 > 0:03:53- ..and two there. - They look beautiful.

0:03:53 > 0:03:57In many ways, my mum has the best of both worlds.

0:03:57 > 0:03:59Lots of features in her house

0:03:59 > 0:04:01allow her the independence she's been craving,

0:04:01 > 0:04:05but there's also plenty of support just an alarm cord away.

0:04:05 > 0:04:08It's great to see how well my mum's settling in.

0:04:08 > 0:04:11It seems to have given her a whole new lease of life.

0:04:11 > 0:04:14This is, er...really great because, you know,

0:04:14 > 0:04:17everything in the kitchen is, like, wheelchair height,

0:04:17 > 0:04:19so my mum can really do everything independently.

0:04:19 > 0:04:22And what I also love

0:04:22 > 0:04:26- is having that little garden out there.- Yeah.

0:04:26 > 0:04:31I plan to maybe, in a month or two,

0:04:31 > 0:04:35- get some garden furniture.- Yeah.

0:04:35 > 0:04:38I could invite friends around.

0:04:40 > 0:04:42The disease Mum has, multiple sclerosis,

0:04:42 > 0:04:45has only really been understood since the 1960s,

0:04:45 > 0:04:49when it was discovered to be a disease of the autoimmune system.

0:04:49 > 0:04:53It affects movement, balance and, in my mum's case, her speech.

0:04:53 > 0:04:55Over the last 50 years, advances

0:04:55 > 0:04:58in MRI technology pioneered here in Britain

0:04:58 > 0:05:01have allowed diagnosis to be made quicker and more efficiently.

0:05:04 > 0:05:06Growing up, it was sometimes difficult.

0:05:08 > 0:05:11Originally from the West Indies, Mum did it mostly on her own,

0:05:11 > 0:05:13with the help of my grandma.

0:05:13 > 0:05:15Supporting two boys and my sister was tough

0:05:15 > 0:05:18and we frequently relied on hand-outs and food parcels.

0:05:18 > 0:05:21When Mum, who was a qualified lawyer, got sick,

0:05:21 > 0:05:23things got really tough.

0:05:23 > 0:05:27Without the NHS free at the point of use, it would have been impossible.

0:05:29 > 0:05:31I want to hear her thoughts on this period of our lives,

0:05:31 > 0:05:34so I've brought along some photos that I found in a box at home.

0:05:36 > 0:05:40- How old was I there?- Now, you were about...- I was about five? Seven?

0:05:40 > 0:05:42No, I think six, seven.

0:05:42 > 0:05:44- Six, seven. OK.- Yeah.

0:05:44 > 0:05:46- Do we look alike?- Yes.

0:05:46 > 0:05:48Yes. Same eyes.

0:05:48 > 0:05:51- Definitely, same eyes.- Yeah.

0:05:51 > 0:05:53ORITSE LAUGHS

0:05:53 > 0:05:55And, you know, around that time,

0:05:55 > 0:06:00obviously, was when we found out you had multiple sclerosis, isn't it?

0:06:00 > 0:06:05- It was just before then. - Yeah. Just before then.- Yeah.

0:06:05 > 0:06:09- I was about 12 years old, at that time.- Yeah.

0:06:09 > 0:06:13I was really thinking recently about reflecting back, when I was 12,

0:06:13 > 0:06:16you know, when things started to change.

0:06:16 > 0:06:18I was thinking about the moment that really sunk in for me,

0:06:18 > 0:06:23when, obviously, I realised that this is real.

0:06:23 > 0:06:29I think it was the time when I found you in the bath, you were delirious,

0:06:29 > 0:06:31I had to get you out of the bath myself.

0:06:31 > 0:06:35That was definitely the moment that I realised that,

0:06:35 > 0:06:37OK, something's definitely not right here.

0:06:37 > 0:06:39Obviously, having my own son now,

0:06:39 > 0:06:42I can't even imagine what you would have felt like as a parent,

0:06:42 > 0:06:47you know, when, obviously, the diagnosis came.

0:06:48 > 0:06:54Well, it's bad, but my opinion is

0:06:54 > 0:06:58that you can't blame yourself

0:06:58 > 0:07:02for these things that are happening to you.

0:07:02 > 0:07:06- It is, sort of, out of your control.- Yeah.

0:07:06 > 0:07:09I brought this for you as a surprise, Mum.

0:07:09 > 0:07:12You must have been about five years old then.

0:07:12 > 0:07:14Yeah. I think you're right.

0:07:15 > 0:07:18This is when...

0:07:18 > 0:07:21Just before I came to England.

0:07:21 > 0:07:22From Jamaica?

0:07:22 > 0:07:27Yeah, from Jamaica. I was a pretty little girl, wasn't I?

0:07:27 > 0:07:31You're still a pretty little girl now, Mum. HE LAUGHS

0:07:31 > 0:07:34I tell you what, shall I put this up?

0:07:34 > 0:07:37- Pride of position. - Definitely.

0:07:37 > 0:07:40Sort of, put it in the centre.

0:07:40 > 0:07:41Here we go.

0:07:41 > 0:07:44Yeah. I think it looks beautiful, don't you?

0:07:47 > 0:07:49I like visiting my mum here.

0:07:49 > 0:07:52As well as her house, there are shared gardens for walks

0:07:52 > 0:07:54that also provide produce for all the residents.

0:07:56 > 0:07:58There's also a central communal area

0:07:58 > 0:08:01which contains my mum's favourite room by far,

0:08:01 > 0:08:03the art room.

0:08:03 > 0:08:06Well, you're the artist, Mum. So, you've got to tell me...

0:08:06 > 0:08:08The small one.

0:08:10 > 0:08:14Yes. And take it over to the table.

0:08:14 > 0:08:18- OK.- Now, I want... Over here.- OK.

0:08:18 > 0:08:19Come on, then.

0:08:19 > 0:08:22To see my mum here, I'm over the moon.

0:08:22 > 0:08:24She seems so much settled.

0:08:24 > 0:08:26She seems happy.

0:08:26 > 0:08:28You know, it's been a very, very long journey for us

0:08:28 > 0:08:33to get to this point, where she's at a place where she can feel at home.

0:08:33 > 0:08:36And I can see what it's doing for her self-esteem

0:08:36 > 0:08:38and for her self-confidence.

0:08:38 > 0:08:41I think every person, no matter what their age,

0:08:41 > 0:08:45no matter what their ability, deserves to be happy.

0:08:45 > 0:08:48And, ultimately, that's all that matters.

0:08:48 > 0:08:51As a family, we owe so much to the NHS.

0:08:51 > 0:08:55Thanks to it, we'll now have our mum into old age.

0:08:55 > 0:08:58Yet, I don't really know that much about its history.

0:08:59 > 0:09:03I want to go back to find out exactly how the NHS came into being.

0:09:03 > 0:09:07And, to do that, I'm heading across the Severn Bridge to Wales...

0:09:08 > 0:09:11..to a place where a man called Bevan was born.

0:09:13 > 0:09:16As the Health Minister in 1946,

0:09:16 > 0:09:21Aneurin Bevan is the politician credited as the father of the NHS.

0:09:21 > 0:09:23And this is where he was born and raised,

0:09:23 > 0:09:25the small town of Tredegar.

0:09:27 > 0:09:30Back in the day, it was a centre for mining, iron and steel production

0:09:31 > 0:09:34but it always had a revolutionary way of looking after

0:09:34 > 0:09:36the health of its townsfolk.

0:09:36 > 0:09:39It was called the Medical Aid Society

0:09:39 > 0:09:42and those in work paid into a central fund

0:09:42 > 0:09:45which was used for health services if and when needed.

0:09:46 > 0:09:49I'm meeting local man Philip Prosser at the town library

0:09:49 > 0:09:51to find out more.

0:09:52 > 0:09:56These are the registers of the Medical Aid Society,

0:09:56 > 0:09:57which are...

0:09:58 > 0:10:02The people's names are here and the contributions are all in there

0:10:02 > 0:10:03and where they worked,

0:10:03 > 0:10:06if they worked in the mines, or in the steelworks.

0:10:06 > 0:10:09- These are the people that benefited. - Yeah. Yeah. Everybody here.

0:10:11 > 0:10:15This is my father's contribution card to the Medical Aid Society.

0:10:15 > 0:10:17Wow. Can I touch it?

0:10:17 > 0:10:19- Yeah, no problem.- Wow.

0:10:19 > 0:10:22- So, these are the contributions... - That he paid in.

0:10:22 > 0:10:25You could see it was 12 pence. That was three weeks' payment.

0:10:25 > 0:10:28And then, the whole family, after the head of the family paid in,

0:10:28 > 0:10:31the whole family was connected with this.

0:10:31 > 0:10:32Your family was part of this scheme?

0:10:32 > 0:10:35Yeah, my family, and everybody benefited from it,

0:10:35 > 0:10:37but the working-class people more than anyone.

0:10:37 > 0:10:41Than anyone else, yeah. So, do you reckon Bevan, I guess,

0:10:41 > 0:10:44- is some sort of hero in the town? - Definitely. Definitely.- Yeah.

0:10:44 > 0:10:46That's crazy.

0:10:46 > 0:10:48I mean, it might be a London thing,

0:10:48 > 0:10:50why I don't really know much about this,

0:10:50 > 0:10:54but it's mad to think that he's even contributed,

0:10:54 > 0:10:56you know, to helping me and my family as well,

0:10:56 > 0:10:59as well as everybody else in this country.

0:10:59 > 0:11:02Wherever you go, if you mention Aneurin Bevan, I think

0:11:02 > 0:11:05- people will know. Even in the north of England, whatever.- Really? OK.

0:11:05 > 0:11:09If you go to the north of England... I don't know about the south!

0:11:09 > 0:11:12You know what I mean! But the working-class people...

0:11:12 > 0:11:16The values that were enshrined in Tredegar's Medical Aid Society

0:11:16 > 0:11:20survive even today in the modern NHS.

0:11:20 > 0:11:24We all pay in, and it's free at the point of use, regardless of means.

0:11:24 > 0:11:27The numbers are slightly bigger, of course.

0:11:27 > 0:11:32Today, the annual budget of the combined NHS is around 116 billion,

0:11:32 > 0:11:37but back at the very start, it was around 15 billion in today's money,

0:11:37 > 0:11:41which, I guess, is why politicians argue over it.

0:11:42 > 0:11:46In fact, the NHS was somewhat controversial at the beginning,

0:11:46 > 0:11:50with some folk thinking it was just too much for the country to afford,

0:11:50 > 0:11:53so Bevan had a lot of persuading to do.

0:11:53 > 0:11:56Luckily, he was a fantastic orator.

0:11:56 > 0:12:00There is a school of thought, you know, that believes that

0:12:00 > 0:12:03if a thing is scarce, it ought to be dear.

0:12:03 > 0:12:08Now, that's all right from the point of view of orthodox economics.

0:12:08 > 0:12:12But this isn't an orthodox government,

0:12:12 > 0:12:14and I'm not an orthodox Minister of Health.

0:12:14 > 0:12:16LAUGHTER

0:12:16 > 0:12:20I want to find out what motivated this unorthodox approach,

0:12:20 > 0:12:24what inspired a seemingly ordinary man like Bevan

0:12:24 > 0:12:28to do such an extraordinary thing as to set up the NHS,

0:12:28 > 0:12:32so I've come with historian Dr Steven Thompson to the very spot

0:12:32 > 0:12:36Bevan spent his formative years, the local council chambers of Tredegar.

0:12:36 > 0:12:38Thank you.

0:12:43 > 0:12:46So, this is where the Tredegar Urban District Council used to meet,

0:12:46 > 0:12:50- and it's where the council still meets today.- Wow.

0:12:50 > 0:12:54Bevan was elected to the council in 1922, and local legend has it

0:12:54 > 0:12:57that he sat on this back row during the council meetings.

0:12:57 > 0:13:01- Are you serious?- Either in the second or fourth seat in the row.

0:13:01 > 0:13:04I am going to try and sit where he sat. OK.

0:13:04 > 0:13:06Mr Bevan...

0:13:06 > 0:13:10I think he sat either in the second one or that fourth one.

0:13:10 > 0:13:11Oh! OK.

0:13:11 > 0:13:14Let's hope it was this one, then!

0:13:14 > 0:13:18So, what actually influenced Bevan

0:13:18 > 0:13:21to, I guess, be the originator of the NHS?

0:13:21 > 0:13:25I think a lot of it would have come from personal experience.

0:13:25 > 0:13:28Two of Bevan's brothers died in infancy, for example,

0:13:28 > 0:13:30another brother died in childhood.

0:13:30 > 0:13:33His father died as a result of pneumoconiosis,

0:13:33 > 0:13:36contracted whilst working in the coal industry here,

0:13:36 > 0:13:38so, just like every other family here in South Wales,

0:13:38 > 0:13:40he would have been very, very aware,

0:13:40 > 0:13:44he would have had personal knowledge of those kind of hardships.

0:13:44 > 0:13:46The idea of a national health service had been

0:13:46 > 0:13:50debated in British politics for about 20 or 30 years by this point,

0:13:50 > 0:13:53but Bevan brings his own personal experiences to bear

0:13:53 > 0:13:57on this problem, and he brings his own political vision to bear.

0:13:58 > 0:14:01The pioneering work Bevan witnessed in Tredegar became the basis

0:14:01 > 0:14:07for the new NHS which, in 1946, he himself introduced to Parliament

0:14:07 > 0:14:09and the nation.

0:14:13 > 0:14:16On July 5th, the new National Health Service starts,

0:14:16 > 0:14:19providing hospital and specialist services, medicines,

0:14:19 > 0:14:22drugs and appliances, care of the teeth and eyes...

0:14:22 > 0:14:25This new health service will be organised on a national scale,

0:14:25 > 0:14:27as a public responsibility.

0:14:27 > 0:14:30Enshrined in Bevan's new act was a promise to take

0:14:30 > 0:14:33care of the country's health, from cradle to grave

0:14:33 > 0:14:38and, in the process, increase the life expectancy for everyone,

0:14:38 > 0:14:41and, boy, has it succeeded in doing just that!

0:14:41 > 0:14:43Back in the 1940s,

0:14:43 > 0:14:48the average person lived to just 63 years of age, and geriatrics,

0:14:48 > 0:14:52as a medical discipline, was still being established.

0:14:52 > 0:14:54The old people are a growing problem.

0:14:54 > 0:14:55These times of medical advance

0:14:55 > 0:14:59and longer life have produced an ageing population.

0:14:59 > 0:15:02Today, we live an average of 15 years longer,

0:15:02 > 0:15:06meaning people like my mum can look forward to their old age.

0:15:06 > 0:15:09However, living longer brings a whole new

0:15:09 > 0:15:12range of problems, like people having to live with conditions

0:15:12 > 0:15:14associated with growing old.

0:15:14 > 0:15:16For the next few days, I'm going

0:15:16 > 0:15:19to base myself 15 miles south of Tredegar, in Cardiff.

0:15:19 > 0:15:23I want to find out how far the NHS has come in its 70 years

0:15:23 > 0:15:27of treatment of the elderly, and if Wales is still leading the way.

0:15:27 > 0:15:30I'm starting my day by joining an NHS-funded team

0:15:30 > 0:15:33in Cardiff & Vale University Health Board called React.

0:15:33 > 0:15:37- She went out with you last time for a walk, wasn't it?- Yeah.

0:15:37 > 0:15:40This is the first and only such service in Wales,

0:15:40 > 0:15:41and they help elderly patients

0:15:41 > 0:15:45and their families who have reached mental health crisis point.

0:15:45 > 0:15:49We have to accept that she will not be fully ready to

0:15:49 > 0:15:54engage 100% in all those activities because she is still unwell.

0:15:54 > 0:15:56What's been our experience all along is that

0:15:56 > 0:15:59we get a little way with her and then slip back.

0:15:59 > 0:16:03I've been invited by Dr Kate Hydon, speciality doctor in React.

0:16:03 > 0:16:06She's working alongside psychiatrists,

0:16:06 > 0:16:10mental health nurses and dementia care advisers in a team that

0:16:10 > 0:16:13offers crisis medical support for people in dire need.

0:16:13 > 0:16:16Dr Sabari is the team's clinical director

0:16:16 > 0:16:18and consultant old-age psychiatrist.

0:16:18 > 0:16:23We have a wide, safe care and treatment plan

0:16:23 > 0:16:25within their own family environment

0:16:25 > 0:16:29so that they can recover better and the crisis is abated,

0:16:29 > 0:16:33- so that they don't need to come into hospital.- OK, OK.

0:16:33 > 0:16:35A large part of the React team's work

0:16:35 > 0:16:37of course isn't done in offices.

0:16:37 > 0:16:39It's out and about with patients, and this morning,

0:16:39 > 0:16:43I am joining Dr Kate Hydon on a home visit.

0:16:43 > 0:16:45En route, I'm keen to find out

0:16:45 > 0:16:48what motivates her to work with the elderly.

0:16:48 > 0:16:51I love it. I have a real passion for it.

0:16:51 > 0:16:55Probably... It stems from... I was really close to my grandmother.

0:16:55 > 0:16:56Oh, brilliant. So was I.

0:16:56 > 0:16:59So, yeah, she was a huge influence on my younger life

0:16:59 > 0:17:02and, yeah, we were really close all the way through my training.

0:17:02 > 0:17:05I used to speak to her in the early hours of the morning,

0:17:05 > 0:17:08so that inspired me to work with older people.

0:17:08 > 0:17:12I feel really strongly that they're undervalued members of society.

0:17:12 > 0:17:15- I agree.- And I don't think they get the respect they deserve,

0:17:15 > 0:17:19and the respect for their tremendous life experience,

0:17:19 > 0:17:23so I genuinely feel it's a real privilege to work with them.

0:17:23 > 0:17:26I'm probably quite a nosey person.

0:17:26 > 0:17:28I really enjoy hearing people's life stories, which is

0:17:28 > 0:17:31one of the privileges of this job.

0:17:31 > 0:17:34I really enjoy hearing the perspective of those people

0:17:34 > 0:17:37- who've been on this Earth a lot longer than me.- Yeah.

0:17:37 > 0:17:39That's definitely how I think of my mum.

0:17:39 > 0:17:42I think I've still got a lot to learn from her.

0:17:42 > 0:17:46Unfortunately, the older generation often seem to be dismissed.

0:17:47 > 0:17:51We do need to actually look after our elder generation.

0:17:51 > 0:17:56Are the elderly valued or unappreciated?

0:17:56 > 0:17:57I think they are,

0:17:57 > 0:18:00and there's increasing problems with isolation, as a result,

0:18:00 > 0:18:03and isolation is also associated with not only a lower

0:18:03 > 0:18:07quality of life but a shortening of people's lives.

0:18:07 > 0:18:10So, yeah, that's another subject I feel passionate about,

0:18:10 > 0:18:13is the isolation of elderly people.

0:18:13 > 0:18:17I think how we value our elders is really a measure of society.

0:18:17 > 0:18:20We are on our way to Barry to visit Bert Dowdell,

0:18:20 > 0:18:23who has been living with dementia for years.

0:18:23 > 0:18:26Bert's wife Brenda is there to meet us,

0:18:26 > 0:18:30along with Lucy Young, a dementia care adviser on the React team.

0:18:30 > 0:18:34Bert's dementia causes him hallucinations that leave him

0:18:34 > 0:18:37anxious and scared, but he is a fighter.

0:18:38 > 0:18:40I don't want to be...

0:18:42 > 0:18:45..curled up in a...

0:18:47 > 0:18:50..a hospital or something.

0:18:50 > 0:18:53Did you mind us coming into your house?

0:18:53 > 0:18:55We were coming to visit you quite often at one point.

0:18:55 > 0:18:57How did you find that?

0:18:57 > 0:19:00Oh...

0:19:00 > 0:19:01As I say...

0:19:03 > 0:19:07..if it's going to do me good, yeah,

0:19:07 > 0:19:11you can come in and sit down and go to sleep...

0:19:11 > 0:19:12SHE LAUGHS

0:19:12 > 0:19:18'For Brenda, his wife of 16 years, the React team have been a lifeline,

0:19:18 > 0:19:22'especially when Bert, in despair, tried to take his own life.'

0:19:23 > 0:19:26For some reason I was going upstairs but, instead, I went out to the

0:19:26 > 0:19:30garage and heard these noises, and there he was, trying to...

0:19:32 > 0:19:34So, I cut him down...

0:19:35 > 0:19:39..and phoned straightaway to the React team.

0:19:39 > 0:19:41I think they flew from St David's, frankly,

0:19:41 > 0:19:46because they were here, talked to me and Bert and...

0:19:48 > 0:19:52He asked for help, which he needed to do.

0:19:52 > 0:19:55So, really, without the React team, initially,

0:19:55 > 0:19:59I don't think we'd be here discussing all this.

0:19:59 > 0:20:02I can't even imagine what you guys went through during that time.

0:20:02 > 0:20:04How is he now?

0:20:04 > 0:20:06I think at the moment it has sort of plateaued.

0:20:06 > 0:20:08His memory problems are there,

0:20:08 > 0:20:11he's still hallucinating,

0:20:11 > 0:20:13but it's accepted

0:20:13 > 0:20:17and we're living with it. We live day to day with it.

0:20:18 > 0:20:22I'm not sorry for myself.

0:20:22 > 0:20:24If it gets...

0:20:24 > 0:20:26I...

0:20:27 > 0:20:29I...

0:20:31 > 0:20:33I am...

0:20:35 > 0:20:37Oh...

0:20:37 > 0:20:40Bert, I understand it's really hard sometimes to find the right words,

0:20:40 > 0:20:42- isn't it?- Um...

0:20:44 > 0:20:47Oh, God, I don't know...

0:20:48 > 0:20:52- I know what I want to say and I can't say it.- I can see, yes.

0:20:54 > 0:20:57But I still want to...

0:21:01 > 0:21:03..like I used to be,

0:21:03 > 0:21:07- and that is never going...to do. - Hmm.

0:21:08 > 0:21:12I'm gradually...now...

0:21:12 > 0:21:14taking it in.

0:21:14 > 0:21:16It's going to be...

0:21:18 > 0:21:23..and I'll have to live with this now to...

0:21:23 > 0:21:28I mean, I'm 80... What am I, love?

0:21:28 > 0:21:32- 82? Next month.- The next month.

0:21:33 > 0:21:37- So it's not so bad. - No, it's amazing.

0:21:37 > 0:21:41What I find extraordinary is the fact that dementia is

0:21:41 > 0:21:43a relatively modern illness.

0:21:43 > 0:21:47Before the NHS, few people lived long enough to even get it.

0:21:47 > 0:21:51And those who did were thought to have just gone a bit senile.

0:21:51 > 0:21:53These days, however,

0:21:53 > 0:21:56it is one of the biggest concerns for the modern NHS,

0:21:56 > 0:21:59especially the costs of care.

0:21:59 > 0:22:02Without voluntary carers willing to look after their loved ones,

0:22:02 > 0:22:04the system just wouldn't work.

0:22:04 > 0:22:08I know only too well that being a carer, albeit for my mum

0:22:08 > 0:22:13and her MS, can be a very lonely and frustrating experience.

0:22:14 > 0:22:17There are over six million carers in the UK.

0:22:17 > 0:22:21Over 175,000 of them are under 18.

0:22:21 > 0:22:25Brenda gets some relief from a weekly group called Solace,

0:22:25 > 0:22:27and she has kindly agreed to introduce me

0:22:27 > 0:22:30to some of the people she has met there -

0:22:30 > 0:22:34Faith Perry, June Tomlinson and Joyce Pearce.

0:22:34 > 0:22:36I really wanted to come and see you guys

0:22:36 > 0:22:39because I was caring for my mother from...

0:22:39 > 0:22:42When I was 12 years old, she got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis

0:22:42 > 0:22:46but, really, caring is difficult at any age, isn't it?

0:22:46 > 0:22:52- And so, you guys, you care for your husbands? Is that right?- All of us.

0:22:52 > 0:22:53- All of you?- Mm-hm.

0:22:53 > 0:22:57And I mean, the loves of your lives, that has got to be

0:22:57 > 0:23:00very, very challenging, especially because

0:23:00 > 0:23:03the more time that has passed where, I guess, you guys have

0:23:03 > 0:23:07grown together, the more painful it probably is...

0:23:07 > 0:23:09- Because the relationship has to change.- OK.

0:23:09 > 0:23:12We're no longer their wives, we're their carers.

0:23:12 > 0:23:16- In a sense, we're their mothers. - Yeah.- And we have young children.

0:23:16 > 0:23:18- Wow.- You know what I mean?- Yeah.

0:23:18 > 0:23:22- They've gone from being our men to being our kids.- Yeah.

0:23:22 > 0:23:25- And their personality changes anyhow.- Yes.

0:23:25 > 0:23:28You know, they're not what they used to be.

0:23:28 > 0:23:30- They're different people, really. - Yeah.

0:23:30 > 0:23:33They're not the people you've always known.

0:23:33 > 0:23:35Bit by bit he's going.

0:23:35 > 0:23:39He doesn't know he's going. He doesn't know what's happening.

0:23:39 > 0:23:44But he's going. And I see the person I loved moving away from me.

0:23:44 > 0:23:48He still knows I'm his wife, and he still loves to be cuddled.

0:23:48 > 0:23:51But it isn't the same. He's not my child.

0:23:52 > 0:23:54- And that is very sad.- Hmm.

0:23:54 > 0:23:59I miss security, as he has been mine for so many years.

0:23:59 > 0:24:02- And that's what hurts.- Hmm.- Wow.

0:24:02 > 0:24:06Les and I grew up around corner from each other,

0:24:06 > 0:24:08so we've always known each other,

0:24:08 > 0:24:14so I've always known what his personality is like, you know?

0:24:14 > 0:24:18And since he's had the Alzheimer's,

0:24:18 > 0:24:22he's just grown into a different person.

0:24:22 > 0:24:28He's never been aggressive, never being bad-tempered,

0:24:28 > 0:24:32but over the last number of years, all that has altered.

0:24:32 > 0:24:36So, it is an entirely different person, you know?

0:24:38 > 0:24:40And so it gets...

0:24:40 > 0:24:45When you're looking after someone, you realise that, in a way,

0:24:45 > 0:24:51you can take it because you know that, but what upsets me is...

0:24:51 > 0:24:55- well, when he is like it to my children.- Hmm.

0:25:07 > 0:25:10'It's clear that despite the pain, the shared experience allows

0:25:10 > 0:25:13'these wonderful ladies to support one another.'

0:25:13 > 0:25:17We've taught each other things and we've learnt from each other,

0:25:17 > 0:25:23and the encouragement from these folk is worth £1 million.

0:25:23 > 0:25:26- Wow.- Absolutely wonderful people.

0:25:26 > 0:25:32We worked in the same company so I knew him a lot of my life

0:25:32 > 0:25:36but, like you, he started getting aggressive.

0:25:36 > 0:25:40Not meaning to, because he never was. He was as soft as a brush.

0:25:40 > 0:25:44But little things...

0:25:46 > 0:25:49But he's not my husband, really, any more.

0:25:51 > 0:25:52Um...

0:25:54 > 0:25:56He...

0:25:56 > 0:25:59He keeps thinking I'm going to leave him.

0:26:00 > 0:26:02Hmm...

0:26:02 > 0:26:03Um...

0:26:03 > 0:26:05Which I would never do.

0:26:07 > 0:26:09But I miss the companionship.

0:26:10 > 0:26:13The friendship.

0:26:15 > 0:26:18I think we are only at the early stages of this,

0:26:18 > 0:26:21judging by what I have seen of other patients.

0:26:21 > 0:26:25Well, it's like, I'm at the end of it, having been through it

0:26:25 > 0:26:29now for about ten years, my husband is 88 this year, and he has

0:26:29 > 0:26:33had the Alzheimer's for that time, I can see where they're at

0:26:33 > 0:26:37and how long they've got. It's like being bereaved.

0:26:37 > 0:26:41My husband went into care, proper care, on Thursday,

0:26:41 > 0:26:46but he'd previously been in, and I couldn't handle him any more.

0:26:47 > 0:26:53And every time I go there and see him, and he doesn't know me,

0:26:53 > 0:26:55it's really sad.

0:26:56 > 0:26:59Hearing all of your experiences, I mean,

0:26:59 > 0:27:02undoubtedly, it has to be a real strain for you guys.

0:27:04 > 0:27:06Appalling.

0:27:06 > 0:27:10Because there's never a moment. We cannot at any time relax.

0:27:10 > 0:27:14There's no time where you can sit down and say, "Oh, lovely."

0:27:14 > 0:27:16Because you can't do that.

0:27:16 > 0:27:22- You have to sit down and say, "It's lovely, but where is he?"- Yeah.- Yes.

0:27:22 > 0:27:24You know? There's always that...

0:27:24 > 0:27:26I listen to every creak in the house.

0:27:26 > 0:27:29I know where he is by listening to the house.

0:27:29 > 0:27:32- Your hearing improves. - Day and night. Yes.

0:27:32 > 0:27:33It's never-ending.

0:27:33 > 0:27:38It isn't. And it is out of love, I guess. Ultimately, why do we care?

0:27:38 > 0:27:43- Because we love.- It's the "in sickness and in health" bit.

0:27:43 > 0:27:45I'm not sure about how you feel,

0:27:45 > 0:27:49but this has really made me kind of reflect a lot on my own

0:27:49 > 0:27:55situation with my mum, and thinking about the future as well.

0:27:55 > 0:27:57So thank you so much.

0:27:57 > 0:28:01- Thank you.- Thank you for sharing with us.- Thank you.

0:28:05 > 0:28:09The ladies struck me as being very brave, very, very courageous.

0:28:09 > 0:28:11I mean, for me, it was...

0:28:11 > 0:28:14There were some very, very powerful stories,

0:28:14 > 0:28:19and it kind of just feels like all this time has passed for them where,

0:28:19 > 0:28:22you know, some of them have been together with their husbands

0:28:22 > 0:28:26over 60 years, and at this stage of their lives, to see

0:28:26 > 0:28:31such a transformation and such a change has got to be heartbreaking.

0:28:31 > 0:28:36But they seem to somehow, some way, fight through the tears

0:28:36 > 0:28:40and fight through the pain and just stay by their side.

0:28:40 > 0:28:43It's... Hmm.

0:28:44 > 0:28:47It's something that I'm definitely going to be

0:28:47 > 0:28:50reflecting on for a very long time.

0:28:57 > 0:29:00Back at the beginning of the NHS,

0:29:00 > 0:29:03geriatric care was something of a neglected field, and I don't

0:29:03 > 0:29:08know about you, but old folk back then just looked, well, older.

0:29:08 > 0:29:10I'm just weary, I'm fed up with it.

0:29:10 > 0:29:13There's just me and my sister, two on our own.

0:29:13 > 0:29:15I am 61 and she's 57.

0:29:15 > 0:29:19The first breakthrough in elderly care came courtesy of a lady

0:29:19 > 0:29:23called Dr Marjory Warren, who created the first geriatric unit

0:29:23 > 0:29:27in the UK using methods that went on to be used across the NHS.

0:29:27 > 0:29:31Her ethos - to get sick, elderly patients moving,

0:29:31 > 0:29:35out of their hospital beds, where possible, and socialising.

0:29:35 > 0:29:37Breathe in...

0:29:39 > 0:29:41..and out.

0:29:41 > 0:29:4520 - two, nought.

0:29:45 > 0:29:4846 - four, six.

0:29:48 > 0:29:50Bingo!

0:29:50 > 0:29:52It's an approach that still thrives today

0:29:52 > 0:29:56in places like University Hospital Llandough, Cardiff,

0:29:56 > 0:30:00where there is a specialist day hospital for the elderly.

0:30:00 > 0:30:05Dr Jane Turton is an elderly care specialist working in the rehabilitation day hospital.

0:30:06 > 0:30:13- Elderly care medicine is one of the most important and most rewarding parts of medicine.- OK.

0:30:13 > 0:30:18And given that over the next 20 to 30 years we're going to have an enormous increase

0:30:18 > 0:30:21in the number of people over the age of 80...

0:30:22 > 0:30:26..I think having facilities like the day hospital available

0:30:26 > 0:30:32to maintain the independence and the health of those individuals

0:30:32 > 0:30:34is really, very important.

0:30:34 > 0:30:38We have a very friendly atmosphere.

0:30:38 > 0:30:40It's somewhere where they can be social.

0:30:40 > 0:30:43So, if you place the putty just in the palm of your hand.

0:30:44 > 0:30:46There we go. That's it. OK.

0:30:46 > 0:30:48- See what you're trying to do there? - Yeah.

0:30:48 > 0:30:51A lot of people are on their own.

0:30:51 > 0:30:53They are lonely when they're at home

0:30:53 > 0:30:59and just bringing them in to be in contact with people who are of the same age...

0:30:59 > 0:31:01..where they can be looked after,

0:31:01 > 0:31:04- that's good for them as well. - Yeah, absolutely.

0:31:04 > 0:31:06Good. Straighten one leg out,

0:31:06 > 0:31:08rotate those ankles round.

0:31:08 > 0:31:13My mum's lucky in that she now has her own purpose-built space.

0:31:13 > 0:31:16Looking one way, so we're just mobilising that spine now.

0:31:16 > 0:31:18For those who don't, the day hospital is a lifeline.

0:31:18 > 0:31:19OK. Sit down.

0:31:20 > 0:31:22Sit back, OK.

0:31:22 > 0:31:26Today, I'm joining Betty McCarthy and Brynmor Marrs as they get a workout

0:31:26 > 0:31:29from dedicated physiotherapist Zellah Theobald.

0:31:29 > 0:31:33You're going to come up on to your tiptoes and back down. Good.

0:31:35 > 0:31:36Eight.

0:31:36 > 0:31:39Well done. Really squeeze those bottoms.

0:31:39 > 0:31:42- Activate that core like we've done before, OK.- Squeeze that bottom.

0:31:44 > 0:31:46Good.

0:31:46 > 0:31:47Well done.

0:31:47 > 0:31:53A lot of patients that have fallen end up becoming quite isolated almost because they,

0:31:53 > 0:31:58due to a lack of confidence, lose their independence a bit, so coming into this environment

0:31:58 > 0:32:04just helps improve that confidence, help decrease their fear of falling

0:32:04 > 0:32:06and I think they really enjoy it anyway.

0:32:06 > 0:32:09We do. Your company's lovely.

0:32:11 > 0:32:13My mum does physiotherapy, like, three times a week.

0:32:13 > 0:32:17She was wheelchair-bound for many years and since the physiotherapy,

0:32:17 > 0:32:21she's taken her first steps again and so it's very interesting to see the similarities

0:32:21 > 0:32:25and differences of what you guys do here to what she does.

0:32:26 > 0:32:31Betty has been getting physio at Llandough Day Hospital for six weeks.

0:32:31 > 0:32:34She had a nasty fall and then sciatica set in

0:32:34 > 0:32:37which has made it hard to get about and knocked her confidence.

0:32:37 > 0:32:41It's a bit like line dancing, this.

0:32:41 > 0:32:43Yeah, and there's moonwalking there as well.

0:32:45 > 0:32:49Exercise has always been important to the NHS, but this seems to be the next step.

0:32:51 > 0:32:53So this looks like it's quite hard work, isn't it?

0:32:53 > 0:32:54- It is, yes.- Yeah.

0:32:54 > 0:32:57But it's lovely, you know, we enjoy it and

0:32:57 > 0:33:01of course everybody is so kind and Zellah makes us laugh.

0:33:02 > 0:33:04- She's a funny one, isn't she? - She is. She's lovely.

0:33:04 > 0:33:08- So would it make a big difference to you to get more active?- Oh, yes.

0:33:08 > 0:33:12- I'm hoping, you know, I'll be able to get out and about shortly.- Yes. - You know, on my own once more.

0:33:12 > 0:33:14That would be brilliant.

0:33:14 > 0:33:17- More independent.- Aw.

0:33:17 > 0:33:22- Super.- It's great seeing how doing these simple exercises not only improves the quality of Betty's and

0:33:22 > 0:33:25Brynmor's physical health, but also their happiness as well.

0:33:27 > 0:33:28OK.

0:33:34 > 0:33:40For some people, growing old or sick can lead to serious mental health issues like depression or anxiety.

0:33:42 > 0:33:44This was especially true in the bad old days.

0:33:45 > 0:33:50The problems of old age are many and among them, perhaps aggravated by loneliness and boredom,

0:33:50 > 0:33:51is mental breakdown.

0:33:52 > 0:33:56The early record of the NHS's attitude to mental health was not good.

0:33:56 > 0:34:02It's understandable that many old people bitterly resent the idea of going to an institution.

0:34:02 > 0:34:08Before the NHS, people with mental health problems were housed in local authority-run asylums.

0:34:08 > 0:34:12This institutionalised nature of treatment took a long time to break down.

0:34:13 > 0:34:16There's no doubt in my mind, I think a lot of people agree with me,

0:34:16 > 0:34:18that the patient with a psychiatric illness

0:34:18 > 0:34:20is in fact a second-class patient.

0:34:23 > 0:34:25And this is something that I think must be removed.

0:34:27 > 0:34:31In the '60s, thanks to campaigners highlighting the poor treatment of many patients,

0:34:31 > 0:34:33things did improve.

0:34:35 > 0:34:39New buildings and new treatment have enabled the doctors here to cure far many more patients

0:34:39 > 0:34:41than the average old-fashioned lunatic asylum.

0:34:45 > 0:34:50An atmosphere of normal hospital life is encouraged as soon as the patients arrive

0:34:50 > 0:34:54and from then until they leave, they move through wards that look more and more like a hotel.

0:34:54 > 0:34:58The treatment is effective, if the patients' reactions are anything to go by.

0:34:59 > 0:35:02Today, at the assessment and recovery unit

0:35:02 > 0:35:04at University Hospital Llandough,

0:35:04 > 0:35:07clinical staff provide support to the elderly

0:35:07 > 0:35:09for mental health problems.

0:35:09 > 0:35:13If we pick one of the topics from the sheet...

0:35:13 > 0:35:17I've been invited to watch one of their stress-busting sessions.

0:35:17 > 0:35:20So on this piece of paper, which I will pass round now,

0:35:20 > 0:35:23it's got 45 ways to relieve stress.

0:35:23 > 0:35:26Do you need a sheet? You've got a sheet, so I'll hand them round now.

0:35:26 > 0:35:28You can be quite creative with it.

0:35:28 > 0:35:31You can draw a picture which might help you to familiarise

0:35:31 > 0:35:32yourself with it in future.

0:35:32 > 0:35:36Something that helps you deal with stress when you're at home.

0:35:36 > 0:35:39- Are you going to do blowing bubbles, Margaret?- Yeah.

0:35:39 > 0:35:44I can tick that one off. My attempt at drawing a hand was shocking!

0:35:44 > 0:35:46Look at my stick man.

0:35:47 > 0:35:51While the session continues, nurse Rebecca Farman fills me in

0:35:51 > 0:35:53on why the treatment is vital.

0:35:54 > 0:35:56When people get older, I think

0:35:56 > 0:36:00people underestimate actually how much stress there is

0:36:00 > 0:36:04in people's lives, like they've finished working, sometimes people's

0:36:04 > 0:36:06friends have passed away or they have moved away.

0:36:06 > 0:36:08Even things like mobility -

0:36:08 > 0:36:10if people can't get around as easily,

0:36:10 > 0:36:12they're not going out and seeing friends as much.

0:36:12 > 0:36:14Have you finished there, Barbara?

0:36:14 > 0:36:18- Yes, thank you.- Music tree? That sounds very cool, doesn't it?

0:36:18 > 0:36:22So, altogether so far, we've got a book,

0:36:22 > 0:36:26- we've got sitting by the sea in the sun...- Uh-huh.

0:36:26 > 0:36:27Smiling.

0:36:27 > 0:36:32We're looking out for different sorts of non-verbal behaviours,

0:36:32 > 0:36:34as well as the things they're telling us.

0:36:34 > 0:36:36We don't just chat in a group.

0:36:36 > 0:36:39Sometimes we pull people out one-to-one, so that they can

0:36:39 > 0:36:41give us a bit more information about how they're feeling.

0:36:41 > 0:36:45Do you find having a cat quite a good way of relieving stress,

0:36:45 > 0:36:49- and as a distraction as well, having pets?- Oh, yes.

0:36:49 > 0:36:50For patients like Margaret,

0:36:50 > 0:36:54coming to the day hospital has been a life-saver.

0:36:54 > 0:36:57I could not get myself together at all,

0:36:57 > 0:37:01until it got so bad, I did not want to live in this world any more.

0:37:01 > 0:37:05- Seriously?- Oh, seriously. Very, very seriously, yes.- Margaret.

0:37:05 > 0:37:06Seeing different doctors.

0:37:06 > 0:37:08The last doctor I saw,

0:37:08 > 0:37:11she put me down to come here for two days a week.

0:37:11 > 0:37:17When I first came, I just sat in the chair and wouldn't speak.

0:37:18 > 0:37:21When I see you in there, you're the life of the party.

0:37:21 > 0:37:23I can't see that being the same person.

0:37:23 > 0:37:26- You can't see me in that dark hole? - No, I can't. It's crazy.

0:37:26 > 0:37:30I was a different person, and I'd bring my own Cup-a-Soup with me.

0:37:30 > 0:37:31Did you?!

0:37:31 > 0:37:35I did, actually, and a banana for after.

0:37:37 > 0:37:40And that was me in the beginning.

0:37:40 > 0:37:45But now, they've brought me out of that terrible depression.

0:37:45 > 0:37:51I still get days, mind, I find it hard to get out of bed sometimes.

0:37:51 > 0:37:56- OK.- But Tuesdays, it's a different kettle of fish altogether.

0:37:56 > 0:37:58I just love coming here.

0:37:58 > 0:38:02I feel lucky that my mum has never got depressed,

0:38:02 > 0:38:04and I'm sure her art helps.

0:38:05 > 0:38:07At the day hospital, they do something similar,

0:38:07 > 0:38:11and it's something I can get involved in. Music.

0:38:13 > 0:38:17So, before I go, I've asked if anyone would mind joining me

0:38:17 > 0:38:18for a sing-song.

0:38:18 > 0:38:20June and Margaret have agreed,

0:38:20 > 0:38:23as long as we stick to one of their favourites.

0:38:25 > 0:38:28- What's that one? - Putting On The Style.

0:38:28 > 0:38:31- Oh, I don't know this one. - You don't know it?- No.

0:38:31 > 0:38:35- Oh, we'll help you.- You'll help me, right?- We'll try!- OK.

0:38:37 > 0:38:39# Young man in a hotrod car

0:38:39 > 0:38:41# Driving like he's mad

0:38:42 > 0:38:48# With a pair of yellow gloves he borrowed from his dad

0:38:48 > 0:38:50# He makes it roar so loudly

0:38:50 > 0:38:53# Just to make his girlfriend smile

0:38:53 > 0:38:59# But we know he's only putting on the style. #

0:38:59 > 0:39:00Yes!

0:39:00 > 0:39:02This is my favourite singer now.

0:39:02 > 0:39:04My new favourite singer.

0:39:04 > 0:39:07- Well done, everyone.- Fantastic.

0:39:07 > 0:39:09My time in Wales is up.

0:39:09 > 0:39:11It's been an incredible few days,

0:39:11 > 0:39:15and seeing the birthplace of the NHS has made me realise

0:39:15 > 0:39:18how far we've come, and yet the people I've met have reminded me

0:39:18 > 0:39:22how hard it is being a carer, even in 21st century Britain.

0:39:23 > 0:39:25One of the things that has really struck me

0:39:25 > 0:39:29as I've looked into how we care for our elderly in Britain today

0:39:29 > 0:39:32is that life is short, and memories have to be cherished.

0:39:32 > 0:39:36So today, I've organised a special event for my special mum,

0:39:36 > 0:39:39one that she will remember for the rest of her life.

0:39:40 > 0:39:44Secretly, I've invited my brothers and loads of my family

0:39:44 > 0:39:47and old friends to come and have a surprise moving-in party.

0:39:49 > 0:39:53Mum has no idea they're here, and knowing them well,

0:39:53 > 0:39:56I'm just hoping that they can keep the noise down.

0:39:56 > 0:39:58While I keep Mum occupied in the gardens,

0:39:58 > 0:40:01their job is to hide in the house.

0:40:01 > 0:40:03Home, sweet home.

0:40:03 > 0:40:06Isn't this lovely?

0:40:06 > 0:40:08- Fantastic.- Oh!

0:40:08 > 0:40:10It's the first time most of them

0:40:10 > 0:40:12have visited my mum's new wheelchair-friendly pad.

0:40:12 > 0:40:15- That's Naomi as well, you know? - Yeah, yeah.

0:40:16 > 0:40:20Hi, guys, we're going to start making our way to the bedroom now

0:40:20 > 0:40:21for the big surprise.

0:40:21 > 0:40:23All right. Let's squeeze in.

0:40:23 > 0:40:24Let's squeeze in.

0:40:24 > 0:40:27- So, we're heading back to the flat now.- OK.

0:40:28 > 0:40:32I just know my mum will love this if we can make it work.

0:40:32 > 0:40:34Yes, my mum loves surprises.

0:40:34 > 0:40:38When we were growing up, her and my dad always surprised us

0:40:38 > 0:40:42for our birthdays, Christmas, whenever we did well at school,

0:40:42 > 0:40:44they would do a nice little surprise for us.

0:40:44 > 0:40:47I know my mum's speciality is surprises,

0:40:47 > 0:40:49so I know she's going to love this.

0:40:55 > 0:40:57Yeah, Oritse. We're all in.

0:40:57 > 0:41:00Knowing my family, the hardest thing

0:41:00 > 0:41:03is to be able to get everyone to do as they're told and stay quiet.

0:41:05 > 0:41:07No jumping on the bed!

0:41:09 > 0:41:11You're going superfast!

0:41:14 > 0:41:17- Beautiful day, isn't it?- It is.

0:41:25 > 0:41:27- OK, so...- All right.

0:41:27 > 0:41:30I've got a little surprise for you, by the way.

0:41:30 > 0:41:31Shhh!

0:41:34 > 0:41:37Why are you looking at me like that?

0:41:37 > 0:41:41Come over here. Come over here.

0:41:41 > 0:41:42Come over here.

0:41:42 > 0:41:45Come over here. Yeah...

0:41:47 > 0:41:49Surprise!

0:41:49 > 0:41:51Surprise!!

0:41:51 > 0:41:54LAUGHTER AND CHEERING

0:41:59 > 0:42:04INAUDIBLE

0:42:08 > 0:42:12I'm so glad we did this. We managed to pull it off.

0:42:12 > 0:42:15I don't think my mum had any idea.

0:42:18 > 0:42:21- Were you really surprised?- I was!

0:42:31 > 0:42:37I'd just like to welcome you all, everyone,

0:42:37 > 0:42:40to my new home

0:42:40 > 0:42:47that Oritse has helped me to secure.

0:42:47 > 0:42:51It's really quite comfortable here.

0:42:52 > 0:42:56Do you see I've got my artwork?

0:42:56 > 0:43:00Is it OK to sell someone a picture?

0:43:00 > 0:43:03LAUGHTER

0:43:03 > 0:43:07I would like to say thank you, guys, so much, man.

0:43:07 > 0:43:10This means so much to Mum, and so much to all of us.

0:43:10 > 0:43:12Everyone can eat now.

0:43:12 > 0:43:14Over there.

0:43:16 > 0:43:19A nice, cheerful one. Come on.

0:43:19 > 0:43:21THEY CHEER

0:43:21 > 0:43:24Is that all right? We're at a party!

0:43:24 > 0:43:28# I'll take care of you

0:43:28 > 0:43:30# I'll help you heal... #

0:43:30 > 0:43:32Family has always been important to me.

0:43:32 > 0:43:35Now, more than ever, since Omre was born,

0:43:35 > 0:43:38we have been through a lot together,

0:43:38 > 0:43:41but I'm beginning to realise how lucky I am.

0:43:42 > 0:43:45You know, seeing all of the families,

0:43:45 > 0:43:47all the people I've met over the last few days, has really,

0:43:47 > 0:43:52really made me quite grateful about my situation with me and my family.

0:43:52 > 0:43:56You know, one thing I have taken from all of this

0:43:56 > 0:44:01is that we must look after each other so much better.

0:44:05 > 0:44:09OK, Mum? Have you got everything you need?

0:44:09 > 0:44:13# I'll take care of you

0:44:13 > 0:44:15# I'll help you heal

0:44:15 > 0:44:17# You know I will

0:44:17 > 0:44:20# Take care of you

0:44:20 > 0:44:22# No impossible

0:44:22 > 0:44:24# I'll find a cure

0:44:24 > 0:44:27# We've only got to worry about the things we've been through

0:44:27 > 0:44:31# I won't let nobody put no pressure on you

0:44:31 > 0:44:34# Take care of you... #