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0:00:00 > 0:00:02- We're between 18 and 34 years old.
0:00:03 > 0:00:07- There are 100 million of us - in Europe. We're a new generation.
0:00:22 > 0:00:24- 4 Stories About Love
0:00:42 > 0:00:44- It was love at first sight.
0:00:44 > 0:00:48- I could see - we'd be together forever.
0:00:50 > 0:00:54- The stereotype of someone - gay is like me, quite camp.
0:00:54 > 0:00:58- But I really think - I'm on more of a spectrum.
0:00:58 > 0:01:01- I sleep with women. - I find women attractive.
0:01:01 > 0:01:04- I definitely find men - more attractive.
0:01:04 > 0:01:08- I sleep with them more often. - But I just don't mind.
0:01:08 > 0:01:12- Every day is different. - I want to sleep with everyone.
0:01:13 > 0:01:17- Am I happy? - More "no" than "yes".
0:01:18 > 0:01:21- But I think it's going to change.
0:01:21 > 0:01:26- I want to go with other girls, - but I don't open up...
0:01:26 > 0:01:30- ..because I feel it will never - be the same after Dimitra.
0:01:31 > 0:01:34- Francisco, 20-years-old, - Ericeira, Portugal
0:01:37 > 0:01:39- Desire is like the waves.
0:01:39 > 0:01:43- There are many, they keep - on coming, they never stop.
0:01:44 > 0:01:46- But we must choose the right one.
0:01:59 > 0:02:02- Francisco, 20-years-old, - Ericeira, Portugal STUD
0:02:06 > 0:02:08- My name is Francisco and I'm 20.
0:02:09 > 0:02:10- I was born in 1994.
0:02:13 > 0:02:16- Here's my wave, - my background picture.
0:02:16 > 0:02:21- When I unlock my phone, - I enjoy seeing this perfect wave.
0:02:25 > 0:02:27- That's the sunset at Ericeira.
0:02:28 > 0:02:31- Sunset is one of my favourite times.
0:02:31 > 0:02:34- It is set in this - small country, Portugal.
0:02:34 > 0:02:36- My town is Ericeira.
0:02:36 > 0:02:39- It's small but quite friendly.
0:02:40 > 0:02:43- It's a fishing village by the sea.
0:02:44 > 0:02:47- It's a popular beach for surfers...
0:02:47 > 0:02:50- ..with many surf competitions.
0:02:50 > 0:02:51- This is my house.
0:03:05 > 0:03:06- SHOUTING
0:03:17 > 0:03:20- This is the street - of the bar where I work.
0:03:20 > 0:03:22- The Ericeira Bar in midsummer.
0:03:25 > 0:03:27- CROWD SINGS ALONG TO MUSIC
0:03:29 > 0:03:31- Me having fun, always smiling.
0:03:32 > 0:03:34- This is me and Fabinni. - The Tag Team.
0:03:35 > 0:03:36- The "Tag Team"?
0:03:36 > 0:03:38- This is how it works.
0:03:38 > 0:03:43- Two girls come to the bar. - I fancy one, but she's with a mate.
0:03:43 > 0:03:44- Tag Team.
0:03:44 > 0:03:48- The back-up arrives - to distract her friend...
0:03:48 > 0:03:52- ..while the other speaks - to the girl more privately.
0:03:52 > 0:03:57- There are girls from all around. - Norway, Italy, Spain, France.
0:03:58 > 0:03:59- This is Madalena.
0:04:01 > 0:04:03- I met her when I was 17. She was 24.
0:04:07 > 0:04:10- At that time, - I thought she was my first love.
0:04:11 > 0:04:12- But she wasn't.
0:04:14 > 0:04:16- I was with this girl a few times.
0:04:16 > 0:04:19- One week, an Austrian girl stayed.
0:04:21 > 0:04:24- And Saturday, I slept - with this other girl.
0:04:25 > 0:04:29- And the week after that, - I was with a German girl.
0:04:29 > 0:04:32- We then moved - to the family apartment.
0:04:35 > 0:04:38- Someone gave it a nickname, not me.
0:04:38 > 0:04:40- "The House of Fuck."
0:04:40 > 0:04:42- Here, we are at...
0:04:44 > 0:04:45- "The House of Flirt."
0:04:47 > 0:04:48- "The House of Fuck."
0:04:48 > 0:04:50- BACKGROUND LAUGHTER
0:04:52 > 0:04:55- "The House of Love!" - No, "The House of Europe!"
0:04:56 > 0:04:58- The apartment used to be rented.
0:04:59 > 0:05:04- But my mother gave me the keys - so I could come over and chill out.
0:05:04 > 0:05:05- More privacy.
0:05:06 > 0:05:11- You get seven years of crap sex if - you don't look someone in the eye!
0:05:11 > 0:05:13- We'd better look then!
0:05:15 > 0:05:17- What do you like the most in a girl?
0:05:17 > 0:05:18- Her bum.
0:05:19 > 0:05:23- Her bum, legs, - belly... and her face.
0:05:24 > 0:05:27- What if you had to choose, - big tits or a nice ass?
0:05:27 > 0:05:29- Nice ass. Always.
0:05:30 > 0:05:34- Only Dimitra has - stayed here overnight.
0:05:35 > 0:05:36- We slept together.
0:05:37 > 0:05:38- Was it on your first date?
0:05:39 > 0:05:41- Pretty much. It was the second day.
0:05:41 > 0:05:42- You wore a condom?
0:05:43 > 0:05:43- No.
0:05:43 > 0:05:44- No.- - Oh, Xico...
0:05:46 > 0:05:48- It's the love of your life.
0:05:48 > 0:05:49- It's the love of your life.- - I don't know.
0:05:50 > 0:05:52- This is Dimitra.
0:05:52 > 0:05:54- This girl changed me forever.
0:05:57 > 0:06:00- Angelina & Saher, - 18-years-old, Freiburg - Germany
0:06:02 > 0:06:06- I'm Angelina, I live in Kirchzarten.
0:06:07 > 0:06:09- I'm 18.
0:06:10 > 0:06:15- I started attending the Waldorf - school from the first grade.
0:06:15 > 0:06:17- I'm in year 12 now.
0:06:18 > 0:06:19- These are my lips.
0:06:20 > 0:06:23- This is my favourite skirt. - I had black hair there.
0:06:24 > 0:06:26- This was last summer's holiday.
0:06:27 > 0:06:30- I went with my parents - to Italy, to Elba.
0:06:32 > 0:06:33- And this is me with Saher.
0:06:34 > 0:06:37- We've been together - five months to yesterday.
0:06:37 > 0:06:41- I found it beautiful, - so it's my cover photo.
0:06:41 > 0:06:45- Saher put a comment. "I love you - endlessly as well, my darling.
0:06:46 > 0:06:49- "I will never let you go. - Only you in this world."
0:06:51 > 0:06:52- I'm Saher.
0:06:53 > 0:06:54- I'm 18-years-old.
0:06:54 > 0:06:59- I'll finish school this year - and then... we'll see.
0:06:59 > 0:07:03- I come from Iraq. - I am a Kurd. I am a Yazidi.
0:07:04 > 0:07:05- That is my religion.
0:07:05 > 0:07:08- And it has become really dangerous.
0:07:09 > 0:07:12- Everybody tries - to reach Germany, Turkey...
0:07:13 > 0:07:16- ..as long as it's not Iraq.
0:07:16 > 0:07:18- That's because of the war.
0:07:18 > 0:07:22- I've been living here - in Germany since 2013.
0:07:24 > 0:07:27- When I arrived, - at first I stayed in a home.
0:07:28 > 0:07:32- My parents joined me in November - when they arrived in Germany.
0:07:34 > 0:07:37- I'm really happy - to have my parents back.
0:07:41 > 0:07:45- We met at the station, - at McDonald's. It's a funny story.
0:07:46 > 0:07:50- I was meeting friends, - that he knew too.
0:07:51 > 0:07:55- The moment I went up - the stairs at McDonald's...
0:07:55 > 0:07:57- ..I noticed him immediately.
0:07:59 > 0:08:04- There was a moment. - It's very hard to describe.
0:08:05 > 0:08:09- It was like "Wow", - but a lot better than that.
0:08:10 > 0:08:13- Then I said to her: - "You have beautiful eyes.
0:08:14 > 0:08:18- "Your smile is really cute, - you're really beautiful."
0:08:20 > 0:08:23- And then we kissed - for the first time.
0:08:24 > 0:08:26- It was the very first kiss...
0:08:27 > 0:08:29- ..which made my whole body tingle.
0:08:30 > 0:08:34- I even had goosebumps. I've - never felt that with other guys.
0:08:34 > 0:08:38- When I kissed her, - I had feelings, I felt love.
0:08:40 > 0:08:42- And that's when love started.
0:08:43 > 0:08:45- My heart... yes.
0:08:49 > 0:08:51- DOG BARKS
0:08:55 > 0:08:56- Hello, mum!
0:08:56 > 0:08:58- Hello, Angelina!
0:08:59 > 0:09:01- Hello love! Hello Saher!
0:09:12 > 0:09:14- We talk about everything.
0:09:15 > 0:09:18- He listens to me - and he helps me too.
0:09:19 > 0:09:23- I think that is also part - of what bonds us together...
0:09:24 > 0:09:25- ..a really strong bond.
0:09:26 > 0:09:28- If I'm not with a German girl...
0:09:28 > 0:09:32- ..or don't want a woman from - Turkey, Iran, France, and so on?
0:09:34 > 0:09:39- I've never thought of it that way. - What really matters is love.
0:09:41 > 0:09:44- We are simply different - in some things.
0:09:44 > 0:09:47- There's always a back and forth.
0:09:47 > 0:09:51- I like to listen to Adele's music - and rarely to German rap.
0:09:52 > 0:09:54- I listen mostly to English rap.
0:09:56 > 0:09:58- MUSIC PLAYS
0:10:00 > 0:10:02- We're not always the same.
0:10:05 > 0:10:07- Well, I did that.
0:10:14 > 0:10:15- And did you retaliate?
0:10:15 > 0:10:16- And did you retaliate?- - Yes, I did!
0:10:17 > 0:10:18- Oh!
0:10:22 > 0:10:24- Don't turn away too much.
0:10:26 > 0:10:27- A little bit.
0:10:27 > 0:10:29- A little bit.- - What do you mean, "a little bit"?
0:10:29 > 0:10:33- You can't see it as much - as yours, but it still hurts.
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0:10:45 > 0:10:48- Richard, 26-years-old, - Manchester, UK
0:10:48 > 0:10:50- I Love Everyone
0:10:53 > 0:10:56- My name is Richard. - I'm 26-years-old.
0:10:56 > 0:11:00- I live in the city of Manchester, - up north of England.
0:11:00 > 0:11:04- As you can see straight - away from my page...
0:11:04 > 0:11:07- ..I enjoy dressing up in costume.
0:11:07 > 0:11:10- So expect lots of fabulous - outfits on my page.
0:11:11 > 0:11:14- My name on Facebook - as you can see at the top...
0:11:15 > 0:11:16- ..is Ricardo Glencasa.
0:11:16 > 0:11:20- There's two reasons. - One, it's a Burner community name.
0:11:21 > 0:11:23- It's the player name - that people call me.
0:11:24 > 0:11:28- But it also serves the purpose - of keeping me hidden...
0:11:28 > 0:11:33- ..from the prying eyes - of family members and colleagues...
0:11:33 > 0:11:38- ..people who I don't want - to see me relaxing in a hot tub...
0:11:38 > 0:11:43- ..or doing some other slightly more - crazy things that I like doing.
0:11:45 > 0:11:47- Liberty Masquerade.
0:11:52 > 0:11:55- This is a very new part of my life.
0:11:55 > 0:11:59- It's a festival called Nowhere, - which is in Spain.
0:12:00 > 0:12:04- It's based on - the Burning Man principles.
0:12:04 > 0:12:08- So Nowhere is just a place - where you can get away...
0:12:08 > 0:12:13- ..from the strains and realities - of the normal, boring life.
0:12:16 > 0:12:18- Odessa.
0:12:19 > 0:12:22- This here is my friend Romana.
0:12:22 > 0:12:25- I've known Romana since school time.
0:12:25 > 0:12:29- She's definitely one of my best - friends in the whole world.
0:12:30 > 0:12:33- She's the person I turn to - when I need to talk...
0:12:33 > 0:12:35- ..about anything and everything.
0:12:36 > 0:12:42- We hadn't spoken for ages. You told - me the first or second year of Uni.
0:12:42 > 0:12:46- Did I come up to you and say, - "I'm gay, or bi, or whatever."
0:12:46 > 0:12:50- "You know, I really need to tell - you this, but you know I'm gay."
0:12:51 > 0:12:53- I said, "I've known for years."
0:12:53 > 0:12:55- That's the thing.
0:12:55 > 0:12:59- What I think about this is, - that I knew everyone knew.
0:13:00 > 0:13:04- That's fine. It's not about that. - It's about my process.
0:13:04 > 0:13:08- People say, "We've known he was - gay forever, blah blah blah."
0:13:08 > 0:13:13- It's about when I was ready - to talk about things, my process.
0:13:13 > 0:13:18- At these festivals, it's the first - time I sat on a guy's lap...
0:13:18 > 0:13:21- ..and been affectionate in public, - like I rarely do.
0:13:22 > 0:13:25- At these festivals, - you found yourself.
0:13:25 > 0:13:27- You can be who you want to be.
0:13:27 > 0:13:31- I feel as if you've spent - the last 15 years...
0:13:31 > 0:13:33- ..trying to find your identity.
0:13:33 > 0:13:36- I do feel this year, - I've become an adult.
0:13:37 > 0:13:41- I think out of all this Burner - stuff, everything before...
0:13:41 > 0:13:44- ..coming to hang out - in London with me and so on...
0:13:45 > 0:13:49- ..I think it's all been working - towards telling your mum and dad.
0:13:49 > 0:13:53- That's the end goal. - You're finding yourself now.
0:13:53 > 0:13:57- Everyone that loves you is happy - and loves you for who you are.
0:13:58 > 0:14:01- But I feel the end point - is telling your mum and dad.
0:14:05 > 0:14:10- I think I first realized that - I liked men at a really young age.
0:14:10 > 0:14:14- I was really confused - and I wasn't completely sure.
0:14:14 > 0:14:17- But especially because - I had this family stuff...
0:14:18 > 0:14:20- "..It's not right to be gay"...
0:14:20 > 0:14:24- ..in school as well, I hid it and - didn't even confide in my friends.
0:14:25 > 0:14:28- And even when I started - sleeping with men...
0:14:28 > 0:14:31- ..I didn't tell friends - for five years.
0:14:31 > 0:14:34- Nobody knew. - It was like my illicit other life.
0:14:39 > 0:14:42- Thais, 24-years-old, - Paris/Berlin A New Start
0:14:42 > 0:14:44- My name is Thais.
0:14:44 > 0:14:46- I have a nose piercing.
0:14:46 > 0:14:48- I'm a graphic designer. I'm 24.
0:14:50 > 0:14:51- This is my desktop.
0:14:53 > 0:14:54- Messy!
0:14:55 > 0:14:59- This is my Tumblr. They're not - my pictures, but I like them.
0:14:59 > 0:15:03- Something fishy. - It's my favourite expression.
0:15:04 > 0:15:07- I like to say it - when there's a problem.
0:15:08 > 0:15:10- Berlin, My New Life
0:15:11 > 0:15:15- It feels long ago, but it was - the most important story...
0:15:15 > 0:15:17- ..between 2014 and 2015.
0:15:19 > 0:15:21- A very chaotic love story.
0:15:23 > 0:15:26- And in the end, I think - it was very destructive.
0:15:26 > 0:15:29- For me it was, for him I don't know.
0:15:29 > 0:15:31- That's why you came to Berlin?
0:15:32 > 0:15:34- Partly, I think.
0:15:34 > 0:15:38- I think I really needed to get - away from these bad influences.
0:15:38 > 0:15:40- What's his name?
0:15:40 > 0:15:42- David. He's Colombian.
0:15:44 > 0:15:47- He has lived in France - for five, seven, years.
0:15:48 > 0:15:49- And...
0:15:51 > 0:15:54- ..one thing about him - is that he's homosexual.
0:15:56 > 0:15:57- No, I mean...
0:15:57 > 0:16:01- ..it was clear that - we could see other people.
0:16:01 > 0:16:04- But I wasn't seeing anyone else.
0:16:04 > 0:16:06- He did eventually.
0:16:06 > 0:16:08- It hurt a little bit.
0:16:09 > 0:16:11- But I kept it to myself...
0:16:13 > 0:16:16- ..since we weren't really - in a relationship.
0:16:18 > 0:16:22- We couldn't define what - we were, so I couldn't complain.
0:16:25 > 0:16:28- It's David, - and we're stalking his profile.
0:16:29 > 0:16:33- I stopped doing that - when I decided to forget him.
0:16:36 > 0:16:38- He looks so gay there.
0:16:42 > 0:16:44- What is it?
0:16:44 > 0:16:47- I don't know, - these guys are really cool.
0:16:50 > 0:16:53- He's an androgynous beauty. - It fascinates me.
0:16:53 > 0:16:57- I mean, it blows me away - to see that kind of man.
0:16:59 > 0:17:02- This is when we got the apartment.
0:17:02 > 0:17:05- We went there - and took this ridiculous photograph.
0:17:06 > 0:17:08- We made a nice graphic design tag.
0:17:10 > 0:17:11- PHRASE IN GERMAN
0:17:12 > 0:17:14- THEY REPEAT PHRASE
0:17:15 > 0:17:19- I've never had my own apartment, - where I feel at home.
0:17:19 > 0:17:23- I found a job, I made a lot - of new friends. I speak English.
0:17:24 > 0:17:26- I'm more open than I was in Paris.
0:17:26 > 0:17:30- In everyday life, - it's not that obvious.
0:17:30 > 0:17:32- But it changed my life.
0:17:32 > 0:17:34- HUMS
0:17:35 > 0:17:39- I feel more comfortable - with my body.
0:17:40 > 0:17:41- I've got curves.
0:17:41 > 0:17:44- Before, I tried to hide my body.
0:17:45 > 0:17:46- But it didn't work.
0:17:48 > 0:17:49- It's fine.
0:17:50 > 0:17:53- I think I needed something new.
0:17:57 > 0:18:01- Here! We're not supposed to, - but we'll cross the road.
0:18:01 > 0:18:03- It's forbidden here.
0:18:03 > 0:18:05- Here you go.
0:18:11 > 0:18:12- He was checking me out.
0:18:12 > 0:18:13- He was checking me out.- - Was he?
0:18:13 > 0:18:15- No, more like a little smile.
0:18:17 > 0:18:22- It feels good to look at people - and be looked at, to feel fancied.
0:18:22 > 0:18:25- It's not awkward at all here.
0:18:25 > 0:18:28- They hold their look - until you look away.
0:18:38 > 0:18:40- I wouldn't say I'm pretty.
0:18:40 > 0:18:43- Well, I wouldn't say I'm ugly.
0:18:43 > 0:18:45- I'd say... I'm cute.
0:18:45 > 0:18:47- I'm a pal, not a "femme fatale".
0:18:47 > 0:18:50- I'm the pal you cuddle, that's it.
0:18:51 > 0:18:55- Sometimes, I'd rather be - a girl, a true girl.
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0:19:13 > 0:19:17- Francisco, 20-years-old, - Ericeira, Portugal, Stud
0:19:23 > 0:19:28- This is Joao Miguel Felix, - or Felix, or "Flex Surfboards".
0:19:30 > 0:19:32- He has a summer job.
0:19:32 > 0:19:34- I'm his boss.
0:19:34 > 0:19:36- He looks after my girls.
0:19:38 > 0:19:40- He takes them to dinner...
0:19:42 > 0:19:44- ..for a walk in Ericeira...
0:19:44 > 0:19:47- ..so they don't feel alone.
0:19:47 > 0:19:50- They don't know anyone round here.
0:19:51 > 0:19:55- Then about 3.00am, - when I'm closing the bar...
0:19:55 > 0:19:56- ..he goes home...
0:19:58 > 0:19:59- ..and I get the girls.
0:20:00 > 0:20:01- That's it!
0:20:01 > 0:20:03- At the end of the month, I pay him!
0:20:03 > 0:20:05- At the end of the month, I pay him!- - Come on, I never got a penny!
0:20:05 > 0:20:07- He's a great friend, as a bloke.
0:20:08 > 0:20:12- But if I were a woman, - I would be afraid of him!
0:20:14 > 0:20:16- Which girl did you like the most?
0:20:16 > 0:20:21- In terms of sympathy, Maria Teresa. - I don't know Dimitra well.
0:20:21 > 0:20:24- I met her before the summer, - in April.
0:20:25 > 0:20:29- What captivated me the most - at first was the look in her eyes.
0:20:31 > 0:20:36- That was the hardest thing. - It didn't happen straightaway.
0:20:36 > 0:20:39- This was the second day. - She came back to the bar.
0:20:40 > 0:20:43- Here she says, - "I don't wanna leave this place."
0:20:43 > 0:20:46- She adds, - "Come back with me in Greece."
0:20:46 > 0:20:48- And I answer, "You're pretty."
0:20:50 > 0:20:52- I can't explain.
0:20:53 > 0:20:57- All I know is she changed - me a lot... forever.
0:20:58 > 0:20:59- Hello.
0:20:59 > 0:21:01- This is Ericeira.
0:21:02 > 0:21:06- We are in our... - like we just got married.
0:21:06 > 0:21:08- So we are on honeymoon.
0:21:09 > 0:21:11- LAUGHTER
0:21:13 > 0:21:15- I don't know, are we stupid?
0:21:15 > 0:21:16- LAUGHTER
0:21:22 > 0:21:26- Angelina & Saher, 18 - Freiburg, Germany Eternal Love
0:21:26 > 0:21:29- I was adopted - at the age of six months.
0:21:29 > 0:21:32- My birth mother gave me away...
0:21:34 > 0:21:37- ..or I was taken from her, - I don't know exactly.
0:21:38 > 0:21:41- It was because - she took drugs when pregnant...
0:21:42 > 0:21:44- ..and continued taking them.
0:21:44 > 0:21:48- It meant that I automatically - had drugs in my body.
0:21:49 > 0:21:53- I had to be treated - for drug addiction.
0:21:54 > 0:21:56- I was really weak.
0:21:58 > 0:22:01- I had a very slim - chance of survival.
0:22:01 > 0:22:05- Initially, - at the age of ten or eleven...
0:22:05 > 0:22:09- ..I found it very hard - to talk about it.
0:22:10 > 0:22:13- Sometimes, I had - to hold back my tears.
0:22:13 > 0:22:16- Today, I can talk about it easily.
0:22:16 > 0:22:20- Why shouldn't people - know that I was adopted?
0:22:24 > 0:22:28- To me, my adoptive parents - are my real parents.
0:22:33 > 0:22:37- I really wanted - to come to Germany...
0:22:39 > 0:22:41- ..with my parents.
0:22:41 > 0:22:44- But I'd heard so many things...
0:22:45 > 0:22:47- ..about all the dangers.
0:22:48 > 0:22:51- I would have never gone - anywhere on my own.
0:22:52 > 0:22:55- He had to cross - such a vast sea by ship.
0:22:56 > 0:23:00- It wasn't even a ship, - but a small boat, that carried him.
0:23:00 > 0:23:05- He had to swim alongside it, - because the boat was so full.
0:23:06 > 0:23:10- Straight to Turkey, - from Turkey to Greece...
0:23:10 > 0:23:13- ..where I was put in prison.
0:23:13 > 0:23:16- I kept repeating to myself...
0:23:16 > 0:23:18- "..Yes, I can do this."
0:23:19 > 0:23:22- I kept waiting to get to Germany.
0:23:24 > 0:23:26- In the end, I managed.
0:23:27 > 0:23:31- Then he started a new life - in another country.
0:23:32 > 0:23:34- I find that really awesome.
0:23:48 > 0:23:52- We're always together, - except when we're in school.
0:23:53 > 0:23:54- My sister said...
0:23:54 > 0:23:58- ..it's a pity I don't - spend time with other people...
0:23:59 > 0:24:02- ..and that I never - spend time with her anymore.
0:24:02 > 0:24:06- I can see why - she thinks it's shitty...
0:24:06 > 0:24:09- ..and I find it sad.
0:24:10 > 0:24:14- But I don't understand it myself...
0:24:15 > 0:24:17- ..how I've no time for friends.
0:24:18 > 0:24:21- Did you see each other every day?
0:24:21 > 0:24:23- Actually, yes.
0:24:23 > 0:24:27- We tried not to neglect - our circle of friends...
0:24:27 > 0:24:31- ..to ensure that some things - carried on and stayed the same.
0:24:32 > 0:24:35- Yes, that's important. I agree.
0:24:35 > 0:24:37- We had our own space.
0:24:37 > 0:24:39- It was a good idea...
0:24:39 > 0:24:43- ..not to give up everything - for the relationship.
0:24:44 > 0:24:46- We had our own space.
0:24:46 > 0:24:48- Yes, of course.
0:24:48 > 0:24:50- Because, for example...
0:24:50 > 0:24:55- ..if a relationship ends, - or after a relationship...
0:24:55 > 0:24:57- ..when you are no longer involved...
0:24:58 > 0:25:02- ..if you abandoned - hobbies for the relationship...
0:25:02 > 0:25:04- ..you don't know...
0:25:04 > 0:25:08- ..if you can start again right away.
0:25:10 > 0:25:13- It's important to hold onto - your hobbies.
0:25:13 > 0:25:18- I could never imagine - myself without him.
0:25:18 > 0:25:19- Really?
0:25:20 > 0:25:21- Seriously!
0:25:21 > 0:25:22- Seriously!- - Interesting.
0:25:24 > 0:25:26- Syphilis, the sex slave.
0:25:29 > 0:25:33- It's really good to have - a different blend of friends.
0:25:34 > 0:25:35- Obviously some are gay.
0:25:36 > 0:25:39- But my really good friends, - Jo and Jerome...
0:25:39 > 0:25:44- ..are my staple couple - in Manchester that I hang out with.
0:25:44 > 0:25:47- By my terms, - they have been going out forever.
0:25:50 > 0:25:53- We've been together - a couple of years.
0:25:53 > 0:25:58- Moving up to Manchester is - another step beyond living together.
0:25:59 > 0:26:02- Jo had a list of 20 questions - of how it would be...
0:26:02 > 0:26:04- ..like terms and conditions.
0:26:04 > 0:26:07- ..like terms and conditions.- - Did you? Terms and conditions?
0:26:07 > 0:26:10- It was more like, - will we cook together?
0:26:10 > 0:26:13- Do we go to bed at the same time?
0:26:13 > 0:26:15- Just the basics!
0:26:16 > 0:26:18- That's so cute!
0:26:19 > 0:26:23- I haven't had a traditional - long-term relationship...
0:26:24 > 0:26:27- ..as in we're properly together - and everybody knows...
0:26:28 > 0:26:32- ..and you've done the Facebook - "I'm in a relationship with" thing.
0:26:32 > 0:26:35- I have had a series - of sexual partners.
0:26:36 > 0:26:41- I have dated people - over a few months before.
0:26:41 > 0:26:44- Most of that has been - in the past two years.
0:26:45 > 0:26:47- It's been more dating regularly.
0:26:47 > 0:26:50- Before that, - it was much more sexual.
0:26:50 > 0:26:55- I wasn't really comfortable being - out and seen in a relationship.
0:26:55 > 0:26:58- It's something - I'm exploring more now.
0:26:59 > 0:27:02- DANCE MUSIC
0:27:28 > 0:27:33- Right here I have a friend - from a different part of my life...
0:27:33 > 0:27:36- ..Luke, or The Luke Man, - who I met in university.
0:27:36 > 0:27:40- We have - the strangest friendship ever.
0:27:40 > 0:27:43- People would never guess - that we are best friends.
0:27:44 > 0:27:46- He is a huge, towering man.
0:27:46 > 0:27:49- I am probably as far away - from that as possible.
0:27:49 > 0:27:51- But it seems to work.
0:27:56 > 0:28:00- I haven't had a strong relationship - or a serious relationship.
0:28:00 > 0:28:04- I want to be able to get with, - and kiss, other people.
0:28:04 > 0:28:07- That isn't a gay thing. - Polyamory can work.
0:28:07 > 0:28:11- Part of that, maybe for yourself, - and other people...
0:28:11 > 0:28:14- ..is that - you're scared of relationships.
0:28:14 > 0:28:17- You pretend you don't have feelings.
0:28:17 > 0:28:22- You've all got to pretend you don't - have feelings about relationships...
0:28:22 > 0:28:25- ..that - "everyone can get with everyone"...
0:28:25 > 0:28:29- ..that you don't have - feelings about it, and you do.
0:28:29 > 0:28:35- To people who don't think like that, - you say, "You're so old school!"
0:28:35 > 0:28:40- I can be with someone and completely - love them and be obsessed by them.
0:28:40 > 0:28:45- But as a sexual person, there are - so many people I find attractive...
0:28:46 > 0:28:48- ..and I want to sleep with them.
0:28:48 > 0:28:50- ..and I want to sleep with them.- - I find that to be selfishness.
0:28:50 > 0:28:53- If I'm in a relationship, - I've taken a choice.
0:28:53 > 0:28:58- It's not, "we have to get married", - but "my intentions are on you."
0:28:58 > 0:29:01- Sleeping with someone else...
0:29:01 > 0:29:06- ..would degrade the value of - our interaction with each other.
0:29:06 > 0:29:09- I see it as - I can still love someone 100%.
0:29:09 > 0:29:13- You've never said to me - that you've been in love.
0:29:13 > 0:29:18- When you come to me, sit me down - and say, "Luke, I love etcetera..."
0:29:18 > 0:29:21- You are a possessive little nancy.
0:29:42 > 0:29:45- I'm not scared - of getting my heart broken.
0:29:45 > 0:29:48- I'd welcome a relationship, - I'd welcome love.
0:29:49 > 0:29:53- I'm not like the person - who's gonna sit there and say...
0:29:53 > 0:29:56- .."I need to start going - to dating things."
0:29:56 > 0:30:00- I'm busy enough in life anyway. - I want it to be organic.
0:30:00 > 0:30:05- I have tried dating - and properly try to commit to this.
0:30:05 > 0:30:08- I find I like having - the relationship-iness...
0:30:08 > 0:30:11- ..cuddling in bed, eating together.
0:30:11 > 0:30:14- But when I go out, - I want to be wild.
0:30:14 > 0:30:18- I want to let everything out - and snog everyone.
0:30:18 > 0:30:21- It's not a sexual thing, really. - Sometimes it is.
0:30:22 > 0:30:24- It's more an expression thing.
0:30:24 > 0:30:28- Kissing someone doesn't mean - I want to have sex with them.
0:30:28 > 0:30:30- It's me letting it all out.
0:30:30 > 0:30:34- I want to be able to go home - with someone at 6.00am...
0:30:34 > 0:30:36- ..and go to bed with that person.
0:30:37 > 0:30:42- It's quite hard to find a person - who is going to be OK with that.
0:30:42 > 0:30:45- When I find someone - who's comfortable...
0:30:46 > 0:30:50- ..with me going off and being wild, - because that's the way I am...
0:30:50 > 0:30:54- ..then that'll probably be - the person for me.
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0:31:09 > 0:31:11- A New Start
0:31:12 > 0:31:14- You fell in love with him.
0:31:16 > 0:31:21- I fell in love without expecting to.
0:31:21 > 0:31:24- I cut myself off a lot of people.
0:31:26 > 0:31:29- It felt so good with him, - but also bad.
0:31:30 > 0:31:33- I made concessions for him.
0:31:33 > 0:31:39- My life stopped there and then.
0:31:40 > 0:31:43- It was the first time he slept over.
0:31:44 > 0:31:46- This was the only picture.
0:31:46 > 0:31:51- David changed it in an artistic way.
0:31:52 > 0:31:54- We can't see anything now.
0:31:54 > 0:31:57- It's as blurry - as our relationship was.
0:31:58 > 0:32:02- Five months earlier - in David's house, Paris
0:32:06 > 0:32:08- I feel many things for Thais.
0:32:08 > 0:32:13- She's the type of person...
0:32:14 > 0:32:16- ..I'd always want in my life.
0:32:17 > 0:32:19- Through knowing Thais...
0:32:20 > 0:32:23- ..I've questioned - my own sexuality...
0:32:25 > 0:32:28- ..to engage in this story.
0:32:29 > 0:32:35- Nowadays, people are thinking - about a new type of sexuality...
0:32:35 > 0:32:38- ..pansexuality.
0:32:39 > 0:32:42- Pansexuality - is interesting to talk about.
0:32:43 > 0:32:47- I found someone with whom I can - have this sort of relationship.
0:32:47 > 0:32:51- And that was amazing between us.
0:32:54 > 0:32:56- What?
0:32:56 > 0:33:01- I don't know. You'd never have - told me something like that before.
0:33:01 > 0:33:02- Yes.
0:33:02 > 0:33:03- Yes.- - No.
0:33:05 > 0:33:06- Read it again.
0:33:07 > 0:33:11- Pansexuality, or omnisexuality, - is sexual attraction...
0:33:11 > 0:33:16- ..whereby - an individual is sexually...
0:33:17 > 0:33:19- ..and/or sentimentally attracted...
0:33:20 > 0:33:24- ..to people of any sex - or gender identity.
0:33:25 > 0:33:27- That's what we are!
0:33:27 > 0:33:29- And so, pansexuality...
0:33:32 > 0:33:35- It's beautiful, no regrets.
0:33:36 > 0:33:40- I had doubts about leaving. - I wanted to stay for him.
0:33:40 > 0:33:44- He told me not to go. - He didn't want a relationship.
0:33:45 > 0:33:47- But he didn't act like that.
0:33:48 > 0:33:51- It shook me, - there weren't clear signals.
0:33:52 > 0:33:54- Perhaps it's like...
0:33:55 > 0:33:59- ..we're the generation - that can't commit...
0:34:00 > 0:34:02- ..and settling "in a relationship".
0:34:03 > 0:34:07- Things evolve, looks change. - I'd call it modernity.
0:34:13 > 0:34:16- It's liberating to be on my own...
0:34:16 > 0:34:19- ..to enjoy this life.
0:34:30 > 0:34:32- Hey, Dimitra. What's up?
0:34:33 > 0:34:35- You miss Ericeira?
0:34:36 > 0:34:41- Yeah, very much. And the people - there, everything was perfect.
0:34:42 > 0:34:47- The waves, the people, the bars, - the music, dancing, everything!
0:34:48 > 0:34:52- Felix is surfing right now, - here in the waves.
0:34:52 > 0:34:57- He's there, surfing. - Maybe I'll see you, someday.
0:34:58 > 0:35:00- You come here.
0:35:00 > 0:35:02- You what?
0:35:03 > 0:35:05- Yeah, I would like that.
0:35:05 > 0:35:10- That's good. Talk with you later - about calling you again, and stuff.
0:35:12 > 0:35:14- Yeah, OK.
0:35:14 > 0:35:15- Bye, see you.
0:35:15 > 0:35:17- Bye, see you.- - Bye.
0:35:21 > 0:35:23- Did you talk to her?
0:35:24 > 0:35:26- Yes, but it's different.
0:35:26 > 0:35:27- How?
0:35:29 > 0:35:32- It's not the same. - It's been a while now.
0:35:32 > 0:35:34- Will that change, mate?
0:35:34 > 0:35:36- I think I have to go to Greece.
0:35:36 > 0:35:40- I think I have to go to Greece.- - Can it work, despite everything?
0:35:41 > 0:35:43- I think so, because I like her.
0:35:43 > 0:35:48- I can't expect things to stay the - same after being apart for 7 months.
0:36:06 > 0:36:10- # Portuguese Fado #
0:37:05 > 0:37:10- To me, being faithful - is when you don't kiss anyone else.
0:37:11 > 0:37:16- I give him space, he needs that, - he's not my property.
0:37:16 > 0:37:21- I don't want to own him, not really, - although I get jealous, sometimes.
0:37:22 > 0:37:26- But not all the time, either. - I trust him, definitely.
0:37:26 > 0:37:28- DANCE MUSIC
0:37:38 > 0:37:42- # I've been here ten years, - and still no paperwork
0:37:43 > 0:37:47- # I'll do my apprenticeship, - I don't want to be kicked out
0:37:48 > 0:37:50- # And every day, every day
0:37:51 > 0:37:55- # I receive letters - from the social welfare office #
0:37:55 > 0:37:58- DANCE MUSIC
0:38:44 > 0:38:47- Sometimes I want to be - with other girls.
0:38:47 > 0:38:52- I can't open up to them, because I'm - almost sure it won't feel the same.
0:38:55 > 0:38:59- Of course, - maybe I'll still sleep with them.
0:39:00 > 0:39:03- But it's not the same. - I can't explain it.
0:39:04 > 0:39:07- I'll never be able to explain.
0:39:08 > 0:39:12- We used to send pictures - every day...
0:39:12 > 0:39:15- ..and we talked for hours on Skype.
0:39:16 > 0:39:20- She was meant to come back in July.
0:39:20 > 0:39:25- That's when the crisis started - in Greece.
0:39:25 > 0:39:27- She ended up not coming.
0:39:27 > 0:39:29- When she said that...
0:39:30 > 0:39:34- ..something hit me, I went - to the bar, and Xico was back!
0:39:41 > 0:39:46- What if Dimitra asked you to stop - clubbing because of the girls?
0:39:46 > 0:39:49- She wouldn't ask. She's smart!
0:39:50 > 0:39:53- She wouldn't like that.
0:39:53 > 0:39:58- No girl likes that, not even if - they really trust the other person.
0:39:58 > 0:40:01- I can't answer that.
0:40:01 > 0:40:04- In 20 years, will you - still be working in Tubo?
0:40:04 > 0:40:08- Are you joking? - In 20 years, I'll be rich!
0:40:08 > 0:40:12- In 20 years, will you - still be working in a bar?
0:40:13 > 0:40:14- No. I'll have my own bar.
0:40:14 > 0:40:17- No. I'll have my own bar.- - A gin bar in Greece?
0:40:17 > 0:40:20- No, I want to be happy...
0:40:20 > 0:40:22- ..with a woman next to me.
0:40:23 > 0:40:23- But it won't just be one!
0:40:23 > 0:40:25- But it won't just be one!- - No, with the one and only.
0:40:26 > 0:40:28- Is she coming back?
0:40:28 > 0:40:30- Is she coming back?- - I'm moving there in November.
0:40:31 > 0:40:34- Yes, of course you are, yes.
0:40:34 > 0:40:35- Don't you believe me?
0:40:35 > 0:40:36- Don't you believe me?- - Yes.
0:40:38 > 0:40:39- Me and Fabinni.
0:40:39 > 0:40:42- Me and Fabinni.- - You're crazy.
0:40:42 > 0:40:45- OK, for a holiday or to live there?
0:40:45 > 0:40:47- To live, and try it out for a year.
0:40:48 > 0:40:50- It's possible. - Nothing is impossible!
0:40:51 > 0:40:54- Is anything impossible?
0:40:54 > 0:40:59- Long distance relationships - are hard.
0:40:59 > 0:41:01- No, it's not possible.
0:41:01 > 0:41:03- Maybe in the films...
0:41:05 > 0:41:10- Maybe she'll fall in love - with someone else, and you...
0:41:13 > 0:41:16- That's what I'm trying - to work out...
0:41:16 > 0:41:19- ..whether to go in November or not.
0:41:20 > 0:41:24- You'd change your whole life - for her?
0:41:25 > 0:41:26- Yes.
0:41:35 > 0:41:37- Manchester, UK
0:41:38 > 0:41:41- OK. Let's go for sexy stuff.
0:41:44 > 0:41:46- Legs straight.
0:41:51 > 0:41:54- Legs straight. Pull! Very nice!
0:41:59 > 0:42:00- Good, nice!
0:42:01 > 0:42:04- Pole dancing was definitely - worth it.
0:42:04 > 0:42:06- I'm glad I went.
0:42:06 > 0:42:10- I've wanted to do something - crazy like that for a while.
0:42:10 > 0:42:12- I was quite nervous about going.
0:42:13 > 0:42:16- People are going to think, - "Oh, god. That's so gay.
0:42:16 > 0:42:21- "That's what girls do. He shouldn't - be doing that kind of shit.
0:42:21 > 0:42:23- "It's embarrassing."
0:42:23 > 0:42:26- This year, - I just don't care anymore.
0:42:27 > 0:42:31- I'm sick of caring - and sick of being told what to do...
0:42:31 > 0:42:35- ..sick of the media telling us what - to buy and what's good for us...
0:42:36 > 0:42:38- ..sick of governments chatting shit.
0:42:38 > 0:42:42- We're sick of being told, - "You should do this."
0:42:42 > 0:42:46- Why should I have - a traditional relationship?
0:42:46 > 0:42:49- Why can't I sleep around? - Why are these bad things?
0:42:49 > 0:42:54- As long as I'm safe and not hurting - anyone, fuck 'em! Fuck 'em all!
0:42:55 > 0:42:58- Sex is crap, isn't it? - What's the point?
0:43:00 > 0:43:04- I don't need a boyfriend - to exist and move on.
0:43:04 > 0:43:07- I just need to know what I do want.
0:43:07 > 0:43:12- I grew up a lot, and it was painful.
0:43:13 > 0:43:18- A 20-year-old girl - who doesn't know who she is...
0:43:18 > 0:43:22- ..wants to be appreciated - by everyone...
0:43:22 > 0:43:24- ..family, friends, boys.
0:43:24 > 0:43:29- I just want to find myself, not - through a boy, but through myself.
0:43:30 > 0:43:32- I didn't really understand...
0:43:34 > 0:43:37- ..that you have to get - to know yourself first...
0:43:37 > 0:43:41- ..before starting to build - something with someone else.
0:43:57 > 0:44:00- Germany
0:44:05 > 0:44:11- We discussed marriage once, and how - things would work with his religion.
0:44:11 > 0:44:15- If I married him now, - would I have to wear a headscarf?
0:44:15 > 0:44:21- His said if I wanted marry him, - I wouldn't have to wear a headscarf.
0:44:21 > 0:44:23- I was relieved, somehow.
0:44:23 > 0:44:28- I couldn't imagine - not showing my hair.
0:44:28 > 0:44:30- Shall we put it here?
0:44:30 > 0:44:31- Shall we put it here?- - We could.
0:44:31 > 0:44:33- Or here?
0:44:33 > 0:44:37- I want a nice flat...
0:44:40 > 0:44:42- ..with Angelina...
0:44:42 > 0:44:44- ..and a nice car, too...
0:44:45 > 0:44:47- ..two children...
0:44:47 > 0:44:53- ..and to spend - more beautiful time together...
0:44:54 > 0:44:57- ..and for our future - to be lovely forever.
0:44:58 > 0:45:01- Write "A" there and "S" here.
0:45:03 > 0:45:05- And then...
0:45:05 > 0:45:08- Or put them together?
0:45:08 > 0:45:10- Lock it.
0:45:10 > 0:45:11- One!
0:45:12 > 0:45:13- Two!
0:45:14 > 0:45:15- Three!
0:45:24 > 0:45:28- I can see us - staying together forever...
0:45:29 > 0:45:34- ..and that I'll never let her go.
0:45:35 > 0:45:40- And we'll always be as happy - as when we first met.
0:45:43 > 0:45:47- # Portuguese Fado #
0:45:47 > 0:45:51- Fado music is about love - and missing someone.
0:45:51 > 0:45:55- The lyrics are always intense.
0:45:55 > 0:45:57- It's about fate!
0:45:58 > 0:46:01- It comes from deep inside.
0:46:03 > 0:46:06- And that's electrifying.
0:46:09 > 0:46:10- Have you ever been in love?
0:46:10 > 0:46:12- Have you ever been in love?- - Of course!
0:46:12 > 0:46:13- How does it feel?
0:46:13 > 0:46:15- How does it feel?- - How does it feel?
0:46:16 > 0:46:19- It's a very different feeling!
0:46:19 > 0:46:21- Being with a random girl...
0:46:22 > 0:46:26- ..is not the same - as being with the girl you love.
0:46:28 > 0:46:30- The little games, the looks...
0:46:30 > 0:46:32- ..everything is different!
0:46:34 > 0:46:36- It feels so... right.
0:46:36 > 0:46:38- It feels so... right.- - That's so true.
0:46:50 > 0:46:54- # My eyes are two candles
0:46:56 > 0:47:01- # Casting a sad light on my face
0:47:02 > 0:47:05- # My eyes
0:47:05 > 0:47:08- # Are two candles
0:47:11 > 0:47:16- # Casting a sad light on my face
0:47:20 > 0:47:25- # Why do you upset me
0:47:27 > 0:47:32- # When I love you so much? #
0:48:08 > 0:48:10- S4C Subtitles by Gwead
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