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:00:12. > :00:17.John Terry was found innocent of racially abusing Anton Ferdinand

:00:17. > :00:27.this week, but he should he have ended up in court a tall? -- should

:00:27. > :00:38.

:00:38. > :00:43.he. Should racial insults be a crime? Good morning and welcome to

:00:43. > :00:47.Sunday Morning Live. John Terry's supporters cheered as they cleared

:00:47. > :00:53.him of racism this week. Anti- racism campaigners say racial

:00:53. > :00:59.insults must be illegal because they encourage hatred and violence.

:00:59. > :01:04.But lawyer Abhijit Pandya things they have got it wrong. This only

:01:04. > :01:14.victimise his ethnic minorities further and gives the impression

:01:14. > :01:14.

:01:14. > :01:18.they are sensitive. Is more access to contraception the best way to

:01:18. > :01:22.protect women or is it immoral to try to stop people in poorer

:01:23. > :01:27.countries having lots of children. Jamie Oliver's wife, Jules, has

:01:28. > :01:31.admitted she slips on his e-mails and texts even though she has --

:01:31. > :01:36.says their marriage is rock solid. Is it wrong to snoop on your

:01:36. > :01:39.partner's e-mails and messages. Jenny Bond is one of our favourite

:01:39. > :01:46.broadcasters, she has been reported on a roll family for over 20 years

:01:46. > :01:51.and was locked into a coffin of rats for the show I'm a celebrity.

:01:51. > :01:55.Abhijit Pandya is a lawyer and blogger for the Daily Mail. He led

:01:55. > :01:59.the fight to allow a right-wing politician to be allowed to speak

:01:59. > :02:04.in the UK. And Bidisha is a novelist and broadcaster, a leading

:02:04. > :02:14.expert on women's right and has written from every -- one of thing

:02:14. > :02:28.

:02:28. > :02:32.from Venice to cultural identity in It was the court case that divided

:02:32. > :02:35.a nation. John Terry was cleared of racially abusing Anton Ferdinand in

:02:35. > :02:38.a heated row on the pitch. But the Football Association are still

:02:38. > :02:40.investigating his behaviour and a number of black players have

:02:40. > :02:44.expressed concern over the verdict. They're worried it encourages

:02:44. > :02:49.racist abuse. But lawyer Abhijit Pandya says its time we stopped

:02:49. > :02:52.being so sensitive. This is his Sunday stand. As you would expect,

:02:53. > :03:00.in the debate that follows you may hear some examples of racial

:03:00. > :03:03.language that may offend you. Criminalising racial insults only

:03:03. > :03:09.victimise his effing minorities further by giving the impression

:03:09. > :03:14.they are excessively sensitive and -- sensitive. I am baffled.

:03:14. > :03:16.Criminalising racial abuse is only in the interest of the power.. Our

:03:16. > :03:21.police, court and prosecutors, instead of spending a necessary

:03:21. > :03:24.time on this could be dealing with real criminals. Criminalising the

:03:24. > :03:28.use of speech is not about the defendant of victim, but the state

:03:28. > :03:32.drawing boundaries between what is right and wrong. I don't believe

:03:32. > :03:36.those in governance have the right to do this. Freedom of speech is

:03:36. > :03:39.the most important civil liberty. It has to be kept and restricted

:03:39. > :03:46.because we use that liberty to defend all our other liberties.

:03:46. > :03:49.Without freedom of speech democracy simply cannot exist. We need the

:03:49. > :03:54.unrestricted liberty of freedom of speech, not just to air their views

:03:54. > :04:01.we want but to also protect tolerance on different points of

:04:01. > :04:05.view. If we curb speech that is offensive we will not be able to

:04:05. > :04:09.discuss things and we will weaken ties with other communities. I

:04:09. > :04:17.would not want somebody who called me a racist names to end up in

:04:17. > :04:22.court. It is time to rein in the speech police and leave us alone.

:04:22. > :04:26.Bidisha, does racist abuse language need to be illegal? It does and I

:04:26. > :04:31.am glad at least this incident got to court and the fact we are

:04:31. > :04:35.talking about it shows it is not OK to use the language that was used.

:04:35. > :04:39.That was openly racist, misogynistic, which people have not

:04:39. > :04:41.mentioned. It was said with aggressive intent. Of course we

:04:41. > :04:45.should have a free and civil society where people can speak

:04:45. > :04:50.freely but one of the responsibilities of that is to not

:04:50. > :04:55.open your mouth and let hate speech about anything, race, sex, ability,

:04:55. > :04:59.sexuality, anything like that come out. It is deeply offensive. You

:04:59. > :05:04.can say words are words but they are part of an oppressive and

:05:04. > :05:14.offensive society. But is the question for the vote. Should

:05:14. > :05:32.

:05:33. > :05:36.-- insults. A lot of black players have spent years dealing with this

:05:36. > :05:41.kind of language on the pitch and they have come out and said this

:05:41. > :05:45.case matters, the issue matters. Are you saying they are wrong?

:05:45. > :05:49.are all wrong. The great Enoch Powell once said we have gone mad

:05:49. > :05:53.as a nation. I think we have. Why are we spending thousands of pounds

:05:53. > :05:57.prosecuting the use of language just because some people happen to

:05:57. > :06:02.be offended, or might be offended, we don't even know if they have a

:06:02. > :06:06.vendetta against someone. I think words have to be beyond the remit

:06:06. > :06:10.of the law. In an ideal society people should say that to somebody

:06:10. > :06:15.er don't like, he is rude, using foul language, and that is probably

:06:15. > :06:19.his character. I won't have anything to do with him. It is not

:06:19. > :06:24.the problem of the state to get involved in it. We have to grow up

:06:24. > :06:33.on this. I really don't understand this verdict. It seems to me it is

:06:33. > :06:37.deeply offensive, in my view it is a verbal assault. It would seem it

:06:37. > :06:42.was held at Anton Ferdinand although John Terry has been

:06:42. > :06:46.cleared. But the message that has gone out is that it is OK to use

:06:46. > :06:52.that language, would you use black or white in the middle of the other

:06:52. > :06:58.words. Enoch Powell was not great, he was a total bases. I want a

:06:58. > :07:04.second that idea about violence and harassment, hate speech comes from

:07:04. > :07:07.not just language but animation. Except this is often about a wider

:07:07. > :07:12.abuse and a boorish and us, but there are specific words which are

:07:12. > :07:20.not mistaken. The perpetrator has not mistaken that the choice of

:07:20. > :07:24.words, neither has the victim. There are many campaigns in

:07:24. > :07:28.football which draw on the testimonies of players who have

:07:28. > :07:32.experienced multiple of verbal racial attacks. Instead of being

:07:32. > :07:38.over-sensitive, victims wait and wait until it has happened about 30

:07:38. > :07:42.times to finally speak out. There are all these campaigns about

:07:42. > :07:45.racist language in football because it matters, doesn't it? A think it

:07:45. > :07:49.is misguided. I think the real issues here are victims of real

:07:49. > :07:56.crime who do not have their cases dealt with because money is being

:07:56. > :08:00.spent on dealing with whether somebody is offended or not. People

:08:00. > :08:04.used to throw bananas on the pitch, a player has been reduced to tears

:08:04. > :08:07.on the pitch. If the club or the FA want to discipline those people,

:08:07. > :08:12.fine, but the fact the criminal- justice system is involved is

:08:12. > :08:16.taking up a lot of time and money. It is estimated that trial cost

:08:16. > :08:23.over �200,000. It is it the money that bothers you? It is the issue

:08:23. > :08:28.of freedom of speech, that we are treating people like children.

:08:28. > :08:31.Someone is upset so we spent �200,000 prosecuting it. I do not

:08:31. > :08:35.think the victims of racial or any other kind of abuse are being

:08:35. > :08:39.treated as children, or are behaving as children. I think it is

:08:39. > :08:42.very adult and brave to stand up and say this was said to me and it

:08:42. > :08:45.and say this was said to me and it is not OK and I will take the

:08:45. > :08:48.bullets for it by standing up and bullets for it by standing up and

:08:48. > :08:54.bringing some kind of legal suit, whatever it might be, or lodging a

:08:54. > :08:59.formal complaint. Not everything has to go to trial but it is very

:08:59. > :09:04.big of survivors of any abuse to stand up and say this is not OK.

:09:04. > :09:09.This is the tip of the iceberg of what the state based race industry

:09:09. > :09:15.has done to this country, it has put people into the mindset of I am

:09:15. > :09:19.a victim. A except for you? I think there are many like me who thing

:09:19. > :09:23.for goodness sake, you cannot possibly be offended by that. You

:09:23. > :09:31.have to just bounce off words. surely would be offended if

:09:31. > :09:36.somebody said that you? I would not. Even at work, at court? And no.

:09:36. > :09:45.when does it become a legal? At no stage. Employers can discipline

:09:45. > :09:49.people internally but as for the state getting involved in making

:09:49. > :09:55.this criminal, a man has been made criminal for use of language. That

:09:55. > :09:59.is absurd! Let me make it clear to potential perpetrators and victims,

:09:59. > :10:04.don't go up to people, open your mouth and say something

:10:04. > :10:08.misogynistic, racist, sexist or in any other way bigoted, and then we

:10:08. > :10:18.will be fine, not use up any court time or money, let's just agree on

:10:18. > :10:28.that. I want to bring a contributor from the Web cam. Simon organises

:10:28. > :10:29.

:10:29. > :10:33.people getting politically Good morning to you all. Sadly, the

:10:33. > :10:38.reality is that gross racial insults are often followed by acts

:10:38. > :10:42.of violence. Last year alone there were 51,000 serious racial

:10:42. > :10:48.incidents, many of which were violent. It depends on what kind of

:10:48. > :10:55.society we want. If we were listening to Planet Abhijit Pandya,

:10:55. > :10:59.then we have racism but no racists. We have victims but no perpetrators.

:10:59. > :11:03.So we have to say do we want to live any decent society? If we do,

:11:03. > :11:07.there are standards and if you break those there are sanctions, if

:11:07. > :11:14.they are gross then you go to the courts. If they art work, you lose

:11:14. > :11:17.your job. It is about what type of society we want to live in. How do

:11:17. > :11:22.you want that? It is not clear whether criminalising racial

:11:22. > :11:27.language would change opinions on race. If I commit assault on the

:11:28. > :11:31.back of that then the criminal- justice system will act on that, I

:11:31. > :11:38.have interfered with somebody's bodily integrity. They can draw a

:11:38. > :11:43.boundary between words and assault. The point about it is that one

:11:43. > :11:47.follows the other. If you have the former, you are less likely to have

:11:47. > :11:51.the latter. It makes sense. We don't want people to have to go

:11:51. > :11:55.about their law-abiding business being grossly insulted. That is not

:11:55. > :12:03.the type of society I want to bring my child into, neither do many

:12:03. > :12:07.black or white families. I want to bring in a lecturer in

:12:07. > :12:13.criminology who is on the phone. Simon is saying extreme language

:12:13. > :12:20.normalises racism and kind of set a tone to encourage actual violence.

:12:20. > :12:24.It is a good question because it reflects the sentiment behind the

:12:24. > :12:32.law in this case. It is a very patronising, almost anti-

:12:32. > :12:37.democratic sentiment which suggests we really can't allow people to say

:12:37. > :12:47.certain things because there will be a trigger in the minds of some

:12:47. > :12:50.white working-class people. I think there is something very worrying

:12:50. > :12:57.and anti- democratic about a sentiment where we tried to, in

:12:57. > :13:01.essence, make certain words and ideas illegal. It is profoundly

:13:01. > :13:05.authoritarian and elitist. A so you think it is parley discriminating

:13:05. > :13:12.against working-class people. You don't think Posh white people can

:13:12. > :13:16.be racist? I think a whole think -- it is a cosmopolitan form of

:13:16. > :13:20.snobbery which automatically thinks there is a problem with white

:13:20. > :13:24.working-class people who were either racist or potentially racist

:13:24. > :13:30.and therefore potentially violent and we need to have more and more

:13:30. > :13:34.laws and regulations to try to prevent that. I just don't see

:13:34. > :13:39.where the class issue comes in at all. I simply been the message is

:13:39. > :13:45.now being sent out, particularly to young people, for which John Terry

:13:45. > :13:52.is a role model, that this kind of language is OK. It is not. That is

:13:52. > :13:57.why I think the law should have been brought into force. Hasn't

:13:57. > :14:01.there been a change over time? Are we a very sensitive which is being

:14:01. > :14:05.implied there? I think there are all sorts of defences for abusive

:14:05. > :14:09.language and that whenever someone brings it up the tendency is to

:14:09. > :14:13.victim blame, to say you made a mistake, you were over-reacting,

:14:13. > :14:17.you don't understand, this is about free speech, of course we should

:14:17. > :14:21.have a society with free speech but we should also live in a society

:14:21. > :14:26.which is not abusive. I think the courts are actually lagging behind

:14:26. > :14:30.society on this issue because it has stirred up so much controversy

:14:30. > :14:35.that here we are talking about it, which is a good thing. To say

:14:35. > :14:39.nothing, to say it is OK and sit back in silence is to simply pass

:14:39. > :14:46.it off as normal which it is not. Many feel it is not normal, or

:14:46. > :14:51.write to be completely abusive. think there is something in sticks

:14:51. > :14:54.and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I think a

:14:54. > :14:59.mature society does not react will get upset because somebody calls

:14:59. > :15:03.them a name. You think that person is an idiot, fine, but we don't

:15:03. > :15:08.want to get lawyers and legislation involved where we had just dealing

:15:08. > :15:12.with words. We need to understand they are just words. Anton

:15:12. > :15:21.Ferdinand said when someone brings your colour into what it takes it

:15:21. > :15:25.to another level and is very I think he proves my point, you

:15:25. > :15:29.have made people over-sensitive by encouraging these people -- these

:15:29. > :15:35.kinds of prosecutions. That statement is a reaction took 30

:15:35. > :15:39.years of oversubscribed racial equality legislation. This is not

:15:39. > :15:43.about the sensitivity of victims. We need to put the focus on the

:15:43. > :15:48.perpetrator. What did John Terry think he was doing? When I get

:15:49. > :15:52.angry, which is frequently, I don't run into the street and verbally,

:15:53. > :15:56.racially or sexually or in any other way abuse my colleagues, even

:15:56. > :16:01.when angry and spouting off. We need to put the responsibility

:16:01. > :16:08.where it belongs, on to the perpetrators. I want to bring in

:16:08. > :16:11.another contributor on the webcam. Ricky Gervais came out with a so-

:16:11. > :16:15.called joke about people with Down's syndrome and used an

:16:15. > :16:19.offensive word, there was a huge backlash. Would you say that is OK

:16:19. > :16:24.and is it not similar to the row about racist language? It is

:16:24. > :16:34.similar in one sense, you're talking about a attributes that

:16:34. > :16:34.

:16:34. > :16:40.people can't help, race, disability, security. The problem with Ricky

:16:40. > :16:47.Gervais, one of the major problems, was that the joke he tried to make

:16:47. > :16:50.wasn't in any way funny. He was trying to say that the use of the

:16:50. > :16:55.word had moved on and he wasn't being offensive, but he clearly

:16:55. > :17:02.thought he had made a great joke. The fact was it wasn't funny and it

:17:02. > :17:09.felt like bullying. I would worry that we should shut down any jokes

:17:09. > :17:13.that bringing characteristics, because we can't shut down these

:17:13. > :17:17.arguments completely. Sometimes jokes can be very funny that

:17:17. > :17:21.involve transgressive ideas. On the issue of bullying, people look at

:17:21. > :17:24.the John Terry case and this kind of incident and say that it

:17:24. > :17:30.intimidate black players. Maybe you have to be a black player to know

:17:30. > :17:33.what it feels like. Possibly. Bullying is bullion but when we

:17:33. > :17:38.start -- bullying is bullying but when we start worrying about

:17:38. > :17:48.specific words and fetish Freising those words, which seems to happens

:17:48. > :17:50.

:17:50. > :17:58.Racism will not go away if certain words are banned. We need to look

:17:58. > :18:02.at attitudes and education. race Relations Act came in in 1976.

:18:02. > :18:08.My parents can remember some dodgy sitcoms that was supposed to be

:18:08. > :18:13.funny about race. People would find this hard to watch now, not just

:18:13. > :18:17.people who are black or Asian. Perhaps we don't know -- don't need

:18:17. > :18:21.to prosecute, we know where the line is. I don't think that is the

:18:21. > :18:24.case, I am glad this incident came to court. It is about society's

:18:24. > :18:29.attitudes and if we had all the time and money in the world, we

:18:29. > :18:34.would educate from a very young age that this is not OK and there would

:18:34. > :18:41.not be the need for it to come to when we are in our 30s and coming

:18:41. > :18:46.to court. This is about a deep social education for everyone.

:18:46. > :18:51.may want to programme children Orwellian style... I'm talking

:18:51. > :18:58.about teaching children not to be total racers, actually. I think it

:18:58. > :19:03.is sad that we don't have people like Tommy Cooper around. He was

:19:03. > :19:07.not racist. It's depends on your opinion. I think racial jokes are

:19:07. > :19:14.OK and the fact that society has to think, oh I have got to edit that

:19:14. > :19:24.programme, it is a backward step, not a Ford's step. Some people --

:19:24. > :19:37.

:19:37. > :19:47.That this says I am black, I don't think racial insults should be made

:19:47. > :19:48.

:19:48. > :19:58.illegal. What do you think? You can text us to the number below. Or you

:19:58. > :20:04.

:20:04. > :20:07.can vote online. You have 20 Melinda Gates from the Gates

:20:07. > :20:11.Foundation charity was fund-raising in London this week. She wants to

:20:11. > :20:15.provide access to birth control, including contraceptive injections

:20:15. > :20:18.to millions of women in developing countries. She says giving women

:20:18. > :20:22.control over their fertility will empower them and save millions of

:20:22. > :20:26.lives. Has easy access to contraception being unanimously

:20:26. > :20:35.good for British society, and is it right to promote those Western

:20:35. > :20:39.G one of the world's most powerful couples is challenging the Kathleen

:20:39. > :20:44.-- the Catholic church on one of its core teachings, contraception.

:20:44. > :20:49.Melinda Gates, herself a practising Catholic, wants to bring artificial

:20:49. > :20:53.birth control to 120 million of the poorest women in the world and our

:20:53. > :20:56.government is helping to fund it. Every year, 100,000 women die in

:20:56. > :21:00.childbirth, who say they didn't want to be pregnant in the first

:21:00. > :21:05.place. They also lose 600,000 babies every year from women who

:21:05. > :21:09.say it was unintended pregnancy. We can save those lives by giving them

:21:09. > :21:14.the modern tools that we have today, in the UK or the US. The Catholic

:21:14. > :21:18.church disputes her calls. They say promoting contraception would

:21:18. > :21:22.increase promiscuity. The Vatican says that sex should only be for

:21:22. > :21:28.procreation within the bonds of marriage. Across the world,

:21:28. > :21:32.Catholic clergy teach this as a fundamental part of their pace --

:21:32. > :21:36.their faith. It is not the business of the government to be promoting

:21:36. > :21:45.contraceptive devices. It would be like saying, the government will

:21:45. > :21:53.pass a law which will fund the promotion of poor eating among the

:21:53. > :21:57.Muslims -- pork beating. Is it time the Catholic Church changed its

:21:57. > :22:02.stance on contraception? Would it empower women and change population

:22:02. > :22:06.growth? Or is there something immoral about trying to control how

:22:06. > :22:10.many children people have been poorer countries? Are we imposing

:22:10. > :22:14.secular values on people who may believe children are a gift from

:22:14. > :22:19.God? You can join the conversation on

:22:19. > :22:24.Twitter, phone, text or e-mail. We are joined in the studio by

:22:24. > :22:28.Caroline Farrow from the group, Catholic Voices. You are also

:22:28. > :22:34.expecting a child, congratulations. Thank you. People like Melinda

:22:34. > :22:37.Gates, who happens to be Catholic, a lot of people in this country say

:22:37. > :22:41.that contraceptives are a force to good, why do you object so

:22:42. > :22:46.strongly? We don't object to women being in charge of their own

:22:47. > :22:50.fertility, and being empowered. But there is no evidence to suggest

:22:51. > :22:56.that contraceptives actually have any life-saving effect. Melinda

:22:56. > :23:01.Gates says she wants to save the lives of women and babies. That is

:23:01. > :23:04.a very laudable goal and we would agree with that. But providing

:23:04. > :23:11.contraceptives, particularly to women in the developing world, will

:23:11. > :23:17.not impact on maternal mortality rates. Real? Why are women dying in

:23:17. > :23:20.childbirth? Because they don't have decent basic medical care. They

:23:21. > :23:25.don't have doctors, midwives, they are not giving birth in sterile

:23:25. > :23:30.conditions, they don't have any antenatal care. We need things like

:23:30. > :23:34.road to clinics, emergency mobile phones. There is a whole lot of

:23:34. > :23:38.provision that is to be given to women who are expecting, and to

:23:38. > :23:45.newborn babies and infants. Providing contraception

:23:45. > :23:49.circumnavigates the issue. Really? It adds to it. Obviously we need

:23:49. > :23:53.those other measures, but to not allow women to have the right to

:23:53. > :23:57.have contraception, not to educate them into contraception, not to

:23:57. > :24:01.limit the number of children, kids of 12 years old in Sierra Leone, as

:24:01. > :24:06.soon as puberty hits, they are pregnant. I cannot understand your

:24:06. > :24:12.viewpoint at all. It is not about limiting women's rights to

:24:12. > :24:18.fertility. 12 year olds in Sierra Leone having children, no one can

:24:19. > :24:24.condone that at all. So let's give them contraception. Surely that

:24:24. > :24:28.just empowers the man who want to exploit them. 12 year-olds should

:24:28. > :24:33.not be having sex. The problem is that with young marriages and with

:24:33. > :24:36.rape... What we need to be doing is clamping down on those people who

:24:37. > :24:43.want to exploit the women. course, no one would argue against

:24:43. > :24:46.that. We can't give a 12-year-old contraception and say, it is OK.

:24:46. > :24:51.would second everything you have said, it is also about access to

:24:51. > :24:56.childcare, access to hospitals and emergency doctors and assistance.

:24:56. > :25:01.It is also about saying that if you have a situation, life is not ideal,

:25:01. > :25:05.life is what it is. If you have a situation where there are 12, 13,

:25:05. > :25:09.14 year-olds giving birth, not having the education to know that

:25:09. > :25:14.this is how babies are made, this is what you can do and you don't

:25:14. > :25:20.have to do, we must give them contraception. A lot of these women

:25:20. > :25:24.are having 10, 11, 12 babies. goes to the question of what

:25:24. > :25:29.happens in the immediacy of a pregnancy. If you have large

:25:29. > :25:33.families, as the woman, how do you pay for them? Can you educate them?

:25:33. > :25:36.It is about resources and this creates a tremendous strain

:25:37. > :25:46.financially, socially, personally, psychologically, in the years to

:25:47. > :25:47.

:25:47. > :25:51.Nobody is arguing that women shouldn't be educated about sex.

:25:51. > :25:55.The Gates Foundation is going to do that, too. A much better way would

:25:55. > :25:58.be to empower women with something like natural family planning which

:25:58. > :26:04.according to the World Health Organisation has success rates. I

:26:04. > :26:10.know you are laughing. I am just smiling. It really doesn't work.

:26:10. > :26:16.does. This is no longer the Vatican roulette. The World Health

:26:16. > :26:21.Organisation report success rates of 97%. One about safe sex?

:26:21. > :26:25.Contraceptives provide safer sex. Have you been to Kenya, Uganda,

:26:25. > :26:32.seen women dying of AIDS with hundreds of children who are going

:26:32. > :26:35.to be orphaned? His even if we give all the education in the world,

:26:35. > :26:41.women within relationships don't always have the power to say, can

:26:41. > :26:45.you please use a condom? Can we do it like this? It is very difficult.

:26:45. > :26:49.Given that this is a crisis situation, I absolutely by what you

:26:49. > :26:55.are saying but this is a crisis situation that is not to do with

:26:55. > :27:00.just contraception, it is about consequences. The evidence shows

:27:00. > :27:06.that condoms, believe it or not, don't actually work. What is your

:27:06. > :27:09.source for that? Professor Edward Green, head of HIV and AIDS

:27:09. > :27:14.prevention at Harvard University, he is an atheist and a liberal, he

:27:14. > :27:18.has no Catholic agenda, he was on the ground in Africa for 20 to 25

:27:18. > :27:23.years, giving out condoms. He said the evidence showed it did not work.

:27:23. > :27:30.There is a phenomenon known as risk compensation. People feel they are

:27:30. > :27:34.protected, so they engage in riskier behaviour. This is what I

:27:34. > :27:37.was talking about about the empowerment of women. Even if you

:27:37. > :27:41.have condoms, you don't always have the power within the relationship

:27:41. > :27:51.to make sure they are used properly and that they serve the purpose

:27:51. > :27:51.

:27:51. > :27:54.they were designed for. This is why I am pro- contraceptive injections.

:27:54. > :28:01.A contraceptive injection on its own will not protect against

:28:01. > :28:11.disease. That does natural child contraceptive methods -- neither

:28:11. > :28:13.

:28:13. > :28:17.does. You need a condom and an injection. We also need education.

:28:17. > :28:22.I have another contributor, Father John Redmond. Forgive me, it read

:28:22. > :28:27.for it. Women like Caroline who live in Britain, they can choose

:28:27. > :28:35.not to use contraception for their faith, but why should women in

:28:35. > :28:38.poorer countries be denied that choice? Can I congratulate your

:28:38. > :28:44.Catholic contributor, being attacked from all sides, she is

:28:44. > :28:47.doing very well. We brought you in to back her up. I would like to

:28:47. > :28:52.emphasise very much, the Church does not say that people should

:28:52. > :29:02.have as many children as possible. There is natural family planning

:29:02. > :29:11.and a research group called Natural procreation technology. In the

:29:11. > :29:17.recent conference that there was, David Cameron put his oar in here,

:29:17. > :29:21.why was the subject of natural family planning not discussed? As

:29:21. > :29:27.this good lady said, many scientists are saying it is

:29:27. > :29:30.possible. That was not the question, we have moved on. Tell me why women

:29:30. > :29:35.in the developing countries should not be given the choice, in the way

:29:35. > :29:39.that Caroline has a choice not to use it? Because it is wrong. She is

:29:39. > :29:47.given the choice, you can use natural family planning. What is

:29:47. > :29:53.not permitted is to make a sexually immoral decision, which is to

:29:53. > :29:58.separate the sex act from the procreative act. Just a moment, I

:29:58. > :30:04.want to bring in the country director for Marie Stopes

:30:04. > :30:12.International in Senegal. What do the women you meet say to you about

:30:12. > :30:15.it? Mostly, the women just say thank you. Marie Stopes

:30:15. > :30:19.International Senegal is a new programme. We have been running

:30:19. > :30:24.services for eight months and we have already had a massive impact,

:30:24. > :30:27.serving 6,000 women. Most of the feedback I have heard is thank you

:30:27. > :30:32.very much for providing the services that we do not have access

:30:32. > :30:38.to. Only 12% of women have access to a modern contraception method.

:30:38. > :30:42.30% of women express a desire to use family-planning methods. We are

:30:42. > :30:46.going for these women, we show up and they show up because they want

:30:46. > :30:52.this and they need this. I can give you an example, last Monday Melinda

:30:52. > :30:58.Gates came to visit our programme. We spoke to a 19-year-old called

:30:58. > :31:00.Bernadette, who had been married for a year. She was carrying her

:31:00. > :31:06.newborn child and was breast- feeding while we were talking to

:31:06. > :31:10.have. We asked her, why are you here? She said, I have had this one

:31:11. > :31:15.child and I want to do the best for this child, I want to give her the

:31:15. > :31:19.best future possible and I want to give my children that I hope to

:31:19. > :31:24.have in the future, the best education and start in life. For

:31:24. > :31:34.that, I need to space my pregnancies. I think that is key to

:31:34. > :31:36.

:31:36. > :31:43.I want to bring in a Catholic physician in Nigeria. Are you

:31:43. > :31:50.saying all these women are choosing to have babies without the power to

:31:50. > :32:00.say no to their husbands? Don't they need contraceptive choice?

:32:00. > :32:00.

:32:00. > :32:03.answer to that is not all of these women would have the opportunity to

:32:03. > :32:11.say I don't want to have this particular child at this particular

:32:11. > :32:15.time with their husband. There is a lack of power in the dynamics of

:32:15. > :32:24.relationships here in Africa. However, to say that they need

:32:25. > :32:29.contraception as their answer is not right, it is not the answer. We

:32:29. > :32:35.have been told that women need education. Most of the women are

:32:35. > :32:39.you will stop on the street, if you ask them when was your last

:32:39. > :32:44.menstrual period? Why is it important? How does it help you

:32:44. > :32:54.stay healthy? They don't have that basic knowledge to know why they

:32:54. > :32:56.

:32:56. > :32:59.need that information. Caroline is saying we need to put more money

:32:59. > :33:05.into roads and health care, it is not just about contraception but

:33:05. > :33:09.better health care for women. think it is a question of both. We

:33:09. > :33:13.need better health care in countries like Senegal with low

:33:13. > :33:18.resource settings. I fundamentally do not agree with saying

:33:18. > :33:22.contraception is not part of that because in a recent Lancet study we

:33:22. > :33:29.showed if this need for family planning, just giving women what

:33:29. > :33:35.they have already expressed they want, we can reduce maternal

:33:36. > :33:40.mortality and infant mortality by 10%. We can reduce children

:33:40. > :33:48.mortality by 21%, so these are massive health impacts that are due

:33:48. > :33:54.and linked to contraception. There are measurable health impacts by

:33:54. > :33:58.offering the advice and support as well. I am very sorry I have to

:33:58. > :34:03.strongly disagree. Contraception is a big distraction from maternal

:34:03. > :34:08.mortality. Women at die every day in this country do not have the

:34:08. > :34:13.ability to get from where they are having an emergency to the hospital

:34:13. > :34:18.because of roads. When they get to the hospital there are so many

:34:18. > :34:21.delays because the health service is badly put together and there are

:34:21. > :34:25.no resources or personnel to take care of their problem.

:34:25. > :34:34.Contraception is the biggest distraction to helping women stay

:34:34. > :34:41.alive. It is not the answer. have to leave it there. I want talk

:34:41. > :34:45.about need. A World War -- World Health Organisation report says 89%

:34:45. > :34:50.of women without partners have ready access to contraception and

:34:50. > :34:57.can use it. When they talk about unmet need, they are including

:34:57. > :35:01.women who are already pregnant, breast-feeding, that figure would

:35:01. > :35:07.include the 65,000 Roman Catholic nuns in Africa who do not want to

:35:07. > :35:12.use contraception. Following on from that, we need everything, the

:35:12. > :35:17.contraception, education, access, raising of consciousness, I am glad

:35:17. > :35:22.about what Melinda Gates said. appalled anybody even questions

:35:22. > :35:26.this is necessary. Of course it is. I am horrified that a bunch of male,

:35:26. > :35:29.cellar but, childless people in the Vatican continued to try to rule

:35:29. > :35:33.over half the population. It is dreadful.

:35:33. > :35:37.Time for some comments... Demetrius in London, a child has a gift of

:35:37. > :35:41.God but should not pay the price of being born when parents do not have

:35:41. > :35:44.the resources to give it a good life. Another viewer, women should

:35:44. > :35:50.have access to contraception, they can choose not to use it due to

:35:50. > :35:52.religion, but they should have the choice. Later... What would you do

:35:52. > :35:56.if you suspected your partner was being unfaithful? Rebecca Jane

:35:56. > :35:59.spied on her own husband and discovered he was cheating, now she

:35:59. > :36:02.runs a private detective agency to unmask love rats. We'll be speaking

:36:02. > :36:06.to Rebecca later, but what would you have done in her position?

:36:06. > :36:11.Would you have broken into his e mail, spied on his texts? Or would

:36:11. > :36:15.that be an invasion of privacy? You can join in by webcam. Or you can

:36:15. > :36:25.make your views known by phone, e mail or online. You've been voting

:36:25. > :36:31.

:36:31. > :36:41.in our poll this morning - should racial insults be illegal? You have

:36:41. > :36:47.

:36:47. > :36:52.Moral moments now. Jenny, you have spotted a story about parking for

:36:52. > :36:56.men and women. -- Jennie Bond. These is outrageous. A mayor in

:36:56. > :37:00.generate -- Germany has decided women cannot park so in the car

:37:00. > :37:06.park in the town he has allocated male and female spaces. The spaces

:37:06. > :37:10.for men are more tricky to get into, you have to reverse into them.

:37:10. > :37:14.Reverse ladies, how dreadful! The women's spaces are large and you

:37:14. > :37:21.can go straight in. How ridiculous. If you cannot reverse into a space,

:37:21. > :37:24.you should not be driving. Don't you think? Quite so. I want to see

:37:24. > :37:29.men had sat-nav taken away because then they will never ask for

:37:29. > :37:35.directions, will they? They should add to the women's parking spaces,

:37:35. > :37:43.make them pink with cushions, because we love that. With a little

:37:43. > :37:47.cupcake at the end. A little reward if you can do it! Caroline, this is

:37:47. > :37:52.the interesting story, it is a face and female issue about hotel

:37:53. > :37:57.Bibles... There is a hotel manager in Devon who has decided to replace

:37:57. > :38:04.all the copies of the Gideon Bible which are normally free in a hotel

:38:04. > :38:13.with 50 shades of grey instead. knew that would get a mention. A

:38:13. > :38:23.marketing gimmick? -- gimmick? Parley. I can't help thinking it is

:38:23. > :38:26.

:38:26. > :38:32.excluding 50% of the population -- party. -- partly. It is marketed as

:38:32. > :38:38.mummy born, so what is Daddy born? More seriously, it is a big mistake.

:38:38. > :38:48.The Bible has been around for 2000 years, it has more staying power

:38:48. > :38:50.

:38:50. > :38:54.and... It has some sexy bits! incredibly erotic. This chap is

:38:54. > :39:00.saying the Bible is inaccessible but I think we can learn more about

:39:00. > :39:06.the human condition from the Bible than we can about some a man with

:39:06. > :39:10.psychological issues. You have read the book. I am enjoying it and

:39:10. > :39:14.subsequent books. I can't imagine a book I would one less in a hotel

:39:14. > :39:22.than the Bible. I've never understood it. I don't want it. I

:39:22. > :39:27.find it boring. Irrelevant to my life. So much of our literature,

:39:27. > :39:32.tradition and culture is based on the Bible and without it you are

:39:32. > :39:35.missing a whole level of richness. Even Richard Dawkins support the

:39:35. > :39:41.Bible being given out because leading cities good literature.

:39:41. > :39:46.think we should have a copy of both books, the hotels can delay poll to

:39:46. > :39:50.see who likes it. The hotels make a lot of money from Hotel born on

:39:50. > :40:00.their TV so all they had to do is keep the pornography on the

:40:00. > :40:01.

:40:01. > :40:09.television free. -- porn. And will people still be reading 50 shades

:40:09. > :40:12.of grey in 50 years? The hunt for UFOs caught your eye. It turns out

:40:12. > :40:18.The National archives have released the details of the fact that the

:40:18. > :40:22.MoD have been lobbying strange flying objects for the last DEC --

:40:22. > :40:26.last few decades. I am surprised by this because the hunt has been

:40:26. > :40:33.going on for a while and nobody has found any evidence that across

:40:33. > :40:37.billions of light years advanced light spacecraft have made their

:40:37. > :40:46.way into our solar system to be spotted. The MoD have said they are

:40:46. > :40:51.either forms of plasma or possibly military vehicles. This makes me

:40:51. > :40:56.sound mad but I saw a peculiar floating object above the horizon

:40:56. > :41:04.me where I live and it was indeed a semi circular thing would like us

:41:04. > :41:09.along the rim. Then it turned out there is an RAF base there. As a

:41:09. > :41:12.reporter, Jennie Bond, have you been struck by them? Why are we so

:41:12. > :41:15.obsessed with them? It a assassinating that there is life

:41:15. > :41:21.out there. I am distressed the MoD should be spending money on this

:41:21. > :41:25.because we do not have any money. Not any more. I doubt we had the

:41:25. > :41:28.funds even when we were doing it so I think it was misappropriation of

:41:28. > :41:33.funds. The have cities people who don't have faith, they look for

:41:33. > :41:41.something else in the sky. A Paris Tony Blair was extremely concerned

:41:41. > :41:47.about it and insisted one briefings. He is into crystals and things, too.

:41:47. > :41:54.Who knows? Thank you. You have been voting in our poll, should racial

:41:54. > :41:58.insults be illegal. It is closing now so do not text. The on line

:41:58. > :42:05.voters' closing as well. We will bring you the results at the end of

:42:05. > :42:08.the show. If your partner fancies being unfaithful then the internet

:42:08. > :42:12.has made their life much easier, giving them the opportunity to

:42:12. > :42:16.flirt and hook up with old flames. Facebook is even being cited in

:42:16. > :42:19.divorce cases. So what do you do about it? Well, this week the wife

:42:19. > :42:22.of celebrity chef Jamie Oliver said she regularly snooped on his texts

:42:22. > :42:26.and e mails and she considers their and e mails and she considers their

:42:26. > :42:31.and e mails and she considers their and e mails and she considers their

:42:31. > :42:36.12 year relationship is a sound one. So

:42:36. > :42:40.So is it OK to snoop on texts and e mails to see if your partner is

:42:40. > :42:47.cheating? This week Gill's Oliver described her marriage to Jamie it

:42:47. > :42:51.as solid. Then she followed it up with an admission - - she rifles

:42:51. > :42:54.through his texts and e-mails, and she is not alone. According to

:42:55. > :43:01.recent serve one-fifth of married couples are guilty of the same

:43:01. > :43:04.behaviour. Is it morally wrong to snip? Some psychologistss say

:43:04. > :43:08.spying on your partner is betrayal, you are reading their private

:43:08. > :43:12.messages, what would happen if they call you and they are innocent? And

:43:12. > :43:16.if you break into someone's of e- mail account without permission,

:43:16. > :43:20.that could be a crime. Many people who do slip-on partners say they

:43:20. > :43:23.only do so with good reason. In a world of intimidating and racy

:43:23. > :43:28.texting, it is easier to cheat so they say reading private e-mails

:43:28. > :43:33.and text or even hiring a private investigator is justified, it is

:43:33. > :43:36.their way of protecting themselves against potential infidelity. So

:43:36. > :43:40.are they right? Is it OK to spy on your partner, perhaps even break

:43:40. > :43:47.the law to find out if they are cheating on you? Or is it always

:43:47. > :43:55.wrong, even if it turns out your partner was unfaithful? You can

:43:55. > :44:01.join in on the Web can all by phone, online, text or e-mail. We are

:44:01. > :44:06.joined by Andy Jones, a columnist often found giving it love advice.

:44:06. > :44:10.You went on a Tantric sex retreat to research one of your latest

:44:10. > :44:15.articles. I did. I am very embarrassed to mention it. My

:44:15. > :44:20.mother has not seen it but she now knows about it so I am delighted!

:44:20. > :44:24.You are an expert, we are glad to have you. Jenny Bond, let's start

:44:24. > :44:32.with you. Do you slip on your husband? I would not call it

:44:32. > :44:36.snooping. It is entirely natural to want to see what their

:44:36. > :44:40.communications are. We share e- mails at home, my husband and I, we

:44:40. > :44:47.have been married for many years, we have no secrets and a sound

:44:47. > :44:50.marriage. So it is safe. So you leave things open? We do. He reads

:44:50. > :44:55.my Facebook. It is like wandering round the house naked with the

:44:55. > :44:59.windows open. The do that, too! think they could be consequences

:45:00. > :45:06.and you must be prepared for those. If you read something you do not

:45:06. > :45:11.want to see, it is your fault. You should probably keep quiet about it.

:45:11. > :45:20.My secret cyberspace, Twitter, I do regard that as mine but my husbands

:45:20. > :45:28.see some of it. Tweeds with Oliver Reed. A that's right. He has passed,

:45:28. > :45:32.it occasionally but do not criticise me. Andy, you were caught

:45:32. > :45:35.sending an appropriate message. A girlfriend caught you? Next

:45:35. > :45:39.girlfriend went through my phone and that the message I should not

:45:39. > :45:49.have sent but I was not offended she had breached my privacy. I was

:45:49. > :45:49.

:45:49. > :45:53.Was it an appropriate message to another woman? It wasn't that

:45:53. > :45:57.inappropriate, but it is probably something I should not have said. I

:45:57. > :46:02.feel we live in a culture with this vanity society, we are projecting

:46:02. > :46:07.so much of ourselves online, it has never been easier to cheat. You

:46:07. > :46:13.have Facebook, you have friends reunited which will look you up

:46:13. > :46:18.with your former crush. You have e- mail, text, a service on our phone.

:46:18. > :46:22.It has never been easier to cheat but never easier to get caught. We

:46:22. > :46:28.leave an imprint on everything we do online. It is not light

:46:28. > :46:34.footsteps in the sand. We leave these trails all over the place and

:46:34. > :46:39.we can check on our partners. morally OK to go through your

:46:39. > :46:44.partners e-mails, deceit who he is no sitting just in case. I think it

:46:44. > :46:48.is there matter of great importance, these days. It has never been more

:46:48. > :46:52.expensive to get married, buy a house, raised kids. If you are

:46:52. > :46:59.going to invest that much time, you need to know that person is in it

:46:59. > :47:02.for the long haul. Would you do it to girlfriends, then? I know full

:47:02. > :47:06.well never to go into a lady's handbag, which is where my

:47:06. > :47:10.girlfriend always keeps her phone. But I am daft enough to leave my

:47:10. > :47:14.phone all over the place and I am always asked, why are you speaking

:47:14. > :47:17.to each other? If you're in a marriage, you probably spend less

:47:17. > :47:23.time than ever speaking to each other, you spend more time talking

:47:23. > :47:30.on mobile phones, Twitter, Facebook. To people who have never even met

:47:30. > :47:34.that your husband doesn't know. It creates intrigue and suspicion.

:47:34. > :47:38.remember films in the 50s, wives would be smelling their husband's

:47:38. > :47:43.shirts for perfume or checking for lipstick, isn't this the same but

:47:43. > :47:46.with technology? I am not sure if that has made a huge change. You

:47:46. > :47:50.raise a point which has worried me, the idea that because you're

:47:50. > :47:54.spending so much time and investment, it gives you a right to

:47:54. > :47:59.have a surveillance operation over the other person. I think it is

:47:59. > :48:03.slightly deplorable. I think relationship is built on trust and

:48:03. > :48:06.there is a degree to which... Each relationship has a different

:48:06. > :48:11.pattern. There is a degree to which you have got to trust the other

:48:11. > :48:16.person. To carry out what seems like a monitoring exercise, simply

:48:16. > :48:20.because you have invested so much money and time and effort... It is

:48:20. > :48:24.uncomfortable but a relevant point. Hundreds of thousands of couples in

:48:24. > :48:31.the UK want to get divorced, but can't afford to divorce. They can't

:48:31. > :48:34.afford to separate and move out. It does become a point. People at home

:48:34. > :48:40.are watching, they have a mobile phone in front of them, their

:48:40. > :48:44.partner has there I put -- iPad or e-mail, it is easy to have a look.

:48:44. > :48:51.It might not feel like you are snooping but we are all private

:48:51. > :48:55.snoops. What about you? No, it wouldn't occur to me. Is the

:48:55. > :49:00.question, you would only do it if you have a sense of distrust? Or

:49:00. > :49:06.whether you are excessively jealous? Wouldn't it be better to

:49:06. > :49:09.just come from the person? Jules Oliver's idea is that my marriage

:49:10. > :49:17.is solid, he is out all the time and I need to be reassured. You

:49:17. > :49:21.don't buy that? No. I have some expert advice, a psychotherapist

:49:21. > :49:25.joints on the phone. How do you feel about all of this snooping?

:49:25. > :49:29.Andy Jones is saying it is reasonable. It is if you have pre-

:49:29. > :49:35.existing suspicion, I suppose. Or if you want your relationship to

:49:35. > :49:38.die. Because marriage is neither ownership and or slavery. It

:49:38. > :49:44.shouldn't resemble living with a stalker. I think marriage is more

:49:44. > :49:52.of an alliance than a takeover. I think it is right to be aware of

:49:52. > :49:55.what you ask for. But -- beware. The essential point is that you are

:49:55. > :50:02.living with an individual. If you don't have any degree of trust with

:50:02. > :50:06.them, your marriage is in trouble already. Unfortunately, I would

:50:06. > :50:13.have to say to Mrs Oliver, I think there is an existing difficulty for

:50:13. > :50:19.which you may need help. Only the other side of the coin is

:50:19. > :50:25.that you have so much trust that it doesn't matter -- surely the other

:50:25. > :50:30.side. Jenny says that she and her husband leave their e-mails Open,

:50:30. > :50:36.is that a problem? She has reached a stage of Serenity, if I may say

:50:36. > :50:40.that! Are used to work with her husband -- I used to work with her

:50:40. > :50:45.husband and he is an excellent Chapel up a private investigator

:50:45. > :50:49.joins us on the phone now. I gather you have and it partner who was

:50:49. > :50:59.cheating on you, you caught him out and you help other people find out

:50:59. > :50:59.

:50:59. > :51:03.if their partners are cheating. His I think there is a fine line with

:51:03. > :51:06.all kinds of snooping. I think there is an acceptable level and

:51:06. > :51:11.then a point where it is just wrong. That point is when you have to

:51:11. > :51:16.start having to hack things. Like Jennie Bond, I am the same with my

:51:16. > :51:21.husband now, our e-mails go through to our direct computer. I don't

:51:21. > :51:25.care if we see each other's because I have got nothing to hide. I also

:51:25. > :51:27.think there is a very big difference between being governed

:51:27. > :51:32.and boy from, and then being married. I think when you get

:51:32. > :51:35.married, -- being girlfriend and boyfriend. When you get married and

:51:36. > :51:41.you have something to hide, don't get married in the first place.

:51:41. > :51:44.lot of people don't marry. He they have a relationship, they may have

:51:44. > :51:53.children together. Are there signs one can look for, short of hacking

:51:53. > :52:02.into someone's own question -- phone. You might see their phone

:52:02. > :52:07.lying around. The bare all sorts of legalities. -- there are all sorts.

:52:07. > :52:13.We always hoped people, it is a long succession of small dishes.

:52:13. > :52:18.They are not coming home on time, not been and where they are when

:52:18. > :52:23.they say, hiding things, being secretive and a change in behaviour,

:52:23. > :52:27.is pretty much what we always say. If you have problems and you can't

:52:27. > :52:35.talk to the person, he person won't talk to you, I think it is a naive

:52:35. > :52:38.view to say, let's talk. Thank you. I want to bring in a journalist who

:52:38. > :52:41.wrote a piece about how you have been going through your husband's

:52:41. > :52:48.e-mails and texts and thought it was no big deal, and people thought

:52:48. > :52:53.it was outrageous. What was your experience and why did you do it?

:52:53. > :52:56.He that is right. Nobody would say that snooping is an admirable

:52:56. > :53:03.quality but I think it is something that increasing numbers of people

:53:03. > :53:06.do, and many feel the need to hide it. My point, kudos to Jules, for

:53:06. > :53:11.admitting to something that lots of us do and pretend we don't do. The

:53:11. > :53:16.most important thing is that it is not rational. It is the equivalent

:53:16. > :53:21.of a parent who bills the need to check that their sleeping child is

:53:21. > :53:24.still breathing -- who feels the need. It does not make you a

:53:24. > :53:31.paranoid parent, it is an instinctive thing that you do,

:53:31. > :53:40.compelled by the bomb the ability that you feel for loving somebody.

:53:40. > :53:44.-- compelled by the vulnerability We haven't quite worked out how to

:53:44. > :53:48.have relationships in this increasingly connected world.

:53:48. > :53:56.People sign of e-mails and text messages with kisses, two people

:53:56. > :54:02.whom they would never dream of kissing in real life. It is

:54:02. > :54:06.interesting. A worry about too many kisses on too many e-mails. You

:54:06. > :54:10.don't always get contact with social networking. Years ago --

:54:10. > :54:14.don't always get context. Years ago a guy would be able to complain

:54:14. > :54:18.about his marriage, let off steam and then go home. People go into

:54:18. > :54:23.the pub less and less and have these conversations online, they

:54:23. > :54:27.leave this imprint. He might complain but he might not actually

:54:27. > :54:31.believe it, but because he has written it down it is there in

:54:31. > :54:38.black and white. More than that, you can float on line, with Old

:54:38. > :54:42.Flames... It is a dangerous world we're living in. I draw a different

:54:42. > :54:47.line between my husband and myself, and myself and my daughter. I don't

:54:47. > :54:56.snoop on her. I am tempted, but I don't. She leaves her Facebook page

:54:56. > :55:01.open, I know that is wrong, but it is OK with my husband. Don't ask me.

:55:01. > :55:06.I speak to people through work. Women e-mail me and say, high, Babe,

:55:06. > :55:13.what are you up to? These are people I have never met. It is

:55:13. > :55:16.almost common parlance. Lots of love, kiss, hug. It is this kind of

:55:16. > :55:22.internet language. If you friend that on its own, it looks like...

:55:22. > :55:29.What is he up to? Who is this woman he has never spoke to? Actually, it

:55:29. > :55:32.can be someone you spit it through work. Modern -- you speak to.

:55:32. > :55:40.Modern etiquette has got very complicated. Have you rethought

:55:40. > :55:43.your attitude, hearing all this? I think out of respect, you

:55:43. > :55:49.should... It depends on the relationship but you should keep

:55:49. > :55:52.what is private, private. Sue says, I never snooped on my husband of 46

:55:52. > :55:57.years and he had an affair for 18 months before the other woman made

:55:57. > :56:01.certain I found out about it, my advice is to snoop. Jean says, I

:56:01. > :56:05.never feel I have to hide anything from a boy from, that is how a

:56:05. > :56:11.relationship should be. -- anything from my boyfriend. We have to leave

:56:11. > :56:21.it there. The vote is in. The question is, should racial insults

:56:21. > :56:24.be made illegal? Interestingly, 79% said no. I'm interested in whether

:56:25. > :56:29.there is a generational thing about... Are we too sensitive about

:56:29. > :56:32.racist language? There is a difference between racial language

:56:32. > :56:36.and racial insults. It's something is outrageously offensive, which

:56:36. > :56:40.should protect a person from that crime -- if something. It is

:56:40. > :56:47.difficult to sanction against the use of certain words. Every hip-hop

:56:47. > :56:54.album I have bought has had the N- word. And probably the age word as

:56:54. > :56:58.well. Exactly, equally offensive to women. You have to have -- do we

:56:58. > :57:04.have to have some sort of hip-hop amnesty? Do we have to double over

:57:04. > :57:10.certain words in certain films... We are talking People to People.

:57:10. > :57:14.People are strongly against prosecuting. I think it is context.

:57:14. > :57:18.In certain situations, I suppose the language is OK, but when it is

:57:18. > :57:26.done offensively and abusively, and in my view as a verbal assault,

:57:26. > :57:34.think there is a criminal element. Abhijit Pandya, they seem to have

:57:34. > :57:42.back due. What is your view? What -- I think we need to grow up,

:57:42. > :57:46.realise that words are just words. I think what we have done it,

:57:46. > :57:52.pursuing an agenda of racial equality, has legislated for

:57:52. > :57:57.language. I think it is terrible, as a modern democratic country.

:57:57. > :58:06.note those disagreement on this, we have to leave it there. Thanks to

:58:06. > :58:13.everyone who has taken part. He don't text or call the phone lines