Episode 3 The Disabled Century


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CHANTING: We want Ted! We want Ted!

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This will enable us to provide strong and honest government for Britain in the '70s.

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The early 1970s were a period of conflict and questioning for many.

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But there was no organised voice for disabled people,

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although individuals were beginning to challenge the system.

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Richard Jameson found himself inside one of the huge, grim mental homes of that time.

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I thought - in fact, I knew - I was an international star of stage, street and radio

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and I went all over the West End with hidden cameras and microphones trained on me.

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I landed up in a cafe, spouting away to the hidden microphone,

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until the proprietor slung me out.

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This is where I was transferred by police car

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after a particularly exciting bout of hypermania.

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Of course, the grimness of the place was lost on me -

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I thought I was in the emperor's palace in Thailand.

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I was convinced this wonderful thing was happening. I've never felt so happy.

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The normal person just does not know what he's missing.

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It was about a month later that the grimness of the place bore in on me.

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Nobody bothered to enquire into my mind or say what was going wrong in there.

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I was left in an armchair, a very comfortable armchair, to work it out for myself.

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This is the undergrowth - very bleak.

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The windows are even bleaker.

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It looks like a convicts' camp, my pyjamas look like convicts' clothing, and we were treated like convicts.

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If your bedclothes weren't done properly in the morning, they were thrown to the floor.

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The nurses went round like sergeants and corporals, barking orders.

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It wasn't quite the right atmosphere to get better, I don't think.

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I was kept in pyjamas for the first month. They were afraid I'd run away.

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Damned inconvenient it was, and I couldn't go down into the town because you can't hide your crotch.

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It was bloody annoying! I said, "Can I have my clothes back?"

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And because I burst into tears, this went into the report book and I was given my clothes back,

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which was marvellous.

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Pyjamas are inconvenient when you're trying to get down into society.

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But there were happy moments. We did have our happy moments.

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Like the two nurses who held me down on a bed and rifled my pockets and took all my property,

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which was particularly annoying cos I'd just got it back from the charge nurse. They nearly killed me.

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We had dances in the theatre, which was capable of putting on shows for us.

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We had full-scale dances with a musical accompaniment,

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which you might have thought was an absolute holiday camp,

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but really the atmosphere of madness hung over it in a sort of pall

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and was not at all pleasant,

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so it was all rather gloomy even though it was trying to be cheerful.

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The doctor who was in charge was rather like a little Hitler,

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as far as I and a good many others were concerned.

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For all that, we were very lucky to see him for about three minutes every fortnight.

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He didn't really give a damn.

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He said, "I'm afraid you've got to wait Richard. I'm terribly sorry..."

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He didn't even say sorry. He said, "You're nowhere near back to form.

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"Charge nurse, show him out."

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It's a terrifying business trying to prove you're sane. I almost gave up.

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I remember crying and all the rest of it, all over the place,

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because I couldn't get out.

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In the early 1970s, a report examined disabled people, institutions and power.

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The report coined a term for the institutionalised disabled...

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You would go to bed at six o'clock, not particularly tired.

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I was able to read, you know, down the bed, with a torch.

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There were lots of other people

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that couldn't do that.

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They were lying on their backs

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gazing at the four walls, with nothing to do.

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You'd go to sleep thinking, and feeling,

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"Wouldn't it be wonderful not to feel like this ever again,

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"and it would all be over?"

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And the thought of dying did seem to have a...you know...

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something quite sort of happy about it.

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Cos it would be that you wouldn't be missing anything,

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cos every day was...was the same.

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'The new bus is going to mean a lot to girls like Sue Barker, a spastic.

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'When she first came here, Sue was very unhappy, but her deep faith helped her accept her disability.'

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The ways and means of living were taken out of the control of disabled people.

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They were expected to be pleased with simple things.

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In my search for somewhere to live, I went to Norfolk, to a home up a country lane,

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and was greeted by this woman with a frilly hat - presumably a matron -

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and she started to show me round,

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and I went into this huge room where all the residents were sitting around the edges of the room,

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like you see in day centres.

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She swished these great velvet curtains back and said,

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"When you come here, you can sit and watch Canada geese land on the lake.

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I turned to her and said, "I won't be sitting here watching them come to this lake.

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"I'll be going to Canada to watch them in their natural habitat."

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I did a bit more looking around

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and saw all these cane baskets and the usual things that disabled people are expected to do,

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and just decided it was not for me.

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# How many roads Must a man walk down

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# Before they call him a man? #

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One of the places I went to said to me that I couldn't have a room of my own.

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I'd have to go in the big girls' room, a dormitory of about six.

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You must have been waiting for someone to die before you had your own room.

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But on the Friday we all had to sit round this big oak table and people were given their benefits,

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and so everybody knew what everybody else had.

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I thought, "No, no, not for me."

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You didn't even have to think for yourself what you wanted to eat.

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That was decided for you.

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It didn't matter whether it was what you wanted.

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That never came into the equation.

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One treatment decided for Richard Jameson was ECT,

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a controversial therapy challenged by many who experienced it.

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Nearly all of us were ordered to have ECT,

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and it was a little bit worrying because most of us thought our brains were going to be fried,

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or killed or cured, and all that sort of drama.

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We all queued in a room beside the ECT room and went in one at a time,

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were given anaesthetic. I had mine,

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and as he was putting the anaesthetic up my arm, he asked me to recite a little poem I'd written.

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"Mildred, a dim-witted dove, fell all meltingly in love.

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"She wrote a sonnet every day and even an unsuccessful television play.

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"Love had cleft her heart in twain Like Rommel at El Alamein.

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"Heartbeats fluttered in her bosom. She tried to calm them, couldn't lose them.

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"Alas, her love cannot be true - she's fallen for a kangaroo."

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And that's when I sparked out.

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I didn't see how anything so Heath Robinson and haphazard

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could be allowed to operate in the 20th century, in England.

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The fears of patients before we went on was that our brains would be fried

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or that we'd emerge with half a brain or lose our memory.

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It's not a very pleasant thing to see.

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It's rather like a sheep or cow being slaughtered.

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You don't want to see that. You just want your sheep or cow on the plate.

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So we don't really talk about the nasty appearance of ECT.

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Richard's experience of institutions was typical of a lot of disabled people at that time.

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Some now wanted out of the slow rot of segregated care.

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I saw so many people dying

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and being carried off in their brown box.

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And I used to think to myself, "My God, that's going to be me one day!"

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I decided I was not going to die, not yet.

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I was not going to be carried off

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in a brown box.

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I was going to have a life, no matter what.

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Nobody... Nobody was gonna stop me

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and it didn't matter how long it took

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and how long I had to wait for it to happen.

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Something had to happen.

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But for some, like Bill Surrey, who spent 70 years in an institution,

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leaving was more of a shock.

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They had all the hospitals closed up.

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And I made a joke. I said to the staff, "Oh, gotta come out the nuthouse.

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"Never mind. Couldn't do nothin' about it. We all have to come out."

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Marie said, "Well, look Bill, all the staff gotta come out." They didn't wanna leave.

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I couldn't do nothing. Had to come out.

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I said to her, "I suppose I gotta come out the zoo." She said, "Don't talk silly, Bill.

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"It's not a zoo." I said, "It must be a nuthouse."

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Oh, I laughed to meself. Wind them up.

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Eighteen years of institutional life had left Louise Medus ill-equipped for life outside.

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Institutions were often indifferent as to how their former residents were to manage.

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I didn't want to leave Chailey. I'd been there since 17 months old.

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It's like being kicked out your home, knowing you could never return, leaving all your friends.

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They packed all my stuff in this little suitcase and I couldn't take my rabbit with me,

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but when the crunch came, you were just dumped somewhere you didn't know.

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You'd never had anything of your own. You had your clothes and your few personal possessions,

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and maybe a book or two, a suitcase.

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The whole of my life was in a suitcase.

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And that was it.

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Disabled people were leaving institutions to find no support.

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Care in the community existed as an idea in the 1970s,

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but there was no significant shift in resources to help disabled people live like everybody else.

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In 1974, I moved into a purpose-built flat. I was one of the first people to move in.

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And as other people joined me...

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They were mainly people like myself, who had come out of an institution

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and just found it incredibly hard because they often came from quite long distances away,

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so they had no network of friends.

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I remember one couple moving in

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who just sat amongst their curtains and their light bulbs and crockery

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and just nobody to come and support them to put their home together.

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There was no sophisticated technology like there is now.

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A local charity actually came around and said,

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"If you want to be able to call for help, we'll make this HELP sign."

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I remember having to use it in the middle of one night and it was very efficient.

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Someone passing by at 4am saw it flashing and called the police.

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There was a woman that moved in next to me, a young woman who was quite mobile when she first arrived,

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but quite quickly she became a wheelchair-user

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and she also developed a mental illness

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which resulted in her not turning her lights on in her flat.

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She used to bring all the toilet rolls and biscuits home from the local day centre,

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but she wouldn't touch them.

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She never ate the biscuits or used the toilet rolls.

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In the end, she would sit outside her door, naked, and she would cry.

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If you gave her something to eat, she'd eat it, as long as it didn't belong to her or was in her flat.

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And when I used to ring the doctor,

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he used to say, "Why don't you take a sleeping pill and forget it?

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"It'll all resolve itself somehow."

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But she died about ten weeks later.

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It certainly felt to me as though it was people coming out of institutions, closing them down.

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Not so much closing them down, but people trying to move on, realising they could,

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and not having any community support.

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I myself had very little.

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# You know, together we will stand Every boy, girl, woman and man. #

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The change in attitudes to the disabled was sluggish.

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Many were met with petty distinctions and resentment.

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It wasn't all bad for disabled people in the 1970s.

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Mat Fraser recalls his youth with fondness.

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I was at public school, fifth form, and chose my fag - Constant - and I had to slap him.

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We all had to go up and slap our fag.

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"Go on - slap your fag, Fraser."

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And so I... I didn't have any shoes on,

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so I slapped my fag with my foot, cos that's how I slap people.

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He duly started to cry and I felt bad about it, but it looked hard.

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That was one of those things that happened in the fifth form at public school in 197...whenever it was.

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'I loved the '70s, style-wise. Everything was really tight fitted.'

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I don't do baggy well.

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In the '80s, my arms didn't reach out the end of most T-shirt sleeves.

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In the old days, you had cap-sleeved T-shirts, tight-fitting bodies, crotch-hugging, bum-clinging stuff.

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I find that more attractive on anyone.

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Disabled people were increasingly a presence in society.

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The isolation of disability was breaking down.

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The next step - SELF-acceptance.

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In those days, there wasn't the same contact or knowledge of the condition you were born with.

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Then you'd feel quite secluded, which, unfortunately, I did, and became perhaps bitter.

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I was feeling very insecure about who I was.

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We went that night to the circus. As we walked up the ramp to the seats,

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I froze on the spot.

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I was petrified of what I saw - this person, small person, dressed in a clown outfit,

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looking down at me.

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It was like seeing a mirror image and I was horrified.

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-Arthur broke the ice with...

-"It's not often our sort meet, is it?"

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I could tell she was reluctant to come up the ramp.

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I'd not met with this attitude. I knew little people in show business and they didn't have inhibitions.

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I couldn't wait till the end of the show.

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I was performing as well as I could, but I had my mind on Penny. I wanted to talk to her.

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We went round the corner and I was looking for this clown.

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This wasn't a clown, but a man, all his make-up wiped off. Looked quite handsome, really.

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We chatted about life, how I coped.

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I went home feeling a bit better about myself because I'd met somebody like myself -

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there was somebody out there.

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In the '70s and '80s, many disabled people organised into self-help and lobby groups.

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Gladys Brooks was one of the founder members of the Restrictive Growth Association.

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RGA, as it is now, that's just the Restrictive Growth Association,

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is very supportive.

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There is nobody quite like somebody with the same problems as yourself -

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to understand you, your problems, what you're going through, what mental torture, everything like that.

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So, anyway, we went along, and there must have been perhaps 50 to 70 people.

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I was amazed, cos I had met only two little people, really.

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I'd seen one or two, seen the film with Snow White.

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I knew they were about, but I'd never seen so many in one place at one time.

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MUSIC: "48 Crash" by Suzi Quatro

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There had been a number of ladies, especially, couldn't face the mirror image.

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They went away in tears and we never saw them again.

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-There we are...

-..arriving at the church.

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-I didn't see that bit, obviously.

-No.

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'Arthur was still with the circus, and I joined as a wardrobe mistress.

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'And they were going to have elephants come just for photographs.

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'The two elephants were outside the church, and our white cars.

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'We got on the elephants for photographs and then before you know it up they were and off they went.

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'I said to Arthur, "Hang onto me!" I'd never rode an elephant before.

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'It was like sitting on an upturned yard brush.

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'I'm sure the people of Southsea thought it was a publicity stunt, but it was for real.

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'We got back to Mary Chipperfield's Circus and had a reception in the circus ring

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'and were blessed by the actors' chaplain, and had to do two shows on our wedding night.

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'No time off. Circus life was circus life.'

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Eileen Chipper's marriage to her partner Ken freed her from the institutions.

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The marriage lasted 14 years.

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The Falklands Victory Parade of the early 1980s notoriously hid its war disabled.

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They didn't suit the image.

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But times had changed. Elsewhere, disabled people did not accept the barriers -

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people like Mike Rogers, amateur pilot, and himself disabled in World War II.

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I got onto British Airways and said, "Any chance of flying Concorde?"

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And he said, "No, I'm afraid not. We don't even train our own pilots live on Concorde.

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"But what about a Jumbo 747?" So I said, "That'd be all right."

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Wonderful!

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So I flew this damned great thing - 600 tons of it, or something.

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He landed it beautifully, then said, "You taxi it back to the hangars."

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So I taxied it the whole length, going round Concorde and things,

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and you're 40ft up in the cockpit, looking in second storey windows.

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He said, "What did you last fly, Mike?" I said, "Tiger Moth in 1952."

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The '80s and '90s saw many attempts to bring in civil rights,

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resulting in a limited 1995 Disability Discrimination Act

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which was heavily criticised by disabled activists.

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There is no enforcement procedure,

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so we'll have a bill that won't work, no-one will take any notice of. They will laugh!

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These attempts to secure rights were a sign of one simple fact -

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many disabled people now see access as the issue of their lives.

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I was at school, and I was doing some work.

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I moved my head to write something and I had an incredible pain

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and there was a horrible crunching noise.

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I thought, "I'd better go home now."

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After that, I had to lie down all the time. Up till then I'd been sitting up. I could use my computer.

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I could use my car by getting in it with my parents.

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Lying down, it was different. I had to find new ways of doing things.

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Access is fundamental, and it's the fight for access that dominates disability in the '90s.

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..Westminster Bridge, underneath a bus.

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-What've you done?

-Chained myself to the bus.

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No group illustrates this more than the Direct Action Network,

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those disabled people prepared to break the law to gain access.

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We're not interested in sympathy. All we want is to get on the bus.

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'DAN, the Direct Action Network, takes our issues onto the streets.'

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The public sees us out of the context of being socially dead, of being invisible.

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We can't be ignored. It's made one of the biggest impacts in the last decades on thinking on disability.

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It's true to say DAN doesn't represent all disabled people

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and it's also true that DAN is not liked or approved of

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by many traditional disability organisations, and politicians.

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But it's one of the things that I think disabled people can be proud of.

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Occasionally, you get to the point where it compromises your safety

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and it can be...scary.

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One occasion, we brought morning rush-hour traffic to a standstill.

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One way to hold a bus is to post people at the back and front of it,

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then the drivers turn the engines off and go away and wait it out.

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There was one of us - a guy called Steven who uses crutches -

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sitting on the front bumper of the bus,

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and I think he was cuffed to it by the wipers.

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After quite a long wait, the bus driver had been pacing around, getting angrier and angrier.

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He eventually jumped on and started the engine.

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He put the bus into gear and started moving up the hill with people still attached to the bus.

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Some people don't want to handle it.

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They don't want their lives to stop because a disabled person is saying,

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"Why can you ride on a bus and I can't?"

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I remember getting arrested on a demonstration in Leeds,

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and they sent the meat wagon - I wasn't using a wheelchair -

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and they said, "Get in the van."

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I said, "I can't. The step's too high." So they sent a car and it was a two-door car.

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I made the copper sit in the back. I said, "I've got to sit up front. It's the only seat I can get into."

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The magistrate seemed to be very sympathetic.

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I spoke on my behalf and I said, "I should know better at my age.

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"I'm an old soldier and I'm here to support the group.

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"And we believe in access and civil rights,

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"and if I've got to break the law, I'd break it again."

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When I go on a day of action, I see two things -

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the system being quite shocked at disabled people demonstrating on their own behalf and taking power.

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A demonstration makes the demonstrator feel like a thorn in society's side.

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I go as it's something I believe in and I'm happy to stand up and be counted within, and it's powerful.

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It's so easy to forget about disabled people. We've been so invisible throughout history.

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All of a sudden, we're making our presence felt. We're being very high profile and confrontational.

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We're saying we're not prepared to accept socially dead status any more.

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Disabled people no longer accept exclusion.

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And as the 20th century closes,

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disability is increasingly defined as an issue of access, rights...

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..and humour.

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Strangely, to begin with I didn't feel disabled,

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but people stare at me, some rudely.

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A taxi driver - they're wonderful things -

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a black-cab driver, I was in the back of his cab...

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"Where are you going, then?" So I said, "Kensal Rise" or where it was.

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And he looked back and he said, "Where's your mince pie?"

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I said, "Sorry?" "Mince pie - your old eye!"

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I said, "Actually, it's not there. There's no eye, no mince pie."

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He went, "Oh, cor blimey, what happened?!"

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I said, "It's surgery." "Surgery? What's the matter?"

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I said, "It's cancer."

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I've got on my web page these two counters.

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The one is how many days since I've had sex and the other's how many days I think I've got left to live.

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They're both just for fun, but the one about death upsets people a lot.

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They don't like thinking I might die of what I've got one day. It makes them uncomfortable.

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I got married in 1987.

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I hadn't worn my legs from when I was 19, and I decided I wanted to walk down the aisle.

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I went to Roehampton to have some new legs made.

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And the fitter said to me, "What height do you want?" Cos you can choose what height you want to be.

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And I said, "I'll stay the same height."

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And my husband said, "No, she wants to be a bit smaller.

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"I want her to be a ½ inch smaller than me so she won't tower over me."

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So I was reduced from five foot six to five foot four and a half.

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I had a girlfriend when I was 21. She visited for a week.

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The first night, we slept together

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and the following day I said to Mum we were having a relationship and how wonderful it was going to be.

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Later, Mum took me aside and said, "You realise you can't have sex?"

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Unfortunately, because I was angry about that,

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I said, "Well, I just HAVE." Which isn't something you should really tell your parents.

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I think that upset her and probably wasn't my greatest plan.

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Kids have looked at me, which I don't mind - kids are OK - cos kids are just fascinated.

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I usually say, "I'm a pirate" and they're OK.

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I think my agent was talking about I'd be very good at playing villains or science fiction or something,

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somebody with scars and an eye patch.

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We're going to a photographer I know to have me photographed as I am.

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I like wearing make-up going out.

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It can be a bit difficult because I'd wear it all the time,

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but if I'm going shopping, I think my carers feel a bit strange

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about pushing me around Tesco's wearing eyeliner.

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So, usually, I just do it to go out at night.

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They're very good about it. They haven't thought me too weird. They find it quite amusing.

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With Disability Pride, as with a lot of things,

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it's not "Hey, wow! Look at my arms, aren't they fantastic? Nay, better than yours!"

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I'm just saying they're equal, but different.

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To me, they're just as important as yours are to you.

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Don't look at them as inferior, different, negative, bad or something you don't want to look at.

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Cos here I am and you've got to deal with me, and that includes my arms.

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And I'm proud that I'm saying to you you've got to deal with my arms too.

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That's Disability Pride. I'm not ashamed of my difference.

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