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Wow. | 0:00:08 | 0:00:10 | |
I've spent time in many different countries... | 0:00:10 | 0:00:13 | |
What a place to be! | 0:00:13 | 0:00:15 | |
..getting to know people from vastly different cultures. | 0:00:15 | 0:00:19 | |
So do the men sew as well? | 0:00:19 | 0:00:21 | |
Will your husband sew? | 0:00:21 | 0:00:23 | |
And one thing that's often struck me... | 0:00:25 | 0:00:27 | |
..is that the roles men and women play in society | 0:00:29 | 0:00:32 | |
give great insight into their way of life. | 0:00:32 | 0:00:35 | |
OK. | 0:00:38 | 0:00:39 | |
And how the everyday roles of women in particular | 0:00:39 | 0:00:42 | |
reveal a society's values, | 0:00:42 | 0:00:45 | |
whether they be determined by religion, status... | 0:00:45 | 0:00:48 | |
..or tradition. | 0:00:50 | 0:00:52 | |
As a white middle-class woman growing up in Britain, | 0:00:53 | 0:00:56 | |
I know that I'm enormously privileged - | 0:00:56 | 0:00:58 | |
free to make choices, to state opinions, to be independent. | 0:00:58 | 0:01:03 | |
But for many of the world's women, perhaps the majority, | 0:01:03 | 0:01:06 | |
circumstances are very different. | 0:01:06 | 0:01:09 | |
WOMEN CHANT | 0:01:09 | 0:01:11 | |
So, in this series, I'm travelling to three very different communities, | 0:01:12 | 0:01:17 | |
where the roles of women are exceptional, | 0:01:17 | 0:01:19 | |
complex and even extreme. | 0:01:19 | 0:01:22 | |
The Kuria tribe in Kenya, where women are caught up | 0:01:24 | 0:01:27 | |
in the clash between age-old traditions and the modern world. | 0:01:27 | 0:01:31 | |
How do you go and find a man? | 0:01:33 | 0:01:36 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:01:37 | 0:01:38 | |
Hello. | 0:01:42 | 0:01:43 | |
The intensely private, ultra-orthodox Haredim in Israel, | 0:01:43 | 0:01:48 | |
who live by strict religious laws. | 0:01:48 | 0:01:51 | |
Now I'm in north-east India... | 0:01:57 | 0:01:59 | |
-Hello. -Hi, Shitoah. Kate. | 0:01:59 | 0:02:01 | |
..with the Khasi people and their extraordinary matrilineal system | 0:02:01 | 0:02:06 | |
that puts women at the forefront of society. | 0:02:06 | 0:02:10 | |
You're like a very strict headmistress. | 0:02:10 | 0:02:14 | |
Over the last decade, India has been ranked | 0:02:16 | 0:02:19 | |
as one of the worst countries in the world to be a woman, | 0:02:19 | 0:02:23 | |
so this is the last place you'd expect to find women in charge. | 0:02:23 | 0:02:28 | |
So if you need money, do you have to ask Shitoah for that money? | 0:02:28 | 0:02:31 | |
But can this ancient way of life survive | 0:02:35 | 0:02:39 | |
as India continues to modernise? | 0:02:39 | 0:02:41 | |
Gosh, that's quite a chink | 0:02:41 | 0:02:43 | |
in your matrimonial Utopian system, isn't it? | 0:02:43 | 0:02:46 | |
Yes. Not so Utopian. | 0:02:46 | 0:02:49 | |
I'm in the city of Shillong. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:05 | |
The capital of Meghalaya state in north-east India. | 0:03:07 | 0:03:11 | |
Meghalaya's a beautiful place, | 0:03:16 | 0:03:19 | |
full of deep gorges and steep forested hills, | 0:03:19 | 0:03:23 | |
often shrouded in mist. | 0:03:23 | 0:03:25 | |
India is one of the hardest places to be female. | 0:03:33 | 0:03:37 | |
Inequality is absolutely ingrained in society. | 0:03:38 | 0:03:43 | |
Domestic violence is rife, child marriage is common, | 0:03:43 | 0:03:48 | |
arranged marriages, of course, are the norm. | 0:03:48 | 0:03:51 | |
But in this remote corner of India, the local Khasi people, | 0:03:52 | 0:03:56 | |
who number around 1.75 million, | 0:03:56 | 0:03:59 | |
practise a matrilineal way of life, | 0:03:59 | 0:04:02 | |
where everything, including property and the family name, | 0:04:02 | 0:04:06 | |
is passed down the female line. | 0:04:06 | 0:04:08 | |
It's believed that this female-led way of life | 0:04:09 | 0:04:13 | |
was once practised by 30% of the world's population, | 0:04:13 | 0:04:17 | |
but now there are just a handful of communities left. | 0:04:17 | 0:04:20 | |
I want to know how it works in this part of India. | 0:04:20 | 0:04:24 | |
Does a matrilineal system allow women to, | 0:04:25 | 0:04:28 | |
I don't know, choose their own husbands | 0:04:28 | 0:04:30 | |
or choose how many children to have? | 0:04:30 | 0:04:33 | |
Erm, does it allow them to have businesses and to be entrepreneurs? | 0:04:33 | 0:04:38 | |
All the things that I don't connect, rightly or wrongly, with India. | 0:04:38 | 0:04:42 | |
I want to find a community where this exceptional system | 0:04:43 | 0:04:47 | |
is working as it always has, | 0:04:47 | 0:04:49 | |
so I've been told to head up into the hills. | 0:04:49 | 0:04:53 | |
It's a four-hour drive to my destination - | 0:04:55 | 0:04:58 | |
a small village literally at the end of the road. | 0:04:58 | 0:05:03 | |
Hello. How are you? | 0:05:19 | 0:05:21 | |
Very well. | 0:05:22 | 0:05:24 | |
Very nice to meet you. | 0:05:25 | 0:05:27 | |
Kongthong is a settlement of 500 people | 0:05:33 | 0:05:36 | |
and one of the 12 villages | 0:05:36 | 0:05:38 | |
that make up the core of Meghalaya's matrilineal system. | 0:05:38 | 0:05:42 | |
The history of this culture has only survived by oral tradition, | 0:05:53 | 0:05:57 | |
so pinning down its origins is hard... | 0:05:57 | 0:06:00 | |
..but it's said it started when Khasi men went off to fight wars. | 0:06:02 | 0:06:06 | |
They'd be gone for years and many wouldn't return... | 0:06:06 | 0:06:09 | |
..so the women took over managing the family wealth | 0:06:10 | 0:06:13 | |
and became responsible for the vital continuity of bloodlines | 0:06:13 | 0:06:17 | |
by passing on the female family name. | 0:06:17 | 0:06:21 | |
I'm staying with the Khongsit clan, who've lived here for generations. | 0:06:22 | 0:06:27 | |
Hi. | 0:06:27 | 0:06:28 | |
And I've been told that a woman called Shitoah | 0:06:28 | 0:06:31 | |
is the most important family member. | 0:06:31 | 0:06:34 | |
-Hello. -Hi, Shitoah. | 0:06:35 | 0:06:37 | |
Kate. | 0:06:37 | 0:06:38 | |
Lovely to meet you. | 0:06:38 | 0:06:40 | |
Thank you very much for letting me come and see you today. | 0:06:40 | 0:06:44 | |
Shitoah is the Khatduh. | 0:06:47 | 0:06:49 | |
The head of the family. | 0:06:50 | 0:06:53 | |
So is this all your family here? | 0:06:53 | 0:06:56 | |
But what's unusual in Khasi society | 0:06:57 | 0:07:00 | |
is that the Khatduh is also the youngest daughter. | 0:07:00 | 0:07:03 | |
Hello. I'm Kate. | 0:07:04 | 0:07:06 | |
Hi. | 0:07:07 | 0:07:08 | |
So is this your husband? | 0:07:08 | 0:07:10 | |
Yeah? This is your good man? | 0:07:11 | 0:07:14 | |
Very nice to meet you. Is it Bah Lung? | 0:07:15 | 0:07:17 | |
Bah Lung, nice to meet you. | 0:07:17 | 0:07:19 | |
Shitoah and Bah Lung have been married for 30 years. | 0:07:19 | 0:07:23 | |
OK, now tell me who everyone else is. | 0:07:23 | 0:07:25 | |
They have seven children - five girls and two boys. | 0:07:25 | 0:07:30 | |
And so this is your youngest daughter? | 0:07:46 | 0:07:49 | |
12-year-old Habashisha is the next generation Khatduh. | 0:07:49 | 0:07:53 | |
You're the Khatduh. So you're going to be in charge? | 0:07:55 | 0:07:58 | |
In Khasi society, unlike the rest of India, | 0:07:59 | 0:08:02 | |
the birth of a daughter is vital to continue the family line | 0:08:02 | 0:08:06 | |
and it's the youngest daughter who holds this important role, | 0:08:06 | 0:08:10 | |
as the one most likely to marry last and, therefore, | 0:08:10 | 0:08:14 | |
most able to take care of her ageing parents. | 0:08:14 | 0:08:17 | |
So, can you tell me about your family? | 0:08:18 | 0:08:23 | |
And when your parents died, | 0:08:43 | 0:08:46 | |
did your brother and sister inherit anything at all | 0:08:46 | 0:08:50 | |
or did absolutely everything come to you? | 0:08:50 | 0:08:53 | |
It sounds like that's the best thing to be, to be the youngest daughter. | 0:09:09 | 0:09:14 | |
But, actually, | 0:09:14 | 0:09:16 | |
there's a very big responsibility on the shoulders of the Khatduh. | 0:09:16 | 0:09:21 | |
Do you sometimes wish that you hadn't been the youngest daughter? | 0:09:24 | 0:09:28 | |
And you, down there, | 0:09:44 | 0:09:47 | |
can you tell me what your duties are | 0:09:47 | 0:09:52 | |
as this very important member of the family? | 0:09:52 | 0:09:55 | |
We're camping in the village. | 0:10:20 | 0:10:22 | |
It's a world away from the hubbub and car horns of modern Shillong | 0:10:22 | 0:10:27 | |
and already I feel myself relaxing into the pace of life here. | 0:10:27 | 0:10:32 | |
And you get the feeling that there are these, sort of, | 0:10:33 | 0:10:37 | |
little pockets of humanity | 0:10:37 | 0:10:39 | |
that, kind of, exist almost in isolation, | 0:10:39 | 0:10:42 | |
tucked in these beautiful hills. | 0:10:42 | 0:10:44 | |
I mean, it's the most staggeringly dramatic landscape. | 0:10:44 | 0:10:48 | |
This way? Oh, this way. Down here? | 0:11:19 | 0:11:21 | |
Shitoah's asked me to help with the harvest | 0:11:22 | 0:11:25 | |
from their forest garden down in the valley. | 0:11:25 | 0:11:27 | |
DOG GROWLS | 0:11:28 | 0:11:31 | |
Hello. | 0:11:31 | 0:11:32 | |
Most of the villagers here rely on agriculture to make a living, | 0:11:33 | 0:11:37 | |
harvesting oranges, wild bay and pepper. | 0:11:37 | 0:11:42 | |
SOMEONE SINGS A SUCCESSION OF NOTES | 0:11:43 | 0:11:45 | |
SINGING | 0:11:47 | 0:11:49 | |
I keep...like that... | 0:11:50 | 0:11:53 | |
SINGING | 0:11:53 | 0:11:55 | |
Is there a system here for people to communicate with each other? | 0:11:56 | 0:12:02 | |
Do you have a family song, | 0:12:14 | 0:12:16 | |
so if you're trying to call your daughters, | 0:12:16 | 0:12:19 | |
will they know it's you? | 0:12:19 | 0:12:22 | |
Will you call this daughter here? | 0:12:26 | 0:12:28 | |
SHE SINGS | 0:12:28 | 0:12:31 | |
That's lovely. | 0:12:42 | 0:12:44 | |
And so for each one of your children, | 0:12:44 | 0:12:47 | |
do they all have a different song? | 0:12:47 | 0:12:49 | |
Each one? | 0:12:49 | 0:12:50 | |
Finally, after a three-hour descent, | 0:13:01 | 0:13:04 | |
we arrive at the wild pepper fields. | 0:13:04 | 0:13:07 | |
Did you find pepper already? Look at that. | 0:13:11 | 0:13:14 | |
Wow, so this is a very important crop for you. | 0:13:34 | 0:13:37 | |
Well done. | 0:13:39 | 0:13:40 | |
Brilliant. | 0:13:40 | 0:13:42 | |
Suddenly, when you get your eye in, it's everywhere. | 0:13:44 | 0:13:47 | |
I haven't heard anything yet from Bah Lung | 0:13:47 | 0:13:50 | |
about how men fit into this system | 0:13:50 | 0:13:52 | |
because it's the women who manage all the family's finances | 0:13:52 | 0:13:56 | |
on a day-to-day basis. | 0:13:56 | 0:13:58 | |
So if you need money to buy a new machete, or a new pair of shoes, | 0:13:58 | 0:14:03 | |
do you have to ask Shitoah for that money? | 0:14:03 | 0:14:06 | |
Does that ever bother you? I mean, you're working as hard as she is. | 0:14:21 | 0:14:26 | |
One issue that would certainly cause a disagreement | 0:15:10 | 0:15:14 | |
in most societies is that the children here | 0:15:14 | 0:15:17 | |
inherit the mother's surname rather than the father's. | 0:15:17 | 0:15:20 | |
For many men, especially here in India, | 0:15:20 | 0:15:23 | |
this would surely be a step too far. | 0:15:23 | 0:15:26 | |
SINGING | 0:16:11 | 0:16:13 | |
Bah Lung seems not only to accept the Khasi way, | 0:16:22 | 0:16:26 | |
but actually to be happy that his wife holds the purse strings | 0:16:26 | 0:16:30 | |
and that it's her name that's passed on to their children. | 0:16:30 | 0:16:34 | |
There's a real sense of... kind of, identity, I think. | 0:16:43 | 0:16:48 | |
He's such a deeply respectful man. | 0:16:49 | 0:16:53 | |
Respectful of his family, respectful of his wife, but more than anything, | 0:16:54 | 0:16:59 | |
respectful of the culture that he comes from. | 0:16:59 | 0:17:02 | |
And absolutely... | 0:17:03 | 0:17:05 | |
..feels that upholding the matrilineal tradition | 0:17:06 | 0:17:10 | |
is right at the heart of what it means to be Khasi. | 0:17:10 | 0:17:14 | |
This is the dry season. | 0:17:17 | 0:17:19 | |
There's nothing dry about it. | 0:17:20 | 0:17:23 | |
I'm fascinated by the dynamic between men and women here | 0:17:37 | 0:17:41 | |
and, in a way, it's the men's role that I'm finding the most difficult | 0:17:41 | 0:17:45 | |
to understand. | 0:17:45 | 0:17:47 | |
But whereas the husband of the Khatduh | 0:17:47 | 0:17:49 | |
doesn't seem to have much of a say in family matters, | 0:17:49 | 0:17:52 | |
there are men in the community who do have influence. | 0:17:52 | 0:17:56 | |
Bah Lung's brother-in-law is Bah Bring, | 0:17:59 | 0:18:02 | |
one of Kongthong's soothsayers. | 0:18:02 | 0:18:04 | |
Whilst much of India is predominantly Hindu, | 0:18:08 | 0:18:12 | |
the majority of Khasis have embraced Christianity, | 0:18:12 | 0:18:15 | |
but they also still practice their own religion - | 0:18:15 | 0:18:18 | |
Ka Niam Khasi. | 0:18:18 | 0:18:20 | |
Soothsayers claim to read signs contained in eggs | 0:18:28 | 0:18:32 | |
and animal entrails, and be able to help the sick. | 0:18:32 | 0:18:36 | |
Bah Bring is seeking approval from the Khasi god, U Blei, | 0:18:38 | 0:18:42 | |
about the appointment of a new village elder. | 0:18:42 | 0:18:45 | |
I'm slightly disappointed to see no women involved in this practice. | 0:18:59 | 0:19:04 | |
Like tribal councils the world over, there are only men here, | 0:19:04 | 0:19:08 | |
responsible for the community's administration. | 0:19:08 | 0:19:11 | |
The soothsayer's wife is Shidiap Shitoah's elder sister. | 0:19:14 | 0:19:18 | |
When you have these prayers, it's only men. | 0:19:19 | 0:19:23 | |
I'm surprised by that in a society that values women so much. | 0:19:23 | 0:19:28 | |
Overall, the Khasi system does seem to be harmonious | 0:19:57 | 0:20:01 | |
in its sharing of duties between men and women. | 0:20:01 | 0:20:04 | |
OK. | 0:20:06 | 0:20:07 | |
There are clear roles here based on ancient traditions. | 0:20:07 | 0:20:12 | |
Khasi men still claim responsibility for politics | 0:20:13 | 0:20:16 | |
and administration, | 0:20:16 | 0:20:18 | |
but women work alongside them in the fields. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:21 | |
OK. Yeah. | 0:20:23 | 0:20:25 | |
And they are in charge of the family finances and property. | 0:20:25 | 0:20:29 | |
They're the sustaining force of the family lineage | 0:20:29 | 0:20:32 | |
as guardians of the surname. | 0:20:32 | 0:20:35 | |
I'm ready. I'll race you up the hill! | 0:20:35 | 0:20:38 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:20:38 | 0:20:39 | |
It seems, so far, this is a great place to be a woman. | 0:20:39 | 0:20:44 | |
Before I leave Kongthong, Bah Bring, Bah Lung, | 0:20:50 | 0:20:53 | |
and some of their friends are taking me on a final trek | 0:20:53 | 0:20:57 | |
down into the valley. | 0:20:57 | 0:20:59 | |
They're on their way to repair a bridge. | 0:21:10 | 0:21:13 | |
Oh, my goodness. | 0:21:14 | 0:21:16 | |
Look at that. | 0:21:17 | 0:21:19 | |
Wow, what a piece of architecture! | 0:21:21 | 0:21:24 | |
I think that's the most beautiful bridge I've ever seen. | 0:21:26 | 0:21:29 | |
This is a traditional living root bridge, | 0:21:31 | 0:21:35 | |
made out of the roots of two rubber trees that have been trained | 0:21:35 | 0:21:39 | |
over the centuries to grow across river below. | 0:21:39 | 0:21:42 | |
How safe is it? | 0:21:44 | 0:21:45 | |
Oh, my God! | 0:21:50 | 0:21:52 | |
It's quite scary. | 0:21:52 | 0:21:54 | |
My heart's going like the clappers! | 0:21:55 | 0:21:57 | |
It's like a, sort of, giant basket work up here. | 0:21:59 | 0:22:03 | |
The bridge once provided a vital trade link to neighbouring villages, | 0:22:19 | 0:22:24 | |
but today business relies on the many roads | 0:22:24 | 0:22:27 | |
that have been constructed across these hills. | 0:22:27 | 0:22:30 | |
What a beautiful thing though. | 0:22:30 | 0:22:32 | |
Amazing. | 0:22:32 | 0:22:34 | |
As the modern world creeps ever closer, | 0:22:35 | 0:22:38 | |
I'm keen to know what these men think the future holds | 0:22:38 | 0:22:41 | |
for their unusual way of life. | 0:22:41 | 0:22:43 | |
It does feel like you're in the presence of a really equal society... | 0:24:09 | 0:24:13 | |
..and that's so rare. | 0:24:14 | 0:24:16 | |
So, to me, it feels really precious. | 0:24:17 | 0:24:20 | |
It doesn't feel like an antiquated, outdated system. | 0:24:24 | 0:24:29 | |
It feels very current, | 0:24:29 | 0:24:33 | |
very timely. | 0:24:33 | 0:24:35 | |
The big unanswered and, at the moment unanswerable question, | 0:24:38 | 0:24:42 | |
is that although the matrilineal system | 0:24:42 | 0:24:46 | |
seems absolutely unshakeable and rock-solid, | 0:24:46 | 0:24:51 | |
now is the time that the first generation of young people | 0:24:51 | 0:24:56 | |
from this village are going and getting a broader education | 0:24:56 | 0:25:01 | |
and that, I think, is going to be the thing that will really... | 0:25:01 | 0:25:07 | |
..potentially, throw out of balance | 0:25:08 | 0:25:12 | |
this seemingly quite Utopian way of living. | 0:25:12 | 0:25:17 | |
I'm back in Shillong, 40 miles and a world away from the village. | 0:25:33 | 0:25:39 | |
Shillong was once a British hill station at the time of the Raj. | 0:25:40 | 0:25:44 | |
Today it's a hub for education and is embracing Western culture. | 0:25:44 | 0:25:48 | |
Two-thirds of the population here is Khasi. | 0:25:49 | 0:25:52 | |
It does feel different from much of India. | 0:25:52 | 0:25:55 | |
Women can hang out with men without stigma, | 0:25:55 | 0:25:58 | |
they can enjoy social mobility as there's no caste system, | 0:25:58 | 0:26:02 | |
and there's no system of dowry or arranged marriage. | 0:26:02 | 0:26:06 | |
This is Iewduh market | 0:26:10 | 0:26:12 | |
and here it's the women who run most of the stalls. | 0:26:12 | 0:26:16 | |
From owning small shops to large businesses, | 0:26:16 | 0:26:20 | |
from teaching to being a doctor, | 0:26:20 | 0:26:23 | |
Khasi culture allows women to aspire to pursue careers. | 0:26:23 | 0:26:27 | |
I've been told there's a woman here, a Khatduh, | 0:26:34 | 0:26:38 | |
who's fulfilling a role most people would assume | 0:26:38 | 0:26:41 | |
is very much a man's job. | 0:26:41 | 0:26:44 | |
D Marngar is a police inspector. | 0:26:47 | 0:26:51 | |
Flying, flying, Romeo-One. | 0:27:15 | 0:27:17 | |
The inspector's in charge of one of the largest | 0:27:17 | 0:27:20 | |
of Shillong's seven traffic districts... | 0:27:20 | 0:27:22 | |
..and she's taking me out on patrol. | 0:27:24 | 0:27:26 | |
You're like a very strict headmistress. | 0:27:36 | 0:27:39 | |
To become the head of this department... | 0:27:43 | 0:27:48 | |
..as a woman, did you... | 0:27:49 | 0:27:51 | |
do you think you had to work harder than your male counterparts | 0:27:51 | 0:27:57 | |
to prove that you were capable of the job? | 0:27:57 | 0:28:01 | |
As dusk falls and rush hour arrives... | 0:28:29 | 0:28:33 | |
..the traffic gets even busier. | 0:28:37 | 0:28:39 | |
CARS TOOT THEIR HORNS | 0:28:42 | 0:28:44 | |
Like many Khasi women, | 0:29:39 | 0:29:41 | |
the inspector balances her career | 0:29:41 | 0:29:43 | |
with her responsibilities as a Khatduh | 0:29:43 | 0:29:46 | |
and as a mother. | 0:29:46 | 0:29:48 | |
Did you have support from your husband, your family? | 0:30:08 | 0:30:12 | |
Did they help you look after the children? | 0:30:12 | 0:30:14 | |
What do you mean by that? | 0:30:23 | 0:30:25 | |
Sorry. | 0:30:59 | 0:31:01 | |
Despite the abuse, the inspector stayed with her husband | 0:31:24 | 0:31:28 | |
and had two more children. | 0:31:28 | 0:31:30 | |
Do you think your husband was somehow jealous | 0:31:56 | 0:32:01 | |
that you were doing well in your professional life | 0:32:01 | 0:32:07 | |
and also, because, as you say, you are the Khatduh, | 0:32:07 | 0:32:10 | |
you were the person who owned the property? | 0:32:10 | 0:32:14 | |
Finally, the inspector did divorce her husband. | 0:32:43 | 0:32:46 | |
We tried to contact him to get his side of the story, | 0:32:46 | 0:32:50 | |
but were unable to track him down. | 0:32:50 | 0:32:52 | |
Do you or your children | 0:32:53 | 0:32:54 | |
have any contact with your husband at all any more? | 0:32:54 | 0:32:57 | |
India has been cited as one of the most dangerous countries | 0:33:05 | 0:33:09 | |
to be a woman and domestic abuse is widespread. | 0:33:09 | 0:33:13 | |
But at least here in Meghalaya, | 0:33:13 | 0:33:15 | |
women like the inspector can stand up to their abusers and can divorce, | 0:33:15 | 0:33:21 | |
which would be unthinkable for many women in the rest of India. | 0:33:21 | 0:33:25 | |
The inspector is... | 0:33:25 | 0:33:26 | |
She's a remarkable woman. | 0:33:26 | 0:33:29 | |
To come out of that situation intact, | 0:33:33 | 0:33:37 | |
and not just intact but a woman with an extraordinary career... | 0:33:37 | 0:33:42 | |
..that's pretty astounding. | 0:33:44 | 0:33:46 | |
And seeing her out here, I mean... | 0:33:50 | 0:33:53 | |
I don't know what constitutes a traffic violation in Shillong - | 0:33:53 | 0:33:56 | |
everything looks like a traffic violation to me. | 0:33:56 | 0:33:59 | |
But she fiercely marches into the traffic like Boadicea... | 0:34:01 | 0:34:06 | |
..and sorts everybody out. | 0:34:07 | 0:34:09 | |
Although the inspector's story is shocking, | 0:34:17 | 0:34:20 | |
her education, job and independent wealth have allowed her to recover | 0:34:20 | 0:34:25 | |
and bring up her family. | 0:34:25 | 0:34:27 | |
But what happens to Khasi women who haven't been educated | 0:34:28 | 0:34:31 | |
or who don't have family wealth behind them? | 0:34:31 | 0:34:35 | |
The inspector told me there are many single mothers in Shillong | 0:34:38 | 0:34:42 | |
and, just like in the rest of India, in Meghalaya state, | 0:34:42 | 0:34:46 | |
despite the matrilineal system, | 0:34:46 | 0:34:48 | |
there's been a rise in crimes against women. | 0:34:48 | 0:34:51 | |
So I'm meeting Dala Nongpiur, | 0:34:55 | 0:34:58 | |
a Khatduh, a mother and a career woman, | 0:34:58 | 0:35:01 | |
who's going to help me understand | 0:35:01 | 0:35:03 | |
what's causing this growing problem. | 0:35:03 | 0:35:05 | |
You know, like, for a man to leave his wife and children, | 0:35:06 | 0:35:10 | |
go on to another woman, have children, | 0:35:10 | 0:35:12 | |
then maybe move on to a third woman - that happens as well. | 0:35:12 | 0:35:15 | |
There is definitely a very high number of single mothers here. | 0:35:15 | 0:35:19 | |
It's more common for Khasi couples to cohabit rather than marry, | 0:35:21 | 0:35:26 | |
so it's all too easy for the men just to walk away | 0:35:26 | 0:35:30 | |
with no sense of responsibility for the children | 0:35:30 | 0:35:33 | |
who bear their mother's family name. | 0:35:33 | 0:35:36 | |
But is there no law or system | 0:35:37 | 0:35:41 | |
to make those men pay some sort of support | 0:35:41 | 0:35:46 | |
for their children? | 0:35:46 | 0:35:48 | |
This is where it gets a little complicated. | 0:35:48 | 0:35:51 | |
Because of the matrilineal system, the children belong to the mother - | 0:35:51 | 0:35:54 | |
-to the mother's family. -They take the mother's name, don't they? | 0:35:54 | 0:35:58 | |
They take mother's name. | 0:35:58 | 0:35:59 | |
And so some men have claimed that we don't have a right | 0:35:59 | 0:36:03 | |
even to our own children, | 0:36:03 | 0:36:05 | |
and so they kind of feel free to just leave them. | 0:36:05 | 0:36:08 | |
And there is a law, of course, | 0:36:08 | 0:36:10 | |
that a man has to pay a certain amount of maintenance, | 0:36:10 | 0:36:13 | |
but a lot of women do not claim that. | 0:36:13 | 0:36:17 | |
Presumably, if they're educated, | 0:36:17 | 0:36:20 | |
and they can have good jobs, like the inspector, | 0:36:20 | 0:36:24 | |
it's not necessarily a problem. | 0:36:24 | 0:36:26 | |
There's no stigma to being a single mother, is there? | 0:36:26 | 0:36:29 | |
There is no stigma, but not all women are educated, | 0:36:29 | 0:36:32 | |
not all women are well-off enough, | 0:36:32 | 0:36:35 | |
and a lot of them feel a certain amount of shame | 0:36:35 | 0:36:38 | |
in asking from the father | 0:36:38 | 0:36:41 | |
to actually go to a man who has abandoned you | 0:36:41 | 0:36:45 | |
and ask for money from him. To some of them, it amounts to begging. | 0:36:45 | 0:36:49 | |
A lot of them would... | 0:36:49 | 0:36:51 | |
..go as domestic help. That is one thing, you know? | 0:36:52 | 0:36:55 | |
They go to wash clothes, clean up the house | 0:36:55 | 0:36:57 | |
for the other more well-to-do families. | 0:36:57 | 0:37:00 | |
And I also know of girls who have entered sex work | 0:37:00 | 0:37:06 | |
as an option to feed their families. | 0:37:06 | 0:37:09 | |
Gosh, that's quite a chink | 0:37:09 | 0:37:11 | |
in your matrilineal Utopian system, isn't it? | 0:37:11 | 0:37:13 | |
Yes. Not so Utopian. | 0:37:13 | 0:37:15 | |
Yeah. | 0:37:15 | 0:37:17 | |
Wow. | 0:37:18 | 0:37:19 | |
So, we go down there. | 0:37:21 | 0:37:23 | |
Dala's taking me to meet a group of single mothers | 0:37:24 | 0:37:27 | |
who've had to resort to sex work to survive. | 0:37:27 | 0:37:30 | |
Go ahead. Go ahead. | 0:37:30 | 0:37:31 | |
-Stop? -Yeah. No, no, no. Just 20 metres before them. | 0:37:31 | 0:37:34 | |
Stop. | 0:37:37 | 0:37:40 | |
According to a charity that works with these women in Shillong, | 0:37:46 | 0:37:50 | |
of the 408 active sex workers here, | 0:37:50 | 0:37:53 | |
320 are single mothers. | 0:37:53 | 0:37:57 | |
Why did you end up working as a prostitute? | 0:37:57 | 0:38:02 | |
I'm the youngest of six. I'm the Khatduh. | 0:38:03 | 0:38:06 | |
My father passed away. | 0:38:06 | 0:38:08 | |
They've asked to be kept anonymous and we've changed their voices. | 0:38:09 | 0:38:13 | |
And then my mother got ill, | 0:38:14 | 0:38:16 | |
so I had to drop out of school and return home. | 0:38:16 | 0:38:19 | |
But then my husband left me when I was pregnant. | 0:38:20 | 0:38:23 | |
Do you think that there's anything about... | 0:38:24 | 0:38:29 | |
..Khasi society, perhaps the matrilineal system, | 0:38:30 | 0:38:34 | |
that makes men feel | 0:38:34 | 0:38:37 | |
that they are allowed to just walk away | 0:38:37 | 0:38:41 | |
from their responsibilities? | 0:38:41 | 0:38:43 | |
It's the men who are at fault in most of these cases. | 0:38:44 | 0:38:46 | |
If they actually took proper care of us, we wouldn't have to do this. | 0:38:46 | 0:38:50 | |
I did other jobs, like making street food, | 0:38:50 | 0:38:53 | |
working until one o'clock in the morning, | 0:38:53 | 0:38:56 | |
but then I had to get up at six in the morning | 0:38:56 | 0:38:58 | |
to get my child ready for school. | 0:38:58 | 0:39:00 | |
But it was just too exhausting. | 0:39:00 | 0:39:03 | |
I can't get a proper job. | 0:39:03 | 0:39:05 | |
This is my only option. | 0:39:05 | 0:39:07 | |
You're all Khasi women. | 0:39:08 | 0:39:11 | |
You come from a very... | 0:39:11 | 0:39:13 | |
erm, ancient...tradition. | 0:39:13 | 0:39:17 | |
Would any of you like to see it change? | 0:39:17 | 0:39:20 | |
I think things need to change. | 0:39:21 | 0:39:24 | |
Let the men bear more responsibility. | 0:39:24 | 0:39:27 | |
Maybe the children can take their father's surname. | 0:39:28 | 0:39:31 | |
If they had his surname, I think he'd be around a lot more. | 0:39:31 | 0:39:35 | |
It is the husband's duty to support the family, even if he leaves. | 0:39:37 | 0:39:42 | |
Men come and live with us, but when they see we are not well-off... | 0:39:43 | 0:39:48 | |
..they feel they have more freedom to walk all over us. | 0:39:49 | 0:39:53 | |
These are tragic stories | 0:40:06 | 0:40:08 | |
and, to be honest, not what I expected | 0:40:08 | 0:40:11 | |
from what I thought was such an equal society. | 0:40:11 | 0:40:14 | |
But it seems that the system here is disenfranchising men | 0:40:14 | 0:40:18 | |
and that's having a serious impact on both sexes. | 0:40:18 | 0:40:22 | |
The problem with the Khasi society, where the women are right up there | 0:40:23 | 0:40:27 | |
and the men are way down, | 0:40:27 | 0:40:29 | |
this little gap is increasing day by day... | 0:40:29 | 0:40:33 | |
..and it scares the wits out of us. | 0:40:34 | 0:40:37 | |
Keith Parriott set up a men's campaign group in 1990. | 0:40:38 | 0:40:42 | |
It has a membership of 4,000 | 0:40:42 | 0:40:45 | |
and has often been compared to a male suffragette movement. | 0:40:45 | 0:40:49 | |
The custom has given everything to the women. | 0:40:50 | 0:40:54 | |
They've given property to the women, | 0:40:54 | 0:40:58 | |
they've given the title of the children to the women. | 0:40:58 | 0:41:00 | |
Are you saying that because Khasi society | 0:41:00 | 0:41:05 | |
has this matrilineal system, | 0:41:05 | 0:41:07 | |
men are feeling increasingly inferior to women? | 0:41:07 | 0:41:13 | |
Khasi men feel absolutely unwanted. | 0:41:13 | 0:41:17 | |
They feel absolutely useless in society. | 0:41:17 | 0:41:20 | |
We do feel inadequate... | 0:41:20 | 0:41:23 | |
Right. | 0:41:23 | 0:41:24 | |
..when we compare ourselves to the women. | 0:41:24 | 0:41:27 | |
There are males dropping out from school - males students. | 0:41:27 | 0:41:31 | |
There are males who are into drugs and alcohol. | 0:41:31 | 0:41:34 | |
Males who have no responsibility on their shoulders. | 0:41:34 | 0:41:38 | |
What's wrong with Khasi men? Don't they need to just grow a backbone? | 0:41:38 | 0:41:41 | |
Well, I would say yes, | 0:41:41 | 0:41:44 | |
but the system has... | 0:41:44 | 0:41:47 | |
been bearing down on them for so long | 0:41:47 | 0:41:50 | |
that they've lost their backbone. | 0:41:50 | 0:41:52 | |
I would ideally... | 0:41:53 | 0:41:56 | |
love a system that gives importance to both men and women. | 0:41:56 | 0:42:00 | |
-Right. -OK? | 0:42:00 | 0:42:02 | |
I would attempt to bring a change. | 0:42:02 | 0:42:05 | |
It's not that we hate women, | 0:42:05 | 0:42:08 | |
it's not that we want to be ahead of them, | 0:42:08 | 0:42:11 | |
it's not that we want to be the leaders and they the followers, no. | 0:42:11 | 0:42:14 | |
We want to pick the men up from the gutter, where they are, | 0:42:14 | 0:42:18 | |
so that they become more respectable as people. | 0:42:18 | 0:42:20 | |
Unlike up in the villages, | 0:42:25 | 0:42:28 | |
so many relationships here in Shillong seem to be fracturing. | 0:42:28 | 0:42:32 | |
Clearly, men are struggling, | 0:42:32 | 0:42:34 | |
but is it really the Khasi tradition that's at fault? | 0:42:34 | 0:42:38 | |
Khraw was happily married to a Khatduh for 14 years, | 0:42:45 | 0:42:51 | |
but recently things have started to go wrong for him, | 0:42:51 | 0:42:54 | |
his wife and their four children. | 0:42:54 | 0:42:57 | |
Khraw's wife had to fulfil her duties as the youngest daughter | 0:43:32 | 0:43:37 | |
and move away from Shillong, back to her family home. | 0:43:37 | 0:43:41 | |
So, effectively, your wife... | 0:43:42 | 0:43:46 | |
..because she's the Khatduh, was forced to make a decision. | 0:43:47 | 0:43:53 | |
She had to choose either her duty as a Khatduh... | 0:43:54 | 0:43:58 | |
..or to abandon that duty... | 0:43:59 | 0:44:04 | |
..and keep her marriage alive? | 0:44:05 | 0:44:08 | |
But she wasn't able to do both? | 0:44:09 | 0:44:11 | |
It took Khraw many years to get his job as a porter | 0:44:33 | 0:44:36 | |
in one of Shillong's busiest hospitals. | 0:44:36 | 0:44:39 | |
A state job like this, although not well paid, | 0:44:41 | 0:44:44 | |
gives him a sense of pride. | 0:44:44 | 0:44:46 | |
But as a Khasi man, | 0:44:48 | 0:44:50 | |
you presumably knew that by marrying a Khatduh, | 0:44:50 | 0:44:55 | |
this situation was probably going to arise at some point. | 0:44:55 | 0:44:59 | |
KNOCK ON DOOR | 0:45:41 | 0:45:42 | |
And then, an unexpected guest arrives. | 0:45:45 | 0:45:48 | |
So his wife has come with one of the kids? | 0:45:52 | 0:45:54 | |
Hello, there. | 0:46:00 | 0:46:02 | |
Hello. Lovely to meet you. | 0:46:02 | 0:46:04 | |
It would be really interesting to have your point of view as well | 0:46:05 | 0:46:11 | |
but, obviously, only if you had time, | 0:46:11 | 0:46:13 | |
and you were happy to talk to me. | 0:46:13 | 0:46:15 | |
Do you feel that, | 0:46:24 | 0:46:27 | |
as the Khatduh... | 0:46:27 | 0:46:29 | |
..you were put in... | 0:46:31 | 0:46:33 | |
..almost an unfair situation? | 0:46:34 | 0:46:37 | |
So when Khraw made his decision | 0:46:57 | 0:47:01 | |
to stay in Shillong | 0:47:01 | 0:47:03 | |
and not come and live with you in your mother's house... | 0:47:03 | 0:47:08 | |
..what did you think? Did you understand his decision? | 0:47:09 | 0:47:13 | |
Do you think he has... | 0:47:33 | 0:47:35 | |
..let you down? | 0:47:36 | 0:47:38 | |
And would you like to be together with Khraw? | 0:48:14 | 0:48:17 | |
I'm going to let you have a moment. | 0:48:27 | 0:48:29 | |
The story of Khraw and Ritilang | 0:48:50 | 0:48:52 | |
seems to be at the heart of the problem here, | 0:48:52 | 0:48:55 | |
when relationships break down because of the clash between | 0:48:55 | 0:48:59 | |
the duty of tradition and the pressure of the modern way of life. | 0:48:59 | 0:49:03 | |
You know, this is a time of transition. | 0:49:05 | 0:49:08 | |
Erm, people are beginning to see that, perhaps, | 0:49:08 | 0:49:12 | |
the old ways don't work quite so well... | 0:49:12 | 0:49:15 | |
in this modern era, particularly, perhaps, in urban areas. | 0:49:15 | 0:49:21 | |
I'd hate to see the matrilineal system swept away | 0:49:23 | 0:49:27 | |
just because in the modern world it can't be made to work for men. | 0:49:27 | 0:49:31 | |
It's my last day in Shillong | 0:49:37 | 0:49:40 | |
and I've been invited to dinner at the inspector's home | 0:49:40 | 0:49:44 | |
to meet her eldest son, David, | 0:49:44 | 0:49:46 | |
and the youngest daughter, Rosabelle - | 0:49:46 | 0:49:49 | |
the family's next Khatduh. | 0:49:49 | 0:49:51 | |
At last I get to meet you. Hello. I'm Kate. | 0:49:54 | 0:49:57 | |
She's in the middle of her final exams at university. | 0:49:57 | 0:50:00 | |
I've come to help chop. | 0:50:00 | 0:50:02 | |
Her ambition is to become a judge. | 0:50:02 | 0:50:05 | |
-Here are the onions. -Here are the onions, OK. | 0:50:05 | 0:50:08 | |
You see, this is already surprisingly me - | 0:50:08 | 0:50:11 | |
that David is the one that's in charge of the cooking. | 0:50:11 | 0:50:14 | |
Is this always true? | 0:50:14 | 0:50:16 | |
Yes, yes, it's true. Don't... | 0:50:16 | 0:50:18 | |
If he's saying it's true, I have to agree with him. | 0:50:18 | 0:50:21 | |
-Don't hesitate. -Yes, it's true. | 0:50:21 | 0:50:24 | |
As a member of the new generation that's been educated | 0:50:24 | 0:50:27 | |
and brought up in a modern city, | 0:50:27 | 0:50:30 | |
it's great to get Rosabelle's perspective | 0:50:30 | 0:50:32 | |
on what she sees as the future of Khasi life. | 0:50:32 | 0:50:36 | |
How much do you think your ambitions | 0:50:37 | 0:50:41 | |
are connected to the fact that | 0:50:41 | 0:50:45 | |
not only do you have an extraordinary mother | 0:50:45 | 0:50:48 | |
and you've been very lucky to have an education, | 0:50:48 | 0:50:51 | |
but also that you come from the Khasi tradition? | 0:50:51 | 0:50:54 | |
I don't think if I was born in some other part of India | 0:50:54 | 0:50:58 | |
I would even have the courage of aiming so high | 0:50:58 | 0:51:01 | |
and I don't even think I would have the courage | 0:51:01 | 0:51:04 | |
of expecting people to respect my ambitions, | 0:51:04 | 0:51:07 | |
because men respect women in a matrilineal society, | 0:51:07 | 0:51:10 | |
unlike in other parts. | 0:51:10 | 0:51:12 | |
But, do they, though? I've had really mixed experiences. | 0:51:12 | 0:51:17 | |
You know, I've seen both sides. | 0:51:17 | 0:51:19 | |
-I mean, your mum's story... -Sorry, I have to interrupt. | 0:51:19 | 0:51:22 | |
-That's enough, Kate. -That's enough? OK. | 0:51:22 | 0:51:25 | |
It doesn't make you immune from some of the awful things | 0:51:25 | 0:51:29 | |
that can happen. | 0:51:29 | 0:51:30 | |
And equally, I've heard from, you know, from some men, | 0:51:30 | 0:51:35 | |
that they feel somehow that they don't have a role. | 0:51:35 | 0:51:39 | |
And in a funny sort of way, | 0:51:39 | 0:51:41 | |
they would say that's why they're more disrespectful to women. | 0:51:41 | 0:51:45 | |
If we don't make it flexible, | 0:51:45 | 0:51:48 | |
if we don't let people know that there are rooms for improvement | 0:51:48 | 0:51:51 | |
and there is scope for change, | 0:51:51 | 0:51:54 | |
the Khasi tradition will face the crisis of passing into oblivion, | 0:51:54 | 0:51:59 | |
the threat of being substituted by a patrilineal society, | 0:51:59 | 0:52:03 | |
so making it flexible is very important. | 0:52:03 | 0:52:05 | |
She's right. | 0:52:05 | 0:52:07 | |
I agree with what she said. | 0:52:07 | 0:52:09 | |
It doesn't need to be a patrilineal society to take up responsibility. | 0:52:09 | 0:52:14 | |
Once you are a father, you have a responsibility over... | 0:52:15 | 0:52:20 | |
For your children, for your wife, for your family... | 0:52:21 | 0:52:24 | |
for everybody. | 0:52:24 | 0:52:26 | |
And what improvements would you make? | 0:52:26 | 0:52:28 | |
How do you think the system could be adapted... | 0:52:28 | 0:52:32 | |
to make it work... | 0:52:32 | 0:52:35 | |
in a more sophisticated urban environment like Shillong? | 0:52:35 | 0:52:39 | |
In order to avoid friction and to make men, the male children, | 0:52:39 | 0:52:43 | |
feel that they have an equal status in society, | 0:52:43 | 0:52:46 | |
the parents would distribute their property maybe equally, | 0:52:46 | 0:52:50 | |
or not give everything to just one person, | 0:52:50 | 0:52:53 | |
but give everybody equal share. | 0:52:53 | 0:52:55 | |
While the family agrees it's important to adapt the system | 0:52:55 | 0:52:59 | |
and share the wealth amongst the children, | 0:52:59 | 0:53:02 | |
Rosabelle's still adamant | 0:53:02 | 0:53:04 | |
that they should hold on to one key aspect of it. | 0:53:04 | 0:53:08 | |
I don't think the children should take the surname of their fathers | 0:53:08 | 0:53:11 | |
because, in that way, if... | 0:53:11 | 0:53:14 | |
this whole system will be converted to... | 0:53:14 | 0:53:16 | |
If you do away with it and just bring in the patrilineal system, | 0:53:16 | 0:53:20 | |
then there the crisis will emerge where the matrilineal society | 0:53:20 | 0:53:25 | |
will pass into oblivion. | 0:53:25 | 0:53:26 | |
What makes us different from all the people | 0:53:26 | 0:53:30 | |
in the entire country, | 0:53:30 | 0:53:32 | |
what makes the north-eastern part different | 0:53:32 | 0:53:34 | |
is the very fact that we have the matrilineal society | 0:53:34 | 0:53:37 | |
and I'm very, very proud of that. | 0:53:37 | 0:53:39 | |
I don't think we should, you know, change the passing of surname, | 0:53:39 | 0:53:43 | |
but just adjustments when it comes to inheritance of property. | 0:53:43 | 0:53:46 | |
-It's done. -It's done? -Yes. | 0:53:48 | 0:53:50 | |
It's a really clean, lovely smell. | 0:53:50 | 0:53:55 | |
You get the smell of the pepper, you get the smell of the ginger, | 0:53:55 | 0:53:59 | |
you get the smell of the chilli. | 0:53:59 | 0:54:01 | |
You can smell all those lovely individual flavours. | 0:54:02 | 0:54:05 | |
OK, I'm going to sit down and prepare myself. | 0:54:07 | 0:54:10 | |
-Careful. It's hot. -Thank you. | 0:54:10 | 0:54:12 | |
-So, the moment of truth. -The moment of truth! | 0:54:12 | 0:54:14 | |
That's delicious. | 0:54:19 | 0:54:21 | |
-That's really... -She's just being nice! | 0:54:22 | 0:54:24 | |
Honestly. | 0:54:24 | 0:54:25 | |
No, I don't doubt his cooking. | 0:54:25 | 0:54:27 | |
-Did your mother teach you this dish? -Yes. | 0:54:27 | 0:54:30 | |
That's another thing you've done, inspector. How do you do it?! | 0:54:30 | 0:54:33 | |
You control all the traffic in Shillong, | 0:54:33 | 0:54:36 | |
you have the most amazing children and you teach them to cook! | 0:54:36 | 0:54:40 | |
Oh, it's lovely. | 0:54:42 | 0:54:44 | |
That is so good and it's spicy! | 0:54:52 | 0:54:54 | |
-But lovely spicy, isn't it? It's a really clean... -It's really good. | 0:54:55 | 0:54:59 | |
-I should start learning. -I think you should start learning. | 0:55:00 | 0:55:03 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:55:03 | 0:55:05 | |
Over my time here, | 0:55:19 | 0:55:21 | |
equality is a word that's come back again and again. | 0:55:21 | 0:55:25 | |
Yes, there are problems here, like in most societies, | 0:55:25 | 0:55:29 | |
and the pressures of tradition and duty weigh heavy at times. | 0:55:29 | 0:55:33 | |
But despite those very real issues, it does feel that overall | 0:55:33 | 0:55:38 | |
this is a fairer place for both men and women. | 0:55:38 | 0:55:42 | |
They are a very, kind of, forward-thinking people | 0:55:43 | 0:55:47 | |
and everybody, from Bah Lung and Shitoah in the village, | 0:55:47 | 0:55:52 | |
through to the extraordinary Rosabelle, | 0:55:52 | 0:55:56 | |
the inspector's younger daughter, | 0:55:56 | 0:55:58 | |
they all understand that, you know, things are changing | 0:55:58 | 0:56:02 | |
and the matrilineal system is going to need to change too. | 0:56:02 | 0:56:07 | |
It doesn't mean that the women here are immune | 0:56:09 | 0:56:13 | |
from abandonment by husbands or immune from domestic abuse, | 0:56:13 | 0:56:18 | |
or indeed any of the things that can be inflicted on women | 0:56:18 | 0:56:22 | |
anywhere else in the world, | 0:56:22 | 0:56:24 | |
but it does mean that they have a sense of self assurance | 0:56:24 | 0:56:29 | |
and confidence. | 0:56:29 | 0:56:31 | |
And when you come to a country where that is quite unusual, | 0:56:31 | 0:56:35 | |
you realise that... | 0:56:35 | 0:56:37 | |
that is a very positive thing. | 0:56:37 | 0:56:40 | |
So maybe we should look at this place, | 0:56:40 | 0:56:43 | |
one of the last remaining matrilineal societies in the world, | 0:56:43 | 0:56:47 | |
and learn from it | 0:56:47 | 0:56:49 | |
about what can happen when you give women independence | 0:56:49 | 0:56:53 | |
and instil in them a strong sense of worth. | 0:56:53 | 0:56:57 | |
When you have empowered women, | 0:56:57 | 0:57:00 | |
you have a society that feels a lot fairer, | 0:57:00 | 0:57:03 | |
that feels like it works better, | 0:57:03 | 0:57:06 | |
and surely, surely, that can only be a good thing? | 0:57:06 | 0:57:10 |