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17-year-old Sam and 20-year-old Evan moved in together after dating for only five months. | 0:00:04 | 0:00:08 | |
But theirs is no ordinary gay relationship. | 0:00:08 | 0:00:11 | |
These two young men were born girls. | 0:00:11 | 0:00:15 | |
I think I make a pretty good lad. | 0:00:15 | 0:00:17 | |
BELCHES | 0:00:17 | 0:00:18 | |
It just so happens that I was born in a female's body. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:22 | |
If I had the option of living as a girl or not living at all, | 0:00:22 | 0:00:25 | |
I'd choose to not live because it's not life for me. | 0:00:25 | 0:00:27 | |
Sam and Evan's change from girls to men | 0:00:27 | 0:00:30 | |
has not been easy for their families to accept. | 0:00:30 | 0:00:34 | |
I was devastated, angry, upset. | 0:00:34 | 0:00:36 | |
I don't think you ever expect your kid's | 0:00:36 | 0:00:39 | |
going come up to you and say they're not what sex they are. | 0:00:39 | 0:00:43 | |
Underneath their clothes, the lads both still have female bodies. | 0:00:45 | 0:00:50 | |
They want to change this but it's not straightforward. | 0:00:50 | 0:00:53 | |
I might be intersexed. | 0:00:53 | 0:00:55 | |
Oh, my God! | 0:00:55 | 0:00:56 | |
As the young couple try to get on with their day-to-day life, | 0:00:56 | 0:01:00 | |
they face prejudice and intimidation. | 0:01:00 | 0:01:03 | |
-They're throwing eggs. -Look, they're getting pretty close. | 0:01:03 | 0:01:06 | |
Where are they coming from? | 0:01:06 | 0:01:08 | |
This is Sam and Evan's story, | 0:01:08 | 0:01:12 | |
as they come of age... | 0:01:12 | 0:01:15 | |
You are now a proper adult. | 0:01:15 | 0:01:17 | |
..and change their bodies from girls | 0:01:17 | 0:01:20 | |
to men. | 0:01:20 | 0:01:22 | |
17-year-old Sam is trying to find his own way in the world. | 0:01:29 | 0:01:33 | |
He recently moved out of his parents' home in Surrey | 0:01:35 | 0:01:39 | |
to move 200 miles away | 0:01:39 | 0:01:41 | |
into a council house in Rochdale with his boyfriend Evan. | 0:01:41 | 0:01:45 | |
I tell you what, this is right hard work down at the bottom. | 0:01:45 | 0:01:48 | |
It's a big decision, moving in with your partner | 0:01:51 | 0:01:53 | |
because there's always the question what if it doesn't work? | 0:01:53 | 0:01:57 | |
I was worried about people judging me, judging us, for moving in together after how long? Five months. | 0:01:57 | 0:02:01 | |
-Life's about risks, you've got to take them. -Oh, shit! | 0:02:01 | 0:02:05 | |
Have you dripped on the floor? Do it on the floor. | 0:02:05 | 0:02:08 | |
The roller doesn't fit in! | 0:02:08 | 0:02:09 | |
Oh, my god, sorry. | 0:02:09 | 0:02:10 | |
Yeah, I feel really lucky that I found Evan, I think he's one in a billion. | 0:02:10 | 0:02:14 | |
Bits of the roller are coming off the wall! | 0:02:14 | 0:02:17 | |
Yes, well, it was 50p, | 0:02:17 | 0:02:20 | |
I don't expect first-class rollers. | 0:02:20 | 0:02:23 | |
He's the person I feel most comfortable with. Yeah, out of anyone | 0:02:23 | 0:02:27 | |
I feel most comfortable with him. | 0:02:27 | 0:02:29 | |
He's like my best friend, really. | 0:02:29 | 0:02:30 | |
The room's going to be good when it's done. | 0:02:30 | 0:02:32 | |
Yeah, it's good, it feels like it's our room now | 0:02:32 | 0:02:35 | |
rather than I've just moved in to yours. | 0:02:35 | 0:02:37 | |
'We are from very different backgrounds,' | 0:02:37 | 0:02:39 | |
I genuinely thought that everyone had a cleaner until I was about 14 or 15. | 0:02:39 | 0:02:43 | |
Really, that was news to me. | 0:02:43 | 0:02:45 | |
Because that was the lifestyle I'd been brought up in | 0:02:45 | 0:02:47 | |
why should everybody else be different? | 0:02:47 | 0:02:49 | |
When I first ever redecorated, Sam, I was about seven, | 0:02:49 | 0:02:53 | |
in fact, it was when I first moved to the house and it's not been decorated since. | 0:02:53 | 0:02:57 | |
I act very snobby a lot of the time but I'm not at heart, he knows that. | 0:02:57 | 0:03:02 | |
Otherwise I wouldn't have moved here. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:05 | |
So this is better because it's kind of, it's a lot more masculine. | 0:03:05 | 0:03:09 | |
More masculine, what, green stripes? | 0:03:09 | 0:03:11 | |
It's better than the pink. | 0:03:11 | 0:03:12 | |
Does it matter how masculine it is, really? | 0:03:12 | 0:03:14 | |
No, but I don't know, it's more me now if that makes sense. | 0:03:14 | 0:03:17 | |
-Yeah. -It's older. | 0:03:17 | 0:03:18 | |
-And it's absolutely fabulous, darling. -You're so gay. | 0:03:18 | 0:03:22 | |
Yes, dear. | 0:03:22 | 0:03:23 | |
I'm very much the more feminine of the two, | 0:03:27 | 0:03:30 | |
he very much wears the trousers so that works. | 0:03:30 | 0:03:33 | |
So I do all the cooking, he cleans up after dinner. | 0:03:33 | 0:03:37 | |
Just because I like girlie things, | 0:03:37 | 0:03:41 | |
it doesn't make me any less of a man. | 0:03:41 | 0:03:44 | |
I look ridiculous. | 0:03:46 | 0:03:48 | |
We are getting on together very well | 0:03:48 | 0:03:50 | |
so that's not really a problem. | 0:03:50 | 0:03:52 | |
It just feels nice to sort of move out and start my own life really. | 0:03:52 | 0:03:56 | |
I love you. | 0:03:57 | 0:03:59 | |
Fine then! | 0:04:00 | 0:04:02 | |
-(I love you. -Love you too.) | 0:04:06 | 0:04:08 | |
Sam and Evan have been living together for a couple of months now, | 0:04:08 | 0:04:12 | |
but they don't have the house to themselves. | 0:04:12 | 0:04:15 | |
In the bedroom next to their love nest, is Evan's mum, Kath. | 0:04:15 | 0:04:19 | |
They're happy, and I'm happy, and you know, I love having Sam here, | 0:04:19 | 0:04:23 | |
he's a great guy, you know, | 0:04:23 | 0:04:24 | |
and, he's making my son happy | 0:04:24 | 0:04:26 | |
so I love him even more for that, you know. | 0:04:26 | 0:04:30 | |
# Happy birthday to you... # | 0:04:30 | 0:04:34 | |
It's Sam's 18th, and he's spending it with his new family. | 0:04:34 | 0:04:40 | |
# Happy birthday, dear Sam | 0:04:40 | 0:04:43 | |
# Happy birthday to you. # | 0:04:43 | 0:04:48 | |
Evan's mum Kath has organised a party to celebrate this milestone. | 0:04:48 | 0:04:52 | |
Hooray! | 0:04:52 | 0:04:53 | |
-If I was outside, I'd do this now. -Yeah, but don't. | 0:04:53 | 0:04:56 | |
-Kiss. -Did you just say give us a kiss? | 0:05:03 | 0:05:05 | |
He's my boyfriend, Mother. | 0:05:05 | 0:05:08 | |
Thank you. | 0:05:10 | 0:05:11 | |
Happy birthday, mate, you are now a proper adult. | 0:05:11 | 0:05:14 | |
'It's very nice to move in here because it's like another family unit.' | 0:05:14 | 0:05:19 | |
His mum does mother me a lot, sort of, where I need mothering. | 0:05:19 | 0:05:24 | |
I do love you, for all me shouting, | 0:05:24 | 0:05:27 | |
and I'd like us all to wish Sam a happy 18th birthday. | 0:05:27 | 0:05:32 | |
-ALL: -Happy birthday, Sam! | 0:05:32 | 0:05:36 | |
I feel like I've got two sons now. I have grown | 0:05:36 | 0:05:39 | |
really, really fond of Sam | 0:05:39 | 0:05:41 | |
and as far as I'm concerned, you know, | 0:05:41 | 0:05:44 | |
I treat him like one of my own. | 0:05:44 | 0:05:46 | |
And I will be there for him as much as I would be for Evan. | 0:05:46 | 0:05:51 | |
What makes Sam and Evan's modern love story unusual | 0:05:55 | 0:05:58 | |
is they were both born girls. | 0:05:58 | 0:06:00 | |
I know loads of people are going to get confused with this, | 0:06:00 | 0:06:04 | |
people do get confused with this. | 0:06:04 | 0:06:06 | |
Me and Sam are both men, | 0:06:06 | 0:06:10 | |
we were both born female, | 0:06:10 | 0:06:13 | |
however we are both in a relationship so because we are both men, | 0:06:13 | 0:06:17 | |
we are in a gay relationship. | 0:06:17 | 0:06:18 | |
Sam and Evan met at a support group | 0:06:21 | 0:06:23 | |
for teenagers who believe they were born into the wrong bodies. | 0:06:23 | 0:06:26 | |
You look a bit gormless. | 0:06:26 | 0:06:27 | |
I am a bit gormless there! I look like a baby! | 0:06:27 | 0:06:30 | |
They have both already made the huge decision | 0:06:32 | 0:06:35 | |
to begin the process of changing their gender from female to male. | 0:06:35 | 0:06:39 | |
I was known as Yvonne, | 0:06:39 | 0:06:40 | |
now I am Evan, and I'm happy like that! | 0:06:40 | 0:06:42 | |
Sam and Evan have embarked on a journey to transform their bodies, | 0:06:44 | 0:06:47 | |
but it's a long process. | 0:06:47 | 0:06:49 | |
The first stage has been to change their names | 0:06:49 | 0:06:53 | |
and to begin to dress as men. | 0:06:53 | 0:06:54 | |
Obviously one of the most important things | 0:06:57 | 0:07:00 | |
to passing as a male is the clothes you wear, | 0:07:00 | 0:07:02 | |
you need to be wearing male clothes. | 0:07:02 | 0:07:04 | |
-Oh, I like that. -It's a T-shirt pretending to be a shirt. | 0:07:08 | 0:07:11 | |
I like them. | 0:07:11 | 0:07:12 | |
Show me. | 0:07:12 | 0:07:13 | |
No. | 0:07:13 | 0:07:15 | |
Probably the most important thing is something people don't see at all. | 0:07:15 | 0:07:19 | |
Underneath my top I've got this black Spandex Lycra thing | 0:07:20 | 0:07:27 | |
known as a binder. | 0:07:27 | 0:07:28 | |
Yeah, basically it makes your chest flat. | 0:07:28 | 0:07:31 | |
Stretchy. | 0:07:31 | 0:07:32 | |
So you don't have big boobies everywhere. | 0:07:32 | 0:07:35 | |
It's also very uncomfortable | 0:07:35 | 0:07:37 | |
in general and gives you back pain. | 0:07:37 | 0:07:39 | |
But if you weigh it up against having boobs, it's kind of less painful. | 0:07:39 | 0:07:44 | |
I stress about any lump, at all, ever. | 0:07:44 | 0:07:47 | |
I suppose you're smaller than me, though, as well. | 0:07:47 | 0:07:50 | |
With me being big, a guy my size would have man boobs. | 0:07:50 | 0:07:54 | |
So I've just got man boobs. | 0:07:54 | 0:07:56 | |
Not quite done up, there you go. | 0:07:56 | 0:07:58 | |
Thank you. | 0:07:58 | 0:07:59 | |
Oh, I do like that. Do you? | 0:08:00 | 0:08:03 | |
I think it's just nice cos of the sleeves. | 0:08:04 | 0:08:06 | |
I look like an Eskimo! | 0:08:06 | 0:08:08 | |
You're messing up my hair! | 0:08:10 | 0:08:12 | |
Underneath their clothes, Sam and Evan still have female bodies | 0:08:12 | 0:08:16 | |
and need some help in the trouser department. | 0:08:16 | 0:08:20 | |
Today, with the help of Kath they're shopping for a packer, | 0:08:21 | 0:08:26 | |
which will give them the appearance of having male genitals. | 0:08:26 | 0:08:29 | |
So what sort of willy will you get, then? | 0:08:29 | 0:08:32 | |
Oh, God! Kill me now! Right. | 0:08:32 | 0:08:36 | |
KATH LAUGHS | 0:08:36 | 0:08:37 | |
They're quite droopy, aren't they? | 0:08:37 | 0:08:40 | |
Well, it's because they're stupidly big. | 0:08:40 | 0:08:42 | |
A medium is seven inches long, like, flaccid. | 0:08:42 | 0:08:45 | |
Right. So you don't want a big one. | 0:08:45 | 0:08:47 | |
Extra small, extra small, right, is actually normal size. | 0:08:47 | 0:08:50 | |
Imagine having that down your pants, it'd be hard to shut your legs! | 0:08:50 | 0:08:54 | |
It's just stupid, it genuinely looks stupid. | 0:08:54 | 0:08:57 | |
I should have got that one. | 0:08:57 | 0:08:59 | |
Right, shall we just get that one, what does it say, pink limpy packer? | 0:08:59 | 0:09:04 | |
Yes. | 0:09:04 | 0:09:05 | |
It's named right, isn't it? Pink limpy! It is a bit limpy. | 0:09:05 | 0:09:09 | |
Sam began living as a man when he was just 16. | 0:09:14 | 0:09:18 | |
If a person feels they're trapped in the wrong body, | 0:09:18 | 0:09:21 | |
many experts recommend they live as their preferred gender | 0:09:21 | 0:09:24 | |
for at least a year before they begin treatment. | 0:09:24 | 0:09:28 | |
Six months ago, Sam was months ago was prescribed the male hormone testosterone. | 0:09:28 | 0:09:33 | |
He'll be on it for the rest of his life, | 0:09:33 | 0:09:35 | |
but he's been unable to get to the doctors | 0:09:35 | 0:09:37 | |
for his fortnightly injection. | 0:09:37 | 0:09:39 | |
Good job Evan's mum Kath isn't afraid of needles. | 0:09:39 | 0:09:43 | |
Right, I'm going to fill it up. | 0:09:43 | 0:09:45 | |
Well, I've not done that before, | 0:09:45 | 0:09:47 | |
I don't mind injecting you | 0:09:47 | 0:09:49 | |
-but I don't particularly want to do that bit. -Right, OK. | 0:09:49 | 0:09:52 | |
-It's all very exciting. -Do you want me to hold that? | 0:09:52 | 0:09:55 | |
-It's all right for now. -Mind you don't spill it. | 0:09:55 | 0:09:57 | |
I'm about five days late now for my shot | 0:09:57 | 0:10:00 | |
which doesn't sound very much but a lot of people get either | 0:10:00 | 0:10:03 | |
upset or angry towards the end of their shot when they're needing a new one. | 0:10:03 | 0:10:07 | |
These last five, six days have been absolutely terrible, | 0:10:07 | 0:10:10 | |
just been arguing, stressed and then I start feeling awful. | 0:10:10 | 0:10:14 | |
I dunno, it's like having PMS. | 0:10:14 | 0:10:16 | |
I was quite scared when I started testosterone actually. | 0:10:16 | 0:10:20 | |
Looking a bit nervy, Sam. | 0:10:20 | 0:10:21 | |
I am a bit nervy. I don't like injections. | 0:10:21 | 0:10:23 | |
Especially when it's done at home. | 0:10:23 | 0:10:26 | |
You look like you're going to give me some sort of anal exam! | 0:10:26 | 0:10:30 | |
Put them away! | 0:10:30 | 0:10:31 | |
Put them away! | 0:10:31 | 0:10:32 | |
I don't know what I'm going to be getting involved in, do I?! | 0:10:32 | 0:10:36 | |
You won't be able to give me an injection with them on. | 0:10:38 | 0:10:41 | |
Only kidding. Only pulling your leg. | 0:10:41 | 0:10:43 | |
I'll stick them back. | 0:10:43 | 0:10:45 | |
Your attempt at relaxing me, is it? | 0:10:45 | 0:10:47 | |
-Yeah! -Right. | 0:10:47 | 0:10:48 | |
Come on, show us your arse. | 0:10:48 | 0:10:51 | |
All right. | 0:10:51 | 0:10:52 | |
Although I had the choice | 0:10:52 | 0:10:53 | |
as to whether to have that needle put in my body or not, | 0:10:53 | 0:10:56 | |
at the same time | 0:10:56 | 0:10:57 | |
I knew if I didn't I would continue to feel, you know, absolutely horrific about myself. | 0:10:57 | 0:11:01 | |
That's OK, there's no blood. | 0:11:01 | 0:11:04 | |
Right, it's going in now. | 0:11:04 | 0:11:06 | |
I can tell you now with absolute certainty if I had the option of living as a girl or not living at all | 0:11:06 | 0:11:11 | |
I would just chose to not live because it's not life for me, | 0:11:11 | 0:11:14 | |
that was not life and it didn't feel like I was living at all. | 0:11:14 | 0:11:17 | |
The male hormone testosterone has made Sam's body change. | 0:11:17 | 0:11:23 | |
He's become hairier and his voice has become deeper and more masculine. | 0:11:23 | 0:11:27 | |
Today, Sam's showing Evan a video he made, | 0:11:27 | 0:11:31 | |
before he started having testosterone treatment. | 0:11:31 | 0:11:34 | |
Being confronted by how he used to sound and look | 0:11:38 | 0:11:41 | |
is uncomfortable viewing for Sam, | 0:11:41 | 0:11:43 | |
but reveals just how much he's transformed already. | 0:11:43 | 0:11:47 | |
Really I don't like seeing myself, | 0:11:47 | 0:11:49 | |
erm, you know before I transitioned | 0:11:49 | 0:11:52 | |
because it does remind you of a time when you felt absolutely awful in yourself, | 0:11:52 | 0:11:56 | |
reminds you of something you've worked so hard to get away from you don't want to look at it any more, | 0:11:56 | 0:12:01 | |
like a phobia of yourself. | 0:12:01 | 0:12:02 | |
-'My gender identity...' -Big hair. | 0:12:02 | 0:12:05 | |
It's not that big. | 0:12:05 | 0:12:06 | |
It's huge. You're like Elvis. | 0:12:06 | 0:12:09 | |
-I don't look like Elvis. -You do. | 0:12:09 | 0:12:12 | |
Evan isn't on testosterone yet as he has not lived as a man for a year. | 0:12:13 | 0:12:17 | |
'..toilets I use, that kind of stuff. | 0:12:17 | 0:12:19 | |
'But at the same time I'm very much the same person. | 0:12:19 | 0:12:23 | |
'I have the same hobbies, same interests...' | 0:12:23 | 0:12:26 | |
Your voice is so different now to what it was then. | 0:12:26 | 0:12:29 | |
You sound like a very posh... | 0:12:29 | 0:12:31 | |
I don't know how to say it without saying female. | 0:12:33 | 0:12:36 | |
You sound like, erm, who's that girl? | 0:12:37 | 0:12:41 | |
So they bullied me for being some sort of lesbian. | 0:12:41 | 0:12:45 | |
Hermione Granger! | 0:12:45 | 0:12:47 | |
That is the one! | 0:12:47 | 0:12:49 | |
Yes! | 0:12:49 | 0:12:51 | |
That is who you sound like. | 0:12:51 | 0:12:53 | |
You're a wanker! | 0:12:53 | 0:12:55 | |
-I do, don't I?! -Yes! | 0:12:55 | 0:12:57 | |
'It was pretty much a homophobic culture | 0:12:57 | 0:13:00 | |
'in the sense that anything negative was gay.' | 0:13:00 | 0:13:04 | |
My voice started to change | 0:13:04 | 0:13:06 | |
about three days after I started taking testosterone. | 0:13:06 | 0:13:09 | |
'There was more bullying than before I came out.' | 0:13:09 | 0:13:12 | |
People at school thought I had a cold for ages! | 0:13:12 | 0:13:14 | |
They were hearing me every day as well | 0:13:14 | 0:13:16 | |
whereas if I just talked to someone on the street, | 0:13:16 | 0:13:19 | |
they would have said it's a man's voice. | 0:13:19 | 0:13:21 | |
But I know it just gets deeper and deeper. | 0:13:21 | 0:13:23 | |
It's still getting deeper. | 0:13:23 | 0:13:24 | |
'And from that, that sort of led to... | 0:13:24 | 0:13:27 | |
'sort of people talking about me behind my back.' | 0:13:27 | 0:13:30 | |
You get pretty desperate about it, I suppose, | 0:13:30 | 0:13:32 | |
you're just constantly living in this sort of limbo state | 0:13:32 | 0:13:36 | |
where you've basically transitioned but at the same time | 0:13:36 | 0:13:39 | |
because you're so physically unlike what you want to identify as, | 0:13:39 | 0:13:43 | |
you can't quite socially live as that. | 0:13:43 | 0:13:47 | |
Whereas once you've been on testosterone, | 0:13:47 | 0:13:49 | |
to all outward appearances, you're male entirely. | 0:13:49 | 0:13:53 | |
You can move out of the limbo phase and get on with your life, whereas you can't when you're like that. | 0:13:53 | 0:13:58 | |
Sam and Evan's childhoods were very different. | 0:14:01 | 0:14:03 | |
I've got so many presents there it's ridiculous. | 0:14:03 | 0:14:06 | |
Evan is an only child, | 0:14:06 | 0:14:08 | |
whereas Sam has three brothers. | 0:14:08 | 0:14:10 | |
But that was not the only difference. | 0:14:10 | 0:14:12 | |
Something to do with Barbie. | 0:14:14 | 0:14:16 | |
-'What are they?' -Roller skates! | 0:14:16 | 0:14:19 | |
You've got Barbie roller skates and you're so happy! | 0:14:19 | 0:14:22 | |
'You've got Barbie roller skates!' | 0:14:22 | 0:14:24 | |
I would have chucked them in the bin! | 0:14:24 | 0:14:27 | |
'A Barbie bike!' | 0:14:27 | 0:14:29 | |
See, you get so much pink stuff and you like having it | 0:14:29 | 0:14:32 | |
-whereas if I'd got anything like that, I'd have been upset. -Why have I got two sets? | 0:14:32 | 0:14:36 | |
I was like a stereotypical little boy, | 0:14:37 | 0:14:40 | |
the last time they managed to get me in a dress was when I was five, | 0:14:40 | 0:14:43 | |
and that was after two, three hours of shrieking. | 0:14:43 | 0:14:46 | |
My brothers would always get the toys that I wanted to get, | 0:14:47 | 0:14:51 | |
and because I was the only girl, everyone would give me the most feminine presents they could find | 0:14:51 | 0:14:55 | |
and I hated it. Especially when I grew up cos everyone gave me make up and it sat in a drawer | 0:14:55 | 0:15:00 | |
and never got put on. | 0:15:00 | 0:15:01 | |
See, this is me on the roller skates! | 0:15:03 | 0:15:06 | |
Oh, my God. | 0:15:06 | 0:15:08 | |
Be interested to see this. | 0:15:08 | 0:15:09 | |
Me roller-skating! | 0:15:15 | 0:15:17 | |
I'm four! | 0:15:25 | 0:15:27 | |
I think because this was always me, like all the way through | 0:15:27 | 0:15:30 | |
growing up, if you think about it, even when I was 16, 17, | 0:15:30 | 0:15:36 | |
in fact, even 18 going out, just before I was coming out, | 0:15:36 | 0:15:39 | |
I'd spend about an hour getting ready, | 0:15:39 | 0:15:42 | |
I'd do my makeup, I'd do my hair. I was wearing jewellery. | 0:15:42 | 0:15:45 | |
So when I came out, it was very, very hard for my family. | 0:15:45 | 0:15:49 | |
And I think this shows why, really. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:52 | |
When Evan first began to realise that he wanted to be a man, | 0:15:55 | 0:15:58 | |
he didn't tell any of his family, even though he'd gone to his doctor for advice. | 0:15:58 | 0:16:03 | |
I was absolutely petrified, | 0:16:03 | 0:16:05 | |
not because I wasn't capable to do it, but family is so important to me | 0:16:05 | 0:16:11 | |
and I was really, really scared that my family just wouldn't understand. | 0:16:11 | 0:16:15 | |
I was terrified that I'd be left with no-one. | 0:16:17 | 0:16:20 | |
Instead, Evan wrote about how he was feeling in a diary, | 0:16:21 | 0:16:25 | |
which his mum Kath found when cleaning his room. | 0:16:25 | 0:16:29 | |
I was really, really angry, | 0:16:29 | 0:16:32 | |
and I was like, "How dare Yvonne do this to me?" | 0:16:32 | 0:16:38 | |
and it was even to the stage of, "Well, she's not living with me | 0:16:38 | 0:16:41 | |
"if this is what she wants to do, she's not dragging me through this." | 0:16:41 | 0:16:45 | |
And I was so, so angry, and I had to sort of rein it in | 0:16:45 | 0:16:51 | |
when Yvonne came through the door, because Yvonne didn't know that I knew anything | 0:16:51 | 0:16:56 | |
and it was like we were play-acting in the house. | 0:16:56 | 0:17:01 | |
To be perfectly honest, I just wanted to get hold of her | 0:17:01 | 0:17:05 | |
and I wanted to shake her and shake her, | 0:17:05 | 0:17:08 | |
and say, "What the hell do you think you are doing?" | 0:17:08 | 0:17:11 | |
Kath didn't want to lose her daughter, | 0:17:14 | 0:17:16 | |
particularly because she'd already had to face this prospect when Yvonne was just a baby. | 0:17:16 | 0:17:23 | |
She was born without a forehead, so at six months old, | 0:17:23 | 0:17:26 | |
she was actually taken into hospital, | 0:17:26 | 0:17:28 | |
where she was cut from one ear to the other, and they made a fontanelle, so to speak, | 0:17:28 | 0:17:34 | |
to allow the brain to grow. And I think it was at that point I thought, "This child needs me. | 0:17:34 | 0:17:39 | |
"This child needs me more than ever now." | 0:17:39 | 0:17:41 | |
Remembering she was lucky her child was still alive | 0:17:41 | 0:17:44 | |
helped Kath come to terms with her daughter's desire to become a man. | 0:17:44 | 0:17:49 | |
I don't think it was... I didn't find it easy to understand, | 0:17:49 | 0:17:54 | |
but when your daughter's saying, "Mum, it is what I want." | 0:17:54 | 0:17:58 | |
And then you feel, "Well, what sort of mother am I? | 0:17:58 | 0:18:01 | |
"Why did I not know my daughter was feeling this? | 0:18:01 | 0:18:04 | |
"Well, I'm no mother. I should be struck off as a mother." | 0:18:04 | 0:18:08 | |
With his mum accepting who he really was, Evan now had to break the news | 0:18:10 | 0:18:15 | |
to his dad Mick, a butcher who lives 40 miles away, in Liverpool. | 0:18:15 | 0:18:20 | |
Although Mick split from Kath when Evan was a baby, | 0:18:20 | 0:18:22 | |
the two are really close. | 0:18:22 | 0:18:24 | |
You've brought the weather down with you again! | 0:18:24 | 0:18:27 | |
Yeah! | 0:18:27 | 0:18:29 | |
'I was really, really worried that my dad and my dad's side of the family just wouldn't understand, | 0:18:32 | 0:18:38 | |
'and that they'd kind of not want to know me.' | 0:18:38 | 0:18:43 | |
What do you want? | 0:18:43 | 0:18:44 | |
Just a Fab or a Vimto or something. | 0:18:44 | 0:18:47 | |
-Can we have...? -Just a lolly ice or whatever. -..a Twister and an apple Fab, please? | 0:18:47 | 0:18:52 | |
'I don't think that you ever expect' | 0:18:52 | 0:18:54 | |
that your kid's going to come up to you and say that they're not what sex they are. | 0:18:54 | 0:18:59 | |
And when Evan told me that he wasn't Yvonne any more and he was Evan, | 0:18:59 | 0:19:05 | |
and that's how it was going to be... | 0:19:05 | 0:19:07 | |
-Thank you very much. -Thank you. | 0:19:07 | 0:19:09 | |
..obviously I had to tell me folks, | 0:19:09 | 0:19:11 | |
and I went to pieces on the phone telling them, like, | 0:19:11 | 0:19:16 | |
I couldn't talk through me own tears. | 0:19:16 | 0:19:19 | |
Been to the football lately? | 0:19:19 | 0:19:21 | |
Last game, last home game of the season. | 0:19:21 | 0:19:25 | |
-What was the score? -Got beat by Tottenham. -Oh. OK! | 0:19:25 | 0:19:30 | |
'I completely appreciate that it's a hard thing for them to understand, | 0:19:30 | 0:19:34 | |
'it took me a long time to understand,' | 0:19:34 | 0:19:37 | |
and I was the one going through it, so if I struggled, | 0:19:37 | 0:19:41 | |
then God knows how anyone else is going to find out and handle it. | 0:19:41 | 0:19:45 | |
You used to call me the mascot, cos literally every game we went, | 0:19:45 | 0:19:50 | |
we'd win. | 0:19:50 | 0:19:52 | |
Or most, anyway. | 0:19:52 | 0:19:54 | |
'It's been a long learning process,' | 0:19:54 | 0:19:57 | |
and it still will be a long learning process because, erm... | 0:19:57 | 0:20:01 | |
I'm not really up on medical terms, and all that. | 0:20:01 | 0:20:05 | |
'I'm not saying I fully understand it | 0:20:05 | 0:20:08 | |
'but I will try to fully understand it.' | 0:20:08 | 0:20:10 | |
While Evan is spending time with his dad, Sam has gone back home to Surrey, | 0:20:19 | 0:20:24 | |
where he's meeting up with his older brother Peter, who is gay. | 0:20:24 | 0:20:28 | |
Do you remember when Mummy used to be like, "Why aren't you normal like other children?" | 0:20:28 | 0:20:33 | |
-I don't remember that at all. -She used to be angry with us and be like, "Why are you just not normal?" | 0:20:33 | 0:20:38 | |
When they were growing up, Peter was close to his little sister, | 0:20:38 | 0:20:41 | |
so it took time to understand that Sam was now his brother. | 0:20:41 | 0:20:46 | |
I think there was an initial feeling of I'd lost my sister | 0:20:46 | 0:20:51 | |
but he is the same person he always was. He's always been that person - | 0:20:51 | 0:20:55 | |
even when we saw him as a girl, he was still Sam inside. | 0:20:55 | 0:20:59 | |
It made perfect sense once I understood that. | 0:20:59 | 0:21:03 | |
Sam wrote to his parents to tell them he wanted to be their son instead of their daughter. | 0:21:03 | 0:21:08 | |
His mum was the first to read the letter. | 0:21:08 | 0:21:11 | |
She came up and said, "Right, Sam. | 0:21:11 | 0:21:15 | |
"So you feel like a boy?" and I said yes, | 0:21:15 | 0:21:19 | |
and we had this conversation for about half an hour, | 0:21:19 | 0:21:23 | |
she was fine with it, really. Obviously I think it's difficult when your child transitions | 0:21:23 | 0:21:28 | |
but she was very, very good with it, very decent about it, and she recognised | 0:21:28 | 0:21:32 | |
that if that's what I need to do in order to feel that I am able to live my life, | 0:21:32 | 0:21:37 | |
then that is what I need to do. | 0:21:37 | 0:21:38 | |
She's been very, very supportive and that's really meant a lot. | 0:21:38 | 0:21:41 | |
My dad sort of found me in the lounge and closed the door and said, | 0:21:41 | 0:21:45 | |
"Right, I've got your letter. I just want to assure you that I love you no matter what, | 0:21:45 | 0:21:50 | |
"and that's the most important thing." | 0:21:50 | 0:21:51 | |
They both think this is how you are. It's not so much of a discussion when it comes up. | 0:21:55 | 0:22:00 | |
They just pretend I was always a man. Which is fine. | 0:22:00 | 0:22:03 | |
Do you remember I used to sit on his lap, like, "Who's your favourite girl?" | 0:22:03 | 0:22:07 | |
And he was like, "You are." And I'd be like, "But who's your favourite boy?" | 0:22:07 | 0:22:11 | |
He was like, "I don't have a favourite boy, I love them all equally." | 0:22:11 | 0:22:14 | |
And that is Samuel's ego! | 0:22:14 | 0:22:16 | |
And that, because obviously I am the favourite, let's remember that. | 0:22:16 | 0:22:20 | |
You're clearly not. | 0:22:20 | 0:22:21 | |
Sam went to an all-girls' school from the age of four, but he felt he didn't fit in. | 0:22:23 | 0:22:29 | |
I just knew that I wasn't a girl, | 0:22:29 | 0:22:31 | |
I didn't realise that I was something else, you know. | 0:22:31 | 0:22:34 | |
If I'd have been to a school with boys, I'd have realised sooner but because I had no other standard | 0:22:34 | 0:22:38 | |
to compare myself to, I just knew that I wasn't a girl, | 0:22:38 | 0:22:41 | |
I didn't realise that I was something else. | 0:22:41 | 0:22:43 | |
He was still attending an all-girls' school | 0:22:43 | 0:22:46 | |
when he began living as a man aged 16. | 0:22:46 | 0:22:49 | |
I basically just looked more and more male, really. | 0:22:49 | 0:22:54 | |
Not everyone at his school accepted the change, | 0:22:54 | 0:22:58 | |
but there was one person who was always there for him - his friend Cat. | 0:22:58 | 0:23:01 | |
-Hello. -Hello. -You all right? | 0:23:03 | 0:23:05 | |
Are we doing a sitting down hug? | 0:23:05 | 0:23:08 | |
'It was really important for me to have Cat there because, without her,' | 0:23:08 | 0:23:11 | |
I wouldn't have felt confident enough to tell other people, and to change to male in front of everyone else. | 0:23:11 | 0:23:17 | |
I remember when I told my German teacher, I was like, "Call me Sam" she was like "Warum?" | 0:23:17 | 0:23:23 | |
So basically I had to tell her in German, and she was like, "OK, since when?" | 0:23:23 | 0:23:28 | |
And I was like, "Since forever"! | 0:23:28 | 0:23:30 | |
She was like, "OK then", but that's just the sort of thing she'd do. | 0:23:30 | 0:23:33 | |
-She's quite stand off-ish. -She's nice, I actually really like her. | 0:23:33 | 0:23:36 | |
-You seem a lot happier now, though. -Yeah, I am a lot happier. | 0:23:36 | 0:23:40 | |
I think a lot of people have said that. I've still not got that much facial hair. | 0:23:40 | 0:23:46 | |
-There's some there. -Yeah, but it's bum fluff, you can feel it and it's like nothing. | 0:23:46 | 0:23:51 | |
No, it's kind of bristly. | 0:23:51 | 0:23:53 | |
Starting to live as a man was liberating for Sam. | 0:23:55 | 0:23:59 | |
It felt like for the whole previous part of my life, | 0:23:59 | 0:24:02 | |
I'd been kind of tied up, almost like I wasn't able to breathe, | 0:24:02 | 0:24:07 | |
but I didn't realise that | 0:24:07 | 0:24:08 | |
until people started seeing me as male, | 0:24:08 | 0:24:11 | |
and then suddenly I realised how much freer I felt. | 0:24:11 | 0:24:14 | |
But changing gender came at a price. | 0:24:14 | 0:24:18 | |
95% of my classmates are at university at the moment. | 0:24:18 | 0:24:21 | |
It was pretty much what you did. When people asked what you were doing after school, | 0:24:21 | 0:24:26 | |
they said, "What university are you going to?" | 0:24:26 | 0:24:29 | |
So they were a bit annoyed, | 0:24:29 | 0:24:31 | |
especially cos one of my teachers was really keen on me going to Oxford, but I just couldn't do it. | 0:24:31 | 0:24:38 | |
But instead of going to university, Sam moved into his boyfriend's house on an estate in Rochdale. | 0:24:49 | 0:24:54 | |
He and Evan are usually accepted as young men by the outside world, | 0:24:54 | 0:24:59 | |
but no matter how much they change their appearance, | 0:24:59 | 0:25:02 | |
this is one place where people won't let Evan forget he was born female. | 0:25:02 | 0:25:06 | |
I've lived on this estate for about 12 years. | 0:25:06 | 0:25:09 | |
So because I've lived in the same place for 12 years, | 0:25:09 | 0:25:13 | |
they know me before I transitioned, so the older people know me | 0:25:13 | 0:25:17 | |
and then, because the older people know me, | 0:25:17 | 0:25:20 | |
they tell their younger brothers and sisters, so they know me. | 0:25:20 | 0:25:23 | |
So there's no actually me being me, because they see me as a girl and not as a boy. | 0:25:23 | 0:25:29 | |
They shout at Evan, especially, for being trans. | 0:25:29 | 0:25:33 | |
The couple are desperate to get a place of their own in nearby Manchester, | 0:25:33 | 0:25:37 | |
where no-one will know they used to be girls. | 0:25:37 | 0:25:39 | |
On their way to the bus stop to go flat-hunting, | 0:25:39 | 0:25:42 | |
some of the local kids give them even more of an incentive to move. | 0:25:42 | 0:25:46 | |
They're throwing eggs. I've been egged on four occasions. | 0:25:49 | 0:25:54 | |
'I hate it! Oh, my God. I'm actually terrified of small children, and of people having a go at me.' | 0:25:57 | 0:26:03 | |
I can't deal with it at all, which is why we're moving out. | 0:26:03 | 0:26:05 | |
'It's really hard for me to see Sam so scared when things happen | 0:26:10 | 0:26:14 | |
'when we get shouted at on the estate, because I love him, and it's awful to see someone you love' | 0:26:14 | 0:26:19 | |
feel hurt and scared. | 0:26:19 | 0:26:21 | |
Come here. Don't cry. | 0:26:23 | 0:26:27 | |
Look, man, they're getting pretty close. | 0:26:32 | 0:26:34 | |
-Where the fuck's it coming from? -That one. | 0:26:34 | 0:26:37 | |
'Prejudice is a big problem. | 0:26:39 | 0:26:41 | |
'There's quite a high suicide rate in transgendered people.' | 0:26:41 | 0:26:45 | |
And the worst thing is when somebody says, | 0:26:45 | 0:26:48 | |
"You will always be a girl to me." Because that's when they're saying, "I will not accept who you are." | 0:26:48 | 0:26:54 | |
And that's when you think, if nobody accepts who I am, then I am not, ie, I'm a sty. | 0:26:54 | 0:26:59 | |
That's basically the thought, why the suicide rate is so high. | 0:26:59 | 0:27:03 | |
There is nowhere to hide, as Sam and Evan face an agonising wait at the bus stop. | 0:27:03 | 0:27:08 | |
It really annoys me that people think they have the right to shout the abuse and do what they do. | 0:27:23 | 0:27:30 | |
It's just a really big relief to get off the estate. | 0:27:30 | 0:27:33 | |
As soon as we move it'll be so much better. | 0:27:33 | 0:27:36 | |
'People should just think twice before they say something or before they throw something,' | 0:27:36 | 0:27:40 | |
just on how it affects the person, | 0:27:40 | 0:27:43 | |
because the person has feelings too, | 0:27:43 | 0:27:45 | |
even if you do think they're a bit of a freak because they were born a girl. | 0:27:45 | 0:27:48 | |
I'm just terrified - I can't cope, I can't cope at all. | 0:27:48 | 0:27:52 | |
Sam and Evan are flat-hunting in Manchester, a very cosmopolitan city with its own gay village. | 0:27:56 | 0:28:01 | |
If they move here, the lads are confident they will not face daily discrimination. | 0:28:01 | 0:28:08 | |
I just want something that has enough space to move about, | 0:28:08 | 0:28:12 | |
because you know loads of studio apartments are actually tiny. | 0:28:12 | 0:28:15 | |
That's nice. So we have to be fussy when we look around. | 0:28:15 | 0:28:18 | |
-That one's a nice kitchen. -It is a nice kitchen. | 0:28:20 | 0:28:23 | |
Thing is, you never know from the photos, do you? | 0:28:23 | 0:28:27 | |
I think it'll be good, because we can just be men, | 0:28:27 | 0:28:30 | |
we don't have to be trans men. | 0:28:30 | 0:28:32 | |
-Yeah. It'll be our choice, our identity. -It'll just be us. | 0:28:32 | 0:28:35 | |
Our choice whether we want to be out as trans or get on with life and not bother about it. | 0:28:35 | 0:28:40 | |
You can walk down the road and your neighbours are not going to know anything about your past, | 0:28:40 | 0:28:44 | |
they're not going to have an ideas about what sort of person you're going to be. | 0:28:44 | 0:28:48 | |
-You can be who you are. Do you know what? -What? | 0:28:48 | 0:28:51 | |
-We'll be able to make a mess! -What! No, you are not making a mess! | 0:28:51 | 0:28:54 | |
Except it's actually you that makes the mess, remember? | 0:28:54 | 0:28:58 | |
Yeah, I make a mess with clothes, you make a mess when you cook, it goes everywhere! | 0:28:58 | 0:29:02 | |
-So do you! -No. -You don't tidy up your dishes, you leave them. | 0:29:02 | 0:29:06 | |
-No. -Oh, yes, you do! -Who's been doing the dishes every day this week, apart from yesterday? | 0:29:06 | 0:29:11 | |
-Who's been at work every day? Me! -Oh, and I've not? | 0:29:11 | 0:29:14 | |
It is a really exciting thing. | 0:29:14 | 0:29:16 | |
-That's our aim. That is our target. -OK. | 0:29:16 | 0:29:19 | |
-That is our goal, and we shall take steps to get there, yes? -Yes. -Yeah. | 0:29:19 | 0:29:24 | |
Evan has been dressing in male clothes for a year now, | 0:29:25 | 0:29:28 | |
and is hoping that doctors will soon prescribe him testosterone. | 0:29:28 | 0:29:33 | |
In preparation for this, Evan has come off the contraceptive pill | 0:29:33 | 0:29:37 | |
and is having to face something no man would normally have to. | 0:29:37 | 0:29:42 | |
I've now had like period from hell, as I've been on for about two and a half weeks now. | 0:29:44 | 0:29:49 | |
On one period, so it's a bit nasty, | 0:29:50 | 0:29:54 | |
especially when you're not supposed to have them. | 0:29:54 | 0:29:57 | |
I find it really weird coming to buy period stuff | 0:29:57 | 0:30:01 | |
because it's something which is associated with female, and I'm not female. | 0:30:01 | 0:30:05 | |
-Would you like a bag for them? -Yes, please. | 0:30:05 | 0:30:09 | |
'I feel like when I go to buy them, that they're thinking, | 0:30:09 | 0:30:12 | |
'why on earth is a boy buying sanitary towels and Tampax? | 0:30:12 | 0:30:17 | |
'I think it's just a reminder of the body which I was born in, | 0:30:17 | 0:30:21 | |
'which is pretty crap, to be fair.' | 0:30:21 | 0:30:24 | |
But there is light at the end of the tunnel. | 0:30:24 | 0:30:27 | |
At last, Evan has got an appointment with doctors at the Charing Cross Gender Clinic in London | 0:30:27 | 0:30:33 | |
about beginning male hormone treatment. | 0:30:33 | 0:30:36 | |
Sam will be making the trip with him to offer support, | 0:30:41 | 0:30:44 | |
as he knows first-hand that taking male hormones will dramatically change Evan's life. | 0:30:44 | 0:30:50 | |
My periods have stopped, but I haven't noticed, | 0:30:50 | 0:30:53 | |
I just kind of forget I ever had them. | 0:30:53 | 0:30:56 | |
So I forget how it used to be, it's a struggle for me to remember how I used to feel. | 0:30:56 | 0:31:01 | |
The lads arrive in London, but Evan is worried about his meeting | 0:31:05 | 0:31:09 | |
with doctors at the Charing Cross Gender Clinic. | 0:31:09 | 0:31:12 | |
If they feel that I'm ready and I meet all their requirements, | 0:31:13 | 0:31:18 | |
they will place me on testosterone. | 0:31:18 | 0:31:21 | |
I know how I progress physically is in two doctors' hands. | 0:31:21 | 0:31:25 | |
I think when I'm in there and I start being quizzed, | 0:31:25 | 0:31:29 | |
it'll be all right. Because then it's just life, | 0:31:29 | 0:31:31 | |
-you're just talking about yourself. -Yeah. | 0:31:31 | 0:31:34 | |
Sam knows how crucial this meeting is for Evan, | 0:31:37 | 0:31:40 | |
cos if the doctors aren't convinced that Evan should really be a man, | 0:31:40 | 0:31:44 | |
they will not allow him to begin hormone therapy | 0:31:44 | 0:31:48 | |
to physically change his body from female to male. | 0:31:48 | 0:31:51 | |
An hour later, Evan has some surprising news. | 0:31:51 | 0:31:55 | |
-What have they done? -Right, well, I might be inter-sexed. | 0:31:55 | 0:32:00 | |
SAM SNORTS What have they done! Oh, my God! | 0:32:00 | 0:32:04 | |
I might have to go for shitloads of tests back in London | 0:32:04 | 0:32:07 | |
to see if I've got a widge somewhere! | 0:32:07 | 0:32:12 | |
-Only you! But have a cuddle. -OK. | 0:32:12 | 0:32:15 | |
-Why can't you just be normal? -Shall we get some lunch? | 0:32:15 | 0:32:18 | |
-Lol. -Why...? LAUGHING | 0:32:20 | 0:32:23 | |
Why can't I just be normal?! | 0:32:23 | 0:32:26 | |
-LAUGHING -God! | 0:32:26 | 0:32:29 | |
Evan's high testosterone levels could be the result of a condition called polycystic ovaries, | 0:32:29 | 0:32:35 | |
which is a problem women get in their reproductive organs, | 0:32:35 | 0:32:39 | |
or Evan might be inter-sex, which means he may have | 0:32:39 | 0:32:42 | |
some male anatomy hidden inside his body. | 0:32:42 | 0:32:46 | |
Further tests will be needed, but, for now, | 0:32:53 | 0:32:56 | |
Evan must wait even longer before being prescribed male hormones. | 0:32:56 | 0:33:00 | |
I kind of feel like I'm stuck in limbo at the moment. | 0:33:00 | 0:33:03 | |
I'm ready to go through my male puberty and start testosterone | 0:33:03 | 0:33:08 | |
but I can't yet because I've not had the go-ahead. | 0:33:08 | 0:33:12 | |
I think to some extent, yes, he did have his hopes up, erm, | 0:33:12 | 0:33:15 | |
because he thought he was going to be prescribed it on that day. | 0:33:15 | 0:33:19 | |
If I have got polycystic ovary syndrome, | 0:33:19 | 0:33:22 | |
it's once again another reminder that I was born female. | 0:33:22 | 0:33:26 | |
If I'm inter-sexed, it's also really stressful, | 0:33:26 | 0:33:30 | |
but then it's kind of, something about it is quite good | 0:33:30 | 0:33:33 | |
because there's the whole, like, it means that I've got some form | 0:33:33 | 0:33:39 | |
of male-ism inside me, which kind of gives a bit of a reason, | 0:33:39 | 0:33:44 | |
which in some ways may help. | 0:33:44 | 0:33:47 | |
If he was inter-sexed, he would have an "excuse" to be trans | 0:33:47 | 0:33:52 | |
and so they would give him his hormones faster | 0:33:52 | 0:33:54 | |
because then he has a reason for his gender being like that. | 0:33:54 | 0:33:57 | |
Mental, but, yeah, there you go. | 0:33:57 | 0:34:00 | |
I just want to start treatment so I can begin to be me. | 0:34:00 | 0:34:03 | |
Despite Evan's knock-back, he's determined that he wants | 0:34:05 | 0:34:08 | |
to move on with his life. | 0:34:08 | 0:34:10 | |
Sam and Evan need to find full-time jobs | 0:34:13 | 0:34:16 | |
if they're ever going to fulfil their dream of getting a flat in Manchester. | 0:34:16 | 0:34:19 | |
It's fairly difficult to find a job at the moment. | 0:34:26 | 0:34:29 | |
I mean, it's not us alone who are in this boat, really. | 0:34:29 | 0:34:31 | |
It's just a question of keeping trying until we break in there. | 0:34:31 | 0:34:35 | |
I feel when I get turned down from jobs | 0:34:37 | 0:34:40 | |
that it's people doing it because it's me, | 0:34:40 | 0:34:43 | |
because of me being trans, but then I think, is it? | 0:34:43 | 0:34:46 | |
-Am I just paranoid? -Good luck. | 0:34:46 | 0:34:49 | |
-Hello, is it Evan? -Yeah. -Have you got your CV there, son? | 0:34:53 | 0:34:57 | |
Great stuff. I'll take a copy here. | 0:34:57 | 0:34:59 | |
-Have you brought your CV with you? -I have. | 0:34:59 | 0:35:02 | |
Appreciate your time. Thanks. | 0:35:02 | 0:35:03 | |
You'll need to register on our website. | 0:35:03 | 0:35:05 | |
Really simple, really painless. | 0:35:05 | 0:35:08 | |
And then you need to come in here and bring some ID with you. | 0:35:08 | 0:35:11 | |
Needing ID is a huge problem | 0:35:11 | 0:35:13 | |
because although the lads have both changed their names, | 0:35:13 | 0:35:17 | |
the only formal identification they have is from when they were female. | 0:35:17 | 0:35:21 | |
I can't use female ID because people don't believe it's me. | 0:35:21 | 0:35:25 | |
-All right, thanks very much. -Bye-bye. | 0:35:25 | 0:35:27 | |
For today, the job search has hit a dead end. | 0:35:27 | 0:35:31 | |
It's two weeks since Evan was told his testosterone levels were abnormally high | 0:35:34 | 0:35:39 | |
which could be as a result of him having cysts on his ovaries. | 0:35:39 | 0:35:42 | |
Today, he's on his way to have a scan | 0:35:42 | 0:35:45 | |
of his female reproductive system. | 0:35:45 | 0:35:47 | |
For Evan, this procedure means he has to face the reality | 0:35:49 | 0:35:52 | |
that underneath his clothes, he has a female body. | 0:35:52 | 0:35:56 | |
'I don't associate my body as being female, | 0:35:57 | 0:36:00 | |
'so I shouldn't have ovaries.' | 0:36:00 | 0:36:02 | |
Hi, I'm Audrey. | 0:36:02 | 0:36:03 | |
'So the thought of having to go and have a scan to see them | 0:36:03 | 0:36:08 | |
'is actually quite upsetting.' | 0:36:08 | 0:36:09 | |
I need you to undo your trousers a little bit | 0:36:09 | 0:36:12 | |
so I can tuck this down. | 0:36:12 | 0:36:14 | |
But things are about to get even more upsetting for Evan. | 0:36:14 | 0:36:18 | |
To be absolutely certain, I would rather we did the internal scan, | 0:36:18 | 0:36:21 | |
because that's the best way to scan | 0:36:21 | 0:36:24 | |
-to get closer to the ovaries, OK? -Yeah. | 0:36:24 | 0:36:27 | |
So this is the probe. | 0:36:27 | 0:36:30 | |
'She had to do an internal scan, | 0:36:30 | 0:36:33 | |
'which was quite traumatic | 0:36:33 | 0:36:36 | |
'because nothing had ever been up there before' | 0:36:36 | 0:36:39 | |
so technically, it did take away my virginity. | 0:36:39 | 0:36:42 | |
Sam had come along to support Evan, | 0:36:42 | 0:36:44 | |
but now he's finding the experience difficult, too. | 0:36:44 | 0:36:47 | |
-Right, I'm all right. -Can I come round? -Yeah. | 0:36:49 | 0:36:51 | |
'Anyone would feel violated a little bit, | 0:36:51 | 0:36:53 | |
'having your bits touched, but when that's such a personal issue to you | 0:36:53 | 0:36:57 | |
'and when you're so sensitive about it...' | 0:36:57 | 0:36:59 | |
-Do you want me to hold your hand? -That's the right ovary | 0:36:59 | 0:37:02 | |
and there is no sign of polycystic ovaries there. | 0:37:02 | 0:37:05 | |
'I felt bad for him.' | 0:37:05 | 0:37:07 | |
'It was very difficult, but I think having Sam there helped.' | 0:37:08 | 0:37:12 | |
This feels weird. | 0:37:12 | 0:37:15 | |
Evan doesn't have polycystic ovaries | 0:37:15 | 0:37:17 | |
and further tests reveal he isn't inter-sex either. | 0:37:17 | 0:37:20 | |
Doctors think his high testosterone level | 0:37:20 | 0:37:24 | |
was caused by his contraceptive pills. | 0:37:24 | 0:37:27 | |
Now they've got to the bottom of the problem, Evan will soon be | 0:37:27 | 0:37:30 | |
prescribed male hormone therapy. | 0:37:30 | 0:37:32 | |
Starting testosterone is a really big thing | 0:37:34 | 0:37:37 | |
and some of the changes are permanent, | 0:37:37 | 0:37:39 | |
but because I've already been waiting a year | 0:37:39 | 0:37:42 | |
to even get the go ahead to start testosterone, | 0:37:42 | 0:37:45 | |
I know it's correct for me so I know I'm making the right decision. | 0:37:45 | 0:37:49 | |
Finally, the packer Sam ordered on the internet has arrived. | 0:37:53 | 0:37:57 | |
Its function is to pad out Sam's pants to help him pass as male. | 0:37:57 | 0:38:01 | |
Tonight, the lads are planning to make some modifications to Sam's packer | 0:38:03 | 0:38:08 | |
-with their friend Vicky. -Can we do some DIY on the packer, please? | 0:38:08 | 0:38:11 | |
So how is this going to work? | 0:38:12 | 0:38:16 | |
This is all very theoretical because I haven't done any of this before, erm, so yeah... | 0:38:16 | 0:38:20 | |
We're just going to do a little DIY job and hope for the best, really. | 0:38:20 | 0:38:24 | |
Basically what we're going to do is use a screwdriver, | 0:38:24 | 0:38:28 | |
we're going to heat up the screwdriver really hot | 0:38:28 | 0:38:31 | |
on a gas cooker - that's why we're here - | 0:38:31 | 0:38:34 | |
and then we'll put that through there | 0:38:34 | 0:38:37 | |
and it'll, like, melt a hole through the packer like that. | 0:38:37 | 0:38:41 | |
So, why are you doing this? | 0:38:41 | 0:38:44 | |
OK, basically it's because you know like I can wee standing up | 0:38:44 | 0:38:48 | |
with this? So the idea is just to shove that in and glue it, | 0:38:48 | 0:38:52 | |
so I guess I can put those in there. | 0:38:52 | 0:38:54 | |
That'll just about fit. | 0:38:54 | 0:38:56 | |
OK, so if you take that... | 0:38:56 | 0:38:59 | |
..and heat it up and pass it to me. Yeah, no, we need the whole thing in. | 0:39:00 | 0:39:04 | |
OK, are we ready? | 0:39:06 | 0:39:07 | |
Oh, my God, I don't know if I want to watch! | 0:39:07 | 0:39:09 | |
OK, tap on, tap on! | 0:39:14 | 0:39:16 | |
Hot, boiling hot. Oh, my God! I've gone through it. | 0:39:17 | 0:39:21 | |
-We've broken the packer! -Yeah, it's come out the back. | 0:39:21 | 0:39:23 | |
But it hasn't come out... | 0:39:25 | 0:39:27 | |
What's happened there? | 0:39:27 | 0:39:28 | |
The right at the edge has come out the back, look. | 0:39:28 | 0:39:31 | |
What we need to do, in fact that may still be hot enough. Yeah, it is. | 0:39:31 | 0:39:35 | |
That is so wrong! | 0:39:41 | 0:39:43 | |
Look at that- it's melted down. | 0:39:43 | 0:39:44 | |
Here is the test, really. | 0:39:45 | 0:39:47 | |
-I think I should be a surgeon. -Not if you do that to someone's willy! | 0:39:48 | 0:39:52 | |
Stop picking at my willy. | 0:39:58 | 0:39:59 | |
The lads head to their local to celebrate the fact | 0:40:01 | 0:40:04 | |
that Evan can finally start his testosterone treatment tomorrow. | 0:40:04 | 0:40:09 | |
It also gives Sam an ideal opportunity to test if his modified packer works, | 0:40:09 | 0:40:13 | |
but there's a problem. | 0:40:13 | 0:40:16 | |
I could technically use the urinal with the device | 0:40:17 | 0:40:20 | |
I use to pee standing up, but I don't really because I'm a bit pee shy. | 0:40:20 | 0:40:24 | |
Quite a few men are pee shy and don't use urinals. | 0:40:24 | 0:40:27 | |
I dunno, I just feel weird. | 0:40:27 | 0:40:29 | |
It's karaoke night at the pub | 0:40:31 | 0:40:33 | |
and Kath wants Evan to sing for her before the testosterone | 0:40:33 | 0:40:36 | |
makes his voice break. | 0:40:36 | 0:40:38 | |
Evan, will you sing the Titanic song for me, please, | 0:40:38 | 0:40:41 | |
-just one last time? -Yeah, I will. | 0:40:41 | 0:40:43 | |
'She's always been a really good singer and she's done singing lessons in school,' | 0:40:43 | 0:40:47 | |
she's been in church choirs, she's sang in the Royal Albert Hall, | 0:40:47 | 0:40:52 | |
erm, sings absolutely beautiful. You don't need me to sing. | 0:40:52 | 0:40:56 | |
'My mum's quite upset about me starting testosterone | 0:40:56 | 0:41:00 | |
'because it will eventually make my voice go deeper, | 0:41:00 | 0:41:04 | |
'so I will lose the higher range | 0:41:04 | 0:41:07 | |
'which I can reach now, and I won't be able to do My Heart Will Go On | 0:41:07 | 0:41:11 | |
-'which is one of her favourite songs which she makes me do every time we do karaoke.' -I'll ask Yvonne! | 0:41:11 | 0:41:17 | |
I suppose when the testosterone comes, the high notes, | 0:41:20 | 0:41:23 | |
it'll start being a bit deep, | 0:41:23 | 0:41:24 | |
but he should still be able to do a few songs, | 0:41:24 | 0:41:28 | |
but it'll be more Neil Diamond rather than... | 0:41:28 | 0:41:31 | |
..you know, Titanic, won't it? | 0:41:33 | 0:41:35 | |
Hello, people, how about a round of applause tonight for Evan! | 0:41:35 | 0:41:39 | |
APPLAUSE | 0:41:39 | 0:41:42 | |
# Every night in my dreams | 0:41:52 | 0:41:56 | |
# I see you | 0:41:56 | 0:41:59 | |
# I feel you... # | 0:41:59 | 0:42:01 | |
'It's going to be weird seeing the changes, but it's going to make him | 0:42:01 | 0:42:07 | |
'feel the person he wants to be.' | 0:42:07 | 0:42:10 | |
It is going to make him feel like a proper man, not just a pretend one, so to speak. | 0:42:10 | 0:42:16 | |
# Near, far | 0:42:17 | 0:42:22 | |
# Wherever you are... # | 0:42:22 | 0:42:26 | |
'I need to do this to be who I am, to be true to myself, | 0:42:26 | 0:42:29 | |
'to be true to my family, and to just be the happy person who I am.' | 0:42:29 | 0:42:34 | |
If I didn't do this, I'd be living a lie. | 0:42:34 | 0:42:38 | |
# Near... # | 0:42:38 | 0:42:40 | |
'I do find it quite difficult to get to grips of it, | 0:42:40 | 0:42:43 | |
'but this is how it is, this is how he wants to be.' | 0:42:43 | 0:42:46 | |
He's happier now than what I've ever known. | 0:42:46 | 0:42:50 | |
Round of applause for Evan! | 0:42:50 | 0:42:53 | |
When you were singing then, the hairs on the back of my neck all stood up, | 0:42:56 | 0:43:00 | |
and it brought a tear to my eye. | 0:43:00 | 0:43:03 | |
-You sung that song for me. -Yeah, I did. | 0:43:03 | 0:43:05 | |
Just for me and only me, that's who you sung that for, thank you. | 0:43:05 | 0:43:11 | |
It's a momentous day for Evan. | 0:43:17 | 0:43:19 | |
After 15 months of living as a man, he can finally start the long process | 0:43:19 | 0:43:23 | |
of physically changing his body by starting to take male hormones. | 0:43:23 | 0:43:28 | |
My testosterone's different than Sam's because I'm on a gel | 0:43:30 | 0:43:34 | |
because basically I don't like needles so I rub it in | 0:43:34 | 0:43:38 | |
instead of getting injected into my bum. | 0:43:38 | 0:43:40 | |
I'm really, really happy for him, it's great, | 0:43:45 | 0:43:47 | |
but I just think people seem to think that it'll be, | 0:43:47 | 0:43:50 | |
"That's it, everything's finished." No. No... | 0:43:50 | 0:43:52 | |
You've got your foot in the door | 0:43:52 | 0:43:55 | |
and you have to live the rest of your life. | 0:43:55 | 0:43:58 | |
Now that I'm on testosterone and I've got male hormones going through me, I suppose physically | 0:43:58 | 0:44:03 | |
I am now becoming Evan as well as emotionally | 0:44:03 | 0:44:07 | |
and I'm one step closer to being fully Evan. | 0:44:07 | 0:44:09 | |
But while Evan is optimistic about having started his journey | 0:44:13 | 0:44:17 | |
to becoming a man, Evan's mum Kath is struggling to deal with it. | 0:44:17 | 0:44:21 | |
Everyone was, "Oh, you've got your testosterone," | 0:44:21 | 0:44:24 | |
and I just sort of went quiet because I just like thought, | 0:44:24 | 0:44:27 | |
"This is it now, this is my little girl, my little girl's gone now. | 0:44:27 | 0:44:31 | |
"I've got a boy, you know, there's no turning back." | 0:44:31 | 0:44:34 | |
And I sat there and just cried. | 0:44:34 | 0:44:36 | |
I went into like a mourning, | 0:44:36 | 0:44:38 | |
It was like I was mourning. | 0:44:38 | 0:44:40 | |
I'd lost my little girl and I was in mourning for my little girl. | 0:44:40 | 0:44:44 | |
-What have you come as? -A princess. | 0:44:44 | 0:44:48 | |
In years gone by, | 0:44:50 | 0:44:52 | |
Kath always enjoyed dressing Yvonne in girlie outfits, | 0:44:52 | 0:44:55 | |
but now she has to accept that her daughter is gone | 0:44:55 | 0:44:58 | |
and all her old clothes need to be thrown away. | 0:44:58 | 0:45:02 | |
Oh-h-h! | 0:45:03 | 0:45:05 | |
Evan, it's hard! This is all your nice stuff. | 0:45:05 | 0:45:08 | |
-You've got female sizes on these! -Yeah! | 0:45:08 | 0:45:11 | |
Let's get it over and done with. | 0:45:11 | 0:45:14 | |
Oh, you know some of this stuff's really, really nice | 0:45:15 | 0:45:19 | |
-and it's just... It really will be a shame. -I like that one, that did look nice underneath my vest top. | 0:45:19 | 0:45:24 | |
-Are we getting shot? -I'm not going to wear it, am I? | 0:45:24 | 0:45:27 | |
All right, let's get them all out. | 0:45:28 | 0:45:31 | |
Ah, Evan, look what I've found! | 0:45:34 | 0:45:37 | |
-Oh, God. -Look! -Beautiful. | 0:45:37 | 0:45:40 | |
-What did you wear this for? -Me prom... | 0:45:41 | 0:45:43 | |
-and Uncle Keith's wedding. -Put it on. | 0:45:43 | 0:45:45 | |
-I'm not putting it on. -Go on, stick it over your head. -Mum! | 0:45:45 | 0:45:49 | |
-Ah, don't you look pretty?! -Mum, I look like a man in a frock. | 0:45:49 | 0:45:54 | |
It's cos I am a man in a frock. | 0:45:54 | 0:45:57 | |
Now that Sam and Evan are both taking male hormones, | 0:46:03 | 0:46:06 | |
the next step is to have surgery to remove their breasts | 0:46:06 | 0:46:09 | |
and they could have a series of operations to create male genitalia. | 0:46:09 | 0:46:14 | |
Surgically changing their bodies is something the lads are now | 0:46:14 | 0:46:17 | |
considering, so they are meeting Professor Stephen Whittle | 0:46:17 | 0:46:21 | |
who has already completely transformed his body from female to male. | 0:46:21 | 0:46:26 | |
-Hi, I'm Stephen. You must be Sam. -Yeah. -Come in. | 0:46:27 | 0:46:32 | |
Stephen began living as a man more than 35 years ago. | 0:46:32 | 0:46:36 | |
When I transitioned in 1975, | 0:46:37 | 0:46:40 | |
I reckon from my research that I was only number 13 | 0:46:40 | 0:46:44 | |
of all trans men to get treatment in this country. | 0:46:44 | 0:46:48 | |
-Number 13. -Wow. -Now we're talking hundreds of thousands. | 0:46:48 | 0:46:51 | |
So, do you think it's easier nowadays to be out as a trans man | 0:46:51 | 0:46:56 | |
-as opposed to how it was when you first transitioned? -It has to be said yes, it is. | 0:46:56 | 0:47:00 | |
When I transitioned, in our early years, we could not tell anybody. | 0:47:00 | 0:47:06 | |
If anybody found out, I lost my job, | 0:47:06 | 0:47:08 | |
we'd be threatened with losing our homes, the lot. | 0:47:08 | 0:47:11 | |
We had to fight for everything just to stay alive. | 0:47:11 | 0:47:15 | |
Stephen didn't rush into having a phalloplasty to make him a penis | 0:47:15 | 0:47:19 | |
and wants Sam and Evan to be equally cautious. | 0:47:19 | 0:47:23 | |
How long was it before you had genital surgery? | 0:47:23 | 0:47:25 | |
Oh, a very long time. It was very difficult when I transitioned. | 0:47:25 | 0:47:29 | |
As I say it took me years to get my chest done, | 0:47:29 | 0:47:32 | |
I had a hysterectomy at the same time which was dreadful. | 0:47:32 | 0:47:35 | |
I then waited time before I even considered phalloplasty | 0:47:35 | 0:47:39 | |
and it was... | 0:47:39 | 0:47:40 | |
It was a difficult decision and for me... | 0:47:40 | 0:47:43 | |
..waiting the 25 years was... | 0:47:43 | 0:47:46 | |
I think, you know, very beneficial. By the time I went, | 0:47:46 | 0:47:50 | |
I knew full well what the choices were and I'd learnt about it, but I still would say | 0:47:50 | 0:47:54 | |
that I wasn't actually prepared... | 0:47:54 | 0:47:58 | |
for the impact on my life. | 0:47:58 | 0:48:00 | |
It was extensive, it was several surgeries, | 0:48:00 | 0:48:04 | |
it was EXTREMELY painful at times - | 0:48:04 | 0:48:07 | |
I certainly had tears in my eyes on more than one occasion. | 0:48:07 | 0:48:11 | |
I'm very pleased with the result for me, | 0:48:11 | 0:48:14 | |
but it's not 100% perfect, | 0:48:14 | 0:48:17 | |
-and I could never take off my clothes and pretend it hadn't happened. -Mmm. | 0:48:17 | 0:48:20 | |
I haven't got a perfect body, | 0:48:20 | 0:48:23 | |
life isn't perfect, | 0:48:23 | 0:48:25 | |
but it's damn well good enough and thoroughly enjoyable | 0:48:25 | 0:48:28 | |
in every sense, and I've done the right things for me. | 0:48:28 | 0:48:32 | |
What's important for you | 0:48:32 | 0:48:33 | |
is to take the time so that you know that when you go for anything | 0:48:33 | 0:48:39 | |
that it's the right thing for you, | 0:48:39 | 0:48:40 | |
and that you're fully prepared for all results. | 0:48:40 | 0:48:44 | |
Be proud of yourselves, be proud of what you're going to achieve. | 0:48:44 | 0:48:48 | |
This is a huge thing that you're going to achieve, be proud of being the man you are | 0:48:48 | 0:48:52 | |
-as a new person. -'Meeting Stephen Whittle was really cool | 0:48:52 | 0:48:56 | |
'He's not just a transgendered man like me,' | 0:48:56 | 0:48:58 | |
he's a transgendered man who's 30 years further along the process than me. | 0:48:58 | 0:49:05 | |
I think Sam was particularly impressed by his beard. | 0:49:05 | 0:49:09 | |
-You're just jealous, that's what it is. -I'm not. I don't want one. | 0:49:09 | 0:49:12 | |
-You do, because you shaved the other day. -Because... | 0:49:12 | 0:49:15 | |
-You wanted facial hair. You wanted to see... -No. -You did. | 0:49:15 | 0:49:18 | |
-I just shaved because I was bored. -You're jealous. | 0:49:18 | 0:49:21 | |
-Jealous of your three measly hairs? -Yes, yes, you are, actually. | 0:49:22 | 0:49:27 | |
Evan is busy getting ready for his 21st birthday party. | 0:49:32 | 0:49:36 | |
-Are you excited? -Yeah, it should be good. | 0:49:38 | 0:49:41 | |
-What do you mean, "should be good"? -Well, it will be good then! | 0:49:41 | 0:49:45 | |
'21 is a really big birthday, | 0:49:45 | 0:49:48 | |
'and with my family, any excuse for a party' | 0:49:48 | 0:49:50 | |
they'll have a party, but 21 is a proper excuse to have a party. | 0:49:50 | 0:49:55 | |
But this birthday has even more significance | 0:49:56 | 0:50:00 | |
for Evan and his family. | 0:50:00 | 0:50:02 | |
-What's that you've got there? -It's a banner that we made for... | 0:50:02 | 0:50:06 | |
Ah, let's have a look. | 0:50:06 | 0:50:09 | |
-It's massive. -Oh, wow! | 0:50:12 | 0:50:14 | |
-Everyone's signed it. -That's really good. | 0:50:15 | 0:50:18 | |
-That's brilliant! -Even the dog's stood on it. | 0:50:18 | 0:50:21 | |
It's got the dog's paw print! | 0:50:21 | 0:50:23 | |
I think it might just fit in between the speakers across the bar. | 0:50:25 | 0:50:29 | |
It proves they love me! | 0:50:31 | 0:50:33 | |
'It's a big birthday for him, 21st, and male, | 0:50:34 | 0:50:37 | |
'and on testosterone, and I think it'll help the family' | 0:50:37 | 0:50:40 | |
you know, sort of... | 0:50:40 | 0:50:42 | |
Well, they've accepted it, but, you know... | 0:50:43 | 0:50:46 | |
just to get everybody together just to celebrate. | 0:50:46 | 0:50:49 | |
This is Evan, this is my son, and my son is 21. | 0:50:49 | 0:50:53 | |
Oh, that looks nice, doesn't it? Be careful now. | 0:50:54 | 0:50:57 | |
-Have we got a red one, no? -You what? -Have you got a red one? | 0:50:57 | 0:51:00 | |
-Blue for a boy! -SHE LAUGHS | 0:51:02 | 0:51:05 | |
We were going to have a massive picture of her - of HIM - | 0:51:06 | 0:51:09 | |
in his prom dress there, and then him now and put before and after! | 0:51:09 | 0:51:15 | |
-Terrible. -I'm not even going to say anything. | 0:51:17 | 0:51:20 | |
The last time we got everyone together it was my 18th birthday, and it was at my nan's house. | 0:51:20 | 0:51:26 | |
I was Evan to my mum's side of the family, but to my dad's side | 0:51:27 | 0:51:31 | |
I was still Yvonne, so it was quite amusing, | 0:51:31 | 0:51:33 | |
getting cards with some saying Evan and some saying Yvonne and the family were like, "What?" | 0:51:33 | 0:51:38 | |
It's the first time with Evan and I so far | 0:51:38 | 0:51:40 | |
-I've not had any cards with the wrong name which is a really big positive. -Keep everything nice. | 0:51:40 | 0:51:46 | |
'It's a very important thing for me to blow these candles out as Evan, | 0:51:55 | 0:51:59 | |
'just because it's not been done before with my whole family.' | 0:51:59 | 0:52:03 | |
CHEERING AND APPLAUSE | 0:52:03 | 0:52:05 | |
-HE LAUGHS -All in one! | 0:52:07 | 0:52:11 | |
'Having testosterone just before my birthday | 0:52:11 | 0:52:13 | |
'has made my birthday more happier, | 0:52:13 | 0:52:16 | |
'and I'm celebrating being me as well as being 21.' | 0:52:16 | 0:52:20 | |
'Tonight's gone better than what I expected. | 0:52:24 | 0:52:27 | |
'I was a bit apprehensive to be honest | 0:52:27 | 0:52:29 | |
'because I was worried about who was going to turn up, who wasn't,' | 0:52:29 | 0:52:32 | |
but the whole family's come together and his friends have come up | 0:52:32 | 0:52:36 | |
to celebrate his 21st, you know, as a man. | 0:52:36 | 0:52:39 | |
'The fact that everyone who I invited turned up' | 0:52:44 | 0:52:46 | |
and all accepted me as Evan, it's made me feel so much better. | 0:52:46 | 0:52:51 | |
A few weeks later, the couple's dream of getting a place together in Manchester | 0:53:09 | 0:53:14 | |
seems one step closer. | 0:53:14 | 0:53:16 | |
I'm working full time now instead of part time. | 0:53:16 | 0:53:19 | |
My job role has also changed a bit so I'm working more with clients. | 0:53:19 | 0:53:23 | |
It's more interesting. | 0:53:23 | 0:53:24 | |
And after searching for a job for more than a year, | 0:53:29 | 0:53:34 | |
Evan also has some good news. | 0:53:34 | 0:53:36 | |
Welcome to the Co-Operative Insurance, you're speaking to Evan. Can I take your name? | 0:53:36 | 0:53:40 | |
I've just got a new job, I'm working for the Co-Operative Insurance and it's really, really good. | 0:53:40 | 0:53:45 | |
'Everyone's so lovely and everyone's been so accommodating | 0:53:45 | 0:53:49 | |
'in everything. My confidence levels have just soared,' | 0:53:49 | 0:53:52 | |
so it's really good, really positive. | 0:53:52 | 0:53:55 | |
And it's about time, too! | 0:53:55 | 0:53:56 | |
'When I started, I told them I was transitioning from female to male | 0:54:00 | 0:54:04 | |
'and I met with my manager.' | 0:54:04 | 0:54:06 | |
They asked if there was anything they needed to do or be aware of, | 0:54:06 | 0:54:11 | |
and the fact that they asked just made you think, | 0:54:11 | 0:54:14 | |
"Actually, this company do care, and actually, | 0:54:14 | 0:54:17 | |
"I'm in the right place for me, to be accepted and to be able to do my job to the best of my ability," | 0:54:17 | 0:54:22 | |
so it's been really good. | 0:54:22 | 0:54:25 | |
OK, have you receive documents in the post? | 0:54:25 | 0:54:28 | |
Life has dramatically changed for the young couple since they met, | 0:54:31 | 0:54:35 | |
fell in love and moved in together over a year ago. | 0:54:35 | 0:54:38 | |
'You do sort of stop being a child | 0:54:38 | 0:54:41 | |
'and start behaving like an adult and being a lot more independent | 0:54:41 | 0:54:45 | |
'so in that respect it's sort of been like a transition from boy to man.' | 0:54:45 | 0:54:49 | |
'What was important to me a year and a half ago | 0:54:53 | 0:54:57 | |
'has really changed now, actually.' | 0:54:57 | 0:54:59 | |
I'm much more focused on where I'm going in my life, what I want to do, | 0:54:59 | 0:55:02 | |
the future, as opposed to back then when I was so focused on being able to pass as male. | 0:55:02 | 0:55:07 | |
Urgh, what is in this? | 0:55:07 | 0:55:09 | |
-I can understand peas and carrots. Is that pasta?! -Yes. | 0:55:09 | 0:55:12 | |
'But because that's all behind me now, | 0:55:12 | 0:55:15 | |
'I can finally get on with what I want to do in my life.' | 0:55:15 | 0:55:18 | |
I know that I'm Sam, I'm a man and that's what makes me happy. | 0:55:18 | 0:55:21 | |
'Things weren't easy last year and there'll always be | 0:55:24 | 0:55:27 | |
'someone there who doesn't like it and will be nasty and mean.' | 0:55:27 | 0:55:31 | |
However, to have acceptance from your friends, your family... | 0:55:31 | 0:55:35 | |
..and myself is the most important thing ever. | 0:55:36 | 0:55:39 | |
-Here you go. -Oh, tea! What have we got? | 0:55:39 | 0:55:42 | |
I never expected to see my daughter change, you know, into a man, | 0:55:44 | 0:55:49 | |
but he's happier now than what I've ever known. | 0:55:49 | 0:55:53 | |
They're just brill, the pair of them are just brill. | 0:55:53 | 0:55:56 | |
It's great to have Sam in my life | 0:55:56 | 0:55:58 | |
and to be going through the same things as me, | 0:55:58 | 0:56:01 | |
but what's better is just having someone who loves me for being me | 0:56:01 | 0:56:05 | |
and to just be happy and be together. | 0:56:05 | 0:56:08 | |
It's just nice to have someone who loves you, basically. | 0:56:08 | 0:56:12 | |
-I love you. -I love you, too. -Go to sleep now. OK? | 0:56:16 | 0:56:19 | |
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