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These two children are under 12 years old and they are getting married. | 0:00:05 | 0:00:10 | |
It's illegal, but no-one is stopping it. | 0:00:10 | 0:00:13 | |
Around every three seconds, a girl under 18 gets married. | 0:00:14 | 0:00:18 | |
That's ten million a year worldwide. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:21 | |
This is in Central America, in Africa, | 0:00:21 | 0:00:24 | |
in the Middle East and South Asia. | 0:00:24 | 0:00:27 | |
It happened in my own family in Afghanistan. | 0:00:27 | 0:00:30 | |
My auntie, my mother's sister, she lives in Kabul and she was married when she was 15. | 0:00:30 | 0:00:37 | |
And my granny had eight kids and she was married at 12. | 0:00:37 | 0:00:40 | |
And as far as I know, both of their marriages were really happy. | 0:00:40 | 0:00:45 | |
'So I want to find out what it's really like to be a child bride. | 0:00:45 | 0:00:49 | |
'I'm going to a wedding in India where the bride and groom are just little kids. | 0:00:52 | 0:00:57 | |
'Then I'm going to Bangladesh where child brides usually marry much older men. | 0:00:58 | 0:01:04 | |
'And can get pregnant within a year of getting married. | 0:01:06 | 0:01:10 | |
'Getting pregnant so young can cause horrific illnesses or even death.' | 0:01:10 | 0:01:14 | |
She's very beautiful. | 0:01:14 | 0:01:17 | |
'But I also meet some brave young girls who have defied their families and refuse to be married off. | 0:01:17 | 0:01:24 | |
'It's going to be a journey that challenges what I thought, | 0:01:26 | 0:01:30 | |
'but I am going to learn the truth about child brides.' | 0:01:30 | 0:01:33 | |
'A staggering 40% of the world's child marriages take place in India | 0:01:51 | 0:01:56 | |
'and the desert state of Rajasthan has one of the highest rates in the country. | 0:01:56 | 0:02:01 | |
'Today is Akha Teej, a lucky day for Hindus to get married, | 0:02:01 | 0:02:05 | |
'and record numbers of child marriages are taking place, | 0:02:05 | 0:02:09 | |
'even though there is a government campaign to stop them and police are supposed to be on high alert. | 0:02:09 | 0:02:16 | |
'I have found out about a joint wedding of two sisters, both of them very young. | 0:02:16 | 0:02:21 | |
'It's happening in Sawai Madhopur, a district with the most child brides in Rajasthan.' | 0:02:21 | 0:02:27 | |
This is my first ever child wedding and I'm really excited to go there and see what it's actually like. | 0:02:27 | 0:02:34 | |
I've heard a lot about it, I've had it in my family, but to see one will be completely different. | 0:02:34 | 0:02:40 | |
But I'm also interested in speaking to the parents | 0:02:40 | 0:02:43 | |
and finding out why they are so adamant on having their kids marry so young. | 0:02:43 | 0:02:48 | |
'When I reach the village, I catch a glimpse of the brides before they get ready. | 0:02:57 | 0:03:02 | |
'Not everyone in India has a birth certificate, | 0:03:02 | 0:03:05 | |
'but family members tell me Kavita, the younger one, is about six and Pepita around 11. | 0:03:05 | 0:03:11 | |
'Suddenly, the groom's party arrives and the celebrations are in full swing.' | 0:03:13 | 0:03:19 | |
FAST RHYTHMIC DRUMBEAT | 0:03:20 | 0:03:23 | |
'As guests dance away, the grooms patiently wait for the ceremony to begin.' | 0:03:25 | 0:03:30 | |
I'm standing right here. The grooms are behind me. It's their wedding day. They're completely dolled up. | 0:03:30 | 0:03:36 | |
One looks about 10, 12 years old, the other one's a teenager. | 0:03:36 | 0:03:40 | |
But you get a sense that they're quietly confident. They're not fazed at all by this. | 0:03:40 | 0:03:45 | |
For you, because you're so young, do you feel ready to get married? Do you want to? | 0:03:45 | 0:03:51 | |
So he feels totally ready to get married right now, he understands what that means? | 0:03:53 | 0:03:59 | |
So are you guys excited? | 0:03:59 | 0:04:02 | |
That much, huh? | 0:04:09 | 0:04:12 | |
So what are you guys most excited about then? | 0:04:18 | 0:04:21 | |
He said, "The thing that I'm most excited about is meeting my lifelong sweetheart." | 0:04:26 | 0:04:31 | |
Can you be romantic at nine? Is it possible? | 0:04:31 | 0:04:34 | |
The younger one, he looks like my little brother. | 0:04:34 | 0:04:38 | |
He's pretty much the same age. | 0:04:38 | 0:04:40 | |
It's so bizarre to see him here on his wedding day with this much attention and this many people. | 0:04:40 | 0:04:46 | |
But like I said, they're totally normal about it, they're completely confident. | 0:04:46 | 0:04:52 | |
'As night falls, the partying carries on. | 0:04:57 | 0:05:00 | |
'The atmosphere is as relaxed and happy as any other wedding | 0:05:00 | 0:05:06 | |
'and it's easy to forget the brides are only about 6 and 11 years old. | 0:05:06 | 0:05:11 | |
'But when I see Kavita and Pepita's innocent faces in full bridal make-up, it does feel surreal.' | 0:05:11 | 0:05:18 | |
Are you excited? You're going to get married. | 0:05:19 | 0:05:22 | |
They have no idea what's going on, I don't think. They're completely naive and they're just so young. | 0:05:22 | 0:05:29 | |
I don't think they understand what all of this is about. Any other bride would be excited or nervous. | 0:05:29 | 0:05:35 | |
But they're just totally unaware. | 0:05:35 | 0:05:38 | |
CHANTING | 0:05:40 | 0:05:42 | |
'It's midnight before the couples are finally seated with just the main guests who have stayed behind. | 0:05:42 | 0:05:49 | |
'The younger groom struggles to stay awake. It looks like it's way past his bedtime.' | 0:05:51 | 0:05:58 | |
CHANTING CONTINUES | 0:05:58 | 0:06:00 | |
'Everyone watches the priest perform the marriage rites without a worry, | 0:06:01 | 0:06:06 | |
'but the police do raid underage weddings | 0:06:06 | 0:06:09 | |
'and they carry a fine of up to £1,300 and two years in prison. | 0:06:09 | 0:06:14 | |
'Child marriages have been an accepted part of the culture here for hundreds of years, | 0:06:17 | 0:06:23 | |
'but I'm still not sure what I make of it all.' | 0:06:23 | 0:06:26 | |
PRIEST SPEAKS IN LOCAL LANGUAGE | 0:06:26 | 0:06:28 | |
It's strange because of all the guests here, | 0:06:34 | 0:06:37 | |
I'm the one thinking, "Oh, my God," but for them, it's normal. | 0:06:37 | 0:06:41 | |
'The guests dance to celebrate the marriage, but I want to know what will happen to the brides next. | 0:06:42 | 0:06:48 | |
'They are so much younger than the ones I have known in Afghanistan. | 0:06:48 | 0:06:53 | |
'I caught up with their grandfather to try and make sense of what I had just seen.' | 0:06:55 | 0:07:01 | |
Do you try to explain to them what's happening, that they're getting married? | 0:07:01 | 0:07:06 | |
Do they go to their husband's house? | 0:07:28 | 0:07:30 | |
How do you know they'll make good husbands when they're grown up? | 0:08:03 | 0:08:07 | |
Baba, I read in the newspapers that these child marriages are against the law | 0:08:27 | 0:08:33 | |
and the government doesn't approve of them. | 0:08:33 | 0:08:36 | |
Speaking to the brides' grandad, it was really interesting. | 0:09:08 | 0:09:12 | |
Although I thought these girls are getting married and will be shipped off to the in-laws' house, | 0:09:12 | 0:09:18 | |
it doesn't work like that. They're going to be living with their parents for a long time | 0:09:18 | 0:09:23 | |
before they move into the in-laws' house, so I see how that would work. | 0:09:23 | 0:09:27 | |
But how do these child marriages work out when the couples finally move in together? | 0:09:30 | 0:09:37 | |
Now I know that the girls don't live with their in-laws until they're about 15, 16 years old, | 0:09:39 | 0:09:45 | |
it still seems like a massive weight on their shoulders | 0:09:45 | 0:09:48 | |
to know, from about seven, that they'll have their whole life planned out in front of them. | 0:09:48 | 0:09:54 | |
I want to meet some people that can tell me what it's like to be married at that young an age. | 0:09:54 | 0:10:00 | |
Ramesh and Rukmani got married at six and seven years old. | 0:10:24 | 0:10:28 | |
They finally moved in together at 15 and 16 and have been living together for ten years. | 0:10:28 | 0:10:34 | |
If anyone will tell me what it's like to be in a child marriage, it'll be these two. | 0:10:34 | 0:10:39 | |
'With the family photos done, I caught up with Ramesh and Rukmani back at home.' | 0:10:45 | 0:10:51 | |
Do you remember knowing you were going to get married? | 0:10:51 | 0:10:55 | |
After you guys finally moved in together, did you think that maybe you were too young? | 0:11:13 | 0:11:19 | |
Would you ever consider marrying your children off really young? | 0:12:08 | 0:12:13 | |
Having spoken to the couple, on the face of it, they seem really happy, | 0:12:35 | 0:12:39 | |
but they wouldn't want the same thing for their kids and wouldn't have wanted it for themselves. | 0:12:39 | 0:12:45 | |
Although it might seem like a happy marriage, it's as though they're dealing with what they have. | 0:12:45 | 0:12:51 | |
Maybe that's what happened in my family. | 0:12:51 | 0:12:54 | |
Maybe my grandmothers and aunties were doing the best they could in that situation. | 0:12:54 | 0:12:59 | |
'Even though Rukmani gets on with Ramesh, she still feels that she missed out on the chance to study | 0:13:07 | 0:13:14 | |
'which could have led to a decent job and a better life. | 0:13:14 | 0:13:17 | |
'But underage marriage can be worse than that. | 0:13:17 | 0:13:21 | |
'No education means no independence. You're left totally at the mercy of your husband and in-laws. | 0:13:21 | 0:13:27 | |
'Mamta was married at 9 and started living with her husband at 16. | 0:13:34 | 0:13:40 | |
'She relied on him for everything, so she thought she had no option | 0:13:40 | 0:13:44 | |
'but to put up with his constant violence. | 0:13:44 | 0:13:47 | |
'She is now back at her parents with her son and barely makes ends meet by sewing clothes.' | 0:13:47 | 0:13:53 | |
When did you start feeling uncomfortable? When did it get bad for you? | 0:13:53 | 0:13:58 | |
So what sort of things would he do to you? | 0:14:12 | 0:14:15 | |
Why would he do it? For what reason? | 0:14:40 | 0:14:43 | |
Now that all of this has happened to you, if you could go back, | 0:15:28 | 0:15:32 | |
would you still get married at that young an age? | 0:15:32 | 0:15:36 | |
To get married so young, to make that kind of a commitment, | 0:15:58 | 0:16:02 | |
when it goes wrong, it goes really, really wrong | 0:16:02 | 0:16:06 | |
and she just did not have the capacity to fight against the people that were hurting and abusing her. | 0:16:06 | 0:16:12 | |
How could she? She was only a kid. | 0:16:12 | 0:16:15 | |
'Girls who are married before 18 are twice as likely | 0:16:25 | 0:16:29 | |
'to report being beaten, slapped or threatened by their husbands than girls who are married later. | 0:16:29 | 0:16:35 | |
'But in some villages in Rajasthan, | 0:16:36 | 0:16:38 | |
'there are small signs that things are getting better. | 0:16:38 | 0:16:42 | |
'Young girls are starting to stand up to their parents and are bravely saying "no" to child marriages. | 0:16:42 | 0:16:49 | |
'Roshan Barwa was 14 when she refused to be married off | 0:16:51 | 0:16:55 | |
'and with the help of her village youth group insisted on going to high school. | 0:16:55 | 0:17:01 | |
'This was a first, not just for her family, but for her whole village.' | 0:17:01 | 0:17:05 | |
When your family told you that they wanted you to get married, you said "no". How did that happen? | 0:17:07 | 0:17:14 | |
Have other girls followed your lead and refused child marriages as well? | 0:17:38 | 0:17:42 | |
What do you want to be when you grow up? | 0:17:58 | 0:18:01 | |
So what happened to the person that you were going to get married to? | 0:18:14 | 0:18:18 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:18:20 | 0:18:22 | |
Now that you might have a choice in who you want to marry, what are you looking for? | 0:18:22 | 0:18:27 | |
'Schooling is a way out of the trap. | 0:18:31 | 0:18:34 | |
'Girls who are educated are six times less likely to be child brides. | 0:18:34 | 0:18:39 | |
'Roshan's generation benefits from there being more government high schools in the villages. | 0:18:39 | 0:18:46 | |
'Without one nearby, she'd probably be married now.' | 0:18:46 | 0:18:49 | |
'I'm in Jaipur, Rajasthan's capital city. It's only five hours' drive from Roshan's village, | 0:19:07 | 0:19:14 | |
'but with all its cars, billboards and shops, I realise how much rural India is missing out | 0:19:14 | 0:19:20 | |
'on the country's booming economy. | 0:19:20 | 0:19:22 | |
'It's hard to imagine these Jaipur girls being married off as kids. | 0:19:22 | 0:19:27 | |
'Educated and middle-class, I wanted to know what these teenagers think | 0:19:34 | 0:19:39 | |
'about child marriages in villages down the road.' | 0:19:39 | 0:19:42 | |
What experience of child marriages do you have? | 0:19:42 | 0:19:45 | |
Actually, within a couple of kilometres | 0:19:45 | 0:19:48 | |
you can see a wide difference between the urban girls and village girls. | 0:19:48 | 0:19:53 | |
It's a totally different scene with rural girls. | 0:19:53 | 0:19:56 | |
One of my neighbours left her work and she went to her village where she belonged to | 0:19:56 | 0:20:01 | |
to get her daughter married who was just 13. | 0:20:01 | 0:20:05 | |
I just said to my mum, "Was she kidding or did she mean that?" | 0:20:05 | 0:20:09 | |
-You couldn't believe that? -I couldn't believe that. | 0:20:09 | 0:20:12 | |
This is also a world that is existing apart from the one which I live in. | 0:20:12 | 0:20:18 | |
-What age do you guys want to get married at? -Not before 25 or 26. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:23 | |
Obviously, after I finish my graduation and post-graduation | 0:20:23 | 0:20:27 | |
and I, you know, do something in life. Only then. | 0:20:27 | 0:20:31 | |
Does it come up in conversation with your friends or family? | 0:20:31 | 0:20:35 | |
In India, we have a really popular show called Balika Vadhu. | 0:20:35 | 0:20:39 | |
It's really, really popular and it's based on a story of child marriage and all of that, | 0:20:39 | 0:20:45 | |
so at dinner time I used to discuss about all this with my parents. | 0:20:45 | 0:20:49 | |
What's really strange is that I live in London, I come from Afghanistan, | 0:20:49 | 0:20:54 | |
and I'm more familiar with child marriages than you guys are | 0:20:54 | 0:20:58 | |
and it's not even five hours away from where you live. | 0:20:58 | 0:21:01 | |
It seems like there's two different Indias here - | 0:21:01 | 0:21:04 | |
a modern, urban one where girls can make the same choices as the boys, | 0:21:04 | 0:21:09 | |
but then there's the rural one in which that just doesn't happen. | 0:21:09 | 0:21:13 | |
'Balika Vadhu, the soap the girls tell me about, is a ground-breaking, prime-time daily show, | 0:21:18 | 0:21:24 | |
'dealing with child marriages head on, even if it is set in a fantasy Bollywood mansion. | 0:21:24 | 0:21:30 | |
'On set, I caught up with the lead actress Pratyusha Banerjee | 0:21:37 | 0:21:41 | |
'and the show's writer Gajra Kottary.' | 0:21:41 | 0:21:45 | |
When I went to Jaipur, I met some girls who were watching your show | 0:21:45 | 0:21:49 | |
and through it were being educated as to what a child marriage was. | 0:21:49 | 0:21:53 | |
They were completely unaware of it. | 0:21:53 | 0:21:56 | |
We have so many Indias within the country. | 0:21:56 | 0:21:59 | |
We have lives which are being led so differently, you know, sort of cheek by jowl in that sense. | 0:21:59 | 0:22:05 | |
And what the show has done | 0:22:05 | 0:22:07 | |
is to sensitise the urban Indian girls especially to what's happening around them. | 0:22:07 | 0:22:13 | |
Looking at your set and how beautiful your actresses are, | 0:22:13 | 0:22:17 | |
it's hard to believe this is what a child marriage is like. In the villages, it's completely different. | 0:22:17 | 0:22:23 | |
We've had people tuning in day after day for years on end. | 0:22:23 | 0:22:27 | |
I don't think we'd have been able to achieve that | 0:22:27 | 0:22:31 | |
if we had chosen to get very grimy and real about the whole thing, | 0:22:31 | 0:22:35 | |
so I'm completely unapologetic about the fact that we have used this sugar coating. | 0:22:35 | 0:22:40 | |
What's your character up to at the moment? | 0:22:42 | 0:22:45 | |
My husband is liking some other girl in Mumbai because he has become a doctor right now. | 0:22:45 | 0:22:51 | |
He's disowned me, he doesn't want me because he thinks I'm illiterate. | 0:22:51 | 0:22:55 | |
We met somebody in Rajasthan, Mamta, and she did get married very, very young. | 0:23:27 | 0:23:34 | |
She was beaten by her husband, her husband's family because she wasn't educated. | 0:23:34 | 0:23:40 | |
So the show actually ends up reflecting what I've seen taking place in these villages. | 0:23:40 | 0:23:45 | |
Actually, we take from real life all the time, all the time. | 0:23:45 | 0:23:49 | |
I remember one particularly impactful sequence | 0:23:49 | 0:23:53 | |
which was how this innocent child bride happens to give some bangles to a child widow whom she sees. | 0:23:53 | 0:24:00 | |
And that creates a huge hue and cry in the village | 0:24:00 | 0:24:03 | |
and the family is sort of chastised. | 0:24:03 | 0:24:06 | |
Therefore, the grandmother punishes this girl by putting her into a dark, dingy storeroom | 0:24:06 | 0:24:13 | |
where this girl spent a night, not knowing what crime she has committed. | 0:24:13 | 0:24:19 | |
That to me embodies the fact | 0:24:25 | 0:24:27 | |
that child marriage forces a child to become an adult when she is just not ready. | 0:24:27 | 0:24:33 | |
SOBBING | 0:24:39 | 0:24:41 | |
We went to see a child marriage and the girls weren't even ready till 20 minutes before the grooms came. | 0:24:48 | 0:24:55 | |
And they got dressed up, they sat down, they were yawning, | 0:24:55 | 0:24:59 | |
you know, as kids would do. | 0:24:59 | 0:25:02 | |
We actually had a sequence where Jagdish, that's the groom, | 0:25:02 | 0:25:06 | |
he goes to sleep, he's so tired. | 0:25:06 | 0:25:08 | |
This was symbolic to the fact that these kids do not know what is happening to them, | 0:25:08 | 0:25:13 | |
let alone the implications of what it means for the rest of their lives. | 0:25:13 | 0:25:18 | |
Could you imagine this show being successful ten years ago even? | 0:25:22 | 0:25:27 | |
Not the huge success that we have got today, | 0:25:27 | 0:25:30 | |
the reason being that India is going through a huge change at every level. | 0:25:30 | 0:25:35 | |
And we are much more ready today to sort of look into the mirror and figure out our flaws. | 0:25:35 | 0:25:41 | |
'It might have melodrama and glamour, | 0:26:02 | 0:26:04 | |
'but this show's success is proof child marriage is now openly discussed and challenged. | 0:26:04 | 0:26:11 | |
'But despite all the social changes, its surging economy | 0:26:15 | 0:26:20 | |
'and the slight fall in the number of child marriages, India still has a long way to go. | 0:26:20 | 0:26:26 | |
'Nearly half of all the girls here get married below 18, | 0:26:26 | 0:26:30 | |
'making it the 13th worst country in the world for child marriage. | 0:26:30 | 0:26:34 | |
'The sad fact is child marriage is also a massive international issue | 0:26:38 | 0:26:42 | |
'with even higher levels in other countries. | 0:26:42 | 0:26:45 | |
'There are at least 50 million married couples around the world who are children | 0:26:45 | 0:26:50 | |
'and this is set to double by the end of the decade. | 0:26:50 | 0:26:54 | |
'I want to go beyond what happens in India and see if it is different | 0:26:54 | 0:26:59 | |
'in countries where child marriage is an even bigger problem.' | 0:26:59 | 0:27:03 | |
I'm in Dhaka, the capital city of Bangladesh. | 0:27:17 | 0:27:20 | |
Statistically, it's the worst country in Asia for child marriages | 0:27:20 | 0:27:24 | |
and one of the worst countries in the world too. I'm here to find out what makes it so bad | 0:27:24 | 0:27:29 | |
and to see how different child marriages are here compared to India. | 0:27:29 | 0:27:34 | |
'The first thing that hits me is that Dhaka looks so much poorer than the cities I've seen in India | 0:27:35 | 0:27:41 | |
'and this must make the people here more vulnerable. | 0:27:41 | 0:27:45 | |
'Two days before I arrived, the team managed to film a child marriage | 0:27:51 | 0:27:55 | |
'in a village five hours away from Dhaka. | 0:27:55 | 0:27:59 | |
'As female relatives rub a turmeric paste over her body to make her look radiant, | 0:28:06 | 0:28:11 | |
'13-year-old Furzina silently goes along with it. | 0:28:11 | 0:28:16 | |
'Child marriages are illegal in Bangladesh, too, | 0:28:16 | 0:28:20 | |
'and a charity worker makes a last-minute attempt to persuade family members not to go ahead, | 0:28:20 | 0:28:25 | |
'but their mind is made up. | 0:28:25 | 0:28:28 | |
'Furzina is the eldest of three daughters who lost their father a year ago. | 0:28:30 | 0:28:36 | |
'Financially, things are tough and there is no man in the house to protect them, | 0:28:36 | 0:28:42 | |
'so the family is keen to marry her off as soon as possible. | 0:28:42 | 0:28:46 | |
'The fact the groom is an adult means he's earning a regular wage and can look after his wife. | 0:28:46 | 0:28:53 | |
CHANTING | 0:28:56 | 0:28:58 | |
'At 13, Furzina is a bit older than the brides in Rajasthan | 0:29:00 | 0:29:04 | |
'and seems to know exactly what is going on.' | 0:29:04 | 0:29:08 | |
The system here is different from what I've seen in India | 0:29:10 | 0:29:14 | |
because she is going to be moving in with him tomorrow | 0:29:14 | 0:29:18 | |
and although in India there was a period of years before the couple started having sex, | 0:29:18 | 0:29:24 | |
here it would happen as soon as possible. And it's just... | 0:29:24 | 0:29:29 | |
worrying, really worrying | 0:29:29 | 0:29:31 | |
because in England, you know, | 0:29:31 | 0:29:34 | |
a 20-year-old man having sex with a 13-year-old girl | 0:29:34 | 0:29:38 | |
it's not only disgusting, it's also illegal. | 0:29:38 | 0:29:43 | |
Her lip is quivering. She looks worried, she looks anxious, | 0:30:20 | 0:30:24 | |
she can't even bring herself to say, "I accept." | 0:30:24 | 0:30:28 | |
She's standing next to a guy she barely knows and it's just so depressing | 0:30:28 | 0:30:34 | |
because that is not how I would want to look on my wedding day. | 0:30:34 | 0:30:39 | |
'Two out of every three girls in Bangladesh get married under the age of 18. | 0:30:46 | 0:30:52 | |
'Even though a third of teenagers in Britain have also had sex by that age, it's not acceptable | 0:30:52 | 0:30:57 | |
'within marriage like in Bangladesh. | 0:30:57 | 0:31:00 | |
'It's completely normal for an adult man to marry a young girl here. | 0:31:00 | 0:31:05 | |
'It's the same for my family in Afghanistan, but until now I'd never thought about | 0:31:05 | 0:31:11 | |
'what life is really like for these child brides. | 0:31:11 | 0:31:15 | |
'Seema is 14 years old. She got married when she was just 13 to a 19-year-old man. | 0:31:20 | 0:31:27 | |
'For the last year she's been having a full-on married life, living with her husband and his whole family.' | 0:31:27 | 0:31:34 | |
It would be an understatement to say that seeing the things I've seen haven't changed my opinion. | 0:34:26 | 0:34:32 | |
That would just be a complete lie. When I came into this, | 0:34:32 | 0:34:36 | |
I had sort of a very simplistic view of what a child marriage is | 0:34:38 | 0:34:42 | |
and I'd boiled it down to a wedding day, which is fun for everyone, | 0:34:42 | 0:34:46 | |
but...there's life after a child marriage, you know. | 0:34:46 | 0:34:50 | |
Not a good one, not one I would want for anybody. | 0:34:50 | 0:34:55 | |
'Seema's husband Shojib works as a barber. | 0:35:00 | 0:35:04 | |
'At 13, he saw her as a potential wife. Men here clearly don't see young girls as we do in the West.' | 0:35:04 | 0:35:11 | |
'Shojib is a bit cocky, but he's ultimately a decent guy | 0:36:48 | 0:36:52 | |
'whose opinions are totally normal for people here. | 0:36:52 | 0:36:56 | |
'The sad thing is I just don't think he really understands how difficult married life is for Seema. | 0:36:56 | 0:37:03 | |
'Her fears just aren't taken into consideration by anyone. | 0:37:03 | 0:37:07 | |
'I'm heading eight hours out of Dhaka to rural Sylhet. | 0:37:23 | 0:37:28 | |
'It has one of the highest rates of mothers dying during childbirth in Bangladesh. | 0:37:29 | 0:37:34 | |
'The government's massively reduced the number of maternal deaths, | 0:37:34 | 0:37:39 | |
'but it still has one of the worst rates in the world. | 0:37:39 | 0:37:43 | |
'Lukman gets by by selling the vegetables that he grows. | 0:37:46 | 0:37:51 | |
'Too poor to educate his sister Safia further, he decided to marry her off when she was just 12. | 0:37:51 | 0:37:58 | |
'By the time she was 14, she was fighting for her life giving birth to her first baby.' | 0:37:59 | 0:38:06 | |
Tell me about your sister Safia and what happened to her. | 0:38:06 | 0:38:11 | |
It was your decision to marry your sister off at that young an age. | 0:39:57 | 0:40:03 | |
But surely you must have heard about girls dying through childbirth because of their age? | 0:40:22 | 0:40:29 | |
So, tell me, after your sister passed, | 0:40:40 | 0:40:43 | |
what did her husband and his family do? | 0:40:43 | 0:40:47 | |
Do you think the fact that she had such a difficult labour and ultimately lost her life | 0:40:57 | 0:41:03 | |
was because she was so young and her body could not cope? | 0:41:03 | 0:41:07 | |
But that's because she was young. That's because she was 14 years old | 0:41:19 | 0:41:23 | |
and didn't have a clue what was happening to her and these people took advantage. | 0:41:23 | 0:41:29 | |
She's a pretty girl! Mashallah! | 0:41:38 | 0:41:41 | |
This is all you have? One picture? | 0:41:41 | 0:41:44 | |
And this is after the marriage so not long before she passed away. | 0:41:52 | 0:41:57 | |
She's very beautiful. | 0:42:02 | 0:42:04 | |
I mean, he was both the culprit and the victim at the same time. | 0:42:07 | 0:42:12 | |
He's the one that handed her away | 0:42:12 | 0:42:14 | |
and he's the one that carried her to clinic, hospital, pharmacy, | 0:42:14 | 0:42:20 | |
the whole day that she was basically dying. | 0:42:20 | 0:42:25 | |
And you could just feel the pain in him and see it in his eyes, | 0:42:25 | 0:42:29 | |
how much he regretted what he did. | 0:42:29 | 0:42:32 | |
And up until now I never saw that. | 0:42:32 | 0:42:35 | |
I just didn't think that the fathers, the brothers, the uncles ever felt for what they were doing. | 0:42:35 | 0:42:42 | |
But this is a guilt he has to live with for the rest of his life. | 0:42:42 | 0:42:46 | |
'Even if a child bride survives early childbirth, she can still have a terrible medical condition. | 0:42:52 | 0:42:58 | |
'It's called obstetric fistula and leaves you permanently incontinent. | 0:42:58 | 0:43:03 | |
'If a girl's pelvis has not grown big enough for her to give birth, | 0:43:05 | 0:43:10 | |
'her labour can go on for too long and cause a tear in her bladder or rectum. | 0:43:10 | 0:43:16 | |
'At the country's National Fistula Centre, Dr Iffat Ara has been treating women with this illness | 0:43:18 | 0:43:24 | |
'for over 20 years. | 0:43:24 | 0:43:26 | |
'70,000 girls a year in Bangladesh develop this awful condition | 0:43:26 | 0:43:31 | |
'and even though treatment at government hospitals is free, only a tiny number of girls | 0:43:31 | 0:43:37 | |
'ever find out that they can be cured. Today, 15-year-old Jusna is finally being operated on.' | 0:43:37 | 0:43:44 | |
She got married very early, at about 13 or 14 years of age. | 0:43:44 | 0:43:49 | |
And then she became pregnant and had no ante-natal check-up. | 0:43:49 | 0:43:53 | |
Ultimately, when the labour pains started, the traditional birth attendant was there two whole days. | 0:43:53 | 0:43:59 | |
The baby died. A dead female baby was delivered. | 0:43:59 | 0:44:03 | |
She started dribbling urine after seven days. | 0:44:03 | 0:44:08 | |
So now she has been abandoned by her husband, she has lost her baby, | 0:44:08 | 0:44:12 | |
she's with this horrible condition suffering for eight long months. | 0:44:12 | 0:44:17 | |
'The surgery is complicated and can often take up to 9 hours, | 0:44:37 | 0:44:42 | |
'depending on how easy it is to repair the hole in the bladder.' | 0:44:42 | 0:44:47 | |
So the operation is finished. | 0:44:57 | 0:45:00 | |
It was a very complicated surgery. | 0:45:00 | 0:45:03 | |
Hopefully, we think that after 21 days she might be cured and she can have a better life, | 0:45:03 | 0:45:09 | |
but the most important thing is that this whole process, | 0:45:09 | 0:45:13 | |
this whole operation, could have been prevented | 0:45:13 | 0:45:17 | |
by simply marrying at a later age. By marrying late, she would have grown a better-sized pelvis | 0:45:17 | 0:45:23 | |
and, most important, so much agony and misery could have been ended by a simple C-section. | 0:45:23 | 0:45:29 | |
'But preventing this illness costs money. | 0:45:29 | 0:45:33 | |
'Only girls who can afford to get to a maternity hospital have any hope of a Caesarean to prevent it. | 0:45:33 | 0:45:39 | |
'Worse still, in 90% of cases, the baby is usually still-born because of the long labour. | 0:45:39 | 0:45:46 | |
'Kiranmala is only 15. | 0:45:49 | 0:45:51 | |
'Once a hard-working schoolgirl, now her husband's abandoned her. | 0:45:51 | 0:45:57 | |
'It was an uncle in Dhaka who brought her here to be treated.' | 0:45:57 | 0:46:00 | |
'Jusna is in the post-operation recovery ward. | 0:47:38 | 0:47:42 | |
'She has to wait three weeks to find out if she's well again. | 0:47:42 | 0:47:46 | |
'She may have to have more surgery.' | 0:47:46 | 0:47:49 | |
These girls don't enjoy sex, they don't do it because they want to. | 0:48:43 | 0:48:47 | |
They are forced to do it. They are in this mess with no way out. | 0:48:47 | 0:48:52 | |
It's just like at every given opportunity, at every impasse, their road is blocked ahead of them. | 0:48:52 | 0:48:59 | |
They can't seek contraception without their husband's allowance, | 0:48:59 | 0:49:03 | |
they can't expect a life where they choose not to get pregnant. | 0:49:03 | 0:49:07 | |
These things are not even in their dreams. They can't even have it as an option. | 0:49:07 | 0:49:13 | |
'40% of Bangladeshis live below the poverty line, | 0:49:18 | 0:49:22 | |
'so the priority in many families is to get a girl married off to a man who can financially support her, | 0:49:22 | 0:49:29 | |
'regardless of his age. | 0:49:29 | 0:49:31 | |
'This is done as soon as possible before there is any chance of her getting a bad reputation. | 0:49:31 | 0:49:37 | |
'Getting an education in the hope of a better life is a long shot | 0:49:41 | 0:49:45 | |
'when even enough food isn't guaranteed. | 0:49:45 | 0:49:49 | |
'The solution for some girls is getting a job in the country's booming garment industry | 0:49:49 | 0:49:55 | |
'which employs over 2 million women. | 0:49:55 | 0:49:57 | |
'When Munni's family tried to marry her off at the age of 12, | 0:50:02 | 0:50:06 | |
'earning a wage sewing clothes gave her the strength to refuse.' | 0:50:06 | 0:50:10 | |
When you said, "No!" to your family, | 0:50:12 | 0:50:15 | |
what was their reaction to you standing up for yourself? | 0:50:15 | 0:50:19 | |
What gave you the confidence to go against what your entire village | 0:50:39 | 0:50:44 | |
and your mum and dad were saying? | 0:50:44 | 0:50:47 | |
What were you afraid of about a child marriage? | 0:51:05 | 0:51:08 | |
How many hours do you work and how many days in a week? | 0:51:34 | 0:51:38 | |
Some people would say that that's quite a lot of hours to work since you were 13. | 0:51:42 | 0:51:47 | |
What's the best bit about, you know, being an independent girl and having your own wage? | 0:51:51 | 0:51:57 | |
The money you make from your work, is that enough to support you and your family? | 0:52:31 | 0:52:37 | |
They want you to be independent and earn money. Before, they wanted you married off! They're on your side. | 0:52:52 | 0:53:00 | |
Wow. Amazing. | 0:53:04 | 0:53:07 | |
You'll have to find someone! It's going to be difficult. | 0:53:07 | 0:53:11 | |
You'll find someone in Bangladesh! | 0:53:20 | 0:53:23 | |
No, there's nothing to worry about. | 0:53:23 | 0:53:26 | |
'Meeting Munni today was such an inspiration, a breath of fresh air | 0:53:32 | 0:53:36 | |
'compared to the girls I've met so far.' | 0:53:36 | 0:53:40 | |
Due to their child marriages, those girls had no expression on their faces, | 0:53:40 | 0:53:45 | |
they hadn't had time to even develop personalities. But by having a job, | 0:53:45 | 0:53:50 | |
Munni has been able to lift herself out of that | 0:53:50 | 0:53:54 | |
and have this independence, this vivacious character that is really admirable. | 0:53:54 | 0:53:59 | |
It might be difficult to imagine that a 40-hour job for a girl who has been doing it since she was 13 | 0:53:59 | 0:54:07 | |
is a good thing, but given the circumstances - have a job or get married - | 0:54:07 | 0:54:13 | |
this is the lesser of two evils. | 0:54:13 | 0:54:15 | |
'I started out this journey with an open mind | 0:54:21 | 0:54:25 | |
'because I thought child marriages in my family were happy, | 0:54:25 | 0:54:28 | |
'but when I asked them, every child bride I met wished she had married older. | 0:54:28 | 0:54:35 | |
'The only inspiring experiences were where the girls had the courage to say no. | 0:54:38 | 0:54:43 | |
'But young girls are rarely heard because it's adult men with the real power, | 0:54:45 | 0:54:51 | |
'the fathers and brothers who are convinced they are doing the right thing. | 0:54:51 | 0:54:57 | |
'Until the laws banning child marriages are strongly enforced, | 0:54:57 | 0:55:01 | |
'young girls will remain vulnerable.' | 0:55:01 | 0:55:04 | |
THEY SING | 0:55:04 | 0:55:06 | |
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