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Sneak in under there now. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:03 | |
The Lusted family from Rhos-on-Sea, North Wales. | 0:00:03 | 0:00:06 | |
Can you see there? | 0:00:06 | 0:00:08 | |
Dave, Dawn and their two sons, James and Philip. | 0:00:10 | 0:00:13 | |
There's a little one over there. | 0:00:14 | 0:00:16 | |
Phil is 32 and James is 29. | 0:00:16 | 0:00:20 | |
Do you want to get on my shoulders? | 0:00:21 | 0:00:23 | |
And both brothers have a rare form of dwarfism | 0:00:23 | 0:00:26 | |
called diastrophic dysplasia. | 0:00:26 | 0:00:27 | |
You've had too much pizza! | 0:00:27 | 0:00:30 | |
Although they are both of average height themselves, | 0:00:30 | 0:00:33 | |
Phil and James's parents, Dave and Dawn, are both carriers of the gene. | 0:00:33 | 0:00:37 | |
But they were completely unaware of this | 0:00:37 | 0:00:39 | |
until their first child, Phil, was born. | 0:00:39 | 0:00:42 | |
Phil stands at three foot tall and James at three foot seven inches. | 0:00:42 | 0:00:47 | |
And they've both faced many challenges. | 0:00:47 | 0:00:50 | |
They have battled serious physical difficulties | 0:00:50 | 0:00:53 | |
that could have left them unable to walk. | 0:00:53 | 0:00:56 | |
They have struggled to be accepted | 0:00:56 | 0:00:58 | |
and have endured a lifetime of people staring at them. | 0:00:58 | 0:01:01 | |
But most of all, | 0:01:03 | 0:01:05 | |
they have always worried that they may never find love. | 0:01:05 | 0:01:07 | |
They were wrong. James is marrying his girlfriend Chloe... | 0:01:09 | 0:01:13 | |
I love it that Chloe's accepted me for who I am. | 0:01:14 | 0:01:17 | |
..and Phil is in a relationship with Kathleen, who he met online. | 0:01:17 | 0:01:21 | |
-Hi. -Hi. | 0:01:21 | 0:01:23 | |
What's up? | 0:01:23 | 0:01:25 | |
Two small men who have found their big love story. | 0:01:25 | 0:01:29 | |
Do you remember when we came down here and you put your feet in? | 0:01:40 | 0:01:43 | |
With James and Chloe's wedding just months away, | 0:01:43 | 0:01:46 | |
they visit the local beauty spot | 0:01:46 | 0:01:48 | |
that was the scene of their engagement. | 0:01:48 | 0:01:51 | |
Little pysgod! | 0:01:51 | 0:01:52 | |
Watch your head. | 0:01:55 | 0:01:56 | |
Well, we're in Llyn Geirionydd. What a beautiful place it is. | 0:01:59 | 0:02:03 | |
It's very special to us, because it's where we got engaged. | 0:02:07 | 0:02:11 | |
So, yeah, that's why it's special to me. | 0:02:11 | 0:02:15 | |
And to us, yeah. | 0:02:15 | 0:02:16 | |
We came for a date night, as we call it, | 0:02:16 | 0:02:21 | |
we like to have one of those at least once a week. | 0:02:21 | 0:02:24 | |
Jay was particularly quiet on the way up to the lake | 0:02:24 | 0:02:27 | |
and that's never like him. We got to the jetty, | 0:02:27 | 0:02:30 | |
I sat down, we started chatting, | 0:02:30 | 0:02:33 | |
and before you know it, | 0:02:33 | 0:02:35 | |
he was behind me, tapped me on the shoulder, | 0:02:35 | 0:02:38 | |
and said, "What would you do if I asked you to marry me?" | 0:02:38 | 0:02:41 | |
Turned around and there he was, on one knee. | 0:02:42 | 0:02:44 | |
I said yes, by the way! | 0:02:46 | 0:02:47 | |
When we got up here I was nervous, | 0:02:47 | 0:02:50 | |
you know, I was, nervous, you know. | 0:02:50 | 0:02:52 | |
I couldn't get the ring out of my pocket at first. | 0:02:52 | 0:02:55 | |
I was a bit panicky. So I was trying to change the subject, saying, | 0:02:55 | 0:02:59 | |
"Look at that fish over there in the lake," and there was nothing to be seen. | 0:02:59 | 0:03:02 | |
Anyway, I eventually got the ring out of my pocket and then the deed took place. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:06 | |
When James and Phil's parents, Dawn and Dave, fell in love and married, | 0:03:08 | 0:03:12 | |
they were keen to start planning a family. | 0:03:12 | 0:03:14 | |
But they had no idea at the time | 0:03:16 | 0:03:17 | |
that they were both carrying the dwarfism gene. | 0:03:17 | 0:03:21 | |
I'd seen people on telly as dwarves | 0:03:21 | 0:03:24 | |
but never thought we as a family would have dwarves. | 0:03:24 | 0:03:28 | |
And as I say, it did come quite as a shock, but I also remember saying, | 0:03:31 | 0:03:36 | |
if... I would sell the house to put... | 0:03:36 | 0:03:42 | |
if it was going to make a difference to Phil, | 0:03:42 | 0:03:44 | |
to put him right. But that wasn't the option. | 0:03:44 | 0:03:48 | |
Phil was never going to be... | 0:03:48 | 0:03:50 | |
not ever any amount of money would change the way Phil was. | 0:03:50 | 0:03:55 | |
Um, but that's what was going through my mind, you know, | 0:03:55 | 0:03:58 | |
which probably would go through any parent's mind. | 0:03:58 | 0:04:00 | |
But as the time went on, we've got to get used to this now. | 0:04:02 | 0:04:06 | |
I've got to do the best as a dad. | 0:04:06 | 0:04:08 | |
Which was hard. | 0:04:09 | 0:04:11 | |
Ready? | 0:04:13 | 0:04:14 | |
When planning their second child, | 0:04:14 | 0:04:16 | |
they knew they had a one in four chance of having another baby | 0:04:16 | 0:04:20 | |
with the same condition. But they went ahead regardless. | 0:04:20 | 0:04:24 | |
It's just one of those things. | 0:04:24 | 0:04:27 | |
It's a chance in a million, | 0:04:27 | 0:04:29 | |
for two people with the same gene to get together, | 0:04:29 | 0:04:32 | |
and there was a one in four chance of it happening. | 0:04:32 | 0:04:37 | |
So we thought that was quite a good chance, | 0:04:37 | 0:04:40 | |
we'd got three chances of another child being OK. | 0:04:40 | 0:04:44 | |
Then we'll test it. | 0:04:45 | 0:04:47 | |
Tell me when it's switched on and I'll press test. | 0:04:47 | 0:04:50 | |
We decided we'd go for having another baby and... | 0:04:50 | 0:04:54 | |
..Phil was about three, and I got pregnant and... | 0:04:56 | 0:05:00 | |
..we were hoping that everything would be all right this time. | 0:05:02 | 0:05:05 | |
So I went for my scan and the lady was giving me the scan, | 0:05:08 | 0:05:13 | |
and she was taking a long time. | 0:05:13 | 0:05:16 | |
And I knew that there was something wrong and she wasn't saying. | 0:05:16 | 0:05:20 | |
And she went off to get her supervisor. | 0:05:20 | 0:05:23 | |
And he came and then they were measuring again. | 0:05:23 | 0:05:25 | |
And he said, "Sorry to say, but your baby has got short limbs." | 0:05:26 | 0:05:34 | |
Well, it just broke my heart. | 0:05:34 | 0:05:36 | |
I remember getting back into my clothes and getting upset, | 0:05:36 | 0:05:40 | |
like I am now, thinking about it. | 0:05:40 | 0:05:43 | |
Ready? | 0:05:46 | 0:05:47 | |
MOTOR WHIRS | 0:05:47 | 0:05:49 | |
It's just bringing it all back. | 0:05:58 | 0:05:59 | |
Glass of champagne now? | 0:06:06 | 0:06:07 | |
Once I got that out of my system - | 0:06:12 | 0:06:16 | |
I was really upset at the time - I was fine then, | 0:06:16 | 0:06:19 | |
because I knew what was coming. | 0:06:19 | 0:06:21 | |
Phil has been married once before. | 0:06:27 | 0:06:30 | |
Things didn't work out that time, | 0:06:30 | 0:06:32 | |
but it was a good relationship while it lasted. | 0:06:32 | 0:06:36 | |
I met my ex-wife online. | 0:06:36 | 0:06:40 | |
And we talked for, I think, about six months, regularly. | 0:06:40 | 0:06:44 | |
And then I decided to take a trip to meet her, because she's from Canada. | 0:06:44 | 0:06:50 | |
And I think we officially started dating | 0:06:50 | 0:06:56 | |
after I'd been there, you know. | 0:06:56 | 0:06:58 | |
And we were together for three years. | 0:06:58 | 0:07:01 | |
And then we got married and we were married for three years, | 0:07:01 | 0:07:05 | |
and then things got tough, and then I came back here. | 0:07:05 | 0:07:08 | |
Past experience hasn't put Phil off looking for love again. | 0:07:09 | 0:07:14 | |
I've met somebody online, who is from Seattle. | 0:07:14 | 0:07:18 | |
Been talking to her for a few months now. | 0:07:18 | 0:07:21 | |
And we're very close, friendship. | 0:07:21 | 0:07:25 | |
She found me through an article that was written about my tattoos. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:33 | |
And I think she added me to Facebook | 0:07:34 | 0:07:37 | |
and we started talking that way. | 0:07:37 | 0:07:39 | |
We just got talking more regularly, | 0:07:41 | 0:07:44 | |
non-stop, basically! | 0:07:44 | 0:07:46 | |
DOG BARKS | 0:07:48 | 0:07:49 | |
And after months of talking, | 0:07:49 | 0:07:51 | |
Phil is taking the plunge and going out to Seattle to meet Kathleen for | 0:07:51 | 0:07:56 | |
the first time. | 0:07:56 | 0:07:57 | |
I'm out there for... for a month, four weeks. | 0:07:57 | 0:08:00 | |
We have lots of stuff planned. | 0:08:01 | 0:08:03 | |
She has lots of surprises for me, apparently, taking me places, which, | 0:08:03 | 0:08:07 | |
I don't know what they are, but I'm excited about. | 0:08:07 | 0:08:11 | |
I think everybody wants to be loved and be with somebody. | 0:08:12 | 0:08:16 | |
So that's how I feel too, you know. | 0:08:16 | 0:08:19 | |
Chloe is heading off to her wedding make-up trial. | 0:08:21 | 0:08:24 | |
-Hi! -Hello, how are you? | 0:08:24 | 0:08:26 | |
She's used to people's curiosity about their relationship with James, | 0:08:26 | 0:08:31 | |
or Jay, as he is also known. | 0:08:31 | 0:08:33 | |
-Pop yourself down for me. -Thank you. | 0:08:33 | 0:08:35 | |
OK, so give me a rough idea of what you want. | 0:08:38 | 0:08:41 | |
Um, natural skin tone, natural lip, bold eyes. | 0:08:41 | 0:08:45 | |
So was it love at first sight? | 0:08:47 | 0:08:49 | |
Um, no! | 0:08:49 | 0:08:51 | |
To be honest, because of who Jay is and his condition, | 0:08:53 | 0:08:58 | |
I never really thought about him in that kind of way. | 0:08:58 | 0:09:01 | |
But after we'd met up a couple of times, | 0:09:03 | 0:09:07 | |
and we kept things on the down-low throughout the summer, one day, | 0:09:07 | 0:09:12 | |
me and my sister and my mum went shopping in Llandudno, | 0:09:12 | 0:09:15 | |
and we bumped into Jay on the off-chance. | 0:09:15 | 0:09:19 | |
And you know when you see someone, | 0:09:19 | 0:09:22 | |
you get that feeling in your stomach... | 0:09:22 | 0:09:25 | |
Um, kind of, it was then | 0:09:25 | 0:09:26 | |
that I thought, "Oh, wow, OK, I kind of like him." | 0:09:26 | 0:09:29 | |
Oh! | 0:09:29 | 0:09:31 | |
Yeah. And I never go shy, never. | 0:09:31 | 0:09:34 | |
But I mean, | 0:09:34 | 0:09:36 | |
-I was lost for words, I guess you could say. -Oh! | 0:09:36 | 0:09:40 | |
Chloe's hen weekend, | 0:09:41 | 0:09:44 | |
and family and friends gather for a game of It's A Knockout. | 0:09:44 | 0:09:48 | |
It's all smiles now, but Sarah, Chloe's mum, | 0:09:49 | 0:09:52 | |
did have her doubts when James first came on the scene. | 0:09:52 | 0:09:55 | |
Um, my feelings when Chloe said about Jay, | 0:09:55 | 0:09:58 | |
she'd mentioned him before she even said she was going out with him, | 0:09:58 | 0:10:01 | |
just test the waters, because she knows what I'm like, | 0:10:01 | 0:10:04 | |
and then she told me she was going out with him, | 0:10:04 | 0:10:07 | |
and, no, I wasn't happy. | 0:10:07 | 0:10:10 | |
Purely because to me, it was like, | 0:10:10 | 0:10:13 | |
Chloe, you know, he is a dwarf, | 0:10:13 | 0:10:16 | |
you're not suited, and everything else. | 0:10:16 | 0:10:19 | |
But then, as I got to know him, | 0:10:23 | 0:10:25 | |
it's just sort of... You look at Jay and you just see Jay, | 0:10:25 | 0:10:29 | |
you don't see anything else. | 0:10:29 | 0:10:31 | |
And it wasn't just with him being a dwarf. | 0:10:31 | 0:10:35 | |
I suppose I'm like that with any of my daughters. | 0:10:35 | 0:10:37 | |
But that just made it a little bit more harder. | 0:10:37 | 0:10:40 | |
CHEERING | 0:10:40 | 0:10:42 | |
The guys are just going to have a go themselves. | 0:10:44 | 0:10:47 | |
Society may judge James as being different, | 0:10:54 | 0:10:57 | |
but to his mates on his stag weekend, | 0:10:57 | 0:10:59 | |
he's just one of the lads. | 0:10:59 | 0:11:01 | |
This is so politically incorrect right now! | 0:11:01 | 0:11:05 | |
Right a bit. Left. | 0:11:06 | 0:11:08 | |
-James! Left! -Right a bit! | 0:11:08 | 0:11:11 | |
-He's the captain of the ship. -Aye. | 0:11:11 | 0:11:14 | |
Today marks, actually, the four-year anniversary | 0:11:15 | 0:11:19 | |
of the day that I carried the Olympic torch for London 2012. | 0:11:19 | 0:11:23 | |
It was an incredible day. | 0:11:24 | 0:11:27 | |
Not just for the reason of carrying the Olympic torch, | 0:11:27 | 0:11:29 | |
but it was also the day that I met Chloe properly. | 0:11:29 | 0:11:31 | |
I'd seen her around and, you know, said hello, | 0:11:32 | 0:11:35 | |
but I wasn't officially introduced to her through... until that day, | 0:11:35 | 0:11:40 | |
and that's why we're here this weekend, you know. | 0:11:40 | 0:11:43 | |
I'm on a stag do because I'm getting married to her. | 0:11:43 | 0:11:45 | |
And she's my world, and I'm so excited. | 0:11:45 | 0:11:49 | |
With the wedding day looming, it's all hands on deck | 0:11:54 | 0:11:57 | |
as family and friends help out with the preparations. | 0:11:57 | 0:12:01 | |
Brother Phil is on invites and seating plan duties. | 0:12:01 | 0:12:05 | |
You may kiss the bride. | 0:12:05 | 0:12:06 | |
The first marital kiss has been rehearsed | 0:12:07 | 0:12:10 | |
and the bride and groom are out shopping. | 0:12:10 | 0:12:13 | |
What do you think, Mum? | 0:12:13 | 0:12:14 | |
Chloe has found her perfect dress... | 0:12:14 | 0:12:17 | |
That looks very pretty. | 0:12:17 | 0:12:19 | |
..while James needs a more specialist approach. | 0:12:21 | 0:12:24 | |
So he's off to see his grandma - or nain, in Welsh. | 0:12:24 | 0:12:27 | |
OK, Nain? | 0:12:32 | 0:12:34 | |
Yeah, OK. | 0:12:34 | 0:12:36 | |
-Yeah. -There we are. | 0:12:36 | 0:12:37 | |
-Sleeves. -Wow, this is big. | 0:12:37 | 0:12:41 | |
Well, you can work your magic on it. | 0:12:41 | 0:12:43 | |
I'll have to! | 0:12:43 | 0:12:45 | |
The support of their grandparents | 0:12:45 | 0:12:47 | |
has been invaluable for James and Phil, | 0:12:47 | 0:12:50 | |
as they had to spend long periods of time in hospital having various | 0:12:50 | 0:12:54 | |
complex treatments when they were very young. | 0:12:54 | 0:12:57 | |
I had a cleft palate that needed to be fixed, | 0:12:57 | 0:13:01 | |
I had various wires coming out of my mouth | 0:13:01 | 0:13:04 | |
for a couple of months. | 0:13:04 | 0:13:06 | |
It didn't look very nice, but it had to be done. | 0:13:06 | 0:13:10 | |
Operations on my back, my spine. | 0:13:10 | 0:13:14 | |
-There we go. -There we are, James. | 0:13:14 | 0:13:16 | |
-Cutting the fibre. -I'll do the operation now! | 0:13:16 | 0:13:19 | |
Among the conditions that needed to be corrected were Phil and James's | 0:13:19 | 0:13:23 | |
inward-turning feet, which would make walking almost impossible. | 0:13:23 | 0:13:29 | |
Phil and I have had club feet, and when we were born, we were put... | 0:13:29 | 0:13:32 | |
our feet into casts to straighten them out, | 0:13:32 | 0:13:35 | |
but my feet didn't always stay. | 0:13:35 | 0:13:38 | |
So as I was growing, they kept turning in, further in. | 0:13:38 | 0:13:41 | |
So my club feet were coming back. | 0:13:42 | 0:13:44 | |
And my knees weren't doing good, so they weren't aligned correctly. | 0:13:44 | 0:13:48 | |
Therefore my feet were changing, so I'd walk on the balls of my feet | 0:13:48 | 0:13:53 | |
and not flat, hence I have wedges on my shoes. | 0:13:53 | 0:13:57 | |
How's that? | 0:13:58 | 0:14:00 | |
Do you want it a bit longer than that? | 0:14:00 | 0:14:02 | |
In order to give James the best chance of being able to walk, | 0:14:02 | 0:14:05 | |
he needed to have his legs straightened, | 0:14:05 | 0:14:08 | |
which meant wearing metal frames bolted into his bones. | 0:14:08 | 0:14:12 | |
Dad Dave had the traumatic job | 0:14:12 | 0:14:14 | |
of regularly turning the screws in his legs | 0:14:14 | 0:14:16 | |
until the bones were gradually pushed into a better position. | 0:14:16 | 0:14:20 | |
When one of the boys was in hospital, | 0:14:20 | 0:14:22 | |
the other one would be staying at my mum's, | 0:14:22 | 0:14:25 | |
because Dave was working. | 0:14:25 | 0:14:27 | |
It was hard, because I was a long way from home and on my own, | 0:14:27 | 0:14:32 | |
and having to watch the boys suffering. | 0:14:32 | 0:14:36 | |
Dave would come every weekend, wouldn't you? But it was hard. | 0:14:38 | 0:14:43 | |
-OK? -Yeah, I like the buttons. -Yeah, they're nice. | 0:14:44 | 0:14:47 | |
And when I had my frames, | 0:14:47 | 0:14:49 | |
I was so upset one day, | 0:14:49 | 0:14:51 | |
Mum didn't know what to do and Mum was upset as well. | 0:14:51 | 0:14:54 | |
And I thought, "Oh, if Mum can't help me, who can?" | 0:14:54 | 0:14:58 | |
You know. Because as a child, Mum and Dad can do anything | 0:14:58 | 0:15:01 | |
and do anything for you. | 0:15:01 | 0:15:03 | |
And that was just... It really broke my heart. | 0:15:03 | 0:15:06 | |
That Mum and Dad had been through so much, you know, for us. | 0:15:07 | 0:15:11 | |
Well, I need to see it myself now, | 0:15:11 | 0:15:12 | |
so you'll have to take a photo of me, because I want to see it on. | 0:15:12 | 0:15:15 | |
Let me get my phone. Don't press it hard, | 0:15:15 | 0:15:17 | |
otherwise we'll have a million photos! | 0:15:17 | 0:15:20 | |
-OK? -OK. -Yeah. | 0:15:21 | 0:15:24 | |
I think so. Try it. | 0:15:24 | 0:15:26 | |
James and Chloe won't be moving into their new home | 0:15:32 | 0:15:35 | |
until after the wedding - | 0:15:35 | 0:15:37 | |
they are Christians and want to wait. | 0:15:37 | 0:15:40 | |
You know, you need to get the bits out. | 0:15:40 | 0:15:42 | |
-I know. -So we're having no sex before marriage. | 0:15:42 | 0:15:44 | |
So I can't wait for the wedding night! | 0:15:44 | 0:15:46 | |
Because we've had a long engagement! | 0:15:48 | 0:15:50 | |
You being funny? | 0:15:50 | 0:15:52 | |
-Great chopping, this! -I know! | 0:15:52 | 0:15:55 | |
The wedding is supposed to finish about half 12, they say, but, | 0:15:58 | 0:16:00 | |
ten o'clock, let's go! | 0:16:00 | 0:16:02 | |
So, no, yeah, we're really excited about that. | 0:16:04 | 0:16:07 | |
Phil and Kathleen met online through a mutual love of tattoos. | 0:16:09 | 0:16:13 | |
And after chatting for several months, | 0:16:13 | 0:16:16 | |
a nervous Phil flew out to meet her for the first time. | 0:16:16 | 0:16:20 | |
Since then he's been travelling back and forth between Wales and Seattle | 0:16:20 | 0:16:24 | |
and their relationship has gone from strength to strength. | 0:16:24 | 0:16:28 | |
She's enjoying her first visit to Wales | 0:16:28 | 0:16:31 | |
and the couple are now engaged. | 0:16:31 | 0:16:33 | |
Right now, we're at 199 days until the wedding. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:38 | |
-Oh, my God! -Days? -Yeah. | 0:16:38 | 0:16:41 | |
Like James, Phil is marrying an average-height girl. | 0:16:41 | 0:16:45 | |
And although the height difference isn't causing them a problem, | 0:16:45 | 0:16:48 | |
the geographical distance is a challenge, as Phil is still living mainly in | 0:16:48 | 0:16:52 | |
North Wales, while Kathleen is happily settled in Seattle. | 0:16:52 | 0:16:56 | |
There's a caterpillar! | 0:16:56 | 0:16:59 | |
Phil will relocate to Seattle after the wedding, | 0:16:59 | 0:17:02 | |
but until then they must endure long periods apart, which is never easy. | 0:17:02 | 0:17:07 | |
I think with Skype and Facetime, | 0:17:09 | 0:17:12 | |
we do really well without each other when we're not together, you know, physically. | 0:17:12 | 0:17:17 | |
2017 has been a blessing, because technology is in everything. | 0:17:17 | 0:17:22 | |
We never stop talking and Phil's a night owl, | 0:17:22 | 0:17:25 | |
so he ends up on my same schedule. | 0:17:25 | 0:17:29 | |
And we're both working and that helps with things, doesn't it? | 0:17:30 | 0:17:34 | |
And we're very supportive of each other when we are apart, you know. | 0:17:34 | 0:17:37 | |
And I think that's helped me, personally, a lot. | 0:17:37 | 0:17:40 | |
When they are finally able to live together, | 0:17:41 | 0:17:44 | |
Phil will then be stepdad to Kathleen's two-year-old daughter Zelda, | 0:17:44 | 0:17:49 | |
who he dotes on and talks to regularly on Skype. | 0:17:49 | 0:17:52 | |
They talk every night. | 0:17:52 | 0:17:55 | |
Every single night. | 0:17:55 | 0:17:57 | |
Every time she sees me on Facetime, she gets excited. | 0:17:57 | 0:18:01 | |
It really touches me, you know. | 0:18:01 | 0:18:03 | |
And it means so much to me, you know, that she trusts me to be | 0:18:07 | 0:18:11 | |
her future dad, if you like, pretty much. | 0:18:11 | 0:18:14 | |
I'm so lucky. | 0:18:16 | 0:18:18 | |
I love you. | 0:18:21 | 0:18:24 | |
Want some? | 0:18:31 | 0:18:32 | |
They are used to people staring at them, | 0:18:32 | 0:18:35 | |
but some people's questions can be intrusive and rather persistent. | 0:18:35 | 0:18:39 | |
Especially around matters of a personal nature. | 0:18:39 | 0:18:42 | |
Well, they kept digging and digging, | 0:18:42 | 0:18:44 | |
trying to get something that was different or interesting... | 0:18:44 | 0:18:50 | |
-Sexual questions... -Unusual, yeah. | 0:18:50 | 0:18:53 | |
And I just, I was kind of... I mean, I get it, | 0:18:53 | 0:18:57 | |
I'll answer someone's question, no problem, because at the end of it, | 0:18:57 | 0:19:02 | |
it was just, I don't know what you want to hear, because... | 0:19:02 | 0:19:07 | |
..there's nothing unusual or different or anything. | 0:19:08 | 0:19:11 | |
Would you like a strawberry, dear? | 0:19:11 | 0:19:13 | |
SHE LAUGHS | 0:19:13 | 0:19:14 | |
Yes, my love. | 0:19:14 | 0:19:16 | |
I don't understand. Why would they ask anyone that, | 0:19:17 | 0:19:20 | |
let alone someone because they think they are different? | 0:19:20 | 0:19:23 | |
Why would that give them licence to ask that? | 0:19:23 | 0:19:27 | |
Put it in your face. | 0:19:28 | 0:19:30 | |
Although daughter Zelda keeps them both busy, | 0:19:30 | 0:19:33 | |
they haven't ruled out providing her with a sibling one day. | 0:19:33 | 0:19:36 | |
We've discussed it together, you know. | 0:19:37 | 0:19:40 | |
And we also discussed things like what if it's a dwarf, you know. | 0:19:40 | 0:19:44 | |
And we'll just treat the baby just like any baby, you know. | 0:19:44 | 0:19:48 | |
-That's right. -It wouldn't come as a shock to us if it was. -Yeah. | 0:19:48 | 0:19:52 | |
Strawberries! Bringing 'em. | 0:19:54 | 0:19:56 | |
You're going to pull me down! | 0:20:03 | 0:20:05 | |
It's the morning of James and Chloe's wedding | 0:20:06 | 0:20:09 | |
and both bride and groom are | 0:20:09 | 0:20:11 | |
ready to commit their lives to each other, for better or for worse. | 0:20:11 | 0:20:15 | |
What time are you actually getting married? | 0:20:15 | 0:20:17 | |
12. | 0:20:17 | 0:20:19 | |
OK, so Jay put a status saying, "Today I'm getting married | 0:20:19 | 0:20:22 | |
"to my beautiful Chloe. | 0:20:22 | 0:20:23 | |
"I'm so excited to spend the rest of my life with her." | 0:20:23 | 0:20:26 | |
#WeddingBells, #JayWedsChloe. | 0:20:26 | 0:20:28 | |
That's nice. | 0:20:30 | 0:20:31 | |
So how are you feeling, Dave? | 0:20:34 | 0:20:36 | |
Yeah, really good, thanks. | 0:20:36 | 0:20:37 | |
Really good. Looking forward to the day. | 0:20:37 | 0:20:39 | |
Looking forward to see James and Chloe getting married, | 0:20:41 | 0:20:44 | |
and moving on in their own lives. | 0:20:44 | 0:20:45 | |
-Um... -And getting the house back to yourself! | 0:20:47 | 0:20:49 | |
The house back to myself, yeah! | 0:20:49 | 0:20:51 | |
Do you want your bacon butty, James? | 0:20:51 | 0:20:53 | |
Dave and Dawn have had to face many more challenges | 0:20:53 | 0:20:56 | |
than your average couple. | 0:20:56 | 0:20:58 | |
And the pressure of bringing up Phil and James proved such | 0:20:58 | 0:21:01 | |
a strain at times that the marriage almost hit crisis point for Dave. | 0:21:01 | 0:21:06 | |
When I look back on things we've had to deal with, stress, | 0:21:06 | 0:21:10 | |
trying to get things for Philip and James, | 0:21:10 | 0:21:13 | |
at one point in my life, there was a point where... | 0:21:13 | 0:21:16 | |
..where I could turn around and say, and be quite honest about it, | 0:21:22 | 0:21:25 | |
I could have walked away. | 0:21:25 | 0:21:27 | |
'Give our love to Chloe.' | 0:21:33 | 0:21:36 | |
Everything we were trying to do for Philip and James, | 0:21:36 | 0:21:39 | |
and to help ourselves, | 0:21:39 | 0:21:41 | |
we felt everything was being thrown back at us, because we always felt | 0:21:41 | 0:21:45 | |
that, as much as we were fighting for things, | 0:21:45 | 0:21:48 | |
people weren't seeing the problem we had as a family. | 0:21:48 | 0:21:51 | |
-Thank you very much. -OK. | 0:21:51 | 0:21:54 | |
'So those were hard times. | 0:21:54 | 0:21:55 | |
'But you had to keep working at it to get through that and | 0:21:55 | 0:22:01 | |
'keep going, you know. | 0:22:01 | 0:22:03 | |
'We've been able to be there | 0:22:03 | 0:22:05 | |
'for each other through the difficult times, | 0:22:05 | 0:22:08 | |
'and I think that has bonded us more.' | 0:22:08 | 0:22:10 | |
I tell myself I'm not going to cry, so I'm going to try to keep to that. | 0:22:26 | 0:22:30 | |
I think I'm just going to be overwhelmed with happiness. | 0:22:30 | 0:22:33 | |
I've bet with him that he's going to cry. | 0:22:36 | 0:22:39 | |
He says he's not going to cry. I'm sure he's going to cry. | 0:22:39 | 0:22:41 | |
It wouldn't be Jay if he does not cry. | 0:22:41 | 0:22:43 | |
'I think more than anything, he's just going to be excited. | 0:22:46 | 0:22:50 | |
'He won't be able to stand still.' | 0:22:50 | 0:22:52 | |
-That's yours. -Thank you. | 0:22:56 | 0:22:59 | |
-I'm ready! -Oh! | 0:23:00 | 0:23:02 | |
Very smart. Ah, you look wonderful. | 0:23:04 | 0:23:07 | |
Your tie just needs... | 0:23:07 | 0:23:09 | |
Oh, Nain's here. | 0:23:09 | 0:23:10 | |
Yeah. | 0:23:10 | 0:23:12 | |
Um... I think it's just hit me. | 0:23:12 | 0:23:14 | |
Having a little bit of a moment here. | 0:23:15 | 0:23:17 | |
I didn't think I would get that emotional so soon. | 0:23:17 | 0:23:20 | |
-Oh. -Want to sit down? | 0:23:20 | 0:23:22 | |
-Give us a kiss. -See you later. -Yeah, see you later. | 0:23:22 | 0:23:26 | |
See you later. | 0:23:27 | 0:23:29 | |
I can't wait, yeah. | 0:23:29 | 0:23:31 | |
Here we go. | 0:23:31 | 0:23:32 | |
Yeah. | 0:23:32 | 0:23:34 | |
It's a really big day, isn't it, James? | 0:23:34 | 0:23:36 | |
It's a massive day. And it's just so... | 0:23:36 | 0:23:38 | |
How am I going to get through this speech? I don't know. | 0:23:41 | 0:23:44 | |
But, yeah. I just can't believe I'm getting married. | 0:23:44 | 0:23:48 | |
It's something that... | 0:23:48 | 0:23:49 | |
I never really thought I would marry, you know, and... | 0:23:49 | 0:23:53 | |
..I love it that Chloe has accepted me for who I am. | 0:23:54 | 0:23:57 | |
And, er... Yeah. | 0:23:59 | 0:24:02 | |
Yeah. | 0:24:02 | 0:24:03 | |
CHURCH BELL RINGS | 0:24:04 | 0:24:06 | |
Would you please stand? | 0:24:06 | 0:24:09 | |
-DAWN: -'I know people say that it's only a piece of paper, | 0:24:20 | 0:24:24 | |
'but I don't think so. | 0:24:24 | 0:24:26 | |
'Marriage is a sacred thing. | 0:24:33 | 0:24:35 | |
'And in that case, I don't believe it is just a piece of paper. | 0:24:37 | 0:24:40 | |
'It's the way I was brought up, and the same for you, really. | 0:24:44 | 0:24:49 | |
'So I suppose it's... it's just the way that we've brought them up.' | 0:24:49 | 0:24:55 | |
Told you you'd cry! | 0:24:55 | 0:24:57 | |
You look incredible. | 0:25:01 | 0:25:02 | |
I, James... | 0:25:10 | 0:25:11 | |
I, James... | 0:25:11 | 0:25:12 | |
..take you, Chloe... | 0:25:12 | 0:25:14 | |
..take you, Chloe... | 0:25:14 | 0:25:15 | |
-..to be my wife. -..to be my wife. | 0:25:15 | 0:25:17 | |
-I, Chloe... -I, Chloe... | 0:25:17 | 0:25:19 | |
..take you, James... | 0:25:19 | 0:25:20 | |
-..take you, James... -..to be my husband. | 0:25:20 | 0:25:23 | |
..to be my husband. | 0:25:23 | 0:25:24 | |
To have and to hold... | 0:25:24 | 0:25:25 | |
To have and to hold... | 0:25:25 | 0:25:27 | |
..from this day forward... | 0:25:27 | 0:25:28 | |
..from this day forward... | 0:25:28 | 0:25:30 | |
..for better, for worse... | 0:25:30 | 0:25:31 | |
-..for better, for worse... -..as long as we both shall live. | 0:25:31 | 0:25:34 | |
..as long as we both shall live. | 0:25:34 | 0:25:36 | |
Chloe, I give you this ring... | 0:25:36 | 0:25:39 | |
Chloe, I give you this ring... | 0:25:39 | 0:25:41 | |
-..as a sign of my love... -..as a sign of my love... | 0:25:41 | 0:25:43 | |
-..and faithfulness. -..and faithfulness. | 0:25:43 | 0:25:45 | |
With my body I honour you... | 0:25:45 | 0:25:47 | |
With my body I honour you... | 0:25:47 | 0:25:48 | |
..within the love of God... | 0:25:48 | 0:25:50 | |
..within the love of God... | 0:25:50 | 0:25:51 | |
..Father, Son and Holy Spirit. | 0:25:51 | 0:25:53 | |
..Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. | 0:25:53 | 0:25:55 | |
In the presence of God, | 0:25:55 | 0:25:58 | |
and before this congregation, | 0:25:58 | 0:26:00 | |
I proclaim that they are therefore husband and wife. | 0:26:00 | 0:26:04 | |
APPLAUSE AND CHEERING | 0:26:04 | 0:26:07 | |
Chloe and I's relationship is ever growing stronger. | 0:26:23 | 0:26:27 | |
# Heart beats fast | 0:26:27 | 0:26:28 | |
# Colours and promises... # | 0:26:28 | 0:26:30 | |
We're quite positive people, | 0:26:30 | 0:26:33 | |
we're enthusiastic and we're passionate about life. | 0:26:33 | 0:26:37 | |
We like to face challenges together | 0:26:37 | 0:26:39 | |
and we like to work as a team, and we love each other. | 0:26:39 | 0:26:44 | |
# Afraid to fall but watching you stand alone... # | 0:26:44 | 0:26:47 | |
Mum's always said, your dad and I have always done is, | 0:26:47 | 0:26:52 | |
we've never gone to sleep unhappy with each other. | 0:26:52 | 0:26:56 | |
We've wanted to sort it out, and you should never let the sun go down | 0:26:56 | 0:27:01 | |
on anger and you should get it out | 0:27:01 | 0:27:03 | |
before you go to sleep and wake up the next day, it's a new day. | 0:27:03 | 0:27:06 | |
# I have died every day, waiting for you... # | 0:27:08 | 0:27:13 | |
That's something that they've always done | 0:27:13 | 0:27:15 | |
and they've always talked, they've always been honest, | 0:27:15 | 0:27:19 | |
and they've always supported each other, | 0:27:19 | 0:27:21 | |
even though they've not agreed sometimes. | 0:27:21 | 0:27:24 | |
And I think that's what love is. | 0:27:24 | 0:27:25 | |
His parents' love for each other has been an inspiration for James | 0:27:29 | 0:27:33 | |
as he and Chloe face the future together, | 0:27:33 | 0:27:36 | |
and whatever that future may hold. | 0:27:36 | 0:27:38 | |
We just love each other more and more, as time goes on. | 0:27:38 | 0:27:43 | |
It's funny, so funny, when you get together, you always get, | 0:27:43 | 0:27:46 | |
"When are you going to get engaged?" | 0:27:46 | 0:27:47 | |
And then, "When are you going to get married?" | 0:27:47 | 0:27:50 | |
And then, "When are you going to have a baby?" | 0:27:50 | 0:27:52 | |
-And we're at that step now. -When are you going to stop? | 0:27:52 | 0:27:54 | |
Yeah. So, yes, you know, we're thinking of the next step, family, | 0:27:54 | 0:27:59 | |
children, and we've always dreamt that we wanted a family | 0:27:59 | 0:28:04 | |
and children in the future and stuff. | 0:28:04 | 0:28:07 | |
And, you know, even if we do have a baby, | 0:28:07 | 0:28:10 | |
whether it's a dwarf or not, we'll still love it just the same. | 0:28:10 | 0:28:13 | |
And whatever life has in store for James and Chloe | 0:28:13 | 0:28:17 | |
and for Phil and Kathleen... | 0:28:17 | 0:28:19 | |
Hi. | 0:28:19 | 0:28:20 | |
-Hi. -What's up? | 0:28:20 | 0:28:22 | |
..they believe that their love for each other will see them through. | 0:28:22 | 0:28:25 | |
I love you. | 0:28:28 | 0:28:30 | |
Bye. | 0:28:30 | 0:28:32 | |
# All along I believed I would find you | 0:28:36 | 0:28:41 | |
# Time has brought your heart to me | 0:28:41 | 0:28:44 | |
# I have loved you for a thousand years... # | 0:28:44 | 0:28:50 |