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One year ago, three families from Northern Ireland | 0:00:03 | 0:00:05 | |
set off on a unique week-long experiment | 0:00:05 | 0:00:08 | |
at Lusty Beg Island in Fermanagh. | 0:00:08 | 0:00:10 | |
Cara talks there about going and getting buns or whatever, | 0:00:10 | 0:00:13 | |
we would get a cake. | 0:00:13 | 0:00:16 | |
Can you remember the last time you felt really good about your body? | 0:00:16 | 0:00:20 | |
No, not right now this minute. | 0:00:20 | 0:00:21 | |
It's the jolly fat bloke is the mask that I wear. | 0:00:21 | 0:00:25 | |
Once there, they were forced to face up to | 0:00:25 | 0:00:28 | |
their unhealthy eating habits and their lack of exercise | 0:00:28 | 0:00:31 | |
in order to become fitter and healthier people. | 0:00:31 | 0:00:34 | |
They were given instructions and encouragement by four leading experts - | 0:00:35 | 0:00:39 | |
a personal trainer, two psychologists and a nutritionist. | 0:00:39 | 0:00:43 | |
If you can't pronounce what it says on the label, it's kind of a sign. | 0:00:45 | 0:00:49 | |
Using a combination of physical exercise, | 0:00:51 | 0:00:53 | |
lessons in nutrition and intense psychotherapy sessions | 0:00:53 | 0:00:57 | |
the three families were challenged to change their lives. | 0:00:57 | 0:01:00 | |
A year on, we meet up with them again to see how they've been doing. | 0:01:06 | 0:01:10 | |
Has anything worked? Or did they fall back into their old ways? | 0:01:10 | 0:01:14 | |
If I was ever asked to do Lusty Beg again, | 0:01:14 | 0:01:16 | |
I would embrace it with an open heart. | 0:01:16 | 0:01:20 | |
People still notice what we put in our shopping basket. | 0:01:24 | 0:01:27 | |
I have two say, we've had a very bad year | 0:01:27 | 0:01:30 | |
and I hope we don't have anymore like it. | 0:01:30 | 0:01:32 | |
As the families gather in Armagh, | 0:01:45 | 0:01:47 | |
they'll find out who fell by the wayside | 0:01:47 | 0:01:49 | |
when left to their own devices. | 0:01:49 | 0:01:51 | |
Isobel, Nick and Rachel are first to arrive. | 0:01:55 | 0:01:58 | |
I felt we should have done a lot more in a year. | 0:01:59 | 0:02:02 | |
But actually, as I say, a year isn't that long and actually, | 0:02:02 | 0:02:05 | |
we were at my sister's last night, | 0:02:05 | 0:02:07 | |
and we were looking through old photographs | 0:02:07 | 0:02:09 | |
and I was double the size of what I was whenever we started Lusty Beg, | 0:02:09 | 0:02:12 | |
so actually, it's going to be a slow, long progress | 0:02:12 | 0:02:15 | |
and hopefully out of it, it'll stick. | 0:02:15 | 0:02:18 | |
I'm definitely in two size smaller trousers than I was in. | 0:02:18 | 0:02:21 | |
Tops are just one size smaller than I was in, | 0:02:23 | 0:02:26 | |
so we're getting somewhere, albeit slow, but we're getting somewhere. | 0:02:26 | 0:02:30 | |
Cara and her family have had a difficult year. | 0:02:30 | 0:02:33 | |
I am back to what I was when I started Lusty Beg | 0:02:35 | 0:02:37 | |
and I definitely am feeling the effects of it. | 0:02:37 | 0:02:41 | |
Physically, like. | 0:02:42 | 0:02:43 | |
I suppose the children have been the... | 0:02:45 | 0:02:48 | |
definitely the success of our story, | 0:02:48 | 0:02:51 | |
because they've both got over two stone off | 0:02:51 | 0:02:55 | |
and they're both exercising and they're both two different children. | 0:02:55 | 0:02:59 | |
I'd love to have been going back, you know, now, | 0:02:59 | 0:03:02 | |
and having lost a lot of weight and instead, | 0:03:02 | 0:03:05 | |
I'm going back with having it put on, you know? | 0:03:05 | 0:03:08 | |
So I have to say, I'm not looking forward to it | 0:03:08 | 0:03:10 | |
because I do feel like I've failed. | 0:03:10 | 0:03:12 | |
-Hello. -Hello! -Hello, Ricky. | 0:03:14 | 0:03:17 | |
-How are you? -Going to cry! | 0:03:17 | 0:03:19 | |
Are you well? | 0:03:19 | 0:03:21 | |
-Are we right in the head doing this all again? -No, definitely not. | 0:03:21 | 0:03:25 | |
Mum Rosie and daughter Ellen are last to join the group. | 0:03:25 | 0:03:29 | |
We've come a long way, we have. | 0:03:29 | 0:03:31 | |
We both know that, Ellen and I, but we still have a way to go as well, | 0:03:31 | 0:03:37 | |
so we're still on the journey. We haven't completed it. | 0:03:37 | 0:03:39 | |
It's remarkable the way three such different families | 0:03:39 | 0:03:43 | |
can be joined together because they have a common goal. | 0:03:43 | 0:03:47 | |
Hello! | 0:03:47 | 0:03:49 | |
It's lovely to be here again. It's strange. | 0:03:51 | 0:03:53 | |
We have seen each other a few times, you know, in between, | 0:03:53 | 0:03:56 | |
but not all at once, so, yeah, it's lovely. | 0:03:56 | 0:04:01 | |
I'm very glad there's no obstacle courses now! | 0:04:01 | 0:04:04 | |
These three families were united by a unique experience, | 0:04:07 | 0:04:10 | |
but what motivated their attempt to change their lives? | 0:04:10 | 0:04:14 | |
First family to arrive for their week-long retreat | 0:04:30 | 0:04:32 | |
was single mum Rosie and daughter Ellen. | 0:04:32 | 0:04:35 | |
Do I blame myself for being this weight? | 0:04:35 | 0:04:39 | |
Yes, yes, I do. There's no-one else to blame. | 0:04:39 | 0:04:42 | |
When I look in the mirror, I do not like what I see | 0:04:44 | 0:04:48 | |
and I know all the right things to say to myself | 0:04:48 | 0:04:51 | |
to make myself feel better, | 0:04:51 | 0:04:53 | |
but at the end of the day, | 0:04:53 | 0:04:54 | |
the bottom line is that no, I am not happy with the way I look. | 0:04:54 | 0:04:58 | |
There's some shops were things fit me perfectly | 0:05:00 | 0:05:02 | |
and then that's the only ones I shop in, | 0:05:02 | 0:05:05 | |
but it's hard when you're overweight. | 0:05:05 | 0:05:08 | |
It's a bit...makes me feel a bit down. | 0:05:10 | 0:05:14 | |
Johnny had recently married Cara, mother of Ryan and Ellie. | 0:05:17 | 0:05:22 | |
I've got so much weight to lose, it's like I don't know where to start. | 0:05:23 | 0:05:28 | |
It's like climbing a mountain when you're at the bottom of it, | 0:05:28 | 0:05:31 | |
it's like getting that start on it - I just feel it's too far to climb. | 0:05:31 | 0:05:36 | |
And as well, for the children, it's one thing me having weight issues | 0:05:36 | 0:05:40 | |
but now, all of a sudden I've realised | 0:05:40 | 0:05:42 | |
that my children are that way as well and that's really upsetting. | 0:05:42 | 0:05:49 | |
So, I'm dreading the change, but it has to be done. | 0:05:49 | 0:05:52 | |
And there was Nick, Isobel and daughter Rachel from Dundonald, | 0:05:58 | 0:06:02 | |
desperate to end their love affair with takeaways. | 0:06:02 | 0:06:05 | |
Chippie, Chinese, Indian, pizzas, so much choice out there. | 0:06:05 | 0:06:09 | |
A variety of curry to eat every day. I eat something different every day. | 0:06:09 | 0:06:14 | |
Far too easy. | 0:06:14 | 0:06:16 | |
I always remember Mum saying, if you don't lose weight, wee girl, | 0:06:16 | 0:06:20 | |
you're not going to be round whenever those kids grow up. | 0:06:20 | 0:06:22 | |
My mum says I've got puppy fat but sometimes I just don't believe her. | 0:06:24 | 0:06:30 | |
It's just a thing that I think is my fault for doing it. | 0:06:30 | 0:06:34 | |
The wee warning bell's going off big-time, | 0:06:34 | 0:06:37 | |
and it's time to do something about it. | 0:06:37 | 0:06:39 | |
At the beginning of the week | 0:06:44 | 0:06:46 | |
the families realised how much their weight was out of control . | 0:06:46 | 0:06:49 | |
Have you heard the expression "pinch an inch?" | 0:06:49 | 0:06:51 | |
I can pinch more than an inch! | 0:06:51 | 0:06:53 | |
They found the exercise and personal training sessions gruelling | 0:06:57 | 0:07:00 | |
but invigorating, giving them a new determination | 0:07:00 | 0:07:03 | |
to get back on the road to fitness. | 0:07:03 | 0:07:05 | |
Good food and nutrition was also a vital component of the experience. | 0:07:09 | 0:07:13 | |
Anything that's green is good for you. | 0:07:14 | 0:07:16 | |
-And you like tomatoes, don't you? -No. -Do you not like tomatoes? | 0:07:16 | 0:07:20 | |
I was expecting something | 0:07:21 | 0:07:23 | |
a little more substantial than a bowl of leaves. | 0:07:23 | 0:07:26 | |
Porridge - that's a good sign. | 0:07:26 | 0:07:29 | |
Nutritionist Amanda Hamilton highlighted the dangers of an unhealthy diet. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:33 | |
What your parents do, what size your parents are and what their habits are | 0:07:35 | 0:07:40 | |
really predicts the life outcome of that child, which is terrifying. | 0:07:40 | 0:07:44 | |
When I looked at it, | 0:07:46 | 0:07:48 | |
I didn't realise it until I looked at this photo, | 0:07:48 | 0:07:51 | |
and it looked completely different to what I am today. | 0:07:51 | 0:07:55 | |
Disappointed. | 0:07:55 | 0:07:57 | |
Clinical Psychologists Dr Rachel Andrew and Dr Raman Kapur | 0:07:58 | 0:08:02 | |
helped the families explore body image and psychological improvement. | 0:08:02 | 0:08:06 | |
I want to be the way I used to be. | 0:08:08 | 0:08:11 | |
There's no harm in it, | 0:08:11 | 0:08:13 | |
but it would be nice just to have somebody to flirt with you. | 0:08:13 | 0:08:16 | |
I suppose it was like the time I was going to look at wedding dresses, | 0:08:16 | 0:08:22 | |
some people even, you would hear them saying something, | 0:08:22 | 0:08:26 | |
you know, and I'd feel like saying, "I know I'm fat, but I'm not deaf." | 0:08:26 | 0:08:30 | |
What if I said, why aren't taking your gym kit? | 0:08:32 | 0:08:34 | |
Why aren't you going to the gym before work? Why aren't you going to gym after work? | 0:08:34 | 0:08:38 | |
You know, and you always have an excuse. | 0:08:38 | 0:08:40 | |
You two feel free to fight too! | 0:08:40 | 0:08:42 | |
The therapy sessions enabled the families to become more open. | 0:08:45 | 0:08:49 | |
As a group, they formed a bond. | 0:08:52 | 0:08:54 | |
The hunger pangs are going. | 0:08:55 | 0:08:58 | |
I'm really looking forward to the next few days. | 0:08:58 | 0:09:01 | |
It just keeps getting better, like. I'm amazed. | 0:09:01 | 0:09:03 | |
There's no such thing as an expert, really, you know? | 0:09:03 | 0:09:06 | |
I've learned a lot over the years, but you're your own experts. | 0:09:06 | 0:09:09 | |
You're the one that's going to have to make decisions when you go home. | 0:09:09 | 0:09:12 | |
They learned about self motivation and discipline. | 0:09:15 | 0:09:18 | |
You want to go back to that way of life? It's up to you, no pressure. | 0:09:18 | 0:09:22 | |
-What did you just do? -Removed temptation. | 0:09:25 | 0:09:29 | |
Go! | 0:09:36 | 0:09:38 | |
By the end of the week, the families were armed | 0:09:38 | 0:09:42 | |
with the tools necessary to make a change in their everyday lives. | 0:09:42 | 0:09:45 | |
I feel like a new person. I feel like I'm cleansed from the inside out. | 0:09:47 | 0:09:54 | |
I feel better than I felt for years. | 0:09:54 | 0:10:00 | |
Hi! | 0:10:15 | 0:10:16 | |
Oh, wow! | 0:10:16 | 0:10:18 | |
At the end of the experience, | 0:10:18 | 0:10:20 | |
the families were brought together for a final weigh-in. | 0:10:20 | 0:10:23 | |
Before Lusty Beg, Isobel was six stone overweight. | 0:10:25 | 0:10:29 | |
Her partner Nick was clinically obese. | 0:10:29 | 0:10:33 | |
Rachel was more than seven stone, a risky weight for someone so young. | 0:10:34 | 0:10:39 | |
By the end of the process, the family had begun to shed the pounds | 0:10:42 | 0:10:46 | |
with Isobel losing more than a stone. | 0:10:46 | 0:10:49 | |
When she arrived on the island, | 0:10:52 | 0:10:54 | |
Rosie weighed more than 15 and a half stone. | 0:10:54 | 0:10:56 | |
At more than 13 stone, | 0:10:56 | 0:10:58 | |
her daughter Ellen's weight was putting her health at risk. | 0:10:58 | 0:11:01 | |
They had lost more than a stone each by the time of the weigh-in. | 0:11:02 | 0:11:06 | |
It's been a long time since I've seen that on the scales. | 0:11:07 | 0:11:10 | |
Cara and her family needed to lose by far the most. | 0:11:10 | 0:11:14 | |
She was advised to lose 11 stone to reach her ideal weight. | 0:11:14 | 0:11:19 | |
Her children's weight put them at serious risk of health problems in the future. | 0:11:19 | 0:11:23 | |
At two and a half stone overweight, Johnny had the least to lose. | 0:11:24 | 0:11:28 | |
After Lusty Beg, Cara had lost one stone nine pounds. | 0:11:29 | 0:11:34 | |
Her husband Johnny had almost reached his ideal weight. | 0:11:34 | 0:11:37 | |
Ellie and Ryan had lost more than a stone and a half each. | 0:11:37 | 0:11:43 | |
Between them in two months, | 0:11:43 | 0:11:45 | |
these three families lost more than 11 stone. | 0:11:45 | 0:11:48 | |
After struggling for years, they started a process of change. | 0:11:49 | 0:11:53 | |
They were more confident and happy in their own skins, | 0:11:53 | 0:11:57 | |
all because of a change in their mindset. | 0:11:57 | 0:12:00 | |
But have they sustained this? | 0:12:00 | 0:12:03 | |
Since Lusty Beg, the families have had varying degrees of success | 0:12:17 | 0:12:20 | |
in maintaining their healthy lifestyles. | 0:12:20 | 0:12:25 | |
Now they have the chance to look back... | 0:12:25 | 0:12:27 | |
..helped on by nutritionist, Amanda | 0:12:30 | 0:12:33 | |
and family psychologist, Dr Rachel Andrew. | 0:12:33 | 0:12:37 | |
-Look who's here! -Hello! -Dr Rachel! -Haven't seen you for ages! | 0:12:37 | 0:12:41 | |
So what Rachel and I thought we'd do, | 0:12:41 | 0:12:43 | |
just to get the energy going, is have a game. | 0:12:43 | 0:12:47 | |
We're not going to make you run around a field, don't worry! | 0:12:47 | 0:12:49 | |
We're going to have a game in the theatre | 0:12:49 | 0:12:52 | |
and we'll tell you all about it if you follow us. | 0:12:52 | 0:12:55 | |
If you hear Isobel saying an excuse, you hold up and go "excuse!" OK? | 0:12:57 | 0:13:04 | |
All of you. | 0:13:04 | 0:13:05 | |
If you hear Isabel saying something that's a good idea, "good idea!" | 0:13:05 | 0:13:09 | |
OK? It's about encouraging yourselves | 0:13:09 | 0:13:11 | |
and actually becoming a bit more self-monitoring. | 0:13:11 | 0:13:13 | |
-Who wants to go first? -Nick! | 0:13:13 | 0:13:16 | |
-OK, fine. -I was waiting for that one. | 0:13:16 | 0:13:19 | |
So, talk us through the last year for you, Nick. | 0:13:19 | 0:13:21 | |
The good teaching and experience | 0:13:23 | 0:13:26 | |
is put into practice for a good three months, | 0:13:26 | 0:13:30 | |
then came along Christmas, and... | 0:13:30 | 0:13:33 | |
Christmas is one day! Christmas is one day! | 0:13:33 | 0:13:36 | |
I'm sorry, I think it's a good excuse! | 0:13:36 | 0:13:39 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:13:39 | 0:13:41 | |
Next winter, what would be a good idea? | 0:13:41 | 0:13:43 | |
Maybe we could set ourselves a challenge, | 0:13:43 | 0:13:46 | |
like doing a charity walk or something together as a group | 0:13:46 | 0:13:50 | |
and by meeting up to do that, it would actually be a motivator. | 0:13:50 | 0:13:54 | |
Because we're so spread out, it's going to be hard. | 0:13:54 | 0:13:59 | |
Good thinking. | 0:13:59 | 0:14:00 | |
Excuse, Johnny, you're saying that's an excuse? | 0:14:00 | 0:14:02 | |
Well, if you can meet up to party you can meet up to do that. | 0:14:02 | 0:14:06 | |
Hallelujah! | 0:14:06 | 0:14:09 | |
Anything else that you look back on the year and think, hm...? | 0:14:10 | 0:14:13 | |
Yeah. | 0:14:13 | 0:14:15 | |
Speaking personally, if there had have been someone come out | 0:14:15 | 0:14:18 | |
every couple of months, just to drop in to see how things were going, | 0:14:18 | 0:14:23 | |
I think it would have been a case of | 0:14:23 | 0:14:24 | |
I didn't want to let anybody else down. | 0:14:24 | 0:14:26 | |
Why is it easy to let yourself down and not but others down? | 0:14:26 | 0:14:29 | |
That's quite interesting. | 0:14:29 | 0:14:31 | |
When you get... when you're overweight, | 0:14:31 | 0:14:34 | |
you have very low self-esteem anyway, would you not say? | 0:14:34 | 0:14:38 | |
-And you need that bit of help and support. -Yep, yep. | 0:14:38 | 0:14:42 | |
One thing that worked for me was you become your own training partner. | 0:14:42 | 0:14:46 | |
-Your own training partner? -Yes. | 0:14:46 | 0:14:49 | |
You talk in your head to yourself, or even out loud, it has been known. | 0:14:49 | 0:14:52 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:14:52 | 0:14:54 | |
Cara speaks about low self-esteem | 0:14:54 | 0:14:58 | |
and it's something has struggled with all my life from when I was a very young woman. | 0:14:58 | 0:15:02 | |
I suppose, maybe just comes a point in your life when you say, | 0:15:02 | 0:15:06 | |
"I really don't want to feel like this any more." | 0:15:06 | 0:15:09 | |
I do not think there is a quick fix. I think it's a long-term process. | 0:15:09 | 0:15:12 | |
Isobel and Nick are the same weight they were last year, | 0:15:18 | 0:15:23 | |
but they have struggled, and they still find it hard to set boundaries for their daughter, | 0:15:23 | 0:15:27 | |
an issue for them all last year. | 0:15:27 | 0:15:29 | |
For the family it's one thing after another. | 0:15:29 | 0:15:32 | |
So, one year on, it's sounding like a mixed bag. | 0:15:33 | 0:15:38 | |
It all started very well, up until before Christmas | 0:15:38 | 0:15:42 | |
everything was going really well. | 0:15:42 | 0:15:44 | |
Then Christmas happened, then some birthdays in January, then Valentine's Day | 0:15:44 | 0:15:49 | |
then it just didn't ever start again. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:51 | |
So why don't you think it started again? | 0:15:51 | 0:15:54 | |
What derailed the whole family? | 0:15:54 | 0:15:57 | |
I don't think there was a derailment as such, there just wasn't any motivation to start again. | 0:15:57 | 0:16:01 | |
-Right, it got stuck in a rut? -Yeah. | 0:16:01 | 0:16:04 | |
I don't think the good habits were formed long enough. | 0:16:04 | 0:16:11 | |
It was just easier not to do the preparing, not to think ahead | 0:16:11 | 0:16:14 | |
and do it as you come to 6 o'clock, "What will we have for tea?" | 0:16:14 | 0:16:18 | |
I'm trying to figure out what drives those decisions day in day out. | 0:16:18 | 0:16:21 | |
I was forced into a place where I was not finishing work | 0:16:21 | 0:16:24 | |
until 6.30 or seven o'clock, nearly every night for 18 weeks. | 0:16:24 | 0:16:29 | |
See, where I am from, that's normal, | 0:16:29 | 0:16:31 | |
not to get back till seven or eight o'clock at night. | 0:16:31 | 0:16:33 | |
Sometimes the best motivation appearance that parents ever have are their kids. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:38 | |
Where are you on the boundary fronts, do you think, parentally? | 0:16:38 | 0:16:41 | |
Lacking, | 0:16:41 | 0:16:44 | |
really lacking big time. Rachel has fell back. | 0:16:44 | 0:16:48 | |
-She doesn't even think twice about going to the biscuit barrel. -I do. -No, you don't. | 0:16:48 | 0:16:54 | |
There are things like that that she has let slip. | 0:16:54 | 0:16:57 | |
But Rachel was actually asking for boundaries when we were away, | 0:16:57 | 0:17:01 | |
it's maybe just reinstating them. | 0:17:01 | 0:17:03 | |
It is what all the statistics tell us, what you teach your kids | 0:17:03 | 0:17:07 | |
growing up, what they are used to is what they will carry on with. | 0:17:07 | 0:17:10 | |
It is difficult to connect with that sometimes, | 0:17:10 | 0:17:14 | |
but if we take the time here to say, "Right, it's about health." | 0:17:14 | 0:17:20 | |
It's about quality of life and all those things. | 0:17:20 | 0:17:26 | |
She's told us stuff that she told us before, | 0:17:26 | 0:17:30 | |
but whenever somebody is not there reinforcing it, | 0:17:30 | 0:17:32 | |
you do tend to say, sure, what does that matter? | 0:17:32 | 0:17:36 | |
Habits take a while to form | 0:17:36 | 0:17:38 | |
and when you have had 20-odd years of a bad habit, | 0:17:38 | 0:17:41 | |
to try and break that in a very short period of time is very difficult. | 0:17:41 | 0:17:45 | |
It is up to us, wanting that for ourselves to put our own motivation in. | 0:17:45 | 0:17:48 | |
I should maybe use this huge opportunity I've got now to get back into that mindset. | 0:17:48 | 0:17:55 | |
While some of the families have struggled with motivation Rosie | 0:17:58 | 0:18:02 | |
and Ellen have fully embraced their new lifestyles with Ellen | 0:18:02 | 0:18:05 | |
losing more than three stone. | 0:18:05 | 0:18:08 | |
I can't believe it has been a year and, you're both my star pupils. | 0:18:09 | 0:18:13 | |
What a fantastic result. | 0:18:13 | 0:18:16 | |
What do you think is different for you, | 0:18:16 | 0:18:19 | |
because you are markedly different from everyone else in that respect? | 0:18:19 | 0:18:24 | |
One of the things I have found is the need to be very honest with yourself. | 0:18:24 | 0:18:30 | |
Behind all those feelings of negativity and "I can't", | 0:18:30 | 0:18:34 | |
there's always an emotional excuse behind there somewhere. | 0:18:34 | 0:18:37 | |
It's cutting through it all and really getting to what lies in behind it. | 0:18:37 | 0:18:42 | |
And to do that you have to be honest with yourself. | 0:18:42 | 0:18:44 | |
That hurts sometimes and it is a very difficult thing to do, | 0:18:44 | 0:18:48 | |
because we can lie to yourself so easily. | 0:18:48 | 0:18:50 | |
I think with Rosie and Ellen that's it, there is no going back. | 0:18:50 | 0:18:55 | |
There's no sense of, I want to go back to bad habits, or it's lurking there. | 0:18:55 | 0:19:01 | |
There is none of that. They have moved on. | 0:19:01 | 0:19:04 | |
Cara is back to the same weight she was before the retreat. | 0:19:05 | 0:19:08 | |
However, her husband Johnny and her two children Ryan | 0:19:10 | 0:19:13 | |
and Ellie have continued to follow a regime of healthy eating and exercise. | 0:19:13 | 0:19:17 | |
Cara has struggled more than most over the last year and has | 0:19:21 | 0:19:24 | |
arranged to discuss recent events in her life with Dr Raman Kapur. | 0:19:24 | 0:19:28 | |
The New Year started off well, | 0:19:30 | 0:19:31 | |
we had got the keys to our new house on the Wednesday. | 0:19:31 | 0:19:37 | |
By the Sunday night, my younger brother was found dead. | 0:19:37 | 0:19:41 | |
It should have been a happy time, moving into our new house, | 0:19:41 | 0:19:44 | |
but, I suppose it turned into a sad time. | 0:19:44 | 0:19:48 | |
You know. | 0:19:48 | 0:19:50 | |
Then, a few weeks after that, my father was found dead. | 0:19:50 | 0:19:57 | |
He had died in England. | 0:19:57 | 0:19:59 | |
So, I suppose, at that stage, I was pretty crushed. | 0:20:01 | 0:20:06 | |
Yes, crushed is the word. | 0:20:09 | 0:20:13 | |
A lot of loss, death and disappoint to manage. | 0:20:13 | 0:20:17 | |
Experiencing all of that is tough... | 0:20:17 | 0:20:20 | |
Perhaps, your way of managing it was to go back to other ways, | 0:20:22 | 0:20:28 | |
really, because there is so much of it really. | 0:20:28 | 0:20:31 | |
It is making me look at what has happened over the past year and why have I not got the results. | 0:20:31 | 0:20:36 | |
I can come up with excuses, but, you know, as I say, | 0:20:36 | 0:20:41 | |
is that even acceptable? | 0:20:41 | 0:20:44 | |
I think it's always a tricky thing, | 0:20:47 | 0:20:50 | |
differentiating between excuses and understanding. | 0:20:50 | 0:20:54 | |
Maybe, you haven't... | 0:20:54 | 0:20:57 | |
I guess deeply understood | 0:20:57 | 0:21:00 | |
the impact that these awful losses have on you. | 0:21:00 | 0:21:04 | |
Often there is an emptiness in people's lives that they fill up | 0:21:07 | 0:21:11 | |
either by being over busy or overeating. | 0:21:11 | 0:21:14 | |
They don't stay with the underlying feelings. | 0:21:14 | 0:21:17 | |
I think that is what has happened to Cara in the last year. | 0:21:17 | 0:21:21 | |
Although Cara's recent bereavement has prevented | 0:21:27 | 0:21:30 | |
her from reaching her target weight, her family's progress has continued. | 0:21:30 | 0:21:34 | |
I suppose the children have been sheltered from how I'm feeling | 0:21:36 | 0:21:40 | |
and my emotions at the minute. | 0:21:40 | 0:21:42 | |
Today isn't all about problems. It is about celebrating their success. | 0:21:42 | 0:21:47 | |
That was part of the motivation for coming back and doing another show, | 0:21:47 | 0:21:51 | |
to show people that young children can do, it can be done. | 0:21:51 | 0:21:55 | |
It is a massive task for children of that age to shed two stone. | 0:21:55 | 0:21:59 | |
Dr Rachel has an idea. | 0:22:01 | 0:22:03 | |
Working together she introduces the thought of a family first aid kit to | 0:22:03 | 0:22:08 | |
remind them of the support they gave to each other in difficult times. | 0:22:08 | 0:22:12 | |
Cara, what do you think it is that | 0:22:12 | 0:22:15 | |
Ryan might do that helped you when you're feeling low or upset? | 0:22:15 | 0:22:18 | |
He would wait till it's quite and everyone else and come to me | 0:22:18 | 0:22:21 | |
and say, "What's wrong, Mummy?" | 0:22:21 | 0:22:24 | |
So asking how somebody is. | 0:22:24 | 0:22:28 | |
It sounds like you're really thoughtful about it, you take your time | 0:22:28 | 0:22:31 | |
-and pick the right moment. -Yes. | 0:22:31 | 0:22:35 | |
What does Johnny do that helps you? | 0:22:37 | 0:22:40 | |
When knows that I'm having a bad day, or a bad time, he would make a healthy lunch and bring it down | 0:22:40 | 0:22:45 | |
to work without saying he was coming down. | 0:22:45 | 0:22:48 | |
So that I wouldn't go out and make the wrong food choices at lunchtime. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:52 | |
-Wow! -I think we'll work as a team. | 0:22:52 | 0:22:55 | |
I think the two children are in that team. | 0:22:55 | 0:22:58 | |
But I think really, the three of us have to support her, | 0:22:58 | 0:23:02 | |
because she has done it for you two. | 0:23:02 | 0:23:05 | |
Just for a wee while, we have to do that for Cara. | 0:23:05 | 0:23:10 | |
'It was just incredible to see how many things that they've had to cope with. | 0:23:11 | 0:23:17 | |
'But also how many ideas they've had about how to do that and to stay strong as a family.' | 0:23:17 | 0:23:23 | |
I'd like you to help me, Ryan, by just ripping the page off, | 0:23:23 | 0:23:27 | |
folding it up and putting it inside this first aid kit box. | 0:23:27 | 0:23:32 | |
'I'm hoping by them taking away the first aid kit,' | 0:23:32 | 0:23:35 | |
there will always be a remainder of the things | 0:23:35 | 0:23:38 | |
they can all use to support each other, especially in really difficult times. | 0:23:38 | 0:23:43 | |
I know now that my emotions are quite high and I am not OK. | 0:23:44 | 0:23:50 | |
And that I do need help. | 0:23:51 | 0:23:53 | |
Maybe they'll inspire me and motivate me. | 0:23:53 | 0:23:57 | |
It's the end of the reunion in Armagh, have the families | 0:23:57 | 0:24:01 | |
got the answers now to get them back on track? | 0:24:01 | 0:24:04 | |
The two days of being in Amanda's company has given us a kick up the backside, | 0:24:06 | 0:24:11 | |
that I need as a mum too to try and think healthy choices for dinner. | 0:24:11 | 0:24:15 | |
She is reinforcing things we learned the first time round | 0:24:15 | 0:24:20 | |
and maybe have forgotten about. | 0:24:20 | 0:24:22 | |
It's really good to catch up where everybody is | 0:24:22 | 0:24:25 | |
and how they are feeling. | 0:24:25 | 0:24:27 | |
We've realised a lot. | 0:24:29 | 0:24:32 | |
In many ways I don't think it will ever be completed, it'll be a life long thing, you know... | 0:24:32 | 0:24:37 | |
But it becomes easier. | 0:24:37 | 0:24:38 | |
We have the experience, | 0:24:38 | 0:24:40 | |
we've all the knowledge that we need we don't really need the experts. | 0:24:40 | 0:24:45 | |
We can continue this own. | 0:24:45 | 0:24:47 | |
We've sorted the children out so this year will be about me getting myself sorted out. | 0:24:47 | 0:24:52 | |
Meeting the others again has been the boost Isobel and Nick have been craving. | 0:24:59 | 0:25:03 | |
While their weight loss is minimal they have now introduced | 0:25:03 | 0:25:07 | |
healthy eating and exercise into their lives. | 0:25:07 | 0:25:10 | |
I feel 1,000% better than I used to. | 0:25:11 | 0:25:15 | |
There is much more va-va-voom, if you like. | 0:25:15 | 0:25:19 | |
It can only get better from here on in. | 0:25:19 | 0:25:21 | |
I don't think I'm ever going to like it, | 0:25:23 | 0:25:25 | |
but it's not as much of a hardship. | 0:25:25 | 0:25:28 | |
This time round, there's definitely something clicked there that'll keep me at it. | 0:25:28 | 0:25:32 | |
We went on holiday in France and as hard as it was, | 0:25:35 | 0:25:38 | |
you know, I never had one croissant. | 0:25:38 | 0:25:42 | |
There has been a distinct change in the way we shop and cook and eat. | 0:25:42 | 0:25:47 | |
When we were in France, I was drinking a whole lot more water | 0:25:47 | 0:25:51 | |
than I had been doing and I actually could feel more energetic. | 0:25:51 | 0:25:54 | |
Peer pressure is very hard with children. That's the hardest bit. | 0:25:59 | 0:26:03 | |
It is not fair that other people can eat what they want. | 0:26:03 | 0:26:07 | |
I think that as well, you know. | 0:26:08 | 0:26:10 | |
Since the reunion Cara's determination has been at an all time high. | 0:26:12 | 0:26:16 | |
She has managed to lose more than two stone with the help of her | 0:26:16 | 0:26:20 | |
personal trainer Tony. | 0:26:20 | 0:26:21 | |
When I came into the gym six weeks ago, | 0:26:21 | 0:26:24 | |
I didn't even think I could even walk on the treadmill | 0:26:24 | 0:26:26 | |
and Tony reassured me from the minute I walked through the door, | 0:26:26 | 0:26:29 | |
that if had his hands into me for a couple of weeks I'd be flying. | 0:26:29 | 0:26:34 | |
His style works for me. Some people would call it harassment. | 0:26:34 | 0:26:37 | |
It's actually now Cara saying to me "Shall we go to the gym?" when I don't want to go. | 0:26:40 | 0:26:45 | |
There's a different focus this time, it is | 0:26:47 | 0:26:49 | |
Cara taking care of herself. | 0:26:49 | 0:26:51 | |
Cara's always had the focus, but life sometimes throws up things | 0:26:51 | 0:26:55 | |
to people that they can't deal with for a while. | 0:26:55 | 0:27:00 | |
I know where I want to be, right down to the pound now | 0:27:00 | 0:27:03 | |
and I am striving to that goal. | 0:27:03 | 0:27:05 | |
I suppose I am getting great inspiration from the children | 0:27:05 | 0:27:10 | |
and Johnny. | 0:27:10 | 0:27:12 | |
I couldn't see the wood for the trees before that. | 0:27:12 | 0:27:16 | |
The kids have kept themselves on track. It's their determination too. | 0:27:16 | 0:27:19 | |
Ryan says, "I'm going swimming" then Ellie says she doesn't. | 0:27:19 | 0:27:22 | |
Or the next day Ellie says she's going and the two of them go. It's that helping each other. | 0:27:22 | 0:27:28 | |
Rosie and Ellen are no longer focused on just weight. | 0:27:38 | 0:27:42 | |
They are applying what they have learned to all aspects of their lives. | 0:27:42 | 0:27:46 | |
It's hard sometimes to keep focused, | 0:27:46 | 0:27:51 | |
yeah, in your normal everyday life. | 0:27:51 | 0:27:53 | |
Sometimes you find things slip away a wee bit. | 0:27:53 | 0:27:56 | |
I think we have both learned some very good habits from the | 0:27:56 | 0:28:00 | |
experience and we've kept them in our lives just naturally now. | 0:28:00 | 0:28:04 | |
I don't know, it's changed my life | 0:28:07 | 0:28:09 | |
and I am really excited to see what's ahead of me. | 0:28:09 | 0:28:13 | |
The motivation can't really come just from wanting to be thin. | 0:28:13 | 0:28:17 | |
The problems that you had will still be there, | 0:28:19 | 0:28:22 | |
so it's got to be a holistic approach to the whole thing, | 0:28:22 | 0:28:25 | |
the head has to be right and the body really will follow on. | 0:28:25 | 0:28:29 | |
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