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# When I was young

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# I never needed anyone... #

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Staying in on your own on the weekends, it's not fun.

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You know, staying in, watching X Factor on a Saturday night

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is pretty shit.

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Staying in and watching a film on your own is pretty shit.

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Staying in and having a Chinese on your own is pretty shit.

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MICROWAVE BEEPS

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I've been single for about a year now and, don't get me wrong,

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single life has its perks but it also can get really boring.

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I mean, like, I enjoy staying in,

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I really do but it's only good if you've got company.

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I mean, I'm fed up of being on my own on Sundays on a hangover.

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Everybody likes a cwtch

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and I'm fed up of cwtching my packet of crisps on Sundays.

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# All by myself... #

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So, my friends have said to me, "Why don't you try online dating?"

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A few of them are on there, some of them got mixed reviews,

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some of them have fallen in love and some of them haven't,

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some of them have said it's just full of creeps.

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But, you know, I'm 26, I'm still young,

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I'm going to try and give the social media dating app a go

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and, you know, I could find love but I doubt it

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but we'll see.

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Wish me luck.

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# Don't wanna be all by myself any more... #

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I'm Hayley Pearce,

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you know, the tea lady from BBC Three's The Call Centre.

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I'm a fairly typical twentysomething from the Valleys,

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just trying to get by and make sense of it all.

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'It's a typical Saturday night in Swansea

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'and, tonight, I'm out with my mates, heading to my favourite bar.'

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Shall we all have shots?

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Can we have a shot, shot of anything?

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-Not sambuca!

-Tequila!

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Here we go.

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MUSIC: Candy Shop by 50 Cent

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'Before internet dating came along,

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'this is where you came to cop off or look for love -

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'the big night out.

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'But now, if you're on the pull, things have changed.'

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-Good night tonight, girls.

-Yeah, it was.

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-Really good, wasn't it?

-Really fun.

-Thing is, all same faces

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all the time in Swansea, weren't it?

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You've been dancing with lads all night though.

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I was only dancing, come on.

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That's the problem, when you come to Swansea all the time,

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-you always see the same faces.

-I know, it is, isn't it?

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It's like it's either, like, your mate's ex or you're friends

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-or you're related some way or another.

-You know them all.

-Yeah!

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'No wonder pulling's got harder.'

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MUSIC: Boys And Girls by will.i.am featuring Pia Mia

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These days, fewer and fewer young, free and singles

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are hitting bars to hook up.

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Dating's gone digital and with the launch of a new breed of apps,

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it's gone mobile too.

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Over seven million of us now turn to technology for help to find love.

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And an estimated one in four relationships now start online.

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For a young and connected generation,

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the future of dating is finding love on the go.

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I've always been quite old school when it comes to looking for love

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but I've now decided to join the online dating revolution.

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So, for the next month,

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I'm signing up to one of the UK's most popular apps.

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First things first, time to create the dreaded profile.

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MUSIC: I'm Every Woman by Whitney Houston

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Well, I think I've went a little bit overboard with the selfies.

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It's kind of harder than it seems, mind, because, I mean,

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you know, what kind of pictures do I put up?

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I don't want to go...

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Do I go classy, do I go sexy?

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Do I go funny, do I go sophisticated?

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Do I go party girl?

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I don't want to have too much boob on show just in case they think,

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you know, I'm that type of girl.

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I don't want to look too mad just in case they think, "Nutjob!"

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I don't know what to do. How many do you put up?

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According to a recent survey,

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guys spent just 58 seconds judging a profile

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so I've got to get mine spot-on.

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Otherwise I might never get any matches.

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'Miranda Bishop, an online profile expert, has got some killer tips.'

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-Right, so let's start with my picture.

-OK.

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Lots of wine.

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-Do you...?

-Tried to look sophisticated with a book.

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-I do not read though.

-Right, OK.

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This is a lovely picture of you

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but you can't see half of your face because your sunglasses are on.

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So what you want to do is just pick something that you can see,

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I always say eyes, teeth and hands.

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It's a kind of subconscious thing that people feel like

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-they know you better...

-Right.

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..or they feel like they can trust you straightaway.

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-There's a bit of a pout going on there.

-Yeah.

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And, according to a study,

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96% of people say that they much prefer seeing

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like a big cheesy grin rather than a pout.

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So I pout now and again because I've got a cheesy smile.

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OK.

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OK. You've got loads of pictures of you, like, doubled up.

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-Yes, it's just an app.

-OK.

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But it kind of looks like either that you've, like, got a twin

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-or that you like seeing a lot of yourself.

-Oh, God!

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-So maybe just stick to, like, the one.

-OK.

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-Yeah, yeah, maybe say that you don't have a twin.

-OK.

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-You've got loads of these, actually.

-OK!

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Well, that was, like, mixed reviews. I'm happy with that, that's fine.

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-OK.

-Now I need you to look at my bio though.

-Yup.

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What have you got? So you've got,

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"26 years old, fun-loving, party girl."

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I would say that maybe that's a little bit of a cliche.

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'That's a bit harsh, isn't it?'

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Lots of people would say that they're fun-loving

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-or they like to go out, they like to party.

-I really am though.

-OK!

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But I like the fact that you've got loads of your hobbies

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in here as well. It helps people strike up a conversation with you

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in the first place. So, yeah.

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And finishes off with you make a cracking cup of tea,

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again, brilliant. Cos that just sums you up, doesn't it?

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-So it's all good, yeah?

-Yeah, I think it's all right, yeah.

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-Good. Right, let's see how I get off now, then.

-OK, cool.

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MUSIC: Girlfriend by NSYNC

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'So, just a few tweaks to my profile and I'm up for grabs.

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'Time to start swiping for guys.

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'And hopefully match with some of them.'

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No.

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No. No.

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Definitely no.

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He's all right.

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My first reaction to this dating app is I feel quite judgmental, right?

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Because I'm swiping way more left than I am right

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and left means you're not interested, you know,

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you don't fancy them. But who am I to judge?

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At the end of the day, these guys could have cracking personalities.

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All I know for sure is this thing is full-on.

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24 hours of swiping and things already looking promising.

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So I've had a few matches

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but there's one in particular but I'm quite interested in.

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He's very good-looking, he's a model, his name's Conway

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and he's invited me out for dinner Friday.

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So I think I'm going to take the plunge

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and I'm going to go for it and just see how it goes, really, isn't it?

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It's going to be my first-ever online date.

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He sounds perfect but is it too good to be true?

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For those of us looking for love online,

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being conned by fake profiles or being catfished

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is something many of us worry about.

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It's estimated that one in ten of all online dating profiles are fake.

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-Hey, girls.

-Hiya.

-Hello.

-You OK?

-Yeah.

-I believe you've got...

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'Serial swipers Kim and Sue from South Wales

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'found that out the hard way

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'and I've come to meet them to get the lowdown

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'before tomorrow's big date.'

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So something I am really paranoid about, girls, is being catfished.

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Have any of you ever been catfished or you know any stories?

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-Kim?

-Never been catfished,

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-but somebody used me to catfish somebody.

-Oh, my God.

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I was in work one Tuesday afternoon

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and I get this really random message from this guy.

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It turns out that "I" had been speaking to him

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-for, like, three months.

-Oh, that's awful.

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-He'd fallen in love with me, well, not me but...

-Yeah.

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..Sophie, Sophie Evans was the girl's name.

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She had taken every post that I'd put up on Facebook

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that just happened to be public and created this whole little life.

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She'd literally been stealing my photos.

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-It's freaky, though, isn't it?

-Yeah.

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To know that she was obviously stalking your page.

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I was so angry that someone had done that.

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-It's a minefield out there.

-Oh, it is, yeah.

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We've, sort of, as we've gone on, we've learned, haven't we?

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-Yeah. I've got a massive block list.

-Really?

-Yeah.

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-Why's that?

-Just the messages.

-Like what, though?

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I've been told that some of them are shocking.

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A couple of days ago, he sent me a message saying,

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-"Hi, I'm nine inches."

-Yeah.

-OK, that's how he started off?

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-And it can be just "bum fun".

-Yeah.

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What about that guy that asked you to put bread in your shoes?

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In my shoes! "Would you do this for me?" he said.

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"Put bread in your shoes, walk around all day

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-"and then make me eat it."

-What?

-Yeah. He was blocked straightaway.

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I can't cope.

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I can't... What's wrong with them all, like?

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THEY LAUGH

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When I pluck up the courage to actually go on a date,

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-they never turn up.

-What?

-They don't turn up. Stand me up.

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Oh, see if that happens to me, I will die, mind. Oh, my God.

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How many times have you been stood up?

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-Oh, more times than they've turned up.

-Yeah.

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-Blown right out, you mean?

-Yeah, literally!

-So funny.

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-So it's like, "Next!"

-Yeah.

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THEY LAUGH

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'Oh, my God. What have I let myself in for?

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'Guess I'm soon going to find out.

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'It's Friday night and I'm on my way to meet my online date Conway

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'and my nerves are getting the better of me.'

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Not going to lie, absolutely shitting myself.

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Not even lying, seriously, heart palpitating, the lot,

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overthinking, overthinking how I sit, how I walk, do I eat,

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do I kiss him on two cheeks, do I kiss him once

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or do I just wait for him, do I shake his hand?

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Totally overthinking everything

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and all of this is because you guys are there,

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camera crew are there, it's as simple as that.

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So I'm just going to try and go with the flow.

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Everyone knows that I'm quite chatty and outgoing

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and loud and talkative.

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I'm either going to talk my way through it to the punt

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because I'm so nervous and just overtalking,

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just kill it because I'm just scared.

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Or I'm literally going to freeze and not say anything.

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-Hey. Hi, you all right?

-How's it going, how are you doing?

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-All right?

-Nice to meet you.

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Oh, my God.

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I'm shitting myself.

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At least you are who you are.

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-At least I am who I am.

-Yeah.

-I turned up.

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-Do you know what you want?

-No.

-Why don't you have steak?

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Man has steak and girl has chicken, don't they?

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-So you've decided my food for me now.

-Yeah.

-Jesus!

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Yeah, but you'll like it and you can have some of mine,

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-see, I'm a nice girl.

-Of course I'm going to like steak.

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You were an entertaining tea lady.

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-I don't regret being a tea lady, mind.

-Eh?

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I don't regret being a tea lady.

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-No, you were entertaining.

-Oh, well, do you know what?

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I'm lucky to have you here now. If you watched The Call Centre

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and you're still on a date with me

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cos that was years ago and I was like...

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I've grown-up a lot since then.

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-Oh, my God, am I talking too much? Am I?

-Relax, relax.

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The food.

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-Chicken and mashed potato.

-Thank you.

-You're very welcome.

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-And then we've got our steak there.

-Thank you very much.

-Perfect.

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-Enjoy your food, guys.

-Thank you.

-Thank you.

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Look how awkward I eat.

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Look, I go like that, like a child.

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"Ah! Choo-choo-choo!"

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I will be honest and say I was glad that you actually had the confidence

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to have a date with me on camera.

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You've made me feel so, so relaxed tonight.

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Whether you're doing this on camera, I don't know but we'll see.

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We'll see.

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Will we see? We will see?

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Will we see? Will you see me again?

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-I would actually, yes.

-Would you?

-I would.

-Why?

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-Because you're nice.

-I am nice.

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And genuine. You're literally...

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Take you as you are.

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-You're not hiding nothing.

-I'm not hiding anything.

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I am, I am hiding a bit of nerves.

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Yeah, but you're not hiding nothing.

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You're not withholding anything, of your personality or any traits.

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-No, no.

-It's good.

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I'm just playing it smooth.

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'She's completely open and what you see is what you get.'

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She likes to talk a little bit but, yeah,

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she's really a nice girl, genuine.

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-So I'm reds, then, obviously, yeah?

-You're reds.

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She's got a very nice smile.

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Very nice.

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HE LAUGHS I'll just hit and wish.

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Oh, fuck. Shit.

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He's made me feel really comfortable,

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it's flowing, there's no awkward silences.

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So maybe this dating shit ain't so bad.

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Do I think I'll see her again?

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Yeah, I think...

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you know, have another date or coffee or...

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even a shopping date.

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Will I see him again? I think so.

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Aw.

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I don't know.

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Maybe this is the wine talking, but watch this space.

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# Let's talk about sex, baby

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# Let's talk about you and me

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# Let's talk about sex

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# Uh-huh. #

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Dating apps might have changed how straight guys and

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girls meet, but they've completely transformed the gay dating scene.

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# You got that thing that I've been looking for... #

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The most popular app, Grindr,

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has over 1.5 million daily users,

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with each spending, on average, more than two hours every day online.

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-Hey.

-Hey, you OK?

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Ready to take some photos?

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'I've come to meet fashion photographer Robbie Simonette,

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'who's been using gay dating apps

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'since he first came out six years ago.'

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HE LAUGHS

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Right, enough snaps, Rob.

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I want to know about your experience with online dating.

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Is it like the straight apps, then?

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Like you swipe and you match up, or how does it work?

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They are designed by location.

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So you have a grid of guys, different profile pictures,

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and they're all ordered closest to you and furthest away.

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And then you can just literally text them and be, like, "Oi, oi"?

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SHE CLICKS HER TONGUE

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Yeah, depending on what you want.

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If you're interested in that sort of thing,

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you can just pick up someone.

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If you're looking for just fun, or just a bit of sex - like that.

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So you're telling me that you can find someone online,

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and within minutes, you could be meeting them to have sex?

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Yeah, pretty much.

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-Seconds, in some cases, I'm sure.

-HE LAUGHS

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-Seconds?

-Yeah.

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There's not necessarily because gays are more promiscuous at all.

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-The gay apps facilitate that more.

-Yeah?

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It becomes a bit of a culture, and before you know it,

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they'll be on their lunch breaks at work using Grindr

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to meet up with people

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-in the half-hour they have for a snack, or...

-No.

-"Snack."

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I've got a friend that slept with five in a day.

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-Five in a day?

-Yeah, yeah.

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So you've been on it a number of years now -

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would you say it's a good thing or a bad thing?

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It completely depends - I think it's both.

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I haven't fallen in love on there,

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but I have found some quite fruitful relationships and friendships.

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Back in the day, before apps, like, gay men

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-would have to congregate in the gay clubs, of course.

-Yeah.

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And then, the kind of arrive of apps has meant

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that there's no need for gay men to go to these places any more.

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-Right.

-So there's less of a scene for it.

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But at the same time, especially for people that aren't able to go out,

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-or aren't as outgoing...

-Yeah.

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..it's a complete godsend, definitely.

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They're a bit of a launchpad for every young gay guy, I'm assuming.

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I know that I definitely used apps before actually coming out.

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It's social, at the end of the day.

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Anything that connects people, that's good,

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but if you use it in the wrong way, erm,

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then it can be quite detrimental.

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It can have quite a bad effect.

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So it seems this online dating can be a minefield,

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whatever app you use.

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But for now, I'm going to keep swiping,

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as I haven't yet found my Mr Right.

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So it's been a couple of days since the date with Conway,

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and we have spoken since.

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We did mention about going on a coffee date and that.

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Like, he's such a good-looking guy.

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And, yeah, I do fancy him.

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But I don't think anything will come from it, cos he's better looking

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than me, for God sake. I can't be dealing with that -

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I'd be so insecure. And, like, he's a model.

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He takes more photos of himself than what I do.

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I like a man to be a man's man, you know?

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So I just think it'll probably fade into a friendship or something.

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It can't be true love every time.

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But after two weeks online, I've only been on one date.

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Am I being too picky?

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I mean, how can we really know who we're compatible with

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unless we meet them?

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'I might need to up my game.

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'So I'm coming to meet self-styled Tinder king Adam Ledner,

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'who's had far more success than most at online dating.'

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So how many girls were you actually seeing at once, then?

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-Sort of...

-Or messaging them?

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I was messaging quite a few -

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probably talking like 20-30.

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-All at once time?

-All at one time.

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It's just... It's a numbers game, really.

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So if you plant 100 seeds, one of them's going to grow.

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Because I knew there'd be 20-30 potential other people after them,

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it was sort of my thing to step up the game, really.

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So get off Tinder as quick as possible, really.

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So I would sort of aim to be off Tinder within ten messages.

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And have their phone number within ten messages,

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and then start calling them then.

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I sort of saw it as an opportunity, really, to perfect my chat, really.

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And then it would sort of get to the stage where I could say...

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It'd sort of be like a script at a call centre, in effect.

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If they said this, I would say that.

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So how many times were you actually swiping right, then?

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Because I find that I'm actually not interested, not interested,

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not interested before I find someone that's hot.

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For me, if there's slight potential, then I will swipe right,

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so probably about 70% of the time.

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'In just five months,

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'Adam racked up over 200 matches before finding the one.'

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Honey, I'm home.

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'But now, he's done with all that.'

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-Hello.

-Hi, nice to meet you.

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You must be Bianca? Nice to meet you.

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Hiya. I'm sorry.

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'Just over a year after meeting online,'

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Adam and Bianca got married and had a son - little baby Brock.

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So did he ever he ever wine and dine you

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seeing as you were the special one?

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-Did he hell!

-No?

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-Yeah, it was more just like casual.

-Netflix and chill?

-Yeah, you know?

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But I'm not doing that - I want to get wined and dined.

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But that would be the thing - I would actually have to take some

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and wine and dine them, which would be slightly annoying,

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-cos obviously...

-You didn't want that?

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Obviously, they're not going to put out on the first sort of thing, so.

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-It would be...

-I hope you did, then? Did you? Yeah, you did!

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Yeah. Standard.

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No, you definitely are Mr and Mrs Tinder, let's be honest.

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And it's no nice to see a nice little love story here.

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-Romance is not dead.

-Yeah.

-Well, maybe, I don't know.

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# Let's go out and be wild Do it while we can

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# Do, do

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# Running free in the world We got all weekend

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# Do, do

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# Tear up, take it down... #

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Adam and Bianca's story has given me hope that my Prince Charming

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could still be out there.

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I've come to my mates Danielle's house

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to check out some profiles.

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'And while I'm here, I can't resist but share with her some of the

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'more extreme ways men have been trying to get my attention.'

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-So...I got some sleaze.

-What's this?

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Look at this one. This one, look what he sent me.

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All right, are you ready for this?

0:22:000:22:01

Why did he send these? Straight away, he sent a dick pic, like.

0:22:010:22:04

-Oh!

-Watch.

0:22:040:22:06

Right, be prepared. Be prepared.

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Oh, my God!

0:22:090:22:11

Know what he said? That's the second one he sent.

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SHE GASPS

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And that's the one that's soft.

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It's like a third leg.

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Aw! Why do they do that?

0:22:190:22:22

I don't know. He was like,

0:22:220:22:23

-"You'll be in a wheelchair after I finish with you."

-Aw!

-I know.

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You wouldn't meet someone in real life and they go, "By the way, look at this."

0:22:270:22:30

I know, exactly!

0:22:300:22:31

Exactly, so why do they feel the need to just send it? I know.

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'Three weeks into my online dating experience,

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'and one thing I have learned is that some guys have

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a very different approach to it than us girls.'

0:22:410:22:43

-No.

-No.

0:22:430:22:45

-BOTH:

-No.

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'But I'm not giving up just yet.'

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Tomorrow, I'm meeting one of my matches

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for a date with a difference.

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So I'm here today to meet Ben.

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Obviously, someone I met online.

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I've been chatting to him for a couple of days now.

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He seems cool.

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I'm quite excited today because, obviously, it's a horse riding date.

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I've never done this before.

0:23:180:23:21

See how it goes.

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And if it goes tits-up, then I know I've got a getaway with my horse.

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"Giddy-up, boy!"

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-SHE LAUGHS

-Hey, you.

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-Hey.

-Hey, how are you?

-All right.

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-So are you nervous?

-Yeah.

-Have you done this before?

0:23:430:23:45

-I have rode a horse before.

-Yeah?

-Yeah.

0:23:450:23:48

How old were you then?

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Erm, about four years ago?

0:23:490:23:51

-OK, so you should know what to do, then?

-A little bit. Why, have you?

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Come and show me how to do it.

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-Have you rode a horse?

-Once, when I was a little boy...

-OK.

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-..and I was no good then.

-Shall I take the stallion, then?

0:23:570:23:59

-No, that's my one.

-Ha! OK.

0:23:590:24:01

-Just try this one on you.

-Yeah.

0:24:030:24:05

Is that comfy?

0:24:050:24:07

-OK, is that comfy?

-I can't breathe. It's a bit tight.

0:24:070:24:09

Just do it up a bit.

0:24:090:24:10

Perfect.

0:24:130:24:15

Let's go!

0:24:150:24:16

It's OK.

0:24:160:24:18

-It's OK.

-So when you get on,

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-you want to put your left foot in the stirrup.

-Right.

0:24:200:24:22

I'll just make sure my arse crack's not out now.

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Ready?

0:24:240:24:26

Oh, my arse crack's definitely... I can't reach it.

0:24:260:24:29

I can't get up. I actually can't get up.

0:24:290:24:32

Do you want a hand? Let me come over now - let me help you up.

0:24:320:24:34

SHE LAUGHS

0:24:340:24:35

Go on, then.

0:24:350:24:37

Oh, my God, this is going to be a disaster.

0:24:370:24:39

-There, up.

-Shit.

0:24:390:24:41

I'm going to push your arse up now.

0:24:410:24:43

THEY LAUGH

0:24:430:24:44

Second base!

0:24:440:24:46

-You're on.

-SHE LAUGHS

0:24:460:24:48

Oh, God, thank you.

0:24:480:24:49

Oh, yes! THEY LAUGH

0:24:510:24:53

Oh, my God, I'm off. I'm off.

0:24:530:24:54

Come on, giddy-up. SHE LAUGHS

0:24:540:24:57

Why have I got someone guiding me and you haven't?

0:24:570:24:59

-Cos he's got a mind of his own.

-Oh, great, I got a nuts one, like.

0:24:590:25:02

Like you.

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SHE IMITATES CLIP-CLOPS

0:25:080:25:09

No. I don't know what you say.

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I don't know what you say to a horse.

0:25:110:25:14

-Come on, come on.

-Harder.

0:25:140:25:16

Oh, no! Oh, oh, oh.

0:25:160:25:18

THEY LAUGH

0:25:180:25:20

Come on, come on!

0:25:200:25:21

SHE LAUGHS Ow!

0:25:230:25:25

That should have worked, shouldn't it?

0:25:290:25:31

We should have raced, shouldn't we?

0:25:310:25:33

They must get so bored of eating grass all day.

0:25:330:25:35

-No, cos that's what they eat, isn't it?

-Yeah, but...

0:25:350:25:37

-It's not like they want a cooked breakfast.

-Come on.

0:25:370:25:39

-SHE CLICKS HER TONGUE

-OK, go.

0:25:390:25:41

Do you know...? Do you know horses, they love Polos?

0:25:430:25:46

I was trying to make him go faster. Come on, guys.

0:25:460:25:48

What did she say not to say? What was the word not to say?

0:25:480:25:51

-"Gallop."

-Gallop! Gallop!

-Gallop. Come on!

0:25:510:25:54

You're meant to be a stallion. Come on, like.

0:25:540:25:56

Oh, oh, oh!

0:25:560:25:58

Trot. Trot. Trot.

0:25:580:25:59

What, what, what. Hey, hey. Hup!

0:25:590:26:02

Oh, my fanny's killin'. SHE LAUGHS

0:26:020:26:05

-Oh.

-Good girl, good girl, good girl.

0:26:050:26:07

Good girl, good girl.

0:26:070:26:08

Oh, look.

0:26:080:26:09

-Woohoo!

-Come on, follow your brother.

0:26:090:26:11

SHE PANTS Phew!

0:26:110:26:14

'Well, that was hysterical.

0:26:140:26:15

'I've got to be honest, I thought I could ride a horse until

0:26:150:26:18

'I jumped on the crazy one.

0:26:180:26:19

'Like, my horse was more interested in eating the grass.'

0:26:190:26:22

You know, it just wouldn't move.

0:26:220:26:24

And then, when I started going for it, I was like, "Oh, God. Titties.

0:26:240:26:27

"Titties!"

0:26:270:26:28

I should have wore a sports bra. I should have wore a sports bra.

0:26:280:26:31

-Come on.

-Yes, yes. Ah! Ah! SHE LAUGHS

0:26:310:26:33

It was a good evening. Shame it was so short.

0:26:350:26:37

It would have been nice to do some more.

0:26:370:26:39

But, no, it was good fun.

0:26:390:26:41

She's not as crazy as I thought, actually.

0:26:410:26:43

SHE GRUNTS AND LAUGHS

0:26:430:26:45

Oh! Oh! Oh!

0:26:450:26:47

Will I see her again? Yes, I would.

0:26:470:26:49

He seems like a really nice guy. He seems like a gent.

0:26:500:26:54

I think if I go for a little drink with him now, then

0:26:540:26:56

I'll get to know more of his personality.

0:26:560:26:58

I've never done anything like that before.

0:27:010:27:03

So let's be honest, like, you know,

0:27:030:27:05

if we go on another date again in the future,

0:27:050:27:08

with you - or with anyone else, I'm just saying -

0:27:080:27:11

I don't think nothing can top that. That was cute.

0:27:110:27:14

-Fair play, you did good.

-Yeah?

0:27:140:27:16

-Yeah, cheers.

-Cheers.

-Thank you. No problem.

0:27:160:27:18

That's a date I'll remember. HE LAUGHS

0:27:180:27:20

Whether you're looking for love, a fling, or just casual sex,

0:27:350:27:40

online dating seems to have something for everyone.

0:27:400:27:43

After four weeks of playing the online dating game,

0:27:470:27:50

I'm now officially off the app.

0:27:500:27:53

And to be honest, it's such a relief.

0:27:530:27:56

It's a numbers game, and one that I found exhausting.

0:27:560:28:00

The constant swiping and messaging

0:28:000:28:02

meant that I was always on my phone, even more than normal.

0:28:020:28:05

It was taking over my life.

0:28:050:28:07

And anyway, I think I'm just an old-fashioned

0:28:070:28:11

one guy kind of girl.

0:28:110:28:12

I'm glad I tried it,

0:28:140:28:15

because now I know it's not for me.

0:28:150:28:18

So I'm just going to delete it now. Bye-bye,

0:28:180:28:21

you dirty, little, slutty app.

0:28:210:28:23

So I'm back hitting the town with my mates,

0:28:250:28:28

looking for Mr Right the old school way.

0:28:280:28:30

And if it happens, it happens.

0:28:300:28:32

# So don't let this be our final song

0:28:320:28:34

# So don't let this be our final song... #

0:28:350:28:37

And will I see Ben again?

0:28:370:28:39

We'll see.

0:28:400:28:42

# Before you say the night is over

0:28:420:28:44

# I want you to know

0:28:440:28:46

# That we gotta, gotta carry on

0:28:460:28:49

# So don't let this be our final song

0:28:490:28:52

# Take us to a higher ground... #

0:28:540:28:56

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