Christian Strictly Soulmates

Finding love is hard at the best of times...

I would love to settle down,

but I'm not one of those people that needs to have a boyfriend.

-You're a 21st-century women?

-No, not at all!

..but when you're young, single and religious,

-it's a whole other ball game.

-In the Koran,

it actually, specifically states that men and women aren't even to be in the same room.

If you could meet your ideal Jewish person, what would it be?

-Full head of hair.

-Excellent(!)

There's pressure to get married,

especially when you're the last one to be married and going to the last wedding.

Tonight, we're following three Christians

on their journey to find love.

It's just saying, "OK, God, I'd like to meet somebody. I'll do my part".

God has the ability to plop this man down from the sky,

but I'm worried he might be really ugly!

We find out what happens when you're looking for a wife...

My mum's like, "Son, hurry up. I want some grandchildren".

..but dating doesn't come easy.

I'm a little bit apprehensive, a little bit anxious.

It's been a long time since I've been on a date.

And when you've been devastated by love once before...

It broke my heart. It really did.

..can you ever pick up the pieces and find happiness again?

This potentially could be the person I've been waiting for.

I've never felt like this.

All right. Love you.

Love you, too. I'm going to miss you.

It still kind of feels, like, "OK, am I going to wake up in a minute?"

27-year-old Katy is a born again Christian youth pastor

from Manchester. She's been single

since her engagement broke off five years ago.

Lately, she's been hoping God will find her someone else.

I used to be like, "No, I'm just going to wait.

"I will wait until God finds me the right person".

You know, "Boom, here's a guy!"

I believe that God is the perfect matchmaker.

Whether to be proactive

or whether to just wait and see what God does is the difficulty.

Katy's ex-fiance used to go to her church

and she'd been hoping that's where she'd meet someone new.

The problem is nearly everyone there's a member of her family.

I've kind of realised I've got to go out

and work together with him and say, "OK, God, where is this guy?"

Katy and her fiance broke up just before the wedding.

It's taken her a long time to feel she's ready to meet someone else.

It broke my heart. It really did.

I mean, I struggled with it for a long time afterwards.

We actually booked a reception and actually paid for a wedding dress.

You just prepare yourself for everything that it involves

and for that to be suddenly gone,

that was quite hard to deal with, really.

Erm, yeah, it was a real struggle at that time.

Katy's now trying to put the past behind her.

I know quite a few people who are single

and really happy as a Christian.

Just personally, I want to be married. I want to get married.

Katy may be ready to find love again, but knowing where to find

the Christian man of her dreams is not so easy.

I do need to go out and find...

Well, not go out and find, but go out and try and meet people.

I, personally, wouldn't go to a pub to meet a guy,

because, well, for one, I don't want to meet a guy that drinks.

So, the types of places that I'd probably go

are more places that I'd find godly, Christian guys.

Lots of young Christians meet their partners at church

and today, Katy's going to an evangelical church

in nearby Sheffield with a massive congregation.

Hopefully, it's going to have loads of young people.

It'd be nice to meet quite a few people my own age.

But when she does find her perfect match,

it won't just be the two of them in the relationship.

I think a husband should expect that Jesus would come first

and that he would come second.

That might be quite hard to understand for people

because generally, we talk very much about falling in love

and that person being our number one, but actually,

if Jesus isn't number one, then ultimately,

you're trying to put somebody else in place where he should be.

CONGREGATION SING

Hope City has a congregation of 2,000 and luckily for Katy,

600 of them are under 30.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

You've got a good-sized church here, as well.

You know people are going to be coming.

-You're going to get opportunities to meet somebody.

-Yeah.

Because I only have a small church, I need to spread my wings a bit.

This is what it says in Matthew seven -

"Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find."

So, have you spotted anyone in here this morning

that we can hook you up with?

I haven't really had a look.

-I feel really bad.

-What is wrong with you?!

-I know!

Because I was so focused like this.

See, if you were a guy right now, you'd be very happy

because there are how many great girls to choose from?

-Us girls - limited choice.

-You do have a few guys, though.

We do and most of them are probably married for about six years

cos they all got married at 21 round here.

Yeah, that's the problem in churches. It's like, as soon as you hit an age,

it's like, "You need to get married".

There is more for your life...

With so few single men at the church,

Katy's trip to Sheffield hasn't been as successful as she'd hoped.

You are not on the scrap heap. God has not forgotten about you.

He is placing new dreams in your heart

and you're going to be thinking, "Can I really do that?"

And God says, "Course you can".

27-year-old Richard from London became a Christian when he was 14.

I stand before you today as a born again Christian, as a man that has a love and passion for God.

As a born again Christian, Richard believes God speaks to him directly

and he sees it as his mission to spread the word of God.

I'd like to encourage you to get serious for God

cos he's serious about you.

When he's not flying around the world spreading the gospel,

he's producing, directing and presenting

his very own Christian TV show.

What would you say to young men

that are just trying to find their perfect partner in life?

God is interested in creating power couples for the kingdom of God.

CHEERING

Although Richard would like to meet someone,

he's been single for the last two years.

I think Richard doesn't have a lady at the moment

because he works crazy hours.

Approaching a lady and trying to ask her out for a date,

it doesn't come very natural to me, if I'm being very honest with you.

I actually get very shy.

I see Richard with a really caring person,

really soft person, someone with a really good heart.

The next relationship that I end up being with,

I would certainly hope that's it's right.

I really want it to be the right person for my life.

I love her eyes.

Today, after church, Richard's catching up with his family.

We all have different characters and he's very, very caring.

He's a gentleman.

The kind of woman I see Richard with is, like, blonde hair.

THEY LAUGH

Not fake blonde. Real blonde.

You know, Richard loves his fashion,

so definitely a lady who looks good

and I'm sure Richard will make sure she does, if she doesn't.

Richard's only had one serious relationship in his whole life.

But Richard's mum is keen to see him married as soon as possible.

If Richard's going to keep his mum happy and find himself a wife,

he needs to get out and about more.

So, tonight, he's come to a Christian club night organised by his church.

He's brought his good friend Anna along.

Our families grew up together, so we grew up on the same estate.

He was a lot cuter then.

THEY LAUGH

She's going to get in serious trouble, you know!

It's great having people like Anna

because Anna was saying to me today

that I should spend more time hanging out,

getting out of the office. You're stepping out of your comfort zone.

Can we get a lemon and orange and I'll get a lemonade.

MUSIC: "Ante Up" by MOP

But it soon becomes clear

the Christian club night is not quite what they imagined.

And after less than half an hour, he bails.

It's not really the environment, I guess,

that I would find my life partner

because I would not expect my life partner

to dance around with other guys or her lady friends

in a very sexual way because I certainly would not do that.

The inappropriate way of dancing would be continuous gyrating moves

in a... You know, a girl and a guy facing...

..bum to chest.

Oh, if you've got it, flaunt it. Not really!

It's not cool to drink alcohol,

but that's not really a Christian thing.

I don't think it's cool.

In your relationship, you should try not to kiss passionately

because it naturally leads on to other things,

if you're a good kisser.

Even if you're a bad kisser!

So, if you want to come round this way.

Katy has made a vow not to have sex until she's married.

OK, if we can bring it down a level, girls.

As a youth pastor, she and her best friend Sarah teach workshops

on the Christian views on sex.

Christians can think sex is bad. That is totally wrong.

Sex is a good thing.

Sex was created by God to be enjoyed.

But, that's within marriage.

It's meant for commitment, it's meant for life.

Sex in marriage is supposed to be amazing.

-I don't know cos I'm single.

-I'm married and it's great.

I'm looking forward to that when I'm married, too.

I can say to my husband, "I have waited for you".

Hopefully, Katy won't have to wait too long.

She's been looking online for a while and not had much luck.

So, she's signed up for a Christian speed dating event in London

where single, Christian men should be guaranteed.

This is kind of something completely different

that I would never normally do.

But on the flip side, it's really exciting. Quite looking forward to it, really.

At a speed dating event, it's all about first impressions

and Katy's got to decide what's going to look good and godly.

I wouldn't want to wear probably anything that's too short or too low.

Wouldn't want to give him the wrong impression.

I don't want him to think I'm a bit easy or anything like that.

You love God, so I feel that the way I dress,

is a way to show him that I love him.

Godly outfit sorted, but Katy's got no idea what to expect tonight.

I'm just hoping that conversation is easy and not like pulling teeth.

That would be quite hard.

Does this go?

That is doing my head in.

-Hello, I'm Ben.

-And I'm Katy.

I'd best write that down in case I forget.

There are nearly half a million

single evangelical Christians in the UK.

But sadly, only ten available men have turned up.

So, where have you come from? Cos you're not English.

-Yes.

-You ARE English? Were you born in England?

No, no, I was born in Iran.

Born in Iran. Oh, wow. OK.

I study IT.

Oh, OK.

-If you have any problem with the computer...

-I can come to you!

It was nice to meet you.

Very nice to meet you. Thank you.

-Where is my pencil?

-Oh, have you lost your pencil?

We moved around a lot as kids cos my dad is a minister.

Oh, seriously? My dad's a pastor.

Kind of where I live is on the edge of countryside,

-so I just love going walking, cycling.

-That's nice.

-So, you're quite active, then? You exercise quite a lot?

-I try to!

-Shall I catch you later?

-Yeah, it was nice to meet you.

I feel like I'm marking people. It's awful, isn't it?

What's your name, sorry?

-So, you prefer Dan to Daniel?

-Yes, I do.

So, Katy, let me ask you, if you could go anywhere in the world

and you could do anything you wanted, what would you do?

I'd love to live in California. That would be, like, a dream of mine.

But I don't know what I'd do there.

-I'd probably do the same job.

-What is that?

-A youth pastor.

Voluntarily.

-Nice to meet you.

-It was nice to meet you, too.

-Indeed.

She's met a lot of men, but did any of them tick her boxes?

I'm thinking I've met a lot of people that would make nice friends.

I don't feel like I've met anybody that I would really consider as,

"Ooh, Id like to find out more about that person, really".

Which is a shame.

Am I too fussy? Maybe I'm a bit fussy. I don't know.

You've got to be attracted to them. I'm waiting for the whoosh.

SHE MOUTHS

Yeah, physical attraction is obviously very important,

but isn't that the first sign, that it's the right person for you?

She found me irresistible, and I thought she was OK.

I'm not materialistic, but he could drive a car.

That would be good, cos it's just practical, you know!

I have such weird opinions on what attracts me...

It's going to sound so cheesy, but it's usually someone's heart.

Lorraine is a 27-year-old advertising exec,

who belongs to a Seventh Day

Adventist Church in Ilford, Essex.

She's been single for three years.

My church is mostly older folks,

and mostly females.

Yeah, not many guys.

With eight women to every man in her church,

Lorraine's finding it hard to find ANY man, let alone The One.

There's a lack of, you know...

-Eligible men.

-Eligible men!

Adam was just given Eve, just like that, she was there.

God has the ability to plop this man down from the sky,

but I'm worried he might be really ugly!

He has to be a man of God and easy on the eye, but apart from that, Lorraine's not too fussy.

There is a tick list, but not a lengthy, extensive one.

You know, tall, dark and handsome.

Given the lack of suitable men in her church, Lorraine needs to look

further afield, so tonight she's going on a blind date with Richard.

# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change... #

Pretty slick if I may say, you like that? Yeah? Pretty cool?

# Where everything could change... #

I'm a little bit apprehensive, a little bit anxious.

It's been a long time since I've been on a date.

I can't remember how long it's been, but it's been like, years, a long, long time.

Richard's not sure what to wear.

What IS that, is that a built-in scarf?!

LAUGHTER

-That is a built-in scarf!

-You put it on and...

-Maybe I'll have to see it on.

-Hey!

-Looks good, I like it.

-Do you like it?

-I do, very nice. Nice and cajz.

Nice and cajz.

Definitely smarten it up with one of the jackets.

-A jacket?

-Yep. Really good.

Are you feeling the scarf now? Does it make more sense?

-It does make sense. It sort of looks cool.

-Looks kind of funky!

-I'm warming to it.

# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change... #

So, Richard's got his scarfy thing,

and Lorraine's almost set to go as well.

You don't have to work to impress them, is what I mean.

-I feel stressed out, now.

-Have low expectations!

-Have none!

-He can only pleasantly surprise you!

-Are you going to let him talk?

-I always let people talk.

Yeah, right!

I don't like going on first dates. At all. I hate them.

My last first date...

An interview - felt like I was being interviewed for like...

wife. Your ovaries working? Tick!

# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change

# Tonight's the kind of night where everything could change

# Everything could change. #

Lovely to meet you.

-Great to see you. How are you?

-I'm all right.

Nice! How was your journey here? Was it OK?

-I literally work across... I work in Soho...

-No way!

-Yeah.

-Nice. Lucky you!

-What about you?

-I'm a TV presenter.

-OK.

-Yeah, TV chat shows and stuff...

A lot of like, celebrities, from musicians and songwriters...

As an entree, Richard serves up his CV.

Funny story, right - so...

-I guess for me, I was extremely ambitious in life at a young age...

-OK.

I just had this passion to become a TV presenter, right?

-Yeah.

-I just believe I'm here on this earth to make a difference

-and I just launched a brand-new show called the Richard Kays show.

-OK, yeah, you said.

-And so...

Are you hungry? Cos I'm starving!

-You know what, I am actually hungry!

-I'm going to keep it real!

Thank you, that was really quick.

That looks nice.

Are you a bit of a shopper yourself?

Yeah, I've got issues. I shop way too much.

You sound like my kind of girl, man! It's weird, right - I absolutely love shopping.

-That's not going to be good. We'd be broke!

-Very true!

She likes shopping, but does she have anything else Richard's looking for?

So I have to ask you, can you cook?

I'm not too bad. I don't big up myself too much, but I do like to cook.

-Not too bad?

-I'm good.

-That sounds like, "Course I can cook!"

-Why are you asking?!

-I like to cook. Do you not cook?

-I'm OK.

A lot of people think I can't cook...

-Have you poisoned anyone?

-Sorry?!

No, but my mum isn't favourable on my meals, neither is my family.

Neither is my friends. No, I'm OK! I can cook a really good egg. I can make toast.

-That's what you want your diet to be?

-What's why I need a lady that can cook.

-Yeah, you need a mum!

I think that he's handsome. But I'm a bit more attracted

to his personality than I'd say to him aesthetically...

I just... Oh!

Yes. That is the truth and I'm sticking to it.

Course I would love to settle down,

but I'm not one of those people that needs to have a boyfriend.

-One of these 21st-century women?

-No, not at all! Listen, I'll be in the kitchen,

I'd do all that wifey stuff, but I have been told I come across

like I don't need a man and that's why I haven't got one.

I'm such a slow eater! Look...

-You're practically done, look at me!

-My mum's going to be so ashamed of me! I've just eaten fast.

I'd better go.

As their night draws to an end, is there any real spark between them?

One of those first dates where you chat loads

and it doesn't feel like, "Oh, what time is it now?"

So no, it was nice.

Can I see something happening beyond the date this evening?

I thought that she was absolutely lovely.

You know...

I assume he thinks I'm a nice person,

I think he's lovely too. In terms of romance, I'm not sure.

I don't know, but I don't think there's a spark, necessarily.

I spent a lot of time with her this evening and had a lovely time

having a meal together and we had a lot of banter together.

But in my heart and in my self, she's not what I'm looking for,

she's just not that person, and that's OK,

not everyone's for you.

FAINT MUSIC

# I'm going to stand with courage I won't be discouraged... #

For the last three months, Katy has been juggling life as a youth worker

and Christian dance teacher with her search to find love again.

OK, so... Get my hair out of my face!

So, we shall go from here to link it all together.

# I'm gonna let it shine Little light of mine... #

When I dance, it's not just like, "Oh, I'm dancing", but actually it's a form of worship as well.

# If He did it for me Then He'll do it for you

# He's knocking on the door so what you gonna do?

# This little light of mine... #

Recently, she's booked a week off work so she can spend more time looking for someone.

And she's heading to the Christian Creation Festival in Cornwall.

DANCE MUSIC PLAYS

With 20,000 Christians all in one place, she should have a better chance of finding someone.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

I know you are going through hard times.

God knows you're going through some hard times, but listen - God's got a plan.

If you put your hope in Jesus, that can be a firm and secure hope.

# And every day, you wash my shame away, oh... #

Just when everybody's worshipping,

it's just an amazing feeling, to be honest, because you're all

completely passionate for God, all completely going for it.

# You wash my shame away, oh

MUSIC DROWNS LYRICS

As well as energetic worship, Katy's had time to think about the kind of man she'd like to meet.

One of the dreams she's always had is that he'd love kids and would come from America.

I've just found out 70 American volunteers, quite exciting.

That's if I get a chance to chat to them,

cos they'll be busy if they're volunteers.

Brilliant! Right, OK.

Later that day, Katy's having lunch in one of the tents

and who should happen to be there, but the American volunteers.

Oh, right - OK.

One in particular catches her eye - Jake.

Did you say you came from...

Rancho Cucamonga.

So still from California?

Why do I live in Manchester?!

It's quite nice, though. It's just... Yeah.

Just...England, though, isn't it? Not as exciting as hot weather in California.

I had a really good conversation with a guy named Jake.

who's also a youth pastor, really into kids' work,

and stuff like that, so that's pretty exciting,

because, well, we've got similar interests and things. So...

Yeah. I'm really looking forward to tomorrow. Can't wait. It's going to be great.

Richard's given himself a year to find a partner

and if he's going to walk down the aisle soon, he needs to get a move on.

Today, he's come to the Dominion Theatre in Central London - but not to see a West End Show.

This afternoon, the venue is hosting the biggest Evangelical Church in the UK.

One of the things I like about the church is that it's very young,

-very trendy, lot of girls round here.

-Amen!

-Amen to that, thank you very much!

ROCK MUSIC

Each Sunday, 6,000 young Christians come to Hillsong Church at the Dominion Theatre.

Lots of them are hoping they might meet The One.

MUSIC ENDS, WHOOPING

-Afternoon, everybody.

-Good afternoon!

-We all OK?

Why don't you turn around and say hi to somebody...

Just moments into the service and Richard's struck lucky. He sat next to a girl who is just his type.

It seems that God is working on your behalf.

Before long, Richard unleashes his best opening line.

Hm? Yeah.

Is there still going to be a God in two months' time? Two years?

SERVICE CONTINUES

-Have a nice week.

-Thank you very much.

By the end of the service, he's got her number.

We ended up exchanging numbers, which is really cool.

I didn't expect that to happen. Kind of see what happens, hey?

24 hours after Richard met the girl in church,

he takes the plunge and texts her.

It would be...great to see you again?

Or...it would be lovely to see you again?

Be great to see you again...

He's keen to get a date with her and he doesn't want to mess it up.

This is kind of out of my realm,

this not something I'm used to doing on a regular basis.

Great to see you again... No, I want to change that.

It would be lovely to see you again...

I'm trying not think about her too much, because I don't want to

take it too seriously. It's been a long time since I've been

in this situation and deep down, I guess I don't want to get hurt.

It would be lovely to see you again.

By the way, this is my number. Looking forward to hearing from you soon.

Richard Kays - with a little smiley face!

It's gone - it's sent. Oh, my days! I feel a bit nervous.

I don't know whether she's going to text me back.

Now, he's got to wait.

-PHONE CHIRPS

-24 hours later...

Hey, Richard! Thanks for your message. Good to meet you. How was your day?

Now we're talking, now we're kinda... We're kinda getting somewhere!

ROCK MUSIC

INDISTINCT LYRICS

At the Christian Creation Festival,

Katy's got one thing on her mind - stepping things up with Jake.

-Hello! You all right?

-Yeah, how are you?

-Good. This is the last one?

'Normally, I would not make the first move.

'I wouldn't even think of going up to a guy and chatting to him.

'I'd wait for him to come and chat to me.'

# King Jesus, you are victorious

# You are... #

'I decided that this week, OK, I'd put myself out there a bit.'

# King Jesus, you are victorious

# You are King Jesus, you are victorious. #

WHOOPING

You were like, "Oh, no - I can't dance"

and I was like... You can actually dance!

That was quite impressive.

Jake ticks so many of her boxes, even the dancing one,

but the evening is drawing to a close.

And, despite everything going on around them, they just don't notice.

They've got Christians in the group.

Oh, really?

-Have you got to go soon?

-I think we're having a meeting.

Oh, are you having a meeting?

Yeah, but you're a blessing, it's been awesome to meet you.

Oh, yeah, it's been lovely to meet you, as well.

'The last thing I would have expected to meet would be'

an American, Californian Christian.

Cos that's just amazing, really.

It was great to meet you.

After five days at the festival, Katy has to leave.

Jake is only in the UK for another seven days,

and she has no idea how he really feels about her.

'I think she's beautiful,'

inside and out, everything about her was awesome.

I guess it really blessed me a lot to see that she's the real deal,

so she's, yeah, just beautiful, in every way.

-Hi, how are you?

-I'm good, how are you?

Back home in Manchester, Katy goes straight over

to her best friend Sarah's.

-American, singer, dancer...

-Yeah.

Sarah got married two years ago when she was 23,

and she's now expecting her first child.

OK, so marry him, get him to move here and then get him

to be your partner for, em...kids youth work.

-We don't even know if he even likes me at this stage.

-He will!

-I don't know.

-The only reason he would not like you

-is if he's a complete moron.

-No, he's actually a really nice guy.

Jake is the first person Katy's had strong feelings for

since breaking up with her fiance.

Now she's got a big decision to make

should she ask Jake for a date, or should she wait for him to ask her?

Difficult situation, isn't it?

Yeah, but at the end of the day, you'd rather

a little bit of embarrassment and then turn around and say

he doesn't like you than to always think, "What if?"

"I never made the effort and I'll never know now."

Yeah, if he doesn't like me then it's definitely not good,

-so that's kind of the easy way out, in one sense.

-Yeah, it is.

Oh, you got an American guy!

Well, I haven't got an American guy.

I like an American guy, there's a bit of a difference.

It's still quite nice.

I think we should be active, we shouldn't be passive,

that's important - why not?

If God put in your heart to find a wife, you should be looking,

but at the same time not rushing.

I don't really want to be chasing anyone,

cos it just seems a little bit desperate.

You can't just hide yourself under a rock and say, "OK, God, find me someone."

How is he going to let you know that perhaps that is the right one

if your head's stuck in the Bible?

Not that you shouldn't read the Bible at the same time.

Over the last few weeks, Richard's been texting the girl from church.

Problem is, he's struggling to pin her down for a date.

I think I need to be a bit more clear,

I want to meet up with you, text messaging is great,

it's been fantastic for now, but, hey, are you available?

Can we hook up? Can we eventually get like a date out of this?

After six weeks and 42 texts, Richard has almost got the date.

Hey, it's been a while, you know.

It's been such a long time I feel I've got cobwebs all over me.

I've not had a relationship in a long time.

It's gone, done and dusted.

In Manchester, Katy's given God a nudge

and she's been in touch with Jake.

I'm just about to look on Facebook to see if Jake has got back to me.

I know he's been online, which is even worse,

because then you know somebody's been online and that

they've had the opportunity to get back to you,

but if they haven't, that's kind of like, "Oh, right, that's embarrassing!"

But, will he want to go on a date with her before he flies back to the States?

Oh, he has got back to me, yay!

The question is, what has he got back to me saying?

Oh, that's brilliant! Yay!

Right, OK, I'm actually really, really relieved,

cos I was like, "Oh, no, what if he doesn't want to hang out?

"That's going to be so incredibly embarrassing."

But no, he's OK, so...

Get to know each other a bit better, I think that'll be really nice.

So, yeah, I'm looking forward to it.

I was just wondering if we're still on for today

and where you might like us to meet.

Look forward to seeing you soon, hopefully, take care and God bless.

-Was that all right?

-Yeah, that was good.

I got nervous, I was like, "Ooh..."

Richard's ready to meet the girl from church.

He is meant to see her at five, but she still hasn't confirmed where.

If she doesn't turn up today,

I think you're going to have to just...forget her.

-That sound really harsh...

-No, you're right.

Richard's workmate Zoe is around for a bit of support while he waits.

It's really strange for the first time in my life

being in a situation where I'm not in control, it's so weird.

It's good that you just can't make a wife happen.

Yeah, it ain't business, is it?

How long do we wait?

Um...give it half an hour?

We're getting close, three minutes to go.

-She still hasn't called.

-She still has not called.

Once it hits six o'clock, that's definitely done and dusted.

-Yeah, you can't keep waiting all night.

-No way.

I've never been stood up and my whole entire life, never ever.

Oh dear.

Never ever been stood up before.

Richard tries to put on a brave face.

This might seem like a negative, but really and truly this is

an amazing positive, because it says she wasn't right for me,

but there's someone out there that's right for me,

and that can only be, you know, amazing to embrace one day.

Right, what kind of look do you want for your date?

I don't know, I just want a normal look.

-Casual?

-Yeah, like me, but like I've made an effort, as me.

I don't want to look like somebody else, but, yeah.

It's the night before her date with Jake,

and Katy's drafted in best friend Sarah to help choose what to wear.

You've gone down a dress size.

-Slimming jeans!

-Nice bum.

No, that's too baggy to go with that top...

'I think it's amazing that I've met him in the first place, really.'

I'm just looking forward to seeing him tomorrow,

and hopefully there'll still be something there.

I'm really excited.

Have you thought about how you might feel when you meet him?

I'm just thinking, "Just keep it normal and don't be weird."

Katy's meeting Jake in York, and, as her car's broken down,

she's having to take her sister and niece along, too.

I'm so excited for Katy.

It's Katy's first date in five years,

and the first in a long time for Jake, too.

I don't normally go on just dates.

I'm really cautious, usually, about a lot of stuff,

so this is kind of different for me.

But I'm excited, though, because Katy seems rad.

Let's see what happens.

What I'm just going to say is, "Hey, Katy, what's up?"

Something like that.

You can tell I've been working on it for a while now.

"Hey, Katy."

Yeah, that's it.

-Hiya.

-How you doing?

-I'm good, how are you?

-Hiya.

-Hi.

-Nice to meet you.

-It's great to meet you.

This is Jake...

After hanging out with Rachel and Chloe-May,

Katy and Jake head off to spend some time alone.

-What's that?

-It's my bible.

-Oh, right, is it?

-Yeah. Kind of weird.

It's not weird. Let's have a look.

-It's not like my purse or anything.

-I'll just have a look at your bible!

Side Hug Records.

A big thing with this side hug, isn't there?

-Is that an American thing?

-Yeah, it must be.

Well, no, actually, I think it's a Christian thing, as well.

Yes, there's this book,

it's like the conservative Christian 'isms' or something like that,

some book, and it's talking about the side hug and how it's like

the full-frontal hug is a little inappropriate for some people.

And you're like, that's good to know.

-That looks good.

-Thank you.

Whoa, there's two.

Want to pray?

-Did you say you want to pray?

-Yeah, do you want to?

-Yeah, you can.

-Cool.

-I'm not going to.

Heavenly Father, thank you for this day,

thank you for Katy and that we get to be together...

Since they last met, Jake has had a revelation about Katy.

'On church on Sunday, in the middle of the message,'

God put this burning thing on my heart.

It wasn't like an audible voice,

it was just in the middle of the message it was like I zoned out

and then he put this love for her in my heart.

-My hair looks awful right now.

-It's fine.

'I definitely didn't expect that,

'especially since I've only known her for like five days.'

It's like, this potentially could be the person I've been waiting for.

God works in mysterious ways sometimes,

and it'd be pretty mysterious, because I wasn't looking for it,

for me to find somebody here.

Back in California, there are lots of girls,

but I've never felt like this about somebody, so, we'll see.

Another word I don't use in America, 'proper'.

That means, like, serious, like.

But despite having such strong feelings, he plays it cool.

Like legit? Do you say legit?

Yeah, well, I wouldn't say it like that.

Legit.

'I hope she likes me, and sometimes I can't tell,

'so I'm just going to keep praying about it,

'but I feel like God's opened the door

and it's a door I want to walk through.

Is this the cheque here?

I got it, don't worry about it.

-Are you sure?

-Yeah, I saved up for this trip all year.

By the end of the date,

they still haven't talked about their true feelings.

Thank you.

'It kind of feels to me like God's doing something

'and that this is kind of a plan of God, kind of thing, unravelling.'

It's really exciting, isn't it?

I think he's really perfect for you, really. I can't believe it.

Will you be on Facebook over the next couple of days?

-Yeah, I'm going to try to get on John's computer.

-All right, OK.

-IN ENGLISH ACCENT: All right.

-All right.

-Awesome, cool. God bless you.

-And you.

And I shall see you soon.

'He goes home next Monday, so he's not got very long left in the UK.'

But he did tell Katy to come to Edinburgh if she can,

which means he wants to see more of her before he goes.

Edinburgh will be the last chance for them

to tell each other how they feel before Jake goes home.

Will he stand up to dad's scrutiny, do you think?

-Dad, you'd love him.

-It doesn't take much to stand up to your scrutiny.

That night, Katy catches up with her mum and pastor dad.

-Are his family Christians?

-Yeah.

-Yes, that's good.

-Yeah, so...

-You would really, really like him.

-Would I?

-He was lovely.

You're blushing, Katy!

There's one thing Katy hasn't found out about Jake, though.

-No, she decided not to ask that question.

-What question?

The question Nana asked, "Does he drink?"

Yeah, I didn't ask him.

I didn't feel like it was appropriate,

there wasn't really a time to ask,

and I hadn't really put that at the front of my mind, to be honest, so...

The important thing is that you believe it's God,

and if it is God, then all these other things will fall into place.

When Christians often talk about it's a God thing,

that's kind of a way of explaining the unexplainable.

I guess when it's easy, when it comes together easily

and it works easily, then I think it's a God thing.

I think...

You just know, "OK, this is exactly what God wants me to."

That was... that was pretty much how we were sure that

marriage was right for us.

I am questioning now, though... No, I'm completely joking!

She's not really questioning it, she's just saying that.

I used to ask for signs, you know,

"God, make that cloud look like you if this man's meant to be,"

and I don't think God works like that in my life.

I remember a story about Cliff Richard,

who's the ultimate Christian bachelor,

and he told a story of so many women have come up to him

throughout the years and said, "I've had a message

"and God has told me that we're supposed to be together."

And Cliff said, "Great, I'll just wait until he tells me."

Born-again Christian Richard still hasn't found his perfect partner

after four months of hunting high and low.

Tonight, he's trying another blind date,

and this time he's going all guns blazing.

I want a bit of bling this evening, a bit of bling, I like my bling.

Diamonds...

Richard Kays is about to do dinner.

Richard's date is 23-year-old Laura, a born-again Christian from Bath.

Normally I'm one of these people that's last minute with outfits,

but this time round I did have a good think about it.

I spent probably a few hours lying awake at night

thinking about what I should wear.

She works for the church,

and, like Richard, for a Christian media company.

I suppose the best thing that could happen would be that we would

get on really well, perhaps we could go on another date at another point.

Maybe it could be a relationship, I don't know.

Laura's only been single for the last three months.

-Lovely to see you.

-Lovely to see you.

-Are you good?

Yeah, I'm good, thanks, nice to meet you.

I've just come up on the train, so...

I'm liking the sparkly shirt.

If I knew how bling you were I would have been cacking myself,

Yeah, bruv.

Oh, look! I used some gangster language, I said 'bruv'.

These youngsters say the word 'sick',

which basically means it was really, really good.

So, if the food was nice tonight, "Man, that was sick."

Sick, man.

I use the word 'lush' quite a bit. I say lush.

That's totally not ghetto.

That's a word a 13-year-old schoolgirl uses,

to describe her pony.

This is lush.

What words do you use?

'Awesome', I use the word awesome all the time, I'm just really lame.

That's such a Christian word, as well. "That is so awesome."

"Such an awesome guy."

I would describe Richard as just fun, really lovely,

and just a really, really good guy.

So, can you cook, are you a bit of a cook?

Wait a minute, what's that question about?!

Can I cook?!

I can clean very well, as well.

'I love her sense of humour,'

there are parts about her sense of humour that are really silly, but I love it.

It says to me that she doesn't take life too seriously, which is fantastic.

So, what kind of things do you look for in a partner?

Big questions, eh?

-We're going there, we're going there.

-Really?

OK, what do I go for in a partner? Um...

I don't really go for a type.

In the past, I've dated people who are Christians,

I've dated people who aren't Christians, and I've found

that dating someone who's a Christian is a lot easier.

What about you?

Firing that question back at you, you are filing it at me.

Yeah, someone I can just get along with, have fun with and stuff.

Someone who doesn't take life way too seriously.

Sounds cool, yeah.

I think, often, Christians can get a bit serious about dating,

like, 'The One', it has to be 'The One'.

Actually, I think God uses you meeting and being in different

relationships in a significant way to help you grow as a person.

We got quite deep then, didn't we?

-Shall we get deep again?

-Let go deeper.

'He's really fun and easy to chat to,'

so, yeah, he's probably better than I thought he could be.

Do I fancy her?

Yes, II...

I'm shy about those things,

I ain't really gonna say outright that I fancied her.

OK, what I'm basically trying to say

is it would be really nice to go out on a second date.

I probably did fancy her, or do fancy her.

I said it, there it is, I said it!

-Two, five, four, awesome.

-Awesome.

-Awesome, this has been amazing.

-Yeah.

-Take care, God bless.

-You too.

-Make sure you get home safe, OK?

-Thank you, yeah, you too.

-And I'll be in touch.

-Bye!

It was only 10 days ago that Katy met Jake

and he's only in the country for another two days

so there's hardly any time to work out how they feel.

I just think, um... Cos just where I'm at is, like, I...

I guess where I'm at the place of is...

It's hard to say. I don't want to start crying cos I'm weird...

THEY LAUGH

Like...

I'm horrible at talking... No, but...

I just... I guess where I'm at is kind of like...

After meeting you, I really don't want anybody else.

You know, like I just like to be around you.

Like...seriously, that's how it's been for me...

So that's why I was like, "God, I think there's something really cool happening.

"I think there's something really real."

Kind of like, I'd just be happy being with you, you know? That's...

what I wanted to say.

My sister said it right.

She said, "It's like God's hand picked you for me."

-And that's kind of how I feel about you.

-Cool.

So are we on the same page? We can make it Facebook official?

Yeah. THEY LAUGH

-Nothing's real until it's on Facebook, is it?

-Yeah.

'I was just quite taken aback by the whole thing to be honest.'

It still feels like, "OK, am I going to wake up in a minute?"

I'm happy that we got the chance today to talk

so I feel really relieved that she feels the same way, so...

it's good.

Jake has sent a relationship request on Facebook,

so I'm going to confirm it.

"You are now in a relationship with Jake." It's Facebook official!

THEY LAUGH

But a relationship for a Christian can come with its own rules.

In all my relationships I've been in, I've actually held off.

So, I've actually never kissed anyone before.

It was something that I felt like, "I want to have that just for my wife and her only."

I'm hoping she'll be my wife and so we'll wait until

the day of the wedding to kiss, so that's where it's at.

"Wishing you a birthday fit for a princess."

It's been a couple of days since Richard and Laura went out on a date

Tomorrow's her birthday so Richard's dropping her a line.

That's a gorgeous card...

but it might be a little bit much coming from me.

Just because we've only just had our first date together

so it might be a little bit much for now.

Richard still dreams of getting married as soon as possible,

but he'll have to wait and see

whether things develop between Laura and him.

"Happy birthday to one special lady.

"I look forward to seeing you again. From Richard Kays."

And I put a little kiss there as well.

I don't know whether she's Mrs Kays, I think time will tell...time will tell.

I would never rush into a relationship,

I would never go into a relationship having been on a first date.

It's just so not Richard Kays, you know?

For me, a relationship is a very important thing.

You know, it's you meeting someone that you could potentially spend the rest of your life with.

For me, it reaffirms the importance of waiting

because if you don't wait, you could end up embracing anyone for life.

Katy's heading to the airport to see Jake one last time.

They've only known each other for two weeks

and today he's flying back to California.

She's certain she's found the right man for her.

It's crazy, it really is crazy.

But then at the same point, I feel like that's how I know it's right,

cos with other guys, I've always felt like I've had to try and make myself feel something for them,

at least at the beginning anyway.

But with Jake, it's been really natural.

It's completely different to anything that I've experienced...

but then he's completely different to anyone I've ever met

so it kind of makes sense.

At the moment I'm like,

"Oh, I don't even know if he wants to hold hands or anything."

'I think it's special if you can wait till your wedding day,

'which is really, really hard cos I do like kissing a lot!'

-Thanks for coming all the way over here.

-That's all right.

They plan to meet in California in a couple of months.

So when I come and visit you, we should go surfing and try it.

We should!

With Jake heading back to the States, their relationship will have to be long distance for now.

-Anyway, I'll see you when I see you.

-Yeah.

-Facebook, Skype...

Even if you don't have a camera we can chat cos it's free on Skype.

Awesome!

-All right, love you.

-I love you, too. I'm going to miss you.

-All right, see you.

-See you.

'Jake is everything I ever wanted in a guy.

'and just to know that God knows me in that detail

'and cares about me that much, is mindblowing really.'

It's just a miracle, in all honesty.

If you didn't believe in miracles, then here's one now.

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