Porn Tyger Takes On...

This programme contains some strong language and some scenes of a sexual nature.

I'm Tyger Drew-Honey and I'm about to turn 18. I'm on the cusp of adulthood.

But going from boy to man is harder than it looks.

Oh!

Ooh!

I look like Simon Cowell!

And if you think real life is confusing,

-you should see the inside of my head.

-Stop!

-Yeah, gobble, gobble!

Oh, yes, I love you! So I want to know how everyone else is coping.

Surely I'm not the only one struggling to become a grown-up?

Have I got red lips?

# No, you girls never know

# How you make a boy feel. #

To kick things off, I decided to stick with what I know - porn.

Not only do I enjoy a bit from time to time, but I'm also

part of the first generation to have 24/7 access to hardcore porn.

Porn is normal. Everyone watches it.

But what I wanted to know was - what's it doing to us?

Big boobs, big bum, little waist, shaven.

Girls have to be shaven, otherwise I don't go there.

So I went on a mission to discover

if our fondness for porn fantasy is impacting sex in the real world.

I've just watched a woman pretty much get everything done to her.

Why didn't I get turned on? Why didn't I get a boner?

I got up close and personal to the porn habits of other young people...

I was watching it at least six hours a day, masturbating three times,

four times a day.

..as well as facing up to a few of my own.

You know, I can't help wonder,

but maybe my own sex life has been informed by porn.

Oh - one more thing I should mention,

Britain's most famous porn star is also my dad.

So shall we move my cock out the way now?

You stick your cock where you want!

A Short History of British Porn Consumption.

Pay attention at the back!

From the dawn of time, our species has been obsessed with pornography.

Homo erectus even sounds like a porn star name.

In the Victorian era,

all it took was a flash of ankle to get men to knock one out.

The 1970s kicked off with Britain's biggest daily newspaper

taking boobs from the top shelf and onto page 3.

Phwoarr!

Today it feels like it's harder to avoid porn than it is to find it.

It's everywhere.

So what is this unlimited access to porn doing to us?

I started my journey in Soho, once the sex capital of Britain

and where previous generations came to get their porn fix.

That is, before the internet made leaving the house redundant.

I reckon I started watching porn at about eight or nine

and, you know, at that age, the only real perception you've got

of that sort of thing is boobs and that's just about it.

So to discover pages and pages and pages of like hard-core

pornography, it kind of just opened my eyes to this really

sort of thrilling, exciting and naughty world.

In the years since then, that world has exploded.

It's claimed that as much as a third of all internet content

is pornographic.

The rest is pictures of cats and like a porn star's penis,

that statistic is still growing.

I'd say...I'd say I'm quite a sexual person,

and you know, sometimes, everyone gets those urges where you

want to have an orgasm and whatnot and if you're not with

someone at that moment, then I think most people would go to porn.

It's the best solution. It's easily accessible, it's pretty quick.

Um, you know, gets the job done.

According to a recent YouGov survey, over half of

15 to 17-year-olds have accessed pornography on a smartphone or tablet.

I mean, you know, if you've ever gone on to a porn site, then

you'll know that it's strictly over 18s only, but I mean,

unlike these places, there's obviously,

I mean, there's no way to check.

My whole generation would never have to go into one of these shops.

It's like nowadays, it's just like whatever you fancy,

you just go on your phone and it's all there.

All right, mate?

The first time I watched porn, I think I was 13.

I think I was about 12.

13, 14.

-15.

-I was about 11.

Probably about 12.

-12, yeah.

-I was probably about 10, maybe.

I know I have loads of friends that watch porn for pleasure.

Of course I liked it. Something new.

It was lesbian porn and at first, I didn't really know what it was,

but I liked it.

It was just me, my computer and my cream and I just went at it.

-It's really easy.

-It's really easy to find porn now.

Just type into Google whatever you like.

I think I was shocked at first

because I had never seen anything explicit before.

We'd never seen sex.

All my friends watch it and talk about it and that's been

since I was 11.

I think everyone I've dated has watched porn.

Like, we're in a generation now where it is normal.

Porn is normal and everyone watches it.

So it seems we're all at it. No big surprise there.

It's free, it's fun, it's a bit of fantasy - what's not to love?

But with the Government trying to stick internet filters all over

the place, I wanted to know if porn is really such a bad thing.

So I set off to meet an expert,

someone who knows the industry inside out.

He's got 30 years' experience and has made over 500 films.

-Come in.

-Can I have a coffee or something?

-Double espresso?

-Yeah.

You know, you know.

Ladies and gentlemen, my dad.

-Right, can we do this again?

-Yes.

Also known as legendary porn star Ben Dover,

my dad was the UK's most successful porn producer before free

internet porn totally shafted him. Ironic, really.

We'll see you real soon on Ben Dover...

I don't know, what is this show called, anyway?

Lifetime achievement, services to the industry.

Oh, it's not the lifetime achievement.

Do you think they're trying to tell me something? 2,000.

That's best gonzo videos so that's for the Ben Dover series.

That's the latest one I got, which comes with an award

that's disappeared, which was for Only Fools And Arses,

which was the last film we did for Bluebird before they closed down.

Yes, that is a life-sized replica of my dad's penis and no,

it's not weird that I'm holding it like that. It's not weird at all.

I've definitely got the DNA of the shape of your helmet.

-Do you think so?

-Yeah.

-Do you think we're sharing helmet shapes?

-Well, yeah. Well, you know, that would be...

-You are my dad.

Yeah, you're right. It is. We have got...

-Similar, but then it would be, wouldn't it?

-Yeah.

Don't believe what I just said. It's pretty weird.

-Although, see, I can do this.

-Look at your balls.

-Dickhead!

-Ha, dickhead!

-So shall remove my cock out of the way now?

Um, yeah. You stick your cock where you want.

You do, don't you?

Stop it!

Come on, now. Ask a proper documentary question.

You know how the industry is changing now it's

just on the internet, like all over the place?

I know, it's like now, whenever I see stuff on the internet,

it's like this six minute...

all it is is just two people having sex.

I think people are starting to want something slightly a bit more

-interesting, if you will.

-Mmmm...

Maybe, but I mean,

don't you think it's just all completely fake, anyway?

I mean, d'you think porn is actually representative

-whatsoever of what sex is like?

-No.

I think a lot of people, especially young people,

now are thinking that they've got to have sex

like they're in a porn movie.

They've got to like, you know, pretend that they're porn stars!

I mean, the whole thing started years ago

when every single girl, even if she wasn't in the porn business,

started shaving her pussy for some reason.

So look, you know, it was like, that was like the porn star look, and

then even people who work in offices were starting to shave their pussy.

Hey, dad - do think you could possibly say "pussy"

a few more times? No, that would be impossible.

And that's another thing I think, is for the future, bring back the bush.

I think the bush is going to come back in quite a big way.

I'm getting the hang of this. Documentaries love a good campaign.

-'What do we want?'

-Bush!

-'When do we want it?'

-However long it takes pubes to grow!

OK. Maybe not quite Make Poverty History but good try, Dad.

I mean, there's two ways of looking at it. There's two ways of saying, you can say,

you know, the innocence has been lost

because people never used to learn about loads of different sort of

techniques and everything till they were probably in their early 20s,

um, whereas now, you've got 18-year-old girls

who are just doing everything.

But I think it's putting a lot of pressure on girls and boys because

girls are thinking that whereas before,

all they had to do was just lay there and have sex,

now they are realising that there's a whole load of other stuff that

guys want girls to do and I guess they feel under pressure to do it.

I hate to say it, but the old man was making a good point.

Free porn is opening our eyes to all kinds of stuff.

With the internet's most searched word being "sex",

our curiosity is being indulged like never before and for an

increasing number of young guys, watching just isn't enough.

They want something more personal and interactive.

-Straight through there.

-Nice place.

Webcaming is now the most popular genre of porn,

with the most visited adult website in the world devoted to nothing

but girls and their webcams.

Leslie Rose has been a webcam girl for the last six months.

-So I presume these are your work clothes?

-Ha! They are.

There are people who have got me underwear sets

and things like that to wear specifically for their shows,

people who buy me shoes because they want me

-to wear shoes on their shows, people like to treat you, also.

-Is that...

Is that the reason why you're in your dressing gown right now,

so it's like easy access if you get a call?

I haven't just like got out of the bath looking all glamorous, like hey!

Yeah, I have like a pink underwear set on underneath,

so literally I can just go feow! -

take it off, do my call, put everything back on,

put my dressing gown back on, get comfy again,

have a drink and like, do my revision.

So it's the...the money that you earn from doing this,

-that, you know, supports your education, right?

-Yeah.

I literally woke up and decided to go to uni one day and it was

because of the fact that I'd been webcaming and I saw how much money

I could be making and how much money I was making.

As a woman, my sexuality is my biggest commodity, so like,

if people want me, they can have me if they pay for me. So, yeah.

With the price of one of Leslie's shows starting at just a tenner,

she is seeing more and more guys my age log on for a good time.

Some of them are shy.

Some of them are just kind of discovering that there is this

interactive thing that, you know, they can have so readily available.

I think some people as well use it as a bit of a...

not a replacement for, but like on a par with porn,

because it's something that they can physically hold in their hand

and you're right there and they can move around with you and like,

it's not just on a like screen that's stationary or anything like that.

And they can interact with you.

Do you have much of an insight into what sort of things that they like?

If you ask, they'll tell you what they like.

And what...other times, it's really funny,

cos they'll have a really big TV and it'll just be porn on it.

-Really?

-And like...

-What sort of porn?

There's...honestly, there's this one guy who rings me and...

Well, who books me, and he books me for 15 minutes each time

and every single time it's different.

I prefer when it's young guys, because it's somebody that I could...

I can kind of get into a bit more.

Because you could potentially, in another life,

-be with them or something.

-Yeah, exactly.

Like, I can imagine it actually being in the same room as them or

being with them, or like knowing them in some way, something like that.

You know, it's... It's nice, as bad as it sounds.

PHONE RINGS

-You've got a call coming in.

-I have got a call coming in.

Um, you're going to have to leave.

Out! Go, go, go! Out.

-Oh...

-No!

-Forget your penis!

-Go! Go!

Shut the door behind you!

Hello, gorgeous. How are you?

Mm, thank you very much, darling! Do you like my tattoos?

Yeah, I bet you'd love to get your hands all over this body,

-wouldn't you, babe?

-This is weird!

-Not as weird as you listening through the door, Tyger!

-Boy!

Leslie's session was short and sweet and from what

I'd heard through the door, she'd had one very happy customer.

Er, well, I mean, that sounded like quite a lot of fun.

-Why don't you, um, go next door and give it a go for yourself?

-But, um...

-Yeah. I mean, if...if...if...if... if you want me to.

-Off you go.

-Wow!

Yeah, OK. Wow. OK. Cool. OK. Get in!

This was going to be amazing.

A beautiful girl was about to do anything that I wanted.

You want to know how we feel in shows, YOU'VE got to give ME a show.

Yeah - this wasn't quite what I'd imagined.

Unfortunately, I'm only allowed to show you a few seconds of the following footage

because the BBC have deemed it too sexy for general viewing.

-'Face the other way! Face me now, come on!'

-Sorry, I'm new to this.

Right, make waves at me.

-'Make waves at me.'

-You don't actually do this, do you?

'You just need to look sultry.'

Waves.

'Give it some oomph!'

Behind it.

Are you having fun?

What I want, I get. I'm the customer.

'You haven't paid me!'

-OK, bye, then.

-See you later.

-Have a nice evening.

-Bye.

'Personal humiliation aside,

'my evening was definitely an eye-opener.

'I've never tried online sex myself,

'and after stepping inside Leslie's world, I'm in no rush to.

'I'd started to see just how the internet is changing not

'just our viewing habits but the industry itself.

'To find out what the porn stars themselves

'make of our constant access to the free stuff,

'I set off for the glitziest night in the UK porn industry calendar.

'Using my wit, schoolboy charm and, in hindsight, really silly hat, I'd

'blagged my way onto the red carpet at porn's

'equivalent of the BAFTAs - the SHAFTAs.

'See what they did there?'

What do you think about how easily porn can be

-accessed on the internet?

-You know what?

It actually kind of sucks that it can be accessed

-so easily cos it's kind of ruining the porn industry.

-Your livings?

It is. You can watch it. Anybody thinks they're a porn star now.

You can make a video on your own instead of a porn star.

Yeah, cos the money and time that goes into it,

-they're all big shoots, aren't they?

-Yes, very big.

Well, fantastic. Thank you for talking to me.

-Have a lovely evening.

-All right. You too.

-Nice to meet you. Bye-bye.

-Nice to meet you. Thank you.

-Thank you.

'I soon realised I'd set myself a hard task -

'asking serious questions in the face of serious distractions.'

Wow.

'I decided I needed the interview equivalent of a cold shower.'

-So you're, like, a fan of the SHAFTAs?

-Yeah, I like girls.

-You know, I like dirty girls.

-So you like porn, then?

-Yeah.

-What would, like, your dream porn scene be?

-Two girls.

-Two girls?

I think women, two women, is more feminine, it's beautiful, you know?

-When you see, like, doing and receiving.

-Yeah.

I think, when a man and a woman does it, it's kind of...

I mean, I'll do it nicely, but those guys, you know?

Some of them are animals.

Most guys, walking down the street, don't have a 10-inch knob.

We try our best, you know? We can't all go on.

Not all guys are on Viagra, anyway, I mean...

I can go maybe for, like, 10 minutes.

I can't go for an hour, you know?

'Maybe not, but I know a man who can.'

-So Dad, what are you doing here tonight?

-Um...

-I'm presenting Best MILF.

-Best MILF? Is that the name of the award?

I'm guessing, yeah. Yeah. Something like that.

Hottie's MILF or something MILF, anyway.

It's something to do with MILFs. I don't know.

I don't know why I can't get Best New Starlet.

Cos you're about 60, Dad!

Yeah, all right!

-My name's Tyger. What's your name?

-Brooklyn.

-Brooklyn?

-Brooklyn Blue.

-Blue? Why are you here tonight, then?

-Because I do naughty things.

-Ooh! What do you do, then?

-I shoot porn.

-You shoot porn?

-Do you enjoy shooting porn?

-I love shooting porn.

What's your opinion on young people watching porn? Do you think they watch too much?

I think it's great that young people watch porn.

Personally, I watch porn myself. I always have done, since I was young.

And I think it's amazing. I think, like...

I think it teaches people cos when people watch porn, it kind

of teaches them what their parents and the schools don't teach them.

Yeah. Re-enacting the things from the movies.

Babe, the stuff I've learnt since doing porn, I tell you!

'Was it true that porn stars were teaching us

'everything we know about sex?'

I think, like, watching porn does become a part of, like,

sex education, for the younger generation more so.

My personal experience, I definitely learnt a lot from porn.

It's like a manual. Watching porn is like a manual, I suppose.

That's the whole point of it, really,

to then take that video and then, you know, do it on a bird.

That's the aim.

I think guys are thinking they're learning,

that they're learning about sex, watching porn.

'Well, we all had to start somewhere.

'My sex ed at school hadn't exactly filled me with confidence.

'Nowadays, I live here, with my mum and Surrey's randiest dog, Reggie.

'Even though Mum and Dad separated a few years ago,

'I still feel I was very lucky growing up.'

You really want five bits of bacon, Tyger?

Your eyes are bigger than your belly cos that is a lot of bacon.

'Sex and porn was an open topic in my house and not just

'because of my dad.

'My mum was part of the industry, too, first as an adult model

'and then later,

'as editor of one of the world's biggest pornographic magazines.'

Tyger, how do you want this tripledecker?

-Like that and then the butter this side?

-I've done it, Mum.

-I've done it.

-Right, OK. Go on, then.

-Just leave it!

-Just leave it to me now. This is my bit.

-Do it, then.

You're not making it easy for me!

I thought that because Tyger's grown up around porn,

it's very difficult to know how it's affected him

because, you know, the odd porn star would come to our house

and this one, Pascal, this Belgian guy who we knew very well

and was always round our house, Tyger just knew him as a normal person

and he used to sort of say about what Dad does for a living.

And, you know, we used to say, "He's making kissy-kiss films with

"Pascal," you know, from about the age of seven type of thing.

Or, "Mummy and Daddy film people having special hugs."

Yeah, special hugs. Yeah.

You know, you don't really think about what might be going on.

All you really just know, you're just a little boy

and these are lovely people, they work with Mum and Dad.

Oh, that's cool, like Pascal and... What was her name? Champagne?

I don't know.

You mean that girl who got ready in our house once, Pascal's girlfriend?

-No, Champagne. Her name was Champagne.

-Oh, Charmaine?

-Charmaine.

-Charmaine. You called her Champagne!

-Cos I was only about five or six.

Charmaine Sinclair.

Funnily enough, she owns the dry cleaner's in Morton now!

'Good on you, Champagne. You've really...cleaned up your act.

'I'm fairly convinced that my parents' honesty over the years

'has helped get rid of any shame I may have felt about watching porn.

'If it had have been my dirty little secret,

'I sometimes wonder if I'd have developed a bit of a habit.

'After all, you know what they say - tell a teenage boy not to do

'something and they'll masturbate furiously for 100 days.

'That is the saying, isn't it?'

I'd say I'd watch porn probably at least once a day, at least.

There was this stage where I was three times a day, really.

Three or four times, yeah.

3-4 times a week, I'd say.

At least once a week, I guess, or something like that.

That's news to me.

SHE LAUGHS

I was addicted to it when I first got into it.

Like, I'd come home from school, put porn on.

From there, more porn.

That's it. It just escalated!

'It's estimated that more than a quarter of boys aged 14-17 in

'the UK view porn once a week, with 5% admitting to using it everyday.

'The rest were too busy watching porn to answer the survey.

'Now, that might not sound like much,

'but that's thousands of guys who are potentially addicted to porn.

'I travelled to Essex to meet 19-year-old Zach who

'curbed his appetite for hard-core porn by going cold turkey.'

Um... I think... Is he that lad there?

'Ironically, cold turkey is a popular subgenre in the porn world.'

# Oh, cold turkey, baby Yeah, cold turkey, oh, yeah

# I know you love that cold turkey, baby, oh, yeah, oh, yeah

# Yeah, give me that cold turkey Yeah, gobble, gobble! #

'Nah! I just made that up.'

-You all right, mate? Are you Zach?

-Yeah. You all right, man? How you doing?

-Yeah, how's it going, man?

-Is it all right to park here?

-Yeah, that'll be fine.

-How's it going, buddy? I'm Tyger. Nice to meet you.

-You too.

I got to a point where I think I watched porn every day for a week,

and I just felt, like, dirty.

So, I mean, do you think you were addicted to porn?

I think everyone, in one form or another, is addicted to porn.

If you watch it three or four times a week to once a week,

you've still got that sort of schedule of once a week,

three or four times a week,

but that was, like, the main reason I thought, enough's enough.

How'd you think the porn you've watched has had

an effect on your relationship with girls and women?

Even times with me, you may have been with a girl and think, I'd

actually rather be at home in front of a laptop and finish myself off.

Sounds really horrible, but I think most boys have had that

sort of experience where you think, I'd rather just be watching porn.

'Zach seemed like a down-to-earth guy

'and I could relate to a lot of what he was saying.

'That evening, we met his mates at the pub and, I didn't know it yet,

'but he was about to make quite the revelation.'

-Aaron, Frankie. Tyger.

-Who's Aaron, who's Frankie?

-I'm Frankie.

-Aaron, Frankie.

I'm Tyger. Nice to meet you. I like that shirt.

-What do you guys think of porn?

-Personally, I think porn is...

On the internet, it's a bit too much, you know what I mean?

What do you mean too much?

Everywhere you go, like, for instance, if you was on...

So if I was watching a film on my laptop, then, as it was downloading,

there would be a pop-up of "download now, free membership for life".

Having said that,

that just shows you've been looking at some dodgy stuff on your laptop!

-Ain't my fault! It catches your eye.

-How often do you guys watch it?

Er... It depends.

Sometimes, every day but, I mean, like, online,

-it's always there, so when you're bored, you just...

-Yeah.

Sometimes, boredom just hits you, yeah.

'OK, everyone. Here it is.

'Bombshell moment.'

I'd say I've watched my fair share of porn to know, as a career,

that's something I'd want to do.

'What?! Zach wanted to be a porn star?'

If you can do it five times in a day, then surely,

you should make it in the industry?

'I was surprised, to say the least, so I did what any normal

'person would do in that situation

'and distracted us all with a selfie.'

Half a face will do. Half a face?

'If I'm honest, I don't think he looks like a porn star.

'I don't think he'd have the gusto, do you know what I mean?'

I don't think he'd have the pizzazz in him to sort of, you know,

go for hours.

I don't think... I don't know. I'd have to find out.

I'd have to basically see his broomstick first

and make a bit of a judgment on that.

You know, that might tip the odds in his favour.

'Meeting Zach gave me a taste of how much porn can mess with your mind.

'Even though I've watched my fair share of hard-core stuff,

'I've never thought about following in my father's footsteps.

'But I had started to wonder what effect my generation's mass

'porn consumption was having.'

People expect you to do more things. Boys definitely have higher

expectations of how girls should act, sexually.

I reckon watching porn makes someone want to do more things.

Anal is a big expectation now.

-I think threesomes, as well.

-Yes.

And watersports, like, they expect to, like, piss in your mouth

and stuff.

And what's it called? Creampies.

In your face.

And if you kind of say, oh, I'm not really up for that, then people

might think that you're a prude or that you're kind of a bit frigid.

I think also, like, the expectation of what your body looks like.

Big boobs, big bum, a little waist, shaven.

Guys really do expect you to be shaved now because of porn.

Yeah, they have to be shaven. Of course.

Girls have to be shaven, otherwise I don't go there.

It gives people warped ideas of what sex should be like. It's fucking now.

-It's not sex. It's fucking.

-It's not making love. It's fucking.

'A report last year found that access and exposure to porn is

'linked to young people engaging in more risky sexual behaviour.

'If they were using porn, they were more likely to have had anal sex

'or have unprotected anal and oral sex.

'I was on my way to meet a woman who had found

'herself on the receiving end of generation porn.'

-I think we're sitting here.

-Thank you very much.

There you go, my fair lady.

Thank you, kind sir.

'Cindy Gallop's affection for dating younger men inspired her to

'create MakeLoveNotPorn.

'A global online campaign to get real sex back into the bedroom.'

So, Cindy, what is it you like about younger men?

Lot's of stamina. Very short recovery periods.

Generally speaking, I just like to have a lot of sex.

The older I get the hornier I get so I like to fuck all night,

fuck all day.

I like to have as much sex as possible and younger men deliver.

In a way that, unfortunately, men my own age don't.

Could you tell me about any specific experiences that you've had

with younger guys who have probably watched far too much porn?

It's really important to emphasise that the issue isn't porn.

The issue is the absence of talking about sex in the real world.

So I dated one guy who was 23.

And he began watching porn at the age of 10 or 11.

And he lost his virginity at the age of 18.

So for seven, eight years he was masturbating massively,

watching huge amounts of porn.

As a result he has never come inside a woman.

Never come in a woman's mouth, never come through a hand job.

The only way he can come during sex is by jerking himself off.

Wow, really?

And I realised I was encountering an issue that would never have crossed

my mind if I had not encountered it intimately and personally.

Which is what happens when two things converge

and I want to emphasise the convergence of these two factors.

'That's me nodding like I know what convergence means.'

When today's total freedom of access to hardcore porn online

meets our society's reluctance to talk openly and honestly about sex.

So there are things like porn world. All men love come in women's faces.

And all women love having their faces come on.

Real world, some people like this, some people don't.

And it's a good idea to have the conversation

and find out and make sure everyone's happy with what's going on.

Porn world, women have no hair down there.

Real world, some women like shaving and some don't.

Some men like women au naturel.

Do you think the women that do shave shave as a result of having

watched porn and thinking, "that's what guys like."

-That's what I have to do?

-Yes, absolutely.

And I know that by the way.

Porn does not teach women how to ask for and experience their own

pleasure and it doesn't teach young men how to give it.

And so focusing on making sure a woman has a great time is not

what porn teaches men.

'I never really thought about it before.

'But Cindy had a point.

'Because of porn men can't see a need for condoms.

'Because of porn men think women love it when you come in their face.

'Because of porn all men expect anal.'

Whoa, hold up now. I get the point.

I think the viewers could probably imagine that for themselves.

'Meeting Cindy made me

'think about how the fantasy of porn is impacting the realities of sex.

'I started to wonder if our constant connection with hardcore porn

'was helping us to disconnect from real world relationships?'

-You're Rundeep?

-Yeah. You all right?

'Rundeep was a 21-year-old shift worker who got in contact after

'he realised his world of fantasy

and reality had become truly blurred.'

I know it's not reality but when you watch it you're like, "Yeah, I can do

"that. I want some of that."

And that's the kind of people I'd love to meet.

It's a bit strange, I know but normal girls don't stand out for me.

In the past I've bought escorts

and once you've done it it's a different story because

they don't compare to different girls because they do things differently.

When you've hired escorts what's the favourite things they do for you?

-What do you like?

-I like the role-plays they do.

The stripping tease, the domination.

They've got whips, you're tied up and you can't do nothing.

You're trying to get out but you can't.

It's like a fantasy. Little role-play.

I've had a secretary before and I was pretending

I was a manager in an office.

Different to what most people do

because when you meet a normal girl they really wouldn't want to do that.

So what is it that normal girls won't do that people in porn do do?

They won't swallow, they won't attend parties, gang bang parties.

There's more but I can't remember off the top of my head.

-They won't do buckaroo.

-'Buckaroo, I used to love playing that.

'Stick the hat on the little donkey.'

Basically when you have one girl and there's eight,

nine people to one girl.

And she has to suck on all cocks at the same time.

"Oh, different Buckaroo.

"Nope, never played that."

Have you ever done anything like that?

I thought about it but I didn't want to go on my own because I was a bit shy.

I just want to stop watching porn

because it's not what I want to be doing.

It's effected me going ahead in life. I want to change my life around.

-Would you say porn has taken over your life?

-That's correct.

-And you need to make it un-take over your life.

-That's correct.

'Rundeep's descent into the world of sex for hire may seem extreme

'but I discovered he wasn't alone.'

Nowadays it seems that any one you see you can have potentially because

there are actually websites where you can hire porn stars as escorts.

To basically help you live out your wildest dreams.

There are so many of these porn stars you can hire to have

sex with and do whatever you want.

£250, £300, very open-minded.

Minimum six hours, £1,300. Blimey!

This is a whole new thing to me.

I knew porn existed and I kind of knew escorts existed

but I didn't know the two worlds collided.

'Looking at this stuff made me realise the deeper I delved

'the line between fantasy and reality seemed to be getting thinner.

'Whilst Rundeep was determined to redress the balance,

'I wasn't really sure Zach knew what he was getting into.

'Even though he said he'd given up watching it,

'he still saw a career in porn as part of his future.'

I don't think Zach's alone. I think there's loads of kids

and young people who don't really know what they want to do

and so they clutch at straws and see what's out there

because porn's so out there that's what Zach wants to do but...

I'm really hoping he'll see sense and consider another path.

-How's it going, buddy?

-Bit chilly.

-Nice to see you.

-Likewise.

'Another thing about young people is how much

'we enjoy sitting on the wrong parts of benches.

'Look at us trying to be cool there.'

What is your take on me wanting to do it.

Porn's been a big part of your life. What's your opinion.

A bit weird or normal or surreal?

I don't think it is the best career path to go down.

Purely from things I've learned from my dad

and the trouble we have come across as a family.

I think being a porn star makes it very hard to have relationships.

Do you think you'll be able to find someone who will mother

your child if you're a porn star and having sex with other women?

Do you want to be at home having a nice family dinner or

be in Hackney having sex with Brooklyn Blue at 9:30 at night for 100 quid?

It's probably best a short term thing.

You can't do it for ever, as you know.

If I was to have kids one day I wouldn't want them to find about it.

I don't know why. I don't know how your mum and dad felt about it.

They were really open with you.

For me, I'd want to keep it them not knowing really.

Your kids will find out. People will know it's you.

Even if you do move on to another profession.

People will maybe see videos of you on the internet.

It will be out there for ever for everyone to see.

The more you say it the more I can slowly feel the mind going.

Like you said, it is money, family for ever so it could be...

You've experienced it. Nobody knows more about this than you so...

It does make you think.

'If I was going to convince Zach a career in porn was a bad idea,

'I'd have to think of something radical.'

-Make a wish.

-Sorry. Enough of porn. More about me. It was my birthday.

I was now, officially an adult.

If I wanted to I could get into a nightclub. I could...

What else can you do at the age of majority?

I could book an escort if I wanted to. I could go to a strip club.

I could have a lap dance.

Now, I'd never fancied the idea of hiring escorts

but a strip club, yeah, I could do that.

After all, it's all in the name of research, right?

I've never been into a strip club before.

I'm used to going on my phone. This isn't really my scene.

So I'm pretty nervous to be honest. I don't really know what to expect.

-Hello.

-You, all right?

-I'm George. Nice to meet you.

-Nice to meet you.

-I'm Tyger.

-Take a seat.

-How's your day been?

-Yeah, good.

'God, look how awkward I am. Come on, Tyger, be cool.

'I know what you're thinking, every 18-year-old boy's dream, right?

'But the truth is, as this gorgeous woman was dancing around a

'pole for me, all I could think was, "I reckon I could do that."

'How hard could it be?

'Look at me. Sexy climbing, sexy climbing. Sexy falling.

'This really hurts.'

There we go. There's your dance.

-Did you enjoy it?

-Yeah, it was good. Cool.

-Thank you very much.

-Nice to meet you.

-Lovely to meet you.

'Shake hands, very cool.'

'If they're looking for a new James Bond,

'consider that my audition tape.'

I spent 20 quid for a three minute dance. Um... So, yeah.

I feel slightly robbed.

I think it's a bit of a generation thing, to be honest.

I think before we had smartphones and such easily accessible

porn on the internet, this is where everyone came.

But nowadays,

when you turn 18 or 21 you might go to one of these places to see

what it's like but at the end of the day you're going to resort to

free porn on your phone just like that.

'I'd seen first-hand how disappointing a fantasy can

'seem in the flesh so when I was invited to the filming of a porn

'shoot by my old friend Brooklyn Blue I knew just who to take with me.'

I wondered if you'd like to come along and be on set

and see everything that's happening and stuff.

That sounds good.

-I'd love to.

-There's a chance it won't be quite what you think it's

going to be like.

And I think there's a chance you'll see the realities of it.

It might turn your head in the other direction.

It's a mixture of excitement and fear of maybe not seeing

it in the same light as I used to, if that makes sense.

Yeah, of course.

I'm excited for the fact that not a lot of people get to experience this.

Best case is doing this, thinking this is right up my street.

That would be the best case.

As a mate I want to help him and make him see the light

and you could do something else a lot better.

What do you think they're going to be wearing?

'I'm no expert, Zach, but I'd imagine not a lot.

'We headed to East London where Brooklyn was shooting

'a vampire themed porn film.

'Twilight has a lot to answer for.

'My cunning plan was to give Zach a bit of shock therapy. Tyger style.'

Help me, help me.

I really want to do a shot if I'm lying on the bed and he's on top

of me and you get a good shot of him kissing and kissing down my neck.

-And then going to bite.

-So he hasn't bitten you yet.

You end up on the bed and then he bites you.

Monty's a better director than me. I'm useless.

I'm good at doing the porn stuff but the directing...

It's difficult. Very difficult.

-I reckon there's been a few porn films shot in here.

-Definitely.

'Being professional is vital in these situations.

'Maybe not.'

I can hear them through there. Should we go and meet them?

-Are we allowed?

-How you feeling?

-I'm feeling all right.

Compared to what I was in the car.

After you, mate. I insist, after you.

'Look at us being all polite. At a porn shoot.'

TYGER KNOCKS

-Hello, guys.

-This is my friend Zach.

-Nice to meet you, Brooklyn.

-Nice to meet you.

-Very well, thank you.

-Zach wants to be a porn star.

-Do you?

-How long you wanted to do porn for?

-Probably a year and a half.

Why do you want to do porn?

I think it's the right career for me, to be honest with you.

I love porn. I'm not going to lie.

-I watched some of your videos, very nice by the way.

-Did you now?

-Did you enjoy them?

-I had a very nice time, actually.

Basically, how much of it is performance

and how much of it is pleasure?

It is performing. You're an actor, you're acting.

But at the same time I genuinely love what I do.

Do you think it's a fair representation of what sex is

actually like?

Yeah. Maybe not. I don't know. But I like sex like that.

Would you say it's harder for boys to get into as opposed to the opposite sex?

'Also known as girls.'

Definitely.

As long as you've got spit and you can take a cock,

it's easy for girls. Really easy.

Whereas guys, you have to be able to get up, come on time,

fuck hard, have good size.

It's a lot more difficult.

Help. Just pull it up.

'I should probably explain the guy man handling Brooklyn is

'the male lead in this film, Monty.'

Lay down there.

You step out of the shot. And then we can set the lights up.

You want to be on that side.

We want Brooklyn closest to us.

She's here, I'm eating her pussy, I got to be this side.

That's what I mean.

How did you get your first audition?

I started shooting the girls myself

and then they were saying you should do it.

When I contacted some other producers that said give it a shot.

I think porn's a bit of fun. It's a bit of fun, innit?

Can't take porn too seriously, I don't think.

The story went that Brooklyn had been turned into a lusty

vampire by Monty.

No, maybe she turned Monty into a lusty vampire.

Basically, one of them's dead and they're going to do some sex.

I'm a bit more comfortable now seeing everyone, spoke to everyone.

I feel a bit more like I definitely could do this now.

OK, sorry.

Then I come in down here.

Camera's rolling and action.

I wonder if Zach's going to be able to keep himself from getting

a hard on?

Maybe he will if he looks away every now and then.

But I don't think I'd be able to be in there watching Brooklyn

having sex and not have a boner, I have to say.

Do you want a minute?

Cut for a minute.

But not long into the shoot every man's greatest fear was realised.

Monty couldn't get it up.

-Do you want us to wait outside?

-Just for a minute, please.

'To be fair he is a vampire. There's not much blood down there.'

That's what I was afraid of. The whole pressure side.

There's people in there so I can sort of understand where he's coming from.

'I think we can all see where he's coming from, Zach.'

It's normal seeing that.

Action.

SHE GROANS

Can we get some water quick?

Was it sexy then?

I don't want to seem ungrateful to them

but I weren't turned on, weren't feeling horny.

It was just like a normal thing.

Why didn't I get turned on? Why didn't I get a boner?

Now I'm thinking I've seen the struggle Monty has had to ask us

to leave to get it up. What happens to me now?

I watched a woman have everything get done to her

and I didn't even get a wiggle.

I don't think that's right in my opinion.

'A bit like the strip club, watching porn being made had left Zach cold.

'I hoped it would convince him to rethink his future plans.

'But it wasn't just Zach who was having a rethink.

'I was starting to question my own ideas too.'

When I started making this film I was sure

I had my own porn use in check.

I thought I fancied a bash, click a few buttons. Watch some porn.

Never thought much of it.

Having met people like Zach and Rundeep, even Cindy, I can't

help think my own sex life has been informed by porn.

I lost my virginity when I was 13 and I had been watching

porn for a fair few years before that.

So it's bound to have some effect on the way I view sex.

Because I like oral sex and I kind of expect it

and I've come on girls' faces and it's not that out of the norm.

Maybe that's what looking at porn has done to me.

Maybe its put those ideas in my head.

Without me realising it.

'The guys I met so far had all taken their porn habits to an extreme.

'But what happens when watching porn goes way too far?

'I went to meet someone whose experience of this took

'a very sinister turn.

'She didn't want to appear on camera but wanted others to hear her story.'

I met a boy at college and he was very interested in porn

and I always knew he was.

We'd watch it together and I was never that fussed.

At the time because everyone watched porn. It wasn't a big deal.

But then the things he were watching were getting...

..more and more different to what I was used to.

It went from simulation rape things to things that

I was a bit suspicious as to whether they were rape or not.

And he liked to act out what he saw on the camera.

Do you think he was acting?

I think that we both learned sex through porn.

It started with quite rough vaginal sex

and then it moved on to gagging and then it moved on to...

..anal sex without permission and

then onto very brutal, painful anal sex.

I didn't feel it was my role to say anything.

Cos that's what the women in front of me were doing.

-Do you think he was kind of brainwashed?

-It was constant.

All the time.

Four or five, maybe six times a day.

Going to the bathrooms in between lessons to watch,

texting each other links,

watching it in lessons, watching it out of lessons,

watching it on the bus, watching when we get home,

watching it over dinner.

It's constant. It was just what you did. It's what everyone was doing.

And how do you think that accessibility is affecting

this generation and people younger than ourselves?

I think...

I think we're entering

into something that we've never experienced before.

I think this generation is growing up...

..with more knowledge

and more horrifying knowledge than anyone ever has before.

He thought that's what normal sex was, so he was doing it.

I thought that's what normal sex was, so I was doing it.

It wasn't until many years later I realised that it was

a horrible experience that women should not be going through.

I don't feel like I'm his victim.

I feel like I'm porn's victim.

I think this has kind of been a real turning point

in the journey for me, actually,

because it does make me think that

although porn has been such a big part of my life,

there has been a massive part of it

that has completely been hidden from me,

maybe because I just was never told about it

or my parents never did anything like that, but...

..there's like this whole other dark world of porn...

..and it's really scary.

I really have been scared by it, actually, today.

I still wanted to know if porn felt a responsibility towards

its increasingly young audience and there was only one person to ask.

What used to be...

I met my dad at a former porn studio,

where he'd made many of his own films.

Oh, wow, it's even worse...

It's even worse than it was.

Right, so...

Oh, no, I can't believe it.

-This is where you used to shoot your porn films?

-Some of it, yeah.

My God, up until last week, in fact, this was a fully functional,

completely done out lap dancing, er, pole dancing bar.

-This is really weird.

-It's like the Mary Celeste of the porn world.

'Don't worry, I Googled it. Turns out it's an old boat.'

So, Dad, would you say that this studio

is like the metaphor for porn today?

Erm, yeah.

Good.

I like that, yes.

Absolutely.

I mean, in a way, do you think in any way

it could be a good thing, because...

Ha! No, because I'm out of work!

Fair enough, but I met someone recently who...

She was with her boyfriend who was addicted to porn

and over time he got into more and more dark and violent types of porn

and, ultimately, he became addicted to rape porn.

-You can't...

-You can't say it's OK that someone can, you know,

be in a relationship, they hadn't really had much sexual experience

-before they started watching porn and porn taught them sex.

-Yeah.

And because of that, they thought sex was rape.

Maybe if porn wasn't so fake,

maybe if porn wasn't shot in a bedroom

that looks just like a porn bedroom

or wasn't in a dungeon or in a lap dancing club,

do you think maybe if porn was actually what sex is like,

-then maybe these problems wouldn't happen?

-Well, yeah.

At the end of the day, it is doing terrible things to young people,

-whether it's their fault or not.

-That's just where we are.

That's just the way we are in the world.

I don't think it's a particularly good thing either.

Right or wrong, there is no question that porn is here to stay,

but what would happen if we did stop?

What would a porn-free life even look like?

I discovered an online community

filled with men from all over the world

who had decided that their porn habit had taken over.

In an effort to reclaim their lives from the clutches of hardcore porn,

they'd joined NoFap.

So, apparently,

"fap" is the sound that your penis makes when you have a wank,

so NoFap.com, "partake in the ultimate challenge".

Jesus, there is literally so many comments on here

from so many people who are claiming this thing is like a godsend.

'And it got me thinking, I wonder what their meetings are like.'

Hello, everyone, and welcome to today's meeting.

Is there anyone new in today?

Go on, brother,

tell us your name.

Erm, right, well, hi, everyone.

I'm Tyger and I...

I'm a wanker.

Rundeep's admission that he's tried

and failed in the past to give up porn made me wonder

if this community could be the way forward for him.

So I took Rundeep to meet a prominent voice

from the NoFap community, Tobias.

-How's it going?

-It's Tyger, right?

-Yeah, nice to meet you.

And it's Rundeep? Pleased to meet you, I'm Tobias.

-Come on in.

-Thank you. Thank you very much.

What a nice little place.

So how long is it that you've been "no-fapping" for now?

I haven't watched porn or masturbated for almost 550 days.

I think that's tomorrow, actually.

What benefits actually directly come from not watching porn?

Well, that's a very in-depth topic and once again,

it differs from person to person.

But if you're basically spending your whole...

Well, I wouldn't say your whole life watching porn,

but if you watch far too much of it

instead of interacting with actual females,

you tend to get a wrong idea of things like

what kind of things women like,

you get a wrong idea of what women should look like, for example.

For example, with porn stars, they're always wearing full make up,

they might be surgically enhanced

and if you basically masturbate to that on a consistent basis,

that becomes your sexual taste,

so when you're walking around and you're seeing girls who are just cute

and they've got natural bodies instead of enhanced ones,

you might find them a little less attractive,

because you're not getting off on that kind of image.

You're getting off on a fake image instead.

That's really interesting, actually.

That's partially one of the reasons I brought Rundeep here,

-because Rundeep watches quite a lot of pornography, don't you?

-Yes.

And what you basically just said

I think kind of hits the nail on the head.

I was probably watching it six times a day,

masturbating three times, four times a day,

about three to four hours a day and then it just went on and on.

Then I was booking escorts, spending my money on them,

and then it came to "What am I doing?

"What am I doing?", Yeah, "Has to be a porn star",

-a porn star experience escort like

-BLEEP.

Top-class escorts.

What you see in movies, what you can't get outside,

and my taste is as you described -

I want a porn star, not a normal person.

Would you say you think Rundeep has been brainwashed?

Brainwashed?

That's a rather heavy term, really, but in a certain extent, yeah.

I know if I see pictures of porn stars and how they usually look

when they're performing, I don't find that attractive any more.

I'd rather have a girl-next-door type.

And do you have any special techniques or pieces of advice

that you should give to Rundeep to try and help him

stay away from sexual thoughts?

Take up other activities. You said you do it out of boredom.

I had that as well,

so when you take it out of your life,

what have you got to do? You've got to introduce lots of new things.

Now, a lot of people think that if they take it out of their life,

their life is going to be immediately much better,

but you have to replace it with other things.

That's definitely an essential thing.

So as soon as these thoughts pop into my head, I'll just go...

HE EXHALES

That's my power stance.

'The power stance felt a bit weird.

'I wondered what else Tobias did to fill his porn-free time.'

I noticed on your YouTube video you said you started mountaineering

and playing the keyboard and stuff.

Yeah, it's a case of all of these things are stuff

that I couldn't consider myself doing before.

So you could say you went from playing one organ

-to playing another organ.

-I'll not do that joke.

Sorry.

OK.

'And that was our cue to leave.' Thanks again, Tobias.

'Taxi!'

What did you think about what he has to say?

-Yeah...

-'But if Tobias could do 500 days,

'I wondered how long I could last.'

I was almost at the end of my porn journey,

but there was one person I needed to see again.

I've come to meet Rundeep and he told me to meet him at a boxing gym.

I think it's quite a good sign that he's out boxing and stuff.

It means he's not at home wanking.

-Hey, buddy.

-You all right?

-I'm excited.

-You all right?

-How's it going?

-Not too bad, yourself?

I'd heard from Rundeep that he'd found himself a new hobby

and I was keen to know if it had replaced his old one.

But before I could find out,

he challenged me to get in the ring too.

Me?

A boxing ring?

Can only mean one thing.

Gratuitous Rocky montage.

MUSIC: "Eye Of The Tiger" by Survivor

Come on.

Back, good.

OK.

Hands up after.

-# It's the eye of the tiger... #

-Good, there you go.

# It's the thrill of the fight

# Rising up to the challenge of... #

OK, so I'm no Stallone,

but could this really be a replacement for porn?

Rundeep, what was it that made you decide to give up porn?

I think I just wanted to control my life.

Just wanted to change things,

so now it's time to take control of it.

Has it been difficult, giving up porn?

To be fair, the first seven days, no.

The eighth or ninth day, yeah. I thought I need to change.

If I want to do it, I have to be determined.

I get all my anger out here, I have fun and I enjoy what I do.

It might just be a start, but knowing I'd played even a small part

in helping Rundeep made me feel like a champion.

The truth is, I don't think anyone really knows

what the long-term effects will be of my generation's porn appetite.

Perhaps we're all too quick to put porn into one category -

good or bad.

The truth is it's a lot more complicated than that.

But one thing I have learned on this journey

is that we all need to talk about sex a lot more.

It needs conversations like what we like, what we don't like,

what we want from sex.

They need to replace the porn manual that is shaping

so many young people's sex lives today.

I'm not saying that I'm never going to watch porn again,

but it definitely has made me think twice about how much I turn to it.

MUSIC: "No You Girls" by Franz Ferdinand