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My name is Llyr Jones. | 0:01:20 | 0:01:23 | |
I'm 15 years old. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:25 | |
I'm from Aberystwyth and I'm transitioning from male to female. | 0:01:25 | 0:01:29 | |
Being transgender to me is, | 0:01:30 | 0:01:32 | |
like I feel completely different inside | 0:01:32 | 0:01:35 | |
to what I looked like outside. | 0:01:35 | 0:01:37 | |
I pretty much thought everyone, | 0:01:37 | 0:01:39 | |
like, hated to look in the mirror and that whole | 0:01:39 | 0:01:41 | |
subject just like made them feel gross, but | 0:01:41 | 0:01:46 | |
when you, like, find out there's more people going through the same | 0:01:46 | 0:01:49 | |
you understand it. You're like, "OK, I can help this." | 0:01:49 | 0:01:52 | |
Like, this isn't what I'm going to be like forever. | 0:01:52 | 0:01:55 | |
I think it's positive to be here today and just really sort of see | 0:01:55 | 0:02:00 | |
that it's not just one or two people | 0:02:00 | 0:02:02 | |
or a couple of dozen people who are supporting us... | 0:02:02 | 0:02:05 | |
HORN | 0:02:05 | 0:02:06 | |
..but everybody is. | 0:02:06 | 0:02:07 | |
# L is for the way you look at me | 0:02:14 | 0:02:19 | |
# O is for the only one I see | 0:02:19 | 0:02:26 | |
# V is very, very extraordinary | 0:02:26 | 0:02:32 | |
# E is even more than anyone that you adore, and love... # | 0:02:32 | 0:02:39 | |
Birmingham Pride was so much fun. | 0:02:39 | 0:02:41 | |
I think was such, like, an eye-opener. | 0:02:41 | 0:02:42 | |
It was such a good event to go to and the biggest thing was, | 0:02:42 | 0:02:47 | |
I think everyone just understood each other and you really didn't have to | 0:02:47 | 0:02:50 | |
explain yourself. And it was just such, like, a liberating event. | 0:02:50 | 0:02:53 | |
It was so nice. | 0:02:53 | 0:02:54 | |
# Take my heart and please don't break it | 0:02:54 | 0:02:57 | |
# Love was made for me and you. # | 0:02:57 | 0:03:02 | |
So this dress is the dress I wore to Sparkle. | 0:03:07 | 0:03:12 | |
The first Sparkle event will always have, like, such, like, | 0:03:12 | 0:03:15 | |
a big place in my heart. | 0:03:15 | 0:03:17 | |
The Swansea Sparkle has drawn the attention of | 0:03:21 | 0:03:25 | |
15-year-old Llyr who grew up on a farm near Aberystwyth. | 0:03:25 | 0:03:29 | |
He has just started his transition to become female. | 0:03:29 | 0:03:34 | |
Sparkle was, like, the first time | 0:03:39 | 0:03:41 | |
I really properly went outside in like a dress and heels and stuff. | 0:03:41 | 0:03:46 | |
And I think that was such a big thing to accomplish for me. | 0:03:46 | 0:03:50 | |
Cos obviously it needed to happen one time, | 0:03:50 | 0:03:52 | |
and I think doing it at such like | 0:03:52 | 0:03:54 | |
a safe environment like that, when everyone's like pretty much | 0:03:54 | 0:03:57 | |
in the same boat as you was such, like, a comforting feeling. | 0:03:57 | 0:04:00 | |
Being able to do that and it was so liberating. | 0:04:00 | 0:04:02 | |
I just felt so, like, empowered and only good has come from that event. | 0:04:02 | 0:04:06 | |
Everybody give a big round of applause to Miss Sparkle 2015! | 0:04:06 | 0:04:13 | |
-APPLAUSE -Well-deserved. | 0:04:13 | 0:04:16 | |
I think I was very nervous when the documentary was coming out, cos | 0:04:16 | 0:04:19 | |
you know, it's not really the normal, like, | 0:04:19 | 0:04:23 | |
it's not really the norm around here. | 0:04:23 | 0:04:25 | |
It's a very rural place, you know. | 0:04:25 | 0:04:28 | |
You look out the window and it's just fields and mountains, | 0:04:28 | 0:04:32 | |
and it's lovely in that sense but on the other side, | 0:04:32 | 0:04:36 | |
there isn't that much diversity going on here. | 0:04:36 | 0:04:38 | |
But everyone's had such good positive feedback | 0:04:38 | 0:04:42 | |
and I think that's a nice thing. | 0:04:42 | 0:04:44 | |
It was hard when he first told me, yes. | 0:04:47 | 0:04:50 | |
I know Llyr has been drip feeding me for a long time. | 0:04:51 | 0:04:54 | |
His ambition was to be a world-famous drag queen. | 0:04:57 | 0:05:01 | |
He said that, he told me that quite a few years ago. | 0:05:03 | 0:05:05 | |
That was his ambition. | 0:05:05 | 0:05:07 | |
I said, "Yeah, yeah, yeah." | 0:05:07 | 0:05:08 | |
You know, yeah, I just laughed it off with him at the time. | 0:05:08 | 0:05:13 | |
And then I thought, no, yeah, these better drag queens, | 0:05:13 | 0:05:16 | |
they do make quite a bit of money perhaps... | 0:05:16 | 0:05:19 | |
"If he can pull it off, good luck to him", I thought. | 0:05:19 | 0:05:22 | |
A friend phoned me up | 0:05:23 | 0:05:26 | |
the day after I told him that Llyr was transgender, | 0:05:26 | 0:05:30 | |
the following morning he phoned me up and told me | 0:05:30 | 0:05:33 | |
he hadn't slept at all, | 0:05:33 | 0:05:35 | |
he'd been on the internet all night, | 0:05:35 | 0:05:38 | |
looking at what transgender means. | 0:05:38 | 0:05:40 | |
And he offered me help | 0:05:41 | 0:05:45 | |
if I wanted help to consult or | 0:05:45 | 0:05:49 | |
employ, whatever is the term... | 0:05:49 | 0:05:52 | |
..the best psychiatrist available to talk Llyr out of transgender. | 0:05:54 | 0:06:01 | |
But I had to explain, "No, that is not possible." | 0:06:01 | 0:06:06 | |
That is how Llyr is, and that is how transgender people are. | 0:06:06 | 0:06:09 | |
You know, the shows and farming are so important to my dad. | 0:06:14 | 0:06:17 | |
It really is his life and it will be quite a big deal to, you know, | 0:06:17 | 0:06:22 | |
step out there because obviously, you know, | 0:06:22 | 0:06:25 | |
physically I've changed quite a bit from last year when they saw me. | 0:06:25 | 0:06:29 | |
We're going to an event which is very traditional Welsh farming, | 0:06:29 | 0:06:33 | |
so I'm not expecting everyone to understand it | 0:06:33 | 0:06:36 | |
but, yeah, I guess we'll just see what happens. | 0:06:36 | 0:06:42 | |
Mum, it doesn't open. | 0:06:42 | 0:06:43 | |
Ta-da! | 0:06:46 | 0:06:48 | |
It's kind of fun getting everything ready and we put this really nice | 0:06:48 | 0:06:53 | |
colour onto the cards, | 0:06:53 | 0:06:54 | |
because it just works better with the colour of the animals, so it | 0:06:54 | 0:06:58 | |
goes nice together instead of, like, the black ones they give you. | 0:06:58 | 0:07:01 | |
And it's just the last few things now, then they'll go to the ring. | 0:07:01 | 0:07:04 | |
So I guess it's, like, quite nerve-wracking today to, like, | 0:07:05 | 0:07:09 | |
think about people seeing, like, | 0:07:09 | 0:07:11 | |
this side of me because obviously, | 0:07:11 | 0:07:14 | |
the farming community have known me as Llyr | 0:07:14 | 0:07:17 | |
since I've grown up around these people and, | 0:07:17 | 0:07:21 | |
like, obviously, I haven't seen my family like this. | 0:07:21 | 0:07:24 | |
And I think I'm just so, like, | 0:07:24 | 0:07:26 | |
stressed and a bit nervous about what they think, that I don't want anyone | 0:07:26 | 0:07:29 | |
saying anything to my mum and dad because, like, | 0:07:29 | 0:07:31 | |
I don't want to put them through something that is happening to me | 0:07:31 | 0:07:34 | |
because it's not fair on them then. | 0:07:34 | 0:07:36 | |
Having Osian with me at such an important, | 0:07:36 | 0:07:40 | |
like, stage of my life, like, | 0:07:40 | 0:07:41 | |
going to school and even here today seeing the family and stuff - | 0:07:41 | 0:07:45 | |
it's been such a big help. | 0:07:45 | 0:07:47 | |
Like, having someone that's there with you 100% supportive and, like, | 0:07:47 | 0:07:51 | |
he just gets you. | 0:07:51 | 0:07:53 | |
And I think that's just like such a nice thing to have. | 0:07:53 | 0:07:56 | |
I guess I told Osian I was transgender before my mum. | 0:07:56 | 0:08:00 | |
It just really didn't shock me. | 0:08:00 | 0:08:02 | |
Like, I don't know. It takes a lot | 0:08:02 | 0:08:04 | |
-to shock me. -I feel it in your eyes it just, like, wasn't a big deal. | 0:08:04 | 0:08:07 | |
It's like normal, I think, yeah. | 0:08:07 | 0:08:09 | |
Llyr's fashion is, like, great now. | 0:08:09 | 0:08:11 | |
She dresses a lot better than most girls at our school. | 0:08:11 | 0:08:14 | |
Like, I'm not trying sound, like, horrible or anything but it's true. | 0:08:14 | 0:08:16 | |
I think Llyr has been so brave throughout this because we live in such, like, | 0:08:20 | 0:08:24 | |
a small place where everyone knows each other and, like, | 0:08:24 | 0:08:27 | |
everyone's business. | 0:08:27 | 0:08:29 | |
I think she's been extremely brave throughout it all. | 0:08:29 | 0:08:31 | |
I think the major, like, | 0:08:42 | 0:08:44 | |
tipping point for me was when I got my extensions put in. | 0:08:44 | 0:08:47 | |
You know, now looking up old pictures when I looked more masculine, it was | 0:08:47 | 0:08:52 | |
so weird because it doesn't look like the same person any more. | 0:08:52 | 0:08:56 | |
I think maybe I was very naive in the past in that, yes, | 0:08:56 | 0:09:00 | |
Llyr's going to transition - that's pretty much it, | 0:09:00 | 0:09:03 | |
but in order to get medical help, | 0:09:03 | 0:09:05 | |
some of the things we actually have to go through, | 0:09:05 | 0:09:09 | |
such as psychological assessment, | 0:09:09 | 0:09:11 | |
regular clinics down at the Tavistock in London, | 0:09:11 | 0:09:15 | |
and they have to be gone through. | 0:09:15 | 0:09:18 | |
This will be the next step would be on testosterone blockers. | 0:09:18 | 0:09:22 | |
So that will just slow down, | 0:09:22 | 0:09:24 | |
the kind of, like, boy puberty. | 0:09:24 | 0:09:29 | |
The next step after that will be on oestrogen which is the girl hormone. | 0:09:29 | 0:09:33 | |
Eventually, I think the right thing would be... | 0:09:33 | 0:09:37 | |
to do would be to go down the operation route, | 0:09:37 | 0:09:41 | |
just because I think it would... | 0:09:41 | 0:09:43 | |
I think I'd just feel a lot more comfortable in the long run. | 0:09:43 | 0:09:47 | |
Obviously, you do get some people just asking, you know, | 0:09:48 | 0:09:53 | |
"What if you change your mind one day?" | 0:09:53 | 0:09:55 | |
But I think unless you're living it, | 0:09:55 | 0:09:57 | |
you don't really understand how it feels. | 0:09:57 | 0:10:01 | |
Like, you've never been so sure about anything. | 0:10:01 | 0:10:05 | |
And, like, I think it's... | 0:10:05 | 0:10:08 | |
..a positive doing it so young because then, you know, | 0:10:09 | 0:10:13 | |
I have my whole life ahead of me as a woman. | 0:10:13 | 0:10:17 | |
I've always known I had to do this | 0:10:17 | 0:10:19 | |
and there's just no going back for me | 0:10:19 | 0:10:22 | |
and I don't see any other life but this. | 0:10:22 | 0:10:25 | |
Llyr had a tough time | 0:10:32 | 0:10:34 | |
all through his school up until two or three years ago | 0:10:34 | 0:10:38 | |
where he's suddenly got nothing to hide. He's a lot more confident. | 0:10:38 | 0:10:41 | |
You can see him walking, | 0:10:42 | 0:10:45 | |
his head up, he's enjoying life. | 0:10:45 | 0:10:48 | |
You know, he was... | 0:10:50 | 0:10:52 | |
Yeah. | 0:10:52 | 0:10:53 | |
He's a much happier person. | 0:10:55 | 0:10:56 | |
Do I call Llyr a 'he' or a 'she'? | 0:10:59 | 0:11:05 | |
To be honest with you, I don't know. | 0:11:05 | 0:11:06 | |
At present, he's still Llyr. | 0:11:06 | 0:11:09 | |
And in that respect, I still call him my son. | 0:11:09 | 0:11:12 | |
It's not going to be easy to change, I know that. | 0:11:13 | 0:11:15 | |
That will come with time. I don't know. | 0:11:16 | 0:11:19 | |
I feel, like, comfortable with the name Llyr right now. | 0:11:20 | 0:11:24 | |
It really doesn't bother me if I get called a he or a she, | 0:11:24 | 0:11:28 | |
or a boy or a girl. | 0:11:28 | 0:11:31 | |
Like, when the time is right, I'll be... | 0:11:31 | 0:11:34 | |
One day I'll be like, "OK, I want to be referred to as she now." | 0:11:34 | 0:11:38 | |
Oh, my God. It's going to be so creased. I need to iron it tonight. | 0:11:48 | 0:11:51 | |
I don't know how to iron, but... | 0:11:51 | 0:11:53 | |
-You've kept it in your bag. -It's very vibrant. | 0:11:53 | 0:11:55 | |
-I love it. -Should I show my suit? -Yeah. | 0:11:55 | 0:12:00 | |
Ooh, navy. | 0:12:00 | 0:12:02 | |
It's nice. | 0:12:04 | 0:12:05 | |
It feels lovely. | 0:12:05 | 0:12:06 | |
-I know. -The material feels so nice. | 0:12:06 | 0:12:08 | |
Such a comfy thing on as well. | 0:12:08 | 0:12:11 | |
A lot of dresses, like, they weren't really me. | 0:12:11 | 0:12:14 | |
They were very American, like, prom. | 0:12:14 | 0:12:16 | |
Like, very big, like almost kind of pageanty dresses. | 0:12:16 | 0:12:19 | |
But, yeah, I think I want more of a simple dress even though it's, like, | 0:12:20 | 0:12:23 | |
-so vibrant. -My first impressions on Llyr's dress is, like, | 0:12:23 | 0:12:26 | |
I really like it. It's very colourful, which I wasn't expecting. | 0:12:26 | 0:12:30 | |
It just screams "look at me", which I really like. | 0:12:30 | 0:12:34 | |
But I'm quite, like, a very out-there person. | 0:12:34 | 0:12:36 | |
Like, I'll wear any colour. | 0:12:36 | 0:12:38 | |
You know, my shrimp jumper. | 0:12:39 | 0:12:43 | |
Basically neon pink! | 0:12:43 | 0:12:44 | |
I guess that leavers is quite a big deal. | 0:12:52 | 0:12:55 | |
It's your last day with the people you've been with for five years. | 0:12:55 | 0:12:59 | |
Yeah, year 11 has gone by so fast. | 0:12:59 | 0:13:01 | |
-Too fast. -Now it's like tomorrow. | 0:13:01 | 0:13:03 | |
So I think going to leavers in heels and a dress, | 0:13:03 | 0:13:06 | |
I think it will be quite a big, | 0:13:06 | 0:13:09 | |
not shock, but it will just be, like, different. | 0:13:09 | 0:13:11 | |
And I'm excited. | 0:13:11 | 0:13:13 | |
CAR HORN HOOTS | 0:13:16 | 0:13:19 | |
# Birds flying high you know how I feel | 0:13:22 | 0:13:26 | |
# Sun in the sky you know how I feel | 0:13:26 | 0:13:32 | |
# Breeze drifting on by you know how I feel | 0:13:33 | 0:13:38 | |
# It's a new dawn it's a new day | 0:13:40 | 0:13:43 | |
# It's a new life for me | 0:13:45 | 0:13:47 | |
# Yeah, it's a new dawn it's a new day | 0:13:47 | 0:13:51 | |
# It's a new life for me | 0:13:51 | 0:13:53 | |
# Ooh | 0:13:53 | 0:13:58 | |
# And I'm feeling good. # | 0:13:58 | 0:14:02 | |
It has been fundamental, | 0:14:09 | 0:14:11 | |
her family's support in giving her the confidence to be who she is, | 0:14:11 | 0:14:17 | |
and her friendship group in school as well, totally supportive. | 0:14:17 | 0:14:20 | |
That has made a huge difference. | 0:14:20 | 0:14:22 | |
Make sure your hair is exactly how you would like it to be viewed in 30 | 0:14:24 | 0:14:28 | |
years from now. OK? | 0:14:28 | 0:14:31 | |
Everybody do something. Make it happen. | 0:14:31 | 0:14:33 | |
Ready? One, two and... | 0:14:33 | 0:14:37 | |
Three. | 0:14:37 | 0:14:38 | |
Her mum rang me and mum said she | 0:14:53 | 0:14:56 | |
wanted to come in and speak to me with Llyr, | 0:14:56 | 0:14:58 | |
and they came in and explained to me how she felt, | 0:14:58 | 0:15:01 | |
and what their progress is going to be, | 0:15:01 | 0:15:04 | |
and what we as a school could do to help her. | 0:15:04 | 0:15:06 | |
Did she want to change her name? | 0:15:06 | 0:15:08 | |
You know, did she want to wear a skirt in school? | 0:15:08 | 0:15:12 | |
I think you've got to be led by what the pupils themselves want, | 0:15:12 | 0:15:16 | |
and if you can adjust anything for them, so taking them out of PE, | 0:15:16 | 0:15:20 | |
or finding a unisex toilet, then you do that. | 0:15:20 | 0:15:23 | |
Her being | 0:15:27 | 0:15:29 | |
much more feminine is who she is, | 0:15:29 | 0:15:32 | |
and you can see the happiness and confidence shining through with her. | 0:15:32 | 0:15:37 | |
We've, like, done leavers now, so it's like this is our summer now. | 0:15:37 | 0:15:40 | |
It's like exciting. It's like, go and do stuff. | 0:15:40 | 0:15:43 | |
No worries. Nothing to worry about. | 0:15:44 | 0:15:46 | |
No. | 0:15:46 | 0:15:47 | |
We're free. | 0:15:47 | 0:15:49 | |
Let's get wasted. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:51 | |
-It feels like ages since the last time you were in here. -I know. | 0:16:06 | 0:16:08 | |
-How did your leavers go? -Really good, actually. | 0:16:08 | 0:16:12 | |
I think everything just went really well and, like, | 0:16:12 | 0:16:15 | |
everyone looked really good and I just really enjoyed everything. | 0:16:15 | 0:16:18 | |
I have this photo of me and Osian. | 0:16:18 | 0:16:20 | |
Oh, my God. | 0:16:20 | 0:16:21 | |
-You look so tall. I love that dress. -Thank you. | 0:16:23 | 0:16:26 | |
-Did you wear heels? -I did. I had these, like, grey suede heels. | 0:16:26 | 0:16:31 | |
I just thought I would be the tallest girl there. | 0:16:31 | 0:16:33 | |
That was usually me. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:35 | |
She doesn't need help with make-up tips | 0:16:36 | 0:16:39 | |
because she's already beautiful. | 0:16:39 | 0:16:41 | |
I was thinking that last time. I was like, | 0:16:41 | 0:16:43 | |
as a girl, you've got long eyelashes, | 0:16:43 | 0:16:45 | |
perfect eyebrows, big lips. | 0:16:45 | 0:16:47 | |
She's got no worries. | 0:16:47 | 0:16:48 | |
She's got everything I try and fake. | 0:16:49 | 0:16:51 | |
Yeah, I'm really happy with that. | 0:16:53 | 0:16:55 | |
-Is that enough off for you? -Yeah, thank you. | 0:16:55 | 0:16:57 | |
-Let me cool them off for you then. -Thank you. | 0:16:57 | 0:16:59 | |
This is so good. | 0:17:08 | 0:17:09 | |
Perfect. Ta-da! | 0:17:11 | 0:17:13 | |
So it's basically chocolate cake, | 0:17:13 | 0:17:15 | |
with chocolate in the middle and chocolate on top. | 0:17:15 | 0:17:17 | |
Sorted. Dad can have some later. | 0:17:17 | 0:17:19 | |
There you go. | 0:17:19 | 0:17:21 | |
-Thank you. -You're welcome. | 0:17:21 | 0:17:23 | |
-Happy birthday. -Cheers. -Ching! | 0:17:23 | 0:17:25 | |
My main two presents from my mum and dad were my phone, | 0:17:29 | 0:17:32 | |
and tickets to go and see Beyonce, which is amazing. | 0:17:32 | 0:17:35 | |
But my mum just got me this bracelet just to open on the day, | 0:17:35 | 0:17:39 | |
which is really nice. | 0:17:39 | 0:17:41 | |
When you realise, like, family have got me, maybe like, | 0:17:41 | 0:17:45 | |
a card with butterflies on it | 0:17:45 | 0:17:47 | |
or something or a bit more like maybe | 0:17:47 | 0:17:49 | |
gender neutral cards, it is a bit, like, nice of them to think of. | 0:17:49 | 0:17:53 | |
I think I've definitely noticed this birthday, of course. | 0:17:53 | 0:17:57 | |
16 years since she was born and | 0:17:57 | 0:18:01 | |
time has flown, hasn't it? | 0:18:01 | 0:18:04 | |
I remember that night he was born. | 0:18:04 | 0:18:08 | |
That was quite an emotional time. | 0:18:08 | 0:18:10 | |
And just imagine he was... | 0:18:11 | 0:18:14 | |
..two handfuls, he was. | 0:18:16 | 0:18:18 | |
Just look at him now. | 0:18:18 | 0:18:20 | |
At her now, whatever. | 0:18:20 | 0:18:21 | |
I'm quite proud of Llyr, | 0:18:23 | 0:18:26 | |
and proud of his determination | 0:18:26 | 0:18:30 | |
and his braveness in doing what he has done. | 0:18:30 | 0:18:34 | |
He is living his life to make himself happy | 0:18:36 | 0:18:39 | |
and it makes people around him happy. | 0:18:39 | 0:18:42 | |
And I think that is... | 0:18:43 | 0:18:45 | |
..something that anybody should | 0:18:47 | 0:18:49 | |
look up to him for. | 0:18:49 | 0:18:51 | |
Look at all these photos people have been tagging me in. | 0:19:02 | 0:19:05 | |
It's really old photos, when I was like... last year | 0:19:05 | 0:19:08 | |
and it's just crazy to see how much everything's changed in the year. | 0:19:08 | 0:19:11 | |
That one on the top right as well. | 0:19:11 | 0:19:13 | |
I know you're pulling a face but it's a little bit... | 0:19:13 | 0:19:15 | |
Thank you. | 0:19:19 | 0:19:20 | |
Let me light that for you. | 0:19:20 | 0:19:23 | |
Thank you. | 0:19:23 | 0:19:24 | |
It's so cute. | 0:19:24 | 0:19:27 | |
I love birthdays. | 0:19:29 | 0:19:31 | |
I don't remember pain. | 0:19:57 | 0:19:59 | |
The only thing I remember so clearly is what I smelled like. | 0:19:59 | 0:20:04 | |
Like burning, like, flesh, | 0:20:04 | 0:20:06 | |
I remember that smell and it was so, like, stuck in my brain. | 0:20:06 | 0:20:11 | |
I've like the slightest, | 0:20:13 | 0:20:14 | |
slightest memory of when were in A&E in Aber, | 0:20:14 | 0:20:18 | |
and I just remember I looked and I saw black. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:20 | |
Like I just saw my legs black. | 0:20:20 | 0:20:21 | |
"Teen badly burned in beach party fire horror." | 0:20:24 | 0:20:28 | |
A Penglais school pupil suffered burns to her legs | 0:20:28 | 0:20:32 | |
so severe she was faced with the possibility of amputation, | 0:20:32 | 0:20:37 | |
when petrol was thrown on a fire at a beach party. | 0:20:37 | 0:20:41 | |
It was my friend's birthday and we were sat around the fire, | 0:20:41 | 0:20:46 | |
and I think, like, me and Osian were getting up to leave, | 0:20:46 | 0:20:50 | |
and someone shouted, like, | 0:20:50 | 0:20:53 | |
"Let's get this party started", or something. | 0:20:53 | 0:20:56 | |
I remember this pink liquid getting poured onto the fire, | 0:20:56 | 0:20:59 | |
and then I heard, like, a pop, then turned around and I was like, | 0:20:59 | 0:21:04 | |
"Oh, the fire has exploded. | 0:21:04 | 0:21:05 | |
"We need to get away from this", and then I was like, "OK, I'm on fire. | 0:21:05 | 0:21:10 | |
"What's going on?" | 0:21:10 | 0:21:11 | |
So I think when I went over to the car, | 0:21:13 | 0:21:16 | |
I helped her slowly get out and I saw the look on Huw's face | 0:21:16 | 0:21:20 | |
and that scared me. | 0:21:20 | 0:21:21 | |
But I just held on to Llyr's hand and we got her into A&E. | 0:21:23 | 0:21:26 | |
I looked and I saw some massive blisters, | 0:21:26 | 0:21:29 | |
especially on her right leg which... | 0:21:29 | 0:21:32 | |
I've never seen anything like that. | 0:21:32 | 0:21:34 | |
I hate worrying people. | 0:21:43 | 0:21:45 | |
I've always been like that. | 0:21:46 | 0:21:48 | |
Like, no matter what it is, I hate worrying people, | 0:21:48 | 0:21:51 | |
and I remember this so well. | 0:21:51 | 0:21:52 | |
Like, I don't know why but my friend was phoning my mum when we were | 0:21:52 | 0:21:56 | |
in the car trying to get to the hospital and stuff. | 0:21:56 | 0:21:58 | |
And for some reason I was like, "Tell her not to worry, like, | 0:21:58 | 0:22:01 | |
"I don't want her to be worried." | 0:22:01 | 0:22:03 | |
There's been a bit of really intense, | 0:22:05 | 0:22:07 | |
I think emotionally and physically, | 0:22:07 | 0:22:09 | |
an intense time for everyone. | 0:22:09 | 0:22:12 | |
Obviously Llyr's being in pain | 0:22:12 | 0:22:14 | |
and has had to fight against that pain and | 0:22:14 | 0:22:17 | |
sort of win her own little battles over her own body, really. | 0:22:17 | 0:22:20 | |
You have to swim away from the pain. | 0:22:20 | 0:22:24 | |
Yeah. | 0:22:24 | 0:22:25 | |
Punch the pain. | 0:22:25 | 0:22:27 | |
Tickle the pain. Tickle the pain was the best one, | 0:22:27 | 0:22:29 | |
I think you were on quite strong medicine then, | 0:22:29 | 0:22:31 | |
when you were tickling the pain. | 0:22:31 | 0:22:33 | |
When they said, "Two years to completely heal", | 0:22:33 | 0:22:35 | |
I was in tears, and they thought I was upset and I said, "No, no, | 0:22:35 | 0:22:38 | |
"you've just said the phrase completely heal." | 0:22:38 | 0:22:41 | |
Which is something I never expected to hear, | 0:22:41 | 0:22:43 | |
and it just gave me so much hope that the experts knew | 0:22:43 | 0:22:48 | |
that she would heal with time. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:50 | |
Obviously transition is all about your body, | 0:22:50 | 0:22:53 | |
and the way your body looks, | 0:22:53 | 0:22:54 | |
and having that body that really matches how you are feeling, | 0:22:54 | 0:22:57 | |
so having something happen that's damaged important parts of her body, | 0:22:57 | 0:23:02 | |
very visible parts of her body with her legs, | 0:23:02 | 0:23:05 | |
potentially could have had quite a negative impact on her, | 0:23:05 | 0:23:09 | |
but I think because she's already in | 0:23:09 | 0:23:11 | |
such a strong place with her transition and she | 0:23:11 | 0:23:13 | |
has such strong body confidence, | 0:23:13 | 0:23:16 | |
that's possibly helped her get through this, | 0:23:16 | 0:23:20 | |
to some extent, as well. | 0:23:20 | 0:23:22 | |
Like, I didn't realise until, like, a few days after it happened, | 0:23:22 | 0:23:26 | |
all my extensions got singed. | 0:23:26 | 0:23:28 | |
Because obviously, my hair was such a big, like, | 0:23:28 | 0:23:31 | |
part of this whole thing, and then I was like, | 0:23:31 | 0:23:34 | |
I have to get my extensions out obviously, | 0:23:34 | 0:23:36 | |
because it's like I can't keep them in. | 0:23:36 | 0:23:39 | |
And I was like, "Well, what's going to happen?" | 0:23:40 | 0:23:42 | |
Am I just going to go back to what I was last year? | 0:23:42 | 0:23:46 | |
But then I think when I got them out, I felt so relieved. | 0:23:46 | 0:23:50 | |
And I just felt so happy and, like, realising just how long and, like, | 0:23:50 | 0:23:54 | |
thick my hair got. | 0:23:54 | 0:23:56 | |
Maybe sort of accepting and realising | 0:23:56 | 0:23:58 | |
that I really don't need these extensions to feel like me any more, | 0:23:58 | 0:24:03 | |
and I think that was the most rewarding feeling. | 0:24:03 | 0:24:07 | |
So me and mum went shopping last week and I got these trousers. | 0:24:07 | 0:24:12 | |
Everyone needs a piece in their wardrobe like this just to show | 0:24:12 | 0:24:16 | |
you know, bad things happen in life, | 0:24:16 | 0:24:19 | |
but put on some yellow trousers and everything will be all right. | 0:24:19 | 0:24:22 | |
This is the first time I've come with him to the Tavistock. | 0:24:41 | 0:24:44 | |
To be honest, I've lost track of the appointments they've had. | 0:24:44 | 0:24:51 | |
But due to commitments I've been unable to come. | 0:24:51 | 0:24:55 | |
But I know the last one was show week. | 0:24:57 | 0:25:01 | |
But that was definitely a no-no for me. | 0:25:01 | 0:25:04 | |
We have access to the specialist, yes. | 0:25:06 | 0:25:09 | |
But it's, you know, it's a five-hour journey one way. | 0:25:09 | 0:25:12 | |
You know, it's a two-day project. | 0:25:12 | 0:25:16 | |
Today, it's a bone scan to see how... | 0:25:16 | 0:25:19 | |
..Llyr's body will be able to cope | 0:25:22 | 0:25:25 | |
with the change in the hormone treatments, | 0:25:25 | 0:25:28 | |
which are going to be necessary. | 0:25:28 | 0:25:32 | |
Family reaction has been quite a difficult one. | 0:25:33 | 0:25:36 | |
It was very hard to tell my mother. | 0:25:44 | 0:25:46 | |
To be honest, I failed. | 0:25:48 | 0:25:49 | |
And she learnt from another... | 0:25:51 | 0:25:53 | |
..another source. | 0:25:55 | 0:25:56 | |
And I'm sorry to say this, but I did not know how to tell her. | 0:25:58 | 0:26:03 | |
And that is... | 0:26:04 | 0:26:05 | |
..is a regret I've got, yes. | 0:26:07 | 0:26:10 | |
But it was hard for her. | 0:26:12 | 0:26:15 | |
But as I gather... | 0:26:18 | 0:26:20 | |
..she is coming to terms with it. | 0:26:22 | 0:26:24 | |
-You OK? -Did it. | 0:26:28 | 0:26:31 | |
-How did it go? -Really good. | 0:26:31 | 0:26:32 | |
A bit nervous but it was good. | 0:26:32 | 0:26:34 | |
It was a scan of your hip first, wasn't it? | 0:26:34 | 0:26:36 | |
-Yes. -And then a scan of the spine. | 0:26:36 | 0:26:38 | |
All right. | 0:26:38 | 0:26:39 | |
-Good. -Getting the bone scan done is obviously a very important step | 0:26:39 | 0:26:43 | |
in the sort of journey, | 0:26:43 | 0:26:47 | |
and sort of getting hormones and | 0:26:47 | 0:26:49 | |
doing it properly and getting the bone scan | 0:26:49 | 0:26:51 | |
to make sure that nothing bad will happen. | 0:26:51 | 0:26:53 | |
It's just a lot safer way of doing it. | 0:26:53 | 0:26:56 | |
So in about five or ten minutes we're going to go for a group meeting with | 0:26:56 | 0:26:59 | |
other kids and families in the same situation as us. | 0:26:59 | 0:27:03 | |
We'll go and talk to the nurse and she'll explain the sort of next few | 0:27:03 | 0:27:06 | |
steps for us. | 0:27:06 | 0:27:07 | |
And it's an opportunity for us to ask questions. | 0:27:07 | 0:27:10 | |
It really does make you appreciate how lucky I am to have both parents | 0:27:13 | 0:27:19 | |
that support me equally and are always there for me and are willing | 0:27:19 | 0:27:23 | |
to come to these meetings with me. | 0:27:23 | 0:27:25 | |
I think we're getting the results soon, | 0:27:26 | 0:27:28 | |
and fingers crossed everything will be OK so I can carry on the process | 0:27:28 | 0:27:32 | |
and be prescribed hormone blockers. | 0:27:32 | 0:27:35 | |
It's such a big deal to be on hormone blockers, | 0:27:36 | 0:27:40 | |
because I think more than anything it just slows down | 0:27:40 | 0:27:44 | |
what's already going on. | 0:27:44 | 0:27:46 | |
The medical part of this has been really good in my experience. | 0:27:46 | 0:27:50 | |
I think everything's been moving really well and quickly, | 0:27:50 | 0:27:54 | |
and everything's just gone in our favour. | 0:27:54 | 0:27:58 | |
So we have to go into the GP, | 0:27:58 | 0:28:00 | |
and the GP referred Llyr to the mental health service. | 0:28:00 | 0:28:03 | |
And then they referred to the | 0:28:03 | 0:28:05 | |
Tavistock and Portman clinic in London. | 0:28:05 | 0:28:08 | |
That support network is what I like about it. | 0:28:08 | 0:28:12 | |
It is just really, like, you don't feel alone. | 0:28:12 | 0:28:15 | |
Like, you always feel like you have someone to talk to. | 0:28:15 | 0:28:18 | |
Because I think there might have been one appointment | 0:28:18 | 0:28:20 | |
where I just sat and cried for the whole hour, | 0:28:20 | 0:28:22 | |
and I don't think I realised how much emotion was | 0:28:22 | 0:28:26 | |
built up inside me until that appointment. | 0:28:26 | 0:28:29 | |
So I think that sort of surprised me. | 0:28:29 | 0:28:31 | |
When the professionals are looking at home life, | 0:28:31 | 0:28:34 | |
they've got a lot of aspects they're actually looking at. | 0:28:34 | 0:28:37 | |
One of the questions I was asked was, because I only have one child, | 0:28:37 | 0:28:41 | |
was whether I was disappointed with the gender of the child when born? | 0:28:41 | 0:28:45 | |
And that didn't come into it at all. | 0:28:45 | 0:28:47 | |
So, I think they're trying to make sure | 0:28:47 | 0:28:49 | |
that this is coming from the child, | 0:28:49 | 0:28:52 | |
that it's not coming from the parents. | 0:28:52 | 0:28:54 | |
There was a list of parts of my body, | 0:28:54 | 0:28:57 | |
and I had to list from one to ten, | 0:28:57 | 0:28:59 | |
how much I liked that body part. | 0:28:59 | 0:29:01 | |
So I think it really just made you think and it was like, | 0:29:02 | 0:29:05 | |
"OK, like, this is sort of right what I'm doing, | 0:29:05 | 0:29:08 | |
"because it's very obvious by this." | 0:29:08 | 0:29:10 | |
It's really odd when I think back to this time last year. | 0:29:12 | 0:29:17 | |
Llyr wasn't dressing full-time. | 0:29:19 | 0:29:21 | |
As far as the majority of people knew, Llyr was a boy. | 0:29:21 | 0:29:26 | |
That's what she looked like, that's how she dressed, | 0:29:26 | 0:29:29 | |
and now when I see her every day... | 0:29:29 | 0:29:31 | |
..being this lovely young woman, being my daughter, you know, | 0:29:33 | 0:29:36 | |
she is my daughter. | 0:29:36 | 0:29:37 | |
And it's just incredible to think back to a year ago | 0:29:37 | 0:29:40 | |
and exactly how much she's gone through in this last year, | 0:29:40 | 0:29:43 | |
and just to see her so much happier and see her being herself now, | 0:29:43 | 0:29:48 | |
it's just fantastic. | 0:29:48 | 0:29:50 | |
So I think the most exciting thing that I'm looking forward to | 0:29:50 | 0:29:54 | |
is Sparkle's coming up, and I think that just makes me so happy. | 0:29:54 | 0:29:59 | |
Like, because it's how we started everything. | 0:29:59 | 0:30:02 | |
And it's sort of like looking back at where I was, | 0:30:02 | 0:30:05 | |
going to Sparkle last year. | 0:30:05 | 0:30:07 | |
It's like how much has happened, and I think I'm just so excited to | 0:30:07 | 0:30:10 | |
see everyone, and see all our friends that are there, | 0:30:10 | 0:30:13 | |
and to hand over the crown and crown, like, new Miss Sparkle. | 0:30:13 | 0:30:18 | |
Which I'm really excited for whoever wins. | 0:30:18 | 0:30:20 | |
I'm just really excited to go. | 0:30:22 | 0:30:24 | |
Can I say excited one more time? | 0:30:24 | 0:30:26 | |
Excited. | 0:30:26 | 0:30:27 | |
I like this. That's cool. | 0:30:32 | 0:30:35 | |
Really good. | 0:30:43 | 0:30:44 | |
Yeah, because you're going to... | 0:30:44 | 0:30:46 | |
Because you've got to hand the crown over, you know that, don't you? | 0:30:46 | 0:30:49 | |
Well, I shall be doing a little interview with you first. | 0:30:49 | 0:30:51 | |
-Yeah. -And then, of course, | 0:30:51 | 0:30:53 | |
-when the winner comes you've got to put the crown... -Cool. Yeah. | 0:30:53 | 0:30:56 | |
It just kind of made me feel like a normal person. | 0:31:03 | 0:31:07 | |
I felt I wasn't normal, I guess, because I didn't know whether... | 0:31:07 | 0:31:10 | |
So for me, ten years from now... I know I'll be a girl. | 0:31:14 | 0:31:20 | |
It's a really good feeling, | 0:31:34 | 0:31:36 | |
sort of being back in Swansea again from last year. | 0:31:36 | 0:31:39 | |
Seeing the old documentary earlier. | 0:31:39 | 0:31:41 | |
I wasn't confident at all. | 0:31:41 | 0:31:43 | |
I looked so afraid of everything, | 0:31:43 | 0:31:45 | |
I just wasn't holding myself properly. | 0:31:45 | 0:31:47 | |
And I think just to see the confidence I've gained in a year, | 0:31:47 | 0:31:52 | |
it's crazy. | 0:31:52 | 0:31:55 | |
It's like, yeah, I'm doing the right thing. | 0:31:55 | 0:31:58 | |
I'm really excited for tonight. | 0:31:58 | 0:32:00 | |
# Here we go | 0:32:09 | 0:32:10 | |
# Here we go. # | 0:32:25 | 0:32:26 | |
I find there's a lot more younger people coming through now, | 0:32:26 | 0:32:29 | |
as young as 14, have been in touch with me now. | 0:32:29 | 0:32:31 | |
Asking me questions | 0:32:32 | 0:32:34 | |
and progressing much quicker than what we ever did, | 0:32:34 | 0:32:37 | |
much, much quicker than we ever did. | 0:32:37 | 0:32:39 | |
We was restricted, of course, at our age | 0:32:39 | 0:32:42 | |
because we didn't have the law on our side, | 0:32:42 | 0:32:44 | |
but today they've got carte blanche with the law and they know they're | 0:32:44 | 0:32:47 | |
protected and so they're coming out and progressing much, | 0:32:47 | 0:32:50 | |
much quicker than we ever did, | 0:32:50 | 0:32:51 | |
and good luck to them because that's lives | 0:32:51 | 0:32:53 | |
that are not going to be wasted. | 0:32:53 | 0:32:54 | |
Ours was wasted, theirs isn't. | 0:32:54 | 0:32:57 | |
Judges, what you've got to do tonight, | 0:32:59 | 0:33:01 | |
you've got to judge these contestants as I bring them up. | 0:33:01 | 0:33:04 | |
We're looking for poise, | 0:33:04 | 0:33:06 | |
we're looking for the effort they put in to | 0:33:06 | 0:33:10 | |
being what they are tonight, | 0:33:10 | 0:33:12 | |
co-ordination, personality. | 0:33:12 | 0:33:16 | |
Can you remember last year's winner? | 0:33:16 | 0:33:18 | |
The youngster from Aberystwyth, young Llyr. | 0:33:18 | 0:33:22 | |
Come on, darling. | 0:33:22 | 0:33:24 | |
Everybody who's seen the documentary would've seen Llyr on there. | 0:33:24 | 0:33:28 | |
Now, isn't she grown to be a lovely beautiful big girl, isn't she, eh? | 0:33:28 | 0:33:33 | |
It's been a crazy year. I think, | 0:33:33 | 0:33:35 | |
obviously being able to hold that title, | 0:33:35 | 0:33:37 | |
and being able to do so much stuff and it's been so amazing, | 0:33:37 | 0:33:40 | |
I can't wait to give the crown to someone else. | 0:33:40 | 0:33:43 | |
Fantastic. | 0:33:43 | 0:33:44 | |
Now, darling. Where are you from? | 0:33:44 | 0:33:46 | |
-Swansea. -Oh, that's good. | 0:33:46 | 0:33:50 | |
Judges, did you hear that? | 0:33:50 | 0:33:51 | |
-Swansea, yes. -Come on, do it for Swansea. | 0:33:51 | 0:33:54 | |
Do it for Swansea. Now darling if you won tonight, | 0:33:54 | 0:33:58 | |
what would you do for Swansea and Swansea Sparkle? | 0:33:58 | 0:34:02 | |
Well, obviously I would try to open some sort of LGBT group | 0:34:02 | 0:34:05 | |
in the school I go to, to let people know they can be themselves | 0:34:05 | 0:34:07 | |
without these restrictions. | 0:34:07 | 0:34:09 | |
Good for you, darling. | 0:34:09 | 0:34:10 | |
Better said. Very well said. | 0:34:10 | 0:34:13 | |
I came out as trans this year, | 0:34:13 | 0:34:15 | |
and this is the first LGBT event I've ever been to. | 0:34:15 | 0:34:18 | |
Good for you, darling. | 0:34:18 | 0:34:19 | |
Big round of applause. | 0:34:19 | 0:34:20 | |
Seeing all you lovely people here and witnessing what I've seen today, | 0:34:20 | 0:34:24 | |
I'm very, very excited for the future. | 0:34:24 | 0:34:26 | |
That's very nice. Come on, let's have a big round of applause. | 0:34:26 | 0:34:29 | |
Right, we've got the results. | 0:34:36 | 0:34:38 | |
Now, before I give these results out, girls, | 0:34:38 | 0:34:41 | |
I want you to know I had no fucking part in this whatsoever, all right? | 0:34:41 | 0:34:46 | |
So do not shoot the messenger. | 0:34:46 | 0:34:49 | |
So the first prize, | 0:34:49 | 0:34:51 | |
could please come forward with a big round of applause, | 0:34:51 | 0:34:55 | |
for Willow Jane? | 0:34:55 | 0:34:57 | |
APPLAUSE | 0:34:57 | 0:35:00 | |
Please put the crown on her. | 0:35:00 | 0:35:01 | |
A big round of applause, come on. | 0:35:01 | 0:35:05 | |
Bit of music. | 0:35:05 | 0:35:06 | |
Thank you very much indeed. A big round of applause. | 0:35:10 | 0:35:13 | |
Tonight we're leaving with this experience under our belt. | 0:35:34 | 0:35:38 | |
You know, I think we're leaving with so much more friends, | 0:35:38 | 0:35:42 | |
and I just feel so overwhelmed with the kindness of everyone in there. | 0:35:42 | 0:35:50 | |
We might not have the tiara, | 0:35:50 | 0:35:51 | |
or the pillow or the sash that we had last year | 0:35:51 | 0:35:55 | |
but we have so much more, | 0:35:55 | 0:35:57 | |
and it's just such a lovely feeling to walk away with. | 0:35:57 | 0:36:00 | |
So we're in the surgery right now, | 0:36:41 | 0:36:43 | |
I'm about to go into | 0:36:43 | 0:36:46 | |
the nurse's office to have my first injection | 0:36:46 | 0:36:49 | |
for my testosterone blocker, | 0:36:49 | 0:36:51 | |
and I'm really excited and kind of nervous. | 0:36:51 | 0:36:54 | |
But I think I'm just really excited to get | 0:36:55 | 0:36:57 | |
the first major step over and done with. | 0:36:57 | 0:37:01 | |
Whatever happens, | 0:37:13 | 0:37:15 | |
people have got to be happy in their life, | 0:37:15 | 0:37:18 | |
and I think this is... | 0:37:18 | 0:37:19 | |
..another step to making Llyr the person she wants to be. | 0:37:22 | 0:37:27 | |
As soon as the needle went in, | 0:37:27 | 0:37:29 | |
I think I just felt a burst of emotions because, OK, this is done, | 0:37:29 | 0:37:32 | |
this is insane. | 0:37:32 | 0:37:35 | |
It's such a relief and kind of emotional that it's done. | 0:37:35 | 0:37:38 | |
She's squeezing my hand quite hard and then I think I looked at Llyr, | 0:37:38 | 0:37:42 | |
and saw the happiness and the emotion in her eyes | 0:37:42 | 0:37:44 | |
so that was me off then. | 0:37:44 | 0:37:46 | |
So we had a little cry and a good old hug together. | 0:37:46 | 0:37:48 | |
I think it just puts things into perspective | 0:37:50 | 0:37:53 | |
how far I've come and I've changed, | 0:37:53 | 0:37:56 | |
not only looks or being able to get the injection, | 0:37:56 | 0:38:00 | |
but personality, | 0:38:00 | 0:38:01 | |
and I think I've grown so much as a person in this past year. | 0:38:01 | 0:38:04 | |
Ten years from now, I don't know. | 0:38:09 | 0:38:11 | |
I guess my future | 0:38:13 | 0:38:16 | |
is in my hands. | 0:38:16 | 0:38:17 | |
I don't know what I'll be doing. | 0:38:17 | 0:38:20 | |
I hope it's something I love, I hope I'm surrounded by people I love, | 0:38:21 | 0:38:26 | |
and I hope I'm happy. | 0:38:26 | 0:38:27 |