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What are you doing? | 0:00:06 | 0:00:08 | |
Nothing. I'm just recording something. | 0:00:08 | 0:00:11 | |
OK. | 0:00:11 | 0:00:12 | |
Oh! Don't... | 0:00:13 | 0:00:17 | |
Don't delete the stuff we recorded the other night. | 0:00:17 | 0:00:20 | |
-The intimate stuff. -Go away. | 0:00:20 | 0:00:23 | |
OK. | 0:00:26 | 0:00:27 | |
Hiya. I, uh... | 0:00:34 | 0:00:37 | |
I just wanted to say a few things | 0:00:37 | 0:00:39 | |
because I might not be here when you're old enough to understand. | 0:00:39 | 0:00:43 | |
There's so much I want to say to you | 0:00:44 | 0:00:46 | |
but now I'm here doing it, of course, I'm not sure where to start. | 0:00:46 | 0:00:51 | |
I'm Anna, by the way. | 0:00:51 | 0:00:54 | |
I'm your mum. | 0:00:54 | 0:00:55 | |
And I love you very much. | 0:00:56 | 0:00:58 | |
CAMERA BEEPS | 0:01:35 | 0:01:36 | |
Just so you know, we're recording this | 0:01:36 | 0:01:38 | |
as part of the assessment process. | 0:01:38 | 0:01:40 | |
Do I look at the camera? Do I look at... You? | 0:01:40 | 0:01:44 | |
-This is all very... -I know. | 0:01:44 | 0:01:46 | |
I'm going to need you to be as relaxed about this as possible. | 0:01:46 | 0:01:50 | |
Easily said but very difficult to do, I know. | 0:01:50 | 0:01:53 | |
Now, after this chat, we'll go and see Danielle, OK? | 0:01:53 | 0:01:57 | |
OK. | 0:01:57 | 0:01:58 | |
So tell me about Tom. | 0:01:58 | 0:02:00 | |
You've never done a midnight skinny dip?! | 0:02:00 | 0:02:02 | |
There's something about the water at midnight. | 0:02:02 | 0:02:05 | |
-You've seen Gremlins, right? -You're not convincing me here. | 0:02:05 | 0:02:07 | |
It's freezing. People are going to be watching. | 0:02:07 | 0:02:10 | |
-There's a party going on right there, you know. -Fuck 'em. | 0:02:10 | 0:02:12 | |
-Shoes off. -Oi, stop! | 0:02:12 | 0:02:15 | |
Don't worry, I'll look after you. | 0:02:15 | 0:02:16 | |
-OK, well, maybe I won't entirely believe you on that one. -Why? | 0:02:16 | 0:02:19 | |
Because A - you're blind and B - you're drunk. | 0:02:19 | 0:02:21 | |
Partially sighted, if you don't mind. | 0:02:21 | 0:02:23 | |
It's dark. I imagine you're pretty blind right now. | 0:02:23 | 0:02:26 | |
You're a bit fucking forward, aren't you? I don't even know your name. | 0:02:26 | 0:02:30 | |
What's your name again? | 0:02:31 | 0:02:34 | |
Anna. | 0:02:34 | 0:02:35 | |
Well, Anna... | 0:02:35 | 0:02:38 | |
I'm Tom. | 0:02:38 | 0:02:39 | |
And right now I'm going to rip your clothes off | 0:02:41 | 0:02:45 | |
and throw you in the pool, because you need it. | 0:02:45 | 0:02:48 | |
Trust me. You need it. | 0:02:49 | 0:02:52 | |
-She's kind. -In what way? | 0:03:05 | 0:03:08 | |
Sorry, I don't understand. | 0:03:08 | 0:03:10 | |
Just describe how she's kind. | 0:03:10 | 0:03:14 | |
She's... | 0:03:14 | 0:03:15 | |
She doesn't like people being hurt. | 0:03:16 | 0:03:20 | |
She doesn't ever laugh at You've Been Framed because | 0:03:20 | 0:03:22 | |
she's worried that they're hurt. She always shares her chips. She's kind. | 0:03:22 | 0:03:26 | |
-I'm not here to catch you out, Tom. -Aren't you? | 0:03:26 | 0:03:29 | |
OK, if I were to ask you to describe your relationship, | 0:03:32 | 0:03:36 | |
what word would you use? | 0:03:36 | 0:03:37 | |
Saucy. | 0:03:38 | 0:03:40 | |
I don't know. Happy. | 0:03:43 | 0:03:44 | |
THEY PANT | 0:03:48 | 0:03:50 | |
When you look at me like that, | 0:04:00 | 0:04:02 | |
what do you see? | 0:04:02 | 0:04:05 | |
I mean, are these Kim Kardashian tits in your eyes? Are you...? | 0:04:05 | 0:04:09 | |
I can make most things out. | 0:04:09 | 0:04:11 | |
So what do you see? | 0:04:14 | 0:04:15 | |
In this light... | 0:04:18 | 0:04:19 | |
..you're a very lovely blur. | 0:04:21 | 0:04:24 | |
SHE LAUGHS | 0:04:24 | 0:04:26 | |
OK... My turn for a question. | 0:04:29 | 0:04:33 | |
How much of that did you feel? | 0:04:36 | 0:04:39 | |
I mean... You can feel? | 0:04:39 | 0:04:44 | |
Yes, Tom. I can feel. | 0:04:44 | 0:04:47 | |
So I suppose me getting anal without you realising is | 0:05:00 | 0:05:04 | |
completely out of the question, then. | 0:05:04 | 0:05:06 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:05:09 | 0:05:12 | |
In life, and you'll learn this, | 0:05:17 | 0:05:20 | |
there's moments when everything changes. | 0:05:20 | 0:05:23 | |
Pregnant? | 0:05:24 | 0:05:26 | |
Yeah. | 0:05:26 | 0:05:27 | |
'When I found out about you, I couldn't believe it, and even though | 0:05:30 | 0:05:34 | |
'they said having you might be a bit tricky, I didn't think twice.' | 0:05:34 | 0:05:38 | |
Ultimately it's down to you, of course, Anna. | 0:05:38 | 0:05:41 | |
Because these risks are not minimal risks. | 0:05:41 | 0:05:44 | |
I think maybe we should talk about this. I'm just saying... | 0:05:45 | 0:05:49 | |
You think what? My whole fucking life has been a risk! | 0:05:49 | 0:05:52 | |
You OK, Tom? | 0:05:56 | 0:05:58 | |
-You seem a bit troubled. -No, I'm... | 0:05:58 | 0:06:02 | |
I'm just... I'm frustrated that I'm not saying the right thing. | 0:06:02 | 0:06:05 | |
And what do you think the right thing to say is? | 0:06:05 | 0:06:07 | |
If I knew that, I'd be saying is, wouldn't I? | 0:06:07 | 0:06:09 | |
Look, you keep asking me to constantly spout different ways | 0:06:09 | 0:06:12 | |
of describing her, the situations we've been in, how I feel | 0:06:12 | 0:06:15 | |
and I really, I lack the adjectives. | 0:06:15 | 0:06:17 | |
You seem to actually have a very extensive vocabulary, Tom. | 0:06:17 | 0:06:21 | |
Yes, but the only word I can think of when describing | 0:06:21 | 0:06:24 | |
me, her and Dani is "happy" and... | 0:06:24 | 0:06:26 | |
..I've already used that word up. | 0:06:28 | 0:06:31 | |
MONITOR BEEPS | 0:06:31 | 0:06:33 | |
-MUFFLED: -Ten... | 0:06:36 | 0:06:37 | |
..nine... | 0:06:39 | 0:06:41 | |
..eight... | 0:06:43 | 0:06:45 | |
..seven... | 0:06:49 | 0:06:50 | |
-You should be with her. -They said I'd get in the way. | 0:07:09 | 0:07:11 | |
-Well, you should have insisted. -And if I'd got in the way? | 0:07:11 | 0:07:14 | |
Well, they could have sat you in the corner. | 0:07:14 | 0:07:16 | |
Your father read in a magazine that it's very important for a baby | 0:07:24 | 0:07:28 | |
to feel his father's skin. Apparently it's bonding. | 0:07:28 | 0:07:31 | |
Apparently it's quite the thing now | 0:07:31 | 0:07:33 | |
for fathers to stand around with their tops off. | 0:07:33 | 0:07:35 | |
-Did Dad stand around with his top off? -Of course he didn't! | 0:07:35 | 0:07:38 | |
Even if he had, he was getting a bit flabby even then. | 0:07:41 | 0:07:45 | |
She could die, Mum. | 0:07:47 | 0:07:50 | |
I know. I know. | 0:07:50 | 0:07:53 | |
'I want you to be a fighter, Dani. There'll be times in your life | 0:07:55 | 0:07:58 | |
'when you're told that something is impossible, | 0:07:58 | 0:08:01 | |
'that you can't do something, | 0:08:01 | 0:08:03 | |
'you can't be something, and when that happens, you need to fight.' | 0:08:03 | 0:08:07 | |
I'm sorry this is difficult. | 0:08:08 | 0:08:10 | |
It's a process which decides what's best for Danielle. | 0:08:10 | 0:08:13 | |
And who decides that? | 0:08:13 | 0:08:15 | |
Us here at Children's Services, | 0:08:15 | 0:08:17 | |
your key worker and everyone who's looking out for you. | 0:08:17 | 0:08:21 | |
We're here to make sure Danielle gets the level of care she needs, | 0:08:21 | 0:08:26 | |
and whether or not you can provide that care. | 0:08:26 | 0:08:29 | |
And we will need to consider all options, I'm afraid, | 0:08:29 | 0:08:32 | |
including fostering. | 0:08:32 | 0:08:34 | |
You're doing really well. OK? | 0:08:45 | 0:08:49 | |
Dani... | 0:08:51 | 0:08:53 | |
She's alive. | 0:08:53 | 0:08:54 | |
You're both alive. | 0:08:57 | 0:08:58 | |
Do you know how dangerous it was for Anna? | 0:09:04 | 0:09:06 | |
We risked everything for her, for Dani. | 0:09:08 | 0:09:11 | |
So, it went well. | 0:09:14 | 0:09:16 | |
-Am I gripping too tight or walking too fast? -No, no. | 0:09:16 | 0:09:19 | |
-I don't know if you can see, but she's... -I can see enough. | 0:09:19 | 0:09:23 | |
She's a beautiful little girl. | 0:09:23 | 0:09:25 | |
Dani is going to have a number of obstacles in her life. | 0:09:49 | 0:09:53 | |
She may be disabled herself. | 0:09:53 | 0:09:55 | |
She certainly has disabled parents. | 0:09:55 | 0:09:58 | |
I know this is hard, Tom, | 0:09:59 | 0:10:01 | |
but the truth is, we don't know how long Anna will be around | 0:10:01 | 0:10:04 | |
and your sight is getting worse. | 0:10:04 | 0:10:06 | |
We have to be sure Dani is going to be safe. | 0:10:08 | 0:10:11 | |
OK, so, Danielle Watson... | 0:10:15 | 0:10:19 | |
Yeah. Both parents are disabled. | 0:10:20 | 0:10:23 | |
It was touch and go whether mum would even survive the birth | 0:10:23 | 0:10:27 | |
but the hospital want to discharge them in the next couple of days. | 0:10:27 | 0:10:30 | |
Mum's disability is severe. | 0:10:30 | 0:10:33 | |
She's grown up repeatedly being told she only has two years to live. | 0:10:33 | 0:10:38 | |
She has a rare muscle wasting disease which may have been | 0:10:38 | 0:10:42 | |
passed down to baby. | 0:10:42 | 0:10:44 | |
-Tom's her principal carer, is that right? -Yeah. | 0:10:46 | 0:10:49 | |
He provides a lot of care. They're both fiercely independent. | 0:10:49 | 0:10:53 | |
Someone comes in daily to help with the basics, but that's it. | 0:10:53 | 0:10:57 | |
Any timescale on the sight loss? | 0:10:59 | 0:11:01 | |
Tom has lost most of his peripheral vision. | 0:11:01 | 0:11:04 | |
His dad had lost his sight entirely by the time he was Tom's age. | 0:11:04 | 0:11:07 | |
So we have a partially sighted man | 0:11:09 | 0:11:11 | |
who is going to attempt to care for both his partner and his child | 0:11:11 | 0:11:15 | |
with the assumption that both cases will deteriorate | 0:11:15 | 0:11:18 | |
-as the child grows up. -Yeah. | 0:11:18 | 0:11:20 | |
These are very challenging circumstances | 0:11:22 | 0:11:24 | |
in which to place a baby. | 0:11:24 | 0:11:26 | |
Are you sure this is Dani? | 0:11:35 | 0:11:37 | |
Ha-ha, very funny! | 0:11:37 | 0:11:39 | |
You've taken pictures of what looks like an Asian baby. | 0:11:39 | 0:11:43 | |
That's her. That's Dani. | 0:11:43 | 0:11:46 | |
Oh, my God, she's gorgeous! | 0:11:48 | 0:11:50 | |
Have you seen them yet? | 0:11:54 | 0:11:55 | |
The people with clipboards and social workers looking at us sideways? | 0:11:57 | 0:12:01 | |
DANI GURGLES | 0:12:34 | 0:12:36 | |
Ssh. | 0:12:36 | 0:12:37 | |
SHE MOUTHS | 0:12:46 | 0:12:48 | |
-Have you held her yet? -No. | 0:12:58 | 0:13:00 | |
Hang on. | 0:13:00 | 0:13:02 | |
It helps with bonding. | 0:13:06 | 0:13:07 | |
-You look ridiculous. -Give me my daughter, Anna. | 0:13:07 | 0:13:10 | |
Hello! | 0:13:20 | 0:13:21 | |
Hi. | 0:13:35 | 0:13:36 | |
So, as you know, the doctors are allowing you home tonight, Anna. | 0:13:41 | 0:13:44 | |
And Dani? | 0:13:44 | 0:13:46 | |
Dani is a more complicated issue. That's why I'm here. | 0:13:46 | 0:13:49 | |
-Is there something wrong? -No. No. | 0:13:49 | 0:13:52 | |
Is there any sign that she's got my condition? | 0:13:52 | 0:13:55 | |
-Anna! They won't know that yet. -Then why do they need to keep her in? | 0:13:55 | 0:13:59 | |
A decision has been made that we should use this as an opportunity | 0:14:01 | 0:14:05 | |
to assess whether you're able to meet Danielle's needs. | 0:14:05 | 0:14:08 | |
We're going to undertake what we call a Child In Need assessment. | 0:14:08 | 0:14:11 | |
-And what does that mean? -Well, in this case it means | 0:14:11 | 0:14:14 | |
coming to the family room here at the hospital every day, | 0:14:14 | 0:14:18 | |
spending as much time as you want with Danielle, doing everything | 0:14:18 | 0:14:21 | |
-you would for her at home... -But with you watching us? | 0:14:21 | 0:14:24 | |
With you marking us, ready at any moment to take our child away. | 0:14:24 | 0:14:27 | |
-It's not like that, Tom. -What? Am I lying? | 0:14:27 | 0:14:30 | |
MUSIC: Not About Angels by Birdy | 0:14:34 | 0:14:37 | |
# We know full well there's just time | 0:14:37 | 0:14:39 | |
# So is it wrong to dance this line? | 0:14:44 | 0:14:48 | |
# If your heart was full of love | 0:14:53 | 0:14:57 | |
# Could you give it up? | 0:14:59 | 0:15:05 | |
# Cos what about, what about angels? | 0:15:10 | 0:15:16 | |
# They will come, they will go... # | 0:15:19 | 0:15:22 | |
ALARM BEEPS | 0:15:22 | 0:15:25 | |
# Don't give me up... # | 0:15:31 | 0:15:34 | |
Two hours. | 0:15:34 | 0:15:37 | |
We see her again in two hours. | 0:15:37 | 0:15:39 | |
# Don't give me up | 0:15:40 | 0:15:46 | |
# How unfair, it's just our luck | 0:15:51 | 0:15:55 | |
# Found something real that's out of touch | 0:15:59 | 0:16:03 | |
# But if you'd searched the whole wide world... # | 0:16:07 | 0:16:11 | |
-You OK? -OK. | 0:16:11 | 0:16:13 | |
# Would you dare to let it go? | 0:16:15 | 0:16:19 | |
# It's not about, not about angels | 0:16:24 | 0:16:28 | |
# Angels. # | 0:16:28 | 0:16:33 | |
So these are my two colleagues. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:34 | |
This is Polly. She's an occupational therapist, | 0:16:34 | 0:16:37 | |
-and Jeremy here is a family centre worker. -Hi. | 0:16:37 | 0:16:40 | |
Hi, I'm Tom. I'm a dad, and this is Anna. She's a mum. | 0:16:40 | 0:16:45 | |
Right, well, this is where we'll be. | 0:16:45 | 0:16:47 | |
Let's see how you get on over the next few days, | 0:16:50 | 0:16:53 | |
then we'll work out what's the next best step. OK? | 0:16:53 | 0:16:57 | |
Don't be afraid to ask me anything. | 0:16:59 | 0:17:01 | |
Don't be afraid to ask me to do anything. | 0:17:01 | 0:17:03 | |
Thanks, Jeremy. | 0:17:06 | 0:17:08 | |
DANI CRIES | 0:17:08 | 0:17:09 | |
Coming, Dani. | 0:17:09 | 0:17:11 | |
Don't cry. It's all right. | 0:17:15 | 0:17:17 | |
She likes it. | 0:17:25 | 0:17:27 | |
-Oh! -Hiya! Hiya! | 0:17:29 | 0:17:32 | |
Who's this, then? Hello! | 0:17:32 | 0:17:35 | |
Hiya! | 0:17:37 | 0:17:39 | |
Look at her looking at you. | 0:17:39 | 0:17:41 | |
-Oh! -She looks like you. | 0:17:41 | 0:17:43 | |
Hey! | 0:17:47 | 0:17:49 | |
DANI SNEEZES | 0:17:49 | 0:17:50 | |
Oh, bless you! | 0:17:50 | 0:17:52 | |
Oh, there's a big yawn. | 0:17:54 | 0:17:57 | |
-AUTOMATED VOICE: -'Put in eight grams.' | 0:17:57 | 0:17:59 | |
'I hope you find this out for yourself one day, | 0:18:04 | 0:18:07 | |
'but nothing prepares you for being a parent. | 0:18:07 | 0:18:10 | |
'Life suddenly seems to make sense. | 0:18:12 | 0:18:14 | |
'But at the same time, you worry you'll make mistakes. | 0:18:28 | 0:18:32 | |
'I just hope we didn't make too many with you. | 0:18:33 | 0:18:37 | |
'As long as you try your best, that's all you can do. | 0:18:37 | 0:18:40 | |
'Truth is, no-one's perfect, are they?' | 0:18:43 | 0:18:46 | |
-Hey, Mum. -'Hiya.' | 0:19:05 | 0:19:07 | |
-I got Dani to sleep. -'Really?' -Yeah. | 0:19:07 | 0:19:10 | |
Yeah, listen. | 0:19:10 | 0:19:11 | |
DANI SNORES | 0:19:11 | 0:19:13 | |
-'How old is she now?' -11 days but she's changed so much. | 0:19:15 | 0:19:19 | |
So when are you coming up? | 0:19:21 | 0:19:22 | |
Boo! | 0:19:34 | 0:19:35 | |
This is my colleague, Mike. | 0:19:37 | 0:19:40 | |
-Hello there. -Do you mind if I call you Social Worker 454? | 0:19:40 | 0:19:46 | |
Call me what you like. | 0:19:46 | 0:19:47 | |
He's here today to run through some emergency scenarios with you both. | 0:19:47 | 0:19:51 | |
What happens if Dani burns herself or hurts herself | 0:19:51 | 0:19:55 | |
or suddenly falls ill? | 0:19:55 | 0:19:56 | |
Sort of like The Krypton Factor but slightly less assault-coursey. | 0:19:56 | 0:19:59 | |
-Is that a joke? -Yeah, it's a pretty bad one, that, too. | 0:19:59 | 0:20:03 | |
The truth is, you're here to see | 0:20:03 | 0:20:05 | |
whether I'm going to kill our baby, right? | 0:20:05 | 0:20:07 | |
Um... | 0:20:08 | 0:20:10 | |
And we've got some DVDs we need you to watch. | 0:20:10 | 0:20:13 | |
'Bring it up to the boil and when large bubbles are breaking on the surface, gently lower the eggs...' | 0:20:13 | 0:20:17 | |
Is this a how-to-cook DVD? | 0:20:17 | 0:20:19 | |
Your mother said she'd given you some frozen meals. | 0:20:19 | 0:20:22 | |
She's been giving me frozen meals because looking after Anna | 0:20:22 | 0:20:24 | |
and coming here every day, sometimes it's a bit of a challenge. | 0:20:24 | 0:20:27 | |
I'm not Gordon Ramsay but I know how to boil a fucking egg. | 0:20:27 | 0:20:30 | |
-Tom, please don't swear in front of Dani. -They're going to examine us on how to boil an egg. | 0:20:30 | 0:20:34 | |
Look, I know. I just want Dani home. | 0:20:34 | 0:20:36 | |
For fuck's sake. Look, I may be going blind but I'm not incapable... | 0:20:36 | 0:20:41 | |
..and I'm not stupid, and... | 0:20:42 | 0:20:44 | |
..I know how to cook. | 0:20:46 | 0:20:47 | |
The hospital are pushing for a decision about the room. | 0:20:50 | 0:20:53 | |
What are you thinking? | 0:20:53 | 0:20:55 | |
-Speaking frankly? -Please! | 0:20:55 | 0:20:57 | |
Dad is a pain in the arse. | 0:20:58 | 0:21:01 | |
He won't accept that they might not cope on their own. | 0:21:01 | 0:21:04 | |
We've suggested more help, some support groups, all voluntary, | 0:21:04 | 0:21:08 | |
but he doesn't like that idea. | 0:21:08 | 0:21:10 | |
In fact, he doesn't like any of the ideas we suggested. | 0:21:10 | 0:21:13 | |
A social services agnostic? | 0:21:13 | 0:21:16 | |
They definitely love their baby | 0:21:16 | 0:21:18 | |
but his hostility is not helping their case. | 0:21:18 | 0:21:21 | |
I just hope it doesn't become more of a concern. | 0:21:21 | 0:21:24 | |
So, do we let baby go home or not? | 0:21:26 | 0:21:29 | |
-It's a tough one. -It is. | 0:21:29 | 0:21:32 | |
SAWING | 0:21:34 | 0:21:37 | |
Ah, you're making something! | 0:21:42 | 0:21:45 | |
I'm adapting something. This is a computer changing table. | 0:21:45 | 0:21:49 | |
-What? -For when Dani comes home, so you can change her, | 0:21:49 | 0:21:53 | |
so you can get your chair underneath, and this is just the start | 0:21:53 | 0:21:57 | |
because I have zese plans, I have zese great plans, and with zem | 0:21:57 | 0:22:01 | |
we'll take over ze vorld! | 0:22:01 | 0:22:03 | |
I just wanted to do something good. | 0:22:05 | 0:22:07 | |
I'm sorry. For losing my temper in there, in front of them. | 0:22:10 | 0:22:15 | |
What if she doesn't come home? | 0:22:15 | 0:22:17 | |
Then I'll change it back into a computer table. | 0:22:22 | 0:22:25 | |
I mean, I've probably already broken it, but I can try. | 0:22:25 | 0:22:28 | |
DANI CRIES | 0:22:30 | 0:22:33 | |
Is she enjoying it? | 0:22:34 | 0:22:36 | |
Uh... | 0:22:36 | 0:22:37 | |
TOM LAUGHS | 0:22:37 | 0:22:39 | |
Seems like it. | 0:22:39 | 0:22:40 | |
-You like that! -Yeah. -Good. | 0:22:41 | 0:22:44 | |
-She had enough, yeah? -Yeah. -OK. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:51 | |
-Careful, she's slippy. -Yep. | 0:22:53 | 0:22:55 | |
Ssh! Ssh! | 0:22:55 | 0:22:57 | |
Ssh! Hey! | 0:22:57 | 0:23:01 | |
Hey! | 0:23:01 | 0:23:02 | |
Hey... | 0:23:08 | 0:23:10 | |
-Shit! -Tom! | 0:23:13 | 0:23:15 | |
Tom! | 0:23:15 | 0:23:16 | |
The floor's wet! Why did neither of you tell me the floor was wet? | 0:23:16 | 0:23:19 | |
Is this one of your tests, is it? | 0:23:19 | 0:23:21 | |
Did you fucking put oil down like Wile E Coyote, trying to make me... | 0:23:21 | 0:23:24 | |
-Tom! -Just calm down. -Tom, is she OK? | 0:23:24 | 0:23:27 | |
Is she OK, is she? | 0:23:27 | 0:23:29 | |
Yeah, she's fine. She's fine. | 0:23:29 | 0:23:32 | |
Just calm down, OK? | 0:23:32 | 0:23:34 | |
This isn't... This isn't my bathroom | 0:23:35 | 0:23:37 | |
and I know where things are in my bathroom | 0:23:37 | 0:23:40 | |
-and I've got a mat to stop me slipping... -It's OK, Tom. | 0:23:40 | 0:23:43 | |
-It's not my bathroom, so it's not... -It's OK. -It's not a fair reflection. | 0:23:43 | 0:23:47 | |
Hey... | 0:23:50 | 0:23:52 | |
SHE SIGHS | 0:24:08 | 0:24:10 | |
PHONE RINGS | 0:24:15 | 0:24:20 | |
Hi. | 0:24:23 | 0:24:24 | |
When there are no waves, the incoming tide can create... | 0:24:26 | 0:24:29 | |
PHONE RINGS | 0:24:29 | 0:24:32 | |
Hello? Yeah. | 0:24:32 | 0:24:36 | |
Yeah. | 0:24:36 | 0:24:37 | |
OK... | 0:24:40 | 0:24:41 | |
Who is it? | 0:24:44 | 0:24:46 | |
Thank you, thank you. | 0:24:46 | 0:24:48 | |
They say we can bring her home. | 0:24:51 | 0:24:53 | |
Well, they're moving the assessment from the hospital to here, | 0:24:53 | 0:24:57 | |
so it's not over, but... | 0:24:57 | 0:24:59 | |
Let's hold on to the small victories. Dani's coming home! | 0:24:59 | 0:25:02 | |
There she is! | 0:25:07 | 0:25:08 | |
-Do you want me to...? -No, I've got it. | 0:25:12 | 0:25:14 | |
Hello, Dani. | 0:25:14 | 0:25:16 | |
-Left a bit! -Thank you. | 0:25:25 | 0:25:28 | |
Are you ready to take our child? | 0:25:30 | 0:25:32 | |
Hi, Dani. | 0:25:37 | 0:25:38 | |
Come on! | 0:25:40 | 0:25:41 | |
Come on! | 0:25:47 | 0:25:49 | |
INDISTINCT | 0:26:01 | 0:26:04 | |
Sweetheart. | 0:26:05 | 0:26:06 | |
Hey, baby. | 0:26:08 | 0:26:10 | |
I just want to remind you | 0:26:13 | 0:26:15 | |
that the supervision doesn't stop because she's home. | 0:26:15 | 0:26:18 | |
We will be visiting to make sure you're coping OK. | 0:26:20 | 0:26:24 | |
Will we get any advanced warning? | 0:26:24 | 0:26:26 | |
No. | 0:26:26 | 0:26:27 | |
So you could come at any time? | 0:26:29 | 0:26:31 | |
Until the assessment is complete, that will be necessary, yeah. | 0:26:31 | 0:26:35 | |
Can we be alone with our baby, please? | 0:26:41 | 0:26:43 | |
Course. | 0:26:45 | 0:26:46 | |
And this is your room. | 0:26:56 | 0:26:59 | |
What are you saying to her? | 0:26:59 | 0:27:00 | |
That you chose the colours | 0:27:00 | 0:27:02 | |
and that she's probably going to have to choose her own clothes | 0:27:02 | 0:27:05 | |
from quite a young age! | 0:27:05 | 0:27:06 | |
'I grew up living each day at a time. | 0:27:12 | 0:27:15 | |
'I didn't let myself think about the future.' | 0:27:15 | 0:27:17 | |
'Now it's all I can think about. | 0:27:20 | 0:27:22 | |
'Whatever you decide to be, Dani, be you.' | 0:27:22 | 0:27:26 | |
'It's your life.' | 0:27:27 | 0:27:29 | |
'Live by your own rules.' | 0:27:31 | 0:27:32 | |
DANI CRIES | 0:27:36 | 0:27:39 | |
I'll get it. | 0:27:41 | 0:27:43 | |
I know you will. | 0:27:43 | 0:27:44 | |
How can I help you? | 0:27:46 | 0:27:47 | |
Shall I just bring her to you? | 0:27:51 | 0:27:53 | |
I'm going to bring her to you. | 0:27:53 | 0:27:55 | |
-Hi, you all right? -Yeah, you all right? | 0:27:58 | 0:28:00 | |
DANI CRIES | 0:28:04 | 0:28:07 | |
DANI CRIES | 0:28:21 | 0:28:24 | |
I'll get it... | 0:28:24 | 0:28:26 | |
-Her. -Sorry. | 0:28:26 | 0:28:28 | |
DOOR BUZZES | 0:28:30 | 0:28:33 | |
TIRED: Oh, shit, it's her. | 0:28:33 | 0:28:36 | |
-Are any of the lights on? -No. | 0:28:36 | 0:28:38 | |
DOOR BUZZES AGAIN | 0:28:38 | 0:28:40 | |
Where do you think we are? | 0:28:40 | 0:28:42 | |
-The zoo. -I love the zoo. | 0:28:42 | 0:28:44 | |
DOOR BUZZES AGAIN | 0:28:44 | 0:28:47 | |
-DANI GURGLES LOUDLY -Hey... | 0:28:47 | 0:28:50 | |
ANNA SHUSHES HER | 0:28:50 | 0:28:52 | |
DANI CRIES | 0:28:59 | 0:29:01 | |
TOM GROANS | 0:29:01 | 0:29:03 | |
Just let us get some sleep, hey, Dani. Just an hour. | 0:29:05 | 0:29:09 | |
-Hey. -Hey. | 0:29:12 | 0:29:14 | |
DANI GURGLES AND CRIES | 0:29:36 | 0:29:39 | |
DOOR BUZZES | 0:29:43 | 0:29:45 | |
-TOM'S MUM: -'Oh, she's a lovely girl. | 0:30:01 | 0:30:03 | |
'Yeah, she loves Tom. | 0:30:03 | 0:30:05 | |
'It's just...' | 0:30:05 | 0:30:07 | |
We did always have a question of... | 0:30:09 | 0:30:11 | |
Well, it's a very serious condition. | 0:30:13 | 0:30:16 | |
-Very. -And it's brilliant that Tom has taken on some of the care | 0:30:16 | 0:30:19 | |
but the truth is... Well... | 0:30:19 | 0:30:22 | |
I do believe in people trying to achieve their potential. | 0:30:22 | 0:30:25 | |
It's important, yes. | 0:30:25 | 0:30:26 | |
-Where are you going? -To the kitchen. | 0:30:31 | 0:30:33 | |
-What if she slips? -She's fine. | 0:30:33 | 0:30:35 | |
-What if she slips while you're out of the room? -I'm here. | 0:30:35 | 0:30:39 | |
-TOM'S DAD: -'When you're like me, like Tom,' | 0:30:39 | 0:30:42 | |
you make a choice | 0:30:42 | 0:30:43 | |
whether you're going to be defined by your condition. | 0:30:43 | 0:30:46 | |
-Anna... -Well, she doesn't have such a choice. | 0:30:48 | 0:30:51 | |
I've been knitting, you know, for the baby. | 0:30:54 | 0:30:57 | |
Knitting a lot. | 0:30:57 | 0:30:58 | |
But I do worry... | 0:31:01 | 0:31:02 | |
..what the baby could inherit. | 0:31:03 | 0:31:05 | |
The...challenges she will have to face. | 0:31:06 | 0:31:09 | |
I mean...she could have inherited both conditions. | 0:31:12 | 0:31:16 | |
Both. | 0:31:18 | 0:31:19 | |
DANI BREATHES SOFTLY | 0:31:22 | 0:31:26 | |
DANI GURGLES | 0:31:33 | 0:31:35 | |
She's been sick again, Tom. | 0:31:37 | 0:31:39 | |
Hey. Will you fetch a cloth? | 0:31:41 | 0:31:43 | |
HE GROANS SLEEPILY | 0:31:48 | 0:31:50 | |
Thank you. | 0:31:50 | 0:31:51 | |
Oh, my God, Tom! Are you all right? | 0:31:53 | 0:31:57 | |
Fucking hell! Am I bleeding? | 0:31:57 | 0:32:00 | |
Come here, let me have a look. | 0:32:00 | 0:32:02 | |
DOOR BUZZES | 0:32:02 | 0:32:04 | |
Tom? | 0:32:04 | 0:32:06 | |
DOOR BUZZES AGAIN | 0:32:07 | 0:32:09 | |
Are you sure you're OK? | 0:32:14 | 0:32:16 | |
Ah, where are we this time? Cinema? Park? | 0:32:16 | 0:32:20 | |
Maybe a tall bridge to jump off? | 0:32:20 | 0:32:22 | |
PHONE RINGS | 0:32:22 | 0:32:25 | |
Shit. | 0:32:26 | 0:32:27 | |
It's here. | 0:32:29 | 0:32:30 | |
HE TURNS THE RINGER DOWN | 0:32:32 | 0:32:35 | |
DOOR BUZZES AGAIN | 0:32:36 | 0:32:39 | |
DOOR CONTINUES BUZZING | 0:32:40 | 0:32:42 | |
Have you been ringing a while? | 0:32:50 | 0:32:52 | |
-Sorry, I was in the shower. -Is that right? | 0:32:52 | 0:32:55 | |
DOOR OPENS | 0:33:01 | 0:33:03 | |
Are you all right? | 0:33:03 | 0:33:04 | |
Yeah, I just... I just hurt myself. | 0:33:04 | 0:33:06 | |
In the shower. | 0:33:06 | 0:33:08 | |
Hey. | 0:33:13 | 0:33:14 | |
-Hello, Thomas. -Hello, Laura. | 0:33:32 | 0:33:35 | |
You look lovely. | 0:33:35 | 0:33:37 | |
You look tired. | 0:33:37 | 0:33:38 | |
Yeah, well, it's been tough. | 0:33:38 | 0:33:40 | |
I'm sure it has been. | 0:33:40 | 0:33:42 | |
I've missed you, Mum. | 0:33:55 | 0:33:56 | |
I've missed you, too. | 0:33:59 | 0:34:01 | |
And this is one we made earlier! | 0:34:10 | 0:34:11 | |
Hello. | 0:34:17 | 0:34:20 | |
Hello! | 0:34:21 | 0:34:22 | |
Oh... | 0:34:24 | 0:34:25 | |
I know. | 0:34:26 | 0:34:28 | |
I know, darling. | 0:34:28 | 0:34:30 | |
HOOVERING | 0:34:30 | 0:34:33 | |
So what's this rice dish, Alice? | 0:34:56 | 0:34:58 | |
Oh, it's a mushroom risotto. | 0:34:58 | 0:35:01 | |
Oh! It's very tasty. | 0:35:01 | 0:35:04 | |
So you're vegetarians? | 0:35:04 | 0:35:06 | |
No, sometimes we find we like vegetarian food. | 0:35:06 | 0:35:11 | |
It's very nice of you to cook for us, Mum. | 0:35:11 | 0:35:13 | |
She smells gorgeous. | 0:35:15 | 0:35:17 | |
And the food is too, of course. | 0:35:17 | 0:35:19 | |
-Shall we wet the baby's head? -Mum. | 0:35:29 | 0:35:31 | |
We should wet the baby's head! | 0:35:31 | 0:35:32 | |
It's sparkling wine, we'll just have to pretend it's champagne. | 0:35:32 | 0:35:36 | |
CORK POPS/ THEY CHUCKLE | 0:35:37 | 0:35:39 | |
What?! | 0:35:42 | 0:35:43 | |
We're all here to celebrate and we're all here to help. | 0:35:43 | 0:35:47 | |
-We're all in this together. -Yes! | 0:35:47 | 0:35:50 | |
What does that mean? | 0:35:50 | 0:35:51 | |
Well, it just means that we're all going through this together. | 0:35:52 | 0:35:56 | |
What, really?! | 0:35:56 | 0:35:57 | |
I had no idea, thank you(!) | 0:35:57 | 0:36:00 | |
Thank you. | 0:36:00 | 0:36:02 | |
Thank you for being in the trenches with us. | 0:36:02 | 0:36:05 | |
You know, I feel quite overwhelmed | 0:36:05 | 0:36:07 | |
at the support you've all shown us, actually. | 0:36:07 | 0:36:10 | |
-Tom! -It took you weeks to visit your grandkid. | 0:36:10 | 0:36:12 | |
Well, that's not because... | 0:36:14 | 0:36:15 | |
You should have been there at the birth, for Anna. | 0:36:15 | 0:36:17 | |
-Yeah, I know but that's... -You should have been there, Laura. | 0:36:17 | 0:36:20 | |
There's no excuses. | 0:36:20 | 0:36:22 | |
I didn't come to the birth because I didn't think she'd survive it. | 0:36:23 | 0:36:27 | |
And because... | 0:36:27 | 0:36:28 | |
..I wasn't sure that I wanted to meet the baby | 0:36:30 | 0:36:32 | |
that they said would kill my daughter. | 0:36:32 | 0:36:35 | |
Now, who wants a drink? | 0:36:42 | 0:36:44 | |
'My husband left when...' | 0:36:47 | 0:36:49 | |
Well, he left about six months after we got the diagnosis. | 0:36:49 | 0:36:52 | |
There are times when I've wished I'd gone with him. | 0:36:54 | 0:36:57 | |
But I didn't. | 0:36:57 | 0:36:59 | |
I didn't find out until she was two she was ill, you know. | 0:36:59 | 0:37:02 | |
And I was told then that she'd live till she was four. | 0:37:02 | 0:37:06 | |
And then when she got past four, I was told maybe six. | 0:37:06 | 0:37:08 | |
And then when she got past six, maybe eight. | 0:37:08 | 0:37:10 | |
And, you know, just on and on like that. | 0:37:10 | 0:37:13 | |
-Are you a mother? -BELINDA: -Yeah. Yeah, I am. | 0:37:15 | 0:37:18 | |
A good one? | 0:37:18 | 0:37:19 | |
I hope so. | 0:37:19 | 0:37:20 | |
Difficult though, isn't it? | 0:37:20 | 0:37:23 | |
I mean, it's difficult to judge | 0:37:23 | 0:37:25 | |
what being a good parent actually means, don't you think? | 0:37:25 | 0:37:28 | |
Do you know what I felt when I found out that she was pregnant? | 0:37:28 | 0:37:31 | |
Furious. | 0:37:31 | 0:37:32 | |
Because how dare she? | 0:37:32 | 0:37:33 | |
You know, after I'd gone through all of that, | 0:37:33 | 0:37:35 | |
how dare she be so reckless with herself? | 0:37:35 | 0:37:37 | |
How dare she do that to me? | 0:37:37 | 0:37:39 | |
That's what makes me a bad mum. | 0:37:42 | 0:37:44 | |
Because I made it all about me... | 0:37:46 | 0:37:48 | |
..when it should've been about her. | 0:37:50 | 0:37:52 | |
I don't want you to go! | 0:38:00 | 0:38:01 | |
You'll be fine. | 0:38:03 | 0:38:04 | |
Mum... | 0:38:07 | 0:38:08 | |
I've got to get back, love. | 0:38:11 | 0:38:13 | |
I'm sorry. | 0:38:13 | 0:38:15 | |
You'll be fine! | 0:38:21 | 0:38:23 | |
'My daughter will be a better mum | 0:38:25 | 0:38:27 | |
'if you just give her a chance.' | 0:38:27 | 0:38:30 | |
DOOR CLOSES | 0:38:33 | 0:38:35 | |
WIND CHIMES TINKLE | 0:38:38 | 0:38:41 | |
'I've been lucky to have your dad. | 0:38:55 | 0:38:57 | |
'Next to you, meeting him | 0:38:57 | 0:38:59 | |
'was the best thing that ever happened to me.' | 0:38:59 | 0:39:02 | |
'But there's a lot you need to know about him. | 0:39:05 | 0:39:08 | |
'For starters, he's got a lot of pride. | 0:39:08 | 0:39:11 | |
'And because he doesn't see too well, | 0:39:11 | 0:39:14 | |
'he sometimes acts like there's a dragon to fight | 0:39:14 | 0:39:17 | |
'and he puts his armour on far too far in advance. | 0:39:17 | 0:39:20 | |
'But he does it because he loves us both so much.' | 0:39:20 | 0:39:24 | |
TV PLAYS | 0:39:30 | 0:39:32 | |
She's down. | 0:39:32 | 0:39:33 | |
It took three stories | 0:39:37 | 0:39:38 | |
and a song I made up on the spot about a carrot, | 0:39:38 | 0:39:42 | |
but she's down. | 0:39:42 | 0:39:44 | |
Do you want to hear it? | 0:39:46 | 0:39:47 | |
It's actually quite... It's quite elaborate. | 0:39:47 | 0:39:49 | |
Well, it's basically a version of ABBA'S Fernando. | 0:39:49 | 0:39:53 | |
# Can you hear my stalk, Danielle? | 0:39:55 | 0:39:58 | |
# Can you hear my stalk? | 0:39:59 | 0:40:01 | |
# It's singing to you, Danielle. # | 0:40:01 | 0:40:04 | |
It would be nice if every once in a while | 0:40:12 | 0:40:15 | |
you had a little tidy up. | 0:40:15 | 0:40:16 | |
Right, I'm getting a beer. | 0:40:21 | 0:40:23 | |
-I thought you didn't approve of alcohol. -What? | 0:40:23 | 0:40:27 | |
You told my mother you didn't approve of HER drinking alcohol. | 0:40:27 | 0:40:30 | |
I didn't. | 0:40:30 | 0:40:31 | |
But I've had a long day and I need a beer. | 0:40:31 | 0:40:35 | |
Interesting, though - one rule for her, one rule for you. | 0:40:37 | 0:40:40 | |
-I'm not the reason your mum left. -Weren't you? | 0:40:40 | 0:40:42 | |
Honestly, this "I miss my mummy" act, it's getting kind of dull. | 0:40:42 | 0:40:45 | |
Well, maybe this place such a mess | 0:40:45 | 0:40:47 | |
-because she's not here to help us tidy up. -Maybe. | 0:40:47 | 0:40:49 | |
Or maybe it's because I'm the only one that does anything around here. | 0:40:49 | 0:40:52 | |
-Tom! -When was the last time you used that changing table, eh? | 0:40:52 | 0:40:56 | |
When was the last time you did anything but just hold her? | 0:40:56 | 0:40:59 | |
-I'm in a chair! -And I can't fucking see! | 0:40:59 | 0:41:01 | |
DANI STARTS TO CRY | 0:41:01 | 0:41:04 | |
I need a bath, Tom. | 0:41:09 | 0:41:11 | |
I smell. I need a bath. | 0:41:13 | 0:41:15 | |
-Now? -Yes, now. I need a bath. | 0:41:15 | 0:41:19 | |
I'm tired, OK? | 0:41:19 | 0:41:21 | |
We'll do it later. | 0:41:21 | 0:41:23 | |
It's just... | 0:41:23 | 0:41:24 | |
-..you take my carer's allowance, so technically I employ you. -What? | 0:41:25 | 0:41:30 | |
Fuck your allowance! | 0:41:32 | 0:41:33 | |
Fine, I'll manage myself! | 0:41:33 | 0:41:36 | |
-Uh! -DANI SCREAMS | 0:41:36 | 0:41:38 | |
Now I've got to pick you up, yeah? | 0:41:38 | 0:41:39 | |
Your fucking temper tantrum means I get to pick you up | 0:41:39 | 0:41:41 | |
and you're fucking heavy so that's... It's going to be easy, isn't it? | 0:41:41 | 0:41:44 | |
SHE CRIES | 0:41:46 | 0:41:48 | |
Anna, I've already got one fucking baby to look after. | 0:41:48 | 0:41:52 | |
Anna. | 0:41:52 | 0:41:53 | |
Fine, go on, let's see how far you get. Go on. | 0:41:55 | 0:41:58 | |
DANI CONTINUES CRYING | 0:42:02 | 0:42:05 | |
ANNA CRIES | 0:42:08 | 0:42:11 | |
Why was it your decision?! | 0:42:18 | 0:42:20 | |
That's what I can't understand. | 0:42:20 | 0:42:23 | |
Why was it your decision? | 0:42:23 | 0:42:24 | |
Because it's my body, Tom! | 0:42:24 | 0:42:27 | |
SOBBING: Yes, but you're going to die. | 0:42:27 | 0:42:30 | |
And I can't do this without you! | 0:42:30 | 0:42:32 | |
So why was it ever your fucking decision? | 0:42:35 | 0:42:37 | |
You know what she is? | 0:42:41 | 0:42:42 | |
She is the future | 0:42:43 | 0:42:45 | |
and I don't know if I can look after her | 0:42:45 | 0:42:48 | |
and it terrifies me. | 0:42:48 | 0:42:49 | |
The future is so much more easier for you than it is for me. | 0:42:51 | 0:42:54 | |
I'm sorry, but that is true. That is so true. | 0:42:54 | 0:42:57 | |
DOOR SLAMS | 0:43:01 | 0:43:03 | |
DANI CONTINUES CRYING | 0:43:03 | 0:43:05 | |
-BELINDA: -Hey, I'm on my way home. | 0:43:19 | 0:43:21 | |
I was thinking I might get a bottle of wine maybe. | 0:43:21 | 0:43:24 | |
Yeah? | 0:43:24 | 0:43:26 | |
Yeah, great. OK. Love you. | 0:43:27 | 0:43:30 | |
-Tom? -I didn't know where to go. | 0:43:32 | 0:43:34 | |
I wanted to abort her. | 0:43:36 | 0:43:37 | |
Do you know how much I regret wanting to abort her? But I did. | 0:43:40 | 0:43:43 | |
-Because I didn't want to lose... -Let's get you a cab. | 0:43:43 | 0:43:46 | |
How am I supposed to let myself love her | 0:43:48 | 0:43:51 | |
if every day I think that you might come and take her away forever? | 0:43:51 | 0:43:55 | |
I've already got one of them on a temporary fucking buy-back basis | 0:43:57 | 0:44:00 | |
and I can't... | 0:44:00 | 0:44:01 | |
I can't cope with two. | 0:44:01 | 0:44:03 | |
I'm sorry. | 0:44:04 | 0:44:05 | |
It's OK. | 0:44:05 | 0:44:07 | |
-I'm sorry for being inappropriate. -No, don't. | 0:44:08 | 0:44:11 | |
Let me... Let me drive you home at least. | 0:44:11 | 0:44:13 | |
I don't want your help. | 0:44:15 | 0:44:16 | |
I just want my baby. | 0:44:19 | 0:44:20 | |
I just want to be a dad. | 0:44:22 | 0:44:24 | |
I just don't want this. | 0:44:26 | 0:44:27 | |
DOOR OPENS | 0:44:39 | 0:44:42 | |
TV PLAYS IN BACKGROUND | 0:44:42 | 0:44:44 | |
LAUGHTER ON TV | 0:45:23 | 0:45:26 | |
Morning. | 0:46:02 | 0:46:03 | |
Morning. | 0:46:05 | 0:46:06 | |
-How's Dani? -She's fine. | 0:46:08 | 0:46:11 | |
I've changed her and I've fed her. | 0:46:11 | 0:46:14 | |
Thank you. | 0:46:14 | 0:46:15 | |
Pleasure. | 0:46:15 | 0:46:17 | |
Next question, how did I end up here? | 0:46:17 | 0:46:20 | |
It turns out you sleepwalk! | 0:46:22 | 0:46:24 | |
That's exciting. | 0:46:24 | 0:46:26 | |
-I don't know what to say. -Why didn't you sleep in here? | 0:46:28 | 0:46:32 | |
It didn't feel right without your permission | 0:46:32 | 0:46:34 | |
and I didn't want to wake you up. | 0:46:34 | 0:46:36 | |
Sit down. | 0:46:38 | 0:46:39 | |
I've never had to look after anything before. | 0:46:49 | 0:46:52 | |
I see her drowning in the bath and I can't get to her. | 0:46:52 | 0:46:55 | |
And I see her falling off the changing table | 0:46:55 | 0:46:58 | |
and smashing her head open on the floor | 0:46:58 | 0:47:01 | |
and me with these fucking shit arms and shit legs? | 0:47:01 | 0:47:03 | |
Why have you never said any of this before? | 0:47:03 | 0:47:06 | |
If we're both scared we're not up to this... | 0:47:06 | 0:47:09 | |
..can't we just be scared together? | 0:47:10 | 0:47:13 | |
-Mutual fear? -Exactly! | 0:47:13 | 0:47:15 | |
Come here. | 0:47:19 | 0:47:20 | |
'As I've watched you grow, Dani, | 0:47:49 | 0:47:50 | |
'I've pictured the girl you'll be in five years. | 0:47:50 | 0:47:53 | |
'And the woman you'll be in 20. | 0:47:53 | 0:47:55 | |
'Whatever happens, | 0:47:56 | 0:47:58 | |
'know that your dad loves you more than anything. | 0:47:58 | 0:48:00 | |
'And if he can, he'll always try | 0:48:00 | 0:48:02 | |
'to guide you in the right direction.' | 0:48:02 | 0:48:04 | |
-Oh! -My leg? | 0:48:04 | 0:48:06 | |
I don't know but something just went where it shouldn't! | 0:48:06 | 0:48:09 | |
'No-one has ever given me what you've given me. | 0:48:14 | 0:48:17 | |
'So thank you... | 0:48:17 | 0:48:18 | |
'..you're my miracle. | 0:48:20 | 0:48:21 | |
'And I'm sorry if being our daughter | 0:48:29 | 0:48:30 | |
'has given you challenges in life.' | 0:48:30 | 0:48:32 | |
There are times when I feel so stuck in this chair. | 0:48:35 | 0:48:37 | |
And I hope you never feel stuck with us, | 0:48:40 | 0:48:42 | |
because we'd never want that. | 0:48:42 | 0:48:44 | |
If you need to run or you need to fly, | 0:48:46 | 0:48:50 | |
go fly. You know? | 0:48:50 | 0:48:52 | |
Anna, your bath's ready. We need to get a move on. | 0:48:52 | 0:48:54 | |
So that's it for now. | 0:48:57 | 0:48:58 | |
And just know, always know, | 0:49:01 | 0:49:05 | |
that we love you. | 0:49:05 | 0:49:06 | |
OK. | 0:49:11 | 0:49:12 | |
Come here. It'll be fine. | 0:49:26 | 0:49:29 | |
It will, won't it? | 0:49:32 | 0:49:33 | |
-Tom, if we lose her... -We won't. | 0:49:36 | 0:49:38 | |
-DANI GURGLES -Shh-shh-shh-shhh. | 0:49:38 | 0:49:41 | |
She's here. | 0:49:42 | 0:49:44 | |
Does she look happy or sad? | 0:49:45 | 0:49:47 | |
She doesn't look either. | 0:49:47 | 0:49:49 | |
We're ready for you. | 0:49:52 | 0:49:53 | |
Maybe you think I was selfish to have a baby, | 0:50:03 | 0:50:06 | |
a baby that may have inherited my disability, | 0:50:06 | 0:50:09 | |
knowing that I may well die before she grows up. | 0:50:09 | 0:50:12 | |
But we've got more love for Dani right now | 0:50:13 | 0:50:16 | |
that loads of people give their kids in a whole lifetime. | 0:50:16 | 0:50:19 | |
And it's how much you love your child that counts. | 0:50:22 | 0:50:24 | |
Isn't that what sets them up for life? | 0:50:26 | 0:50:29 | |
I did doubt having a child, I did. | 0:50:29 | 0:50:32 | |
But then I held her and... | 0:50:32 | 0:50:34 | |
As soon as I did that, nothing else mattered but her. | 0:50:36 | 0:50:40 | |
I know I need to ask for more help than I get. | 0:50:40 | 0:50:43 | |
And I'm blind, pun intended, to my own failings most of the time. | 0:50:43 | 0:50:48 | |
And I'm... | 0:50:48 | 0:50:49 | |
Well, I've spoken to Mike, here, about setting up more concerted help. | 0:50:49 | 0:50:55 | |
But other dads with faults get to have a go, don't they? | 0:50:55 | 0:50:58 | |
Don't you think Tom could have found an easier girlfriend than me? | 0:50:59 | 0:51:03 | |
Well, maybe not easier... | 0:51:03 | 0:51:05 | |
We had sex on the second date! | 0:51:05 | 0:51:07 | |
But certainly he could have made it easier for himself. | 0:51:07 | 0:51:10 | |
He chose the girl he has to help shit every now and again. | 0:51:12 | 0:51:15 | |
My parents are judgmental and...difficult. | 0:51:17 | 0:51:23 | |
Her mother is... | 0:51:23 | 0:51:25 | |
..overemotional, a bit weak and drinks too much. | 0:51:27 | 0:51:32 | |
Is that good parenting? | 0:51:33 | 0:51:35 | |
Who tested them? | 0:51:37 | 0:51:39 | |
You've watched us for months now | 0:51:39 | 0:51:41 | |
and yeah, we've had our ups and downs, but Dani's fine. | 0:51:41 | 0:51:44 | |
Better than fine. She's thriving! | 0:51:44 | 0:51:47 | |
We're not drug addicts who've neglected our baby. | 0:51:47 | 0:51:50 | |
We know how to look after our daughter. | 0:51:50 | 0:51:53 | |
Just because we don't know what will happen tomorrow, | 0:51:53 | 0:51:56 | |
that doesn't mean that we shouldn't be able to live life to the full. | 0:51:56 | 0:51:59 | |
That doesn't mean that we shouldn't get to love. | 0:52:01 | 0:52:04 | |
-BELINDA: -Thanks, Tom. I think that's all we need. | 0:52:07 | 0:52:11 | |
'We can only see what's in front of us. | 0:52:17 | 0:52:20 | |
'We're not fortune tellers.' | 0:52:20 | 0:52:22 | |
'They've had Dani for four months now without incident. | 0:52:22 | 0:52:26 | |
'Haven't they earned our trust?' | 0:52:26 | 0:52:28 | |
'We have to ask ourselves what is best for Danielle.' | 0:52:28 | 0:52:32 | |
'I have to say I'm not convinced.' | 0:52:32 | 0:52:35 | |
'Now he's accepted help, we can offer them an allowance' | 0:52:35 | 0:52:40 | |
so that they can arrange the child care that they need themselves. | 0:52:40 | 0:52:43 | |
'OK, let's retain some perspective.' | 0:52:43 | 0:52:46 | |
Do we honestly believe this little girl | 0:52:46 | 0:52:48 | |
would be better in a home that requires this much help? | 0:52:48 | 0:52:52 | |
Whatever the claim may be, | 0:52:52 | 0:52:54 | |
she will have to take some care responsibility. | 0:52:54 | 0:52:57 | |
That's not necessarily the case. | 0:52:57 | 0:52:59 | |
I had to separate a mother and daughter a couple of years ago. | 0:52:59 | 0:53:02 | |
The mother was profoundly disabled | 0:53:02 | 0:53:04 | |
and the daughter was living in absolute squalor. | 0:53:04 | 0:53:08 | |
Yeah, but when structures are in place... | 0:53:08 | 0:53:10 | |
This is a couple who failed to answer the door when visits were made. | 0:53:10 | 0:53:14 | |
I don't trust it. | 0:53:16 | 0:53:18 | |
On Dani's behalf, I don't trust it. | 0:53:18 | 0:53:20 | |
Hi. | 0:53:53 | 0:53:55 | |
Hi. | 0:53:55 | 0:53:56 | |
Can I come in? | 0:53:56 | 0:53:57 | |
Yeah... | 0:53:59 | 0:54:00 | |
OK, so, I won't keep you in suspense. | 0:54:07 | 0:54:11 | |
The decision's been made to downgrade Dani. | 0:54:11 | 0:54:14 | |
I knew it! | 0:54:14 | 0:54:15 | |
-Well, we're going to sue you, take you to court. -Tom! | 0:54:15 | 0:54:18 | |
-We're going to sue the authorities... -Tom! -What? | 0:54:18 | 0:54:21 | |
I'm not sure downgrading is a bad thing. | 0:54:21 | 0:54:23 | |
No, it's not. | 0:54:23 | 0:54:25 | |
In fact, it's a good thing. | 0:54:25 | 0:54:27 | |
It's a very good thing. | 0:54:27 | 0:54:29 | |
What, so...so we can keep her? | 0:54:29 | 0:54:31 | |
Well, we will be checking in with you | 0:54:31 | 0:54:33 | |
to make sure everything is going well. | 0:54:33 | 0:54:35 | |
Just to be clear, this won't be the last time that you see me. | 0:54:41 | 0:54:44 | |
Oh, but I want to see you, Belinda. I do! I want to see you. | 0:54:50 | 0:54:54 | |
This hasn't been an easy decision. | 0:54:55 | 0:54:57 | |
But we believe that you're going to be good parents. | 0:54:58 | 0:55:02 | |
She's ours! | 0:55:05 | 0:55:06 | |
You're ours, Dani! | 0:55:08 | 0:55:10 | |
MUSIC: Hold Back The River by James Bay | 0:55:18 | 0:55:22 |