Cam-drin Ed

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-Subtitles	0:00:00	0:00:01
-In Britain, every minute...	0:00:01	0:00:03
-..someone calls the police -to report domestic abuse.	0:00:04	0:00:07
-Is this one of the biggest secrets -in our society?	0:00:07	0:00:11
-I think in some places, yes.	0:00:12	0:00:14
-It can be physical or emotional.	0:00:14	0:00:17
-If you're being hit, -you see blood...	0:00:18	0:00:21
-..you have an operation.	0:00:21	0:00:23
-Your mind is different.	0:00:23	0:00:25
-Who can see in there?	0:00:25	0:00:27
-It can also be psychological...	0:00:29	0:00:31
-It can also be psychological... - -You're pathetic, you know that?	0:00:31	0:00:33
-..financial or sexual.	0:00:33	0:00:35
-Does she do or say things -of a sexual nature...	0:00:35	0:00:37
-..that make you feel bad -or physically hurt you?	0:00:38	0:00:41
-I was pinned down...	0:00:41	0:00:43
-..and I was forced -to sleep with her.	0:00:43	0:00:47
-Every time, it was just -forced, forced, forced.	0:00:47	0:00:51
-I'm Geraint Todd, and over -the last year, my character...	0:00:57	0:01:01
-..Ed on Pobol y Cwm, has been -suffering from domestic abuse.	0:01:01	0:01:06
-In Ed's story, the abuse has been -emotional and physical...	0:01:09	0:01:12
-..but also psychological.	0:01:13	0:01:15
-Hiya. Are you OK?	0:01:15	0:01:17
-Nice pink number today. Lovely.	0:01:18	0:01:21
-I can't have you doubting me.	0:01:21	0:01:23
-Hurting me.	0:01:23	0:01:25
-What exactly are you going to do, -Ed?	0:01:25	0:01:27
-Domestic abuse is difficult -to discuss...	0:01:29	0:01:33
-..but having spent so long -playing Ed, I want to go deeper...	0:01:33	0:01:38
-..to find out what the reality is -for so many people.	0:01:38	0:01:41
-Watching soap operas is -a means of escapism...	0:01:44	0:01:47
-..but sometimes stories...	0:01:47	0:01:49
-..reflect the sad reality -of people's lives.	0:01:49	0:01:52
-In this programme...	0:01:54	0:01:56
-..I want to talk to those who know -the most about domestic abuse.	0:01:56	0:02:00
-The experts, the police...	0:02:00	0:02:03
-..and most importantly of all, -the victims.	0:02:03	0:02:07
-For safety and legal reasons...	0:02:09	0:02:11
-..many of the interviews -have got to be anonymous.	0:02:11	0:02:15
-I want to understand the effect it -has on individuals, on families...	0:02:15	0:02:19
-..on society, -and what we should do about it.	0:02:19	0:02:24
-I'm nervous about doing -the programme because I feel...	0:02:25	0:02:29
-..like some sort of tourist, -in a way...	0:02:29	0:02:32
-..because I can dip in and out of -these experiences and feelings...	0:02:32	0:02:36
-..but the people who are really -suffering can't do that.	0:02:36	0:02:40
-They are constantly living it.	0:02:40	0:02:43
-So, yes, I am a bit nervous -because I feel...	0:02:43	0:02:48
-..guilty, in a way.	0:02:48	0:02:50
-My journey starts here, with PC -Ceri Jones and Josh Rowlands...	0:02:51	0:02:55
-..from South Wales Police.	0:02:55	0:02:58
-This team responds to -emergency calls...	0:02:58	0:03:01
-..and the vast majority -relate to domestic abuse.	0:03:02	0:03:05
-I want to experience what happens -when abuse becomes an emergency.	0:03:07	0:03:11
-We're straight out in the van -responding to a 999 call.	0:03:12	0:03:16
-One-Five to units.	0:03:18	0:03:19
-Is that a domestic up in Maesteg?	0:03:20	0:03:22
-RADIO: -It is, yes.	0:03:24	0:03:26
-SIREN	0:03:26	0:03:28
-It's quite exciting, to be honest, -to go in the van...	0:03:30	0:03:34
-..with the lights flashing -and the sirens going...	0:03:34	0:03:37
-..but you don't know what -to expect, to be honest.	0:03:37	0:03:40
-The report is, erm... -ongoing disturbance.	0:03:40	0:03:44
-Obviously, we don't know -the full extent.	0:03:44	0:03:47
-I think we're close now.	0:03:48	0:03:50
-The woman's not happy -that we're filming her...	0:03:57	0:04:00
-..so we're going to stay back -and let the police deal with it.	0:04:00	0:04:04
-Following a row with her husband, a -woman escaped to a friend's house.	0:04:06	0:04:09
-How are things? OK?	0:04:10	0:04:11
-He's been violent towards her -in the past.	0:04:12	0:04:15
-Right, the police have finished -talking to the woman now.	0:04:15	0:04:20
-Everything alright?	0:04:20	0:04:22
-Everything alright? - -Yeah, everything's alright.	0:04:22	0:04:24
-We've spoken to her, told her -what would be best for her.	0:04:24	0:04:27
-That she should stay where she is -and not go back tonight.	0:04:27	0:04:31
-She's safe now.	0:04:33	0:04:35
-As she's safe, the team moves on.	0:04:36	0:04:39
-The way the police deal with -cases of domestic abuse...	0:04:42	0:04:46
-..has changed.	0:04:46	0:04:47
-Until recently, the victim -had to make an accusation.	0:04:47	0:04:50
-But now the police -can make an arrest.	0:04:51	0:04:53
-In over 90% of cases, -the victims are female.	0:04:57	0:05:01
-How common is it to see male -victims of domestic abuse?	0:05:02	0:05:07
-To be honest, not that common.	0:05:08	0:05:10
-We have had a couple of calls -in the last week, mind.	0:05:10	0:05:13
-I think we had two yesterday.	0:05:13	0:05:16
-Do you think it's because men don't -have the courage to speak out...	0:05:16	0:05:20
-..or they don't feel comfortable -doing that...	0:05:20	0:05:23
-..or it happens a lot less often?	0:05:23	0:05:25
-In my experience, it's the man -may be embarrassed to say...	0:05:25	0:05:29
-.."My wife is beating me up." -They'll say nothing's happened.	0:05:29	0:05:33
-RADIO: -They're saying there's -screaming and shouting.	0:05:34	0:05:38
-Charlie-Lima, One-Five. What's -the details on the last call?	0:05:38	0:05:42
-Is it domestic related?	0:05:42	0:05:44
-In the second call of the evening, -the victim is a man.	0:05:45	0:05:49
-Neighbours have phoned...	0:05:50	0:05:52
-..and said they heard glass -smashing inside the house...	0:05:52	0:05:56
-..and that the man came out -of the house covered in blood.	0:05:56	0:06:00
-The alleged offender this time -is his son.	0:06:02	0:06:05
-The man in the back of the van -has been arrested...	0:06:08	0:06:11
-..for domestic violence.	0:06:11	0:06:14
-Erm, we're now taking him back -to the station...	0:06:14	0:06:17
-..for him to be questioned.	0:06:17	0:06:19
-I think he was arrested...	0:06:24	0:06:26
-..because he attacked one or two -members of his family.	0:06:27	0:06:30
-The custody sergeant is going to -book him in...	0:06:30	0:06:34
-..and I think he'll stay -in the cell overnight...	0:06:34	0:06:37
-..and they'll question him again -in the morning when he's sober.	0:06:37	0:06:41
-In this case, the man was charged -with assault and criminal damage.	0:06:42	0:06:47
-What I've learned is that it's a -lot more common than I thought.	0:06:49	0:06:53
-There were three tonight and -we were out on two of them.	0:06:53	0:06:56
-Erm, two calls.	0:06:56	0:06:59
-And the police say it happens -very often.	0:06:59	0:07:02
-More on the weekends, maybe, -then during the week...	0:07:02	0:07:06
-..but...	0:07:06	0:07:08
-..yeah, it happens a lot.	0:07:08	0:07:10
-This is the most common call-out -they have every day.	0:07:10	0:07:14
-Domestic incidents.	0:07:14	0:07:16
-In 2016, police in England and -Wales recorded over a million...	0:07:19	0:07:23
-..cases of domestic abuse.	0:07:23	0:07:25
-But only one in five victims -went to the police.	0:07:27	0:07:31
-In Pobol y Cwm, my character, Ed, -suffered in silence for months.	0:07:34	0:07:39
-I'm meeting a man who was also -afraid to ask for help...	0:07:43	0:07:46
-..after he and his family -were abused by his father.	0:07:47	0:07:50
-What sort of things did he do?	0:07:51	0:07:53
-He told me I was going to -get cancer.	0:07:53	0:07:56
-He said...	0:07:56	0:07:58
-..my wife had been sleeping -with other men.	0:07:59	0:08:02
-He knocked our wall down.	0:08:02	0:08:04
-Destroyed a fence.	0:08:04	0:08:06
-Spat on the car window.	0:08:07	0:08:09
-He was abusive towards my family.	0:08:09	0:08:12
-My wife and children.	0:08:12	0:08:14
-He was a big man.	0:08:16	0:08:18
-He pushed me from behind -about five times...	0:08:18	0:08:21
-..until I got whiplash.	0:08:21	0:08:23
-I had to have physiotherapy, -I couldn't work for a week.	0:08:24	0:08:27
-Did he show any remorse -for doing that?	0:08:27	0:08:31
-No, he was just, like...	0:08:31	0:08:33
-"I'm your father. -I can do what I want.	0:08:33	0:08:36
-"You're my son. I own you."	0:08:36	0:08:39
-Did you ever feel a temptation -to hit him or to fight back?	0:08:40	0:08:46
-That was Dad's agenda.	0:08:47	0:08:49
-To make me angry.	0:08:49	0:08:52
-And then I would be the bad guy.	0:08:52	0:08:55
-I didn't want to fight him. -He was my father.	0:08:58	0:09:02
-Can you point out one time -where he crossed the line?	0:09:03	0:09:08
-I think the click was, erm...	0:09:08	0:09:10
-He pushed my daughter.	0:09:11	0:09:14
-Your daughter?	0:09:14	0:09:16
-Yes, until she...	0:09:16	0:09:18
-Until she was bruised.	0:09:18	0:09:20
-That was the final straw.	0:09:21	0:09:23
-What has it taken for him...	0:09:24	0:09:26
-Court.	0:09:27	0:09:28
-That was the only way to stop him.	0:09:29	0:09:33
-I had to take him to court.	0:09:34	0:09:36
-He was found guilty of harassment -and assault...	0:09:36	0:09:41
-..and he was placed on an -indefinite restraining order...	0:09:41	0:09:44
-..against the whole family.	0:09:44	0:09:47
-It wasn't nice to go to court -and be a witness against...	0:09:49	0:09:54
-..my father.	0:09:55	0:09:57
-What's difficult is seeing...	0:10:00	0:10:04
-..people talking about their lives -in a very, erm...	0:10:04	0:10:08
-..raw and real way.	0:10:08	0:10:11
-I think I'm too used to scripts...	0:10:11	0:10:14
-..which are a step away -from reality...	0:10:14	0:10:17
-..despite how realistic they are.	0:10:17	0:10:20
-Seeing people's real reaction -like that...	0:10:20	0:10:24
-..to situations is awful.	0:10:24	0:10:27
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-As an actor, one of my most -difficult stories...	0:10:35	0:10:39
-..was the abuse Ed suffered -from his wife Sioned.	0:10:39	0:10:43
-Come here.	0:10:43	0:10:45
-That's the kind of respect -you deserve.	0:10:50	0:10:53
-If you forget that...	0:10:53	0:10:55
-..I won't have a choice -but to do something much worse.	0:10:55	0:10:58
-On average it takes 35 attacks -before someone asks for help...	0:11:05	0:11:08
-..from a professional.	0:11:08	0:11:10
-It was a long time before Ed -asked for help.	0:11:12	0:11:15
-But for people in the real world, -who do they turn to?	0:11:20	0:11:24
-I've come to the -Safer Wales offices.	0:11:29	0:11:33
-They're running the Dyn project...	0:11:33	0:11:36
-..which is aimed at men -who have suffered...	0:11:36	0:11:39
-..domestic abuse or violence.	0:11:40	0:11:42
-As you can see, this place -has high security.	0:11:43	0:11:45
-You can't come in without -permission...	0:11:45	0:11:48
-..and the people who work here -have to remain anonymous...	0:11:48	0:11:52
-..because they're dealing with -several sensitive cases.	0:11:52	0:11:56
-Nice to meet you.	0:11:56	0:11:57
-Nice to meet you. - -Hi, how are you doing?	0:11:57	0:11:59
-Victims are often sent here -after talking to their GP...	0:11:59	0:12:03
-..or the police.	0:12:03	0:12:04
-Does she do or say things -of a sexual nature...	0:12:05	0:12:07
-..that make you feel bad -or physically hurt you?	0:12:07	0:12:11
-The first step is a questionnaire -to assess if someone...	0:12:11	0:12:14
-..has been abused and in what way.	0:12:15	0:12:17
-I'm responding in the way -I think Ed would respond.	0:12:17	0:12:20
-Would you say you're frightened?	0:12:20	0:12:22
-Would you say you're frightened? - -Yes.	0:12:22	0:12:24
-Does she constantly call you -and contact you and stalk you?	0:12:24	0:12:28
-Yes.	0:12:29	0:12:30
-Have you seen a GP?	0:12:30	0:12:32
-No.	0:12:32	0:12:33
-Would you consider seeing a GP -if you...?	0:12:33	0:12:36
-No, probably not.	0:12:36	0:12:38
-An abusive relationship is where -you've got no self-worth...	0:12:38	0:12:43
-..or you feel you've got -no self-worth...	0:12:44	0:12:46
-..or you're not entitled to -your own opinion or finances.	0:12:46	0:12:49
-You're not entitled to go where -you want to go or have friends.	0:12:50	0:12:53
-You're not allowed to invite -friends to the house.	0:12:53	0:12:56
-There's all those factors that need -to be taken into account.	0:12:56	0:13:00
-This is the first time, I think, -I've had to face up to this...	0:13:01	0:13:07
-..and to realize -what Ed's going through.	0:13:07	0:13:12
-It's one thing to learn the scripts -and say the lines...	0:13:12	0:13:16
-..but it's another...	0:13:16	0:13:18
-..to write these things down -and tick the boxes.	0:13:18	0:13:22
-It's almost like it's the first -time I've identified with Ed.	0:13:22	0:13:27
-What happened to the smart, -strong man you used to be?	0:13:28	0:13:31
-Come on, Ed, answer me. -Stand up for yourself.	0:13:32	0:13:35
-Sioned, don't.	0:13:36	0:13:37
-I ask you to do one simple thing -and you come back late...	0:13:37	0:13:41
-..with some speech saying -you can't do this any more.	0:13:41	0:13:44
-Sioned!	0:13:46	0:13:47
-Like in Ed's story, -it can start as verbal abuse...	0:13:53	0:13:58
-..before becoming physical.	0:13:58	0:14:00
-And according to one expert, -the psychological effects of this...	0:14:02	0:14:06
-..are long-term.	0:14:06	0:14:07
-Once someone -gets inside your head...	0:14:09	0:14:11
-..no matter what gender you are, -you don't have a life.	0:14:11	0:14:15
-They take over you life completely -once they're in your head.	0:14:15	0:14:20
-It's difficult to run away -from that.	0:14:20	0:14:24
-A wound can heal but once -someone's inside your head...	0:14:24	0:14:27
-..it's difficult.	0:14:27	0:14:29
-It is.	0:14:29	0:14:31
-Gwyneth Williams works for Gorwel, -a charity in North Wales...	0:14:31	0:14:36
-..which supports victims of abuse.	0:14:36	0:14:39
-In serious cases, she can help -people who've reached the point...	0:14:39	0:14:43
-..where the only option -is to escape from the situation.	0:14:43	0:14:47
-At what point do you decide a man -has to be taken in by a shelter?	0:14:48	0:14:52
-Usually, anyone who goes to -a shelter is at crisis point.	0:14:53	0:14:58
-For you to leave your home -and everything you have...	0:14:58	0:15:02
-..in order to go to -a safe environment...	0:15:02	0:15:06
-..that's a huge step -in someone's life.	0:15:06	0:15:09
-It's hard to imagine a situation -where you have to...	0:15:18	0:15:21
-..leave your family and everything -else to escape the violence.	0:15:21	0:15:25
-We can't show you the location but -I've come to a shelter for men...	0:15:26	0:15:30
-..to find out how places -like this help people.	0:15:31	0:15:34
-I'm going to meet one of the men -staying here.	0:15:34	0:15:37
-I'm keen to learn more but -I'm also a bit apprehensive...	0:15:38	0:15:41
-..with the possible seriousness -of his situation.	0:15:42	0:15:45
-Hiya, Jane. Morning. -Nice to meet you.	0:15:50	0:15:52
-Come on in.	0:15:52	0:15:54
-This is Davis House.	0:15:54	0:15:55
-The only shelter in Wales -for men and their children.	0:15:56	0:15:59
-This is the children -and young people's room.	0:16:00	0:16:03
-Over the last five years, -68 men and 21 children...	0:16:04	0:16:07
-..have come here for shelter.	0:16:07	0:16:09
-The youngest was 19, -the oldest was 78.	0:16:09	0:16:13
-This is our largest room.	0:16:15	0:16:17
-This can take a man -with three children...	0:16:17	0:16:20
-..and room for a cot as well.	0:16:20	0:16:22
-The man I've arranged to meet -had a difficult childhood.	0:16:23	0:16:27
-His father died -when he was young...	0:16:27	0:16:30
-..and he lost all contact -with his family.	0:16:30	0:16:33
-He's lived in the shelter -for six months...	0:16:34	0:16:36
-..after he fled a violent -relationship with his ex-partner.	0:16:36	0:16:40
-For about a month...	0:16:42	0:16:43
-..everything was fine.	0:16:44	0:16:45
-But then, all of a sudden, -I realized...	0:16:46	0:16:48
-..I was the one who cleaned -the house all the time...	0:16:49	0:16:52
-..I was the one who cooked -all the time.	0:16:52	0:16:55
-She just sat there.	0:16:56	0:16:57
-Then I realized she was -smoking cannabis.	0:16:58	0:17:03
-And then she wasn't just getting -her own Jobseeker's...	0:17:06	0:17:09
-..now she was getting -two Jobseeker's.	0:17:09	0:17:13
-And then she just became more -and more and more physical.	0:17:14	0:17:19
-She didn't even wash for about...	0:17:22	0:17:25
-..you know...	0:17:25	0:17:27
-..sometimes three weeks.	0:17:27	0:17:29
-No shower, nothing.	0:17:30	0:17:32
-But I still had to -sleep with her...	0:17:32	0:17:35
-..when she hadn't...	0:17:36	0:17:38
-..washed.	0:17:39	0:17:41
-The smell was so bad...	0:17:41	0:17:43
-..I'd be sick.	0:17:45	0:17:47
-I'd sort of sneak out of the -bedroom to go to the toilet...	0:17:47	0:17:51
-..to throw up.	0:17:51	0:17:53
-If I didn't, she'd insist -I sleep with her.	0:17:53	0:17:58
-If I didn't, she'd threaten -to kick me out.	0:17:58	0:18:01
-So, every time...	0:18:02	0:18:05
-..it was, basically, -without my consent.	0:18:06	0:18:10
-Every time, it was just -forced, forced, forced.	0:18:10	0:18:14
-I did try to argue back but...	0:18:16	0:18:21
-..if I did that, -I'd get things thrown at me...	0:18:21	0:18:26
-..erm, punches.	0:18:26	0:18:28
-At one time I was pinned down...	0:18:29	0:18:31
-..and I was forced -to sleep with her.	0:18:32	0:18:36
-She just held me down.	0:18:36	0:18:39
-She was a big woman - -bigger than me.	0:18:39	0:18:44
-I couldn't get her off me.	0:18:44	0:18:47
-Because I didn't have a family...	0:18:49	0:18:52
-..I didn't have anywhere to go, -I couldn't do anything...	0:18:54	0:18:58
-..just stay there.	0:18:58	0:19:00
-How did you get out of -the situation?	0:19:01	0:19:03
-In the end, -I had a friend come over...	0:19:03	0:19:07
-..and that person helped me.	0:19:07	0:19:11
-Then I came here.	0:19:11	0:19:13
-It's just peaceful.	0:19:18	0:19:20
-It's quiet. -You have time to think.	0:19:23	0:19:26
-You have time to -get back to normal...	0:19:28	0:19:32
-..in your own time.	0:19:32	0:19:34
-Has that helped you?	0:19:34	0:19:36
-Has that helped you? - -Yes. It saved my life.	0:19:36	0:19:38
-It has saved my life.	0:19:38	0:19:40
-I think another week, -I wouldn't be here.	0:19:40	0:19:44
-It's almost impossible to believe -that it's possible...	0:19:51	0:19:55
-..for one person to suffer so much.	0:19:55	0:19:58
-But people do.	0:19:58	0:20:00
-Abuse takes on several -different forms.	0:20:00	0:20:03
-We've seen that with one person, -one victim.	0:20:03	0:20:07
-The cruel story of Ed's abuse comes -to an end, like many true cases...	0:20:15	0:20:19
-..in court.	0:20:20	0:20:21
-I have evidence -of the physical abuse...	0:20:22	0:20:25
-..but the abuse up here -started long before then.	0:20:25	0:20:29
-The sad reality on screen -and in life...	0:20:30	0:20:33
-..is that nobody wins -in these cases.	0:20:33	0:20:35
-OK, both cameras, please.	0:20:36	0:20:38
-Silence on set, please.	0:20:40	0:20:42
-Thanks.	0:20:42	0:20:43
-Standby and action.	0:20:44	0:20:47
-Sioned changed the person I was...	0:20:48	0:20:50
-..step by step, day by day...	0:20:51	0:20:54
-..in cold blood.	0:20:55	0:20:56
-I think that's one of the cruellest -things anyone can do...	0:20:58	0:21:02
-..to another person.	0:21:02	0:21:04
-Cut. Thank you.	0:21:04	0:21:06
-Thanks.	0:21:06	0:21:08
-It was quite nice that he had the -opportunity to get all that out.	0:21:13	0:21:18
-This is the end of Ed's abuse -and the end of my journey.	0:21:23	0:21:27
-But for many, -the nightmare continues.	0:21:27	0:21:31
-What would your advice be to -any man... well, any person...	0:21:33	0:21:37
-..who's suffering this kind -of physical or mental abuse?	0:21:37	0:21:41
-Look for help.	0:21:41	0:21:43
-A doctor. Anyone.	0:21:43	0:21:45
-If it's a child, a teacher...	0:21:45	0:21:48
-..police officer, anyone.	0:21:48	0:21:50
-Talk to them.	0:21:50	0:21:52
-What does the future hold -for you as a family?	0:21:52	0:21:55
-To carry on helping each other.	0:21:55	0:21:58
-I hope we'll have a better future.	0:21:59	0:22:01
-Are you ready to think -about the future now?	0:22:03	0:22:06
-Yes, I am.	0:22:06	0:22:08
-Just try to...	0:22:09	0:22:11
-..have a quiet life, finally.	0:22:11	0:22:14
-I hope you find it.	0:22:15	0:22:17
-I hope so too. But so far, so good.	0:22:17	0:22:20
-Making this programme -has been an eye opener.	0:22:32	0:22:35
-I think the most important thing -I've learned is...	0:22:35	0:22:38
-..the importance of men -or any victim speaking out.	0:22:39	0:22:43
-From speaking to so many of them, -that is the first step.	0:22:44	0:22:47
-It's so important to talk, -it doesn't matter who it is...	0:22:47	0:22:51
-..a friend or a professional.	0:22:51	0:22:53
-At least by talking about it, it's -out there and you can get help.	0:22:53	0:22:57
-What's important to remember is, -there is help available.	0:22:57	0:23:01
-Help is available to everyone.	0:23:01	0:23:03
-But the first step is to decide -to speak out.	0:23:03	0:23:07
-Thank you to the contributors -for their bravery.	0:23:13	0:23:17
-S4C subtitles by Red Bee Media	0:23:35	0:23:38

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