Bras, Botox a'r Bleidlais


Bras, Botox a'r Bleidlais

Ganrif wedi i rai merched ennill y bleidlais am y tro cyntaf, Ffion Dafis sy'n gofyn faint sydd wedi newid i fenywod. Ffion Dafis asks how life has changed for women over the pa...


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-Women are more in the limelight now

-than ever before.

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-Fighting for their rights,

-standing up for equality.

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-There is a wave of brilliant

-young women at the moment...

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-..who take ownership.

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-That's one of the big words

-I like...

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-..when you talk about

-what it's like to be a strong woman.

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-To take ownership

-and do what you want to do.

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-I was just enjoying life,

-enjoying travelling.

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-I was working.

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-Then the man

-never fitted into all that...

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-..and then I decided

-to do something about it.

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-There is so much pressure

-on women today.

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-We just have to be happy with

-who we are. Don't you think so?

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-It sounds really righteous, says

-she with a full face of make-up!

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-I felt like a woman.

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-I thought I can do what I want now,

-I look like everyone else.

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-You can't explain the feeling,

-it's just amazing!

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-It's the old argument, the word

-feminist has become a dirty word.

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-People say we don't need this

-discussion, we don't need the word.

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-As we can see with coming of Donald

-Trump, the battle is far from over.

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-Yes, we got the vote,

-yes, there have been many battles.

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-But we haven't reached a place where

-we don't have to ask questions.

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-That's the place when things

-will be in their place...

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-..when we won't need to discuss it.

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-A century ago, the tide closed in

-on decades of fiery battles...

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-..by women for the right to vote.

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-The reaction to their protest

-was violent and cruel.

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-Many were imprisoned.

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-They demanded to be counted

-as equal citizens.

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-That would take another ten years,

-but the first steps had been taken.

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-That thirst to demand our place

-and our voices to be heard...

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-..has gone

-from strength to strength.

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-I've reached an age

-where I find myself...

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-..questioning things more and more.

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-I want to hear

-what other women think.

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-Where actually are we

-in society now?

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-Have we lost that focus

-these women had back in 1918?

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-I worry that society

-is, unfortunately...

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-..moving towards a place where

-outward appearance is important.

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-Everyone is going to end up looking

-the same, that's a big fear for me.

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-You almost want to say to society...

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-..and to people who make money

-out of that kind of thing...

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-.."I want you to stop for once

-so that we can all realise...

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-"..what it is to get older...

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-"..or look like how we are

-meant to look like women."

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-I think there's great pressure

-on what men think of us today.

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-That hasn't changed,

-it's been here for centuries.

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-During the second half

-of the 20th century...

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-..there were more opportunities

-for girls to wear lovely clothes.

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-Even working class girls

-could spend on this type of thing.

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-It was important and they

-also liked to show themselves...

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-..in the best light when they worked

-in quite a grey place very often.

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-And to flesh out this idea

-of Miss World and so on.

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-It was part of their life.

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-I used to watch Miss World!

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-I used to watch Miss World!

-

-I did, I sat with Nain.

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-Nain, my sister and I

-would sit down...

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-..and Mam and Dad

-would be out on Saturday night...

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-..and we'd sit down scoring

-these girls, judging these girls!

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-We didn't do that!

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-I don't know

-why I admitted that on camera.

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-Beauty shows

-mean nothing to me now.

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-I've been very critical of shows

-like Miss Wales, Miss World.

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-I see them as being anti-feminist.

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-But the situation isn't quite

-as black and white as that.

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-They've been a big part of

-women's lives in Wales for decades.

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-They were part of

-the factory girls experience too.

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-They liked to be Miss Dunlop,

-Miss Hoover, Miss Hotpoint.

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-To them, working class girls,

-they had different experiences...

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-..to what they'd have in their

-daily work and I understand that.

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-In 1970, there was a big protest

-by the women's lib...

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-..against the Miss World

-beauty pageant.

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-It's amazing to see the images

-of them throwing the papers down...

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-..and disrupting the pageant.

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-This was a big thing at the time

-and people were against it.

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-They thought it was shameful

-that women dared to do that...

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-..and disrupt a pageant on TV.

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-I think you can be

-whatever you want to be.

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-We are born with our own body

-and our own mind.

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-There is nobody to tell us

-any different.

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-You can be a part of that journey...

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-..by protesting

-on the streets of London.

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-You can be a part of that journey

-by walking a catwalk in Wales.

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-Different choices

-for different girls.

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-I wonder why we're all

-so fearful of beauty.

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-It's alright to be judged on how

-you sing, how fast you can run...

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-..how far you can kick a ball.

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-When it comes to beauty, there is a

-fear that we're being judged for it.

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-To this day,

-I don't really understand why.

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-I don't think any of us

-on the side-lines...

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-..should tell these women

-what they can and can't do.

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-To me, being a feminist

-is not judging any other girl...

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-..for what she wants to do

-and to be whatever you want to be.

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-Nobody has the right to tell anyone

-what they are meant to be.

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-That's what being a feminist

-is to me.

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-It's so much more than the pageant

-that people think it is.

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-The year I competed, we raised

-13,000 for children's charities.

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-It's something huge that does

-great work across Welsh communities.

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-I wanted to be a part of

-something that was bigger than me.

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-There are a 101 pageants

-in the world.

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-I work with Miss Wales and

-Miss World at the top of that tree.

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-I'd like to think I'm

-one of the feminine feminists.

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-I think we are far better

-winning as women...

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-..than as men and why should we

-apologise for everything female.

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-This is our opportunity

-to shout from the rooftops...

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-..that we are proud of the feminine

-values that we hold as a gender.

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-You can't deny

-after seeing a show like that...

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-..that we don't judge these girls

-or look at them...

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-..because of the way they look.

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-I found myself,

-because I'd spoken to them...

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-..looking at their shape,

-their skin...

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-..and the way

-they carried themselves.

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-I've been on stage and TV, I've done

-posters which pushed boundaries.

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-I've put myself in situations

-where people have looked at me...

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-..but I felt it was different,

-I was in character.

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-I feel these girls are making

-these decisions for themselves.

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-Yes, we are looking at them

-and they are doing something...

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-..which completely depends

-on how they look...

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-..but there is more to them

-than that.

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-I think that is healthy enough

-and who am I to judge it?

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-My parents never got much trouble

-with me growing up.

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-There is a wild streak in me and

-I am always drawn to wild people...

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-..who push boundaries,

-but actually, deep down...

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-..I'm quite conservative and

-I'm very aware of my own boundaries.

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-I feel lucky that I grew up

-in the age before mobile phones...

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-..and social media.

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-I had the freedom to experiment...

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-..to make mistakes without

-everything being scrutinized.

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-I can't imagine what it's like

-for young girls today...

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-..living their lives online.

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-Social media

-and the generation of the selfie...

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-..where everything

-has to be perfect.

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-My daughter and her friends spend

-hours getting the perfect image.

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-It does worry me, but then again,

-the only way to get over it...

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-..is to get them to realise

-that this is something superficial.

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-Who you are and what you want

-to achieve is more important.

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-I tell Leisa and her friends that

-who they are is more important.

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-Because we lived

-before all this was so important...

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-..we know how to live

-without social media.

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-There is something in us older women

-who can appreciate what we have...

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-..and you fear now

-that those younger women...

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-..won't know how to communicate...

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-..without creating

-that world for themselves.

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-Living life as a woman

-is a constant narrative...

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-..on questioning yourself,

-looking at the world around you...

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-..and thinking,

-"Hm, what's really going on here?"

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-It's the old argument.

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-The word feminist

-has become a dirty word...

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-..with people saying we don't

-need this kind of discussion...

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-..but as we can see

-with the coming of Donald Trump...

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-..you sense the battle

-is far from over.

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-I have felt a shift

-and change since Trump.

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-People think they can say as they

-like to women and people in general.

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-I've seen that on the school yard

-and it's shocking.

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-You wouldn't think it can have

-such an effect on you.

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-As women, we need to stick together

-in times like this.

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-The fact that I've been raised

-by a single mum...

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-..strong and independent...

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-..it's taught me to question

-everything in life...

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-..and to stand up strongly

-for girls like Mam did.

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-I want to follow mam's footsteps.

-Hopefully!

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-I'm sure I'm seen as old fashioned

-now in what I believe a woman is...

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-..but I do feel strongly that there

-are young women out there now...

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-..who are willing

-to raise their voices.

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-The battles haven't been won

-by a long way.

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-Yes, there is fear,

-but from that fear...

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-..I hope what comes from that

-is a new confidence.

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-It's a lovely thing looking back

-at photos of the women...

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-..that have defined me.

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-Mam, Nain...

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-..sister, friends and stepmother.

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-Each one has given something

-of their own personalities to me.

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-It's interesting

-looking at these old photos...

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-..thinking how society

-has changed...

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-..and the role of women

-within that society...

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-..since the time

-when Mam was growing up...

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-..and since

-when Nain was growing up.

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-Throughout the decades, more and

-more women raised their voices...

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-..and Welsh women

-were amongst them...

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-..fighting for the causes

-that were important to them.

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-We were fighting

-as a group of strong women...

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-..because we wanted a better world,

-to be cliche about it.

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-It was a combination of things.

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-I'd campaigned, a lot

-of people campaigned with me...

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-..over language rights, they also

-campaigned for the peace movement.

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-We're talking about

-the beginning of the '80s...

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-..when there was

-a big nuclear threat...

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-..and lot of opposition

-between governments.

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-What's new there?

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-It was a period

-when I'd just become a mum.

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-I had little children and I felt

-very protective of them as a mother.

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-I also felt unable to protect them

-in the face of this huge threat.

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-The women's protest opposing

-American nuclear missiles...

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-..on the Greenham Common site

-was one of the longest...

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-..and most famous campaigns

-of the feminist movement in history.

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-Women can give something positive,

-I would say.

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-Someone said during that time

-at Greenham Common...

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-.."Men have always

-gone away to war...

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-"..and now women

-are going away to peace."

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-We can be just as strong,

-just as determined...

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-..and suffer, too, as men have...

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-..but for something

-strong and positive...

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-..instead of something

-destructive that kills.

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-For something creative.

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-That's the strength of women

-in the peace movement.

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-I have so much admiration for

-Meg Elis and her contemporaries...

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-..and their protest campaigns.

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-She had strong principles

-about what was right.

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-My mother taught me

-those very same principles.

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-What hits me personally

-at times like this is...

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-..when my mother died, I was 26

-years old, I was a different person.

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-I was a girl,

-I feel now that I'm a woman.

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-I almost feel like I'm getting to

-know my mother after she's died...

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-..because I realise

-the things I do...

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-..her strengths

-and her weaknesses...

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-..are the exact same strengths

-and weaknesses that were in Mam.

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-I think that's why

-there's a lot of guilt in me...

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-..when I think about the things

-I didn't ask her before she died.

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-I know what I feel now,

-the loneliness that comes...

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-..from not getting those answers

-from her, as a woman.

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-It's important to remember her

-as she was.

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-It's easy to romanticize a person

-after they die...

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-..and that's one

-of my greatest fears.

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-I don't want Mam to be this perfect,

-unblemished image in my head.

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-I insist

-that I remember her failures.

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-In those failures,

-I am coming to recognise myself.

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-The over-sensitiveness,

-the untidiness, the overreacting.

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-She lives on in me.

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-As I look in the mirror

-and see myself aging...

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-..I see her face staring back at me.

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-Is she happy with who I am today?

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-Or can she see the inner turmoil

-behind these lying eyes?

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-She was sensitive like me,

-she was untidy like me...

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-..she understood people,

-she really did understand people.

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-There was something

-that was very, very shy in her...

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-..though she liked nothing more

-than to have fun!

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-Someone looks at these images

-from the '60s and they're iconic.

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-There's a new spirit here.

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-The '50s had been so austere

-after the war, so it was great.

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-There were many young people about,

-the baby boom...

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-..they were now teenagers -

-a new word from this era.

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-They were going out to have fun!

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-Sex became much more open too.

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-Yes, but that was partly because

-in 1961, the pill was introduced.

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-To women that was key, and I think

-it's still a turning point...

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-..in women's history because now you

-can control your sexuality yourself.

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-The mini skirt came in.

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-I remember when I started wearing a

-mini skirt, I'd been in uni a year.

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-I felt a frump

-coming from Aberystwyth to Bangor...

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-..which was full of fashion!

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-I didn't care what people

-thought of me and that's important.

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-This is my mother around

-the same time, a few years earlier.

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-I love this picture.

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-I'm on her lap and the skirt is so

-high up, I can nearly see her bum!

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-But it was obvious that she felt,

-even being a young mother...

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-..I'm only a few months old...

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-..but she had plenty of confidence

-to wear something so short.

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-Women who haven't had children

-are still a big taboo in society...

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-..a society which places so much

-pressure on women to be mothers.

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-As we reach a certain age...

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-..it is expected that a mother

-will have given birth...

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-..and having to justify my childless

-situation often makes me sad.

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-I think I had a very short period

-in my early 40s...

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-..that I felt the privilege

-was being taken from me.

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-I hadn't thought

-about having kids before then.

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-I didn't feel a huge urge

-to have children...

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-..but once that privilege

-is taken from you...

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-..the mind goes to panic because

-you hear that old horrible phrase...

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-..the clock is ticking.

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-I hate that sentence.

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-I went into a panic where

-I looked at men and thought...

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-.."Are my ovaries

-winking at that man?

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-"Could he be a father

-to my children?

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-I didn't want to think like that.

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-I want to fall in love,

-because I'm falling in love...

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-..not because I feel

-the necessity to do something...

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-..society thinks I should be doing.

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-I suppose you and I have veered

-from the conventional path.

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-Me, as a single, unmarried mother.

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-You, as someone

-who hasn't had children.

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-I've never felt

-there is a judgement...

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-..but people do say things and

-you think, "Why do you say that?"

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-People think that you're not happy

-and I'm quite happy actually.

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-This wasn't the original plan,

-but as it turned out, I'm OK.

0:21:030:21:08

-I think it would be nice

-to be in a situation...

0:21:080:21:12

-..where women could own

-all kinds of situations in life.

0:21:120:21:16

-We need to normalise not being

-in a traditional nuclear family...

0:21:160:21:24

-..and that's actually OK.

0:21:240:21:26

-What a conventional family...

0:21:310:21:32

-..what a conventional woman is,

-has changed completely.

0:21:330:21:36

-There are many options open to

-single women keen to have children.

0:21:360:21:41

-I think I always saw myself

-having kids.

0:21:420:21:45

-It was never a case

-of do I want or not.

0:21:470:21:50

-It was just naturally something

-I thought would always happen to me.

0:21:500:21:54

-I was just enjoying life,

-travelling, sport, cycling, working.

0:21:550:22:02

-And then, the man

-never quite fitted into that.

0:22:020:22:06

-But I just thought it would.

0:22:080:22:11

-One day, the man will come.

0:22:110:22:15

-But when I reached 38

-and the man still hadn't come...

0:22:170:22:24

-..I thought,

-"How would the child come?"

0:22:240:22:28

-I decided to do something about it.

0:22:290:22:32

-I decided on a sperm donor

-from a sperm bank.

0:22:340:22:38

-It's a little bit like

-internet dating to be honest.

0:22:380:22:42

-You go on the website where there's

-a lot of information on each donor.

0:22:420:22:49

-You can look at the characteristics.

0:22:500:22:53

-Eye colour, hair colour,

-height, family history.

0:22:540:22:57

-The donor can't be anonymous.

0:22:580:23:00

-Idris has a right to find his

-biological father when he's 18.

0:23:010:23:09

-He didn't look anything like me

-at the start, at all.

0:23:100:23:13

-Who knows how much of me and how

-much of the donor, or the father...

0:23:150:23:20

-..will be in him.

0:23:210:23:22

-I think we get conditioned too much

-towards what society expects us...

0:23:290:23:34

-..to do as women.

0:23:350:23:37

-Sometimes, it does feel

-like society is making you think...

0:23:380:23:41

-..that you are a failure if

-you haven't done the usual things.

0:23:410:23:46

-Did you encounter any criticism?

0:23:480:23:50

-Not to my face!

-Maybe behind my back.

0:23:510:23:54

-No-one said anything to me directly.

0:23:540:23:58

-To be honest, I'm not one

-who cares what others think.

0:23:580:24:04

-I care very much

-what the people I love think of me.

0:24:040:24:10

-I've been one of those

-who's let life guide me...

0:24:110:24:17

-..and, like you, I like

-to enjoy life to the limit...

0:24:170:24:21

-..but that's where I've been lucky

-these past two years.

0:24:210:24:26

-I've realised the urge

-was not strong enough...

0:24:260:24:31

-..or I would have taken

-the initiative and taken that step.

0:24:310:24:37

-You considered it, and that's what

-I'd say to anyone thinking about it.

0:24:380:24:44

-There are options available.

0:24:450:24:48

-No woman should

-just take it for granted...

0:24:480:24:51

-..that they can't have kids

-just because they're on their own.

0:24:510:24:55

-My sister and I

-are so close in terms of age...

0:25:030:25:06

-..and closeness in terms

-of being two women...

0:25:070:25:10

-..but the divide between us is huge.

0:25:100:25:12

-When we were children...

0:25:130:25:15

-..I was the one making scripts and

-doing little dramas and performing.

0:25:150:25:21

-What was Eleri doing?

0:25:210:25:23

-She was going for a walk

-around the street with the dollies!

0:25:240:25:27

-She always said she wanted a row

-of little shoes outside the house.

0:25:270:25:31

-That was her dream.

0:25:310:25:33

-She's had four boys

-who are like monkeys.

0:25:330:25:39

-Being in their company, I get

-my fix of being with children.

0:25:390:25:45

-But you know what,

-I love turning that key and going...

0:25:460:25:52

-.."Ta-ra, Ler,

-it's over to you now!"

0:25:520:25:55

-I have to accept who I am...

0:26:010:26:03

-..and I have to accept

-the world around me...

0:26:040:26:07

-..and make the most of what's

-in the world and appreciate it.

0:26:070:26:11

-There we go. That's perhaps

-a chapter that won't be.

0:26:120:26:17

-.

0:26:230:26:23

-Subtitles

0:26:260:26:26

-Subtitles

-

-Subtitles

0:26:260:26:28

-A year and a half

-after the big loss...

0:26:290:26:31

-..that big sentence came

-that we had been worrying about.

0:26:320:26:35

-Dad has a lover.

0:26:350:26:37

-And we were thrown, my sister and I,

-to an unknown territory...

0:26:380:26:42

-..without knowing where to turn

-or how to feel.

0:26:420:26:45

-There was nothing

-that could have prepared us...

0:26:450:26:48

-..for the mess of emotions

-that was about to grasp us.

0:26:480:26:51

-Hiya, Lis.

0:26:520:26:55

-OK?

0:26:570:26:58

-I remember vividly

-that I was scared to call the house.

0:26:580:27:02

-Your father always rang me,

-I didn't ring him.

0:27:030:27:07

-I used to think, "Well, if I

-call them, what am I going to say?"

0:27:070:27:12

-"Who am I? What do I say?

0:27:120:27:14

-"Who am I?"

0:27:150:27:17

-Anyway, I didn't have to think

-too much because the phone rang.

0:27:170:27:23

-"It's Ffion here,

-I'm Will's daughter."

0:27:240:27:27

-"Oh, Ffion! How are you?"

0:27:270:27:29

-And since then...

0:27:300:27:32

-..things have developed

-over the years...

0:27:320:27:35

-..our relationship has developed

-and here we are!

0:27:350:27:39

-Little did we know...

0:27:410:27:42

-..that day when we met in a pub

-on the outskirts of Cardiff...

0:27:430:27:47

-..that things would have

-developed as they have.

0:27:470:27:50

-I remember being so nervous.

0:27:510:27:53

-It was so different for me

-to think of Dad having a girlfriend.

0:27:530:27:59

-Dad saying

-that he had a girlfriend...

0:28:000:28:02

-..was something

-I never thought I would say.

0:28:020:28:05

-I remember saying to Will

-from the off...

0:28:050:28:08

-..I'm not here

-to take anyone's place.

0:28:090:28:13

-And I did know,

-we talked about your mother.

0:28:130:28:17

-Marian was your father's first love.

0:28:170:28:20

-So I wasn't coming to take anyone's

-place and we discussed that a lot.

0:28:210:28:27

-I think it took me quite a few years

-to call you a stepmother.

0:28:290:28:34

-I think maybe because

-the word mother was in it.

0:28:340:28:38

-I was scared of that.

-Do you feel like a mother?

0:28:390:28:43

-Well, I don't think I would

-be able to love you any more...

0:28:440:28:49

-..even if I'd given birth to you.

0:28:490:28:52

-That's the feeling I have, I'm very

-very close to you both as girls.

0:28:540:29:00

-I don't keep anything from you,

-I tell you absolutely everything...

0:29:010:29:06

-..often too much, as you know!

0:29:060:29:08

-But that's what's nice,

-is that I feel I've got a friend.

0:29:090:29:13

-That friend that I can turn to

-when I have a problem or I'm scared.

0:29:130:29:18

-I had been on my own

-for many years...

0:29:210:29:24

-..the same as you, and we can

-relate to each other's experiences.

0:29:250:29:29

-I also feel when you're young

-and you look forward to life...

0:29:320:29:39

-..marriage, children,

-it didn't happen in my case.

0:29:390:29:45

-But I have inherited the ones

-I would have desired to have myself.

0:29:450:29:50

-I have taken ownership of them.

0:29:500:29:52

-I said I wasn't going to cry

-but I've started already!

0:29:540:29:58

-We are more free than ever before to

-decide what path we want to follow.

0:30:040:30:09

-As I approach

-a new chapter in my life...

0:30:120:30:14

-..there are some things

-I cannot control.

0:30:150:30:17

-Aging, something that happens

-to us all.

0:30:230:30:27

-We see our bodies changing,

-internally and externally.

0:30:270:30:34

-It can be very scary.

0:30:340:30:37

-I have to be honest, it depends

-on my mood on any given day...

0:30:380:30:43

-..how exactly I feel about it.

0:30:430:30:46

-Even though I believe

-that every wrinkle is important...

0:30:460:30:51

-..and that every part of my body

-has a story to tell...

0:30:510:30:58

-..those little fears can kick in.

0:30:590:31:02

-I feel a lot happier being

-in this industry the age I am now...

0:31:050:31:10

-..which I know

-is a strange thing to say...

0:31:100:31:13

-..but in the acting world...

0:31:130:31:16

-..I do think there are many

-interesting roles for women my age.

0:31:160:31:20

-Getting to play

-the First Minister of Wales...

0:31:210:31:24

-..you don't get

-much more powerful than that.

0:31:240:31:27

-Bloody hell.

0:31:290:31:31

-Rhiannon Robert, a difficult day

-for the First Minister.

0:31:320:31:35

-That's just playing a role on TV.

0:31:350:31:39

-Some prominent women on TV are still

-criticised for the way they look...

0:31:390:31:44

-..and not for what they say.

0:31:450:31:47

-Hello!

0:31:490:31:51

-One woman said the other day...

0:31:530:31:55

-.."It's really sad that one of the

-main female broadcasters in rugby...

0:31:550:32:00

-"..has fake eyelashes,

-big hair and tight clothes."

0:32:000:32:03

-It made me cross.

0:32:040:32:05

-You should be celebrating the fact

-that any woman can present sport.

0:32:050:32:09

-We were talking here earlier.

0:32:100:32:12

-The cameraman has given us

-a lovely light in the kitchen.

0:32:120:32:16

-Thank you very much.

0:32:170:32:18

-Small things like that,

-because we are on screen...

0:32:190:32:22

-..I pretend

-that it doesn't affect me...

0:32:220:32:27

-..but it does, it really does.

0:32:280:32:31

-When we do live games and we're not

-in studio, we do links pitch-side.

0:32:310:32:36

-Sometimes we are. At pitch-side,

-it's raining, snowing, windy.

0:32:370:32:41

-There is no chance

-to make you look nice.

0:32:410:32:44

-As I get older I ask,

-"May I have another light, please?"

0:32:440:32:48

-Young cameramen ask,

-"Are you mental?"

0:32:480:32:51

-I say, "When you get older

-you'll need a light too!"

0:32:510:32:54

-"Don't put the camera down there.

-We really don't like that!"

0:32:540:32:59

-It's horrendous.

0:33:000:33:02

-It happens to us all,

-all of us, women and men.

0:33:030:33:05

-But when men get older,

-they're distinguished.

0:33:060:33:09

-When women get older... hmm!

0:33:090:33:11

-We are meant to appreciate.

0:33:110:33:14

-I try and make the most

-of every wrinkle, every hair.

0:33:140:33:18

-But it's hard, isn't it?

0:33:190:33:21

-I remember years ago

-when Botox became popular.

0:33:210:33:27

-I said, "I am never having Botox!

-Awful thing to do to your face!"

0:33:270:33:31

-I was 25 and I didn't need it then!

0:33:310:33:33

-I still haven't had it, but,

-oh, my gosh, never say never now!

0:33:340:33:39

-I'm trying to hang on in there.

0:33:390:33:41

-But hang on in there

-for who and what reason?

0:33:430:33:46

-For me, to prove

-that I don't need to conform...

0:33:460:33:50

-..to how I should be looking.

0:33:500:33:52

-Are you a feminist

-if you don't have Botox? No.

0:33:530:33:57

-However you want to look at it.

0:33:570:34:00

-I think, this world, there is

-so much pressure on women today...

0:34:000:34:05

-..and we just have to be happy

-with who we are, don't you think so?

0:34:060:34:10

-It sounds really righteous, says

-she with a full face of make-up!

0:34:100:34:14

-I think, in terms of changing the

-body, it's a totally personal thing.

0:34:180:34:22

-It's completely up to that person.

0:34:220:34:24

-Whatever makes you feel better

-in this world...

0:34:240:34:27

-..whether it's making your breasts

-larger or smaller...

0:34:270:34:31

-..changing what you think

-will make you happy...

0:34:310:34:36

-..and I think if you have the choice

-and it makes you feel better...

0:34:370:34:41

-..then why not?

0:34:420:34:43

-But for one young mother,

-Carrie Harper, there was no choice.

0:34:480:34:51

-She went under the surgeon's knife,

-not for cosmetic reasons...

0:34:510:34:55

-..but to have a double mastectomy

-due to cancer.

0:34:550:34:58

-It had a profound effect

-not only on her confidence...

0:34:580:35:02

-..but it made her feel

-incomplete as a woman.

0:35:020:35:05

-I was devastated,

-absolutely devastated.

0:35:050:35:08

-I had quite big breasts

-and to go from that to nothing.

0:35:090:35:13

-Everything was all sunk in my chest.

-I couldn't even wear a bra.

0:35:140:35:18

-This is it. I'm going to look

-like this forever. I hated myself.

0:35:190:35:23

-Carrie's new breasts were created

-out of skin from her stomach...

0:35:230:35:27

-..but the operation left her

-with no nipples.

0:35:270:35:30

-She turned to a tattooist

-to put the icing on the cake.

0:35:300:35:35

-People really lose

-their confidence...

0:35:350:35:38

-..and a lot of people

-I've noticed go quite introverted.

0:35:380:35:42

-The way things are today with social

-media, it's all about how you look.

0:35:430:35:47

-People retract

-and go into themselves.

0:35:470:35:49

-I show nipple protrusion...

0:35:510:35:53

-..and that creates a 3D effect

-like a natural breast.

0:35:530:35:56

-You create the illusion

-of a protrusion.

0:35:570:35:59

-When it hits the light,

-it looks like a natural breast.

0:35:590:36:02

-You see a huge difference from

-the person who laid on the bed...

0:36:020:36:06

-..to the person who sits up.

0:36:070:36:08

-I was a double-D before I had

-the mastectomy and I am an E now.

0:36:090:36:13

-Bigger.

0:36:130:36:14

-My husband's chuffed!

0:36:150:36:17

-That is amazing, I'm gobsmacked!

0:36:200:36:23

-I felt like a woman.

-I thought I can do what I want now.

0:36:240:36:28

-I look like spaghetti junction with

-scars but you can see passed that.

0:36:280:36:33

-I felt like a woman again.

0:36:330:36:34

-You can't explain that feeling,

-it's amazing.

0:36:350:36:38

-It's really humbling. It makes you

-put things into perspective.

0:36:380:36:42

-The time I get with this person to

-have a small part of their life...

0:36:420:36:46

-..it's just the best, it's lovely.

0:36:470:36:49

-How much do they pay for this?

0:36:490:36:51

-How much do they pay for this?

-

-Nothing, I do it for free.

0:36:510:36:53

-Every woman's here because they've

-gone through some life experience.

0:36:540:36:59

-You don't pick cancer,

-cancer picks you.

0:36:590:37:01

-Being able to do something like

-that, you're giving them closure.

0:37:020:37:06

-As you walk away, it's really

-empowering and its lovely.

0:37:060:37:10

-That's amazing.

-You'd never tell. Honestly.

0:37:100:37:14

-It's mad.

0:37:150:37:16

-Rachel, high five.

0:37:170:37:18

-Seeing that today and realising

-how much women support each other...

0:37:210:37:26

-..is something that shakes you.

0:37:260:37:29

-Also, Mam died 20 years ago

-to breast cancer...

0:37:300:37:33

-..and I think so much

-has changed in 20 years.

0:37:340:37:37

-We are so open these days, so much

-more open than we have ever been.

0:37:370:37:41

-And that also makes me

-feel good and warm inside.

0:37:420:37:45

-You must be an amazing drawer?

0:37:460:37:47

-No! Give me a pen and paper

-and I'm atrocious.

0:37:480:37:50

-My children, when we play games

-at home, they say, "That's so bad!"

0:37:510:37:54

-The minute I have a pigment pen

-in my hand, it all flows.

0:37:550:37:58

-I can't draw for toffee!

0:37:580:37:59

-To us, it might have looked like

-one small thing, having a nipple...

0:38:000:38:04

-..but to Carrie,

-it means everything.

0:38:040:38:07

-It was interesting what her

-and Rachel were both saying.

0:38:070:38:10

-This is the last stamp almost

-to feel like a complete woman.

0:38:110:38:17

-Going home tonight...

0:38:200:38:22

-..knowing that she felt

-like that one small extra thing...

0:38:220:38:27

-..has given her

-the icing on the cake...

0:38:270:38:29

-..or the crown in its place,

-it's priceless, isn't it?

0:38:300:38:33

-.

0:38:360:38:37

-Subtitles

0:38:400:38:40

-Subtitles

-

-Subtitles

0:38:400:38:42

-There's something

-in the air this year.

0:38:450:38:47

-Yes, it's the centenary.

-There is a thirst for history.

0:38:470:38:51

-But there is also a thirst

-for protest too.

0:38:510:38:54

-We are raising our voices

-on all kinds of different causes.

0:38:540:38:58

-There are new ways of being heard.

0:38:580:39:00

-So many things have changed

-as a result of online protest.

0:39:010:39:07

-It can influence protests and it

-also enables us to grow communities.

0:39:070:39:13

-There are so many opportunities now.

0:39:130:39:15

-There are negative elements

-to working online as a feminist...

0:39:180:39:22

-..and writing about women's history.

0:39:230:39:25

-If someone wants to be abusive

-online, well, it's the internet.

0:39:260:39:30

-They are going to do that!

0:39:300:39:33

-But we are tied to something

-that is a positive reaction.

0:39:330:39:39

-It keeps us going.

0:39:390:39:41

-It is a protest and that passion

-helps us keep the focus.

0:39:410:39:46

-Social media allows us

-to show our colours instantly.

0:39:500:39:54

-We can inspire millions of people

-to march worldwide...

0:39:550:39:59

-..by a click of the finger.

0:39:590:40:01

-In 1908, the first big rally to call

-for the vote was held in Hyde Park.

0:40:030:40:07

-A group of activists travelled

-from Cardiff to join in the protest.

0:40:070:40:12

-This is the banner

-they took with them.

0:40:120:40:15

-I feel quite emotional.

0:40:170:40:19

-Someone really made this,

-it's a labour of love.

0:40:220:40:25

-There's a community behind this.

0:40:260:40:29

-It brings it back to groups of women

-campaigning in their communities.

0:40:290:40:33

-When they took it to London, the

-crowds said, "The devil has come.

0:40:340:40:39

-"The Welsh suffragists

-have the devil among them!"

0:40:390:40:45

-They had dared to put the dragon

-on their banner.

0:40:450:40:48

-What better symbol than a dragon!

0:40:480:40:50

-There's a dragon in every

-Welsh woman. That's a good thing.

0:40:510:40:55

-And fire in our bellies!

0:40:550:40:57

-Every stitch in this banner

-represents a woman in history...

0:41:020:41:06

-..who battled to realise a dream -

-a dream of being equal.

0:41:070:41:11

-A century on,

-this dream still drives us.

0:41:120:41:16

-Maybe we do dream enough...

0:41:180:41:20

-..but there's something on the last

-hurdle that says, "I can't do that."

0:41:200:41:25

-Maybe it's a job for a man,

-maybe it's a race for men...

0:41:250:41:30

-..maybe I'll get swallowed up

-in this masculine world.

0:41:300:41:34

-But no, I think not only

-do we need to dream...

0:41:350:41:38

-..but we need to follow our dreams

-to take our step to the path...

0:41:390:41:45

-..which will take us towards

-the top of our journey.

0:41:450:41:49

-You've focused

-a lot on ultra races...

0:41:490:41:54

-..which can be

-a masculine, testosterone world.

0:41:550:42:00

-Again, you don't see yourself

-as a woman competing in these.

0:42:000:42:04

-You see yourself as a single

-competitor not defined by gender.

0:42:040:42:10

-Yes, it's interesting

-because when people ask me...

0:42:110:42:14

-.."Do you describe yourself as

-a female runner? No, I'm a runner."

0:42:140:42:18

-At the end of the day

-I've competed against the men.

0:42:190:42:22

-I'm glad I'm on the starting line,

-side-by-side with men.

0:42:230:42:27

-I remember one story, I told someone

-I'd come fourth in one of the races.

0:42:290:42:34

-And they said, "Oh, what happened?

0:42:350:42:37

-"When I saw you race you were first,

-you were winning the women's race."

0:42:380:42:43

-"No, I won the women's race.

-I came fourth overall."

0:42:430:42:47

-To me,

-that was the most important one.

0:42:480:42:50

-Whoever was in front of me.

0:42:500:42:52

-Doesn't matter their age,

-their sex, their religion.

0:42:520:42:56

-In my world, that's not important.

0:42:560:42:58

-You're competing against yourself...

0:42:590:43:01

-..and maybe the person

-that's in front of you.

0:43:010:43:04

-By now, I don't see myself

-working in a man's world.

0:43:070:43:12

-I obviously do, but the rugby world

-is a lovely world to work in.

0:43:130:43:18

-I'm not just saying that.

0:43:190:43:21

-We've come on in leaps and bounds

-in the last ten years.

0:43:210:43:26

-I have to work hard,

-not because I'm a woman...

0:43:280:43:31

-..but because I work with men

-who played the game professionally.

0:43:310:43:37

-To be as good as them,

-and give them my judgement...

0:43:370:43:42

-..that's why I work hard.

0:43:420:43:44

-Not because I have to

-because I am a woman.

0:43:450:43:48

-It takes years

-to define ourselves...

0:43:520:43:55

-..as women

-who are happy in our own skins.

0:43:550:43:58

-My close relationship

-with women of all ages...

0:43:590:44:01

-..is one of those things

-I treasure most about life.

0:44:020:44:05

-The happiest times have been defined

-by the women around me.

0:44:060:44:11

-My trust and appreciation

-of other women...

0:44:110:44:14

-..is paramount to my existence

-as I get older.

0:44:140:44:17

-Over the last year

-I've opened my heart...

0:44:230:44:25

-..and spilled

-some of my greatest fears...

0:44:250:44:28

-..about being a woman today

-on paper.

0:44:290:44:31

-It was a bittersweet experience.

0:44:320:44:35

-I think I wouldn't do any favours

-to myself or anyone else...

0:44:360:44:40

-..if I said,

-"No, I'm fine, life is great."

0:44:410:44:43

-I don't have any problems

-with anything.

0:44:440:44:47

-That isn't what life is,

-life is full of challenges...

0:44:470:44:51

-..that we have to overcome.

0:44:510:44:53

-I've been floored

-by the response to the book.

0:44:550:44:58

-It felt as if I was baring my soul,

-I had been so honest.

0:44:590:45:03

-It got republished

-even before the third launch.

0:45:030:45:08

-Within a fortnight,

-it had been republished.

0:45:090:45:13

-I couldn't believe it

-because I got so scared...

0:45:150:45:19

-..thinking what people's

-reaction might be.

0:45:190:45:23

-I can say honestly that it's where

-I have had the biggest reaction...

0:45:260:45:31

-..that I have ever had in my life.

0:45:310:45:33

-We only have one life

-and we have to live it...

0:45:350:45:38

-..with optimism, with dreams...

0:45:390:45:42

-..and just thinking

-about what we can do.

0:45:430:45:46

-Sometimes taking that step

-out of our comfort zone.

0:45:470:45:51

-One group of women are doing

-just that and coming together...

0:45:550:45:59

-..not to protest but to have fun -

-a leather sisterhood.

0:45:590:46:03

-I haven't been on a motorbike

-for a few years...

0:46:050:46:08

-..and I've realised it's where

-I'm at my happiest, I think.

0:46:080:46:12

-Being on the back of a motorbike

-offers an incredible freedom.

0:46:120:46:17

-Yes, I love being

-on the back of a motorbike.

0:46:170:46:20

-The thrill of the hair and wind,

-and everything going through you.

0:46:210:46:26

-Why aren't there more girls

-on motorbikes?

0:46:260:46:29

-I don't have a clue,

-I don't understand.

0:46:290:46:32

-Why don't girls?

0:46:320:46:34

-I'm not confident,

-I'm not someone who's a biker...

0:46:340:46:38

-..but I just love riding a bike.

0:46:380:46:40

-I don't have a biker image.

0:46:410:46:44

-Excuse me, if anyone

-looks like a biker, Ruth, it's you.

0:46:440:46:50

-You look fantastic!

0:46:500:46:53

-Until when do you see yourself

-on a motorbike?

0:46:560:47:01

-Well, until I can't get my leg over!

0:47:020:47:04

-I can't get on it!

0:47:050:47:07

-I'll drink to that!

0:47:080:47:09

-I think every woman is a feminist.

0:47:150:47:18

-To me, that goes with the territory.

0:47:180:47:22

-By now, because of the choice...

0:47:220:47:24

-..and because of what women have

-been through and fought for...

0:47:250:47:30

-..the world is so open to women.

0:47:300:47:32

-I am in a very happy relationship

-with a fantastic man...

0:47:320:47:36

-..and I am happy

-with who I am as a woman.

0:47:360:47:40

-I'm ready for the next chapter.

0:47:410:47:43

-Away we go!

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Ganrif wedi i rai merched ennill y bleidlais am y tro cyntaf, Ffion Dafis sy'n gofyn faint sydd wedi newid i fenywod. Ffion Dafis asks how life has changed for women over the past 100 years.


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