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-Women are more in the limelight now -than ever before.	0:00:05	0:00:09
-Fighting for their rights, -standing up for equality.	0:00:09	0:00:14
-There is a wave of brilliant -young women at the moment...	0:00:16	0:00:21
-..who take ownership.	0:00:21	0:00:23
-That's one of the big words -I like...	0:00:23	0:00:27
-..when you talk about -what it's like to be a strong woman.	0:00:27	0:00:31
-To take ownership -and do what you want to do.	0:00:31	0:00:34
-I was just enjoying life, -enjoying travelling.	0:00:38	0:00:42
-I was working.	0:00:42	0:00:43
-Then the man -never fitted into all that...	0:00:44	0:00:47
-..and then I decided -to do something about it.	0:00:47	0:00:50
-There is so much pressure -on women today.	0:00:53	0:00:56
-We just have to be happy with -who we are. Don't you think so?	0:00:56	0:01:00
-It sounds really righteous, says -she with a full face of make-up!	0:01:00	0:01:04
-I felt like a woman.	0:01:07	0:01:08
-I thought I can do what I want now, -I look like everyone else.	0:01:09	0:01:12
-You can't explain the feeling, -it's just amazing!	0:01:13	0:01:16
-It's the old argument, the word -feminist has become a dirty word.	0:01:18	0:01:22
-People say we don't need this -discussion, we don't need the word.	0:01:22	0:01:28
-As we can see with coming of Donald -Trump, the battle is far from over.	0:01:28	0:01:34
-Yes, we got the vote, -yes, there have been many battles.	0:01:36	0:01:40
-But we haven't reached a place where -we don't have to ask questions.	0:01:40	0:01:47
-That's the place when things -will be in their place...	0:01:47	0:01:51
-..when we won't need to discuss it.	0:01:51	0:01:53
-A century ago, the tide closed in -on decades of fiery battles...	0:02:07	0:02:11
-..by women for the right to vote.	0:02:11	0:02:13
-The reaction to their protest -was violent and cruel.	0:02:14	0:02:18
-Many were imprisoned.	0:02:19	0:02:21
-They demanded to be counted -as equal citizens.	0:02:21	0:02:25
-That would take another ten years, -but the first steps had been taken.	0:02:25	0:02:30
-That thirst to demand our place -and our voices to be heard...	0:02:32	0:02:36
-..has gone -from strength to strength.	0:02:36	0:02:38
-I've reached an age -where I find myself...	0:02:39	0:02:41
-..questioning things more and more.	0:02:41	0:02:43
-I want to hear -what other women think.	0:02:44	0:02:47
-Where actually are we -in society now?	0:02:47	0:02:50
-Have we lost that focus -these women had back in 1918?	0:02:50	0:02:54
-I worry that society -is, unfortunately...	0:02:58	0:03:00
-..moving towards a place where -outward appearance is important.	0:03:00	0:03:05
-Everyone is going to end up looking -the same, that's a big fear for me.	0:03:05	0:03:10
-You almost want to say to society...	0:03:10	0:03:12
-..and to people who make money -out of that kind of thing...	0:03:13	0:03:16
-.."I want you to stop for once -so that we can all realise...	0:03:17	0:03:20
-"..what it is to get older...	0:03:20	0:03:22
-"..or look like how we are -meant to look like women."	0:03:22	0:03:25
-I think there's great pressure -on what men think of us today.	0:03:28	0:03:33
-That hasn't changed, -it's been here for centuries.	0:03:33	0:03:37
-During the second half -of the 20th century...	0:03:38	0:03:40
-..there were more opportunities -for girls to wear lovely clothes.	0:03:40	0:03:44
-Even working class girls -could spend on this type of thing.	0:03:45	0:03:49
-It was important and they -also liked to show themselves...	0:03:50	0:03:53
-..in the best light when they worked -in quite a grey place very often.	0:03:53	0:03:58
-And to flesh out this idea -of Miss World and so on.	0:03:59	0:04:03
-It was part of their life.	0:04:03	0:04:05
-I used to watch Miss World!	0:04:06	0:04:08
-I used to watch Miss World! - -I did, I sat with Nain.	0:04:08	0:04:10
-Nain, my sister and I -would sit down...	0:04:10	0:04:15
-..and Mam and Dad -would be out on Saturday night...	0:04:15	0:04:19
-..and we'd sit down scoring -these girls, judging these girls!	0:04:19	0:04:24
-We didn't do that!	0:04:24	0:04:26
-I don't know -why I admitted that on camera.	0:04:28	0:04:30
-Beauty shows -mean nothing to me now.	0:04:36	0:04:38
-I've been very critical of shows -like Miss Wales, Miss World.	0:04:38	0:04:43
-I see them as being anti-feminist.	0:04:43	0:04:46
-But the situation isn't quite -as black and white as that.	0:04:46	0:04:50
-They've been a big part of -women's lives in Wales for decades.	0:04:50	0:04:55
-They were part of -the factory girls experience too.	0:04:56	0:05:00
-They liked to be Miss Dunlop, -Miss Hoover, Miss Hotpoint.	0:05:00	0:05:04
-To them, working class girls, -they had different experiences...	0:05:04	0:05:08
-..to what they'd have in their -daily work and I understand that.	0:05:08	0:05:12
-In 1970, there was a big protest -by the women's lib...	0:05:13	0:05:16
-..against the Miss World -beauty pageant.	0:05:16	0:05:19
-It's amazing to see the images -of them throwing the papers down...	0:05:20	0:05:25
-..and disrupting the pageant.	0:05:25	0:05:28
-This was a big thing at the time -and people were against it.	0:05:30	0:05:33
-They thought it was shameful -that women dared to do that...	0:05:33	0:05:38
-..and disrupt a pageant on TV.	0:05:38	0:05:40
-I think you can be -whatever you want to be.	0:05:43	0:05:46
-We are born with our own body -and our own mind.	0:05:46	0:05:49
-There is nobody to tell us -any different.	0:05:50	0:05:52
-You can be a part of that journey...	0:05:53	0:05:55
-..by protesting -on the streets of London.	0:05:55	0:05:57
-You can be a part of that journey -by walking a catwalk in Wales.	0:05:58	0:06:01
-Different choices -for different girls.	0:06:01	0:06:03
-I wonder why we're all -so fearful of beauty.	0:06:07	0:06:10
-It's alright to be judged on how -you sing, how fast you can run...	0:06:10	0:06:14
-..how far you can kick a ball.	0:06:14	0:06:16
-When it comes to beauty, there is a -fear that we're being judged for it.	0:06:16	0:06:20
-To this day, -I don't really understand why.	0:06:20	0:06:23
-I don't think any of us -on the side-lines...	0:06:27	0:06:30
-..should tell these women -what they can and can't do.	0:06:30	0:06:33
-To me, being a feminist -is not judging any other girl...	0:06:39	0:06:42
-..for what she wants to do -and to be whatever you want to be.	0:06:43	0:06:47
-Nobody has the right to tell anyone -what they are meant to be.	0:06:47	0:06:51
-That's what being a feminist -is to me.	0:06:51	0:06:53
-It's so much more than the pageant -that people think it is.	0:06:54	0:06:57
-The year I competed, we raised -13,000 for children's charities.	0:06:57	0:07:02
-It's something huge that does -great work across Welsh communities.	0:07:03	0:07:06
-I wanted to be a part of -something that was bigger than me.	0:07:07	0:07:10
-There are a 101 pageants -in the world.	0:07:11	0:07:13
-I work with Miss Wales and -Miss World at the top of that tree.	0:07:14	0:07:18
-I'd like to think I'm -one of the feminine feminists.	0:07:18	0:07:21
-I think we are far better -winning as women...	0:07:22	0:07:25
-..than as men and why should we -apologise for everything female.	0:07:26	0:07:31
-This is our opportunity -to shout from the rooftops...	0:07:31	0:07:36
-..that we are proud of the feminine -values that we hold as a gender.	0:07:36	0:07:40
-You can't deny -after seeing a show like that...	0:07:42	0:07:46
-..that we don't judge these girls -or look at them...	0:07:46	0:07:49
-..because of the way they look.	0:07:49	0:07:51
-I found myself, -because I'd spoken to them...	0:07:51	0:07:55
-..looking at their shape, -their skin...	0:07:55	0:07:58
-..and the way -they carried themselves.	0:07:58	0:08:02
-I've been on stage and TV, I've done -posters which pushed boundaries.	0:08:02	0:08:07
-I've put myself in situations -where people have looked at me...	0:08:07	0:08:12
-..but I felt it was different, -I was in character.	0:08:12	0:08:16
-I feel these girls are making -these decisions for themselves.	0:08:16	0:08:21
-Yes, we are looking at them -and they are doing something...	0:08:21	0:08:24
-..which completely depends -on how they look...	0:08:24	0:08:27
-..but there is more to them -than that.	0:08:27	0:08:30
-I think that is healthy enough -and who am I to judge it?	0:08:31	0:08:36
-My parents never got much trouble -with me growing up.	0:08:41	0:08:45
-There is a wild streak in me and -I am always drawn to wild people...	0:08:45	0:08:49
-..who push boundaries, -but actually, deep down...	0:08:49	0:08:52
-..I'm quite conservative and -I'm very aware of my own boundaries.	0:08:52	0:08:56
-I feel lucky that I grew up -in the age before mobile phones...	0:08:59	0:09:04
-..and social media.	0:09:04	0:09:06
-I had the freedom to experiment...	0:09:06	0:09:09
-..to make mistakes without -everything being scrutinized.	0:09:09	0:09:12
-I can't imagine what it's like -for young girls today...	0:09:14	0:09:18
-..living their lives online.	0:09:18	0:09:20
-Social media -and the generation of the selfie...	0:09:24	0:09:29
-..where everything -has to be perfect.	0:09:29	0:09:32
-My daughter and her friends spend -hours getting the perfect image.	0:09:33	0:09:37
-It does worry me, but then again, -the only way to get over it...	0:09:37	0:09:42
-..is to get them to realise -that this is something superficial.	0:09:42	0:09:48
-Who you are and what you want -to achieve is more important.	0:09:48	0:09:52
-I tell Leisa and her friends that -who they are is more important.	0:09:53	0:09:57
-Because we lived -before all this was so important...	0:09:58	0:10:03
-..we know how to live -without social media.	0:10:04	0:10:08
-There is something in us older women -who can appreciate what we have...	0:10:08	0:10:16
-..and you fear now -that those younger women...	0:10:16	0:10:20
-..won't know how to communicate...	0:10:20	0:10:23
-..without creating -that world for themselves.	0:10:24	0:10:28
-Living life as a woman -is a constant narrative...	0:10:31	0:10:37
-..on questioning yourself, -looking at the world around you...	0:10:37	0:10:41
-..and thinking, -"Hm, what's really going on here?"	0:10:41	0:10:44
-It's the old argument.	0:10:46	0:10:48
-The word feminist -has become a dirty word...	0:10:48	0:10:51
-..with people saying we don't -need this kind of discussion...	0:10:51	0:10:56
-..but as we can see -with the coming of Donald Trump...	0:10:56	0:11:00
-..you sense the battle -is far from over.	0:11:00	0:11:04
-I have felt a shift -and change since Trump.	0:11:06	0:11:10
-People think they can say as they -like to women and people in general.	0:11:11	0:11:16
-I've seen that on the school yard -and it's shocking.	0:11:17	0:11:22
-You wouldn't think it can have -such an effect on you.	0:11:22	0:11:26
-As women, we need to stick together -in times like this.	0:11:29	0:11:34
-The fact that I've been raised -by a single mum...	0:11:34	0:11:38
-..strong and independent...	0:11:38	0:11:40
-..it's taught me to question -everything in life...	0:11:41	0:11:44
-..and to stand up strongly -for girls like Mam did.	0:11:45	0:11:50
-I want to follow mam's footsteps. -Hopefully!	0:11:50	0:11:53
-I'm sure I'm seen as old fashioned -now in what I believe a woman is...	0:11:56	0:12:02
-..but I do feel strongly that there -are young women out there now...	0:12:03	0:12:12
-..who are willing -to raise their voices.	0:12:12	0:12:14
-The battles haven't been won -by a long way.	0:12:18	0:12:22
-Yes, there is fear, -but from that fear...	0:12:22	0:12:25
-..I hope what comes from that -is a new confidence.	0:12:25	0:12:29
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-It's a lovely thing looking back -at photos of the women...	0:12:45	0:12:48
-..that have defined me.	0:12:48	0:12:51
-Mam, Nain...	0:12:51	0:12:53
-..sister, friends and stepmother.	0:12:53	0:12:58
-Each one has given something -of their own personalities to me.	0:13:00	0:13:05
-It's interesting -looking at these old photos...	0:13:06	0:13:09
-..thinking how society -has changed...	0:13:09	0:13:11
-..and the role of women -within that society...	0:13:12	0:13:14
-..since the time -when Mam was growing up...	0:13:15	0:13:18
-..and since -when Nain was growing up.	0:13:18	0:13:20
-Throughout the decades, more and -more women raised their voices...	0:13:23	0:13:27
-..and Welsh women -were amongst them...	0:13:27	0:13:30
-..fighting for the causes -that were important to them.	0:13:30	0:13:34
-We were fighting -as a group of strong women...	0:13:36	0:13:40
-..because we wanted a better world, -to be cliche about it.	0:13:41	0:13:45
-It was a combination of things.	0:13:50	0:13:53
-I'd campaigned, a lot -of people campaigned with me...	0:13:53	0:13:56
-..over language rights, they also -campaigned for the peace movement.	0:13:56	0:14:00
-We're talking about -the beginning of the '80s...	0:14:01	0:14:04
-..when there was -a big nuclear threat...	0:14:04	0:14:06
-..and lot of opposition -between governments.	0:14:07	0:14:12
-What's new there?	0:14:12	0:14:14
-It was a period -when I'd just become a mum.	0:14:14	0:14:18
-I had little children and I felt -very protective of them as a mother.	0:14:18	0:14:24
-I also felt unable to protect them -in the face of this huge threat.	0:14:25	0:14:30
-The women's protest opposing -American nuclear missiles...	0:14:32	0:14:36
-..on the Greenham Common site -was one of the longest...	0:14:37	0:14:41
-..and most famous campaigns -of the feminist movement in history.	0:14:41	0:14:45
-Women can give something positive, -I would say.	0:14:46	0:14:50
-Someone said during that time -at Greenham Common...	0:14:50	0:14:54
-.."Men have always -gone away to war...	0:14:54	0:14:58
-"..and now women -are going away to peace."	0:14:58	0:15:01
-We can be just as strong, -just as determined...	0:15:03	0:15:07
-..and suffer, too, as men have...	0:15:07	0:15:11
-..but for something -strong and positive...	0:15:11	0:15:14
-..instead of something -destructive that kills.	0:15:14	0:15:18
-For something creative.	0:15:18	0:15:20
-That's the strength of women -in the peace movement.	0:15:20	0:15:23
-I have so much admiration for -Meg Elis and her contemporaries...	0:15:29	0:15:33
-..and their protest campaigns.	0:15:33	0:15:34
-She had strong principles -about what was right.	0:15:35	0:15:37
-My mother taught me -those very same principles.	0:15:38	0:15:43
-What hits me personally -at times like this is...	0:15:48	0:15:52
-..when my mother died, I was 26 -years old, I was a different person.	0:15:53	0:15:57
-I was a girl, -I feel now that I'm a woman.	0:15:58	0:16:00
-I almost feel like I'm getting to -know my mother after she's died...	0:16:01	0:16:08
-..because I realise -the things I do...	0:16:08	0:16:10
-..her strengths -and her weaknesses...	0:16:10	0:16:12
-..are the exact same strengths -and weaknesses that were in Mam.	0:16:13	0:16:17
-I think that's why -there's a lot of guilt in me...	0:16:18	0:16:23
-..when I think about the things -I didn't ask her before she died.	0:16:23	0:16:29
-I know what I feel now, -the loneliness that comes...	0:16:30	0:16:34
-..from not getting those answers -from her, as a woman.	0:16:34	0:16:38
-It's important to remember her -as she was.	0:16:44	0:16:47
-It's easy to romanticize a person -after they die...	0:16:48	0:16:51
-..and that's one -of my greatest fears.	0:16:51	0:16:54
-I don't want Mam to be this perfect, -unblemished image in my head.	0:16:54	0:16:58
-I insist -that I remember her failures.	0:16:58	0:17:01
-In those failures, -I am coming to recognise myself.	0:17:01	0:17:05
-The over-sensitiveness, -the untidiness, the overreacting.	0:17:05	0:17:09
-She lives on in me.	0:17:09	0:17:11
-As I look in the mirror -and see myself aging...	0:17:12	0:17:16
-..I see her face staring back at me.	0:17:16	0:17:19
-Is she happy with who I am today?	0:17:21	0:17:24
-Or can she see the inner turmoil -behind these lying eyes?	0:17:24	0:17:28
-She was sensitive like me, -she was untidy like me...	0:17:36	0:17:41
-..she understood people, -she really did understand people.	0:17:41	0:17:45
-There was something -that was very, very shy in her...	0:17:45	0:17:48
-..though she liked nothing more -than to have fun!	0:17:48	0:17:51
-Someone looks at these images -from the '60s and they're iconic.	0:17:55	0:17:59
-There's a new spirit here.	0:18:00	0:18:02
-The '50s had been so austere -after the war, so it was great.	0:18:03	0:18:07
-There were many young people about, -the baby boom...	0:18:08	0:18:11
-..they were now teenagers - -a new word from this era.	0:18:11	0:18:14
-They were going out to have fun!	0:18:15	0:18:17
-Sex became much more open too.	0:18:17	0:18:20
-Yes, but that was partly because -in 1961, the pill was introduced.	0:18:20	0:18:25
-To women that was key, and I think -it's still a turning point...	0:18:25	0:18:28
-..in women's history because now you -can control your sexuality yourself.	0:18:29	0:18:33
-The mini skirt came in.	0:18:33	0:18:35
-I remember when I started wearing a -mini skirt, I'd been in uni a year.	0:18:35	0:18:40
-I felt a frump -coming from Aberystwyth to Bangor...	0:18:40	0:18:45
-..which was full of fashion!	0:18:45	0:18:47
-I didn't care what people -thought of me and that's important.	0:18:48	0:18:52
-This is my mother around -the same time, a few years earlier.	0:18:52	0:18:56
-I love this picture.	0:18:57	0:18:58
-I'm on her lap and the skirt is so -high up, I can nearly see her bum!	0:18:59	0:19:04
-But it was obvious that she felt, -even being a young mother...	0:19:04	0:19:09
-..I'm only a few months old...	0:19:09	0:19:11
-..but she had plenty of confidence -to wear something so short.	0:19:12	0:19:15
-Women who haven't had children -are still a big taboo in society...	0:19:20	0:19:24
-..a society which places so much -pressure on women to be mothers.	0:19:24	0:19:28
-As we reach a certain age...	0:19:28	0:19:30
-..it is expected that a mother -will have given birth...	0:19:30	0:19:34
-..and having to justify my childless -situation often makes me sad.	0:19:35	0:19:40
-I think I had a very short period -in my early 40s...	0:19:41	0:19:46
-..that I felt the privilege -was being taken from me.	0:19:47	0:19:52
-I hadn't thought -about having kids before then.	0:19:52	0:19:55
-I didn't feel a huge urge -to have children...	0:19:56	0:20:01
-..but once that privilege -is taken from you...	0:20:01	0:20:04
-..the mind goes to panic because -you hear that old horrible phrase...	0:20:04	0:20:10
-..the clock is ticking.	0:20:10	0:20:12
-I hate that sentence.	0:20:12	0:20:14
-I went into a panic where -I looked at men and thought...	0:20:15	0:20:19
-.."Are my ovaries -winking at that man?	0:20:19	0:20:21
-"Could he be a father -to my children?	0:20:21	0:20:23
-I didn't want to think like that.	0:20:24	0:20:25
-I want to fall in love, -because I'm falling in love...	0:20:26	0:20:29
-..not because I feel -the necessity to do something...	0:20:29	0:20:32
-..society thinks I should be doing.	0:20:32	0:20:34
-I suppose you and I have veered -from the conventional path.	0:20:37	0:20:41
-Me, as a single, unmarried mother.	0:20:41	0:20:44
-You, as someone -who hasn't had children.	0:20:44	0:20:47
-I've never felt -there is a judgement...	0:20:48	0:20:51
-..but people do say things and -you think, "Why do you say that?"	0:20:51	0:20:57
-People think that you're not happy -and I'm quite happy actually.	0:20:57	0:21:03
-This wasn't the original plan, -but as it turned out, I'm OK.	0:21:03	0:21:08
-I think it would be nice -to be in a situation...	0:21:08	0:21:12
-..where women could own -all kinds of situations in life.	0:21:12	0:21:16
-We need to normalise not being -in a traditional nuclear family...	0:21:16	0:21:24
-..and that's actually OK.	0:21:24	0:21:26
-What a conventional family...	0:21:31	0:21:32
-..what a conventional woman is, -has changed completely.	0:21:33	0:21:36
-There are many options open to -single women keen to have children.	0:21:36	0:21:41
-I think I always saw myself -having kids.	0:21:42	0:21:45
-It was never a case -of do I want or not.	0:21:47	0:21:50
-It was just naturally something -I thought would always happen to me.	0:21:50	0:21:54
-I was just enjoying life, -travelling, sport, cycling, working.	0:21:55	0:22:02
-And then, the man -never quite fitted into that.	0:22:02	0:22:06
-But I just thought it would.	0:22:08	0:22:11
-One day, the man will come.	0:22:11	0:22:15
-But when I reached 38 -and the man still hadn't come...	0:22:17	0:22:24
-..I thought, -"How would the child come?"	0:22:24	0:22:28
-I decided to do something about it.	0:22:29	0:22:32
-I decided on a sperm donor -from a sperm bank.	0:22:34	0:22:38
-It's a little bit like -internet dating to be honest.	0:22:38	0:22:42
-You go on the website where there's -a lot of information on each donor.	0:22:42	0:22:49
-You can look at the characteristics.	0:22:50	0:22:53
-Eye colour, hair colour, -height, family history.	0:22:54	0:22:57
-The donor can't be anonymous.	0:22:58	0:23:00
-Idris has a right to find his -biological father when he's 18.	0:23:01	0:23:09
-He didn't look anything like me -at the start, at all.	0:23:10	0:23:13
-Who knows how much of me and how -much of the donor, or the father...	0:23:15	0:23:20
-..will be in him.	0:23:21	0:23:22
-I think we get conditioned too much -towards what society expects us...	0:23:29	0:23:34
-..to do as women.	0:23:35	0:23:37
-Sometimes, it does feel -like society is making you think...	0:23:38	0:23:41
-..that you are a failure if -you haven't done the usual things.	0:23:41	0:23:46
-Did you encounter any criticism?	0:23:48	0:23:50
-Not to my face! -Maybe behind my back.	0:23:51	0:23:54
-No-one said anything to me directly.	0:23:54	0:23:58
-To be honest, I'm not one -who cares what others think.	0:23:58	0:24:04
-I care very much -what the people I love think of me.	0:24:04	0:24:10
-I've been one of those -who's let life guide me...	0:24:11	0:24:17
-..and, like you, I like -to enjoy life to the limit...	0:24:17	0:24:21
-..but that's where I've been lucky -these past two years.	0:24:21	0:24:26
-I've realised the urge -was not strong enough...	0:24:26	0:24:31
-..or I would have taken -the initiative and taken that step.	0:24:31	0:24:37
-You considered it, and that's what -I'd say to anyone thinking about it.	0:24:38	0:24:44
-There are options available.	0:24:45	0:24:48
-No woman should -just take it for granted...	0:24:48	0:24:51
-..that they can't have kids -just because they're on their own.	0:24:51	0:24:55
-My sister and I -are so close in terms of age...	0:25:03	0:25:06
-..and closeness in terms -of being two women...	0:25:07	0:25:10
-..but the divide between us is huge.	0:25:10	0:25:12
-When we were children...	0:25:13	0:25:15
-..I was the one making scripts and -doing little dramas and performing.	0:25:15	0:25:21
-What was Eleri doing?	0:25:21	0:25:23
-She was going for a walk -around the street with the dollies!	0:25:24	0:25:27
-She always said she wanted a row -of little shoes outside the house.	0:25:27	0:25:31
-That was her dream.	0:25:31	0:25:33
-She's had four boys -who are like monkeys.	0:25:33	0:25:39
-Being in their company, I get -my fix of being with children.	0:25:39	0:25:45
-But you know what, -I love turning that key and going...	0:25:46	0:25:52
-.."Ta-ra, Ler, -it's over to you now!"	0:25:52	0:25:55
-I have to accept who I am...	0:26:01	0:26:03
-..and I have to accept -the world around me...	0:26:04	0:26:07
-..and make the most of what's -in the world and appreciate it.	0:26:07	0:26:11
-There we go. That's perhaps -a chapter that won't be.	0:26:12	0:26:17
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-A year and a half -after the big loss...	0:26:29	0:26:31
-..that big sentence came -that we had been worrying about.	0:26:32	0:26:35
-Dad has a lover.	0:26:35	0:26:37
-And we were thrown, my sister and I, -to an unknown territory...	0:26:38	0:26:42
-..without knowing where to turn -or how to feel.	0:26:42	0:26:45
-There was nothing -that could have prepared us...	0:26:45	0:26:48
-..for the mess of emotions -that was about to grasp us.	0:26:48	0:26:51
-Hiya, Lis.	0:26:52	0:26:55
-OK?	0:26:57	0:26:58
-I remember vividly -that I was scared to call the house.	0:26:58	0:27:02
-Your father always rang me, -I didn't ring him.	0:27:03	0:27:07
-I used to think, "Well, if I -call them, what am I going to say?"	0:27:07	0:27:12
-"Who am I? What do I say?	0:27:12	0:27:14
-"Who am I?"	0:27:15	0:27:17
-Anyway, I didn't have to think -too much because the phone rang.	0:27:17	0:27:23
-"It's Ffion here, -I'm Will's daughter."	0:27:24	0:27:27
-"Oh, Ffion! How are you?"	0:27:27	0:27:29
-And since then...	0:27:30	0:27:32
-..things have developed -over the years...	0:27:32	0:27:35
-..our relationship has developed -and here we are!	0:27:35	0:27:39
-Little did we know...	0:27:41	0:27:42
-..that day when we met in a pub -on the outskirts of Cardiff...	0:27:43	0:27:47
-..that things would have -developed as they have.	0:27:47	0:27:50
-I remember being so nervous.	0:27:51	0:27:53
-It was so different for me -to think of Dad having a girlfriend.	0:27:53	0:27:59
-Dad saying -that he had a girlfriend...	0:28:00	0:28:02
-..was something -I never thought I would say.	0:28:02	0:28:05
-I remember saying to Will -from the off...	0:28:05	0:28:08
-..I'm not here -to take anyone's place.	0:28:09	0:28:13
-And I did know, -we talked about your mother.	0:28:13	0:28:17
-Marian was your father's first love.	0:28:17	0:28:20
-So I wasn't coming to take anyone's -place and we discussed that a lot.	0:28:21	0:28:27
-I think it took me quite a few years -to call you a stepmother.	0:28:29	0:28:34
-I think maybe because -the word mother was in it.	0:28:34	0:28:38
-I was scared of that. -Do you feel like a mother?	0:28:39	0:28:43
-Well, I don't think I would -be able to love you any more...	0:28:44	0:28:49
-..even if I'd given birth to you.	0:28:49	0:28:52
-That's the feeling I have, I'm very -very close to you both as girls.	0:28:54	0:29:00
-I don't keep anything from you, -I tell you absolutely everything...	0:29:01	0:29:06
-..often too much, as you know!	0:29:06	0:29:08
-But that's what's nice, -is that I feel I've got a friend.	0:29:09	0:29:13
-That friend that I can turn to -when I have a problem or I'm scared.	0:29:13	0:29:18
-I had been on my own -for many years...	0:29:21	0:29:24
-..the same as you, and we can -relate to each other's experiences.	0:29:25	0:29:29
-I also feel when you're young -and you look forward to life...	0:29:32	0:29:39
-..marriage, children, -it didn't happen in my case.	0:29:39	0:29:45
-But I have inherited the ones -I would have desired to have myself.	0:29:45	0:29:50
-I have taken ownership of them.	0:29:50	0:29:52
-I said I wasn't going to cry -but I've started already!	0:29:54	0:29:58
-We are more free than ever before to -decide what path we want to follow.	0:30:04	0:30:09
-As I approach -a new chapter in my life...	0:30:12	0:30:14
-..there are some things -I cannot control.	0:30:15	0:30:17
-Aging, something that happens -to us all.	0:30:23	0:30:27
-We see our bodies changing, -internally and externally.	0:30:27	0:30:34
-It can be very scary.	0:30:34	0:30:37
-I have to be honest, it depends -on my mood on any given day...	0:30:38	0:30:43
-..how exactly I feel about it.	0:30:43	0:30:46
-Even though I believe -that every wrinkle is important...	0:30:46	0:30:51
-..and that every part of my body -has a story to tell...	0:30:51	0:30:58
-..those little fears can kick in.	0:30:59	0:31:02
-I feel a lot happier being -in this industry the age I am now...	0:31:05	0:31:10
-..which I know -is a strange thing to say...	0:31:10	0:31:13
-..but in the acting world...	0:31:13	0:31:16
-..I do think there are many -interesting roles for women my age.	0:31:16	0:31:20
-Getting to play -the First Minister of Wales...	0:31:21	0:31:24
-..you don't get -much more powerful than that.	0:31:24	0:31:27
-Bloody hell.	0:31:29	0:31:31
-Rhiannon Robert, a difficult day -for the First Minister.	0:31:32	0:31:35
-That's just playing a role on TV.	0:31:35	0:31:39
-Some prominent women on TV are still -criticised for the way they look...	0:31:39	0:31:44
-..and not for what they say.	0:31:45	0:31:47
-Hello!	0:31:49	0:31:51
-One woman said the other day...	0:31:53	0:31:55
-.."It's really sad that one of the -main female broadcasters in rugby...	0:31:55	0:32:00
-"..has fake eyelashes, -big hair and tight clothes."	0:32:00	0:32:03
-It made me cross.	0:32:04	0:32:05
-You should be celebrating the fact -that any woman can present sport.	0:32:05	0:32:09
-We were talking here earlier.	0:32:10	0:32:12
-The cameraman has given us -a lovely light in the kitchen.	0:32:12	0:32:16
-Thank you very much.	0:32:17	0:32:18
-Small things like that, -because we are on screen...	0:32:19	0:32:22
-..I pretend -that it doesn't affect me...	0:32:22	0:32:27
-..but it does, it really does.	0:32:28	0:32:31
-When we do live games and we're not -in studio, we do links pitch-side.	0:32:31	0:32:36
-Sometimes we are. At pitch-side, -it's raining, snowing, windy.	0:32:37	0:32:41
-There is no chance -to make you look nice.	0:32:41	0:32:44
-As I get older I ask, -"May I have another light, please?"	0:32:44	0:32:48
-Young cameramen ask, -"Are you mental?"	0:32:48	0:32:51
-I say, "When you get older -you'll need a light too!"	0:32:51	0:32:54
-"Don't put the camera down there. -We really don't like that!"	0:32:54	0:32:59
-It's horrendous.	0:33:00	0:33:02
-It happens to us all, -all of us, women and men.	0:33:03	0:33:05
-But when men get older, -they're distinguished.	0:33:06	0:33:09
-When women get older... hmm!	0:33:09	0:33:11
-We are meant to appreciate.	0:33:11	0:33:14
-I try and make the most -of every wrinkle, every hair.	0:33:14	0:33:18
-But it's hard, isn't it?	0:33:19	0:33:21
-I remember years ago -when Botox became popular.	0:33:21	0:33:27
-I said, "I am never having Botox! -Awful thing to do to your face!"	0:33:27	0:33:31
-I was 25 and I didn't need it then!	0:33:31	0:33:33
-I still haven't had it, but, -oh, my gosh, never say never now!	0:33:34	0:33:39
-I'm trying to hang on in there.	0:33:39	0:33:41
-But hang on in there -for who and what reason?	0:33:43	0:33:46
-For me, to prove -that I don't need to conform...	0:33:46	0:33:50
-..to how I should be looking.	0:33:50	0:33:52
-Are you a feminist -if you don't have Botox? No.	0:33:53	0:33:57
-However you want to look at it.	0:33:57	0:34:00
-I think, this world, there is -so much pressure on women today...	0:34:00	0:34:05
-..and we just have to be happy -with who we are, don't you think so?	0:34:06	0:34:10
-It sounds really righteous, says -she with a full face of make-up!	0:34:10	0:34:14
-I think, in terms of changing the -body, it's a totally personal thing.	0:34:18	0:34:22
-It's completely up to that person.	0:34:22	0:34:24
-Whatever makes you feel better -in this world...	0:34:24	0:34:27
-..whether it's making your breasts -larger or smaller...	0:34:27	0:34:31
-..changing what you think -will make you happy...	0:34:31	0:34:36
-..and I think if you have the choice -and it makes you feel better...	0:34:37	0:34:41
-..then why not?	0:34:42	0:34:43
-But for one young mother, -Carrie Harper, there was no choice.	0:34:48	0:34:51
-She went under the surgeon's knife, -not for cosmetic reasons...	0:34:51	0:34:55
-..but to have a double mastectomy -due to cancer.	0:34:55	0:34:58
-It had a profound effect -not only on her confidence...	0:34:58	0:35:02
-..but it made her feel -incomplete as a woman.	0:35:02	0:35:05
-I was devastated, -absolutely devastated.	0:35:05	0:35:08
-I had quite big breasts -and to go from that to nothing.	0:35:09	0:35:13
-Everything was all sunk in my chest. -I couldn't even wear a bra.	0:35:14	0:35:18
-This is it. I'm going to look -like this forever. I hated myself.	0:35:19	0:35:23
-Carrie's new breasts were created -out of skin from her stomach...	0:35:23	0:35:27
-..but the operation left her -with no nipples.	0:35:27	0:35:30
-She turned to a tattooist -to put the icing on the cake.	0:35:30	0:35:35
-People really lose -their confidence...	0:35:35	0:35:38
-..and a lot of people -I've noticed go quite introverted.	0:35:38	0:35:42
-The way things are today with social -media, it's all about how you look.	0:35:43	0:35:47
-People retract -and go into themselves.	0:35:47	0:35:49
-I show nipple protrusion...	0:35:51	0:35:53
-..and that creates a 3D effect -like a natural breast.	0:35:53	0:35:56
-You create the illusion -of a protrusion.	0:35:57	0:35:59
-When it hits the light, -it looks like a natural breast.	0:35:59	0:36:02
-You see a huge difference from -the person who laid on the bed...	0:36:02	0:36:06
-..to the person who sits up.	0:36:07	0:36:08
-I was a double-D before I had -the mastectomy and I am an E now.	0:36:09	0:36:13
-Bigger.	0:36:13	0:36:14
-My husband's chuffed!	0:36:15	0:36:17
-That is amazing, I'm gobsmacked!	0:36:20	0:36:23
-I felt like a woman. -I thought I can do what I want now.	0:36:24	0:36:28
-I look like spaghetti junction with -scars but you can see passed that.	0:36:28	0:36:33
-I felt like a woman again.	0:36:33	0:36:34
-You can't explain that feeling, -it's amazing.	0:36:35	0:36:38
-It's really humbling. It makes you -put things into perspective.	0:36:38	0:36:42
-The time I get with this person to -have a small part of their life...	0:36:42	0:36:46
-..it's just the best, it's lovely.	0:36:47	0:36:49
-How much do they pay for this?	0:36:49	0:36:51
-How much do they pay for this? - -Nothing, I do it for free.	0:36:51	0:36:53
-Every woman's here because they've -gone through some life experience.	0:36:54	0:36:59
-You don't pick cancer, -cancer picks you.	0:36:59	0:37:01
-Being able to do something like -that, you're giving them closure.	0:37:02	0:37:06
-As you walk away, it's really -empowering and its lovely.	0:37:06	0:37:10
-That's amazing. -You'd never tell. Honestly.	0:37:10	0:37:14
-It's mad.	0:37:15	0:37:16
-Rachel, high five.	0:37:17	0:37:18
-Seeing that today and realising -how much women support each other...	0:37:21	0:37:26
-..is something that shakes you.	0:37:26	0:37:29
-Also, Mam died 20 years ago -to breast cancer...	0:37:30	0:37:33
-..and I think so much -has changed in 20 years.	0:37:34	0:37:37
-We are so open these days, so much -more open than we have ever been.	0:37:37	0:37:41
-And that also makes me -feel good and warm inside.	0:37:42	0:37:45
-You must be an amazing drawer?	0:37:46	0:37:47
-No! Give me a pen and paper -and I'm atrocious.	0:37:48	0:37:50
-My children, when we play games -at home, they say, "That's so bad!"	0:37:51	0:37:54
-The minute I have a pigment pen -in my hand, it all flows.	0:37:55	0:37:58
-I can't draw for toffee!	0:37:58	0:37:59
-To us, it might have looked like -one small thing, having a nipple...	0:38:00	0:38:04
-..but to Carrie, -it means everything.	0:38:04	0:38:07
-It was interesting what her -and Rachel were both saying.	0:38:07	0:38:10
-This is the last stamp almost -to feel like a complete woman.	0:38:11	0:38:17
-Going home tonight...	0:38:20	0:38:22
-..knowing that she felt -like that one small extra thing...	0:38:22	0:38:27
-..has given her -the icing on the cake...	0:38:27	0:38:29
-..or the crown in its place, -it's priceless, isn't it?	0:38:30	0:38:33
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-There's something -in the air this year.	0:38:45	0:38:47
-Yes, it's the centenary. -There is a thirst for history.	0:38:47	0:38:51
-But there is also a thirst -for protest too.	0:38:51	0:38:54
-We are raising our voices -on all kinds of different causes.	0:38:54	0:38:58
-There are new ways of being heard.	0:38:58	0:39:00
-So many things have changed -as a result of online protest.	0:39:01	0:39:07
-It can influence protests and it -also enables us to grow communities.	0:39:07	0:39:13
-There are so many opportunities now.	0:39:13	0:39:15
-There are negative elements -to working online as a feminist...	0:39:18	0:39:22
-..and writing about women's history.	0:39:23	0:39:25
-If someone wants to be abusive -online, well, it's the internet.	0:39:26	0:39:30
-They are going to do that!	0:39:30	0:39:33
-But we are tied to something -that is a positive reaction.	0:39:33	0:39:39
-It keeps us going.	0:39:39	0:39:41
-It is a protest and that passion -helps us keep the focus.	0:39:41	0:39:46
-Social media allows us -to show our colours instantly.	0:39:50	0:39:54
-We can inspire millions of people -to march worldwide...	0:39:55	0:39:59
-..by a click of the finger.	0:39:59	0:40:01
-In 1908, the first big rally to call -for the vote was held in Hyde Park.	0:40:03	0:40:07
-A group of activists travelled -from Cardiff to join in the protest.	0:40:07	0:40:12
-This is the banner -they took with them.	0:40:12	0:40:15
-I feel quite emotional.	0:40:17	0:40:19
-Someone really made this, -it's a labour of love.	0:40:22	0:40:25
-There's a community behind this.	0:40:26	0:40:29
-It brings it back to groups of women -campaigning in their communities.	0:40:29	0:40:33
-When they took it to London, the -crowds said, "The devil has come.	0:40:34	0:40:39
-"The Welsh suffragists -have the devil among them!"	0:40:39	0:40:45
-They had dared to put the dragon -on their banner.	0:40:45	0:40:48
-What better symbol than a dragon!	0:40:48	0:40:50
-There's a dragon in every -Welsh woman. That's a good thing.	0:40:51	0:40:55
-And fire in our bellies!	0:40:55	0:40:57
-Every stitch in this banner -represents a woman in history...	0:41:02	0:41:06
-..who battled to realise a dream - -a dream of being equal.	0:41:07	0:41:11
-A century on, -this dream still drives us.	0:41:12	0:41:16
-Maybe we do dream enough...	0:41:18	0:41:20
-..but there's something on the last -hurdle that says, "I can't do that."	0:41:20	0:41:25
-Maybe it's a job for a man, -maybe it's a race for men...	0:41:25	0:41:30
-..maybe I'll get swallowed up -in this masculine world.	0:41:30	0:41:34
-But no, I think not only -do we need to dream...	0:41:35	0:41:38
-..but we need to follow our dreams -to take our step to the path...	0:41:39	0:41:45
-..which will take us towards -the top of our journey.	0:41:45	0:41:49
-You've focused -a lot on ultra races...	0:41:49	0:41:54
-..which can be -a masculine, testosterone world.	0:41:55	0:42:00
-Again, you don't see yourself -as a woman competing in these.	0:42:00	0:42:04
-You see yourself as a single -competitor not defined by gender.	0:42:04	0:42:10
-Yes, it's interesting -because when people ask me...	0:42:11	0:42:14
-.."Do you describe yourself as -a female runner? No, I'm a runner."	0:42:14	0:42:18
-At the end of the day -I've competed against the men.	0:42:19	0:42:22
-I'm glad I'm on the starting line, -side-by-side with men.	0:42:23	0:42:27
-I remember one story, I told someone -I'd come fourth in one of the races.	0:42:29	0:42:34
-And they said, "Oh, what happened?	0:42:35	0:42:37
-"When I saw you race you were first, -you were winning the women's race."	0:42:38	0:42:43
-"No, I won the women's race. -I came fourth overall."	0:42:43	0:42:47
-To me, -that was the most important one.	0:42:48	0:42:50
-Whoever was in front of me.	0:42:50	0:42:52
-Doesn't matter their age, -their sex, their religion.	0:42:52	0:42:56
-In my world, that's not important.	0:42:56	0:42:58
-You're competing against yourself...	0:42:59	0:43:01
-..and maybe the person -that's in front of you.	0:43:01	0:43:04
-By now, I don't see myself -working in a man's world.	0:43:07	0:43:12
-I obviously do, but the rugby world -is a lovely world to work in.	0:43:13	0:43:18
-I'm not just saying that.	0:43:19	0:43:21
-We've come on in leaps and bounds -in the last ten years.	0:43:21	0:43:26
-I have to work hard, -not because I'm a woman...	0:43:28	0:43:31
-..but because I work with men -who played the game professionally.	0:43:31	0:43:37
-To be as good as them, -and give them my judgement...	0:43:37	0:43:42
-..that's why I work hard.	0:43:42	0:43:44
-Not because I have to -because I am a woman.	0:43:45	0:43:48
-It takes years -to define ourselves...	0:43:52	0:43:55
-..as women -who are happy in our own skins.	0:43:55	0:43:58
-My close relationship -with women of all ages...	0:43:59	0:44:01
-..is one of those things -I treasure most about life.	0:44:02	0:44:05
-The happiest times have been defined -by the women around me.	0:44:06	0:44:11
-My trust and appreciation -of other women...	0:44:11	0:44:14
-..is paramount to my existence -as I get older.	0:44:14	0:44:17
-Over the last year -I've opened my heart...	0:44:23	0:44:25
-..and spilled -some of my greatest fears...	0:44:25	0:44:28
-..about being a woman today -on paper.	0:44:29	0:44:31
-It was a bittersweet experience.	0:44:32	0:44:35
-I think I wouldn't do any favours -to myself or anyone else...	0:44:36	0:44:40
-..if I said, -"No, I'm fine, life is great."	0:44:41	0:44:43
-I don't have any problems -with anything.	0:44:44	0:44:47
-That isn't what life is, -life is full of challenges...	0:44:47	0:44:51
-..that we have to overcome.	0:44:51	0:44:53
-I've been floored -by the response to the book.	0:44:55	0:44:58
-It felt as if I was baring my soul, -I had been so honest.	0:44:59	0:45:03
-It got republished -even before the third launch.	0:45:03	0:45:08
-Within a fortnight, -it had been republished.	0:45:09	0:45:13
-I couldn't believe it -because I got so scared...	0:45:15	0:45:19
-..thinking what people's -reaction might be.	0:45:19	0:45:23
-I can say honestly that it's where -I have had the biggest reaction...	0:45:26	0:45:31
-..that I have ever had in my life.	0:45:31	0:45:33
-We only have one life -and we have to live it...	0:45:35	0:45:38
-..with optimism, with dreams...	0:45:39	0:45:42
-..and just thinking -about what we can do.	0:45:43	0:45:46
-Sometimes taking that step -out of our comfort zone.	0:45:47	0:45:51
-One group of women are doing -just that and coming together...	0:45:55	0:45:59
-..not to protest but to have fun - -a leather sisterhood.	0:45:59	0:46:03
-I haven't been on a motorbike -for a few years...	0:46:05	0:46:08
-..and I've realised it's where -I'm at my happiest, I think.	0:46:08	0:46:12
-Being on the back of a motorbike -offers an incredible freedom.	0:46:12	0:46:17
-Yes, I love being -on the back of a motorbike.	0:46:17	0:46:20
-The thrill of the hair and wind, -and everything going through you.	0:46:21	0:46:26
-Why aren't there more girls -on motorbikes?	0:46:26	0:46:29
-I don't have a clue, -I don't understand.	0:46:29	0:46:32
-Why don't girls?	0:46:32	0:46:34
-I'm not confident, -I'm not someone who's a biker...	0:46:34	0:46:38
-..but I just love riding a bike.	0:46:38	0:46:40
-I don't have a biker image.	0:46:41	0:46:44
-Excuse me, if anyone -looks like a biker, Ruth, it's you.	0:46:44	0:46:50
-You look fantastic!	0:46:50	0:46:53
-Until when do you see yourself -on a motorbike?	0:46:56	0:47:01
-Well, until I can't get my leg over!	0:47:02	0:47:04
-I can't get on it!	0:47:05	0:47:07
-I'll drink to that!	0:47:08	0:47:09
-I think every woman is a feminist.	0:47:15	0:47:18
-To me, that goes with the territory.	0:47:18	0:47:22
-By now, because of the choice...	0:47:22	0:47:24
-..and because of what women have -been through and fought for...	0:47:25	0:47:30
-..the world is so open to women.	0:47:30	0:47:32
-I am in a very happy relationship -with a fantastic man...	0:47:32	0:47:36
-..and I am happy -with who I am as a woman.	0:47:36	0:47:40
-I'm ready for the next chapter.	0:47:41	0:47:43
-Away we go!	0:47:43	0:47:45
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