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Beautiful Bournemouth. They call it God's waiting room. | 0:00:10 | 0:00:14 | |
But me and my friends aren't planning on a sleepy seaside retirement. | 0:00:16 | 0:00:20 | |
Cheers, Paul. | 0:00:20 | 0:00:21 | |
I'm John, and this has been my home for 30 years. | 0:00:21 | 0:00:25 | |
-It's the boys! -Hey! | 0:00:25 | 0:00:27 | |
We might all have bus passes... | 0:00:27 | 0:00:30 | |
but we are determined to make the most of the time we have left. | 0:00:30 | 0:00:33 | |
We think you need to take Viagra. | 0:00:33 | 0:00:35 | |
We've got big dreams. | 0:00:37 | 0:00:39 | |
Some of us want second chances... | 0:00:39 | 0:00:42 | |
and we still have unfulfilled desires. | 0:00:42 | 0:00:45 | |
We may be getting on a bit, but we are still living close to the edge. | 0:00:45 | 0:00:50 | |
Bournemouth... | 0:00:57 | 0:00:58 | |
where one in five of us are over 65. | 0:00:58 | 0:01:01 | |
For the last three months, | 0:01:03 | 0:01:05 | |
me and my friends have been followed by a TV crew. | 0:01:05 | 0:01:09 | |
Now, with the dust settled on the series, we are going to tell | 0:01:09 | 0:01:13 | |
you what it is like being an older person in Britain today. | 0:01:13 | 0:01:16 | |
Oh, it is nice to see you again. | 0:01:16 | 0:01:18 | |
People come out with this word, OAP. | 0:01:18 | 0:01:21 | |
That's not me. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:24 | |
Like look at people, "Oh, that might be an OAP," but I'm not one. | 0:01:24 | 0:01:28 | |
-There you are. -Cheek, cheek. | 0:01:28 | 0:01:30 | |
'I hate the word OAP.' | 0:01:30 | 0:01:33 | |
I'm not a typical older person, hopefully. Please, God, no, I'm not. | 0:01:33 | 0:01:38 | |
It is fight, fight, fight with all of your might. | 0:01:38 | 0:01:41 | |
Do you remember that old joke? | 0:01:41 | 0:01:43 | |
A vibrator is OK, but the trouble is a vibrator doesn't mow the lawn. | 0:01:43 | 0:01:47 | |
I was telling that to somebody, and do you know what he said? | 0:01:48 | 0:01:51 | |
"Do you want someone to mow your lawn?" | 0:01:51 | 0:01:53 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:01:53 | 0:01:54 | |
Once you hit 60, you can go back to being a teenager again. | 0:01:54 | 0:01:57 | |
And I think we are leading much more exciting lives these days. | 0:01:59 | 0:02:03 | |
20 years ago, 65-year-olds did retire, | 0:02:06 | 0:02:11 | |
and nowadays we're kicking off our shoes and we're still dancing! | 0:02:11 | 0:02:15 | |
And we're dancing with our grandchildren. | 0:02:15 | 0:02:17 | |
And it is our grandchildren who are thinking, "Oh, my God!" | 0:02:17 | 0:02:21 | |
Come on, John. | 0:02:21 | 0:02:22 | |
-Lovely move. -Now's your chance! | 0:02:22 | 0:02:25 | |
'Pensioners on television are classed as boring, old farts.' | 0:02:25 | 0:02:29 | |
But there are more and more of us now who aren't. | 0:02:29 | 0:02:32 | |
I think we should be called the wise ones. | 0:02:32 | 0:02:36 | |
Always expect the unexpected. | 0:02:36 | 0:02:40 | |
That's what I've learnt. | 0:02:40 | 0:02:41 | |
Since enforced retirement was outlawed in 2011, more than | 0:02:50 | 0:02:54 | |
one million over-65-year-olds now choose to stay in work. | 0:02:54 | 0:02:59 | |
Including most of us here in Bournemouth. | 0:02:59 | 0:03:01 | |
He said, "What do you know about erogenous zones?" | 0:03:03 | 0:03:06 | |
I said, "Well, I know you can't park there after six o'clock." | 0:03:06 | 0:03:09 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:03:09 | 0:03:10 | |
'I mean, old now is 90.' | 0:03:10 | 0:03:12 | |
No wonder they are putting the retirement age up | 0:03:12 | 0:03:15 | |
because everyone is living all that much longer, due to... | 0:03:15 | 0:03:19 | |
Well, I'm here as a tribute to medical science. | 0:03:19 | 0:03:22 | |
You would fill it with all your children's precious memories. | 0:03:22 | 0:03:25 | |
You'd give it back to them when they are 18. | 0:03:25 | 0:03:27 | |
You can put your scan, you know, baby scan picture in there. | 0:03:27 | 0:03:30 | |
-I'm too old, never had one of those. -No, no, me neither. | 0:03:30 | 0:03:34 | |
'I don't believe in retirement.' | 0:03:34 | 0:03:36 | |
I don't, I really, genuinely don't. | 0:03:36 | 0:03:39 | |
I don't. What, retire from what? Retire from living? | 0:03:39 | 0:03:43 | |
I chose to create this business in my 60s, | 0:03:45 | 0:03:48 | |
primarily because all my life | 0:03:48 | 0:03:51 | |
I have taken... I've been the co-pilot to David. | 0:03:51 | 0:03:55 | |
Babs spent nearly 30 years working for her husband's | 0:03:58 | 0:04:00 | |
car-accessory business. | 0:04:00 | 0:04:03 | |
When I was a teenager, I was... | 0:04:03 | 0:04:07 | |
invincible. | 0:04:07 | 0:04:09 | |
This was my life, I could do anything, | 0:04:10 | 0:04:13 | |
I could climb Mount Everest. The world was my oyster. | 0:04:13 | 0:04:16 | |
But then, when I got married and had a family, | 0:04:18 | 0:04:22 | |
then I had to conform to respectability. | 0:04:22 | 0:04:25 | |
I did everything, from book-keeping to standing in for staff, | 0:04:28 | 0:04:32 | |
doing the cash and carry shopping. | 0:04:32 | 0:04:35 | |
What ever needed doing, I did it. | 0:04:35 | 0:04:37 | |
Nobody sees you for what you are. | 0:04:40 | 0:04:42 | |
You are the missus of the mister, you are the mother of the child, | 0:04:42 | 0:04:46 | |
you're the grandmother of the grandchildren. | 0:04:46 | 0:04:49 | |
You are always something to do with somebody else, | 0:04:49 | 0:04:52 | |
but what about me, little old me? | 0:04:52 | 0:04:55 | |
Can I not be validated, can I not be... | 0:04:55 | 0:04:58 | |
seen to have some worth? | 0:04:58 | 0:05:01 | |
I think my drive certainly comes from my childhood. | 0:05:05 | 0:05:09 | |
But we were so broke sometimes that we didn't have enough money | 0:05:09 | 0:05:13 | |
to pay the electricity bills. | 0:05:13 | 0:05:15 | |
If there was any money in the house, it would | 0:05:15 | 0:05:17 | |
go on your brother's education. | 0:05:17 | 0:05:19 | |
You know, girls didn't need an education. | 0:05:19 | 0:05:21 | |
I passed my exams for college. There was no money to send me. | 0:05:26 | 0:05:30 | |
And I've always regretted that. Always. | 0:05:34 | 0:05:37 | |
So rather than retire, Babs decided it was her time to kick start | 0:05:40 | 0:05:44 | |
a business, and launched her baby memory boxes... | 0:05:44 | 0:05:47 | |
What, 400 boxes by next week? | 0:05:50 | 0:05:53 | |
Yes, of course we can do that. | 0:05:53 | 0:05:55 | |
No problem whatsoever. | 0:05:55 | 0:05:57 | |
I have about ten product ideas that I still want to get off the ground. | 0:05:59 | 0:06:04 | |
And none... Not all of them are even on the market. | 0:06:04 | 0:06:06 | |
So I just wanted to check in with you to make sure | 0:06:06 | 0:06:09 | |
that we've got enough stock there and everything else. | 0:06:09 | 0:06:13 | |
..and her business boomed. | 0:06:13 | 0:06:15 | |
We like the product and we would like to take the product. | 0:06:15 | 0:06:18 | |
Thank you so much. | 0:06:18 | 0:06:20 | |
In fact, research shows that if everyone chose to work one | 0:06:20 | 0:06:23 | |
year longer, GDP could increase by £16 billion. | 0:06:23 | 0:06:29 | |
Fantastic. And another one. | 0:06:29 | 0:06:31 | |
'I want to connect with some big baby goods manufacturer, who would say to me,' | 0:06:31 | 0:06:35 | |
'"Babs, we love your ideas, let's work together,' | 0:06:35 | 0:06:38 | |
"let's take all your products, let's get inside your head and let's take | 0:06:38 | 0:06:42 | |
"your products, and let us finance you and let us take them all to market." | 0:06:42 | 0:06:46 | |
-Boom, boom, boom. -They loved it! They lapped it up. Fantastic! | 0:06:46 | 0:06:50 | |
-High five. High four and three quarters. -High five. OK, let's go celebrate. -Come on, then. | 0:06:50 | 0:06:55 | |
Employment is changing now. Older people are working longer. | 0:06:55 | 0:06:59 | |
There's still some good years left in us older people. | 0:07:01 | 0:07:04 | |
Companies now seem to be open to employing somebody over 65. | 0:07:04 | 0:07:09 | |
I would like to do something more with my life. | 0:07:10 | 0:07:13 | |
As far as I'm concerned, because I've got such an active mind, | 0:07:13 | 0:07:17 | |
I would still like to be doing something. Some work or something. | 0:07:17 | 0:07:21 | |
'I mean, I feel as though I've got plenty to offer. | 0:07:21 | 0:07:24 | |
'And I'd love to go back to work.' | 0:07:24 | 0:07:26 | |
I might forget a few things, | 0:07:26 | 0:07:28 | |
but, you know, I can always write them down. | 0:07:28 | 0:07:30 | |
I can still write. | 0:07:30 | 0:07:32 | |
I still think I've got loads to offer. | 0:07:33 | 0:07:36 | |
And it's not just business | 0:07:43 | 0:07:45 | |
and work that we continue to have a passion for. | 0:07:45 | 0:07:48 | |
MUSIC: Lady Marmalade by LaBelle | 0:07:49 | 0:07:52 | |
-How are you? -How nice to see you. | 0:07:52 | 0:07:55 | |
Give me a kiss. And the other one. | 0:07:55 | 0:07:59 | |
'I'm still dating.' | 0:07:59 | 0:08:01 | |
People are horrified quite often by that. | 0:08:01 | 0:08:03 | |
Thank you so much, that's lovely. | 0:08:03 | 0:08:06 | |
They think I should forget all about all that sort of thing. | 0:08:06 | 0:08:10 | |
And they do say "that sort of thing", yeah. | 0:08:10 | 0:08:13 | |
SHE LAUGHS | 0:08:15 | 0:08:16 | |
I like to go out romancing. | 0:08:18 | 0:08:20 | |
You know, there's nothing like a bit of romance. | 0:08:20 | 0:08:23 | |
I quite enjoyed it once I got going. | 0:08:23 | 0:08:24 | |
-Yeah, well, you couldn't do much about it! -Brilliant. Loved it. | 0:08:24 | 0:08:28 | |
Singles over 65 are the fastest-growing | 0:08:30 | 0:08:32 | |
group of internet daters. | 0:08:32 | 0:08:35 | |
Would you call yourself an extrovert? | 0:08:36 | 0:08:38 | |
Is there such a thing as a shy extrovert? | 0:08:38 | 0:08:42 | |
The world has changed amazingly. | 0:08:42 | 0:08:45 | |
If you wanted to meet a man, you would go to a dance. | 0:08:45 | 0:08:49 | |
You met people at dances or work. | 0:08:49 | 0:08:52 | |
And, of course, it is so different today. | 0:08:55 | 0:08:58 | |
Isn't it? I mean, you've got the dating, internet dating, | 0:08:58 | 0:09:03 | |
you've got speed dating, which is not quite for the older person. | 0:09:03 | 0:09:08 | |
But I have done it and it has been quite fun. | 0:09:08 | 0:09:11 | |
I hope you remembered your wallet. | 0:09:11 | 0:09:14 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:09:14 | 0:09:16 | |
-SHE HICCUPS -Oh, excuse me. -Hello. | 0:09:16 | 0:09:19 | |
I'm sure a lot of people in their mid-70s, like myself, will | 0:09:19 | 0:09:24 | |
think, "Oh, we never thought we could be bothered to do that, you know?" | 0:09:24 | 0:09:28 | |
Did you actually fancy him? | 0:09:28 | 0:09:31 | |
Did you? | 0:09:31 | 0:09:33 | |
No, I'm afraid not, no. | 0:09:33 | 0:09:36 | |
You can get out there if you are on your own. | 0:09:36 | 0:09:39 | |
You can get out and go dating. I mean, the opportunities now. | 0:09:39 | 0:09:43 | |
If you are just looking purely at a relationship for naughtiness, | 0:09:43 | 0:09:47 | |
then you're looking at the wrong thing. Because there's no point just looking at it for that. | 0:09:47 | 0:09:51 | |
-You've got to talk to people, haven't you? -Do you? | 0:09:51 | 0:09:54 | |
SHE LAUGHS | 0:09:54 | 0:09:55 | |
My mother would have been horrified if she knew about dating online. | 0:09:55 | 0:10:00 | |
When I got divorced, she didn't think I should be dating anyway. | 0:10:00 | 0:10:04 | |
MUSIC: Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow? by The Shirelles | 0:10:07 | 0:10:10 | |
Dee hasn't always been single. In 1952, | 0:10:12 | 0:10:16 | |
she got married at the age of 16. | 0:10:16 | 0:10:19 | |
Of course, when I was younger, you were expected to get married early. | 0:10:19 | 0:10:23 | |
At 25, you're over the hill. | 0:10:23 | 0:10:25 | |
You didn't tell people problems that were going on within your marriage. | 0:10:27 | 0:10:32 | |
You were expected to stay married. | 0:10:32 | 0:10:35 | |
And you were expected to shut up and put up with it. | 0:10:35 | 0:10:38 | |
But 13 years later, when her eldest daughter was only nine, | 0:10:39 | 0:10:43 | |
Dee got divorced. | 0:10:43 | 0:10:44 | |
It was very unusual to get divorced in those days. | 0:10:47 | 0:10:50 | |
I suppose... Obviously, it wasn't the first because my mother was divorced, | 0:10:52 | 0:10:56 | |
and that was even worse. | 0:10:56 | 0:10:57 | |
I had two children to bring up... on my own, | 0:11:00 | 0:11:03 | |
and you were classified as being a loose woman. | 0:11:03 | 0:11:08 | |
And it was very, very hard. Very hard bringing them up in those days. | 0:11:08 | 0:11:12 | |
Everything to do with one-parent families was frowned on. | 0:11:12 | 0:11:16 | |
My daughter, my eldest one, she was always top of her class... | 0:11:16 | 0:11:21 | |
Because she came from a one-parent family, | 0:11:23 | 0:11:26 | |
she was not allowed to go to grammar school. | 0:11:26 | 0:11:29 | |
I'm disappointed that there isn't the staying | 0:11:33 | 0:11:36 | |
power in marriage there was when I got married. | 0:11:36 | 0:11:42 | |
I'm still married to the same person. I believe in marriage. | 0:11:42 | 0:11:46 | |
I think when you make vows and you make promises, | 0:11:46 | 0:11:50 | |
you should stand by them. | 0:11:50 | 0:11:52 | |
When there isn't that threat there, people have an argument | 0:11:54 | 0:11:57 | |
and they walk out. | 0:11:57 | 0:11:59 | |
That, to me, is not what these vows are being made on. | 0:11:59 | 0:12:03 | |
When you sometimes meet somebody and say, "Oh, sorry, you're divorced, | 0:12:03 | 0:12:08 | |
"so you're married for a second time?" "Oh, no, I'm on my fifth marriage." | 0:12:08 | 0:12:12 | |
And I think, "What?! What's all that about?" | 0:12:12 | 0:12:15 | |
The essential thing about how things have changed today, | 0:12:15 | 0:12:17 | |
like, you've got, for example, you've got gay marriage. | 0:12:17 | 0:12:22 | |
Civil partnership. | 0:12:22 | 0:12:24 | |
All these sorts of things didn't happen years ago. | 0:12:24 | 0:12:26 | |
I go right back to when it was illegal to be gay. | 0:12:26 | 0:12:31 | |
In 1967, Simon was 24 when homosexuality was decriminalised. | 0:12:35 | 0:12:40 | |
You had to hide being gay. | 0:12:42 | 0:12:44 | |
You could be put in jail, there was | 0:12:44 | 0:12:46 | |
lots of blackmail going on for people who found out they were gay. | 0:12:46 | 0:12:49 | |
It was ruining lives. Also caused a lot of suicides. | 0:12:49 | 0:12:52 | |
It's not a nice thing to live with | 0:12:54 | 0:12:57 | |
because you want to be accepted like everybody else is. | 0:12:57 | 0:13:01 | |
-INTERVIEWER: -How old were you when you came out? | 0:13:03 | 0:13:05 | |
I actually never came out. | 0:13:05 | 0:13:08 | |
I only came out, really, about | 0:13:09 | 0:13:13 | |
ten years ago. | 0:13:13 | 0:13:16 | |
You didn't realise that, did you? No, it's a fact, yeah. | 0:13:17 | 0:13:20 | |
I think when I was younger, I would hide it. | 0:13:22 | 0:13:25 | |
I would deny that I was gay. | 0:13:25 | 0:13:26 | |
If someone said, "Oh, you're gay," I would say, "No, I'm not gay." | 0:13:26 | 0:13:29 | |
You could be kicked out of a job for being homosexual. | 0:13:29 | 0:13:32 | |
And that wasn't such a long time ago. | 0:13:32 | 0:13:34 | |
There is a sort of privacy about being gay. | 0:13:34 | 0:13:37 | |
I guess it's a throwback from the years before, | 0:13:37 | 0:13:41 | |
still in that thing, like, "Ooh, I'm ash..." Sort of ashamed to be gay. | 0:13:41 | 0:13:45 | |
I'm not ashamed to be gay. I'm the last person to be ashamed to be gay. | 0:13:45 | 0:13:49 | |
But there is still something there that makes me | 0:13:49 | 0:13:51 | |
-feel ashamed to be gay. -I did have gay friends then. | 0:13:51 | 0:13:55 | |
If you went to one of their clubs, | 0:13:55 | 0:13:57 | |
you literally had to knock on the door and say, "So-and-so sent me." | 0:13:57 | 0:14:00 | |
That's really what it was like. | 0:14:00 | 0:14:02 | |
But not everyone's views have relaxed over the years. | 0:14:03 | 0:14:07 | |
If you want to be gay, that's not a problem. | 0:14:07 | 0:14:10 | |
-Go and do it somewhere else? -I don't have any problem... | 0:14:10 | 0:14:12 | |
A man was meant to live with a woman. | 0:14:12 | 0:14:15 | |
-That's a load of rubbish you're coming out with. -No, it's not! | 0:14:15 | 0:14:18 | |
-Like something from the Middle Ages. -I'm sorry, but I don't care. -"Burn gays on the stake." | 0:14:18 | 0:14:22 | |
No, I don't want to burn - did I say that? Did I say that? | 0:14:22 | 0:14:25 | |
I am neither racist nor homophobic. | 0:14:25 | 0:14:28 | |
Saying that, I don't understand why, | 0:14:30 | 0:14:34 | |
er, gay people have to, er, | 0:14:34 | 0:14:38 | |
keep on emphasising the fact that they are gay. | 0:14:38 | 0:14:42 | |
As we're getting older, you see, you are less tolerant. | 0:14:42 | 0:14:47 | |
Maybe that's a bad thing. I don't know. But you're less tolerant. | 0:14:47 | 0:14:50 | |
It's quite rare to come across people like that | 0:14:50 | 0:14:53 | |
because today, people are more accepting and this and that. | 0:14:53 | 0:14:56 | |
So, he was like, he was like, harking back to the... | 0:14:56 | 0:15:00 | |
-30-odd years ago. -I don't want to hear about this. | 0:15:00 | 0:15:02 | |
-Tell me the definition of a bigot. -I'm not interested. | 0:15:02 | 0:15:05 | |
-Tell me the definition of a bigot, then. Come on! -You! -Ha! | 0:15:05 | 0:15:08 | |
So, you can always walk away. That's not a very good argument. | 0:15:08 | 0:15:11 | |
'He was coming out with things that people USED to come out with. | 0:15:11 | 0:15:14 | |
'Thank God it's not like that any more.' | 0:15:14 | 0:15:16 | |
I can now hold my head up. | 0:15:16 | 0:15:18 | |
And be like everybody else. | 0:15:18 | 0:15:21 | |
Getting divorced or losing a loved one as we get older | 0:15:21 | 0:15:24 | |
means us over-65s rely on our friends more and more. | 0:15:24 | 0:15:27 | |
You make me feel guilty because I... | 0:15:29 | 0:15:31 | |
You keep saying to me, oh, you're always out, you've always got friends. | 0:15:31 | 0:15:34 | |
You know, sometimes, I mean, | 0:15:34 | 0:15:36 | |
the phone might not ring for about a week. | 0:15:36 | 0:15:39 | |
When I was growing up, when I think about friendships, you do sort of take it for granted, | 0:15:39 | 0:15:44 | |
that you think they're going to go on for ever. | 0:15:44 | 0:15:47 | |
But, unfortunately I have lost quite a few friends in my life. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:54 | |
And I'd never realised that they were going to die at the ages they did die. | 0:15:55 | 0:16:00 | |
You end up in life with a lot less friends than you thought you | 0:16:00 | 0:16:03 | |
would have because they've all died and I have outlived them. | 0:16:03 | 0:16:08 | |
What you have to know about Chris, he's a lonely man. | 0:16:08 | 0:16:11 | |
He's very lonely, but you don't see that. He's VERY lonely. | 0:16:11 | 0:16:15 | |
He hasn't got many friends. | 0:16:15 | 0:16:18 | |
He comes round our house, probably on average, | 0:16:18 | 0:16:21 | |
it has been, twice, three times a week. And he never phones. | 0:16:21 | 0:16:26 | |
He'll just knock on the door. "Hi, I was passing..." | 0:16:26 | 0:16:29 | |
My wife always says, "Why do you keep on going round Barbara's house?" | 0:16:29 | 0:16:33 | |
Well, probably, I go round there because I haven't got anything else to do! | 0:16:33 | 0:16:37 | |
If you want to be really honest. | 0:16:37 | 0:16:39 | |
And some friendships, regardless of age, are as complicated as ever. | 0:16:39 | 0:16:44 | |
-That women... -What woman? What, Vanessa? -She's a madam! | 0:16:45 | 0:16:48 | |
-No, she's not. -Yes, she is. -No, she's not. -Well, she was. -Ah! WAS! | 0:16:48 | 0:16:52 | |
If you asked me the question of whether I value my... | 0:16:52 | 0:16:56 | |
my friendship with Barbara, as extremely important, | 0:16:56 | 0:16:59 | |
-I would say the answer is "No". -Just because... -I'm not arguing with you. | 0:16:59 | 0:17:03 | |
-I'm just telling you. -I don't want to argue with you! | 0:17:03 | 0:17:05 | |
You're the one who has come over and argued with me! | 0:17:05 | 0:17:07 | |
'People change you,' | 0:17:07 | 0:17:09 | |
whether you want to be changed or not. | 0:17:09 | 0:17:12 | |
-Other people affect your life. -I mean, I'm a good friend of yours, but... | 0:17:12 | 0:17:16 | |
-No you're not! -Yes, I am! -No, you're not. | 0:17:16 | 0:17:18 | |
-You THINK you are, but you're not! -I am! | 0:17:18 | 0:17:20 | |
I like to control the kind of people that I mix with and be friends with. | 0:17:20 | 0:17:25 | |
Because, it's like, "Show me your friends | 0:17:25 | 0:17:29 | |
"and I'll tell you what you are." | 0:17:29 | 0:17:31 | |
-Noticeably, you need other people to prop you up. -Really? -Absolutely. | 0:17:31 | 0:17:35 | |
'We've had a sort of on-and-off friendship for 20 years.' | 0:17:35 | 0:17:39 | |
Don't get me wrong, she is a very, very, very nice person. | 0:17:39 | 0:17:43 | |
But if I never saw her again, it wouldn't be something that | 0:17:43 | 0:17:47 | |
would destroy my heart, if I actually have one. | 0:17:47 | 0:17:51 | |
I'm going to show you, Chris, that I can do it without you. | 0:17:51 | 0:17:54 | |
-So, all the best for the future. OK? -OK. Yeah, cheers. Bye! -Bye. | 0:17:54 | 0:17:58 | |
Whilst we're still living life to the full, | 0:18:03 | 0:18:06 | |
we're also having to face the realities of getting on. | 0:18:06 | 0:18:09 | |
I don't want to be this age. | 0:18:09 | 0:18:10 | |
I'd much rather be younger because I'd have more time to do what | 0:18:10 | 0:18:13 | |
I want to do. | 0:18:13 | 0:18:15 | |
And I've got less years ahead of me than I have behind me. | 0:18:15 | 0:18:18 | |
So, I know what's ahead of me. And I don't like that. | 0:18:18 | 0:18:21 | |
I don't want to face that. | 0:18:21 | 0:18:23 | |
I want to be philanthropic. | 0:18:23 | 0:18:26 | |
I have got great compassion. | 0:18:27 | 0:18:29 | |
And I really want to do something with my life while I still can. | 0:18:29 | 0:18:33 | |
And if I can set up a charity to help sick children, that's my dream. | 0:18:33 | 0:18:36 | |
If I live to 92, my God, that's only nine years. That is frightening. | 0:18:38 | 0:18:43 | |
That is really scary, when I work it out like that. | 0:18:43 | 0:18:47 | |
I haven't got... I haven't got time to do all the things I want to do. | 0:18:47 | 0:18:52 | |
I don't know, I don't know... No, I'll worry about it when I get there. | 0:18:52 | 0:18:56 | |
When I was younger, I never thought I was going to get old. | 0:19:00 | 0:19:03 | |
It seemed such a long, long way away. | 0:19:03 | 0:19:05 | |
I can look back and I think, you know, my son is 50 this year. | 0:19:07 | 0:19:13 | |
Half a century! Where did that half a century go? | 0:19:13 | 0:19:17 | |
Cos I can recall some memories as if it was yesterday. | 0:19:17 | 0:19:21 | |
And I can remember how I was feeling. And, erm... | 0:19:21 | 0:19:26 | |
(I don't know...) | 0:19:29 | 0:19:31 | |
What happened to the years? I don't know... | 0:19:33 | 0:19:36 | |
I'm worried about when I get | 0:19:39 | 0:19:42 | |
so old that I'll have to go into a nursing home or a rest home | 0:19:42 | 0:19:45 | |
or have some care, or people looking after me in my own home. | 0:19:45 | 0:19:50 | |
I DREAD the thought of going into a rest home. Dread it! | 0:19:50 | 0:19:55 | |
It's a very nice building... | 0:19:55 | 0:19:57 | |
'Today, almost half a million over-65s live in care homes across the UK.' | 0:19:57 | 0:20:03 | |
-I know, but God knows what we're going to find in there. -Well, of course not! | 0:20:03 | 0:20:07 | |
Over-65s, the thing is that we are living longer. | 0:20:07 | 0:20:11 | |
I mean, my grandfather, God bless him, he pegged out when he was 52! | 0:20:11 | 0:20:17 | |
You know, they just didn't have that life expectancy. | 0:20:17 | 0:20:20 | |
Oh, this is different. This is a big area, isn't it? | 0:20:20 | 0:20:24 | |
I could not bear to be in a place like that. I would just shrivel. | 0:20:24 | 0:20:27 | |
I would just shrivel up and die. | 0:20:27 | 0:20:31 | |
Who wants to live that long | 0:20:31 | 0:20:33 | |
if they haven't got everything going for them? | 0:20:33 | 0:20:36 | |
-What do you think? -Do you want to come here? It's awful! | 0:20:36 | 0:20:39 | |
Well, we are going to find out what it's... | 0:20:39 | 0:20:41 | |
'I think it's all to do with quality of life. | 0:20:41 | 0:20:43 | |
'You know, who wants to be bedbound? Or having bed baths? | 0:20:43 | 0:20:46 | |
'What quality of life is that?' | 0:20:46 | 0:20:48 | |
No, no, no, no, people don't want that! | 0:20:48 | 0:20:51 | |
I really would hate to be incapacitated. | 0:20:53 | 0:20:56 | |
I... I don't want to end up on the horizontal. | 0:20:56 | 0:21:00 | |
I just want to keel over, not wake up one day and it'll all be over. | 0:21:00 | 0:21:05 | |
If I can't be mobile, if I have to rely on my children to look after me, | 0:21:08 | 0:21:13 | |
then I don't want to be alive. | 0:21:13 | 0:21:16 | |
Becoming overly dependent on our loved ones is something | 0:21:18 | 0:21:21 | |
none of us wants. And it's not what my wife wanted. | 0:21:21 | 0:21:24 | |
I actually got the doctor to her the day before she died. And... | 0:21:26 | 0:21:30 | |
he looked at her and he said, "Do you want me to hospitalise her?" | 0:21:30 | 0:21:33 | |
Now, her eyes told me that she had clicked on what he had said. | 0:21:33 | 0:21:38 | |
Because that might, after the doctor went, | 0:21:38 | 0:21:40 | |
I was lying alongside her in bed and she just started to stroke my hair. | 0:21:40 | 0:21:45 | |
And that's when I knew. Mm. | 0:21:45 | 0:21:47 | |
And I said, "You're leaving me, aren't you?" | 0:21:49 | 0:21:52 | |
Hm! There you go... | 0:21:53 | 0:21:56 | |
And she just gave a little smile. | 0:21:56 | 0:21:59 | |
Of course, it's something that's etched on your mind for ever. | 0:22:09 | 0:22:12 | |
When somebody just passes away in front of your very eyes. | 0:22:12 | 0:22:15 | |
Oh, thank you. That was a lovely service. Thanks very much. | 0:22:21 | 0:22:26 | |
That was sad, someone so young. | 0:22:26 | 0:22:28 | |
When animals get old and they're not doing so good, | 0:22:32 | 0:22:35 | |
you can put them down. | 0:22:35 | 0:22:37 | |
I think, you know, I'd like somebody to be able to put me down when... | 0:22:37 | 0:22:40 | |
When the time came! | 0:22:40 | 0:22:42 | |
I have paid for my funeral. | 0:22:45 | 0:22:48 | |
I have got the music sorted. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:51 | |
I've got it all planned out. | 0:22:51 | 0:22:53 | |
Cos I've got to be in control, even when I'm dead! | 0:22:53 | 0:22:56 | |
The only thing I would miss is to see how many women would come | 0:22:59 | 0:23:02 | |
to my funeral. Ha-ha! Yeah... | 0:23:02 | 0:23:04 | |
Yeah, that would be nice to know. Who would come. | 0:23:06 | 0:23:08 | |
I've got no fear of death. I've got no fear of death whatsoever. | 0:23:10 | 0:23:13 | |
I've always said to my wife, if you put me in a wheelchair, | 0:23:13 | 0:23:17 | |
and I go a bit gaga, just push me over, | 0:23:17 | 0:23:20 | |
save the state some money, just push me over the cliffs. | 0:23:20 | 0:23:22 | |
Mind you, my wife would probably sign up for me tomorrow. So, you know... | 0:23:22 | 0:23:28 | |
It's probably a bad thing, as far as I'm concerned! | 0:23:28 | 0:23:31 | |
UPBEAT DRUM INTRO PLAYS | 0:23:32 | 0:23:35 | |
It been a blast making the TV show. | 0:23:38 | 0:23:41 | |
Doing this filming has really done a lot for me. | 0:23:44 | 0:23:47 | |
I did the zip wire, which is something I've always wanted to do. | 0:23:47 | 0:23:51 | |
Not only once, I did it twice! That was really fun. | 0:23:51 | 0:23:55 | |
SHE SCREAMS | 0:23:55 | 0:23:58 | |
The parts I enjoyed the most is when I was the centre of attention! | 0:23:58 | 0:24:03 | |
I'm afraid I am a bit liking to be the centre of attention. | 0:24:05 | 0:24:09 | |
I would like to think that everything that people | 0:24:12 | 0:24:16 | |
saw on this programme was the real me. | 0:24:16 | 0:24:21 | |
-Shall I tell you something? -Don't keep pointing your finger at me, then! -I know why you didn't come. | 0:24:21 | 0:24:25 | |
-Why? -Because you found out that your husband had visited | 0:24:25 | 0:24:28 | |
-one of my establishments. -Really? Oh, that's low, isn't it? | 0:24:28 | 0:24:32 | |
No, I wasn't putting on a front on the programme. | 0:24:32 | 0:24:34 | |
If I seem obnoxious, well, that is the way I am. | 0:24:34 | 0:24:37 | |
-I didn't know it was a '60s night, though. -Why is it '60s? | 0:24:37 | 0:24:40 | |
-Well, I just thought, with what you're wearing. -Pardon? | 0:24:40 | 0:24:44 | |
I think I made a friend through Monty. | 0:24:45 | 0:24:47 | |
-He's become like a sparring partner, actually. -Simon! | 0:24:47 | 0:24:50 | |
It's visiting royalty. | 0:24:50 | 0:24:52 | |
Well, take the coat off, then. Come on, let's have a look. | 0:24:52 | 0:24:55 | |
Because he jokes and I've picked up on these jokes, | 0:24:55 | 0:24:58 | |
so I give him back as much as he gives me. | 0:24:58 | 0:25:00 | |
So, I think we've become a little bit of a double act! | 0:25:00 | 0:25:04 | |
-From doing this programme, I've gained some new friends. -Oh, my God! | 0:25:04 | 0:25:09 | |
-Is that week one, then? -That's finished! | 0:25:09 | 0:25:12 | |
Obviously, as you will have seen, | 0:25:12 | 0:25:14 | |
there are some people that I haven't got on with so well, | 0:25:14 | 0:25:18 | |
but hey-ho, that's a reflection of real life, isn't it? | 0:25:18 | 0:25:21 | |
Even if I didn't know who you were, you and I still wouldn't be friends. | 0:25:21 | 0:25:26 | |
Why's that? | 0:25:26 | 0:25:27 | |
Because you're a very pushy person and I don't like pushy people. | 0:25:27 | 0:25:30 | |
Well, that's funny, because that's exactly what Chris said about you! | 0:25:30 | 0:25:33 | |
-I'm not somebody that you meet every day of the week, am I? -SHE CHUCKLES | 0:25:33 | 0:25:38 | |
We've had some laughs, | 0:25:40 | 0:25:42 | |
especially when the filming didn't quite go to plan... | 0:25:42 | 0:25:45 | |
Oh! | 0:25:45 | 0:25:47 | |
What brings you around here again today? | 0:25:47 | 0:25:50 | |
-Oh, do I have to have an invite? -Yes! -I normally just walk in here. | 0:25:50 | 0:25:54 | |
-Sorry! A little bit theatrical. -Was it? | 0:25:54 | 0:26:00 | |
You think, "Oh, God, what am I supposed to do? Oh, is this real?" | 0:26:02 | 0:26:05 | |
"What's happening? Oh! Oh!" | 0:26:05 | 0:26:07 | |
I think we ought to go on a... | 0:26:07 | 0:26:11 | |
-Where are we going? -THEY LAUGH | 0:26:14 | 0:26:17 | |
That's the story of my life! | 0:26:23 | 0:26:26 | |
When I see other people going on camera for the first time, | 0:26:26 | 0:26:29 | |
I think, "Aw..." I understand how they feel. | 0:26:29 | 0:26:32 | |
Because it's like a deer in the headlights. | 0:26:32 | 0:26:35 | |
And I hope I have at least made younger people look at | 0:26:37 | 0:26:41 | |
older people differently. | 0:26:41 | 0:26:43 | |
And say, "older", not "old". Or "wise ones". | 0:26:44 | 0:26:49 |