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Families can be driven apart for all manner of reasons. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:04 | |
Oh, I had no information at all about where my mum went. | 0:00:04 | 0:00:07 | |
And when you do lose touch with your loved ones... | 0:00:07 | 0:00:10 | |
You don't know who you are, where you've come from. | 0:00:10 | 0:00:12 | |
..finding them can take a lifetime... | 0:00:12 | 0:00:15 | |
I might have a brother that's still living here. | 0:00:15 | 0:00:18 | |
..especially when they could be anywhere, at home or abroad. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:23 | |
And that's where the Family Finders come in. | 0:00:23 | 0:00:26 | |
From international organisations... | 0:00:26 | 0:00:28 | |
Hi, it's The Salvation Army Family Tracing Service. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:32 | |
..to genealogy detective agencies... | 0:00:32 | 0:00:34 | |
For someone to say that it's changed their life, | 0:00:34 | 0:00:37 | |
it makes coming to work, you know, really, really special. | 0:00:37 | 0:00:40 | |
..and dedicated one-man bands... | 0:00:40 | 0:00:42 | |
It's a matter of how much effort you really want to put into it, | 0:00:42 | 0:00:46 | |
how badly you want to solve the problem. | 0:00:46 | 0:00:48 | |
..they hunt through history to bring families back together again. | 0:00:48 | 0:00:52 | |
Finding new family is wonderful. | 0:00:52 | 0:00:55 | |
In this series, we follow the work of the Family Finders. | 0:00:55 | 0:00:59 | |
Suddenly, you get one spark of breakthrough and there they are. | 0:00:59 | 0:01:04 | |
Learning the tricks they use | 0:01:04 | 0:01:06 | |
to track missing relatives through time... | 0:01:06 | 0:01:08 | |
I didn't think I'd ever find sisters, but I have. | 0:01:08 | 0:01:13 | |
..and meeting the people whose lives they change along the way. | 0:01:13 | 0:01:17 | |
I've been waiting to meet John my whole life. | 0:01:17 | 0:01:20 | |
Since we've met, I feel part of a family again. | 0:01:20 | 0:01:22 | |
You've just completed my life for me. | 0:01:24 | 0:01:26 | |
In the search for long-lost relatives, | 0:01:31 | 0:01:33 | |
if finding a distant family member can be an extraordinary moment, | 0:01:33 | 0:01:38 | |
then finding a sibling can be a momentous event. | 0:01:38 | 0:01:40 | |
Across the UK, there are hundreds of organisations who specialise | 0:01:42 | 0:01:45 | |
in bringing brothers and sisters who have lost touch back together. | 0:01:45 | 0:01:50 | |
But many people decide to turn family finder on their own. | 0:01:50 | 0:01:53 | |
Today, we follow two stories of sisters who started out | 0:01:53 | 0:01:56 | |
by doing it for themselves. | 0:01:56 | 0:01:59 | |
First, we meet Jacqueline, whose quest to find out about her | 0:01:59 | 0:02:02 | |
birth mother uncovered a sibling she never knew she had. | 0:02:02 | 0:02:05 | |
Suddenly, there was someone in my life... | 0:02:05 | 0:02:09 | |
..who I could identify with, really. | 0:02:10 | 0:02:14 | |
I cried. | 0:02:14 | 0:02:15 | |
And it was my sister. | 0:02:16 | 0:02:19 | |
And we follow the story of Teresa and Tracey as they search | 0:02:19 | 0:02:23 | |
for the sister they haven't seen for 40 years. | 0:02:23 | 0:02:26 | |
-I've got butterflies in my stomach. -Have you? -What about you? | 0:02:26 | 0:02:29 | |
Uh, I've got a massive moth, I think. | 0:02:29 | 0:02:32 | |
Oh, this is getting almost unbearable. | 0:02:32 | 0:02:34 | |
Actress Jacqueline Clarke has spent a career playing out the fictional | 0:02:36 | 0:02:40 | |
dramas of other people's lives on both stage and screen. | 0:02:40 | 0:02:44 | |
But the true story of Jacqueline's own family life has also taken | 0:02:45 | 0:02:49 | |
several dramatic turns. | 0:02:49 | 0:02:51 | |
She was born in 1942 and grew up in south-west London. | 0:02:51 | 0:02:55 | |
I remember my mother always, because she was a pianist, | 0:02:55 | 0:03:00 | |
playing in the morning, which was glorious, | 0:03:00 | 0:03:03 | |
so I was brought up with a lot of music. | 0:03:03 | 0:03:05 | |
Not that I understood much about classical. | 0:03:05 | 0:03:08 | |
And I remember going down to the local sweet shop with my father | 0:03:08 | 0:03:12 | |
because we had coupons in those days, it's just after the war. | 0:03:12 | 0:03:16 | |
While Jacqueline was still a young child, her mother revealed | 0:03:17 | 0:03:20 | |
something that was to change her world forever. | 0:03:20 | 0:03:23 | |
I was nine when I was told and she called me in from the garden. | 0:03:23 | 0:03:28 | |
She said, "Sit down, darling, I want to tell you something. | 0:03:28 | 0:03:30 | |
"It's something important. Your father didn't want to tell you, | 0:03:30 | 0:03:34 | |
"but I think it's important that you know." | 0:03:34 | 0:03:36 | |
And then she said, "Do you know Daddy and I adopted you?" | 0:03:36 | 0:03:40 | |
"Your mother was a young girl | 0:03:40 | 0:03:42 | |
"and she couldn't keep you, darling, and we went and chose you, | 0:03:42 | 0:03:45 | |
"you're very special and we love you very much." All that went on. | 0:03:45 | 0:03:49 | |
And I said, "So, do you mean I don't belong to you?" | 0:03:49 | 0:03:52 | |
And she said, "Well, you do belong to us, darling, of course, you do." | 0:03:53 | 0:03:57 | |
I went to the bottom of the garden and sobbed. | 0:03:57 | 0:04:01 | |
I was... | 0:04:07 | 0:04:08 | |
..so disappointed that they weren't my real mummy and daddy. | 0:04:12 | 0:04:17 | |
And I thought, "OK, it's all right, you know, it'll be fine." | 0:04:19 | 0:04:23 | |
And I thought, "I'm not going to talk to them about it," | 0:04:23 | 0:04:28 | |
because I know my mother found it so difficult to tell me | 0:04:28 | 0:04:32 | |
because Father really didn't want to tell me. | 0:04:32 | 0:04:36 | |
And I thought, "OK, it'll be all right." | 0:04:36 | 0:04:40 | |
OK, then got myself together and decided, that's it, I'll just go in. | 0:04:40 | 0:04:45 | |
I went in and had tea and it was never spoken about. | 0:04:45 | 0:04:47 | |
Jacqueline's parents never mentioned her history again, | 0:04:49 | 0:04:52 | |
and she put it to the back of her mind. | 0:04:52 | 0:04:54 | |
During my teenage years, during growing up, getting married, | 0:04:57 | 0:05:02 | |
it never crossed my brain about even thinking about finding out | 0:05:02 | 0:05:07 | |
about my birth family at all. | 0:05:07 | 0:05:09 | |
It was only after that my father died that I sort of thought, | 0:05:09 | 0:05:15 | |
"Ooh, I might want to know about it," but I wouldn't have done | 0:05:15 | 0:05:18 | |
because Mother was still alive. | 0:05:18 | 0:05:20 | |
When she died five years later, then I thought, "Hmm." | 0:05:20 | 0:05:25 | |
After the death of her adoptive parents, | 0:05:26 | 0:05:28 | |
Jacqueline decided to search for her biological mother. | 0:05:28 | 0:05:31 | |
She employed a professional family finder | 0:05:32 | 0:05:35 | |
and, eight months later, received a call. | 0:05:35 | 0:05:37 | |
My genealogist said, | 0:05:37 | 0:05:39 | |
"Are you sitting down and have you someone with you?" | 0:05:39 | 0:05:43 | |
I thought, "Well, why do I need that?" | 0:05:43 | 0:05:45 | |
So I didn't sit down and I didn't have anybody with me | 0:05:45 | 0:05:48 | |
and I rang and I was told, | 0:05:48 | 0:05:52 | |
did I know I had a sister? | 0:05:52 | 0:05:54 | |
30 miles away in Reading, siblings Tracey and Teresa knew | 0:06:03 | 0:06:07 | |
nothing about an older sister | 0:06:07 | 0:06:09 | |
until a knock on the door one day in 1974. | 0:06:09 | 0:06:12 | |
Our parents, they'd gone out shopping | 0:06:13 | 0:06:15 | |
and I can remember before they went, our mum said, | 0:06:15 | 0:06:18 | |
"If anyone knocks on the door, don't answer the door." | 0:06:18 | 0:06:20 | |
And lo and behold, there was a knock on the door | 0:06:20 | 0:06:23 | |
and this couple at the doorstep, and a lady with dark hair, | 0:06:23 | 0:06:26 | |
that's all I can remember and they asked, "Is your mum and dad in?" | 0:06:26 | 0:06:31 | |
It was like, "No. Sorry, Mummy's not back. | 0:06:31 | 0:06:33 | |
"They'll be back in half an hour." | 0:06:33 | 0:06:34 | |
And then my mum and dad came back from the shops, | 0:06:34 | 0:06:37 | |
they greeted them as if they knew each other. | 0:06:37 | 0:06:40 | |
I can remember feeling as a little child thinking, | 0:06:40 | 0:06:43 | |
"How come they know them? I don't know them. | 0:06:43 | 0:06:45 | |
"I've never seen them before. Who's that?" | 0:06:45 | 0:06:48 | |
It wasn't until some months later that the girls learnt | 0:06:48 | 0:06:51 | |
the true identity of the mysterious lady called Lesley | 0:06:51 | 0:06:54 | |
who had turned up at their door. | 0:06:54 | 0:06:57 | |
Our dad sat us down and said, | 0:06:57 | 0:06:59 | |
"Actually, Lesley is your sister." He was married before. | 0:06:59 | 0:07:05 | |
-So, that was the first... -That was the first we knew. -Yeah. | 0:07:05 | 0:07:09 | |
Teresa and Tracey began to build a relationship with their | 0:07:09 | 0:07:12 | |
17-year-old big sister, Lesley. | 0:07:12 | 0:07:15 | |
It was quite exciting to know that we had another sister. | 0:07:15 | 0:07:20 | |
I used to love going round there and staying overnight. | 0:07:20 | 0:07:23 | |
We remember going to a function. | 0:07:25 | 0:07:28 | |
-We are assuming it was her wedding that we attended. -Hm. | 0:07:28 | 0:07:31 | |
But Lesley didn't stay in their lives for long. | 0:07:32 | 0:07:35 | |
After Tracey and Teresa's parents moved house, they lost contact. | 0:07:35 | 0:07:40 | |
As the years went by, Teresa and Tracey grew up | 0:07:40 | 0:07:43 | |
and started families of their own, but thoughts of their | 0:07:43 | 0:07:46 | |
long-lost sister were never far from their mind. | 0:07:46 | 0:07:49 | |
We've always wondered where Lesley was, | 0:07:49 | 0:07:52 | |
always wanted to know how she was and where she was. | 0:07:52 | 0:07:55 | |
So ten years ago, after taking up genealogy as a hobby, | 0:07:55 | 0:07:59 | |
Teresa decided to look for Lesley. | 0:07:59 | 0:08:02 | |
Teresa started with the two things she knew about their older sister. | 0:08:02 | 0:08:06 | |
First, her name at birth, Lesley Probert. | 0:08:06 | 0:08:10 | |
Secondly, because Teresa and Tracey thought they remembered being | 0:08:10 | 0:08:13 | |
at her wedding, they assumed Lesley had married. | 0:08:13 | 0:08:17 | |
I found her birth and I found her birth certificate, | 0:08:17 | 0:08:20 | |
but I was trying to find her marriage. | 0:08:20 | 0:08:22 | |
And we were pretty sure it was around 1974. I tried everything. | 0:08:22 | 0:08:26 | |
I thought maybe she'd reverted back to her mum's maiden name | 0:08:26 | 0:08:31 | |
or anything like that but no. | 0:08:31 | 0:08:34 | |
-We just drew a blank. -We just drew a blank, yeah. | 0:08:34 | 0:08:37 | |
Then in October 2015, something happened that was to make | 0:08:38 | 0:08:42 | |
their quest to find their sister all the more urgent. | 0:08:42 | 0:08:45 | |
Brian, the father they shared with Lesley, died. | 0:08:45 | 0:08:49 | |
I felt that she deserved to know that her dad had passed away, | 0:08:49 | 0:08:53 | |
whether she had a relationship with him or not. | 0:08:53 | 0:08:57 | |
You know... | 0:08:57 | 0:08:58 | |
I think you've got to know these things, haven't you? | 0:08:58 | 0:09:01 | |
Desperate to find their sister, it was then that Tracey and Teresa | 0:09:03 | 0:09:06 | |
turned to a professional family finding company. | 0:09:06 | 0:09:10 | |
But would the professionals have any more luck in tracing Lesley | 0:09:10 | 0:09:14 | |
than Teresa and Tracey? | 0:09:14 | 0:09:15 | |
All this waiting and finally...it's going to happen, isn't it? | 0:09:15 | 0:09:19 | |
Oh, my God! | 0:09:19 | 0:09:21 | |
Television and theatre actress Jacqueline Clarke hadn't been | 0:09:26 | 0:09:30 | |
looking for siblings when she started delving into the | 0:09:30 | 0:09:32 | |
circumstances surrounding her adoption, but now it looked like | 0:09:32 | 0:09:37 | |
she had uncovered a sister she never knew she had. | 0:09:37 | 0:09:40 | |
I didn't cry, strangely enough, which I thought I might blub, | 0:09:40 | 0:09:44 | |
but I didn't and I thought, "Wow!" | 0:09:44 | 0:09:48 | |
But because that sister was an unknown being, | 0:09:48 | 0:09:52 | |
I didn't even think what she might look like, | 0:09:52 | 0:09:54 | |
I didn't think anything about it. | 0:09:54 | 0:09:56 | |
I just thought, "Oh, this is wonderful," | 0:09:56 | 0:09:57 | |
cos I'd always wanted a sister. | 0:09:57 | 0:09:59 | |
And I thought, "Oh, this is another adventure and I've | 0:09:59 | 0:10:04 | |
"got to follow this one up." | 0:10:04 | 0:10:06 | |
The next stage was to make contact. | 0:10:06 | 0:10:09 | |
The genealogist wrote a letter to the woman she suspected | 0:10:09 | 0:10:12 | |
to be Jacqueline's sister. | 0:10:12 | 0:10:15 | |
70 miles away that letter landed on the mat of Sylvia Bowman. | 0:10:15 | 0:10:20 | |
When I opened it, that was a shock. | 0:10:20 | 0:10:23 | |
It was from an adoption agency | 0:10:23 | 0:10:26 | |
questioning if I could kindly help | 0:10:26 | 0:10:29 | |
because they were seeking some | 0:10:29 | 0:10:33 | |
relatives from a person named Valerie. | 0:10:33 | 0:10:38 | |
When I saw that name... | 0:10:38 | 0:10:39 | |
Well, I did, I cried. | 0:10:41 | 0:10:42 | |
And it was my sister. | 0:10:44 | 0:10:45 | |
MOUTHS | 0:10:47 | 0:10:48 | |
Sorry. | 0:10:49 | 0:10:51 | |
And this lady asked me... | 0:10:58 | 0:11:00 | |
..if I wanted to find her. | 0:11:02 | 0:11:04 | |
Anyway, yes, I did. She had given me a date. | 0:11:06 | 0:11:09 | |
I couldn't wait for two o'clock. | 0:11:12 | 0:11:15 | |
Then suddenly, the phone goes and it's two o'clock, dead on two | 0:11:15 | 0:11:21 | |
and I pick it up and I hear, "Could I speak to Mrs Gosney, please?" | 0:11:21 | 0:11:25 | |
And I went, "Hello, Sister." | 0:11:25 | 0:11:28 | |
She went, "Oh, I don't believe it!" | 0:11:28 | 0:11:30 | |
Jacqueline had found her sister and now they had made contact, | 0:11:31 | 0:11:36 | |
the sisters could start filling in the blanks about just what | 0:11:36 | 0:11:39 | |
had happened 70 years ago. | 0:11:39 | 0:11:41 | |
Sylvia was born two years before Jacqueline. | 0:11:43 | 0:11:46 | |
She was adopted at the age of four. | 0:11:46 | 0:11:48 | |
Being told I was adopted was because of my friend, close friend, | 0:11:48 | 0:11:55 | |
she was adopted too. | 0:11:55 | 0:11:57 | |
And so, I remember talking about her and saying to my mother that she | 0:11:57 | 0:12:02 | |
was adopted and I probably wasn't aware what it meant. | 0:12:02 | 0:12:08 | |
So then Mum chose to tell me that I was similar to her, | 0:12:08 | 0:12:14 | |
that I was adopted, they cared for me. | 0:12:14 | 0:12:19 | |
Now after 70 years apart, the two sisters were back in touch. | 0:12:19 | 0:12:24 | |
They wasted no time in meeting up. | 0:12:24 | 0:12:27 | |
We were going up the stairs and my daughter as we just got to the | 0:12:27 | 0:12:31 | |
top of the stairs said, "Mummy, she's here." | 0:12:31 | 0:12:33 | |
Fell into each other's arms, that was it. Just spontaneously. | 0:12:33 | 0:12:38 | |
I can't believe it. | 0:12:39 | 0:12:41 | |
We hugged and we cried. | 0:12:42 | 0:12:44 | |
And then we went for a drink and we just stayed there for hours... | 0:12:45 | 0:12:50 | |
..just talking and laughing. | 0:12:51 | 0:12:53 | |
And she is such a live wire. She's lovely. And it just clicked. | 0:12:54 | 0:12:59 | |
You're never quite sure how long you've got to look at each other | 0:12:59 | 0:13:02 | |
cos I thought, "Oh, that's what you look like." | 0:13:02 | 0:13:04 | |
I was really chuffed. She looked great. | 0:13:04 | 0:13:08 | |
And we chatted from 11.30 to 3.45. | 0:13:08 | 0:13:12 | |
It's as if I'd known her for years. | 0:13:13 | 0:13:15 | |
No airs and graces, it was just so natural | 0:13:17 | 0:13:23 | |
and so lovely. | 0:13:23 | 0:13:24 | |
The newly reunited sisters still have lots to catch up on. | 0:13:26 | 0:13:31 | |
Today, they are meeting up again to find out more about | 0:13:31 | 0:13:33 | |
the years they spent apart. | 0:13:33 | 0:13:35 | |
I have never seen photographs of Jacq's album and her life | 0:13:35 | 0:13:42 | |
and I've also brought a few of mine. | 0:13:42 | 0:13:45 | |
So, yes, it should be a giggle. | 0:13:45 | 0:13:48 | |
SHE GIGGLES | 0:13:55 | 0:13:57 | |
-Hello! Come in. -Thank you! -Sweetie, what you got? Ooh! | 0:13:57 | 0:14:02 | |
-Love you to bits! Come in, come in. -Thank you. -Come sit down. | 0:14:05 | 0:14:08 | |
Right, I want you to really understand what I was like | 0:14:10 | 0:14:13 | |
when I was first adopted, OK? Here we go. | 0:14:13 | 0:14:17 | |
-Oh, wow! -SYLVIA LAUGHS | 0:14:17 | 0:14:20 | |
I'm just worried about my mouth being opened, but perhaps I was... | 0:14:20 | 0:14:23 | |
-Well, that's not... That's not old, is it? -No. | 0:14:23 | 0:14:27 | |
-It's never been closed since, has it? -How lovely is that? | 0:14:27 | 0:14:32 | |
But, look, you've got to see this, which is hilarious. | 0:14:32 | 0:14:35 | |
That's what I'm really like now, though. Have you got one like that? | 0:14:35 | 0:14:39 | |
-A little bit older, I would say. -Ah! | 0:14:39 | 0:14:42 | |
That's lovely. I do look quite sweet, do I not? | 0:14:42 | 0:14:45 | |
-Yes. -Apparently I was a very... | 0:14:45 | 0:14:47 | |
One changes as they get older, don't they? | 0:14:47 | 0:14:49 | |
-That was me at school as a prefect. -I was one as well. -Were you? -Yes. | 0:14:49 | 0:14:53 | |
-How long for? -Three years. | 0:14:53 | 0:14:55 | |
-This is in Weybridge. -Is that you? -Yes. | 0:14:55 | 0:14:58 | |
You've always remained a corker. | 0:14:58 | 0:15:00 | |
-Gosh, you were pretty, darling. -I like that I "was". -And still are. | 0:15:00 | 0:15:04 | |
Somebody said to me, "You used to be quite attractive." | 0:15:04 | 0:15:07 | |
They said that to me other day. I said, "Thank you." Anyway... | 0:15:07 | 0:15:10 | |
-But the real ones. -Ooh. -Yes. | 0:15:10 | 0:15:13 | |
-And that's you there by the sea. Where did you go? -Pagham. -Yeah. | 0:15:13 | 0:15:18 | |
You ought to see the sort of caravan we stayed in. | 0:15:18 | 0:15:21 | |
-You stayed in a caravan? -SYLVIA LAUGHS | 0:15:21 | 0:15:23 | |
-They're real old-fashioned, though, today. -A little round one. -Yeah. | 0:15:23 | 0:15:26 | |
-That was my mum. -That's your mum? Oh, that's your mum. | 0:15:26 | 0:15:30 | |
That's Tess, the dog. That's... | 0:15:30 | 0:15:32 | |
-Is that your mother? -It is. | 0:15:32 | 0:15:35 | |
-Ironing and she's got a fag in the mouth. -I know. | 0:15:35 | 0:15:37 | |
My mother used to smoke, but she gave up. | 0:15:37 | 0:15:39 | |
No, Mum used to smoke a lot. | 0:15:39 | 0:15:42 | |
-Love the knickers. Look at that. -No, that was a knitted bathing costume. | 0:15:42 | 0:15:46 | |
Every time I went into the water, it stretched! | 0:15:46 | 0:15:49 | |
-Brilliant! -I know. It was yellow and brown. I felt like a bumblebee. | 0:15:51 | 0:15:55 | |
Not a good colour. How awful. | 0:15:55 | 0:15:59 | |
Finally, the sisters have one last piece of their family puzzle | 0:16:01 | 0:16:05 | |
to put into place today. | 0:16:05 | 0:16:07 | |
They're going to see the house where their mother lived | 0:16:07 | 0:16:09 | |
when they were both born. | 0:16:09 | 0:16:12 | |
That's where we used to live all those years and years ago. | 0:16:12 | 0:16:16 | |
-I don't remember a thing. -You don't remember anything. -No. | 0:16:16 | 0:16:20 | |
Well, there you go, Mum. | 0:16:20 | 0:16:21 | |
We're back. | 0:16:23 | 0:16:24 | |
-Little did you think we would be. -Yeah. | 0:16:25 | 0:16:27 | |
Yes, I was actually born there, so that's a full circle now. | 0:16:27 | 0:16:33 | |
Wow, all these years later. 74, in fact. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:35 | |
Yes. | 0:16:36 | 0:16:38 | |
I find finding Jacq's a whole new life, | 0:16:38 | 0:16:45 | |
a whole new venture for me and my family. | 0:16:45 | 0:16:48 | |
She is great. | 0:16:50 | 0:16:52 | |
Ooh, it has been a long journey, but it's been remarkable having met | 0:16:52 | 0:16:56 | |
my sister and I think we both needed to be here together today | 0:16:56 | 0:17:01 | |
and I think that will make it even more of a cemented thing, | 0:17:01 | 0:17:06 | |
that we actually know this is the place we both were | 0:17:06 | 0:17:08 | |
when we were very small. | 0:17:08 | 0:17:10 | |
Incessantly we say it's great to have found each other, don't we? | 0:17:10 | 0:17:14 | |
Yes. Ooh, I'm so lucky, it's great. | 0:17:18 | 0:17:22 | |
We're both lucky. | 0:17:22 | 0:17:23 | |
And the fact that we get on so well. | 0:17:24 | 0:17:26 | |
Yeah, we do, don't we? | 0:17:28 | 0:17:29 | |
We laugh a lot, we chat a lot, we're everything... | 0:17:29 | 0:17:32 | |
And I just know we can always be together | 0:17:32 | 0:17:34 | |
and confide in each other and be there for each other. | 0:17:34 | 0:17:37 | |
Yeah. Always. | 0:17:37 | 0:17:39 | |
-Yes, we're proud. -It's good. | 0:17:40 | 0:17:42 | |
Enough. | 0:17:44 | 0:17:45 | |
In you go, Sis. | 0:17:48 | 0:17:50 | |
In Reading, Tracey and Teresa's search for their long lost | 0:17:57 | 0:18:01 | |
half-sister Lesley had hit a brick wall. | 0:18:01 | 0:18:04 | |
Very frustrating because I got | 0:18:04 | 0:18:05 | |
folders galore, certificates galore, but the one person | 0:18:05 | 0:18:08 | |
I was really trying to find, I couldn't find. | 0:18:08 | 0:18:11 | |
After the death of their shared father, | 0:18:13 | 0:18:15 | |
they made one final attempt to find her | 0:18:15 | 0:18:18 | |
this time with the help of a professional family finding company. | 0:18:18 | 0:18:22 | |
There wasn't a match for Lesley with the surname that she was born with. | 0:18:22 | 0:18:26 | |
We then started to look at her mother and what she'd done | 0:18:26 | 0:18:30 | |
after the separation from Lesley's father | 0:18:30 | 0:18:33 | |
and found that she'd remarried in the 1960s and saw that | 0:18:33 | 0:18:36 | |
her surname had changed. | 0:18:36 | 0:18:39 | |
The researchers discovered that Lesley had officially adopted | 0:18:39 | 0:18:42 | |
her stepfather's surname. | 0:18:42 | 0:18:44 | |
This is why Teresa and Tracey hadn't been able to find her. | 0:18:44 | 0:18:48 | |
So, although this was a fairly short trace, | 0:18:48 | 0:18:50 | |
we did find an awful lot of information and there was | 0:18:50 | 0:18:53 | |
a lot to get through before we were then able to go away | 0:18:53 | 0:18:55 | |
and trace her to her current address. | 0:18:55 | 0:18:58 | |
The best part of our job is being able to phone our clients | 0:18:58 | 0:19:01 | |
and tell them that we've been successful in the search. | 0:19:01 | 0:19:04 | |
So it's wonderful for us to be able to do it because | 0:19:04 | 0:19:07 | |
we know how much it means to the people that come to us. | 0:19:07 | 0:19:11 | |
It was absolutely amazing because I spoke to her in the morning and | 0:19:11 | 0:19:14 | |
by the afternoon, she had found out what Lesley had changed her | 0:19:14 | 0:19:19 | |
name to and tracked her down and, yeah, found her within 24 hours. | 0:19:19 | 0:19:24 | |
It was just...you know, amazing. | 0:19:24 | 0:19:26 | |
-You phoned me, I was in the high street. -Yes. | 0:19:26 | 0:19:29 | |
And I let out a big scream in the middle of the high street. | 0:19:29 | 0:19:32 | |
The family finding company contacted the Lesley they had found | 0:19:35 | 0:19:39 | |
to confirm she was the right person. | 0:19:39 | 0:19:42 | |
When I spoke to the lady on the phone, she said, | 0:19:42 | 0:19:46 | |
"Do you know this Lesley Probert?" I said, "Yeah, it's me." | 0:19:46 | 0:19:50 | |
"Do you know a Teresa and Tracey?" I said, "Yeah, they're my sisters." | 0:19:50 | 0:19:55 | |
And she said, "Thank God we found you." | 0:19:55 | 0:19:59 | |
And I thought they must've been looking for me. | 0:19:59 | 0:20:03 | |
I don't know how long they'd been looking. | 0:20:03 | 0:20:06 | |
It was just... It was amazing. to think that she actually... | 0:20:06 | 0:20:10 | |
Well, right from that we knew she'd probably wanted to be in touch. | 0:20:10 | 0:20:14 | |
After making contact through the family finding company, | 0:20:14 | 0:20:18 | |
now the sisters could be put in touch directly. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:21 | |
I said, "Yeah, I do want to be in contact, yeah," | 0:20:21 | 0:20:23 | |
so I gave her my e-mail address and it's just been constant. | 0:20:23 | 0:20:29 | |
We sent an e-mail just to sort of say hi. | 0:20:29 | 0:20:33 | |
We even worried about what to put in the subject line, actually. | 0:20:33 | 0:20:37 | |
"What shall we put, what shall we put?" | 0:20:37 | 0:20:39 | |
-And we just put... -It's Teresa and Tracey, sort of thing. | 0:20:39 | 0:20:41 | |
-I think we were so more worried about putting her off, weren't we? -Yeah. | 0:20:41 | 0:20:44 | |
For the last two weeks, Teresa and Tracey | 0:20:44 | 0:20:46 | |
have only been in touch with Lesley by e-mail. | 0:20:46 | 0:20:49 | |
Much of their older sister's early life is still a mystery. | 0:20:49 | 0:20:53 | |
Lesley's parents, Brian and Rita, had married in 1954. | 0:20:54 | 0:20:58 | |
Two years later, Lesley arrived, but her parents split up | 0:20:58 | 0:21:02 | |
while she was still a toddler. | 0:21:02 | 0:21:03 | |
I can't remember them being together... | 0:21:03 | 0:21:06 | |
..cos I think I was only about two when they split up. | 0:21:08 | 0:21:12 | |
But I do remember going to my father's house where | 0:21:12 | 0:21:16 | |
he lived with my nan and grandad. | 0:21:16 | 0:21:18 | |
Years ago, parents didn't divorce too often | 0:21:20 | 0:21:24 | |
and so I was sort of an outcast. | 0:21:24 | 0:21:26 | |
"Ooh, where's your dad, then? Why don't you live with your dad?" | 0:21:26 | 0:21:30 | |
And then I was bullied at school because of my surname. | 0:21:30 | 0:21:33 | |
So the kids used to say Probert the robot. | 0:21:33 | 0:21:38 | |
My mum remarried when I was six so my mum said, | 0:21:38 | 0:21:42 | |
"Do you want to change your name by deed poll?" | 0:21:42 | 0:21:45 | |
Think about it and she explained to me what's going on to do that. | 0:21:45 | 0:21:50 | |
And I said, "Yes." | 0:21:50 | 0:21:52 | |
From then on, everything was in the name of Cross. | 0:21:52 | 0:21:57 | |
Lesley's birth father, Brian, had also remarried | 0:21:59 | 0:22:02 | |
and had Teresa and Tracey. | 0:22:02 | 0:22:05 | |
Although the two families lived near each other, there was no | 0:22:05 | 0:22:07 | |
contact until 1974. | 0:22:07 | 0:22:10 | |
I was 17. I knew by this time that he had remarried and got children. | 0:22:10 | 0:22:18 | |
I think I just got up one morning and thought, "I'm going to go | 0:22:18 | 0:22:21 | |
"and see if they still live in Sunningdale Avenue." | 0:22:21 | 0:22:25 | |
I was intrigued to meet them. | 0:22:25 | 0:22:29 | |
Um, I think that's what made me go and knock on the door, really. | 0:22:30 | 0:22:35 | |
And I can remember Tracey answering the door. | 0:22:35 | 0:22:37 | |
She was only little and I thought, | 0:22:37 | 0:22:39 | |
"God, it it's like looking in a mirror." | 0:22:39 | 0:22:41 | |
I thought, "Yeah, I've definitely got the right house." | 0:22:41 | 0:22:44 | |
It's a little mini me standing there. | 0:22:44 | 0:22:46 | |
I was getting married that year. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:50 | |
I just really wanted them to be a part of it. | 0:22:50 | 0:22:54 | |
But her two half-sisters were soon to disappear from Lesley's life. | 0:22:55 | 0:22:59 | |
For a couple of years, they were part of my life and then, | 0:23:00 | 0:23:05 | |
I don't know, all of a sudden, they just moved. | 0:23:05 | 0:23:08 | |
I never heard from him again. | 0:23:08 | 0:23:10 | |
I just put it down that he didn't want me in their lives, really, | 0:23:11 | 0:23:17 | |
so that's another reason why I didn't look for them. | 0:23:17 | 0:23:21 | |
I didn't really want to be rejected. | 0:23:21 | 0:23:23 | |
The sisters found each other just two weeks ago. | 0:23:24 | 0:23:28 | |
They still haven't met yet. | 0:23:28 | 0:23:30 | |
Tomorrow, they will see each other for the first time | 0:23:30 | 0:23:32 | |
since they lost touch all those years ago. | 0:23:32 | 0:23:35 | |
It's been a whole mixture of emotions all the way along, | 0:23:35 | 0:23:39 | |
but I think now that we're getting closer and closer | 0:23:39 | 0:23:41 | |
to meeting her, it's just excitement. | 0:23:41 | 0:23:44 | |
To meet Lesley, it's going to mean the world. I really can't wait. | 0:23:44 | 0:23:48 | |
It will be fantastic. | 0:23:48 | 0:23:50 | |
I've always wanted more family, to be honest with you, | 0:23:50 | 0:23:53 | |
and this might be the chance. | 0:23:53 | 0:23:56 | |
I don't think I'm going to sleep properly tonight knowing that | 0:23:56 | 0:23:59 | |
they're going to be here. | 0:23:59 | 0:24:01 | |
It's hours away now and in two and a half weeks, | 0:24:01 | 0:24:04 | |
it's just gone crazy and now it's down to hours. | 0:24:04 | 0:24:09 | |
Absolute... I'm... Oh! | 0:24:09 | 0:24:11 | |
I'm bursting. I'm bursting! | 0:24:11 | 0:24:14 | |
-The big day's here now. -Yeah. I can't wait to meet her. No. | 0:24:22 | 0:24:26 | |
-I wonder what she looks like. -I know! -Will she look like us? | 0:24:26 | 0:24:28 | |
I wonder if she's as nervous as we are. | 0:24:28 | 0:24:30 | |
All this waiting and finally, it's going to happen, isn't it? | 0:24:32 | 0:24:35 | |
It's almost a lifetime...we've lost. | 0:24:37 | 0:24:41 | |
All those years when we could've been... | 0:24:41 | 0:24:44 | |
..we could've been really close all those years. | 0:24:45 | 0:24:49 | |
-I've got butterflies in my stomach. -Have you? -What about you? | 0:24:49 | 0:24:52 | |
I've got a massive moth, I think. | 0:24:52 | 0:24:54 | |
Oh, this is getting almost unbearable. | 0:24:57 | 0:24:59 | |
That's the road. That's the name of the road? | 0:25:02 | 0:25:06 | |
-What, Lesley's? -Yeah. -Oh, my gosh! | 0:25:06 | 0:25:09 | |
Oh, my God. | 0:25:11 | 0:25:13 | |
After being separated for most of their lives, now the three sisters | 0:25:18 | 0:25:23 | |
can finally be reunited. | 0:25:23 | 0:25:25 | |
Oh, my God. | 0:25:25 | 0:25:26 | |
ALL THREE SOB AND LAUGH | 0:25:30 | 0:25:32 | |
-I can't believe it's been so long. So long. -40 years! -I know. | 0:25:38 | 0:25:42 | |
Where does the time go, huh? | 0:25:42 | 0:25:44 | |
-This is the strangest thing, isn't it? -Yeah. -I know, it is. | 0:25:44 | 0:25:48 | |
-Do we look anything like we did? -No. -No! -No! -Good, good. | 0:25:48 | 0:25:53 | |
No, not a bit. | 0:25:53 | 0:25:55 | |
-It's really nice to see you, it really is. -Yeah, it really is. | 0:25:55 | 0:25:59 | |
Now they are back together, Teresa, Tracey and Lesley | 0:26:00 | 0:26:03 | |
can start to fill in the blanks of the last four decades | 0:26:03 | 0:26:06 | |
and solve some of the family mysteries. | 0:26:06 | 0:26:09 | |
-Did you go through school as Lesley Probert? -No. -Oh! | 0:26:09 | 0:26:13 | |
-I was getting bullied at school because of my surname. -Oh, right. | 0:26:13 | 0:26:18 | |
-Until we all became... -And that's why I couldn't find you on Ancestry. | 0:26:18 | 0:26:23 | |
They have years to catch up on. | 0:26:26 | 0:26:28 | |
And there's one photo that has special significance for them all. | 0:26:28 | 0:26:31 | |
Pictures already. | 0:26:34 | 0:26:36 | |
-Oh, there we are! -You've got that horr...that dress on. | 0:26:36 | 0:26:38 | |
No, you loved that dress. | 0:26:38 | 0:26:40 | |
It was long. | 0:26:40 | 0:26:42 | |
-Wow. -You can just see your head. -You can see my little head popping out. | 0:26:42 | 0:26:46 | |
So, it was your wedding day. | 0:26:46 | 0:26:48 | |
And look at me in that yellow jacket, wow. | 0:26:48 | 0:26:52 | |
Tracey, I'm so glad you put your head forward like that. | 0:26:53 | 0:26:55 | |
While they reminisce about the years passed, after nearly half | 0:26:57 | 0:27:00 | |
a century apart, the sisters can now look forward to a future together. | 0:27:00 | 0:27:06 | |
It's been brilliant and I really feel like I know Lesley already | 0:27:07 | 0:27:12 | |
even though it's just been today. And, no, I'll never forget it. | 0:27:12 | 0:27:17 | |
It's been wonderful. | 0:27:17 | 0:27:18 | |
I've only met her a few hours now, | 0:27:20 | 0:27:22 | |
but I feel like I've known her all my life | 0:27:22 | 0:27:23 | |
and we've got a lot of catching up to do. | 0:27:23 | 0:27:25 | |
And I feel that we've missed out, | 0:27:25 | 0:27:27 | |
I really do, but now's the time to make up. | 0:27:27 | 0:27:29 | |
To be in contact with them is just the best. It's lovely. | 0:27:31 | 0:27:37 | |
I'm not an only child any more. | 0:27:37 | 0:27:39 | |
I wish it had happened sooner. | 0:27:40 | 0:27:43 | |
I do wish it had happened sooner, but it's happened now and it's... | 0:27:43 | 0:27:48 | |
That's going to be us. We're family now. That's it. | 0:27:50 | 0:27:54 |