Update The World's Strictest Parents


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Catch up with British teens who travelled to the far corners of the globe to live with new parents under strict rules. Did their time away make a difference on their return?


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All across Britain, teenagers are out of control.

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I was brought here on this earth to party.

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And parents don't know which way to turn.

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She's a very beautiful, 16-year-old pain in the arse.

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-Everyone in Brighton is just high on life.

-He needs to sort his life out, he is lost.

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I am what I am and if you don't like it, then jog on.

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This year, 20 wayward British teens volunteered to experience

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firm discipline and strict rules in the far corners of the world.

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-You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados!

-Get off me bruv, what are you doing?

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You are not 16, you are six years old.

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I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.

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-Stand your ground!

-I'm going home, bro.

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This is our rule, if you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.

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Tonight we find out if their experiences made any lasting impressions on their lives back home.

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We don't argue now which is a really weird thing after nine years of straight arguing.

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It made me want to be a better dad and a better person.

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I thought the full family was just out of their mind.

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We don't argue at all, don't even bicker, it's a mother and daughter relationship, how it should be.

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Back in August, 16-year-old Sevda Huseyin was rebelling against everything.

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People say my attitude stinks, but at the end of the day, I love my attitude, it's who I am.

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She does like to put on the impression

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that she is kind of tough and hard, but then she is.

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-I got in a fight with that shopkeeper.

-Yeah, so did I. He's an arsehole.

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Everyone has a guard up around here. I had a fight in Wood Green,

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I had a fight in Finsbury Park, had a, ah, everywhere, man.

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I can't even remember half of them, to be honest.

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Sevda has dropped out of school without a single GCSE.

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School was shit.

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It was shit. Hate school.

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You've got no education behind you, no nothing behind you. Nothing.

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-I can't be bothered, Mum, to hear it again.

-I know you can't be bothered.

-It just does my head in.

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She just doesn't care. It just really,

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something shading over her, she just doesn't care.

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Over in Sussex, 17-year-old Andrew Harwood thought he was a rock star.

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Average day, wake up midday after an hour or so of lying in bed, smoking, a couple of drinks,

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head back to my girlfriend's house, start drinking, smoke, meet up till like five in the morning.

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On average that's a pretty good day.

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Andrew was a promising student, but blew his education.

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I can't even remember how many GCSEs I've got, like three or something.

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I've wasted about 120 grand of my parents' money in private school.

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With all the pain in my heart I must say that I am highly disappointed.

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Recently separated, Mum found it hard dealing with Andrew by herself.

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Make me feel like I have done a crappy job as a parent.

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I'm just terrified as a parent, I am honestly facing something that is frightening me.

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He's not going anywhere.

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Masses of potential wasted.

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The teens travelled 5,000 miles to San Antonio, Texas, to live with the Frazees,

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a deeply religious family with deeply conservative beliefs.

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When our children prove to be trustworthy, we give them more freedoms.

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When they prove to be untrustworthy, we take those freedoms and privileges away.

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As we were approaching the house it was...

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Me and Andrew were just so nervous.

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Ah, they're there.

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Oh, my God. Home sweet home. Joke. It was like oh, my God, this is really happening.

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Just seeing them there like,

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I swear I was having a panic attack.

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I don't think my heart has ever gone that fast in my life as we were just pulling up.

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-I'm Randy.

-Hi, Randy.

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We're the mom and dad of the family.

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-Andrew.

-Hi Andrew, nice to meet you. Welcome to Texas.

-Thank you very much.

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Right from the off, the Frazees made clear what was important to them.

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If you're going to look at any of them as the biggest of all, this next one is really it.

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It is not just lying, it's trust.

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Trust is the ace for us.

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The Frazees and trust. Oh, my God.

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If you are trustworthy, you get more privileges.

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If you prove to be untrustworthy then you'll see the other side of this,

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where for your sake we are buckling down.

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But their key rule fell on deaf ears.

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Shh.

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Rozanne was coming to check my room.

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She looked in all the wrong places and I was just smiling at her like, you idiot.

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But trying to smoke her secret stash did not go well.

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-There is a cigarette in there, I'm assuming.

-No, I need to go toilet.

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OK. We have a bathroom right over here. No, Sevda, Sevda.

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No, I need the toilet. Get off me, bruv. What are you doing? What are you doing?

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-We have another bathroom.

-Why are you touching me for?

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I thought "What? Like, do you know what, forget this man, forget this, I can't do it any more."

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We have another bathroom that you can use.

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Why are you touching me for? I am going home, bruv.

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I kind of lost my temper a bit.

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If I hadn't moved from her, I would have hit her or something.

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Open the door man, I am going home, I'm done.

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Go about putting your hands on me, are you stupid? Are you stupid?

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-Dickhead.

-SUCKS HER TEETH

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Don't film me bruv, seriously.

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I had a really bad attitude that day, like, thinking of it now,

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I am kind of embarrassed because no-one respects that Sevda.

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Why are you coming here for?

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-Go away!

-When you are ready to talk like an adult...

-Piss off.

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I was thinking "Oh, my God, she wants me to come in the

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house and lock me my room forever," that's what I thought.

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I should've listened to her though.

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I think it was from like three o'clock to like ten o'clock at night

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I laid on their lawn and I would not go in their house.

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Go away, let me sleep.

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But I knew that this can't go on, I either go home, yeah, and fail,

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and I am not going to be a failure, or I go in there and I apologise.

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And as stubborn as I was, I got up and I walked in that house.

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My legs were literally shaking and I was gritting my teeth going, "Sevda, what are you doing?

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"Where is your pride?" and I was breathing, so I goes, "Hi Rozanne and Randy.

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"Can I talk to you please?"

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Sorry.

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For what exactly? What do you think you did wrong?

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-I lost my temper.

-Me, too.

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I accept your apology.

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I'm so stubborn, but I dropped my stubbornness, I really did.

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Just so I wouldn't fail, and that is one thing about the Frazees, if you

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apologise and talk to them, your point comes across more.

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We care about you. We are going to walk with you, and we expect for you to make mistakes

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and start over again.

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That's called forgiveness.

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I was really happy after that. I was so grateful.

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For Andrew, his Texan experience hit home in a very different way.

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Welcome to Prospect Courtyard.

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The Frazees' plan was to make Andrew see just how privileged he was, and to stop him being so self-absorbed.

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This is a facility where we bring people in that traditionally sleep under the bridge, out in the park.

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There are some dangerous individuals so you do have to be careful.

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The first time I went to Haven For Hope, I didn't like it at all.

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I don't mean to sound like a pompous stuck-up little dick, but so ungrateful.

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I despise seeing humans in that sort of condition and state.

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I found it sort of horrible, to be honest. They don't have anything in their eyes.

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There is no spark, no life, you can't see any hope.

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A lot of what you see is fear.

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Other people are not going to do anything about it, that's why we're here.

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I don't know if I can do it.

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At first my attitude towards the homeless people, I was really

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closed minded, but gradually like I had to do the whole confronting them and talking to them, which I hated.

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Like that is the bit I couldn't do.

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When I was where you come from, it is the same way.

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Homeless people, really?

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Hey, let me get a dollar. Man, get a job.

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When you hit that level that they are on, there's no more looking down.

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It's like wow. You know what?

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I've got a whole newfound respects for all these individuals.

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Hey, man. It was cool meeting you.

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It really, really like changed my opinion in the end because I finally

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got to hear like why they were there and, like, their circumstances.

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-It just makes me realise how much of a

-BLEEP

-I have been!

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-The money I wasted on school could have bought these people a

-BLEEP

-house!

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You've made some huge progress my friend, all right? I'm proud of you.

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It just changed my mind again on so many points.

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Like so many things I was doing wrong towards like my whole family and my parents and stuff. It...

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For both Andrew and Sevda, the Frazees helped open their eyes to a different way of life.

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We will miss you guys.

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It has been an honour to have you in our home and

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we want you to live life to the full with everything you have in you, OK?

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I was really sad to leave the Frazees, they were so kind

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and caring, just something you don't really get these days.

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They have actually got the biggest heart of gold.

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I swear to God.

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-Bye.

-Bye.

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Two months later, and Sevda's life is looking very different.

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I am in college now, studying catering, hospitality.

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I love it, love everyone in my class, they're wonderful.

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It's like I'm going to be successful, I'm going

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to be successful and college is the start of it, it really is.

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I'm delighted she is at college.

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Her eyes have just been opened to the fact that there's

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more to life than Sevda.

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I made a risotto yesterday at college.

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-And the day before you made mushroom soup, was it?

-Yeah.

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Might go instead, I'm not sure.

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There's so much more respect there, like, me and my mum get along so much better now.

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Yeah, it's all right, you know.

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Home life now is a lot more relaxed,

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you're not walking round on eggshells with her, you're more...

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You come in and, "Hi Sev, what have you done today?", and, you know, normality.

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Whereas before it would just be "Oh, God, what kind of mood is she in?" or, "Is she even up?"

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-Sev, could you take that washing out and put it in the dryer for me?

-Yeah.

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'I ain't got attitude all the time now.'

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I'm more softer, I'm more like considerate of people's feelings.

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I cannot thank the Frazee family enough for what they've done.

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They've sent me back a new girl,

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and my heart is with you, thank you so much.

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People might think "Oh, Sevda, you're not going to do it."

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Watch, watch, please watch.

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I've never been so determined in my life, man.

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For Andrew, there have been changes as well.

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At college this year I'm hoping that I'm going to get onto

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the courses I've applied for, and I have also applied to redo my GCSEs.

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I want to be able to actually have like high enough grades

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so when I do eventually go to uni I'll get in with no problem.

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I've definitely managed to get over the guilt that I had

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about messing up my education.

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It was just unnecessary baggage and it was just holding me down.

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I think he had the opportunity to re-evaluate his life.

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He understood finally that without an education you cannot move forward.

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I have also changed in terms of how I help around the house and stuff,

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like cleaning my room and actually just...

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being less of an arse.

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Before he was a couch potato,

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and all he wanted was, "Mum, take me here, take me there, give me money" - that's it.

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He's more considerate.

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He puts more thought in what he says and what he does.

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We like don't argue now, which is a really, really weird thing,

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after like nine years of straight arguing.

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SHE MUMBLES

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It is going to be good, I just know it is.

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Nine months ago, 19-year-old Wes McGillian

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spent every weekend searching out his next conquest.

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The plan is like going out having a good time, and then seeing what's knocking about.

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Even if it's a pull, not even a shag, it's just good enough.

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But busy with his playboy lifestyle, Wes was ignoring big news at home.

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My ex-girlfriend is now pregnant with my child.

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She told me on the computer, on Facebook.

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He was refusing to take on the responsibility of becoming a father.

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What I'm doing about the baby is nothing.

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I just don't want to think about it.

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His mum was at her wits' end.

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Because you've got to plan.

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Plan what?

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Plan, you've got to save, you've got to buy a cot, got to buy a pram...

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How can I do that then?

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You're going to have to get a part-time job

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and work extra hard, as parents. That's what you have to do in life.

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'Every child should have their dad around them'

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and be in their life 24/7, basically,

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and that's why I really want to push Wesley to think about

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his responsibility to his baby. I don't want him to be a part-time dad.

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Everyone in Brighton is just high on life.

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At the same time, 16-year-old Tamsin Carruthers-Cole

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had a broken relationship with her family.

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I have a life at home,

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and then a different life outside of my home,

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and this is all secret.

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Her party lifestyle was starting to get out of control.

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I have tried a lot of drugs.

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Like everything, really.

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I don't know what goes on in her social life or what kind of

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peer pressure there is, so of course I worry as a parent.

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'She's a very beautiful 16-year-old pain in the arse.'

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But Mum and Dad didn't know how to reach her

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and were becoming scared they might lose their daughter.

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'She's dropped out of college. I mean she's not doing anything.'

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You know, we'd always done music for example,

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all those things went out the window.

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Most of her problems are because she doesn't say what she's really feeling, it just comes out as anger.

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The teens were sent 3,000 miles away to America's East Coast,

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where they'd stay with the Loperleveille family.

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Joe and Scott have been together for 19 years

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and have a straight-talking approach to parenting.

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Am I friends with my children? No.

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'I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.'

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Joe and Scott adopt and foster kids

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who would otherwise live in state-run children's homes.

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Most of the children that come to us

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come to us from a background that is somehow damaged,

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and I think it's important to have an open, honest

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line of communication between parent and child.

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When the teens touched down, they had no idea what to expect.

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The opportunity to go to America was like one in a million, so I had to grab it.

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And, like, it's just crazy how different it is.

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I had it in my head that it was going to be a cult,

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I thought they would be over-the-top religious people.

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And then two gay men stood there waiting for us. I was shocked.

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Hello, how do you do? I guess you probably didn't expect this.

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Welcome.

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-I'm Wes.

-Hi, I'm Tamsin.

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It's like the one thing you don't think is that you're going to be staying with two men without a mum.

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And then we went inside, and it was all boys

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and it was kind of like even more of a shock

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because I was like the only girl.

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But shock quickly turned to anger

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as soon as they were asked to comply with the first house rule.

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Have you ever been asked to take any kind of a drug test?

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-No.

-How about you?

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No.

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Well, you're going to today,

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because every child that comes into this house is drug-tested.

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'Walking into someone's house for the first time'

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and then you are greeted with, like, to piss in a pot for a drugs test,

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it was like you're being accused of something you haven't done.

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I wasn't expecting to have to do a drugs test, definitely wasn't expecting that.

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'I just thought they were a bit crazy.'

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We're trying to prevent something from happening.

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Personally, I don't really want to do it

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because I don't want my mum knowing anything.

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This is our rule - if you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it,

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because I'm going to tell you right now, it's not just you.

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'I just really didn't want to do it, and it made me really angry'

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the fact that I had to do it, and I got quite pissed off, really.

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Scott and Joe insisted on the test

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as a way of making Tamsin reveal the truth about her drug-taking.

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I don't know how I can make it any clearer to you.

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Their persistence paid off,

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but it revealed more than they'd anticipated.

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OK, I admit it, I've had a major drugs problem, I've been addicted to drugs,

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and I'm not proud of it at all, and I don't want anyone to know, but it's too late now.

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I found it really hard to speak about drugs to them,

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because I've never really been open with an adult about it before,

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and it was something that I was really ashamed of.

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What have you experimented with?

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Meow, which is the drug that I had been doing...

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Have you ever sat your mother down?

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I've spoken to her about it.

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And said in a calm rational fashion, or did you yell?

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No, I cried.

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Opening up for the first time was the first step on the road to recovery for Tamsin.

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'I knew that if I could say it to them, who I'd only just met,

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I could tell my mum, which made me feel a lot happier'

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because it's something that needed to be done, because there was just too many secrets.

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While Tamsin began to wrestle her demons,

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it was time for workshy Wes to get a wake-up call to the real world.

0:19:080:19:13

Nice to meet you, Wesley.

0:19:130:19:15

I have never really worked, really.

0:19:150:19:17

-You've never worked?

-No.

0:19:170:19:19

-What, are you rich?

-No.

0:19:190:19:21

'I kept thinking'

0:19:210:19:22

it's going to be a holiday, I'm in America and I'm going to do all these things.

0:19:220:19:26

Then to send me to work, I was a bit pissed off.

0:19:260:19:30

I'd never worked in a restaurant before, so it's like, "What can I do?"

0:19:300:19:34

Ugh, there's a floater!

0:19:340:19:36

But Wes persisted, and was amazed to discover

0:19:380:19:42

that working can actually be quite fulfilling.

0:19:420:19:46

-There you go, sir.

-You're doing a fine job.

-Cheers, thank you.

0:19:460:19:49

'Working hard,'

0:19:510:19:52

and trying to ensure that, you know, you can do it,

0:19:520:19:55

'I felt like I achieved something.' There you go, enjoy.

0:19:550:19:58

-Thank you.

-I hope the experience was good for you?

0:19:580:20:01

Yes, I've loved it, every minute of it.

0:20:010:20:03

-Your wages.

-Thanks very much.

0:20:030:20:06

Getting that envelope full of money was like, I've got that,

0:20:060:20:08

not just asked my mum or my mates for a bit of money.

0:20:080:20:11

It felt really good.

0:20:110:20:13

Following his success at the diner,

0:20:140:20:17

the time had come for Wes to face up to his impending fatherhood,

0:20:170:20:21

and admit his big secret to the Dads.

0:20:210:20:24

-I'm going to be a dad.

-You're going to be a dad?

-Yeah.

0:20:260:20:29

'I was scared to be honest, I didn't know how they would take it,

0:20:290:20:33

'cos obviously they've got foster kids. Very daunting.'

0:20:330:20:37

I can't imagine a bigger responsibility

0:20:370:20:42

than being a father to someone.

0:20:420:20:44

I know, but I feel at this age I shouldn't have any responsibilities,

0:20:440:20:48

because I can't look after myself, let alone a kid.

0:20:480:20:51

'Joe was basically my rock out there,'

0:20:510:20:54

he was the one helping me out and talking through things with me

0:20:540:20:57

and making me realise this is what I have to do. He was my dad out there.

0:20:570:21:01

He just talked to me, instead of talking at me, he just talked to me.

0:21:010:21:04

But Joe did more than talk.

0:21:050:21:07

He wanted to give Wes a sense of the joy parenting can bring.

0:21:070:21:12

-Hello.

-Hiya, I am Andrea.

-Nice to meet you.

0:21:120:21:15

I've actually asked you to come over so you can help me with my son.

0:21:150:21:19

I was nervous as hell and like... because I'd never done it before,

0:21:190:21:22

and to be looking after someone else's kid,

0:21:220:21:25

and you have their life in your hands, and it was scary.

0:21:250:21:29

Look at that. "Chicks dig me," yeah.

0:21:320:21:36

'Everybody was too busy saying, "You need to get a job, and you need to do this."'

0:21:360:21:40

They never said, "You're going to absolutely love the time

0:21:400:21:44

"you spend with your daughter, and how much you're going to love them."

0:21:440:21:48

I felt guilty as well,

0:22:000:22:02

I felt bad that my attitude to being a dad was so bad.

0:22:020:22:06

Meeting Trey was the turning point,

0:22:060:22:09

just the enjoyment I had just spending time with him,

0:22:090:22:12

and I thought to myself, "This is what I'll be doing with my daughter,

0:22:120:22:15

"but I will love my daughter, and just seeing her smile

0:22:150:22:19

"and playing with her would make me feel 100 times better."

0:22:190:22:23

I just want to do the best I can, and be a good dad.

0:22:230:22:27

As the week drew to a close,

0:22:330:22:35

Tamsin continued to open up to Scott about her problems at home.

0:22:350:22:40

I really trusted him, and found it easy to talk to him, because he really opened up to me.

0:22:400:22:46

My childhood was different.

0:22:460:22:47

A lot different than yours.

0:22:470:22:49

I was adopted.

0:22:490:22:51

Badly, badly treated.

0:22:510:22:54

He made me feel I could really learn from my mistakes

0:22:540:22:57

and that he just wanted to help me and wanted me to have a good relationship with my mum

0:22:570:23:02

because he hadn't had that.

0:23:020:23:04

I think I got a lot out of talking about family stuff with Scott.

0:23:080:23:11

It made me realise a lot more, I should open up more about things, I shouldn't keep them bottled up.

0:23:110:23:17

But, with the teens about to return to England, Scott had a surprise proposal for Tamsin.

0:23:190:23:25

How would you feel about staying here for a couple more weeks with me?

0:23:250:23:30

I'd love to.

0:23:300:23:31

-Would you?

-Yeah.

-We would love to have you stay.

0:23:310:23:36

It was a first for World's Strictest Parents, a British teenager actually wanting rules.

0:23:360:23:44

I didn't even think twice about saying yes when Scott asked me to stay,

0:23:440:23:48

because I was really benefiting from it

0:23:480:23:49

and was becoming a lot happier, just by talking about things.

0:23:490:23:53

And I knew that spending more time with Scott would make me a lot happier

0:23:530:23:58

and make things at home work a lot more.

0:23:580:24:01

-Be a good boy.

-Thank you. You're brilliant dads, absolutely brilliant dads.

0:24:030:24:08

You're going to be a brilliant dad too.

0:24:080:24:10

I didn't want to leave,

0:24:100:24:12

I weren't expecting to get close to the family, but I got attached. I got attached to them all,

0:24:120:24:17

and it was hard to leave them.

0:24:170:24:19

Five months on, and Wes is the father of a two-month-old baby girl.

0:24:250:24:30

You really cannot describe the feeling you get when you first hold your child.

0:24:300:24:34

It's brilliant, an amazing feeling.

0:24:340:24:37

He absolutely bonded with her from the minute of seeing her. He talks about her all the time.

0:24:370:24:42

I actually catch him looking at photographs of her when he's not seeing her.

0:24:420:24:47

There you go, happy now.

0:24:470:24:50

Being on the show definitely changed the way I was going about things and it made me want

0:24:500:24:56

to be a better dad and a better person.

0:24:560:24:59

Wes now sees his little girl regularly, and is determined to stay involved with her life.

0:24:590:25:05

The way Joe was with me, and seeing the way he was with his kids, I want to be like a dad like Joe.

0:25:050:25:12

I could be here now, not even involved in my daughter's life,

0:25:120:25:15

and that would have been a stupid, stupid move to do.

0:25:150:25:19

Over in Sussex did three weeks with the gay dads make a lasting impression on Tamsin?

0:25:210:25:28

It definitely was life changing, staying with Scott and Joe, because I'm so much happier now.

0:25:280:25:34

I have a so much better relationship with my mum and my dad and my sister.

0:25:340:25:38

Before, me and my mum, like, couldn't talk, and now me and my mum talk about a lot.

0:25:380:25:45

It's nice to have a relationship with her that isn't screaming at each other.

0:25:450:25:49

Tamsin is definitely happier, she's just the Tamsin we used to know that kind of disappeared,

0:25:490:25:54

and now she's come back.

0:25:540:25:55

She's a really sweet person, and really caring and lovely.

0:25:550:25:59

If she stays on the road she's on, the sky's the limit.

0:25:590:26:04

I'm really, really glad that I went and I met some amazing people who

0:26:040:26:08

I'll hopefully stay in contact for all my life.

0:26:080:26:11

Eight months ago, Nicki Stygall was terrorising her local community.

0:26:170:26:23

Nicola is an absolute nightmare child.

0:26:250:26:27

She's uncontrollable, she doesn't do what she's told.

0:26:270:26:31

I live how I want to live. I party how I want to party.

0:26:310:26:36

But when Nicki drank, she'd show a darker side.

0:26:360:26:39

Oh, my God, look who it is! That's the girl I went to fight in college.

0:26:390:26:44

I'm worried about Nicki when she goes out drinking.

0:26:440:26:46

Her temper does flare up, and she does show a very ugly side.

0:26:460:26:52

You, yeah, you walk off, I'll get you in college.

0:26:520:26:55

'If someone pisses me off, I'm having them.'

0:26:550:26:58

'It doesn't matter what they've done or haven't done, I'm going for them.'

0:26:580:27:03

Yeah, I went to anger management and got kicked out of anger management,

0:27:030:27:06

for being angry.

0:27:060:27:08

Meanwhile in Essex, 18-year-old Jerri MacVeigh

0:27:090:27:13

was living a WAG's lifestyle.

0:27:130:27:15

I just want to come across a footballer, and have a Bentley and a Range Rover.

0:27:150:27:21

I'd love that, just go shopping, wake up, "Here's 60 grand to spend."

0:27:210:27:25

You'd just go spend it, wouldn't you? Go in Harrods and that.

0:27:250:27:29

I do think that Jerri is trying to live a celebrity lifestyle

0:27:290:27:34

before earning the right to do so.

0:27:340:27:38

She refused to get a job, and sponged money off her parents to finance her self-indulgent lifestyle.

0:27:380:27:45

-Dad, can I have an extra tenner? Please, Dad.

-Yeah, yeah, all right.

-Thanks.

0:27:450:27:49

If I don't get my own way I go mad.

0:27:490:27:51

It makes me really, really angry, it just gets on my nerves because I think, "Why?" I just want to scream.

0:27:510:27:57

I think it's important that Jerri changes, and changes now, and I think if she learns that

0:27:570:28:03

you have to work hard, I think it would make her a better person.

0:28:030:28:08

The teens were sent halfway around the world to Sri Lanka to stay with the Buddhist De Silva family.

0:28:110:28:18

It is important not to spoil your children, because from there stems all evil.

0:28:180:28:22

The De Zylvas threw materialistic Jerri in at the deep end

0:28:220:28:27

when they asked her to help distribute food to the city's poor.

0:28:270:28:31

Give him. Just take a packet and give him.

0:28:310:28:34

I've never been so scared in my life.

0:28:340:28:36

I got out of this van, and they all started running towards me.

0:28:360:28:41

I just lost the plot, I was like, "Urgh, get me away from them."

0:28:410:28:45

I was calling them tramps and all sorts, I feel bad.

0:28:450:28:47

But I thought, "That's so bad." I just hated it, I wanted to go.

0:28:470:28:52

The De Zylvas' plan was to confront her selfish ways head on.

0:28:520:28:57

I felt like there was just these animals just

0:28:570:29:00

trying to... I don't know, I didn't like it all.

0:29:000:29:03

Maybe he hasn't eaten for four days, we don't know.

0:29:030:29:06

I was very narrow minded with what I said.

0:29:060:29:09

I'm not one to show sympathy anyway, I'm quite a hard person.

0:29:090:29:14

Now, when I look back, I do think, I do feel a bit sorry for them.

0:29:140:29:18

They're just...they've got nothing.

0:29:180:29:19

I have everything, and they've got nothing.

0:29:190:29:21

But at the time Jerri wasn't interested in doing anything for anyone,

0:29:230:29:29

no matter how much help they needed.

0:29:290:29:32

As soon as I saw that sign, when it said "Disability home,"

0:29:320:29:35

I was like, "Oh, my God."

0:29:350:29:37

What's she doing?

0:29:370:29:41

I think tears even come into my eyes because I thought,

0:29:430:29:46

"I can't do it, she's making me do something I can't do."

0:29:460:29:49

It's like if someone can't swim and they're getting chucked in a swimming pool.

0:29:490:29:53

It's horrible. I was so scared, I was like "Just leave me alone". I wanted to go home.

0:29:530:29:58

Back at the house, Nicki was expressing her usual angry self.

0:29:580:30:02

The family, they were all right at first, but as soon as they told me the rules I felt like screaming.

0:30:020:30:08

I actually did.

0:30:080:30:09

-You have to give your cigarettes to us.

-Bollocks to it.

0:30:090:30:12

-No

-BLEEP

-way. If I paid for them, then they're staying with me.

-Please mind your language, Nicki.

0:30:120:30:17

-You're winding me up.

-You are my two daughters.

-If you were my mum I would tell you to

-BLEEP

-off.

0:30:170:30:22

We don't tolerate that kind of language.

0:30:220:30:25

I didn't get on with Brindley. Clashed with him.

0:30:250:30:28

To me I just thought, well, he can't really tell me what to do.

0:30:280:30:31

But it didn't work that way, did it?

0:30:310:30:34

But Nicki did put up a good fight,

0:30:340:30:38

and the early starts fuelled the anger within.

0:30:380:30:41

Warm milk at five o'clock in the morning. I couldn't deal with that.

0:30:410:30:45

At least put a teabag in it. I'd have been happier.

0:30:450:30:48

-I will just keep it here.

-No, take it away.

-I told you this attitude has to stop.

-Oh, my God.

0:30:480:30:54

Are you like on smack or something?

0:30:540:30:56

If someone called me a crackhead I don't know what I would have done.

0:30:560:31:00

I would have gone mental. But Brindley, he handled it quite well.

0:31:000:31:03

Nicki.

0:31:030:31:05

-Will you move?

-No, sorry.

0:31:050:31:06

Will you move?

0:31:060:31:08

Don't be grabbing me, go away.

0:31:080:31:10

Nicki, I won't touch you.

0:31:100:31:12

If she cannot change her attitude, she doesn't come back into this house.

0:31:120:31:17

But dad Brindley wouldn't give up on Nicki.

0:31:170:31:20

His relentless kindness started to make her see things from another point of view.

0:31:200:31:25

It gave me respect for him. He was like,

0:31:250:31:27

"No, I don't care who you are, what background you come from, this is my house, my rules.

0:31:270:31:32

"If you want to learn, you learn." You know what I mean?

0:31:320:31:35

He did stick to his guns. It kind of shocked me because not a lot of people do that.

0:31:350:31:40

But Nicki had yet to meet the man who would bring her inner peace.

0:31:420:31:47

Really bad. When it comes up, that's it, I can't control it.

0:31:470:31:51

Oh, right, you get angry.

0:31:510:31:53

Yes, very angry, 80% of the day I'm angry.

0:31:530:31:56

80% of the time you are angry?

0:31:560:31:59

Yes. It's really hard to control. It scares me sometimes.

0:31:590:32:02

Nicki was shown how to meditate as a way of controlling her anger.

0:32:020:32:08

So what we do is just feel at home, sitting here now,

0:32:080:32:14

and we close the eyes gently, relax.

0:32:140:32:19

I never thought it would work, because I have never found anything to relax me.

0:32:190:32:23

It was, like, scary in a way, because it was like,

0:32:230:32:26

"You've actually just made me calmer and relaxed and quite happy", and not a lot of people can do that.

0:32:260:32:31

A week of seeing the lives of those less fortunate than herself began to soften Jerri's attitudes.

0:32:330:32:39

But the De Zylva family had a final hurdle for her to overcome -

0:32:390:32:45

returning to the care home.

0:32:450:32:47

All right. Right shaking.

0:32:470:32:50

When I did actually do something,

0:32:500:32:51

I thought "Oh, my God, I've done something for someone else and I've made them happy".

0:32:510:32:56

I didn't really think about that, I was so... I was selfish and just so narrow minded.

0:32:560:33:01

I didn't think about anything apart from what I am doing with my life.

0:33:010:33:05

Brindley, guess what? We've made you something.

0:33:050:33:08

Come see it.

0:33:080:33:09

Thank you.

0:33:120:33:13

Looking back, Mandy and Brindley, their approach to life is absolutely amazing.

0:33:140:33:19

Just to make you realise that you do get something out of giving, it ain't always about taking.

0:33:190:33:25

I am glad I've done it. It's such a good experience

0:33:280:33:31

and it feels like a relief that I have done something good

0:33:310:33:35

out of something that started off really quite negative.

0:33:350:33:38

Back home, Jerri has brought a different perspective to Essex.

0:33:400:33:45

For some reason, I have become more calmer about the way I feel about certain situations.

0:33:450:33:50

If my mum goes to work or that, I'll just do some washing or some ironing, you know.

0:33:500:33:56

I think our relationship has definitely, definitely improved.

0:33:560:33:59

We've got a lot closer since she's been away.

0:33:590:34:02

Yeah, I am being less selfish.

0:34:020:34:04

I look at things from other people's point of view instead of my own all the time.

0:34:040:34:09

It's just changed the way I look at life.

0:34:090:34:11

If I haven't got it, I haven't got it.

0:34:110:34:13

Look at my undies,

0:34:130:34:16

me "pick me" pants.

0:34:160:34:20

Oh, no, I still tap my dad up for cash sometimes, but not as much as I used to.

0:34:200:34:23

As soon as Nicki got home she made up with her mum.

0:34:260:34:30

I didn't have to forgive my mum. I wanted to forgive my mum...

0:34:300:34:32

Mum, don't cry.

0:34:320:34:34

..instead of carrying on the fights and that.

0:34:340:34:37

Now we don't argue at all, don't even bicker.

0:34:370:34:42

Nicki's raging temper has been calmed by the meditation techniques she learnt in Sri Lanka.

0:34:450:34:52

I am glad I went to the monk.

0:34:520:34:54

He was like a miracle.

0:34:540:34:57

My relationship with Nicki since she has come back has really improved.

0:34:580:35:02

It's like a ray of light coming in the house now.

0:35:020:35:04

She's not argumentative any more, she doesn't fight with her sister any more,

0:35:040:35:09

-she's become the little Nicki I used to know when she was younger.

-Mum, I love you.

0:35:090:35:16

And I'm happy I'm your mother.

0:35:160:35:18

It's a mother and daughter relationship, how it should be.

0:35:180:35:22

Happy, loving, caring.

0:35:220:35:24

It's good, it's a good feeling.

0:35:240:35:27

Eight months ago, Nathan Ballance thought he was living the dream...

0:35:360:35:41

My lifestyle is playing Xbox, getting hammered and having sex.

0:35:410:35:46

-What are you doing later on today, love?

-I don't know.

0:35:460:35:49

But his mum had had enough.

0:35:490:35:50

Can you shut up? I'm trying to play.

0:35:500:35:52

Nathan is not a little shit, he's a big shit.

0:35:520:35:56

Nathan dropped out of school aged 14, had no qualifications and was going nowhere fast.

0:35:560:36:03

I don't really see the point in getting a job, because

0:36:030:36:05

if you want to enjoy your life there's no point in getting one.

0:36:050:36:08

-Something had to change.

-He tells me how much he hates me, how useless I am, how it's all my fault.

0:36:080:36:14

As it stands at the moment, Nathan's future holds absolutely nothing.

0:36:140:36:18

On the other side of the country,

0:36:180:36:20

17-year-old Nicole Benham was treating her mum like a cash machine.

0:36:200:36:25

-No cigarettes, nothing.

-Yes, fine.

0:36:250:36:29

Don't snatch, Nicole, for God's sake.

0:36:290:36:31

She's lazy, she's obnoxious, she's just turned into a brat.

0:36:310:36:36

Nicole was living with her grandparents, but even they were sick of her selfish attitude.

0:36:390:36:44

She's just so lazy.

0:36:440:36:46

She won't get up, she's smoking, I don't know if she's doing drugs, she just rebels against anything.

0:36:460:36:53

She's really got to grow up and realise what you put in,

0:36:530:36:58

you get out, and she is not putting stuff in at the moment.

0:36:580:37:02

The teens were sent here, Barbados, home to millionaires, luxury resorts...

0:37:040:37:10

and the Harris family.

0:37:100:37:13

We would describe ourselves as strict but fair parents.

0:37:130:37:17

Our family believes in discipline, we believe in our children trying

0:37:170:37:21

to live to the highest of their potential.

0:37:210:37:23

As soon as you see the country, you can't help but smile and be quite happy about it. It's just beautiful.

0:37:270:37:33

I was really happy that I was going to Barbados, because my experience

0:37:330:37:37

with Caribbean people is, they're so laid back they might fall over.

0:37:370:37:42

Tragically for the teens, any thoughts of a Caribbean holiday were quickly dashed.

0:37:420:37:48

OK, come on in, come on in, welcome.

0:37:480:37:51

Good night. Just to let you all know, there is no smoking.

0:37:510:37:55

So if you have any cigarettes, you have to hand them over now.

0:37:550:37:59

I'm sorry, but that's not going to happen.

0:37:590:38:01

I can't go eight days without smoking.

0:38:010:38:04

It was just so full-on straight away.

0:38:040:38:06

They just drop everything on you as soon as you walk in the door.

0:38:060:38:10

They went straight in like with guns blazing and stuff,

0:38:100:38:13

just went straight into us, "Hand over all the stuff", really stern. It was quite intimidating.

0:38:130:38:17

Nathan, if you don't hand over your cigarettes right now you can take your journey back through the door.

0:38:170:38:22

Lovely.

0:38:240:38:25

I ain't stopping smoking!

0:38:270:38:29

And it planted a seed in your mind, they are buggers.

0:38:290:38:32

So that's when I sort of set off and I thought, fine,

0:38:320:38:34

I'm going to be myself, I'm not going to be nice or anything.

0:38:340:38:38

Nathan was the first to get a taste of the battles ahead.

0:38:380:38:42

We will go through what we want, and right now

0:38:420:38:44

the situation is that we have decided that there will be no more smoking.

0:38:440:38:49

The first night I was there it did shock me because every other time I have argued with someone,

0:38:490:38:54

they've always backed down because I am very stubborn.

0:38:540:38:58

Well, I am sorry, I am 16, I am legally classed as an adult, I am old enough...

0:38:580:39:02

You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados.

0:39:020:39:05

But they just did not back down and they stuck to their guns.

0:39:050:39:09

And you are an adult at 18 years old, my man, not at 16.

0:39:090:39:14

So you don't tell me nothing, but you are legally no adult, you are not an adult here.

0:39:140:39:20

I thought the full family was just out of their mind.

0:39:200:39:24

The next day, it was Nicole who learnt a few lessons about Caribbean discipline

0:39:260:39:31

after mum Andrea discovered she'd blatantly ignored the simple rules.

0:39:310:39:35

She wore the trousers in the relationship, she was the disciplinarian

0:39:350:39:39

and she was the one to watch out for, not Kenrick. Kenrick was nothing.

0:39:390:39:42

Oh, look at me world, I'm 17!

0:39:420:39:45

I can smoke, I can drink, I can do what I want, but you cannot take no advice from nobody.

0:39:450:39:53

I just don't like people being in my personal space either, and she was like there.

0:39:530:39:57

I was like "Oh, my goodness. I need to get out."

0:39:570:39:59

I told you already this morning...

0:39:590:40:02

-Get that finger...

-I told you this morning!

0:40:020:40:04

I found it actually really funny at the time, and I still do.

0:40:040:40:08

-BLEEP

-off!

-BLEEP

-you! Seriously! Get off me!

0:40:080:40:13

You are a woman, stand your ground! You cuss at me, stand your ground!

0:40:130:40:18

-Stand your ground!

-I was very rude. I'm not going to deny that.

0:40:180:40:22

My rudeness was unbelievably disgusting.

0:40:220:40:25

Their way of showing their authority and commanding respect in a sense

0:40:250:40:31

is completely different to anything I am used to.

0:40:310:40:34

To begin with the Harris's rigid enforcement of the rules made the teens even more defiant.

0:40:360:40:43

School did not go well.

0:40:430:40:45

For the young lady, are you wearing eye make-up?

0:40:450:40:47

-Yes.

-You have to go and wash it off.

0:40:470:40:50

We don't allow make-up here at school.

0:40:500:40:54

I'm not staying here if I have to take my eye make-up off.

0:40:540:40:56

-No. I'm

-BLEEP

-running away. I'm being serious.

0:40:560:40:59

And that's exactly what they did.

0:40:590:41:01

For Mr Harris, this was the last straw.

0:41:010:41:04

We have sacrificed so much for the two of you,

0:41:040:41:06

but then to have both of you decide to leave the school compound.

0:41:060:41:11

Some of those same teachers taught me and I have respect for them!

0:41:110:41:15

But the two of you aren't showing any respect for us.

0:41:150:41:19

If you both don't appreciate it, leave this house!

0:41:190:41:22

But this last act of rebellion was what started to tip the scales of change for Nicole.

0:41:240:41:29

When I was out there, I ran away a lot.

0:41:290:41:32

I ran away from every problem because that's what I have always done -

0:41:320:41:36

run away from serious things.

0:41:360:41:37

It's just stupid. It makes me realise how pathetic I...was.

0:41:370:41:42

Stupid behaviour you'd expect from an 11 year old or something, not nearly 18 year old. Ridiculous.

0:41:420:41:49

I've had like a couple of hours away from them and

0:41:490:41:53

it just made me think about how much time that is, and it makes me think about my actions as a whole.

0:41:530:41:58

I do this all the time to my family.

0:41:580:42:00

On a weekly occurrence, basically.

0:42:000:42:02

All the time. And, um,

0:42:020:42:04

it honestly made me think of that and it just made me think it's got to stop.

0:42:040:42:08

I really wanted to show my gratitude

0:42:080:42:11

for them having me and to apologise for my disgusting behaviour.

0:42:110:42:17

I really wanted to and I really meant it as well.

0:42:170:42:19

I really am sorry... for what I have done.

0:42:190:42:22

We have heard you.

0:42:220:42:25

We accept your apology.

0:42:250:42:27

All right?

0:42:270:42:30

I'm sorry. I really am. Thank you.

0:42:300:42:34

It opened my eyes to who I really am as a person,

0:42:340:42:37

what I have been doing wrong, and that I needed to make a change.

0:42:370:42:41

Nathan never fully recovered his relationship with the Harris family.

0:42:410:42:47

-Just

-BLEEP

-off and leave me alone!

0:42:480:42:51

But inspiration did come from an unexpected source.

0:42:510:42:55

His first ever day's work.

0:42:560:43:00

Just push it, go through the tall glass. Just push over it.

0:43:000:43:05

Working alongside Orlando was actually really good because he is a really nice person.

0:43:050:43:09

Instead of him just going on about his beliefs, he sat and looked at it

0:43:090:43:13

from my point of view, especially with the drugs and stuff and why I did them.

0:43:130:43:18

The notion of just wanting to smoke and chill

0:43:180:43:21

is really a no-go because at the end of the day, you are here to be productive.

0:43:210:43:27

He's the only person that actually managed to get through to me the full week.

0:43:270:43:31

He said it was wrong to do it, but he could understand why we did it because instead of saying we have

0:43:310:43:36

to stop it and stuff like that he said when you get back to the UK,

0:43:360:43:40

yeah, you can just cut down on it, and stop doing it as often, and after a while you can stop it.

0:43:400:43:45

If there is one impression that I would want to leave with you,

0:43:450:43:48

be a positive influence to yourself.

0:43:480:43:51

-God bless.

-Take care of yourself.

-All the best when you go back.

0:43:510:43:54

I started taking drugs and stuff like that just to mainly escape reality, and he understood that.

0:43:540:44:00

With the week finally over, it was time for the teens to return home.

0:44:010:44:06

Thank you for everything.

0:44:060:44:08

At the end of the week, I had such a huge amount of respect for them,

0:44:080:44:12

because I saw them in a completely different light.

0:44:120:44:16

Three months on and Nicole's experience with the Harrises

0:44:230:44:27

has made her want to fix broken relationships.

0:44:270:44:31

Job done. There's one up there you can pick.

0:44:310:44:35

It's going to take a long time to build up my relationship back with my parentals, all of them.

0:44:350:44:41

I've got to work hard at college, I've got to prove to them that I can do it.

0:44:410:44:44

When it comes to the future, I am excited about the future.

0:44:460:44:49

Whereas before I was dreading it.

0:44:490:44:51

I was like, oh, no!

0:44:510:44:53

My complete outlook on life has changed 100%.

0:44:530:44:57

Up in Hull, Nathan has also brought some lessons home with him.

0:44:570:45:04

Ever since I've come back we've gotten a lot closer.

0:45:040:45:06

We spend a lot more time talking.

0:45:060:45:09

It's such a family-orientated place over there.

0:45:090:45:12

They all sit down and eat tea together, spend a lot of time talking, I started to think,

0:45:120:45:17

"Why can't I have a relationship like that with my mum?"

0:45:170:45:21

Before Barbados, I was losing the child I saw as my son.

0:45:210:45:24

I couldn't see a future for him how he was, whereas now I've got that nice kid back.

0:45:240:45:30

When my mum's got days off, we might pop out into town, go and look around the shops.

0:45:300:45:35

It's much more of a family atmosphere.

0:45:350:45:39

My final thoughts on them is...

0:45:390:45:42

I still think they're absolutely stark crazy.

0:45:420:45:45

They're lovely people,

0:45:450:45:47

but I wouldn't like to go live with them again!

0:45:470:45:50

Let's get pissed! Whoo!

0:45:540:45:57

Last August, 16-year-old Rosie Hynd was an unstoppable party animal.

0:45:570:46:04

Whoo-hoo!

0:46:040:46:06

Right now is my time to go crazy, really, and no-one's going to stop me from doing it.

0:46:060:46:12

She likes to rip the backside out of things.

0:46:120:46:14

You know, if she's drunk, she's not just a little bit drunk, she's paralytic.

0:46:140:46:20

There's no "what if", because it is a definite 100% no.

0:46:200:46:24

At home, Rosie's temper had left Mum powerless to control her.

0:46:240:46:28

-She is either lovely, or she's vile.

-Put that down!

0:46:280:46:33

It is quite hard to say no to me, that's probably why I get away with so much.

0:46:330:46:37

Rosie was destroying her future.

0:46:370:46:40

It can't go on like this, otherwise she is going to have huge problems

0:46:400:46:43

and she is going to ruin the rest of her life.

0:46:430:46:46

Stop talking to me like I'm a child, cos I'm not.

0:46:460:46:49

-You are my child, Nicolas!

-But I'm not child, though! I'm 18 years old!

-You are my child!

0:46:490:46:54

I am 18 years old!

0:46:540:46:56

Nick Barrientos was behaving more like a boy than a man.

0:46:560:47:00

He's not growing up.

0:47:000:47:02

He's a spoilt brat.

0:47:020:47:04

I hate being told what to do. Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do.

0:47:040:47:09

Nick had left school, but had no intention of getting a job.

0:47:090:47:13

Hard labour...

0:47:130:47:15

is just scary.

0:47:150:47:17

-I can't handle a full-time job. Can I have some money?

-Some money?

0:47:170:47:20

-No, no, no.

-Please!

-We have so many arguments.

0:47:200:47:26

When he's around it's like he's not here.

0:47:260:47:29

I don't like being at home, period.

0:47:290:47:30

Straight up, I don't like being at home.

0:47:300:47:33

He needs to sort his life out.

0:47:330:47:36

He is lost, he is absolutely lost.

0:47:360:47:39

Nick and Rosie were sent 4,000 miles away to the sun-kissed island of Puerto Rico,

0:47:420:47:49

home to the Hill family.

0:47:490:47:52

Being a parent is not a popularity contest.

0:47:520:47:55

Side to side now. Put some back into it.

0:47:550:47:57

We're firm, we have high expectations, we want only the best for our children.

0:47:570:48:03

I thought that the trip to Puerto Rico was going to be like a holiday, but boy, was I wrong.

0:48:060:48:13

Driving to the house and all I could see was a jungle either side of me

0:48:130:48:18

and I was thinking, "Oh, my God, what have I done?"

0:48:180:48:21

-Hello. Welcome.

-Nice to meet you.

0:48:210:48:25

Nice to see you. Hi, how are you?

0:48:250:48:27

-I'm Rosie.

-Nick, Rosie.

0:48:270:48:29

Within minutes of their arrival, Rosie and Nick's worst fears were confirmed

0:48:290:48:34

when the Hills presented the rules.

0:48:340:48:37

We don't tolerate laziness.

0:48:370:48:39

We kind of live by a rule that if a man doesn't work, he doesn't eat.

0:48:390:48:44

The whole time I was thinking, these guys are just going to fail.

0:48:440:48:48

I am stubborn, Rosie's stubborn, there is no way we are following

0:48:480:48:52

any of these rules, especially not the no-smoking rule.

0:48:520:48:55

Let me expand that a little bit.

0:48:550:48:57

The more you resist, the more we are going to push.

0:48:570:49:01

-I was just thinking, "You're an absolute

-BLEEP."

0:49:010:49:03

I was like, don't want to be with this person for any longer.

0:49:030:49:09

With the battle lines drawn, the teens began a campaign of fearsome resistance.

0:49:090:49:14

-That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever

-BLEEP

-heard in my life, man.

0:49:140:49:18

I hate him.

0:49:180:49:21

I think he was just really, really angry

0:49:210:49:23

at that point that we were smoking, we broke the rule that quick,

0:49:230:49:27

and we just had no regard for any of this authority whatsoever.

0:49:270:49:31

You guys have already decided to disrespect me.

0:49:310:49:35

Respect has to be earned.

0:49:350:49:39

I'm 18 years old. 18. I am legally allowed to smoke this.

0:49:390:49:42

Sensing there would be bigger battles to fight, Mr Hill was prepared to compromise.

0:49:420:49:47

-You will not smoke inside of the house.

-Fair enough.

0:49:470:49:53

Every other rule... will be respected and tolerated.

0:49:530:49:59

But the uneasy truce ended in all-out war when Ed found out the kids had been excluded from school.

0:49:590:50:05

And not two periods went by that they've already been kicked out of school.

0:50:050:50:11

There's no privileges.

0:50:110:50:13

It's over. They are getting nothing. I am sick of this already.

0:50:130:50:18

He just didn't say a word and that is when I was like, "Are you angry?

0:50:180:50:22

"Are you mad? Do you want to get mad?"

0:50:220:50:25

Just being a complete wind-up. I just thought it was funny.

0:50:250:50:28

In the face of her punishment, Rosie decided she'd had enough and it was time to head home.

0:50:280:50:35

I don't want to be with these people. I don't like them, they're nothing to me.

0:50:350:50:40

-How can you actually do this?

-I don't know.

0:50:450:50:48

-I'm not staying in this

-BLEEP.

0:50:490:50:52

They wouldn't let me go, so I thought the only way I am going to get to go is if I get kicked out.

0:50:520:50:57

So I was just trying everything.

0:50:570:51:01

Open the gate!

0:51:010:51:03

Rosie just switched and she went mad at Ed.

0:51:030:51:08

Open the gate!

0:51:080:51:10

I'm going to trash your house until you open the gate.

0:51:100:51:14

He just ignored me.

0:51:140:51:17

That just winds you up even more because you just want to stand there

0:51:170:51:20

and have an argument with someone and no-one was arguing with me.

0:51:200:51:24

-I want to get out of

-BLEEP!

0:51:240:51:27

At one point I know that he so wanted to shout at me.

0:51:270:51:32

I was right up in his face.

0:51:320:51:34

I will smash your car window.

0:51:340:51:36

Why won't you open the gate?

0:51:380:51:41

The man did not shout at me once.

0:51:410:51:43

-The keys to get out of the gate.

-All right, honey. Try those keys.

0:51:430:51:47

-What

-BLEEP

-key is this?

0:51:470:51:49

That's a car key. That car isn't here any more.

0:51:490:51:52

Well, then, you won't mind if I do this, then, will you?

0:51:520:51:58

I was thinking, "Rosie, you're insane."

0:52:010:52:05

At the time, I didn't feel bad at all.

0:52:050:52:08

I just cared about getting out of there.

0:52:080:52:10

Today, you have shown me that, in fact, you are not 16,

0:52:100:52:15

-you are six years old.

-Well...

0:52:150:52:18

Have your fit, and when we're done...when you're done...

0:52:180:52:21

-No, listen to me...

-I'm done with you. I'm done.

0:52:210:52:24

-No, listen to me!

-I'm done with you.

0:52:240:52:26

How do you expect me...

0:52:260:52:29

How do you expect me to talk to you like an adult with respect

0:52:290:52:34

when you're treating me like I am...

0:52:340:52:36

When I sort of realised they weren't going to send me home,

0:52:360:52:40

I was like, "Oh, my God, what have I done?

0:52:400:52:42

"I've been horrible and I've got to spend a week with these people."

0:52:420:52:45

We were on the second day. I was like, "Oh, my God!"

0:52:450:52:48

I am truly sorry, I really regret speaking to you the way I did and it was completely uncalled for.

0:52:480:52:55

For the rest of the time that I'm here, I'm going to follow your rules.

0:52:550:52:59

With both teens finally ready to co-operate, Ed hoped to shine some light on their issues.

0:53:010:53:07

Nick was sent to work in a foster home for the day.

0:53:070:53:11

-Do you have your mum?

-Yeah.

-I don't have mine, but I am grateful for what I have.

0:53:110:53:15

I'm going to listen to your advice and I will help my mum more when I get home.

0:53:150:53:20

Going to the foster home made me appreciate my parents a lot.

0:53:200:53:24

It made me think about them

0:53:240:53:26

and there was nothing else going through my mind

0:53:260:53:29

apart from my parents and how badly I have treated both of them.

0:53:290:53:32

It was just like a weight lifted off my shoulders.

0:53:320:53:36

I felt so good after that.

0:53:360:53:39

Take care.

0:53:410:53:42

Bye, Ed.

0:53:420:53:43

'I do definitely feel proud of myself for lasting the week,'

0:53:430:53:46

like when Ed and Marta were proud of me, I was like, "Ahh!"

0:53:460:53:50

See ya, bruv.

0:53:500:53:53

'I felt differently at the end.'

0:53:530:53:55

I thought, "These guys, maybe they do know what they're talking about."

0:53:550:53:58

Hi!

0:54:060:54:08

-God, I've missed you!

-I've missed you too.

0:54:160:54:19

Since I've got back from Puerto Rico,

0:54:230:54:25

I'm at college now, I'm doing a hairdressing course.

0:54:250:54:29

I really like it, I really enjoy it.

0:54:290:54:31

Spending time with the Hills, I suppose it did make me realise...

0:54:310:54:36

well, anyone, really, can do what they want.

0:54:360:54:39

You've just got to work for it.

0:54:390:54:41

She knows now that this is the time to work hard.

0:54:410:54:45

Start making a future for myself.

0:54:450:54:48

And it makes me really, really proud of her that she is doing it now.

0:54:480:54:52

I do think that I have grown up since I have come back.

0:54:520:54:54

I do think I have been more responsible.

0:54:540:54:57

I don't drink as often as I used to, but I think that's just because

0:54:570:55:00

there's more to life than going out and getting drunk.

0:55:000:55:03

I can honestly say I worry about Rosie less now.

0:55:030:55:08

She's obviously realised that her behaviour impacts on all of us.

0:55:080:55:13

The difference that makes as a household, you know, as a family, is massive.

0:55:130:55:18

Before he went to Puerto Rico, Nicholas was lost, absolutely lost.

0:55:210:55:29

And now he is trying to improve.

0:55:290:55:32

He's taking life like a man, and that made me very proud.

0:55:320:55:36

Since getting back from Puerto Rico, I think I have matured quite a bit.

0:55:360:55:40

I realised that I need to straighten up my act, so I started looking for work.

0:55:400:55:44

-Can I give you a CV?

-Yeah. No worries, dude.

0:55:440:55:47

I don't smoke weed any more.

0:55:470:55:50

I help out a lot more.

0:55:500:55:52

If my mum wants something done, I don't have a problem with anything.

0:55:520:55:55

I'll just get on with it.

0:55:550:55:57

We really feel more like a family with Nicholas around.

0:55:570:56:01

He is more friendly. He is the Nicholas that I used to know.

0:56:010:56:08

My little boy. I'm very happy.

0:56:080:56:13

Give me a cuddle. Give me a cuddle, go on.

0:56:130:56:15

It's smart to think about the future, and it's just made me want to,

0:56:150:56:19

like, you know, achieve what I want,

0:56:190:56:22

be what I want to be, and I can do it.

0:56:220:56:24

I've proved that to myself.

0:56:240:56:26

# I know you're not ready to live

0:56:340:56:37

# Are you ready to die?

0:56:380:56:40

# Cos under your skin Under your skin

0:56:460:56:48

# Under your skin

0:56:480:56:50

# Is a regular guy. #

0:56:510:56:53

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0:56:530:56:54

Catching up with ten British teens who travelled to the far corners of the globe to live with new parents under strict rules. Six months since the end of their experiences abroad, we find out whether their time away made any difference to their lives at home.

From 19-year-old father-to-be Wesley, who, before he stayed with gay dads Scott and Joe, was destined to leave his unborn child fatherless, to tantrum-throwing Rosie, who met her match in Puerto Rico, we catch up on the inside story of the journeys that unfolded and the lessons learned.


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