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Most single parents rely on the support of close friends and family, | 0:00:02 | 0:00:06 | |
so to move just about as far away as possible from that support | 0:00:06 | 0:00:09 | |
is a huge decision. | 0:00:09 | 0:00:12 | |
This is exactly the dilemma faced by Becci Sanders back in 2008. | 0:00:12 | 0:00:17 | |
We gave her and her 11-year-old son Keelan the chance to test-drive life in Australia. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:23 | |
Today we're meeting up with the Sanders to find out if Becci was | 0:00:23 | 0:00:27 | |
brave enough to turn her and Keelan's world quite literally upside down. | 0:00:27 | 0:00:33 | |
Single mum Becci Sanders and her 11-year-old son Keelan | 0:00:55 | 0:00:59 | |
wanted to swap the daily grind in England for a new life in Australia. | 0:00:59 | 0:01:05 | |
Keelan hoped that a move would mean more quality time with his mum. | 0:01:05 | 0:01:09 | |
We'll be doing a lot more, I reckon, in Australia which we wouldn't do here. | 0:01:09 | 0:01:14 | |
But the realities of moving so far from friends and family hit them hard. | 0:01:14 | 0:01:20 | |
It's going to be really hard here without you. | 0:01:20 | 0:01:24 | |
Do you want a hug? | 0:01:25 | 0:01:26 | |
So did they have the courage to make the move? Where are they now? | 0:01:28 | 0:01:33 | |
In 2008, Becci Sanders, from Northampton, | 0:01:37 | 0:01:41 | |
was facing a life-changing decision, | 0:01:41 | 0:01:44 | |
whether to stay in the UK or to uproot and move with her son Keelan | 0:01:44 | 0:01:49 | |
thousands of miles away from her friends and family to Australia? | 0:01:49 | 0:01:54 | |
We gave them a week to experience every aspect of life down under, but what happened next? | 0:01:54 | 0:02:02 | |
Becci and Keelan lived with their dog Munchie in Northampton. | 0:02:02 | 0:02:05 | |
Becci trained as an occupational therapist | 0:02:05 | 0:02:08 | |
but was working as a mental health advocate. | 0:02:08 | 0:02:13 | |
She'd hoped finding the right job in Australia would be their ticket out of the UK. | 0:02:13 | 0:02:17 | |
I want to make a difference to people's lives and I would think | 0:02:17 | 0:02:21 | |
that everyone who does nursing and OT and social work | 0:02:21 | 0:02:24 | |
would probably say the same thing. | 0:02:24 | 0:02:26 | |
I don't feel as if I'm able to | 0:02:26 | 0:02:28 | |
put that into practice here because of the restraints with | 0:02:28 | 0:02:31 | |
funding and budgets and stuff and I just feel that there'll be more opportunities and I'll be able to | 0:02:31 | 0:02:36 | |
really make a difference to people's lives somewhere else. | 0:02:36 | 0:02:38 | |
Aside from work, Becci had her own personal reasons for wanting a new life in Australia. | 0:02:38 | 0:02:43 | |
For four or five months of the year, I suffer quite badly from depression. | 0:02:43 | 0:02:48 | |
My life is pretty much governed by seasonal affective disorder. | 0:02:48 | 0:02:53 | |
It means that during the winter months I do very little. | 0:02:53 | 0:02:57 | |
I get up in the morning and sort Keelan out for school, and I go to work and I come home and sleep. | 0:02:57 | 0:03:05 | |
It obviously has an effect on Keelan as well. | 0:03:05 | 0:03:07 | |
Well, it affects me because even the slightest thing could make her really angry at me... | 0:03:07 | 0:03:14 | |
..which I don't like. | 0:03:16 | 0:03:17 | |
He has to do a lot more during the winter | 0:03:17 | 0:03:19 | |
to help me out around the house. A lot more housework, | 0:03:19 | 0:03:22 | |
so yeah, I do feel very, very guilty that I need to rely on him sometimes. | 0:03:22 | 0:03:27 | |
I've got a very, very strong relationship with my mum. | 0:03:27 | 0:03:32 | |
I look after her when she's ill and she looks after me when I'm ill. | 0:03:32 | 0:03:36 | |
Becci and Keelan have a strong support network | 0:03:36 | 0:03:39 | |
and moving so far away would plunge them into a life without friends or family to fall back on. | 0:03:39 | 0:03:44 | |
'Is this what they really wanted?' | 0:03:44 | 0:03:47 | |
'My mum will miss her best friend Heather a lot | 0:03:47 | 0:03:50 | |
'because if one of them's had a bad day they'll go and see the other and cheer them up.' | 0:03:51 | 0:03:55 | |
So that's what my mum will miss most. She'll miss her friends. | 0:03:55 | 0:03:59 | |
There isn't a day that goes by that we don't talk to each other. | 0:03:59 | 0:04:02 | |
That is going to be the weirdest thing. | 0:04:02 | 0:04:04 | |
I don't think you realise how much you rely on someone until they're not around. | 0:04:04 | 0:04:10 | |
I don't even want to think about it cos I'll get all upset. | 0:04:10 | 0:04:13 | |
Becci had a huge decision ahead | 0:04:17 | 0:04:19 | |
so to make the process a little easier, | 0:04:19 | 0:04:24 | |
we arranged for her and son Keelan to try out life for one week | 0:04:24 | 0:04:27 | |
in the capital of the northern territory, Darwin. | 0:04:27 | 0:04:31 | |
Becci and Keelan travelled 9,000 miles to Australia, giving them plenty of time | 0:04:31 | 0:04:37 | |
to consider what lay ahead and how they would cope on their own. | 0:04:37 | 0:04:40 | |
They landed at Darwin Airport after a 22-hour journey. | 0:04:40 | 0:04:45 | |
Slightly apprehensive cos we don't really know what will happen, | 0:04:48 | 0:04:51 | |
-but we're very much looking forward to it, and prepared to throw ourselves in completely. -Yeah. -Yep. | 0:04:51 | 0:04:57 | |
Their base for the week was a flat in the heart of Darwin. | 0:04:57 | 0:05:00 | |
Wow. | 0:05:00 | 0:05:02 | |
The size of the kitchen, I'll get lost. | 0:05:02 | 0:05:05 | |
-It's a huge room. -It is, actually. | 0:05:07 | 0:05:09 | |
-It's really big. -Wow. | 0:05:09 | 0:05:11 | |
Oh, wow. Balcony's big. | 0:05:15 | 0:05:16 | |
It was a positive start to a soul-searching week that potentially was to change their lives for ever. | 0:05:18 | 0:05:25 | |
In 2008, Becci and Keelan were living in a rented two-bedroom house in Northampton. | 0:05:28 | 0:05:33 | |
As a single mum, Becci's finances were limited | 0:05:35 | 0:05:39 | |
so she wasn't looking to buy a house in Australia straightaway. | 0:05:39 | 0:05:44 | |
She had a budget of up to £750 a month to spend on rent. | 0:05:45 | 0:05:50 | |
Would the three properties we showed her in Darwin convince her she would get more for her money in Australia? | 0:05:50 | 0:05:56 | |
The first was a two-bedroom flat in Coconut Grove | 0:05:59 | 0:06:02 | |
and would cost Becci around £750 a month, | 0:06:02 | 0:06:06 | |
the same as she was paying in the UK. | 0:06:06 | 0:06:09 | |
Would this property meet her expectations? | 0:06:09 | 0:06:11 | |
Yeah. More brick walls. | 0:06:15 | 0:06:17 | |
It's too built up. There's no garden. | 0:06:18 | 0:06:21 | |
It could be a property absolutely anywhere in the world and I want to feel as if I'm in Australia. | 0:06:21 | 0:06:27 | |
It doesn't feel good. | 0:06:27 | 0:06:29 | |
It just feels like it's anywhere. | 0:06:29 | 0:06:30 | |
No, not us, is it? | 0:06:30 | 0:06:32 | |
No. | 0:06:32 | 0:06:34 | |
There is a garden area, look. | 0:06:34 | 0:06:37 | |
-Yeah. -But obviously you'd have to share that with everybody else. | 0:06:37 | 0:06:41 | |
They don't feel like it's somewhere that you could live. | 0:06:41 | 0:06:45 | |
And I'm sure people do live in them and quite happily, but it's not what we're looking for. | 0:06:45 | 0:06:50 | |
One of the reasons we want to get out of the UK is because everybody is living on top of everybody else | 0:06:50 | 0:06:55 | |
and it feels quite claustrophobic and this has exactly the same feeling, | 0:06:55 | 0:06:59 | |
although the weather's nice and the apartments are lovely, | 0:06:59 | 0:07:03 | |
it still feels as though you're all scrunched into a very small space. | 0:07:03 | 0:07:07 | |
-That's not really what we're looking for, is it? -No. | 0:07:07 | 0:07:11 | |
Affordable property in the centre of Darwin certainly failed to hit the right buttons. | 0:07:11 | 0:07:15 | |
The second property was in the suburb of Nightcliff. | 0:07:15 | 0:07:20 | |
This two-bedroom house was £50 under their monthly budget. | 0:07:20 | 0:07:24 | |
But would they get more for their money living in the outskirts? | 0:07:24 | 0:07:28 | |
Oh, wow. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:31 | |
It is gorgeous. | 0:07:31 | 0:07:34 | |
That's really nice. | 0:07:34 | 0:07:36 | |
Oh, wow. It's beautiful. | 0:07:41 | 0:07:44 | |
Yeah, that'll do! | 0:07:44 | 0:07:46 | |
So this would be your room. | 0:07:49 | 0:07:50 | |
-It's nice. -Without the extra bed there'd be a lot more room. -There would, yeah. | 0:07:50 | 0:07:56 | |
-I like that. -It is nice. | 0:07:56 | 0:07:58 | |
This is my ideal garden with all the tropical plants. | 0:07:59 | 0:08:03 | |
-It's already got the plants there. It's got all this space. -Yeah. | 0:08:03 | 0:08:06 | |
Patio area. | 0:08:06 | 0:08:08 | |
It's beautiful. | 0:08:08 | 0:08:10 | |
The inside is possibly slightly smaller than I thought it would be | 0:08:10 | 0:08:14 | |
but then the outside space is just so fantastic. | 0:08:14 | 0:08:17 | |
We wouldn't spend that much time inside anyway. | 0:08:17 | 0:08:19 | |
This house seemed to be more what they expected from an Australian home | 0:08:19 | 0:08:23 | |
but what would they make of property three? | 0:08:23 | 0:08:26 | |
This flat at Myilly Point had two bedrooms, two bathrooms and was a stone's throw from the sea. | 0:08:26 | 0:08:33 | |
At just over £840 per month, it was more than Becci was hoping to spend. | 0:08:33 | 0:08:38 | |
But if Becci's dreams were going to be fulfilled she needed to explore all the options. | 0:08:38 | 0:08:44 | |
-Lovely. -Yeah. So much room. | 0:08:51 | 0:08:55 | |
This is quite a big room. Completely different style of apartment, isn't it? | 0:08:58 | 0:09:02 | |
-It's 100% different, yeah. -Really, really nice. | 0:09:02 | 0:09:05 | |
That's stunning. | 0:09:07 | 0:09:08 | |
-I can see the sea. -Oh, wow. | 0:09:08 | 0:09:11 | |
-How close is that?! -That's very close. -The sand's just there. | 0:09:11 | 0:09:14 | |
I might have to cut a hole in the trees, just so you can see right through. | 0:09:14 | 0:09:20 | |
-We should have brought our swimming costumes, shouldn't we? -Yeah. | 0:09:24 | 0:09:27 | |
It's lovely. | 0:09:27 | 0:09:29 | |
Although over budget, this flat changed their minds about apartment living. | 0:09:30 | 0:09:34 | |
But was it good enough to make them decide to move halfway across the world? | 0:09:34 | 0:09:39 | |
Would the Sanders vote for rental property at home in the UK or in Australia? | 0:09:39 | 0:09:45 | |
So on the basis of the three properties we've seen today | 0:09:45 | 0:09:48 | |
and compared to the property we've got at home, our vote has to be... | 0:09:48 | 0:09:52 | |
BOTH: Australia! | 0:09:53 | 0:09:55 | |
It was a thumbs up for property, but it was not the most important thing on Becci's list. | 0:09:59 | 0:10:05 | |
Right at the top was the weather and the huge improvement she hoped this would make to her health. | 0:10:05 | 0:10:11 | |
The SAD has a huge effect in the UK. | 0:10:11 | 0:10:14 | |
There's only sort of three or four months of the year where we actually go out and do outside activities, | 0:10:14 | 0:10:21 | |
and the rest of the time we're cocooned in the house and it has an effect on Keelan as well | 0:10:21 | 0:10:28 | |
because we do things together. | 0:10:28 | 0:10:30 | |
If I don't feel like going out, then he doesn't get to go out either. | 0:10:30 | 0:10:34 | |
I can't see it being a problem out here at all. | 0:10:34 | 0:10:36 | |
It's pretty much always sunny. | 0:10:36 | 0:10:39 | |
I feel like a different person. | 0:10:39 | 0:10:41 | |
I've only been here a few days and I feel completely different already. | 0:10:41 | 0:10:45 | |
It was becoming clear how much they needed to make this move. | 0:10:47 | 0:10:51 | |
Everything hinged on Becci's work prospects in Australia. | 0:10:51 | 0:10:55 | |
In the UK, Becci was a mental health advocate and hoped to develop her career in Australia. | 0:11:00 | 0:11:06 | |
I want to make a difference to people's lives. | 0:11:06 | 0:11:09 | |
I don't feel as if I'm able to put that into practice here because of the restraints with | 0:11:09 | 0:11:14 | |
funding and budgets and stuff and I just feel that there'll be more opportunities and I'll be able to | 0:11:14 | 0:11:19 | |
really make a different to people's lives somewhere else. | 0:11:19 | 0:11:22 | |
It was her qualifications in occupational therapy which would get her a visa to live in Australia. | 0:11:22 | 0:11:28 | |
But would spending a day at Darwin private hospital | 0:11:28 | 0:11:31 | |
persuade her that working down under was right for her? | 0:11:31 | 0:11:35 | |
So, I gather you're out here to find out a little bit about the occupational therapy opportunities? | 0:11:37 | 0:11:43 | |
Yeah, definitely. | 0:11:43 | 0:11:45 | |
It's amazing the sorts of things that people will do to their hands, | 0:11:45 | 0:11:49 | |
unfortunately, sometimes in the line of work, | 0:11:49 | 0:11:53 | |
and sometimes sporting accidents, motor vehicle accidents. | 0:11:53 | 0:11:58 | |
We've even had injuries from crocodile bites, which aren't | 0:11:58 | 0:12:03 | |
very nice injuries because of the risk of infection. Things like dingo bites as well. | 0:12:03 | 0:12:08 | |
-Not something we get in the UK. -Yeah. Yeah! | 0:12:08 | 0:12:11 | |
The chances for Becci for finding employment are pretty good, | 0:12:11 | 0:12:15 | |
though I would say she would have to be prepared to probably go to more remote areas of Australia, | 0:12:15 | 0:12:19 | |
certainly in the Northern Territory, | 0:12:19 | 0:12:22 | |
Alice Springs and Katherine are always looking for OTs. | 0:12:22 | 0:12:26 | |
So I'm sure Becci would find work if she chose to come out here, yeah. | 0:12:26 | 0:12:32 | |
The only work opportunities might be in the more remote parts of Australia | 0:12:32 | 0:12:36 | |
so would Becci still think the move was worthwhile? | 0:12:36 | 0:12:41 | |
Having spent some time with Katrina today and getting a better idea of what OTs do in Australia, | 0:12:41 | 0:12:46 | |
and although I'm aware there isn't a specific job available at the moment, | 0:12:46 | 0:12:50 | |
I am prepared to walk the streets and find something, | 0:12:50 | 0:12:55 | |
and compared to the type of OT work in the UK, | 0:12:55 | 0:12:59 | |
I think my vote would have to be... | 0:12:59 | 0:13:01 | |
..Australia. | 0:13:03 | 0:13:05 | |
Becci seems sure about her decision, | 0:13:05 | 0:13:08 | |
but if she couldn't find a job, the move to Australia would be impossible. | 0:13:08 | 0:13:13 | |
In the UK, Becci and Keelan didn't spend enough quality together, | 0:13:16 | 0:13:20 | |
but they hoped Australia would change this. | 0:13:20 | 0:13:22 | |
We'd do a lot more in Australia, which we wouldn't do here. | 0:13:22 | 0:13:27 | |
My mum will take me swimming far more | 0:13:27 | 0:13:29 | |
and probably cinema less because it's hot outside! | 0:13:29 | 0:13:33 | |
They took the opportunity to do just that and spent the day | 0:13:34 | 0:13:37 | |
at a crocodile park and wildlife centre to meet some of the locals. | 0:13:37 | 0:13:42 | |
-There's one, there's one, look. -Look, there, there. | 0:13:47 | 0:13:51 | |
I like crocodiles. | 0:13:51 | 0:13:54 | |
I like pretty much anything that's got big sharp teeth, that's my sort of animal interest, really. | 0:13:54 | 0:13:59 | |
On the surface, they were having a good time, | 0:13:59 | 0:14:02 | |
but Becci wrestled with | 0:14:02 | 0:14:03 | |
the life-changing decision she would have to make at the end of the week. | 0:14:03 | 0:14:07 | |
The drive out here this morning was actually quite emotional. | 0:14:07 | 0:14:10 | |
Every day I'm seeing things that make me want to go home less and less | 0:14:10 | 0:14:17 | |
and the realisation that we are actually going to have to go home has really hit me and I don't want to. | 0:14:17 | 0:14:22 | |
For Becci, the trip was all about trying new things and this was | 0:14:22 | 0:14:26 | |
definitely something she wouldn't get a chance to do at home. | 0:14:26 | 0:14:30 | |
Yeah, go on, Mum! | 0:14:31 | 0:14:33 | |
Hold it steady. Hold it up. They're really fast. | 0:14:35 | 0:14:40 | |
You ready? Hold it up... | 0:14:43 | 0:14:46 | |
Well done. He didn't bite! | 0:14:55 | 0:14:58 | |
Well done. Well done! | 0:14:58 | 0:15:02 | |
'I wouldn't have believed in a million years that I would ever have fed a humungous crocodile. | 0:15:04 | 0:15:09 | |
'It was just incredible.' | 0:15:09 | 0:15:12 | |
-Thank you. That was great. -Cheers, mate. | 0:15:12 | 0:15:14 | |
It has also made me realise that we both need to learn about the dangers, | 0:15:14 | 0:15:18 | |
and not just the crocodiles but other wildlife as well. | 0:15:18 | 0:15:21 | |
A new life in Australia would have been so different to their life in the UK so Becci was determined that | 0:15:21 | 0:15:27 | |
Keelan should get the most out of their week to help him decide. | 0:15:27 | 0:15:30 | |
Park curator Dyon was keen to introduce Keelan to one of his friends. | 0:15:30 | 0:15:36 | |
I hear you want to meet some locals. | 0:15:36 | 0:15:38 | |
-Oh, yeah, that'd be great. -All right. I hope you're not scared of snakes. | 0:15:38 | 0:15:42 | |
This is a local carpet python. It's an albino. | 0:15:42 | 0:15:45 | |
Cute, or what? | 0:15:45 | 0:15:46 | |
She's a lovely snake. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:52 | |
They're very muscular and he's very quiet | 0:15:52 | 0:15:54 | |
and if you sort of put your hands round like this | 0:15:54 | 0:15:58 | |
and just support her a little bit, and she'll tend to climb and become comfortable. | 0:15:58 | 0:16:05 | |
Not venomous at all. They kill their prey by constricting. | 0:16:05 | 0:16:08 | |
It's definitely wrapping you up there! | 0:16:08 | 0:16:10 | |
It really pays not to pick snakes up unless you know what you're looking at. | 0:16:11 | 0:16:15 | |
-Yeah. -Any snake could be a venomous snake so it's best to leave it. | 0:16:15 | 0:16:19 | |
So if you've got some Brits over here that knew nothing whatsoever about poisonous snakes, | 0:16:19 | 0:16:25 | |
we could come here and you could teach us what to look out for and what to do if we did get bitten. | 0:16:25 | 0:16:30 | |
-Yeah. -And there's people you can call to come and get rid of them. -Snake busters. -Yeah! | 0:16:30 | 0:16:35 | |
Becci and Keelan had a great day together but would their vote for lifestyle reflect | 0:16:35 | 0:16:41 | |
the positive effect Australia could have on their relationship? | 0:16:41 | 0:16:45 | |
It's been very educational. | 0:16:47 | 0:16:48 | |
I've learnt that we need to do more research. | 0:16:48 | 0:16:51 | |
If we were to move out here I would definitely want to know | 0:16:51 | 0:16:54 | |
what type of snake I've got in my garage or my laundry. | 0:16:54 | 0:16:57 | |
I was looking forward to seeing crocodiles and other sort of wildlife. I enjoyed it. | 0:16:57 | 0:17:04 | |
It's one of the best things that I've ever done and I definitely | 0:17:04 | 0:17:08 | |
prefer the animals here to England and of course, you get a lot more. | 0:17:08 | 0:17:12 | |
I think our vote would have to be... | 0:17:12 | 0:17:16 | |
Australia! | 0:17:16 | 0:17:18 | |
Keelan was enjoying Australia, but Becci worried about him fitting in at a new school and making friends. | 0:17:25 | 0:17:32 | |
She hoped a day with children his own age would focus his mind. | 0:17:32 | 0:17:36 | |
'I think Keelan was a bit worried about going to school and spending time there.' | 0:17:36 | 0:17:42 | |
I've been surprised at how much he's thrown himself into it. | 0:17:42 | 0:17:45 | |
I am a little bit worried about taking him away from his friends and stuff in the UK, | 0:17:45 | 0:17:50 | |
but he can fit in pretty much anywhere and make new friends. | 0:17:50 | 0:17:54 | |
Becci wanted to make sure Keelan really thought hard about the move and its implications. | 0:17:54 | 0:18:00 | |
If he couldn't see himself becoming a young Aussie, then her dream would be over. | 0:18:00 | 0:18:04 | |
Whoa! | 0:18:04 | 0:18:07 | |
Careful of his leg. | 0:18:10 | 0:18:12 | |
All right, by now, | 0:18:12 | 0:18:14 | |
you should have your first ten words down and you should now be handling the animal. | 0:18:14 | 0:18:19 | |
Put words down that relate to what you feel, what you see when you're up close to him, OK? | 0:18:19 | 0:18:26 | |
-Spiky? Scaly? -Scaly, I'd say. | 0:18:26 | 0:18:30 | |
He's the longest living dinosaur. | 0:18:30 | 0:18:32 | |
'Everyone seems really friendly, | 0:18:32 | 0:18:35 | |
'whereas in England, if you met someone they might' | 0:18:35 | 0:18:39 | |
seem a little bit hostile at first | 0:18:39 | 0:18:41 | |
and it would take a while for them to start being friendly to you. | 0:18:41 | 0:18:46 | |
Keelan loved the science lesson, but deep down how did he feel about starting at a new school | 0:18:46 | 0:18:52 | |
thousands of miles away from his friends at home? | 0:18:52 | 0:18:55 | |
I had a good day at school. | 0:18:55 | 0:18:56 | |
I made a lot of friends and work is a lot easier than it is in England. Australia. | 0:18:56 | 0:19:02 | |
THEY CHEER | 0:19:02 | 0:19:05 | |
Well, he loved school here, but helping his mum out at home during her winter depression | 0:19:07 | 0:19:13 | |
meant Keelan didn't always have this much time to be a child. | 0:19:13 | 0:19:17 | |
Keelan's happiness was always at the forefront of Becci's thoughts. | 0:19:17 | 0:19:21 | |
If we don't manage to come out here, | 0:19:21 | 0:19:23 | |
I guess we'll just go back to the routine that we were in before | 0:19:23 | 0:19:27 | |
where he has to be more helpful to me during the winter months | 0:19:27 | 0:19:31 | |
and we go back to sort of just the usual routine back in the UK, | 0:19:31 | 0:19:36 | |
me being on medication, him doing the things that he has to do. | 0:19:36 | 0:19:41 | |
Becci realised if they were to stay in the UK, their future would be tough. | 0:19:41 | 0:19:44 | |
She had a massive decision to make if she was to turn her and Keelan's lives around. | 0:19:44 | 0:19:50 | |
However positive they both felt about Australia, a new life would have a massive emotional cost. | 0:19:50 | 0:19:57 | |
In 2008, before making their difficult decision, we showed Becci and Keelan | 0:20:00 | 0:20:06 | |
some heartfelt messages from their nearest and dearest back home. | 0:20:06 | 0:20:11 | |
Hey, Becci, hey, Kee, how are you? | 0:20:18 | 0:20:20 | |
Hope everything's going really well out there. | 0:20:20 | 0:20:22 | |
I'd just like to say that I'm going to miss you very much, | 0:20:22 | 0:20:26 | |
especially when you used to come round for your dinners on Sundays. | 0:20:26 | 0:20:30 | |
Generally, she's usually thinking about other people and obviously, | 0:20:30 | 0:20:35 | |
Keelan and her really get on really well and they've got quite a good relationship. | 0:20:35 | 0:20:41 | |
and it spills over onto other people, really. | 0:20:41 | 0:20:46 | |
You can't imagine one without the other, if you know what I mean. | 0:20:46 | 0:20:51 | |
It's just a nice relationship. | 0:20:51 | 0:20:54 | |
It's nice to see them together. | 0:20:54 | 0:20:56 | |
It's, like, funny, I'm sure it will all be fine, | 0:20:56 | 0:21:00 | |
but at the moment it's like, | 0:21:00 | 0:21:03 | |
feeling quite sad, sort of thing. | 0:21:03 | 0:21:08 | |
For a lad of his age he's, you know, he's really clever | 0:21:08 | 0:21:10 | |
and I think he's got the maturity and the responsibility | 0:21:10 | 0:21:15 | |
to really make something out of this experience. | 0:21:15 | 0:21:17 | |
I know that Becci and Keelan are together | 0:21:17 | 0:21:19 | |
and they'll always have each other but you can still be lonely for | 0:21:19 | 0:21:24 | |
your sister who's just around the corner and the rest of the family who aren't too far away, | 0:21:24 | 0:21:30 | |
and I know that from my point of view I would | 0:21:30 | 0:21:32 | |
probably feel a bit lonely from time to time, and that's a scary thought. | 0:21:32 | 0:21:37 | |
I'm almost angry at her for leaving | 0:21:37 | 0:21:41 | |
but at the same time you can't be | 0:21:41 | 0:21:43 | |
because it's achieving the main thing she's ever wanted. | 0:21:43 | 0:21:47 | |
She deserves a better life and I won't hold her back although I will be sad and I shall miss her. | 0:21:47 | 0:21:54 | |
I can't wait to see you when you come back from the trip | 0:21:54 | 0:21:57 | |
and I'll have some chicken tatoes waiting for you when you come round. | 0:21:57 | 0:22:01 | |
I'm going to miss you guys so much. | 0:22:03 | 0:22:05 | |
You have been absolutely fabulous to me since the day I met you. | 0:22:05 | 0:22:10 | |
Kee, I'm so proud of everything you've done. | 0:22:11 | 0:22:14 | |
You've worked so hard to help your mum and support her and make her proud every single day. | 0:22:14 | 0:22:22 | |
And just cos you're going to Australia, don't think that has to stop. | 0:22:22 | 0:22:26 | |
And Becci, | 0:22:26 | 0:22:28 | |
it's going to be really hard here without you | 0:22:28 | 0:22:32 | |
but I know that every time I come to see you | 0:22:32 | 0:22:36 | |
you're going to be happier every time. | 0:22:36 | 0:22:39 | |
And you deserve it. | 0:22:39 | 0:22:41 | |
Look after each other and we will see you real soon. | 0:22:41 | 0:22:46 | |
-That was hard, watching that, wasn't it? -Yeah. | 0:22:52 | 0:22:56 | |
Yeah, that was really hard. | 0:22:57 | 0:22:59 | |
Um...I knew that I'd get emotional with Heather's bit. | 0:22:59 | 0:23:03 | |
-Yeah. It was almost as if she was in the room with us. -Yeah. | 0:23:06 | 0:23:11 | |
It doesn't change our potential plans, no. | 0:23:12 | 0:23:16 | |
Erm, I think what it does do is makes me realise that we need to be | 0:23:16 | 0:23:21 | |
-somewhere that friends and family can come out and visit us and stay. -Yeah. | 0:23:21 | 0:23:26 | |
And that we need to keep lines of communication open, definitely, | 0:23:26 | 0:23:32 | |
whether that be phone or internet or whatever. | 0:23:32 | 0:23:35 | |
OK? | 0:23:36 | 0:23:37 | |
It had been a challenging week for the Sanders, with a lot to consider and a heart-wrenching choice ahead. | 0:23:54 | 0:24:00 | |
'I didn't think it'd be that bad, I didn't think I'd get emotional or anything,' | 0:24:00 | 0:24:04 | |
I thought I'd just...keep cool, but... | 0:24:04 | 0:24:08 | |
mm...I struggled a little bit. | 0:24:08 | 0:24:10 | |
If I thought that he was going to be horribly miserable out here | 0:24:10 | 0:24:16 | |
then I would have to think again about what we were doing and why. | 0:24:16 | 0:24:21 | |
'Seeing Heather, it was very emotional.' | 0:24:22 | 0:24:24 | |
It's almost going to be like losing a limb and probably we'll never have a friendship like that again. | 0:24:24 | 0:24:30 | |
So it was crunch time. Becci and Keelan had to make their final vote. | 0:24:30 | 0:24:34 | |
Would they choose a life in Australia with potentially better health for Becci | 0:24:34 | 0:24:39 | |
but without their friends and family for support, or would they decide to stay in the UK? | 0:24:39 | 0:24:45 | |
After what seems like a very long week here, erm... | 0:24:47 | 0:24:52 | |
I've decided that I really like it here. | 0:24:52 | 0:24:55 | |
I've enjoyed everything that I've done so far | 0:24:55 | 0:24:59 | |
and, even though the friends and family bit was sad, they still want to be happy for us. | 0:24:59 | 0:25:05 | |
Having spent the week here, I think it's made me realise | 0:25:05 | 0:25:10 | |
that there's more to moving to Australia than I originally thought. | 0:25:10 | 0:25:14 | |
Darwin has really got under my skin | 0:25:14 | 0:25:16 | |
and I think we've both fallen in love with Darwin completely. | 0:25:16 | 0:25:20 | |
If we had to choose between the UK and Australia, it would have to be... | 0:25:20 | 0:25:24 | |
-BOTH: -Australia. | 0:25:27 | 0:25:30 | |
In 2008, the Sanders voted to move to Australia, | 0:25:37 | 0:25:42 | |
but, when we met them again two years on, | 0:25:42 | 0:25:44 | |
had they been brave to make the biggest decision of their lives? | 0:25:44 | 0:25:48 | |
It would be a huge emotional wrench and leaving behind loved ones | 0:25:48 | 0:25:53 | |
that single mum Becci relied on so much would take a lot of courage. | 0:25:53 | 0:25:57 | |
So, where are they now? | 0:25:57 | 0:26:00 | |
The Sanders are in Australia. | 0:26:00 | 0:26:03 | |
Becci and son Keelan made the move and are living | 0:26:03 | 0:26:06 | |
in rented accommodation in Varsity Lakes on the Gold Coast. | 0:26:06 | 0:26:10 | |
They loved their trial week in Darwin but it was Becci's job that led them here. | 0:26:10 | 0:26:14 | |
So has Australia lived up to their dream? | 0:26:14 | 0:26:18 | |
Hi. Come on in. Let me show you the house. | 0:26:20 | 0:26:24 | |
This is the living room, and, as you can see, it's a work in progress. | 0:26:24 | 0:26:27 | |
We haven't got much furniture yet, but it's only been a couple of months | 0:26:27 | 0:26:31 | |
and we're waiting for our boxes to come over from the UK, | 0:26:31 | 0:26:34 | |
so when they get here we'll have a lot more junk to spread around. | 0:26:34 | 0:26:37 | |
This is Stevie. He is three. We got him from the pound. | 0:26:37 | 0:26:42 | |
That's Ozzy. He's five months old. | 0:26:42 | 0:26:46 | |
We got the cat the day before we actually moved into the house and he's settled in very well. | 0:26:46 | 0:26:51 | |
So this is the kitchen. It's bigger than the kitchen in the UK. | 0:26:53 | 0:26:57 | |
Still not huge but it's big enough. | 0:26:57 | 0:26:59 | |
We've got the dining room over there. | 0:26:59 | 0:27:01 | |
Still waiting for some furniture for that. | 0:27:01 | 0:27:04 | |
So this is my room. It's a bit smaller than the one in the UK | 0:27:04 | 0:27:08 | |
but I'm still adding some furniture. | 0:27:08 | 0:27:11 | |
Got a nice TV, games consoles | 0:27:11 | 0:27:13 | |
and other things to make up for it not being as big. | 0:27:13 | 0:27:17 | |
It's definitely starting to feel like my room. | 0:27:17 | 0:27:21 | |
This is a spare room. | 0:27:22 | 0:27:24 | |
As you can see, there's nothing in here at the moment, no furniture, | 0:27:24 | 0:27:27 | |
but we are expecting our first guests in a couple of months and there will be at least a bed in here by then. | 0:27:27 | 0:27:32 | |
This room is slightly smaller than my room in the UK. | 0:27:32 | 0:27:35 | |
However, I've got a huge built-in wardrobe and I've got | 0:27:35 | 0:27:38 | |
a lovely little en-suite bathroom | 0:27:38 | 0:27:40 | |
with a shower and a sink and a toilet. | 0:27:40 | 0:27:43 | |
Never thought I'd have an en-suite in my life, so that's fantastic, | 0:27:43 | 0:27:47 | |
and not having to fight for the bathroom with Keelan in the mornings is brilliant. It's great. | 0:27:47 | 0:27:52 | |
Having only been in Australia for a few months, it already looks | 0:27:52 | 0:27:55 | |
as though they have started to make a home for themselves. | 0:27:55 | 0:27:58 | |
But what prompted them to finally take the plunge? | 0:27:58 | 0:28:03 | |
The move over here happened very, very quickly. | 0:28:03 | 0:28:05 | |
I was offered a job and within a couple of months we were here. | 0:28:05 | 0:28:09 | |
It was fairly straightforward for us because we were renting in the UK | 0:28:09 | 0:28:12 | |
so it was just a case of giving four weeks' notice, packing the boxes up and jumping on a plane. | 0:28:12 | 0:28:17 | |
The move happened very quickly but was it straightforward? | 0:28:17 | 0:28:22 | |
It's quite expensive to do. | 0:28:22 | 0:28:25 | |
Whatever you think you're going to need, triple it. | 0:28:25 | 0:28:29 | |
'We came out here just before Christmas, didn't bring any Christmas presents so had to buy them here. | 0:28:29 | 0:28:34 | |
'We were staying in a resort for the first four weeks and that was very expensive, | 0:28:34 | 0:28:38 | |
'buying Keelan's school uniform, his books and his stationery for school, | 0:28:38 | 0:28:42 | |
'which is a cost that I wasn't expecting to incur. | 0:28:42 | 0:28:45 | |
'Also Scouts, I've had to pay for him to join Scouts and a new uniform for that as well. | 0:28:45 | 0:28:50 | |
'So, yeah, the costs are mounting up. | 0:28:50 | 0:28:52 | |
'But, settling in, we were so ready to come that it's been quite easy.' | 0:28:52 | 0:28:56 | |
'There's no one best thing about Australia. | 0:28:56 | 0:28:59 | |
'There's a lot of things. The weather's obviously always great,' | 0:28:59 | 0:29:03 | |
the people are nice and friendly and...I don't know, there's no one thing that you can choose. | 0:29:03 | 0:29:08 | |
I think the only downside really is not having my old friends and family here. | 0:29:08 | 0:29:15 | |
I think the hardest things have been obviously missing friends and family, | 0:29:15 | 0:29:22 | |
the desire to share this experience with someone who's close to you is quite strong, | 0:29:22 | 0:29:27 | |
so, yeah, that has been difficult, | 0:29:27 | 0:29:29 | |
and coming home in the evenings and wanting to chat with Heather, for example, or Mum, | 0:29:29 | 0:29:33 | |
just say, "This is what we've done today and this is what we've seen and it's all fantastic and exciting." | 0:29:33 | 0:29:39 | |
So, yeah, that's been quite tough. | 0:29:39 | 0:29:41 | |
Becci and Keelan are clearly missing the closeness of friends and family | 0:29:41 | 0:29:45 | |
but are forging a new life for themselves. | 0:29:45 | 0:29:47 | |
There is no room for second thoughts. | 0:29:47 | 0:29:50 | |
I'm not planning on moving back to the UK. | 0:29:51 | 0:29:54 | |
Keelan seems sure they have made the right decision. | 0:29:54 | 0:29:58 | |
In the UK, Becci was working as a mental-health advocate | 0:30:02 | 0:30:06 | |
but wanted her job to be more fulfilling. | 0:30:06 | 0:30:09 | |
I want to make a difference to people's lives | 0:30:09 | 0:30:12 | |
and I would think everyone that does nursing and OT and social work would probably say the same thing. | 0:30:12 | 0:30:17 | |
I don't feel as if I'm able to put that into practice here | 0:30:17 | 0:30:21 | |
because of the restraints with funding and budgets and stuff. | 0:30:21 | 0:30:24 | |
And I just feel that there'll be more opportunities and I'll be able to | 0:30:24 | 0:30:27 | |
really make a difference to people's lives somewhere else. | 0:30:27 | 0:30:30 | |
In Queensland, she's gone back to her original training | 0:30:30 | 0:30:34 | |
and has a position as an occupational therapist. | 0:30:34 | 0:30:38 | |
I've got my own caseload so I case-manage the client group. | 0:30:38 | 0:30:44 | |
The team try to give me clients who would benefit from OT input. | 0:30:46 | 0:30:51 | |
I also work with some of my colleagues' clients as well, providing specific OT assessments. | 0:30:51 | 0:30:57 | |
It's quite different to the job I was doing in the UK but there is an overlap as well. | 0:30:57 | 0:31:01 | |
I interviewed for this job in January 2009 and somebody else actually got the job | 0:31:01 | 0:31:08 | |
and then towards the end of 2009 I actually got an e-mail saying that that person had left | 0:31:08 | 0:31:14 | |
and was I still interested? | 0:31:14 | 0:31:15 | |
To which I said yes, very much so, and it all sort of went from there really. | 0:31:15 | 0:31:20 | |
All that hard work that I put in in the UK has come to fruition and we're here. | 0:31:20 | 0:31:25 | |
Changing jobs is hard enough but moving to a new job | 0:31:25 | 0:31:28 | |
in a new country with no friends is a massive undertaking. | 0:31:28 | 0:31:32 | |
'The team are just fantastic. They've been so welcoming and friendly and helpful. | 0:31:32 | 0:31:38 | |
'We've been going out for meals, meeting up after work as well, so, yeah, the team are just brilliant.' | 0:31:38 | 0:31:45 | |
I'm still settling in. I mean, I've been in this job for a couple of months now | 0:31:45 | 0:31:49 | |
and I think it will probably take me a good year to settle in properly. | 0:31:49 | 0:31:53 | |
There are a lot of things that I still don't know and, speaking to colleagues who have come from | 0:31:53 | 0:31:59 | |
various parts of the world, there are still things they don't know as well. | 0:31:59 | 0:32:03 | |
'So I think that's an ongoing process and it's something that just comes with time.' | 0:32:03 | 0:32:08 | |
My future, I intend to stay within the team for quite some time | 0:32:08 | 0:32:13 | |
and learn as much as I possibly can, | 0:32:13 | 0:32:16 | |
and then, I don't know, maybe four or five years' time, move on somewhere else and learn some more stuff. | 0:32:16 | 0:32:23 | |
When Keelan visited an Aussie school during his trial week, he found it easy to make friends. | 0:32:27 | 0:32:34 | |
Everyone seems really friendly, whereas in England, if you met someone, they might | 0:32:34 | 0:32:41 | |
seem a little bit hostile at first and it would take a while for them to start being friendly to you. | 0:32:41 | 0:32:48 | |
Visiting a school for a day is entirely different to a permanent move. | 0:32:48 | 0:32:52 | |
For a positive future in Australia, it's vital Keelan fits in. | 0:32:52 | 0:32:56 | |
Keelan seems to be settling in brilliantly. I couldn't have asked for a better reaction. | 0:32:56 | 0:33:00 | |
He's made loads of friends at school. | 0:33:00 | 0:33:02 | |
He's making friends through Scouts as well. And, yeah, he's doing absolutely fantastic. | 0:33:02 | 0:33:08 | |
I get on with Keelan really well. We're really good friends. | 0:33:08 | 0:33:11 | |
The best thing about Keelan is probably his character. | 0:33:11 | 0:33:13 | |
He's just really funny. | 0:33:13 | 0:33:15 | |
It's been really easy to make friends here. | 0:33:15 | 0:33:18 | |
Everyone's helpful. | 0:33:18 | 0:33:20 | |
I don't know if it's because of my strange accent to them | 0:33:20 | 0:33:23 | |
or something like that but at school, mostly, I've made a lot of new friends. | 0:33:23 | 0:33:28 | |
Everyone wants to become friends with him. He's got so many at school. | 0:33:28 | 0:33:32 | |
Keelan will settle really well into Australian life | 0:33:32 | 0:33:34 | |
and he's just going to make friends so fast and I can already tell that he likes it here. | 0:33:34 | 0:33:40 | |
I'm really happy that we moved over here. | 0:33:40 | 0:33:43 | |
The only thing I miss from England is my friends and family. | 0:33:43 | 0:33:47 | |
For Becci, leaving her best friend Heather behind | 0:33:47 | 0:33:50 | |
was one of the hardest decisions she ever had to make. | 0:33:50 | 0:33:53 | |
There certainly isn't a day that goes by when we don't talk to each other in some way. | 0:33:53 | 0:33:57 | |
That is going to be the weirdest thing. | 0:33:57 | 0:34:00 | |
I don't think you realise how much you rely on someone until they're not around | 0:34:00 | 0:34:04 | |
so, yeah, I don't even want to think about it cos I'll get all upset. | 0:34:04 | 0:34:07 | |
It's early days, but already Becci is forming some close friendships. | 0:34:07 | 0:34:12 | |
People here are so friendly. They'll do anything to help you. | 0:34:12 | 0:34:16 | |
I met Becci through work. | 0:34:16 | 0:34:18 | |
We both work for Queensland Health and our supervisor introduced us to one another cos she thought | 0:34:18 | 0:34:23 | |
it might be nice that we both know each other, both coming from England | 0:34:23 | 0:34:27 | |
and both having to do the same registration process to get our OT registration in Australia. | 0:34:27 | 0:34:31 | |
'She's very friendly and she'll do anything for you, | 0:34:31 | 0:34:34 | |
'if you need, you know...even just an ear to have a bit of a whinge to, which we all do sometimes! | 0:34:34 | 0:34:39 | |
'I think Becci loves it here. I can't see her going back to the UK. She's settled in really well.' | 0:34:39 | 0:34:44 | |
She's making some friends and, yeah, she just loves the whole way of life here so I can't see her going home. | 0:34:44 | 0:34:50 | |
It's the people, the weather, the lifestyle. | 0:34:50 | 0:34:53 | |
I can't say one thing that's the best. | 0:34:53 | 0:34:56 | |
It's just the best decision I've ever made. | 0:34:56 | 0:34:59 | |
Back in the UK, Becci suffered from seasonal affective disorder. | 0:35:03 | 0:35:08 | |
During the winter months, I do very little. | 0:35:08 | 0:35:11 | |
I get up in the morning and sort Keelan out for school and I go to work and I come home and sleep. | 0:35:11 | 0:35:19 | |
Obviously has an effect on Keelan as well. | 0:35:19 | 0:35:22 | |
It affects me because even the slightest thing could make her really angry at me... | 0:35:22 | 0:35:28 | |
..which I don't like. | 0:35:30 | 0:35:32 | |
This was the main reason Becci wanted to emigrate, hoping that sunnier climes | 0:35:32 | 0:35:37 | |
would mean a radical improvement in her health and more opportunities to spend quality time with Keelan. | 0:35:37 | 0:35:43 | |
We are spending more time together, definitely, although I'm working more hours here than I was in the UK. | 0:35:43 | 0:35:49 | |
The weekends, you go out and do things, you don't just sit in the house because of the bad weather. | 0:35:49 | 0:35:54 | |
There's just a lot more things to do, out and about, and we're going off and doing them together. | 0:35:54 | 0:35:59 | |
We've been able to go out a lot more, go to the Currumbin rock pools | 0:35:59 | 0:36:02 | |
or to the beach, and do a lot more family activities. | 0:36:02 | 0:36:07 | |
Spending more time with her, it's great. You know, I feel, | 0:36:07 | 0:36:11 | |
I don't know...I can't explain it. | 0:36:11 | 0:36:15 | |
Keelan's doing fantastically. He seems really happy and relaxed. We're working as a team. | 0:36:15 | 0:36:19 | |
We've always worked as a team anyway but we're still very much | 0:36:19 | 0:36:22 | |
working as a team and I think it's strengthened our relationship. | 0:36:22 | 0:36:26 | |
So they're definitely spending more time together. | 0:36:26 | 0:36:29 | |
Does this mean the move to Australia has had the life-changing impact | 0:36:29 | 0:36:33 | |
Becci hoped for and that she's at last getting better? | 0:36:33 | 0:36:37 | |
The seasonal affective disorder, it was quite disabling actually in the UK and was getting worse each year, | 0:36:37 | 0:36:43 | |
was having a huge effect on Keelan, to the point where | 0:36:43 | 0:36:46 | |
he was having to care for me, almost, during the winter months. | 0:36:46 | 0:36:50 | |
Here it just doesn't seem to be an issue at all. | 0:36:50 | 0:36:54 | |
My mum's done really well. | 0:36:54 | 0:36:56 | |
She hasn't got stressed and she's found a job which is even better than the one in England. | 0:36:56 | 0:37:02 | |
She's found a house, which is great. | 0:37:02 | 0:37:04 | |
I really think that she's settling in well to this new life. | 0:37:04 | 0:37:09 | |
I feel that I've wasted some time, spending time in the UK when I could have been here. | 0:37:09 | 0:37:13 | |
I've had a couple of wobbly days here but I think that's to be expected. | 0:37:13 | 0:37:17 | |
When you move halfway round the world and leave friends and family behind | 0:37:17 | 0:37:21 | |
you're bound to have a couple of days like that. | 0:37:21 | 0:37:23 | |
She's definitely happy with the decision to move over here. | 0:37:23 | 0:37:27 | |
I think I'm like a different person. | 0:37:27 | 0:37:29 | |
I think I've got more life, more spirit, | 0:37:29 | 0:37:32 | |
more energy. | 0:37:32 | 0:37:34 | |
I think I'm easier to get along with for Keelan. | 0:37:34 | 0:37:36 | |
He doesn't have to do so much looking after me. | 0:37:36 | 0:37:39 | |
Erm...yeah. | 0:37:39 | 0:37:42 | |
The move to Australia has turned Becci's life around | 0:37:42 | 0:37:45 | |
and has had a massive positive effect on both her and Keelan | 0:37:45 | 0:37:49 | |
but how will they react seeing poignant messages from home? | 0:37:49 | 0:37:53 | |
Hi, Becci, Keelan. | 0:37:55 | 0:37:57 | |
Hi, Becci. Hi, Keelan. | 0:37:57 | 0:37:58 | |
Hey, Becs. Hey, Kee. | 0:37:58 | 0:38:01 | |
When I first met Becci at university, it was when I was having a really hard time when I was there | 0:38:01 | 0:38:06 | |
and the first thing she did was run up to me and gave me a big hug when I was having just the most awful day. | 0:38:06 | 0:38:12 | |
Whenever I needed a hug, whenever I needed somebody to be there, | 0:38:12 | 0:38:15 | |
she's always the one that comes round and always has been. | 0:38:15 | 0:38:19 | |
I miss Keelan a lot, | 0:38:19 | 0:38:22 | |
cos he used to tease me about being small, cos he's quite tall, | 0:38:22 | 0:38:27 | |
and cos I've got little feet he used to call me Little Feet. | 0:38:27 | 0:38:30 | |
When we spent time together, what we'd normally do is... | 0:38:30 | 0:38:33 | |
..we'd normally just sit and drink tea and put the world to rights, and... | 0:38:35 | 0:38:41 | |
Keelan would normally take the mickey out of me. | 0:38:41 | 0:38:44 | |
Everybody's picking on me now! | 0:38:44 | 0:38:47 | |
We knew for a long time that Becci's always wanted to go abroad to the sun because of her SAD, | 0:38:47 | 0:38:55 | |
because she really did get depressed in the winter and it was quite bad, | 0:38:55 | 0:39:01 | |
it was quite upsetting for her and for Kee, | 0:39:01 | 0:39:04 | |
and for us really, but we always knew that she wanted to go to the sun so it wasn't a shock really. | 0:39:04 | 0:39:12 | |
She's proved that with a... so much effort you can get there and be so happy. | 0:39:12 | 0:39:19 | |
I was really happy for her to go because I knew that's what she wanted to do | 0:39:19 | 0:39:24 | |
but, for me, I knew that I would be sort of missing her, | 0:39:24 | 0:39:31 | |
and that was quite hard, | 0:39:31 | 0:39:34 | |
and...but I just sort of thought to myself, "Well, it's what she wants, | 0:39:34 | 0:39:40 | |
"and I can't stand in the way for my feelings," so I just supported her as much as I possibly could. | 0:39:40 | 0:39:48 | |
I think going out there's definitely everything that she dreamed of. | 0:39:48 | 0:39:52 | |
I really don't think there's a single thing that she'd change, | 0:39:52 | 0:39:56 | |
apart from to attach a lead to us all and bring us all over there with her. | 0:39:56 | 0:40:00 | |
I think that's the only thing that would complete the picture for her. | 0:40:00 | 0:40:03 | |
She doesn't come for dinner any more. I find that quite hard | 0:40:03 | 0:40:06 | |
and I'm sort of looking round and thinking, "She'll be here..." | 0:40:06 | 0:40:10 | |
When I forget, I think, "She'll be here soon, I'll put the dinner on and they'll be arriving," | 0:40:10 | 0:40:15 | |
but obviously she doesn't. | 0:40:15 | 0:40:17 | |
But I think that's the hard bit, because it was always a regular thing. | 0:40:17 | 0:40:23 | |
Most days when I'm at work I'll check to see what the local time is | 0:40:23 | 0:40:27 | |
and see if I can phone them or think about what they might be up to at that particular time of day. | 0:40:27 | 0:40:32 | |
Yeah, it's definitely hit home that they've gone. | 0:40:34 | 0:40:37 | |
Just want to let you know that I'm still thinking about you every day | 0:40:37 | 0:40:40 | |
and I'm so proud of you for making the move, and I know that you're really enjoying yourselves out there | 0:40:40 | 0:40:45 | |
and obviously we miss you and we love you, so big hug. | 0:40:45 | 0:40:50 | |
I've missed you both so much. | 0:40:50 | 0:40:54 | |
It's so hard when I want to be able to see you and you're not there. | 0:40:54 | 0:40:59 | |
Please, you two, just keep looking after each other. | 0:40:59 | 0:41:02 | |
Keep loving each other. | 0:41:02 | 0:41:04 | |
I'm so happy for you and I love you both very much. | 0:41:04 | 0:41:08 | |
I really, really miss you but I'm really glad everything's going really well for you. | 0:41:10 | 0:41:16 | |
I miss you really, really loads and loads and loads | 0:41:16 | 0:41:19 | |
and when I get out to you we're going to have a really big hug, | 0:41:19 | 0:41:24 | |
so have a lovely life and goodbye. | 0:41:24 | 0:41:26 | |
That last little bit, where Nana just like... | 0:41:32 | 0:41:36 | |
It's easier than the first one. | 0:41:38 | 0:41:41 | |
-Yeah, possibly. -I don't get why. -No. | 0:41:41 | 0:41:44 | |
Thought it would be harder because... | 0:41:44 | 0:41:47 | |
last time we knew we were going to see them again. | 0:41:47 | 0:41:51 | |
I think I maybe found it harder this time, | 0:41:51 | 0:41:54 | |
watching that. | 0:41:54 | 0:41:57 | |
Although Keelan took that well, for Becci, seeing her loved ones was very difficult. | 0:41:57 | 0:42:02 | |
Now they're in Australia, have they definitely made the right decision? | 0:42:02 | 0:42:06 | |
It's time for one last vote. | 0:42:06 | 0:42:09 | |
So this has been the best thing we've ever done, it's a huge adventure, | 0:42:09 | 0:42:13 | |
so based on that our vote is going to be... | 0:42:13 | 0:42:16 | |
-BOTH: -Australia. | 0:42:16 | 0:42:19 | |
Although it's clearly been a heart-wrenching decision for Becci and Keelan | 0:42:21 | 0:42:26 | |
to pack up their lives and move halfway around the world, it looks as though it was the right choice | 0:42:26 | 0:42:32 | |
and the sun is now definitely shining for both of them. | 0:42:32 | 0:42:36 | |
Join us again, when we catch up with another family on Wanted Down Under Revisited. | 0:42:36 | 0:42:43 | |
Subtitles by Red Bee Media Ltd | 0:42:59 | 0:43:01 |