The Boy with the Topknot


The Boy with the Topknot

Drama. Born to traditional Punjabi parents and growing up in Wolverhampton, Sathnam has gone on to build a very different life for himself in London.


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Sathnam!

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-Sathnam!

-Yes?

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Unbelievable, you jammy bastard.

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-Why? What?

-Samuel L Jackson says yes.

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You can see him on the 16th, out in Los Angeles.

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Samuel L Jackson?

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But also, on the 17th,

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Simon Cowell has invited you to the X Factor mansion in the Cotswolds.

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Now, you can't do both, so, what's it to be?

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Mr Cool, or Mr Cowell?

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Aren't you to move in that week?

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Exchanging contracts.

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-Mr Cowell.

-OK.

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You love Samuel L Jackson.

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Yeah, but I'd be gone for a week, and I love someone else more.

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-He's picked the one he thinks most people want to read about.

-Ah!

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He's going home this weekend to tell his parents about us.

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-Oh!

-I know.

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Hello, ladies.

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-Everything all right?

-Hi, Matt.

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You don't think they suspect anything?

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Absolutely nothing.

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TRADITIONAL MUSIC PLAYS

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IN PUNJABI:

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London.

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I'm from London.

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I've just... I'm just out of practice.

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Yeah, I'm from here, from Wolverhampton.

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I can't remember.

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Somewhere near Jalandhar. I think.

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WHISPERS: Dick.

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Mum, Dedi?

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-Sathnam?

-Sathnam! Sathnam.

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What time is your flight? I've got to get back.

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How many chapatis I give you?

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Three? OK, four.

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I hope you're not buying that comic, Dedi?

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Please tell me someone left it here.

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Someone left it here.

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Mm-hm.

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But you still read it. What time is your flight this evening?

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Flight is...

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Everyone comes for lunch at one.

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MOTHER SPEAKS PUNJABI

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Small snack.

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But I need to be at the airport by three.

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You and Puli can come in our car with us.

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Right. What time is your flight?

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7:20.

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What are you going to do at the airport for four hours?

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We be there, we say goodbye. And your cousin, Hardip,

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is coming this afternoon.

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-Ah, Bins, how are you doing?

-Yeah, I'm all right.

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-Hi.

-Sathnam! How you doing?

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I'm good, thanks. You?

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Couldn't be better, yeah. I took delivery of an M3 this week.

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19-inch alloys, low mileage, heads-up display.

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I heard, yeah.

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Nice. Nice car.

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Oh, superb.

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Well, 180 grand a year before bonuses, you know.

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What are you driving?

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You don't really need a car in London.

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It depends where you live.

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Hi, Puli.

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I'm buying a flat in Dalston, so it's pretty central.

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-Buying a flat?

-How much are you earning?

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Property is my thing.

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London in particular.

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And you earn enough to buy a flat in Dalston on your own?

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Puli.

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Right, a family photo.

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Again?

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If you visited more often, we wouldn't need a photo.

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EVERYONE TALKS AT ONCE

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Ready?

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The proud parents with their offspring.

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Only one single.

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Don't embarrass him.

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The suitcases are in shot.

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Mum, what have you got in here?

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Have you weighed this?

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SHE SPEAKS IN PUNJABI

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Sathnam, back in line, face the front for India!

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-You can come and stand by me.

-I'm fine here, just take the photo.

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-Come on. Smile!

-Cheese!

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-And one again!

-ALL: Cheese!

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PHONE RINGS

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Who is it?

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-OK, yeah.

-Come on, Sat.

-Ready?

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Three, two, one.

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ALL: Cheese.

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And here he goes.

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Hi. Hi.

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It's pretty mad. Mum decided to invite the whole family,

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and now I can't get her on her own to speak to her.

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But I will.

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What about you? What are you doing?

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I'm showing Mum and Dad the flat.

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Oh, nice!

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-Do you think they like it?

-Love it.

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-Especially the garden.

-Ah.

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OK, speak later, yeah?

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Bye.

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So what's the postcode on this flat you're buying?

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E8 or N16?

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I'm not sure. I'll look it up.

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Sorry, I've just got to...

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I think my parents have an excess baggage problem.

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Long haul is 23 kilos.

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Absolutely ridiculous!

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Come on!

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Seriously?

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-DOCTOR'S VOICE:

-This patient, Mr Jagjiti Sanghera,

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suffers from acute paranoid schizophrenia,

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and has been registered as severely mentally ill since 1979.

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Communication is best done through his wife,

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-who also controls his medication.

-Fuck.

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Mr Sanghera is visiting his family in India...

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-Fuck.

-..for a short visit.

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DOCTOR'S VOICE FADES OUT

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Sorry.

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-WHISPERS:

-The door wasn't locked.

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-What's he doing?

-I hope he's not taking everything out.

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Mum's going to go mental.

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-Oh, what are you doing?

-I was weighing the luggage.

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No, no, I found this.

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Yeah, yeah, this goes in with Dedi's medicines.

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Oh, my God, I've taken these out twice already!

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-You know about this?

-Sathnam, Dedi always takes a note

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like this when he travels, it's fine.

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-What do you mean?

-Now, out of here, come on.

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Go and eat. Go downstairs.

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-Look at this.

-Make sure that this goes back in the medicine bag.

-Done.

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Well, what did your brother and sisters say?

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They just act like it's normal.

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You must have spoken to them.

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Yeah, I mean... Not...

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Laura, I'm the youngest.

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They don't always include me in stuff.

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I went to Cambridge, I live here now, they've stayed in Wolves.

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It's like we are in two different worlds.

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They watch Britain's Got Talent for God's sake!

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So do we, sometimes.

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Yeah, I mean...

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I had to come and talk to you about the schizophrenia my dad's had

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since before I was born, because...

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-..I could have it too.

-What do you mean, you could have it too?

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It runs in families, doesn't it?

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In fact, it's practically certain.

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-Come on, Sathnam!

-Oh, don't laugh.

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Don't. I'll show you. I can prove it.

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Where's my phone?

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-I've got it here.

-Darling, come here.

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Come back to mine.

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Come on.

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Come on, let's get home.

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OK, so I've found this site which gives 15 symptoms

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-associated with schizophrenia, tick the ones that apply.

-Mm-hm.

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Now, here's the thing, though. I score more than my dad.

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I get eight dead certs.

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First one up, hypochondria.

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Yeah?

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And I'm a hypochondriac, aren't I?

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Yep. Yeah, that one's for definite.

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Right, next, I'm overly interested in religious things.

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-Since when?

-What do you mean "since"?

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Mum thinks I'm the Messiah.

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She says I'm special in the eyes of God.

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Laura, I had a topknot until I was 14.

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A symbol of devotion.

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And I think you're going to give me the next one.

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I am preoccupied with sex.

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-Aren't we all?

-I am often mistakenly thought to be gay.

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You are not serious?

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-I am a little, yes.

-Sathnam.

-But there's...

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I have been with you long enough to know that you are many things,

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but you are not mentally ill.

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Having said that, what I find interesting

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is how you have managed to make this all about yourself

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when it already is about you.

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I mean, if your dad has had this severe mental illness

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for the whole of your life, have you really never noticed anything?

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I was just told he had diabetes and had to retire.

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From what?

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What was his job? What did he do?

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I don't...I don't know.

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-I don't know.

-You need to talk to someone.

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-Talk to your mum.

-She is...

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-She's away now.

-When she's back.

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Yeah.

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And in the meantime, why not try

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and talk to your brother and your sisters?

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# You've gone away

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# To a place where I can't touch you

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# And I want to fly away

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# And I'll come right up

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# To your front door just to say

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# Hello

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# And I will try and keep my best

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# Face on

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# You've been gone for oh-so long

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# No

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# And I have to tell you that I'm sorry for my frown

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# But things are not the same for me. #

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-Hey.

-Hey.

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You OK?

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-Mm-hm.

-Mm-hm.

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I was just thinking about my dad, you know.

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What you said.

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How can I not have known?

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You know?

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The thing is, with my dad, he's always had...

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..such an easy presence.

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I mean, always.

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You know, the only time I've ever seen him upset...

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..was when my sister Puli got married.

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And everyone cries at weddings, don't they?

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As you'll very soon find out.

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Don't you try and back out now.

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Cos you said yes, you're stuck with me now.

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That was lovely, being asked.

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Good, because as soon as my parents are back from India,

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there's no waiting for the right moment.

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I'm just... I'm just going to say to Mum,

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"We're getting married, and that's it."

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Right.

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Go on.

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This thing with your dad.

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It's a big deal.

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So...

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HE SIGHS

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Give it its due.

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Deal with one thing at a time.

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-And, just a question...

-Mm-hm.

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When you do tell them,

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do you really want to hit them straight off with,

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"We're getting married"?

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Maybe just introduce the idea of me first?

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Yeah?

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Can I just say that that's why you're going to get that promotion?

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-Hm?

-Yeah.

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You just step back and see the bigger picture.

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Thank you for this evening.

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I know it's been difficult. I know I've been difficult...

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..but coming back to talk to you was a really good decision.

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SHE LAUGHS What? What?

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You're the only person I know who can hand out praise

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and pat yourself on the back at the same time!

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Sathnam.

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It's arrived.

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Are you going to come and see?

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I'm going to be in it later.

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Pretty discreet... Hardly even notice it!

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Rosso corsa.

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-What's all the fuss about?

-The Simon Cowell interview.

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God, he's not here, is he?

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No. Apparently, he's a car freak,

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Sathnam plans to drive there in a Ferrari.

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-How vulgar.

-It's fantastic.

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-Hi.

-Hello.

-Oh, hello.

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-How are you?

-Good.

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You're so good, doing this.

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Hey.

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-Sold your flat yet?

-He rents.

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PHONE RINGS

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-Oh, this will be the X Factor office confirming ETA, no doubt.

-Oh!

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Hi, this is Sathnam Sanghera.

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Sathnam, it's Auntie Jugi.

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Your Auntie Jugi. Hiya.

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-Auntie Jugi, hi.

-Can you see us?

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I can see you.

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Yeah. Hang on, Auntie, one sec.

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Yeah...

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There we go. Sorry about that, Auntie. Hi.

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Is that where you live?

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No, no, no, I'm at work.

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I thought I saw a kitchen.

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Yeah, we have a kitchen in the office.

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-How are you?

-Fine, I'm fine.

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I'm just worried about your mum.

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Why, what's happened?

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She is very upset, Sathnam.

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-Very.

-Why?

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Someone told her you're going out with a white girl.

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Someone said you had been seen

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being all deewana with a gori in London.

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I have never seen your mum so upset.

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-Christ!

-Sorry?

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Yeah.

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So... What do you want me to say?

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Cos she asked me to phone, you know.

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Well...

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It's not true, obviously, I'm not with a gori, or anybody.

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I'm not with anyone, Auntie.

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Auntie, I'll call you back, yeah?

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I've got a meeting. Give me ten minutes, I'll get right back to you.

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-Thank you. Laura!

-Just popping round the shop.

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-Laura.

-You just told someone I don't exist.

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-No.

-What do you mean no?

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It was my auntie.

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I was ambushed. I had to say that.

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Otherwise it would spread like wildfire,

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and it can't happen that way.

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It just can't.

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-Those were just words.

-Not to me.

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I said, I've told you, I'm going to tell my mum, and I am.

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When did your parents get back?

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The day before yesterday.

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And you didn't tell me?

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It's delicate. That's all.

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It's about doing it right, yeah?

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I have 54 first cousins, and so far all of them have married...

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-Married a Sikh girl or a Sikh boy, I know this.

-Yeah.

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..and I'm the one who's going to break ranks.

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I'll be the first, Laura, I mean, it's...

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..possible and probable I'll be disowned.

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What, so you'll never tell them about me because...

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..you can't?

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You'll just live two separate lives?

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You're wrong.

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You are so wrong.

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I'm going to drive up and tell them now.

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And I mean right now.

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Enough is enough.

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DOOR OPENS, CLOSES

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Sathnam?

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Mum.

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Thank you.

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And now you've come to see me, so...

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PHONE VIBRATES

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She looks like Cheryl Cole!

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So pretty.

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Shall I arrange for it? Yes, huna?

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Yes, yes, you leave it to me. I'll fix it.

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PHONE CONTINUES VIBRATING

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What are you reading about, Dedi?

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What's in the paper? What does it say?

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I'm reading about America.

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I am reading about the Prime Minister of America.

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Isn't it?

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There are two governments.

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One there and one here, and they both work very closely.

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-Don't they?

-You mean the American and British governments?

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Yeah.

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Do you understand the words and letters in English, Dedi?

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Can you actually read any of it?

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That's great. I wish Mum would learn to read English.

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It's important.

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We have a Sathnam alert.

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Sathnam...

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Sathnam...

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Sathnam Sanghera...

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Sathnam...

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Sathnam...

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Can I tell you something?

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Yeah, yeah, sure.

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Your mum tells me not to talk about this with you.

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It's fine, I won't say anything.

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When the sun rises...

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..but everything is OK, because...

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..I can raise the sun.

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Yeah.

0:26:030:26:04

I can raise the sun...

0:26:040:26:06

..and I have worked it out myself.

0:26:080:26:10

PHONE VIBRATES

0:26:180:26:21

HE CRACKS KNUCKLES

0:26:240:26:26

His outpatient appointment for tomorrow.

0:26:370:26:40

Nothing special, regular checkup.

0:26:420:26:45

No need to come.

0:26:480:26:49

-Would you like to follow me to Dr Dutta's office?

-Yeah.

0:27:330:27:36

It's the last door on the left.

0:27:390:27:40

-KNOCKING

-Come in.

0:27:440:27:46

Hi. THEY GREET IN PUNJABI

0:27:490:27:51

Mum, mum, just sit down.

0:27:570:27:59

I've not seen you before.

0:28:030:28:05

Your sisters and brother, yes, but not you.

0:28:050:28:07

I live in London.

0:28:070:28:08

I just wanted to know a bit more about my father's condition.

0:28:080:28:12

That's no problem, no problem.

0:28:120:28:14

OK, one for the heart, blood pressure, diabetes.

0:28:230:28:28

These are for his mental health problems,

0:28:280:28:31

your father is on quetiapine and a monthly injection of Modecate.

0:28:310:28:36

Injections?

0:28:360:28:37

Your father is not so reliable when it comes to taking his medicines,

0:28:380:28:41

so it's just a backup to ensure he doesn't deteriorate

0:28:410:28:43

beyond a certain point. Jagjiti?

0:28:430:28:47

And I can make the sun rise and both the countries are friends,

0:29:060:29:10

I know that, thank you very much.

0:29:100:29:12

Are you all right?

0:29:150:29:16

Yeah, yeah.

0:29:180:29:20

I've just never seen him so animated.

0:29:200:29:23

At home, he just, you know,

0:29:230:29:24

reads the newspaper or watches the shopping channel,

0:29:240:29:28

I mean, obsessively.

0:29:280:29:30

He may think it's talking to him or about him,

0:29:300:29:32

but if he's becoming delusional,

0:29:320:29:34

let's nip it in the bud - we'll increase his dose.

0:29:340:29:37

Don't do it on my say-so.

0:29:370:29:38

Please, I've been monitoring him for some time,

0:29:380:29:41

I think it'll be good to increase a little -

0:29:410:29:43

with his agreement, of course.

0:29:430:29:45

Jagjiti?

0:29:450:29:46

You're taking two, huna?

0:29:490:29:50

So, to keep you well, we will keep it the same,

0:29:530:29:55

but we'll just double the dosage.

0:29:550:29:57

Thank you very much. Thank you.

0:30:040:30:06

You should know that your father is only doing as well as he is

0:30:070:30:10

because of your mother. She enables him to remain at home,

0:30:100:30:14

although, and I say this with some pride,

0:30:140:30:17

Indian families cope because the entire family rallies around.

0:30:170:30:20

I promise you, 95 out of 100 people like your father

0:30:200:30:24

would be in a nursing home by now - and a closed unit, at that.

0:30:240:30:27

Try not to worry. Continuity is everything,

0:30:290:30:32

it's change that causes the problems.

0:30:320:30:35

Change can throw him off balance,

0:30:350:30:36

but, well, since we have seen no aggression for many years and...

0:30:360:30:41

What, aggression?

0:30:410:30:42

What do you mean, aggression?

0:30:420:30:44

No, I mean, he's...

0:30:440:30:45

Please, remember what I said. Let us not be at loggerheads.

0:30:450:30:49

Oh, he's used to people arguing.

0:30:490:30:52

But not you with me.

0:30:520:30:53

So.

0:30:550:30:56

-Not to worry.

-Jagjiti?

0:31:000:31:03

Thank you, thank you.

0:31:030:31:05

THEY SPEAK IN PUNJABI

0:31:050:31:08

Yeah, he was admitted to hospital last night.

0:31:160:31:18

-That's terrible.

-Yeah.

0:31:180:31:20

So I just felt I couldn't bring us up now,

0:31:200:31:23

you know, cos the doctor said, at times like this,

0:31:230:31:25

the only reason my dad is not being transferred to a secure unit

0:31:250:31:28

is because his family life is stable.

0:31:280:31:31

-Right.

-I mean, you do see that, don't you?

0:31:330:31:36

Of course I do. Yeah, of course.

0:31:360:31:38

-OK.

-Listen, do you want me to call Greg

0:31:400:31:42

and get the interview rearranged?

0:31:420:31:43

What time does your dad get out of hospital?

0:31:430:31:45

What do you mean out of hos...? Yeah, yeah, you should.

0:31:450:31:49

Oh, my God.

0:31:510:31:54

-You've lied to me.

-Yeah, no, no... Laura, listen...

0:31:540:31:57

-MOTHER:

-Sathnam?

0:32:020:32:03

The editor's called me back to London.

0:32:070:32:09

-Sorry.

-Is it really urgent?

0:32:090:32:12

-Very.

-Important?

0:32:120:32:14

PHONE RINGS

0:32:180:32:20

Sathnam, fuck off.

0:32:220:32:25

MOTOR REVS

0:32:280:32:31

She's on her way to Lisbon.

0:32:380:32:39

-For the travel pages.

-Who else is on that piece?

0:32:400:32:42

-Is it Matt on that?

-Sathnam, quick word.

0:32:420:32:45

Laura has asked us to withhold her contact details from you.

0:32:470:32:50

I have no idea what's going on between you two,

0:32:500:32:53

but we're all professionals, all right?

0:32:530:32:55

Matt's out in Lisbon, too, isn't he?

0:32:550:32:56

Matt's over there.

0:32:560:32:58

Sathnam...

0:33:000:33:01

Sathnam, listen, mate, there's lots to concentrate on, yeah?

0:33:010:33:04

You've got your interview with Simon Cowell... Sathnam, Sathnam...

0:33:040:33:08

-Laura, come on.

-Your stuff's down there.

0:33:080:33:11

Changing the locks?

0:33:110:33:12

-Take your stuff and go.

-What about our new flat?

0:33:120:33:15

You love that place, we've just put a deposit down.

0:33:150:33:17

Yeah, you've lost that, too.

0:33:170:33:19

Take your bags and go.

0:33:190:33:21

I don't...I don't want to.

0:33:210:33:22

Laura!

0:33:260:33:28

What? What exactly do you want to say to me, Sathnam?

0:33:320:33:35

Right. Yeah, absolutely nothing.

0:33:380:33:40

-This is, I can't...

-"My dad's illiterate but I went to Cambridge,

0:33:400:33:44

"I got a first."

0:33:440:33:45

Big deal! If it makes you so much better,

0:33:450:33:47

then what are you hiding from?

0:33:470:33:49

Cos that's what you're doing.

0:33:490:33:51

"Let's pretend my dad was never ill

0:33:510:33:53

"and let's keep the peasants up in Wolverhampton

0:33:530:33:56

"while I have another life down here," which, incredibly,

0:33:560:33:59

given you don't know the basic facts about your own family,

0:33:590:34:01

includes a job where you're paid to ask strangers about their lives.

0:34:010:34:05

Brilliant! Also, just imagine your reaction

0:34:050:34:08

if it was me telling you I can't introduce you to my family

0:34:080:34:10

because you're Punjabi.

0:34:100:34:12

It's not the same, that is not the same.

0:34:120:34:13

It's a bit the same, Sathnam!

0:34:130:34:15

Not at all, actually, because Sikhs believe all human beings,

0:34:150:34:17

even though they appear different, are one. We are all one, Laura!

0:34:170:34:20

Then what's the fucking problem?!

0:34:200:34:23

Argh!

0:34:260:34:27

Laura...

0:34:450:34:46

MUSIC: It's Happening Again by Agnes Obel

0:34:550:34:58

# I swear it is true

0:35:130:35:15

# The past isn't dead

0:35:180:35:21

# It's alive, it is happening

0:35:210:35:25

# In the back of my head

0:35:250:35:29

# No future, no past

0:35:290:35:33

# No laws of time

0:35:330:35:38

# Can undo what is happening

0:35:380:35:42

# When I close my eyes

0:35:420:35:46

# And with the stars and the moon

0:35:460:35:50

# I woke up in the night

0:35:510:35:54

# In the same place

0:35:540:36:02

# It's sailing

0:36:020:36:08

# Before my eyes

0:36:080:36:11

# It's happening, it's happening

0:36:110:36:13

# It's happening, it's happening

0:36:130:36:15

# It's happening

0:36:150:36:18

# It's happening, it's happening

0:36:180:36:21

# It's happening, it's happening

0:36:210:36:23

# It's happening again. #

0:36:230:36:26

I'm not with a gori or anybody, I'm not with anyone.

0:36:480:36:50

If it makes you so much better than them, what are you hiding from?

0:36:500:36:53

This patient, Mr Jagjiti Sanghera,

0:36:530:36:55

suffers from acute paranoid schizophrenia.

0:36:550:36:57

"Let's pretend my dad was never ill."

0:36:570:36:59

-You know about this?

-These are for his mental health problems.

0:36:590:37:02

"Let's keep the peasants up in Wolverhampton

0:37:020:37:04

"while I have another life down here."

0:37:040:37:05

He may think it's talking to him.

0:37:050:37:07

Well, since we have seen no aggression for many years...

0:37:070:37:09

What do you mean, aggression?

0:37:090:37:11

Given you don't know the basic facts about your own family...

0:37:110:37:13

But everything is OK, because I can raise the sun,

0:37:130:37:16

and I have worked it out myself!

0:37:160:37:19

Have you really never noticed anything?

0:37:330:37:36

Sathnam.

0:38:000:38:02

-Sathnam.

-SATHNAM ANSWERS IN PUNJABI

0:38:020:38:04

Sathnam...

0:38:040:38:05

Dedi?

0:38:150:38:16

Can I ask about when you first came to this country?

0:38:190:38:23

When you first came here, when you were young...

0:38:250:38:27

..you were younger than me, weren't you?

0:38:290:38:31

I used to ride a bike.

0:38:340:38:36

Did you?

0:38:360:38:37

I used to go everywhere on it.

0:38:390:38:42

I went to... I...

0:38:440:38:45

..went everywhere on the bike.

0:38:460:38:48

-"Everywhere..."

-Mum...

0:38:510:38:53

He can't ride a bike.

0:38:530:38:55

I can, I can.

0:38:550:38:57

You didn't have a bike.

0:39:030:39:04

When was that?

0:39:090:39:10

When I first came to this country in...

0:39:100:39:14

-..1986.

-1986!

0:39:150:39:18

It was 1979.

0:39:180:39:21

I rode a bike.

0:39:210:39:22

I was the strongest man in this country.

0:39:230:39:26

And I used to...lift weights.

0:39:270:39:30

Why are you asking him all these questions?

0:39:350:39:37

Week in, week out, I ask strangers about their lives,

0:39:370:39:41

and I don't know the first thing about my own family,

0:39:410:39:45

and it turns out it's your story, Mum,

0:39:450:39:47

yours and Dedi's, yeah?

0:39:470:39:49

How you've coped, that's the story I need to hear.

0:39:490:39:51

I used to ride a bike.

0:39:540:39:55

I mean, I don't even know how old you were when you first met Dedi.

0:40:100:40:13

You know, when your marriage was arranged.

0:40:140:40:16

15, maybe 16.

0:40:250:40:30

And did you know he was ill?

0:40:340:40:36

What did you know?

0:40:430:40:44

Look, I don't want you to start worrying about all this.

0:40:460:40:50

Mum, I worry about what I don't know.

0:40:500:40:53

OK?

0:40:540:40:55

And then, I mean, they, what, showed you a photo?

0:41:230:41:26

-LAUGHS:

-Photo!

0:41:260:41:28

So, you didn't even know what he looked like?

0:41:420:41:44

I told you about a Sikh girl,

0:41:580:42:00

I have a number for her now, she's a doctor.

0:42:000:42:03

-Mum, Mum...

-Doctor!

0:42:030:42:05

Mum, this is about you, not me.

0:42:050:42:08

OK? Go on.

0:42:090:42:12

SHE SIGHS

0:42:220:42:24

TRADITIONAL SINGING

0:42:360:42:39

He just sat there.

0:43:160:43:18

What happened after that?

0:43:230:43:25

Mum, what about afterwards, after the wedding?

0:43:270:43:31

Firstly, we were sent to Southall to live with

0:43:330:43:38

Auntie Sharanjit and Uncle Mohinder.

0:43:380:43:42

PHONE VIBRATES

0:44:200:44:23

-So, what year was it?

-1666.

0:44:440:44:46

1666. And where did it start?

0:44:460:44:49

In the bakery.

0:44:490:44:50

In the bakery, very good.

0:44:500:44:51

So, who have you interviewed lately, Sathnam?

0:44:510:44:54

-Salman Rushdie.

-Who?

0:44:540:44:55

Go bring it to the table.

0:44:550:44:58

-Carlos Slim Helu.

-What?

0:44:580:45:00

Sounds like a dish.

0:45:000:45:01

He's the second richest man in the world.

0:45:010:45:03

Oh, I'm doing Simon Cowell tomorrow.

0:45:050:45:08

-Oh.

-Nice.

0:45:080:45:10

Are you sat back at the table, yeah?

0:45:150:45:17

Have you washed your hands?

0:45:170:45:19

Hey, you know what,

0:45:200:45:22

Mum's got our Sathnam on a hot date later.

0:45:220:45:24

-Oh, yeah?

-Yeah.

0:45:240:45:26

Little bro has a date with a doctor.

0:45:260:45:28

-Hey!

-Yeah. Geriatrics doctor.

0:45:280:45:31

What, a geriatric?

0:45:310:45:33

Oh, we hope not!

0:45:330:45:34

LAUGHTER

0:45:340:45:36

She looks like Alesha Dixon.

0:45:390:45:41

Sathnam, I've ironed your jeans.

0:45:440:45:46

-Oi-oi!

-Oh, yes!

0:45:460:45:48

-Nice.

-Yeah, thanks.

0:45:480:45:51

MUSIC: Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go by Wham!

0:45:520:45:55

-Do you remember this one?

-Yeah!

0:45:570:45:58

Hey, do remember with Michael Jackson's Liberian Girl

0:46:340:46:38

how you thought it was librarian girl?!

0:46:380:46:41

Yeah, yeah, yeah, with that Swahili bit at the beginning!

0:46:410:46:43

# Piya-Mpenziwe... #

0:46:430:46:46

And you thought it was the librarian saying, "Put your pens away!"

0:46:460:46:49

-Oh, yeah!

-Well, at least I didn't think Walsall was the capital

0:46:490:46:52

of Poland and that the Famous Five books are written by Grid Blyton -

0:46:520:46:56

Noddy Goes To Toyland by Grid Blyton.

0:46:560:46:59

-EMBARRASSED:

-It was the way her signature looked on the book covers.

0:46:590:47:03

How she did her E.

0:47:030:47:04

-MUSIC: Club Tropicana by Wham!

-Remember this?

-Oh!

0:47:040:47:07

-Yeah? Remember this?

-Do you remember this?

0:47:070:47:09

It's Club Tropicana. You remember.

0:47:090:47:10

Puli, do you remember this?

0:47:200:47:21

Of course she does, it was her favourite. Come on.

0:47:210:47:24

With the girls...

0:47:460:47:47

We haven't seen you this much in ages.

0:47:500:47:52

Hey, it's good. It's nice.

0:47:520:47:54

Steady on.

0:47:540:47:55

I went with Dedi to see his doctor at the clinic the other day.

0:47:560:48:00

-Doctor Dutta?

-Yeah.

-Good man.

-Yeah.

0:48:000:48:03

Why don't we ever talk about Dedi's schizophrenia?

0:48:030:48:06

-SHE SIGHS

-What's there to talk about?

0:48:060:48:08

Well, Doctor Dutta mentioned aggression.

0:48:080:48:11

What are you saying?

0:48:110:48:13

When was the last time you saw Dedi be aggressive?

0:48:130:48:16

Never, never.

0:48:160:48:18

He's the kindest, gentlest man.

0:48:180:48:19

No, I'm not saying he isn't, and he's on medication now.

0:48:190:48:22

He's been on medication since before you were born.

0:48:220:48:24

Why are you bringing this up now?

0:48:240:48:26

Bindi, I didn't know this till two days ago.

0:48:260:48:28

Of course you knew.

0:48:280:48:29

-I-I didn't.

-You knew.

0:48:290:48:31

-I didn't.

-Listen, you're off doing important stuff down in London.

0:48:310:48:35

What's that supposed to mean?

0:48:350:48:37

You're there, we're here, Dedi is Dedi.

0:48:370:48:40

Nothing's new. Why make a big deal when things are OK?

0:48:400:48:43

Look, Dedi's happy, he's got Mum, he takes his medicine,

0:48:430:48:47

it is what it is and always has been.

0:48:470:48:49

And if anything needs doing, we rally round.

0:48:490:48:51

-Mummy, I need the toilet.

-SHE SIGHS

0:48:510:48:53

If you want something to worry about, have kids.

0:48:530:48:56

-Come on, hun, come on.

-Rajah, you're wanted.

0:48:560:48:59

Yeah, coming.

0:48:590:49:01

So, what time are you meeting your geriatric doctor?

0:49:050:49:08

Oh, come on, don't start that again.

0:49:080:49:09

You want to fight, yeah?

0:49:090:49:11

Oh, thank you.

0:49:410:49:43

Hi.

0:49:460:49:47

Just trying to decide what to have.

0:49:530:49:55

Hi.

0:49:570:49:58

-Are you...?

-Hi.

0:49:580:50:00

Kirin, sorry I'm late.

0:50:000:50:02

Sathnam. Yeah, no problem.

0:50:020:50:05

Can I get you a drink? Decaf, triple venti, non-fat, three splendour,

0:50:050:50:08

extra hot, stirred, no foam,

0:50:080:50:09

caramel macchiato with whipped cream and extra caramel.

0:50:090:50:13

I'll just have an Americano, please.

0:50:130:50:15

-Fat milk, thanks.

-Fat milk.

0:50:150:50:17

Hi, yeah, an Americano and a flat white, please.

0:50:230:50:26

-Thanks.

-Here we are.

0:50:330:50:34

My mum ironed them.

0:50:410:50:43

Something my brother very much enjoys.

0:50:430:50:46

These chairs!

0:50:480:50:49

So, do you have siblings?

0:50:530:50:55

Just the one, I'm eldest of two.

0:50:550:50:57

Oh, youngest of four.

0:50:570:50:58

And where did you study medicine?

0:51:000:51:04

At Trinity College, Oxford.

0:51:040:51:05

Cool. English at Cambridge.

0:51:050:51:07

-Ah.

-A first.

0:51:070:51:08

Yeah. And are your parents doctors?

0:51:100:51:13

Uh-uh. My mum's a seamstress.

0:51:130:51:16

No, where?

0:51:160:51:17

-SPNL.

-Oh, my mum worked at GGED.

0:51:170:51:21

-No?

-Yeah, yeah.

0:51:210:51:23

I worked there, too,

0:51:230:51:24

as a kid with my brothers and sisters doing up buttons,

0:51:240:51:28

clipping threads,

0:51:280:51:29

doing 14 hours a day.

0:51:290:51:31

-What?

-Child labour!

0:51:310:51:33

Weekends, every holiday.

0:51:340:51:36

If you ever need anything wrapped in cellophane, just call Sathnam.

0:51:360:51:40

So what does your dad do?

0:51:420:51:44

Mine's a bus driver.

0:51:440:51:45

HE LAUGHS

0:51:450:51:47

Sorry, it's...

0:51:490:51:51

Yeah...

0:51:560:51:58

I mean, mine has a severe mental illness.

0:51:580:52:01

Oh.

0:52:020:52:03

That must be really difficult.

0:52:030:52:05

But you and your siblings help support the family, I mean,

0:52:050:52:09

-that's admirable.

-No, no.

0:52:090:52:11

I mainly use my wages to buy George Michael records, so...

0:52:110:52:15

I'm sure you helped a bit.

0:52:160:52:17

I seem to have convinced myself there was nothing wrong with my dad,

0:52:180:52:22

so no help needed, which is interesting.

0:52:220:52:24

I lie to myself as well as to others...

0:52:240:52:26

..Kirin. I lie all the time, I lie to everyone -

0:52:280:52:30

I lie to my parents, I lie to my girlfriend.

0:52:300:52:33

BELL DINGS

0:53:490:53:52

SPOKES RATTLE

0:54:330:54:36

Mum, you know what we were talking about the other day?

0:56:180:56:20

The station is that road.

0:56:200:56:22

You've gone wrong, it is back there.

0:56:220:56:24

Yeah, yes, I'm taking you all the way there, Mum,

0:56:240:56:26

I'm taking you to the hospital.

0:56:260:56:28

What? No.

0:56:280:56:29

-Yes.

-What about your interview?

0:56:290:56:32

I'm not due there till two,

0:56:320:56:33

and this is one of the best cars in the world,

0:56:330:56:36

so door-to-door service with style, Mum.

0:56:360:56:39

So if it's OK with you,

0:56:400:56:42

I just thought maybe we could talk some more about those early days.

0:56:420:56:45

-I have to have water!

-Yes, yes, I'll get you some.

0:56:500:56:52

Mum, how did you find out that Dedi, you know...?

0:56:580:57:02

Mum...

0:57:100:57:12

Mum...

0:57:120:57:13

SHE TURNS ON RADIO

0:57:130:57:15

HE TURNS IT OFF

0:57:150:57:17

Mum...

0:57:180:57:19

SIREN BLARES

0:57:330:57:36

THEY GREET ONE ANOTHER

0:58:050:58:07

Hey, stranger!

0:58:070:58:10

Hello, Sathnam, long time no see.

0:58:100:58:14

How are you? You're looking well.

0:58:140:58:17

And I hear you're on your way to interview Mr X Factor.

0:58:170:58:21

I am, yes.

0:58:210:58:22

You've met everyone. Go now.

0:58:220:58:24

When you come back for your mother, if you want,

0:58:240:58:27

we are happy to talk about Mum and Dad in the early days.

0:58:270:58:31

Well, not happy, but it's no problem.

0:58:310:58:34

Your mum texted and asked.

0:58:340:58:36

You have a very important meeting.

0:58:370:58:39

I'll see you in a bit.

0:58:420:58:43

-JOKINGLY:

-Go back!

0:58:500:58:52

He cancels you just like that?

0:59:090:59:11

How rude. Mind, he does what he wants, doesn't he?

0:59:110:59:15

He's very full to the brim of himself.

0:59:150:59:18

The way he talks to Louis, I don't like him.

0:59:180:59:21

To be honest, Auntie, I'd rather be here talking to you.

0:59:210:59:24

Now, I'm a little concerned about you eating all this...

0:59:240:59:27

Indian food is the best for building strength,

0:59:270:59:30

and we can talk while we eat.

0:59:300:59:32

It's fine, leave her be.

0:59:420:59:44

Er, OK.

0:59:480:59:50

No, no, no.

0:59:500:59:52

PHONE BEEPS

0:59:520:59:54

Um...

0:59:540:59:55

-Popular!

-They're all old ones.

0:59:581:00:01

Auntie, do you mind if I record this?

1:00:011:00:04

Um...

1:00:091:00:10

Mum got as far as telling me about the wedding.

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-Oh, yes.

-Yes, very good.

1:00:151:00:17

So, what happened after that?

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We helped them up and they came home with us.

1:00:241:00:28

So my dad was ill when he first arrived in England.

1:00:581:01:01

Ill?

1:01:011:01:02

No, he was not ill when he came here.

1:01:021:01:04

No, not ill at all.

1:01:041:01:06

He was as strong as an ox.

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He was a star kabaddi player.

1:01:101:01:13

Oh, and what a weightlifter he was.

1:01:131:01:15

He said he did weightlifting.

1:01:151:01:17

Oh, he was really very strong.

1:01:171:01:19

He would eat half a packet of butter with each meal.

1:01:221:01:25

At least half a pack.

1:01:251:01:27

So, Dad was happy when he arrived?

1:01:271:01:29

Yes, very happy.

1:01:291:01:31

Happy, happy.

1:01:311:01:32

He worked hard, played hard and he was like everyone else.

1:01:321:01:37

Never fighting or anything, nothing.

1:01:371:01:39

That's not entirely true.

1:01:411:01:44

Soon after he arrived, he becomes...strange.

1:01:441:01:49

Yes.

1:01:511:01:53

He was different.

1:01:531:01:54

He...he gets upset over nothing.

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Nothing at all.

1:01:581:01:59

And after the wedding...

1:02:001:02:01

..then it's worse, much worse.

1:02:031:02:06

Now, he's in fights all the time.

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Hurting himself, getting sacked from every job,

1:02:491:02:54

and, of course,

1:02:541:02:55

he takes it out on your mother.

1:02:551:02:57

It was...

1:03:011:03:02

..around then that some people started saying he'd gone mad.

1:03:031:03:07

Who said that? We never said that, and we never would.

1:03:071:03:10

-They were right, though, weren't they?

-What do you mean?

1:03:101:03:12

Auntie, something went wrong with his mind, he became ill.

1:03:121:03:15

Yes, well, everything got better when you arrived.

1:03:151:03:18

No, it was nothing to do with me.

1:03:181:03:19

Yes, when you were born, when you arrived, from then he got better.

1:03:191:03:23

You changed everything.

1:03:231:03:25

It was the medicine that made him better, the medication he was on,

1:03:251:03:28

it was nothing to do with me.

1:03:281:03:30

Well, you should also know a lot of people think maybe your mum does

1:03:311:03:35

something. No, I have to say this.

1:03:351:03:38

-Does something?

-Yes.

1:03:381:03:40

My mother, your grandmother,

1:03:401:03:42

she says she has done something to...

1:03:421:03:45

-Like what?

-Like magic, black magic, like a witch.

1:03:451:03:50

We think she cast spells on your father.

1:03:501:03:52

Mum is the only reason my dad survived.

1:03:521:03:55

But why do Indians always need to blame someone?

1:03:561:04:00

It's an illness,

1:04:001:04:02

just an illness.

1:04:021:04:03

This illness you speak of...

1:04:161:04:19

-Schizophrenia.

-Yes.

1:04:191:04:22

It affects young people?

1:04:221:04:24

That's when it often sets in, yes.

1:04:241:04:26

And it runs in the family?

1:04:261:04:28

It can, yes.

1:04:281:04:29

So is that what your sister has?

1:04:301:04:33

Is that what Puli has, too?

1:04:361:04:38

It is, yeah.

1:04:451:04:46

Hi.

1:05:071:05:08

-Yeah, good.

-Never come in!

-Eh, shush!

1:05:111:05:14

-Hello! How are you?

-OK.

1:05:141:05:16

Is Puli in?

1:05:181:05:19

Yes, of course. Puli!

1:05:191:05:21

Can we talk?

1:05:281:05:29

Sorry.

1:05:511:05:53

I find it easier to write things down.

1:05:541:05:55

Here.

1:05:591:06:00

Do you want me to read it?

1:06:021:06:03

"Sathnam's been asking Mum the same questions I asked once.

1:06:061:06:09

"He wants to know what happened.

1:06:121:06:14

"He's like me, very like me.

1:06:151:06:17

"We might have been the same if things were different.

1:06:171:06:19

"I was clever, too, but as soon as I started to get ill, I slowed down.

1:06:211:06:25

"Once I was on medication..."

1:06:251:06:27

No, just the first bit.

1:06:271:06:29

No, it's so true.

1:06:291:06:30

-Yeah.

-I was cleverer than you.

1:06:311:06:33

You are cleverer.

1:06:331:06:35

I've been...

1:06:521:06:53

..very wrapped up in myself.

1:06:551:06:58

In my work, and in my life in London, too wrapped up in...

1:07:011:07:06

And I want to be a better brother.

1:07:091:07:11

Oh, yeah.

1:07:151:07:16

You know how...

1:07:201:07:21

..space capsules separate?

1:07:231:07:26

And are on their own?

1:07:271:07:28

I'm a part.

1:07:341:07:35

I punch below sometimes.

1:07:391:07:41

I can't help thinking my life could have gone a different way.

1:07:431:07:48

-Yeah, it could have.

-And I still try, I'm not lazy,

1:07:481:07:51

I've never stopped having goals.

1:07:511:07:53

Do you know when I knew how ill I was?

1:08:001:08:03

It was when I was first sectioned.

1:08:071:08:09

You looked disgusted.

1:08:171:08:18

Mum says that was the day you went and had your topknot cut off.

1:08:381:08:42

She said that was the day she knew you would leave us.

1:08:441:08:47

Puli...

1:09:161:09:18

SOBS: I'm so... I'm sorry.

1:09:231:09:25

I don't know why, but I need you to know how I feel.

1:09:271:09:30

You more than anyone, I think...

1:09:321:09:34

..because we are almost the same.

1:09:351:09:39

It's like...

1:09:391:09:40

..to be...

1:09:481:09:49

..who I really am...

1:09:501:09:53

..that must...

1:09:591:10:00

..be like flying.

1:10:021:10:03

BEEP

1:11:061:11:08

Why would you ask that?

1:13:031:13:05

Have you? Would you like to tell us...?

1:13:051:13:07

-Just showing off! Go on. Once again...

-Yeah.

1:13:071:13:11

It was actually a female this time.

1:13:111:13:13

-OK.

-Are you serious?

1:13:151:13:16

Certainly serious. Certainly serious.

1:13:171:13:19

Laura...

1:13:211:13:22

-Sathnam.

-I just want to say congratulations.

1:13:241:13:28

I mean, I assume you got that promotion.

1:13:281:13:30

Sathnam, don't let Greg see you.

1:13:301:13:32

-Where's the Ferrari?

-It's outside.

1:13:321:13:34

They've reported it stolen.

1:13:341:13:36

And...you've been sacked.

1:13:361:13:39

Congratulations again, you deserve it.

1:13:421:13:45

Hello. Where you going?

1:14:181:14:21

Sit down. Sit down.

1:14:241:14:26

Press play, and watch the DVD.

1:14:281:14:30

Because I'm asking you to.

1:14:311:14:33

Ready?

1:14:381:14:39

You understand?

1:17:491:17:51

Mum, have you watched it?

1:18:031:18:04

Yes, watched enough.

1:18:061:18:07

No, no...

1:18:071:18:08

-Yes.

-No, watch it all.

1:18:081:18:11

Watch all of it.

1:18:111:18:12

Come on, this is important. I made this for you.

1:18:121:18:15

Sit down.

1:18:151:18:16

And how much...

1:18:171:18:18

..it cost, this translate?

1:18:201:18:22

If you must know, £300.

1:18:221:18:24

Watch it. Watch it.

1:18:271:18:30

He's too funny.

1:18:341:18:36

RAIN AND THUNDER

1:19:361:19:39

You've seen it all now, right?

1:19:521:19:54

Yes.

1:19:551:19:57

So my girlfriend's name was...?

1:19:571:19:58

-Mum, what was her name?

-Laura.

1:20:011:20:03

Thank you.

1:20:041:20:05

But you have now split, huna?

1:20:101:20:12

No. No, no. Mum, Mum, listen...

1:20:211:20:24

Look at me.

1:20:241:20:26

Look at me.

1:20:261:20:27

I love you, Mum. I love you.

1:20:321:20:35

And I loved Laura.

1:20:371:20:38

I still do, I love her.

1:20:391:20:41

We were going to get married and have children.

1:20:441:20:47

But she's gone.

1:20:481:20:49

And she's gone because...

1:20:511:20:52

..I wanted your blessing, Mum.

1:20:541:20:56

I needed your blessing, we both did.

1:20:561:21:00

I just... I just couldn't... I couldn't ask.

1:21:031:21:05

I was too scared.

1:21:051:21:06

You know, I want to have...

1:21:111:21:12

..a joined up life with no fear and no more lies.

1:21:121:21:17

I need you to be part of that.

1:21:171:21:18

Do you understand?

1:21:181:21:19

Yes.

1:21:311:21:33

She's a dentist.

1:21:481:21:50

She's so pretty.

1:21:501:21:51

She looks just like Kylie Minogue.

1:21:531:21:56

Right, I'm off.

1:21:561:21:58

Right, Dedi, I'm going.

1:22:051:22:07

FATHER SPEAKS IN PUNJABI

1:22:071:22:09

DOOR OPENS, CLOSES

1:22:171:22:21

-SPEAKER:

-The train now standing at platform three

1:22:411:22:43

is the 18:03 CrossCountry service to Birmingham New Street,

1:22:431:22:49

-calling at Birmingham New Street.

-PHONE RINGS

1:22:491:22:52

Sathnam Sanghera.

1:22:571:22:58

Hello?

1:23:001:23:01

-Hello?

-It's me.

1:23:031:23:04

Laura, hi.

1:23:061:23:08

How's it going?

1:23:091:23:10

Well, I'm...

1:23:141:23:15

I'm up in Wolves. And, erm...

1:23:171:23:19

I just...I just told my mum everything, and it was...

1:23:261:23:29

But I did it.

1:23:351:23:37

I actually did it!

1:23:391:23:40

And, erm...

1:23:421:23:44

I'm sorry I wasn't brave enough sooner.

1:23:441:23:46

Sathnam...

1:23:461:23:47

Sathnam.

1:23:501:23:51

I, erm...

1:24:011:24:02

..found this in the office, and...

1:24:041:24:06

..I saw my name.

1:24:071:24:09

Five times.

1:24:111:24:12

So...eventually guessed.

1:24:141:24:16

But it's...it's all in Punjabi.

1:24:161:24:19

Oh, yeah, I know.

1:24:191:24:22

Put it into Google Translate, which gives the gist.

1:24:221:24:25

Yeah.

1:24:271:24:29

Yeah.

1:24:291:24:30

I as...

1:24:331:24:34

I as good as ran away.

1:24:371:24:39

You know?

1:24:391:24:40

Cut my topknot off and left.

1:24:411:24:43

You were right. I was hiding.

1:24:431:24:46

You're back now, though.

1:24:471:24:48

I told my mum I'd wanted to marry you.

1:24:501:24:52

You know, I also said I wished she'd met you.

1:25:121:25:14

And since you're here...

1:25:161:25:18

You know, maybe...

1:25:181:25:19

Do you fancy it?

1:25:201:25:21

Yeah.

1:25:241:25:25

By the way, I've exchanged on the flat.

1:25:561:25:59

I love you.

1:26:141:26:15

# Show me, show me, show me how you do that trick

1:26:371:26:40

# The one that makes me scream, she said

1:26:401:26:43

# The one that makes me laugh, she said

1:26:431:26:47

# And threw her arms around my neck

1:26:471:26:50

# Show me how you do it

1:26:501:26:52

# I promise you, I promise that I'll run away with you

1:26:521:26:58

# I'll run away with you. #

1:26:591:27:02

Based on the critically acclaimed memoir The Boy with the Topknot by journalist Sathnam Sanghera.

Born to traditional Punjabi parents and growing up in Wolverhampton, Sathnam was the first member of his family to go to university and has gone on to build a very different life for himself in London. Excelling in his career as a columnist for The Times, and living with his lovely English girlfriend Laura, he keeps this life very separate to the one he has in Wolverhampton. He cannot bring himself to tell his family he is going to be the first one to marry out of the tightly knit Sikh community he was brought up in.

As he tries to gather the courage to introduce Laura to his family, he is side-lined when he discovers a painful family secret which turns his world upside down and forces him to revaluate his priorities and choices. Sathnam realises he must bring his two separate worlds together or risk losing everything and in so doing he has to be completely honest with the two main loves of his life - mother and girlfriend - for the first time ever.

This is a touching, humorous and emotional rites-of-passage story, about a second generation Indian growing up in Britain and how he tries to juggle family, love life and career. It explores the sensitive subject of mental illness with courage and honesty, and by being authentic and specific to Sathnam and his wonderful family, it tells a universal truth about the human heart.