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Sathnam! | 0:01:33 | 0:01:35 | |
-Sathnam! -Yes? | 0:01:35 | 0:01:37 | |
Unbelievable, you jammy bastard. | 0:01:37 | 0:01:40 | |
-Why? What? -Samuel L Jackson says yes. | 0:01:40 | 0:01:44 | |
You can see him on the 16th, out in Los Angeles. | 0:01:44 | 0:01:46 | |
Samuel L Jackson? | 0:01:46 | 0:01:47 | |
But also, on the 17th, | 0:01:47 | 0:01:50 | |
Simon Cowell has invited you to the X Factor mansion in the Cotswolds. | 0:01:50 | 0:01:53 | |
Now, you can't do both, so, what's it to be? | 0:01:53 | 0:01:55 | |
Mr Cool, or Mr Cowell? | 0:01:55 | 0:01:58 | |
Aren't you to move in that week? | 0:01:58 | 0:01:59 | |
Exchanging contracts. | 0:01:59 | 0:02:01 | |
-Mr Cowell. -OK. | 0:02:01 | 0:02:04 | |
You love Samuel L Jackson. | 0:02:04 | 0:02:06 | |
Yeah, but I'd be gone for a week, and I love someone else more. | 0:02:06 | 0:02:09 | |
-He's picked the one he thinks most people want to read about. -Ah! | 0:02:11 | 0:02:15 | |
He's going home this weekend to tell his parents about us. | 0:02:17 | 0:02:19 | |
-Oh! -I know. | 0:02:19 | 0:02:21 | |
Hello, ladies. | 0:02:21 | 0:02:23 | |
-Everything all right? -Hi, Matt. | 0:02:23 | 0:02:25 | |
You don't think they suspect anything? | 0:02:29 | 0:02:30 | |
Absolutely nothing. | 0:02:30 | 0:02:32 | |
TRADITIONAL MUSIC PLAYS | 0:02:41 | 0:02:43 | |
IN PUNJABI: | 0:02:45 | 0:02:46 | |
London. | 0:02:47 | 0:02:48 | |
I'm from London. | 0:02:50 | 0:02:51 | |
I've just... I'm just out of practice. | 0:02:54 | 0:02:56 | |
Yeah, I'm from here, from Wolverhampton. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:04 | |
I can't remember. | 0:03:11 | 0:03:12 | |
Somewhere near Jalandhar. I think. | 0:03:12 | 0:03:14 | |
WHISPERS: Dick. | 0:03:24 | 0:03:25 | |
Mum, Dedi? | 0:03:34 | 0:03:37 | |
-Sathnam? -Sathnam! Sathnam. | 0:03:37 | 0:03:40 | |
What time is your flight? I've got to get back. | 0:03:53 | 0:03:55 | |
How many chapatis I give you? | 0:04:13 | 0:04:15 | |
Three? OK, four. | 0:04:17 | 0:04:19 | |
I hope you're not buying that comic, Dedi? | 0:04:25 | 0:04:27 | |
Please tell me someone left it here. | 0:04:27 | 0:04:30 | |
Someone left it here. | 0:04:30 | 0:04:31 | |
Mm-hm. | 0:04:31 | 0:04:32 | |
But you still read it. What time is your flight this evening? | 0:04:32 | 0:04:37 | |
Flight is... | 0:04:37 | 0:04:39 | |
Everyone comes for lunch at one. | 0:04:39 | 0:04:41 | |
MOTHER SPEAKS PUNJABI | 0:04:43 | 0:04:44 | |
Small snack. | 0:04:44 | 0:04:46 | |
But I need to be at the airport by three. | 0:04:48 | 0:04:52 | |
You and Puli can come in our car with us. | 0:04:53 | 0:04:57 | |
Right. What time is your flight? | 0:04:57 | 0:05:00 | |
7:20. | 0:05:00 | 0:05:02 | |
What are you going to do at the airport for four hours? | 0:05:02 | 0:05:05 | |
We be there, we say goodbye. And your cousin, Hardip, | 0:05:05 | 0:05:09 | |
is coming this afternoon. | 0:05:09 | 0:05:10 | |
-Ah, Bins, how are you doing? -Yeah, I'm all right. | 0:05:25 | 0:05:28 | |
-Hi. -Sathnam! How you doing? | 0:05:33 | 0:05:37 | |
I'm good, thanks. You? | 0:05:37 | 0:05:39 | |
Couldn't be better, yeah. I took delivery of an M3 this week. | 0:05:39 | 0:05:43 | |
19-inch alloys, low mileage, heads-up display. | 0:05:43 | 0:05:46 | |
I heard, yeah. | 0:05:46 | 0:05:47 | |
Nice. Nice car. | 0:05:50 | 0:05:51 | |
Oh, superb. | 0:05:51 | 0:05:53 | |
Well, 180 grand a year before bonuses, you know. | 0:05:53 | 0:05:56 | |
What are you driving? | 0:05:58 | 0:05:59 | |
You don't really need a car in London. | 0:05:59 | 0:06:02 | |
It depends where you live. | 0:06:02 | 0:06:03 | |
Hi, Puli. | 0:06:03 | 0:06:05 | |
I'm buying a flat in Dalston, so it's pretty central. | 0:06:05 | 0:06:08 | |
-Buying a flat? -How much are you earning? | 0:06:09 | 0:06:12 | |
Property is my thing. | 0:06:12 | 0:06:13 | |
London in particular. | 0:06:13 | 0:06:15 | |
And you earn enough to buy a flat in Dalston on your own? | 0:06:15 | 0:06:18 | |
Puli. | 0:06:19 | 0:06:20 | |
Right, a family photo. | 0:06:24 | 0:06:26 | |
Again? | 0:06:26 | 0:06:27 | |
If you visited more often, we wouldn't need a photo. | 0:06:27 | 0:06:30 | |
EVERYONE TALKS AT ONCE | 0:06:30 | 0:06:35 | |
Ready? | 0:06:46 | 0:06:47 | |
The proud parents with their offspring. | 0:06:47 | 0:06:49 | |
Only one single. | 0:06:50 | 0:06:51 | |
Don't embarrass him. | 0:06:51 | 0:06:53 | |
The suitcases are in shot. | 0:06:56 | 0:06:58 | |
Mum, what have you got in here? | 0:06:59 | 0:07:00 | |
Have you weighed this? | 0:07:00 | 0:07:01 | |
SHE SPEAKS IN PUNJABI | 0:07:01 | 0:07:03 | |
Sathnam, back in line, face the front for India! | 0:07:03 | 0:07:05 | |
-You can come and stand by me. -I'm fine here, just take the photo. | 0:07:06 | 0:07:09 | |
-Come on. Smile! -Cheese! | 0:07:09 | 0:07:12 | |
-And one again! -ALL: Cheese! | 0:07:12 | 0:07:15 | |
PHONE RINGS | 0:07:15 | 0:07:18 | |
Who is it? | 0:07:18 | 0:07:19 | |
-OK, yeah. -Come on, Sat. -Ready? | 0:07:19 | 0:07:23 | |
Three, two, one. | 0:07:23 | 0:07:25 | |
ALL: Cheese. | 0:07:25 | 0:07:27 | |
And here he goes. | 0:07:27 | 0:07:28 | |
Hi. Hi. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:30 | |
It's pretty mad. Mum decided to invite the whole family, | 0:07:32 | 0:07:36 | |
and now I can't get her on her own to speak to her. | 0:07:36 | 0:07:38 | |
But I will. | 0:07:38 | 0:07:39 | |
What about you? What are you doing? | 0:07:41 | 0:07:42 | |
I'm showing Mum and Dad the flat. | 0:07:44 | 0:07:45 | |
Oh, nice! | 0:07:45 | 0:07:47 | |
-Do you think they like it? -Love it. | 0:07:47 | 0:07:49 | |
-Especially the garden. -Ah. | 0:07:49 | 0:07:51 | |
OK, speak later, yeah? | 0:07:55 | 0:07:56 | |
Bye. | 0:07:58 | 0:07:59 | |
So what's the postcode on this flat you're buying? | 0:08:19 | 0:08:21 | |
E8 or N16? | 0:08:21 | 0:08:23 | |
I'm not sure. I'll look it up. | 0:08:23 | 0:08:25 | |
Sorry, I've just got to... | 0:08:25 | 0:08:27 | |
I think my parents have an excess baggage problem. | 0:08:27 | 0:08:30 | |
Long haul is 23 kilos. | 0:08:30 | 0:08:31 | |
Absolutely ridiculous! | 0:08:44 | 0:08:45 | |
Come on! | 0:09:07 | 0:09:08 | |
Seriously? | 0:09:23 | 0:09:24 | |
-DOCTOR'S VOICE: -This patient, Mr Jagjiti Sanghera, | 0:09:43 | 0:09:46 | |
suffers from acute paranoid schizophrenia, | 0:09:46 | 0:09:48 | |
and has been registered as severely mentally ill since 1979. | 0:09:48 | 0:09:53 | |
Communication is best done through his wife, | 0:09:53 | 0:09:56 | |
-who also controls his medication. -Fuck. | 0:09:56 | 0:09:59 | |
Mr Sanghera is visiting his family in India... | 0:09:59 | 0:10:02 | |
-Fuck. -..for a short visit. | 0:10:02 | 0:10:03 | |
DOCTOR'S VOICE FADES OUT | 0:10:03 | 0:10:05 | |
Sorry. | 0:10:17 | 0:10:18 | |
-WHISPERS: -The door wasn't locked. | 0:10:21 | 0:10:22 | |
-What's he doing? -I hope he's not taking everything out. | 0:10:22 | 0:10:25 | |
Mum's going to go mental. | 0:10:25 | 0:10:27 | |
-Oh, what are you doing? -I was weighing the luggage. | 0:10:29 | 0:10:33 | |
No, no, I found this. | 0:10:33 | 0:10:34 | |
Yeah, yeah, this goes in with Dedi's medicines. | 0:10:34 | 0:10:37 | |
Oh, my God, I've taken these out twice already! | 0:10:37 | 0:10:39 | |
-You know about this? -Sathnam, Dedi always takes a note | 0:10:39 | 0:10:41 | |
like this when he travels, it's fine. | 0:10:41 | 0:10:43 | |
-What do you mean? -Now, out of here, come on. | 0:10:43 | 0:10:46 | |
Go and eat. Go downstairs. | 0:10:46 | 0:10:49 | |
-Look at this. -Make sure that this goes back in the medicine bag. -Done. | 0:10:49 | 0:10:52 | |
Well, what did your brother and sisters say? | 0:11:18 | 0:11:20 | |
They just act like it's normal. | 0:11:20 | 0:11:21 | |
You must have spoken to them. | 0:11:22 | 0:11:24 | |
Yeah, I mean... Not... | 0:11:24 | 0:11:26 | |
Laura, I'm the youngest. | 0:11:26 | 0:11:28 | |
They don't always include me in stuff. | 0:11:28 | 0:11:30 | |
I went to Cambridge, I live here now, they've stayed in Wolves. | 0:11:30 | 0:11:34 | |
It's like we are in two different worlds. | 0:11:34 | 0:11:35 | |
They watch Britain's Got Talent for God's sake! | 0:11:35 | 0:11:38 | |
So do we, sometimes. | 0:11:38 | 0:11:39 | |
Yeah, I mean... | 0:11:41 | 0:11:42 | |
I had to come and talk to you about the schizophrenia my dad's had | 0:11:43 | 0:11:46 | |
since before I was born, because... | 0:11:46 | 0:11:47 | |
-..I could have it too. -What do you mean, you could have it too? | 0:11:49 | 0:11:52 | |
It runs in families, doesn't it? | 0:11:52 | 0:11:54 | |
In fact, it's practically certain. | 0:11:54 | 0:11:56 | |
-Come on, Sathnam! -Oh, don't laugh. | 0:11:56 | 0:11:59 | |
Don't. I'll show you. I can prove it. | 0:11:59 | 0:12:01 | |
Where's my phone? | 0:12:01 | 0:12:02 | |
-I've got it here. -Darling, come here. | 0:12:06 | 0:12:08 | |
Come back to mine. | 0:12:11 | 0:12:12 | |
Come on. | 0:12:14 | 0:12:15 | |
Come on, let's get home. | 0:12:16 | 0:12:17 | |
OK, so I've found this site which gives 15 symptoms | 0:12:30 | 0:12:33 | |
-associated with schizophrenia, tick the ones that apply. -Mm-hm. | 0:12:33 | 0:12:37 | |
Now, here's the thing, though. I score more than my dad. | 0:12:37 | 0:12:40 | |
I get eight dead certs. | 0:12:40 | 0:12:42 | |
First one up, hypochondria. | 0:12:42 | 0:12:44 | |
Yeah? | 0:12:44 | 0:12:46 | |
And I'm a hypochondriac, aren't I? | 0:12:46 | 0:12:47 | |
Yep. Yeah, that one's for definite. | 0:12:47 | 0:12:49 | |
Right, next, I'm overly interested in religious things. | 0:12:51 | 0:12:55 | |
-Since when? -What do you mean "since"? | 0:12:55 | 0:12:58 | |
Mum thinks I'm the Messiah. | 0:12:58 | 0:13:01 | |
She says I'm special in the eyes of God. | 0:13:01 | 0:13:03 | |
Laura, I had a topknot until I was 14. | 0:13:03 | 0:13:05 | |
A symbol of devotion. | 0:13:05 | 0:13:07 | |
And I think you're going to give me the next one. | 0:13:07 | 0:13:09 | |
I am preoccupied with sex. | 0:13:09 | 0:13:11 | |
-Aren't we all? -I am often mistakenly thought to be gay. | 0:13:11 | 0:13:14 | |
You are not serious? | 0:13:14 | 0:13:15 | |
-I am a little, yes. -Sathnam. -But there's... | 0:13:15 | 0:13:18 | |
I have been with you long enough to know that you are many things, | 0:13:18 | 0:13:22 | |
but you are not mentally ill. | 0:13:22 | 0:13:23 | |
Having said that, what I find interesting | 0:13:25 | 0:13:29 | |
is how you have managed to make this all about yourself | 0:13:29 | 0:13:33 | |
when it already is about you. | 0:13:33 | 0:13:35 | |
I mean, if your dad has had this severe mental illness | 0:13:35 | 0:13:40 | |
for the whole of your life, have you really never noticed anything? | 0:13:40 | 0:13:45 | |
I was just told he had diabetes and had to retire. | 0:13:47 | 0:13:50 | |
From what? | 0:13:50 | 0:13:52 | |
What was his job? What did he do? | 0:13:52 | 0:13:54 | |
I don't...I don't know. | 0:14:00 | 0:14:01 | |
-I don't know. -You need to talk to someone. | 0:14:03 | 0:14:05 | |
-Talk to your mum. -She is... | 0:14:07 | 0:14:09 | |
-She's away now. -When she's back. | 0:14:09 | 0:14:11 | |
Yeah. | 0:14:12 | 0:14:13 | |
And in the meantime, why not try | 0:14:13 | 0:14:15 | |
and talk to your brother and your sisters? | 0:14:15 | 0:14:17 | |
# You've gone away | 0:14:41 | 0:14:44 | |
# To a place where I can't touch you | 0:14:44 | 0:14:48 | |
# And I want to fly away | 0:14:48 | 0:14:52 | |
# And I'll come right up | 0:14:52 | 0:14:55 | |
# To your front door just to say | 0:14:56 | 0:15:01 | |
# Hello | 0:15:01 | 0:15:03 | |
# And I will try and keep my best | 0:15:03 | 0:15:08 | |
# Face on | 0:15:08 | 0:15:10 | |
# You've been gone for oh-so long | 0:15:15 | 0:15:21 | |
# No | 0:15:21 | 0:15:22 | |
# And I have to tell you that I'm sorry for my frown | 0:15:22 | 0:15:28 | |
# But things are not the same for me. # | 0:15:28 | 0:15:31 | |
-Hey. -Hey. | 0:15:31 | 0:15:33 | |
You OK? | 0:15:33 | 0:15:34 | |
-Mm-hm. -Mm-hm. | 0:15:34 | 0:15:36 | |
I was just thinking about my dad, you know. | 0:15:37 | 0:15:40 | |
What you said. | 0:15:40 | 0:15:42 | |
How can I not have known? | 0:15:42 | 0:15:43 | |
You know? | 0:15:43 | 0:15:44 | |
The thing is, with my dad, he's always had... | 0:15:45 | 0:15:48 | |
..such an easy presence. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:52 | |
I mean, always. | 0:15:52 | 0:15:53 | |
You know, the only time I've ever seen him upset... | 0:15:54 | 0:15:57 | |
..was when my sister Puli got married. | 0:15:58 | 0:16:01 | |
And everyone cries at weddings, don't they? | 0:16:02 | 0:16:04 | |
As you'll very soon find out. | 0:16:06 | 0:16:08 | |
Don't you try and back out now. | 0:16:13 | 0:16:15 | |
Cos you said yes, you're stuck with me now. | 0:16:15 | 0:16:17 | |
That was lovely, being asked. | 0:16:19 | 0:16:21 | |
Good, because as soon as my parents are back from India, | 0:16:21 | 0:16:25 | |
there's no waiting for the right moment. | 0:16:25 | 0:16:26 | |
I'm just... I'm just going to say to Mum, | 0:16:26 | 0:16:28 | |
"We're getting married, and that's it." | 0:16:28 | 0:16:30 | |
Right. | 0:16:30 | 0:16:31 | |
Go on. | 0:16:36 | 0:16:37 | |
This thing with your dad. | 0:16:39 | 0:16:40 | |
It's a big deal. | 0:16:41 | 0:16:43 | |
So... | 0:16:43 | 0:16:44 | |
HE SIGHS | 0:16:46 | 0:16:47 | |
Give it its due. | 0:16:47 | 0:16:48 | |
Deal with one thing at a time. | 0:16:50 | 0:16:51 | |
-And, just a question... -Mm-hm. | 0:16:55 | 0:16:58 | |
When you do tell them, | 0:16:58 | 0:17:00 | |
do you really want to hit them straight off with, | 0:17:00 | 0:17:02 | |
"We're getting married"? | 0:17:02 | 0:17:04 | |
Maybe just introduce the idea of me first? | 0:17:05 | 0:17:09 | |
Yeah? | 0:17:10 | 0:17:11 | |
Can I just say that that's why you're going to get that promotion? | 0:17:19 | 0:17:22 | |
-Hm? -Yeah. | 0:17:22 | 0:17:24 | |
You just step back and see the bigger picture. | 0:17:24 | 0:17:26 | |
Thank you for this evening. | 0:17:29 | 0:17:31 | |
I know it's been difficult. I know I've been difficult... | 0:17:31 | 0:17:34 | |
..but coming back to talk to you was a really good decision. | 0:17:35 | 0:17:38 | |
SHE LAUGHS What? What? | 0:17:38 | 0:17:40 | |
You're the only person I know who can hand out praise | 0:17:42 | 0:17:45 | |
and pat yourself on the back at the same time! | 0:17:45 | 0:17:48 | |
Sathnam. | 0:18:17 | 0:18:18 | |
It's arrived. | 0:18:18 | 0:18:20 | |
Are you going to come and see? | 0:18:20 | 0:18:23 | |
I'm going to be in it later. | 0:18:23 | 0:18:24 | |
Pretty discreet... Hardly even notice it! | 0:18:30 | 0:18:32 | |
Rosso corsa. | 0:18:33 | 0:18:35 | |
-What's all the fuss about? -The Simon Cowell interview. | 0:18:36 | 0:18:39 | |
God, he's not here, is he? | 0:18:39 | 0:18:41 | |
No. Apparently, he's a car freak, | 0:18:41 | 0:18:43 | |
Sathnam plans to drive there in a Ferrari. | 0:18:43 | 0:18:46 | |
-How vulgar. -It's fantastic. | 0:18:46 | 0:18:49 | |
-Hi. -Hello. -Oh, hello. | 0:19:01 | 0:19:02 | |
-How are you? -Good. | 0:19:02 | 0:19:04 | |
You're so good, doing this. | 0:19:04 | 0:19:06 | |
Hey. | 0:19:06 | 0:19:08 | |
-Sold your flat yet? -He rents. | 0:19:08 | 0:19:10 | |
PHONE RINGS | 0:19:11 | 0:19:13 | |
-Oh, this will be the X Factor office confirming ETA, no doubt. -Oh! | 0:19:13 | 0:19:17 | |
Hi, this is Sathnam Sanghera. | 0:19:19 | 0:19:20 | |
Sathnam, it's Auntie Jugi. | 0:19:20 | 0:19:22 | |
Your Auntie Jugi. Hiya. | 0:19:22 | 0:19:24 | |
-Auntie Jugi, hi. -Can you see us? | 0:19:24 | 0:19:27 | |
I can see you. | 0:19:27 | 0:19:28 | |
Yeah. Hang on, Auntie, one sec. | 0:19:28 | 0:19:30 | |
Yeah... | 0:19:37 | 0:19:38 | |
There we go. Sorry about that, Auntie. Hi. | 0:19:38 | 0:19:41 | |
Is that where you live? | 0:19:41 | 0:19:43 | |
No, no, no, I'm at work. | 0:19:43 | 0:19:45 | |
I thought I saw a kitchen. | 0:19:45 | 0:19:47 | |
Yeah, we have a kitchen in the office. | 0:19:47 | 0:19:50 | |
-How are you? -Fine, I'm fine. | 0:19:50 | 0:19:51 | |
I'm just worried about your mum. | 0:19:51 | 0:19:54 | |
Why, what's happened? | 0:19:54 | 0:19:56 | |
She is very upset, Sathnam. | 0:19:56 | 0:19:58 | |
-Very. -Why? | 0:19:58 | 0:20:00 | |
Someone told her you're going out with a white girl. | 0:20:00 | 0:20:04 | |
Someone said you had been seen | 0:20:04 | 0:20:07 | |
being all deewana with a gori in London. | 0:20:07 | 0:20:10 | |
I have never seen your mum so upset. | 0:20:10 | 0:20:13 | |
-Christ! -Sorry? | 0:20:13 | 0:20:15 | |
Yeah. | 0:20:15 | 0:20:17 | |
So... What do you want me to say? | 0:20:17 | 0:20:19 | |
Cos she asked me to phone, you know. | 0:20:19 | 0:20:21 | |
Well... | 0:20:21 | 0:20:22 | |
It's not true, obviously, I'm not with a gori, or anybody. | 0:20:26 | 0:20:29 | |
I'm not with anyone, Auntie. | 0:20:29 | 0:20:31 | |
Auntie, I'll call you back, yeah? | 0:20:34 | 0:20:35 | |
I've got a meeting. Give me ten minutes, I'll get right back to you. | 0:20:35 | 0:20:38 | |
-Thank you. Laura! -Just popping round the shop. | 0:20:38 | 0:20:41 | |
-Laura. -You just told someone I don't exist. | 0:20:50 | 0:20:53 | |
-No. -What do you mean no? | 0:20:53 | 0:20:55 | |
It was my auntie. | 0:20:55 | 0:20:56 | |
I was ambushed. I had to say that. | 0:20:56 | 0:20:59 | |
Otherwise it would spread like wildfire, | 0:20:59 | 0:21:02 | |
and it can't happen that way. | 0:21:02 | 0:21:04 | |
It just can't. | 0:21:04 | 0:21:07 | |
-Those were just words. -Not to me. | 0:21:07 | 0:21:09 | |
I said, I've told you, I'm going to tell my mum, and I am. | 0:21:09 | 0:21:12 | |
When did your parents get back? | 0:21:15 | 0:21:17 | |
The day before yesterday. | 0:21:19 | 0:21:20 | |
And you didn't tell me? | 0:21:21 | 0:21:22 | |
It's delicate. That's all. | 0:21:23 | 0:21:26 | |
It's about doing it right, yeah? | 0:21:26 | 0:21:28 | |
I have 54 first cousins, and so far all of them have married... | 0:21:29 | 0:21:32 | |
-Married a Sikh girl or a Sikh boy, I know this. -Yeah. | 0:21:32 | 0:21:35 | |
..and I'm the one who's going to break ranks. | 0:21:35 | 0:21:38 | |
I'll be the first, Laura, I mean, it's... | 0:21:38 | 0:21:41 | |
..possible and probable I'll be disowned. | 0:21:41 | 0:21:43 | |
What, so you'll never tell them about me because... | 0:21:43 | 0:21:46 | |
..you can't? | 0:21:48 | 0:21:49 | |
You'll just live two separate lives? | 0:21:49 | 0:21:51 | |
You're wrong. | 0:21:52 | 0:21:54 | |
You are so wrong. | 0:21:54 | 0:21:55 | |
I'm going to drive up and tell them now. | 0:21:57 | 0:21:59 | |
And I mean right now. | 0:22:01 | 0:22:03 | |
Enough is enough. | 0:22:03 | 0:22:04 | |
DOOR OPENS, CLOSES | 0:22:53 | 0:22:57 | |
Sathnam? | 0:22:59 | 0:23:00 | |
Mum. | 0:23:05 | 0:23:06 | |
Thank you. | 0:23:10 | 0:23:11 | |
And now you've come to see me, so... | 0:23:14 | 0:23:16 | |
PHONE VIBRATES | 0:23:29 | 0:23:32 | |
She looks like Cheryl Cole! | 0:23:32 | 0:23:34 | |
So pretty. | 0:23:34 | 0:23:35 | |
Shall I arrange for it? Yes, huna? | 0:23:39 | 0:23:43 | |
Yes, yes, you leave it to me. I'll fix it. | 0:23:43 | 0:23:45 | |
PHONE CONTINUES VIBRATING | 0:23:45 | 0:23:47 | |
What are you reading about, Dedi? | 0:24:16 | 0:24:18 | |
What's in the paper? What does it say? | 0:24:18 | 0:24:20 | |
I'm reading about America. | 0:24:21 | 0:24:23 | |
I am reading about the Prime Minister of America. | 0:24:25 | 0:24:29 | |
Isn't it? | 0:24:30 | 0:24:31 | |
There are two governments. | 0:24:32 | 0:24:33 | |
One there and one here, and they both work very closely. | 0:24:35 | 0:24:39 | |
-Don't they? -You mean the American and British governments? | 0:24:40 | 0:24:44 | |
Yeah. | 0:24:44 | 0:24:46 | |
Do you understand the words and letters in English, Dedi? | 0:24:52 | 0:24:55 | |
Can you actually read any of it? | 0:24:55 | 0:24:56 | |
That's great. I wish Mum would learn to read English. | 0:25:02 | 0:25:06 | |
It's important. | 0:25:06 | 0:25:07 | |
We have a Sathnam alert. | 0:25:14 | 0:25:17 | |
Sathnam... | 0:25:19 | 0:25:20 | |
Sathnam... | 0:25:22 | 0:25:23 | |
Sathnam Sanghera... | 0:25:25 | 0:25:27 | |
Sathnam... | 0:25:27 | 0:25:29 | |
Sathnam... | 0:25:30 | 0:25:32 | |
Can I tell you something? | 0:25:35 | 0:25:36 | |
Yeah, yeah, sure. | 0:25:38 | 0:25:39 | |
Your mum tells me not to talk about this with you. | 0:25:41 | 0:25:43 | |
It's fine, I won't say anything. | 0:25:45 | 0:25:47 | |
When the sun rises... | 0:25:49 | 0:25:51 | |
..but everything is OK, because... | 0:25:55 | 0:25:58 | |
..I can raise the sun. | 0:25:59 | 0:26:00 | |
Yeah. | 0:26:03 | 0:26:04 | |
I can raise the sun... | 0:26:04 | 0:26:06 | |
..and I have worked it out myself. | 0:26:08 | 0:26:10 | |
PHONE VIBRATES | 0:26:18 | 0:26:21 | |
HE CRACKS KNUCKLES | 0:26:24 | 0:26:26 | |
His outpatient appointment for tomorrow. | 0:26:37 | 0:26:40 | |
Nothing special, regular checkup. | 0:26:42 | 0:26:45 | |
No need to come. | 0:26:48 | 0:26:49 | |
-Would you like to follow me to Dr Dutta's office? -Yeah. | 0:27:33 | 0:27:36 | |
It's the last door on the left. | 0:27:39 | 0:27:40 | |
-KNOCKING -Come in. | 0:27:44 | 0:27:46 | |
Hi. THEY GREET IN PUNJABI | 0:27:49 | 0:27:51 | |
Mum, mum, just sit down. | 0:27:57 | 0:27:59 | |
I've not seen you before. | 0:28:03 | 0:28:05 | |
Your sisters and brother, yes, but not you. | 0:28:05 | 0:28:07 | |
I live in London. | 0:28:07 | 0:28:08 | |
I just wanted to know a bit more about my father's condition. | 0:28:08 | 0:28:12 | |
That's no problem, no problem. | 0:28:12 | 0:28:14 | |
OK, one for the heart, blood pressure, diabetes. | 0:28:23 | 0:28:28 | |
These are for his mental health problems, | 0:28:28 | 0:28:31 | |
your father is on quetiapine and a monthly injection of Modecate. | 0:28:31 | 0:28:36 | |
Injections? | 0:28:36 | 0:28:37 | |
Your father is not so reliable when it comes to taking his medicines, | 0:28:38 | 0:28:41 | |
so it's just a backup to ensure he doesn't deteriorate | 0:28:41 | 0:28:43 | |
beyond a certain point. Jagjiti? | 0:28:43 | 0:28:47 | |
And I can make the sun rise and both the countries are friends, | 0:29:06 | 0:29:10 | |
I know that, thank you very much. | 0:29:10 | 0:29:12 | |
Are you all right? | 0:29:15 | 0:29:16 | |
Yeah, yeah. | 0:29:18 | 0:29:20 | |
I've just never seen him so animated. | 0:29:20 | 0:29:23 | |
At home, he just, you know, | 0:29:23 | 0:29:24 | |
reads the newspaper or watches the shopping channel, | 0:29:24 | 0:29:28 | |
I mean, obsessively. | 0:29:28 | 0:29:30 | |
He may think it's talking to him or about him, | 0:29:30 | 0:29:32 | |
but if he's becoming delusional, | 0:29:32 | 0:29:34 | |
let's nip it in the bud - we'll increase his dose. | 0:29:34 | 0:29:37 | |
Don't do it on my say-so. | 0:29:37 | 0:29:38 | |
Please, I've been monitoring him for some time, | 0:29:38 | 0:29:41 | |
I think it'll be good to increase a little - | 0:29:41 | 0:29:43 | |
with his agreement, of course. | 0:29:43 | 0:29:45 | |
Jagjiti? | 0:29:45 | 0:29:46 | |
You're taking two, huna? | 0:29:49 | 0:29:50 | |
So, to keep you well, we will keep it the same, | 0:29:53 | 0:29:55 | |
but we'll just double the dosage. | 0:29:55 | 0:29:57 | |
Thank you very much. Thank you. | 0:30:04 | 0:30:06 | |
You should know that your father is only doing as well as he is | 0:30:07 | 0:30:10 | |
because of your mother. She enables him to remain at home, | 0:30:10 | 0:30:14 | |
although, and I say this with some pride, | 0:30:14 | 0:30:17 | |
Indian families cope because the entire family rallies around. | 0:30:17 | 0:30:20 | |
I promise you, 95 out of 100 people like your father | 0:30:20 | 0:30:24 | |
would be in a nursing home by now - and a closed unit, at that. | 0:30:24 | 0:30:27 | |
Try not to worry. Continuity is everything, | 0:30:29 | 0:30:32 | |
it's change that causes the problems. | 0:30:32 | 0:30:35 | |
Change can throw him off balance, | 0:30:35 | 0:30:36 | |
but, well, since we have seen no aggression for many years and... | 0:30:36 | 0:30:41 | |
What, aggression? | 0:30:41 | 0:30:42 | |
What do you mean, aggression? | 0:30:42 | 0:30:44 | |
No, I mean, he's... | 0:30:44 | 0:30:45 | |
Please, remember what I said. Let us not be at loggerheads. | 0:30:45 | 0:30:49 | |
Oh, he's used to people arguing. | 0:30:49 | 0:30:52 | |
But not you with me. | 0:30:52 | 0:30:53 | |
So. | 0:30:55 | 0:30:56 | |
-Not to worry. -Jagjiti? | 0:31:00 | 0:31:03 | |
Thank you, thank you. | 0:31:03 | 0:31:05 | |
THEY SPEAK IN PUNJABI | 0:31:05 | 0:31:08 | |
Yeah, he was admitted to hospital last night. | 0:31:16 | 0:31:18 | |
-That's terrible. -Yeah. | 0:31:18 | 0:31:20 | |
So I just felt I couldn't bring us up now, | 0:31:20 | 0:31:23 | |
you know, cos the doctor said, at times like this, | 0:31:23 | 0:31:25 | |
the only reason my dad is not being transferred to a secure unit | 0:31:25 | 0:31:28 | |
is because his family life is stable. | 0:31:28 | 0:31:31 | |
-Right. -I mean, you do see that, don't you? | 0:31:33 | 0:31:36 | |
Of course I do. Yeah, of course. | 0:31:36 | 0:31:38 | |
-OK. -Listen, do you want me to call Greg | 0:31:40 | 0:31:42 | |
and get the interview rearranged? | 0:31:42 | 0:31:43 | |
What time does your dad get out of hospital? | 0:31:43 | 0:31:45 | |
What do you mean out of hos...? Yeah, yeah, you should. | 0:31:45 | 0:31:49 | |
Oh, my God. | 0:31:51 | 0:31:54 | |
-You've lied to me. -Yeah, no, no... Laura, listen... | 0:31:54 | 0:31:57 | |
-MOTHER: -Sathnam? | 0:32:02 | 0:32:03 | |
The editor's called me back to London. | 0:32:07 | 0:32:09 | |
-Sorry. -Is it really urgent? | 0:32:09 | 0:32:12 | |
-Very. -Important? | 0:32:12 | 0:32:14 | |
PHONE RINGS | 0:32:18 | 0:32:20 | |
Sathnam, fuck off. | 0:32:22 | 0:32:25 | |
MOTOR REVS | 0:32:28 | 0:32:31 | |
She's on her way to Lisbon. | 0:32:38 | 0:32:39 | |
-For the travel pages. -Who else is on that piece? | 0:32:40 | 0:32:42 | |
-Is it Matt on that? -Sathnam, quick word. | 0:32:42 | 0:32:45 | |
Laura has asked us to withhold her contact details from you. | 0:32:47 | 0:32:50 | |
I have no idea what's going on between you two, | 0:32:50 | 0:32:53 | |
but we're all professionals, all right? | 0:32:53 | 0:32:55 | |
Matt's out in Lisbon, too, isn't he? | 0:32:55 | 0:32:56 | |
Matt's over there. | 0:32:56 | 0:32:58 | |
Sathnam... | 0:33:00 | 0:33:01 | |
Sathnam, listen, mate, there's lots to concentrate on, yeah? | 0:33:01 | 0:33:04 | |
You've got your interview with Simon Cowell... Sathnam, Sathnam... | 0:33:04 | 0:33:08 | |
-Laura, come on. -Your stuff's down there. | 0:33:08 | 0:33:11 | |
Changing the locks? | 0:33:11 | 0:33:12 | |
-Take your stuff and go. -What about our new flat? | 0:33:12 | 0:33:15 | |
You love that place, we've just put a deposit down. | 0:33:15 | 0:33:17 | |
Yeah, you've lost that, too. | 0:33:17 | 0:33:19 | |
Take your bags and go. | 0:33:19 | 0:33:21 | |
I don't...I don't want to. | 0:33:21 | 0:33:22 | |
Laura! | 0:33:26 | 0:33:28 | |
What? What exactly do you want to say to me, Sathnam? | 0:33:32 | 0:33:35 | |
Right. Yeah, absolutely nothing. | 0:33:38 | 0:33:40 | |
-This is, I can't... -"My dad's illiterate but I went to Cambridge, | 0:33:40 | 0:33:44 | |
"I got a first." | 0:33:44 | 0:33:45 | |
Big deal! If it makes you so much better, | 0:33:45 | 0:33:47 | |
then what are you hiding from? | 0:33:47 | 0:33:49 | |
Cos that's what you're doing. | 0:33:49 | 0:33:51 | |
"Let's pretend my dad was never ill | 0:33:51 | 0:33:53 | |
"and let's keep the peasants up in Wolverhampton | 0:33:53 | 0:33:56 | |
"while I have another life down here," which, incredibly, | 0:33:56 | 0:33:59 | |
given you don't know the basic facts about your own family, | 0:33:59 | 0:34:01 | |
includes a job where you're paid to ask strangers about their lives. | 0:34:01 | 0:34:05 | |
Brilliant! Also, just imagine your reaction | 0:34:05 | 0:34:08 | |
if it was me telling you I can't introduce you to my family | 0:34:08 | 0:34:10 | |
because you're Punjabi. | 0:34:10 | 0:34:12 | |
It's not the same, that is not the same. | 0:34:12 | 0:34:13 | |
It's a bit the same, Sathnam! | 0:34:13 | 0:34:15 | |
Not at all, actually, because Sikhs believe all human beings, | 0:34:15 | 0:34:17 | |
even though they appear different, are one. We are all one, Laura! | 0:34:17 | 0:34:20 | |
Then what's the fucking problem?! | 0:34:20 | 0:34:23 | |
Argh! | 0:34:26 | 0:34:27 | |
Laura... | 0:34:45 | 0:34:46 | |
MUSIC: It's Happening Again by Agnes Obel | 0:34:55 | 0:34:58 | |
# I swear it is true | 0:35:13 | 0:35:15 | |
# The past isn't dead | 0:35:18 | 0:35:21 | |
# It's alive, it is happening | 0:35:21 | 0:35:25 | |
# In the back of my head | 0:35:25 | 0:35:29 | |
# No future, no past | 0:35:29 | 0:35:33 | |
# No laws of time | 0:35:33 | 0:35:38 | |
# Can undo what is happening | 0:35:38 | 0:35:42 | |
# When I close my eyes | 0:35:42 | 0:35:46 | |
# And with the stars and the moon | 0:35:46 | 0:35:50 | |
# I woke up in the night | 0:35:51 | 0:35:54 | |
# In the same place | 0:35:54 | 0:36:02 | |
# It's sailing | 0:36:02 | 0:36:08 | |
# Before my eyes | 0:36:08 | 0:36:11 | |
# It's happening, it's happening | 0:36:11 | 0:36:13 | |
# It's happening, it's happening | 0:36:13 | 0:36:15 | |
# It's happening | 0:36:15 | 0:36:18 | |
# It's happening, it's happening | 0:36:18 | 0:36:21 | |
# It's happening, it's happening | 0:36:21 | 0:36:23 | |
# It's happening again. # | 0:36:23 | 0:36:26 | |
I'm not with a gori or anybody, I'm not with anyone. | 0:36:48 | 0:36:50 | |
If it makes you so much better than them, what are you hiding from? | 0:36:50 | 0:36:53 | |
This patient, Mr Jagjiti Sanghera, | 0:36:53 | 0:36:55 | |
suffers from acute paranoid schizophrenia. | 0:36:55 | 0:36:57 | |
"Let's pretend my dad was never ill." | 0:36:57 | 0:36:59 | |
-You know about this? -These are for his mental health problems. | 0:36:59 | 0:37:02 | |
"Let's keep the peasants up in Wolverhampton | 0:37:02 | 0:37:04 | |
"while I have another life down here." | 0:37:04 | 0:37:05 | |
He may think it's talking to him. | 0:37:05 | 0:37:07 | |
Well, since we have seen no aggression for many years... | 0:37:07 | 0:37:09 | |
What do you mean, aggression? | 0:37:09 | 0:37:11 | |
Given you don't know the basic facts about your own family... | 0:37:11 | 0:37:13 | |
But everything is OK, because I can raise the sun, | 0:37:13 | 0:37:16 | |
and I have worked it out myself! | 0:37:16 | 0:37:19 | |
Have you really never noticed anything? | 0:37:33 | 0:37:36 | |
Sathnam. | 0:38:00 | 0:38:02 | |
-Sathnam. -SATHNAM ANSWERS IN PUNJABI | 0:38:02 | 0:38:04 | |
Sathnam... | 0:38:04 | 0:38:05 | |
Dedi? | 0:38:15 | 0:38:16 | |
Can I ask about when you first came to this country? | 0:38:19 | 0:38:23 | |
When you first came here, when you were young... | 0:38:25 | 0:38:27 | |
..you were younger than me, weren't you? | 0:38:29 | 0:38:31 | |
I used to ride a bike. | 0:38:34 | 0:38:36 | |
Did you? | 0:38:36 | 0:38:37 | |
I used to go everywhere on it. | 0:38:39 | 0:38:42 | |
I went to... I... | 0:38:44 | 0:38:45 | |
..went everywhere on the bike. | 0:38:46 | 0:38:48 | |
-"Everywhere..." -Mum... | 0:38:51 | 0:38:53 | |
He can't ride a bike. | 0:38:53 | 0:38:55 | |
I can, I can. | 0:38:55 | 0:38:57 | |
You didn't have a bike. | 0:39:03 | 0:39:04 | |
When was that? | 0:39:09 | 0:39:10 | |
When I first came to this country in... | 0:39:10 | 0:39:14 | |
-..1986. -1986! | 0:39:15 | 0:39:18 | |
It was 1979. | 0:39:18 | 0:39:21 | |
I rode a bike. | 0:39:21 | 0:39:22 | |
I was the strongest man in this country. | 0:39:23 | 0:39:26 | |
And I used to...lift weights. | 0:39:27 | 0:39:30 | |
Why are you asking him all these questions? | 0:39:35 | 0:39:37 | |
Week in, week out, I ask strangers about their lives, | 0:39:37 | 0:39:41 | |
and I don't know the first thing about my own family, | 0:39:41 | 0:39:45 | |
and it turns out it's your story, Mum, | 0:39:45 | 0:39:47 | |
yours and Dedi's, yeah? | 0:39:47 | 0:39:49 | |
How you've coped, that's the story I need to hear. | 0:39:49 | 0:39:51 | |
I used to ride a bike. | 0:39:54 | 0:39:55 | |
I mean, I don't even know how old you were when you first met Dedi. | 0:40:10 | 0:40:13 | |
You know, when your marriage was arranged. | 0:40:14 | 0:40:16 | |
15, maybe 16. | 0:40:25 | 0:40:30 | |
And did you know he was ill? | 0:40:34 | 0:40:36 | |
What did you know? | 0:40:43 | 0:40:44 | |
Look, I don't want you to start worrying about all this. | 0:40:46 | 0:40:50 | |
Mum, I worry about what I don't know. | 0:40:50 | 0:40:53 | |
OK? | 0:40:54 | 0:40:55 | |
And then, I mean, they, what, showed you a photo? | 0:41:23 | 0:41:26 | |
-LAUGHS: -Photo! | 0:41:26 | 0:41:28 | |
So, you didn't even know what he looked like? | 0:41:42 | 0:41:44 | |
I told you about a Sikh girl, | 0:41:58 | 0:42:00 | |
I have a number for her now, she's a doctor. | 0:42:00 | 0:42:03 | |
-Mum, Mum... -Doctor! | 0:42:03 | 0:42:05 | |
Mum, this is about you, not me. | 0:42:05 | 0:42:08 | |
OK? Go on. | 0:42:09 | 0:42:12 | |
SHE SIGHS | 0:42:22 | 0:42:24 | |
TRADITIONAL SINGING | 0:42:36 | 0:42:39 | |
He just sat there. | 0:43:16 | 0:43:18 | |
What happened after that? | 0:43:23 | 0:43:25 | |
Mum, what about afterwards, after the wedding? | 0:43:27 | 0:43:31 | |
Firstly, we were sent to Southall to live with | 0:43:33 | 0:43:38 | |
Auntie Sharanjit and Uncle Mohinder. | 0:43:38 | 0:43:42 | |
PHONE VIBRATES | 0:44:20 | 0:44:23 | |
-So, what year was it? -1666. | 0:44:44 | 0:44:46 | |
1666. And where did it start? | 0:44:46 | 0:44:49 | |
In the bakery. | 0:44:49 | 0:44:50 | |
In the bakery, very good. | 0:44:50 | 0:44:51 | |
So, who have you interviewed lately, Sathnam? | 0:44:51 | 0:44:54 | |
-Salman Rushdie. -Who? | 0:44:54 | 0:44:55 | |
Go bring it to the table. | 0:44:55 | 0:44:58 | |
-Carlos Slim Helu. -What? | 0:44:58 | 0:45:00 | |
Sounds like a dish. | 0:45:00 | 0:45:01 | |
He's the second richest man in the world. | 0:45:01 | 0:45:03 | |
Oh, I'm doing Simon Cowell tomorrow. | 0:45:05 | 0:45:08 | |
-Oh. -Nice. | 0:45:08 | 0:45:10 | |
Are you sat back at the table, yeah? | 0:45:15 | 0:45:17 | |
Have you washed your hands? | 0:45:17 | 0:45:19 | |
Hey, you know what, | 0:45:20 | 0:45:22 | |
Mum's got our Sathnam on a hot date later. | 0:45:22 | 0:45:24 | |
-Oh, yeah? -Yeah. | 0:45:24 | 0:45:26 | |
Little bro has a date with a doctor. | 0:45:26 | 0:45:28 | |
-Hey! -Yeah. Geriatrics doctor. | 0:45:28 | 0:45:31 | |
What, a geriatric? | 0:45:31 | 0:45:33 | |
Oh, we hope not! | 0:45:33 | 0:45:34 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:45:34 | 0:45:36 | |
She looks like Alesha Dixon. | 0:45:39 | 0:45:41 | |
Sathnam, I've ironed your jeans. | 0:45:44 | 0:45:46 | |
-Oi-oi! -Oh, yes! | 0:45:46 | 0:45:48 | |
-Nice. -Yeah, thanks. | 0:45:48 | 0:45:51 | |
MUSIC: Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go by Wham! | 0:45:52 | 0:45:55 | |
-Do you remember this one? -Yeah! | 0:45:57 | 0:45:58 | |
Hey, do remember with Michael Jackson's Liberian Girl | 0:46:34 | 0:46:38 | |
how you thought it was librarian girl?! | 0:46:38 | 0:46:41 | |
Yeah, yeah, yeah, with that Swahili bit at the beginning! | 0:46:41 | 0:46:43 | |
# Piya-Mpenziwe... # | 0:46:43 | 0:46:46 | |
And you thought it was the librarian saying, "Put your pens away!" | 0:46:46 | 0:46:49 | |
-Oh, yeah! -Well, at least I didn't think Walsall was the capital | 0:46:49 | 0:46:52 | |
of Poland and that the Famous Five books are written by Grid Blyton - | 0:46:52 | 0:46:56 | |
Noddy Goes To Toyland by Grid Blyton. | 0:46:56 | 0:46:59 | |
-EMBARRASSED: -It was the way her signature looked on the book covers. | 0:46:59 | 0:47:03 | |
How she did her E. | 0:47:03 | 0:47:04 | |
-MUSIC: Club Tropicana by Wham! -Remember this? -Oh! | 0:47:04 | 0:47:07 | |
-Yeah? Remember this? -Do you remember this? | 0:47:07 | 0:47:09 | |
It's Club Tropicana. You remember. | 0:47:09 | 0:47:10 | |
Puli, do you remember this? | 0:47:20 | 0:47:21 | |
Of course she does, it was her favourite. Come on. | 0:47:21 | 0:47:24 | |
With the girls... | 0:47:46 | 0:47:47 | |
We haven't seen you this much in ages. | 0:47:50 | 0:47:52 | |
Hey, it's good. It's nice. | 0:47:52 | 0:47:54 | |
Steady on. | 0:47:54 | 0:47:55 | |
I went with Dedi to see his doctor at the clinic the other day. | 0:47:56 | 0:48:00 | |
-Doctor Dutta? -Yeah. -Good man. -Yeah. | 0:48:00 | 0:48:03 | |
Why don't we ever talk about Dedi's schizophrenia? | 0:48:03 | 0:48:06 | |
-SHE SIGHS -What's there to talk about? | 0:48:06 | 0:48:08 | |
Well, Doctor Dutta mentioned aggression. | 0:48:08 | 0:48:11 | |
What are you saying? | 0:48:11 | 0:48:13 | |
When was the last time you saw Dedi be aggressive? | 0:48:13 | 0:48:16 | |
Never, never. | 0:48:16 | 0:48:18 | |
He's the kindest, gentlest man. | 0:48:18 | 0:48:19 | |
No, I'm not saying he isn't, and he's on medication now. | 0:48:19 | 0:48:22 | |
He's been on medication since before you were born. | 0:48:22 | 0:48:24 | |
Why are you bringing this up now? | 0:48:24 | 0:48:26 | |
Bindi, I didn't know this till two days ago. | 0:48:26 | 0:48:28 | |
Of course you knew. | 0:48:28 | 0:48:29 | |
-I-I didn't. -You knew. | 0:48:29 | 0:48:31 | |
-I didn't. -Listen, you're off doing important stuff down in London. | 0:48:31 | 0:48:35 | |
What's that supposed to mean? | 0:48:35 | 0:48:37 | |
You're there, we're here, Dedi is Dedi. | 0:48:37 | 0:48:40 | |
Nothing's new. Why make a big deal when things are OK? | 0:48:40 | 0:48:43 | |
Look, Dedi's happy, he's got Mum, he takes his medicine, | 0:48:43 | 0:48:47 | |
it is what it is and always has been. | 0:48:47 | 0:48:49 | |
And if anything needs doing, we rally round. | 0:48:49 | 0:48:51 | |
-Mummy, I need the toilet. -SHE SIGHS | 0:48:51 | 0:48:53 | |
If you want something to worry about, have kids. | 0:48:53 | 0:48:56 | |
-Come on, hun, come on. -Rajah, you're wanted. | 0:48:56 | 0:48:59 | |
Yeah, coming. | 0:48:59 | 0:49:01 | |
So, what time are you meeting your geriatric doctor? | 0:49:05 | 0:49:08 | |
Oh, come on, don't start that again. | 0:49:08 | 0:49:09 | |
You want to fight, yeah? | 0:49:09 | 0:49:11 | |
Oh, thank you. | 0:49:41 | 0:49:43 | |
Hi. | 0:49:46 | 0:49:47 | |
Just trying to decide what to have. | 0:49:53 | 0:49:55 | |
Hi. | 0:49:57 | 0:49:58 | |
-Are you...? -Hi. | 0:49:58 | 0:50:00 | |
Kirin, sorry I'm late. | 0:50:00 | 0:50:02 | |
Sathnam. Yeah, no problem. | 0:50:02 | 0:50:05 | |
Can I get you a drink? Decaf, triple venti, non-fat, three splendour, | 0:50:05 | 0:50:08 | |
extra hot, stirred, no foam, | 0:50:08 | 0:50:09 | |
caramel macchiato with whipped cream and extra caramel. | 0:50:09 | 0:50:13 | |
I'll just have an Americano, please. | 0:50:13 | 0:50:15 | |
-Fat milk, thanks. -Fat milk. | 0:50:15 | 0:50:17 | |
Hi, yeah, an Americano and a flat white, please. | 0:50:23 | 0:50:26 | |
-Thanks. -Here we are. | 0:50:33 | 0:50:34 | |
My mum ironed them. | 0:50:41 | 0:50:43 | |
Something my brother very much enjoys. | 0:50:43 | 0:50:46 | |
These chairs! | 0:50:48 | 0:50:49 | |
So, do you have siblings? | 0:50:53 | 0:50:55 | |
Just the one, I'm eldest of two. | 0:50:55 | 0:50:57 | |
Oh, youngest of four. | 0:50:57 | 0:50:58 | |
And where did you study medicine? | 0:51:00 | 0:51:04 | |
At Trinity College, Oxford. | 0:51:04 | 0:51:05 | |
Cool. English at Cambridge. | 0:51:05 | 0:51:07 | |
-Ah. -A first. | 0:51:07 | 0:51:08 | |
Yeah. And are your parents doctors? | 0:51:10 | 0:51:13 | |
Uh-uh. My mum's a seamstress. | 0:51:13 | 0:51:16 | |
No, where? | 0:51:16 | 0:51:17 | |
-SPNL. -Oh, my mum worked at GGED. | 0:51:17 | 0:51:21 | |
-No? -Yeah, yeah. | 0:51:21 | 0:51:23 | |
I worked there, too, | 0:51:23 | 0:51:24 | |
as a kid with my brothers and sisters doing up buttons, | 0:51:24 | 0:51:28 | |
clipping threads, | 0:51:28 | 0:51:29 | |
doing 14 hours a day. | 0:51:29 | 0:51:31 | |
-What? -Child labour! | 0:51:31 | 0:51:33 | |
Weekends, every holiday. | 0:51:34 | 0:51:36 | |
If you ever need anything wrapped in cellophane, just call Sathnam. | 0:51:36 | 0:51:40 | |
So what does your dad do? | 0:51:42 | 0:51:44 | |
Mine's a bus driver. | 0:51:44 | 0:51:45 | |
HE LAUGHS | 0:51:45 | 0:51:47 | |
Sorry, it's... | 0:51:49 | 0:51:51 | |
Yeah... | 0:51:56 | 0:51:58 | |
I mean, mine has a severe mental illness. | 0:51:58 | 0:52:01 | |
Oh. | 0:52:02 | 0:52:03 | |
That must be really difficult. | 0:52:03 | 0:52:05 | |
But you and your siblings help support the family, I mean, | 0:52:05 | 0:52:09 | |
-that's admirable. -No, no. | 0:52:09 | 0:52:11 | |
I mainly use my wages to buy George Michael records, so... | 0:52:11 | 0:52:15 | |
I'm sure you helped a bit. | 0:52:16 | 0:52:17 | |
I seem to have convinced myself there was nothing wrong with my dad, | 0:52:18 | 0:52:22 | |
so no help needed, which is interesting. | 0:52:22 | 0:52:24 | |
I lie to myself as well as to others... | 0:52:24 | 0:52:26 | |
..Kirin. I lie all the time, I lie to everyone - | 0:52:28 | 0:52:30 | |
I lie to my parents, I lie to my girlfriend. | 0:52:30 | 0:52:33 | |
BELL DINGS | 0:53:49 | 0:53:52 | |
SPOKES RATTLE | 0:54:33 | 0:54:36 | |
Mum, you know what we were talking about the other day? | 0:56:18 | 0:56:20 | |
The station is that road. | 0:56:20 | 0:56:22 | |
You've gone wrong, it is back there. | 0:56:22 | 0:56:24 | |
Yeah, yes, I'm taking you all the way there, Mum, | 0:56:24 | 0:56:26 | |
I'm taking you to the hospital. | 0:56:26 | 0:56:28 | |
What? No. | 0:56:28 | 0:56:29 | |
-Yes. -What about your interview? | 0:56:29 | 0:56:32 | |
I'm not due there till two, | 0:56:32 | 0:56:33 | |
and this is one of the best cars in the world, | 0:56:33 | 0:56:36 | |
so door-to-door service with style, Mum. | 0:56:36 | 0:56:39 | |
So if it's OK with you, | 0:56:40 | 0:56:42 | |
I just thought maybe we could talk some more about those early days. | 0:56:42 | 0:56:45 | |
-I have to have water! -Yes, yes, I'll get you some. | 0:56:50 | 0:56:52 | |
Mum, how did you find out that Dedi, you know...? | 0:56:58 | 0:57:02 | |
Mum... | 0:57:10 | 0:57:12 | |
Mum... | 0:57:12 | 0:57:13 | |
SHE TURNS ON RADIO | 0:57:13 | 0:57:15 | |
HE TURNS IT OFF | 0:57:15 | 0:57:17 | |
Mum... | 0:57:18 | 0:57:19 | |
SIREN BLARES | 0:57:33 | 0:57:36 | |
THEY GREET ONE ANOTHER | 0:58:05 | 0:58:07 | |
Hey, stranger! | 0:58:07 | 0:58:10 | |
Hello, Sathnam, long time no see. | 0:58:10 | 0:58:14 | |
How are you? You're looking well. | 0:58:14 | 0:58:17 | |
And I hear you're on your way to interview Mr X Factor. | 0:58:17 | 0:58:21 | |
I am, yes. | 0:58:21 | 0:58:22 | |
You've met everyone. Go now. | 0:58:22 | 0:58:24 | |
When you come back for your mother, if you want, | 0:58:24 | 0:58:27 | |
we are happy to talk about Mum and Dad in the early days. | 0:58:27 | 0:58:31 | |
Well, not happy, but it's no problem. | 0:58:31 | 0:58:34 | |
Your mum texted and asked. | 0:58:34 | 0:58:36 | |
You have a very important meeting. | 0:58:37 | 0:58:39 | |
I'll see you in a bit. | 0:58:42 | 0:58:43 | |
-JOKINGLY: -Go back! | 0:58:50 | 0:58:52 | |
He cancels you just like that? | 0:59:09 | 0:59:11 | |
How rude. Mind, he does what he wants, doesn't he? | 0:59:11 | 0:59:15 | |
He's very full to the brim of himself. | 0:59:15 | 0:59:18 | |
The way he talks to Louis, I don't like him. | 0:59:18 | 0:59:21 | |
To be honest, Auntie, I'd rather be here talking to you. | 0:59:21 | 0:59:24 | |
Now, I'm a little concerned about you eating all this... | 0:59:24 | 0:59:27 | |
Indian food is the best for building strength, | 0:59:27 | 0:59:30 | |
and we can talk while we eat. | 0:59:30 | 0:59:32 | |
It's fine, leave her be. | 0:59:42 | 0:59:44 | |
Er, OK. | 0:59:48 | 0:59:50 | |
No, no, no. | 0:59:50 | 0:59:52 | |
PHONE BEEPS | 0:59:52 | 0:59:54 | |
Um... | 0:59:54 | 0:59:55 | |
-Popular! -They're all old ones. | 0:59:58 | 1:00:01 | |
Auntie, do you mind if I record this? | 1:00:01 | 1:00:04 | |
Um... | 1:00:09 | 1:00:10 | |
Mum got as far as telling me about the wedding. | 1:00:13 | 1:00:15 | |
-Oh, yes. -Yes, very good. | 1:00:15 | 1:00:17 | |
So, what happened after that? | 1:00:19 | 1:00:21 | |
We helped them up and they came home with us. | 1:00:24 | 1:00:28 | |
So my dad was ill when he first arrived in England. | 1:00:58 | 1:01:01 | |
Ill? | 1:01:01 | 1:01:02 | |
No, he was not ill when he came here. | 1:01:02 | 1:01:04 | |
No, not ill at all. | 1:01:04 | 1:01:06 | |
He was as strong as an ox. | 1:01:06 | 1:01:10 | |
He was a star kabaddi player. | 1:01:10 | 1:01:13 | |
Oh, and what a weightlifter he was. | 1:01:13 | 1:01:15 | |
He said he did weightlifting. | 1:01:15 | 1:01:17 | |
Oh, he was really very strong. | 1:01:17 | 1:01:19 | |
He would eat half a packet of butter with each meal. | 1:01:22 | 1:01:25 | |
At least half a pack. | 1:01:25 | 1:01:27 | |
So, Dad was happy when he arrived? | 1:01:27 | 1:01:29 | |
Yes, very happy. | 1:01:29 | 1:01:31 | |
Happy, happy. | 1:01:31 | 1:01:32 | |
He worked hard, played hard and he was like everyone else. | 1:01:32 | 1:01:37 | |
Never fighting or anything, nothing. | 1:01:37 | 1:01:39 | |
That's not entirely true. | 1:01:41 | 1:01:44 | |
Soon after he arrived, he becomes...strange. | 1:01:44 | 1:01:49 | |
Yes. | 1:01:51 | 1:01:53 | |
He was different. | 1:01:53 | 1:01:54 | |
He...he gets upset over nothing. | 1:01:54 | 1:01:58 | |
Nothing at all. | 1:01:58 | 1:01:59 | |
And after the wedding... | 1:02:00 | 1:02:01 | |
..then it's worse, much worse. | 1:02:03 | 1:02:06 | |
Now, he's in fights all the time. | 1:02:44 | 1:02:49 | |
Hurting himself, getting sacked from every job, | 1:02:49 | 1:02:54 | |
and, of course, | 1:02:54 | 1:02:55 | |
he takes it out on your mother. | 1:02:55 | 1:02:57 | |
It was... | 1:03:01 | 1:03:02 | |
..around then that some people started saying he'd gone mad. | 1:03:03 | 1:03:07 | |
Who said that? We never said that, and we never would. | 1:03:07 | 1:03:10 | |
-They were right, though, weren't they? -What do you mean? | 1:03:10 | 1:03:12 | |
Auntie, something went wrong with his mind, he became ill. | 1:03:12 | 1:03:15 | |
Yes, well, everything got better when you arrived. | 1:03:15 | 1:03:18 | |
No, it was nothing to do with me. | 1:03:18 | 1:03:19 | |
Yes, when you were born, when you arrived, from then he got better. | 1:03:19 | 1:03:23 | |
You changed everything. | 1:03:23 | 1:03:25 | |
It was the medicine that made him better, the medication he was on, | 1:03:25 | 1:03:28 | |
it was nothing to do with me. | 1:03:28 | 1:03:30 | |
Well, you should also know a lot of people think maybe your mum does | 1:03:31 | 1:03:35 | |
something. No, I have to say this. | 1:03:35 | 1:03:38 | |
-Does something? -Yes. | 1:03:38 | 1:03:40 | |
My mother, your grandmother, | 1:03:40 | 1:03:42 | |
she says she has done something to... | 1:03:42 | 1:03:45 | |
-Like what? -Like magic, black magic, like a witch. | 1:03:45 | 1:03:50 | |
We think she cast spells on your father. | 1:03:50 | 1:03:52 | |
Mum is the only reason my dad survived. | 1:03:52 | 1:03:55 | |
But why do Indians always need to blame someone? | 1:03:56 | 1:04:00 | |
It's an illness, | 1:04:00 | 1:04:02 | |
just an illness. | 1:04:02 | 1:04:03 | |
This illness you speak of... | 1:04:16 | 1:04:19 | |
-Schizophrenia. -Yes. | 1:04:19 | 1:04:22 | |
It affects young people? | 1:04:22 | 1:04:24 | |
That's when it often sets in, yes. | 1:04:24 | 1:04:26 | |
And it runs in the family? | 1:04:26 | 1:04:28 | |
It can, yes. | 1:04:28 | 1:04:29 | |
So is that what your sister has? | 1:04:30 | 1:04:33 | |
Is that what Puli has, too? | 1:04:36 | 1:04:38 | |
It is, yeah. | 1:04:45 | 1:04:46 | |
Hi. | 1:05:07 | 1:05:08 | |
-Yeah, good. -Never come in! -Eh, shush! | 1:05:11 | 1:05:14 | |
-Hello! How are you? -OK. | 1:05:14 | 1:05:16 | |
Is Puli in? | 1:05:18 | 1:05:19 | |
Yes, of course. Puli! | 1:05:19 | 1:05:21 | |
Can we talk? | 1:05:28 | 1:05:29 | |
Sorry. | 1:05:51 | 1:05:53 | |
I find it easier to write things down. | 1:05:54 | 1:05:55 | |
Here. | 1:05:59 | 1:06:00 | |
Do you want me to read it? | 1:06:02 | 1:06:03 | |
"Sathnam's been asking Mum the same questions I asked once. | 1:06:06 | 1:06:09 | |
"He wants to know what happened. | 1:06:12 | 1:06:14 | |
"He's like me, very like me. | 1:06:15 | 1:06:17 | |
"We might have been the same if things were different. | 1:06:17 | 1:06:19 | |
"I was clever, too, but as soon as I started to get ill, I slowed down. | 1:06:21 | 1:06:25 | |
"Once I was on medication..." | 1:06:25 | 1:06:27 | |
No, just the first bit. | 1:06:27 | 1:06:29 | |
No, it's so true. | 1:06:29 | 1:06:30 | |
-Yeah. -I was cleverer than you. | 1:06:31 | 1:06:33 | |
You are cleverer. | 1:06:33 | 1:06:35 | |
I've been... | 1:06:52 | 1:06:53 | |
..very wrapped up in myself. | 1:06:55 | 1:06:58 | |
In my work, and in my life in London, too wrapped up in... | 1:07:01 | 1:07:06 | |
And I want to be a better brother. | 1:07:09 | 1:07:11 | |
Oh, yeah. | 1:07:15 | 1:07:16 | |
You know how... | 1:07:20 | 1:07:21 | |
..space capsules separate? | 1:07:23 | 1:07:26 | |
And are on their own? | 1:07:27 | 1:07:28 | |
I'm a part. | 1:07:34 | 1:07:35 | |
I punch below sometimes. | 1:07:39 | 1:07:41 | |
I can't help thinking my life could have gone a different way. | 1:07:43 | 1:07:48 | |
-Yeah, it could have. -And I still try, I'm not lazy, | 1:07:48 | 1:07:51 | |
I've never stopped having goals. | 1:07:51 | 1:07:53 | |
Do you know when I knew how ill I was? | 1:08:00 | 1:08:03 | |
It was when I was first sectioned. | 1:08:07 | 1:08:09 | |
You looked disgusted. | 1:08:17 | 1:08:18 | |
Mum says that was the day you went and had your topknot cut off. | 1:08:38 | 1:08:42 | |
She said that was the day she knew you would leave us. | 1:08:44 | 1:08:47 | |
Puli... | 1:09:16 | 1:09:18 | |
SOBS: I'm so... I'm sorry. | 1:09:23 | 1:09:25 | |
I don't know why, but I need you to know how I feel. | 1:09:27 | 1:09:30 | |
You more than anyone, I think... | 1:09:32 | 1:09:34 | |
..because we are almost the same. | 1:09:35 | 1:09:39 | |
It's like... | 1:09:39 | 1:09:40 | |
..to be... | 1:09:48 | 1:09:49 | |
..who I really am... | 1:09:50 | 1:09:53 | |
..that must... | 1:09:59 | 1:10:00 | |
..be like flying. | 1:10:02 | 1:10:03 | |
BEEP | 1:11:06 | 1:11:08 | |
Why would you ask that? | 1:13:03 | 1:13:05 | |
Have you? Would you like to tell us...? | 1:13:05 | 1:13:07 | |
-Just showing off! Go on. Once again... -Yeah. | 1:13:07 | 1:13:11 | |
It was actually a female this time. | 1:13:11 | 1:13:13 | |
-OK. -Are you serious? | 1:13:15 | 1:13:16 | |
Certainly serious. Certainly serious. | 1:13:17 | 1:13:19 | |
Laura... | 1:13:21 | 1:13:22 | |
-Sathnam. -I just want to say congratulations. | 1:13:24 | 1:13:28 | |
I mean, I assume you got that promotion. | 1:13:28 | 1:13:30 | |
Sathnam, don't let Greg see you. | 1:13:30 | 1:13:32 | |
-Where's the Ferrari? -It's outside. | 1:13:32 | 1:13:34 | |
They've reported it stolen. | 1:13:34 | 1:13:36 | |
And...you've been sacked. | 1:13:36 | 1:13:39 | |
Congratulations again, you deserve it. | 1:13:42 | 1:13:45 | |
Hello. Where you going? | 1:14:18 | 1:14:21 | |
Sit down. Sit down. | 1:14:24 | 1:14:26 | |
Press play, and watch the DVD. | 1:14:28 | 1:14:30 | |
Because I'm asking you to. | 1:14:31 | 1:14:33 | |
Ready? | 1:14:38 | 1:14:39 | |
You understand? | 1:17:49 | 1:17:51 | |
Mum, have you watched it? | 1:18:03 | 1:18:04 | |
Yes, watched enough. | 1:18:06 | 1:18:07 | |
No, no... | 1:18:07 | 1:18:08 | |
-Yes. -No, watch it all. | 1:18:08 | 1:18:11 | |
Watch all of it. | 1:18:11 | 1:18:12 | |
Come on, this is important. I made this for you. | 1:18:12 | 1:18:15 | |
Sit down. | 1:18:15 | 1:18:16 | |
And how much... | 1:18:17 | 1:18:18 | |
..it cost, this translate? | 1:18:20 | 1:18:22 | |
If you must know, £300. | 1:18:22 | 1:18:24 | |
Watch it. Watch it. | 1:18:27 | 1:18:30 | |
He's too funny. | 1:18:34 | 1:18:36 | |
RAIN AND THUNDER | 1:19:36 | 1:19:39 | |
You've seen it all now, right? | 1:19:52 | 1:19:54 | |
Yes. | 1:19:55 | 1:19:57 | |
So my girlfriend's name was...? | 1:19:57 | 1:19:58 | |
-Mum, what was her name? -Laura. | 1:20:01 | 1:20:03 | |
Thank you. | 1:20:04 | 1:20:05 | |
But you have now split, huna? | 1:20:10 | 1:20:12 | |
No. No, no. Mum, Mum, listen... | 1:20:21 | 1:20:24 | |
Look at me. | 1:20:24 | 1:20:26 | |
Look at me. | 1:20:26 | 1:20:27 | |
I love you, Mum. I love you. | 1:20:32 | 1:20:35 | |
And I loved Laura. | 1:20:37 | 1:20:38 | |
I still do, I love her. | 1:20:39 | 1:20:41 | |
We were going to get married and have children. | 1:20:44 | 1:20:47 | |
But she's gone. | 1:20:48 | 1:20:49 | |
And she's gone because... | 1:20:51 | 1:20:52 | |
..I wanted your blessing, Mum. | 1:20:54 | 1:20:56 | |
I needed your blessing, we both did. | 1:20:56 | 1:21:00 | |
I just... I just couldn't... I couldn't ask. | 1:21:03 | 1:21:05 | |
I was too scared. | 1:21:05 | 1:21:06 | |
You know, I want to have... | 1:21:11 | 1:21:12 | |
..a joined up life with no fear and no more lies. | 1:21:12 | 1:21:17 | |
I need you to be part of that. | 1:21:17 | 1:21:18 | |
Do you understand? | 1:21:18 | 1:21:19 | |
Yes. | 1:21:31 | 1:21:33 | |
She's a dentist. | 1:21:48 | 1:21:50 | |
She's so pretty. | 1:21:50 | 1:21:51 | |
She looks just like Kylie Minogue. | 1:21:53 | 1:21:56 | |
Right, I'm off. | 1:21:56 | 1:21:58 | |
Right, Dedi, I'm going. | 1:22:05 | 1:22:07 | |
FATHER SPEAKS IN PUNJABI | 1:22:07 | 1:22:09 | |
DOOR OPENS, CLOSES | 1:22:17 | 1:22:21 | |
-SPEAKER: -The train now standing at platform three | 1:22:41 | 1:22:43 | |
is the 18:03 CrossCountry service to Birmingham New Street, | 1:22:43 | 1:22:49 | |
-calling at Birmingham New Street. -PHONE RINGS | 1:22:49 | 1:22:52 | |
Sathnam Sanghera. | 1:22:57 | 1:22:58 | |
Hello? | 1:23:00 | 1:23:01 | |
-Hello? -It's me. | 1:23:03 | 1:23:04 | |
Laura, hi. | 1:23:06 | 1:23:08 | |
How's it going? | 1:23:09 | 1:23:10 | |
Well, I'm... | 1:23:14 | 1:23:15 | |
I'm up in Wolves. And, erm... | 1:23:17 | 1:23:19 | |
I just...I just told my mum everything, and it was... | 1:23:26 | 1:23:29 | |
But I did it. | 1:23:35 | 1:23:37 | |
I actually did it! | 1:23:39 | 1:23:40 | |
And, erm... | 1:23:42 | 1:23:44 | |
I'm sorry I wasn't brave enough sooner. | 1:23:44 | 1:23:46 | |
Sathnam... | 1:23:46 | 1:23:47 | |
Sathnam. | 1:23:50 | 1:23:51 | |
I, erm... | 1:24:01 | 1:24:02 | |
..found this in the office, and... | 1:24:04 | 1:24:06 | |
..I saw my name. | 1:24:07 | 1:24:09 | |
Five times. | 1:24:11 | 1:24:12 | |
So...eventually guessed. | 1:24:14 | 1:24:16 | |
But it's...it's all in Punjabi. | 1:24:16 | 1:24:19 | |
Oh, yeah, I know. | 1:24:19 | 1:24:22 | |
Put it into Google Translate, which gives the gist. | 1:24:22 | 1:24:25 | |
Yeah. | 1:24:27 | 1:24:29 | |
Yeah. | 1:24:29 | 1:24:30 | |
I as... | 1:24:33 | 1:24:34 | |
I as good as ran away. | 1:24:37 | 1:24:39 | |
You know? | 1:24:39 | 1:24:40 | |
Cut my topknot off and left. | 1:24:41 | 1:24:43 | |
You were right. I was hiding. | 1:24:43 | 1:24:46 | |
You're back now, though. | 1:24:47 | 1:24:48 | |
I told my mum I'd wanted to marry you. | 1:24:50 | 1:24:52 | |
You know, I also said I wished she'd met you. | 1:25:12 | 1:25:14 | |
And since you're here... | 1:25:16 | 1:25:18 | |
You know, maybe... | 1:25:18 | 1:25:19 | |
Do you fancy it? | 1:25:20 | 1:25:21 | |
Yeah. | 1:25:24 | 1:25:25 | |
By the way, I've exchanged on the flat. | 1:25:56 | 1:25:59 | |
I love you. | 1:26:14 | 1:26:15 | |
# Show me, show me, show me how you do that trick | 1:26:37 | 1:26:40 | |
# The one that makes me scream, she said | 1:26:40 | 1:26:43 | |
# The one that makes me laugh, she said | 1:26:43 | 1:26:47 | |
# And threw her arms around my neck | 1:26:47 | 1:26:50 | |
# Show me how you do it | 1:26:50 | 1:26:52 | |
# I promise you, I promise that I'll run away with you | 1:26:52 | 1:26:58 | |
# I'll run away with you. # | 1:26:59 | 1:27:02 |