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Hello, welcome to Inside Out. This week, I am in Manchester, which has | 0:00:00 | 0:00:04 | |
one of but highest number of students in the country, but will | 0:00:04 | 0:00:12 | |
the new fees put young people in the region of study in? More later. | 0:00:12 | 0:00:15 | |
Tonight, Alf and Hall reveals the real cost of paying back the new | 0:00:15 | 0:00:23 | |
tuition fees. �75,000. Just for one person? | 0:00:23 | 0:00:27 | |
for one person. With so many different courses to | 0:00:27 | 0:00:32 | |
choose from, are some university degrees a waste of money? | 0:00:32 | 0:00:39 | |
When you turn up with your A-level in media studies and you have a PhD | 0:00:39 | 0:00:47 | |
in the Beatles, do not expect an employer to give you a job. You | 0:00:47 | 0:00:51 | |
have got to understand what you want to be. | 0:00:52 | 0:00:54 | |
And, helpful people who have lost their twin. | 0:00:54 | 0:01:02 | |
There is a sense that something is missing, that something is their -- | 0:01:02 | 0:01:06 | |
that something is not there that should be there. The closeness | 0:01:06 | 0:01:16 | |
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A survey commissioned by Inside Out suggests 10% of A-level students | 0:01:27 | 0:01:30 | |
have been put off university because of the increase in tuition | 0:01:30 | 0:01:37 | |
fees. We interviewed more than 1000 sixth-formers, and almost half say | 0:01:37 | 0:01:42 | |
they are beginning to look abroad for cheaper options. We have asked | 0:01:42 | 0:01:46 | |
a financial Cymru to crunch the numbers and see it if there are | 0:01:46 | 0:01:56 | |
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Movie that we've been led to Young, confused and afraid. This is | 0:02:14 | 0:02:17 | |
what thousands of teenagers across England fear - a lifetime on the | 0:02:17 | 0:02:20 | |
run. What's chasing them? Student debt. But is it really the horror | 0:02:20 | 0:02:23 | |
movie that we've been led to believe? Whether you think next | 0:02:23 | 0:02:26 | |
year's hike in fees is fair or not, it's happening, so young people | 0:02:26 | 0:02:29 | |
need to know the facts. I'm going to show you what a degree will | 0:02:30 | 0:02:32 | |
really cost, and how you can avoid those fees altogether. Next year, | 0:02:33 | 0:02:35 | |
English universities will charge up to �9,000 a year. With living costs | 0:02:36 | 0:02:39 | |
on top, graduates can face debts of around �50,000. But how much will | 0:02:39 | 0:02:42 | |
they actually end up paying back? Well, I've come to meet some sixth | 0:02:42 | 0:02:46 | |
formers in Birmingham to show them. I think the number's going to shock | 0:02:46 | 0:02:49 | |
them. I think that earning interest over such a long time as you're | 0:02:49 | 0:02:52 | |
paying back that loan really is a number that most people don't think | 0:02:52 | 0:02:57 | |
about. Let's imagine that you graduate from university with | 0:02:57 | 0:03:00 | |
�50,000 worth of debt and you get a high-paid job, like we expect Jacob | 0:03:00 | 0:03:10 | |
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here will get. How much of that money do you have to pay back? | 0:03:11 | 0:03:18 | |
not sure, but is it all of it? of it, and more, because what? | 0:03:18 | 0:03:28 | |
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interest. Interest, oh, God is Is that just for one person? That's | 0:03:33 | 0:03:38 | |
just for one person. That's horrible. That is really bad. | 0:03:38 | 0:03:41 | |
that just for an average degree of three years? That's for an average | 0:03:41 | 0:03:45 | |
degree of three years, if you take out the maximum loan. But what if, | 0:03:45 | 0:03:48 | |
for some reason, their careers don't go as planned and they never | 0:03:48 | 0:03:58 | |
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earn more than �21,000 a year? The So, what's going on? Basically, the | 0:04:01 | 0:04:04 | |
repayment of the loan works like taxes - the more you earn, the more | 0:04:04 | 0:04:10 | |
you pay back. If you never earn above a certain amount, you don't | 0:04:10 | 0:04:16 | |
pay back a penny. The new Independent Taskforce on Student | 0:04:16 | 0:04:22 | |
Finance is led by Martin Lewis. biggest confusion out there quite | 0:04:22 | 0:04:25 | |
simply is that people confuse the price tag, these �9,000 fees, total | 0:04:25 | 0:04:30 | |
of �50,000 fees at the end of university, with the actual cost. | 0:04:30 | 0:04:33 | |
This is a very, very, very different type of system. Many | 0:04:33 | 0:04:39 | |
people won't come close to repaying in full what they borrowed. Some | 0:04:39 | 0:04:42 | |
won't pay anything at all. And the bewildering fact that we're putting | 0:04:42 | 0:04:45 | |
people off paying for university because we're looking at the price | 0:04:45 | 0:04:49 | |
tag, not the cost, is the biggest problem to me. But most graduates | 0:04:49 | 0:04:54 | |
will face large debts. So, is there any way of avoiding the fees? Well, | 0:04:54 | 0:04:58 | |
yes - you could study abroad. At the recent Student World Fair in | 0:04:58 | 0:05:06 | |
London, teenagers discovered just how much they can save. I think | 0:05:06 | 0:05:08 | |
everyone would rather go to a university where they're paying, | 0:05:08 | 0:05:11 | |
like, �8,000 cheaper than, like, the UK, so yeah, especially because | 0:05:11 | 0:05:14 | |
that's a year, as well. The fees are much cheaper. That's more | 0:05:14 | 0:05:17 | |
attractive, so when you come out, it's not going to be in so much | 0:05:17 | 0:05:20 | |
debt. In fact, dozens of universities across Europe offer | 0:05:20 | 0:05:23 | |
courses taught in English. The fees differ from country to country, but | 0:05:23 | 0:05:30 | |
in Scandinavia, tuition is free. Denmark, we have no tuition fee at | 0:05:30 | 0:05:33 | |
all. Because the Danish government pays for Danish students, and | 0:05:33 | 0:05:41 | |
according to EU rules, we have to Harriet Moore has already taken the | 0:05:42 | 0:05:51 | |
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plunge. She's off back to uni in Slovakia. I am trying to save money | 0:05:53 | 0:05:57 | |
on my flights. Over there, she saves a fortune on living costs, | 0:05:57 | 0:06:01 | |
spending just �100 a month. I caught up with her via webcam. What | 0:06:01 | 0:06:04 | |
would be the piece of advice that you would give to anyone | 0:06:04 | 0:06:09 | |
considering doing what you have done? I think if you're even | 0:06:09 | 0:06:12 | |
considering it, I think you should go for it. Definitely. It's worth | 0:06:12 | 0:06:16 | |
doing. You just get on the plane. You have to be a bit brave on the | 0:06:16 | 0:06:26 | |
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first plane journey over, but I've I want my money! So, studying | 0:06:33 | 0:06:42 | |
overseas may be one way to outrun But there are downsides. If you | 0:06:42 | 0:06:46 | |
study abroad, the Government here won't make you a loan. Only some of | 0:06:46 | 0:06:49 | |
the courses are taught in English. And employers might not recognise | 0:06:49 | 0:06:56 | |
foreign degrees. So you need to do your homework. Another way of | 0:06:56 | 0:07:01 | |
beating the fees is to get someone else to pay. But who? Well, | 0:07:01 | 0:07:06 | |
London's financial heartland is a good place to look. Don't be fooled | 0:07:06 | 0:07:09 | |
by the power suits - believe it or not, these youngsters are all | 0:07:09 | 0:07:18 | |
freshers. They're being sponsored by accountancy giant KPMG. | 0:07:18 | 0:07:21 | |
entire package was a degree, a salary, the tuition fees were paid, | 0:07:21 | 0:07:24 | |
and a job at the end, and you obviously were helped to become a | 0:07:24 | 0:07:32 | |
qualified chartered accountant. you think there was a catch in it? | 0:07:32 | 0:07:36 | |
It sounds too good to be true, doesn't it? You know, as with | 0:07:36 | 0:07:39 | |
everything in life, you have to work hard, and if you want, that's | 0:07:39 | 0:07:46 | |
the only catch, I guess. And the man who runs the programme tells me | 0:07:46 | 0:07:56 | |
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KPMG don't offer the stereotypical They've got to work for us, they've | 0:07:57 | 0:08:00 | |
got to study for their degree and they've also got to obtain their | 0:08:00 | 0:08:02 | |
chartered-accountant qualification in six years. That will require | 0:08:02 | 0:08:06 | |
hard work, and that's all we really ask of the students who are joining | 0:08:06 | 0:08:09 | |
us. And then there are bursaries. Students from low-income families | 0:08:09 | 0:08:19 | |
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can get money from various sources, But is there another way of | 0:08:19 | 0:08:29 | |
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escaping the debt? Well, you could 16-year-old Safina Adam is trying | 0:08:30 | 0:08:34 | |
to do just that. As well as studying for her A-levels, she | 0:08:34 | 0:08:39 | |
sells beauty products on her website. I started my business | 0:08:39 | 0:08:42 | |
because I wanted to save up for university, and my parents said | 0:08:42 | 0:08:46 | |
that, because of the rise in prices of university fees, it would be too | 0:08:46 | 0:08:56 | |
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much for them to pay for it. I'm The Government allows students to | 0:08:58 | 0:09:05 | |
pay up front. But most will have to take out a loan. But one financial | 0:09:05 | 0:09:08 | |
expert believes that graduates could end up paying back far more | 0:09:08 | 0:09:15 | |
Financial journalist William Cullerne Bowne is warning students | 0:09:15 | 0:09:22 | |
to beware. I think the problem is that the deal is actually not a | 0:09:22 | 0:09:26 | |
deal. There are all these numbers flying about, saying that you'll be | 0:09:26 | 0:09:28 | |
charged a certain amount of interest on the loan, that your | 0:09:29 | 0:09:31 | |
repayments will start at �21,000, over that you'll be paying a | 0:09:31 | 0:09:36 | |
certain percentage. But actually none of those parameters are in the | 0:09:36 | 0:09:39 | |
contract that the student signs up for. And in fact, the Government | 0:09:40 | 0:09:43 | |
can change those numbers if it wants to in five years' time or ten | 0:09:43 | 0:09:48 | |
years' time, 20 years time, 30 years' time. So students could end | 0:09:48 | 0:09:53 | |
up paying a lot more. But any big changes would have to be approved | 0:09:53 | 0:09:58 | |
by Parliament. Like many Americans, I graduated with debts of tens of | 0:09:58 | 0:10:04 | |
thousands of dollars. It was daunting, but if you know the facts, | 0:10:04 | 0:10:14 | |
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student debt doesn't have to be If you are prepared to be creative, | 0:10:26 | 0:10:31 | |
you can get a degree without drowning in debt. But there is | 0:10:31 | 0:10:39 | |
another way of beating the fees. To not go to university as well. | 0:10:39 | 0:10:44 | |
-- all. It's the first week of the academic | 0:10:44 | 0:10:47 | |
year, and the start of a whole new adventure for these freshers who | 0:10:47 | 0:10:50 | |
have left home for the first time to study at Liverpool Hope | 0:10:50 | 0:10:55 | |
University. I am studying the primary school teaching with sports | 0:10:55 | 0:11:02 | |
studies. English and language. English literature and media. | 0:11:02 | 0:11:04 | |
Theology and religious studies. according to Pete Waterman, they're | 0:11:04 | 0:11:09 | |
making a massive and costly mistake. I just think that universities have | 0:11:09 | 0:11:12 | |
to look at where they are in relation to today's world. | 0:11:12 | 0:11:15 | |
Learning's a great thing, but learning for the sake of learning, | 0:11:15 | 0:11:19 | |
if people expect something at the end of it, it could be a bit of a | 0:11:19 | 0:11:22 | |
shock for them. And I think that that has to be explained to | 0:11:22 | 0:11:32 | |
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students when they go on certain Pete's a self-made man who made his | 0:11:38 | 0:11:40 | |
millions through the music industry, producing hit records for a whole | 0:11:40 | 0:11:46 | |
host of artists, including Kylie Minogue. He says universities give | 0:11:46 | 0:11:54 | |
students false hope and a whole load of debt. I'll of education. | 0:11:54 | 0:12:00 | |
Don't get me wrong. Announcing you cannot have education. I'm saying | 0:12:00 | 0:12:04 | |
that we have to look at it more fundamentally than we do, and there | 0:12:04 | 0:12:08 | |
is a place for people that do want to go to university, but that is | 0:12:08 | 0:12:14 | |
not everybody, so let us not push everybody down this road, and build | 0:12:14 | 0:12:18 | |
bigger and bigger campuses, and give people on that we are creating | 0:12:18 | 0:12:23 | |
this to leak work force. We are not. My three main priorities for | 0:12:23 | 0:12:33 | |
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government, education, education, and education. These days, it seems | 0:12:41 | 0:12:48 | |
you can get a degree in almost anything. Liverpool Hope University | 0:12:48 | 0:12:54 | |
was formed when three education colleges merged, but it offers | 0:12:54 | 0:13:02 | |
courses in all kinds of subjects, including football and pop music, | 0:13:02 | 0:13:06 | |
taking study of the Beatles to postgraduate level. The course | 0:13:06 | 0:13:13 | |
leader says that that is a ballot area of study. As if we are all | 0:13:13 | 0:13:21 | |
singing Beatles songs. You get that a lot, actually. This is a classic | 0:13:21 | 0:13:31 | |
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criticism. It is a classic misnomer. The idea that popular music studies | 0:13:35 | 0:13:39 | |
does not prepare you for a job is another misnomer and another | 0:13:39 | 0:13:46 | |
fallacy, because any degree, of any level, is a very empowering for | 0:13:47 | 0:13:52 | |
people. I left school before my 16th birthday, and I floundered, I | 0:13:52 | 0:14:00 | |
really floundered for years, until I had my daughter, to study, and I | 0:14:00 | 0:14:05 | |
studied English and history former First degree, but I felt so when | 0:14:05 | 0:14:09 | |
power by that, I felt I could go out and talk to people and stand up | 0:14:10 | 0:14:15 | |
for myself, so any degree, really, is a massively improving trend for | 0:14:15 | 0:14:20 | |
people. I would recommend it to anybody of any age because it to | 0:14:20 | 0:14:26 | |
sue in a position of advantage. Being able to talk to people about | 0:14:26 | 0:14:31 | |
theoretical complex things in life and understanding the degrees, for | 0:14:31 | 0:14:36 | |
example, of the music business, of the way that political thought- | 0:14:36 | 0:14:40 | |
processes are present in the music industry, all of these things are | 0:14:40 | 0:14:45 | |
very important and certainly lead to my own personal empowerment over | 0:14:45 | 0:14:51 | |
a number of years. But will there be a job at the end of it? Pete | 0:14:51 | 0:15:01 | |
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Waterman pens not. Do would expect an employer to see, I have got no | 0:15:04 | 0:15:07 | |
jobs for the long and winding road this week. You have got to | 0:15:07 | 0:15:12 | |
understand what you want it to be. The university chancellor says that | 0:15:12 | 0:15:16 | |
Pete Waterman's views are old- fashioned and not all degrees have | 0:15:16 | 0:15:22 | |
to be vocational. Let's not do the whole thing that you get a degree | 0:15:22 | 0:15:26 | |
and someone will employ you, the new thinking must be, how can you | 0:15:26 | 0:15:31 | |
create jobs, how can you be an employer? And what schools can you | 0:15:31 | 0:15:40 | |
pick up at the University, how can you pick up the King's of skills | 0:15:40 | 0:15:45 | |
that will make you not just an employee, but an employer? And we | 0:15:45 | 0:15:50 | |
have got to think about that otherwise we will not be able to | 0:15:50 | 0:15:57 | |
compete, globally. I think that is part of old thinking. If we are | 0:15:57 | 0:16:00 | |
going to remain a First World country and a leading country in | 0:16:00 | 0:16:06 | |
the knowledge economy, we have to have people well educated and we | 0:16:06 | 0:16:11 | |
live in a democracy that requires talk will, thinking people, so | 0:16:11 | 0:16:15 | |
people can go to university, the match it. But as more students | 0:16:15 | 0:16:19 | |
apply to go to university, more and more are being rejected as there | 0:16:19 | 0:16:23 | |
are not enough places to meet demand. What happens to be Jean | 0:16:23 | 0:16:27 | |
people? Pete Waterman thinks that the way forward is more | 0:16:27 | 0:16:33 | |
apprenticeships like he has at the Senate is really. What we're doing | 0:16:33 | 0:16:43 | |
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is old fashioned Engineering. -- at his heritage really. -- railway. | 0:16:45 | 0:16:48 | |
They go to college one day a week but we never asked them for a | 0:16:48 | 0:16:52 | |
qualification when they start with us. Our job is to teach them to do | 0:16:52 | 0:16:58 | |
the job we want them to do. Even then, if they cannot, that does not | 0:16:58 | 0:17:03 | |
stop them getting the job. A one of those apprentices has just | 0:17:03 | 0:17:08 | |
completed his ideas Engineering Training. It is just a lot of hard | 0:17:08 | 0:17:12 | |
work and a lot of learning. It is not something that you can learn | 0:17:12 | 0:17:16 | |
from a book. It is physical, hands- on experience, and that is all it | 0:17:16 | 0:17:23 | |
comes down to, at the end of the day. Some people have been to | 0:17:23 | 0:17:26 | |
university, boys and girls, and have done really interesting | 0:17:27 | 0:17:31 | |
courses. One of them has done some sort of graphics course, another | 0:17:31 | 0:17:38 | |
has done a history degree, but have all ended up with a lot of debt, 15 | 0:17:38 | 0:17:42 | |
grand's worth of debt, and not the job out of it, and one of them | 0:17:42 | 0:17:46 | |
works as telesales with British Telecom, another of them works as a | 0:17:46 | 0:17:56 | |
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pub singer in London, so I cannot see the point, to be honest. | 0:18:03 | 0:18:06 | |
court is one of the biggest employers in the north-west. Over | 0:18:06 | 0:18:10 | |
the next three years they are taking on 2,000 apprentices, | 0:18:10 | 0:18:16 | |
compared to fewer than 100 graduate trainees. There is not much that as | 0:18:16 | 0:18:19 | |
we can apprentices and graduates when they, international | 0:18:19 | 0:18:29 | |
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organisation. But that doesn't mean one silo. You can do your | 0:18:35 | 0:18:38 | |
apprenticeship in one area and then work in different areas in the | 0:18:38 | 0:18:41 | |
future, so I'd say there is no difference, maybe just the entry | 0:18:41 | 0:18:44 | |
requirements. Actually, maybe the graduates are a few years on in | 0:18:44 | 0:18:47 | |
that process level, but look at the apprentice in six years' time and | 0:18:47 | 0:18:50 | |
they could be beyond that level as well. So I think it's just a | 0:18:50 | 0:18:53 | |
different stage of their career that we're bringing them in | 0:18:53 | 0:18:55 | |
at,really. Back at Liverpool Hope University, the freshers, while | 0:18:55 | 0:18:58 | |
hoping to improve their job prospects by gaining good degrees, | 0:18:58 | 0:19:00 | |
say they're also here for the things apprenticeships don't offer | 0:19:00 | 0:19:04 | |
the chance to get away, make new friends and have the time of their | 0:19:04 | 0:19:10 | |
lives. It is a great chance to develop yourself as a person, to | 0:19:10 | 0:19:17 | |
discover yourself. I'm having good experiences that I could not have | 0:19:17 | 0:19:23 | |
at home, I could not get the full experience of university. All my | 0:19:23 | 0:19:27 | |
friends have said it is the best time have a, but I am just here for | 0:19:27 | 0:19:33 | |
the qualification. Hopefully, make new friends, lots of experience, | 0:19:33 | 0:19:42 | |
and good fun. One of the hardest things we all have to cope with his | 0:19:42 | 0:19:46 | |
bereavement, losing a parent or someone close can be devastating. | 0:19:46 | 0:19:51 | |
But imagine losing someone who has been with you sits before you were | 0:19:51 | 0:19:55 | |
born? In the north-west, support group has been set up to help | 0:19:56 | 0:20:05 | |
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people who have lost it when. -- a twin. Twins are one of the miracles | 0:20:16 | 0:20:20 | |
of life. In the case of identical twins, one egg creating not just | 0:20:20 | 0:20:22 | |
two people but a lifelong bond. Joan Woodward, a psychotherapist, | 0:20:22 | 0:20:26 | |
lost her twin Pam when she was just three years old. Despite her being | 0:20:26 | 0:20:31 | |
so young, Joan believes her death had a lasting effect. There's no | 0:20:32 | 0:20:34 | |
doubt whatsoever that what it produced is extreme levels of | 0:20:34 | 0:20:41 | |
anxiety. I was very lonely, and that, in a way, it's quite well | 0:20:42 | 0:20:44 | |
known among lone twins, this sense that something's missing, that | 0:20:44 | 0:20:54 | |
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something's not there that should be there. They are seeking | 0:20:54 | 0:20:58 | |
closeness, and I think one of the hardest bits is that you want to | 0:20:58 | 0:21:02 | |
find that closeness again, but it never is available. In the 1980s, | 0:21:02 | 0:21:05 | |
Joan wrote a book on the subject and interviewed more than 200 lone | 0:21:05 | 0:21:08 | |
twins. Some had lost their twin in adulthood, some in childhood and | 0:21:08 | 0:21:13 | |
others at birth. I think other people were surprised in that twins | 0:21:14 | 0:21:16 | |
who'd lost their twin at birth were so deeply affected, but that's | 0:21:17 | 0:21:20 | |
because there was a lot of evidence to show that the thing that | 0:21:20 | 0:21:23 | |
mattered about twins was the parent response to the loss, and for | 0:21:23 | 0:21:25 | |
mothers to have this agonising experience of giving birth to one | 0:21:26 | 0:21:29 | |
child who's alive and at the same time giving birth to a child who's | 0:21:29 | 0:21:39 | |
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dead is a very traumatic experience, and a very painful one. How do you | 0:21:47 | 0:21:51 | |
adore one and feel happy and yet grieve and feel terribly sad for | 0:21:51 | 0:21:57 | |
the other? Having interviewed so many lone twins, Joan then decided | 0:21:57 | 0:22:01 | |
to set up a support network for them, and they now meet a couple of | 0:22:01 | 0:22:05 | |
times a year. It's not a therapy group, it's what the twins can | 0:22:05 | 0:22:12 | |
offer each other in listening and supporting each other. Since the | 0:22:12 | 0:22:18 | |
1980s, the group has grown. Its website is run by Nancy Power, who | 0:22:18 | 0:22:22 | |
lost her twin Jane to suicide when they were both 20. I had no idea | 0:22:22 | 0:22:29 | |
how to cope. I didn't think I'd ever have to deal with it. I knew | 0:22:29 | 0:22:34 | |
I'd have to cope with my parents dying, but not my twin sister. Even | 0:22:34 | 0:22:44 | |
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though we weren't identical, we were two halves of a whole. I was | 0:22:44 | 0:22:52 | |
the shy one, and she was the outgoing one. She would be the one | 0:22:52 | 0:22:56 | |
having a cigarette behind the bike shed and staying out late. I was | 0:22:56 | 0:23:00 | |
the shy, retiring, just getting on with my little hobbies, sort of | 0:23:00 | 0:23:06 | |
thing. We would have abilities that we would give to the other. I'd | 0:23:06 | 0:23:09 | |
help her out academically, and because of her I'd try to be a bit | 0:23:09 | 0:23:13 | |
more outgoing, and I needed her to help me with that, and she needed | 0:23:13 | 0:23:17 | |
me to help her with other things, so as soon as that goes and it's | 0:23:17 | 0:23:22 | |
not there anymore, I felt so lost. I felt completely lost, I didn't | 0:23:22 | 0:23:28 | |
know how to function anymore. It is like losing half of yourself, it | 0:23:28 | 0:23:37 | |
really is. Nancy joined the Lone Twin Network eight years ago and | 0:23:37 | 0:23:44 | |
has drawn huge strength from the support of others. You're suddenly | 0:23:44 | 0:23:54 | |
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like, "Oh, right, I'm not a freak or mad." Cos the stuff you say when | 0:23:54 | 0:23:57 | |
you're in groups, I just say, "Right I'm going to say this cos | 0:23:57 | 0:24:01 | |
it's in my head," and so I say it and then I've nods going round the | 0:24:01 | 0:24:05 | |
group and I think, "Oh, right, I'm not completely crazy," and you can | 0:24:05 | 0:24:15 | |
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all be crazy together and cry and just empathise, really. This is the | 0:24:21 | 0:24:26 | |
memorial cloth, that I have to come from one of the ladies that started | 0:24:26 | 0:24:34 | |
it. It has members' names on it with their twin's names by the side | 0:24:35 | 0:24:41 | |
of it. It is just a memorial, something a little more permanent, | 0:24:41 | 0:24:45 | |
of their twin. It is good for people who lost their twin at birth, | 0:24:45 | 0:24:52 | |
who do not have a grave or any other kind of memory or photographs | 0:24:52 | 0:24:57 | |
or anything. At least there is something, somewhere, giving their | 0:24:57 | 0:25:07 | |
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twin a place in the world. Perhaps that is the most difficult aspect | 0:25:10 | 0:25:14 | |
for outsiders to understand, the grief of those are lost their twin | 0:25:14 | 0:25:18 | |
at birth. People like Gill, whose twin was stillborn. She did not | 0:25:18 | 0:25:24 | |
realise the effect of this until she was in her twenties. The best | 0:25:24 | 0:25:28 | |
way to describe it was intense insecurity, being frightened about | 0:25:28 | 0:25:37 | |
what was going to happen next. Great insecurity. And a sense of | 0:25:37 | 0:25:45 | |
looking for something. As I study languages I spent quite a lot of | 0:25:45 | 0:25:49 | |
time in foreign cities, studying and working, but I felt I was | 0:25:49 | 0:25:53 | |
wandering around looking for something, with a feeling of unease, | 0:25:53 | 0:25:58 | |
and not being rat -- very relaxed, and that the South it manifested | 0:25:58 | 0:26:05 | |
itself. Jill's twin was buried in the grave of an adult to died at | 0:26:06 | 0:26:10 | |
the same team. The Lone Twin Network was able to help gel locate | 0:26:10 | 0:26:20 | |
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the unmarked grave. I have a nice plaque made with the date on, 2003, | 0:26:21 | 0:26:31 | |
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and a little message to her, and I put down some flowers, and my | 0:26:31 | 0:26:35 | |
parents were very surprised that I managed to do this through the Lone | 0:26:35 | 0:26:45 | |
Twin Network. And we all felt better for it. Having found peace | 0:26:45 | 0:26:50 | |
through the Lone Twin Network, Gill wants to set up a regional branch, | 0:26:50 | 0:26:55 | |
here in the north-west. We have the first meeting on 29th to October. | 0:26:55 | 0:27:01 | |
Details can be found on the Lone Twin Network website. We will have | 0:27:01 | 0:27:07 | |
that, just an afternoon, with tea and cakes, that sort of thing. And | 0:27:07 | 0:27:12 | |
we will discuss at the end of the session what people want to do, | 0:27:13 | 0:27:15 | |
whether they went to meet twice a year, it will be what people want | 0:27:15 | 0:27:24 | |
it to be. It wins do not just share a birthday, but the symbiosis, a | 0:27:24 | 0:27:28 | |
special bond that is impossible to replicate. But, with the help of | 0:27:28 | 0:27:33 | |
others in the same situation, lone twins can help find a way through | 0:27:33 | 0:27:40 | |
their grief and be help to others. We had a good couple of sessions | 0:27:40 | 0:27:45 | |
when lone twins went and met parents who had recently lost a | 0:27:45 | 0:27:53 | |
baby and the innate up was full of emotion but we were able to say, we | 0:27:53 | 0:27:58 | |
are here, don't start thinking that it is a terrible loss, try to make | 0:27:58 | 0:28:04 | |
the best of the one that has a rich, full life to live who is glad that | 0:28:04 | 0:28:09 | |
somehow they have a twin, and make the most of who they are, because | 0:28:09 | 0:28:14 | |
being alone twin is being a special person. You can find out more about | 0:28:14 | 0:28:22 | |
the network on our website. The address is on the screen now. That | 0:28:22 | 0:28:28 | |
is all from me in Manchester. You can watch again on the BBC iPlayer. | 0:28:28 | 0:28:33 | |
I am back at the same time next Monday. Until then, have a good | 0:28:33 | 0:28:39 | |
week. Next week, as the recession hits the north-west, we discover | 0:28:39 | 0:28:43 |