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07/01/2013

Keeley Donovan meets a woman whose husband disappeared in Spain to learn how a change in the law could help her and other families with missing loved ones.


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Welcome to Inside Out but Yorkshire and Lincolnshire where for the

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first show of 2013, we are here at sold's mill.

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I know that Gordon is not coming back, and of all my heart has

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accepted it, my head does not. Waiting for news about waiting for

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a missing person, could a long-hop those trapped in limbo? If I could

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run away by now, have this has also my hand, but I know I do not have a

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choice. We follow one woman's personal battle against a brain

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tumour as she undergoes radical Am celebrating the life of the

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Yorkshire innovator, Frederick Delius.

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Just imagine how you would feel if someone close to you suddenly

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disappear. It is like a bereavement without a body had for some

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families, it is a mystery that never gets solved. Wendy's husband

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disappeared last year and she is in a limbo between believing he is

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dead but not having any proof. We have been looking at how a change

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in the law could help Wendy and This is the market town where Wendy

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has left for the past 30 years. But her life was torn apart after a

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summer holiday with her husband. These are shops that are specific

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look -- specifically of Nerja. Wendy's husband Gordon was a keen

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walker as well as an accomplished amateur photographer. This is the

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sort of terrain that he would be walking in. He took time and

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patience on photography. He loved wildlife, birds, animals, he would

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just sit for hours, to get the right shot. He just loved being

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outdoors. So he was a real explorer? Yes. He saw beauty in

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things that we would just, you know, pass by. We would not even notice.

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Last July, when they went on holiday to Spain, Gordon went

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walking in the mountains, but he never came back. He has not been

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seen since. I know that Gordon is not coming back. And although my

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heart has accepted it, my head does not. I still think that he is going

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to come in, you know. Since then, Wendy's life has been in limbo.

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Because she cannot prove her husband is dead, she cannot even

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get access to many of the family finances. There is nothing, nothing

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that I have had to deal with has been straightforward. I have no

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life assurance, the Gordon, so there is no big sums of money to

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come. It was just for the tour bus, for our old age, basically. So that

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we could live modestly, but comfortably. Sadly, Wendy is not

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the only one. Other families say the existing legal system makes

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things harder when a loved one disappears. Do you remember Steven

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Cooper? He stayed up to watch telly and his partner went to bed. Hours

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later, she will cut to find he and his car had gone.

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Five years ago, Steven Cooper went missing from his home in

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Huddersfield. He has not been seen since. It is so difficult, because

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if he had committed suicide, had he had been found, we would be able to

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go to the grave. We would be able to put flowers on the grave. But we

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have not got that. Three days after he disappeared, Steven's car was

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found abandoned in the Scottish Highlands, near Loch Laggan.

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have got to be realistic. He is nowhere to be found. There had been

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no sightings of him. What do you do? You have got to carry on, you

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have got to hope that he is alive, but in the back of your mind, you

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know he probably will not be. Despite repeated searches, nothing

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else has been found. That means his family, like Wendy, cannot get

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official confirmation that Steven is dead. It is a fight that

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families do not want to have to go through. It is adding to the stress,

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adding to the upset that they are being put through this. To declare

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somebody that means the world to them as dead. There are moves to

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change the law, so production of Death Certificate can be issued,

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making it easier for relatives and a member -- won a member of the

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family goes missing. As the new bill works its way through

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Parliament, the charity Missing People is calling for greater

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awareness of the burden on families in these circumstances. Families

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might want to look after the missing person's financial and

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legal affairs while they are missing because they hope they will

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come back. We will look to get something similar to a power of

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attorney which would allow them to retain a missing person's affair.

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But at the moment, nothing exists in law for the missing person to be

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able to do that. For Wendy, the new bill will make life a little easier,

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but it will not solve the mystery of what really happened to her

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husband. She is going back to Spain to retrace his final journey into

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Wendy is back in Nerja, and back at the hotel where she last saw Gordon.

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I get quite a calm feeling when I am here. One is because that the

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hotel is familiar to us, we have had many happy holidays here. The

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other is that I feel that by coming back, I am coming closer to Gordon

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again. Spanish police say they are still hoping Gordon will be found,

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but they cannot be sure. TRANSLATION: As time goes by, the

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more difficult it becomes, and the chance of actually finding the spot

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where he had the accident grows less. The area is craggy, so it

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needs specialist material like It is early morning. Wendy is

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following Gordon's's route out of Nerja. She is with Michiel

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Tweehuijsen, a local guide. Gordon left the hotel at 6am, after making

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detailed plans for a two-day walk into the mountains. It is morning,

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it is six o'clock, the son get up at that time of the year. Gordon

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was heading for El Cadena, a mountain he had tried to climb

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twice before. This is Nerja, this whole National Park. 14,500

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hectares. There is no one living here. This is the way that he

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started walking in the morning from where we left. To where we are at

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the moment. He would have taken his water for the work. -- for the walk.

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He followed the river. That is why he wanted to be the first day of

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walking. We have been searching all the springs and rivers. It is

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looking for an eagle in a big mountain of hay. -- and Lidl. But I

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will not give up. Gordon was on his own, and it was July, when

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temperatures could hit 45 degrees at midday. As most people who know

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Gordon, if he saw a couple of ibex down of the track and he got a

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would be a good photograph, he would follow them. We can only

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assume now because he has not been found on any of the main tracks,

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that that is possibly what he has done for so we can see what it is

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like all around here. If you fell down under these bushes and trees,

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what are the chances of being able to be seen? Wendy has reached the

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end of her journey. This is as near as she can get to Gordon's

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destination, the cloud covered summit of El Cadena. I do feel

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close, you know, in a strange way. Yes, it is where he is, for me, at

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the moment, until we know anything different. He is here. But it is

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just finding him that is difficult. The new law won't bring Gordon back.

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But Wendy is hoping that eventually, Every year, over a thousand people

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are diagnosed with brain tumours. It is a member patients described

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as having a ticking timebomb in your head. Debbie has let her

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follow her fight against the tumour would our cameras. This film does

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contain some images of brain Debbie is 38 years old and is

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having an operation to remove part of a brain tumour the size of an

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egg. She is wide awake and can see and hear everything that is going

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on. Drilling through the skull is immensely noisy, there is a lot of

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pressure, a deafening noise of the drill, so the skull acts like a

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sounding board. The operation will not cure Debbie, but it may delay

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her tumour from becoming more aggressive and potentially

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cancerous. It is a terminal illness. To go through such a massive

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experience, knowing that actually it is not going to do me an awful

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lot of good in the long-term, is really difficult. Debbie has

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invited us to film her operation to raise awareness about brain tumours,

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and to show what it is like to live with one. Debbie lives in

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Huddersfield with her husband and two children. Life has changed

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dramatically for them over the last six years since the discovery that

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Debbie had a brain tumour. We were just married. We had a small child.

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We were looking at planning our future, my career was going well.

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Suddenly, it was all swept away. It just felt like freefall. Debbie's

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brain tumour is slow-growing, or low-grade, but it could change and

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become malignant at any stage. call it a watch and wait. They want

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to see if anything is going to change. It is it really anxious

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period. It is kind of in normal life, then into hospital life, it

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This is the front and this wide area is the brain tumour. A lot of

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patients talk about a ticking timebomb and they know what they

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have a tumour that is not cancer but it can change and that is very

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difficult psychologically for some patients.

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Are you prepared for the surgery and you have the support?

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By things have been quite good. will travel to London for co-

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operation, and a week craniotomy, that means they will remove part of

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the tumour at I she is awake. hoped that the time for it to

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become malignant will be reduced so it will increase her survival time

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and prognosis. It feels it will now I have sat down and talked about it

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and I have seen the jumar on screen, it seems real. -- tumour. A bit

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breathless at the minute. It is the date of the operation and she will

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be in theatre for over three hours, conscious the whole time. The if I

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could, I would run away, but I have no choice about this. This is an

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exploratory operation to see how much of the tumour I can remove.

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am incredibly anxious and very fearful for my family who are

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waiting because I know what they will be going to. -- going through.

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The first part of the operation involves removing the top of her

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skull. Normally, patients would be anaesthetised for this, but in

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Debbie's case, they want to keep her awake. There could be

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difficulty controlling her airways so although it will be difficult

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for her, we will have her awake throughout. It that it? That is it.

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All the groundwork is done. I do not like doing it. As a doctor,

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and you do not like doing unpleasant things to people, but it

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does not heard. Or you all right? I am all right.

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Once they can see the brain, they stimulate different areas, to

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identify how much is tumour and how much is healthy tissue.

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I am going to start with what might be the sensory part for your left

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leg inside your body. Do you feel any funny feelings? Yes, in my

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foot! Right at the bottom. This may produce movement. In my left arm,

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it moved. That is motor, that is sensory. That was a hand twitching.

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Consistently? Yes. I am going to stop removing some of this tumour

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and by checking her movement, hopefully I will not stray into the

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motor area. A open your eyes, big smile, stick

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your tongue out, perfect. Squeeze your hand, Paul Reid towards you,

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in the air, down again -- pull your hand. Turn it round. The operation

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has been on for over an hour. is extraordinary is that Debbie is

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a break and can help them if I she tells them which part of her body

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feel funny as they remove part of the tumour. That is the cheek and

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that is the on and that his hands, so it is spread out widely stop

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mind --. -- arm. But it quickly becomes apparent that removing even

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small amounts of the tumour is making it difficult for Debbie to

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move her left leg. Is the work we go? He definitely

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weaker than it was before the operation. -- is the lake and

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weaker at. -- leg. But things don't improve and the surgeon decides to

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call it a day. I had to stop because I made it weaker, but if

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that gets better quickly, which it probably will, there is the option

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of another operation and in later date. You are fighting a battle in

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a losing war or to many but it might be worth considering.

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ultimately. In the end, they only manage to remove about 10% of the

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tumour, which is much less than was originally hoped.

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Three weeks later, and Debbie is back at home recovering from her

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surgery, and she is upbeat about how the operation went.

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It is better having some of Robert found that none of it out so for me

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it was a success. -- some of it. And I found an inner strength to

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cope with something I thought I would not be able to cope with.

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Debbie is one of thousands of people living in the UK with a

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brain tumour, but she believes there needs to be more research and

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a greater awareness, which is why she invited the cameras in.

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I wanted people to be a part of my journey, a part of what I am

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experiencing, to try to understand that there are so many of us who

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are the silent ones. Debbie may face more operations in the future,

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but for now, she must watch and When it comes to that for's most

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famous son, David Hockney probably takes the title -- Bradford's most

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famous art. But he does have a rival. Delius was born 150 years

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ago in Bradford. We have been looking back at a life of one of

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The work of the composer Delius. It is a story which put Bradford at

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the centre of world music. A rebel who rejected his parents' religion

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and swapped his family business for the love of his life. Music.

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The classical composer Frederic Delius was the ultimate non-

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conformist. He has always been in the category to himself. Of Taik-

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Lee single man do it -- single- minded, egotistical about what you

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wanted to achieve -- and the means by which she wanted to achieve that.

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-- he wanted. It is 150 years since Delius was born just a stones'

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throw away from this bustling city centre. But his contribution, both

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home and abroad, still resonates across cultures around the world.

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And today, one of those whose music he inspired, world-reknowned

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violininst Tasmin Little, whose father is from Bradford, has

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returned to the city to learn a bit more about her hero.

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First stop, the German church where a young Delius soaked up his first

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musical influences, while worshiping with his family.

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It is wonderful to be here, it really is, and to think of him

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being here as a young boy sitting board in the congregation. He ended

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up as a complete atheist! family were part of a wave of

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German immigrants who came to establish a strong identity within

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the city's wool trade. Their growing wealth evidenced in their

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own stained glass window here. They're off from a German family

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and music and church -- may off from. Quite the puritanical family

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and the family have made up their minds to go into the will and Trade

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and it turned out very differently! -- of the war when decade.

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-- woolen trade. What makes it special is the use of harmony, it

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is very lyrical and singing. He loved nature and he loved walking

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on the moors, and as a young boy, he wanted to run away from home. He

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tried to run away with his younger brother until they took with them

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was a bag of sweets! They were found along the moors with an empty

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bag of sweets and sent off home. He was always eager to immerse himself

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in nature. While nature may have been his first Love, he had to

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fight to find it. According to local historian Irene Lofthouse,

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when Delius was set to work at his father's warehouse in the thick of

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Bradford's grimy wool industry, he was like a fish out of water.

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Imagine all these males full of working looms and people and clogs

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-- cotton mills. It would have been really noisy. It would also have

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been filled the. -- a filthy. All this grubbiness wasn't for Delius.

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He had his own ideas. Instead of picking up the family business, he

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threw himself into music, travelling around the world for

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inspiration. And as Tasmin and I are about find

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out, his rich musical legacy is being used in a variety of creative

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A few miles from the family's warehouse is the Delius Special

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School, where music is a key part of the curriculum, in an

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environment where children have a variety of profound learning

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disabilities. Here, music is a vital means of

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communication, and Tasmin is keen to share her passion.

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So on times, in springtime, there is a thunderstorm and the thunder

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goes like this -- sometimes. And the like mink goes like this.

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Delius himself, Tasmin is keen to break down musical barriers, an

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attitude which is at the heart of this school's work. We have got

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children who are autistic and they have difficulty expressing their

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emotions in a normal situation. But give them music and talk to them

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about emotion through music and they can be as expressive and

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interested in opening Gupta people as anybody else, so it is quite

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wonderful -- opening up to people. Delius wanted his work to connect

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with the soul, and the curriculum here would be music to his ears.

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As Delius grew up, he moved away from Bradford, but continued to

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rebel against authority. His tastes became ever more bohemian, reaching

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a peak while mixing with the impressionists and philosophers in

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Paris. He loved good wine, he loved a cigar, he loved beautiful women,

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and ultimately people -- he paid the price for this in his later

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life. After Delius's years of debauchery in France, he went blind

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and needed constant care. His life was turned into a BBC film by the

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legendary director Ken Russell. knew Scarborough when I was a boy,

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when we used to live in Bradford, a filthy place! By this time, he had

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already travelled to America, Scandinavia and Germany, fusing the

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musical traditions of everywhere he went into his own distinctive style.

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And want you to imagine we are sitting on the cliffs looking out

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onto the sea -- I want you. Delius was a maverick throughout his life.

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But the multi-cultural influences of his music was too much for some.

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The British public wanted patriotism and, just as Delius was

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reaching his peak, his style was overshadowed by a piece of music

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that gave them what they were Algar was regarded as the bright

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new hope for British music. Elgar. My know get the raced out of

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the British musical history as a result -- Delius gets taking out.

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Mack Subsequently, it was Elgar, and not Delius, who came to define

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his musical generation. represents the diverse community

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Bradford is today, diverse constituents. National boundaries

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were not important to Delius. Delius may simply have been ahead

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of his time. As part of Tasmin's visit, she is performing a gala

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concert in the city's cathedral. Before she leaves, there is just

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time to squeeze in a visit to the place where this musical journey

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all began, Delius's birth place in Claremont Road, now the base for an

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international relief organisation, and a chance for us to reflect on

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his career. He was an outsider in the very next

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Bradford at the time. -- a mixed. That is right, and although he was

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an outsider and must have felt the clash between being in Bradford but

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having the strong German roots, that almost turned into the story

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of his success the curse he resisted the path that was set out

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for him and in resisting it, he made it very clear his own

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individual path. And that is a path which the people of Bradford at

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least are happy to follow, as tonight, a sell-out crowd enjoys

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Delius's music being played in the city which has continued to cherish

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During the different things we have done today, it has definitely

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brought me closer to the early part of his life, to see the place he

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would have gone to to do his day's work. Far removed from Delius the

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musician, so it has brought the man That is it for tonight, and if you

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Three stories from Yorkshire and Lincolnshire presented by Toby Foster. Keeley Donovan meets a woman whose husband disappeared in Spain, to find out how a change in the law could help her and other families with missing loved ones.


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