29/09/2014 Inside Out Yorkshire and Lincolnshire

Good evening and welcome to the programme. This evening we `re in

the stunning grounds of chats Playhouse in Derbyshire.

Good evening and welcome to Inside Out. Tonight we reflect on the life

of the dowager distress of Devonshire, the last of the famous

sisters. But first tonight, we hear from the family of teacher `nd

Maguire about her tragic de`th doing the job she loved. We feel that she

is irreplaceable. Irreplace`ble as a wife, as a mother, as a sister.

Also, how do we help heal the emotional scars of the soldhers who

return from war? Today, the memorial service was held for up `` for

schoolteacher Anne Maguire. Her family has been talking to our

report about their loss. Anne Maguire, the teacher khlled in

her classroom during a Spanhsh lesson. A teenager is due to go on

trial for the murder in a fdw weeks' time. At today's memorial

service, the city paid tribtte to an extraordinary woman who madd a

difference to thousands of lives. This guitar wielding choir

conducting Spanish`speaking prayer in encouraging curvaceous presence

in our lives `` vivacious presence. When we spoke to her family a few

days ago, today's memorial was very much on their minds. I'm gr`teful to

the Council and the of Leeds for organising the memorial service in

memory of her life. She was a very shy person and she would not have

enjoyed being the centre of attention but she would havd been

working very hard in the background to make sure everything was going

well. I think what we are hoping for is not just our message but the fact

that there is going to be so any people they're bringing thehr own

individual memories and togdther we can paint a picture of the person

she was. She brought you up as her own. It is a special person that

does that. It is. We will bd forever grateful. We all have some stories

to Dell `` tell. It was the kind of person that she was. The ovdrriding

thing that we feel is that she is irreplaceable. She is irreplaceable

as a wife, a mother, as a shster, as an aunt, as a grandmother. We have

all lost per person. There hs a definite emptiness. Our mum was

always there for us. She usdd to stand by us, she was a rock, she

provided support and kindness and love in whatever we did. Yotr wife,

your mother, your aunt, was the favourite teacher of so manx pupils

over the years. How does th`t make you feel that so many other people

have held in such high regard for her touching their lives as a

teacher? We have always been aware of her popularity. We could go

nowhere and the surrounding area when somebody would not be heard to

shout hello. I am so grateftl to my teachers that was special in my life

and I absolutely understand those people that when they see hdr have

to tell her what she did for them and they understand that shd would

be so grateful to know how they have succeeded. Her face was verx

important to the land was no doubt a huge guiding her own life. How

important it was very strongly by her faith. She took her faith very

seriously. The guided her in her professional and family lifd. It

gave her the framework that made her the giving and the wonderful person

she was. I think a generosity of spirit is some thing I have thought

more about. Throwing up, I felt that she gave everything to me `` growing

up. She did it for all of us. That is a really special person `nd

manages to affect that many lives. I think her faith was that strong that

even as a family come indivhdually, even if we lost our way is `long the

`` faith along the way, she brought us back to where we should be. That

is the case now, especially after she has gone. Many people would have

seen you outside the school in the days after, reading the messages

that had been left. How much of a support were all those mess`ges

Yes, I remember that day very well. The very empty hollow sick feeling

inside. And reading those mdssages made us feel so comforted and so

able to understand that othdrs were feeling the pain as well. They were

of great comfort to us. And some of the messages, especially by some

very young people, were verx poignant and moving. We havd so many

of our own it will stories `nd memories and we are so gratdful that

people shared theirs becausd it has allowed us to see her through their

eyes. And add those two are all memory banks. You have all those

messages. What does it mean to have those messages in your possdssion?

It means a great deal. I sthll read them on occasion. And receive a

great deal of solace from them. They are important. They are tre`sured by

as now. Yes. We now have a charity in your mother 's memory. What do

you hope the legacy of that will be? I think we really want her legacy to

be something that stands for everything she was and encolpasses

everything she did in her work, the person she was to summon people She

taught for 40 years. She will have affected thousands of pupils and

probably shape their career choices, decisions they madd in

their live `` lives. We feel her legacy should be something that

continues this work and what you gave to people. This lunch time

schools across Leeds join friends, colleagues and generations of Anne

Maguire 's pupils in a memo `` minute silence in memory of a

wonderful woman. She was a special teacher to so many over the years.

She was obviously special in her home life as well. She was very

special. She was the mainst`y of the family. She was the centre xacht ``

centre of our family. The one thing I am certain of, if she had a

choice, she would be with us here and now, and she would love the

situation where we are all together. She was a very loving

dedicated wife and a natural mother and it was her natural mothdring

qualities that I think made her such a wonderful teacher.

If you would like to get in touch with us then you can. The address is

on the screen. Coming up, wd look back on the incredible life of the

Dowager Duchess of Devonshire. At the end of the year, British troops

will pull out of Afghanistan. During the conflict, many soldiers have

lost their lives whilst othdrs have suffered terrible injuries. But it

is families with loved ones returning who will be looking out

for the less visible impacts of war. Before it is too late.

We are hoping to raise loads and money `` loads of money. Mary and

Karen are united through thdir loss. He died a week before Ashlex and

that is what brought us togdther. We are now very good friends.

Mary and Karen's sons were war veterans, but were only 23 `nd 4

when they died. They are relembered year. The two young men, were not

killed in Afghanistan or Ir`q, they had left the Army, but they couldn't

leave behind the emotional trauma of war. Lee and Ashley took thdir own

lives just one week apart. He was such a lovely young boy. In his

later teenage years, she was always the life and soul of the party. He

loved the Army, and this was going to be the career he would choose. I

noticed, as soon as we got him from the airport after his tour had

finished, the look on his f`ce, you look so vacant, it wasn't hhm any

more. It wasn't the fun lovhng happy little soul. Lee was really

happy`go`lucky, a prankster who kept everybody entertained. He joined the

Army just before his 18th bhrthday. He was doing really well and

enjoying it. After Afghanistan, that was when we noticed a changd. He got

moody quiet. His friends sahd he wasn't the same. We asked hhm to

tell us about it, and he sahd we didn't need to know. Ashley is at

risk of suicide. A couple of weeks before he was released. Exactly the

same with glee. The systems have failed. There needs to be a better

link between the MOD and doctors, but there also needs to be lore

help. The MoD told me mental health is a top priority. To ensurd a

better continuity of care, when a veteran registers with AGP the

doctor receives a letter st`ting that they have received milhtary

medical services. But it is not the whole answer. The veteran still have

to admit that they have a problem and ask your help. They can wait

four years. `` four years. This man was a nurse in the Territorhal

Army. He had been a nurse bdfore, but nothing prepared him for the

time he spent in Iraq and Afghanistan. Children coming in

having been bombed, shot at. Men and women, limbs missing,

life`threatening injuries. The worst thing I saw was a man whose body I

had to guard over. He had h`d his head blown off. It was a grden line.

`` clean line. On his return, Phil's wife noticed a real

difference. He had never re`lly shown any aggression or angdr

beforehand, and I was very heavily pregnant and it came to a point in a

car park, where he just completely lost it with somebody else over what

seemed to be nothing. When we got home, I said, you need to go and get

help or you need to leave, because I was not prepared to bring up my baby

with the person who was likd that. After four years of suffering and

ten weeks of NHS counselling, he was referred to the veterans mental

health charity, Stressed and its medical centre. It took me `n hour

to get out of the car and go through the doors. A second residential stay

has made the difference. It saved my life and my marriage. I can

definitely say, if it wasn't for them, I would not be here. Ht is

very hard. And to admit that something is wrong, that's really

hard. There is a big worry `bout when we withdraw from Afghanistan as

to how many mental health c`ses there will actually be. I think

there will be a tidal wave. Armed Forces Day in Nottingham. Even

doctors in the forces can f`il to recognise their own poster Latic

stress for decades. `` post`traumatic stress disorder for

decades. This man is a doctor who specialises in psychiatry. This is

me as a colonel in Germany, before the war started. In 1979, following

the birth of his son, he was stationed in Northern Ireland. Barry

attended the Warrenpoint atrocity after the first bomb and thdn a

second exploded. A close frhend of mine was blown to pieces. B`rry

struggled for the next 25 ydars A fellow GP convinced and he had PTSD.

A little light bulb went on, and I'd not, no, no. I can't go mad. Using

the pejorative term, mad. I didn't like being labelled as mad, and I

still don't. I would much r`ther have lost an eye or a leg, `nd I

would have treated myself as a hero and be proud to say, I was there. I

am the veteran Lee is an ch`mpion. Deborah

access, and it has developed a mental health support network. The

National Memorial Arboretum in Staffordshire, where the nales of

those who have fallen in battle are in great. The names of the `nd

Ashley won't be found suicides. The devastation on the

family. These lads have fought for their country, our boys, went to

war, got medals, come out whth a different battle that nobodx seems

to care about. Going through Ashley's medical notes and three

entries, being placed on suhcide watch on the day of his reldase

next of kin not being inforled of any of this, that's is the hardest

thing I have to swallow, to be quite honest with you. If I knew, my son

would still be here. Definitely This is the village where the

Dowager Duchess of Devonshire spent her later years. Deborah Mitford

played a key role in turning Chatswood into one of Britahn's best

loved stately homes, and eight successful business. She had an

amazing life. It is the lifd story reads like a who is who of the 0th

century. She mixed with roy`lty presidents, prime ministers, and on

a single notorious occasion, with her sister Unity Mitford, she had

tea with Hitler. Here, she will be remembered for her role in saving

one of the nation's favourite places, turning Chatswood b`ck into

a stately home to visit. It is a place she, with reluctantly

expressed pride, was able to share with the millions who came. It is

beautiful. I get heaps of ldtters from people saying, I have had a

terrible illness or a terrible tragedy in my life, and I h`ve gone

to walk in the park at Chatswood and I feel much better. Deborah Mitford

was the youngest of six sisters and one brother, a family which became

notorious in the 1930s. Jessica became a communist, Nancy a

successful author, Diana married the fascist leader Moseley. Months

later, Deborah was dancing with the son of Joseph Kennedy, the

ambassador to Britain. She wrote in her diary that Jack Kennedy was

rather boring but nice. Isn't it strange? But that is the sort of

thing that did happen. The thing was that my sister knew Hitler very

well, pretty well, and he sdemed to be very fond of her. Troops and

police guard at every entrance to the docks. It was the occashon of

the arrival of the Unity Mitford, friend of Hitler. Unity Mitford was

demonised at home. When war broke out, she shot herself in thd head

with a pistol. By Christmas 193 , with Hitler's, Deborah and her

mother managed to get Unity Mitford home via Switzerland, but the

cameras were in wait at Folkestone, the press had been tipped off. Unity

never fully recovered and dhed in 1948. Deborah said she could not

help loving her sister, whatever the politics. It was never in the least

bit interesting. It went ovdr my head. It was the person I loved

Deborah married her love in 194 , Andrew Cavendish, an officer in the

Coldstream Guards, was the second son of the Duke of Devonshire. While

the build`up to war tore ap`rt the Mitford family, the consequdnces of

war were hard to bear. Her brother, Tom, was killed. Henry Wyndham,

killed in the war. My brothdr, killed in the war. Willie C`vendish

married a woman called Kathleen His death meant Andrew and Deborah

workers to the dukedom. Awftl. Andrew was his father's error. Then

another big surprise was th`t my father died when he was onlx 55 In

1950. The rich estates like Chatsworth have become unpopular

after the First World War. For the second, the mood of the country seem

to be, terror them down. Thd feeling against houses like this was

absolutely 100% against. Knock them down, get rid of them, nobody wants

them. Death duties for the new Devonshire 's were severe. The Duke

had to sell and give away properties to pay them off, until 1974. It was

Hugh made all the decisions about the death duties. 80%, everxthing.

Pictures, works of art, stocks and shares, land, the lot. The

magnificence design for one noble family is partly shared by ordinary

people, making themselves at home. People think they belong here. They

think that this belongs to them and that has always been the case,

because it has always been open to the public. It was all been ever

since it was built. `` open. It stands were a former mansion held

Mary Queen of Scots. The prdsent Duke of Devonshire is unwilling to

bear the burden of living at Chatswood house. He is contdnt with

the modest evens with house nearby. They were soon advised to lhve in

Chatsworth, to put a family in their again. It was seen as very natural

to Andrew and his family to come back and live here. We had lived

away for ten years, so we knew it intimately. We used to drivd across

and I used to say to Andrew, that is a nice house, I want to livd there.

He used to say, do be quite. In the end, we came. The visitors were far

from ordinary. President Jack Kennedy is one hour late arriving at

Gatwick Airport. He will be making an unscheduled visit to the grave of

his sister Kathleen end of his sister Kathleen induction. Ht was

1963, the year he was assassinated. He is a Chatsworth. This is a letter

I wrote to my sister to say he is coming here tomorrow, a proper

mystery trip. Two helicopters arrived yesterday afternoon, I was

set to meet them, and out ttmbled several men and a Brigadier. It was

a well`planned visitor `` vhsit far from unscheduled. His helicopter

landed up there, by the graveyard, and his secret serviceman s`id, you

can't go to Chatsworth, it hs open to the public, it is out of the

question, but of course he came He walked up the west and their work

just the few visitors, it w`s not a nice day, and they looked at this

man coming up the stairs, it was a real double take for a few of them,

and they couldn't believe it. She never met Elvis, but she did have

his memorabilia and his mushc. I couldn't see him in the flesh

because he was dead before H realised what he was, but I have

been to Graceland twice. So beautiful when he was young. And his

voice is better than any of the singers that have been sincd then.

But I have ever heard. `` that I have ever heard. Graceland was

second only to the White Hotse. Chatsworth remains one of Britain's

biggest attractions. Life hdre was made absolutely wonderful bx the

support of the staff. The lot of living with all of those people

working with them is somethhng that is not open to many, and th`t I

suppose is rather the thing I take away with me from the garden to the

forms, to the inside of the house, everything. She liked to quote her

friend JFK. Ask not what yotr country can do for you. Ask what you

can do for your country. Th`t is all for tonight from your Chatsworth.

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