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The programme starts with testimony
that some viewers may find | 0:00:03 | 0:00:07 | |
upsetting.
In recent days allegations have been | 0:00:07 | 0:00:12 | |
made about some MPs' conduct
including my own. Some of these | 0:00:12 | 0:00:17 | |
allegations are false but I have
realised that in the past I have | 0:00:17 | 0:00:21 | |
fallen below the high standards we
require from the Armed Forces. | 0:00:21 | 0:00:27 | |
What started as a scandal
in Hollywood has become | 0:00:27 | 0:00:29 | |
a crisis in Westminster,
with one of Theresa May's | 0:00:29 | 0:00:31 | |
key cabinet colleagues,
the Defence Secretary | 0:00:31 | 0:00:33 | |
Michael Fallon, stepping down. | 0:00:33 | 0:00:34 | |
His scalp may be
a ministerial first. | 0:00:34 | 0:00:36 | |
It may not be the last. | 0:00:36 | 0:00:37 | |
But the issue of sexual harassment
goes way beyond Westminster. | 0:00:37 | 0:00:40 | |
Tonight, we've chosen to give this
subject the full studio treament. | 0:00:40 | 0:00:42 | |
How are men behaving towards women? | 0:00:42 | 0:00:44 | |
And what women are
now saying about it? | 0:00:44 | 0:00:50 | |
I had gone for a late brunch
with a friend and on my tube journey | 0:00:50 | 0:00:53 | |
home I was on the Northern Line
coming out at Tooting Broadway | 0:00:53 | 0:00:57 | |
and as I came on to the escalator
I stood and I noticed a man run | 0:00:57 | 0:01:02 | |
really quickly - he was really keen
to get on this escalator behind me. | 0:01:02 | 0:01:07 | |
I was 18 when it happened. | 0:01:07 | 0:01:10 | |
And it was just at a work party. | 0:01:10 | 0:01:14 | |
I had been to a couple
of work parties before | 0:01:14 | 0:01:16 | |
and they were nothing
out of ordinary. | 0:01:16 | 0:01:18 | |
I was looking forward to it. | 0:01:18 | 0:01:20 | |
Initially, it was really good. | 0:01:20 | 0:01:23 | |
We got on very well. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:27 | |
He had a really good
sense of humour. | 0:01:27 | 0:01:31 | |
He liked music. | 0:01:31 | 0:01:33 | |
So we went out quite a bit. | 0:01:33 | 0:01:37 | |
So later in the evening,
I found myself alone with him. | 0:01:37 | 0:01:40 | |
It hadn't been my intention
at all to be alone with him. | 0:01:40 | 0:01:43 | |
But with the high turn around
of people at a party, | 0:01:43 | 0:01:46 | |
it happened and it was then
he put his hand on my back | 0:01:46 | 0:01:51 | |
and forced me into the bathroom
and that's where he continued. | 0:01:51 | 0:01:59 | |
That is where he raped me. | 0:01:59 | 0:02:04 | |
He stood as close as he could
physically be to me. | 0:02:04 | 0:02:07 | |
His entire body was almost pressed
up against my back and I noticed | 0:02:07 | 0:02:12 | |
something that I think is the back
of a hand perhaps, | 0:02:12 | 0:02:14 | |
pushed up against my bum. | 0:02:14 | 0:02:19 | |
I think as we were,
the longer we were together, | 0:02:19 | 0:02:24 | |
the more comfortable he got
with putting me down. | 0:02:24 | 0:02:28 | |
He would call me an idiot. | 0:02:28 | 0:02:30 | |
He would swear. | 0:02:30 | 0:02:33 | |
He would tell me I was stupid. | 0:02:33 | 0:02:35 | |
Tell me I was thick. | 0:02:35 | 0:02:41 | |
And I stopped eating
at the dinner table eventually, | 0:02:41 | 0:02:44 | |
because he used to tell me
I was a pig and I ate like a pig. | 0:02:44 | 0:02:50 | |
It is a cross between emotions
of feeling almost embarrassed | 0:02:50 | 0:02:54 | |
and dirty, this feeling of,
oh God, I can't believe | 0:02:54 | 0:03:02 | |
this happened to me,
that someone has seen me and | 0:03:02 | 0:03:05 | |
seen me as a target and at the end
you almost feel a little bit guilty, | 0:03:05 | 0:03:08 | |
where you think, someone
pressed their body against mine, | 0:03:08 | 0:03:11 | |
the hand ran over my bum,
but I wasn't raped and there is that | 0:03:11 | 0:03:14 | |
guilt as well. | 0:03:14 | 0:03:15 | |
So you almost don't know how
to handle the emotion. | 0:03:15 | 0:03:17 | |
What happens is it happens
so slowly over a period | 0:03:17 | 0:03:20 | |
of time that it just chip,
chip, chips away at who | 0:03:20 | 0:03:23 | |
you are as a person,
until I looked in the mirror | 0:03:23 | 0:03:25 | |
and I was just
unrecognisable to myself. | 0:03:25 | 0:03:27 | |
I just wasn't me. | 0:03:27 | 0:03:31 | |
In a couple of months,
then the police said there wasn't | 0:03:31 | 0:03:33 | |
enough evidence to continue. | 0:03:33 | 0:03:37 | |
In most cases it is a "he says,
she says" situation. | 0:03:37 | 0:03:42 | |
Upon hearing this, work just
reinstated us back and I had to kick | 0:03:42 | 0:03:46 | |
up a real fuss to make sure
we didn't work together. | 0:03:46 | 0:03:51 | |
When he came back on to his shift,
a couple male members | 0:03:51 | 0:03:54 | |
of staff came up to him,
shook his hand, welcomed him back, | 0:03:54 | 0:03:57 | |
said it was good to have him back. | 0:03:57 | 0:04:00 | |
I don't want to have every day
remembering a time when I was groped | 0:04:00 | 0:04:04 | |
on the Tube by a man that I had
never seen before and obviously | 0:04:04 | 0:04:07 | |
don't find that sort
of behaviour acceptable. | 0:04:07 | 0:04:12 | |
I remember one day when I was in bed
and I couldn't do anything, | 0:04:12 | 0:04:15 | |
I just couldn't get up
and my daughter came in, | 0:04:15 | 0:04:18 | |
she was only five. | 0:04:18 | 0:04:21 | |
She came in and she didn't say
anything, she just climbed | 0:04:21 | 0:04:24 | |
in the bed beside me
and gave me a hug. | 0:04:24 | 0:04:27 | |
And I think she must have known. | 0:04:27 | 0:04:32 | |
There is so much that
just changed after that. | 0:04:32 | 0:04:35 | |
I lost a lot of friends,
because they didn't know what to say | 0:04:35 | 0:04:38 | |
to me, how to respond. | 0:04:38 | 0:04:42 | |
A lot of my guy friends just
didn't know what to do. | 0:04:42 | 0:04:45 | |
You just wonder if you're ever
going to find a sense of normality, | 0:04:45 | 0:04:49 | |
just have a relationship again. | 0:04:49 | 0:04:53 | |
It wasn't until it was highlighted
to me that I looked back | 0:04:53 | 0:04:56 | |
and thought, "Oh my God,
all this time, all this time | 0:04:56 | 0:04:59 | |
and I didn't even see it." | 0:04:59 | 0:05:03 | |
I don't think much or enough
is being done to handle this. | 0:05:03 | 0:05:08 | |
Especially when over
half your population | 0:05:08 | 0:05:11 | |
in London are female,
something needs to be done to make | 0:05:11 | 0:05:14 | |
them feel safer, because I don't. | 0:05:14 | 0:05:18 | |
Good evening. | 0:05:19 | 0:05:29 | |
Tonight, we want to reflect on an
age-old problem, sex, power, abuse | 0:05:30 | 0:05:35 | |
and allegations. | 0:05:35 | 0:05:45 | |
So tonight we want to reflect
the new national conversation | 0:05:47 | 0:05:49 | |
about an age-old problem. | 0:05:49 | 0:05:50 | |
Sex, power and abuse and allegation
- have the rules changed? | 0:05:50 | 0:05:53 | |
Are we redefining what we're
prepared to put up with? | 0:05:53 | 0:05:55 | |
And how do we feel about calling
people "guilty" in such | 0:05:55 | 0:05:58 | |
a vocal, public way? | 0:05:58 | 0:05:59 | |
We have a panel of speakers,
and a lively audience of 12 men. | 0:05:59 | 0:06:02 | |
Much to come then, but first
Evan and your thoughts | 0:06:02 | 0:06:05 | |
on the problem with men. | 0:06:05 | 0:06:06 | |
"All men are rapists." | 0:06:06 | 0:06:07 | |
It's an old trope, from a character
in a feminist novel called | 0:06:07 | 0:06:10 | |
The Women's Room. | 0:06:10 | 0:06:11 | |
It's of course an absurd
exaggeration if the word "rape" | 0:06:11 | 0:06:13 | |
is to have its usual meaning. | 0:06:13 | 0:06:15 | |
Not all men are rapists. | 0:06:15 | 0:06:16 | |
However, a very large number
do think about women, | 0:06:16 | 0:06:18 | |
or men and sex a lot of the time. | 0:06:18 | 0:06:20 | |
It's a powerful motivator
and although it is sometimes | 0:06:20 | 0:06:22 | |
unfashionable to invoke biology
when it comes to explaining human | 0:06:22 | 0:06:25 | |
action, there is something rather
animal about how men often behave. | 0:06:25 | 0:06:27 | |
In fact, it's because it is
so animal we have social codes | 0:06:27 | 0:06:30 | |
to restrain that behaviour. | 0:06:30 | 0:06:31 | |
Perhaps the reason why the Weinstein
scandal has been so potent | 0:06:31 | 0:06:34 | |
is that it is where the basest
of instincts meet the most | 0:06:34 | 0:06:37 | |
sophisticated of human
creations - law and culture. | 0:06:37 | 0:06:39 | |
There are flashing images coming up
in this film. | 0:06:39 | 0:06:42 | |
It is far too simplistic to say male
mammals are more regressive and have | 0:06:42 | 0:06:47 | |
their way with women when they like.
Nature delivers a variety of mating | 0:06:47 | 0:06:53 | |
strategies. But it is true that with
many animals males gained | 0:06:53 | 0:06:57 | |
evolutionary benefits from fighting
with each other or coercing females | 0:06:57 | 0:07:01 | |
into mating. That is less true of
females. There are even some species | 0:07:01 | 0:07:06 | |
where some females mimic males to
avoid continual harassment. It also | 0:07:06 | 0:07:10 | |
has to be said that in most mammals,
including us, males have higher | 0:07:10 | 0:07:16 | |
testosterone levels the females, and
this may incline them to be more | 0:07:16 | 0:07:20 | |
aggressive. Don't worry, I'm not
going to use any of this to a rate | 0:07:20 | 0:07:25 | |
men or argue they cannot help
themselves, it is just nature. That | 0:07:25 | 0:07:29 | |
is not my point, not even close. The
key insight is a lot has been said | 0:07:29 | 0:07:35 | |
about how men exploit their power in
order to serve their craving for sex | 0:07:35 | 0:07:38 | |
and women. But you could argue it is
the other way round. They crave | 0:07:38 | 0:07:43 | |
power because it makes it easier to
exploit women get sex. That is the | 0:07:43 | 0:07:48 | |
animal side of the problem, strong
urges, dominant men. How do humans | 0:07:48 | 0:07:54 | |
deal with this? There are societies
where men are barely restrained at | 0:07:54 | 0:07:58 | |
all. The tiny British colony of
Pitcairn seemed to be like this, a | 0:07:58 | 0:08:04 | |
population measured in tens. In the
early 2000s it hit a crisis. | 0:08:04 | 0:08:10 | |
According to court testimony, rape
was a way of life. Half the adult | 0:08:10 | 0:08:13 | |
men faced charges of sexual
offences. But that is the exception. | 0:08:13 | 0:08:22 | |
Most societies develop a code of
social behaviour. In the Tory in | 0:08:22 | 0:08:26 | |
Britain it is about dressing females
in ways which would excite less | 0:08:26 | 0:08:33 | |
animal passion from humans. Covering
up the ankles, for example. And then | 0:08:33 | 0:08:41 | |
women get the blame when men are
aroused. But the other problem is | 0:08:41 | 0:08:46 | |
men face penalty for non-restraint
and that is clearly where Western | 0:08:46 | 0:08:53 | |
societies are striving supposedly
striving today. Our current system | 0:08:53 | 0:08:56 | |
is not working well because to
punish sexually aggressive men you | 0:08:56 | 0:09:00 | |
have to catch them, and we don't,
because victims have very good | 0:09:00 | 0:09:04 | |
reasons not to report them. You
might say what is happening at the | 0:09:04 | 0:09:07 | |
moment is a recalibration of our
social rules into. Firstly, around | 0:09:07 | 0:09:13 | |
what is considered socially
acceptable behaviour, and secondly, | 0:09:13 | 0:09:17 | |
in reducing the stigma for those who
call it out. Tonight, we have had a | 0:09:17 | 0:09:23 | |
Cabinet resignation, the most
tangible sign yet which shows how | 0:09:23 | 0:09:27 | |
things are changing post Weinstein.
When Michael Fallon resigned, he | 0:09:27 | 0:09:30 | |
said what might have been acceptable
ten or 15 years ago is clearly not | 0:09:30 | 0:09:36 | |
acceptable now. New responsibilities
are being imposed, men have to live | 0:09:36 | 0:09:40 | |
up to the standards as site now
expects. | 0:09:40 | 0:09:45 | |
Apologies for reducing a rich seam
of evolutionary biology to that | 0:09:45 | 0:09:48 | |
two minute treatment,
but it may just offer a guide | 0:09:48 | 0:09:50 | |
as to what we're up against. | 0:09:50 | 0:09:52 | |
Another sign of how deep it runs,
I had an e-mail earlier today | 0:09:52 | 0:09:55 | |
from someone I know well,
who described an astonishing piece | 0:09:55 | 0:09:57 | |
of inappropriate behaviour that
occurred this morning. | 0:09:57 | 0:09:59 | |
Quite surprising that predators have
not taken a pause during this season | 0:09:59 | 0:10:02 | |
of news frenzy on the topic. | 0:10:02 | 0:10:05 | |
I should say of course,
that we tend to talk of this | 0:10:05 | 0:10:07 | |
as a man, woman issue. | 0:10:07 | 0:10:09 | |
But it's been conspicuous
in the last month just how much | 0:10:09 | 0:10:11 | |
chatter there is about men
harassing other men. | 0:10:11 | 0:10:13 | |
It's different to harassment
of women, but similar. | 0:10:13 | 0:10:16 | |
But, for this evening,
we'll focus on male/female issues. | 0:10:16 | 0:10:22 | |
So does everyone know
what sexual abuse looks like? | 0:10:22 | 0:10:25 | |
Once we thought we did. | 0:10:25 | 0:10:26 | |
Now it's not so clear. | 0:10:26 | 0:10:28 | |
The boundaries have
definitely shifted. | 0:10:28 | 0:10:30 | |
And men are having to learn
what they look like. | 0:10:30 | 0:10:32 | |
So are men now changing
their behaviour? | 0:10:32 | 0:10:35 | |
And is it making all our work
relationships really awkward? | 0:10:35 | 0:10:37 | |
Let's ask our men. | 0:10:37 | 0:10:41 | |
I would like to ask you first if you
think you have changed your | 0:10:41 | 0:10:46 | |
behaviour in recent weeks since some
of these allegations came out? Who | 0:10:46 | 0:10:50 | |
would say they have changed their
behaviour? Terence, what have you | 0:10:50 | 0:10:54 | |
noticed? I have noticed that you
have to change your behaviour with | 0:10:54 | 0:10:58 | |
women the way you touch them or put
your arm around them or the way you | 0:10:58 | 0:11:01 | |
look at them, to be honest. Years
ago used to be had to laugh with | 0:11:01 | 0:11:06 | |
women, joke with them but now... And
you do not laugh with women any | 0:11:06 | 0:11:13 | |
more? You do that you use to put
your arms around them and you cannot | 0:11:13 | 0:11:16 | |
do that no more. Do you agree? I
don't understand why it is | 0:11:16 | 0:11:22 | |
appropriate to Dutch study when
you're having a laugh and joke with | 0:11:22 | 0:11:26 | |
someone. Physical bodily contact
when it is uninitiated is wrong and | 0:11:26 | 0:11:30 | |
it has always been wrong. When you
say it is wrong, do you ask | 0:11:30 | 0:11:35 | |
permission to put your hand on
somebody's shoulder or touch their | 0:11:35 | 0:11:40 | |
elbow? There is no reason to touch
you. What does it add? Does anyone | 0:11:40 | 0:11:45 | |
still like that? I think it is time
for a complete rethink by men and | 0:11:45 | 0:11:58 | |
women. I'll give you an example.
Just last Sunday I was at church. | 0:11:58 | 0:12:00 | |
And now, where normally I am a
fairly lovable easy-going character, | 0:12:00 | 0:12:03 | |
now I wait for women to come to me,
and they invariably want to kiss me | 0:12:03 | 0:12:07 | |
on the cheek and give me a hug, it
is a friendly thing. So you will not | 0:12:07 | 0:12:13 | |
make the first approach now? No. Who
is worried to make the first tactile | 0:12:13 | 0:12:18 | |
of physical approach to women. You
are the only one. John, you're | 0:12:18 | 0:12:23 | |
looking at me. This thing of PC has
gone to such an extreme nowadays. | 0:12:23 | 0:12:28 | |
What do you mean by that? What is
correct, what is the margin, what is | 0:12:28 | 0:12:35 | |
the boundary. I am not entirely
convinced that I am ever going to | 0:12:35 | 0:12:39 | |
change being friendly to somebody
and if I know that person well | 0:12:39 | 0:12:45 | |
enough, that I'm quite happy to give
them a cuddle, hug, whatever the | 0:12:45 | 0:12:48 | |
word is. A lot of the younger men
are quite silent in this point. I'm | 0:12:48 | 0:12:53 | |
going to bring you in. Do you find
it confusing? Is it a grey area or | 0:12:53 | 0:13:00 | |
is it obvious? I think most of the
time it is fairly obvious. Sometimes | 0:13:00 | 0:13:03 | |
I have stepped into the grey area
and when I have seen someone is | 0:13:03 | 0:13:08 | |
uncomfortable I have apologised and
said, I should not have done that | 0:13:08 | 0:13:13 | |
and you gain an understanding. When
he said there is no reason to touch | 0:13:13 | 0:13:15 | |
someone if you aren't invited to, I
suppose a lot of people you are used | 0:13:15 | 0:13:19 | |
to thinking, physical contact is
natural and whatnot. When we say if | 0:13:19 | 0:13:26 | |
there is no invitation, you don't
have any reason to touch someone, | 0:13:26 | 0:13:32 | |
for example, if someone drops
something and I have to call them | 0:13:32 | 0:13:34 | |
out and they couldn't hear me, soap
if I touch them, am I committing | 0:13:34 | 0:13:39 | |
sexual harassment? Come on. Have we
lost our sense of common sense in | 0:13:39 | 0:13:46 | |
all of this? Completely. To the very
jagged line. Tom, what was your | 0:13:46 | 0:13:53 | |
sense? I feel it is so it's second
nature. I'm 21. I have grown up | 0:13:53 | 0:13:57 | |
where it is so obvious to me, I
struggle to see a lot of the other | 0:13:57 | 0:14:02 | |
opinions about how... The whole idea
of just being friendly with someone | 0:14:02 | 0:14:06 | |
and feeling the need to touch them,
for me, that is not the case. I | 0:14:06 | 0:14:11 | |
don't need to do that. I just have a
conversation. So you never touch | 0:14:11 | 0:14:16 | |
your friends? You never feel the
need to reach out and touch your | 0:14:16 | 0:14:20 | |
friends? It is fine if it is a no.
In some contexts I suppose. | 0:14:20 | 0:14:31 | |
Your do touch your friends. You're
saying what Tom said is alien? What | 0:14:31 | 0:14:37 | |
are they afraid of. I was going to
say, whether or not you touch a | 0:14:37 | 0:14:42 | |
friend, be it a male or female
friend depends on the context, | 0:14:42 | 0:14:48 | |
whether you have done before,
whether they have touched you. If | 0:14:48 | 0:14:52 | |
you just want to give them a hug or
kiss or touch them for the first | 0:14:52 | 0:14:57 | |
time, maybe you turn them on the
arm. | 0:14:57 | 0:15:02 | |
Evan, you have some data on this. | 0:15:02 | 0:15:05 | |
Now, social attitudes
as to the boundaries | 0:15:05 | 0:15:07 | |
matter on these issues
and we have polling evidence | 0:15:07 | 0:15:09 | |
of what attitudes are at the moment. | 0:15:09 | 0:15:12 | |
A YouGov Eurotrack survey taken
in the last two weeks asked people | 0:15:12 | 0:15:17 | |
about some specific behaviours
and whether they always or usually | 0:15:17 | 0:15:21 | |
constitute sexual harassment,
if a man who was not a romantic | 0:15:21 | 0:15:24 | |
partner or friend,
did them to a woman. | 0:15:24 | 0:15:30 | |
There are some things that
almost everybody agrees | 0:15:30 | 0:15:34 | |
are harassment - trying to take
a photograph up a woman's | 0:15:34 | 0:15:37 | |
skirt, 96%. | 0:15:37 | 0:15:41 | |
Requesting sexual favours -
92% say that's harassment. | 0:15:41 | 0:15:46 | |
Pinching or grabbing
a woman's bum - that's 91%. | 0:15:46 | 0:15:53 | |
At the other end, there are several
things that are widely seen not | 0:15:53 | 0:15:56 | |
to be sexual harassment. | 0:15:56 | 0:15:58 | |
Commenting on a woman's
attractiveness - | 0:15:58 | 0:15:59 | |
just 16% thought that was always
or usually harassment. | 0:15:59 | 0:16:03 | |
Winking at a woman - 13%. | 0:16:03 | 0:16:08 | |
Asking for a drink -
just 3% thought that harassment. | 0:16:08 | 0:16:15 | |
But in some ways the most
interesting areas are those | 0:16:15 | 0:16:18 | |
where the public have
no dominant view. | 0:16:18 | 0:16:20 | |
The middle ones. | 0:16:20 | 0:16:23 | |
Looking at a woman's breasts -
50% think that is harassment. | 0:16:23 | 0:16:28 | |
Wolf whistling - 38%. | 0:16:28 | 0:16:33 | |
And a man placing his hand
on a woman's lower back - 37% | 0:16:33 | 0:16:35 | |
think that is harassment. | 0:16:35 | 0:16:40 | |
In the poll - there do seem
to be some grey zones. | 0:16:40 | 0:16:50 | |
Who thinks looking at a woman's
breast is harassment. You're the | 0:16:55 | 0:17:00 | |
only one shaking your head. It
depends on the context. We are not | 0:17:00 | 0:17:05 | |
talk about in bed with your partner.
If you're in a lift and there is two | 0:17:05 | 0:17:10 | |
of you there and you stare at her
breasts that is harassment. If | 0:17:10 | 0:17:17 | |
you're on a dance floor it is
different. It depends on how women | 0:17:17 | 0:17:24 | |
present themselves to men. Here we
are in 2017, men and women have | 0:17:24 | 0:17:30 | |
seriously got to rethink all over
again... Who agrees with that and | 0:17:30 | 0:17:34 | |
thinks it up to woman to relook at
how they think. No. You think it is | 0:17:34 | 0:17:43 | |
about women? Go on tell me what you
think. Just exactly what he said to | 0:17:43 | 0:17:52 | |
be honest. You're breathing very
heavily. I'm going to bring you in. | 0:17:52 | 0:17:58 | |
I can't believe we're
victim-blaming, we don't train our | 0:17:58 | 0:18:05 | |
boys to dress appropriately. We
train our boys not to rape them. It | 0:18:05 | 0:18:10 | |
is no about harassment, it is more
about respect, I think respect comes | 0:18:10 | 0:18:15 | |
into this a lot. Staring at a
woman's parts when you're talking to | 0:18:15 | 0:18:20 | |
her is, because you wouldn't... A
man couldn't talk to another man and | 0:18:20 | 0:18:27 | |
look at an inappropriate part of his
body. What about wolf whistling or | 0:18:27 | 0:18:33 | |
the hand on the back. To disrespect
somebody is harassment. You're not | 0:18:33 | 0:18:38 | |
saying it is not harassment. But it
is not the same stuff. I didn't say | 0:18:38 | 0:18:48 | |
it is not disrespect. You're doing
it in a way that makes you feel | 0:18:48 | 0:18:53 | |
better. It is the same masculine
strap. By not respecting a woman | 0:18:53 | 0:19:00 | |
doesn't make it any better or more
acceptable. If somebody disrespects | 0:19:00 | 0:19:05 | |
you, does it make it acceptable. You
respect a woman in the first place | 0:19:05 | 0:19:10 | |
you wouldn't need to look at her
down there. Who about confusion with | 0:19:10 | 0:19:15 | |
a action who, has put a hand on a
woman's back without thinking about | 0:19:15 | 0:19:20 | |
it. Would you now think about that
in a different light when you have | 0:19:20 | 0:19:25 | |
seen the data. Yes definitely. You
wouldn't do that and John you say... | 0:19:25 | 0:19:31 | |
I would continue as I've always done
in the context of depending on how | 0:19:31 | 0:19:37 | |
friendly you are with the person and
I'm not talking about the Queen you | 0:19:37 | 0:19:43 | |
know? We will pause at that moment.
I think the panel has a lot to say. | 0:19:43 | 0:19:48 | |
We will be back. | 0:19:48 | 0:19:51 | |
Let me introduce our panel here -
experts and commentators who have | 0:19:51 | 0:19:54 | |
been thinking harder
about this than most of us. | 0:19:54 | 0:19:56 | |
Laura Bates, the founder
of the Everyday Sexism Project, | 0:19:56 | 0:19:59 | |
Shelagh Fogarty LBC presenter,
musician Jordan Stephens one half | 0:19:59 | 0:20:01 | |
of the band Rizzle Kicks,
writer and commentator Neil Lyndon | 0:20:01 | 0:20:04 | |
the author of No More Sex War
and journalist Eliza Anyangwe. | 0:20:04 | 0:20:12 | |
It was interesting what Michael
Fallon said when he resigned, he | 0:20:12 | 0:20:16 | |
said what was acceptable 15 or 10
years ago is no longer acceptable | 0:20:16 | 0:20:19 | |
now. That implication is the rules
have changed. Eliza you were shaking | 0:20:19 | 0:20:28 | |
your head, they were always the
same? What has changed is what | 0:20:28 | 0:20:32 | |
people can get a pat on the back for
having done, can get promotions, I | 0:20:32 | 0:20:39 | |
think we have framed the discussion
inaccurately. This is about power | 0:20:39 | 0:20:43 | |
and the way people use power.
Whether or not a male friend touches | 0:20:43 | 0:20:49 | |
me on my shoulder is inconsequential
a and to make men feel they have to | 0:20:49 | 0:20:56 | |
walk around women and our xer
excising of speaking up about | 0:20:56 | 0:21:03 | |
victimhood is something Joe public
needs to be fearful of women for. | 0:21:03 | 0:21:06 | |
That is not what the conversation is
about. When we look at Weinstein, he | 0:21:06 | 0:21:12 | |
has abused his power and has preyed
on vulnerable women and that is | 0:21:12 | 0:21:17 | |
wrong. Laura, the conversation has
gone beyond Weinstein to quite a lot | 0:21:17 | 0:21:23 | |
of these every day interactions,
every day sexism, that is not rape | 0:21:23 | 0:21:29 | |
and it often is touching of knees
and things, it is quite different. I | 0:21:29 | 0:21:33 | |
think it is important to say that
actually the very serious abuses, | 0:21:33 | 0:21:38 | |
very serious assault, rape are every
day. That is the important thing. We | 0:21:38 | 0:21:42 | |
have seen this out pouring of
accusations of women's experience, | 0:21:42 | 0:21:47 | |
why are we asking if it is OK to
touch a woman on the elbow. 12 | 0:21:47 | 0:21:54 | |
million women around the world have
spoken out about their experiences | 0:21:54 | 0:21:57 | |
and I guarantee you go and have a
look at them, you won't find one | 0:21:57 | 0:22:02 | |
saying is I'm outraged someone
touched me on the elbow. This is | 0:22:02 | 0:22:06 | |
reframing the conversation. We are
talking about serious abuses. Am I | 0:22:06 | 0:22:12 | |
confused, I think the conversation
has got to more of the obviously not | 0:22:12 | 0:22:17 | |
touching an elbow accidentally, the
conversation has got to interactions | 0:22:17 | 0:22:21 | |
that are much less serious than
Harvey Weinstein's one. The extreme | 0:22:21 | 0:22:26 | |
ones have opened up a conversation
about the whole spectrum. Iet You're | 0:22:26 | 0:22:34 | |
right is is about power and serious
things are every day things. But I | 0:22:34 | 0:22:39 | |
think you're opening film was
interesting, the woman talking about | 0:22:39 | 0:22:42 | |
the assault on the tube and the man
groping her backside, that is the | 0:22:42 | 0:22:48 | |
kind of every day approach by a
total stranger, this was not a party | 0:22:48 | 0:22:52 | |
where a colleague was drunk and
inappropriate and you could tackle | 0:22:52 | 0:22:57 | |
it, that has happened to me and he
said sorry and that was fine. But | 0:22:57 | 0:23:02 | |
that, what struck me as interesting,
why I don't think it is just about | 0:23:02 | 0:23:06 | |
male power and just about male
behaviour, I think women have to | 0:23:06 | 0:23:10 | |
have a discussion in their own minds
and with each other about what they | 0:23:10 | 0:23:15 | |
do when it happens. It is alien to
me the idea I would be on a tube and | 0:23:15 | 0:23:20 | |
a stranger would feel me up and I
would do nothing. I would react. We | 0:23:20 | 0:23:24 | |
are going to come to that calling
out subject in the second half of | 0:23:24 | 0:23:28 | |
the programme. Neil, back to my
first question, have the rules | 0:23:28 | 0:23:33 | |
changed, because really I think a
lot of people say the rules have | 0:23:33 | 0:23:36 | |
always been as clear as anything.
You know what you can do and can't | 0:23:36 | 0:23:40 | |
do? The rules remain the same, they
have always been the same. But | 0:23:40 | 0:23:45 | |
everything has changed. Everything
changed at the point of the | 0:23:45 | 0:23:52 | |
contraceptive revolution. And that
caused the social changes which have | 0:23:52 | 0:23:58 | |
brought a flood of women into the
work place, into higher edge case at | 0:23:58 | 0:24:03 | |
all levels of -- education at all
levels of society. That is the key. | 0:24:03 | 0:24:08 | |
If you set this conversation in
evolutionary terms, you have to look | 0:24:08 | 0:24:13 | |
at that essential point of change.
What is remarkable about the changes | 0:24:13 | 0:24:17 | |
that have occurred in the last 50
years is how harmoniously they have | 0:24:17 | 0:24:23 | |
been conducted and our misfortune in
the last 50 years is it has been | 0:24:23 | 0:24:29 | |
framed in terms of a totalitarianism
of the 19th century as if men impose | 0:24:29 | 0:24:38 | |
their power on women and that is the
only interpretation of our | 0:24:38 | 0:24:41 | |
relationships. You're point is men
have acquiesced. They have | 0:24:41 | 0:24:51 | |
consented. There is patriarchy, as a
black woman in children there is | 0:24:51 | 0:25:00 | |
that and racism and issues that,
where power is exercised over women. | 0:25:00 | 0:25:05 | |
Jordan? I like for me, I just don't
understand why we are in a situation | 0:25:05 | 0:25:10 | |
where we are not questioning why men
even questioning how to treat | 0:25:10 | 0:25:16 | |
another human being with any kind of
respect and decency. It is a lack of | 0:25:16 | 0:25:24 | |
come passion that is found from
having, it is bizarre to question | 0:25:24 | 0:25:28 | |
how to interact with another human
being. What do you think causes it? | 0:25:28 | 0:25:35 | |
You have talked of toxic
masculinity. I think the patriarchy | 0:25:35 | 0:25:48 | |
that is a way of... Of showing
weakness and sadness gets pent up | 0:25:48 | 0:25:56 | |
which abuse power and the patriarchy
makes ways of object if s object | 0:25:56 | 0:26:06 | |
Faying women. You raised the issue
of calling out. We will turn to that | 0:26:06 | 0:26:12 | |
now. | 0:26:12 | 0:26:15 | |
Many victims have shared
their experiences on social media. | 0:26:15 | 0:26:17 | |
Many men have now been named
and shamed on those same sites. | 0:26:17 | 0:26:20 | |
So are we happy with this
public court of justice - | 0:26:20 | 0:26:22 | |
is that where the power now lies? | 0:26:22 | 0:26:24 | |
We'll talk about calling out
the perpetrators in a moment. | 0:26:24 | 0:26:26 | |
Where it works and
where it goes wrong. | 0:26:26 | 0:26:28 | |
First, have a watch. | 0:26:28 | 0:26:32 | |
Hi. Hello. Let's get you sat down.
OK. I have got over here ready. | 0:26:32 | 0:26:44 | |
Navigating the work place is
challenging for some. Tell me about | 0:26:44 | 0:26:47 | |
yourself. I took a year out and went
exploring. Exploring yourself? And | 0:26:47 | 0:26:54 | |
Asia. And let's face it, David Brent
wouldn't have been such a hit if he | 0:26:54 | 0:27:01 | |
hadn't been a familiar prototype of
those we have known. But if the | 0:27:01 | 0:27:09 | |
etiquette of real life behaviour is
becoming clearer there are virtual | 0:27:09 | 0:27:14 | |
spaces that have no rules. We are
making that stuff up as we go along. | 0:27:14 | 0:27:18 | |
Sharing sites have been
extraordinarily powerful in bringing | 0:27:18 | 0:27:22 | |
together those who suffered
humiliation or worse in a form where | 0:27:22 | 0:27:26 | |
they can find support. Did Rose
McGowan have an idea what she | 0:27:26 | 0:27:34 | |
unleashing, naming Harvey Weinstein.
I have been silent for 20 years. I | 0:27:34 | 0:27:40 | |
have been slut-shamed. Others
offered their experiences in a | 0:27:40 | 0:27:50 | |
tweet. One talked of a sexual
assault and inspired half a million | 0:27:50 | 0:27:54 | |
hits in just 24 hours. Some used the
slogan to share their own, others to | 0:27:54 | 0:28:02 | |
show solidarity. The calling out of
abuse is long over due, but it is | 0:28:02 | 0:28:09 | |
opening up a grey area. One person's
catharsis becomes another's | 0:28:09 | 0:28:14 | |
witch-hunt. Those speaking out
expect to be believed, so are all | 0:28:14 | 0:28:19 | |
those publicly named guilty? Are we
asking Twitter to become judge and | 0:28:19 | 0:28:23 | |
jury. And what of what's app and the
groups sharing perpetrator's names | 0:28:23 | 0:28:31 | |
with no ramification. Don't forget
David Brent is called out. I would | 0:28:31 | 0:28:37 | |
say at one time or another every
bloke in the office has woken up at | 0:28:37 | 0:28:44 | |
the crack of dawn. What Dawn might
tell her friends in the pub, but | 0:28:44 | 0:28:49 | |
would she call a national newspaper?
That is what Twitter has the pow to | 0:28:49 | 0:28:55 | |
do now. Are we happy with that? | 0:28:55 | 0:29:02 | |
OK, well this gets straight
into a debate about this | 0:29:02 | 0:29:04 | |
issue of reporting. | 0:29:04 | 0:29:06 | |
On the one hand, calling out has
clearly become a feature | 0:29:06 | 0:29:08 | |
of the last two weeks. | 0:29:08 | 0:29:09 | |
But it's also interesting
there is still a reticence | 0:29:09 | 0:29:12 | |
on the part of many victims,
to name the perpetrators. | 0:29:12 | 0:29:14 | |
Let's talk to the panel. | 0:29:14 | 0:29:20 | |
Shelagh, you brought this up, is it
still difficult to have this | 0:29:20 | 0:29:25 | |
conversation? I found it was
difficult for me to have this | 0:29:25 | 0:29:29 | |
conversation on air with Naomi Wolf
the feminist author. I was so | 0:29:29 | 0:29:33 | |
excited to be interviewing her and
when I talked about what women need | 0:29:33 | 0:29:37 | |
to do in response in both individual
cases and the wider discussion we | 0:29:37 | 0:29:41 | |
need to have, straightaway she very
anxiously said, you are victim | 0:29:41 | 0:29:46 | |
blaming and this is bothering me so
our conversation went in a different | 0:29:46 | 0:29:50 | |
direction. The conversation I was
aiming to have and really feel | 0:29:50 | 0:29:54 | |
passionate about is, women need as
individuals and as groups and in the | 0:29:54 | 0:29:58 | |
workplace, need to be able to know
what to do, who took all, what to | 0:29:58 | 0:30:02 | |
say, to be safe when | 0:30:02 | 0:30:13 | |
they do so, to have a proper
structure when it happens, but it | 0:30:14 | 0:30:16 | |
has to begin inside them. It really
pains me when I hear women saying I | 0:30:16 | 0:30:19 | |
feel shame when this happened to me.
I have never felt personal shame | 0:30:19 | 0:30:22 | |
when someone has crossed the line
with me. I have made them know they | 0:30:22 | 0:30:26 | |
have done something wrong. That is
not to say aren't I great? That | 0:30:26 | 0:30:30 | |
something I have in my upbringing
and allows me to feel it is | 0:30:30 | 0:30:33 | |
absolutely their shame and they
should be named, I should not be | 0:30:33 | 0:30:38 | |
shamed and its structures around
that confident that has to be built | 0:30:38 | 0:30:41 | |
around I think. Laura, you were
shaking your head a little bit | 0:30:41 | 0:30:45 | |
there. I think we are looking at
this completely the wrong way. It is | 0:30:45 | 0:30:49 | |
not about health under the response
or what to do in response it is | 0:30:49 | 0:30:55 | |
about stopping it happening in the
first place. It has to be both. For | 0:30:55 | 0:31:00 | |
Ayr no, it doesn't. We do not matter
how we will respond in that | 0:31:00 | 0:31:03 | |
situation. They are talking about a
power differential. It might be | 0:31:03 | 0:31:07 | |
somebody at the beginning of their
career. We might think I will do | 0:31:07 | 0:31:10 | |
this or that but then wish at down
in panic. When we talk about this in | 0:31:10 | 0:31:16 | |
a particular way and women do not
feel able to do so, they feel they | 0:31:16 | 0:31:21 | |
do something wrong. I do not mean to
make people feel they have done | 0:31:21 | 0:31:26 | |
something wrong. It pains me that
when I say that if it is interpreted | 0:31:26 | 0:31:31 | |
as me shaming blaming women or
shifting the focus from men, it | 0:31:31 | 0:31:35 | |
isn't. It is about saying if the
culture is going to respond to this, | 0:31:35 | 0:31:39 | |
everyone in that culture has to have
a voice. It seems that the naming of | 0:31:39 | 0:31:44 | |
the perpetrators is stopping them
from doing it. Neil, what do you | 0:31:44 | 0:31:48 | |
think about how we stop this or how
we make it easier to call it out and | 0:31:48 | 0:31:53 | |
catch people who are doing the wrong
thing? It does seem that the | 0:31:53 | 0:31:59 | |
Weinstein scandal and subsequent
revelations tend to reveal a rather | 0:31:59 | 0:32:04 | |
dramatic failure of parenting going
on. I think parents need to tell | 0:32:04 | 0:32:09 | |
their girls, their daughters, like
one of the Weinstein occasions, he | 0:32:09 | 0:32:15 | |
was banging on an actress's door in
the middle of the night, he was | 0:32:15 | 0:32:19 | |
drunk. I think she should know that
you don't let a man in. Siam | 0:32:19 | 0:32:27 | |
no! I don't think you can navigate
life from cradle to grave without | 0:32:32 | 0:32:42 | |
experiencing a road traffic accident
or encountering a serious illness | 0:32:42 | 0:32:46 | |
and you cannot avoid unpleasant
sexual experience. No! It is | 0:32:46 | 0:32:53 | |
absolutely ridiculous that you have
chosen the parenting issue of the | 0:32:53 | 0:32:57 | |
girl inside the room who is
vulnerable. The idea is there is an | 0:32:57 | 0:33:01 | |
abuse of power from a man who has
got to that stage. There is an issue | 0:33:01 | 0:33:04 | |
with men. The reason why this is a
crisis is because the patriarch he | 0:33:04 | 0:33:12 | |
does not allow... Does not the
patriarch Lee. For a man to turn up | 0:33:12 | 0:33:17 | |
at a woman's door... Don't let me
call security. This goes back to the | 0:33:17 | 0:33:26 | |
idea of biology. Just because you
raise your voice does not mean you | 0:33:26 | 0:33:29 | |
are right. Analyser. The point that
you are making is put the | 0:33:29 | 0:33:37 | |
responsibility of the girl to use
her voice, that is what you are | 0:33:37 | 0:33:41 | |
saying, right? What you are asking
for is you negate the structural | 0:33:41 | 0:33:45 | |
reasons why a girl would be
silenced. Even if she wants to, gold | 0:33:45 | 0:33:49 | |
does not want to use her voice and
her own community will silence her. | 0:33:49 | 0:33:57 | |
Don't all speak together. That is
why I said it is not just the | 0:33:57 | 0:34:00 | |
person, it has to be procedural and
structural so there is support when | 0:34:00 | 0:34:05 | |
someone speaks out. It is to protect
us when it happens. And I am | 0:34:05 | 0:34:11 | |
explaining why it comes across
wrong. When you say the individual | 0:34:11 | 0:34:15 | |
is all you hear that responsibility
lies with that one person. The woman | 0:34:15 | 0:34:20 | |
who accused Dominique Strauss Kahn,
where was the community around her? | 0:34:20 | 0:34:23 | |
I want to hear Jordan's view on
this. I think, I cannot stray from | 0:34:23 | 0:34:32 | |
the idea that it is a serious lack
of compassion and personal | 0:34:32 | 0:34:36 | |
understanding, it is mad to me that
we are questioning why someone would | 0:34:36 | 0:34:39 | |
think it was okayed to step into
someone's personal space and that is | 0:34:39 | 0:34:45 | |
something that happens. Does not
okayed. It is not okayed. I have got | 0:34:45 | 0:34:55 | |
to speak about this biology idea, it
is not about biology, it is not | 0:34:55 | 0:34:59 | |
about sex, it is not something that
all men cannot control. How | 0:34:59 | 0:35:03 | |
insulting to the vast majority of
men. This is deliberate, it is often | 0:35:03 | 0:35:08 | |
criminal, it is meant choosing to
assault and harass women. We should | 0:35:08 | 0:35:13 | |
focus on them and not suggest it is
an inherent biological trait. We | 0:35:13 | 0:35:20 | |
will take this back to the audience
now. | 0:35:20 | 0:35:28 | |
Question about calling people out,
it often happens social media. Do | 0:35:28 | 0:35:36 | |
you think it is a force for good or
a force for bad? In my opinion, what | 0:35:36 | 0:35:43 | |
social media does is it is showing
us transparency. It is showing that | 0:35:43 | 0:35:47 | |
this is happening. It is unpleasant
but it is exposing a system which | 0:35:47 | 0:35:51 | |
has always been there. It does mean
we are confronted with more things | 0:35:51 | 0:35:54 | |
that we think, this is messed up, it
is horrible, how did we let this | 0:35:54 | 0:35:59 | |
happen? As I said this previously,
time for a rethink. Not being one to | 0:35:59 | 0:36:05 | |
Bible bash, do unto others as you
would have them do unto you. It is | 0:36:05 | 0:36:12 | |
dangerous with the social media
because as we have seen over recent | 0:36:12 | 0:36:16 | |
years, that has been a number of
innocent men who have gone through | 0:36:16 | 0:36:19 | |
hell because their names have been
released by vindictive females. | 0:36:19 | 0:36:26 | |
How'd you know they are vindictive?
There is one case in particular | 0:36:26 | 0:36:30 | |
which comes to light, one woman in
particular had seven or eight men | 0:36:30 | 0:36:34 | |
sent to prison. She had accused each
one of raping her before she was | 0:36:34 | 0:36:38 | |
found to be a compulsive liar. One
man had done eight years. You are | 0:36:38 | 0:36:44 | |
talking about a very specific case.
Do people feel that social media, | 0:36:44 | 0:36:49 | |
Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp is
acting like a public court? The | 0:36:49 | 0:36:54 | |
problem with social media is you
advocate responsibility. You make a | 0:36:54 | 0:36:57 | |
tweet or write something and that is
done. You can create an anonymous | 0:36:57 | 0:37:02 | |
profile, people follow you. So what
should women do? Women have been | 0:37:02 | 0:37:07 | |
having these grievances, they have
sat on them, then they come out and | 0:37:07 | 0:37:10 | |
write about them on social media or
different sites, what should happen | 0:37:10 | 0:37:14 | |
then? If it is crime which has been
committed, because there are plenty | 0:37:14 | 0:37:20 | |
of legislation in place to protect
women, if some feels that they have | 0:37:20 | 0:37:24 | |
been harassed, they have been
treated inappropriately or attacked | 0:37:24 | 0:37:27 | |
or whatever, there is illegal
because for them to call the police | 0:37:27 | 0:37:31 | |
and get them involved. 30 years ago,
it was custom and practice for a man | 0:37:31 | 0:37:36 | |
to knock his wife about. Domestic
violence was done to the carpet. But | 0:37:36 | 0:37:41 | |
that has not been changed by calling
the police, it has been changed by | 0:37:41 | 0:37:45 | |
public opinion saying it will not be
tolerated. The law changed. I think | 0:37:45 | 0:37:51 | |
one way could be solved is looking
for the nondisclosure argument. If | 0:37:51 | 0:37:58 | |
there is a sexual violence case more
than once, the nondisclosure case | 0:37:58 | 0:38:06 | |
should not be upheld. Let me bring
this back to this evening where we | 0:38:06 | 0:38:10 | |
started the show with the
resignation of one Cabinet minister, | 0:38:10 | 0:38:14 | |
for something, he did not explain
what, but something which happened | 0:38:14 | 0:38:17 | |
in the past. Is it right that men
should now be resigning for actions | 0:38:17 | 0:38:21 | |
which happened in the past, he says
in a different culture? Yes. The | 0:38:21 | 0:38:28 | |
panel all agrees. They should face
the consequences. And if we see a | 0:38:28 | 0:38:34 | |
raft of resignations right across
the board, that is a good thing? | 0:38:34 | 0:38:38 | |
Yes. Women need to take appropriate
action, if they feel they have been | 0:38:38 | 0:38:45 | |
harassed or offended. Why are you
always putting the onus on women? We | 0:38:45 | 0:38:52 | |
should be educating men about what
is acceptable and what is not. I | 0:38:52 | 0:38:55 | |
went to an all boys school. We were
not properly told what we should and | 0:38:55 | 0:39:00 | |
should not be doing. I don't
disagree with you. We as a group of | 0:39:00 | 0:39:06 | |
men are trying to define what women
are feeling. We cannot do that. We | 0:39:06 | 0:39:11 | |
cannot talk for women. It is utterly
impossible. Why are we trying to say | 0:39:11 | 0:39:16 | |
what is harassment? Why are we not
asking victims of rape and | 0:39:16 | 0:39:23 | |
harassment? Have women got to be
more resilient with how they deal | 0:39:23 | 0:39:27 | |
with cases of sexual harassment or
would you say now, it is all to do | 0:39:27 | 0:39:31 | |
with our behaviour as men? You would
say your behaviour. In the majority | 0:39:31 | 0:39:39 | |
of cases where the man is known to
the woman, such as a family member, | 0:39:39 | 0:39:43 | |
friend, work colleague or something,
a simple no is usually enough. | 0:39:43 | 0:39:49 | |
Defending on the offence --
depending on the offence. I do know | 0:39:49 | 0:39:58 | |
what you're saying but I do think
that it absolutely has to begin with | 0:39:58 | 0:40:02 | |
the offending behaviour of the man.
When I talk about empowering a | 0:40:02 | 0:40:06 | |
woman, if you want to call it that,
that is an add-on to this discussion | 0:40:06 | 0:40:10 | |
but it is central to it. You are
right, no man can speak for women | 0:40:10 | 0:40:15 | |
generally but no woman can speak for
women generally. Every person should | 0:40:15 | 0:40:20 | |
be allowed to say what happened to
them and how they stopped and the | 0:40:20 | 0:40:23 | |
thing I am passionate about
achieving is that they have a | 0:40:23 | 0:40:27 | |
structure and support which works
for them. Back to the idea of social | 0:40:27 | 0:40:33 | |
media, there is a great transparency
in the way victims are feeling, we | 0:40:33 | 0:40:36 | |
would not be having this discussion
if it had not been for things which | 0:40:36 | 0:40:42 | |
have come through Twitter. So a last
thought, do you think this is now | 0:40:42 | 0:40:46 | |
something which has changed
irrevocably or will this hit a peak | 0:40:46 | 0:40:51 | |
and quietly fade away? Who think
something has fundamentally changed | 0:40:51 | 0:40:56 | |
in the waters now? I just want to
say from a male perspective, the | 0:40:56 | 0:41:00 | |
male suicide rate is through the
roof and ADHD is more current in | 0:41:00 | 0:41:04 | |
men. We are suppressing our motion,
we are not creating forces in the | 0:41:04 | 0:41:11 | |
male community to be open and honest
and caring and nurturing with each | 0:41:11 | 0:41:15 | |
other, or, because we have a society
which mocks men for being weak and | 0:41:15 | 0:41:19 | |
vulnerable and that needs to change.
Do you know what, we need to leave | 0:41:19 | 0:41:24 | |
it there. We have devoted this one
programme to this topic but I have a | 0:41:24 | 0:41:28 | |
feeling we will do it everyday for
the next of months. There is | 0:41:28 | 0:41:41 | |
agreement between the sexes and
plenty of battles between the sexes | 0:41:41 | 0:41:44 | |
as well. | 0:41:44 | 0:41:52 | |
Thank you to our panel of
commentators. Kirsty will be here | 0:41:52 | 0:41:56 | |
tomorrow. Thank you for watching.
Good night. | 0:41:56 | 0:42:00 | |
Good night. | 0:42:01 | 0:42:01 |