Fitting In Lifebabble

Hey, Lifebabblers.

In this episode, we're going to be talking about the pressure to

fit in at school.

Sometimes it feels like everyone is trying to follow what is "cool",

when, really, it's about being yourself.

So, what do our Lifebabblers think about fitting in?

Being confident in yourself.

Yeah, not being afraid of being you.

It's different for everyone. It's whatever you want it to be.

Whether it's riding a rainbow bicycle to school,

or reading comic books.

Doing what you enjoy, regardless of what anyone else may think of you.

You know what? Being you is pretty cool.

You get to stand out, and not just seem like everybody else.

Cool is unique. Cool is you.

Trying too hard to fit in can be very hard work.

Like, sometimes,

it can make you do things that make you feel uncomfortable.

Apparently, these trainers are in. They look pretty naff to me!

Oh, well, if it makes me cool.

Ouch! Ouch! Ouch!

It can even make us do things that just don't make any sense.

Should I buy the sensible one that I like?

Or the fashionable, and ridiculously expensive, one other people like?

Sensible one?

Or fashionable?

Fashionable!

So just be yourself.

While it's normal to try and fit in, when we start doing things

we don't want to do, it can make us feel pretty mixed up.

And that can bring us down.

There are times when all of us feel isolated or alone.

This IS normal.

When we move into a new school, or a new place,

it's perfectly normal to try and fit in.

It can be tricky and confusing,

and make you feel different form everyone else.

Especially if friendship groups are forming around you.

We all want to be part of a group, to feel like we belong somewhere.

But this can lead us

to voicing opinions that aren't necessarily ours.

So try being yourself, and then you'll attract the friends

who like you for who you are, not for who they expect you to be.

Don't be afraid of staying true to what you believe.

We all want to be liked, and fit in.

But that's not always a good idea.

Do, or wear, whatever you like.

You'll be much happier in the long run,

and people will respect you for it.

Look for friends outside of school.

School isn't the only place in the world to meet people.

You could try joining clubs, or going to events.

The wider your net, the more likely you are to meet someone great.

Being positive will not only make you feel better,

but it can help you make more friends.

You might even find that you have more in common than you

first realised.

PHONE RINGS

I don't see the point of trying to fit in with the crowd at school,

or anywhere else,

by changing the way you are for other people because it's

just not being unique, and who you are.

I think that if people don't accept the way you are, well,

they aren't really worth having as friends.

When it comes to fitting in, I stand out quite a lot.

I mean, I have one hand, but I kind of like it now.

I've decided to own the situation.

You either let it get you down, or you use it to your advantage.

I definitely tried changing my personality once or twice,

just so I could fit in to new crowds,

but I always felt kind of uncomfortable,

because it really wasn't me.

Luckily for me, I grew up in a place where a lot of the people

are different, and everyone kind of accepts each other.

I used to walk around the playground, eating my snack

and singing to myself.

However, this turned out pretty cool, because I joined

the theatre group and I made lots of weird friends just like me.

That's all we have time for today, Lifebabblers.

If you want to find out any more about the issues in Lifebabble,

make sure you check out the CBBC website.

Until next time, keep on babbling.