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Jealousy

The Lifebabble team tackle issues important to young people. The team talk about jealousy - a feeling everyone experiences. They look at why people can feel jealous.


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Hey, lifebabblers, today we're talking about a feeling we all

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experience sometimes, but one which is usually not very nice - jealousy.

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So whether you feel a little pang every now and again

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or it's a big part of your life,

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the Lifebabble team can help you get to grips with jealousy.

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Do I ever get jealous?

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I guess so.

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-Yeah, sometimes.

-Yeah, probably.

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Maybe a bit.

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It's that feeling of wanting something that someone else has.

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And it's not just about things. It's normal to check out other people...

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The way they look, their families, or even their qualities.

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..and wonder what it would be like to have what they have.

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Sometimes curiosity can build into negative feelings.

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And that's when jealousy becomes a problem.

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Just because we feel jealous of someone doesn't mean that

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we don't like them.

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Often it's the people that we're closest to,

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like a best mate or a sibling.

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But if we see the things that they have as a reason to be upset with

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them or feel bad about ourselves, that could be tough for everyone.

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PHONE RINGS

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So, my older brother is very into his music and he'll sometimes

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get, like, decks or new speakers or new headphones and then

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he'll use them in the room next door and I'll...

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I get so jealous hearing him having fun with his new things.

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I have definitely felt jealous growing up, as I'm sure

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a lot of people have.

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When I was growing up, my friend and her family had

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a lot more money than I did and she got so many cool things.

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Things that other people I know have that I don't.

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When my best friend started to hang out with some of her new

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friends, I got a little bit jealous and insecure because I was

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scared that she was going to forget about me.

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When we spent time together,

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I realised that I wasn't losing my best friend, because

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no matter how many other friends she had, she still made time for me.

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It can be really difficult,

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but try not to compare and be grateful for what you have.

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A little bit of jealousy is normal.

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If you feel it, don't beat yourself up about it.

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But when those feelings build up and change the way we treat

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someone for the worse, then it's time to do something about it.

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Instead of focusing your negative feelings on another person,

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turn them into a positive.

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Think about what you have that makes you happy.

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Recognise it, deal with it and move on.

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PHONE RINGS

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Jealousy is a weird feeling and it can make you do strange things,

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like have little fights with people.

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Boys in my year are jealous of each other's game consoles.

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It's good to try and get over it as it can push friendships apart.

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Being on the receiving end of jealousy can really hurt.

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If someone is jealous of you, they might ignore you,

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stop hanging around with you, try and put you down and make you feel

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bad, make fun of your achievements and make them seem stupid.

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If someone is jealous of you and it affects the way that

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they treat you, you don't have to put up with it.

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Talk to someone, tell them how you feel.

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You might be able to work it out, but if not, you should spend

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your time with people who appreciate and respect you for you.

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Sometimes I've used my jealousy to try to improve myself.

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Like, if I'm jealous of my team-mate because he's better at a sport

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than me, I'll use it to push myself harder in practice and make

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myself a better athlete.

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Block out the negativity and try to move ahead.

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I really like to draw, and sometimes when I see other people's drawings

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and they're much better than mine,

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I get a bit jealous of that, their ability,

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and I start questioning my abilities, but then I think,

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"Well, the only way I'm going to get to that level is to try."

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That's all for this Lifebabble.

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To find out more about how negative feelings can affect us

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and what we can do about it, head to the Lifebabble website.

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And, remember, keep babbling! See you next time.

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The Lifebabble team talk about jealousy - a feeling everyone experiences. They look at why people can feel jealous and share their own stories. Dr Aaron provides advice and Parle talks about being on the receiving end of jealousy.