Love & Hate The World According to Kids

When you're young, everything's an adventure.

We're growing, bursting with ideas.

And facing fresh challenges every single day.

Stand back and make sure you're wearing your goggles!

I'm from one of six groups of children, all over the country,

who are filming their lives.

Oliver, are you all right?

From high-rise tower blocks...

Hi. Bye.

My room is so big.

..to our remotest islands.

I love Mull!

Stop it! Stop it!

We were only kissing.

I know, but stop it.

For six months, we've had cameras in our homes, clubs,

we've even filmed ourselves.

To share moments of love...

-Are you all right, darling?

-..loss...

-..and drama...

-I told you, I'm not saying a word.

Through our own eyes.

Giving us a big voice...

Wow!

Let me count! Let me count this!

To tell you what we really think of the world.

Wow, my mum's a tooth fairy - that's shocking.

-This week...

-Oi, you!

..we're going to look at what we love and hate.

That's my super-super-annoying sister,

so I may as well smack her on the bottom.

Friendships are challenged.

-Please?

-No.

-Please?

-No.

-Please?

-No.

-Please?!

-No!

A family is reunited.

Hi, Dad. Part of you is, like, burnt, and when you see him again,

it's like it's healed you.

And wedding bells are ringing.

CHEERING

Love is...

It's hard to explain cos, like, you don't really get it often.

It's when you have a very strong connection to something,

I think you just, you like it, but a little more than like, just like.

I love my pony.

I love my teddies.

I love my bed.

I think love is air and it's all around us, even like this air

could be love.

Then there's the other type of love that everyone should know.

But then, that is... I don't have that at the moment.

What I love - love - is...

..ladybirds.

This is my ladybird drawer.

I have all my toys.

Let's go and have a look.

I like looking for ladybirds...

and I know that ladybirds won't be on a tree

because that's not their habitat.

It's only woodlice that'd be on a tree

and some other bugs, but not ladybirds.

Seven-year-old Abigail lives in Gloucester with her mum and dad.

She's always making us laugh.

She's always bright and cheery.

Is that a snail?

She's the life and soul of the family.

You might see a ladybird,

or these flowers.

After nine years together, her parents have now decided

to get married.

There's going to be a church, my mum's going to be brought

walking down the aisle, and...

..I'm going to be bridesmaid.

It's probably going to be fun

for my mum and dad.

Is it going to be fun for you?

I'm not quite sure because I'm not quite there.

With the wedding set for two months' time,

will Abigail warm to the idea of her parents tying the knot?

For now, her focus is on the Kaleidoscope drama club,

where she goes once a week.

Come on then. Are you getting out?

Or are you going to stay in here all night?

This is the weather report.

It looks like it's going to be snowing...

dogs.

LAUGHTER

Today, they're broadcasting a love commercial to a special someone

in their life.

Hello, everybody.

And today I'll be talking about one person from the Kaleidoscope

drama group, aka, Bella.

She is very kind and funny.

But do remember never to take her beanie - she will go crazy.

Everyone loves her!

Saying they love their friends is one thing,

but are the children willing to sacrifice their own happiness

to prove it?

-Mine.

-No, no, no.

No. No.

Each parent has divulged the food

their child hates more than anything else.

-I hate bacon!

-I hate fish!

So would they be prepared to eat it just once

if it means a friend gets their favourite treat?

Right, let me have Henry and your partner.

Who has to eat their "hate food" is down to chance.

-Is that...?

-What have you got?

I got hate.

So, are you...

..prepared to eat your hate food

in order for Nathan to get the love food?

Gosh, I hate mushrooms so much.

Oh, they just don't feel nice.

They don't feel nice.

Come on.

ALL: Henry! Henry! Henry! Henry!

I'm shaking.

I'm so scared.

You'll cover your fear, Henry.

Three, two...

APPLAUSE

Yes!

Wait a minute, he's got to swallow it.

Yes!

And a strawberry lace for me.

If a friend does something really nice for you, and they don't

really want to, you feel very happy inside.

APPLAUSE

And you're like, "Thank you, thank you," and really emotional.

Right. Abigail and Ian.

-I'll open it.

-Just choose one, please.

-Yes!

-Love.

Ian, what's your hate food?

Mushrooms.

Please, please?!

Guess what, Ian? It will make you big and strong.

-No.

-It will make you big and strong.

-No.

-It will make you big and strong!

No.

-WHISPERS:

-I'm not eating mushrooms.

Please?!

-No!

-Stop attacking him!

-No, no, no, no.

-No mushrooms.

-Yes, yes, yes!

-Do it for me!

-No.

-Do it for me!

Henry did it for him.

No.

I'm not eating mushrooms.

When friends let me down,

it makes me feel sad...

..because your friends...your friends aren't supposed

to make you feel sad.

They're supposed to make you feel happy.

Oh, no.

Abigail's upset and that's really hard, isn't it,

when we don't get what we love?

Ian, go and comfort Abigail.

I'm sorry.

Sometimes your brain says, "Just run away," and then they'll

come after you and try and make you happy again.

I thought you didn't... You were going to just eat it,

-but you weren't.

-I hate mushrooms though.

What about if the mushrooms were made out of chocolate?

The chocolate was the shape of a mushroom?

If it was the shape of a mushroom, I'd eat it.

But if it was made out of mushrooms, I still wouldn't eat it.

What about if the mushrooms were hiding?

Like, pretend I was a mushroom

and I was in this cake.

Would you see me, if I was right at the bottom of the cake?

No, but... Still, I don't like cake.

You don't like cake?!

I like chocolate cake, but...

What about if it was a chocolate cake, but a mushroom just inside?

I'd eat it until I taste something lumpy.

SHE LAUGHS

Come back here.

In inner-city Bradford, a group of nine, ten and 11-year-olds

attending Bowling Park Primary School

choose to give up their lunchtimes for a debating club.

Love is stronger than hate.

I open the floor for discussion.

Love is stronger than hate because, if you were to love someone,

like so strong, you would do anything,

you would fight hate for the love of your life.

Sometimes, you need hate

because the people in the army need hate to kill the people

who are doing the wrong things.

So sometimes hate is important?

Stand back and make sure you're wearing your goggles.

Ten-year-old Daniel dreams of growing up to be a scientist.

Right. 15ml of malt vinegar.

Right.

Bicarbonate of soda.

It's going to erupt.

Oh!

That is a lot of lava.

I can actually remember before I was born,

and that was when I was in my mum's stomach at the time,

and my mum was obviously in hospital,

and the only thing I remember was that moment blacking outside,

being taken out of her stomach.

It were actually quite interesting

how I can remember something that was so long ago,

more than ten years ago,

yet I can't remember something that happened, like, yesterday.

I can make this person disappear.

It's a time machine.

Daniel lives with his mum and younger brother Mark.

He's a lovely little boy.

He's such a thoughtful, sweet person.

It's like, he'll do little things like, if I'm having a bad day,

he leaves me little notes

that say, "You're beautiful, Mummy," and stuff.

It's like, oh, bless you.

My mum and dad split up when my brother Mark was born.

So a few months after he was born, my dad moved out.

He made it to be a corporal in the army

and he had a mission to go somewhere,

so he stopped living with us and then went to live with the army.

Daniel's debating class have all brought in objects they love,

which have special meaning in their lives.

Would anybody like to share, would anybody like to go first?

My object is this medal...

and it means something to me because my dad's in the army,

and they gave medals of bravery...

cos on this medal, at the top, it says "Afghanistan".

They awarded the...

..the adults medals and then they awarded the children medals as well,

and it was a really key moment in my life.

Did you have to be brave as well?

Well, yeah,

in the time my dad took to come home, six months,

so I had to be brave about that.

How did you feel when you were, like, not with your dad?

I felt really sad

because, with him being in a long-distance place,

I just wanted to be with him again.

I only see my dad, like...

..every three to six months...

but it's his work.

He wouldn't quit his job because he gets quite a lot of money from it.

Patrick.

This is my object

and I brought it because...

cos my dad gave it to me when I was five years old,

and he said it's for luck.

This is my favourite memory of who I am because at first,

when I started class, I thought learning was just a word,

nothing more, nothing less,

but when I got this award it showed me what learning meant.

When did you get this award?

I got this in year two, so...

When you were brand-new to English, to school?

Yes, after I was brand-new.

It reminds me from where I started, and what I thought about learning,

and it shows me who I've become.

Yeah, cos you've come such a long way, Balint, haven't you?

You've made so much progress.

Nine-year-old Balint moved from Hungary to the UK

when his mum and dad broke up five years ago.

When I first moved here,

I was really scared

because it was a new language,

I didn't know anything about it.

The time, the place, the people...

even the drinks and food is different.

I'm very proud to be Hungarian.

I'm happy, I'm proud I made it all the way here.

What do those keys represent over here?

It kind of reminds me of it being the key thing in my life.

Oh, like a key thing, like, that's locked inside you, your dad...

Memories of your dad are locked inside you.

-Yeah.

-How long did he come back for?

Er...

He only came back for about four weeks.

And then he left again?

-Yeah.

-That's depressing.

-I don't see him much.

-That is very sad.

-I don't see him much.

-I see mine two weeks every year.

BOTH: Whoa!

That's even less than I see my dad.

So he lives in Hungary?

Yeah, he lives in Hungary cos my mum and dad, they broke up.

To be honest, that was the worst thing that ever happened in my life.

-I've learned something though.

-What?

-No matter what,

dads will always be there for you...

-Yeah.

-..even...

-That is true.

-..even when they're not there, because...

It's not when they need to be there, it's when they're in your heart.

-Yeah.

-Even if they die,

they'll still be there for you.

In your heart, you'll always have the memory.

Dads will always be there.

In Gloucester, Abigail's parents' wedding is just a few weeks away.

-Right.

-What?

-It's quite a long way.

-Her mum is taking her to the dress fitting.

I spy with my little eye something beginning with B.

Something beginning with B?

-Yeah.

-I'm rubbish at this game.

-Just try.

-But despite being included in the wedding plans,

Abigail still isn't feeling the love.

So what do you think's going to happen on Mummy and Daddy's wedding?

I don't know.

-Any ideas at all?

-No.

Abby, that's really not helpful.

OK, you can look now.

Doesn't Mummy look like a princess?

-A white one.

-Yeah.

That was the plan -

-to make her look like a princess, like you.

-Pretty?

-Is it my go?

-Yeah.

You're supposed to say, "Mummy, you look amazing."

Mummy, you look amazing.

And how have you been feeling?

Sad.

Because, like, my mum and dad take more attention about the wedding,

not about me.

So stuff that I might need, they're not spending on me.

They're just spending on the wedding.

She is at that age, it doesn't affect her.

The importance doesn't really register.

Quite a big thing for us, but, for her, it's just like...

Yeah.

We've tried to involve her with getting the favour bags ready,

so she feels part of it.

She's certainly not been excluded.

-No.

-We've tried to involve her in things that she would be able to do,

and do well and feel proud of being part of, so...

-Just want her to be natural, I suppose.

-Yeah.

There's a main bit in the church, which I'm interested in.

If Abby decides she's going to sing and dance on the sidelines,

I'll just let her go.

I hope she doesn't, of course, but there you are.

-Abby will be Abby.

-Yeah.

Use your legs. Use your legs, Edmund.

In the Newbury countryside,

a children's pony practise is in full flow.

Sit up! Sit up! Sit up! Sit up!

Julia, you're not doing this terribly well, are you?

You didn't go in and out.

Established in 1933,

the Old Berkshire Hunt Pony Club meet regularly throughout the year

to work on their riding skills.

Each child owns their own horse

and nurturing a close bond with their animal

is paramount for the kids.

Oliver, you all right?

Good boy, Stan.

Stan, stop it!

Eight-year-old Edmund has recently got back in the saddle

after breaking his arm.

-HE GASPS NERVOUSLY

-Come on, Edmund.

Keep going. Slow.

-Oh!

-Oh, Edmund!

If somebody offered me a million pounds for my pony, I would say no

cos my pony cost more than a million pounds.

One million, 500.

In a break from riding, Edmund's pony club have brought in the things

they love to hate to show their friends.

A cockerel is quite mean.

It goes cock-a-doodle-do, like, at the top of its voice.

LAUGHTER

But just how universal are children's dislikes?

OK, who thinks the cockerel should go into the bin?

-Me!

-Me!

To find out, each one has to convince their clubmates

to forever banish their choice into a bin of hate.

That particular cockerel?

Put it in the bin.

Goodbye, bird.

But some pet hates are a bit more controversial than a noisy bird.

-Who put that picture on the table?

-Me!

-It's not meant to be the puppy.

-This is my little sister

and she's always annoying.

She's super-annoying.

Hi, I'm Edmund, and that's my super-super-annoying sister.

And she's currently being a pain,

so I may as well smack her on the bottom.

Oi!

I'm going to get you on the lips.

Edmund's five-year-old sister Lorna might not be his ideal companion,

but, like many brothers and sisters, they spend most days together.

She even tries to help him out at the stables.

You're not going to scoop...

No, not the scoops!

No, you're not going to scoop Stan.

You see other children playing nicely and my two very,

very rarely play nicely.

Why are you doing the lion there?

Because this is our spot.

Can I fix something?

My little sister's literally just ruined the board.

There is a lot of sibling rivalry,

but, yeah, I think that's normal.

My little sister is always trying to get me into trouble.

He never says please for things back.

Excuse me, I do. What...?

Excuse me, I do.

I want to say something really important about Lorna.

Really important.

She screams like 80% of the time.

Do you hate your little sister?

Yes. If I go downstairs and she's following me, I say,

"Stop following me."

And she keeps on following me. I say it again and she still keeps on following me.

I say it again and she keeps on following me.

If you throw your little sister in the bin,

you're going to miss having someone to play with.

I never play with her.

When you get home, she's going to be gone.

Does anybody else think it's a good idea to put their own sibling

in the bin?

ALL: Yeah.

As much as you hate your siblings, they still keep you company.

And it is, kind of, they keep you doing stuff when you're

fighting with them.

It keeps you busy!

She's stopping me from being busy.

-How?

-If I try and do something, she just annoys me.

If someone just out of the blue said, "Oh, do you

"like your brother?" I'd say, "No, he's really annoying."

Really, if I think like, hard enough, family-wise,

I do actually love him.

That sounds really weird.

You may feel like you hate her, but, really, you actually still love her,

but you don't know.

And although you think you hate her, you don't.

Sometimes I like her.

Sometimes.

But most of the time, she's really annoying and tells lies, and says,

"Oh, that hurts," and my dad believes it

and it's really just fake crying.

Edmund, if you put her in the bin, you won't be able to get her out,

because what if you like her in the future,

but then she's in the bin now?

Let's have a vote.

I'll lose. No, I'll lose.

-Edmund, listen.

-You know it.

Vote now if you'd like to keep Edmund's little sister...

out of the bin.

-Edmund.

-She's been saved.

Your little sister's been saved.

Edmund's having a quiet moment.

He can have a quiet moment.

-Edmund, come on.

-I don't want to.

Yes, you do. Come on.

What did we say about the beginning, on the first day?

Sportsmanship, isn't it?

Whenever I say the word hate, I always wish I had never said it.

Hate's a very strong word, my dad teaches me,

and you never actually hate something cos that's really strong.

You really don't like it, so I don't really have anyone I hate.

You have to have a reason to hate people

that is, like, seriously bad.

Like, in like the Anglo-Saxon times, they, like...

People would have, like... I think it was blood fumes or something,

where someone would kill someone in another person's family,

and then they would kill someone else.

And that was until... Where guilt came in, and it was like...

If that happened, you would kind of have the right to not like someone,

but hate is a very, very strong word.

Do you think I look like my dad,

like, when I was just born?

Yes. The same as your dad, look.

-Yeah.

-The eyebrows, the eyes.

In Bradford, Daniel's visiting his gran.

He's excited about his dad returning home from four months away in Kenya

in just two weeks' time.

-There, he looks like you.

-Yeah.

-Doesn't he?

-Yeah.

Even when he's in Kenya,

you can tell that I'll look exactly like him when I'm older.

Yeah. Look how thick his hair, like yours.

He's got an Afro!

And he's got ginger hair!

Do you think you'll get some treats when he comes home?

He always treats us, so...

-He does, doesn't he?

-Yeah.

Cos he loves us so much.

Of course he does.

He'll be home in two weeks.

Yeah.

Hi, Dad.

What have you been doing today?

I've just been working. I'm looking forward to coming back.

So am I.

I mean, to see you.

Could you maybe teach me how to ride a bike when you get back?

Cos my mum hasn't taught me yet.

I'll teach you when I get back.

When I get the hang of it,

I'll be able to ride my bike around the garden

and try my skills and stuff.

I nearly cried at that message you sent me last night.

But it's true.

What?

It's true.

Right, my tablet's on 4%,

so I'm going to have to go.

-OK, darling.

-Bye.

I'll speak to you tomorrow.

I'll speak to you tomorrow as well.

Bye.

I speak to him every day because...

it just...

It's just I love him so much

and I want to hear from him every single day.

It feels really painful and it feels like something's burnt.

Part of you is, like, burnt. And when you see him again,

it's like it's healed you.

What's in your heart, Abigail?

It's probably ladybirds...

..and sketching.

I've got lots and lots of friends, like, partying in there.

And, I mean, I've got some soft spots for people.

I have my family...

and...

..and meerkats and some of my teddy bears.

Actually, all my teddy bears.

I don't want to upset one of them.

I'm Nathan and this is where I live.

That's my house.

Ten-year-old drama fanatic Nathan lives with his mum,

dad, and older sister.

This is my nan, she passed away,

but it's brilliant to have photos of her around the house,

just to remind us of her. My favourite thing is singing.

# Oo-ooo, oh-oh... #

I do sing quite a lot, and it really

warms me up, and it really makes me feel happy.

# ALL: Up the ladder, down the ladder, one by one.

# Up the ladder, down the ladder, one by one... #

# My name is Louis.

# ALL: Your name is Louis.

# My name is Joe.

# ALL: Your name is Joe.

# My name is Cian.

# ALL: Your name is Cian.

# ALL: Up the ladder, down the ladder, one by one.

# Up the ladder, down the ladder, one by one. #

Good. Oh, that's got me focused, actually.

After a mid-morning song,

Nathan's drama class are considering what's more important -

splashing out on themselves or helping those in need.

If you had £10 to spend, what would you choose and why?

Make-up, what have we got? What else have we got here?

Refugee support.

The children may come up with very different ideas,

but the challenge is whether they can work together

towards a common goal.

Well, we have some £10s.

Real £10s. What we're going to say is...

..you, each group,

is going to be able to give £10 to whatever you think you want

to give the £10 to, but...

only if everybody in your group agrees.

The friends will have to challenge each other's feelings about issues

close to their hearts.

They have ten minutes to make their decision.

What about refugees?

Refugees are people from places like Syria who have no homes

and are trying to get over here.

They are the same as homeless.

-Yeah, but...

-That's really hard.

I chose care for the elderly

because, even though my grandad's gone,

we should still want to care for the elderly cos they can, like,

die really easily.

If you just cared for them even harder, they can really do it.

I think we should do the Save The Meerkats cos I love meerkats,

and if we could just save them they would be protected in the desert

-from snakes.

-Cancer research.

I think that's a really good idea.

-I agree.

-I'm almost crying cos my nan died of cancer,

and this is actually going to happen, so I really want to do it.

My step-grandma died of cancer as well.

Well, Save The Meerkats,

the meerkats will stop the snakes from getting into the deserts

cos meerkats actually kill snakes.

My favourite animal, since I got this teddy, I mean this meerkat,

I've just loved meerkats.

Meerkats, meerkats, meerkats rule!

Basically, he's saying he's more worried about animals

than his family members. That's what he's saying.

I love meerkats.

My nan was kind, caring,

she would do stuff that not many other people would do for us.

She was one of the best people I knew.

Cancer is more bad.

And I loved my nan so much -

this is why I want to do cancer research.

You could die because of cancer.

I think cancer.

But I just love meerkats!

I loved my nan before she...

-Died?

-Yeah.

When my nan died...

it wasn't surprising. I knew what she was going through.

But then someone close to you, like, going, it's quite upsetting.

OK.

You have got 30 seconds to come to your decision, your final decision,

or you will lose your money.

-Go.

-I reckon refugees.

I think refugees.

Are you OK with refugees?

-OK. Got ours.

-We've got ours.

Five, four, three...

-Louis, please.

-I'm not doing cancer.

-..two, one.

-No.

If you have made a decision, hold up your board.

Stand up, spokesperson, please.

We've chosen refugee support

because quite a lot of people are dying

trying to get to this country...

..so we want to help them.

Fantastic. Do all your group agree?

-Yes.

-Hold on to your £10 note.

Right. So let's hear Nathan.

Nathan, stand up for me. Be the spokesperson for your group.

I was hoping for cancer research

because more and more people die of cancer every day,

but then more and more people survive every day as well.

Erm, and my nan also died of cancer, so...

So it obviously does mean an awful lot to you.

Perhaps somebody in your group can comfort you, Nathan.

Why are you upset?

-Just thinking of my nan.

-You're thinking about her.

Come and sit down on your rug. Good boy, it's OK.

Listen, it's really hard and you've done a hard thing.

I'm really...

It's really good that it means so much to you, Nathan.

All right? It's good to have a heart for things

and it's good to fight for things, so well done

and thank you for sharing that.

So, Louis, stand-up.

And what were you wanting to support?

Save The Meerkats.

Right. Talk about that a little bit.

I love meerkats and I just...

They kind of, like, fight for the desert because of snakes and stuff,

cos they can kill snakes quite easily.

But they have to be in a huddle -

that's what you call a large pack of meerkats.

Lots of meerkats do get injured though by fighting the snakes,

and I think if we had Save The Meerkats then we could...

..save more of the meerkats and the deserts could be protected more.

OK, thank you, Louis.

Why couldn't you guys decide?

You had this money, why couldn't you decide?

What was hard?

Everybody loved animals...

..but they all love family members as well.

-Ian.

-We've changed our mind.

We've decided to give it to the cancer charity.

Wow.

-Why is that?

-Cos of Nathan.

Yeah, seeing how upset he is.

Wow.

What in particular? Just because you saw how much it meant to him?

Wonderful.

I just want to say thank you.

Wonderful.

Henry, do you want to go over and sit with Nathan, actually,

because you two are good buddies, aren't you,

and support him a little bit?

Friendship, to me, it's one of the best things in the world

cos it really warms my heart.

I felt really happy when they changed their minds.

You need at least one friend in life

cos, if you don't have any friends in life, you...

You just won't have anyone to help you get through it.

It just feels like...

..you're really safe because...

..I know that my best friends are going to be with me forever.

Everyone's up early in Abigail's house,

as her parents' big day has arrived.

Until now, the wedding hasn't quite captured Abigail's imagination.

How are you feeling?

Excited.

I'm a bit nervous.

-About what?

-About our special day today.

How are you feeling?

-Fine.

-Yeah?

-Yeah.

-Looking forward to putting on your pretty dress?

Um, yes.

What do you think of Mum, Abigail?

You need to get into your dress now, please.

Thank you.

As Mummy and Daddy are going through

a myriad of emotions, she also is.

Can I be in the middle?

No, Abby's going to go on the end.

I'm the VIP today.

Mummy, look, there's the fluffy dice.

Here we go!

Her emotional situation has been sidelined a little bit

because the focus is on me this morning and not her.

You know I love you.

-Ready?

-Yeah.

With the ceremony underway, and her parents side-by-side,

Abigail is starting to see what the big day means.

Love looks like when you're, like, happy for each other,

so when you're, like, happy...

..and then you cheer people on, it's a bit like love.

Will you take Jane here present for your lawful wife?

I will.

To have and to hold from this day forward.

To have and to hold from this day forward.

-Till death do us part.

-Till death do us part.

Congratulations.

Three, two, one.

When you love someone, you feel really happy

cos you're near them, so you feel really happy.

I don't want to get married.

I hate the bit at the end, when you have to kiss.

Yuck!

Wedding day?

I don't even think I'll have an engagement,

not when I have a girlfriend, I wouldn't know.

I know that I'm going to look really pretty.

I'm definitely going to have long hair when I'm older.

Long hair, like my mum.

So where would you go, the future or the past?

I want to go to the future, so I'll find out when I'm dying and how,

and if I live a healthy life or not.

Yeah, but also, you'll know how you die and that's, like, really sad.

In Bradford, Balint is spending the day with his best friend Patrick.

They have been inseparable since Balint showed Patrick around

when he first joined the school.

I want to see what the future's like and that's it.

Try 65.

I met Balint three years ago

and I was kind of shy to speak,

but now I'm...

I'm just happy.

Ever since we first, like, met,

it's like I knew I was going to be friends with him.

I can't believe you're actually running!

I was born in Slovakia

and I came to Bradford for school.

My mum tries to push me to be really good at school,

and then go to uni and get a real good job.

So what do you want to do in the future?

The future? Well, to be honest, I don't know what I want to do

because it's like you're still too young to decide

at the age of nine or ten.

Don't you think?

Well, you could be, like, a footballer

because you're really good at it.

-Me?

-Yeah. You are.

You would make a good one as well, wouldn't you?

No, probably not.

I think you don't need a royal family

because you've already got the Prime Minister,

and I think the Prime Minister does enough.

The Royal family bring us a bit of happiness and excitement.

Right, you've worked super hard so far today.

After exercising their brains,

Balint and his friends now have a more emotive decision to make.

We're going to have a break in a second.

OK?

And we're going to have a snack.

Yes!

Each child must decide whether to keep everything equal

amongst their friends, or to give some kid special treatment.

I have six beautiful cupcakes,

which is something I know you all love.

I also have 12 apples.

Why can't there be 12 cupcakes?

If you decide to go for six cupcakes,

that means six children will have to go without anything.

Or you could go for the apples

and all of you could have an apple.

This is completely your decision.

I just love the taste of cupcakes,

they're just delicious.

Come on, let's just go for cupcakes.

I think she should get an apple, so everybody gets a snack.

Yeah. I think you should get a cupcake

because it's got more energy in it.

McKenzie, what do you think?

I don't have anything to say, I just want a cupcake.

You just want a cupcake.

You don't mind. You just want a cupcake.

Brilliant.

If we choose the apple, will we get the cupcakes later?

No. If you choose the apples, you do not get the cupcakes.

Hands up, then, for cupcakes.

So, one, two, three for cupcakes.

Hands up for apples.

Nine for apples,

three for cupcakes.

Apples it is.

Yay!

Go up and get yourself an apple.

Seriously, that's...

And if you don't want an apple, you don't have to get one.

What was that for?

Apples are rubbish.

If this was my snack time at home, I wouldn't dare eat it.

Then why did you choose it?

Because.

I think we should have chose cupcakes

because they looked so nice.

Oh, my God!

What about if you were one of the six who didn't get a cupcake?

Just tell me that. Tell me, honestly.

I'd be all right.

Miss, Balint's upset.

He said he hated me because I chose for an apple,

and then he just started to cry.

I'm just mad.

-You're just mad?

-Mm-hm.

Come on, sweetheart, you don't need to get upset about this.

I'm going to leave you to talk to him.

Can you see if you can make him feel a little bit happy?

Because he's a little bit sad. Come on then, sweetheart.

Why are you crying?

Is it because of the decision?

Is it?

I told you, I'm not saying a word.

It feels heartbreaking when a friend lets you down because, like,

friends are there to back you up

and they are there to support you if you're alone.

And knowing that the best friend you've ever had

didn't support you is just something that

I would probably regret for my whole life.

You can sit here all day, you're not getting a word out of me.

I wanted to vote for apple because then we could all share it,

and then we could all have it.

Everyone, even you.

Including you, Balint.

Falling out with friends feels upsetting,

but when I fall out with Balint,

it's just, like, we have like another chance to be friends again.

-See the girls, yeah.

-Yeah?

It's like Martina, yeah, she wears two earrings.

And girls wear two earrings, yeah? Yeah, and McKenzie too wore, like,

these two diamonds.

He made a moustache.

Yeah, I forgive him.

He's made it up to me.

And now, to be honest, we've just been best friends since.

My biggest rock and it's really heavy.

It's pulling me down.

Eight-year-old Edmund is at home playing

with one of the loves of his life,

his rock collection.

Some of the rocks are just really smooth and really detailed,

they're just really interesting.

Stop, do not judge.

If you judge, I will destroy you.

There we go. I've got a knot.

Right.

I think this might work.

Oh!

Bad rock! Bad!

Ow!

Ow! Ow!

His sister Lorna is working on a big gesture

to win over her older brother.

I'm drawing a picture for Edmund.

He's sometimes nice.

Once, he let me play with his marble one...

and we played nicely together.

To Edmund, kiss, kiss, kiss.

I love you a lot.

Will we be friends?

It's a picture for you.

Edmund, it says,

"To Edmund, I love you lots."

Give me back my picture.

Give me back my picture!

I bet a cow could draw better than that.

I've got a half of our dad, which Lorna doesn't have.

Lorna's got the other half.

I've got a half of Mummy and Lorna's got the other half of Mummy.

So that makes us the complete opposite.

Edmund, give me it back, please!

Edmund, sit back.

Watch!

With sibling rivalry a daily grind,

Edmund's Mum often plays peacekeeper.

Edmund, Edmund, listen to Mummy.

Edmund, listen to Mummy.

Do you think it's because you've got a sister, not a brother,

-that you fight so much?

-That's one of the reasons, I think.

When I was little, Edmund, I've got three sisters and two brothers,

and we used to fight all the time.

And it's just one of those things.

We used to fight over ponies,

we used to fight over whose turn it was to muck out.

But I don't...

I like having a sister now.

Actually, when I'm an adult, you'll probably come to my birthday party,

-won't you?

-Yeah, I will.

Lorna's my sister, so I...

..love her, but not... There's two different kinds of love, really.

There's love like you love, love.

And there's also love, like, even though you hate her,

you still care about her.

Edmund, when's the next time you could do something together with me?

In 90 years.

It's going to be quite hard for me to put it up someplace high.

I'll do the bottom two.

In Bradford, the big day has arrived for Daniel.

I nearly cried last night.

Why?

Because my dad's coming home,

so we need to keep an eye out.

You can be sat in that chair and, like, stare out as well, like...

And then, if you see his car, you can easily tell me.

My dad's coming home.

He should be, like, on the motorway right now.

Close to Bradford.

I'm feeling really, really happy and excited...

that I get to see my dad again.

I couldn't go to sleep because of it.

It's quite a bubbly moment for me.

-Oh, you all right, darling?

-Yeah.

-How are you doing?

-I missed you so much.

I missed you, too.

Who won the war?

Who won the war? We're not finished yet.

I get to see my dad again.

It's the best moment I've had in my life.

Right.

OK, we're going to start when we get down to this flat bit.

Yeah, because if I start riding,

I could fly down and hit a tree or summat.

Put your right foot over, put it on the pedal.

Yeah. And if you lean forward onto the handlebars.

And then, when you're ready to go, push down with your right foot,

-and pick your left foot up and put it on the pedal.

-OK.

-OK? Off you go.

It's either going to end in happiness and stuff today,

or in terror.

Whoa!

-That's OK.

-I'm trying to balance myself.

That's all right. We can try it again. Look where you're going.

-Oops!

-Oops!

Oh!

I don't know why I keep tilting.

Let's go.

Whoa!!

It's kind of tricky.

Kind of tricky. What's the trickiest part?

Doing the balancing.

But I'm really enjoying this.

-It's just a little time to spend with you.

-I know.

We're going to spend a lot more time together now.

Yeah.

Love just really makes you happy.

And, also, when other people are happy,

it just puts a smile on your face.

And if other people are laughing,

you're laughing for some weird reason and you're just, like,

"I don't know why I'm even laughing!"

That's it. That was all you.

If I could see love,

it would be a massive, soft, cushiony thing.

That you could just lie on, and you could stay there for ever.

If you love somebody, you really, really care for them.

And you could, like, never really do anything bad to them

and you wouldn't ever really let them down, basically.

Love is something that we should all care about.

And if nobody cares about love in the world,

then this world would be a totally different place.

That's it, just keep the balance.

That's you.

That's you. Look, no hands!

There's no evil love, but there's hate.

That's what the evil love is, so they're opposites.

-I'm actually doing it!

-You are.

Hate makes people fight and everything,

but we need the world of love around us

because it leaves us with happiness and joy.

Are you all right?

-Yeah.

-That was wicked.

-Yes.

-I actually did that for about a minute there.

-Are we all done?

-Yeah.

Cool. We can go and get some ice cream.

Yeah!

Next time, how kids see fear and danger.

We're all going to die!

There's growing pains...

There's, like, 11 and 12-year-old kids, who...

They scare me quite a lot.

..a push for independence...

The most important thing about getting older is to try new things.

..and facing their fears of failure.

I'm doing this so I won't fail.