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In Sheffield, 12 families live together. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:04 | |
This is our house! | 0:00:04 | 0:00:06 | |
But these are no ordinary families... | 0:00:06 | 0:00:08 | |
MAN LAUGHS | 0:00:11 | 0:00:12 | |
..and this is no ordinary house. | 0:00:12 | 0:00:14 | |
This is the only family rehab in the UK. | 0:00:16 | 0:00:18 | |
This is about your recovery. | 0:00:20 | 0:00:22 | |
This is about your children. | 0:00:22 | 0:00:24 | |
More children than ever are being taken into care because their parents | 0:00:25 | 0:00:28 | |
are addicted to drugs or alcohol. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:31 | |
This place believes in giving them a second chance. | 0:00:33 | 0:00:36 | |
My mum said before she got into rehab, "Failure is not an option." | 0:00:36 | 0:00:41 | |
Say bye. | 0:00:41 | 0:00:42 | |
Unlike any other rehab, | 0:00:42 | 0:00:44 | |
it helps mums and dads give up their addiction | 0:00:44 | 0:00:47 | |
while they care for their children. | 0:00:47 | 0:00:49 | |
My mum told me she would do whatever she could. | 0:00:49 | 0:00:53 | |
To get you back. | 0:00:53 | 0:00:54 | |
Happy birthday, Mum! | 0:00:54 | 0:00:56 | |
Thank you! | 0:00:56 | 0:00:57 | |
Recovery will be tough. | 0:00:57 | 0:00:59 | |
I'm sorry! | 0:01:00 | 0:01:02 | |
But these parents know if they don't get clean, | 0:01:02 | 0:01:05 | |
they'll lose their children for good. | 0:01:05 | 0:01:08 | |
This is not a bail hostel - you don't choose to stay in bed all day. | 0:01:08 | 0:01:11 | |
Following six months of treatment, | 0:01:11 | 0:01:14 | |
this is the story of one addicted family | 0:01:14 | 0:01:16 | |
facing the hardest challenge of their lives. | 0:01:16 | 0:01:19 | |
Right now, your placement with your son hangs in the balance | 0:01:19 | 0:01:23 | |
over the next seven days. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:24 | |
Try and take my kid, mate - over my dead body. | 0:01:24 | 0:01:27 | |
If somebody wants to play games, | 0:01:28 | 0:01:30 | |
go and play them somewhere else, | 0:01:30 | 0:01:31 | |
because the stakes are too high here. | 0:01:31 | 0:01:33 | |
At Phoenix Futures Family Service, | 0:01:41 | 0:01:44 | |
parents and children stay in a therapeutic community, | 0:01:44 | 0:01:47 | |
confronting addiction together. | 0:01:47 | 0:01:48 | |
The parents are often motivated by the fact | 0:01:50 | 0:01:53 | |
that they're here with the children. | 0:01:53 | 0:01:54 | |
We don't want the children to be in foster care, | 0:01:54 | 0:01:57 | |
we don't want the families to be broken up, | 0:01:57 | 0:01:59 | |
and it's often a reminder that this is the last chance for them. | 0:01:59 | 0:02:03 | |
Oh, look at that big smile this morning. | 0:02:03 | 0:02:05 | |
I know, beautiful smile, he's got, Kyle! | 0:02:05 | 0:02:08 | |
Oh, that's mine! | 0:02:11 | 0:02:14 | |
Says, "I'll have a little look at it, though." | 0:02:14 | 0:02:16 | |
36-year-old Micky is a crack and heroin addict. | 0:02:16 | 0:02:19 | |
He started taking drugs at 13. | 0:02:19 | 0:02:21 | |
He's beginning six months of treatment with his son Kyle. | 0:02:23 | 0:02:26 | |
Feel better than what I did yesterday morning. | 0:02:26 | 0:02:28 | |
The programme has three stages. | 0:02:28 | 0:02:30 | |
The first is to detox. | 0:02:31 | 0:02:33 | |
A daily dose of methadone, a heroin substitute, | 0:02:34 | 0:02:37 | |
should wean Micky off the physical craving. | 0:02:37 | 0:02:40 | |
One, two, three, whee! | 0:02:40 | 0:02:41 | |
KYLE SQUEALS | 0:02:41 | 0:02:43 | |
See you later. | 0:02:43 | 0:02:45 | |
Bye! | 0:02:45 | 0:02:46 | |
Well, me and my partner were going to come in as a family, | 0:02:46 | 0:02:49 | |
me, Kyle and Faye. | 0:02:49 | 0:02:51 | |
But then Faye got sent down, well, | 0:02:51 | 0:02:54 | |
remanded for a short time, which messed it all up. | 0:02:54 | 0:02:58 | |
So, I thought I'd come in and start it off with Kyle. | 0:02:58 | 0:03:02 | |
Social services were on my back a bit. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:04 | |
If I hadn't have come in here, they were going to take us to court, | 0:03:05 | 0:03:09 | |
because we've been doing it for such a long time. | 0:03:09 | 0:03:11 | |
You know, it's just a bad habit, and we just need to kick it out, | 0:03:11 | 0:03:14 | |
and I know people say, you know, you shouldn't do it, | 0:03:14 | 0:03:17 | |
your kids, and that, and we used to be one of the people | 0:03:17 | 0:03:19 | |
that used to say that, but you don't realise how hard it is. | 0:03:19 | 0:03:22 | |
Micky - his preferred method is injecting, | 0:03:23 | 0:03:27 | |
so he's been injecting prior to coming to us. | 0:03:27 | 0:03:29 | |
He started using heroin when he was 18 years of age, | 0:03:29 | 0:03:32 | |
and that has spanned over 17 years, | 0:03:32 | 0:03:35 | |
so he's got quite a lengthy history of heroin addiction. | 0:03:35 | 0:03:39 | |
He is in a relationship with Kyle's mother. | 0:03:39 | 0:03:40 | |
Faye - she's 28 years of age. | 0:03:42 | 0:03:46 | |
Substances of choice are heroin, crack and alcohol. | 0:03:46 | 0:03:49 | |
Faye is also trying to control her addiction, | 0:03:52 | 0:03:55 | |
and to resist the temptation of heroin | 0:03:55 | 0:03:57 | |
with her daily dose of methadone. | 0:03:57 | 0:03:59 | |
But she's doing it on the outside. | 0:04:00 | 0:04:02 | |
Because Micky and Kyle had gone away, obviously, all of a sudden, | 0:04:04 | 0:04:08 | |
I'm on my own, and... | 0:04:08 | 0:04:09 | |
come up here to the chemist, and there's all people | 0:04:09 | 0:04:13 | |
who are on heroin, and they're talking about it and saying, | 0:04:13 | 0:04:16 | |
"Oh, such and such has got some really good gear," | 0:04:16 | 0:04:19 | |
and then you're dead down, and you think one won't hurt, | 0:04:19 | 0:04:22 | |
and then you have it, and then it's another, then it's another, | 0:04:22 | 0:04:25 | |
and then you've got a habit on top of your methadone. | 0:04:25 | 0:04:28 | |
The reason why I went to prison was because I was offending, | 0:04:32 | 0:04:35 | |
I was pinching, to support my drug habit. | 0:04:35 | 0:04:38 | |
The local authority have been involved with Kyle from birth, | 0:04:41 | 0:04:45 | |
and they've had some concerns, obviously, | 0:04:45 | 0:04:47 | |
about Kyle's safety in terms of Mum and Dad's substance misuse, | 0:04:47 | 0:04:52 | |
and there's been some concerns about Kyle's development and any harm that | 0:04:52 | 0:04:56 | |
he may have suffered as a consequence of Mum and Dad's use. | 0:04:56 | 0:05:00 | |
I do love you. | 0:05:00 | 0:05:02 | |
Social services issued an ultimatum - | 0:05:02 | 0:05:05 | |
give up drugs and go to rehab, or lose Kyle. | 0:05:05 | 0:05:09 | |
If I lost him, that would be the end of me - | 0:05:09 | 0:05:11 | |
I'd go completely out of control. | 0:05:11 | 0:05:13 | |
I'd end up in prison, and it'd be a downward spiral, | 0:05:13 | 0:05:18 | |
and I'd go... | 0:05:18 | 0:05:19 | |
And I need to be going with them and changing my life and being a mum, | 0:05:19 | 0:05:25 | |
a mother to my little boy. | 0:05:25 | 0:05:26 | |
KYLE CRIES | 0:05:26 | 0:05:29 | |
It's been strange - it's been all about drugs in the past, | 0:05:29 | 0:05:33 | |
except for now when it's about Kyle. | 0:05:33 | 0:05:35 | |
So she's going to come in here, we're both going to be drug-free... | 0:05:35 | 0:05:38 | |
and build a new life together, | 0:05:38 | 0:05:40 | |
and find out if we're compatible off drugs! | 0:05:40 | 0:05:43 | |
HE CHUCKLES | 0:05:43 | 0:05:44 | |
Which is, like... Which is what we'll all work on in here, isn't it? | 0:05:44 | 0:05:48 | |
The only thing that worries me is, like, if we argue and that, | 0:05:49 | 0:05:54 | |
you know what I mean, and she, or me for that matter, go out and use, | 0:05:54 | 0:05:58 | |
do you know what I mean? | 0:05:58 | 0:05:59 | |
It's always going to be there, isn't it? | 0:05:59 | 0:06:01 | |
Always, forever. | 0:06:01 | 0:06:02 | |
That worries me, but I know for a fact that I won't, because of Kyle. | 0:06:04 | 0:06:10 | |
And I like to think she wouldn't, and all. | 0:06:10 | 0:06:12 | |
Only time will tell. | 0:06:12 | 0:06:13 | |
One, two, three... | 0:06:14 | 0:06:16 | |
Change this bum-bum. | 0:06:16 | 0:06:17 | |
KYLE CHATTERS | 0:06:17 | 0:06:20 | |
Every weekday morning, | 0:06:20 | 0:06:21 | |
the children are looked after at an on-site nursery, | 0:06:21 | 0:06:24 | |
where they're assessed by Jen and the childcare team. | 0:06:24 | 0:06:27 | |
In here, it's very noisy. | 0:06:28 | 0:06:31 | |
Kyle doesn't seem to respond very well to a lot of noise. | 0:06:31 | 0:06:34 | |
Kyle, when he gets frustrated, head-butts the floor. | 0:06:34 | 0:06:36 | |
Not uncommon for kids to do that. | 0:06:36 | 0:06:39 | |
It seems to be a way that they express their frustrations | 0:06:39 | 0:06:41 | |
when they can't verbalise what they're feeling. | 0:06:41 | 0:06:44 | |
However, Kyle does it on such a regular basis that we're concerned, | 0:06:44 | 0:06:49 | |
as a childcare department, | 0:06:49 | 0:06:50 | |
because there's definitely some delay in his learning at the minute. | 0:06:50 | 0:06:54 | |
When Faye and Micky were at home, | 0:06:57 | 0:07:01 | |
apparently, Kyle was placed in a pushchair in front of the telly, | 0:07:01 | 0:07:05 | |
whilst the parents were misusing substances. | 0:07:05 | 0:07:08 | |
It's very difficult at this point to tell if Kyle is delayed | 0:07:09 | 0:07:13 | |
because of the lack of interaction, | 0:07:13 | 0:07:16 | |
or if it's something that will later have a diagnosis, ADHD or autism - | 0:07:16 | 0:07:22 | |
we don't know. | 0:07:22 | 0:07:23 | |
-Got nowhere to go, Micky. -Go in my room, if you want. | 0:07:24 | 0:07:28 | |
Don't be cheeky! | 0:07:28 | 0:07:29 | |
Polly has weekly sessions with Micky. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:31 | |
As his key worker, she keeps social services informed of his progress. | 0:07:33 | 0:07:37 | |
You're a good member of the community, aren't you? | 0:07:38 | 0:07:40 | |
I like to think so, but I can get carried away, | 0:07:40 | 0:07:42 | |
-so I have to engage brain sometimes. -Yeah, all right. | 0:07:42 | 0:07:45 | |
-And I am working on it, I do try. -Yeah. | 0:07:45 | 0:07:47 | |
-What's difficult, then? What are you finding difficult? -It's just... | 0:07:47 | 0:07:51 | |
Erm... My emotions are like a roller-coaster. | 0:07:52 | 0:07:54 | |
One minute, I'm dead happy, then dead sad, and then dead angry. | 0:07:54 | 0:07:57 | |
You know what I mean? | 0:07:57 | 0:07:58 | |
-I'm like, boom, where's that come from? -OK. | 0:07:58 | 0:08:00 | |
-And the slightest little thing will piss me off. -All right. | 0:08:00 | 0:08:03 | |
So you're aware of that, you're reflecting on that. | 0:08:03 | 0:08:05 | |
-Do you know what's causing it? -I know it's the detox causing that, | 0:08:05 | 0:08:08 | |
I know it is. I've not been opiate or drug-free since 18, | 0:08:08 | 0:08:11 | |
since I can remember, you know what I mean? | 0:08:11 | 0:08:13 | |
Drinking methadone this morning, there's only about that much in it, | 0:08:13 | 0:08:17 | |
-it's like, well... -"What am I doing?" -Mmm. | 0:08:17 | 0:08:19 | |
But I know for a fact, Faye, | 0:08:19 | 0:08:20 | |
she won't take it as easy as me, cos she's got bad health, anyway. | 0:08:20 | 0:08:23 | |
OK. | 0:08:23 | 0:08:24 | |
There has been times where she's been that sick, | 0:08:24 | 0:08:26 | |
ambulance has had to come to give her a sickness injection. | 0:08:26 | 0:08:29 | |
-OK. -And if that don't happen, normally, we'd have some gear, | 0:08:29 | 0:08:32 | |
-and that would soothe it down, but we can't do that, can we? -No. | 0:08:32 | 0:08:35 | |
He seems to have a pretty good routine with Kyle. | 0:08:37 | 0:08:40 | |
He's involving himself in groups and the community, | 0:08:40 | 0:08:43 | |
so it's all going in the right direction, I think, for him. | 0:08:43 | 0:08:47 | |
There will probably come at a stage where he digs his heels in, | 0:08:47 | 0:08:50 | |
and doesn't like something about the programme, | 0:08:50 | 0:08:52 | |
and then we can perhaps see more of his real self, | 0:08:52 | 0:08:55 | |
rather than this happy-go-lucky chappie | 0:08:55 | 0:08:58 | |
who's just going to sail through it all. | 0:08:58 | 0:09:00 | |
I'm sure it won't be that easy. | 0:09:00 | 0:09:01 | |
The daily routine is strict. | 0:09:05 | 0:09:08 | |
Parents must share household chores. | 0:09:08 | 0:09:10 | |
I don't want to be cleaning, but it's part of the rota, isn't it? | 0:09:11 | 0:09:14 | |
Supposed to try and take your mind off feeling whatever. | 0:09:14 | 0:09:18 | |
I don't do it at home, Faye does it. | 0:09:19 | 0:09:22 | |
I suppose, after doing all this, | 0:09:27 | 0:09:30 | |
I'll be qualified for a cleaner job, won't I? | 0:09:30 | 0:09:32 | |
I want better than a cleaning job, anyway, | 0:09:34 | 0:09:36 | |
but there's nowt wrong in it. | 0:09:36 | 0:09:38 | |
I want to go back to forklift truck driving. | 0:09:38 | 0:09:41 | |
I enjoyed that. | 0:09:42 | 0:09:44 | |
So what happened to that job? | 0:09:44 | 0:09:47 | |
That were about ten, 11 years ago. | 0:09:47 | 0:09:50 | |
My brother did a five-year stint in jail. | 0:09:50 | 0:09:53 | |
Luke, the one who's dead now, bless him. | 0:09:53 | 0:09:55 | |
And he said, "Micky, can I come and live with you? | 0:09:55 | 0:09:59 | |
"I don't want to go in a hostel, back on drugs, and that." | 0:09:59 | 0:10:02 | |
So I said yeah. | 0:10:02 | 0:10:03 | |
Within a week, him and my missus had started seeing each other. | 0:10:03 | 0:10:07 | |
And that just did it - I didn't go to work. | 0:10:09 | 0:10:10 | |
I just didn't go back, and started back on Class A drugs. | 0:10:10 | 0:10:14 | |
I went on self-destruct. | 0:10:14 | 0:10:15 | |
We didn't talk for a long time. | 0:10:18 | 0:10:19 | |
But then my auntie died, and we went to her funeral, | 0:10:21 | 0:10:25 | |
and me and Luke made up, like, you know what I mean? | 0:10:25 | 0:10:27 | |
And... | 0:10:27 | 0:10:28 | |
And then he died when Kyle were about a week old. | 0:10:28 | 0:10:32 | |
He got a nasty infection through his, erm... | 0:10:33 | 0:10:37 | |
site where he injects. | 0:10:37 | 0:10:38 | |
From catching it to dying only took four days. | 0:10:39 | 0:10:41 | |
So I'm glad I made up with him. | 0:10:43 | 0:10:45 | |
Are you ready? Go upstairs? | 0:10:47 | 0:10:50 | |
Whee! Whoo-whoo-whoo! | 0:10:53 | 0:10:55 | |
Are we going to see Mama and Grandad? | 0:10:55 | 0:10:57 | |
KYLE CHATTERS | 0:10:57 | 0:11:00 | |
Look - Mama and Grandad! | 0:11:00 | 0:11:02 | |
After detoxing, | 0:11:02 | 0:11:04 | |
residents are allowed occasional visits from family members | 0:11:04 | 0:11:07 | |
to help maintain a connection with the outside world. | 0:11:07 | 0:11:11 | |
For Micky's parents, Pete and Carol, | 0:11:11 | 0:11:13 | |
it's the first time in 23 years | 0:11:13 | 0:11:15 | |
they've seen their son clean of drugs. | 0:11:15 | 0:11:17 | |
He had his difficulties as a very small boy, | 0:11:18 | 0:11:22 | |
with a speech impediment, and he only had the infant school - | 0:11:22 | 0:11:27 | |
he didn't have much of his senior school. | 0:11:27 | 0:11:29 | |
He got expelled, which is a shame, | 0:11:29 | 0:11:31 | |
and we were never able to get him into another school. | 0:11:31 | 0:11:34 | |
That's when he was out on the street, from the age of 12. | 0:11:35 | 0:11:37 | |
Him and his younger brother, they were out on the streets - | 0:11:39 | 0:11:41 | |
we could not bring them back into the home. | 0:11:41 | 0:11:44 | |
CAROL SIGHS | 0:11:44 | 0:11:45 | |
They would do things, like, for the older boys, | 0:11:45 | 0:11:49 | |
get through windows, | 0:11:49 | 0:11:51 | |
to actually open the windows for robbery, burglary, | 0:11:51 | 0:11:54 | |
and that's how it all started. | 0:11:54 | 0:11:56 | |
But the thing is, because there was so much lies, | 0:11:57 | 0:12:00 | |
so much deceit, | 0:12:00 | 0:12:02 | |
it's very, very difficult for us now - | 0:12:02 | 0:12:05 | |
it's 36 years - | 0:12:05 | 0:12:07 | |
to actually break down the barriers. | 0:12:07 | 0:12:09 | |
We've got a terminology that the parasites have come in, | 0:12:11 | 0:12:14 | |
cos we know that we're going to be ripped off. | 0:12:14 | 0:12:17 | |
All they want to do is drain you of your blood, your lifeblood. | 0:12:17 | 0:12:20 | |
They're not your children, so you can't think of them | 0:12:21 | 0:12:24 | |
as that little hairy-backed boy that popped out, and... | 0:12:24 | 0:12:29 | |
-HE CHUCKLES -..gave us a smile at such an early age | 0:12:29 | 0:12:32 | |
that, you know, you fell in love with. | 0:12:32 | 0:12:34 | |
So, you've actually... | 0:12:34 | 0:12:37 | |
A parasite has been created out of the husk of your child, | 0:12:37 | 0:12:40 | |
as you might say, just to get that next fix. | 0:12:40 | 0:12:44 | |
You try everything, don't you, everything. | 0:12:44 | 0:12:46 | |
Nothing. | 0:12:46 | 0:12:47 | |
It's too strong a thing to do anything. | 0:12:47 | 0:12:51 | |
With not just having one addict, we've had two addicts. Erm... | 0:12:51 | 0:12:57 | |
If you look on the far wall, | 0:12:58 | 0:13:00 | |
you'll actually see a picture of his brother, Luke. | 0:13:00 | 0:13:03 | |
After a 20-year journey, he didn't have the immunity, | 0:13:03 | 0:13:09 | |
and finally, it killed him. | 0:13:09 | 0:13:10 | |
And that's the only way that I can explain it. | 0:13:12 | 0:13:14 | |
CAROL SOBS | 0:13:16 | 0:13:18 | |
Residents must attend daily group therapy sessions, | 0:13:33 | 0:13:37 | |
which start with everyone sharing their feelings. | 0:13:37 | 0:13:39 | |
-Morning, people! -OTHERS: -Morning. | 0:13:40 | 0:13:42 | |
I feel like crap tonight! | 0:13:42 | 0:13:44 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:13:44 | 0:13:45 | |
You know, my body's aching all over me, and... | 0:13:45 | 0:13:48 | |
You know what I mean, up and down. | 0:13:48 | 0:13:50 | |
But I'm positive. I'm thinking about Faye coming, that's making my year, | 0:13:50 | 0:13:53 | |
-that has. -First day substance-free! -Yeah. | 0:13:53 | 0:13:55 | |
THEY CHEER AND APPLAUD | 0:13:55 | 0:13:57 | |
Oh, Faye! | 0:13:59 | 0:14:00 | |
Seven weeks in for Micky and Kyle, | 0:14:03 | 0:14:05 | |
and Faye is allowed to join her family. | 0:14:05 | 0:14:07 | |
Kyle's here. | 0:14:09 | 0:14:10 | |
Kyle! Oh, my God! | 0:14:12 | 0:14:15 | |
Hiya! | 0:14:15 | 0:14:16 | |
-Hiya! -It's Mummy! | 0:14:17 | 0:14:18 | |
-Mummy! -Mummy! | 0:14:18 | 0:14:20 | |
-Remember Mummy? -There's Mummy! | 0:14:20 | 0:14:22 | |
Look, he's tired. | 0:14:25 | 0:14:27 | |
Glad you got here, | 0:14:27 | 0:14:28 | |
but we do need to breathalyse you and sample you... | 0:14:28 | 0:14:30 | |
-Yeah. -..as soon as possible. -Yes. | 0:14:30 | 0:14:32 | |
As soon as we've done that, | 0:14:32 | 0:14:34 | |
-we'll get all your stuff upstairs, and I'll search it all. -Right, OK. | 0:14:34 | 0:14:38 | |
And then I'll kind of leave you to it, then. | 0:14:38 | 0:14:40 | |
Yeah, so I've been Micky's key worker, | 0:14:40 | 0:14:42 | |
-so I'll be looking after both of you together. -Yeah. | 0:14:42 | 0:14:46 | |
Keep going. Keep you trim! | 0:14:46 | 0:14:48 | |
FAYE LAUGHS | 0:14:48 | 0:14:50 | |
Polly must check Faye's belongings for banned items. | 0:14:51 | 0:14:54 | |
Smuggled drugs and alcohol, mobile phones, | 0:14:55 | 0:14:58 | |
or even addictive energy drinks | 0:14:58 | 0:15:00 | |
can put the recovery of all the housemates at risk. | 0:15:00 | 0:15:03 | |
Faye's come in while I've come off it, methadone, | 0:15:04 | 0:15:07 | |
and I'll be feeling better for when she's feeling worse, | 0:15:07 | 0:15:09 | |
so we'll be able to help each other through it, especially with Kyle. | 0:15:09 | 0:15:13 | |
But Faye - it's going to be a lot harder for Faye, I know it is. | 0:15:13 | 0:15:16 | |
-Right, there you are, missus. -My birthday on Monday. -Ah! | 0:15:16 | 0:15:19 | |
Very good! | 0:15:19 | 0:15:21 | |
As Faye detoxes, her methadone will be gradually reduced. | 0:15:23 | 0:15:27 | |
These bottles are getting very small. | 0:15:27 | 0:15:28 | |
It normally takes a month to complete the detox. | 0:15:30 | 0:15:32 | |
Trying to stop using substances, either heroin or methadone... | 0:15:34 | 0:15:37 | |
..all those emotions that they've suppressed for quite a long time | 0:15:38 | 0:15:42 | |
kind of come to the surface, sometimes through anger. | 0:15:42 | 0:15:45 | |
It is quite a sensitive time, and it can be quite overwhelming. | 0:15:45 | 0:15:49 | |
Am I allowed to go and get my meds before I feed Kyle? | 0:15:50 | 0:15:52 | |
Well, that's your decision, isn't it? Do what you want. | 0:15:53 | 0:15:57 | |
I'll go and get my meds, yeah. | 0:15:57 | 0:15:58 | |
You go and carve the meal up, and I'll get it when I get back, yeah? | 0:15:58 | 0:16:01 | |
So, you mean, me give Kyle his dinner, | 0:16:03 | 0:16:05 | |
cos there's about ten people waiting for meds downstairs. | 0:16:05 | 0:16:08 | |
-Right, well, I'll do it, then. -No, I'll do it. Just go, Faye, just go. | 0:16:08 | 0:16:11 | |
-Just get gone. -I'll do it now, then. -No, I'll do it! | 0:16:11 | 0:16:14 | |
You shouldn't make a job out of it, you should do it easily, | 0:16:14 | 0:16:17 | |
you should WANT to do it. | 0:16:17 | 0:16:19 | |
I am. Micky, I fed him earlier on. | 0:16:19 | 0:16:22 | |
Sweetheart, how do you think I coped for all them seven weeks on my own? | 0:16:22 | 0:16:27 | |
Get on with it - soldier on. | 0:16:27 | 0:16:29 | |
# Oh, baby Kyle... # | 0:16:30 | 0:16:32 | |
Show Daddy that beautiful smile! | 0:16:32 | 0:16:36 | |
Show Daddy that beautiful smile! | 0:16:36 | 0:16:39 | |
Whee! Good boy! | 0:16:41 | 0:16:44 | |
Me and Faye - that's hard work at the minute. | 0:16:44 | 0:16:47 | |
For me, it is, anyway. | 0:16:47 | 0:16:48 | |
We've got to get in a routine, haven't we? | 0:16:50 | 0:16:52 | |
Do you know what I mean? | 0:16:52 | 0:16:53 | |
Me and Kyle were in a good routine, and now it's just gone to pot, | 0:16:53 | 0:16:56 | |
and we need to focus on that. | 0:16:56 | 0:16:58 | |
Don't head-butt the water! | 0:17:01 | 0:17:03 | |
Me and Micky are really stressed out. | 0:17:04 | 0:17:07 | |
You know, cos he's done his detox. | 0:17:07 | 0:17:09 | |
Erm...but sometimes he says I don't do a lot with Kyle, which I do. | 0:17:09 | 0:17:14 | |
Most people see me with Kyle a lot. | 0:17:14 | 0:17:16 | |
But he isn't... You know, he thinks he does everything, so... | 0:17:16 | 0:17:22 | |
But, erm... | 0:17:22 | 0:17:23 | |
I just wish he'd communicate more with me instead of...going off... | 0:17:23 | 0:17:29 | |
If I talk to him, he says I'm moaning. | 0:17:29 | 0:17:31 | |
Me and Faye, we'll soldier on, we'll get through it. | 0:17:32 | 0:17:34 | |
I know I say to her sometimes, "Oh, piss off and leave," | 0:17:34 | 0:17:37 | |
you know what I mean, but she should know I just... | 0:17:37 | 0:17:40 | |
I just say stuff in temper, and I don't mean it. | 0:17:40 | 0:17:43 | |
We've been through a lot, me and Micky. | 0:17:45 | 0:17:47 | |
So I just hope that I get the strength, and... | 0:17:47 | 0:17:51 | |
..that if there is a God above, he doesn't give me | 0:17:52 | 0:17:54 | |
too much of a bad detox, you know, | 0:17:54 | 0:17:57 | |
and he helps me through it, and gives me some strength. | 0:17:57 | 0:17:59 | |
Oh... | 0:17:59 | 0:18:01 | |
Just stay here two minutes. | 0:18:01 | 0:18:03 | |
KYLE CRIES | 0:18:03 | 0:18:06 | |
Until now, Kyle's been happier in the quiet baby room. | 0:18:08 | 0:18:12 | |
But things are changing. | 0:18:12 | 0:18:14 | |
Sarah, I'm wondering if Kyle's asking to go next door. | 0:18:14 | 0:18:20 | |
Yeah? | 0:18:20 | 0:18:21 | |
I think this is what we're getting upset about. | 0:18:21 | 0:18:23 | |
I think he's, like, "Get me out of here"! | 0:18:23 | 0:18:25 | |
Kyle's doing really well. | 0:18:26 | 0:18:28 | |
From being in here and being quite settled in here, | 0:18:28 | 0:18:30 | |
we've noticed that he started to get a little bit fractious. | 0:18:30 | 0:18:33 | |
As soon as we let him into the sleep room, | 0:18:33 | 0:18:36 | |
he went straight over to the door which leads to nursery, | 0:18:36 | 0:18:39 | |
and was really excited and laughing. | 0:18:39 | 0:18:41 | |
And I think Kyle's trying to tell us | 0:18:43 | 0:18:45 | |
that he's ready to explore somewhere else, | 0:18:45 | 0:18:48 | |
and be challenged by more advanced activities, so that's great. | 0:18:48 | 0:18:52 | |
Initially, there didn't seem to be any particular focus. | 0:18:52 | 0:18:56 | |
Now, he's really engaging with IT, toys, | 0:18:56 | 0:18:59 | |
so he's just naturally progressing, | 0:18:59 | 0:19:01 | |
and got to a point where he is actually interested in toys | 0:19:01 | 0:19:04 | |
that are going to be a bit more involving for him. | 0:19:04 | 0:19:07 | |
Six weeks in, and Faye's prayers for an easy detox have gone unanswered. | 0:19:14 | 0:19:18 | |
She's skipping the compulsory group sessions | 0:19:19 | 0:19:22 | |
because of her struggle to come off heroin. | 0:19:22 | 0:19:25 | |
On a methadone reduction, we usually reduce by 5ml every three days. | 0:19:25 | 0:19:29 | |
So, that first day might be a little bit uncomfortable, | 0:19:29 | 0:19:32 | |
the middle day should have levelled out, third day will be fine, | 0:19:32 | 0:19:38 | |
and then you'll reduce again. | 0:19:38 | 0:19:39 | |
It's been worked out as the perfect reduction. | 0:19:39 | 0:19:42 | |
I didn't think they reduced you as quick as they did. | 0:19:43 | 0:19:45 | |
Micky didn't tell me. | 0:19:48 | 0:19:50 | |
I think he did that for a reason. | 0:19:50 | 0:19:52 | |
Cos that would have probably... It might have put me off coming, | 0:19:56 | 0:19:59 | |
that might have. | 0:19:59 | 0:20:00 | |
Or I would have tried to get it changed before I come. | 0:20:00 | 0:20:03 | |
He should have told me, really. | 0:20:05 | 0:20:06 | |
KNOCKING | 0:20:10 | 0:20:11 | |
Come in! | 0:20:11 | 0:20:13 | |
Faye, why are you walking round with your dressing gown on? | 0:20:13 | 0:20:16 | |
I've got my clothes on underneath. | 0:20:16 | 0:20:18 | |
Yes, but still, you can't be walking round with your dressing gown on. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:21 | |
Faye doesn't want her methadone to be reduced so quickly. | 0:20:23 | 0:20:27 | |
What Faye wants to do is start going down by 1ml or 2ml, | 0:20:27 | 0:20:32 | |
and it's just not practical. | 0:20:32 | 0:20:34 | |
It doesn't make sense - it just extends it and extends it. | 0:20:34 | 0:20:38 | |
Erm... | 0:20:38 | 0:20:39 | |
And, you know, by the time they're down to the last 5ml, | 0:20:39 | 0:20:42 | |
you can barely... | 0:20:42 | 0:20:43 | |
you know, you can barely see, it's very little. | 0:20:43 | 0:20:45 | |
So there isn't actually very much methadone still in her system. | 0:20:45 | 0:20:50 | |
KYLE SIGHS | 0:20:53 | 0:20:54 | |
SHE MURMURS | 0:20:55 | 0:20:56 | |
Ohh... | 0:21:01 | 0:21:02 | |
Oh, big boy. | 0:21:04 | 0:21:05 | |
Oh! Careful. | 0:21:05 | 0:21:07 | |
No! Ouchy. | 0:21:10 | 0:21:12 | |
No. | 0:21:15 | 0:21:16 | |
KYLE CHATTERS | 0:21:20 | 0:21:22 | |
You know I'm poorly, don't you? | 0:21:24 | 0:21:26 | |
I've got no energy, I'm aching, I feel sick. | 0:21:27 | 0:21:30 | |
My stomach's killing. | 0:21:30 | 0:21:32 | |
Ohh... It's just like flu, but a million times worse. | 0:21:32 | 0:21:36 | |
And my mental health's not good - I've been crying all morning. | 0:21:38 | 0:21:41 | |
That's how... | 0:21:43 | 0:21:44 | |
That's how my mum went - she went like that, and had a breakdown. | 0:21:44 | 0:21:48 | |
And my mum has got schizophrenia and bipolar, which is hereditary... | 0:21:51 | 0:21:56 | |
..and they won't assess me until I've come off my methadone. | 0:21:57 | 0:22:00 | |
Well, last night, when I was, erm... up and about... | 0:22:00 | 0:22:05 | |
..you know, my head... were thinking all sorts. | 0:22:06 | 0:22:09 | |
KYLE'S TOY PLAYS MUSIC | 0:22:09 | 0:22:11 | |
You know, like me head were talking to me saying, | 0:22:13 | 0:22:16 | |
"Just go, just leave, just go, leave." | 0:22:16 | 0:22:18 | |
She seems to now be hitting this mental block | 0:22:24 | 0:22:26 | |
in terms of convincing herself that the symptoms are potentially worse | 0:22:26 | 0:22:31 | |
than what they are, | 0:22:31 | 0:22:32 | |
convincing herself that she needs to slow it down, | 0:22:32 | 0:22:35 | |
and hanging on to that medication for as long as possible. | 0:22:35 | 0:22:38 | |
You know, I don't doubt that the experience that she's having, | 0:22:38 | 0:22:41 | |
whether that be physical and mental, is very real for her. | 0:22:41 | 0:22:44 | |
However, I've got no doubt in my mind it's a little bit, erm... | 0:22:44 | 0:22:48 | |
fabricated. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:49 | |
-MURMURS: -Kyle, play nicely, please. | 0:22:51 | 0:22:53 | |
While on detox, residents are not allowed out without supervision. | 0:22:53 | 0:22:57 | |
Micky's entered the second stage of treatment - | 0:22:58 | 0:23:01 | |
learning to live without drugs. | 0:23:01 | 0:23:03 | |
He's now trusted to go out alone. | 0:23:03 | 0:23:05 | |
It's nothing like jail, obviously, but... | 0:23:05 | 0:23:08 | |
when I were on staff escort, | 0:23:08 | 0:23:10 | |
it were like having your mum and dad follow you round everywhere. | 0:23:10 | 0:23:13 | |
And because the house is so busy, you know, | 0:23:13 | 0:23:16 | |
they could only take you out for an hour, or sometimes not even that, | 0:23:16 | 0:23:20 | |
and I felt like I was... | 0:23:20 | 0:23:21 | |
you know what I mean, just locked in all the time. | 0:23:21 | 0:23:24 | |
Ladies first. | 0:23:25 | 0:23:26 | |
Freedom brings temptation. | 0:23:27 | 0:23:29 | |
The wanderer returns! | 0:23:31 | 0:23:33 | |
Micky buys forbidden contraband as a gift for Faye. | 0:23:33 | 0:23:37 | |
You know, you didn't even make a very good job | 0:23:37 | 0:23:39 | |
of trying to get it in, did you? | 0:23:39 | 0:23:40 | |
Shoved under your jacket. | 0:23:40 | 0:23:42 | |
That shows how daft I am, innit? | 0:23:42 | 0:23:43 | |
Well, yeah. I mean, how do you see rules? Do you... | 0:23:43 | 0:23:47 | |
The choice were bad what I made, trying to bring Red Bull in, | 0:23:47 | 0:23:49 | |
but it wasn't for my person, you know what I mean? | 0:23:49 | 0:23:52 | |
And Faye didn't know nowt about it - | 0:23:52 | 0:23:53 | |
I brought it in cos she were weak that night, weak the morning before, | 0:23:53 | 0:23:56 | |
-so I thought it'd give her some energy, innit? -But even... | 0:23:56 | 0:23:58 | |
I know it was a stupid choice. | 0:23:58 | 0:24:00 | |
Apart from the stupidity of using energy drinks... | 0:24:00 | 0:24:02 | |
Cos... It was my behaviour - if I'd have got that Red Bull in, | 0:24:04 | 0:24:08 | |
what would she have probably said the day after - | 0:24:08 | 0:24:10 | |
"Will you go and get me some gear?" You know what I mean? | 0:24:10 | 0:24:12 | |
And I've reflected on it after, and I understand, and I know that. | 0:24:12 | 0:24:15 | |
OK. | 0:24:18 | 0:24:19 | |
She's got tummy problems, anyway. | 0:24:38 | 0:24:40 | |
Her tummy's swelled up. | 0:24:40 | 0:24:42 | |
And she is... | 0:24:44 | 0:24:46 | |
being sick constantly on and off, for three days, now. | 0:24:46 | 0:24:49 | |
So she's drinking her methadone, spewing it up, having her diaze, | 0:24:52 | 0:24:55 | |
spewing it up. | 0:24:55 | 0:24:56 | |
It just a vicious circle, isn't it? | 0:24:56 | 0:24:58 | |
-Have you been told to move off the landing? -No. | 0:25:03 | 0:25:06 | |
Not good. | 0:25:08 | 0:25:09 | |
Some toast, yeah? | 0:25:11 | 0:25:12 | |
Just imagine... | 0:25:19 | 0:25:21 | |
..if you was in here on your own, innit? | 0:25:22 | 0:25:25 | |
You wouldn't be able to look after your kid, would you? | 0:25:25 | 0:25:27 | |
And what would happen in that case, innit? | 0:25:27 | 0:25:30 | |
SHE RETCHES | 0:25:30 | 0:25:31 | |
SHE GROANS | 0:25:40 | 0:25:41 | |
SHE SIGHS | 0:25:41 | 0:25:42 | |
KNOCKING | 0:25:46 | 0:25:47 | |
-Hello, Faye? -Yeah. | 0:25:48 | 0:25:50 | |
Micky's asked me to ask you to come down. | 0:25:52 | 0:25:54 | |
Faye's been in treatment for two months. | 0:25:58 | 0:26:01 | |
She should have detoxed a month ago. | 0:26:01 | 0:26:03 | |
But she's not progressing. | 0:26:03 | 0:26:04 | |
Thank you for everybody that was on time, but group starts at eight. | 0:26:08 | 0:26:12 | |
So, if you're not on time, | 0:26:14 | 0:26:15 | |
there will be sanctions, and things like that. | 0:26:15 | 0:26:17 | |
So it's really important that people are down here for eight. | 0:26:17 | 0:26:20 | |
Evening group starts with parents exchanging notes | 0:26:23 | 0:26:25 | |
to comment on each other's behaviour. | 0:26:25 | 0:26:28 | |
Go on, Faye, you go. Go on. | 0:26:28 | 0:26:30 | |
"To Faye, from Micky. | 0:26:30 | 0:26:32 | |
"For your, mine and Kyle's future, you can do it. I have faith in you. | 0:26:32 | 0:26:35 | |
"Just keep thinking of the life we will have | 0:26:35 | 0:26:38 | |
"after this pain you're going through. | 0:26:38 | 0:26:40 | |
"Love, your number one fan, Micky." | 0:26:40 | 0:26:43 | |
All it is is that she's detoxing. | 0:26:43 | 0:26:45 | |
And we can't really have people here that aren't going to get out of bed. | 0:26:45 | 0:26:50 | |
It just doesn't work. | 0:26:50 | 0:26:52 | |
We're not that sort of place. | 0:26:52 | 0:26:54 | |
So, if she needs medical care, then she needs to think about | 0:26:54 | 0:26:58 | |
going to...somewhere that can take care of that. | 0:26:58 | 0:27:02 | |
Being sick. | 0:27:02 | 0:27:03 | |
I'm not making any progress therapeutically with Faye at all. | 0:27:06 | 0:27:11 | |
She's a bit of a drama queen. | 0:27:12 | 0:27:14 | |
Just think of the life we'll have after, yeah? | 0:27:15 | 0:27:19 | |
Micky and Faye are leading increasingly separate lives. | 0:27:26 | 0:27:30 | |
While Faye's bed-bound in the house, | 0:27:30 | 0:27:32 | |
Micky's doing voluntary work with the rest of the community. | 0:27:32 | 0:27:35 | |
Recovery through nature, they call it, isn't it? RTN. | 0:27:37 | 0:27:40 | |
And we're out in the wilderness. | 0:27:40 | 0:27:42 | |
And... | 0:27:42 | 0:27:43 | |
fresh air, good for your skin. | 0:27:43 | 0:27:45 | |
And just crack on with it. | 0:27:46 | 0:27:48 | |
Makes the day go a bit quicker, splits the weeks up, doesn't it? | 0:27:48 | 0:27:51 | |
And...without robbing, and that, you need to work, don't you? | 0:27:53 | 0:27:56 | |
So, that's the way forward for me. | 0:27:58 | 0:28:00 | |
That's the way forward. | 0:28:01 | 0:28:02 | |
Woohoo! Ha-ha-ha! | 0:28:03 | 0:28:04 | |
-Bribing the governor. -Bribery will get you everywhere! | 0:28:15 | 0:28:18 | |
LAUGHTER | 0:28:18 | 0:28:19 | |
Micky is now halfway through the six-month programme. | 0:28:19 | 0:28:23 | |
As one of the senior members of the house, | 0:28:23 | 0:28:25 | |
he's been given extra responsibilities. | 0:28:25 | 0:28:27 | |
Every morning, he must check residents are cleaning properly, | 0:28:30 | 0:28:33 | |
and find out how each person feels, so he can report back to staff. | 0:28:33 | 0:28:37 | |
Faye? | 0:28:38 | 0:28:40 | |
How are you feeling today? | 0:28:40 | 0:28:41 | |
Terrible. Leave me alone. Want to go back to sleep. | 0:28:41 | 0:28:45 | |
-Feeling terrible and want to go back to sleep. -Yeah. | 0:28:45 | 0:28:47 | |
Did you have a bad night? | 0:28:47 | 0:28:49 | |
Yeah. | 0:28:49 | 0:28:50 | |
Right. I'll see you after. | 0:28:52 | 0:28:55 | |
-Good morning. -Morning! | 0:28:58 | 0:29:00 | |
-You're very fresh today. -Thank you very much. | 0:29:00 | 0:29:02 | |
Faye - "Feeling terrible, and want to go back to sleep, | 0:29:04 | 0:29:07 | |
"I had a really bad night." | 0:29:07 | 0:29:08 | |
She's feeling it, man. | 0:29:08 | 0:29:10 | |
-She is. -OK. But she needs to be up, yeah? | 0:29:10 | 0:29:13 | |
I know, I agree, and I've been telling her, "You need to get up." | 0:29:13 | 0:29:15 | |
-It makes it easier. -It does make it easier. It does. | 0:29:15 | 0:29:18 | |
Yeah, so we need to be encouraging her up and down, | 0:29:18 | 0:29:20 | |
because lying in that bed, you know, | 0:29:20 | 0:29:22 | |
detox will be the least of her worries. | 0:29:22 | 0:29:24 | |
The thing she'll have to worry about is blooming bedsores... | 0:29:24 | 0:29:26 | |
-MICKY CHUCKLES -..if you don't get up and get moving! | 0:29:26 | 0:29:28 | |
-And the day will go so much slower for her. -That's right. | 0:29:28 | 0:29:30 | |
And I know, I've stressed this, but you can only say it so many times. | 0:29:30 | 0:29:33 | |
Yeah, so she needs to be up this morning. | 0:29:33 | 0:29:36 | |
-I'll leave that in your capable hands. -Yeah, I don't mind. | 0:29:36 | 0:29:39 | |
KNOCKING | 0:29:42 | 0:29:43 | |
You decent? | 0:29:43 | 0:29:44 | |
Come on! | 0:29:48 | 0:29:49 | |
No. | 0:29:49 | 0:29:50 | |
This stops here. | 0:29:50 | 0:29:53 | |
This is not a bail hostel - you don't choose to stay in bed all day. | 0:29:53 | 0:29:56 | |
You get up, and you come to the groups. | 0:29:56 | 0:29:57 | |
You're in residential rehab, not... | 0:29:57 | 0:30:00 | |
-Yeah, but... -..in a bail hostel where you can lay in bed all day. | 0:30:00 | 0:30:03 | |
I'm know. I'm being sick! I've got gastroenteritis! | 0:30:03 | 0:30:06 | |
She told... They said, "You need to rest, you're detoxing. | 0:30:06 | 0:30:10 | |
"You're not sleeping. It is draining you." | 0:30:10 | 0:30:12 | |
-I'm on dehydration things, and everything. I've not... -That's fine. | 0:30:12 | 0:30:15 | |
-So... -Faye, you have been in this bedroom for over a week. | 0:30:15 | 0:30:20 | |
You're picking and choosing what bits you want to do, | 0:30:20 | 0:30:22 | |
and I appreciate that you feel a little bit run-down | 0:30:22 | 0:30:24 | |
because of detox, but you are not dying, let me reassure you that. | 0:30:24 | 0:30:28 | |
Just detoxing? I can't even walk! | 0:30:28 | 0:30:31 | |
Well, you're quick to get down them stairs when you need a fag! | 0:30:31 | 0:30:34 | |
I don't... People help me up and down the stairs. | 0:30:34 | 0:30:36 | |
Well, I'll help you down now. | 0:30:36 | 0:30:38 | |
-What, you want me to go like this? -Get yourself dressed. | 0:30:38 | 0:30:40 | |
If there is any more of you not coming to groups, | 0:30:40 | 0:30:43 | |
then we will be looking at you going to an alternative placement, Faye. | 0:30:43 | 0:30:48 | |
Get up, get ready. | 0:30:48 | 0:30:49 | |
It's now ten past. | 0:30:49 | 0:30:51 | |
-It will take me longer than that... -Not a chance, Faye! | 0:30:51 | 0:30:54 | |
-Ten minutes. Get ready. -What, I have to get down the stairs as well? | 0:30:54 | 0:30:57 | |
Yeah - I'll be back up. It's ten past. | 0:30:57 | 0:30:59 | |
I'll be back up at 20 past, and I'll help you down the stairs. | 0:30:59 | 0:31:02 | |
They know that they're playing a game - | 0:31:06 | 0:31:07 | |
they know that they're trying to, you know, kind of get allowances | 0:31:07 | 0:31:10 | |
where allowances shouldn't be due. | 0:31:10 | 0:31:12 | |
That's the kind of behaviour that we're dealing with. | 0:31:12 | 0:31:14 | |
You've got to just keep moving, that's what it is. | 0:31:15 | 0:31:18 | |
The minute you stop is the minute you start to feel ropey and rough. | 0:31:18 | 0:31:22 | |
People are, you know, manipulative, they're demanding, they're needy, | 0:31:22 | 0:31:25 | |
they want instant gratification a lot of the time. | 0:31:25 | 0:31:28 | |
And part of them recovering is about learning | 0:31:28 | 0:31:31 | |
that there is prosocial etiquette. | 0:31:31 | 0:31:32 | |
You can't always have what you want all of the time. | 0:31:32 | 0:31:35 | |
You can't just take all of the time. | 0:31:35 | 0:31:37 | |
You should never, in my eyes, | 0:31:38 | 0:31:41 | |
stop yourself from showing different emotions to your children. | 0:31:41 | 0:31:44 | |
-CROSSTALK -Because how will... | 0:31:44 | 0:31:46 | |
-How will they learn? -True. | 0:31:46 | 0:31:47 | |
And it is completely OK to be upset. | 0:31:47 | 0:31:51 | |
And as long as you're explaining it to them... | 0:31:51 | 0:31:54 | |
I think it's healthy to cry, like, | 0:31:54 | 0:31:56 | |
it gets a lot of emotion out, doesn't it? | 0:31:56 | 0:31:59 | |
SHE COUGHS | 0:31:59 | 0:32:00 | |
-You all right, Faye? -No. I'm freezing. | 0:32:00 | 0:32:03 | |
-MICKY: -You're doing really well, babe, you're smashing it. | 0:32:03 | 0:32:06 | |
-I'm dead proud of you. -Proper. | 0:32:06 | 0:32:08 | |
You're on your last stretch, duck, last stretch. | 0:32:08 | 0:32:12 | |
You're giving everybody strength just to see you down here, | 0:32:12 | 0:32:16 | |
and that's for real, that is. | 0:32:16 | 0:32:17 | |
Don't be sick there, duck. | 0:32:17 | 0:32:19 | |
I think... Faye, just leave. | 0:32:19 | 0:32:21 | |
Thank you. | 0:32:21 | 0:32:22 | |
Did I feel any better sat in that room? | 0:32:25 | 0:32:27 | |
Don't shout at me. | 0:32:27 | 0:32:28 | |
No, I didn't. | 0:32:28 | 0:32:29 | |
I'm on your side. | 0:32:30 | 0:32:32 | |
I didn't feel any better at all. | 0:32:32 | 0:32:34 | |
-No... -I just thought, "Ooh, I've got a virus, | 0:32:34 | 0:32:36 | |
"and everyone else is going to get it now." | 0:32:36 | 0:32:38 | |
Poor people, and I'm sat in front of everyone dead ill. | 0:32:38 | 0:32:41 | |
Well, I'm afraid, sweetheart, you're in here to work the programme. | 0:32:41 | 0:32:44 | |
If you don't work the programme... | 0:32:44 | 0:32:45 | |
-She's threatened to kick me out, anyway. -Yeah, exactly. | 0:32:45 | 0:32:48 | |
If you don't do the programme, they will do. | 0:32:48 | 0:32:50 | |
And do you want to lose me and Kyle? No, so get on with it. | 0:32:50 | 0:32:52 | |
-Have you seen Micky or Faye? -Micky's just gone that way, to his bedroom. | 0:32:56 | 0:32:59 | |
If you see him, could you just remind him we've got a key session? | 0:32:59 | 0:33:03 | |
-INTERVIEWER: -So, what got you into the line of work? | 0:33:05 | 0:33:07 | |
Because I didn't know how to do anything else! | 0:33:07 | 0:33:10 | |
Because I was one of those self-obsessed drug addicts, I guess. | 0:33:10 | 0:33:14 | |
So I did rehab, and then thought... | 0:33:14 | 0:33:17 | |
..I don't actually know how to do anything else, | 0:33:17 | 0:33:19 | |
so maybe this is the field for me. | 0:33:19 | 0:33:21 | |
I understand this a bit. | 0:33:21 | 0:33:23 | |
And don't mind telling service users that I used to be a user. | 0:33:23 | 0:33:29 | |
I don't mind at all, and they really like it. | 0:33:29 | 0:33:31 | |
They feel that I understand. | 0:33:31 | 0:33:34 | |
Erm... | 0:33:34 | 0:33:36 | |
And I think sometimes they expect me to be sympathetic when I'm not. | 0:33:36 | 0:33:39 | |
So I'm struggling a bit as to what the answer is, as well. | 0:33:41 | 0:33:44 | |
If your only way out of feeling bad, is opiate-based medication... | 0:33:44 | 0:33:51 | |
How does that pan out for the rest of your life? | 0:33:51 | 0:33:53 | |
Well, my mum was on opiates, you know? | 0:33:55 | 0:33:58 | |
She lives and all, she works. She's... Do you know what I mean? | 0:33:58 | 0:34:01 | |
We could all be using heroin and look after the kids, | 0:34:01 | 0:34:04 | |
and we don't see a problem with that, | 0:34:04 | 0:34:06 | |
-but obviously, there is a problem with it. -Mmm. | 0:34:06 | 0:34:09 | |
Do you know what I mean? It's all right saying loads of people do it, | 0:34:10 | 0:34:13 | |
but they shouldn't be. | 0:34:13 | 0:34:14 | |
Be... You know, their life's shit. | 0:34:16 | 0:34:17 | |
Cos they don't know what's going on. | 0:34:19 | 0:34:20 | |
And they're dead to everything. | 0:34:20 | 0:34:22 | |
That's not really what it's about, is it? | 0:34:22 | 0:34:26 | |
Normally, rheumatoid arthritis, | 0:34:26 | 0:34:28 | |
normally people only get it in their legs or their knees. | 0:34:28 | 0:34:30 | |
It's managed by opiates, and opiates aren't allowed in here. | 0:34:30 | 0:34:34 | |
So are you saying that you'd rather be on an opiate painkiller? | 0:34:35 | 0:34:40 | |
Yeah, for my arthritis, yeah. | 0:34:40 | 0:34:42 | |
OK. | 0:34:42 | 0:34:44 | |
So that's going to throw some problems up, isn't it? | 0:34:44 | 0:34:47 | |
And I suppose it's like, you know, | 0:34:50 | 0:34:51 | |
we need to think about Kyle in this, as well. | 0:34:51 | 0:34:54 | |
You've got a lovely little boy growing up there, | 0:34:54 | 0:34:56 | |
and you're dead from the neck up. | 0:34:56 | 0:34:59 | |
-That's not good. -Well, I'm not... I'm not going to be dead. | 0:34:59 | 0:35:02 | |
And, you know, because Kyle is who he is, | 0:35:02 | 0:35:05 | |
he's going to need a lot of love and attention, | 0:35:05 | 0:35:07 | |
isn't he, through his life? | 0:35:07 | 0:35:09 | |
I give it him. | 0:35:09 | 0:35:10 | |
I don't know, until we speak to the doctor, I don't know, do we? | 0:35:10 | 0:35:13 | |
OK. | 0:35:13 | 0:35:14 | |
I'm thinking more about speaking to your workers tomorrow | 0:35:15 | 0:35:18 | |
to try and get a plan in place, really. | 0:35:18 | 0:35:20 | |
Cos I do feel that they're going to want some answers, really, | 0:35:20 | 0:35:26 | |
or some sort of plan as to what is the best way forward. | 0:35:26 | 0:35:31 | |
And I don't really know what that is. | 0:35:32 | 0:35:34 | |
KNOCKING | 0:35:38 | 0:35:40 | |
-Who is it? -Hello! -Ooh, who's this? | 0:35:41 | 0:35:43 | |
-Hello! -Kyle! | 0:35:43 | 0:35:45 | |
Ten weeks in for Faye, | 0:35:46 | 0:35:48 | |
and Kyle's social worker Steph comes to assess | 0:35:48 | 0:35:51 | |
if funding for her place should continue. | 0:35:51 | 0:35:54 | |
Unless Faye can give up opiates | 0:35:54 | 0:35:55 | |
and start to take part in the therapeutic work, | 0:35:55 | 0:35:58 | |
she may lose her place. | 0:35:58 | 0:36:00 | |
They don't give me any leeway, do they? | 0:36:00 | 0:36:02 | |
I guess it's because you're missing | 0:36:02 | 0:36:04 | |
a big part of what the programme's about, | 0:36:04 | 0:36:07 | |
and they want to make sure... | 0:36:07 | 0:36:09 | |
Well, if I'm being sick, they know that I'm being sick, | 0:36:09 | 0:36:12 | |
and I can't keep nothing down. | 0:36:12 | 0:36:14 | |
-I hate being like this. -I know - I can't imagine you enjoying it. | 0:36:14 | 0:36:17 | |
You look dreadful. And I don't mean that in...! | 0:36:18 | 0:36:20 | |
-I know, I know I do. -You don't look very well. -I know. | 0:36:20 | 0:36:22 | |
Can you have a word with Rhiannon and that, | 0:36:22 | 0:36:25 | |
and say they shouldn't make me go into group like that. | 0:36:25 | 0:36:28 | |
I've not only been detoxing, I've had a sickness bug. | 0:36:28 | 0:36:30 | |
I'm not going to step on anybody's toes, | 0:36:30 | 0:36:32 | |
cos they know what they're doing. | 0:36:32 | 0:36:34 | |
My job is to make sure Kyle's OK, | 0:36:34 | 0:36:37 | |
and it's about the impact you being ill has on him. | 0:36:37 | 0:36:40 | |
You know, that's what... my concern at the minute. | 0:36:40 | 0:36:44 | |
-Right. -OK. -I'll pop downstairs, then, | 0:36:44 | 0:36:46 | |
-have a chat with everyone, and then... -All right, cheers, Steph. | 0:36:46 | 0:36:49 | |
Polly? | 0:36:56 | 0:36:57 | |
She's not really seeing the bigger picture, is she? | 0:36:57 | 0:37:01 | |
It won't be detox that's making her poorly. | 0:37:01 | 0:37:04 | |
If there is an underlying health issue that's not being detected, | 0:37:04 | 0:37:08 | |
which I find quite hard to believe, | 0:37:08 | 0:37:09 | |
considering she's been to hospital two or three times, | 0:37:09 | 0:37:12 | |
she's down at the doctor's pretty much every other day. | 0:37:12 | 0:37:15 | |
Detox will make you feel unwell, a bit of discomfort, | 0:37:15 | 0:37:18 | |
a bit of lack of sleep, | 0:37:18 | 0:37:19 | |
and never does detox make people poorly like this. | 0:37:19 | 0:37:23 | |
-No, I've never seen... -Never. -I've never seen it before. | 0:37:23 | 0:37:26 | |
It doesn't. | 0:37:26 | 0:37:27 | |
Would you worry, if Faye leaves, | 0:37:27 | 0:37:28 | |
do you think Micky's strong enough to stay and commit? | 0:37:28 | 0:37:30 | |
-I think he would stay. -I think he would stay, yeah. | 0:37:30 | 0:37:33 | |
-Yeah, I know. -I think he'd be heartbroken, | 0:37:33 | 0:37:35 | |
but I think he would choose Kyle over Faye, | 0:37:35 | 0:37:37 | |
which is pretty much what he said, isn't it? | 0:37:37 | 0:37:39 | |
Yeah, Oh, God, absolutely. | 0:37:39 | 0:37:40 | |
And you can see him filling up... | 0:37:40 | 0:37:41 | |
-I know. -I had to turn away! | 0:37:41 | 0:37:44 | |
-I know. -So I do think Micky's genuinely... | 0:37:44 | 0:37:46 | |
But there may come a point in the not too distant future | 0:37:46 | 0:37:48 | |
-where he has to make that decision. -I know, yeah. | 0:37:48 | 0:37:51 | |
And it's not just because of the placement here - | 0:37:51 | 0:37:53 | |
let's take that out of it a little bit - | 0:37:53 | 0:37:54 | |
but really about safeguarding himself and Kyle. | 0:37:54 | 0:37:57 | |
Yeah, and the fact that, actually, | 0:37:57 | 0:37:59 | |
the only thing that they've got in common is... | 0:37:59 | 0:38:01 | |
-is using. -Yeah. | 0:38:01 | 0:38:02 | |
SHE SIGHS | 0:38:08 | 0:38:09 | |
She's very vulnerable, so I guess there's the risk | 0:38:11 | 0:38:14 | |
that she would go back to her old life. | 0:38:14 | 0:38:17 | |
Erm... | 0:38:18 | 0:38:20 | |
Which is awful, so sad. | 0:38:20 | 0:38:22 | |
And again, puts tremendous pressure on Micky, | 0:38:23 | 0:38:26 | |
because they've been together for such a long time, | 0:38:26 | 0:38:28 | |
so when he leaves, is he strong enough to... | 0:38:28 | 0:38:31 | |
You know, to cut ties, and... | 0:38:31 | 0:38:33 | |
..for his new life? | 0:38:33 | 0:38:35 | |
Poo-poos! | 0:38:37 | 0:38:38 | |
I think I need to start talking to Micky about the future, | 0:38:38 | 0:38:43 | |
and what happens if...erm... | 0:38:43 | 0:38:46 | |
Faye doesn't make it, or he ends up being not in the family unit | 0:38:46 | 0:38:52 | |
that he really wanted to be in, and how he's going to manage that. | 0:38:52 | 0:38:56 | |
He needs to face up to the fact that that may happen. | 0:38:57 | 0:39:00 | |
Not that it will, but it might do, there's a possibility it might do. | 0:39:00 | 0:39:03 | |
Faye and Micky have been summoned to a meeting with the management. | 0:39:05 | 0:39:09 | |
The anticipation's killing me. | 0:39:09 | 0:39:11 | |
Anticipation! | 0:39:11 | 0:39:13 | |
We're going downstairs. | 0:39:14 | 0:39:16 | |
We've just been in the room. | 0:39:19 | 0:39:21 | |
-I ain't got them. -We're going downstairs to talk about it. | 0:39:21 | 0:39:23 | |
This isn't the appropriate place, in the middle of the foyer. | 0:39:23 | 0:39:26 | |
I've had a conversation, and had word from your funders. | 0:39:30 | 0:39:33 | |
You know that we're in the process of looking at the additional funding | 0:39:33 | 0:39:36 | |
for you to take you up until after Christmas, | 0:39:36 | 0:39:39 | |
which would have been in line with the end of the placement. | 0:39:39 | 0:39:41 | |
-They've not agreed it. -They've not? | 0:39:41 | 0:39:44 | |
They've not agreed it. So, what that kind of means for you... | 0:39:44 | 0:39:47 | |
-What, for Faye? -For Faye. | 0:39:47 | 0:39:48 | |
And what that means for you, Faye, is, erm... | 0:39:49 | 0:39:53 | |
..you'll no longer be staying with us at this project. | 0:39:54 | 0:39:57 | |
But the offer on the table for you, and for you to seriously consider, | 0:39:57 | 0:40:01 | |
is for you to move to our adult service. | 0:40:01 | 0:40:03 | |
You're going to take me away from Micky and Kyle? | 0:40:03 | 0:40:05 | |
I'm going home. I'm not going to the adult service. | 0:40:05 | 0:40:08 | |
-I'm going home. -Why? | 0:40:08 | 0:40:09 | |
-Go up to adult service, do the rest of your programmes, change... -No! | 0:40:09 | 0:40:14 | |
-You know what I mean? -No! | 0:40:14 | 0:40:15 | |
Do what they've got to offer, and we can be a family, innit? | 0:40:15 | 0:40:17 | |
If you go back home, Faye, you could score across the road. | 0:40:17 | 0:40:19 | |
-That'll be it. -I'm going home. | 0:40:19 | 0:40:21 | |
Just repeat back to me what your understanding is | 0:40:21 | 0:40:23 | |
-of the conversation so far. -That you're kicking me out. | 0:40:23 | 0:40:25 | |
Right, OK. | 0:40:25 | 0:40:26 | |
They're not kicking you out - the... The fund... | 0:40:26 | 0:40:29 | |
The... | 0:40:30 | 0:40:31 | |
-They're not kicking you... -I'm not going up to the adult service. | 0:40:32 | 0:40:35 | |
No chance. | 0:40:35 | 0:40:37 | |
I hear how difficult this is for you to hear | 0:40:37 | 0:40:39 | |
right at this minute in time, and I appreciate that. | 0:40:39 | 0:40:42 | |
However, nobody is kicking you out, | 0:40:42 | 0:40:44 | |
so let me make that very, very clear to you. | 0:40:44 | 0:40:47 | |
What this is, is about what is going to be best for you, Faye. | 0:40:47 | 0:40:50 | |
-And this is... -So how long have I got to get my stuff out? | 0:40:50 | 0:40:53 | |
So, we're going to be talking about a week's time. | 0:40:53 | 0:40:55 | |
So, this isn't something that's going to happen immediately, | 0:40:55 | 0:40:58 | |
and the reason for that is the very fact for you to get your head around | 0:40:58 | 0:41:01 | |
things, and for us to start putting an appropriate plan in place | 0:41:01 | 0:41:04 | |
for the transition. | 0:41:04 | 0:41:06 | |
What's the point? There's no point, is there? | 0:41:06 | 0:41:09 | |
-There's no point! -You're still here. -No, but I'm not here, though, am I? | 0:41:11 | 0:41:14 | |
Cos I'm not with you and Kyle, so I may as well go home. | 0:41:14 | 0:41:17 | |
I only come in here because you and Kyle was in here. | 0:41:17 | 0:41:20 | |
Yeah, but you... That's it. | 0:41:21 | 0:41:23 | |
Hit the nail on the head, hasn't it? | 0:41:23 | 0:41:24 | |
Faye, you get yourself out for a fag - | 0:41:26 | 0:41:27 | |
I just want to talk to Micky for a second. | 0:41:27 | 0:41:29 | |
Right, I'm going to be honest with you. | 0:41:31 | 0:41:33 | |
You look like you've used, to me. | 0:41:33 | 0:41:35 | |
-Test me, then. -I am going to, yeah. | 0:41:35 | 0:41:37 | |
You look... Your eyes look slightly pinned. | 0:41:37 | 0:41:40 | |
You look like you've been rubbing your nose and rubbing your face. | 0:41:40 | 0:41:43 | |
You don't look right to me, Micky. | 0:41:43 | 0:41:45 | |
So, this is your opportunity to be honest with us, | 0:41:49 | 0:41:51 | |
because whether we capture you now on some kind of opiate-based test, | 0:41:51 | 0:41:54 | |
or you're evading our test because it isn't an opiate-based, | 0:41:54 | 0:41:57 | |
and it's something like pregab or gabapentin, I'll catch you out. | 0:41:57 | 0:42:00 | |
You mark my words, but I'm telling you now, | 0:42:00 | 0:42:02 | |
you're not right, and you've used something. | 0:42:02 | 0:42:04 | |
So, you either tell me now, or we do it on a long, drawn-out test, | 0:42:05 | 0:42:10 | |
where I go and request a hair strand test. | 0:42:10 | 0:42:13 | |
Ain't got enough hair to do that. Do one if you want one. | 0:42:14 | 0:42:17 | |
Just be honest with us, Micky, so we can help you through this. | 0:42:17 | 0:42:20 | |
Because if you're not, the consequences for this | 0:42:20 | 0:42:22 | |
is massive for you. | 0:42:22 | 0:42:24 | |
It's only going to get worse if you don't, | 0:42:24 | 0:42:26 | |
and I don't mean that in a way of getting worse | 0:42:26 | 0:42:28 | |
because we'll take some action - what I mean is, | 0:42:28 | 0:42:30 | |
it will get worse for you, because you're not talking to us about it. | 0:42:30 | 0:42:33 | |
Because something's happening for you | 0:42:33 | 0:42:35 | |
that you're not talking to us about, | 0:42:35 | 0:42:36 | |
and we can't help you if you don't talk to us, can we? | 0:42:36 | 0:42:39 | |
Talk to us. | 0:42:49 | 0:42:51 | |
It wouldn't have to be today, and all. Yesterday, innit? | 0:42:53 | 0:42:57 | |
Well, yesterday, when I went out, I walked on...do you know Spiderweb? | 0:42:58 | 0:43:02 | |
-In town? -That homeless bloke in there, isn't he? He was... | 0:43:03 | 0:43:06 | |
-And he had some gear, so I had some wi' him. -OK. | 0:43:06 | 0:43:09 | |
-Is it gear you've used? -Mmm. | 0:43:09 | 0:43:12 | |
-That yesterday? -Yeah. | 0:43:12 | 0:43:14 | |
-Have you had some this morning? -No. | 0:43:14 | 0:43:15 | |
No? | 0:43:15 | 0:43:17 | |
And how much have you used? | 0:43:17 | 0:43:18 | |
A tenner's worth. | 0:43:20 | 0:43:22 | |
And pin. | 0:43:22 | 0:43:24 | |
-You injected? -Yeah. | 0:43:24 | 0:43:26 | |
Micky... | 0:43:26 | 0:43:29 | |
-Eh? -Risks with that is massive. | 0:43:29 | 0:43:31 | |
-Anybody else know? -No. | 0:43:32 | 0:43:35 | |
Not even Faye. | 0:43:35 | 0:43:36 | |
What I'm going to have to do is test you. | 0:43:38 | 0:43:40 | |
Mm-hm. | 0:43:40 | 0:43:41 | |
Come on, let's... | 0:43:45 | 0:43:46 | |
I think that... | 0:43:53 | 0:43:55 | |
if he has scored, I think he's fetched it | 0:43:55 | 0:43:57 | |
and used it later on last night, or he's done it today. | 0:43:57 | 0:44:00 | |
So, I don't buy his story that he's gone and used, | 0:44:00 | 0:44:04 | |
then this chap just happened to have all the equipment on him. | 0:44:04 | 0:44:06 | |
What, clean pins and a clean spoon? | 0:44:06 | 0:44:08 | |
But we need to break the news to Faye, really. | 0:44:09 | 0:44:11 | |
It might be worth bringing Faye across. | 0:44:11 | 0:44:13 | |
We've had two members of staff in Faye's presence | 0:44:15 | 0:44:18 | |
to go and facilitate the search of the bedroom, | 0:44:18 | 0:44:21 | |
and already we've uncovered a needle, spoon, | 0:44:21 | 0:44:25 | |
and what looks like some kind of paraphernalia | 0:44:25 | 0:44:28 | |
that's, erm... associated with a crack pipe. | 0:44:28 | 0:44:30 | |
-BANGS ON WINDOW -What the fuck? | 0:44:30 | 0:44:32 | |
Faye, I didn't have it on site. Doesn't matter. | 0:44:32 | 0:44:35 | |
You idiot! | 0:44:35 | 0:44:36 | |
BANGS ON WINDOW | 0:44:36 | 0:44:37 | |
-Doesn't matter. -Yeah, it does matter! | 0:44:39 | 0:44:41 | |
-Yeah, I didn't have it on site. -Micky, they found the fucking pin. | 0:44:41 | 0:44:46 | |
You're a lying bastard. You're a lying bastard! | 0:44:46 | 0:44:50 | |
Kyle was in that bedroom! | 0:44:50 | 0:44:53 | |
No! | 0:44:53 | 0:44:54 | |
Come on. Faye. | 0:44:54 | 0:44:55 | |
FAYE SHOUTS INDISTINCTLY | 0:44:57 | 0:45:00 | |
Where's Kyle? No, I'm not. | 0:45:01 | 0:45:03 | |
Come here. Don't. | 0:45:03 | 0:45:05 | |
FAYE SHOUTS INDISTINCTLY | 0:45:05 | 0:45:08 | |
What's going to happen to Kyle? | 0:45:08 | 0:45:10 | |
After such a serious breach of the rules, | 0:45:16 | 0:45:19 | |
Micky is given a week's notice to leave. | 0:45:19 | 0:45:22 | |
He will only be allowed to stay, and to keep Kyle, | 0:45:22 | 0:45:25 | |
if he can demonstrate he can be trusted to have a second chance. | 0:45:25 | 0:45:30 | |
KYLE CRIES | 0:45:30 | 0:45:31 | |
I'm sorry. | 0:45:31 | 0:45:33 | |
Cos I've not seen you all day, and I've missed you. | 0:45:33 | 0:45:38 | |
Have you missed me? | 0:45:38 | 0:45:40 | |
KYLE SCREAMS AND CRIES | 0:45:42 | 0:45:45 | |
I'm sorry. | 0:45:45 | 0:45:46 | |
One more time. | 0:45:46 | 0:45:49 | |
There was something upsetting Kyle that we couldn't figure out. | 0:45:49 | 0:45:53 | |
As it turns out, this happens to be coinciding with Micky's use. | 0:45:53 | 0:45:58 | |
You're pooping, aren't you? | 0:45:58 | 0:46:00 | |
KYLE CHATTERS | 0:46:00 | 0:46:02 | |
You don't know what he's seen and what he hasn't seen, | 0:46:02 | 0:46:04 | |
what he understands, what he doesn't understand, | 0:46:04 | 0:46:07 | |
but a child will be able to read their parent | 0:46:07 | 0:46:10 | |
better than anybody else. | 0:46:10 | 0:46:12 | |
Like, with the simple raise of an eyebrow, or... | 0:46:12 | 0:46:15 | |
you know, the twitch of a smile on someone's face. | 0:46:15 | 0:46:18 | |
You can communicate with a child without needing words. | 0:46:18 | 0:46:22 | |
The behaviour of his dad will have changed significantly, | 0:46:24 | 0:46:28 | |
and if he's experienced that quite a lot in the past, | 0:46:28 | 0:46:31 | |
it wouldn't take Kyle very long to put two and two together, | 0:46:31 | 0:46:34 | |
and perhaps feel a little bit insecure | 0:46:34 | 0:46:37 | |
about what was happening in his environment. | 0:46:37 | 0:46:40 | |
Come on. | 0:46:40 | 0:46:42 | |
-KYLE: -Quack, quack! | 0:46:43 | 0:46:45 | |
Quack, quack, quack! | 0:46:45 | 0:46:47 | |
I'm really mad. | 0:46:53 | 0:46:55 | |
I'm really mad at you. | 0:46:55 | 0:46:56 | |
I'm mad at myself. | 0:46:56 | 0:46:57 | |
I really am disappointed in myself. | 0:46:57 | 0:46:59 | |
No-one can look after Kyle like I can. | 0:46:59 | 0:47:01 | |
Why on earth didn't you consider that when you were out to use, | 0:47:02 | 0:47:05 | |
-that's what I can't get my head round. -Cos it's a drug. | 0:47:05 | 0:47:07 | |
-It's powerful. -It is, Micky, and I know that - I've been there. | 0:47:07 | 0:47:10 | |
-It's just the way it is, isn't it? -But you've come far enough now... | 0:47:10 | 0:47:13 | |
You should have come far enough now to be able to control those feelings | 0:47:13 | 0:47:17 | |
and those cravings, and know damn well what the consequences are. | 0:47:17 | 0:47:21 | |
I know. | 0:47:21 | 0:47:22 | |
So, where do we go from here, then? | 0:47:24 | 0:47:26 | |
Where do you see yourself going now? | 0:47:26 | 0:47:28 | |
What's the future? | 0:47:28 | 0:47:29 | |
I want to stay here, and... | 0:47:29 | 0:47:31 | |
..just carry on with the programme, open up more, | 0:47:32 | 0:47:36 | |
talk about what's getting at me... | 0:47:36 | 0:47:39 | |
and start again. | 0:47:39 | 0:47:41 | |
That's what I want to do. | 0:47:41 | 0:47:43 | |
So why should your funders continue to invest money in you? | 0:47:43 | 0:47:45 | |
They can or they can't, I'm not bothered. They do what they want. | 0:47:45 | 0:47:48 | |
I've done what I've done, they make their own... | 0:47:48 | 0:47:50 | |
-If they pull your funding, you'll lose Kyle. -No, I won't. -You will. | 0:47:50 | 0:47:53 | |
No, I won't - I've been told I won't. | 0:47:53 | 0:47:54 | |
Well, somebody's telling you wrong. | 0:47:54 | 0:47:56 | |
I let them try to see I'm standing with a knife and stabbing me. | 0:47:56 | 0:47:58 | |
Well, that'll help. | 0:47:58 | 0:47:59 | |
I'm not using... Part of addiction, getting better, are relapses. | 0:47:59 | 0:48:04 | |
It isn't, especially in the position you're in. | 0:48:04 | 0:48:06 | |
If you're a single adult, fine, get on with it, nobody's bothered. | 0:48:06 | 0:48:11 | |
But you're not. | 0:48:11 | 0:48:12 | |
-I know. -And that's the... absolute crucial point. | 0:48:12 | 0:48:17 | |
You're NOT a single adult. | 0:48:17 | 0:48:19 | |
-You've got responsibilities. -I know. | 0:48:19 | 0:48:22 | |
And you're a grown-up father of a child | 0:48:22 | 0:48:26 | |
that needs even more input than most children. | 0:48:26 | 0:48:30 | |
And you wander off and use? | 0:48:30 | 0:48:32 | |
What if you'd have died in that underpass? | 0:48:35 | 0:48:37 | |
You don't think that's a possibility? | 0:48:40 | 0:48:42 | |
You don't know what the gear's like round here. | 0:48:42 | 0:48:44 | |
You might have got a right... Really good, strong batch. | 0:48:46 | 0:48:49 | |
You've not used for months. | 0:48:50 | 0:48:53 | |
"So, Kyle, what happened to your dad?" | 0:48:53 | 0:48:55 | |
I'm sorry. | 0:48:59 | 0:49:00 | |
Thank you. | 0:49:01 | 0:49:02 | |
I was quite upset. | 0:49:02 | 0:49:04 | |
-We'll leave it there. No doubt we'll pick it up again. -Mmm. | 0:49:06 | 0:49:09 | |
It gets on my nerves when people think, "Oh, it just happened to me." | 0:49:14 | 0:49:18 | |
It doesn't just happen - you have to put yourself there for it to happen. | 0:49:18 | 0:49:23 | |
You don't trip up and accidentally inject yourself in the groin. | 0:49:23 | 0:49:28 | |
You know, he's made that decision to do that. | 0:49:29 | 0:49:31 | |
A really dangerous decision. | 0:49:31 | 0:49:32 | |
He didn't even have the brains to just smoke it. | 0:49:32 | 0:49:35 | |
He's gone straight back to how he used to use before. | 0:49:35 | 0:49:38 | |
It does make... It makes me really... Really quite angry. | 0:49:39 | 0:49:43 | |
Leave me alone! I've got too many on me head! | 0:49:46 | 0:49:50 | |
Faye is still refusing the offer of a place | 0:49:50 | 0:49:52 | |
at Phoenix's nearby adult-only rehab. | 0:49:52 | 0:49:56 | |
I'm not going up there to people who I used to use with | 0:49:56 | 0:49:59 | |
and I used to deal to. | 0:49:59 | 0:50:01 | |
I may as well go home. | 0:50:01 | 0:50:02 | |
There's people there from my town who I used to use with. | 0:50:02 | 0:50:06 | |
There's somebody up there who I used to be with. | 0:50:06 | 0:50:08 | |
No! | 0:50:08 | 0:50:10 | |
For God's sake, you want me to get rid of people from my past, | 0:50:10 | 0:50:13 | |
but you want me to live with them. | 0:50:13 | 0:50:15 | |
No, what happening is another option is being given to you, | 0:50:15 | 0:50:18 | |
and it's the difference between embracing that, or going home, | 0:50:18 | 0:50:22 | |
and putting yourself in a really vulnerable position. | 0:50:22 | 0:50:25 | |
If I use, I lose Micky and Kyle! | 0:50:25 | 0:50:27 | |
I've got something to fight for. | 0:50:27 | 0:50:29 | |
I'd rather fight for it outside, and get my health problems looked at, | 0:50:29 | 0:50:32 | |
and get medically looked at, and get treated for my pain, | 0:50:32 | 0:50:36 | |
than... than stay in here, and be in pain all the time. | 0:50:36 | 0:50:40 | |
If Faye leaves, | 0:50:45 | 0:50:47 | |
the concern is that she could easily resort to using heroin. | 0:50:47 | 0:50:50 | |
We need to really think about harm reduction. | 0:50:50 | 0:50:53 | |
So, you know what the dangers are, aren't you, around drugs? | 0:50:54 | 0:50:56 | |
Oh, yeah, I'm not stupid. | 0:50:56 | 0:50:58 | |
OK, so how are you going to implement those risks? | 0:50:58 | 0:51:01 | |
Not use. | 0:51:01 | 0:51:02 | |
But what if you DO use? | 0:51:02 | 0:51:04 | |
-What will you do? -I'll use with somebody else. | 0:51:04 | 0:51:06 | |
And how will you use? | 0:51:06 | 0:51:08 | |
Smoke it. | 0:51:08 | 0:51:09 | |
Will you do that? | 0:51:09 | 0:51:10 | |
-Yeah. -Promise me. -I will. | 0:51:10 | 0:51:12 | |
Cos you know you're really susceptible at the moment | 0:51:12 | 0:51:14 | |
to overdose, aren't you? | 0:51:14 | 0:51:16 | |
Yeah, I know. | 0:51:16 | 0:51:17 | |
Seriously, Faye, don't just nod your head at me - | 0:51:17 | 0:51:19 | |
it's really serious. | 0:51:19 | 0:51:20 | |
-Yeah, I know. -OK. So watch what you're doing. | 0:51:20 | 0:51:23 | |
-If you do decide to use... -Yeah. -..that's your prerogative, but... | 0:51:23 | 0:51:28 | |
just make sure you use safely. | 0:51:28 | 0:51:29 | |
-Yeah. -All right. -OK. | 0:51:29 | 0:51:31 | |
With her mind made up, Faye has to say goodbye to Kyle. | 0:51:33 | 0:51:36 | |
She's going back home, and will stay with old friends. | 0:51:41 | 0:51:44 | |
-TEARFULLY: -I were crying when I went. | 0:51:49 | 0:51:51 | |
SHE SOBS | 0:51:53 | 0:51:55 | |
I'm sorry. | 0:51:55 | 0:51:57 | |
You're not going to leave me, are you? | 0:51:58 | 0:52:01 | |
-Eh? -No. | 0:52:01 | 0:52:03 | |
-I love you. -I love you, too. | 0:52:04 | 0:52:07 | |
SHE SOBS | 0:52:07 | 0:52:08 | |
-Take care of yourself. -All right. | 0:52:12 | 0:52:14 | |
I hope she don't use. | 0:52:24 | 0:52:25 | |
-Only time will tell. -Yeah. | 0:52:27 | 0:52:29 | |
She's going back to that house, dealer's across the road. | 0:52:30 | 0:52:33 | |
Dealer's across the road from our house, well, down the road. | 0:52:33 | 0:52:36 | |
Up the road, sorry. | 0:52:36 | 0:52:37 | |
Dealer's in my house, I want to go home! | 0:52:37 | 0:52:39 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:52:39 | 0:52:42 | |
And this little baby is the one I love the best. | 0:52:49 | 0:52:53 | |
Micky has been given a reprieve. | 0:52:53 | 0:52:56 | |
He can stay in rehab with Kyle. | 0:52:56 | 0:52:59 | |
And he's been granted an extension to make up for lost time | 0:52:59 | 0:53:02 | |
caused by Faye's illness. | 0:53:02 | 0:53:04 | |
The final stage of treatment involves looking back, | 0:53:05 | 0:53:08 | |
and facing the consequences of past mistakes. | 0:53:08 | 0:53:12 | |
So, what about Kyle? | 0:53:12 | 0:53:14 | |
Before I come in here, | 0:53:14 | 0:53:15 | |
health professionals were saying he's got traits of autism, | 0:53:15 | 0:53:20 | |
and stuff like that, or learning difficulties, and that. | 0:53:20 | 0:53:22 | |
I'm going, "Nah, man, Kyle's Kyle. | 0:53:22 | 0:53:25 | |
"He's the way he is. There's nowt wrong with him." | 0:53:25 | 0:53:27 | |
Cos that's all I had known, innit? | 0:53:27 | 0:53:29 | |
You know. | 0:53:29 | 0:53:30 | |
But I have thought, is the lifestyle we used to lead... | 0:53:30 | 0:53:34 | |
Did that contribute to him being like this? | 0:53:34 | 0:53:36 | |
And after I had my lapse... | 0:53:36 | 0:53:39 | |
..you know, Kyle was up for hours that night. | 0:53:40 | 0:53:43 | |
He must have known that I wasn't myself, | 0:53:43 | 0:53:45 | |
and I couldn't get him back to sleep for hours. | 0:53:45 | 0:53:48 | |
Do you know I could have died that night? | 0:53:48 | 0:53:50 | |
And that's when I realised, what we used to do DID affect him. | 0:53:50 | 0:53:55 | |
It did. I might not have thought it or known it at the minute, | 0:53:55 | 0:53:57 | |
but it did. | 0:53:57 | 0:53:59 | |
Just look at that, what I did, that one lapse. | 0:53:59 | 0:54:01 | |
Cos he's very tuned into his emotions, Kyle is, | 0:54:01 | 0:54:04 | |
and he would have been feeling that I wasn't right, | 0:54:04 | 0:54:07 | |
so that's why he were like that. | 0:54:07 | 0:54:09 | |
And that ain't going to happen again. | 0:54:09 | 0:54:11 | |
# Old MacDonald had a farm | 0:54:12 | 0:54:14 | |
# Ee-ey-ee-ey-oh | 0:54:16 | 0:54:18 | |
# Ee-ey-ee-ey-oh | 0:54:18 | 0:54:20 | |
-Good boy! So clever! -# Ee-ey-ee-ey-oh | 0:54:20 | 0:54:24 | |
# And on that farm they had some ducks... # | 0:54:24 | 0:54:27 | |
Verbally, Kyle is progressing quite rapidly, it seems. | 0:54:27 | 0:54:30 | |
# Ee-ay-ee-ay-oh! # | 0:54:30 | 0:54:33 | |
We're seeing it in his development every day, | 0:54:33 | 0:54:35 | |
that there's so much positivity coming out of Micky and Kyle. | 0:54:35 | 0:54:38 | |
Buh-buh-boo! | 0:54:38 | 0:54:39 | |
Boo! Whoo-hoo-hoo! | 0:54:39 | 0:54:41 | |
It's just lovely to see them both blossoming, | 0:54:41 | 0:54:43 | |
because they're obviously, like, rubbing off on each other, | 0:54:43 | 0:54:46 | |
and it's just such a lovely bond, and a lovely friendship | 0:54:46 | 0:54:48 | |
that they've got going on. It's... | 0:54:48 | 0:54:51 | |
It's just kind of what you want to see, really, at this point. | 0:54:51 | 0:54:54 | |
Night-night, everybody. | 0:54:54 | 0:54:57 | |
It's Micky and Kyle's last night in the house. | 0:54:57 | 0:55:00 | |
Night-night, my Kyle. | 0:55:00 | 0:55:02 | |
I love you. | 0:55:02 | 0:55:04 | |
Night-night, Igglepiggle. | 0:55:06 | 0:55:08 | |
When I kind of think back to our... | 0:55:08 | 0:55:10 | |
The very first time that I kind of met you, | 0:55:10 | 0:55:12 | |
and had conversations with you... | 0:55:12 | 0:55:14 | |
..it was even touch and go whether you would ever get here | 0:55:15 | 0:55:18 | |
in the first place, and then kind of moving forward... | 0:55:18 | 0:55:21 | |
..I couldn't be prouder and happier to see you sat here today, | 0:55:22 | 0:55:25 | |
leaving here...a man. | 0:55:25 | 0:55:28 | |
A whole man, rather than the broken boy that walked through the door. | 0:55:28 | 0:55:31 | |
I wish you all the happiness, and I really, | 0:55:33 | 0:55:36 | |
really want you to continue the work with us, | 0:55:36 | 0:55:39 | |
because I'd like to see you coming back and sharing your experience, | 0:55:39 | 0:55:42 | |
cos you should be so proud of yourself, | 0:55:42 | 0:55:44 | |
and so pleased with yourself. | 0:55:44 | 0:55:46 | |
Thank you. | 0:55:48 | 0:55:49 | |
APPLAUSE | 0:55:49 | 0:55:51 | |
Kyle's only got me. | 0:55:51 | 0:55:53 | |
Am I going to be enough? | 0:55:53 | 0:55:54 | |
Am I going to live up to the... | 0:55:54 | 0:55:57 | |
job of getting in his world and answering things for him, you know? | 0:55:57 | 0:56:02 | |
It is daunting, cos it's not going to be easy, | 0:56:02 | 0:56:05 | |
but I'm prepared to do it. | 0:56:05 | 0:56:07 | |
So that's what I'm scared about. And, you know, him only having me. | 0:56:07 | 0:56:11 | |
Faye's still on methadone, and that. | 0:56:11 | 0:56:14 | |
I'm going to keep her at arm's length for a bit, | 0:56:14 | 0:56:17 | |
that's what I'm going to do. | 0:56:17 | 0:56:19 | |
And we're separated. | 0:56:19 | 0:56:20 | |
But as long as Kyle's got me and I'm safe, and he's safe, | 0:56:21 | 0:56:24 | |
that's all that matters. | 0:56:24 | 0:56:25 | |
Ready? One, two, three... | 0:56:26 | 0:56:30 | |
Boom-boom! | 0:56:30 | 0:56:31 | |
Micky won't return to his old home, | 0:56:33 | 0:56:36 | |
where he risks being drawn back into his old cycle of addiction. | 0:56:36 | 0:56:39 | |
He's found a place in Sheffield, | 0:56:41 | 0:56:43 | |
where he's decided to start a new life. | 0:56:43 | 0:56:46 | |
It's lovely, Micky, it's a lovely flat. | 0:56:46 | 0:56:49 | |
-You have to start... -Yeah, it's really nice. It's really nice. | 0:56:49 | 0:56:52 | |
-Thank you. -Very comfortable, very happy. | 0:56:53 | 0:56:55 | |
Kyle, we'll see you soon. | 0:56:57 | 0:57:00 | |
Make sure Daddy behaves himself, right? | 0:57:00 | 0:57:02 | |
-Right. -Right, come here. | 0:57:04 | 0:57:07 | |
Thank you so much, Polly. | 0:57:07 | 0:57:09 | |
You stay out of trouble, cos I'll be so angry. | 0:57:10 | 0:57:13 | |
Yeah, I am going to. | 0:57:13 | 0:57:15 | |
-Well done, mate. -Thank you. | 0:57:16 | 0:57:19 | |
-See you soon. -You will. -I feel a bit tearful. | 0:57:19 | 0:57:22 | |
-Oh, Polly! -SHE LAUGHS | 0:57:22 | 0:57:24 | |
-See you later. -You will. Thank you! | 0:57:24 | 0:57:27 | |
Love for your kids is so different to any other love that... | 0:57:30 | 0:57:35 | |
..I've ever felt, you know? | 0:57:36 | 0:57:38 | |
And that's quite contradicted, because I love drugs. | 0:57:38 | 0:57:41 | |
I used to love drugs, and I couldn't even stop that for Kyle. | 0:57:41 | 0:57:45 | |
But being took away from that environment, and where I was... | 0:57:45 | 0:57:49 | |
..you know, I could do it. | 0:57:50 | 0:57:51 | |
And getting off it all, my love for my son's even stronger... | 0:57:52 | 0:57:56 | |
..and it's powerful... | 0:57:57 | 0:57:58 | |
..so... | 0:57:59 | 0:58:00 | |
KYLE CHATTERS | 0:58:02 | 0:58:03 | |
It's your tea time, isn't it? | 0:58:03 | 0:58:05 | |
Discover more about social work and supporting vulnerable families. | 0:58:15 | 0:58:20 | |
Visit... | 0:58:20 | 0:58:22 | |
..and follow the links to the Open University. | 0:58:24 | 0:58:27 |