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This programme contains some strong language. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:05 | |
Most LGBTQ people have at some point felt that deep fear of rejection | 0:00:05 | 0:00:09 | |
because of their sexuality | 0:00:09 | 0:00:10 | |
or their gender identity, and I know I definitely had it. | 0:00:10 | 0:00:14 | |
That fear of rejection is real because there is an insane statistic | 0:00:14 | 0:00:18 | |
that says one in four young homeless people in the UK is LGBTQ+. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:23 | |
So, why are so many young people in the community homeless? | 0:00:23 | 0:00:28 | |
And what is life really like for them? | 0:00:28 | 0:00:30 | |
I'm surprised that it is that high, really. | 0:00:31 | 0:00:33 | |
That's a sad figure, if it is one in four, but it doesn't shock me. | 0:00:33 | 0:00:37 | |
It's very shocking. | 0:00:37 | 0:00:39 | |
I literally didn't know that at all. One in four, that's so...that's really big. | 0:00:39 | 0:00:44 | |
-That's really high, yeah. -One of my friends, | 0:00:44 | 0:00:46 | |
their family kicked them out when they were 16, | 0:00:46 | 0:00:48 | |
so they were just on the street for two years until they got their life | 0:00:48 | 0:00:51 | |
back together. | 0:00:51 | 0:00:53 | |
I grew up in Ireland, which is a beautiful setting... | 0:01:17 | 0:01:21 | |
..but it wasn't the setting for me. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:25 | |
HE SINGS | 0:01:25 | 0:01:28 | |
I can't reach that note. Fuck off. | 0:01:28 | 0:01:30 | |
I've been in care, like, pretty much all my life. | 0:01:30 | 0:01:35 | |
That's because my mum and dad were alcoholics. | 0:01:35 | 0:01:38 | |
I met my husband in Coventry | 0:01:38 | 0:01:42 | |
and he died in 2010. | 0:01:42 | 0:01:45 | |
It kind of went tits up then, really. | 0:01:45 | 0:01:48 | |
I've been rough sleeping for about eight years. | 0:01:48 | 0:01:51 | |
But I'm still alive and I'm still breathing, | 0:01:54 | 0:01:59 | |
so I thank God for small mercies, eh? | 0:01:59 | 0:02:01 | |
A lot of LGBT people come to big cities to feel like they have a community | 0:02:04 | 0:02:09 | |
or just like-minded people around them. | 0:02:09 | 0:02:11 | |
But the problem is if something goes wrong, they can very, | 0:02:11 | 0:02:14 | |
very soon find themselves sleeping rough. | 0:02:14 | 0:02:17 | |
So, I've come to a very cold, very chilly Birmingham to meet Damien. | 0:02:17 | 0:02:21 | |
He's been sleeping rough for many, | 0:02:21 | 0:02:23 | |
many years and we're going to find out a little bit about his story. | 0:02:23 | 0:02:27 | |
Can you tell me the reason why you don't want us to show your face on camera? | 0:02:27 | 0:02:32 | |
Because I'm afraid of being kicked in the face | 0:02:32 | 0:02:37 | |
as soon as somebody sees this on BBC Three. | 0:02:37 | 0:02:41 | |
Because this is a gay homeless documentary. | 0:02:41 | 0:02:45 | |
They'll target you because you're gay? | 0:02:45 | 0:02:47 | |
Yeah. And that is a fear that I live with constantly. | 0:02:47 | 0:02:51 | |
Every night that I go to sleep, I fear this. | 0:02:51 | 0:02:54 | |
I've had my sleeping bag set fire to on the end. | 0:02:54 | 0:02:58 | |
Only for I was actually slightly awake, | 0:03:00 | 0:03:04 | |
I wouldn't be standing here doing this interview now. | 0:03:04 | 0:03:07 | |
I sleep with one eye open and one eye closed. | 0:03:07 | 0:03:12 | |
I don't even get any sleep, really. | 0:03:12 | 0:03:15 | |
If I had a choice, I'd be straight. | 0:03:15 | 0:03:19 | |
Because it's easier on my life. | 0:03:20 | 0:03:23 | |
I've been called a faggot and a queer, but... | 0:03:23 | 0:03:27 | |
I've lived with that all me life, so... | 0:03:27 | 0:03:30 | |
Do you not think it's sad that you've been desensitised to being called | 0:03:30 | 0:03:34 | |
-such awful names? -Not really. | 0:03:34 | 0:03:36 | |
If I wasn't gay, I'd be called a fucking tramp. | 0:03:36 | 0:03:39 | |
So... | 0:03:39 | 0:03:41 | |
No matter what you are, someone will always pick something | 0:03:42 | 0:03:46 | |
to speak about. | 0:03:46 | 0:03:49 | |
I've been disowned. | 0:03:50 | 0:03:51 | |
I haven't spoken to any of my family in... | 0:03:51 | 0:03:54 | |
..17 years, 16 years. | 0:03:56 | 0:03:59 | |
The day you said you were gay was the last day you spoke to them? | 0:03:59 | 0:04:02 | |
Yep. Did Mummy and Daddy accept you? Nah... | 0:04:02 | 0:04:06 | |
Yeah. Not straight away. | 0:04:06 | 0:04:09 | |
No. My dad found it very, very difficult. | 0:04:09 | 0:04:12 | |
My dad is from Iraq, | 0:04:12 | 0:04:14 | |
-and, you know, it's not really a good thing to be gay if you are from there. -No, obviously. | 0:04:14 | 0:04:19 | |
And then you've got the Irish mixed in with Iraq! | 0:04:20 | 0:04:23 | |
Fuck's sake! | 0:04:23 | 0:04:24 | |
You know! | 0:04:24 | 0:04:26 | |
Come on! | 0:04:26 | 0:04:28 | |
Iraq, Irish Catholic. Hold up. | 0:04:28 | 0:04:30 | |
Honestly, before I came out, I thought I was going to end up on the streets, like you. | 0:04:30 | 0:04:37 | |
I'm only as lucky as I am because they brought me up, | 0:04:37 | 0:04:41 | |
and they looked after me and embraced me and they nurtured me. | 0:04:41 | 0:04:44 | |
-You didn't have that. -I didn't have that. | 0:04:44 | 0:04:47 | |
But...no point in crying over spilt milk, is there? | 0:04:47 | 0:04:51 | |
Do you know what? I could be lying there in the puddle | 0:04:51 | 0:04:56 | |
and I'd still make people laugh. | 0:04:56 | 0:04:59 | |
Cos what's the point in being miserable? | 0:04:59 | 0:05:03 | |
Where is it going to get you? | 0:05:03 | 0:05:06 | |
We are all little children, all little babies of somebody. | 0:05:12 | 0:05:15 | |
And I think | 0:05:15 | 0:05:18 | |
we all deserve to have someone who makes us feel safe and loved and... | 0:05:18 | 0:05:22 | |
-..worthy. -You need to feel like you belong somewhere. | 0:05:24 | 0:05:27 | |
You need to have somewhere, regardless of where it is, | 0:05:27 | 0:05:30 | |
where you feel safe and you can be truly who you are. | 0:05:30 | 0:05:33 | |
Of course, at its worst, homelessness means rough sleeping. | 0:05:33 | 0:05:36 | |
But that is just the tip of the iceberg because there are so many people | 0:05:36 | 0:05:40 | |
that just go unseen, who are sofa surfing, they are in hostels, | 0:05:40 | 0:05:45 | |
or in and out of insecure accommodation. | 0:05:45 | 0:05:47 | |
Now, the Albert Kennedy Trust is a charity that specialises in | 0:05:47 | 0:05:51 | |
LGBT homelessness. I'm going to meet key worker Helen, who is hopefully going to | 0:05:51 | 0:05:55 | |
shed some light on just why so many young LGBTs find themselves without a home. | 0:05:55 | 0:06:01 | |
The AKT is Britain's only dedicated LGBTQ homeless charity. | 0:06:02 | 0:06:07 | |
-Hi, are you Helen? -Hi, yeah, nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you. | 0:06:13 | 0:06:16 | |
-How are you doing? -Come in. | 0:06:16 | 0:06:17 | |
We are working with young people that are sort of between the | 0:06:17 | 0:06:20 | |
ages of 23 to 25. | 0:06:20 | 0:06:22 | |
And that's a real difficult time. | 0:06:22 | 0:06:24 | |
You know, we are talking about young people who have just been suddenly | 0:06:24 | 0:06:27 | |
kicked out of the house. It is just heartbreaking stuff. | 0:06:27 | 0:06:30 | |
People having to sleep in tents, you know. | 0:06:30 | 0:06:32 | |
People walking every night because they don't feel safe falling asleep on the bus. | 0:06:32 | 0:06:37 | |
People they thought were friends are pushing them into having sex, | 0:06:37 | 0:06:40 | |
and kind of in a roundabout way saying, you know, | 0:06:40 | 0:06:43 | |
you can sleep on my sofa if you have sex. | 0:06:43 | 0:06:46 | |
And obviously drugs - because for every group, it's an escape. | 0:06:46 | 0:06:51 | |
You know, people, it's frowned down, people giving homeless people alcohol... | 0:06:51 | 0:06:57 | |
-Because they need it. -They need it so it is a difficult balancing act. | 0:06:57 | 0:07:02 | |
What kind of LGBTs are coming to you looking for help? | 0:07:02 | 0:07:05 | |
Every walk of life, really. | 0:07:05 | 0:07:08 | |
Every race, every religion, or major religion. | 0:07:08 | 0:07:12 | |
Homophobia, prejudice, anything like that, | 0:07:12 | 0:07:14 | |
it doesn't really matter where you come from, | 0:07:14 | 0:07:16 | |
it will exist there in some form. | 0:07:16 | 0:07:19 | |
Is it parental rejection that is the main reason these kids end up out of | 0:07:19 | 0:07:24 | |
a home or are there other things at play here? | 0:07:24 | 0:07:27 | |
Yeah. Parents do play a role in it, and yes, one parent, | 0:07:27 | 0:07:31 | |
sometimes two parents, just being very...homophobic and quite angry | 0:07:31 | 0:07:36 | |
and horrible to their own child. | 0:07:36 | 0:07:38 | |
The needs of LGBTQ homeless people, | 0:07:38 | 0:07:41 | |
are they different from those of straight homeless people? | 0:07:41 | 0:07:43 | |
Sexual health is a big thing but there isn't much support for that. | 0:07:43 | 0:07:47 | |
The issues are different, you know, the sex is different. | 0:07:47 | 0:07:50 | |
So, yeah, there are a lot of stuff that are specific for our young LGBTQ people. | 0:07:50 | 0:07:58 | |
We've got to give them skills to manage rejection. | 0:07:58 | 0:08:01 | |
When they first come to Purple Door, we do about two weeks where we're like, | 0:08:01 | 0:08:04 | |
"Yeah, let your hair down, relax, get some sleep, | 0:08:04 | 0:08:06 | |
"don't do things right on right on, get your strength back, recoup..." | 0:08:06 | 0:08:11 | |
Because once we start again, there is going to be no stopping. | 0:08:11 | 0:08:14 | |
They've kind of got to stay focused. | 0:08:14 | 0:08:16 | |
So, that is how we kind of prepare them, I suppose. | 0:08:16 | 0:08:20 | |
Gay boy. Back in school, | 0:08:20 | 0:08:23 | |
if you asked me that or called me that at 16, I would have | 0:08:23 | 0:08:26 | |
acted completely different now. | 0:08:26 | 0:08:29 | |
Faggot. Weirdly, by one of my friends who would laugh and | 0:08:29 | 0:08:32 | |
be like, "Yeah, but you know that I'm joking." | 0:08:32 | 0:08:35 | |
And it's like, "But it's not funny, | 0:08:35 | 0:08:38 | |
"it's not one of those words you can just use." | 0:08:38 | 0:08:40 | |
Tranny. It can be taken into different concepts so you've got to | 0:08:40 | 0:08:43 | |
kind of, like, identify which is positive and which is negative, | 0:08:43 | 0:08:46 | |
if that makes sense. | 0:08:46 | 0:08:48 | |
Batty man. I don't really care any more. | 0:08:48 | 0:08:50 | |
He is what he is, I am what I am. | 0:08:50 | 0:08:52 | |
If you don't like it, just take it or leave it. | 0:08:52 | 0:08:54 | |
Batty boy, chi chi man, | 0:08:54 | 0:08:58 | |
it's the embarrassment when it's shouted out in public | 0:08:58 | 0:09:02 | |
when you are... Just out of nowhere, you could just be going to the shop, | 0:09:02 | 0:09:05 | |
and just to hear that, it takes you, just, like... | 0:09:05 | 0:09:08 | |
The gay scene here in West Calder? What gay scene? | 0:09:15 | 0:09:19 | |
I'm an openly gay man. | 0:09:27 | 0:09:29 | |
But just recently, I've kind of came across the terminology | 0:09:29 | 0:09:33 | |
of gender neutral. | 0:09:33 | 0:09:35 | |
You know, sometimes I feel male, or sometimes I feel female. | 0:09:35 | 0:09:40 | |
Or there's other days where I don't feel male nor female, | 0:09:40 | 0:09:44 | |
I just feel me. Plain old me. | 0:09:44 | 0:09:48 | |
My mum couldn't look after me, | 0:09:51 | 0:09:54 | |
so I was taken off my biological family... | 0:09:54 | 0:09:57 | |
..and put into the care system. | 0:09:58 | 0:10:00 | |
I've never felt part of a community, I've always felt like an outsider, | 0:10:00 | 0:10:05 | |
it has made me feel more isolated, more depressed, which then | 0:10:05 | 0:10:11 | |
has led for me to be homeless. | 0:10:11 | 0:10:14 | |
I went to meet John in his old home town of Blackburn. | 0:10:19 | 0:10:22 | |
This is the last place that I called home prior to being homeless. | 0:10:27 | 0:10:31 | |
Do you think it was specifically homophobia that made you homeless? | 0:10:31 | 0:10:38 | |
Yeah. | 0:10:38 | 0:10:39 | |
Erm...cos for the four-and-a-half years that I stayed here, | 0:10:39 | 0:10:43 | |
I was...I got nothing but subjected to homophobia, you know. | 0:10:43 | 0:10:48 | |
Erm... Every day. Even going down to the local shops. | 0:10:48 | 0:10:52 | |
The dog's abuse I would get, you know. | 0:10:52 | 0:10:54 | |
I would wear my wigs or something, and they would pull them off. | 0:10:54 | 0:10:57 | |
I mean, I've been called, like, a paedophile and stuff. | 0:10:57 | 0:11:01 | |
Just for being gay. They have egged my windows. | 0:11:01 | 0:11:04 | |
They've...erm... | 0:11:04 | 0:11:06 | |
They've graffitied my property. They've chucked stones at windows. | 0:11:06 | 0:11:10 | |
They've broke windows before. | 0:11:10 | 0:11:13 | |
Erm, and the firework through my door... | 0:11:13 | 0:11:15 | |
-Fireworks? -Yeah, a firework. | 0:11:15 | 0:11:17 | |
Is there a standout memory of one day when they came down and you | 0:11:17 | 0:11:22 | |
could see them outside? | 0:11:22 | 0:11:24 | |
I was sitting there watching my telly, | 0:11:24 | 0:11:27 | |
quite the thing, and all I heard was a thud, out my window. | 0:11:27 | 0:11:32 | |
Next thing I know, a | 0:11:32 | 0:11:34 | |
big brick, a massive brick had went through it. | 0:11:34 | 0:11:37 | |
And they were all standing outside, | 0:11:37 | 0:11:40 | |
like, the gate, shouting and swearing. | 0:11:40 | 0:11:44 | |
And, you know, they were chucking rubbish and that in my garden. | 0:11:44 | 0:11:46 | |
-What were they shouting? -Like, "Faggot, you're a poof..." | 0:11:46 | 0:11:50 | |
It got to the point where I was in that house, I would refuse to leave, | 0:11:50 | 0:11:54 | |
just if I had to somewhere, but I would come back as soon as I could. | 0:11:54 | 0:11:59 | |
How much can a person take? | 0:11:59 | 0:12:02 | |
At what point did you go, "No, I've had enough"? | 0:12:02 | 0:12:04 | |
After the four-and-a-half-year mark, | 0:12:04 | 0:12:08 | |
I just...I had a complete and utter meltdown. | 0:12:08 | 0:12:12 | |
How does it feel to be standing here? | 0:12:12 | 0:12:14 | |
I don't know. Quite emotional, I think. | 0:12:14 | 0:12:16 | |
But, you know what, I don't miss it. I don't. | 0:12:17 | 0:12:21 | |
You know, I miss maybe some of the memories I had in it but they're memories. | 0:12:21 | 0:12:26 | |
-You know, they're there, so... -MAN SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY | 0:12:26 | 0:12:28 | |
No, you don't. Oh, so... | 0:12:29 | 0:12:32 | |
CAR HORN BEEPS CONTINUALLY | 0:12:32 | 0:12:37 | |
-OK, so... -This is the Blackburn mentality. | 0:12:37 | 0:12:40 | |
-Is this what it is like here? -Yeah, the Blackburn mentality. | 0:12:41 | 0:12:44 | |
So, there's a man over there screaming and shouting at us | 0:12:44 | 0:12:48 | |
-because we are filming. -Do you know who that was? | 0:12:48 | 0:12:50 | |
No, but I reckon it would have been the new tenant, probably. | 0:12:50 | 0:12:54 | |
-What did he say to you? -Do you mind me saying? | 0:12:54 | 0:12:56 | |
No, no, please do. | 0:12:56 | 0:12:58 | |
He said, "You're filming the only gay in the village." | 0:12:58 | 0:13:00 | |
And I said, "Oh, we're filming an interview with John." | 0:13:00 | 0:13:03 | |
-And he said something about "that faggot bastard". -Are you OK? | 0:13:03 | 0:13:07 | |
-Yeah, yeah. No, I deal with that... -You're here with us. | 0:13:07 | 0:13:10 | |
-The gay team. -Yeah! | 0:13:10 | 0:13:12 | |
And you are no longer the only gay in the village. | 0:13:12 | 0:13:14 | |
-Exactly. -There's four of us. | 0:13:14 | 0:13:16 | |
Erm... Shocking. | 0:13:16 | 0:13:18 | |
I've never experienced that. | 0:13:19 | 0:13:21 | |
-But you're like, "Yeah, whatever," cos you're used to it. -Yes. | 0:13:21 | 0:13:25 | |
It's, erm, what I have to put up with on a daily basis. It's pretty much the norm. | 0:13:25 | 0:13:30 | |
If you've not a loving environment to be | 0:13:30 | 0:13:33 | |
supported in, then you're not going to be able to support and love the | 0:13:33 | 0:13:37 | |
person that you are. | 0:13:37 | 0:13:39 | |
You don't come out once. | 0:13:39 | 0:13:40 | |
Like, each time you go somewhere else, you have to come out again. | 0:13:40 | 0:13:43 | |
So, you go to work, you go to school, you go and meet new people, | 0:13:43 | 0:13:45 | |
and you have to come out each and every single time. | 0:13:45 | 0:13:47 | |
So, it is nice to have, at home, | 0:13:47 | 0:13:50 | |
that stable place where you don't have to come out, | 0:13:50 | 0:13:52 | |
you can just... They know, you know, they all know what's happening | 0:13:52 | 0:13:55 | |
and you're just comfortable with each other. | 0:13:55 | 0:13:57 | |
I've been homeless for six months. | 0:14:01 | 0:14:03 | |
I identify as bisexual but I don't really feel like I want to put | 0:14:06 | 0:14:10 | |
a label onto it. | 0:14:10 | 0:14:12 | |
I was homeless because of a breakdown in my family, | 0:14:17 | 0:14:21 | |
within my family, due to hardship. | 0:14:21 | 0:14:23 | |
And because of my sexuality. | 0:14:23 | 0:14:26 | |
I feel like homelessness changes people's identification. | 0:14:28 | 0:14:32 | |
You don't feel yourself any more. | 0:14:32 | 0:14:35 | |
You lose what you were. | 0:14:35 | 0:14:38 | |
The impact homelessness has had on my life ranges. | 0:14:39 | 0:14:43 | |
Confidence, separation from society, not having support, | 0:14:43 | 0:14:48 | |
loss of friends and stuff. | 0:14:48 | 0:14:51 | |
Being homeless and part of the LGBTQ+ community seems more difficult than | 0:14:51 | 0:14:57 | |
other people I've met because it is not just one story, | 0:14:57 | 0:15:00 | |
it is like telling two stories. | 0:15:00 | 0:15:03 | |
Kristina has been living in a youth hostel for the past six months. | 0:15:09 | 0:15:12 | |
-Oh, this is lovely, Kristina. -Aw, thank you. | 0:15:15 | 0:15:18 | |
Do you mind if I have a little poke around and have a little look? | 0:15:19 | 0:15:22 | |
-That's fine, yeah. -Is this a Lana Del Rey-esque headpiece? | 0:15:22 | 0:15:25 | |
-I made it for prom. -Can you try it on for me? | 0:15:25 | 0:15:27 | |
CAMERA CLICKS | 0:15:27 | 0:15:29 | |
What was the first time that you noticed there might be something there? | 0:15:29 | 0:15:33 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:15:33 | 0:15:34 | |
I think I was about six. I was obsessed with Kylie Minogue. | 0:15:34 | 0:15:38 | |
I thought everyone thought she was really adorable. | 0:15:38 | 0:15:41 | |
She was in this, I think, a silver costume, and she looked brilliant. | 0:15:41 | 0:15:46 | |
-I Can't Get You Out Of My Head video? -Yeah! | 0:15:46 | 0:15:50 | |
And I just thought, like, | 0:15:50 | 0:15:52 | |
why am I so obsessed with this woman? | 0:15:52 | 0:15:54 | |
She is just so... She's just beautiful. | 0:15:54 | 0:15:57 | |
-Does Kylie still do it for you now? -Oh, yeah. -Yeah? | 0:15:57 | 0:16:00 | |
-Is she your number one? -Yeah. | 0:16:00 | 0:16:02 | |
Dannii is lovely as well. | 0:16:02 | 0:16:03 | |
Oh, yeah? If you had a choice, though, Dannii or Kylie? | 0:16:03 | 0:16:05 | |
-Kylie. -Every time? -Oh, yeah. | 0:16:05 | 0:16:08 | |
How did you end up in a place like this? | 0:16:09 | 0:16:13 | |
SHE SIGHS | 0:16:13 | 0:16:16 | |
My mum didn't really treat me the same as my siblings. | 0:16:16 | 0:16:21 | |
And it got to a point where I thought, "I can't take it any more." | 0:16:21 | 0:16:24 | |
I wasn't allowed to use the bath, the washing machine, the cooker, | 0:16:24 | 0:16:27 | |
the fridge, use any of the facilities in the kitchen. | 0:16:27 | 0:16:30 | |
Every time I would get food out of the freezer, | 0:16:30 | 0:16:32 | |
she would accuse me of stealing. | 0:16:32 | 0:16:35 | |
I wasn't really allowed to go out. | 0:16:35 | 0:16:37 | |
If I came back, and she wasn't in a good mood, | 0:16:37 | 0:16:40 | |
she wouldn't let me back in. I just had no control. | 0:16:40 | 0:16:43 | |
It sounds almost like you were a prisoner. | 0:16:45 | 0:16:48 | |
-In your own home. -Yeah. | 0:16:48 | 0:16:50 | |
It was like that. I didn't know what to do with myself. | 0:16:50 | 0:16:52 | |
What is your family, if they are not going to support you in that situation? | 0:16:52 | 0:16:56 | |
It just doesn't make sense to me why they wouldn't want to love you because of... | 0:16:58 | 0:17:05 | |
because of that - it's just silly. | 0:17:05 | 0:17:07 | |
I just couldn't take any more. | 0:17:09 | 0:17:11 | |
I said to my teacher, "I don't know what to do. | 0:17:11 | 0:17:14 | |
"I'm already feeling suicidal, I already feel like I don't want to be | 0:17:14 | 0:17:19 | |
"here, and I can't do it any more." | 0:17:19 | 0:17:23 | |
She said, "Kristina, we can't have it," and called social services. | 0:17:23 | 0:17:26 | |
And that was it. My status was temporarily homeless for three months after that. | 0:17:26 | 0:17:33 | |
Shocking. | 0:17:33 | 0:17:35 | |
-Yeah. -Is this your girlfriend? -Mm-hm, yeah. | 0:17:35 | 0:17:38 | |
I'm loving the blue hair. | 0:17:38 | 0:17:41 | |
It's been all sorts of colours! | 0:17:41 | 0:17:44 | |
Being young and LGBT, has this situation affected you in the long term? | 0:17:44 | 0:17:49 | |
Definitely. Even at college, I say, "my partner". | 0:17:49 | 0:17:53 | |
I don't talk openly about having a girlfriend. | 0:17:53 | 0:17:56 | |
We never kiss in public. | 0:17:56 | 0:17:59 | |
And it really upsets me. | 0:17:59 | 0:18:01 | |
It is not OK to be around certain people, people are offended, | 0:18:01 | 0:18:04 | |
people don't want to see you do that. | 0:18:04 | 0:18:07 | |
I mean, Amy used to get bricks and stuff thrown at her on her way home. | 0:18:07 | 0:18:11 | |
I got pushed on a flight of stairs, and my face smacked off a wall. | 0:18:11 | 0:18:15 | |
And I just had glasses as well. | 0:18:15 | 0:18:19 | |
So, I literally just got them and it nearly went in my eyes and stuff, | 0:18:19 | 0:18:22 | |
-it was horrible. -I can't believe the stuff that you have been through. | 0:18:22 | 0:18:25 | |
Mm-hm. I can't really accept it either. | 0:18:26 | 0:18:28 | |
-Do you think you ever will? -Probably not, no. | 0:18:28 | 0:18:31 | |
You've had a roof over your head the whole time, yeah? | 0:18:31 | 0:18:34 | |
-Yeah. -Not one night on the street? -I'm lucky. | 0:18:34 | 0:18:37 | |
-Thank God. -I know! | 0:18:37 | 0:18:39 | |
I feel I would be so vulnerable as well, especially. | 0:18:39 | 0:18:42 | |
-I don't think you'd survive. -No. | 0:18:42 | 0:18:45 | |
You're too gentle. I think you need to be in a safe place like this. | 0:18:45 | 0:18:48 | |
Kristina's girlfriend Amy has supported her through her homelessness. | 0:18:52 | 0:18:56 | |
It would be like if I didn't have... | 0:18:56 | 0:18:58 | |
-Have you seen a change in Kristina? Over time? -Definitely. | 0:18:58 | 0:19:02 | |
I mean, we've been together for nearly three years now. | 0:19:02 | 0:19:05 | |
And it is just amazing, I think we've both grown a lot as people. | 0:19:05 | 0:19:08 | |
But, like, the changes you have made in your life, | 0:19:08 | 0:19:10 | |
like trying to make your situation better, it's phenomenal, really. | 0:19:10 | 0:19:14 | |
I wouldn't have coped at all, | 0:19:14 | 0:19:17 | |
at all, like, through school, through my dad, and just | 0:19:17 | 0:19:21 | |
everything at home, like, you're my rock, pretty much. | 0:19:21 | 0:19:26 | |
It sounds really sappy, but... | 0:19:26 | 0:19:30 | |
I wanted the chance to speak to Amy's parents about their support for both of the girls. | 0:19:30 | 0:19:35 | |
The first time that you got the pleasure of meeting Kristina, | 0:19:35 | 0:19:39 | |
you thought they were just mates, initially? | 0:19:39 | 0:19:41 | |
Yeah. Amy is quite... | 0:19:41 | 0:19:43 | |
She keeps a lot to herself, anyways, | 0:19:43 | 0:19:45 | |
so I've always kind of discovered things about Amy, | 0:19:45 | 0:19:48 | |
rather than, you know, we're having a good old chat about... | 0:19:48 | 0:19:52 | |
-Sure. -..how things are going. | 0:19:52 | 0:19:53 | |
And, you, as the dad, what was your honest initial reaction? | 0:19:53 | 0:19:57 | |
When she said, "I've actually got a girlfriend," all I said was, | 0:19:57 | 0:20:01 | |
"Thank God I haven't got to worry about you getting pregnant." | 0:20:01 | 0:20:04 | |
My mum said the same thing. | 0:20:05 | 0:20:08 | |
Well, you are both unbelievably open and accepting. | 0:20:08 | 0:20:12 | |
I mean... Do you, as parents, | 0:20:12 | 0:20:14 | |
realise just how special that kind of love is, | 0:20:14 | 0:20:19 | |
and that not everyone has that? | 0:20:19 | 0:20:20 | |
If you thought about all the elements that made a person a person, | 0:20:20 | 0:20:26 | |
sexuality is...it's really like an orange, it's only one segment, isn't it? | 0:20:26 | 0:20:30 | |
That is just one thing, so why do people pick that one thing out, | 0:20:30 | 0:20:34 | |
and make it like that is what the whole person is about? | 0:20:34 | 0:20:37 | |
So, you two being such open and accepting parents, | 0:20:37 | 0:20:42 | |
what did it feel like, then, when you saw Kristina's situation? | 0:20:42 | 0:20:46 | |
Amy had said, "Well, can't she stay here for a while?" | 0:20:46 | 0:20:48 | |
I said absolutely not a problem. | 0:20:48 | 0:20:50 | |
But what I didn't want was her only having the option of being here so I | 0:20:50 | 0:20:54 | |
said that probably in the long term, | 0:20:54 | 0:20:56 | |
to find out how you could live independently. | 0:20:56 | 0:21:00 | |
People think their own ideology is so strong that they can't accept | 0:21:00 | 0:21:06 | |
anything that is on the outskirts of that. | 0:21:06 | 0:21:09 | |
And I can't understand why people can't be more accepting. | 0:21:09 | 0:21:12 | |
At some stage, perhaps as they get older, and they miss their child, | 0:21:12 | 0:21:16 | |
they will regret it. At some stage, they will. | 0:21:16 | 0:21:19 | |
Definitely, yeah. | 0:21:19 | 0:21:21 | |
It says, #ISawYourDadOnGrindr. | 0:21:28 | 0:21:32 | |
When I get picked on, it's a thing that | 0:21:32 | 0:21:36 | |
I either say in my head, or to them personally. | 0:21:36 | 0:21:42 | |
It takes my mind off the hurt | 0:21:42 | 0:21:45 | |
and the pain that they are causing. | 0:21:45 | 0:21:48 | |
Oh, excuse me, that's my phone, that'll be the council. | 0:21:48 | 0:21:51 | |
Hello. So, is this a temp tenancy? | 0:21:54 | 0:21:58 | |
Oh, right, OK. | 0:21:58 | 0:22:00 | |
That is OK, then... And...what about my belongings? | 0:22:00 | 0:22:04 | |
Thanks. Bye. Bye. | 0:22:04 | 0:22:07 | |
Well, there you go, a bit of good news. | 0:22:07 | 0:22:10 | |
I've got my temp tenancy the morra, so...I'm excited. | 0:22:10 | 0:22:15 | |
I'm nervous because I just don't know what I'm going into. | 0:22:16 | 0:22:19 | |
Like, through this situation, I've kind of lost my independence a bit. | 0:22:19 | 0:22:25 | |
I'm just packing some of my stuff. Just trying to get it all organised. | 0:22:27 | 0:22:33 | |
This is just like a stepping stone. | 0:22:33 | 0:22:36 | |
I'm getting somewhere in the line of homelessness. | 0:22:38 | 0:22:41 | |
Oh, even a wee seating area there. Look at that. | 0:23:02 | 0:23:05 | |
The old smell of cannabis. | 0:23:06 | 0:23:09 | |
This is 13. | 0:23:10 | 0:23:12 | |
So, I'll leave you. | 0:23:14 | 0:23:16 | |
-You can have a wee wander. -Yeah. -So, this is your sitting room. | 0:23:16 | 0:23:19 | |
-Yeah. -All the stuff. Kitchen... Fridge... | 0:23:19 | 0:23:23 | |
-Aye. -Pots and pans and all that stuff. | 0:23:25 | 0:23:28 | |
And at the back is your bathroom. | 0:23:28 | 0:23:31 | |
This is your bedroom. That's it! | 0:23:32 | 0:23:35 | |
-It's just...empty. -It is very empty. | 0:23:35 | 0:23:38 | |
-I'm sure it won't be long until you... -Probably not! | 0:23:38 | 0:23:42 | |
You want to go in and have a wee sit down? | 0:23:42 | 0:23:44 | |
Take it all in? | 0:23:44 | 0:23:48 | |
Despite having new house keys in his hands, | 0:23:48 | 0:23:51 | |
things for John are not so simple. | 0:23:51 | 0:23:54 | |
I'll be all right. I usually am. | 0:23:57 | 0:24:00 | |
I just feel a bit lost the now, to be honest. | 0:24:00 | 0:24:04 | |
I mean, I don't know. | 0:24:04 | 0:24:07 | |
I don't think I'm quite comfortable with the idea, to be honest. | 0:24:07 | 0:24:12 | |
It is just, I don't know the area, I don't know nobody... | 0:24:12 | 0:24:16 | |
I just feel like I'm going to become more isolated. | 0:24:17 | 0:24:20 | |
You know? | 0:24:20 | 0:24:22 | |
What is your first memory of when you realised you fancied fellas? | 0:24:33 | 0:24:37 | |
Do you remember Casper the friendly ghost? | 0:24:37 | 0:24:39 | |
-Yeah! -Do you remember when Casper turned into that boy? | 0:24:39 | 0:24:44 | |
This is so funny. I had the exact same crush! | 0:24:44 | 0:24:47 | |
All the girls at school were saying, "Oh, my God, he's gorgeous!" | 0:24:49 | 0:24:52 | |
And I was like, "Oh, he is gorgeous, isn't he?" | 0:24:52 | 0:24:56 | |
I must have been about 12, 13, or something like that. | 0:24:56 | 0:25:01 | |
And I think that was my first where I thought, "Hold up..." | 0:25:01 | 0:25:05 | |
Absolutely freezing tonight. | 0:25:09 | 0:25:12 | |
Like, I'm wearing these, and the tips of my fingers are... | 0:25:12 | 0:25:15 | |
They feel like they are going to fall off. | 0:25:15 | 0:25:18 | |
And he's got, like, two tiny layers on. | 0:25:18 | 0:25:20 | |
To be honest with you, I feel a bit stupid, | 0:25:20 | 0:25:23 | |
wearing all of this in front of him. | 0:25:23 | 0:25:25 | |
He's taking me around the local area, | 0:25:25 | 0:25:28 | |
showing me where he hides all of his stuff, | 0:25:28 | 0:25:31 | |
all of the sleeping bags, the quilts, and all of that, | 0:25:31 | 0:25:33 | |
and then the different spots in the town where he can sleep. | 0:25:33 | 0:25:37 | |
He says there is about 100 of them. | 0:25:37 | 0:25:39 | |
But he is going to show me the one where he...lays his head most often. | 0:25:39 | 0:25:43 | |
Is this going to be where you'll sleep tonight? | 0:25:43 | 0:25:46 | |
-Yeah, yeah. -Right here? -Yeah. I need a fecking can now. | 0:25:46 | 0:25:51 | |
-How many cans in a day? -Ten. -Ten cans? -Mm. | 0:25:51 | 0:25:56 | |
He has just gone in to get a can cos he has started to get shaky. | 0:25:56 | 0:26:00 | |
It has been, I think, an hour since he has had one. | 0:26:00 | 0:26:04 | |
And... | 0:26:04 | 0:26:07 | |
I guess he just needs it to feel normal. | 0:26:07 | 0:26:09 | |
Which is understandable, I guess. A bit sad, but I've got to let him do his thing... | 0:26:09 | 0:26:14 | |
MAN SHOUTS ..and then, we're going to carry on. | 0:26:14 | 0:26:18 | |
Are you feeling better, since you got it? | 0:26:18 | 0:26:21 | |
I don't know, it just... It keeps me warm, really, do you know what I mean? | 0:26:21 | 0:26:24 | |
-Oh, that's a brothel! -That's a brothel? -Yep. | 0:26:24 | 0:26:27 | |
-Have you frequented it? -Have I shite. | 0:26:27 | 0:26:30 | |
HE LAUGHS | 0:26:30 | 0:26:32 | |
They don't do willies. | 0:26:32 | 0:26:33 | |
-Oh, they don't do willies? -They don't do willies. | 0:26:33 | 0:26:36 | |
Dirty bastards! | 0:26:36 | 0:26:38 | |
I'll go and show you now where we hide our stuff. | 0:26:38 | 0:26:43 | |
Look, sleeping bag and the quilt... | 0:26:43 | 0:26:46 | |
Now, we have another sleeping bag under there. | 0:26:46 | 0:26:48 | |
You put this one over, | 0:26:48 | 0:26:51 | |
to keep the rest of them dry. | 0:26:51 | 0:26:54 | |
Is there a risk, though, that another homeless person or a group | 0:26:54 | 0:26:57 | |
-of homeless people will come and...? -Yeah, there's always that risk. | 0:26:57 | 0:27:00 | |
But it is a risk you are willing to take, really. | 0:27:00 | 0:27:03 | |
I guess. Where else are you going to put it? | 0:27:03 | 0:27:05 | |
-Exactly. -What is this place that we are going to now? | 0:27:05 | 0:27:08 | |
We are going on to the arches where I used to sleep. | 0:27:08 | 0:27:11 | |
-Are they railway arches? -Yep. | 0:27:11 | 0:27:13 | |
Wow, what a place. | 0:27:18 | 0:27:21 | |
-Are you warm enough? Yeah? -It's well warm. | 0:27:31 | 0:27:35 | |
Nice and cosy, you fecker. | 0:27:35 | 0:27:37 | |
Keep yourself warm. | 0:27:37 | 0:27:40 | |
Night, and God bless you, son. | 0:27:40 | 0:27:42 | |
In the cold weather, Damien gets regular visits from local outreach | 0:27:46 | 0:27:50 | |
workers Rick and Tash. | 0:27:50 | 0:27:52 | |
Would you still be here without them? | 0:27:52 | 0:27:55 | |
No. I'd be dead. | 0:27:55 | 0:27:57 | |
I would have died of hypothermia. | 0:27:57 | 0:28:00 | |
Or starvation. | 0:28:00 | 0:28:02 | |
I worry about Damien. | 0:28:03 | 0:28:05 | |
If I don't see him in a week, I'm out searching for him. | 0:28:05 | 0:28:09 | |
To make sure he is still alive and not dead. | 0:28:09 | 0:28:12 | |
At this point, I've almost become institutionalised, | 0:28:12 | 0:28:17 | |
I'm almost used to being homeless, so I don't know nothing better. | 0:28:17 | 0:28:24 | |
Is there a hope that things will change? | 0:28:24 | 0:28:27 | |
Well, I know things will get better because they can't get any worse. | 0:28:27 | 0:28:33 | |
I know that. | 0:28:33 | 0:28:35 | |
I'm an optimist. | 0:28:35 | 0:28:37 | |
Anyone else that is out there and you are in the same situation as me, | 0:28:39 | 0:28:44 | |
please don't do the same thing as I am doing. | 0:28:44 | 0:28:48 | |
Get yourself indoors, because this is no life. | 0:28:48 | 0:28:52 | |
And it is not a life you should have to be used to. | 0:28:55 | 0:28:58 | |
It's a cruel but very real fact that there are so many young LGBTQ people | 0:29:03 | 0:29:09 | |
who are homeless because of their sexuality. | 0:29:09 | 0:29:13 | |
And yet, when you have spent your entire young life struggling with | 0:29:13 | 0:29:18 | |
your sexuality or your gender identity, and you are vulnerable because of it, | 0:29:18 | 0:29:22 | |
the horrible irony is that that's the point in your life where you | 0:29:22 | 0:29:26 | |
need a safe space or place to call home the most. | 0:29:26 | 0:29:29 | |
It has been a month since John moved into his temporary accommodation | 0:29:36 | 0:29:39 | |
here in Livingston, Scotland. | 0:29:39 | 0:29:41 | |
So, I've come to see how he's getting on. | 0:29:41 | 0:29:44 | |
-Hi, come in. -Hi, how are you? | 0:29:46 | 0:29:48 | |
-I'm good, thank you. Come in. -So, this is the pad. | 0:29:48 | 0:29:51 | |
-Yes, it is the pad. -Can I have a little look around at your stuff? | 0:29:51 | 0:29:54 | |
Yes. Of course you can. | 0:29:54 | 0:29:56 | |
Where did you get these fellows from? | 0:29:56 | 0:29:59 | |
-They're brothers, are they? -Yeah. | 0:29:59 | 0:30:01 | |
-See no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil. -Ah, yes! | 0:30:01 | 0:30:04 | |
I love your taste in movies, as well. | 0:30:04 | 0:30:07 | |
-Miss Congeniality... -Sandra Bullock, Beyonce... | 0:30:07 | 0:30:10 | |
-Jennifer Hudson. -Yes. And the pride flag. | 0:30:10 | 0:30:14 | |
-Oh, yeah. -Why is it important to you to have them all over the house? | 0:30:14 | 0:30:18 | |
I don't know, it just... | 0:30:18 | 0:30:20 | |
It adds colour, for a start, on they white walls! | 0:30:20 | 0:30:22 | |
No, to me I think it just signifies, you know, love and peace and equality and diversity... | 0:30:23 | 0:30:30 | |
Where did you get this one? | 0:30:30 | 0:30:33 | |
It was in Edinburgh. | 0:30:33 | 0:30:35 | |
-My very first Gay Pride. -Your first? -Yeah... -This is precious! | 0:30:35 | 0:30:39 | |
Yes, this is very precious. This is like gold dust. | 0:30:39 | 0:30:42 | |
Wow. How important is it for you to have all of these things, | 0:30:42 | 0:30:46 | |
like, your own style in the place? | 0:30:46 | 0:30:49 | |
Oh, yeah, it's, like, really important to me, | 0:30:49 | 0:30:53 | |
because I feel a bit more secure when I see my things around. | 0:30:53 | 0:30:56 | |
How do you feel now that you are here? | 0:30:56 | 0:30:58 | |
I love the flat. The flat is amazing. | 0:30:58 | 0:31:01 | |
But I'm just not sure about the community yet. | 0:31:01 | 0:31:04 | |
You know. I don't know how the community is, but I am settling a bit. | 0:31:04 | 0:31:09 | |
How important is having a home for your mental health or for you just | 0:31:09 | 0:31:13 | |
-to function as a human? -Well, | 0:31:13 | 0:31:15 | |
it is important to me because my house is my sanctuary. | 0:31:15 | 0:31:18 | |
It is somewhere where I am meant to be safe and secure and somewhere | 0:31:18 | 0:31:24 | |
where at the end of a long day, | 0:31:24 | 0:31:27 | |
I can just come in and shut the door and be myself | 0:31:27 | 0:31:31 | |
-and... -Put your wig on. | 0:31:31 | 0:31:33 | |
Put my wig on, yes. Or my make-up. | 0:31:33 | 0:31:36 | |
Or prance about, dancing to Gaga, you know. | 0:31:36 | 0:31:41 | |
Next year will be my year. | 0:31:41 | 0:31:43 | |
I keep saying that at the end of every year. | 0:31:43 | 0:31:45 | |
No, next year's going to be my year. | 0:31:46 | 0:31:48 | |
I'm going to make it my year. | 0:31:48 | 0:31:51 |