How Straight Am I? Tyger Takes On...

This programme contains some strong language and some scenes of a sexual nature

My name is Tyger Drew-Honey. I'm 18 and I'm straight.

Sexuality, or who we have sex with,

is a major part to everyone's identity.

Except that for my generation, it seems we don't care

if that just happens to be both boys and girls.

According to the British sex survey, almost a quarter of young

British adults have had some sort of same-sex experience.

I've hooked up with girls before, yeah,

shit on a drunken night or something,

but nothing serious at all.

I think it's all changed, really. I think everyone...

If you snog your mate, then it doesn't mean you're gay as such,

you're just having a good time, normally.

I mean, I've been with guys and I've been with girls and it's like,

I'm not bisex... I wouldn't label myself as bisexual,

straight or whatever, I'm just like,

"I like you, so, yeah, I want you, so you're mine now."

So, is it true that the old labels and categories we had of gay

and straight have now been ditched?

This is mental. Like, I've just had a little look on the internet

and I've been completely bombarded by so many different types of sexuality.

Pansexual, heteroflexible, demisexual...

It's like sexuality is so much more fluid nowadays

and the lines between boys and girls are just increasingly blurred.

Maybe... Who knows, are we all a bit bi-curious?

For the next month, I want to meet the trailblazers of youth sexuality

who are redefining our sexual desires and preferences and find out

why young people are pushing the boundaries like never before.

From seaside towns where guys cop off with their straight mates...

I actually got off with him, like full-on...

It was a good kiss, it was a good kiss.

..to glamorous metropolitan sex parties where straight girls

get off with girls.

I don't see there's anything wrong with a girl having

lots of fun exploring her sexuality.

I mean, I don't know, is it going to be sex everywhere?

Like, where am I going to look?!

And as young people embrace this new fluid sexuality, I'll explore

how gender itself is helping to reshape this brave new world.

I think everyone's curious.

Every straight guy out there has had a curious thought.

And what about me?

As a straight guy, I want to see

whether my own sexuality really is set in stone,

and what happens when I let it all hang out.

No! Not a front thong!

They won't stay in!

She needs a bigger sock.

'Before I set off,

'I think it's a good idea if I lay my cards on the table.

'Here's a quick interview with me

'interrogating myself about my sexuality.'

To describe my sexuality I would say I'm straight,

I'm heterosexual.

Erm, I fancy girls and women

and I don't fancy men.

'Aren't you even a little bit curious, Tyger?'

I haven't got that curiosity in me

to sort of want to experiment with men.

I know maybe some people do, but I'm quite happy...

Well, at the moment, in my mind-set, I'm quite happy

to sort of stick to females.

'Oh, go on, you know you want to.'

Things change an awful lot and people have all kinds

of things that happen to them in their lives which make them certain

types of people, but in the frame of mind that I'm in at the moment,

I would say, quite strongly, I think I will be a straight man forever.

'So, now you know where I am.'

Thank you very much.

'Enough of me, I am starting to feel a little bit uncomfortable.'

But before we find out what's happening today,

let's go on a short journey back in time.

Being gay in your grandparents' day wasn't easy.

Nan might have got away with it, because lesbian sex was never

made illegal, although you were well advised to keep a low profile.

That's it, ladies, try and blend in.

For Grandpa, however, coming out of the closet meant going into prison.

And as we all know, nothing gay ever happens in there.

The sexual revolution kicked off with the contraceptive pill

in the 1960s. And with risk-free sex,

your mum and dad probably bought one of these.

It changed the way hairy straight couples in the suburbs

had sex forever.

Nah, I don't get that one...

But it was still all about the boxes -

straight, gay and nothing else.

# Karma, karma, karma, karma, karma chameleon... #

The '80s seemed to usher in a new, more open-minded era,

but then things all went a bit dark.

If you ignore AIDS, it could be the death of you.

After a couple of decades of safe sex and monogamy,

things began to lighten up,

and today, it seems that anything goes -

porn on tap, same-sex marriages,

Tom Daley coming out on YouTube...

# I kissed a girl just to try it... #

..and no-one seemed to blink an eye when Katy Perry kissed a girl.

No-one really cares whether they're gay or not, really, nowadays.

Well, to us, it don't really matter.

People are more accepting now of different sexualities, yeah.

I think you can like whoever you like,

and it shouldn't be important whether they're a girl or a boy,

just whether you're attracted to them.

Then do whatever you like.

Before I start my journey into this brave new world of sexuality,

there's just time for a last-minute pep talk.

Hello, Tyg.

'Ladies and gentlemen, back by popular demand - my dad.'

So, where are you off to now, then?

Erm, well, I'm just packing my bags because I'm off around the country

to meet other young people exploring their sexuality in...

Good.

..in interesting ways. To challenge myself, basically.

I mean, I don't know if you've ever heard this,

but there's a statistic on the internet that says

apparently 79% of people think that I'm gay.

-What?!

-Yeah, where do you think that comes from?

It's probably because you look a bit like Tom Daley.

But I don't know. Could it be that, something like that?

Because you look a bit like someone who's just come out as gay?

I don't think it's got anything to do with looking like anyone.

Well, it's the internet, so it must be true.

No, I mean...

Yeah, but I mean, do you honestly think... Really?!

I mean, would it ever bother you if I turned out to be gay?

No, of course not!

I mean, it'd be a bit of a shock.

'Well done. Very 21st-century dad answer.

'But I'm not entirely convinced.'

Got everything? Got clean pants?

Hmm... If I need to wear the same pair one day again, I will.

Well, yeah, I expect you can

just turn them inside out, you'll be fine.

I'll be fine. Going to be fun.

'Yeah, all right, Dad, I'm only going to London!'

It does seem that girls are more open than blokes

when it comes to being bi-curious.

According to the latest 2014 British sex survey,

the number of girls exploring their sexuality with other girls

has quadrupled in less than a decade.

I think women are more comfortable with getting off with women

-because of like emotional comfort.

-Yeah, they feel more secure.

Yeah, more secure, something like that.

I've got in with girls before. I think it's totally normal.

I've got in with girls that, like, thought of it as being

really weird and then being later, after getting with me, like,

"Oh, that was, actually, like, the same, it wasn't weird at all."

I don't think I would really, like,

blame a girl for getting off with another girl.

-Yeah, I'd be like, "Ooh!"

-Because girls are pretty like fit, like.

Yeah, if the other girl's fit, if the other girl's fit, it's cool.

Yeah!

To find out more about women and their sexual preferences,

I've come to London to meet 24-year-old part-time model Lauren

and her boyfriend Chris.

You look very nice.

Thank you.

'They've created a sex party club night for men and women.'

So, how many parties would you say you've been to, Lauren?

Oh, I...

Erm, I can't remember. Quite a few.

In a way, it kind of seems like a man's dream to go somewhere

-where there's a lot of willing beautiful women.

-Mm-hmm.

Erm, but it almost kind of seems like it would be different

from a female point of view.

Not all girls are like typical girls you think, like,

"Oh, I only want one boyfriend."

Some girls are just as sexually active as men and sometimes more.

And, you know, some girls like other girls and like to experiment

and stuff, so I think it's more fun for girls,

because they get the choice of having a boy or playing with a girl.

So, it seems that it's the women who are keenest to use

the parties to explore their sexuality.

I wanted to know more, so Chris agreed to show me

what happens at one of their nights.

I almost don't want to look at this page

-cos it's just going to make me get really horny.

-OK...

MOANING

'Don't get a boner, don't get a boner, don't get a boner...'

Oh, my God!

One of the things that I found interesting and quite

startling was that it's actually the girls that call the shots

and they're the ones that make the moves and invite you in, or not.

Why is that?

It's a great dynamic where everyone feels completely free

and not judged and can do whatever the fuck they want.

It's viewed as a bisexual girl- straight guy party, I think.

I don't know if you know how old I am, but I'm 18,

and 18's generally the age you get to do stuff.

So, is 18 the age that you can come to these parties at?

Yeah, 18 and over.

So, do you get many 18-year-olds?

Quite a few. You'd be surprised.

I'm not actually that surprised

because I can imagine this being something that a lot of people

heard about and think, "Right, as soon as I get to 18..."

A lot of, like, 18-year-old girls and guys...

It's not like it's disproportionately one sex,

it's like a real mixture of both, yeah.

You don't get so many 18-year-old couples,

like that's actually probably a smaller proportion,

but, yeah, lots of 18-year-old girls and guys.

A lot still doing their A-levels, which is quite random.

The idea that, like, I could potentially be doing that...

Yeah. Well, I mean, that's home cinema. That's, like, 12, 15,

maybe 20 couples come to that.

But then, the one at the weekend where you're coming to,

there's going to be about 70 couples

and about 20 single girls.

So, it's going to be like that, but a hundredfold.

'I just hope his club night is better than his maths!'

I'd seen the girls in action

and now I wanted to find out from Lauren just what this all means.

I've arranged to meet her at the park.

The problem is I suck at rollerblading, so I came for a jog.

This IS what joggers wear, right?

When was the last time you rollerbladed, then?

Erm, couple of weeks ago.

Just like walking but you don't really have to do anything.

I know, that's why I love it!

'I wanted to know what it is that makes girls

'so keen on these parties.'

It's a lot of fun, it's, you know, different, it's sexy,

it's kind of girls together and...

That's the thing, is it just you who's a bit like this,

or do you think it's kind of women as a whole?

-No, every single girl there will play with another girl.

-Really?!

-I mean, yeah, cos they...

-But surely that's like being bisexual.

For a guy, that would just never happen. Well, it would rarely happen.

Well, I don't see myself as bisexual or lesbian.

I'm bi-curious, you know? If I... I would never date a woman

and if I had a choice of a one-to-one with a guy or girl,

the guy would probably, you know, win.

But you can't deny there's something, you know,

with a really beautiful girl.

What can women do that men can't?

You know, some guys just get to the party and they just want a like,

quick kiss-kiss, stick it in, get the job done and go...

'Very romantic, lads.'

..where women are a bit more like, erm, they warm you up.

You know, women are really good at, like, kissing and touching

and they're really soft and gentle. I don't think I've ever come across

a girl that actually doesn't know what she's doing down there,

so I would say, yeah, they're probably...

the majority of them are better.

A great place for Lauren to meet like-minded girls,

the parties also give her the chance to explore sex in a whole new way

without labelling herself as gay or bisexual.

But whilst Lauren was a regular on the sex party scene,

this was going to be my first one

and I was feeling a little bit nervous.

-Hey, man.

-How's it going?

Yeah, good, you all right? Nice to see you.

God, it's absolutely beautiful, isn't it?

'Chris has asked me for a hand getting the venue ready

'for the party tonight.'

-You good, bro?

-Good, man.

Now I know what a chaise longue is for, I guess.

Have you seen how sweaty I am?

'And with everything ready, what else would you do before a sex party?

'High tea, of course.'

Thank you very much.

'For Lauren, the sex party is an arena where it's easy to explore.

'But that doesn't stop her getting stick for it.'

I do enjoy it, you know. I get to have a loving relationship

with a great guy who I love very much and also, you know,

explore your sexuality and have fun with other people.

It's a good balance. I wouldn't say it's for everyone,

but it works for us.

So, we just don't judge anyone else and hopefully no-one judges us!

What do you think about the girls at parties?

Do you think of them in a bad way?

Do you think they're sluts and stuff like that?

You can be honest.

Well, the thing is, it's a tricky question,

because the answer isn't yes,

but it isn't no.

Really, girls are more equipped to have more sex than guys.

Girls can have multiple orgasms going on for hours.

Guys, you know, have one-shot wonders, so why...?

They're built to have more sex than actual guys,

so I can't see how if a guy has loads of girls,

he's a lad and he's cool, but if a girl does, she's a slut.

Well, the bottom line is that I think it's unfair to judge

anyone before you know them.

So, how are you feeling about your first party?

I think I'm going to be a bit nervous with all the sort of

sexual energy in the room, and kind of knowing where to put myself.

Yeah, I think you'll get into the flow of it.

Hopefully... I think it should be quite good fun.

It'll be really...just interesting,

it'll be like a world I've never seen before. Yeah.

So, bring it on.

It's the night of the party

and clothes are already coming off upstairs.

Meanwhile, downstairs, I'm still struggling to get mine on.

MOANING

I'm a...

I'm a little bit shitting myself, I guess,

because I feel like if everyone's doing stuff around me,

where am I going to look?

Cos if I look, I'm probably going to get really horny,

or if I look and they make eye contact with me

I'm going to feel really uncomfortable and look away.

And I don't know, is it going to be sex everywhere or like...?

I've just got to go and see, haven't I?

'Girls getting off with girls is definitely a male fantasy,

'but you know what? Watching them,

'I realise it's just as much their fantasy, too.

'Only they're actually doing it and it's not for my benefit.

'It's all getting a bit steamy. I needed to get some fresh air.'

I've seen so many new things tonight.

I've seen sexuality in a completely different way.

I mean, the thing is,

girls are really completely running the shots in there.

'Back inside and I'm also getting a bit of attention.'

I told you, I wanted your cock

and then she's going to have your balls...

And then we'll pull you down and just have you.

-And Lauren was going to restrain you.

-Just touch his knob.

We planned it all out. We planned it all out.

What has happened to role reversal

when it's the guys saying, "Well done, good job,"

and the girls that go, "Get your cock out."

I've, erm, I've been hit on quite a few times.

Yeah. You will do,

and they're definitely going to try their hardest to boat you.

'Boat me? I didn't even know what that means!'

-Definitely.

-I won't, if it's all the same.

'Thanks, Chris.

'Lauren has shown me that, with girls, it's not just all talk.

'And girls really are out there exploring their sexuality,

'while not being given the old labels of gay or straight.

'They just want to have fun.'

You guys are sexual.

Yeah.

A lot of guys think girls like sex a lot less than men,

but I don't really feel that way any more.

Girls love sex, probably just as much or more than men.

And they completely rule the roost in here, which is quite

nice to see because normally you think guys are the one that rule.

But it's definitely turned in the party situation, so...

It's a really good thing for girls to do.

So, with girls more open to getting it on with girls,

then what about us boys?

It seems we're less adventurous

when it comes to experimenting with each other.

Naaaaaaaaaaah.

Sorry, we would not really get off with a guy.

Not what I'm into, but each to their own.

I'm not going to judge anyone else for doing what they like.

Whatever floats your boat.

I wouldn't get myself off with a man, no.

'Come on, guys, there must be someone!'

At the moment I'm straight. I know it could change.

You never know, if the right person comes along.

Might happen - I could go the other way.

I've come to Brighton to meet someone who is blazing

a trail for bi-curious boys everywhere.

Ever since George IV built a love shack on the beach here

more than 200 years ago, people have flocked to the sunshine coast

to pursue their sex lives away from prying eyes.

Today, Brighton is famous for its tolerant attitude to sexuality.

20-year-old university student Conner is into girls,

but he's also into boys. What he's not into is being labelled.

Would you say you are a guy that likes guys and some girls,

or girls and guys and...? I mean, what do you think?

I think, if anyone asked, I would just say I'm bisexual.

You know, it's the easiest thing to say.

At the same time, you know,

I don't think a lot of people like these sort of identities.

You can be so many different things

and you don't have to label yourself in a box.

We head on to the university and a club where size isn't everything.

# You'd better run, better run

# Outrun my gun... #

This isn't what I expected.

You've got a C which is probably the easiest one.

'Conner wants me to meet his friend Matt,

'who heads up the ukulele society.'

F then a G.

'For these guys, Brighton has struck a chord

'when it comes to looking at men and women in a different way.'

# Somewhere over the rainbow

# Way up high

# And the dreams that you dream of

# Once in a lullaby... #

'We head back to the house and pizza.

'I wonder - how do Conner's friends feel about him being bi-curious?'

He's been exploring himself,

which I think is brilliant.

I mean, he's a young man, you've not got any commitments, really.

-No, not at all.

-And you've just been kind of exploring what you like.

Obviously, I like guys,

and now I'm just sort of like back to where I was before,

so it's, like, girls, guys,

and I can just sort of, you know...

I'm not really sure where I go next, to be fair.

Is it just the case that you're now, sort of,

having more honest conversations,

because you're not afraid to say "Oh, yeah, I like this boy"?

It's much more easy. I don't have to sort of hide a part of me away.

I just sort of say what's on my mind to you guys now.

And like, I'm so comfortable with him to the point that at Halloween

I actually got off with him, like, full-on.

Yeah, we were pretty...

It was a good kiss. It was a good kiss.

How did you feel about it?

I mean, because you've got a different sexuality,

was there any part of you that thought,

"This is a bit weird cos he's my friend

"and I'm enjoying sexually getting off with him"?

It wasn't a big deal, because we didn't make it a big deal.

And why should it be?

I love him, I do.

It's just... I physically expressed that, I guess.

But it doesn't make me think of myself as not heterosexual

because I was being bi-curious about it.

What about you guys?

I genuinely do appreciate an attractive woman.

And, yeah, I might want to sort of, like, joke around or whatever,

but I don't think it would...

I don't think I could ever necessarily have a relationship

with another woman.

But that's not to say that I would completely rule it out

for the entirety of my life.

I do see the person more than the body.

It is rarer to see guys.

Yeah, because there is that whole sort of masculinity issue.

Yeah, people feel like it threatens your masculinity,

but I think it's just a different way of expressing your masculinity.

So, where are we planning to go tonight?

We're going to Revenge,

which is a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer club.

'Conner's mates seem cool about him exploring his sexuality.

'They're even up for a bit of experimentation themselves.'

MUSIC: Can't Hold Us by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis feat. Ray Dalton

'But part of me can't help but wonder,

'what if this is just a cover for Conner being gay?

'I'll have to wait until the morning to ask that question.'

Are those sausages looking nice, Andrew?

Yep, yeah. Getting on their way now.

I think I'm ready to have one of your sausages.

Happy with the sausages.

Even, like, in gay communities,

people still think bisexuality doesn't exist.

A lot of people just say, "Oh, you know,

"he just can't come to grips with it and just say he's gay".

If I was gay, I would just tell everyone.

You know, it would be a whole lot easier.

Because you're getting discrimination from both sides -

both straights and gays.

Once you get people talking about it

and realising it's not just straight or gay,

people will be more influenced to come out

and explore their sexualities themselves.

'Later, on we pop out to a local pub for an open-mic night

'for the open-minded.'

There's a really nice vibe in here, it's kind of like

you can tell that everyone feels completely at home

and everyone just really wants to be themselves

and definitely seems like a more...

..liberal.

There's definitely a lot of people who aren't just straight in here.

There's a lot of variety in the way that people are dressed

and the sex that people have got their arms round and stuff.

It seems quite all right, to be honest.

-Thank you very much!

-CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

'What is it with ukuleles in Brighton?

'What I didn't know was just who was up next.'

I think Conner's going to say something in a minute.

Please put your hands together for Conner.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

So, yeah, erm, pretty much like this time last year

I was kind of ashamed.

Like, ashamed of who I was.

I kind of let bigoted and ignorant minds tell me

that there was something wrong with me.

That there was something to hide

rather than something to be proud of.

Also, so that other people, you know, like myself

can be the person who I should be,

and be true to myself.

So, erm, yeah, I'm Conner,

I'm 20 years old, I'm ambidextrous,

I'm mixed race and I'm bisexual.

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

Having spent time with Conner and his friends in Brighton,

it got me thinking about my own sexuality.

It seems to me like we're the first generation

that have actually got this outlook

of just do what you want. You know, who cares?

In the past, it was a lot harder to live like that.

We're obviously so much more open and so much more...

not really fussed.

Because again, we were saying obviously you can appreciate a guy.

You know, does that make you still 100% heterosexual?

You know, where do you draw the line?

For how much do you say, fancy a guy, how much do you fancy a girl?

There are so many more similarities than differences with most people.

A lot of people historically have always focused

on the small differences

rather than the huge striking similarities between people.

'I've always accepted that I was straight and have never questioned it

'cos I've never had those thoughts,

'but you don't have to sort of set a sexuality for yourself, really.'

It's just, like, be yourself.

Do what you want to do in that moment,

If it's with a girl - do it with a girl.

If it's with a guy - do it with a guy.

I think it so happens that a lot of people will only ever fancy girls.

But what Conner's taught me is that it's much more fluid,

and open to change than I think I previously thought it was.

'And me? Well, I might not be ready to jump into bed with another man,

'but I am beginning to see things differently.

'I've arranged to meet Dad in our local,

'and as Britain's most famous male porn star,

'I was keen to get Dad's take on all this bi-curious sexuality stuff.'

I don't know if this is something you would be familiar with,

given your profession, Dad.

But I went to a sex party...

Oh, yeah. Right, OK.

Have you ever been to a sex party?

A few times, yeah.

The odd one or two! Yes...

-But there's just women everywhere, like...

-Having sex with other women.

Having sex with other women.

Yeah, that's what they do, man. That's just the...

Why is that? Why aren't men doing it?

I always remember, when you turn up to a shoot

and it's two girls and a guy's supposed to turn up,

and the guy doesn't turn up.

You just go, "Well, we'll just do a two-girl lesbian thing."

The girls are, "Yeah, all right, then", know what I mean?

I always thought, and I'd always say to my crew,

can you imagine if we were doing a scene with two guys and a girl

and the girl never turned up? You'd say to the guys,

"OK, Rob, John, the girl hasn't turned up,

"so we'll just do a quick gay scene."

"Yeah, yeah. No problem, Ben." It ain't never going to happen.

You know, I was 11 years old before homosexuality

was made legal, you know what I mean?

I spent the first 11 years of my life

with people going to jail for being gay, so, you know...

And as we've moved on, the world's moved on in a good way.

You know, at the end of the day, people are going to experiment

and obviously, with the world the way that it is at the moment,

it's much more acceptable to be that

and to "swing both ways", as we used to say.

So far, I've met straight girls who go with girls,

and straight boys who go with boys.

So, maybe young people are ditching the labels

and embracing this new fluid sexuality.

I'm heading north to meet someone who's thrown the rule book

out the window altogether.

He was born a guy who was gay,

but is now a girl who is straight,

but still wants to keep her penis.

Not long ago touched down in sunny old Scotland,

Aberdeen, which from my geographical knowledge is fairly north.

We've been driving north for about an hour now,

so I pretty much feel like I'm in the middle of nowhere.

'I'm meeting Brooke who's 20

'and lives in the tough fishing port of Peterhead.'

I'm Tyger, you all right?

-I'm Brooke, nice to meet you.

-Nice to meet you.

Come on in.

Where shall I put this? Shall I just shove it there?

Just shove it in there, make yourself feel at home.

So, erm...

So, when did you come out as transgender?

I came out maybe four months ago.

I actually came out on Facebook to everyone,

because everyone just knew me as a cross-dresser.

And the one way to get it out and to change my name

from my birth name to Brooke, I had to...

Well, I felt like I had to say it on Facebook. So, yeah...

What was your name before?

Colin...is my birth name.

I identify as a straight woman.

Many people will still...

even in the town, people will still call me "him",

still call me "Colin". But there's a few, like, times where people

would come up and physically hit me, spit on me,

and I've started to defend myself, you know.

I had to start fighting back, I just feel like I have to,

cos if I don't, it's not going to go anywhere.

People are still going to be the same,

so it's just about defending who I am.

Even though Brooke's open about her gender and sexuality,

she gets a tough time from parts of the local community.

There are an estimated 300,000-500,000 people

classed as transgender

'living in Britain and, although more trans people are visible today,

'abuse is something they experience on a regular basis.

'Shockingly, statistics show that nearly half transgender young

'people have attempted suicide.

'Even though Brooke gets abuse at night,

'it's the daytime that freaks her out the most.'

Does it make you feel anxious? Are you feeling anxious now?

I feel really anxious right now. And it's not because you're here,

it's actually just because it's during the day.

During the day, I feel like they see me more like a freak.

At night, I feel like people embrace me a little bit more.

It goes back to, like, guys, where they wouldn't look at me twice

during the day. I've literally seen people walk across the road just to

try and avoid me and then the next weekend they'll be buying me drinks.

So I think it's because they don't want anyone else knowing

how they feel or what they're into.

'It seems that even up here sexuality is opening up,

'and Brooke is having a big impact.

'Although she's only just become a woman,

'there's plenty of local lads who want to get intimate with her.'

So, one minute they're like big, burly fishermen,

and then the next minute they're chatting you up.

It's kind of like... I mean, what IS their sexuality?

I think... I think they're straight.

You know, because to me they're not sleeping with me cos I'm a man,

it's the woman side that's catching them in the net.

But I mean, you've still got a willy. How do they feel about that?

99% of the time they're fine with that.

A lot of it comes down to more than just sucking my dick

or me giving a guy whatever.

Right, there we go.

-Do you think that's OK?

-That's fine. That's fine.

'Brooke and I are getting on well. We're like old friends in fact.'

Feel how thin that is. That's like dental floss.

If you've run out of dental floss tonight you can use this weave.

It is thin ,actually.

Really, really thin. How weird's that?

That is really weird.

'I thought I was kind of starting to get my head around sexuality a bit,

'like, you know we've got bisexuals and gays and lesbians and stuff,

'and that was all still quite simple.'

But actually, sexuality is such an individual thing.

For someone like Brooke,

she was born as Colin,

came out as a gay man, started a transformation into a woman,

and now identifies as a straight woman.

But she still wants to keep her penis.

Sexuality is a really individual thing,

and you can't put people in boxes.

What box would you put Brooke in?

'It's not exactly easy for me to get my head around Brooke's sexuality,

'so I can't imagine what it must be like for her family.

'I've persuaded Brooke to invite them over for Sunday lunch.'

So, do you have any herbs?

No. Do we? I don't know.

So, how come you live on your own?

-My dad kicked me out.

-Really?

-Yeah.

What happened was, I was out, I was dressed in suspenders,

and I think it was one of his friends took a picture

and sent it to my dad and he just went off on one.

Why do you think he finds it so hard to accept you?

I think because he...

he was a boxer, and he was really good at boxing,

he was professional and done very well,

and I think, being the only boy,

you know, he had dreams for me

to follow in his footsteps and I kind of went the opposite.

So, I think...

..it crushed his dreams for me but... You know.

-But that's not your dream, is it?

-True. But it must be hard.

You know, in your mind, it must be like,

"Well, my son has got to do this."

Right, let's put that in the oven. Put it up to like 220, I think...

'It isn't just the chicken that's about to get a grilling though.'

There we go.

So, would you ever experiment with a transgender?

Is it something that makes...? Is it appealing to you?

Like, would you...?

I don't think I can say no, cos I don't know.

Poss... It's not something that interests me at this point in time.

So, does that mean you...?

Cos a lot of people would see you as gay, then?

Although I don't see it, and other people don't,

you would get branded "gay", cos I still have the bits.

Even though I would be attracted to you as a woman.

I think the answer's definitely not no, as in...

So, you wouldn't rule it out?

No. It's this idea that your sexuality is such a fluid thing.

How do I know what I'm going to be like in 20 years' time?

Well, there you go.

-How do you know who you're going to be with or...?

-Yeah.

-Hiya.

-Hiya.

'Mum Jackie is here, together with her other daughters,

'but Dad won't be tucking in to my delicious roast chicken.'

Yum, yum, yum.

-You want a hand?

-Erm...

You're demolishing it!

You still call him Colin?

Yeah, I still call him Colin because...I'm his mother,

and it's a big change for me to call him Brooke, you know.

When he got kicked out, how did you feel about that?

I felt awful. Aye, really bad.

Why didn't you allow him to stay?

I did allow him to stay.

But it was his... the relationship between him

and my husband, it was so bad, the tension was so bad in the house

and everybody was just... it was just a nightmare.

What do you think of Brooke?

I just think I'm proud of him.

Proud of who he is,

and I'm glad that he's doing what's making him happy.

I love him unconditionally so it doesn't matter what he does,

or anything, or who he wants to be, that's never going to change.

I just love him and that's it.

And I always will.

That's what mothers do.

-Tyger?

-Yep.

-Do you want to fake tan my back?

Sure.

'It's a Saturday night and the biggest event on Brooke's calendar.'

If I do this wrong, will you be cross at me?

I'll be raging. I'll be raging.

'We're heading out on the town and she wants to look her best.'

So, that will do the now.

Where actually are you in your sort of transformation kind of

process of becoming a woman?

I am at the beginning stages.

Basically, I went to my doctor

and I'm on the waiting list to see a psychologist - someone who

comes and basically diagnoses you as being transgender.

-And so would you have your penis removed?

-I'm not sure.

My penis, I don't see it as masculine, although I know it

seems like that but I don't know why I should need to get it removed.

Sexual pleasure would be the main reason why I would keep it,

because things can get kinky in the bedroom, you know,

for whatever reasons.

What if your girlfriend says, "Look, Tyger,

"I really want to do you,"

would you do it?

I don't...I don't think I would. Only because...

This sounds terribly crude,

but I've stuck my fingers up my bum in the bath before and...

I don't think it feels very nice, it feels weird, and then...

water gets up there and then you have to squirt it out in the bath.

-OK...

-LAUGHTER

'Come on, guys, back me up here. We've all done it, right?!'

As you do...!

'Only me, then.'

-MAN:

-Where did that come from?

LAUGHTER CONTINUES

'Come on, be professional, yeah, guys?'

Do you think rather than just being one thing like a label

that, you know, sexuality is actually more than that?

By labelling something, you're kind of missing out on a lot.

But you like what you like.

You know, if you want to label it something, label it,

but I think everyone's curious.

Every straight guy out there has had a curious thought.

And I don't care what they say cos it's true.

I've spoken to many, many gay and straight guys

and they all say the same.

It's whether or not they are wanting to pursue it.

Stepping out with a 6'5" trans-woman

in a remote fishing village makes me feel exposed,

especially since Brooke is subject

to verbal and physical abuse on a regular basis.

But that's not going to stop her showing me the high life.

Some people seem pleased to see us,

others I'm not so sure about.

I was feeling a little bit uncomfortable,

and part of me wishes we weren't quite so visible.

But when you want to blend in, what do you do?

Grab the mic and sing karaoke.

Remember, you're staying with me tonight.

And guess what - Mum's even here.

# White lips, pale face

# Breathing in snowflakes

# Burnt lungs, sour taste... #

Woo!

# ..They say she's in the Class A Team

# Stuck in her daydream

# She's been this way since 18 but lately... #

A few pints later, we're off with best friend Jordan to a nightclub.

And I don't mind admitting

that I'm starting to see Brooke in a new light.

This might sound very, very strange, but...

I mean, this is so strange I can almost not bring myself to say it

-but...

-You fancy me.

-I fancy you more than some women.

Well, I fucking hope so. I hope so!

And that's the really weird thing because I know

that genetically you're a guy

and then genetically some people are women,

but I still don't fancy them.

But, wait,

it's not to do with gender that way, it's just to do with appearance.

Like you say,

I was born male, right,

but I still present myself as a female,

and better than a lot of females.

I would've never thought...

I'm going to be the safe one.

Go now!

'But not everyone is impressed by my admiration for Brooke.

'By changing from a boy to a girl,

'Brooke has really shaken up this small town.

'She might be sexy to many of the boys,

'but some girls seem threatened by her.'

-Are you OK?

-Mm-hm.

All right, you. Are you joking? Basic bitch.

What is that all about? Honestly, why? Why?

What are you all about?

-You know what?

-I'll smash your face in.

-She's better looking than you are.

-Oi!

I'm sorry, maybe...

You see this is where the 50% comes in,

-the 50% comes in.

-The thing is, like...

You know, I don't even need to be in any special type of relationship with

you to know that that is just not how humans should treat each other.

We're part of a society and it's this generation that is having this

freedom to do this sort of thing,

so why should people still be doing that?

See, sometimes when I'm drunk, I'm like, "Are you joking me?"

And I'll look at the woman that's calling me a man

and I'm thinking to myself,

"I'm more woman than she will ever be."

Keep in mind, I've got a cock. You know, and it is what it is.

I'm like people need to fucking realise it's not that big of a deal.

People have got a bigger problem with it than I have!

But I'm the one that's going through it, like...what's that about?

-I know. This is such a strange thing.

-Fuck you!

When a bitch comes up to me, what do you expect?

Are you laughing at her?

INDISTINCT

LAUGHTER

No, Brooke, Brooke, Brooke,

darling, darling, darling...

-I'm no' dealing with that.

-Brooke. Brooke, he's not laughing at you.

Calm down.

Calm down.

Now. Calm it.

See that shit, I don't like it.

Brooke, come on, have a good night, have a good night.

Put your shoes back on, have a good night.

I think living somewhere like Peterhead, life is probably

always going to be quite difficult for Brooke.

They've got very traditional views on what sexuality should be

and how people should act.

And so, when Brooke expresses her sexuality so openly in such

a different way, I think that's why she gets such hostility from it.

Perhaps she needs to leave Peterhead to avoid becoming the village freak

that she fears, and follow her dream of becoming a make-up artist.

How am I looking?

I think you're looking fierce.

-Fierce.

-Fierce.

Like a tiger?

Like a tiger.

You look a bit like a drag queen.

I thought you were going to look like Pocahontas.

I really thought I was going to do a good job of this but...

-Do I look bad?

-You don't look bad. You look pretty though.

'But what have I learnt about myself?

'Being with Brooke, it's just really shown me actually that

'penises and guys and stuff, you know, it's...

'you know, it's not the end of the world. It's just...

'it's just a body and a person.'

I don't need to start thinking I'm gay

because I don't feel like I am,

I still feel like I'm attracted to women but,

you know, the idea of

maybe getting with a guy now seems much, much more OK to me.

Like what's the problem with it?

Brooke has made me feel so much more sexuality confident

that I feel I'm ready to step into a world that

I would never have ventured into before.

I'm heading south to Manchester, where I'm joining a group of lads

who mix gender and sexuality in a completely mad way.

-You all right?

-Nice to meet you.

-I'm Tyger.

-I'm Lawrence.

-All right, Lawrence, nice to meet you.

-I'm John.

-Nice to meet you.

-I'm Michael.

-Michael, nice to meet you.

These guys run one of Manchester's biggest new club nights -

Cha Cha Boudoir.

They've reinvented the drag act as a way for young people to

reveal something about their inner sexuality,

be that man, woman, straight, gay, whatever.

And, come Friday night,

I'll be revealing something of my own new sexuality on stage.

Drag's about what you bring through and what you want to do with it.

It gives us a lot of opportunities to really, really play,

not only with gender forms, but also with those aspects of sex

and sexuality that we don't get to explore.

Contemporary drag isn't just female impersonation.

There's all those elements that make up a drag queen,

it's just choosing the parts you want to use so you can, you know,

still wear the corset and the nails and the wig, but you don't

necessarily have to be a woman, you can be a wolf or whatever.

I feel comfortable but, you know what, I think it's something

that I probably would have felt weirder doing

at the start of my "adventure", as you called it,

rather than now, where I've kind of come to terms with more of this

idea of people being slightly more out there.

I think I'm actually quite looking forward to it.

Come Friday night, and I'll be showing the world the inner Tyger.

Try a size 14.

'I've got a few days to get my costume together with

'the help of uni students John and Lawrie,

'AKA Liquorice Black and Violet Blanc.'

-It's a bit erm...

-Tight around there.

You're going to be tucked on the night so you're going to

have like a gaff that essentially pushes your balls up inside you

and keeps your willy pulled between your legs so

you look flat down there. But it looks good!

I've also got to choreograph my own performance and learn a song.

-They were so fucking good.

-You're going to be good.

On Friday night,

it won't be just me on stage revealing my inner sexuality.

I didn't quite realise the level of competition.

They're more like high energy,

-whereas that boy's trying to tell a story in a different way.

-Yeah.

If you sashayed around like that,

-it would look a bit weird on you.

-Yeah.

'Everyone I've met on my journey has had a big impact on me.

'But actually, letting go of my straight-boy self today is

'turning out to be more difficult than I imagined.

'It's a bit like learning to walk again,

'something I'm also struggling with today.'

APPLAUSE AND CHEERING

Why are you even clapping?

It's really hard, isn't it?

It can be horrible.

It's really hard.

Personally, I think I did shit. Oh, well.

-It went well, it went well.

-It was cracking.

-It was all right.

-It was!

-Thank you.

Flipping hell.

'With just a day to go, I'm still struggling,

'so Violet has arranged for me to meet his boyfriend, Frank.

'Born in Manchester he had a tough upbringing.

'He lived with his girlfriend for seven years

'and had a daughter with her before he came out as gay.

'He really does know what it means to struggle with your sexuality.'

So, what was it like when you were in your straight relationship?

But I guess you kind of knew that you were gay?

It started to get to a point where it was all

I could think about, I tried to fight it for ages,

and I mean ages,

and then I decided it was making me more ill doing it

than it was to be truthful to myself. Do you know what I mean?

It's like there's an invisible rule book for every man.

So, for every man you have to do certain things - you have to

be into sport, you have to wear this, you have to wear that,

you have to act a certain way. It's you that's got to live

with yourself at the end of the day so why would you lie to yourself?

Do you think there's something beyond this whole idea of male,

female, gay, bi, straight and...?

I think we're all just beings, we're all just beings,

but as humans we like to put words to things

to explain them, to make it easier on ourselves

because really no-one's got a clue what's going on.

Everyone is both, everyone is everything and nothing all in one,

and I think as soon as we're born we're told, "Boy, girl, boy,"

just because you've got a dick or a fanny,

and I think that's bollocks.

You can have a fanny and still be a lad inside,

you can have a dick and be a woman inside.

I think it's who you love, it's not what you love.

Frank nailed it for me, right there on a street corner in Manchester.

There are no rules when it comes to sexuality.

The only thing that matters is who you love, not what you love.

I think when I first heard that almost 80%

of people presumed that I might be gay...

I don't want to say insulted but

I kind of guess I did feel almost slightly insulted.

But now I'm just like, "Yeah, cool, think that if you want."

It's just kind of, I've learnt how...

how OK it is to be not straight.

The big night has arrived and the new Tyger is starting to take shape.

# Caroline laughs and it's raining all day

# Loves to be one of the girls... #

Have they explained the intricacies of tucking to you?

-Yes.

-Are you going to use duct tape or a gaff?

-A gaff.

-Gaff's good because you can go for a wee.

That's what I used to use before I chopped my willy off.

'This is Grace, a transsexual make-up artist.

'She's here to help transform me beyond recognition.

'And that's Violet, just in case you didn't recognise her.'

There you are then, darling. Looking fierce.

What do you think?

# I feel like a woman. #

LAUGHTER

# Pretty in pink... #

'With my make-up done, it's time to get rid of my penis.'

So, balls in, then kind of fold the ball sack around it

and then pull the dick right back and then pull your gaff.

'But there's a problem.'

LAUGHTER

No, not a front thong!

They won't stay in!

OK, what about that?

Yeah, pull it tight, wedgie yourself with it.

She needs a bigger sock, honey.

-You need a sport sock.

-I thought you were trying to tell me

-I had a big dick.

-Who's got a sports sock?

Just relax, Mama Grace the transsexual will teach you

how to get rid of your genitalia.

Put your legs in there.

-I'm not looking.

-That's all right.

-Tuck it all.

-So, these go in?

-So, the balls go in.

OK, cool, go, go, go, go, go!

There we go, that's much wider, that's better.

Oh, yes, that's much better.

She's a girl!

The funny thing is I feel like there's going to be a bump

in between my legs where my penis actually is.

Nobody's going to see there

unless you're doing like a split or something.

She does do a split in the number.

This is like, miraculously uncomfortable.

Yeah, welcome to being a woman.

I used to do that every day for, like, ten years.

It doesn't only hurt your penis, it also hurts your bum crack

-cos you've got...

-A thing in it, yeah.

-You've got a thing in it.

But you look like a gorgeous, beautiful woman now.

'It's taken us nearly four hours to get ready

'but the transformation is almost complete.

'We have ceased to be men or women, gay or straight,

'we are just out of this world.'

Pull it forwards. She looks fit.

-Have you looked at yourself in the mirror?

-Not properly.

I still feel like... I feel like I am a man

but I'm about to let the feminine side of me escape.

And now you're a cross-dresser, as well.

It's all downhill from here.

You look fabulous, darling.

Thank you very much. I think you've done a fantastic job.

You look amazing. Go fierce it out, bitch.

That's what I'm talking about.

Oh, my Lord!

You look fierce, you look amazing!

-Thank you!

-Look at her ass, girl!

So what do I call you? Is it Tyger?

I think it's just Tyger, yes.

It's a really weird moment. I feel...

I never thought I could feel quite so feminine.

But, erm, yeah...

'The moment has arrived - it's time for me

'to show the world something of the inner sexuality of Tyger Drew-Honey.'

The moment is here.

I'm going to be going on stage in a minute.

This is not something I would even know anything about a month ago,

but now I'm here and I'm loving it and I'm excited.

All the way from BBC television,

the wonderful Tyger Drew-Honey!

CHEERING

# I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath

# Scared to rock the boat and make a mess

# So I sit quietly

# Agree politely

# You held me down, but I got up

# Get ready cos I've had enough

# I see it all, I see it now

# I got the eye of the tiger

# A fighter

# Dancing through the fire

# Cos I am a champion

# And you're gonna hear me roar

# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

# You're gonna hear me roar

# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

# Oh-oh-oh, oh, oh, oh, oh-oh-oh

# You'll hear me roar

CHEERING

# You're gonna hear me roar. #

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

If you were to say to me three weeks ago,

"Think about getting off with a guy,"

I'd have been like, "Ugh." Like, "Why? That's disgusting."

But actually now, after the things I've experienced and stuff, it's kind

of like I'm actually struggling to see what the problem with that is.

Yes, I'm attracted to girls, but it's just a guy, you know.

Why can't people just let go and stop caring?

If we did all let go, who knows what's going to happen?

You might be pleasantly surprised.

So, what have I learned about the sexuality of the 21st century?

I met a man with a small instrument that likes guys as much as girls,

and has mates who love to kiss him.

I met a girl who loves sex with girls as much as sex with boys.

And I met a man who became a woman, who wants to keep a penis

because it's kinky in the bedroom and drives the local fishermen wild.

And I met a bunch of lads who have mashed up everything we know about

gender and sexuality to create a world in which anything is possible.

As for myself, the straight boy,

well, I've learned that actually I'm more of a fluid, crazy, tiger,

man, woman, beast who's not afraid of what the future might hold.

It's time to ditch the categories, the tick boxes and the labels.

There's a whole big world out there to explore,

so bring it on.

# Somewhere over the rainbow

# Way up high

# And the dreams that you dreamed of

# Once in a lullaby

# High, oh... #