Becky has found it hard bonding with her baby Kenzie as he is a constant reminder of his father, who died aged just 16. Is pregnant Davita too reliant on her mum?
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Trying to be a teenager and a mum at the same time is pretty hard
because I'm mostly in the house with Kenzie until it's bed time.
I would like her to bond better with Kenzie, I really would.
Becky still hankers after this "I want my old life back."
-Have you got a kiss for Nana?
You're tight with your kisses, aren't you?
'Sixteen-year-old Becky is mum to fourteen month old, Kenzie.'
'I was fifteen-years-old when I got pregnant.'
I always planned to have my first baby when I was twenty three
and when I found out I was pregnant I thought, "Oh, no, my life's over."
No, you're not getting my cup of tea.
'Becky and Kenzie live in Fife with her mum, Trish and ten-year-old brother, George.'
Your Nana's spoilt boy. 'There was rumours going around that Becky may be pregnant.'
Of course, I questioned Becky when she came in from school
and she denied it.
'She was determined that she was gonna get it out of me by asking me, "Do you want to tell me anything?"'
"Is there anything important to tell me?" and I was like, "No."
Eventually, after about half an hour she admitted it and I flew into a rage.
The argument got so bad with the shouting at each other that she called the police.
She wanted me lifted.
This was Kenzie's... Well, my first scan.
You can see his ribs and his head.
'Being a mum is, is good but it's stressful as well.'
It stops you from doing a lot of things that you, you used to do.
'My life used to be like, fun.' Picture of Kenzie.
'I didn't think about condoms or nothing. I was just having fun.'
I thought I won't get pregnant so what's the point.
'Becky was with her boyfriend for a month when she fell pregnant.'
'I met Kenzie's dad and then we kinda just got together, got drunk'
and stuff that teenagers do.
But then, couple of weeks later, I found out I was pregnant.
'Throughout her pregnancy and after the birth, the couple were on and off.
'But before they'd had a chance to work things out, Kenzie's dad was gone from their lives.'
'I have never met and, unfortunately, will never meet Kenzie's dad.'
Unfortunately, he died last year.
'Kenzie was seven months old when his sixteen year old dad died suddenly in his sleep.'
'Four days before he passed away, he got me on my knees'
and he cuddled me and he says, "I love you and tell Kenzie I love him too
"and give him a cuddle and a kiss from me."
'And that was the last time I seen or heard from him.'
There's Kenzie's dad's Facebook. I've put "There's your wee boy.
"He's getting a lot like you now. He can say 'daddy' now."
And then I said, "Why, why, why did you have to go?
"It wasn't your time, not now, not ever, I miss you loads now."
'He was my first sexual partner so I felt him as special'
and he's still special.
'Losing Kenzie's dad so soon after the birth has had an impact on her relationship with her son.'
Becky's attitude towards Kenzie at one stage was "Don't want you any more because your dad's not here
"and I'm stuck with a reminder of him."
Kenzie, pack it in!
'There are days and there seems to be more and more of them
'that Becky could quite easily live without Kenzie.'
I try to help Becky bond with Kenzie by trying to leave them alone but that can be quite hard as well
because she finds it very difficult to cope with him.
'Fifteen-year-old Davita is expecting a baby girl in just four weeks.'
I was fourteen when I got pregnant. At first, when I started getting a bump, I was quite embarrassed
cos people was just taking it that I was a slag and I'd slept round
with loads of people but the baby's dad was the first person I slept with and I only slept with him once.
That was my twenty-one week scan when I found out what I was having.
When I found out I was having a girl, I was happy.
'I'm calling her Kayla.'
'Davita lives in Morecambe with mum, Jackqui and older brother.'
'Finding out your fourteen-year-old daughter is pregnant...
'It's a huge thing to cope with. It's a huge thing.'
First two weeks, I think I just cried my way through the first two weeks,
I felt heartbroken, I just looked at her and every time I looked at her,
I thought, she's only fourteen.
'In a way it felt a bit like grieving. I'd lost my little girl.
'Even now I look at Davita and I think it's a child within a child.'
'In this difficult time, Jackqui has turned to her local church for support.'
Going to church is an important part of our lives.
It has been through my children's upbringing.
'Davita was baptised when she was twelve
'and she too finds comfort in the church.'
Church has been quite a big support at times.
If you're going through a sad stage, if you go to church then you can talk to people about it
and just like, get all your emotions out and you feel much better.
'I did ask our minister to announce that Davita was pregnant
'in church so that everybody knew what was happening.
'I feel that God is not going to condemn anybody'
because you've made this decision to keep this baby or not keep this baby
or even to have sex when you're not married.
'It doesn't mean it's OK but we all make mistakes
'and we have to live with them in the best way that we can.'
The whole sex before marriage thing, it's not really brought up much in our church.
It's people's decisions if they want to.
'People don't go against you if you decide not to.'
This is Davita's favourite meal at the moment.
Often tend to do whatever it is that Davita wants.
She is a bit spoilt.
Davita, did you want to come and take these plates in then, please?
'Davita is now spending most of her time at home with her mum.'
'I miss being at school, for the fact that I don't get to see my friends as much.
'Some days during the week I go to the children's centre.'
But if I'm not doing anything then I just sit and watch telly.
'I spend most of my time with my mum at the moment.'
-You scared then?
-I'm not scared yet, no. I will be when my waters break.
'As well as her mum, Davita sees one other friend regularly,
fellow mum-to-be, seventeen-year-old Tara.
I think I'm more excited but when it happens, I'll be like... Yeah, it's happening now.
-Are you ever on your own?
-I don't like to be now, do I?
No, I'm never too far away so I can be available at any time really.
With Davita, she likes to know that I'm somewhere nearby
that she can get in touch with me and that I can be there ASAP.
As long as she knows Mum's somewhere nearby, she's OK.
The biggest part of my life is my mum.
'Before I got pregnant, me and my mum were close but not as close as we are now.
'We do everything together and I tell her absolutely everything.'
'In Fife, sixteen-year-old Becky is having problems adapting to life with a fourteen month old child.'
-Are you helping?
-If you want me to.
Come on then. His jammy's are through here.
Without my mum, I probably wouldn't be able to survive
as she helps me with everything.
You taking your shirt off?
'I prefer her to help me cos that way I don't get stressed and angry.'
Where's Mum? Has she disappeared at the crucial point again?
And gets Nana to do it.
'I remember her coming through to my room one morning, throwing him on the bed saying, "You deal with him,
'"I can't do this." He was less than two weeks old.'
What are you wanting for your tea, George?
'I feel like a mum to all three of them'
because Becky's always saying, "Oh, Mum, will you do that with him and get him out of my hair."
It's just like I'm separating siblings rather than a mother and her son.
-Do you want to feed him?
-He's your boy. You feed him.
'She's just realising that he's here for the rest of her life and his life.'
-What do you mean, "No"? Night, night, Kenzie.
'I love this time of the night when Kenzie's in his bed.'
It's my time of the night. I can't wait till it comes
cos then we both get out rest and get peace and quiet from each other.
'I can do what I want.' Night, Kenzie.
-Yeah, two minutes.
'Becky goes to college one afternoon a week.
'The rest of the time she is either at home or helping her mum at work.'
I have a small cleaning business and Becky comes with me
on days that are usually quite busy.
Bye, Kenzie, two minutes.
I go to work with my mum when I can be bothered
but half the time, she drags me out my bed because she doesn't want me on the couch all day.
'So that Becky doesn't feel too overwhelmed, Kenzie goes to a child minder five days a week,
paid for with tax credits and topped up by Trisha.'
'She gets paid for him if he's there or not so it's wasting the money if he's not down there.'
-Would you like to have Kenzie during the day?
-No, I like my peace and quiet.
'During the week she doesn't really have Kenzie very much
'because she can't handle Kenzie very well on her own.'
Kenzie would do her head in by the end of the week.
'Over the past year, Becky has suffered from depression on and off.
'Mum, Trisha wants to make sure she doesn't go down that path again.'
We have to get you sorted because once you're sorted,
you might be a little bit happier about yourself.
-You end up shouting at Kenzie and shouting at me and...
-No, I don't.
If you had something to look forward to and to focus on, you might be a lot happier.
I'm not having you sitting on the settee doing absolutely nothing, all day, watching the telly.
-You had big ideas when you were younger.
-Aye, working in a pub in Spain.
You wanted to run your own bar. That's quite an ambition.
-If you can't...
-I want to be a midwife. I want to see it from the other end.
If you want to be a midwife, great.
'Becky missed her GCSEs because of her pregnancy
'and has to do a catch up class before she can move on.'
I'm feeling stressed, sad, angry. It's really, really boring
and it's like you've learnt that thing in high school
and then you go up to the college and it's like, "I've already learnt that."
And they're like, "Well, you have to learn it again."
I want to get stuck in to midwifery.
I want to be able to wake up in the morning and think, "Right, college today."
I just want to see you happy.
'Back in Morecambe, fifteen-year-old Davita is 37 weeks pregnant
and going to see her midwife.
Thank you. What are mums for, Davita?!
'The father of Davita's baby is not around
so mum, Jackqui goes with her to all her antenatal appointments.
Just have a check. Ooo, that head is well fixed down. The baby is in the right position
for you to go into labour. That's brilliant, good.
'Me and the baby's dad don't talk at all any more.
'I didn't really know him at all when we first got together.'
It was just that I wanted a boyfriend and he liked me, so...!
It can happen any time now, can't it?!
Who are you going to have with you when you go into labour?
'It was upsetting knowing the baby's not going to have her dad around her.'
and knowing that my first child isn't going to be a proper family.
Put in fresh toilet rolls. They all seem to have been used up this week.
'Davita has a Saturday cleaning job at the church
'but is finding it hard now that she is so pregnant.'
I've been having problems with walking and stuff.
My mum does literally everything for me.
I think I'm a bit of a soft mum at times.
Because she is the youngest, there isn't anybody else to take my attention,
so she gets all the attention at the moment mostly.
'Sometimes things feel a bit much and you feel like everything bogs you down.'
But then you've got to get up again and just get back in there.
-So, what are we going to do next?
'As well as doing Davita's job, Jackqui has two jobs of her own to make ends meet.'
I'm a school travel assistant which I enjoy doing
and then I also do paper deliveries. I just seem to have a very busy life
and it won't be long before it's going to get busier again
with baby around, so we'll just carry on, deal with things and get on with it.
No, Dada's not here. Come here, come here.
'In Scotland, 16-year-old mum Becky has been single since her baby's dad died eight months ago
'and is finding Kenzie a constant reminder of her ex.'
'Sometimes, he shouts "Dad" as he's walking up the stairs. He does it all the time.
'He'll just randomly come up with "Dad!"'
And it's like, "No, Kenzie, Dad's not here no more. He's singing with angels."
And he just looks at me like I'm confused.
-He's the Irn Bru man!
-No, that's how you've got orange hair.
'Today, Trisha's car has broken down so they can't go to work or college
'and Kenzie can't go to the child minder so they're all stuck at home.'
Becky, Kenzie's just going to stay here today.
Oh, no he's not. Why is he staying here?
'By nine o'clock, Becky wants to get out of the house.'
-Can I walk George to school?
-Yeah, you can walk George to school if you want.
-Right, won't be long, bye!
I don't normally take George to school but I'm quite enjoying my day
-because I need out the house. Right, bye.
I'm in the house all the time. It's boring. There's nothing to do in the house.
'When I lost Kenzie's dad, I wouldn't go near Kenzie, pick him up, bath him,
'I wouldn't do anything. I was mostly depressed'
because I didn't have a dad figure for Kenzie.
In. Get in, now!
'I was scared that I'd be a single parent and I am a single parent.'
I said, "No!"
'I'd like to have somebody to love me as well as my son.
'I want there to be three of us.'
-My own little time with him was great.
-You can do it more often then!
I cannae because I'm always working.
'I worry about them, constantly.'
I worry about her attitude towards him sometimes.
There's quite a lot of resentment there or what appears to be resentment.
'She doesn't want to be burdened with him.
'It's quite easy for her to walk away in the house.'
I think it's going to be tea and bath and bed for you.
Is that why mum went out?
MUSIC: "Where Is The Love" by Black Eyed Peas
-Oh my, God! Mum?
-Listen to this!
'The next morning, things are looking up for Becky.'
-Are you happy now?
-That's all right then.
'She's just got a text from a boy she met recently.'
'Yeah, I'm going on a date. It's the first proper date since Kenzie's been born.'
I'd love Kenzie to have... like, not a step-dad but a dad figure...
Somebody to look up to and just feel like he's going to be there.
I think we're going to be happy.
'In Morecambe, fifteen-year-old Davita is about to become a mum.'
Yeah, it's hot and it is really uncomfortable.
'It hasn't been an easy start to her labour.'
I've been here about eighteen hours. I'm only two days over my due date
but because I've got high blood pressure and protein they've had to induce me.
'In the absence of a boyfriend, Jackqui is the natural stand in.'
It is a bit strange because I'm her mother, I'm baby's grandma,
I'm also her partner. I'm a bit of everything really!
But it's lovely to be going through all this with her. To be able to be there for her.
Right, do we want to close this curtain off then?
'The birth isn't moving along as quickly as the doctors would like
'so she is given a second induction pill internally.'
-I just need you to relax your bottom down.
-It's important to relax It makes it easier and gets it over with.
-Big, deep breaths. Keep breathing, like that.
-..behind the baby's head.
'Davita has been at the hospital for twenty seven hours
'and finally, her contractions have started.'
It hurts a lot and I'm tired.
'She's having strong contractions and very close together.'
So they're going to break her waters which is going to
be a big thing for her but it means we're getting in the final stages
and she'll soon have her own little baby and this will all be over, won't it?
I'm feeling very emotional at the moment
and I'm feeling very proud of her.
She's fantastic. Aren't you?
-'We're going to start to push now. She's wanting to push.'
So we'll soon have a baby for you to see!
Seven pounds twelve.
'An hour after her contractions start, she gives birth to a healthy little girl.
This is Kayla-Marie and she arrived at four minutes past eleven.
-Have you got the monitor on?
'In Scotland, a month has gone by and Becky is still single after her date fell through.'
-So, what are you up to tonight then, Mrs? Are you going out anywhere?
Mum, Trisha is trying to lift Becky's spirits and help her bond with Kenzie
but at the moment she's refusing to take him out of the house on her own.
It must be boring for Kenzie being here every weekend.
You know, it's the same boring routine for him as well as for you.
-There's nothing to do.
-You've got that Playzone card, it gives you somewhere to go.
Other than that, head towards the beach for the day.
The beach is full of stones and litter.
-What about further along?
-You don't fancy the mother and baby group up at the church?
-Do you know anyone that's been?
-That other lass that goes to college.
She went and she said that they're all in their thirties.
-Do they not talk to her?
'Becky's always had an excuse for things and they weren't reasonable excuses.'
I just want her to go and do things with Kenzie and be a mum.
I think it's mainly confidence issues with Becky. She's hit rock bottom.
You want to go to the park or something for a wee while with him?
'The next day Becky and mum are back from work.
'Trisha persuades Becky to get out of the house with Kenzie.'
I'm going to have to go out, aren't I?
Kenzie, are we going down there to throw some stones at the water?
'I don't mind taking Kenzie out on my own,
'I just prefer company because it's just pushing a pram.
'Kenzie doesn't talk much and if he has a feed before he goes out,
'he'll sleep in his pram and it's like I'm talking to myself.'
Mum, are you bringing him up? Mum?!
I'll just come down myself!
'After a stressful twenty minutes, Becky and Kenzie are back at home.'
-Give me that.
-Do you need a hand?
-Are you all right?
-Well, I'm kind of tired myself, Mum.
Yeah, well, everybody is, Becky! It's what it's like being a mum.
-It's not that. He should have been in his bed ages ago!
-Well, it won't do him any harm.
'It should have been an enjoyable evening and it was nothing like that.
'She just came back in a bad mood, slapping and banging around,
'getting Kenzie away and out of her sight as quickly as possible.'
Can I go and have a fag?
'I feel like I need a break from everything.'
The house and my family and Kenzie.
Night, night, wee man.
-Are you just grumpy because you're tired.
-No, I'm bored.
-But you were out?
Aye, I know but what am I meant to do for the rest of the night?
-There's nothing stopping you going out.
-All my pals don't want to know me no more!
-And why don't they want to know you?
-Cos I've got a bairn.
-You knew that people would walk away but they're not your true friends.
Aye, well, they've all walked away so...
You feel that you've been abandoned because you've had Kenzie but it's not his fault.
It's the same with guys though. Every time I meet a new guy I have to tell them that I've got a bairn.
-You don't have to tell them.
-They're going to find out, aren't they?!
"Why have you got a cot in your bedroom?"
"Why have you got a bairn in your bedroom?" "Oh, that's mine." There's nothing I can do.
I'm not going to keep on at you, Becky because I can see you're tired and you're upset about something.
I'm not upset about anything.
'Davita's baby, Kayla is now eight weeks old
'and the fifteen-year-old mum is settling in to her new life.
'She's feeling confident enough to be out and about with her baby
'and is meeting up with fellow teen mums, Tara and Maureen.'
-Look at his hair now!
-I know! He's got loads.
We were together just about all the time during pregnancy.
If I wasn't actually there, I was somewhere very nearby.
'It just felt like she was totally dependent on me
'and as much as I love her it was putting a lot of strain on me.'
-How do you explain labour?
-I describe it as a bowling ball coming out your bum!
'The relationship with my mum is still close but I like to do my own thing'
and I feel a lot more independent now.
Having a baby is a lot harder than I thought it would be,
I find it hard breastfeeding because I can't ask someone else to feed her if I'm really tired.
-It is nice having a bond with her though.
'Her attitude towards everything is a lot more grown-up.
'She is much more confident now.'
The next stage is for her to get back to school.
She really wants to be able to do her GCSE's.
She wants to be able to do as best as she can. She's just fantastic.
-But you have to think of things from a different view, don't you?
'I do believe that God is there. That he does help guide us'
through things, to give us the strength to cope with things
and sometimes, you need strength to get through life.
'I think I have been given a lot of strength to cope with everything.'
'Now she's here, I wouldn't change her for the world.'
But if I could have gone back and waited a couple of years, I would of because it's hard.
'You don't actually understand how hard it is until they're here.'
I am so proud of them, it makes me feel quite emotional.
'I just think she's been amazing throughout everything.'
'Up in Scotland, there have been some big changes for Becky.'
Hey, Kenzie, are you going to the shop?
'Four weeks ago, she met seventeen-year-old Sean on the internet
'and he's already moved in.'
We were only mates but we've decided just to take it a little bit further.
'Sean's living here because he got kicked out and he needed a place to stay.
'It's been about three weeks now.
'The first time I saw him I thought he was the one.'
And then, weeks later, he was mine. I was like, "Is this a dream?"
'Becky seems happier now that she's got someone in her life. A boyfriend.'
Aw, you're disgusting!
He keeps her spirits up when she goes a wee bit down.
'Becky has recently knuckled down at college and is even making concrete plans for her future.'
Trisha has recently got onto the midwifery course at college.
It's only for an extra day per week but gradually will build up and kick off her nursing career.
'Becky's career plans and new love life have had a knock-on effect to her and Kenzie's relationship.'
Sean likes Kenzie and it's like two things together and it's just great fun.
'She has been out more with Kenzie.'
Sean likes to be out and about and he's often said, "Come on, Becky, let's go."
And they have. And they maybe haven't been out for very long but it's a start.
'Before my mum used to help me a lot with Kenzie.'
Now it's like she make his tea and I put him in the bath and feed him
and put him to bed. I do all of that now.
'I still get worried about Becky and Kenzie.'
But I can see they're getting stronger together as a mum and a son.
'Me and Kenzie have got our own love together.
'It feels great cos if you didnae have a boyfriend you go to sleep'
thinking that there is somebody loves you and you love them back.
'I used to cry myself to sleep, but now that I've got Sean in the bed with me'
and Kenzie's at the bottom of the room, I go to sleep happy.
And I dream about happy things instead of sad, scary things now. I just feel happy.
Pink baby Adidas trainers.
'Next time, we meet Abbey from Hampshire.
It does me sound like I was shagging about but I wasn't. I was just trying to get back at this boy.
Abbey wasn't sure who the father of the baby was. It's any mother's nightmare.
I can't cope. I can't physically cope, Mum!
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Sixteen-year-old Becky is mum to fourteen-month old Kenzie and has been finding life tough since falling pregnant. Tragically, when Kenzie was just seven months old, his sixteen-year-old dad died suddenly and a result Becky has found it difficult bonding with Kenzie as he is a constant reminder of his late father. Becky struggles to look after Kenzie by herself, feels alienated from her friends and, with little social life, her dreams of meeting a new man seem remote. Can her mum Trish persuade Becky to get out more? Will she find love and a father figure for Kenzie? Davita got pregnant at fourteen. Her church-going mum Jackie was devastated and cried for a week when she found out. With no choice but to accept the situation, Jackie works hard to support her daughter. Now fifteen, Davita is twenty seven weeks pregnant - but is she too reliant on mum Jackie? Will she be able to look after and cope with the responsisbility of a baby when it comes?