Episode 2 Prejudice and Pride: The People's History of LGBTQ Britain


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This programme contains some scenes of a sexual nature

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I think it shouldn't be allowed on the street.

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I think it's disgusting, to be quite frank with you.

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I think man ought to go with a woman and woman ought to go with a man.

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Every so often, the world changes beyond our wildest dreams.

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The past 50 years has been an incredible journey for lesbian, gay,

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bisexual, transgender and queer people in Britain.

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We've gone from being thrown in jail for loving someone for a single night...

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..to walking down the aisle with that very same person.

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In this series, ordinary people from across the country

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have been digging out and sharing with us the mementos that mark this

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transformation and have changed their lives.

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This is my Navy-issue suitcase.

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That's me at the front corner.

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The result is a crowd-sourced collection of some of the rarest,

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most personal, most heartbreaking and inspiring artefacts in our history.

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They came in and said, get up, get dressed, get downstairs.

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You're under arrest.

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Together, they tell the story of an extraordinary 50 years.

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For the first time in my life, I was, like, oh, my God, I'm home!

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We knew right from our first kiss that we would always be together.

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It's the story of all of us.

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The people we loved and the people we sometimes hated.

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It was a dangerous and frightening time,

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but it taught you how to be alive.

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It's the story of my life.

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And mine.

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Tonight, we're in the era when pop culture moved the LGBTQ story

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from the fringes into the mainstream.

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That is George Michael's signature, and after that,

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George gave me a kiss, so I'll never forget that night.

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When a kiss, song or a concert gave hope to millions living in isolation.

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I felt this extraordinary sense of connection with the community.

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I don't care what you say, this is my life and this is the way I'm

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going to lead it.

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So, unfurl a Pride banner.

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Wedge open that closet door.

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And settle in for The People's History Of LGBTQ Britain.

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One bag, here! Hello, mate.

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# Never felt like this until I kissed ya... #

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It started with a kiss in the most unlikely of places.

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BBC One, 17th of November 1987, EastEnders.

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And 14 million people were watching.

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Now look, I don't want to get into an argument with you,

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but promise me you'll take the day off and I'll ring you lunchtime, OK?

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I won't know what the score is until I get there.

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Is that it, I hear you say?

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Blink and you'd miss it,

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but in 1987, two men kissing on mainstream TV, this was big.

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I watched it at home surrounded by my family and I was terrified they

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might catch me enjoying the storyline.

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Let's face it, they didn't know that I was gay and I certainly wasn't

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going to give it away. In fact, this was the look on my face.

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That is me pretending not to enjoy something, but inside,

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I was doing cartwheels!

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Are you trying to tell me that you and Colin are...

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..homosexuals?

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Sure. Didn't you know?

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I'm sorry, Barry, but I'll have to give you your keys back.

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While Dot might not have liked it, the EastEnders kiss was a small,

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but hugely significant moment.

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It exposed a divided Britain.

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There were those who thought it was high time

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real gay relationships were reflected on TV

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and then there were those who thought, "no, thanks."

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So far we've had over 20 calls from viewers who thought it was disgusting.

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They include Mrs Margaret Palmer,

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who says her children will not be allowed to watch it again,

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Mrs Grace Bullock from Bamburgh, who thought it was absolutely disgusting,

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Mandy Gumson from Liverpool didn't agree with it and

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Robert Head thought it was repugnant.

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At the same time Colin and Barry were kissing on EastEnders,

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a storm was raging over a school book that showed a little girl

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living with her dad and his gay lover.

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DOOR BELL RINGS

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Come in. I think I've got something to show you.

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When Austin Allen heard about the scandal,

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he was curious and went out and bought the infamous book.

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30 years on, he still has his original copy.

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This is Jenny Lives With Eric And Martin.

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Are you sitting comfortably?

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Then I'll begin.

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It is Saturday.

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Jenny opens her eyes.

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She looks over to the curtains.

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Yes, the sun is shining outside.

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Dad, Dad!

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Wake up!

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This schoolbook was an attempt to teach children

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about gay and lesbian families.

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But for large parts of the press and the Conservative government,

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it was nothing short of a homosexual recruiting manual.

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It was quickly dubbed "the sickest book in Britain".

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Children who need to be taught to respect traditional moral values are

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being taught that they have an inalienable right to be gay.

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For Thatcher and her government, this was their evidence that we were

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going too far and this was perfect to feed their homophobia.

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The government saw this children's book as part of a worrying rise in

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the visibility and acceptance of lesbian and gay lifestyles.

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This was the atmosphere in which Austin started a teaching job in Bradford.

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I'd been teaching there for a while and I suppose some of the older

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children were curious and simply asked me if I was gay.

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And I answered honestly and said, "Yes, that's right, I am gay."

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The next day, a teacher came into the classroom and asked me to go to

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the head teacher's office.

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So I went down to his study and he basically sacked me.

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He sacked me not, as he said, because I was gay,

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but because the children and pupils had found out that I was gay and

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therefore my credibility as a teacher had plummeted to zero,

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which, of course, I knew it hadn't.

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When I got home,

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I rang a very good friend of mine to tell him what had happened to me.

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He said, "I was about to ring you to ask you if you'd seen Newsnight

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"last night because apparently there has been

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"some new legislation introduced into Parliament."

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The proposed legislation was known as Clause 28.

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It was an attempt by the government to stop what they saw as the

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promotion of homosexuality in schools,

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but it didn't stop in the classroom.

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The legislation also suggested that gay and lesbian relationships were unnatural.

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It says that homosexuality really is unacceptable.

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It actually makes homosexuals, lesbians and gay men second-rate citizens.

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20 years after the historic change of 1967 when homosexuality was

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decriminalised, this felt like a huge step backwards.

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The fight against this new clause would become one of the defining

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moments in LGBTQ history.

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As a young gay man, I didn't really mix with lesbians.

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In fact, in the '70s and '80s, some gay men were quite separatist,

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even a little bit sexist.

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But all that was about to change.

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Clause 28 meant we forgot all about our disagreements with the menfolk,

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as lesbians were up for a fight, too.

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# Tell me why... #

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CHANTING

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-REPORTER:

-It was the biggest demonstration Manchester has seen.

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The procession stretched for nearly two miles around the city streets.

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On the 20th February 1988,

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20,000 people from all over Britain travelled to Manchester to chant,

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sing and knock out a tune.

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Equal rights!

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Equal rights!

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Louise Carolin was just 21 when she travelled up from Cambridge and

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she's kept a precious and personal memento from that historic day.

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I've got a recording that I made with a friend on the demonstration

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in Manchester and I haven't listened to it for 20 years.

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This is the Bigot's Bootleg, which is what we named our recording.

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What do we want? Equal rights! When do we want it? Now!

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It really brings it all back.

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It was really personal because, you know, that legislation was about

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protecting the children and this idea that we

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were somehow a threat to the children, it was so toxic, you know?

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So although we were angry and although we felt threatened,

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Section 28 actually brought the community together and, you know,

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kind of galvanised people.

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At the time of the march, Louise was working for Shocking Pink,

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the first magazine made by and for young women to offer readers

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positive images of lesbian lives.

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We made the tape because we wanted to do an article in the magazine.

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Shall I show you?

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So this is Shocking Pink, the one that had the article in,

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and I think the cover gives quite a good idea of what it's like inside.

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For this issue, we did this thing, because we used to sell it on

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marches like this. Shocking Pink, Shocking Pink,

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and if people kind of sneered and said, "No, no, I don't think so,"

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we'd spin it over and go, bride?

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And sometimes we got sales from that.

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That's the spread that we created.

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We've just transcribed some of the interviews from the march.

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Ah, now, look, there's lovely Sue Johnson who played Sheila Grant

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on Brookside and she gave a really impassioned speech.

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When I first heard about Clause 28,

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I thought about Hitler's burning of the books.

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We've got the crowd response with roars of,

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"Sheila! Sheila! Sheila!"

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-CROWD:

-Sheila! Sheila! Sheila!"

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We were so hungry for affirmation, for people to say, you know, this is wrong.

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Geoff and Peter travelled up from Shrewsbury to join the thousands

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protesting in Manchester.

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So, let's have a look upstairs, cos this is where all the gubbins is.

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Up here in the attic is a room full of memories.

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This is a short-lived organisation called

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Organisation For Lesbian And Gay Action and this banner,

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Shropshire Olga, was made the night before the march.

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Not terribly brilliantly, but it is eye-catching.

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Geoff and Peter marched that day because Clause 28 said lesbian or

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gay families were just pretend ones, they weren't real.

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Only the heterosexual family was normal.

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Yeah, well our son Liam was born in 1988, so we were looking ahead to,

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you know, this is going to be law.

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We've brought a child into this world who is going to be part of a

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pretended family, as far as the government's concerned.

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What's that going to do for him?

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MUSIC: Never Tear Us Apart by INXS

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I do love the of the reflection of the water.

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-It is nice, isn't it?

-Yeah.

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It's heart-wrenching to think that somebody might see you as lesser

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or different because of who your parents are.

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My family's special.

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You couldn't tell me my family isn't a real family, you know what I mean?

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The love, the guidance, the everything,

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everything that should be there is there and yeah,

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I wouldn't trade that for anything.

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Opposition to the clause wasn't just coming from within the gay community.

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High-profile members of the public started to join the fight.

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Artists and celebrities who feared the legislation would gag their

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freedom of expression.

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If the wrong people use Clause 28,

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as they can use it, to victimise homosexuals,

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to stop certain plays being performed, to stop certain films

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being shown, then it means yet another loss of liberty.

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The funny thing about this period was that some of my heroes started

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to openly reveal themselves.

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Stephen Fry, Sir Ian McKellen, Neil Tennant from the Pet Shop Boys.

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Actors, pop stars, comedians.

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These people are not afraid to stand up and say,

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"You know what? We know who we are. We're not second-class citizens.

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"We've got nothing to be ashamed of."

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And do you know what? They did something about it.

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So for someone like me, growing up in isolation at home and amongst my

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friends, it was a revelation and a lifeline.

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MUSIC: West End Girls By Pet Shop Boys

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And on one magical night in 1988, here at the Piccadilly Theatre,

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the greatest British stars of a generation gathered for an evening

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of entertainment, celebrating lesbian and gay culture.

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I've been doing my washing today.

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I haven't got a stitch on, except my shoes.

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I'm all in the rude under this dress.

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Working backstage was a 26-year-old Ian Elmslie.

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Ian, what important memorabilia have you brought to show us today?

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I've brought along a programme for Before The Act,

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which was presented in this absolutely magnificent theatre.

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Packed to the rafters, unfilmed.

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If you weren't here, you missed it.

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And every piece of work presented in the evening had been written by a

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-gay man or lesbian.

-Everything?

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Everything. Every single piece of work, every piece of music, every

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song, every extract from a play.

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But not necessarily the performers?

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No, no, no, we let the straights in.

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LAUGHTER

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We had Vanessa Redgrave there, Judi Dench.

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Pinter was there. Sheila Hancock was there,

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which was a huge thrill for me.

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Gary Oldman was there, and this is an autograph from

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Neil Tennant and Chris Lowe, better known as the Pet Shop Boys.

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This was the first time that they'd ever played live in front of an

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audience, but because all the material for the evening was written

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by a gay man or lesbian, the fact that they did one of their own

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songs, It Couldn't Happen Here, informed the audience watching that

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this was written by a gay man.

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So you just go, "Oh, right, OK."

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Welcome to the club. We always knew you had it in you.

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MUSIC: It Couldn't Happen Here by Pet Shop Boys

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Alan Bennett came out that evening.

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Stephen Fry came out that evening.

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That's quite powerful, isn't it?

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-Enormously.

-It just reminded you that you're not alone.

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You've got this huge army of talent and support, and a voice.

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And to see people that you admire, you admire their work,

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who now actually come out of their comfort zone in a way.

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-Yeah.

-You could not witness an evening like this and not be

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empowered by what you had seen.

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# Get up out of your rocking chair, grandma... #

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Despite all this opposition,

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the government was determined to press on with Section 28,

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but on the 23rd of May 1988, the night before it became law,

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there was one last memorable protest.

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Good evening. The headlines at six o'clock.

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-In the House of Lords...

-Stop Section 28!

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-..a vote is taking place now on a challenge to the poll tax.

-Stop Section 28!

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Tory rebels had said the tax is unfair and unpopular.

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And I do apologise if you're hearing quite a lot of noise in this studio

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at the moment. I'm afraid that we have rather been invaded by some people.

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Lovely. Thanks very much.

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We're protesting about rights for lesbian and gay people.

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As if us lesbians haven't suffered enough.

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Being sat on by Nicholas Witchell?!

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I was at school when Section 28 became law.

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It was quite a traditional Scottish school.

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We didn't talk about emotions, never mind whether you were gay or not,

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but inside I was seething.

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I wasn't the only one.

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It was a shock to the entire lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer community.

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All those protests had been in vain,

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but as we moved into the 1990s,

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there was a rethink by campaigners on how to fight for equality.

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On the one hand, you had Stonewall,

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a pressure group formed to politely meet and lobby those in power.

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Diplomacy was its driving force.

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There is a shift somewhere in Downing Street and I suspect

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it's coming from the top.

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And then you had those who took a more unorthodox approach.

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They didn't want to meet politicians, didn't want to shake hands.

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Far less saintly, they favoured flamboyant stunts.

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I am Sister Frigidity of the Nocturnal Emission.

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Sis Fridge for short.

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WHISTLE BLOWS

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In the bag is my nun's habit and all sorts of paraphernalia from my time

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as a Sister Of Perpetual Indulgence and a member of Outrage.

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Outrage was like Stonewall's badly behaved sister.

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A grassroots movement formed of gay men and lesbians, it revelled in the

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art of the spectacle.

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A bit of fancy dress, add some camp and mix with street theatre.

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Peter Tatchell was one of the group's co-founders and most

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high-profile provocateurs.

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We were two sides of Outrage, one was the positive aspect of

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bringing a little excitement and enjoyment into people's life and the

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other one was to challenge the homophobia which

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was rife in the 1990s.

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I've got a dirty habit...

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The habit allowed us to be very public about our sexuality.

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You can't ignore a series of gay men in nun's habits walking down the street.

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One of the things that I brought along was our Sis List,

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which is a list of all the sisters,

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so we've got Sister Ejaculata of the Imminent Spattering,

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Sister Moses of the Parting Cheeks, Sister Ophelia Balls.

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Is that enough for the moment?

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# Sex, sex, sex, sex crime... #

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Outrage were referred to as homosexual terrorists.

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It was about going to where we saw the problem being

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and making a noise about it, so we would go to police stations

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and hand ourselves in as sex criminals.

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MUSIC: Sexcrime (Nineteen Eighty-Four) By Eurhythmics

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We were poking fun at the establishment, whatever it was,

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because it was out of step with the time.

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It's good looking back and thinking,

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we were there and we did do something, we weren't quiet,

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we were who we were.

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I miss it. There were a lot of people that I miss

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that have passed on

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and it was an exciting time, it was a dangerous and frightening time,

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but it taught you how to be alive.

0:21:280:21:30

Yeah.

0:21:320:21:33

In the '90s, you didn't have to wear a habit and call yourself

0:21:390:21:42

Sister Frigidity to upset the law.

0:21:420:21:45

Just being gay and having a night out could do the trick.

0:21:450:21:48

In fact, more gay men were arrested in 1990 then in 1966,

0:21:500:21:54

when homosexuality was still illegal.

0:21:540:21:57

A gay man can be arrested for importuning -

0:21:590:22:01

that is asking another man to go to bed with him, even if it is clear

0:22:010:22:04

that the other man wants to.

0:22:040:22:06

But while the law was still failing to come to terms with the times,

0:22:080:22:12

a vibrant and confident queer scene was blossoming.

0:22:120:22:16

And in 1991, a new type of gay bar opened in Soho.

0:22:160:22:21

It was called The Village and I used to drink there regularly.

0:22:210:22:25

This was one of the first places that had clear glass windows where

0:22:280:22:32

you could see in and outside.

0:22:320:22:34

"So?" I hear you cry. "That's how glass works."

0:22:340:22:37

Well, it was symbolic.

0:22:370:22:39

It meant you were no longer ashamed having to go to a bar

0:22:390:22:43

with darkened windows down a small alleyway.

0:22:430:22:46

It was very, very important. It meant we were going places.

0:22:460:22:50

There were also new gay clubs springing up all over the country

0:22:530:22:56

with alluring names like Joy, Flesh, and Love Muscle.

0:22:560:23:00

But there was one venue that came alive in the dead of night when

0:23:030:23:07

everything else was closing, that would go on to achieve legendary status.

0:23:070:23:11

It was called Trade,

0:23:130:23:14

and everyone was welcome, regardless of their sexuality,

0:23:140:23:17

social background or gender.

0:23:170:23:20

So, my flat is little bit like a nightclub, it's very psychedelic,

0:23:220:23:27

very colourful, it's quite kitsch, quite camp, a bit like me.

0:23:270:23:32

Bright Daffodil's piece of memorabilia isn't under her bed or

0:23:340:23:39

in the attic of her home. It IS her home.

0:23:390:23:41

Inspired by the club that changed her life.

0:23:410:23:45

So the bathroom in Turnmills, at Trade, was all this mosaic tiling

0:23:470:23:51

which I've mimicked in my own bathroom.

0:23:510:23:55

I've got my little Trade bathroom here and there's a kind of pop art

0:23:550:23:59

theme to the wallpaper, as well.

0:23:590:24:02

I've got funny lights flashing on so I can have, like, a disco bath.

0:24:020:24:06

MUSIC: Nightclubbing by Grace Jones

0:24:060:24:12

I grew up in Dudley, in the West Midlands.

0:24:150:24:19

There was absolutely no gay scene in Dudley whatsoever, I mean,

0:24:190:24:24

you would kind of get, like, beaten up for being remotely feminine.

0:24:240:24:29

And then one night, this big muscly knight in shining armour showed up

0:24:300:24:35

from London and he had a thing for pretty boys and he asked me

0:24:350:24:40

if I wanted to go to Trade when I finished work at six in the morning.

0:24:400:24:44

My God, that night changed my life.

0:24:450:24:47

Advertised as "the original all-night bender",

0:24:500:24:53

Trade was the first legal club in the UK to open all night long.

0:24:530:24:57

It launched the career of DJ Tony De Vit,

0:24:570:25:00

the godfather of hard house.

0:25:000:25:03

MUSIC PLAYS

0:25:030:25:04

I mean, it was packed and I can just see this sea of the most beautiful

0:25:080:25:15

people that I'd ever seen in my life and these were gay men but they

0:25:150:25:19

weren't the kind of gay men that I'd ever seen,

0:25:190:25:23

they were all like very macho, very brute, and I can hear this

0:25:230:25:28

boom-pam, boom-pam, boom-pam...

0:25:280:25:31

And everybody's kind of like rocking with the music

0:25:310:25:34

and it's kind of like... It's a vibration, you know?

0:25:340:25:37

For the first time in my life I was like, "Oh, my God, I'm home."

0:25:380:25:42

MUSIC PLAYS

0:25:420:25:45

You know, I used to get spat on in the street where I come from,

0:25:470:25:50

soup thrown over me, beaten up, I've had knives pulled on me,

0:25:500:25:54

guns pulled on me, and you know in Trade, I was treated like a human being,

0:25:540:25:58

I was treated with respect and I was celebrated for my queerness, you know.

0:25:580:26:03

And that means a lot to somebody who's come from darkness,

0:26:030:26:06

it was light, pure light.

0:26:060:26:08

MUSIC: Army Dreamers by Kate Bush

0:26:090:26:12

Trade was a place where we were encouraged to be open about our sexuality.

0:26:120:26:16

But, above ground in 1990s Britain, there were still many places where

0:26:180:26:23

that certainly wasn't the case.

0:26:230:26:24

The most antiquated of them all was Britain's armed services.

0:26:270:26:32

They were exempt from the 1967

0:26:320:26:34

Decriminalisation Of Homosexuality Act

0:26:340:26:36

which meant that up to the year 2000, you could still be arrested

0:26:360:26:40

and court-martialed for being lesbian or gay.

0:26:400:26:43

Homosexuality and its practices are simply not compatible with service

0:26:440:26:50

life in the British Armed Forces.

0:26:500:26:53

Oh, God, this is too heavy.

0:26:540:26:56

I really shouldn't have put so much stuff in here.

0:27:030:27:05

Emma Riley has a treasure trove of memories from a life at sea.

0:27:070:27:10

This is my Navy-issue suitcase.

0:27:120:27:14

I don't think I've looked at this from more than, oh, I don't know,

0:27:170:27:21

18 and 20 years.

0:27:210:27:22

These are my service records.

0:27:250:27:27

Women's Royal Naval Service Certificate Of Service.

0:27:270:27:29

They thought I was five foot six which is not true,

0:27:290:27:31

I'm five foot seven.

0:27:310:27:34

Date of entry, 30th of July 1990.

0:27:340:27:36

I very, very distinctly remember the day that I signed the contract and

0:27:370:27:43

it's got all sorts of clauses on it but I read the one that was saying,

0:27:430:27:47

basically, homosexuality is incompatible with service life and I

0:27:470:27:51

read that quite a lot of times before I signed it,

0:27:510:27:53

but at the time I really felt that this is what I want to do,

0:27:530:27:57

this is what I believe I will be good at.

0:27:570:28:00

So I signed it and I got drafted to HMS Cornwall.

0:28:000:28:03

I was working in the com centre, the communication centre,

0:28:060:28:09

as a radio operator.

0:28:090:28:11

And we were the first batch of women to be on HMS Cornwall.

0:28:130:28:16

I very much enjoyed the work and I was good at it.

0:28:180:28:21

That's me at the front corner.

0:28:240:28:26

So, this is my parents. They were very proud.

0:28:280:28:30

For three years, Emma enjoyed Navy life.

0:28:350:28:37

She was class leader, and earmarked as officer potential.

0:28:370:28:41

Then a colleague told the Royal Navy police about Emma's sexuality.

0:28:410:28:45

One morning, at six o'clock, when I was asleep,

0:28:470:28:50

there was a knock on the door, and they basically came in and said,

0:28:500:28:53

"Get up, get dressed, get downstairs, you're under arrest."

0:28:530:28:58

And then they stood me outside, and said,

0:28:580:28:59

"We're going to search all of your belongings."

0:28:590:29:02

So they went through all my stuff, they confiscated letters,

0:29:020:29:04

they confiscated the Suede album, the original one,

0:29:040:29:06

which I eventually found out has two women kissing on the front.

0:29:060:29:10

A Julian Clary video, because, of course,

0:29:100:29:12

if you have a Julian Clary video, you must be gay.

0:29:120:29:15

And that's where they discharged me.

0:29:170:29:19

26th of November 1993.

0:29:190:29:21

Discharged shore.

0:29:210:29:22

So I had to go back home and tell my parents not only that I was being

0:29:240:29:27

thrown out of the Navy, I also had to come out to them,

0:29:270:29:30

because I hadn't actually said I was gay.

0:29:300:29:31

I was so terrified of how they were going to feel about it,

0:29:340:29:38

how disappointed they would be.

0:29:380:29:39

I'm extremely lucky, because they...

0:29:410:29:42

They were...

0:29:440:29:45

Excuse me. They were brilliant.

0:29:450:29:47

They were lovely. They were totally supportive of me,

0:29:470:29:50

and have been ever since and ever will be.

0:29:500:29:52

I am very lucky to have the parents that I have.

0:29:520:29:55

They said, "Don't worry, we love you."

0:29:570:29:59

MUSIC: To The End By Blur

0:30:010:30:04

Emma was one of hundreds kicked out of the Armed Forces every year

0:30:070:30:10

in the 1990s for being gay or lesbian.

0:30:100:30:13

The Army alone discharged 298 people in 1999 because of their sexuality.

0:30:160:30:21

# Well, you and I... #

0:30:260:30:29

But while our outdated institutions were looking to the past,

0:30:300:30:34

once again it was a bit of TV pop culture that in 1994

0:30:340:30:38

was showing the reality of life.

0:30:380:30:41

# Looks like we've made it to the end... #

0:30:410:30:46

I'm going to tell you about the most exciting night of my life.

0:30:470:30:51

I was in my bleak student flat in Glasgow,

0:30:510:30:53

I was on my own in the kitchen.

0:30:530:30:55

On the table there was a tiny television.

0:30:550:30:57

Come here.

0:31:000:31:03

I can't tell you how exciting that still is to see.

0:31:230:31:28

It really is the most important moment in television in my entire life.

0:31:280:31:33

It was two attractive young women,

0:31:330:31:35

they were falling in love with each other.

0:31:350:31:37

They were best friends, there was unrequited love,

0:31:370:31:40

and then it came to fruition.

0:31:400:31:41

It gave hope to lesbians all around the country when Beth and Margaret first kissed.

0:31:410:31:48

It was truly exhilarating.

0:31:490:31:51

I remember sitting on my own thinking, maybe that could happen to me.

0:31:510:31:55

Maybe I can find love with somebody.

0:31:550:31:58

It is...

0:31:580:32:00

It still gives me chills to watch that.

0:32:000:32:03

All I can say is, "Thank you, Brookside."

0:32:030:32:07

MUSIC: Expectations by Belle and Sebastian

0:32:070:32:10

# Monday morning wake up knowing that you've got to go to school... #

0:32:100:32:14

Do you know, the funny thing about that incredible lesbian episode of Brookside

0:32:140:32:20

is that it was written by a guy called Shaun.

0:32:200:32:23

And he's in this cafe right here.

0:32:230:32:26

I don't know if you know this, but you're responsible for probably the

0:32:360:32:39

most exciting night of my entire life.

0:32:390:32:42

-I'm not aware of it.

-And I don't suppose you had any idea at the time

0:32:430:32:46

it would be so amazing.

0:32:460:32:48

I think that's incredible, and that's what we wanted to do.

0:32:480:32:51

I know, for myself, when I was a teenager, growing up,

0:32:510:32:54

there weren't those role models.

0:32:540:32:56

I didn't have those moments.

0:32:560:32:58

There was nothing on screen that made me actually think,

0:32:580:33:01

"Do you know what? Maybe it is OK to be gay.

0:33:010:33:04

"Maybe being gay isn't a bad thing."

0:33:040:33:06

So, you know, the fact that it had such a positive impact on a lot of

0:33:080:33:12

young people at the time, is, you know, job well done.

0:33:120:33:15

In fact, as we're talking about that, I did bring some photographs.

0:33:150:33:19

This is post-lesbian kiss.

0:33:190:33:21

-There's me with Anna Friel.

-That's you with Anna Friel!

0:33:210:33:24

I wish I'd been at that party.

0:33:240:33:27

After that, everyone wanted to go out with someone who looked like Anna Friel.

0:33:270:33:31

And if you didn't look like Anna Friel, which,

0:33:310:33:33

I'll be honest with you, I didn't look like Anna Friel,

0:33:330:33:36

it meant you were abandoned.

0:33:360:33:37

I feel quite bad about that.

0:33:370:33:39

Shaun grew up in Liverpool, on the Norris estate.

0:33:420:33:45

I kind of had my whole childhood stolen off me, really.

0:33:470:33:51

People saying, you know, "You're gay, queer," this and that,

0:33:510:33:54

and then physically beating you, spitting at you.

0:33:540:33:57

You know, gangs of people beating you up,

0:33:570:34:00

and telling you that is a disgusting, horrible thing.

0:34:000:34:03

Late at night, when my younger sister would be two,

0:34:030:34:06

three years old, asleep in bed, and there would just be bricks

0:34:060:34:09

coming through the window.

0:34:090:34:11

MUSIC: Rubber Ring By The Smiths

0:34:110:34:14

At the age of 16, Shaun discovered salvation through a modern-day

0:34:160:34:21

Mancunian poet.

0:34:210:34:22

Getting into the Smiths, Morrissey's lyrics, it's almost like this person

0:34:250:34:29

you've never met is singing about your life.

0:34:290:34:31

Instantly, you feel less lonely.

0:34:310:34:33

I decided to write a play based on one of their songs.

0:34:330:34:36

# The rain falls hard on a humdrum town

0:34:360:34:40

# This town has dragged you down... #

0:34:400:34:44

I took the song, William, It Was Really Nothing,

0:34:440:34:46

invented characters around the lyrics, and wrote this short play.

0:34:460:34:51

And then it was shortlisted, eventually,

0:34:510:34:54

it was put on at the Royal Court in London.

0:34:540:34:56

Morrissey got to hear about it,

0:34:560:34:58

and a letter dropped on the doormat in my old house,

0:34:580:35:01

83 Branthwaite Crescent, Norris Green.

0:35:010:35:03

-Shaun...

-Oh, my word!

0:35:080:35:10

You are a star, William is just the beginning,

0:35:100:35:12

and I'll see you at the Royal Court.

0:35:120:35:14

Your friend, Morrissey.

0:35:140:35:16

# Would you like to marry me?

0:35:170:35:19

# And if you like you can buy the ring

0:35:190:35:22

# She doesn't care about anything... #

0:35:220:35:24

That was actually just the beginning of a friendship,

0:35:240:35:29

and getting to know him.

0:35:290:35:30

Have you got any photographs at all, of you and Morrissey?

0:35:300:35:32

Yeah, I've brought a couple.

0:35:320:35:34

This was my idol, my icon. This is the person who gave me hope,

0:35:350:35:40

who inspired me to write, who made me feel less alone where I lived,

0:35:400:35:43

just through the sheer power of his music.

0:35:430:35:46

To me, it didn't really matter what anybody else thought.

0:35:470:35:50

Morrissey liked what I wrote, that was the main thing.

0:35:500:35:52

As lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer people, that's LGBTQ,

0:35:540:36:00

moved from the margins to the mainstream, so did their wallets.

0:36:000:36:04

In the mid-90s, the phrase "the pink pound" was used to

0:36:060:36:10

describe our spending power, worth £6 billion to the economy every year.

0:36:100:36:14

MUSIC: Give A Little Respect by Erasure

0:36:140:36:17

There were lifestyle magazines, bespoke clothing ranges,

0:36:170:36:21

even the first out and proud gay doll.

0:36:210:36:24

And politics was finally catching up too.

0:36:250:36:29

Stephen, Labour Party, 20,500...

0:36:290:36:35

Stephen Twigg was the first openly gay man to be elected.

0:36:350:36:38

He swept into Parliament in 1997 as part of the new Labour government.

0:36:380:36:44

The party had actively championed LGBTQ rights

0:36:440:36:48

and pledged to repeal the hated Section 28.

0:36:480:36:51

There was a feeling of hope which culminated on July the 5th 1997

0:36:560:37:01

when a quarter of a million people gathered here on Clapham Common.

0:37:010:37:04

Mike Atkinson was one of them and he has a cherished memento from that day.

0:37:070:37:10

I found this last night, late last night.

0:37:130:37:16

I suddenly remembered I owned this precious,

0:37:160:37:19

historically important garment.

0:37:190:37:21

This is one of the official Pride '97 T-shirts.

0:37:210:37:24

Designed to be worn tucked in, I feel.

0:37:260:37:28

MUSIC: Disco 2000 By Pulp

0:37:280:37:33

Pride festivals had been going since the 1970s when they were political

0:37:330:37:38

demonstrations, with a few hundred brave souls bearing home-made banners.

0:37:380:37:43

But by 1997, it had changed beyond all recognition.

0:37:460:37:50

# Our mothers said we could be sister and brother

0:37:500:37:53

# Your name is Deborah, Deborah... #

0:37:530:37:56

I think people forget how much optimism was in the air 20 years ago.

0:37:560:38:02

One of the things you always experienced on Pride days

0:38:030:38:06

is when you were travelling on the tube to the festival site,

0:38:060:38:09

and the nearer you got to the tube station,

0:38:090:38:12

the gayer the tube train became.

0:38:120:38:15

And it felt like the whole world had gone gay.

0:38:150:38:18

That's the one day in the year when you were in the majority.

0:38:180:38:22

And that was always a lovely feeling.

0:38:220:38:24

We were quite near the front, slightly to the right of the main stage.

0:38:270:38:31

So it would've been over there.

0:38:310:38:33

The first act I definitely remember seeing on stage was none other than Gina G.

0:38:330:38:39

Performing Ooh, Ah, Just A Little Bit.

0:38:390:38:42

Come on, you hussies!

0:38:420:38:43

Let's get the show on the road!

0:38:430:38:46

One of the defining gay anthems of the era.

0:38:460:38:50

# Just a little bit

0:38:500:38:51

# You know what I'm looking for

0:38:510:38:53

# Ooh aah, just a little bit

0:38:530:38:54

# Ooh aah, little bit more

0:38:540:38:56

# Ooh aah, just a little bit... #

0:38:560:38:58

So we all bopped around to Gina.

0:38:580:39:00

Next on were the Pet Shop Boys.

0:39:020:39:04

It turns out, on a Gay Pride Day,

0:39:070:39:11

the lyrics of Go West take on a different twist.

0:39:110:39:14

# Together

0:39:160:39:17

# We will go our way

0:39:170:39:20

# Together

0:39:200:39:21

# We will leave someday

0:39:210:39:24

# Together

0:39:240:39:25

# Your hand in my hands

0:39:250:39:28

# Together

0:39:280:39:29

# We will make our plans... #

0:39:290:39:33

It's a song of hope, hope for freedom.

0:39:330:39:35

And a sense of optimism, that we're nearly there.

0:39:350:39:39

We're on the verge of stepping into the promised land.

0:39:390:39:43

That was moving. And the tear ducts started to prick.

0:39:430:39:46

Also performing was Holly Johnson, from Frankie Goes To Hollywood,

0:39:490:39:53

with the Power Of Love.

0:39:530:39:56

# The power of love

0:39:560:39:58

# A force from above

0:39:580:40:03

# Cleaning my soul... #

0:40:030:40:07

And, again, something strange happened.

0:40:070:40:10

About halfway through the song,

0:40:100:40:13

down at the south side of the park, fireworks started to go off.

0:40:130:40:16

I turned my back on the main stage, looked behind me,

0:40:200:40:25

and everywhere, it was the strangest thing,

0:40:250:40:27

everywhere they were people embracing, and kissing, and hugging.

0:40:270:40:32

Couples snogging.

0:40:320:40:34

# Cleaning my soul

0:40:350:40:40

# Flame on burn desire... #

0:40:430:40:46

And I felt at this extraordinary sense of connection with the whole event,

0:40:460:40:53

and with the community.

0:40:530:40:55

At that point, the tears really did start to flow.

0:40:570:41:00

It was a really memorable end to what I think was a significant Pride.

0:41:000:41:05

Thank you. You've been fabulous.

0:41:090:41:13

Even though lesbian, gay,

0:41:180:41:19

bisexual, transgender and queer life was more accepted than ever,

0:41:190:41:24

the decision to come out was still very personal,

0:41:240:41:26

and could be a very difficult experience.

0:41:260:41:29

Especially if you were one of the biggest stars in the world.

0:41:290:41:33

-REPORTER:

-George Michael was arrested at a park last month

0:41:330:41:37

in Beverly Hills, where, in the public toilets, police say,

0:41:370:41:40

they caught him engaging in a lewd act.

0:41:400:41:42

And for the teenage Simon Johnson,

0:41:480:41:50

the coming out of George Michael led to a special keepsake.

0:41:500:41:53

This is my ticket to the 1999 Stonewall equality show.

0:41:560:42:01

And the signature is upside down,

0:42:010:42:03

but if I turn it the other way around,

0:42:030:42:05

that is George Michael's signature.

0:42:050:42:08

And after that, they were cameras all around us,

0:42:080:42:10

and they were shouting at him to give me a kiss.

0:42:100:42:12

And so George Michael gave me a kiss, so, I'll never forget that night!

0:42:120:42:17

MUSIC: Let's Go Outside by George Michael

0:42:170:42:19

The next day, my dad came home with the Sun newspaper,

0:42:240:42:28

and on the front page, the Sun had covered the same concert that I'd

0:42:280:42:33

been at the night before.

0:42:330:42:34

My dad said to me, "Have you been to gay concerts?"

0:42:340:42:37

And I said to him, "No, I've been to a concert, yes."

0:42:370:42:41

And he said to me, "Are you gay?"

0:42:410:42:42

And I said, "No."

0:42:420:42:44

And I thought, why have you said that?

0:42:440:42:47

And so he asked me again, he said, "Are you gay?"

0:42:470:42:49

And I went, "Yes." It just came out.

0:42:490:42:52

And then he started shouting for my mother.

0:42:520:42:54

My mother comes upstairs, and he said to my mum,

0:42:540:42:57

"Have you heard what your son's got to say?

0:42:570:42:59

And she just said, "I know what he's going to say. I've known all this time."

0:42:590:43:03

For a young gay teenager living and going to school in a small village

0:43:060:43:09

in North Lincolnshire was difficult.

0:43:090:43:11

Bullied and considered uncool, until one night, when a ground-breaking

0:43:120:43:16

bit of television completely reinvented his image.

0:43:160:43:19

I was about 17 when the first episode aired

0:43:210:43:24

and I made sure that I was home for it.

0:43:240:43:26

It was worth it. Totally worth it.

0:43:270:43:29

It just felt like it was opening up a completely different world.

0:43:310:43:35

Something I hadn't seen before.

0:43:350:43:36

Queer As Folk was different because it was the first programme to put

0:43:380:43:42

gay life centre stage.

0:43:420:43:43

It was funny and naughty.

0:43:430:43:46

What do you like doing in bed?

0:43:460:43:48

-Rimming.

-Yeah?

0:43:480:43:51

I think one of the best bits was going into school the next day,

0:43:510:43:54

and my girlfriends had watched it as well, and I guess, I hate to say it,

0:43:540:43:58

but a bit of cool factor, because they knew that I was gay,

0:43:580:44:01

and they were really intrigued and interested about being, you know,

0:44:010:44:05

me, and being gay. So I felt, finally, acceptance.

0:44:050:44:08

But, within months of Queer As Folk airing,

0:44:130:44:16

there was a brutal reminder that, for some people,

0:44:160:44:18

gay life was still unacceptable.

0:44:180:44:20

On the 30th of April 1999, three people were killed

0:44:270:44:31

and more than 70 injured when a neo-Nazi planted a nail bomb in the

0:44:310:44:35

Admiral Duncan pub in London's Soho.

0:44:350:44:38

It was the biggest homophobic attack in British history.

0:44:390:44:42

It was a sign that for all the progress made,

0:44:440:44:47

violent hate crime is never far away for our community.

0:44:470:44:50

Something I'm all too well aware of.

0:44:520:44:54

This is Jody's name badge.

0:44:580:45:00

He was one of the show managers here at Jongleurs.

0:45:000:45:03

He was a very fine young man.

0:45:030:45:04

And...

0:45:040:45:06

We became good friends.

0:45:060:45:08

One night, in 2005, on his way home, he was physically kicked,

0:45:080:45:16

assaulted, and beaten to death in a homophobic attack.

0:45:160:45:20

Now, that really, really made me angry.

0:45:220:45:25

Living in London, a cosmopolitan city, you think, wow, tolerance,

0:45:260:45:31

acceptance, yet, there are people out there who are prepared to attack

0:45:310:45:38

a complete stranger to the point of death because you don't understand,

0:45:380:45:44

agree, accept who they are.

0:45:440:45:48

I was given this badge by Jody's family.

0:45:510:45:54

Serving as a constant reminder that, yes, homophobia still exists.

0:45:540:45:58

The paradox about these attacks is that they were happening just as we

0:46:030:46:07

were starting to enjoy equal rights.

0:46:070:46:09

Years of lobbying, marching,

0:46:130:46:15

and wearing fancy dress were finally paying off

0:46:150:46:19

as the Labour Party started to push through historic changes.

0:46:190:46:23

In 2000, nearly 35 years after homosexuality was decriminalised,

0:46:240:46:28

the age of consent was brought into line with the heterosexual one of 16.

0:46:280:46:33

The armed services ban was overturned...

0:46:340:46:37

..and Section 28, for which no-one was ever prosecuted,

0:46:390:46:43

was repealed in Scotland.

0:46:430:46:44

Westminster followed suit three years later.

0:46:440:46:47

And then, in 2005, we saw something that marked a transformation

0:46:510:46:55

in the battle for equality.

0:46:550:46:57

It's something that most people could never have imagined in their lifetime.

0:46:590:47:05

Two words. Short and simple. But so very symbolic.

0:47:050:47:09

And those two words...

0:47:090:47:11

I do.

0:47:110:47:13

MUSIC: At Last by Ella Fitzgerald

0:47:150:47:19

It was called the Civil Partnership Act,

0:47:200:47:22

and it allowed couples of the same sex to have legal recognition of

0:47:220:47:25

their relationship, similar to a marriage.

0:47:250:47:27

My wife and I tied the knot as soon as we could,

0:47:310:47:33

and so did Susan and Gerrie.

0:47:330:47:35

Thank you, every single one of you for being here.

0:47:360:47:39

For our 20 years together!

0:47:390:47:41

CHEERING AND APPLAUSE

0:47:420:47:45

-ALL:

-Cheers!

0:47:450:47:47

We knew right from the beginning of our relationship,

0:47:520:47:54

from our first kiss, that we would always be together.

0:47:540:47:57

Why was it important to you personally, to do this?

0:47:580:48:01

We had already made our vows to each other about ten years before that,

0:48:010:48:06

on a little boat in Perthshire.

0:48:060:48:07

But for us, to make that public statement,

0:48:080:48:11

with all our friends and family, around about us, just was very,

0:48:110:48:16

very important.

0:48:160:48:18

Everybody that was there, probably with the exception of my parents,

0:48:180:48:22

-were happy for us.

-That's so true!

0:48:220:48:24

I had to strategically place Gerrie so I couldn't see my mother's face,

0:48:250:48:29

which was a bit like fizz at the time!

0:48:290:48:31

There has to be someone at a lesbian wedding who's unhappy.

0:48:310:48:33

There has to be someone.

0:48:330:48:34

For many, civil ceremonies were an important and historic first step.

0:48:380:48:42

But not quite full marriage.

0:48:420:48:44

That would have to wait until 2014,

0:48:460:48:48

introduced by the then Prime Minister David Cameron,

0:48:480:48:51

who said it was one of his proudest achievements.

0:48:510:48:54

When it became law that you could get married,

0:48:550:48:59

did you get married as well?

0:48:590:49:00

We absolutely did!

0:49:000:49:02

Very much so.

0:49:020:49:04

We were the first women in Scotland to exchange those immortal,

0:49:040:49:08

legal vows of equal marriage.

0:49:080:49:10

Nicola Sturgeon was our witness.

0:49:100:49:12

We never expected that we would be able to have either a civil

0:49:120:49:15

partnership or a marriage.

0:49:150:49:16

But those two changes to have come within a decade, it's just amazing.

0:49:180:49:22

CHEERING

0:49:240:49:26

Same-sex marriage sent a powerful message of equality.

0:49:290:49:32

It didn't matter any longer whether you were straight or gay.

0:49:320:49:35

MUSIC: Ces Bottes Sont Faites Pour Marcher by Eileen

0:49:350:49:38

But for one section of our community,

0:49:380:49:40

the road to acceptance has been slower.

0:49:400:49:43

In Britain today, there are thought to be around 650,000 people who feel

0:49:430:49:47

a different gender to the one they were born into.

0:49:470:49:50

We're in complete limbo, we're neither male nor female.

0:49:510:49:54

The law says we're male, but physically, we're female.

0:49:540:49:57

Trans people finally got legal status in 2004.

0:49:590:50:04

But, as with everything in life, it's the small things that matter.

0:50:040:50:08

For Jennifer Black, it was the purchase of an item

0:50:080:50:11

she'd secretly coveted for years as a man.

0:50:110:50:14

Today, I've come down with my Ugg boots.

0:50:180:50:21

I bought them here in Covent Garden, four years ago today.

0:50:210:50:24

It was the day I transitioned,

0:50:240:50:26

and these were the first item of clothing that I bought.

0:50:260:50:29

I'd always wanted a pair.

0:50:290:50:31

My friend Tina said they're like wearing little clouds on your feet,

0:50:310:50:35

in heaven. And that just summed them up for me.

0:50:350:50:37

They're so beautiful. These boots mean so much to me.

0:50:370:50:40

It was the start of a new life. It was a whole new chapter for me.

0:50:400:50:44

And I'll never part with these boots, no matter how ragged they get!

0:50:440:50:47

I knew I was different from other children from a very, very early age.

0:50:540:50:57

I just didn't understand why.

0:50:570:50:59

It was around the 14 mark, when I said to my dad, you know,

0:51:010:51:05

I don't feel right.

0:51:050:51:07

I don't understand. I feel like I shouldn't be a boy.

0:51:070:51:09

My dad arranged to take me to the local doctor,

0:51:120:51:15

and the doctor explained to me that this was just a phase I was going

0:51:150:51:18

through, and I would grow out of it.

0:51:180:51:20

Part of you wants to believe it is just a phase

0:51:210:51:23

and you kind of say in your head, yes, it is, you know.

0:51:230:51:26

This is something I will grow out of.

0:51:260:51:28

But you don't. You don't grow out of it.

0:51:280:51:30

It doesn't go away. It never leaves you.

0:51:300:51:32

For 40 years, Jennifer lived as a man, got married, and even had a family.

0:51:350:51:39

I tried my hardest to live an ordinary life, to just be a normal man,

0:51:410:51:47

but with these thoughts all the time inside me that things weren't right.

0:51:470:51:51

In 2013, I realised I had to do something about it.

0:51:530:51:57

That was taken about two years before I transitioned.

0:51:590:52:04

It seems like, well, it is another lifetime ago, actually.

0:52:040:52:06

My brother, bless him, I told him what I intended to do,

0:52:080:52:11

and he sat down and he said, "Well, I have to say," he says,

0:52:110:52:14

"You're going to be a pretty ugly woman!"

0:52:140:52:16

I've got the letter here from my very first appointment with the

0:52:170:52:22

NHS Gender Service.

0:52:220:52:24

The 28th of January 2013.

0:52:240:52:27

This was the day I actually transitioned.

0:52:290:52:31

And this was the starting point, the turning point in my life,

0:52:320:52:35

a new chapter had begun.

0:52:350:52:37

So this letter, not for its content, but just what it signifies,

0:52:370:52:41

will always be important to me.

0:52:410:52:43

As important as my Ugg boots.

0:52:430:52:44

I feel more content now than I have in the previous 50-plus years of my life.

0:52:460:52:52

MUSIC: Brimful Of Asha by Cornershop

0:52:540:52:58

How we treat lesbian, gay, bisexual, trams and queer people is a vital

0:52:580:53:02

sign of the sort of society we aspire to build.

0:53:020:53:06

In the last ten years in Britain we've become more visible,

0:53:060:53:09

more accepted in the mainstream.

0:53:090:53:11

It's a badge of our modern, liberal way of life.

0:53:110:53:14

But even today in some communities, revealing one's true identity can

0:53:160:53:21

still be fraught with difficulty.

0:53:210:53:22

Birmingham Pride, and the year 2015,

0:53:260:53:29

will forever be etched in the mind of Khakan Qureshi.

0:53:290:53:32

This was when his South Asian lesbian and gay,

0:53:330:53:36

bi and trans group decided to come out of the shadows,

0:53:360:53:39

and make the most public of appearances.

0:53:390:53:41

It was a fantastic event, because we made our way down this route here.

0:53:420:53:47

The crowds were really busy. All sorts of music blaring out.

0:53:470:53:51

For me, it was...

0:53:510:53:52

It was just fantastic, really.

0:53:530:53:55

Pride is associated with vibrant colours, the occasional bit of flesh,

0:53:560:54:01

and outlandish outfits.

0:54:010:54:02

Khakan, however, decided on something a little more individual.

0:54:040:54:07

What I'm wearing right now is the outfit that I wore at

0:54:090:54:11

Birmingham Pride itself which was, like, a tweed green jacket,

0:54:110:54:17

a pink shirt, brogues, as well, which is quintessentially British.

0:54:170:54:21

And then I had of the Union Jack bag as well,

0:54:210:54:23

because it howls the fact that you're British and Asian.

0:54:230:54:27

Your skin colour tells you that you're Asian.

0:54:270:54:29

But your clothing tells the world that you're British.

0:54:290:54:33

Growing up in Birmingham, I'm the youngest of seven,

0:54:380:54:40

Muslim Pakistani background as well.

0:54:400:54:43

And my religion tells me that...

0:54:430:54:46

You know, well, I say religion, but it's people who think they know

0:54:460:54:49

the religion who'll tell you that being gay is forbidden.

0:54:490:54:52

It's haram.

0:54:520:54:54

Even now, people are fearful of what their family will think.

0:54:560:54:59

They don't want to be disowned by their parents.

0:54:590:55:02

They don't want to be ostracised within the community.

0:55:020:55:05

Homophobia is still very strong in the South Asian community.

0:55:050:55:07

So I think it's about confidence, and strength to overcome it,

0:55:070:55:11

and say, "I don't care what you say. This is my life

0:55:110:55:13

"and this is the way I'm going to lead it."

0:55:130:55:15

Never, ever, in my wildest dreams, did I think I would lead a group of

0:55:190:55:23

South Asian LGBT through Birmingham Pride.

0:55:230:55:27

WHISTLES BLOW

0:55:270:55:28

Coming together was a big effort.

0:55:280:55:31

We felt quite vulnerable.

0:55:310:55:33

We thought we're going to stick out like sore thumbs, here.

0:55:330:55:37

So we were quite subdued at the beginning.

0:55:370:55:40

But somebody decided, you know, are we going to have a chant?

0:55:400:55:42

Because the group is called Finding A Voice.

0:55:420:55:45

And we are all... "I don't know, it's going to draw more attention

0:55:450:55:48

"to the group. Shall we, shall We not?"

0:55:480:55:49

And somebody says, "Do you know what? Let's just do it!"

0:55:490:55:53

Find your voice! Find your voice!

0:55:530:55:57

We started chanting, "Find your voice! Find your voice!"

0:55:570:56:02

And then the crowds picked up on that as well, and you know,

0:56:020:56:05

to have the crowds chanting it back with us. It was just...

0:56:050:56:08

It was a fantastic memory, you know, and two years down the line,

0:56:160:56:20

it was a big moment.

0:56:200:56:22

-# Just a perfect day...

-#

0:56:220:56:24

You know, we're like the hidden subculture.

0:56:280:56:30

And people think you can't be black and gay,

0:56:310:56:34

or you can't be Asian and LGBT.

0:56:340:56:36

But the reality is, we can all be what we want to be.

0:56:360:56:39

You know. Our sexual orientation, and gender identity is from A to Z.

0:56:390:56:44

MUSIC: Freedom By George Michael

0:56:440:56:50

A first Pride.

0:56:520:56:54

A pair of Ugg boots.

0:56:540:56:56

A song, march or nun's habit.

0:56:560:57:00

These were the moments that changed people's lives forever.

0:57:010:57:04

Over this series we've heard personal stories of heartbreak,

0:57:050:57:09

shame and seen how, for LGBTQ people,

0:57:090:57:13

Britain today is a very different country to the Britain of 1967.

0:57:130:57:18

In Britain 50 years ago, we were outsiders.

0:57:200:57:23

Pitied, feared, abused.

0:57:230:57:26

Since then there have been dangerous times, sad times,

0:57:260:57:30

but also times of great happiness and fun.

0:57:300:57:32

# Heaven knows I was just a young boy

0:57:320:57:35

# Didn't know what I wanted to be

0:57:350:57:38

# Didn't know what I wanted to be... #

0:57:380:57:40

Today, we can choose how we live.

0:57:400:57:43

Choose where we work, and also choose who you fall in love with.

0:57:430:57:48

And even get married to them!

0:57:480:57:50

We can also choose not to get married.

0:57:530:57:56

But that's the point.

0:57:560:57:57

We have a choice!

0:57:570:57:58

Who's going to marry me?

0:58:010:58:02

For many, it remains hard to be different.

0:58:040:58:06

And homophobia still exists.

0:58:060:58:09

But the changes we've seen during the last 50 years for LGBT life in Britain...

0:58:090:58:14

..have been nothing short of remarkable.

0:58:140:58:17

# All we have to see

0:58:170:58:20

# Is that I don't belong to you

0:58:200:58:23

# And you don't belong to me

0:58:230:58:25

# Yeah, yeah

0:58:250:58:26

# Freedom... #

0:58:260:58:28

Explore more about Britain's LGBT history and how things have changed.

0:58:280:58:32

Go to the website on screen and follow the links

0:58:320:58:34

to the Open University.

0:58:340:58:36

# Freedom # I won't let you down

0:58:360:58:39

# Freedom # So please don't give me up

0:58:390:58:42

# Freedom

0:58:420:58:43

# Cause I would really, really love to stick around

0:58:430:58:47

# Heaven knows we sure had some fun, boy

0:58:470:58:51

# What a kick, just a buddy and me What a kick, just a buddy and me

0:58:510:58:57

# We had every big-shot goodtime band on the run, boy

0:58:570:59:01

# We were living in a fantasy. #

0:59:010:59:04

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