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Funeral directors bury our loved ones.

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One day, they'll do the same for us.

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All the family's memories, all the pictures of their wedding days. It's so sad.

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Death is a certainty, but there are radical new ways to say the final goodbye.

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You don't need a funeral directors.

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It was more appropriate to take him in this van than a hearse because that's not who he was.

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Sorry you're leaving.

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Doing it before you die.

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I just thought why should everyone else have a party after I'm no longer here.

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I think I should be involved in it.

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Dying alone and penniless.

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To see a funeral with no-one is unusual. And it does make me feel sad.

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They are called Lawares which is someone that doesn't have anyone.

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And who needs an undertaker when you can do it yourself?

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This is our funeral.

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Our send-off for him with us doing as much as we possibly can.

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The funeral is having a 21st century makeover.

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Some of us are moving away from the sombre traditional ceremony

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towards a more upbeat individual send-off.

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In Newcastle, a funeral director wants to breathe new life into the business of death.

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This is just a good way of relaxing.

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Ay yeah, it winds you down, doesn't it?

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There is a pool table upstairs as well.

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Carl Marlow is not your average undertaker.

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It's a barrel. We've got them in the shape of the Angel of the North

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where it just looks like the body but without the wings.

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He's upset traditionalists in the trade with his outspoken views.

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The whole thing was bullshit. People should have and do what they want.

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That's why this business is called Go As You Please.

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It says exactly what it means. I want people to go how they want to go.

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Most funeral directors, and I'm not being cheeky about any individual but they are all the same.

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They even have an uniform.

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They've got stripy pants, a hat gloves they don't wear and a stick.

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He set up in business after his mother died.

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He still has bad memories of her funeral.

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I thought the funeral was rubbish. Nothing went wrong.

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Afterwards, I felt guilty because it was the same as everybody else's.

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The family know I say this but none of us put any effort in,

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none of us put any personal items in and afterwards, that prolonged my grieving process.

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I started reading books, looked into it and realised you don't even need a funeral director.

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People don't realise you can do anything you want

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but they are embarrassed to ask these questions.

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In Britain today, the funeral is all about personal choice.

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To stay ahead of the game, even traditional undertakers are having to change with the times.

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Our motto is anything that's legal. We aren't ambassadors of good taste.

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We believe the client, the family are always right.

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Nigel Lymn Rose heads up AW Lymn in Nottingham.

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Started by his great grandfather in l907,

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it's now one of the country's biggest independent funeral companies.

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This is a good business.

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But make no mistake, we are like any other business,

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people often say, it's all right for you, people will always die.

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There is always going to be death, but I can only sell, one person, one funeral.

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More customers are asking for funerals with a modern twist.

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It's a one-off occasion and something that must be done properly.

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Nigel's son Matthew is the latest member of the family to join the business.

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He's keen to experiment with new ideas.

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One of the more unusual hearses that we offer now is a London double decker bus.

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We've built this decking system so the coffin can be transported as well

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with the family downstairs and the rest of the mourners upstairs or just as a hearse with the coffin.

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It has proved popular.

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This bus has got an appeal to people who wants something unusual.

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They have really almost a party feeling to and from the funeral.

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By no means is it sombre and doom and gloom and black suits.

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Funerals are progressive and people are now more and more open to suggestions

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and it really is a celebration of someone's life.

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It looks a bit weird when you come out.

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Funeral director Carl Marlow is on a mission.

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He wants to help the bereaved do more of the funeral planning themselves.

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You don't need to spend hundreds of pounds on flowers from the florists.

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It's about not wasting money because when everybody's alive, they will tell you, don't waste money.

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I am going to pinch some daffodils, but it's only a rough ground area.

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All I'm looking for is colour. Dandelions.

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These are classed as weeds. You do get some funny looks!

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A lot of people say, "Oh Col, you don't look like a funeral director" and I bloody thank them!

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Who wants to look like a funeral director? Not me!

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You can do anything you want. You can get a van, buy a coffin off us, go to the mortuary.

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The mortuary staff would help place the loved one inside the coffin,

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put the coffin in the back of the van, drive to the crematorium, job done.

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The Do It Yourself funeral is a radical new idea

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but it's catching on because it's intimate and usually cheaper.

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In North Lincolnshire, Sue Smail has just lost her husband, Tony.

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The quilt.

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With the support of her family, she's arranged the funeral herself.

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When I'm dead, set me in van.

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Sit me in a cardboard box, put me in a van and be done with it.

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None of this claptrap as you would say.

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They've chosen a rather unusual hearse.

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This is the van he loved. Lived in it, he loved it.

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It seemed more appropriate to take him in this than in a hearse

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because that's not who he was. There was no giving up on the van.

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-There was a point where my mum didn't have a car but he still had his van.

-He was proud of it.

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There was no point paying a stranger to carry my dad when I could carry him.

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Hopefully, I don't brake down and drop him.

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From the way my mum and dad have lived from this house,

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they never rang for a plasterer and paid him,

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never rang up a plumber. He did most of the things himself.

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If he'd have to have someone out, he'd be stood next to them, asking them what he was doing.

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-Next time, he wouldn't have to get them in.

-That's true.

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You know the living room rug, I put that down but it'll come up at the sides, but it doesn't matter anyway.

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This is our funeral.

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Our send-off for him with us doing as much as we possibly can.

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We'll do it our way. We don't have to stick with whatever everybody else wants.

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Tony Smale died two weeks after being diagnosed with cancer.

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He was 70 years old.

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There wasn't anything he couldn't do.

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He fixed cars, he built buildings, he renovated, he decorated, he painted, he played the piano.

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He sang, he loved his Elvis. He was a very, very talented man

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and we are lucky to have had him in our life.

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He's probably had his tool box out already in heaven.

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But when a loved one dies,

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most people still turn to a traditional funeral director for help.

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AW Lymn have opened a one-stop shop to help the bereaved

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arrange a more personalised send off.

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This is the floristry department

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and like most things we get involved in, we like to have control of them.

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On the coffin itself, it's just a spray

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but we saw a rise in lilies following the funeral of Princess Diana.

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The coffin is usually the most expensive single item on the bill.

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So, the Georgetown is solid bronze or there is the Millennium casket

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which is stainless steel and gold fittings.

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It is usually referred to as the Rolex.

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That is about £10,000.

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Or if you really want, there is the solid bronze casket which is gold plated,

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called the Promethean.

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The same casket that was used by Michael Jackson and that's in the region of £20,000.

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What we are trying to do is offer all choices to all people.

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It's a bloody box. When you ask most people when they are alive,

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they'd say stick me in a cardboard box and put me in the bottom of the garden.

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With the money that you save, I'd much rather be grieving on a beach

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than paying money from something like this that's going to be burnt.

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Nobody comes up to them and says, that's a lovely bit of wood!

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People think the more money they spend, the more respectful they're being.

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In our society, we don't question it.

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Carl Marlow believes cheaper funerals are the future.

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His solution, a cut-price flat-pack coffin.

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You hear a lot of people asking for a cardboard coffin

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but families don't want to have a cardboard coffin

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because of the neighbours and it makes them look cheap.

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This helps them do it a bit cheaper but it looks expensive.

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The body is placed in a cardboard box

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and put inside Carl's flat-pack coffin.

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Once the crematorium curtains have closed,

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Carl and his assistant take their flat-pack coffin away

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and the body is cremated in the cardboard box.

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And that's that. The beauty of this is we know, the family know

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but the rest of the congregation don't know there's a cardboard coffin in here.

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It looks an expensive funeral. It doesn't look as if the family have done things cheaply

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or being disrespectful because it's a cardboard coffin.

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It has cost hundreds rather than thousands of pounds

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to give Tony Smail the simple goodbye he wanted.

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His body has been brought back to the family home in Lincolnshire

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before tomorrow's funeral.

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A like big chunky men. He was my best.

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The local undertaker helped Sue wash and dress him but the family will take over from here.

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-He's bowing in that, isn't he?

-Yes!

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He looks bigger.

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Seems so much bigger.

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Tony belonged to the Church of Latter Day Saints.

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The family's planned a religious service followed by a woodland burial.

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I think each family needs to work out what's for them and what's for their beliefs and what would work.

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This is what works for us.

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He looks smart. I always promised I would fetch him home.

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I wanted to keep my promise

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and I wanted to do him some flowers that were personal to us

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because it's our tribute for my husband

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and I wanted to show my love to him.

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It's a sad time for me but we want to celebrate my husband's life because he was a good man.

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He was a great man.

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It was only three weeks ago he was outside putting a window in the house and now we're burying him.

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At least he wasn't in any pain and went quickly with his dignity

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because he was a very proud man.

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I'll probably cry my eyes out saying my goodbyes

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but he'd want me to get on with my life, he was...I don't know.

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Not good, I suppose.

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Tomorrow is my last farewell, my last day with my man.

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But I've got my family, I've got my beliefs

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and I'm lucky to have what I had, 19 years of a wonderful husband,

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father who was a man mountain.

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Tony Smail passed away surrounded by those he loved.

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But this year in Britain, over 20,000 people will die alone

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with no-one to arrange the funeral and no money left to pay for it.

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AW Lymn, can I help you?

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Despite their Rolls-Royce image,

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AW Lymn carry out funerals like this every week.

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Once known as a pauper's burial, now called a public health funeral.

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Jackie Lymn Rose has just collected a man's body from the local hospital.

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He was only 62 when he died.

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It's sad because for someone in their 60s to be alone,

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is really, really something quite difficult to imagine.

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It's sad. None of us would like to be in that situation.

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But maybe he lived his life happily without any other human contact.

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When someone dies alone, the local council will pay for the funeral.

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But first, a search is carried out for lost relatives.

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Paula Richardson is part of a specialist team at Nottingham Council.

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We get people that have decided to drop out of society

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and they maybe alcohol or drug dependent.

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We do unfortunately get gentlemen that their wives have deceased and they haven't had children

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they tend to live on their own and don't have friends.

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Then we get people, who have lead an average life and the family haven't got the money.

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They may live month to month by their salary and can't afford a funeral.

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Basically, it's anybody and everyone.

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An advert appealing for information about Anthony has been placed in the local paper.

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Dave Stretton, another member of the team is searching Anthony's house for clues.

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Quite often it can be a Christmas card list, an address book,

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a diary with people's names and contact details.

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But we don't always come across that type of information.

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Sometimes, there's still no information at all.

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Very basic in the house. There was no carpets, it was bare floorboards.

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Poor state of repair to be fair.

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Very little in the property in terms of furniture.

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From what I can understand, the gentleman had a number of cats.

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There was the mess from the cats in the property.

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We do come across some information but on this occasion, there's nothing to go on at this stage.

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In East London, another funeral company is dealing with a similar case.

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An 80-year-old Muslim man has died alone

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and no relatives have come forward to bury him.

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His body has been taken to Haji Taslim,

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a Muslim funeral business run by Gulam Taslim and his daughter, Moona.

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Oh!

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This time there's no need for the council to pay for the funeral.

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They are called Lawarez which is someone that doesn't have anyone.

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It's a great honour and privilege to bury them and we as a community should bear the cost and organise it.

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Muslims want to be buried as quickly as possible after death

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so the soul can make a fast journey to eternal peace.

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The body of the Lawarez is now being washed and shrouded in preparation for burial.

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Even though the council would have paid for a Muslim funeral,

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someone who knew the deceased has stepped in to help.

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Since I spoke to you on Friday, things have changed.

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Have you found some family members?

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There are these angels. He went and register the death and bring the papers to us

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and went, please can you bury him and I'll see what I can do.

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-Among the community, he is known as Aziz.

-Abdul Aziz.

-Uncle Aziz.

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He was known as Uncle Aziz. OK. Aziz.

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He called him Uncle Aziz

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and he worked for his father many, many years ago in his restaurant.

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Other than that, he doesn't know the address he lived at for us to write on our paper work.

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If something was to happen to me,

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again, straight away, I would want to be buried Islamically.

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I see it as that should be my duty as well.

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He had the heart attack while he was with us.

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He spent part of his life with us and it was my duty. I see it as my duty.

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Mosruz and his friends have gone to the mosque to try and raise funds for the funeral.

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They're also trying to find out if anyone knows anything about Aziz's lost family.

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Most of these people knew who he was.

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But nobody knows if he had relatives, who they were.

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It's the same story.

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He was Kenyan so you have to get in touch with the Kenyan community.

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There are a lot of Muslim Kenyans. You have to get in touch with them.

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Customers come to Carl Marlow for a funeral with a difference.

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Some of them start planning the big day before they die.

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He's just made an unusual coffin for someone who wants a light-hearted send off.

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There's a lady called Linda who's terminally ill.

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She got in touch with me wanting me to help make a coffin for her.

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She came up with a vodka bottle.

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That is the whole point of what we do and we try and do whatever anybody asks.

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It's a tragic time so it doesn't have to be miserable.

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It's trying to make it more upbeat.

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Just because I love vodka, that's the only reason why.

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You can have post boxes, anything you want on a coffin.

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I think, it's my party and I'll do what I want to.

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That's basically it.

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Linda Timberlake is 56 and suffers from an incurable lung disorder.

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With Carl's help, she's putting together detailed plans for her own funeral.

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This is my little box with all my instructions when the inevitable happens

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and these are my letters that I've written to my family.

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To my daughter, my son and my partner.

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I'm happy that in this box is everything that I've requested

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and that Carl's agreed to do for me.

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I don't want tears, I want people to remember me as a fun person.

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Someone who liked a joke and a laugh and was bubbly.

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I want them to remember me that way.

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-What do you think?

-It's nice. It's just not me.

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Today, Carl's taking Linda on a tour around Tyneside crematoriums.

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I don't think it's got much character to it.

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Linda doesn't want a religious funeral

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but she still wants the venue to have a spiritual feel.

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I like the stained glass windows but they don't say a story.

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-You don't have to come here.

-No, I don't have to.

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It's important for you to see what this place is because it'll be your funeral.

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It's nice to see how it would be laid out like they've put thought into it.

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-I feel as if the coffin is hid away.

-Yes, it is out of the way.

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It's your funeral. It's all about yourself. It's the most selfish act you can do.

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-It's not as if they can say anything to you. I just try and say da-ra.

-No.

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You are not being offensive, you are doing what you want to do.

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If you're OK and up to it, we can pop to the car...

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The next crematorium is at Whitley Bay,

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Carl thinks its picturesque location will make it the perfect place for Linda's funeral.

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-This is gorgeous.

-This is probably the oldest. It's a listed building but it's not actually.

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-You can throw a party in here.

-Really?

-You can do anything you want in any crematorium.

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-Can I have my wake here as well?

-You'd have to have it in 15 minutes!

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It's classed as a chapel but as long as it is left in the same condition

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as what it was when we came in.

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I've served wine and cheese in here at funerals.

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It's got such an olde-worlde feel about it. I love the ceiling.

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You'd be surprised, very few people come in and look at these places beforehand.

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They presume you have to go to the one closest to where they live.

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It's important to find somewhere special.

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I'm changing my mind that this is the one I want. It's just so quaint and lovely and olde-worlde.

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It's got meaning to it. It's not a soulless building. I like it.

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-No, good.

-The ceiling is beautiful, isn't it?

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I wanted to be able to do it for myself.

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Have something to do, keep my mind occupied

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and get where I wanted, really.

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It's control.

0:25:350:25:37

I have no control over this disease but I have control over my ending.

0:25:370:25:41

Carl plans to expand his business to help more people plan an individual funeral

0:25:480:25:53

so they won't make the mistakes he did when he buried his mother.

0:25:530:25:58

For my mother's funeral, it was the same as anybody else's. I didn't recognise anything about my mum.

0:25:580:26:05

I didn't understand anything about death or funerals

0:26:050:26:10

or funeral directors or what their roles are or what the rules are.

0:26:100:26:16

But I do know now is, and this is where I get angry at times, there were no rules.

0:26:160:26:23

I wasn't misinformed, I just didn't know.

0:26:230:26:27

If I had known then what I know now,

0:26:270:26:30

my mother's funeral would have been 100% different.

0:26:300:26:34

It would have been done with a lot more love.

0:26:340:26:40

It cost a fortune, well, it shouldn't have to.

0:26:400:26:44

There's good news in East London.

0:26:470:26:50

Mosruz and his friends have raised enough money in donations to pay for Aziz's funeral.

0:26:500:26:56

The burial can go ahead.

0:26:560:26:58

Was he like a real character because to find so many people that would donate, is lovely.

0:26:580:27:04

Previously, he was employed by our father,

0:27:040:27:07

we have been in touch with him for the last 30 years.

0:27:070:27:12

Since Dad passed away, he has been in touch with us.

0:27:120:27:15

He has kept an eye on us, that's how we know him.

0:27:150:27:17

Friday, you came in and said there's no-one

0:27:170:27:20

and then over the weekend, you've managed to raise funds and do it all.

0:27:200:27:25

All of you, so many blessings may be bestowed on you.

0:27:250:27:30

-It's much cheaper in the cemetery.

-Over £3,000 has been raised to pay for the funeral.

0:27:300:27:35

The money left over will be given to a special fund at the mosque

0:27:350:27:40

that will pay for the burial of other Muslims who die alone.

0:27:400:27:44

He was a wonderful guy. He was jolly, always happy.

0:27:440:27:50

Whatever issues he had, he never showed any signs of stress.

0:27:500:27:55

He was funny and such a wonderful person to have around.

0:27:550:27:59

Everything's in place and soon Aziz's body will finally be laid to rest.

0:27:590:28:06

There's a Muslim somewhere that doesn't have anyone

0:28:060:28:11

but he is definitely going to be buried with some dignity

0:28:110:28:14

and in the way he should be buried, which is lovely.

0:28:140:28:17

I'm proud to be Muslim today. I'm always proud to be Muslim

0:28:170:28:20

but it's lovely to hear that these people have done this. They didn't need to.

0:28:200:28:25

The council would have organised it. He would have got buried eventually.

0:28:250:28:29

It was important enough for them to make sure he got buried as a Muslim and as soon as possible.

0:28:290:28:35

No-one's come forward about Anthony, the man who died alone in Nottingham,

0:28:360:28:42

so Lymns are going ahead with his funeral.

0:28:420:28:46

The council will pay for it and he'll be treated

0:28:460:28:49

with the same dignity and respect as any other client.

0:28:490:28:54

We have chosen to dress Anthony in blue

0:28:540:28:58

and the blue gown, shroud, robe or whatever you wish to call it,

0:28:580:29:04

has actually the appearance of a dressing gown.

0:29:040:29:08

It will be laid over him neatly

0:29:080:29:12

and the chord will be tied so it can look as if he has got a dressing gown on

0:29:140:29:19

that has a chord tied at the waist.

0:29:190:29:23

The sleeves will be placed on too.

0:29:230:29:28

The final preparations are now underway.

0:29:300:29:33

Anthony' coffin will be placed in the chapel of rest

0:29:330:29:36

and his funeral will take place in the morning.

0:29:360:29:39

I suppose none of us would like to die on our own.

0:29:390:29:44

But that said, we knew nothing about his lifestyle.

0:29:440:29:47

He chose to live alone and he probably happy to die anytime

0:29:470:29:53

surrounded by his cats.

0:29:530:29:57

All I can say is that we've looked after him to a very best

0:29:580:30:01

and tomorrow, he will have a dignified funeral.

0:30:010:30:06

Bye bye.

0:30:100:30:12

We are in the middle of a funeral revolution.

0:30:230:30:28

People are doing it for themselves.

0:30:280:30:30

People are planning their own send-off in advance.

0:30:330:30:37

So would I be on this side then? Or would I be this side?

0:30:370:30:41

Yeah. No, you'd be here.

0:30:410:30:45

People are arranging a new kind of funeral,

0:30:450:30:49

so they can see goodbye to family and friends before they die.

0:30:490:30:52

Blossom Wilson is 50 years old.

0:30:540:30:57

She's been told she only has months left to live.

0:30:570:31:00

She is organising a living funeral.

0:31:000:31:04

I am calling it like a farewell party, yeah.

0:31:040:31:07

But really, it's like a pre-wake or a living wake.

0:31:080:31:13

Blossom's living funeral will celebrate the end of her life,

0:31:130:31:18

but she will be there to enjoy it as well.

0:31:180:31:21

I just thought, why should everybody else have a party

0:31:250:31:28

after I'm no longer here?

0:31:280:31:30

I think that I should be involved in it.

0:31:300:31:33

So I just thought, bring the party forward.

0:31:330:31:35

Today, Blossom is in Scunthorpe, looking for bits and pieces

0:31:410:31:45

to decorate the venue of her special farewell party.

0:31:450:31:49

What I'm celebrating is basically life.

0:31:510:31:57

I'm retiring on the grounds of ill-health from work

0:31:570:32:01

and I am doing a farewell party

0:32:010:32:04

because I'm on a time limit.

0:32:040:32:06

-Oh, how wonderful.

-Basically, my wake before I've had my parting!

0:32:060:32:11

I had another lady that did that.

0:32:110:32:14

-Did you?

-Yeah, she had a party.

0:32:140:32:16

They are getting very popular. People are doing this

0:32:160:32:19

because they want to celebrate their life with all their friends.

0:32:190:32:23

-Whereabouts are you having it?

-St Bernadette's.

-Oh, right.

0:32:230:32:27

In the club there. That's fine.

0:32:270:32:29

I think you're amazing to want to do this.

0:32:290:32:34

I don't see why everyone should party after I've gone!

0:32:340:32:37

I want the party before.

0:32:370:32:40

You're having the wake before and you're going to be part of it.

0:32:400:32:43

What a wonderful thing to think about, to be honest.

0:32:430:32:47

-Then you know what it will be like and what people say about you.

-Yeah!

0:32:470:32:54

Hopefully some of it's good.

0:32:540:32:56

That's a girl, and a boy. First birthday. Sweet 16.

0:33:000:33:05

'Mentally, I'm sort of detached'

0:33:050:33:08

from the fact that I will be passing away.

0:33:080:33:14

And I think that to focus on the party is a separate thing

0:33:140:33:18

to thinking about dying.

0:33:180:33:21

And just to keep the two things separate is to me

0:33:210:33:24

the best way of coping with it at the moment.

0:33:240:33:28

I don't know where I found the ability to sort of do that,

0:33:280:33:32

but, you know, it's the best viable option at the moment.

0:33:320:33:38

Can't see anything that says farewell or...

0:33:380:33:42

Finding things that hit the right tone is proving to be a challenge.

0:33:420:33:47

"Sorry you're leaving".

0:33:470:33:50

That might be...

0:33:500:33:53

-It's very difficult, isn't it?

-It is, isn't it?

0:33:570:34:01

Is that the right sort of...?

0:34:010:34:05

That would be more if somebody was moving house or going away,

0:34:050:34:10

or abroad or something like that.

0:34:100:34:13

It's trying to find something that is appropriate

0:34:130:34:17

that when people read it they're not going to be either upset or offended

0:34:170:34:23

by the fact that this leaving party is actually me leaving the planet.

0:34:230:34:29

Erm...

0:34:290:34:32

Yeah.

0:34:320:34:35

I want to make each day count, whatever I do,

0:34:390:34:42

it's got to be a positive thing.

0:34:420:34:45

It's no good sitting in a corner, moping,

0:34:450:34:48

grieving for myself or what I might lose or what the family might lose,

0:34:480:34:53

because while you're sorrowful, you're missing out on a lot.

0:34:530:34:59

And I want to get out there and sort of touch everybody.

0:35:000:35:05

-And it's going to be a good do.

-Yes.

0:35:050:35:09

Yeah, I like to party!

0:35:090:35:12

-Is that the one you're making for grandad?

-Yeah.

-OK, you do that one.

0:35:230:35:27

# Did you ever notice when the sun goes down? #

0:35:270:35:32

It's the day of Tony Smale's DIY funeral.

0:35:320:35:36

-Have you done one yet, Pete?

-Is there one for me to do as well?

0:35:360:35:40

There's one for everybody to do.

0:35:400:35:41

Children, grandchildren and the rest of the family

0:35:410:35:44

are gathered at the house.

0:35:440:35:46

The white roses represent eternity and this is mine,

0:35:460:35:50

which is a white rose and a red rose, and when we've lowered Tony

0:35:500:35:56

into the woodland place, they're going to put roses in and this is

0:35:560:36:01

everybody saying what their feelings are and what they want to say.

0:36:010:36:05

-Did you like seeing grandad this morning?

-Yeah.

0:36:050:36:08

-He looks good doesn't he?

-Yeah.

0:36:080:36:10

-Do you want to go and show him and talk to him about that?

-Yeah.

0:36:100:36:13

OK then. Go on then. I'm not going to come and lift you up.

0:36:130:36:17

You can talk to him quietly.

0:36:170:36:20

See you soon.

0:36:200:36:22

I want to put the ribbon on the van.

0:36:250:36:28

This is really Pete Robinson's. He'd approve.

0:36:280:36:33

'My husband used to say, don't waste money, don't get in people

0:36:360:36:41

'and things and talents you can do yourself.'

0:36:410:36:44

We need his van right now.

0:36:440:36:46

'Why get some money else in when you can either learn it yourself

0:36:460:36:50

'or have a go and try yourself?'

0:36:500:36:52

Do you want to just measure there?

0:36:520:36:54

Right, shall we go in then?

0:36:540:36:56

And now the journey together.

0:37:070:37:10

-This is going how he'd like it though.

-I know.

0:37:160:37:19

-He's waiting for you.

-I know.

0:37:210:37:23

He was always waiting for me. See you in a bit.

0:37:270:37:30

In Nottingham, Anthony, the man who died alone,

0:37:410:37:45

is about to have his public-health funeral.

0:37:450:37:48

Matthew is carrying out final checks before leaving for the crematorium.

0:37:500:37:56

Checking the breastplate's correct and the spelling is correct, the dates and the age is correct.

0:37:560:38:00

And this funeral is no different from any other.

0:38:000:38:03

The coffin will then be sealed down and I'll brief the staff on exactly what we're going to do.

0:38:050:38:11

It's very sad, the first time you think that you're doing a funeral

0:38:120:38:16

where there may be no mourners, maybe nobody present, other than our staff

0:38:160:38:20

and the representative of the City of Nottingham, but it's important

0:38:200:38:25

that everyone is afforded the same dignity and the same respect.

0:38:250:38:29

Everybody gets the same service.

0:38:320:38:35

OK, as you know, this is an environmental health funeral.

0:38:390:38:44

Not expecting there to be many people there,

0:38:440:38:47

maybe just someone from the council and ourselves.

0:38:470:38:49

Mosruz and his friends have joined

0:39:140:39:17

worshippers at East London Mosque for Aziz's funeral.

0:39:170:39:21

Aziz died with no known family,

0:39:230:39:25

but today his fellow Muslims will give him a full Islamic burial.

0:39:250:39:31

Funerals are held here every day during regular prayers.

0:39:380:39:43

Allahu Akbar. >

0:39:450:39:48

Afterwards, Aziz's coffin is taken to the viewing room.

0:39:510:39:55

People who didn't even know him have come to pay their last respects.

0:39:560:40:00

It's very nice to think that at a time like this that everybody

0:40:000:40:06

can just come together, whatever differences.

0:40:060:40:09

I mean, there's also friends that have contributed towards

0:40:090:40:13

the funeral, non-Muslim friends.

0:40:130:40:14

-Whoever wants to go.

-Yeah.

0:40:160:40:18

In Scunthorpe, Blossom Wilson is getting things ready

0:40:340:40:38

for her living funeral, which will take place this evening.

0:40:380:40:42

You can buy the banner as it is and then you get the letters

0:40:420:40:45

and then you have to create your own whatever you want on it,

0:40:450:40:50

which I thought was a great idea.

0:40:500:40:52

I don't want it to be sad, morbid or anything like that.

0:40:580:41:01

People have been unsure as to what a living wake is expected to be like.

0:41:010:41:08

But I mean, seeing as how I've never experienced one,

0:41:080:41:12

let alone a lot of the guests, so it's just a case of suck it and see,

0:41:120:41:16

play it by ear and just hope that we all have a good time.

0:41:160:41:20

It is enjoying the life that I have had

0:41:230:41:27

and the memories that I am leaving behind for family and friends.

0:41:270:41:32

Yeah. It wants to be upbeat, no misery.

0:41:320:41:36

Blossom's partner, Mark, is helping with preparations.

0:41:380:41:44

It sort of makes you realise that, you know, life is for living

0:41:440:41:50

and this is what it's all about, isn't it?

0:41:500:41:53

She's having a happy time before anything happens.

0:41:530:41:56

This is my guestbook.

0:42:070:42:09

Cos I'd like a record of

0:42:100:42:13

who's been here, to the party.

0:42:130:42:17

And...

0:42:170:42:19

also, I can pass it to my sons

0:42:190:42:22

so, when my actual wake is,

0:42:220:42:25

when I have actually passed away,

0:42:250:42:27

then they can utilise the book

0:42:270:42:30

to know which friends to contact.

0:42:300:42:34

Also, when I do pass,

0:42:340:42:36

these people are going to be reunited again, and they'll be going,

0:42:360:42:40

"Crikey, wasn't that a fantastic party she put on the other year?

0:42:400:42:44

"It was absolutely brilliant and I'm so pleased she did it."

0:42:440:42:46

And they can reflect back, themselves,

0:42:460:42:49

and bond together again.

0:42:490:42:51

So, that's what I'm hoping.

0:42:520:42:54

I think I'll wear this one tonight with my dress.

0:43:040:43:07

Just need some make-up on.

0:43:080:43:11

I don't know what is going to occur tonight, at all.

0:43:120:43:16

But hopefully, it's all good.

0:43:160:43:18

Tony Smail's wicker coffin has been brought to church

0:43:310:43:34

in the white van he loved.

0:43:340:43:38

He was a regular worshipper here and the resident pianist.

0:43:380:43:43

He liked me to walk four paces behind him.

0:43:460:43:49

He lived all his life, "Walk for paces behind me, love.

0:43:490:43:52

"Walk for paces behind me."

0:43:520:43:53

We won't upset him, then.

0:43:530:43:55

-Yeah, I'll give him his dream come true.

-Yeah, that's it.

0:43:550:43:58

As a Mormon, Sue believes that one day there will be

0:44:000:44:03

a Second Resurrection, and she will see her husband again.

0:44:030:44:07

Do you want to start lifting him, boys?

0:44:070:44:09

I think, if I didn't have my faith,

0:44:110:44:13

I certainly would fall apart.

0:44:130:44:17

But my faith hold me and comforts me.

0:44:170:44:19

It doesn't stop the pain, but I am comforted,

0:44:200:44:23

because I know that he's there.

0:44:230:44:24

And...

0:44:240:44:26

we can continue,

0:44:260:44:28

we can pick up and go on.

0:44:280:44:31

So that I know, as I go about my daily life,

0:44:310:44:33

there is still a future for me and my husband.

0:44:330:44:37

And that is the most important thing.

0:44:370:44:40

Tony's having a green burial.

0:44:420:44:44

Sue's purchased a plot for him at a special woodland site.

0:44:440:44:49

Natural burials are growing trend.

0:44:490:44:53

In the last 16 years, over 220 sites have opened up all over Britain.

0:44:530:44:57

Remember who has to go first.

0:45:040:45:06

-Will he get buried over there?

-Grandad will get buried over there.

0:45:060:45:09

# Well, I'm tired and so weary... #

0:45:090:45:15

Tony's body hasn't been embalmed,

0:45:150:45:17

so no chemicals will go into the earth when he is buried.

0:45:170:45:20

# Till the Lord comes and calls

0:45:200:45:28

# Calls me away... #

0:45:280:45:29

We love nature, and I think the world is so polluted,

0:45:290:45:33

and the world is so commercial...

0:45:330:45:35

I think go back to nature,

0:45:350:45:37

and go back to the beautiful things of the world.

0:45:370:45:39

How beautiful to become part of a wood.

0:45:390:45:42

# And the lamp is alight

0:45:420:45:45

# And the night... #

0:45:450:45:49

It says in the Scriptures, "Dust to dust, ashes to ashes,"

0:45:490:45:52

so, let's do it nature's way.

0:45:520:45:55

That's how Tony and I have been all of our lives.

0:45:550:45:57

# There will be peace in the valley for me someday... #

0:45:570:46:05

Our Father in Heaven...

0:46:080:46:09

Sue's bought the next-door plot so, one day,

0:46:090:46:12

she can be buried next to Tony.

0:46:120:46:14

In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

0:46:140:46:16

ALL: Amen.

0:46:160:46:18

One heart, one soul, one love that will last an eternity,

0:46:200:46:23

from beginning to the end.

0:46:230:46:25

I long for us to be together, but time has passed,

0:46:250:46:27

and death has torn us apart.

0:46:270:46:30

See you soon, my darling.

0:46:300:46:32

# There will be peace

0:46:320:46:37

# In the valley for me

0:46:370:46:40

# For me. #

0:46:400:46:47

Aziz's body has been brought to Forest Gate Cemetery

0:46:550:46:58

for his Muslim burial.

0:46:580:47:00

Can you...?

0:47:050:47:07

No faces, please.

0:47:070:47:09

Please, no faces.

0:47:090:47:11

Muslims prefer the body to be taken out of the coffin,

0:47:110:47:14

and placed in the grave,

0:47:140:47:16

but some cemeteries don't allow shroud burials.

0:47:160:47:19

-I don't know.

-Basically...

0:47:210:47:24

They've been told that if they want Aziz's body

0:47:240:47:27

taken out of the coffin, they'll need to dig a bigger grave.

0:47:270:47:30

HE SPEAKS FOREIGN LANGUAGE

0:47:300:47:35

-The box is going in there, yeah?

-Yes.

0:47:350:47:37

Yes, that's all right, but just leave a little bit air for the face.

0:47:370:47:40

The mourners decide it's more important

0:47:430:47:45

to get Aziz's body into the ground as soon as possible.

0:47:450:47:48

It is every Muslim's duty to come together,

0:47:510:47:54

when you hear someone has died, to turn up for their funeral prayers,

0:47:540:47:57

to turn up to the grave, to carry their body on your shoulder,

0:47:570:48:00

and to make sure that you have buried them and then

0:48:000:48:03

everything is done as religiously, in as an Islamic way as possible.

0:48:030:48:07

The body of Anthony, the man who died alone,

0:48:210:48:24

is on its way to the local crematorium.

0:48:240:48:27

No-one knows if he was a religious man,

0:48:270:48:30

but he will have a religious funeral.

0:48:300:48:32

He once ticked a box on a council form

0:48:320:48:34

saying he was Church of England,

0:48:340:48:37

so a local priest, David Bignall,

0:48:370:48:39

will conduct the service.

0:48:390:48:41

Well...

0:48:440:48:45

It's one of those sad ones

0:48:450:48:48

where the guy who's died, aged 62,

0:48:480:48:52

doesn't seem to have a family member or a friend in the world.

0:48:520:48:57

So, it's up to us.

0:48:570:49:00

I think it's important for everyone who comes to the end of their life,

0:49:030:49:07

that there should be this right of passage.

0:49:070:49:11

I mean, I'm not assuming anything at all about Anthony.

0:49:110:49:14

I mean, I don't know whether he was a Christian or not,

0:49:140:49:17

or whether he had any faith at all or not,

0:49:170:49:20

but it's my responsibility, my duty, to commend him to God

0:49:200:49:24

and to say a prayer over him as we bid farewell.

0:49:240:49:28

I believe there will be a place for Anthony,

0:49:290:49:33

and I just hope and pray that he's found his way to it.

0:49:330:49:36

The only thing known for certain about Anthony was his love of cats.

0:49:400:49:44

# All things bright and beautiful... #

0:49:440:49:46

So, a special hymn has been chosen

0:49:460:49:48

to take his coffin into the crematorium.

0:49:480:49:51

# All things wise and wonderful

0:49:510:49:55

# The Lord God made them all

0:49:550:49:59

# Each little flower that opens

0:49:590:50:02

# Each little bird that sings

0:50:020:50:06

# He made their glowing colours

0:50:060:50:09

# He made their tiny wings

0:50:090:50:13

# All things wise and wonderful

0:50:130:50:18

# The Lord God made them all. #

0:50:180:50:25

Well, Anthony, we know very little about you.

0:50:250:50:28

Our consolation is that God knows you,

0:50:300:50:33

and he has prepared a place for you in Heaven.

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There are three people in the congregation.

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Matthew,

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a representative from the council,

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and a member of the crematorium staff.

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Did you have brothers and sisters? What were your friends like?

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Where did you go to school? When did you go to work?

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What were your hobbies and interests? We know nothing of these days.

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All we know is that when you came to the end of your life,

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you lived on your own in Strelley with your 16 cats,

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which suggests to me that you loved animals,

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and maybe they were your only friends.

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Maybe we might be forgiven for calling you a loner...

0:51:140:51:19

..because it would seem that you did prefer your own company,

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and to have your pets around you.

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Your lifestyle maybe didn't make you the most popular person

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amongst your neighbours, and many of them did complain about you,

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but I think it's significant that you actually wrote a letter

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to the council saying, "I will move anywhere,

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"as long as I can live my life in peace and in harmony."

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We have entrusted Anthony to God's merciful keeping,

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and we now commit his body to be cremated

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in sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life,

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through our Lord Jesus Christ,

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who died, was buried, and rose again for us.

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To Him be glory, for ever and ever. Amen.

0:52:080:52:12

Blossom has arrived at the local church hall

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for her own living funeral.

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-Hello, darling. You look gorgeous.

-Thank you.

0:52:280:52:31

-Just a little card. Read it later.

-OK.

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Over 100 people have come together to celebrate her life.

0:52:350:52:38

-How are you feeling?

-OK, yeah.

0:52:380:52:41

Good. You're wonderful!

0:52:410:52:43

20 years down the line, we're going to do this again.

0:52:430:52:46

-It a living wake.

-Yeah.

0:52:480:52:51

-Live while you can.

-Yeah.

-I don't blame you.

0:52:510:52:53

Hello.

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This is my grandson, from my eldest son.

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We're having lots of photographs taken and things,

0:53:030:53:06

so he can remember me.

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Aren't we?

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Finding the right words for the special guest book

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is difficult for many of Blossom's friends.

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I've got no idea what I'm going to put.

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It's going to take me a while to think about it.

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I don't know what's appropriate in the circumstances.

0:53:250:53:28

-We've come to support you.

-We're going to come again next year.

0:53:360:53:38

-You what?

-We're going to come again next year.

-I know!

0:53:380:53:41

I found it a bit...strange

0:53:410:53:44

that somebody could celebrate their life

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before they've died, if that makes sense.

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I don't think I could do it.

0:53:520:53:55

-You look gorgeous.

-Thank you.

0:53:550:53:57

I think that anyone having to plan a living wake is in

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a very poor position in life, but to know that you are surrounded

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by your friends and people who love you, and truly love you,

0:54:040:54:08

and they're the people that are here...

0:54:080:54:10

I have lots of admiration for her, for being able to do this.

0:54:100:54:14

You know, I find it incredibly difficult being here

0:54:140:54:17

and not getting emotional about the whole event

0:54:170:54:19

but, you know, it's for the greater good that we're all here.

0:54:190:54:22

It's better than I'd expected. Yeah, it's lovely.

0:54:290:54:32

-Just enjoy it.

-Yeah.

0:54:380:54:40

-Enjoy yourself.

-Yeah.

0:54:400:54:42

Thank you ever so much for turning up

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to my living-wake-cum-farewell-party,

0:54:460:54:48

whatever you wish to call it.

0:54:480:54:51

'I'd like them to just remember me long-term,

0:54:510:54:53

'rather than me just fading into the background rather rapidly.'

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Because I didn't realise I knew so many people.

0:54:570:55:00

'I think it's more that it's going to help other people.

0:55:020:55:05

'They can see that I am well now,

0:55:060:55:09

'they can see that I'm enjoying myself and it's not just a front.'

0:55:090:55:13

Enjoy the party. Thank you.

0:55:130:55:15

'It is how I am. Hoping to be inspirational to other people.

0:55:190:55:25

'I'm hoping to make a difference.'

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I just feel as if there should be more than one of me

0:55:280:55:31

to be able to get around everybody.

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It's wrong, isn't it? But it's life.

0:55:430:55:47

'If it wasn't such a horrible event, that I'm losing my husband,

0:55:470:55:51

'it's been a really positive and uplifting experience

0:55:510:55:55

'for us as a family.

0:55:550:55:57

'So, I recommend that any family should do what's right for them.'

0:55:570:56:01

And that's my cherry tree.

0:56:010:56:03

You're standing where I'll go one day.

0:56:030:56:05

Not yet.

0:56:070:56:08

Not yet, no.

0:56:080:56:09

Thank you for coming, everybody.

0:56:130:56:15

When we leave the graveyard, and we take 40 steps away from the grave,

0:56:220:56:26

it is known that the body will basically sit up,

0:56:260:56:30

and two angels will come to them and it will question them

0:56:300:56:34

of everything they have done. All the goods, the bads,

0:56:340:56:36

and from there it will start, basically.

0:56:360:56:38

This is just moving from, I guess, one life to the other.

0:56:420:56:45

It's not the ending, it's only the beginning.

0:56:450:56:47

So, we pray to God to put him in the right position to answer.

0:56:470:56:51

The right answer, Insha'Allah.

0:56:510:56:53

It just shows that when somebody needs somebody, they are around.

0:56:550:57:00

You know, the community gets together

0:57:000:57:02

and it's great that so many people could get together so quickly.

0:57:020:57:08

You know, he'll be in our thoughts.

0:57:090:57:11

To see a funeral with no-one is unusual,

0:57:140:57:17

and it does make you feel sad.

0:57:170:57:19

But then, I take away with me a gladness and a satisfaction

0:57:190:57:23

that this gentleman has had a proper funeral service.

0:57:230:57:26

Had one of Anthony's family suddenly appeared at the last minute,

0:57:260:57:31

the front row of seats was there for them, as they would have felt

0:57:310:57:33

that was a proper funeral service and a fitting tribute to the man.

0:57:330:57:36

From the minute you're born, you're dying. You just don't know when.

0:57:450:57:49

Why not have a party beforehand, and celebrate your life?

0:57:490:57:54

If you fancy doing something, just do it.

0:57:550:58:00

Talk about it.

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It's your final wishes.

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Isn't it?

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You know, you are hoping that somebody is going to carry out

0:58:080:58:12

just what you want, that makes you you.

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And there's only one chance at that.

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