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Families can be driven apart for all manner of reasons. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:04 | |
Oh, I had no information at all about where my mum went. | 0:00:04 | 0:00:07 | |
And when you do lose touch with your loved ones... | 0:00:07 | 0:00:10 | |
You don't know who you are, where have you come from. | 0:00:10 | 0:00:12 | |
..finding them can take a lifetime... | 0:00:12 | 0:00:15 | |
I might have a brother that's still living here. | 0:00:15 | 0:00:19 | |
..especially when they could be anywhere - at home or abroad. | 0:00:19 | 0:00:23 | |
And that's where the family finders come in. | 0:00:23 | 0:00:26 | |
From international organisations... | 0:00:26 | 0:00:28 | |
Hi, it's the Salvation Army Family Tracing Service. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:32 | |
..to genealogy detective agencies... | 0:00:32 | 0:00:34 | |
For someone to say that it's changed their life, it makes coming to work, | 0:00:34 | 0:00:38 | |
you know, really, really special. | 0:00:38 | 0:00:40 | |
..and dedicated one-man bands. | 0:00:40 | 0:00:42 | |
It's a matter of how much effort you really want to put into it, | 0:00:42 | 0:00:46 | |
how badly you want to solve the problem. | 0:00:46 | 0:00:48 | |
They hunt through history to bring families back together again. | 0:00:48 | 0:00:52 | |
Finding new family is wonderful. | 0:00:52 | 0:00:55 | |
In this series, we follow the work of the family finders. | 0:00:55 | 0:00:59 | |
Suddenly, you get one spark of breakthrough and there they are. | 0:00:59 | 0:01:04 | |
Learning the tricks they use | 0:01:04 | 0:01:06 | |
to track missing relatives through time. | 0:01:06 | 0:01:08 | |
I didn't think I'd ever find sisters but I have. | 0:01:08 | 0:01:13 | |
And meeting the people whose lives they change along the way. | 0:01:13 | 0:01:17 | |
I've been waiting to meet John my whole life. | 0:01:17 | 0:01:20 | |
Since we've met, I feel part of a family again. | 0:01:20 | 0:01:23 | |
You've just completed my life for me. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:25 | |
In the UK, thousands of people embark on searches | 0:01:31 | 0:01:35 | |
for long-lost relatives every year. | 0:01:35 | 0:01:38 | |
No two searches are ever the same. | 0:01:38 | 0:01:41 | |
Sometimes, one new piece of information | 0:01:41 | 0:01:43 | |
can crack a case wide open. | 0:01:43 | 0:01:46 | |
And other times, one single spelling mistake can hamper a hunt forever. | 0:01:46 | 0:01:51 | |
Today, we follow Jeannie and her daughter, Sarah, | 0:01:52 | 0:01:55 | |
whose whole family mystery unravelled with a well-judged hunch. | 0:01:55 | 0:02:00 | |
After 25 years of searching, | 0:02:00 | 0:02:03 | |
the euphoria that I felt is just indescribable. | 0:02:03 | 0:02:10 | |
And we meet Graham, who almost gave up | 0:02:10 | 0:02:13 | |
the convoluted search for his sister. | 0:02:13 | 0:02:15 | |
Perhaps I'd been raising my hopes far too high | 0:02:15 | 0:02:18 | |
and that it turns out that... | 0:02:18 | 0:02:20 | |
somebody somewhere along the line has got it wrong. | 0:02:20 | 0:02:23 | |
Jeannie Taplin was born in the Midlands in 1942, | 0:02:29 | 0:02:33 | |
and was brought up by her mother. | 0:02:33 | 0:02:35 | |
My mother had told me that my father had died during the war. | 0:02:36 | 0:02:41 | |
And I think I accepted that. | 0:02:41 | 0:02:44 | |
When I was about ten, | 0:02:45 | 0:02:47 | |
I think I must have been asking my mother questions | 0:02:47 | 0:02:51 | |
and she eventually decided that it was the right time to tell me | 0:02:51 | 0:02:57 | |
that my father was still alive | 0:02:58 | 0:03:01 | |
and that a gentleman who I'd known as Uncle Steve, | 0:03:01 | 0:03:07 | |
wasn't an uncle at all but was my actual father. | 0:03:07 | 0:03:10 | |
Ten-year-old Jeannie discovered her father, Uncle Steve, | 0:03:12 | 0:03:15 | |
was, in fact, called Alexander and originally from Finland. | 0:03:15 | 0:03:20 | |
He had arrived in England in 1917 and adopted the name Steve. | 0:03:20 | 0:03:24 | |
Jeannie didn't imagine she would ever see him again. | 0:03:26 | 0:03:29 | |
Four years past, then one day, | 0:03:29 | 0:03:31 | |
Jeannie's mother announced that her father was waiting outside. | 0:03:31 | 0:03:35 | |
As I walked out of the house towards the car, | 0:03:36 | 0:03:40 | |
I really didn't want to be doing it. | 0:03:40 | 0:03:43 | |
I didn't... | 0:03:43 | 0:03:44 | |
He was a stranger to me. | 0:03:45 | 0:03:48 | |
I didn't know what we would talk about. | 0:03:49 | 0:03:52 | |
After their first meeting, | 0:03:54 | 0:03:55 | |
Jeannie and her father stayed in touch on and off for many years | 0:03:55 | 0:03:59 | |
until one day she stopped receiving his letters. | 0:03:59 | 0:04:02 | |
I became annoyed with him because I had written and hadn't had a reply | 0:04:04 | 0:04:10 | |
for quite some time, longer than he would usually have left it. | 0:04:10 | 0:04:15 | |
But I got a reply from his third wife | 0:04:15 | 0:04:21 | |
saying that he'd died six months previously. | 0:04:21 | 0:04:26 | |
Life carried on for Jeannie | 0:04:28 | 0:04:30 | |
but something her mother had once told her kept playing on her mind. | 0:04:30 | 0:04:34 | |
She mentioned that some years previously he'd been married | 0:04:35 | 0:04:40 | |
and had a daughter. | 0:04:40 | 0:04:42 | |
Jeannie had an older half-sister but knew absolutely nothing about her. | 0:04:44 | 0:04:49 | |
As the years passed, | 0:04:49 | 0:04:51 | |
she found herself thinking more about this mystery sibling. | 0:04:51 | 0:04:55 | |
Luckily for Jeannie, she had an amateur genealogist on hand to help, | 0:04:56 | 0:05:01 | |
her daughter, Sarah. | 0:05:01 | 0:05:02 | |
My interest in genealogy began when I did a school project | 0:05:03 | 0:05:08 | |
at the age of 13 and we were asked to compile a basic family tree. | 0:05:08 | 0:05:13 | |
My great aunt came to stay with us | 0:05:13 | 0:05:17 | |
and she had heaps of information | 0:05:17 | 0:05:20 | |
on the maternal side. | 0:05:20 | 0:05:22 | |
The hobby very much turned into an obsession. | 0:05:22 | 0:05:26 | |
Sarah started the search by looking for records of her grandfather, Alexander. | 0:05:28 | 0:05:33 | |
Sarah learnt that after arriving in England, | 0:05:33 | 0:05:36 | |
he was naturalised and became a British citizen. | 0:05:36 | 0:05:39 | |
Along with his full name, | 0:05:39 | 0:05:40 | |
that should have left a paper trail Sarah could follow. | 0:05:40 | 0:05:44 | |
I was always told that his name was Alexander Leonard Roden, | 0:05:44 | 0:05:48 | |
which was his naturalised name. | 0:05:48 | 0:05:51 | |
But Sarah's search didn't produce any results. | 0:05:52 | 0:05:56 | |
Her grandfather and his other daughter remained a mystery. | 0:05:56 | 0:06:00 | |
In fact, it took 25 years before Sarah found the key | 0:06:00 | 0:06:04 | |
that unlocked this family puzzle. | 0:06:04 | 0:06:07 | |
I was on the National Archives website, Discovery. | 0:06:07 | 0:06:11 | |
I thought, "I'll give my grandfather's name a go again." | 0:06:11 | 0:06:16 | |
So I put in his name, all three names, | 0:06:16 | 0:06:20 | |
including the middle name and nothing came up. | 0:06:20 | 0:06:24 | |
So I took out the middle name, | 0:06:24 | 0:06:27 | |
and suddenly his naturalisation certificate | 0:06:27 | 0:06:30 | |
and the application for naturalisation came up. | 0:06:30 | 0:06:32 | |
The euphoria that I felt | 0:06:34 | 0:06:37 | |
is just indescribable. | 0:06:37 | 0:06:41 | |
After 25 years of searching, | 0:06:41 | 0:06:44 | |
to finally have that piece of paper in front of me | 0:06:44 | 0:06:47 | |
was just indescribable. | 0:06:47 | 0:06:50 | |
Sarah phoned me and said, "I've found him." | 0:06:50 | 0:06:54 | |
And she said, | 0:06:56 | 0:06:58 | |
"I know what his name is." | 0:06:58 | 0:07:01 | |
I couldn't believe it that, | 0:07:01 | 0:07:04 | |
at last, it was all coming together. | 0:07:04 | 0:07:10 | |
Sarah's searches also confirmed Jeannie's suspicions. | 0:07:10 | 0:07:13 | |
Alexander had had another baby, 18 years before Jeannie, | 0:07:13 | 0:07:17 | |
a daughter called Muriel. | 0:07:17 | 0:07:20 | |
I phoned my mother again and I said, "You did have an older sister. | 0:07:21 | 0:07:25 | |
"She would have been 90 this year." | 0:07:25 | 0:07:29 | |
I never for a minute thought that she was still alive. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:33 | |
Of course, 90 isn't old these days but it never crossed my mind. | 0:07:33 | 0:07:38 | |
But there were more revelations to come | 0:07:38 | 0:07:40 | |
and the journey would take them to the other side of the world. | 0:07:40 | 0:07:44 | |
In Essex, 66-year-old Graham Holloway | 0:07:49 | 0:07:52 | |
also had a long and challenging search for a sibling. | 0:07:52 | 0:07:56 | |
His story began with a difficult and unsettled childhood. | 0:07:56 | 0:08:00 | |
As far as my birth mother and father are concerned, | 0:08:00 | 0:08:03 | |
I have no real recollection of them at all. | 0:08:03 | 0:08:07 | |
It was deemed by Southend Social Services | 0:08:07 | 0:08:10 | |
that it was not a safe place for us to be with them | 0:08:10 | 0:08:14 | |
and consequently, it was determined that we should be taken into care. | 0:08:14 | 0:08:19 | |
In 1951, at the age of two, | 0:08:20 | 0:08:23 | |
Graham and his older sister, Lynda, were sent to live in a children's home in Southend. | 0:08:23 | 0:08:29 | |
We didn't have very much contact at all | 0:08:29 | 0:08:31 | |
because boys and girls in those days were very much kept apart anyway. | 0:08:31 | 0:08:36 | |
Especially in an institution such as a children's home. | 0:08:36 | 0:08:39 | |
During their time at the care home, | 0:08:39 | 0:08:41 | |
Graham and his sister Lynda were fostered by several families, | 0:08:41 | 0:08:45 | |
sometimes alone, sometimes together. | 0:08:45 | 0:08:47 | |
Lynda and I, initially, | 0:08:49 | 0:08:51 | |
they tried to foster us out together but ultimately it didn't work | 0:08:51 | 0:08:56 | |
because, A, we didn't always get on together, | 0:08:56 | 0:08:59 | |
brothers and sisters don't always, do they? | 0:08:59 | 0:09:02 | |
And plus they had other children as well, and they, on some occasions, | 0:09:02 | 0:09:07 | |
thought that our behaviour was disruptive to their family. | 0:09:07 | 0:09:11 | |
Eventually, Lynda was permanently fostered | 0:09:13 | 0:09:16 | |
and Graham never saw her again. | 0:09:16 | 0:09:18 | |
I cannot remember how old I was or how old she was, | 0:09:19 | 0:09:22 | |
but all of a sudden she was no longer there. | 0:09:22 | 0:09:25 | |
It really was quite tough. | 0:09:25 | 0:09:27 | |
Finally Graham also found a permanent home. | 0:09:28 | 0:09:31 | |
At the age of ten, he was officially adopted by a young couple | 0:09:31 | 0:09:35 | |
who had been fostering him, Robert and Joan Holloway. | 0:09:35 | 0:09:37 | |
It was a very, very happy home with the Holloways. | 0:09:39 | 0:09:42 | |
Very happy. | 0:09:42 | 0:09:44 | |
I'm sorry they're gone. | 0:09:44 | 0:09:46 | |
Joan, my mother, | 0:09:48 | 0:09:50 | |
had had five miscarriages, so a child to her was everything. | 0:09:50 | 0:09:54 | |
And that's why she was the way she was with me. | 0:09:57 | 0:10:00 | |
She thought, "I'm lucky to have a child." | 0:10:02 | 0:10:04 | |
And I was lucky to have a mother. | 0:10:06 | 0:10:08 | |
And father. | 0:10:08 | 0:10:10 | |
Graham thrived in his new life. | 0:10:11 | 0:10:14 | |
Eventually, he left home, trained as a teacher and started a family. | 0:10:14 | 0:10:19 | |
But he never forgot about his sister, Lynda. | 0:10:19 | 0:10:22 | |
I'd always wondered about Lynda and her circumstances, | 0:10:22 | 0:10:26 | |
what became of her, | 0:10:26 | 0:10:29 | |
but I was not really going to do anything to search for her | 0:10:29 | 0:10:35 | |
whilst Mr and Mrs Holloway were still around, | 0:10:35 | 0:10:38 | |
so I wasn't offending. | 0:10:38 | 0:10:41 | |
It wasn't until six years ago, | 0:10:42 | 0:10:44 | |
almost six decades since he had last seen her, | 0:10:44 | 0:10:47 | |
that Graham finally began the search for his sister. | 0:10:47 | 0:10:50 | |
I spent the best part of two years, possibly even more, | 0:10:51 | 0:10:56 | |
searching for the correct Lynda | 0:10:56 | 0:10:59 | |
and there was always some impediment | 0:10:59 | 0:11:03 | |
or something wrong with the information I was getting | 0:11:03 | 0:11:05 | |
in that the name I had found was incorrectly spelt, | 0:11:05 | 0:11:10 | |
the middle name was incorrect | 0:11:10 | 0:11:12 | |
or the year of birth was incorrect or the place of birth was incorrect. | 0:11:12 | 0:11:16 | |
I was looking at it on a day-to-day basis for a couple of hours per day | 0:11:16 | 0:11:22 | |
but I kept coming up to dead ends. | 0:11:22 | 0:11:25 | |
There would always be something that was not quite right. | 0:11:25 | 0:11:27 | |
There was always something that didn't tie in. | 0:11:27 | 0:11:30 | |
Ready to call it all off, he made one last attempt. | 0:11:30 | 0:11:33 | |
This time he brought in a professional family-finding company. | 0:11:33 | 0:11:37 | |
They discovered that Lynda had changed her surname. | 0:11:38 | 0:11:42 | |
It's quite common to see somebody | 0:11:42 | 0:11:44 | |
taking on the surname of a foster parent or perhaps a step-parent. | 0:11:44 | 0:11:47 | |
That's quite common to see. | 0:11:47 | 0:11:49 | |
For instance, in this case, we found she'd changed her name to Lynda Green. | 0:11:49 | 0:11:52 | |
We then looked for a marriage record. | 0:11:52 | 0:11:54 | |
Now, this was quite interesting because we did find one | 0:11:54 | 0:11:57 | |
but Lynda's name at birth was spelt with a Y in Lynda | 0:11:57 | 0:12:01 | |
but the marriage record we found on the index | 0:12:01 | 0:12:03 | |
has indicated that it was spelt with an I. | 0:12:03 | 0:12:06 | |
But we continued to look at that person and what we found was it was definitely the right person | 0:12:06 | 0:12:10 | |
but it would have been an error on the marriage indexes, | 0:12:10 | 0:12:13 | |
which is quite a common thing that people should look out for | 0:12:13 | 0:12:16 | |
when they're searching because quite often there are errors and mistakes on these records. | 0:12:16 | 0:12:21 | |
And the search didn't get any easier. | 0:12:21 | 0:12:25 | |
Dave discovered Lynda had married twice again, | 0:12:25 | 0:12:28 | |
which meant two more name changes. | 0:12:28 | 0:12:30 | |
I think the breakthrough moment probably came | 0:12:30 | 0:12:32 | |
when we found somebody living in Shoeburyness in Essex, | 0:12:32 | 0:12:36 | |
which is where we'd known Lynda to last be, | 0:12:36 | 0:12:40 | |
and she had the first name Lynda spelt with a Y. | 0:12:40 | 0:12:43 | |
She had the middle name of Jane and the exact same date of birth. | 0:12:43 | 0:12:47 | |
That really... At that point, we were fairly confident | 0:12:47 | 0:12:50 | |
that she was the right person. | 0:12:50 | 0:12:51 | |
When I got the call to say that they had actually located | 0:12:52 | 0:12:56 | |
a last known address, I could not believe it. | 0:12:56 | 0:12:59 | |
I thought, "After all the time I've spent doing it | 0:12:59 | 0:13:02 | |
"and yet they've done it in a couple of weeks." | 0:13:02 | 0:13:04 | |
Without any delay, | 0:13:06 | 0:13:07 | |
I sent a letter off to her and gave her all the details that I had. | 0:13:07 | 0:13:11 | |
But after a search that had already led him down so many dead ends, | 0:13:13 | 0:13:18 | |
Graham was cautious about his chances of success. | 0:13:18 | 0:13:22 | |
I was, obviously, in some sort of trepidation | 0:13:22 | 0:13:24 | |
in that perhaps I've been raising my hopes far too high | 0:13:24 | 0:13:28 | |
and that it turns out that somebody somewhere along the line | 0:13:28 | 0:13:32 | |
has got it wrong. | 0:13:32 | 0:13:33 | |
It's the wrong address or the information is not valid | 0:13:33 | 0:13:38 | |
or that somebody didn't want to know about it. | 0:13:38 | 0:13:43 | |
You know, it's all a long time ago. | 0:13:43 | 0:13:44 | |
So what. It's all over and done with. | 0:13:44 | 0:13:46 | |
Tear it up. Throw it away. | 0:13:46 | 0:13:48 | |
All Graham's years of searching now rested on one letter. | 0:13:48 | 0:13:53 | |
120 miles away in Southampton, | 0:14:00 | 0:14:03 | |
Sarah Walker had succeeded | 0:14:03 | 0:14:05 | |
in her 25-year quest to find her mother's blood relatives. | 0:14:05 | 0:14:09 | |
The culmination of half my life's work is just wonderful. | 0:14:09 | 0:14:15 | |
But Sarah didn't think her mum's 90-year-old half sister, Muriel, | 0:14:16 | 0:14:19 | |
would still be alive. | 0:14:19 | 0:14:21 | |
Until she received a message out of the blue. | 0:14:22 | 0:14:25 | |
I was updating records on Ancestry | 0:14:26 | 0:14:28 | |
and was contacted completely out of the blue | 0:14:28 | 0:14:32 | |
by an ex-relative of my aunt who announced that she was still alive | 0:14:32 | 0:14:38 | |
and that she talked to her on a fairly regular basis. | 0:14:38 | 0:14:42 | |
Jeannie's half-sister, Muriel, was alive and living in Australia. | 0:14:42 | 0:14:47 | |
Sarah couldn't wait to tell her mum. | 0:14:47 | 0:14:50 | |
She then called me and said, | 0:14:50 | 0:14:52 | |
"Wait for this, I've found your sister." | 0:14:52 | 0:14:56 | |
And, erm... | 0:15:05 | 0:15:06 | |
And she said that she lives in Australia | 0:15:08 | 0:15:13 | |
and she's been married three times | 0:15:13 | 0:15:16 | |
and has seven children. | 0:15:16 | 0:15:18 | |
It was a lot to take in. | 0:15:19 | 0:15:21 | |
You know, it's incredible. | 0:15:22 | 0:15:24 | |
Sarah e-mailed Muriel immediately. | 0:15:24 | 0:15:27 | |
To finally make contact | 0:15:27 | 0:15:30 | |
after so many years of searching for information on her father, | 0:15:30 | 0:15:36 | |
my mother's father, and knowing that she finally existed... | 0:15:36 | 0:15:41 | |
just wonderful. | 0:15:41 | 0:15:43 | |
Just a day later and Sarah received a phone call | 0:15:45 | 0:15:48 | |
from one of Muriel's sons, Franz. | 0:15:48 | 0:15:50 | |
Franz and his brother Ricky are two of Muriel's seven children. | 0:15:52 | 0:15:56 | |
They stayed in the UK when their mother moved to Australia. | 0:15:56 | 0:16:00 | |
Mother was like... | 0:16:01 | 0:16:03 | |
-a mother hen. She... -Mother was very protective. | 0:16:03 | 0:16:07 | |
Very protective. | 0:16:07 | 0:16:08 | |
Their mother, Muriel, had been abandoned by her own mother | 0:16:10 | 0:16:13 | |
as a child. | 0:16:13 | 0:16:14 | |
Her mother walked out one day and said goodbye to her. | 0:16:14 | 0:16:17 | |
She told her to go next door to a neighbour | 0:16:17 | 0:16:21 | |
and that is the last time that she ever saw or heard from her mother. | 0:16:21 | 0:16:24 | |
Shortly afterwards, her father placed her in foster care. | 0:16:24 | 0:16:28 | |
Nobody sort of wanting her, not a lot of love given to her. | 0:16:28 | 0:16:34 | |
I think Mother's past shaped her future | 0:16:34 | 0:16:39 | |
of how she dealt with everything in her life. | 0:16:39 | 0:16:42 | |
Out of her hard times, | 0:16:43 | 0:16:45 | |
she's tried to give us good times and she's done a good job. | 0:16:45 | 0:16:48 | |
Muriel grew up in the UK with her foster family. | 0:16:49 | 0:16:53 | |
She emigrated to Australia in 1978 where she has lived ever since. | 0:16:53 | 0:16:58 | |
She wasn't aware she had a younger half-sister | 0:16:58 | 0:17:01 | |
until Sarah got in touch out of the blue. | 0:17:01 | 0:17:04 | |
She was so excited. | 0:17:05 | 0:17:06 | |
She was like a child. | 0:17:06 | 0:17:08 | |
She was bubbling with excitement... | 0:17:08 | 0:17:11 | |
..to find her sister at her age - I mean, she was then 90, I think - | 0:17:13 | 0:17:17 | |
to have lived that long and not known. | 0:17:17 | 0:17:19 | |
We even lived a few miles apart at one time in Birmingham | 0:17:19 | 0:17:24 | |
and not known about each other. | 0:17:24 | 0:17:26 | |
As Muriel was halfway round the world in Australia, | 0:17:26 | 0:17:30 | |
Sarah and Jeannie didn't think | 0:17:30 | 0:17:32 | |
they would ever meet her face-to-face. | 0:17:32 | 0:17:34 | |
But, then, Muriel got back in touch to say she was visiting the UK | 0:17:34 | 0:17:38 | |
and wanted to meet her new-found family. | 0:17:38 | 0:17:41 | |
When I heard my aunt arrive, | 0:17:41 | 0:17:45 | |
I went straight out and gave her a big hug. | 0:17:45 | 0:17:48 | |
-Oh, dear. -It's wonderful, isn't it? -I know - absolutely wonderful. | 0:17:48 | 0:17:52 | |
-And amazing. -'I felt such a huge bond with her.' | 0:17:52 | 0:17:55 | |
Somebody was filming us | 0:17:56 | 0:17:59 | |
and then I brought her through and they met for the first time | 0:17:59 | 0:18:04 | |
and there were tears all round. | 0:18:04 | 0:18:06 | |
It was as though we'd known each other for a long time. | 0:18:06 | 0:18:11 | |
I hadn't thought that meeting a sister could be... | 0:18:11 | 0:18:16 | |
..quite so emotional. | 0:18:18 | 0:18:20 | |
I couldn't believe the similarities visually | 0:18:20 | 0:18:25 | |
and I think the fact that | 0:18:25 | 0:18:27 | |
they developed a sisterly bond now is amazing. | 0:18:27 | 0:18:31 | |
In the end, I had to ask them to stop hugging each other | 0:18:31 | 0:18:34 | |
because it made me cry every time. | 0:18:34 | 0:18:36 | |
That day when Jeannie and Mum met | 0:18:36 | 0:18:38 | |
must have been one of the most memorable days of her life. | 0:18:38 | 0:18:42 | |
It was wonderful and we talked nonstop. | 0:18:43 | 0:18:47 | |
That made me even...wish even more that I'd known her. | 0:18:48 | 0:18:54 | |
You know, when I was about 19 or so. | 0:18:54 | 0:18:56 | |
We would have had some fun, I'm sure we would. | 0:18:59 | 0:19:03 | |
Now the two sisters have found each other, | 0:19:03 | 0:19:06 | |
both have discovered a family they never knew they had | 0:19:06 | 0:19:09 | |
and they stay in regular contact via the internet. | 0:19:09 | 0:19:12 | |
Today, the two UK sides of the family are reuniting again. | 0:19:15 | 0:19:20 | |
Muriel's sons Franz and Ricky | 0:19:20 | 0:19:22 | |
are meeting their new-found aunt and cousin | 0:19:22 | 0:19:25 | |
to find out more about the grandfather | 0:19:25 | 0:19:27 | |
they never knew, Alexander. | 0:19:27 | 0:19:29 | |
-Well! -Hello. -Welcome. | 0:19:29 | 0:19:33 | |
-Thank you. -Oh, it's good to see you. | 0:19:33 | 0:19:36 | |
-And you, darling, are you all right? -Oh, yes. | 0:19:36 | 0:19:38 | |
-Sarah, hello. -Hello. | 0:19:38 | 0:19:40 | |
Oh, yes, I'm fine. | 0:19:40 | 0:19:43 | |
Sarah's research has uncovered a wealth of information | 0:19:43 | 0:19:46 | |
about her, Franz and Ricky's grandfather, | 0:19:46 | 0:19:49 | |
including his request to become a British citizen. | 0:19:49 | 0:19:52 | |
So, this is the application for a naturalisation certificate | 0:19:52 | 0:19:58 | |
and we've got information here about exactly where he was born. | 0:19:58 | 0:20:03 | |
He sailed from Murmansk, North Russia. | 0:20:03 | 0:20:06 | |
He was an Ordinary Seaman. | 0:20:06 | 0:20:08 | |
And if only I'd realised | 0:20:08 | 0:20:10 | |
exactly what information this would have given me, | 0:20:10 | 0:20:14 | |
I would have found you all a lot sooner. | 0:20:14 | 0:20:17 | |
-FRANZ: -A lot earlier. Well, it's fascinating. | 0:20:17 | 0:20:20 | |
It's things we never knew about. | 0:20:20 | 0:20:22 | |
Mainly because we didn't know we had a grandad at all. | 0:20:22 | 0:20:26 | |
There's one other family member keen to join in today's reunion. | 0:20:26 | 0:20:31 | |
-MURIEL: -Lovely to see you, Jeannie. | 0:20:31 | 0:20:33 | |
Oh, it's great to see you, Muriel. | 0:20:33 | 0:20:36 | |
We should have known each other years ago. | 0:20:36 | 0:20:39 | |
-Oh, 30 years ago at least. -Yes. | 0:20:39 | 0:20:42 | |
-That's right. -Yes. Yes. It should have been a long time ago. | 0:20:42 | 0:20:46 | |
We're making up for lost time, though, meeting up. | 0:20:46 | 0:20:49 | |
-Yes. -It wonderful that we're able to talk to each other like this. | 0:20:49 | 0:20:55 | |
For me to have my two nephews here when five years ago, | 0:20:55 | 0:21:00 | |
I didn't know they existed. | 0:21:00 | 0:21:02 | |
This has been beyond my widest dreams. | 0:21:02 | 0:21:06 | |
To be able to reunite my mother and her sister | 0:21:06 | 0:21:11 | |
has just been unbelievable. | 0:21:11 | 0:21:13 | |
I am very thankful to Sarah for doing the work she's done | 0:21:13 | 0:21:18 | |
and finding out as much as she has done and uniting us all. | 0:21:18 | 0:21:22 | |
We've had nothing but positive things come to us | 0:21:23 | 0:21:28 | |
over the past four years. | 0:21:28 | 0:21:30 | |
Every single member of their family | 0:21:30 | 0:21:33 | |
has embraced us as their family. | 0:21:33 | 0:21:38 | |
And it's been wonderful. | 0:21:39 | 0:21:41 | |
See you soon. | 0:21:41 | 0:21:42 | |
-Bye. -Nice to see you. | 0:21:42 | 0:21:44 | |
Graham Holloway was trying to solve his own family conundrum. | 0:21:53 | 0:21:58 | |
He hadn't seen his older sister, Lynda, | 0:21:58 | 0:22:01 | |
since they were children living in care. | 0:22:01 | 0:22:03 | |
A family-finding company had tracked down an address for Lynda, | 0:22:04 | 0:22:07 | |
and Graham had written a letter. | 0:22:07 | 0:22:10 | |
Little did he know the address was out of date. | 0:22:10 | 0:22:13 | |
But this time, luck was on Graham's side. | 0:22:13 | 0:22:15 | |
Out of the blue, I got a message from my daughter | 0:22:17 | 0:22:21 | |
to say that a letter had arrived at her father's house, | 0:22:21 | 0:22:26 | |
addressed to me, | 0:22:26 | 0:22:28 | |
"Dear Lynda, Following several years of trying to locate you, | 0:22:29 | 0:22:33 | |
"I believe I may at last have done so. | 0:22:33 | 0:22:37 | |
"Do you recall being taken into care as was I in 1951. | 0:22:37 | 0:22:42 | |
"Can you confirm that these details ring a bell? | 0:22:42 | 0:22:45 | |
"I apologise if I imposed but earnestly believe | 0:22:45 | 0:22:49 | |
"that I may finally have made contact with the right person. | 0:22:49 | 0:22:53 | |
"Please confirm this ASAP. | 0:22:53 | 0:22:55 | |
"Regards for the time being, Graham." | 0:22:55 | 0:22:58 | |
And I thought, "What shall I do here? | 0:22:59 | 0:23:02 | |
And I just took the bull by the horns and just dialled the number. | 0:23:02 | 0:23:06 | |
And he answered. | 0:23:06 | 0:23:07 | |
And I just said, | 0:23:07 | 0:23:09 | |
"Graham, this is Lynda." | 0:23:09 | 0:23:12 | |
It was incredible. | 0:23:12 | 0:23:13 | |
Absolutely incredible. | 0:23:13 | 0:23:15 | |
That after 63 years or thereabouts, | 0:23:15 | 0:23:19 | |
we actually caught up with each other. | 0:23:19 | 0:23:21 | |
I hadn't spoken to Graham for 60 years. | 0:23:21 | 0:23:24 | |
At least 60 years. | 0:23:25 | 0:23:27 | |
He did say that he wanted to see me | 0:23:29 | 0:23:33 | |
and what was the best way to do it. | 0:23:33 | 0:23:35 | |
I said, "Great." | 0:23:35 | 0:23:37 | |
I said, "I'll be down to Southend in a shake of a lamb's tail." | 0:23:37 | 0:23:40 | |
And she said, "That won't do you any good." I said, "Why not?" | 0:23:40 | 0:23:42 | |
She said, "I don't live in Southend. | 0:23:42 | 0:23:44 | |
"I don't live in Shoeburyness." | 0:23:44 | 0:23:46 | |
I said, "Where do you live?" She said, "Cyprus." | 0:23:46 | 0:23:48 | |
Graham had finally tracked down his big sister, | 0:23:51 | 0:23:55 | |
60 years on and 2,000 miles away from where they last saw each other. | 0:23:55 | 0:23:59 | |
Having discovered that I had the right person, | 0:24:01 | 0:24:03 | |
having discovered that she lived in Cyprus, | 0:24:03 | 0:24:06 | |
I told her that I'd be over there as soon as possible | 0:24:06 | 0:24:09 | |
in order to visit her and which I did | 0:24:09 | 0:24:12 | |
because I was there within a week. | 0:24:12 | 0:24:14 | |
As we walked through the baggage collection | 0:24:15 | 0:24:18 | |
and through to the arrivals lounge, as it were, | 0:24:18 | 0:24:22 | |
we saw each other. | 0:24:22 | 0:24:24 | |
Lyn was already on her feet | 0:24:24 | 0:24:26 | |
cos she'd spotted me from, you know, yards away. | 0:24:26 | 0:24:29 | |
And I just ran to him... | 0:24:29 | 0:24:33 | |
..and threw my arms round him. | 0:24:34 | 0:24:36 | |
He was crying, I was crying. | 0:24:36 | 0:24:38 | |
-Very emotional. -Floods of tears. | 0:24:39 | 0:24:42 | |
All over the place. | 0:24:42 | 0:24:43 | |
60 years is a long time | 0:24:43 | 0:24:46 | |
but you never forget that there is another member of your family. | 0:24:46 | 0:24:50 | |
And it was so emotional. | 0:24:50 | 0:24:52 | |
I've never known anything like it before. It's incredible. | 0:24:53 | 0:24:55 | |
And still is. | 0:24:58 | 0:25:00 | |
It's been two and a half years since Lynda and Graham were first reunited. | 0:25:01 | 0:25:06 | |
But with Lynda in Cyprus, | 0:25:06 | 0:25:07 | |
they can't get together as often as they'd like. | 0:25:07 | 0:25:10 | |
So they've planned a special trip to the hometown where they lost touch | 0:25:11 | 0:25:14 | |
over 60 years ago. | 0:25:14 | 0:25:16 | |
I do feel really nervous today. | 0:25:17 | 0:25:19 | |
A bit like the first time I saw him, to be honest. | 0:25:20 | 0:25:25 | |
Quite emotional. | 0:25:25 | 0:25:27 | |
And we've still got a lot of catching up to do. | 0:25:27 | 0:25:30 | |
I can't believe it. | 0:25:49 | 0:25:51 | |
I cannot believe it. | 0:25:51 | 0:25:53 | |
-What are we going to find to talk about then? -Oh, everything. | 0:25:55 | 0:25:58 | |
Remarkably, these two siblings both lived in Southend | 0:26:02 | 0:26:05 | |
for many years of their lives, not knowing the other was still there. | 0:26:05 | 0:26:09 | |
So today brings a chance to make up for lost time | 0:26:10 | 0:26:13 | |
and share their memories of the town. | 0:26:13 | 0:26:15 | |
I used to think that was France over there when I was a little girl. | 0:26:15 | 0:26:18 | |
Yeah, so did I. | 0:26:18 | 0:26:20 | |
I'd go, "Oh, let's go to France." | 0:26:20 | 0:26:22 | |
Here you are, Graham. This is where I used to work. | 0:26:23 | 0:26:26 | |
-You're joking. -No. I used to work here. | 0:26:27 | 0:26:30 | |
For heaven's sake, I used to drink in the pub down there. | 0:26:30 | 0:26:33 | |
We must have walked passed each other dozens of times. | 0:26:33 | 0:26:35 | |
Dozens. | 0:26:35 | 0:26:36 | |
Lynda's been tracking down their records | 0:26:38 | 0:26:41 | |
and it's the first time Graham has seen their fostering paperwork. | 0:26:41 | 0:26:45 | |
There's a few little things in here that are quite interesting. | 0:26:45 | 0:26:49 | |
The fact that the two of us being together... | 0:26:51 | 0:26:53 | |
-Yeah. -..wasn't working out very well. -Hmm. | 0:26:53 | 0:26:56 | |
And, basically, that I was stopping your chance of having a good home. | 0:26:57 | 0:27:02 | |
-Huh. -So, they decided to leave you there and take me back to the home. | 0:27:02 | 0:27:08 | |
Did they, indeed? | 0:27:08 | 0:27:09 | |
At which time you were quite happily playing in the garden | 0:27:09 | 0:27:12 | |
with your toys. | 0:27:12 | 0:27:14 | |
Had you been you aware of any of this proposal at all? | 0:27:14 | 0:27:16 | |
No. It would appear that I was... | 0:27:16 | 0:27:19 | |
..the main culprit in our being separated | 0:27:20 | 0:27:22 | |
from what I've read from these notes. | 0:27:22 | 0:27:25 | |
See, it says here that I have outbreaks of temper, | 0:27:25 | 0:27:27 | |
which apparently I still do. | 0:27:27 | 0:27:29 | |
SHE LAUGHS | 0:27:29 | 0:27:32 | |
I got through. I got by. | 0:27:32 | 0:27:34 | |
You got through. You got by. | 0:27:34 | 0:27:35 | |
And at the end of the day, that's the important thing. | 0:27:35 | 0:27:38 | |
Having my sister back in my life after a long, long time | 0:27:38 | 0:27:43 | |
has just been one of the most fantastic experiences of my life. | 0:27:43 | 0:27:48 | |
I feel like I now have the brother that I've not had for 60 years | 0:27:48 | 0:27:52 | |
and there's still lots we can talk about and lots of memories | 0:27:52 | 0:27:57 | |
and lots for the future. | 0:27:57 | 0:27:59 | |
I'm really proud to have you as a sister. | 0:27:59 | 0:28:02 | |
Oh, thank you. | 0:28:02 | 0:28:04 |