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Families can be driven apart for all manner of reasons. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:05 | |
I had no information at all about where my mum went. | 0:00:05 | 0:00:07 | |
And when you do lose touch with your loved ones... | 0:00:07 | 0:00:10 | |
You don't know who you are. Where have you come from? | 0:00:10 | 0:00:12 | |
..finding them can take a lifetime... | 0:00:12 | 0:00:15 | |
I might have a brother that's still living here. | 0:00:15 | 0:00:18 | |
..especially when they could be anywhere - at home or abroad. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:23 | |
And that's where the Family Finders come in. | 0:00:23 | 0:00:26 | |
From international organisations... | 0:00:26 | 0:00:28 | |
Hi, it's The Salvation Army Family Tracing Service. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:32 | |
..to genealogy detective agencies... | 0:00:32 | 0:00:34 | |
For them to say that it's changed their life, | 0:00:34 | 0:00:37 | |
it makes coming to work, you know, really, really special. | 0:00:37 | 0:00:40 | |
..and dedicated one-man bands. | 0:00:40 | 0:00:42 | |
It's a matter of how much effort do you really want to put into it, | 0:00:42 | 0:00:46 | |
how badly you want to solve the problem. | 0:00:46 | 0:00:48 | |
They hunt through history to bring families back together again. | 0:00:48 | 0:00:52 | |
Finding new family is wonderful. | 0:00:52 | 0:00:55 | |
In this series, we follow the work of the Family Finders... | 0:00:55 | 0:00:59 | |
Suddenly, you get one spark of breakthrough, and there they are. | 0:00:59 | 0:01:04 | |
..learning the tricks they use to track missing relatives | 0:01:04 | 0:01:07 | |
through time... | 0:01:07 | 0:01:08 | |
I didn't think I'd ever find sisters, but I have. | 0:01:08 | 0:01:13 | |
..and meeting the people whose lives they change along the way. | 0:01:13 | 0:01:17 | |
I've been waiting to meet John my whole life. | 0:01:17 | 0:01:19 | |
Since we've met, I feel part of a family again. | 0:01:19 | 0:01:22 | |
You've just completed my life for me. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:25 | |
In the United Kingdom, there are hundreds of organisations | 0:01:31 | 0:01:34 | |
that specialise in reuniting long-lost families. | 0:01:34 | 0:01:38 | |
But many people decide to turn Family Finders themselves. | 0:01:38 | 0:01:43 | |
Today, we follow the story of one woman's search that turns up | 0:01:43 | 0:01:47 | |
not one, but two surprising results. | 0:01:47 | 0:01:50 | |
Do I want to really open this Pandora's box, really? | 0:01:50 | 0:01:54 | |
THEY SQUEAL HAPPILY | 0:01:54 | 0:01:56 | |
And in Weston-super-Mare, car enthusiast Nick Morgan | 0:01:56 | 0:02:00 | |
is on a mission to uncover the truth about his birth family. | 0:02:00 | 0:02:04 | |
And five minutes later, she rang me back and said, | 0:02:04 | 0:02:08 | |
"I think you may have a sister." | 0:02:08 | 0:02:10 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:02:10 | 0:02:12 | |
Lovely to meet you! | 0:02:12 | 0:02:14 | |
Jean Heathcote lives in Burton upon Trent, in Staffordshire. | 0:02:17 | 0:02:21 | |
She was born in 1949 and enjoyed a happy childhood, | 0:02:21 | 0:02:25 | |
raised by a loving family. | 0:02:25 | 0:02:27 | |
I was very, very lucky. I was spoilt rotten. | 0:02:28 | 0:02:31 | |
I had fantastic parents. | 0:02:31 | 0:02:33 | |
And they...they couldn't do enough for me. | 0:02:33 | 0:02:37 | |
But certain characteristics seemed at odds | 0:02:37 | 0:02:40 | |
with the rest of the family. | 0:02:40 | 0:02:42 | |
I did look very different to my family. | 0:02:42 | 0:02:44 | |
And I had a very different nature to my family as well. | 0:02:44 | 0:02:47 | |
I was much more outgoing and noisy. | 0:02:47 | 0:02:49 | |
It wasn't until much later that Jean realised there was more to | 0:02:50 | 0:02:54 | |
these differences than she'd originally thought. | 0:02:54 | 0:02:56 | |
When I was 36, I had to apply for a new passport, and it all came | 0:02:56 | 0:03:02 | |
through attached together with my adopted birth certificate on there. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:07 | |
Much to my surprise! | 0:03:09 | 0:03:11 | |
I realised I had no blood relatives then - | 0:03:11 | 0:03:14 | |
I had only my children who were my blood relatives - | 0:03:14 | 0:03:18 | |
and started to research everything that I could about the family. | 0:03:18 | 0:03:24 | |
From her birth certificate, returned alongside her passport, | 0:03:26 | 0:03:29 | |
Jean found the name of her biological mother - | 0:03:29 | 0:03:32 | |
Sheila Mary Kelly. | 0:03:32 | 0:03:33 | |
She then placed an appeal on Teletext and waited for a response. | 0:03:35 | 0:03:39 | |
I was going through and I found someone | 0:03:39 | 0:03:43 | |
who was looking for the same person that I was. | 0:03:43 | 0:03:46 | |
The message contained too many correct facts to be a coincidence. | 0:03:46 | 0:03:50 | |
Someone else was searching for Jean's mum, Sheila, but she was hesitant to respond. | 0:03:50 | 0:03:55 | |
"Do I want to really open this Pandora's box, really?" | 0:03:56 | 0:04:00 | |
I decided that I wanted to open the box and see what happened. | 0:04:00 | 0:04:03 | |
Subsequently, I had a phone call from her. | 0:04:04 | 0:04:07 | |
And she said, "I've been looking for you for 25 years." | 0:04:07 | 0:04:11 | |
The two women shared a mother, | 0:04:13 | 0:04:15 | |
Sheila Mary Kelly, making them half-sisters. | 0:04:15 | 0:04:19 | |
Unbeknownst to Jean, Marie Simmons had also been searching for Sheila. | 0:04:19 | 0:04:23 | |
It was amazing. It really was. | 0:04:23 | 0:04:25 | |
I thought, "At last, I've actually managed to find her." | 0:04:25 | 0:04:29 | |
Marie's adoptive family were always open about her parentage. | 0:04:30 | 0:04:34 | |
I always knew that I had been adopted because I was | 0:04:34 | 0:04:38 | |
told at a very early age. | 0:04:38 | 0:04:41 | |
I wanted to find my birth mother, | 0:04:41 | 0:04:44 | |
It didn't matter to me what she was like, | 0:04:44 | 0:04:46 | |
I just wanted to know her and know about her. | 0:04:46 | 0:04:52 | |
Over the course of many years, | 0:04:56 | 0:04:57 | |
Marie searched records and organisations | 0:04:57 | 0:05:00 | |
for any trace of her biological mother, | 0:05:00 | 0:05:02 | |
until finally, someone replied to one of her messages. | 0:05:02 | 0:05:06 | |
I had a phone call from a lady saying that she was her sister. | 0:05:06 | 0:05:12 | |
It was her mother's sister who had spotted the posting and responded. | 0:05:13 | 0:05:18 | |
Unbelievable! I couldn't believe that somebody had actually replied to me. It was marvellous. | 0:05:18 | 0:05:23 | |
Anyway, she chatted and told me that my mother was alive, | 0:05:23 | 0:05:28 | |
but she was living in America. | 0:05:28 | 0:05:30 | |
And I thought, "Well, does she want to know me?" | 0:05:30 | 0:05:32 | |
And that was all I kept thinking, "Does she want to know me?" | 0:05:32 | 0:05:35 | |
It had taken her 15 years to track down her mother, Sheila. | 0:05:35 | 0:05:40 | |
Well, my aunt and uncle, and myself, we did go to the States... | 0:05:40 | 0:05:45 | |
It wasn't what I was expecting. | 0:05:45 | 0:05:47 | |
She was quite withdrawn. | 0:05:48 | 0:05:50 | |
And it wasn't a particularly successful meeting at all. | 0:05:51 | 0:05:54 | |
In fact, it was quite sad. | 0:05:54 | 0:05:56 | |
But not long after she got back from America, Marie received another | 0:05:57 | 0:06:01 | |
response to her research. It was her sister, Jean. | 0:06:01 | 0:06:06 | |
It was lovely. | 0:06:06 | 0:06:07 | |
It was really lovely to get that first touch with somebody who | 0:06:07 | 0:06:10 | |
actually was related to you. | 0:06:10 | 0:06:12 | |
That was it. It was marvellous. We've got each other. | 0:06:12 | 0:06:15 | |
But Jean still had questions about her early life, so turned to | 0:06:17 | 0:06:21 | |
the wealth of genealogical resources now available on the internet. | 0:06:21 | 0:06:25 | |
It wasn't long before she got a response. | 0:06:26 | 0:06:29 | |
I had a message from a lady called Diana Kelly, | 0:06:29 | 0:06:32 | |
who said, "Hello, I'd like to ask you a few questions | 0:06:32 | 0:06:38 | |
"cos I think I could be related to you." | 0:06:38 | 0:06:40 | |
Jean had discovered one new sister, Marie, | 0:06:42 | 0:06:45 | |
but could there be MORE relatives out there? | 0:06:45 | 0:06:48 | |
Hello! Hello. | 0:06:48 | 0:06:50 | |
Motor enthusiast Nick Morgan lives in Weston-super-Mare. | 0:07:00 | 0:07:04 | |
I was adopted when I was three months old. | 0:07:04 | 0:07:08 | |
I grew up in a very loving household. Only child. | 0:07:08 | 0:07:11 | |
It was caring... | 0:07:11 | 0:07:14 | |
And, yeah, I did all the things a little boy should do, I suppose. | 0:07:14 | 0:07:18 | |
And I always knew that I was adopted, right from the very start. | 0:07:18 | 0:07:21 | |
I mean, my parents did a great job with that. | 0:07:21 | 0:07:23 | |
They told me ever since I can remember that I was adopted, | 0:07:23 | 0:07:26 | |
that I was chosen, that I was special. | 0:07:26 | 0:07:29 | |
Nick left home, met and married his wife, Jan, | 0:07:30 | 0:07:33 | |
and in 1997 had a son. | 0:07:33 | 0:07:35 | |
and it was this that inspired him to trace his family lineage. | 0:07:35 | 0:07:40 | |
A conversation with a friend | 0:07:40 | 0:07:42 | |
added fuel to the fire. | 0:07:42 | 0:07:43 | |
I became inspired by someone that I'd met through work | 0:07:43 | 0:07:47 | |
who'd actually decided that he wanted to find his birth mother. | 0:07:47 | 0:07:51 | |
And I went, "Oh, OK, that's interesting. How do you do that?" | 0:07:51 | 0:07:54 | |
And he said, "Well, first of all, | 0:07:54 | 0:07:56 | |
"you need to get your birth certificate." | 0:07:56 | 0:07:58 | |
And I said, "Well, I've got a birth certificate." | 0:07:58 | 0:08:00 | |
And he said, "No, you need to get your ORIGINAL birth certificate." | 0:08:00 | 0:08:03 | |
I said, "OK, yeah, fine." And he said, | 0:08:03 | 0:08:06 | |
"That will give you then the details of your birth parents, | 0:08:06 | 0:08:09 | |
"and then you need to contact social services once you've got that | 0:08:09 | 0:08:13 | |
"certificate, and they will help you then to track that person down." | 0:08:13 | 0:08:16 | |
That was when I found out that I was John Francis Lowe, | 0:08:16 | 0:08:21 | |
having been Nicholas John Morgan for 40-odd years. | 0:08:21 | 0:08:25 | |
And then social services stepped in and gave me the red file that had | 0:08:25 | 0:08:29 | |
all the details in about my birth and where I'd been, etc. | 0:08:29 | 0:08:33 | |
He had a name for his birth mother - Norah Lowe. | 0:08:33 | 0:08:37 | |
Once I got the file from social services, | 0:08:37 | 0:08:39 | |
it then became apparent that my mother was born in Ireland. | 0:08:39 | 0:08:42 | |
One of the things that I used to say to people was that it would be | 0:08:42 | 0:08:45 | |
really nice to have a photo of my mum, | 0:08:45 | 0:08:47 | |
but I never thought that was going to be possible. | 0:08:47 | 0:08:50 | |
Nick was able to get his biological mother's birth | 0:08:51 | 0:08:54 | |
certificate from the record offices in Ireland. | 0:08:54 | 0:08:57 | |
So we actually then found that my birth mother had lived | 0:08:57 | 0:09:00 | |
in Coventry, got married to a guy in Coventry in 1968 | 0:09:00 | 0:09:05 | |
and became Boulding. | 0:09:05 | 0:09:07 | |
A chance encounter at a business networking event | 0:09:07 | 0:09:10 | |
changed his life forever. | 0:09:10 | 0:09:13 | |
I sat down next to this lady I'd never met before, | 0:09:13 | 0:09:15 | |
so I asked the question, you know, "What's your name? | 0:09:15 | 0:09:18 | |
"Where do you come from? What do you do?" | 0:09:18 | 0:09:19 | |
And she said, "My name is Kirsty Gray. | 0:09:19 | 0:09:21 | |
"I find people for various reasons, | 0:09:21 | 0:09:23 | |
"whether people are looking for inheritances or | 0:09:23 | 0:09:25 | |
"whether they are trying to trace their family." | 0:09:25 | 0:09:28 | |
I first of all had a look to see if I could find a death for his mother | 0:09:28 | 0:09:32 | |
in her married name, and I couldn't. | 0:09:32 | 0:09:36 | |
So I then looked to see if potentially she'd married again. | 0:09:36 | 0:09:40 | |
And she did. | 0:09:40 | 0:09:42 | |
So I then had a new married name to look at | 0:09:42 | 0:09:45 | |
and then managed to locate a death record. | 0:09:45 | 0:09:49 | |
I e-mailed Nick to say, "When you have a quiet five minutes, | 0:09:49 | 0:09:52 | |
"you might want to ring me." | 0:09:52 | 0:09:53 | |
So I rang her up and she said, "I found your mum." | 0:09:53 | 0:09:57 | |
I went, "Whoa!" And she went, "Hang on, she has died." | 0:09:57 | 0:10:01 | |
"OK, not unexpected." | 0:10:01 | 0:10:03 | |
But the story didn't end there. | 0:10:03 | 0:10:05 | |
Knowing Nick was desperate to see that elusive | 0:10:05 | 0:10:09 | |
photograph of his mum, Kirsty had another lead on Norah's life. | 0:10:09 | 0:10:13 | |
The second married name of Norah, Nick's mum, | 0:10:13 | 0:10:17 | |
was actually quite unusual. | 0:10:17 | 0:10:19 | |
So once we'd found out her husband's name, we actually | 0:10:19 | 0:10:23 | |
had found that he was still living and we had an address for him. | 0:10:23 | 0:10:28 | |
Kirsty drafted a contact letter to Norah's widower. | 0:10:29 | 0:10:32 | |
Basically, the letter is just explaining a little bit | 0:10:32 | 0:10:35 | |
about who we are, but asking him to contact us. | 0:10:35 | 0:10:37 | |
Kirsty sent off the letter and we had no response for over a week. | 0:10:37 | 0:10:42 | |
Nick was determined not to give up his search for his long-lost | 0:10:42 | 0:10:45 | |
relatives and decided to take matters into his own hands. | 0:10:45 | 0:10:50 | |
Having not received a reply to the letter that we'd sent, | 0:10:50 | 0:10:53 | |
I had a Friday afternoon call from Nick to say that he was | 0:10:53 | 0:10:56 | |
actually travelling to Coventry the following day. | 0:10:56 | 0:10:58 | |
And he said he was just going to pop by and see if he might be | 0:10:58 | 0:11:02 | |
able to meet the gentleman we'd written the letter to. | 0:11:02 | 0:11:05 | |
Kirsty had said, "It's not normal to go and do these things, | 0:11:05 | 0:11:08 | |
"but if we're not getting any joy, | 0:11:08 | 0:11:10 | |
"then I guess we don't probably have a lot of choice. | 0:11:10 | 0:11:13 | |
"So see how you get on." | 0:11:13 | 0:11:15 | |
So I built up my courage, rang the doorbell. | 0:11:15 | 0:11:18 | |
A gentleman came to the doorbell and said, "Who are you?" | 0:11:18 | 0:11:21 | |
And I said, "Well, my name's Nick Morgan. | 0:11:21 | 0:11:23 | |
"You may have had a letter from Kirsty Gray." | 0:11:23 | 0:11:26 | |
And he said, "Yes." | 0:11:26 | 0:11:29 | |
And he invited me in. | 0:11:29 | 0:11:31 | |
And then we chatted for an hour about, um...Norah, | 0:11:31 | 0:11:37 | |
or Noreen as she had then become. | 0:11:37 | 0:11:39 | |
Having had the conversation, I said, | 0:11:39 | 0:11:42 | |
"I don't suppose that you've got a photo of Noreen?" | 0:11:42 | 0:11:45 | |
And he said, "Yes, there's a photo behind you." | 0:11:45 | 0:11:49 | |
So I said, "Oh, that's fantastic." | 0:11:49 | 0:11:52 | |
It was just that moment of going... | 0:11:52 | 0:11:54 | |
I'd finally achieved that goal that when I thought that the doors | 0:11:54 | 0:11:58 | |
were closed, the wall was built and I was never going to see it. | 0:11:58 | 0:12:01 | |
And there it was in front of me. | 0:12:01 | 0:12:03 | |
So it was, yeah, just getting to that point and going, | 0:12:03 | 0:12:06 | |
"Yeah, finally got there." | 0:12:06 | 0:12:08 | |
And Noreen's widower had more news about his mother. | 0:12:08 | 0:12:13 | |
Could Nick's search for his family be about to reveal more than | 0:12:13 | 0:12:16 | |
just a photo? | 0:12:16 | 0:12:18 | |
He thought Noreen had had another child. | 0:12:18 | 0:12:21 | |
So when I came out, I rang Kirsty and said, "He said that there's | 0:12:21 | 0:12:24 | |
"another child, but I don't think there's anything in it." | 0:12:24 | 0:12:27 | |
And she said, "OK, well, I'll just check it out." | 0:12:27 | 0:12:30 | |
And five minutes later, she rang me back and said, | 0:12:30 | 0:12:33 | |
"I think you may have a sister." | 0:12:33 | 0:12:35 | |
Jean Heathcote's search for her birth mother had also | 0:12:43 | 0:12:47 | |
revealed an unexpected discovery - a half sister, Marie. | 0:12:47 | 0:12:52 | |
But when both sisters had made contact with their mother, | 0:12:52 | 0:12:55 | |
their advances had been rejected. | 0:12:55 | 0:12:57 | |
So Jean's quest for details about her early life continued. | 0:12:57 | 0:13:01 | |
I had a message from a lady called Diana Kelly, who said, | 0:13:01 | 0:13:06 | |
"Hello, I'd like to ask you a few questions | 0:13:06 | 0:13:10 | |
"cos I think I could be related to you." | 0:13:10 | 0:13:12 | |
Diana Kelly, from Bristol, had been browsing a family finding | 0:13:13 | 0:13:17 | |
website in the hope of finding out about her birth mother. | 0:13:17 | 0:13:21 | |
I was just going through this site, and suddenly, | 0:13:22 | 0:13:25 | |
up came my mum's name, Sheila Mary Kelly. | 0:13:25 | 0:13:27 | |
It turned out that Jean and Marie had yet another half-sister. | 0:13:28 | 0:13:33 | |
Well, I was born in 1951 in St Mary's, | 0:13:33 | 0:13:35 | |
in Paddington, London. | 0:13:35 | 0:13:37 | |
Within six weeks, I was handed over to a foster family. | 0:13:37 | 0:13:42 | |
Diana stayed in care until she was old enough to rent | 0:13:42 | 0:13:45 | |
a flat of her own. | 0:13:45 | 0:13:47 | |
Now she felt independent enough to begin to trace her family. | 0:13:47 | 0:13:51 | |
You know, I wanted to know a bit of who I belonged to. | 0:13:52 | 0:13:56 | |
I think you need...you want a sense of... | 0:13:56 | 0:14:00 | |
..a sense of belonging, really. | 0:14:08 | 0:14:10 | |
Diana applied to the General Register Office to find out | 0:14:14 | 0:14:17 | |
more information about her mother. | 0:14:17 | 0:14:20 | |
The only information I actually had on my mother | 0:14:20 | 0:14:22 | |
was her birth certificate. | 0:14:22 | 0:14:24 | |
I knew her name was Sheila Mary Kelly, | 0:14:24 | 0:14:26 | |
where she was living while she was expecting me, | 0:14:26 | 0:14:29 | |
her date of birth, and that was it. | 0:14:29 | 0:14:32 | |
Hampered by a lack of information and self-doubt, | 0:14:32 | 0:14:35 | |
Diana went through years of unsuccessful searching. | 0:14:35 | 0:14:39 | |
In 2009, came a glimmer of hope | 0:14:39 | 0:14:42 | |
when she was browsing a family finding website. | 0:14:42 | 0:14:45 | |
I was just sat there one day, going through it, | 0:14:45 | 0:14:49 | |
and my mum's name popped up on there. | 0:14:49 | 0:14:53 | |
So I kept reading it, | 0:14:53 | 0:14:56 | |
kept reading it, and I'm thinking, | 0:14:56 | 0:14:58 | |
"Oh, well. | 0:14:58 | 0:14:59 | |
"As you do, Diana, you know what you're like." | 0:14:59 | 0:15:02 | |
Picked up the phone, didn't I? | 0:15:02 | 0:15:04 | |
And I rang her. | 0:15:04 | 0:15:06 | |
Diana had come across one of the adverts posted by Jean, | 0:15:06 | 0:15:10 | |
and it seemed they shared a mother who would make them half-sisters. | 0:15:10 | 0:15:14 | |
Jean told Diana that she had already found their other half-sister, | 0:15:16 | 0:15:20 | |
so Diana looked her up too. | 0:15:20 | 0:15:24 | |
I was on Facebook | 0:15:24 | 0:15:26 | |
and a message came up asking me | 0:15:26 | 0:15:29 | |
if my mother was called Sheila Mary Kelly. | 0:15:29 | 0:15:33 | |
And I thought, "Well, yes." So I replied yes. | 0:15:34 | 0:15:37 | |
And up popped an answer saying, | 0:15:37 | 0:15:41 | |
"Well, I think that I could be your sister." | 0:15:41 | 0:15:44 | |
And I thought, "Oh, my, not another one!" | 0:15:44 | 0:15:46 | |
We chatted for ages. | 0:15:47 | 0:15:49 | |
Yeah. And the next day. And the next day. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:53 | |
I feel like I've known her all my life. | 0:15:53 | 0:15:57 | |
We did meet quite quickly after we spoke on the phone, | 0:15:57 | 0:16:00 | |
and it was wonderful to see her. | 0:16:00 | 0:16:02 | |
Today, the three sisters - | 0:16:02 | 0:16:04 | |
Jean, Marie and Diana - | 0:16:04 | 0:16:06 | |
are getting together for the first time. | 0:16:06 | 0:16:09 | |
For decades, they all had been searching for their shared | 0:16:09 | 0:16:12 | |
mother, unaware of each other's existence. | 0:16:12 | 0:16:15 | |
Sisterhood is what I aim to get from today. | 0:16:17 | 0:16:22 | |
I think it's... It will be nice to have that closeness. | 0:16:22 | 0:16:26 | |
I'm determined now | 0:16:26 | 0:16:29 | |
because I really do need to have contact with my sisters. | 0:16:29 | 0:16:33 | |
I am nervous, yeah. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:35 | |
And excited. | 0:16:37 | 0:16:38 | |
-Hello. -Hello, you! | 0:16:44 | 0:16:47 | |
THEY SQUEAL HAPPILY | 0:16:47 | 0:16:49 | |
It's lovely! It's wonderful. | 0:16:50 | 0:16:53 | |
-Have a seat, darling. -Thank you. -All right? -Yeah. You all right? | 0:16:53 | 0:16:56 | |
Yeah, I'm fine, thank you. | 0:16:56 | 0:16:58 | |
-How long is it since we've seen each other? -Way overdue. | 0:16:58 | 0:17:02 | |
Way, way overdue for both of us. | 0:17:02 | 0:17:04 | |
But I think it would be nice to actually be able to | 0:17:04 | 0:17:08 | |
-include Diana as well now. -Yes. | 0:17:08 | 0:17:10 | |
Finally, the sister who was most recently found, Diana. | 0:17:11 | 0:17:15 | |
Oh, my goodness me! | 0:17:19 | 0:17:21 | |
Hello! Hello! | 0:17:21 | 0:17:24 | |
Good to see you. And this is your sister. | 0:17:24 | 0:17:28 | |
I know! | 0:17:28 | 0:17:30 | |
-Are you all right? -Don't cry, darling. | 0:17:30 | 0:17:34 | |
Aw. | 0:17:34 | 0:17:36 | |
Aw. Don't cry. | 0:17:36 | 0:17:39 | |
This is fabulous. Come on, darling, come and sit down. Come on. | 0:17:40 | 0:17:45 | |
Oh! Girls together. | 0:17:45 | 0:17:48 | |
-Nice to see you. -And you too. -At last. -At last. I know. | 0:17:49 | 0:17:52 | |
Are you all right? Oh, dear. | 0:17:52 | 0:17:56 | |
I've got so much stuff here to show you... | 0:17:57 | 0:18:01 | |
Fantastic. | 0:18:01 | 0:18:02 | |
This is Mother. | 0:18:02 | 0:18:04 | |
She was quite attractive, wasn't she? | 0:18:04 | 0:18:06 | |
Yeah, she was quite a glamorous lady, wasn't she? | 0:18:06 | 0:18:09 | |
And here she is with a baby. | 0:18:09 | 0:18:11 | |
-Now... -THEY LAUGH | 0:18:11 | 0:18:14 | |
-It's -a -baby girl. Now, who it is, I haven't got a clue. | 0:18:14 | 0:18:18 | |
-Look at her hair! -I know, she had fantastic hair. | 0:18:18 | 0:18:21 | |
Amazing. Amazing. | 0:18:21 | 0:18:22 | |
-That's 1947, that one, we think. -Got to be your father. | 0:18:23 | 0:18:28 | |
-You think so? -I think so. | 0:18:28 | 0:18:30 | |
Yeah. OK. Well, I think he's a very handsome man, actually. | 0:18:30 | 0:18:33 | |
-Yeah, I'm quite happy with that. -Got nice eyes. | 0:18:33 | 0:18:36 | |
-This is her on her wedding day. -Which one? | 0:18:36 | 0:18:39 | |
-She only had one. -Oh, right. | 0:18:39 | 0:18:42 | |
And how do you feel about seeing | 0:18:42 | 0:18:44 | |
these photographs of your mum, girls? | 0:18:44 | 0:18:47 | |
-Well... -Well... -Such a dainty little thing. -She was a stunner. | 0:18:47 | 0:18:50 | |
-To be fair. -An absolute stunner. | 0:18:50 | 0:18:53 | |
It's incredible, isn't it? | 0:18:53 | 0:18:54 | |
These three sisters may never know much about their mother | 0:18:55 | 0:18:58 | |
and the truth behind their adoptions, but it | 0:18:58 | 0:19:01 | |
seems their relationship is reward enough for having found each other. | 0:19:01 | 0:19:05 | |
Well, girls, together after all this time. | 0:19:05 | 0:19:08 | |
-Well, it's about time, I think. -I know, but amazing. | 0:19:08 | 0:19:10 | |
Absolutely amazing. | 0:19:10 | 0:19:12 | |
Today is a day I never thought would happen. | 0:19:12 | 0:19:14 | |
I never ever thought it would happen. | 0:19:15 | 0:19:18 | |
And I am so happy. | 0:19:20 | 0:19:21 | |
It's taken me over 20 years to get to this stage, you know? | 0:19:21 | 0:19:26 | |
-Just... -SHE SIGHS | 0:19:26 | 0:19:28 | |
..the relief to see those two together, it's fantastic. | 0:19:28 | 0:19:32 | |
It's been amazing. It's been truly amazing. | 0:19:32 | 0:19:34 | |
I've loved every minute of it. | 0:19:34 | 0:19:36 | |
Part of it is closure, I think, | 0:19:36 | 0:19:37 | |
knowing that you are part of...someone. | 0:19:37 | 0:19:41 | |
Nick Morgan's search for his birth mother had also produced | 0:19:51 | 0:19:54 | |
a remarkable result. | 0:19:54 | 0:19:56 | |
Family finder Kirsty Gray had discovered he too had a sister. | 0:19:56 | 0:20:00 | |
She said, "There's a girl called Deborah Marie Lowe, | 0:20:00 | 0:20:05 | |
"born in Coventry." | 0:20:05 | 0:20:07 | |
And then she said, "She was adopted. | 0:20:07 | 0:20:09 | |
"And therefore, I can't find out any more." | 0:20:09 | 0:20:12 | |
Desperate to trace his sister, Nick returned to visit his mum | 0:20:12 | 0:20:17 | |
Noreen's widower, who, in the interim, | 0:20:17 | 0:20:19 | |
had remembered more details. | 0:20:19 | 0:20:21 | |
He was able to tell me exactly what her surname was, | 0:20:23 | 0:20:29 | |
which was now Wright, and approximately where she lived, | 0:20:29 | 0:20:32 | |
which was on the outskirts of Coventry. | 0:20:32 | 0:20:35 | |
I was absolutely astounded. | 0:20:35 | 0:20:37 | |
The fact that there was a person out there, | 0:20:37 | 0:20:40 | |
having been an only child for so long, for... | 0:20:40 | 0:20:44 | |
I couldn't believe that there was anyone that actually existed. | 0:20:44 | 0:20:47 | |
I was shocked, | 0:20:47 | 0:20:48 | |
just shocked to the point of not knowing almost what to do next. | 0:20:48 | 0:20:52 | |
Kirsty, the Family Finder, was called into action again. | 0:20:52 | 0:20:58 | |
She did the records, got the...went on the computer and said, | 0:20:58 | 0:21:01 | |
"Yeah, I've got the address." | 0:21:01 | 0:21:03 | |
So over the course of that week, we composed a letter which | 0:21:03 | 0:21:06 | |
we felt would get her attention. | 0:21:06 | 0:21:08 | |
I didn't want to be rejected again. | 0:21:08 | 0:21:09 | |
But I was really, really excited about the thought that | 0:21:09 | 0:21:11 | |
I might find somebody. | 0:21:11 | 0:21:13 | |
In Coventry, an unsuspecting Deborah Wright was about to | 0:21:15 | 0:21:19 | |
have her world turned upside down. | 0:21:19 | 0:21:21 | |
It was July 5th and I emptied the postbox and there was a letter. | 0:21:23 | 0:21:28 | |
And then the first thing that I spotted in bold | 0:21:28 | 0:21:32 | |
was my natural mother's name. | 0:21:32 | 0:21:35 | |
Deborah got in touch with Kirsty. | 0:21:35 | 0:21:37 | |
She said, "I'm working for a client who's trying to trace you." | 0:21:37 | 0:21:42 | |
And I went, "Me?" | 0:21:42 | 0:21:44 | |
And she said, "Yes, you've got a brother." | 0:21:44 | 0:21:47 | |
And I just said, "No, I haven't got a brother, I think | 0:21:48 | 0:21:51 | |
"you've got the wrong person because I'm an only child." | 0:21:51 | 0:21:55 | |
Deborah was born in 1958 to Norah Lowe, | 0:21:56 | 0:22:01 | |
but as an unmarried mother, Norah felt unable to care for her. | 0:22:01 | 0:22:05 | |
She then knew that she couldn't look after me, so she advertised me | 0:22:05 | 0:22:09 | |
in the local newspaper | 0:22:09 | 0:22:11 | |
and my adoptive parents answered the advert. | 0:22:11 | 0:22:15 | |
Deborah was fostered by Mr and Mrs Priest, | 0:22:15 | 0:22:18 | |
who nurtured and cared for her. | 0:22:18 | 0:22:21 | |
When I was 14, I met Denis. | 0:22:21 | 0:22:23 | |
And then when I was 17, we knew that we wanted to get married. | 0:22:23 | 0:22:27 | |
Even at that early age, I think that we | 0:22:27 | 0:22:29 | |
knew we were right for each other. | 0:22:29 | 0:22:31 | |
So I wanted my name in church to be said Deborah Priest. | 0:22:31 | 0:22:35 | |
Desperate to use her beloved parents' name | 0:22:37 | 0:22:39 | |
on her wedding day, she needed them to legally adopt her. | 0:22:39 | 0:22:42 | |
But that involved getting back in touch with her birth mother | 0:22:43 | 0:22:46 | |
so that she could sign the papers. | 0:22:46 | 0:22:48 | |
The social worker managed to trace Norah, | 0:22:49 | 0:22:51 | |
who was living in Coventry, | 0:22:51 | 0:22:53 | |
and Norah said that she would like to meet me. | 0:22:53 | 0:22:56 | |
And so the social worker returned to tell me this | 0:22:56 | 0:23:00 | |
and asked me if I would like to meet Norah, which I di... | 0:23:00 | 0:23:04 | |
I wasn't interested in. | 0:23:04 | 0:23:06 | |
What Deborah did agree to was swapping photos. | 0:23:07 | 0:23:10 | |
It was the first time she'd seen an image of her birth mother. | 0:23:10 | 0:23:13 | |
I do regret that I didn't meet Norah at 17. | 0:23:13 | 0:23:17 | |
When she was 39, after the death of her adoptive mother, Deborah | 0:23:17 | 0:23:21 | |
decided she wanted to trace Norah, | 0:23:21 | 0:23:24 | |
so a friend of Deborah's offered to help. | 0:23:24 | 0:23:26 | |
And it wasn't long before she found a record of Norah, | 0:23:27 | 0:23:30 | |
but she had died five years previously. | 0:23:30 | 0:23:32 | |
I grieved for Norah the same as I grieved my adoptive mum. | 0:23:34 | 0:23:38 | |
It really, really upset me. | 0:23:38 | 0:23:40 | |
And I couldn't understand those feelings | 0:23:40 | 0:23:42 | |
because I had never known her. | 0:23:42 | 0:23:44 | |
But it was because I knew then that I had no chance of ever, | 0:23:44 | 0:23:47 | |
ever seeing her. | 0:23:47 | 0:23:48 | |
I was told by the social worker that there weren't any other children, | 0:23:48 | 0:23:51 | |
Norah had only ever had me, at 39. | 0:23:51 | 0:23:54 | |
But that all changed | 0:23:55 | 0:23:57 | |
when Deborah was contacted by a Family Finder called Kirsty Gray. | 0:23:57 | 0:24:00 | |
She said, "You have got a brother." | 0:24:01 | 0:24:03 | |
And I was just shell-shocked. I couldn't speak, I was so shocked. | 0:24:03 | 0:24:08 | |
Because it was everything I'd ever wanted. But it was like a dream. | 0:24:08 | 0:24:13 | |
Nick and Deborah couldn't wait to meet. | 0:24:13 | 0:24:16 | |
From having only found out 24 hours earlier that she had a brother, | 0:24:16 | 0:24:20 | |
and now 24 hours after that, she was actually going to meet me. | 0:24:20 | 0:24:23 | |
She walked towards me, I walked towards her, | 0:24:23 | 0:24:25 | |
and we hugged and then we went and sat down | 0:24:25 | 0:24:28 | |
for about an hour and a half and did 60 years' worth of life. | 0:24:28 | 0:24:32 | |
-We got on so well, didn't we? -Yeah, we did. | 0:24:32 | 0:24:34 | |
-As well as can be. -Yeah. | 0:24:34 | 0:24:36 | |
It was great. It was a great meeting. | 0:24:36 | 0:24:38 | |
Since July 2015, the siblings have only met once more. | 0:24:40 | 0:24:45 | |
So today, Nick is going back to Coventry to spend the day | 0:24:46 | 0:24:50 | |
with his sister and her family. | 0:24:50 | 0:24:52 | |
Deborah's children, Daniel and Gemma, | 0:24:52 | 0:24:55 | |
have never met their uncle Nick. | 0:24:55 | 0:24:57 | |
Never ever considered that Mum would ever have any siblings. | 0:24:57 | 0:25:01 | |
It just didn't seem like a possibility. | 0:25:01 | 0:25:04 | |
I know that Mum's always wanted a big brother, | 0:25:04 | 0:25:06 | |
so it's perfect that this has happened. | 0:25:06 | 0:25:08 | |
I think it feels like quite a big moment now! | 0:25:08 | 0:25:12 | |
Yeah, I'm really happy that we've got an uncle. | 0:25:13 | 0:25:16 | |
And a whole other family. | 0:25:16 | 0:25:18 | |
Really excited to meet uncle Nick. Yeah, really am. | 0:25:18 | 0:25:20 | |
I'm going to give him a big hug. | 0:25:20 | 0:25:22 | |
And I feel very excited that I'm going to finally meet them, | 0:25:24 | 0:25:28 | |
having spoken about them and talked about them for so long. | 0:25:28 | 0:25:31 | |
It really finishes off the circle. It's... | 0:25:31 | 0:25:35 | |
Meeting Gemma and Daniel are the final parts of the puzzle. | 0:25:35 | 0:25:39 | |
Five months after meeting Deborah for the first time, | 0:25:39 | 0:25:42 | |
Nick has arrived at her home to meet the rest of his family. | 0:25:42 | 0:25:46 | |
-Hello, nice to meet you. -Long time no see. | 0:25:50 | 0:25:54 | |
Lovely to see you. | 0:25:56 | 0:25:59 | |
At last, uncle Nick! | 0:25:59 | 0:26:00 | |
This is Gemma. | 0:26:00 | 0:26:02 | |
-NICK: -Lovely to meet you! Hello. | 0:26:04 | 0:26:07 | |
-Let's... Oh, yes. -This is Daniel. -Uncle Nick. | 0:26:07 | 0:26:10 | |
Lovely to s... Lovely to meet you. How are you doing? | 0:26:12 | 0:26:16 | |
Great to see you again. | 0:26:16 | 0:26:19 | |
-Has it been worth waiting for? -Do you think we're alike? | 0:26:20 | 0:26:24 | |
I think you have quite similar eyes. I can see it. | 0:26:24 | 0:26:26 | |
-DANIEL: -I can definitely see it. | 0:26:26 | 0:26:28 | |
'It was just really, really lovely to see him and meet him.' | 0:26:29 | 0:26:32 | |
-Give him a big hug, both of us. -It was like meeting Mum again. | 0:26:32 | 0:26:37 | |
It was really strange. | 0:26:37 | 0:26:38 | |
-It didn't feel... -It felt like we'd known him for years. | 0:26:39 | 0:26:42 | |
-It didn't feel forced, did it? -No, not at all. | 0:26:42 | 0:26:44 | |
Did you expect me to be small and petite? | 0:26:44 | 0:26:46 | |
-I expected you to be smaller, yeah. -Smaller. | 0:26:46 | 0:26:49 | |
-I expected you to be bigger. -Yeah! -THEY LAUGH | 0:26:49 | 0:26:52 | |
Yeah, we got rid of the big sister... | 0:26:52 | 0:26:54 | |
big brother little sister thing, didn't we, quite quickly? | 0:26:54 | 0:26:57 | |
Straight to older and younger. | 0:26:57 | 0:26:59 | |
Older! | 0:27:00 | 0:27:02 | |
It's really nice to see the rapport that uncle Nick and Mum have got. | 0:27:03 | 0:27:07 | |
You know, that kind of good banter. | 0:27:07 | 0:27:10 | |
-Yeah, you can just tell they're brother and sister, can't you? -Yeah. | 0:27:10 | 0:27:13 | |
And his expressions are a lot like Mum's as well, which obviously... | 0:27:13 | 0:27:16 | |
-He's got twinkly eyes, and Mum's got twinkly eyes. -Really similar. | 0:27:16 | 0:27:20 | |
-Yeah. -Just the way they smile as well. | 0:27:20 | 0:27:21 | |
-Our lives have changed for the better. -They have. | 0:27:21 | 0:27:24 | |
It's a new family, but we still live our own lives, | 0:27:24 | 0:27:27 | |
the lives that we've lived for all the time. Now we've just got | 0:27:27 | 0:27:29 | |
an additional bit on the top, it's like having the cream. | 0:27:29 | 0:27:32 | |
Yeah, like you say, you're just a little bit of cream. | 0:27:32 | 0:27:34 | |
-Yeah. -On the top. | 0:27:34 | 0:27:36 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:27:36 | 0:27:38 | |
Having been an only child for 60 years, | 0:27:38 | 0:27:41 | |
and my son David's an only child and my mate across the road, | 0:27:41 | 0:27:44 | |
Andy, is an only child, so we're part of the only child club. | 0:27:44 | 0:27:47 | |
And I'm not any more. I'm out. | 0:27:47 | 0:27:49 | |
It's brought joy to our lives, hasn't it? | 0:27:49 | 0:27:51 | |
I've got all these years to look forward to, | 0:27:51 | 0:27:53 | |
to keep having the banter. | 0:27:53 | 0:27:55 | |
-Keep having fun together. -Keep practising my jokes. | 0:27:55 | 0:27:58 | |
-And having fun together with our families. -Having fun together, yeah. | 0:27:58 | 0:28:01 | |
-Cheers. -To all the family. | 0:28:01 | 0:28:03 | |
It's fantastic, yeah. | 0:28:03 | 0:28:05 |