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Families can be driven apart for all manner of reasons. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:04 | |
I had no information at all about where my mum went. | 0:00:04 | 0:00:07 | |
And when you do lose touch with your loved ones... | 0:00:07 | 0:00:10 | |
You don't know who you are, where've you come from. | 0:00:10 | 0:00:12 | |
..finding them can take a lifetime. | 0:00:12 | 0:00:15 | |
I might have a brother that's still living here. | 0:00:15 | 0:00:19 | |
Especially when they could be anywhere - at home or abroad. | 0:00:19 | 0:00:23 | |
And that's where the Family Finders come in. | 0:00:23 | 0:00:26 | |
From international organisations... | 0:00:26 | 0:00:28 | |
Hi, it's The Salvation Army Family Tracing Service. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:32 | |
..to genealogy detective agencies... | 0:00:32 | 0:00:34 | |
For someone to say that it's changed their life, | 0:00:34 | 0:00:37 | |
it makes coming to work, you know, really, really special. | 0:00:37 | 0:00:40 | |
..and dedicated one-man bands. | 0:00:40 | 0:00:42 | |
It's a matter of how much effort you really want to put into it, | 0:00:42 | 0:00:46 | |
how badly you want to solve the problem. | 0:00:46 | 0:00:48 | |
They hunt through history to bring families back together again. | 0:00:48 | 0:00:52 | |
Finding new family is wonderful. | 0:00:52 | 0:00:55 | |
In this series, we follow the work of the Family Finders... | 0:00:55 | 0:00:59 | |
Suddenly, you get one spark of breakthrough and there they are. | 0:00:59 | 0:01:04 | |
..learning the tricks they use to track missing relatives through time... | 0:01:04 | 0:01:08 | |
I didn't think I'd ever find my sisters but I have. | 0:01:08 | 0:01:13 | |
..and meeting the people whose lives they change along the way. | 0:01:13 | 0:01:17 | |
I've been waiting to meet John my whole life. | 0:01:17 | 0:01:20 | |
Since we've met, I feel part of a family again. | 0:01:20 | 0:01:22 | |
You've just completed my life for me. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:26 | |
When it comes to tracking down lost family members, | 0:01:33 | 0:01:36 | |
you don't always have to pay for a professional service | 0:01:36 | 0:01:39 | |
or seek outside help. | 0:01:39 | 0:01:40 | |
In the age of the internet, anyone can become a family detective. | 0:01:40 | 0:01:44 | |
Today, we follow one man's mission to find out about his grandfather | 0:01:47 | 0:01:51 | |
which uncovered a family lost across the generations. | 0:01:51 | 0:01:54 | |
Well, that's really quite shocking, actually, in a pleasant kind of way. | 0:01:55 | 0:02:00 | |
It's as if it's meant to be. | 0:02:00 | 0:02:02 | |
And Lynn who spent years trying to track down her long-lost brother. | 0:02:02 | 0:02:07 | |
A million things went through my head, | 0:02:07 | 0:02:09 | |
what I thought I would say to him, | 0:02:09 | 0:02:10 | |
and I practised it and practised it and practised it | 0:02:10 | 0:02:13 | |
and then I rang the number | 0:02:13 | 0:02:14 | |
and just before I put the last digit in, I put the phone down | 0:02:14 | 0:02:18 | |
and if I did that once, I must have done it 20 times. | 0:02:18 | 0:02:21 | |
53-year-old Simon Wrigley was born and brought up on the Isle of Wight. | 0:02:25 | 0:02:31 | |
But at the age of 21, Simon decided to leave the island | 0:02:31 | 0:02:35 | |
and broaden his horizons. | 0:02:35 | 0:02:38 | |
And by chance, I ended up in Israel. | 0:02:38 | 0:02:40 | |
Literally by chance as a volunteer on a kibbutz. | 0:02:40 | 0:02:42 | |
I was working in the bananas and with the oranges | 0:02:42 | 0:02:46 | |
and we were a group of young people who were having a wonderful time. | 0:02:46 | 0:02:49 | |
And been there ever since. | 0:02:49 | 0:02:51 | |
Even though he's been living in Israel for over 30 years, | 0:02:51 | 0:02:54 | |
Simon has never forgotten his roots. | 0:02:54 | 0:02:57 | |
England is my home. | 0:02:57 | 0:02:59 | |
Especially the Isle of Wight and that's where I come from. | 0:02:59 | 0:03:02 | |
When you live away from your family, you realise how important they are. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:06 | |
But it wasn't until he returned to the Isle of Wight, briefly, | 0:03:08 | 0:03:11 | |
after his grandmother died that Simon began a fascination | 0:03:11 | 0:03:15 | |
with his family history. | 0:03:15 | 0:03:17 | |
When grandparents die, when they pass over, | 0:03:17 | 0:03:20 | |
the knowledge goes with them. | 0:03:20 | 0:03:22 | |
I think that living away from my family and growing older | 0:03:22 | 0:03:28 | |
and family members passing away, | 0:03:28 | 0:03:31 | |
I became aware of that more | 0:03:31 | 0:03:32 | |
and it's very important to talk to them about the past, | 0:03:32 | 0:03:37 | |
to get that knowledge from them, because if not, it goes. | 0:03:37 | 0:03:41 | |
I discovered a picture in my parents' house of my grandparents | 0:03:41 | 0:03:47 | |
and this was when they were engaged. | 0:03:47 | 0:03:50 | |
It must be around 1923. | 0:03:50 | 0:03:53 | |
I can see myself in my grandfather. | 0:03:53 | 0:03:56 | |
And I realise that nobody really had any connection | 0:03:56 | 0:03:59 | |
with his side of the family | 0:03:59 | 0:04:01 | |
and there was this whole, sort of, mystery that nobody knew. | 0:04:01 | 0:04:06 | |
That's why I wanted to know more about him. | 0:04:06 | 0:04:08 | |
Determined to discover more, back in Israel, | 0:04:09 | 0:04:13 | |
he began to search, in earnest, on the internet. | 0:04:13 | 0:04:15 | |
One of the first things I discovered online was | 0:04:15 | 0:04:18 | |
my grandfather's death certificate | 0:04:18 | 0:04:20 | |
and here's my grandfather's name on the certificate, | 0:04:20 | 0:04:23 | |
Bernard Frederick Groundsell. | 0:04:23 | 0:04:25 | |
He died at a very early age, at the age of 46 in 1949. | 0:04:25 | 0:04:30 | |
He died of lung cancer to which I didn't know. | 0:04:30 | 0:04:34 | |
It stirred an emotion in me, reading this because | 0:04:34 | 0:04:38 | |
what does this come down to, | 0:04:38 | 0:04:40 | |
just a piece of paper saying somebody's died? | 0:04:40 | 0:04:42 | |
But this is... This is... | 0:04:42 | 0:04:44 | |
This is somebody. This is my family. This is my... | 0:04:44 | 0:04:46 | |
This is my grandfather. | 0:04:46 | 0:04:48 | |
And it's not just a date on a piece of paper. It was a human being. | 0:04:48 | 0:04:54 | |
Simon also discovered that his grandfather was one of nine siblings. | 0:04:54 | 0:04:58 | |
He realised he could have surviving relatives out there | 0:04:58 | 0:05:01 | |
he didn't know about. | 0:05:01 | 0:05:03 | |
Simon decided to investigate further. | 0:05:03 | 0:05:06 | |
I thought I'd give it a go | 0:05:06 | 0:05:07 | |
by putting an advertisement in the local paper. | 0:05:07 | 0:05:10 | |
They have a section, here, called Islanders Reunited. | 0:05:10 | 0:05:13 | |
So I thought, "I'll send an e-mail, here, | 0:05:13 | 0:05:15 | |
"and let's see if anything comes up." | 0:05:15 | 0:05:17 | |
But with no idea if his ancestors had any surviving relatives | 0:05:17 | 0:05:21 | |
left on the Isle of Wight, | 0:05:21 | 0:05:23 | |
all he could do now was wait. | 0:05:23 | 0:05:25 | |
It must have been about six months and I got a bit, sort of... | 0:05:25 | 0:05:29 | |
..I wouldn't say I'd given up, | 0:05:31 | 0:05:32 | |
but I didn't have much hope of finding family members from this | 0:05:32 | 0:05:36 | |
but I thought, "At least I'll give it a try, you never know." | 0:05:36 | 0:05:39 | |
54-year-old Lynn Lewis has been waiting almost 40 years | 0:05:44 | 0:05:48 | |
to find out the truth about her long-lost family. | 0:05:48 | 0:05:51 | |
Lynn grew up in Buxton, in the Peak District, with her parents, | 0:05:52 | 0:05:56 | |
Maureen and Alan, her two sisters and a brother. | 0:05:56 | 0:05:59 | |
I had a wonderful childhood. Everything we wanted, we got. | 0:05:59 | 0:06:04 | |
We were a bit spoilt, really. | 0:06:04 | 0:06:06 | |
It was always a happy home. | 0:06:06 | 0:06:08 | |
But this picture of the perfect family wasn't all that it seems. | 0:06:08 | 0:06:13 | |
My parents told me I had an older brother when I was around 15. | 0:06:13 | 0:06:19 | |
I think they thought, at that point, I was probably old enough to | 0:06:19 | 0:06:22 | |
take on board the information. | 0:06:22 | 0:06:25 | |
It was much of a shock to me so I asked, "Will I ever see him? | 0:06:26 | 0:06:30 | |
"What does he look like?" | 0:06:30 | 0:06:32 | |
And they said, "Well, we'll never know | 0:06:32 | 0:06:34 | |
"cos we gave up all rights to have him. | 0:06:34 | 0:06:37 | |
"He was given up for adoption, you know, | 0:06:37 | 0:06:39 | |
"there's nothing you'll ever be able to do about it." | 0:06:39 | 0:06:42 | |
Mum was only 15, at the time, when she got pregnant | 0:06:44 | 0:06:47 | |
and she said in them days it wasn't allowed | 0:06:47 | 0:06:51 | |
for you to have a baby out of wedlock and so young | 0:06:51 | 0:06:54 | |
so she was sent away to a mother and baby home to have my brother. | 0:06:54 | 0:06:59 | |
She didn't want to give him away. | 0:06:59 | 0:07:01 | |
Her and my dad would have loved to have just kept the baby | 0:07:01 | 0:07:05 | |
and got married and carried on with a lovely family life, | 0:07:05 | 0:07:10 | |
but the decision was taken completely out of her hands. | 0:07:10 | 0:07:15 | |
In the years after giving up their son for adoption, | 0:07:15 | 0:07:18 | |
Lynn's parents carried on their relationship, | 0:07:18 | 0:07:20 | |
married, and had four children, | 0:07:20 | 0:07:22 | |
of whom Lynn is the eldest. | 0:07:22 | 0:07:24 | |
It wad the loss of her father, Alan, to leukaemia at the age of just 39 | 0:07:24 | 0:07:29 | |
that inspired Lynn to start searching for her older brother. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:33 | |
So I gathered the information from Mum, as much as I could, | 0:07:33 | 0:07:37 | |
and I was determined that, one day, I'd meet this brother of mine. | 0:07:37 | 0:07:42 | |
But Lynn's search immediately hit a brick wall | 0:07:44 | 0:07:47 | |
that would leave her frustrated for the next 25 years. | 0:07:47 | 0:07:51 | |
Because Mum had given him up for adoption, | 0:07:51 | 0:07:54 | |
I didn't have any rights to look for him. | 0:07:54 | 0:07:56 | |
He could look for us but we couldn't look for him. | 0:07:56 | 0:08:00 | |
And it wasn't until I watched a programme on the television | 0:08:00 | 0:08:03 | |
in 2005 that said, "Please dial this number | 0:08:03 | 0:08:07 | |
"if you've been affected by this programme." | 0:08:07 | 0:08:10 | |
I dialled the number, I explained what had happened | 0:08:10 | 0:08:13 | |
and I was told, then, that the law had changed a couple of years ago | 0:08:13 | 0:08:19 | |
and you, now, had a right to look for your siblings. | 0:08:19 | 0:08:23 | |
It was because of this law change that Lynn could finally try | 0:08:23 | 0:08:26 | |
and find her long-lost brother with the help of an adoption agency. | 0:08:26 | 0:08:31 | |
I got a phone call from the agency saying they'd narrowed it down | 0:08:31 | 0:08:35 | |
to one person who they felt sure was my brother | 0:08:35 | 0:08:39 | |
and could I write a letter and send photographs | 0:08:39 | 0:08:44 | |
that they would pass on to him. | 0:08:44 | 0:08:46 | |
It was just so, so exciting to think that after 25 years | 0:08:46 | 0:08:52 | |
the door was opening and maybe he would be at the other side of it. | 0:08:52 | 0:08:56 | |
But there was still one big question that remained unanswered. | 0:08:57 | 0:09:01 | |
Would her long-lost brother want to get back in touch | 0:09:01 | 0:09:04 | |
with his birth family? | 0:09:04 | 0:09:05 | |
I wrote this long letter and left it with the adoption agency... | 0:09:06 | 0:09:11 | |
..and waited. | 0:09:12 | 0:09:14 | |
So, it all hung on whether he actually read the letter | 0:09:14 | 0:09:20 | |
and wanted to get in touch with me. | 0:09:20 | 0:09:24 | |
All Lynn could do now was wait. | 0:09:24 | 0:09:27 | |
In Israel, Simon Wrigley was also playing a waiting game. | 0:09:36 | 0:09:40 | |
What began as a desire to discover more about his grandfather | 0:09:40 | 0:09:44 | |
had become a mission to find long-lost relations on the Isle of Wight. | 0:09:44 | 0:09:48 | |
Simon had appealed online for any news | 0:09:50 | 0:09:52 | |
of his grandfather's eight brothers and sisters. | 0:09:52 | 0:09:55 | |
But, there, his search seemed to have hit a dead end. | 0:09:55 | 0:09:58 | |
From the time that I placed the advert, | 0:09:59 | 0:10:02 | |
more or less six months passed and I hadn't heard anything. | 0:10:02 | 0:10:06 | |
And, then, all of a sudden, out of the blue, I saw an e-mail. | 0:10:06 | 0:10:10 | |
It was a very emotional moment to think that somebody's read | 0:10:10 | 0:10:14 | |
the e-mail and who was a family member and I was very curious to see | 0:10:14 | 0:10:18 | |
who this person was or how they're connected. | 0:10:18 | 0:10:21 | |
I was quite excited about it | 0:10:21 | 0:10:23 | |
because, at the time, I was working on the family tree myself | 0:10:23 | 0:10:26 | |
but only the bare skeleton of it and he started telling me | 0:10:26 | 0:10:29 | |
a bit of the information that he'd got together which | 0:10:29 | 0:10:31 | |
I was, then, able to piece together with the information I already had. | 0:10:31 | 0:10:35 | |
And, then, I realised that her father must be my mother's first cousin. | 0:10:35 | 0:10:40 | |
Hayley had seen Simon's ad. | 0:10:41 | 0:10:44 | |
They worked out that their grandfathers were brothers, | 0:10:44 | 0:10:47 | |
making Hayley and Simon second cousins. | 0:10:47 | 0:10:50 | |
It was very exciting when I first read the e-mail because | 0:10:50 | 0:10:53 | |
I felt there was a re-connection with the Groundsell family. | 0:10:53 | 0:10:57 | |
It was the next step for me. It was another piece in the jigsaw. | 0:10:57 | 0:11:01 | |
I'd never met my grandad. | 0:11:01 | 0:11:03 | |
He died the year I was born and the Groundsell family has always | 0:11:03 | 0:11:05 | |
been quite a mystery to me, a bit of an enigma. | 0:11:05 | 0:11:08 | |
But it turns out it's actually quite a large, extended family | 0:11:08 | 0:11:11 | |
on the island that I never even knew about. | 0:11:11 | 0:11:15 | |
And that wasn't all. Someone else saw Simon's ad. | 0:11:15 | 0:11:19 | |
Jane. | 0:11:19 | 0:11:21 | |
Her father, Frank, was another of the Groundsell brothers. | 0:11:21 | 0:11:24 | |
It was so absolutely amazing because Simon wrote back to me | 0:11:24 | 0:11:29 | |
and wanted to know what stories I knew and I filled him in | 0:11:29 | 0:11:33 | |
with quite a lot because my father was a great storyteller. | 0:11:33 | 0:11:37 | |
I knew loads of...loads of stories going right back to | 0:11:37 | 0:11:40 | |
when they were little boys. | 0:11:40 | 0:11:42 | |
As more of Simon's grandfather's relatives came to light, | 0:11:42 | 0:11:45 | |
Simon decided to commit all his research to paper. | 0:11:45 | 0:11:50 | |
Although I had all this information, it was all online - | 0:11:50 | 0:11:52 | |
I had documents, I had things here and there - | 0:11:52 | 0:11:55 | |
so I decided to put a small book together. | 0:11:55 | 0:11:57 | |
I wrote a profile on each member of the family. | 0:11:57 | 0:12:00 | |
Everyone has a story. | 0:12:00 | 0:12:02 | |
Every relative has a story attached. | 0:12:02 | 0:12:04 | |
And I continuously work on this and I continuously update this | 0:12:04 | 0:12:08 | |
all the time so it's an ongoing project, basically. | 0:12:08 | 0:12:10 | |
They might have passed away but it's important to | 0:12:10 | 0:12:13 | |
keep their memory to know who they were, what they were, | 0:12:13 | 0:12:16 | |
how you were related because it's part of you. | 0:12:16 | 0:12:20 | |
It's important. It's important to know these things. | 0:12:20 | 0:12:23 | |
After making contact with relatives he never knew he had, | 0:12:27 | 0:12:31 | |
now Simon is embarking on the next chapter | 0:12:31 | 0:12:34 | |
of his ongoing journey to find out more about the Groundsell family. | 0:12:34 | 0:12:38 | |
He's making the 4,000-mile trip from Israel to the Isle of Wight | 0:12:40 | 0:12:44 | |
along with his partner, Yuval. | 0:12:44 | 0:12:47 | |
Tomorrow, he'll be reunited with his new relations again | 0:12:47 | 0:12:51 | |
and hopes to fill in even more of the blanks in his family history. | 0:12:51 | 0:12:55 | |
I'm going home and it's always exciting to be with your family | 0:12:55 | 0:12:59 | |
and to come home. | 0:12:59 | 0:13:00 | |
I've got some new information for them and to share with them | 0:13:00 | 0:13:03 | |
and maybe they have some new information for me | 0:13:03 | 0:13:05 | |
so it's quite exciting to see what they have | 0:13:05 | 0:13:08 | |
and, also, to share what I have. | 0:13:08 | 0:13:10 | |
But this morning, before the reunion, | 0:13:18 | 0:13:21 | |
Simon has one very important stop to make. | 0:13:21 | 0:13:24 | |
The graveyard where his grandfather, Bernard, is buried. | 0:13:24 | 0:13:28 | |
It's important to visit my grandfather's grave and to... | 0:13:29 | 0:13:33 | |
for me to keep his memory alive. | 0:13:33 | 0:13:35 | |
But while searching for his grandfather, | 0:13:36 | 0:13:38 | |
Simon stumbles on something unexpected. | 0:13:38 | 0:13:41 | |
By chance, I've just discovered my great grandfather's grave, | 0:13:42 | 0:13:46 | |
George Young Groundsell. | 0:13:46 | 0:13:48 | |
Died November the 28th, 1915. | 0:13:48 | 0:13:52 | |
Aged 74. | 0:13:52 | 0:13:54 | |
Well, that's really quite shocking, actually, | 0:13:54 | 0:13:57 | |
in a pleasant kind of way, to discover their grave by accident. | 0:13:57 | 0:14:02 | |
It's as if it's meant to be. | 0:14:02 | 0:14:03 | |
Just stumbling along here and there we are. | 0:14:03 | 0:14:06 | |
This must be the Groundsell row, I should imagine. | 0:14:06 | 0:14:09 | |
Think all these years have passed | 0:14:22 | 0:14:25 | |
since 1949. | 0:14:25 | 0:14:27 | |
But it's important to visit the grave and to remember. | 0:14:28 | 0:14:33 | |
After finding the graves of his grandfather | 0:14:45 | 0:14:48 | |
and even his great-grandfather, Simon's heading to meet | 0:14:48 | 0:14:52 | |
some of the surviving generations of the Groundsell family. | 0:14:52 | 0:14:56 | |
CHATTERING | 0:14:56 | 0:14:58 | |
Hello. Oh, so many people here. Hello. | 0:14:59 | 0:15:02 | |
Come in for a hug. | 0:15:02 | 0:15:04 | |
-You look lovely. Hello, Jane, how are you? -Lovely to see you. | 0:15:04 | 0:15:08 | |
-Hello, Simon. -Hello, how are you? | 0:15:08 | 0:15:11 | |
Thanks to Simon's work, everyone here has now been reconnected | 0:15:11 | 0:15:15 | |
with family members they never knew they had. | 0:15:15 | 0:15:18 | |
Now Simon can share the latest edition of his family history book. | 0:15:18 | 0:15:22 | |
And also his latest discovery, made just a few hours ago. | 0:15:22 | 0:15:27 | |
It took us a while to find the grave. | 0:15:27 | 0:15:29 | |
We were, sort of, hunting because it all looks the same. | 0:15:29 | 0:15:32 | |
And then, while we were looking, we came across our, | 0:15:32 | 0:15:36 | |
-let me get this right, great-great-grandparent's grave. -Oh, wow. -What? No. -By chance. | 0:15:36 | 0:15:40 | |
-George Young Groundsell and his wife, Sarah. -No way. | 0:15:40 | 0:15:44 | |
So that was interesting, yeah. | 0:15:44 | 0:15:46 | |
And cousin Jane has been carrying out some research of her own. | 0:15:46 | 0:15:50 | |
I brought this along for you to see, Simon, | 0:15:50 | 0:15:52 | |
because I know that some of the pictures you wanted... I've been up in the attic. | 0:15:52 | 0:15:56 | |
-Have you? -Looking at... -What did you discover in your attic? | 0:15:56 | 0:16:01 | |
That's an early picture of my father there... | 0:16:01 | 0:16:03 | |
And who's this little cute one? | 0:16:03 | 0:16:05 | |
-Ah, I was about three months old, I reckon. -Ah. | 0:16:05 | 0:16:08 | |
All of this new information will be added | 0:16:10 | 0:16:12 | |
to Simon's ever-expanding archive | 0:16:12 | 0:16:14 | |
and the next edition of the Groundsell family history. | 0:16:14 | 0:16:18 | |
I've got some new information for you | 0:16:19 | 0:16:21 | |
regarding the Groundsell family house. | 0:16:21 | 0:16:25 | |
So, this is the house in its day, in the early 1900s. | 0:16:25 | 0:16:29 | |
-I think in its day it was quite a grand residence... -Mmm. -..by the looks of things. It was... | 0:16:29 | 0:16:33 | |
-I think they had servants. -Mmm. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:35 | |
And this is the house, today, as it stands, so little has changed much. | 0:16:35 | 0:16:40 | |
We could have passed each other in the street umpteen times, | 0:16:41 | 0:16:44 | |
we live ten minutes away from each other, | 0:16:44 | 0:16:46 | |
and because of Simon, we've got to know each other. | 0:16:46 | 0:16:50 | |
On behalf of us all, I'd like to say a huge thank you, Simon, | 0:16:50 | 0:16:53 | |
for bringing us all together and for organising all of this. | 0:16:53 | 0:16:56 | |
So, I'd like you all to raise your glasses, please, to Simon. | 0:16:56 | 0:16:58 | |
-Thank you. -And to the Groundsells. Cheers everybody. | 0:16:58 | 0:17:02 | |
Cheers. | 0:17:02 | 0:17:04 | |
Simon's mission to uncover his family history continues. | 0:17:04 | 0:17:08 | |
But today marks the successful conclusion to the chapter | 0:17:08 | 0:17:11 | |
that began his story 20 years ago. | 0:17:11 | 0:17:15 | |
I felt I've reconnected to my grandfather | 0:17:15 | 0:17:18 | |
and part of researching the family tree is to keep the memory of your relatives alive | 0:17:18 | 0:17:25 | |
and to realise, this is your heritage. It's very important. | 0:17:25 | 0:17:28 | |
It's like the end results of my research | 0:17:28 | 0:17:30 | |
so it's been a really fun day. | 0:17:30 | 0:17:32 | |
Lynn Lewis had been hoping for her own happy family reunion. | 0:17:42 | 0:17:47 | |
Through an adoption agency, | 0:17:47 | 0:17:49 | |
she thought she had found the older brother, David, | 0:17:49 | 0:17:53 | |
who her mother had given up for adoption 60 years earlier. | 0:17:53 | 0:17:57 | |
Now, all Lynn could do was wait and see if the man the agency believed | 0:17:57 | 0:18:01 | |
was her brother, would respond to her letter. | 0:18:01 | 0:18:04 | |
"Hello David, it's hard for me to describe how it feels | 0:18:05 | 0:18:10 | |
"to actually be sitting down writing this letter to you. | 0:18:10 | 0:18:15 | |
"Knowing that you are going to read it. | 0:18:15 | 0:18:18 | |
"You can't imagine how many times I have gone over what I would say | 0:18:20 | 0:18:26 | |
"if this time ever came." | 0:18:26 | 0:18:28 | |
I can't. I can't read it. | 0:18:31 | 0:18:33 | |
Oh. | 0:18:35 | 0:18:36 | |
"I totally understand that you need to take things very slowly, | 0:18:40 | 0:18:43 | |
"as do us all. | 0:18:43 | 0:18:45 | |
"I have tried many times to look for you." | 0:18:46 | 0:18:48 | |
"When I received the phone call with the wonderful news | 0:18:50 | 0:18:53 | |
"that you had been found, | 0:18:53 | 0:18:56 | |
"I went through a rollercoaster of emotions, as I expect, did you. | 0:18:56 | 0:19:02 | |
"I am so looking forward to receiving a letter back from you. | 0:19:05 | 0:19:08 | |
"In your own time." | 0:19:08 | 0:19:10 | |
BOTH: "Until then, may I wish yourself and your family well." | 0:19:10 | 0:19:14 | |
"Love, Lynn." | 0:19:14 | 0:19:16 | |
After reading that letter, I just wanted to get in touch | 0:19:18 | 0:19:20 | |
with her as quick as possible, really, then. | 0:19:20 | 0:19:24 | |
Lynn had found her long-lost brother, David. | 0:19:25 | 0:19:28 | |
Now, the adoption agency could put the two in touch directly. | 0:19:29 | 0:19:32 | |
They said, "We found your brother." And they said to me, | 0:19:33 | 0:19:37 | |
"We have a phone number for you. | 0:19:37 | 0:19:39 | |
"He wants you to get in touch with him." | 0:19:39 | 0:19:42 | |
And I was, "Oh, my goodness, no. It can't be happening." | 0:19:42 | 0:19:46 | |
And then I rang the number | 0:19:46 | 0:19:48 | |
and just before I put the last digit in, | 0:19:48 | 0:19:50 | |
I put the phone down and if I did that once, | 0:19:50 | 0:19:52 | |
I must've done it 20 times before I finally dialled the number | 0:19:52 | 0:19:57 | |
and the phone rang and my stomach was turning | 0:19:57 | 0:19:59 | |
and I was close to tears and this voice answered the phone. | 0:19:59 | 0:20:04 | |
I said, "Is that Dave? It's Lynn." | 0:20:04 | 0:20:07 | |
And he said, "Hello, Duck." | 0:20:07 | 0:20:09 | |
Erm, cos he's a proper country bumpkin | 0:20:09 | 0:20:12 | |
and I just said, "You wouldn't believe how long I've been trying to find you." | 0:20:12 | 0:20:18 | |
We just seemed to click and we just hit it off. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:20 | |
From within seconds, | 0:20:20 | 0:20:21 | |
we were laughing at each other's little jokes and things and... | 0:20:21 | 0:20:26 | |
You'd have thought we'd have known each other all our lives and, yet, | 0:20:26 | 0:20:29 | |
it was the first time we'd ever spoken. | 0:20:29 | 0:20:31 | |
After his mother, Maureen, had to give him up, | 0:20:32 | 0:20:35 | |
Dave grew up with his adoptive parents | 0:20:35 | 0:20:37 | |
on a farm in the Peak District. | 0:20:37 | 0:20:39 | |
I found out I was adopted at the age of around seven. | 0:20:41 | 0:20:44 | |
When I think me mum thought we'd possibly understand | 0:20:44 | 0:20:47 | |
what she was telling us and what it was. | 0:20:47 | 0:20:49 | |
And, I mean, I did asked many years ago if we wanted to find out any more | 0:20:49 | 0:20:55 | |
but, you know, you're a small child, then, | 0:20:55 | 0:20:57 | |
and Mum and Dad was Mum and Dad | 0:20:57 | 0:20:59 | |
and you never thought no more about it as a small child. | 0:20:59 | 0:21:02 | |
And it was left like that and before I knew any more, | 0:21:02 | 0:21:06 | |
I had a letter and a phone call | 0:21:06 | 0:21:08 | |
and Lynn had been looking for me, me sister. | 0:21:08 | 0:21:11 | |
As Dave learned more about his birth family, | 0:21:12 | 0:21:15 | |
there were several surprising revelations. | 0:21:15 | 0:21:18 | |
Not least, that his birth parents had stayed together | 0:21:18 | 0:21:21 | |
after he was born and that Dave grew up just a few miles away | 0:21:21 | 0:21:25 | |
from where they lived in Buxton. | 0:21:25 | 0:21:27 | |
It was a shock to know that they'd got married | 0:21:27 | 0:21:31 | |
and lived together happily ever after, | 0:21:31 | 0:21:33 | |
and raised a big family, | 0:21:33 | 0:21:36 | |
and I'd only been, literally, teens of miles away from them. | 0:21:36 | 0:21:40 | |
All those lives I'd never known but, | 0:21:40 | 0:21:42 | |
sadly, I never got to meet Alan. | 0:21:42 | 0:21:44 | |
He died before I got the chance to meet him. | 0:21:44 | 0:21:48 | |
Although it was too late to be reunited with Alan, | 0:21:48 | 0:21:51 | |
Dave wasted no time in getting together with Lynn | 0:21:51 | 0:21:54 | |
and the rest of his birth family. | 0:21:54 | 0:21:57 | |
Including his mother, Maureen. | 0:21:57 | 0:21:59 | |
I went along with my mum and my sister, Paula, | 0:21:59 | 0:22:05 | |
and we got there before they did. | 0:22:05 | 0:22:07 | |
We got there early so we wouldn't be late | 0:22:07 | 0:22:09 | |
and we sat down with a drink and we watched through the window | 0:22:09 | 0:22:12 | |
and, then, all of a sudden, this 4x4 pulls up | 0:22:12 | 0:22:15 | |
in the car park and out pops this strapping bloke. | 0:22:15 | 0:22:20 | |
Erm, round to the other side of the car, opens the door | 0:22:20 | 0:22:24 | |
and this little old lady gets out | 0:22:24 | 0:22:26 | |
so I said to me mum and Paula, "This must be them." | 0:22:26 | 0:22:30 | |
Lynn and Paula had seen me come in. | 0:22:30 | 0:22:33 | |
Unbeknown to me and as we walked through the door, they grabbed me. Ha. | 0:22:33 | 0:22:37 | |
They bounced on top of me, erm... | 0:22:37 | 0:22:39 | |
So that was very emotional. | 0:22:40 | 0:22:42 | |
We just hugged and cried and looked at each other | 0:22:42 | 0:22:46 | |
and didn't want to let each other go. | 0:22:46 | 0:22:48 | |
And me mum walked round the back and Maureen was sat there | 0:22:48 | 0:22:52 | |
very, very frightened, nervous like the rest. Like we all was really. | 0:22:52 | 0:22:56 | |
She walked straight up to her. Put her arm around her. | 0:22:56 | 0:23:00 | |
Said, "It's been a long time. But he's here now." | 0:23:00 | 0:23:03 | |
Maureen died a few years after they were reunited | 0:23:04 | 0:23:07 | |
but Dave still wants to learn more about his birth family | 0:23:07 | 0:23:11 | |
and, especially, his father, Alan. | 0:23:11 | 0:23:14 | |
Today, Lynn has arranged for Dave to meet their aunt, | 0:23:14 | 0:23:17 | |
Alan's sister, Beryl. | 0:23:17 | 0:23:19 | |
-Me dad confided in Auntie Beryl... -Right. | 0:23:19 | 0:23:22 | |
..when he was 15 so she's known about you and the circumstances | 0:23:22 | 0:23:26 | |
why you were adopted, right from the very beginning, I think. | 0:23:26 | 0:23:29 | |
This is going to be a really good day. | 0:23:29 | 0:23:33 | |
A really good day. | 0:23:33 | 0:23:35 | |
Alan would have been overjoyed at this meeting. | 0:23:35 | 0:23:38 | |
Oh, it would have been a joy for him. A real joy for him. | 0:23:38 | 0:23:42 | |
-Hello. -Hello. -Come on, darling. -Aw. | 0:23:44 | 0:23:48 | |
-Come on, David. -Hello, Auntie Beryl. | 0:23:54 | 0:23:57 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:23:57 | 0:23:58 | |
-Oh, dear, dear, dear. -Oh, we'll have a nice little chat now, won't we? | 0:23:58 | 0:24:03 | |
Oh, yeah, I hope so. | 0:24:03 | 0:24:05 | |
-Oh, wow. -Come on, sit down. Sit down with me. -How special this is going to be. -How special is it? | 0:24:05 | 0:24:09 | |
A very special day for me. | 0:24:09 | 0:24:12 | |
-Off I go! -Ha-ha. -Now, don't he look like me mum and our Alan? | 0:24:13 | 0:24:17 | |
Yes. Yes. | 0:24:17 | 0:24:18 | |
-He's more like your mum than our Alan. -Yeah. | 0:24:18 | 0:24:22 | |
Dave's keen to find out exactly what happened to his mum | 0:24:22 | 0:24:25 | |
and dad after he was born, from someone who was there at the time. | 0:24:25 | 0:24:31 | |
-So, can you remember what actually happened after...? -Not really. | 0:24:31 | 0:24:35 | |
No, it was more or less taboo, you know, I mean... | 0:24:35 | 0:24:38 | |
-Did Dad get into trouble...can you...at the time? -Yes, he did. | 0:24:38 | 0:24:41 | |
Because they actually met again when they probably shouldn't have done | 0:24:41 | 0:24:44 | |
-and, well... -Well, I don't thi... -..as you know, they got married. -..I don't think they ever stopped. | 0:24:44 | 0:24:48 | |
-So did Dad get told he had to keep away from her or... -Yes. -..was there things...? | 0:24:48 | 0:24:53 | |
-In fact, there was a really big do. -Right. -You know, he got really... | 0:24:53 | 0:24:57 | |
-Into trouble. -Yeah. -He did. Yeah. | 0:24:57 | 0:25:00 | |
They were a unit. There was no other word for it. | 0:25:01 | 0:25:05 | |
They were meant for one another, you know. | 0:25:05 | 0:25:08 | |
They did everything they could to be together. | 0:25:08 | 0:25:12 | |
It was a one, true love. | 0:25:12 | 0:25:14 | |
Like Heathcliff and... All over again. | 0:25:16 | 0:25:20 | |
Let's have a look at the photographs, then, Auntie Beryl, that you've brought. You start. | 0:25:22 | 0:25:25 | |
This is your dad. That was taken at Rhyl. | 0:25:25 | 0:25:28 | |
-I remember that. -Wow. -Wait till you see what I've got of my lads. | 0:25:28 | 0:25:33 | |
We all look the same and me when I was small, believe it or not. | 0:25:33 | 0:25:36 | |
-There's your mum and dad at the wedding. -That one there, you mean? -Yeah, yeah. | 0:25:37 | 0:25:41 | |
-You can have that because... -Can I? -..I've got a couple of them. Yes. -Lovely, thank you. -Yeah. | 0:25:41 | 0:25:45 | |
Let's look at your photographs, Dave. | 0:25:45 | 0:25:48 | |
-Oh, my God. -Oh, my goodness. Look at that. | 0:25:49 | 0:25:54 | |
Wow. | 0:25:54 | 0:25:56 | |
-Oh, if only Mum and Dad had've seen these. -Mmm. | 0:25:56 | 0:26:00 | |
Me mum seems to think that was me on me way home to the farm... | 0:26:00 | 0:26:05 | |
-When you were a... -..the first day. Yes. | 0:26:05 | 0:26:07 | |
And the clothes I'm wearing there, | 0:26:07 | 0:26:10 | |
believe it or not, are in here. | 0:26:10 | 0:26:11 | |
The day that we met, the very, very first time, | 0:26:12 | 0:26:15 | |
we all sat there talking away and getting on really well | 0:26:15 | 0:26:19 | |
and me mum went down to her bag and come out with this. | 0:26:19 | 0:26:22 | |
And I'd never seen it. | 0:26:22 | 0:26:25 | |
And she said to Maureen, "You recognise these?" | 0:26:25 | 0:26:28 | |
Oh, my God. | 0:26:28 | 0:26:30 | |
And Maureen said, "Yes," she said, "Because I embroidered them." | 0:26:30 | 0:26:33 | |
And she couldn't believe me mum had still got them. | 0:26:33 | 0:26:36 | |
-And that's what I came... -So that's... -..that's what I came home in the first day. | 0:26:36 | 0:26:39 | |
-..that's what you came home in. -Oh, my God. | 0:26:39 | 0:26:41 | |
Mum said, "How is it you've still got it?" | 0:26:41 | 0:26:43 | |
-And she said, "Cos I... I just wondered and thought maybe one day I could show you back again." -Mmm. | 0:26:43 | 0:26:48 | |
Wow. | 0:26:48 | 0:26:50 | |
It really is amazing. | 0:26:50 | 0:26:52 | |
That is beautiful. | 0:26:52 | 0:26:54 | |
I can't believe she kept it. | 0:26:54 | 0:26:56 | |
Dave hasn't just been reunited with a sister and an aunt... | 0:26:59 | 0:27:02 | |
Let's have a group hug. | 0:27:02 | 0:27:05 | |
..he's now part of a large, extended family | 0:27:05 | 0:27:08 | |
that until a few years ago, he didn't know existed. | 0:27:08 | 0:27:12 | |
-Who is all these presents for? -Are they yours, Elizabeth? -Me! | 0:27:12 | 0:27:15 | |
-Wow. -Birthday girl. | 0:27:15 | 0:27:17 | |
Dave seems a lovely man. Very pleased to have met him. | 0:27:17 | 0:27:22 | |
And to think he's part of me family so that's rather nice. | 0:27:22 | 0:27:26 | |
It's been a very good weekend. | 0:27:27 | 0:27:29 | |
I didn't expect half of what was going to happen and it's happened | 0:27:29 | 0:27:32 | |
and it's been good and, obviously, I've met more family so that's... | 0:27:32 | 0:27:38 | |
It's been a good ending to the story. And a new beginning. | 0:27:38 | 0:27:42 | |
ALL: Woo. | 0:27:42 | 0:27:45 | |
What a day. It's been absolutely fantastic. | 0:27:45 | 0:27:48 | |
I can't believe that it's took all these years... | 0:27:48 | 0:27:50 | |
FIREWORKS CRACKLING ALL: Woo. | 0:27:50 | 0:27:53 | |
..but, yeah, amazing. | 0:27:53 | 0:27:54 | |
Absolutely amazing. | 0:27:54 | 0:27:56 | |
I've loved every minute of it. | 0:27:56 | 0:27:58 |