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Families can be driven apart for all manner of reasons. | 0:00:02 | 0:00:04 | |
I had no information at all about where my mum went. | 0:00:04 | 0:00:07 | |
And when you do lose touch with your loved ones... | 0:00:07 | 0:00:09 | |
You don't know who you are, where you've come from. | 0:00:09 | 0:00:12 | |
..finding them can take a lifetime... | 0:00:12 | 0:00:14 | |
I might have a brother that's still living here. | 0:00:14 | 0:00:18 | |
..especially when they could be anywhere, at home or abroad. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:23 | |
And that's where the Family Finders come in. | 0:00:23 | 0:00:26 | |
From international organisations... | 0:00:26 | 0:00:28 | |
Hi, it's The Salvation Army Family Tracing Service. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:31 | |
..to genealogy detective agencies... | 0:00:31 | 0:00:34 | |
For them to say that it's changed their life, it makes coming to work, | 0:00:34 | 0:00:38 | |
you know, really, really special. | 0:00:38 | 0:00:40 | |
..and dedicated one-man bands... | 0:00:40 | 0:00:42 | |
It's a matter of how much effort you really want to put into it, | 0:00:42 | 0:00:46 | |
how badly you want to solve the problem. | 0:00:46 | 0:00:48 | |
..they hunt through history to bring families back together again. | 0:00:48 | 0:00:52 | |
Finding new families is wonderful. | 0:00:52 | 0:00:55 | |
In this series, we follow the work of the Family Finders... | 0:00:55 | 0:00:59 | |
Suddenly, you get one spark of breakthrough, and there they are. | 0:00:59 | 0:01:04 | |
..learning the tricks they use | 0:01:04 | 0:01:06 | |
to track missing relatives through time... | 0:01:06 | 0:01:08 | |
I didn't think I'd ever find sisters, but I have. | 0:01:08 | 0:01:13 | |
..and meeting the people whose lives they change along the way. | 0:01:13 | 0:01:17 | |
I've been waiting to meet John my whole life. | 0:01:17 | 0:01:19 | |
Since we've met, I feel part of a family again. | 0:01:19 | 0:01:22 | |
You just completed my life for me. | 0:01:24 | 0:01:26 | |
Families can lose contact for all sorts of reasons. | 0:01:32 | 0:01:37 | |
But in the history of human civilisation, | 0:01:37 | 0:01:39 | |
one thing above all others has been responsible | 0:01:39 | 0:01:44 | |
for tearing families apart - war. | 0:01:44 | 0:01:47 | |
Today, we follow the stories of two families, | 0:01:47 | 0:01:50 | |
both split up by the huge upheaval created by the Second World War | 0:01:50 | 0:01:55 | |
and both left unresolved for decades. | 0:01:55 | 0:01:58 | |
Wendy Stringer has been searching for answers | 0:01:58 | 0:02:02 | |
to a 70-year-old wartime family mystery. | 0:02:02 | 0:02:04 | |
She never got to see her son. | 0:02:06 | 0:02:08 | |
That she must have always loved. | 0:02:11 | 0:02:14 | |
And Maureen Cooper's search for her birth mother began | 0:02:16 | 0:02:19 | |
when they were split up by the conflict in Europe. | 0:02:19 | 0:02:23 | |
Inside, you feel, | 0:02:23 | 0:02:24 | |
you know, warm and fuzzy about meeting them cos you're nervous. | 0:02:24 | 0:02:28 | |
This is the first time. | 0:02:28 | 0:02:29 | |
For Mum as well, this is... This is a big moment for my mum. | 0:02:29 | 0:02:33 | |
Wendy Stringer was born in Wigan | 0:02:37 | 0:02:39 | |
as the Battle of Britain was being fought | 0:02:39 | 0:02:42 | |
in the skies over southern England. | 0:02:42 | 0:02:44 | |
My parents were married very young. | 0:02:44 | 0:02:46 | |
My mum was 17. My dad, 19. | 0:02:46 | 0:02:48 | |
They wanted to get married before he went to war. | 0:02:50 | 0:02:53 | |
A few months later, I was born, in June 1940. | 0:02:53 | 0:03:00 | |
Just before she was born, | 0:03:00 | 0:03:02 | |
Wendy's father, Ronald, was sent to fight in North Africa, | 0:03:02 | 0:03:07 | |
leaving his daughter and her mum, Marjorie, | 0:03:07 | 0:03:10 | |
in Wigan to face the war alone. | 0:03:10 | 0:03:11 | |
It was hard. It was quite difficult for my mother, really. | 0:03:11 | 0:03:16 | |
But life was about to get even harder. | 0:03:18 | 0:03:21 | |
My mum got a telegram. | 0:03:21 | 0:03:23 | |
And in this telegram, it said that my dad was missing, presumed dead. | 0:03:23 | 0:03:29 | |
I can remember her crying a lot, but I didn't understand. | 0:03:30 | 0:03:35 | |
I was too young to understand. | 0:03:35 | 0:03:37 | |
Wendy's father was missing in action. | 0:03:37 | 0:03:40 | |
Her mother assumed the worst. | 0:03:40 | 0:03:42 | |
But wartime life carried on for Wendy and Marjorie, | 0:03:42 | 0:03:45 | |
just two more innocent victims of a conflict that had engulfed millions, | 0:03:45 | 0:03:50 | |
until one day, two years later... | 0:03:50 | 0:03:53 | |
And then another telegram came saying that he had been found | 0:03:53 | 0:03:58 | |
with malaria and desert sores and loss of memory. | 0:03:58 | 0:04:04 | |
Ronald was alive. | 0:04:04 | 0:04:06 | |
Soon after, he returned home and met his daughter, Wendy, | 0:04:06 | 0:04:09 | |
for the very first time. | 0:04:09 | 0:04:11 | |
It wasn't until years later, | 0:04:11 | 0:04:13 | |
after Wendy had started a family of her own, | 0:04:13 | 0:04:16 | |
that she learned of her mother's wartime secret. | 0:04:16 | 0:04:19 | |
My mother said to me that my dad was missing, presumed dead, | 0:04:22 | 0:04:27 | |
and how upset she was. | 0:04:27 | 0:04:30 | |
Her two sisters wanted to take her out so that she wouldn't be so | 0:04:30 | 0:04:35 | |
upset, and she met an old school friend and she went out with him | 0:04:35 | 0:04:41 | |
for a while. And then she found out she was pregnant. | 0:04:41 | 0:04:44 | |
But then she found out that my dad was still alive. | 0:04:46 | 0:04:50 | |
Wendy's grandparents hastily made plans for the unborn baby | 0:04:51 | 0:04:55 | |
to be adopted. | 0:04:55 | 0:04:56 | |
My mum told me that we had gone to Cornwall, | 0:04:56 | 0:05:00 | |
where she had the baby and the adoption papers were signed. | 0:05:00 | 0:05:05 | |
I can remember her crying | 0:05:05 | 0:05:07 | |
as she told me. | 0:05:07 | 0:05:09 | |
I felt awful because I couldn't console her cos I was so...shocked | 0:05:09 | 0:05:15 | |
at what she was telling me. I couldn't take it in. | 0:05:15 | 0:05:19 | |
That was in 1960. | 0:05:20 | 0:05:23 | |
The subject of Wendy's half-brother was not mentioned again until after | 0:05:23 | 0:05:27 | |
the death of Wendy's father in 1993. | 0:05:27 | 0:05:30 | |
My mum started to talk about it and she said, | 0:05:31 | 0:05:34 | |
"I would love to meet my son before I died." | 0:05:34 | 0:05:38 | |
And I started to feel | 0:05:38 | 0:05:41 | |
that I should...we should do something. | 0:05:41 | 0:05:44 | |
All we'd got was the telephone directory, you know, | 0:05:44 | 0:05:47 | |
and nobody answered the phone, | 0:05:47 | 0:05:49 | |
or the ones that did, didn't know what we were talking about. | 0:05:49 | 0:05:52 | |
So we came to a dead end. | 0:05:52 | 0:05:55 | |
So we put that on one side. | 0:05:55 | 0:05:56 | |
And sadly, my mum died in 1999. | 0:05:58 | 0:06:02 | |
It wasn't until 2010 and I thought to myself, | 0:06:02 | 0:06:07 | |
"I've lived my threescore years and ten, you know, | 0:06:07 | 0:06:11 | |
"and I would love to see him, see what he's like, | 0:06:11 | 0:06:15 | |
"what he looks like," so I made it a quest to find him. | 0:06:15 | 0:06:19 | |
With very little information to go on, Wendy's husband, Graham, | 0:06:19 | 0:06:24 | |
took up the reins. | 0:06:24 | 0:06:26 | |
The only information | 0:06:26 | 0:06:27 | |
I had was his name, his place of birth | 0:06:27 | 0:06:30 | |
-and possibly a year. -HE LAUGHS | 0:06:30 | 0:06:33 | |
My mother had found out | 0:06:33 | 0:06:36 | |
that his parents were called Sheriff and they'd called him John. | 0:06:36 | 0:06:42 | |
So we went through 192, Yell, everything I could find. | 0:06:42 | 0:06:46 | |
Nothing came up. | 0:06:46 | 0:06:48 | |
And then my son suggested that I use one of the social media websites, | 0:06:48 | 0:06:53 | |
and I found every John Sheriff that I could | 0:06:53 | 0:06:56 | |
that sort of fit within a one-year parameter. | 0:06:56 | 0:06:58 | |
And I sent every one of them a message. | 0:06:58 | 0:07:01 | |
We never heard anything. Nobody... | 0:07:04 | 0:07:07 | |
Not one person answered, so we gave it up as a bad job. | 0:07:07 | 0:07:11 | |
I thought to myself, "We're never going to find him now." | 0:07:11 | 0:07:15 | |
Cos nine months had passed and we hadn't heard. | 0:07:15 | 0:07:19 | |
Then, out of the blue, Wendy and Graham finally got a response. | 0:07:19 | 0:07:24 | |
I was just checking my e-mails and | 0:07:24 | 0:07:27 | |
one popped up from a John Sheriff. | 0:07:27 | 0:07:31 | |
And I thought, "Wow!" | 0:07:31 | 0:07:34 | |
So I opened it, and it said, | 0:07:34 | 0:07:37 | |
"I could be the person you're looking for." | 0:07:37 | 0:07:40 | |
100 miles away, 70-year-old Maureen Cooper had also been trying | 0:07:44 | 0:07:49 | |
to piece back together a family blown apart by the Second World War. | 0:07:49 | 0:07:54 | |
Maureen grew up in post-war Birmingham with her parents, | 0:07:54 | 0:07:58 | |
Robert and Mary, and her sister, Brenda. | 0:07:58 | 0:08:01 | |
Although the conflict had ended, the upheaval it had caused | 0:08:01 | 0:08:04 | |
for so many families was about to have a profound effect | 0:08:04 | 0:08:07 | |
on a young Maureen's life. | 0:08:07 | 0:08:09 | |
I didn't find out I was adopted until I was 11. | 0:08:09 | 0:08:13 | |
I'd had a row with my cousin Norma over the fence. | 0:08:13 | 0:08:18 | |
And she blurted out that I was adopted, just like her. | 0:08:18 | 0:08:22 | |
And I... "What's she mean?" | 0:08:22 | 0:08:26 | |
So I went running into Mum and I said, "Am I adopted?" | 0:08:26 | 0:08:31 | |
She said, "Yes, you're adopted." I was quite upset. | 0:08:31 | 0:08:36 | |
Then they explained it all. | 0:08:36 | 0:08:38 | |
They couldn't have children at the time. | 0:08:38 | 0:08:41 | |
They decided they would adopt. | 0:08:41 | 0:08:45 | |
Although Maureen had a happy childhood, as she grew up, | 0:08:47 | 0:08:51 | |
her thoughts often turned to her birth mother. | 0:08:51 | 0:08:54 | |
When you get a bit older, you think to yourself, | 0:08:54 | 0:08:57 | |
"I wonder what she looks like. | 0:08:57 | 0:08:59 | |
"I wonder what my natural mother looks like. | 0:08:59 | 0:09:01 | |
"I wonder if I could find her." | 0:09:01 | 0:09:03 | |
In those days, it wasn't the done thing, you know, | 0:09:03 | 0:09:07 | |
It was all kept sort of hush-hush. | 0:09:07 | 0:09:09 | |
But then, in 1965, on the day of her wedding, | 0:09:12 | 0:09:16 | |
Maureen's adoptive father dropped a bombshell. | 0:09:16 | 0:09:19 | |
My dad was in the bedroom and he said, "Here's your adoption papers. | 0:09:19 | 0:09:23 | |
"If you want to try and find your natural mum, you can." | 0:09:25 | 0:09:30 | |
"I don't know where she is." He said, "That's all I can tell you." | 0:09:30 | 0:09:32 | |
Obviously, I was looking at them. | 0:09:34 | 0:09:36 | |
Something you don't really do on your wedding day! But... | 0:09:36 | 0:09:40 | |
I was looking down at them and I thought, "Oh, my God." | 0:09:40 | 0:09:42 | |
Slowly, Maureen began to learn more about her background | 0:09:42 | 0:09:47 | |
and her birth mother, Dorothy. | 0:09:47 | 0:09:49 | |
My natural mum, she was married in 1938. | 0:09:49 | 0:09:53 | |
I was born in '45, so... | 0:09:53 | 0:09:56 | |
What I was told was that her husband had probably gone off to war. | 0:09:58 | 0:10:02 | |
It seems Maureen's mother, Dorothy, may have thought her husband | 0:10:03 | 0:10:08 | |
was killed in action and while he was away, she fell pregnant. | 0:10:08 | 0:10:12 | |
However, when Maureen was just six months old, | 0:10:12 | 0:10:15 | |
word reached her mother that her husband was returning. | 0:10:15 | 0:10:18 | |
All I know is that he was coming home from war and she had to get | 0:10:19 | 0:10:25 | |
rid of me before he got home, just had to get rid of me. | 0:10:25 | 0:10:29 | |
Put me in a... You know, ready for adoption. | 0:10:29 | 0:10:33 | |
Within a few months, Maureen was found a new home and began a new | 0:10:36 | 0:10:40 | |
life with her adoptive parents. It wasn't until years later, after they | 0:10:40 | 0:10:45 | |
had died and Maureen had children of her own, that she started | 0:10:45 | 0:10:48 | |
to consider finding her birth family. | 0:10:48 | 0:10:51 | |
We could see what it meant to Mum to | 0:10:51 | 0:10:54 | |
hopefully find, you know, part of | 0:10:54 | 0:10:56 | |
her family, and ideally, her mum. | 0:10:56 | 0:10:57 | |
Several years passed, without any results. | 0:10:59 | 0:11:02 | |
Then in 2011, Maureen was contacted by adoption agency. | 0:11:02 | 0:11:08 | |
But it wasn't the news she'd been expecting. | 0:11:08 | 0:11:10 | |
I had this phone call out of the blue. | 0:11:10 | 0:11:13 | |
She said, "We think we have found a sibling." | 0:11:13 | 0:11:18 | |
I said, "Really?" | 0:11:18 | 0:11:21 | |
I couldn't believe it. I was... | 0:11:21 | 0:11:24 | |
I was in awe! I thought, "You're joking!" | 0:11:24 | 0:11:28 | |
I said, "We think we've found somebody, you know, of mine!" | 0:11:28 | 0:11:32 | |
And, I know I got all excited, as you do. | 0:11:32 | 0:11:37 | |
You think, "God, after 50 years!" | 0:11:37 | 0:11:40 | |
And I was tickled pink, I really was. | 0:11:40 | 0:11:43 | |
Little did Maureen know that the search for her birth mother | 0:11:43 | 0:11:47 | |
was about to bring together two families separated by war. | 0:11:47 | 0:11:52 | |
To meet your family you've never met before, | 0:11:52 | 0:11:55 | |
it's exciting and scary and a little bit anxious about it | 0:11:55 | 0:11:59 | |
all in one go. | 0:11:59 | 0:12:00 | |
Hello. | 0:12:00 | 0:12:02 | |
Wendy and her husband, Graham, had been searching online | 0:12:10 | 0:12:13 | |
and on social media for Wendy's half-brother, John. | 0:12:13 | 0:12:16 | |
John had been born and then given up for adoption during the war. | 0:12:16 | 0:12:21 | |
But with no luck, Wendy had given up hope of ever finding her brother, | 0:12:21 | 0:12:25 | |
until one day, months later, when Graham was checking for messages. | 0:12:25 | 0:12:31 | |
And one popped up from a John Sheriff. | 0:12:31 | 0:12:35 | |
And it said, "I could be the person you're looking for." | 0:12:35 | 0:12:40 | |
And I thought, "Wow!" | 0:12:40 | 0:12:43 | |
We'd been on holiday, we arrived back and, | 0:12:43 | 0:12:46 | |
as you do when you get home, | 0:12:46 | 0:12:48 | |
you have to see if there are any messages, mails. | 0:12:48 | 0:12:51 | |
There was one there asking if John Sheriff, | 0:12:51 | 0:12:55 | |
who was born in 1942 or 1943, | 0:12:55 | 0:12:58 | |
was somebody I knew. | 0:12:58 | 0:13:00 | |
So I decided I would e-mail them back. | 0:13:00 | 0:13:03 | |
I gave him my phone number and he telephoned me. | 0:13:03 | 0:13:06 | |
And we had a quick discussion, | 0:13:06 | 0:13:09 | |
and then I gave the phone to Wendy, | 0:13:09 | 0:13:12 | |
which was quite emotional. | 0:13:12 | 0:13:14 | |
HE CHUCKLES | 0:13:14 | 0:13:16 | |
I just screamed. | 0:13:16 | 0:13:19 | |
I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe it. | 0:13:19 | 0:13:22 | |
I thought all my birthdays had come at once. | 0:13:22 | 0:13:24 | |
And when I heard his voice, I said, "Is that really you?" | 0:13:24 | 0:13:28 | |
And he said, "Yes, it's me." | 0:13:28 | 0:13:31 | |
And we just talked for two hours solid. | 0:13:31 | 0:13:35 | |
John wasted no time in filling Wendy in on his life since being adopted | 0:13:37 | 0:13:42 | |
and discovered he had spent many years living just half an hour away. | 0:13:42 | 0:13:45 | |
I grew up in Stockport with my parents. | 0:13:47 | 0:13:50 | |
Happy, very happy. It was a lovely background. | 0:13:50 | 0:13:53 | |
And I first found out that I was adopted | 0:13:53 | 0:13:57 | |
when I was about seven or eight years old. | 0:13:57 | 0:14:01 | |
I always felt that it would be a bit cruel to my parents | 0:14:01 | 0:14:04 | |
to actually start chasing original family. | 0:14:04 | 0:14:09 | |
So I decided to leave well alone. | 0:14:09 | 0:14:11 | |
I thought it would be disrespectful for my family. | 0:14:11 | 0:14:15 | |
But after his adoptive parents died, John felt able to start | 0:14:16 | 0:14:20 | |
looking for his birth family. He began with his adoption papers. | 0:14:20 | 0:14:25 | |
There was no mention of a father, | 0:14:25 | 0:14:27 | |
but it did provide some other vital information. | 0:14:27 | 0:14:31 | |
It had my mother's name, Marjorie Hallon, | 0:14:31 | 0:14:34 | |
and I was born in Redruth. | 0:14:34 | 0:14:36 | |
I tried to contact the registrar in Redruth. | 0:14:36 | 0:14:40 | |
And I sent an application for a birth certificate, | 0:14:40 | 0:14:43 | |
putting all the information that I had from my adoption certificate. | 0:14:43 | 0:14:48 | |
The registrar spoke to me | 0:14:51 | 0:14:52 | |
and she said that she couldn't send me a birth certificate because I had | 0:14:52 | 0:14:58 | |
gotten the name incorrectly. | 0:14:58 | 0:15:00 | |
When I looked at the adoption certificate, and it looked right to | 0:15:00 | 0:15:05 | |
me, Hallon, H-A-L-L-O-N, so frustration kicked in | 0:15:05 | 0:15:09 | |
and she wasn't then able to tell me the correct spelling | 0:15:09 | 0:15:14 | |
and left me in limbo, to be truthful. | 0:15:14 | 0:15:17 | |
And there, John's search may have ended | 0:15:17 | 0:15:20 | |
were it not for the determination of his son. | 0:15:20 | 0:15:24 | |
On the birth certificate, it was Halton, not Hallon. | 0:15:24 | 0:15:28 | |
When I looked at the adoption certificate, | 0:15:28 | 0:15:32 | |
the L, the second L, hadn't been crossed. | 0:15:32 | 0:15:35 | |
John's son also discovered some other news | 0:15:37 | 0:15:40 | |
he had to break to his dad. | 0:15:40 | 0:15:42 | |
He said, "Your mum's died, sadly. | 0:15:42 | 0:15:45 | |
"She died in 1999." | 0:15:45 | 0:15:48 | |
Which was...quite upsetting, | 0:15:48 | 0:15:52 | |
you know, cos I would've liked to have... | 0:15:52 | 0:15:55 | |
I'd have liked to let her know that... | 0:15:55 | 0:15:58 | |
-EMOTIONAL: -..that I'd been happy. | 0:16:03 | 0:16:05 | |
This simple administrative error had prevented John from making contact | 0:16:07 | 0:16:12 | |
with his mum before she died. | 0:16:12 | 0:16:14 | |
He'd done further research and found out that I had two sisters, | 0:16:14 | 0:16:19 | |
one who was born prior to me and one who was born after. | 0:16:19 | 0:16:23 | |
He said, "They don't live too far away, | 0:16:23 | 0:16:25 | |
"should we contact them?" | 0:16:25 | 0:16:28 | |
And I said, "No." | 0:16:28 | 0:16:30 | |
Being in between the two sisters and they having the same father and | 0:16:30 | 0:16:36 | |
me not having a father named made me more aware that there was... | 0:16:36 | 0:16:41 | |
a danger of upsetting by making an approach. | 0:16:41 | 0:16:46 | |
John put his search on hold. | 0:16:47 | 0:16:49 | |
What he didn't know was that one of his sisters, Wendy, | 0:16:49 | 0:16:53 | |
was looking for him. | 0:16:53 | 0:16:54 | |
But it was another ten years before they eventually make contact. | 0:16:54 | 0:16:59 | |
They've been making up for lost time ever since. But Wendy and John's | 0:16:59 | 0:17:03 | |
happiness at finding each other after all these years is tinged with | 0:17:03 | 0:17:07 | |
regret on both sides. | 0:17:07 | 0:17:09 | |
I just feel very selfish... | 0:17:09 | 0:17:12 | |
..that I didn't look for him while my mum was alive. | 0:17:13 | 0:17:17 | |
I feel guilty because she'd never saw him. | 0:17:17 | 0:17:21 | |
And it was her last wish, to see him. | 0:17:21 | 0:17:26 | |
She never got to see the son... | 0:17:26 | 0:17:28 | |
..that she must've always loved... | 0:17:31 | 0:17:33 | |
..but couldn't do anything about. | 0:17:35 | 0:17:37 | |
But I'm so pleased that we found him. | 0:17:40 | 0:17:43 | |
He's the most wonderful person. | 0:17:43 | 0:17:46 | |
-TEARFUL: -He's so much like my mother. | 0:17:46 | 0:17:49 | |
If I'd pursued things in '98, | 0:17:53 | 0:17:58 | |
I'd have probably had the chance to actually meet my mother. | 0:17:58 | 0:18:01 | |
I think what would've been good about that | 0:18:02 | 0:18:06 | |
would have been to tell her that everything had been good. | 0:18:06 | 0:18:10 | |
But sadly, that didn't happen. | 0:18:13 | 0:18:14 | |
Today, Wendy and John are meeting up again. | 0:18:23 | 0:18:26 | |
John will be visiting his mother's grave for the first time. | 0:18:26 | 0:18:29 | |
The closer we get, the more emotional I feel. | 0:18:32 | 0:18:35 | |
Here it is. | 0:18:44 | 0:18:45 | |
Marjorie was buried on a family plot, | 0:18:46 | 0:18:49 | |
alongside husband, Ronald, and her parents. | 0:18:49 | 0:18:52 | |
SHE SNIFFLES | 0:18:57 | 0:19:00 | |
HE SIGHS | 0:19:04 | 0:19:07 | |
-Let's put the flowers in. Can I? -You do it. | 0:19:09 | 0:19:12 | |
Thank you for, well, finding me. | 0:19:16 | 0:19:19 | |
It's just the most wonderful thing that's happened. | 0:19:19 | 0:19:23 | |
I...I... I'm just over the moon that, you know, we found you. | 0:19:23 | 0:19:28 | |
You meet after 70 years or whatever and it's as if | 0:19:28 | 0:19:32 | |
you've known each other all... | 0:19:32 | 0:19:34 | |
-all the time. -It is, isn't it? Yeah. | 0:19:34 | 0:19:37 | |
Maureen Cooper had also been given up for adoption after being | 0:19:55 | 0:20:00 | |
born out of wedlock during the Second World War. | 0:20:00 | 0:20:02 | |
She had no luck tracing her birth mother. | 0:20:04 | 0:20:07 | |
But an adoption agency had discovered she had an older sister. | 0:20:07 | 0:20:10 | |
The agency put the two families in contact. | 0:20:11 | 0:20:15 | |
But it wasn't Maureen's sister who called... | 0:20:15 | 0:20:18 | |
So I rang the phone number and Terry, Maureen's husband, answered. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:22 | |
And I, of course, had to explain who I was. | 0:20:22 | 0:20:24 | |
The voice on the end of the phone belonged to Maureen's niece, | 0:20:24 | 0:20:28 | |
Adele, the daughter of her long-lost sister | 0:20:28 | 0:20:31 | |
who she discovered was called Christine. | 0:20:31 | 0:20:34 | |
But the news was bittersweet for Maureen. | 0:20:34 | 0:20:37 | |
My sister had died 12 years before. | 0:20:39 | 0:20:43 | |
But I did find out off Adele | 0:20:45 | 0:20:49 | |
that her mum, my sister, | 0:20:49 | 0:20:52 | |
was looking for me. | 0:20:52 | 0:20:54 | |
You know, I was glad somebody was looking for me. | 0:20:54 | 0:20:57 | |
But upset that, you know, my sister died and I'd never get to meet her. | 0:20:57 | 0:21:03 | |
Christine had died in 2000 at the age of 57. | 0:21:05 | 0:21:09 | |
Adele helped Maureen to fill in the missing gaps | 0:21:09 | 0:21:12 | |
about her sister's life. | 0:21:12 | 0:21:13 | |
My mother, Christine, was born in Birmingham | 0:21:15 | 0:21:18 | |
and was Carol Anne Hunt until she was three-and-a-half. | 0:21:18 | 0:21:21 | |
And then she was adopted by a family called the Parkers, | 0:21:21 | 0:21:25 | |
and they renamed her Christine Parker. | 0:21:25 | 0:21:28 | |
She met my father at a dance in St Catherine's. | 0:21:28 | 0:21:30 | |
And he'd been working in Cadbury's. | 0:21:30 | 0:21:32 | |
And they got married and they had my two brothers in England. | 0:21:32 | 0:21:36 | |
And then they moved back to Ireland and had my sister and myself. | 0:21:36 | 0:21:40 | |
For Mum to find out that she had a younger sister | 0:21:40 | 0:21:44 | |
would be just huge. | 0:21:44 | 0:21:46 | |
I think that's the saddest part of all of this. | 0:21:46 | 0:21:49 | |
It's lovely for us to have found Maureen, | 0:21:49 | 0:21:52 | |
but I think for my mother, it would have been huge. And for Maureen. | 0:21:52 | 0:21:56 | |
They were so close in age. | 0:21:56 | 0:21:58 | |
It would have been lovely for them to have found each other, yeah. | 0:21:58 | 0:22:02 | |
After making contact, Maureen went to Ireland to meet her | 0:22:04 | 0:22:07 | |
new-found nephews and nieces. | 0:22:07 | 0:22:10 | |
Today they are meeting up again in England. | 0:22:10 | 0:22:12 | |
It'll be the first time Maureen's sons, Mark and Matt, | 0:22:12 | 0:22:16 | |
will meet their long lost cousins. | 0:22:16 | 0:22:18 | |
It's like the culmination of something that's been | 0:22:21 | 0:22:23 | |
going on for years. | 0:22:23 | 0:22:25 | |
And to meet your family, your extended family that you've never | 0:22:25 | 0:22:29 | |
met before, I can't quite imagine how the moment is going to be. | 0:22:29 | 0:22:34 | |
And it's exciting and scary and, you know, | 0:22:34 | 0:22:38 | |
a little bit anxious about it all in one go. | 0:22:38 | 0:22:41 | |
They know I've got two boys and, | 0:22:41 | 0:22:43 | |
obviously, they would like to meet both of you. | 0:22:43 | 0:22:45 | |
-So today's the day. -Yeah. | 0:22:45 | 0:22:47 | |
-Yeah, well exciting. -Yeah. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:51 | |
Can't wait. Can't wait. | 0:22:51 | 0:22:53 | |
Inside, you feel, you know, warm and fuzzy about meeting them. | 0:22:53 | 0:22:57 | |
Because you're nervous cos, you know, this is the first time. | 0:22:57 | 0:23:01 | |
And for Mum as well. This is a big moment for my mum. | 0:23:01 | 0:23:05 | |
Waiting to meet them are all of Christine's children - | 0:23:11 | 0:23:15 | |
Philip, Patrick, Donna and Adele. | 0:23:15 | 0:23:18 | |
-Hi! -All right. | 0:23:19 | 0:23:21 | |
THEY LAUGH | 0:23:21 | 0:23:24 | |
-Hello. -Hello. -Oh, great. -Isn't it just? -Yeah. | 0:23:25 | 0:23:30 | |
-Tired? -Oh, hi, Philip. -Hi. How are you? | 0:23:30 | 0:23:32 | |
-Mark is it? -Matt. -Matt, sorry. | 0:23:32 | 0:23:34 | |
-That's Matt. Sorry. -How are you? -Good, good. | 0:23:34 | 0:23:36 | |
Christine's children have brought with them | 0:23:36 | 0:23:39 | |
some family archive that Maureen has never seen before. | 0:23:39 | 0:23:43 | |
OK, these are some pictures that we brought. That's Mum | 0:23:43 | 0:23:46 | |
when she was about six, I'd imagine. I can see the resemblance there. | 0:23:46 | 0:23:51 | |
-Yeah. It's the same. Uncanny. -That's her wedding dress. -And that one. | 0:23:51 | 0:23:55 | |
-It's quite like yours, isn't it? -Yeah. | 0:23:55 | 0:23:57 | |
-You can see the resemblance, then? -Oh, yeah. Definitely. | 0:23:57 | 0:24:00 | |
Through his mother's passion for writing and painting, | 0:24:02 | 0:24:05 | |
Philip can also reveal that her unknown birth family were | 0:24:05 | 0:24:08 | |
never far from Christine's thoughts. | 0:24:08 | 0:24:10 | |
And then we brought these as well. | 0:24:11 | 0:24:13 | |
-These... She used to write short stories. -Oh, right. | 0:24:13 | 0:24:17 | |
But she used a pen name - Hunt. | 0:24:17 | 0:24:20 | |
-Really? -That's interesting. | 0:24:20 | 0:24:22 | |
Yeah. She used to sign them Christine Hunt. | 0:24:22 | 0:24:25 | |
Oh. | 0:24:25 | 0:24:27 | |
And then I have a photograph of a painting. | 0:24:27 | 0:24:31 | |
But she used to use a pen name for painting, which was Carol Anne Hunt. | 0:24:31 | 0:24:36 | |
Which was her birth name. | 0:24:36 | 0:24:38 | |
-Yeah, that's right, cos that's on the birth certificate. -Yeah. -Yeah. | 0:24:38 | 0:24:41 | |
That's a little biography that she wrote, | 0:24:41 | 0:24:43 | |
and there's the actual document with her handwriting on it. | 0:24:43 | 0:24:47 | |
And her signature, Christine Hunt. | 0:24:47 | 0:24:50 | |
-Her handwriting is similar to yours as well. -I know! | 0:24:50 | 0:24:52 | |
-Really? -Yeah, absolutely. | 0:24:52 | 0:24:53 | |
-It's so uncanny, this is. -It's so uncanny, yeah. | 0:24:53 | 0:24:56 | |
It really is. | 0:24:56 | 0:24:57 | |
Goes to show how much your genes have an influence on your life, | 0:24:57 | 0:25:00 | |
-doesn't it? -Crazy. | 0:25:00 | 0:25:02 | |
And Maureen has some memories of her own to share. | 0:25:02 | 0:25:06 | |
These are of me when I was... I think I was about three on that one. | 0:25:06 | 0:25:12 | |
You were born Hunt. | 0:25:12 | 0:25:15 | |
-Yeah. -What name had you here? | 0:25:15 | 0:25:17 | |
-Truman. -Truman, OK. -Yeah. -They're lovely. | 0:25:17 | 0:25:20 | |
You couldn't make it more complicated, could you? | 0:25:20 | 0:25:22 | |
No, you couldn't. | 0:25:22 | 0:25:23 | |
This is the wedding one. | 0:25:23 | 0:25:26 | |
Terry was 21 and I was 19. | 0:25:26 | 0:25:29 | |
Same age as Mum when she got married. | 0:25:29 | 0:25:32 | |
-Yeah, the same. -What church is that? -St John's. | 0:25:32 | 0:25:35 | |
-In Birmingham? -Yep. | 0:25:35 | 0:25:37 | |
-And it snowed. -It snowed. The night before we got married. | 0:25:37 | 0:25:41 | |
The same with Mum's wedding. | 0:25:41 | 0:25:42 | |
-It snowed. -Did it? -Yeah. -Yeah. -Yeah. | 0:25:42 | 0:25:45 | |
Both got married at the same age, both did nursing, | 0:25:45 | 0:25:48 | |
both have amazing looking children. | 0:25:48 | 0:25:50 | |
-THEY LAUGH ALL: -Yeah! | 0:25:50 | 0:25:52 | |
Maureen's family is just one of millions that were left | 0:25:53 | 0:25:56 | |
devastated and divided by the Second World War. | 0:25:56 | 0:26:00 | |
The consequences of this conflict mean Maureen will now never | 0:26:00 | 0:26:03 | |
get to meet her birth mother or sister. But from today, | 0:26:03 | 0:26:06 | |
at least the next generation of their family is reunited. | 0:26:06 | 0:26:11 | |
-ALL: -Whoo! -Hey! -THEY LAUGH | 0:26:11 | 0:26:14 | |
Today has been...fantastic! | 0:26:16 | 0:26:19 | |
I'm really pleased. | 0:26:19 | 0:26:21 | |
And now that I've been able to catch up and little bits of snippets | 0:26:21 | 0:26:26 | |
come out, you know. But, yeah, it's been great. | 0:26:26 | 0:26:30 | |
They are relatives. I mean, all of them. | 0:26:30 | 0:26:33 | |
You know? And it's... | 0:26:33 | 0:26:35 | |
..brilliant. I am so pleased. | 0:26:37 | 0:26:40 | |
A toast to Carol Anne Hunt. | 0:26:40 | 0:26:45 | |
-Yes. -Carol Anne Hunt. | 0:26:45 | 0:26:47 | |
-ALL: -Cheers. | 0:26:47 | 0:26:51 | |
-It's been fab. Really, really very special. -They've been brilliant. | 0:26:51 | 0:26:56 | |
It's a long time that my mum's been looking. | 0:26:56 | 0:26:58 | |
You kind of thought it was never ever going to happen. | 0:26:58 | 0:27:01 | |
And now it's happened. | 0:27:01 | 0:27:03 | |
Mum's not a particularly emotional person, and now, today, stood | 0:27:03 | 0:27:06 | |
right next to her, you could feel how pleased and excited she was. | 0:27:06 | 0:27:09 | |
It sort of completes everything for her. | 0:27:09 | 0:27:12 | |
-Really, really nice feeling. -Yeah. | 0:27:12 | 0:27:14 | |
They're a great bunch of people as well. | 0:27:14 | 0:27:16 | |
-PHILIP: -Mum would be very proud that we found them. | 0:27:16 | 0:27:19 | |
And I'm so happy for Auntie Maureen that she's found closure. | 0:27:19 | 0:27:24 | |
She is a wonderful woman and I'm just very happy for her. | 0:27:24 | 0:27:28 | |
It's almost like the final piece in the jigsaw puzzle for all of us. | 0:27:28 | 0:27:32 | |
It's lovely to know now the that we will keep in contact, | 0:27:32 | 0:27:35 | |
and with the next generation coming through. | 0:27:35 | 0:27:37 | |
And seeing us all together in the one room, it really is a family. | 0:27:37 | 0:27:41 | |
From Mum's history, we have another side to our story, | 0:27:42 | 0:27:45 | |
another chapter. | 0:27:45 | 0:27:46 | |
That's all I need to mention. | 0:27:46 | 0:27:48 | |
50 years... | 0:27:48 | 0:27:50 | |
Yeah, it's been a long time coming. But it has paid off. | 0:27:50 | 0:27:55 | |
It's nice when you find what you're looking for. | 0:27:55 | 0:27:59 |