Update The World's Strictest Parents

I need some more booze! Where's my booze?

All over the country, out-of- control teenage behaviour has turned homes into battlegrounds.

You went out last night bloody drinking!

-Give me the bottle.

-She's a wild child.

And parents don't know where to turn.

We've tried absolutely everything - grounding, punishing.

You name it, we've done it.

I'm at my wits' end.

This year, 16 families took drastic action

and sent their wayward children

to live with strict parents in different countries around the world.

In my house you're going to do as I tell you to do.

Please let me make it very clear. My children won't defy me.

When I punish, I punish really hard.

In the US, you have to do what an adult says.

Tonight, teens look back at their experiences to see if strict parenting abroad

has changed the relationship they have with their own parents.

-Just the same!

-Before I went in, my relationship with my mum was non-existent, almost.

Now I'm back, she's the person I tell everything to.

We're like proper tight now.

I talk to her about everything. I don't argue with her any more.

I respect her and tell her I love her. I think she's proper boss.

I'm just mixing my vodka and Fanta orange.

Single mum Hannah was putting her own fun before her daughter's future.

I love getting drunk because you can make a show out of yourself and not really care about it!

# Boom boom boom (gotta get get) # Boom boom boom... #

Hanna would often leave her baby with her mother while she went out on the town.

My attitude to life is "Live today like there's no tomorrow."

I don't think it's selfish that I leave the baby for two nights a week.

But that's what people do on Fridays.

I don't want you getting off your face.

You were falling down the stairs and couldn't stand up straight.

She can't live like that. She's got a baby.

I hope this experience will learn her something.

James couldn't bear to spend any time with his own mother.

I come here to escape from my mum.

Me and my mum have a difficult relationship.

We don't really get along with each other.

I think James is wasting his time -

concentrating on friends and going out drinking

and he smokes weed.

I've been smoking since I was 12 years old.

It's a big part of my life. I smoke weed every single day.

James needs to realise he's got potential but I need him to make these changes.

Sorry.

James and Hannah's parents were at their wits' end

when they agreed to send their children to America to experience strict parenting first hand.

See ya.

I'm going to miss him loads.

I'm proud of him for doing this.

Just a bit sad. I hope she learns something.

James and Hannah were sent to Utah, deep in America's Midwest,

for eight days of clean living and rigid rules.

Drinking, drugs and sex - they're selfish behaviours that destroy lives.

When it comes to enforcing rules, mum Nicholeen takes no prisoners.

Discipline is really important in our home.

For children's lives, it's very good to have morals

and standards and rules in the home.

They believe every child is capable of greatness.

They've got to make a difference in this world, a difference for good.

That's why we parent the way we parent, because we are warriors for good.

It was literally that much vodka and that much Coke.

There they are! Oh, my God!

I had a vision of them and

they met the vision I had of them.

Give me a hug.

-Hi, I'm Nicholeen. I can give you a hug!

-Hi.

I'm Spencer. Nice to have you here.

-I'm James.

-Good to meet you.

'We didn't give a good first impression.

We strolled up there with a fag in our hands and vodka, a little bit pissed.

Can I smell what you're drinking to make sure it's not like alcohol or something?

THEY GIGGLE

Whoa! I can smell it from here.

She took it off us and poured it out and I thought I'm not going to like you, you've just wasted my alcohol!

-Are you ready to go in?

-Yeah.

When she did that, I thought she's gonna be a proper bitch through the week.

I thought, my days, I'm in for a tough week. I was quite worried.

As Mormons, they're firm believers in modest dress.

We will not wear clothing that shows our shoulders, stomachs, backs or thighs.

Hannah was not.

God, this is wrecking my head.

I don't understand why you can't show your shoulders. God gave us shoulders for a reason.

I'm not wearing that. No way, Jose.

Are you having a laugh?

But Nicholeen stood firm, even when Hannah wanted it her way.

Look at the state of me. I look like a hippy.

To me, that was the most time I've been most covered up.

No, no, and you can't go out in that.

At home, Hannah wins a row by shouting the loudest.

But throwing tantrums had no effect on Nicholeen.

You're making me feel like you're ashamed

to take me as myself, to see your family like it's some special thing.

That's why I'm pissed off with you.

I used to call her everything, slag, and everything, and she'd sit there so calm.

..which is why it's probably not wise for us to go then.

Sound, let's go then. I'm going out.

BLEEP suck my fat BLEEP, you BLEEP BLEEP!

I did start learning how to control my anger a bit better and all that.

The next day, it was James's turn to kick off.

He didn't want to take part in Nicholeen's home schooling.

I don't want to learn Maths and English or Science.

You're acting like you understand what my plan is for the day which I think you don't.

I didn't see the point in sitting there with a bunch of kids learning kiddie stuff when I already know it.

I'm sick of being treated like a little kid.

I'm not a little kid. Idiot!

Are they running away, mum?

Are they running away?

I think they've gone nuts.

We wanted to cause chaos and have a bit of fun.

Later on in the week, Nicholeen tried again to get James involved in home education.

It was very difficult for me to cope in those situations.

I got really, really stressed out and gave up.

Stressing me out!

I need some space from everyone, some space from that woman because she was doing my head in.

James was asked to join some team-building exercises run by Nicholeen's sister, Janelle.

I can't be arsed. I'm walking. I can't be bothered.

I'll let the team down, I don't care.

I want to talk to you for a minute.

No, you don't understand. There's no point in talking.

It was very difficult to talk about things because I don't open up to anyone.

When things get really hard at home, what you do? Give up?

Yes.

Where does it get you?

-I give up on everything.

-You're not a failure.

You don't know me so how can you say that or not?

I hate feeling things because it makes me feel shit about myself.

And disappointed in myself.

Just like her sister, Janelle refused to give up on a child in need.

Would you be willing to continue on with the race because your team

said we can't go on because James isn't here, should we go get him?

And they care about you and want you to succeed.

-and want you to be a part of their success.

-OK, I'll come and join in.

Let's go! It's right back here.

-What are you all doing?

-Somehow we're supposed to get everyone on this. It's ridiculous.

If we stand at the bottom so it stays in place.

THEY SCREAM

JAMES LAUGHS

At the end of the day, everyone was rewarded with a bracelet to remind them of their achievements.

-What does this mean to you?

-To never give up and to keep on trying no matter how stressful it is.

To keep on going.

I learned that I could never come up against hard obstacles, no matter what gets in my way,

even if it pisses me off, I can come back stronger and get the work done.

No matter if I go off on one.

I can still do it. I've got to start having faith in myself.

Hannah had been away from her daughter for nearly a week when a letter arrived from her mum.

"Hannah babe, half the time you have my heart broken with your behaviour.

"Your drinking and smoking really scares me. It's way out of hand.

"I hope you learn to be a better person and respect the people around you."

That made me realise a daughter shouldn't be treating her mum like that.

She gave me life and I was taking advantage and treating her like shit.

I can't wait to go home now.

And see my little girl.

And she deserves a better mum then I've been to her.

SINGING

The family took advantage of Hannah's upset,

asking their kids to sing and help the teens focus on their futures.

# ..when the

# sparrows stop their singing

# And the sky is clear and red... #

That was so sad. I burst out crying.

I started thinking of her and my mum and the nasty things I've done to my mum.

I burst out crying.

I didn't want to cry but I couldn't keep it in, it just started coming.

-It made me realise how nasty I've been to my family.

-How I act towards my mum.

Yeah, I need to tell her I love her so much.

And that I miss her and I'm going to be good for her from now on and not be nasty to her no more.

She doesn't deserve it.

That was the big turning point for me. I thought I've got to change because

I can't keep going on like this.

James's parents divorced when he was seven.

He rarely sees his father.

As the week unfolded, James began to form a special bond with Spencer.

Spencer is such a sound genuine guy.

-There's your horn - press that.

-HORN HOOTS

He took me out on a driving lesson, went out of his way to take me

for a driving lesson to teach me something my own dad should have taught me.

Ready?

He helped me get more confident, he taught me in the right way.

Sorry.

Slowly on the brake.

After a while I banged the radio on and was driving through America, yeah, yeah.

He's the one person who helped me improve my confidence.

I've so much respect for the guy.

Stop. Park in that spot.

Make sure you're in between the two lines.

I did good, you know. I did well good. I was so proud of myself.

Yeah, yeah. I did wicked.

I don't want to say goodbye to you.

# Amazing grace... #

It was horrible.

Saying goodbye to the family knowing they're so far away and I'd hardly ever see them again.

I loved them all at the end. I didn't want to go.

Thank you, Spencer. Thank you for the driving lesson and everything.

Just don't kill anybody!

In my eyes, I'd gone through a big journey.

I accomplished so many different things, I went through so many emotions.

I didn't want to leave the family.

I thought they was all wicked.

See you later. We love you. Drive safe.

Three months on, and Hannah's experience

has made her face up to her responsibilities.

If I could speak to Nicholeen and Spencer now,

I'd say thanks for helping me change my life for the better.

Yeah, clap hands.

I was like a wild child and I've settled down.

I really don't want her to turn out like me.

Yeah! Clever girl!

I want to get a career so I can give her what she needs and wants. And erm,

give her the best life I can give her.

In Leicester, James feels like a new man since returning home.

The biggest thing I learned, I'm never going to give up on my dream, no matter who gets in my way.

I'm still going to get there.

Me and my mum are like proper tight now.

I talk to her about everything, don't argue with her any more.

I do things when she tells me to and I respect her more.

I tell her I love her, I think she's proper boss.

I am being considerate. They're not coming here, are they?

Would you please listen?

Listen!

Debbie McQueen's relationship with her parents had hit rock bottom.

We're always at loggerheads.

She'll not accept the responsibilities of being an adult.

Or of even being a human being, at the moment.

Her constant drinking and refusal to ever apologise had turned their home into a battleground.

I hate being told what to do.

Grr, it really grates on us! Grr, my god!

I'm tired, I'm tired of the constant walking on eggshells.

And what have you done all afternoon?

You haven't done what I have asked.

You've laid on the sofa and watched TV all afternoon.

17-year-old Daniel Drinkwater was taking his parents completely for granted.

Daniel is selfish, stubborn, lazy, dirty, grubby, filthy.

Every day we end up having some kind of argument.

He never lifted a finger at home and refused to pay attention to anything he didn't enjoy.

We argue about my school work a lot because I don't do it or don't go.

To his parents' dismay, Daniel only cared about his band.

He thinks he's a rock star. Yes, it's good he's got music in his life

but he's got to learn about other things in life as well, he's got to know

he's got to do well at school and he may not become a famous rock star.

So, what happened when Debbie and Daniel were sent to Beirut to live with a strictly Muslim family?

Mum's approach to parenting is extremely hands-on!

I think respect is everything in the world.

When I punish, I punish really hard.

She demands absolute commitment to education.

You have to better your handwriting.

Studying is very important.

If they get low grades in school, they'll be punished.

And the children are under no illusion as to who rules the roost.

Being rude to your parents isn't good at all

because they raised you.

We have some rules. We have to obey them.

If we don't, we get punished.

The nerves kicked in immediately for Debbie and Daniel

as they took in the sights of a city ravaged by years of war.

There was the army absolutely everywhere and they all had big guns. Oh, my God.

I'm going to say the wrong thing and be shot!

Meeting a woman wearing the hijab was another first.

Hi, how are you?

Nice to meet you. I'm Debbie.

'Seeing Iman totally covered up really intimidated us, to be honest.'

In Carlisle I've seen maybe two people covered up but they get stared at in the street. It's not normal.

The Brits' experience got underway with a rude awakening.

In time for prayers and school.

Tired.

As in any Muslim home, alcohol was strictly forbidden in the household.

You look dead scared. It's all right.

-You won't get into trouble.

-A rule that Debbie had no problem ignoring.

I took the vodka to school because it seemed the safest place to do it.

The place we were least likely to get caught.

We'll get a bottle of Coke, drink some, tip that in,

no one is going to question it.

-What is it?

-Vodka.

The last day of term at our school, you start drinking at half eight

in the morning and you're wasted by lunchtime when you finish.

I thought we'll do one of them. We'll show them how the Brits do it.

Sneaking the booze into school was Debbie's first step on the road to change.

It tastes gorgeous.

It is, isn't it?

I need to see you in my office for about 10 minutes.

Sure, cool. That's fine.

Getting caught kick-started an intense relationship with Iman.

I saw Iman and thought, bollocks and shit.

That's exactly what went through my head.

Alcohol is not allowed in my house.

-We're not in your house.

-This was in my house.

This was in my house! In my girl's bedroom. This, for me, is a very grave violation of the rule.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

Don't look me in the eye.

Back home, Debbie wasn't the only one in trouble for drinking.

She helped Debbie break this rule.

She must be punished the same.

I just felt awful.

She got her phone taken off her and wasn't allowed on the internet, she wasn't allowed her make-up.

It's the last thing I need.

Me and her were proper friends as well.

I just didn't want to tell her, because you said you're not going to get me in trouble.

Yeah, I didn't even think that she'd do that.

-Sorry. I feel really bad now.

-It's OK.

Seeing Janan upset just made Debbie feel even more sorry for herself.

She said it was all right, but it was kind of, "it's fine."

She said "it's fine", to be nice, but it wasn't.

For Daniel, it wasn't until Iman sent him to volunteer at a children's home

that he started to put his selfish attitude into perspective.

I wasn't sure what I'd be doing there, like, helping out the kids or anything.

And I thought I might quite enjoy it. I'm quite good with kids.

Good morning.

Good morning!

The home looks after abused and abandoned children from one year old all the way up to 18.

Here is the little ones.

Ages 3 to 7, 8. They sleep here.

I would like to tell you about some of the stories of the children.

The saddest one, of course, is the story of a little girl,

her mum was trying to sell her for body parts.

Amongst many shocking stories of survival,

there was one child in particular that caught Daniel's attention.

Hassan is one-year-old Sudanese who came

and he is part of our family now.

He wanted to sweep up for me, he was going for the brush!

It's hard to believe that anyone could abandon a child that size.

He's so cute.

The Home was so hard hitting for me cos I've got everything I could ever

want, and they've got nothing and they all seem so happy there.

Inspired by the children he'd met, Daniel wanted to help in whatever way he could.

For the first time in years, he decided to do something for someone else.

D'you not have any tools to fix any of these?

No, I think we will fix it. I think.

I just came across them when I was supposed to be tidying up,

and obviously, doing stuff around bikes, I knew I could fix a few of them.

Daniel was learning that not only was he capable of hard work, but it could even be fulfilling.

It was really good once I did fix one

and one of the guys said, you're great for doing this.

He could speak hardly any English, and he managed to say that.

That was the best part, that really made me feel good about myself.

Thanks!

Towards the end of their trip, the teens were invited to a traditional Lebanese wedding.

But Debbie was still sulking about the vodka and wasn't in the mood.

At the point of the Lebanese wedding, I couldn't give a stuff about anything any more.

-You're absolutely wrong.

-Yes, I am.

Exactly. Yes, yes, you are. BLEEP yourself.

Debbie couldn't have been more offensive if she tried.

-You've been swearing at me?

-Yes, I am.

I honestly didn't mean for her to hear it.

I was just trying to get the last word.

As well, she took it so much more offensively than I would take it.

You have to suffer a lot with me.

But after losing her temper again, Debbie began to question her self-indulgent behaviour.

It made me feel, like, "Ha!" at the time, and then I thought, it hasn't really solved much, has it?

I still feel shit. Now I've got one less person backing us up, you know.

I kind of isolated myself by doing that.

Debbie was called to a family meeting to discuss her foul behaviour.

I actually thought I was just going to get kicked out. That's honestly what I thought.

I won't be allowed back in the house.

The rude way that you're talking to Iman is unacceptable.

I want you to apologise to Iman.

After the family meeting, I totally broke down.

I just felt absolutely awful.

I've even got a lump in my throat, thinking about it.

I honestly thought, oh my God, what an evil thing am I that I can do that to a family in a few days.

Debbie had the chance to address her greatest problem, her refusal to ever back down or apologise.

I didn't want things to be bad, and I thought, I shouldn't waste

the little time I've got left just feeling sorry for myself and being stubborn like always.

And I thought, it's the one thing at home that I don't to, let's see what happens.

I've got nothing to lose!

Iman, I'd just like to say

about yesterday, I don't deal well with criticism, but

I should have expressed myself in a more appropriate manner than swearing at you. So I do apologise.

Thank you for your apology.

Yeah, I don't want to be on bad terms.

The only thing to gain from it was Iman's friendship again.

And yeah, it showed us that

by saying sorry, you're not losing, it's just if you're in the wrong, then you should apologise.

-Shall we...?

-I am sorry.

-It's OK.

I really didn't mean to upset you.

So I think it's time to be..

Oh my God.

'I never thought I'd get as attached to the family as I did.

'By the end of the week, I could have spent a year there'

and I'm sure we'd all still be having a laugh and getting on.

They've had a big impact of my life. I'll never forget them.

Debbie was really heartbroken, crying and stuff.

My main thought was, I get to go home!

So how has life been for Debbie since returning to her own family?

Yeah, that's Mahmood, Iman...

The World's Strictest Parents is the most amazing experience I've had.

It was fantastic.

Doesn't he look so much like cousin Stuart, though?

One thing that Debbie did say when she came back

was that she realised it was OK to say sorry and not feel you'd lost the argument.

And I think that was an important lesson.

They did teach me that I'm not as bad a person as I thought I was.

I am bothered, I do want to be close to my family.

Since going to Lebanon, Daniel has completely transformed his attitude.

Spending time in Lebanon has made me think about my selfish, egotistical way.

After putting his feelings about the experience on paper, he wanted to share it with his parents.

Spending time at the Home of Hope made me realise why bothering really does make a difference.

If no-one bothered, these battered, abused and abandoned kids would have nothing.

The children at the centre would do anything for parents like I have.

I do nothing for my parents.

I suppose rock'n'roll sounds cliched,

but I would be nothing without the support of my parents.

Why don't you ever tell us things like that?

-It's better to put it down into words.

-Yeah, it's lovely.

This experience has definitely altered my life.

Now I know how lucky I am to have my education and that kind of thing.

I'm really want to work hard to get my degree and then get into a really good job.

It's made me respect myself a lot more and respect others.

Seventeen-year-old Peter Wrigley

expected life to be handed to him on a silver platter.

That is all vodka, boy!

Ideal world, absolutely minted, loads of fit girls, loads of drink.

-Perfect.

-Get up now and pick up your stuff and hang up your suit.

But despite his privileged upbringing,

he was throwing it all away.

This morning I've received a letter from Peter's school.

Expressing their concern that he's not currently

on course to achieve his target grades.

At the beginning of year 10 I was getting 10 A stars.

And during the two years it went down to straight Us.

I can't imagine how much money

has gone on that boy's education and his whole life.

Down in Sussex, Jocelyn Harris spent most of her time smoking marijuana.

You do smoke cannabis, we all know that.

We're not all stupid now, are we?

After being kicked out of college,

she'd spent an entire year doing nothing.

I hate people telling me what to do all the time.

I could never handle the teachers at school

because they just think that they can order you around.

If you don't get an education, how are you going to fund all that?

How are you going...?

Fund what?

Well, your life in the future, when you leave home.

Peter and Jocelyn went to live with the Unnikrishnans,

a modern Indian family in search of excellence.

Dad Unni is CEO of a company employing 5,000 people.

He believes that everyone should make the most of every opportunity they have.

To show the Brits just how privileged they were,

Unni started by sending them off

to witness the genuine hardship of India's poorest communities.

When they told me I was going to be working

for the charity, picking up rubbish,

I was like, that's never going to happen.

I'm not going to do any of this work. I don't do charity...

It's not so much I hated the charity,

it's that I hate doing stuff for free.

Peter was assigned to litter collection,

while Jocelyn was asked to work with some of the poorest kids.

I was a bit nervous, cos I know what I'm like when I see stuff that's really horrible. I get all emotional.

Oh, ponytails.

It was just that I was wasting my life, sitting in a car smoking weed.

And I get to India, and there were these little kids

and these little houses and I was just like, what am I doing?

I felt really good after I'd helped.

I mean, I didn't do a huge amount, you know,

I brushed the few people's hair and I just felt so bad.

They don't have chances like we all do.

The kids made me cry.

On the other side of the community, getting up close and personal with

poverty wasn't having the intended effect on Peter.

They were going on at me, like,

"Oh, you've got to do it."

And that just made me even more angry.

I was like, "Well, I don't have to do anything."

No.

There was no persuading Peter to get his hands dirty.

I realise that they don't have anything, but I don't care.

-You have to...

-I'll see you all later.

No, I can't be bothered.

He tried to stop me and I was like, "Get out of the way."

And he wouldn't let me go. So I just grabbed him and threw him on the other side.

Get out of my way.

It was pretty funny, to be honest.

I was so surprised at Pete's reaction.

He was really pretty disgusting at the slums.

Peter's shock outburst got the week off to a bad start.

The Unnikrishnans hoped that joining Siddarth

at the school would encourage both the teens

to achieve their potential.

But before they even left the house,

Jocelyn chose to rebel against the school's compulsory uniform.

It's disgusting. When they showed me that dress, Jesus Christ!

I was like, no! I'm not doing it!

Get it away from me!

Attention.

We will now sing the national anthem.

THEY SING

The assembly we had, they all lined up and it was like stand at attention, stand at ease!

And I was standing there like this, like, what are you chatting about?

I'm not going to stand at attention for some bloke in a cloak!

We have our school rules. We expect discipline

and we definitely expect you to be in proper uniform.

So I'd like to see Jocelyn after assembly, please.

You will stand expelled from the school if you do not follow our rules.

I'm not going to!

-I beg your pardon?

-I'm not going to.

She absolutely refuses to get into uniform.

I will not tolerate that.

Send her home, please. Let her go home.

I felt a bit bad, because I got on quite well with the mum.

I'm too opinionated, really.

I can't just back down.

With Jocelyn excluded, Peter was left to get on with the day.

But he still revelled in his bad-boy behaviour.

Probably the worst thing was I went out to a party one night and I got

really drunk and when I got home, I got in one of my mum's cars.

I drove it, and I crashed it.

So I got arrested and had to spend the night in a police cell, cos I was like, drunk.

Oh my God!

Do you know how bad that is?

I was just like, Jesus Christ!

They're being so, sort of like, moral and absolutely slated me.

And I was just like, Jesus!

Back at the apartment, Jocelyn arrived to some words of encouragement from home.

My letter from my mum was horrible, it made me cry a lot.

"We hope that you're having time to think while you're away and to

"reflect on the choices you have made in your life over the last few years.

"As soon as you started secondary school you seem to have adopted a persona that rejects authority.

"Hopefully you will come back and finish your sixth-form course

"and I hope you will go on to pursue a career

"that makes use of your talents and that makes you happy.

"We'll always be here for you and love you very much. Mum."

I've always thought that I was, you know,

the disappointment in the family.

And she made me feel like I wasn't such a disappointment at all.

She said that she was proud of me and stuff.

You know, envies all the qualities I have that she wished she did. And it was such a sweet letter.

And it really got me going!

Determined not to let herself or her family down,

Jocelyn put her pride aside, conformed to the dress code

and for the first time in two years set foot in a classroom.

The first day I went back and went to lessons, it was all right.

You know, it was all friendly and it was fine, I got on fine.

The word "Parliament".

P-A-R-L-I-A-M-E-N-T.

Excellent.

-"Antique" Varooq?

-They were all all so much better than us.

English isn't even their first language

and they were getting top marks.

It really opened my eyes... the fact that there's more to life

than mucking around and having a laugh.

You know, actually working for something that you achieve...

actually like, feels bloody good.

Knowing that Peter had so far learned little

from his immersion in Indian culture,

Unni suspected his last chance to reach him

was to talk cold, hard cash.

Meeting him in his office about life and that, was quality.

I will show a company.

How it operates and from that you will come to know

how you can get a good career.

I actually realised that he was a top bloke out there

in the whole company, he was in charge of everyone,

obviously apart from the board or whatever.

He was the CEO. When I found out how much he was earning I was like,

rolling in it.

If you were really serious about becoming something like this,

Average salary for European sea is 500,000 US dollars per year.

Plus bonus.

The bonus could be anything,

if you do great, you'll get a one million dollar bonus.

He showed me what I need to do to get to where I want to go.

It was one of the most eye-opening parts of being out in India.

When the time came to say goodbye, both Peter and Jocelyn

had new-found respect for their Indian hosts.

Bye. Thank you.

I know I was only with them for 10 days, but it felt like I'd known them forever.

They made me want to work for stuff a little bit more than I have been.

They made me want to be part of my family more as well.

All the best. OK?

-Thank you, Asif.

-Do well, OK?

It was a good trip overall. I'm glad I went on it.

But back in England, has their Indian experience

created any lasting change?

You make mummy a cup of tea, I'll go and sit in the lounge.

All right. 'I think there has been a little bit of change,'

but not as much as my mother would think.

-Thank you, darling. That's lovely.

-That's all right.

We have noticed remarkable changes in Peter's behaviour.

I'm going to do some more revision.

Good boy.

I have been working harder at school and revising a lot.

Three days solid of voluntary

revision for his first exam, which is unheard of.

Getting To India has definitely helped me focus on

what I want from life and where I'm going to go.

Before I went to India, my relationship with my mum was, like,

non-existent, almost. Now I'm back,

she's the first person I tell everything to now.

Well, she seems happier.

Jocelyn, when she's happy, is a much more easy person to deal with.

I'm back at college, I'm at work.

I don't smoke as much weed any more.

I'm happy, I have a smile on my face and for a reason,

not because I've been smoking the weed!

Hannah Moorehead was struggling to cope with a family tragedy.

My mum died four years ago.

She spent half her time down the pub. I barely ever saw her.

She got a liver infection and she died through that.

It's awful for any child to lose a parent at any age.

She'd already suffered the heartbreak of divorce

and then she suffered the heartbreak of bereavement.

I need some more booze!

Where is my booze?

Ever since she died, I've become more of an outgoing, sociable person,

because I want to get my mind off it.

Lee Sturge did whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted.

BEEPING

-Does your mother know you're on that?

-No.

-He'd quite happily take your mobility scooter out.

-Oh, yes.

He's no respect for the fact that if it breaks

that's your only form of getting about.

I tell myself that I should have more respect for my parents.

I should listen to them when they say no.

But when it comes to the point when they do say no, I flip.

Will you keep the noise down please?

-He is selfish.

-He is, yes...

Because he does know what he's doing.

In other words, he's saying, "I don't care about you."

Hannah and Lee's home-from-home would be in Botswana

where they live with the Selelos family.

The behaviour that we see at home is the very same behaviour that we

would like our children to practise outside home.

The Selelos believe children must demonstrate

respect for elders at all times.

If you break the rules of this household, you get punished.

A fact that Lee struggled with from the off.

-When my parents come, you are going to wash their hands.

-Are you serious?

-I'm serious.

-You've got to wash their parents' hands?

I was shocked. They're adults, I think they can wash their own hands.

Hello!

I did it and I didn't really like it,

but it was the first day there and I just went along with the rules.

In my head I was going, you...!

Hannah also found the Selelos family values hard to handle.

I'm going to search your bag...

-You're going to search my bag?

-Yes...

That is a total invasion of privacy.

This is my house.

-I know.

-And in my house you are going to do as I tell you to do.

Who in their right mind would look through somebody's belongings

while they're unpacking in an unfamiliar place?

-It's not there.

-Not there.

It was ridiculous. I felt so invaded.

The Selelos were a tight-knit family.

Over time, their warmth persuaded the teens to get stuck into Botswana life.

They wanted me to understand what it's like to be an African

and what it's like to have to see what

you have to do to actually feed the family and feed the village.

-You're going to kill it.

-I'm not going to kill it.

I just physically can't do it.

They wanted me to hold the knife and slit the throat,

but I won't have any of that.

Throughout his time in Africa, being made to do things he found difficult

was character-building for Lee.

Listen, he's dead.

I realised, the rules weren't there to hurt anyone.

They weren't there to upset anyone. They were there to, to help.

I don't want to touch any more of it than I already have.

This biggest thing I learned when I was over in Africa

was the fact that you respect the parents more.

I had to respect my parents a lot more

because they treated their parents like Kings and Queens.

Hannah struggled with her confidence throughout her stay.

But over time, Mrs Selelos was able to offer her

the benefit of her life's experience.

-I guess you were very close to your mum.

-We weren't actually that close.

We didn't really speak.

Like, she left home and I hardly got to see her.

When I did she was drinking or something

and I just got so fed up with it.

Fed up with the drinking or her?

-Huh? Both. I just wanted to see her and not the drunk her.

-Mm-hm.

But then again, she took me to festivals

and she was so much fun when she had a drink in her and stuff.

Does talking about your mother's death...evoke some painful

-feelings and that's why you don't want to talk about it?

-Yes. Painful feelings.

I don't like thinking about upsetting things in the past.

Life has to go on.

And I would like to believe that

even our loved ones who have died would want us to live a happy life.

Speaking about my problems was pretty damn hard, because I don't.

She was just so supportive through it all.

I was able to speak to her and she spoke to me and I had quite a good relationship through her

because of that conversation, I think.

The Selelos, they were just amazing and they were really lovely people

and they touched me, like in my heart and they will always be there.

-Thank you all so much.

-Bye.

It was just a really great experience.

I don't regret a thing about it.

I'm much happier because I've moved out now

and I speak to my family a lot more now.

She seems to enjoy our company and spend time talking to us.

I do think about, maybe I should get a real job,

get a real education which I'd never have thought about before.

Botswana has left a lasting impression on Lee.

I learned how to do all of the washing up in Africa.

Clever boy!

Going to Botswana was a life-changing

and unforgettable experience.

-I'd say we work pretty well as a team, don't we?

-Mm-hm.

-Something has changed in him.

-He's sort of matured, hasn't he?

I don't know...he seems to have got older in his head.

-He's more considerate.

-Yeah.

My relationship with my parents is so much stronger now.

It's changed and it's...for the best. It's changed for the best.

We haven't had one argument since he's been back. Not one.

Look at that.

-Just missed him.

-The ducks just don't care...

I've seen his dad hug him now and kiss him

and actually say he loves him which, you know, to me is,

that's really nice because he's never done it before.

It was definitely an eye opener

and a slap round the face to get my life into order.

You woke up in a rotten mood this morning.

-No I haven't.

-Yes you have. Yes you have!

You are the one that's turned around and said you're bloody tired.

Well, I'm tired. You stayed out the night before, you went out last night drinking.

That is why you're tired.

Mum, it's run out.

Bex Keene's out of control behaviour was tearing her family apart.

Mum thinks I'm a druggie.

My dad thinks I am a waster, thinks I'm gonna get pregnant.

-What d'you mean abuse my body?

-The drugs and the drink, Bex.

-You don't even know.

-Of course we don't.

We've tried absolutely everything with Bex.

All different kinds of grounding, punishing,

you name it, we've done it.

I just don't like 'em. They're horrible.

What?

-Bex? Are you home tonight?

-I dunno.

She's completely and utterly lost. She is an alien.

In Bolton, Chezden Mills always looked out for number one.

I get away with murder, really.

I can just do anything I want.

Chezden's mum, Sylvia, has heart disease.

But that didn't stop him from treating her

like his personal servant.

-Put it on spin.

-'Three years ago I had a heart attack.

'I couldn't get stressed.'

So, I let things go.

He thinks he can do as he pleases and he doesn't have to

help out or do anything. Very lazy.

Careful you don't ruin that shirt.

The Brits were sent 4,000 miles away to Atlanta, Georgia.

Right in the heart of America's Bible Belt.

Here they would spend eight days living as children

of the deeply religious Kimbrough family.

We don't believe in smoking, we don't believe in drinking,

we don't believe in using profanity.

Just things of that nature that so many people in society

think are no big deal. They are a big deal to us.

Once the teens got inside, it really dawned on them just what they'd let themselves in for.

This is the room with angels.

So, when you walked in the door there was an angel assigned to you.

Oh, God. Bible bashers. Totally.

I thought...I didn't actually notice.

But I knew from then that we were gonna have it all week, about the God thing.

I'm not joking. They had a Bible in the toilet and I was like, no...

In every civilised society, there are rules...

for which we are to conduct ourselves,

so that's what this meeting is all about.

We're going to give you the home rules contract

for the Kimbrough family.

I thought they were taking the piss.

When they put that bloody, the rules in front of us, I was like, no way.

Profanity is used by people with limited vocabulary.

The Kimbrough family is highly intelligent

and only uses language that illustrates our intelligence.

Would you please move the clipboard

because I want to be able to see your facial expressions. Thanks.

That four-page contract, it's like,

this isn't a contract, this is a novel.

I just can't believe that people actually live like this.

-Really?

-It's just so different from our life.

The rules were ridiculous though. Proper ridiculous.

It was just a matter of minutes between Chez and Bex

signing up to the Kimbroughs' contract and deciding to break it.

Sneaking a fag on the balcony.

I thought it were proper genius, me like.

They're actually really shocked.

They think we're really naughty and stuff.

Then we smoked it all, threw the fag and they've come in the bedroom.

Why do we smell smoke?

Christ.

Did you step out on the balcony?

Please tell me you weren't smoking in the home.

I'm not smoking.

I said, no I've just opened my suitcase. All my clothes smell of smoke.

You did not just open your bag and the smell of smoke came out.

That is a lie, so admit that it was a lie.

It was a lie.

Were you smoking in here?

No, on the balcony.

-There is no smoking inside the house...

-Or on these grounds.

There is no smoking outside the house,

there is no smoking in America as far as you're concerned.

Then we gave them an empty packet and said

that's the last of them and they did, I think they did actually believe us.

The Kimbroughs' total commitment to enforcing their rules

became a recurring problem for the teens.

The whispering that they're doing is driving me insane.

They're like plotting.

We kept thinking up ideas of where we can go for a fag and stuff.

Shall we leave right now?

-Yeah.

-Wait then.

Chez has got up, he's walked and then you hear and then you hear,

Bex and Chez, where are you going?

'Chez, where are you going?

'Chez...?'

So we ran out the fire exit, pissing down with rain.

We run straight into the woods. Me and Chez are running.

He's got the Bible over his head because of his hair.

All this God shit.

I can't believe I'm stood in the forest in the rain

trying to have a fag with a Bible on my head.

It's ridiculous.

Oh, my God, it was awful just there and thinking

this is it now for a week, got to run away for a fag

and you knew you were going to get punished.

So you know it's going to be church, school and house. That's it.

No freedom, just literally nothing.

Bex and Chez were required to attend one of Atlanta's top

private schools for the duration of their stay.

You all are going to be joining the biology lab today.

The college drop-out, Bex, was to learn some unexpected lessons.

This little piggy went to the market.

They're dissecting these baby pigs and the baby pigs are like this big.

They've got their little noses

and they're putting pins in their arms and dissecting them. No...

To begin with, Bex reacted in her usual way,

running away whenever the pressure was on.

You can't go in the boys' bathroom.

Anthony!

Now exactly why did you walk out of class?

-Because it was too much for me.

-Why?

But she hadn't come up against anyone like Sister Patrice before.

Can you let go of my arm, please. Let go of my arm!

Young lady, let me make something absolutely clear to you.

You are in our environment.

Yeah.

That means you must submit to the rules.

When I first met Sister Patrice and she pinched my arm

I had it in for her.

I was like me and you are not going to get on.

Why are you determined to hurt yourself?

I'm not determined to hurt myself.

-Yes, you are.

-I just need a fag.

No, sweetheart, you're killing yourself.

This is killing me.

I know it's hurting your feelings, but that's different.

You're 17 years old, you know how you're living?

You're living like a person that's been out of life for quite some time.

I explained to her how different it was and how stressed out

and the fact that I needed it. She didn't say a word to Wanda.

Do you realise that if a student smokes here,

they are kicked out of school automatically.

They don't have a second chance.

So if you are given mercy, you've got to show your family mercy.

Whether you agree or not is not important.

You're still a child by law.

I don't think you will meet someone who's genuinely as nice...

She was just... She's knew me and Chez for two days

and she stuck by us. She believed in us.

In the school's supportive environment Chezden began to thrive

and did the Kimbroughs proud.

I love the school because it was really good.

You learn something and the teachers didn't really shout at us.

Everyone was just really nice.

You gave it a chance and that's all we asked this morning

that you gave it a chance and you did and that's really great.

I am so proud of you.

-Thank you.

-So proud of you.

That night Bex did her homework for the first time in years.

I just felt at least I can put

my thoughts into paper and have some time to myself.

It just come out.

She opened up to Wanda in a poem about being invisible.

I put on a mask.

The fake Bex

but the true Bex is still here.

I am just hiding.

Devil Bex came about four years ago

and she hasn't gone away.

I'm scared that the true Bex has not only gone invisible,

but is going to disappear forever.

I didn't expect that. Wow!

I don't even think you realise what you wrote.

That is so very hopeful to me.

That is brilliant.

It's nice to get the reaction like that off her.

No-one's been proud of me like that for ages.

I don't know, it just made you feel proud of yourself

and a bit of belief, like.

If I can make them happy and they don't know me,

then I can make my mum and dad happy at home.

Chez and Bex spent eight days with the Kimbroughs,

but they learnt lessons they hope will last a lifetime.

I'll go home and I think things will be a lot better with my mum.

I think I've learnt to be a lot more respectful.

I cried my eyes out when we left.

I really did not want to go home.

They're just so... oh. They're just so lovely.

So what effect has going to Atlanta had on Chezden?

I can actually iron, but it takes half an hour.

Yeah, I've changed a lot. I'm nicer to my mum. I've got a better relationship with my mum now.

I did realise from doing that, that, you know,

she does need my help more and it's not fair on her.

-How long have you been ironing?

-It's a two-man job.

He seems more concerned now about me health.

He helps out quite a lot more.

At least because I've been helping out a lot more, she's been feeling better.

We're just getting along a lot better. We're both happy.

For Bex, life has been very different

since her return to England.

The main thing I did learn is to have respect.

She started reading me this poem.

I didn't think she was capable of anything like that.

It proved that she was digging deep with her inner self.

We thought, crikey, you've really, sort of, you've learnt so much.

In a week you've moved on, you are focused.

It was the most best thing

I could ever have done in the whole of my life.

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