Kenya The World's Strictest Parents

Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline.

It's our responsibility as parents to be in control of the music that they listen to.

Ther movies that they watch.

And the friends they have.

Rigid boundaries.

Am I friends with my children?

No, I'm not your friend. I'm your parent.

And immediate consequences.

My dad is really strict.

If you break the rules, he can be very scary.

But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?

I was brought here on this earth to party.

She can be an absolute nightmare. It's awful.

My lifestyle is playing Xbox, getting hammered and having sex.

You, I'm getting you. 'I went to anger management.'

I got kicked out of anger management for being angry.

No-one can tell me what to do, not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do.

He's slapped me, he's poked me, he's pushed me, he's done it all.

I am what I am. If you don't like it, then jog on.

To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind.

-Maybe she'll come back home and be nice.

-Doubt it.

And head off to the far corners of the world

where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.

You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados!

They're the most awful people I've ever met in my whole life.

If she wants to throw a hissy fit, she can have her hissy fit.

I'm going home, bruv.

What you going to do? What are you going to do?

This is our rule. If you are going to cop an attitude, forget it.

-What is the point?

-The point is a matter of trust.

If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.

18-year-old Scott Collinson is boozing his life away in one long party.

I get up, like, two in the afternoon every day and then drink or smoke, basically.

Drugs, sex and alcohol, that's about it.

The only thing I tend to want to achieve in a night is not to remember it the next day.

I don't like the way he's drinking, taking drugs and smoking.

I just like him to be mature about what he doing.

Scott is wasting his life.

He's no ambition to do anything apart from go out with his mates and have fun. That's it.

Scott's parents divorced when he was five,

but his mother scrimped and saved to send him to a top private school.

My mum spent so much money on my education.

But I discovered alcohol and drugs and things that I thought are more important.

Scott refuses to get a job and hasn't got any money. But it's never a problem.

If my mum hasn't got money, I'll go to my dad.

If he hasn't got money, I'll go to my nan.

If she hasn't got money, I've got my great-nan, my grandad.

There's always someone I can borrow money off.

I'm a very good ponce.

Even after years of abuse, Scott's mum is still determined to save Scott from himself.

I'm not going to give up on him.

I'm not giving up.

I just want 20 quid.

I don't want all that. Thank you.

I wouldn't say I had a relationship as such with my mum.

It's more she's someone I either borrow money off or argue with.

-I'm only there to make sure you're all right.

-Well, I don't need you to make sure.

-I'm your mother.

-I don't care.

-I love you.

-I don't care.

17-year-old Billie Spencer thinks she is living the dream.

I actually think sometimes I was brought on this earth to party.

-I've had enough.

-OK, so what does that mean? Swivel on it?

Billie, I mean it! Enough is enough!

-If you go on my Facebook, literally, most of the pictures are of me out my face, partying.

-Turn it down!

-Louder, Bill.

-I've had enough.

The main casualty of Billie's party lifestyle is her education.

She scraped 13 GCSE passes,

but is failing her A-levels and has been suspended from school three times.

Billie, why did you do not your coursework?

The trial papers were a B and you got a D.

I think that report is a load of crap. They don't know what they're talking about.

It's a waste of space talking to you. Cos that's exactly your attitude. Stinks.

She doesn't want to do her homework.

She'd rather think about going to a rave or where she's going to get the next bottle of wine from.

And, despite holding down two jobs, Billie's mum never gets any help around the house.

I'm not washing up, you're not going to get me washing up, I'm not washing up.

Billie has never done any chores. She doesn't know how clean a bathroom.

She don't know how to tidy up. She doesn't know how to bring the dishes downstairs.

-I'm not washing up.

-Today you are.

-No, I'm not.

My mum's role in this house is to do everything.

She is in this house to do the cleaning, make the dinner, that is her role.

-That's not going to change.

-Billie's parents split up when she was two-years-old.

Billie was raised by her mum and rarely speaks with her father.

There's things with my dad that make me feel, like, why should I bother speaking to him?

Dads should make effort but he doesn't make an effort whatsoever.

Yeah, Billie's dad is very...

Billie's got a lot of her dad's ways. Selfish.

At the moment, I could kill her and she could kill me, and I don't really know what I've done wrong.

To try and get their lives back on track, both teens have agreed

to spend a week living with new parents on the other side of the world.

-Good luck. Sure you got everything?

-Yep, everything.

-Money?

-Yep.

-Passport?

-Yes... All right.

-OK.

-Bye.

-Love you. Bye.

I would like him to grow up and have responsibility.

If he changes, then maybe we'll be able to talk like a mother and son.

Right, listen to me. Be a good girl.

Try your best to try to do what they say to do.

Try not to be defiant.

And don't be rude. Love ya. Bye, babe!

I want her to learn to appreciate what she's got at home and how easy she's got it.

Rather than thinking she's so hard done by all of the time.

-Nice to meet you.

-Nice to meet you.

-My name's Billie.

-I'm Scott.

-Hello, Scott.

-Where you from?

-Croydon.

-Southend.

I really want to sunbathe.

The British teenagers are being sent here, 5,000 miles away to Mombasa on the Kenyan Coast.

They will be staying with the Mugazas, a hard-working Christian family

with a traditional African approach to parenting.

You must respect the elders. The father must be given that respect.

The mother must be given that respect. Total. There is no way out.

Let us pray.

I can be very, very strict if I have to, especially when disobeyed.

When there's disobedience, then I put my foot down.

Dad Dickson manages a thousand employees at the city's environmental heath department.

His wife Faith stays at home to look after the children.

My dad is really strict. Whoa, if you break the rules, he can be very scary.

When we were young, he used to cane us.

I haven't ever answered my parents back.

I haven't talked to them rudely.

Because I have been taught not to.

And it's... I just can't do it.

For the Mugazas, education is the top priority.

They spend 90% of their income on sending their kids to Mombasa's most expensive school.

We have made a lot of sacrifices because we would have had maybe our own private house by now

instead of paying rent or staying in such a small place.

But we decided to put everything aside for these children to have the right education.

After a nine-hour flight, the British teenagers arrive in Kenya.

I'll show you what I've been through. That!

You can get drunk on that.

The coastal port of Mombasa,

with a population of 700,000, is Kenya's second largest city.

-These guys are actually working hard, ain't they?

-BLEEP, yeah.

I don't know how they can, like, push all these heavy things in this heat.

It's a shock.

One in four people survive on less than 60 pence a day.

And many live in sprawling urban slums.

This place looks dangerous.

I haven't seen any white people yet.

Scott, I am so scared. Just about where we're staying.

We are not staying here.

-All right? I'm Scott. Nice to meet you.

-My name is Mugaza.

-Nice to meet you.

-Same, same here.

-Nice to meet you. Hello.

-I'm Mrs Mugaza.

-Yeah, so feel at home.

-Thank you.

And let's see how things are going to be.

-But we are happy to have you here.

-Thank you.

For the next eight days, Billie and Scott will live by the same rules as the Mugaza children.

-Hi.

-I'm Valerie. And you are?

-My name's Billie.

-Nice to meet you.

And, like any other visitor, they will be expected to respect their values.

The first thing we have to do as Christians is to pray.

To thank God that you are here safely.

-OK.

-That's what we do. Yeah, so...

We are going to have a short prayer.

OK. We thank you, dear Lord for bringing us our guests today.

We hope that we are going to be with them and they are going to be very nice to us.

And we are hoping that everything is going to be fine and eventually we shall remain friends for ever. Amen.

So then we'll just show you to your rooms.

This is, er, the boys' room.

-OK.

-That's the bed.

John and you are going to share.

-OK.

-The ladies' room.

Choose any bed. Any one that you like. You can share with Valerie.

-OK, thank you.

-Just like home. OK?

All right. All right.

So this is our kitchen.

It's small, but this is how we manage.

So this is the washroom.

Fewer than half of all Kenyans have access to clean running water in their homes.

So, by Kenyan standards, the Mugazas' three-bed apartment is luxurious.

It's a total slum, innit? I don't know why people would want to live here.

I don't really like their bathroom and they've got rationed water.

I call my family poor, and then you come here...

I couldn't live comfortably here.

No, I couldn't, either. No way.

-Not by any standards.

-No way.

The teens aren't the only ones taken aback.

The kids are a bit shocking, let me say.

The first sight, especially of Scott, is quite surprising to us

because we don't expect it from a teenager in our country.

The tattoos are just too many and the piercings also not allowed.

When it's the whole body somebody's putting the tattoo on that, I don't know what he's thinking of.

I'm shocked.

If they are removable, we will remove them.

That's my feelings.

Billie and Scott, please come in.

Before they are fully welcomed into the household,

Faith and Dickson want to make sure the teens know exactly what's expected of them.

Have a seat. Feel comfortable.

OK, then, we go through the family rules.

These are family rules and they must be obeyed.

And without obeying them, definitely there are consequences, which may not be very nice.

So we wouldn't want to reach to that extent. OK.

While you are living with us, disobedience will not be tolerated. We do not allow smoking anywhere.

-I'm not sure if I can go that length without smoking, to be honest.

-We will see to that.

We will not tolerate the drinking of alcohol.

Alcohol is bad for your body and makes you behave like an imbecile.

-I don't really function without alcohol.

-It's going to be hard not to have a drink the whole time.

-At some point...

-OK, let's continue.

I really need to smoke and drink right now, to be honest.

-We will see to this.

-The next one...

We do not allow piercings or tattoos.

-Um...

-This is permanent or temporary?

-It's permanent.

-And the hairstyle.

-What about my hair?

-It doesn't go well with African culture.

Firstly, they get an impression that you are a rogue.

Secondly, they also believe that the people who do piercing here

in Mombasa, as it is now, are homosexuals. Would you like that?

This is why we are telling you. It's very important to listen to us.

If you break any of these rules, you will be punished

by being sent to Grandma's, where you will have to do hard labour.

Because even when John and Valerie make mistakes, they have to go to Grandma's.

-DICKSON: You will change.

-If we need a little time out, can we go outside for a bit?

Outside here, down here?

OK, but mark you, all the other houses are watching.

So let me hope that you are not asking that because you want to be cheeky outside there.

-DICKSON: You have a cigarette. You have a smoke.

-I won't be cheeky.

Cos this is one community. We live like a community here and we respect each other.

And there are some expectations, you know, from each family.

One thing I must, I need to stress.

These are not coming out.

I like... like... 100...

Like they are not coming out at all.

Scott, you young man. Listen to what we tell you.

It's for your own benefit. It's not for my benefit.

I'm a very good man and I can change to be the worst man ever.

Yes.

This is killing my life already.

Despite Dickson's warning, Billie and Scott react to the rules in the only way they know how.

I ain't going the whole week without drinking.

Go back in pissed, stink of smoke.

He seems scary.

Like...

I can't wait till he starts raising his voice.

That'll be a funny argument.

When he raises his voice, I'll just tell him to swivel on it and

get out my face and walk out.

I've got to totally hide my arm, my ears and I've got to cut my hair.

What's wrong with my hair?

My hair's totally fine. Apparently, I'm going to get followed around by

a load of gays in a big group and they are going to try and rape me.

Billie is OK. She may be hiding a few things which we are yet to discover.

But she is not that badly off, she is a nice girl.

But Scott... Scott is an issue. Quite shocking and...

Because in our culture I would not expect him to answer back to tell me he is going to do this.

He must smoke, he must drink. So...and, you know, in African culture, sometimes

people would resort to even caning, thoroughly.

In Kenya, homosexuality is still illegal and gay men are often ridiculed in public.

Scott. We agreed.

Yeah, one second.

-OK.

-Protective of his hard man image, Scott has decided to remove his earrings while in public.

Mad. If I don't take these out, I will get followed out by a load of gays.

To be honest this looks worse than having them in.

It's ridiculous. It's like prison.

But his piercings aren't the only the issue.

The haircut right now is more of a rowdy person.

So it's not allowed, really.

You know, and we would become a spectacle for everyone.

So we don't want that.

We probably have to cover the hair with a hat.

I'm not wearing a hat. To be honest.

-I'd rather not go than to wear a hat.

-It is very necessary.

I'm not arguing with that.

I'm just not wearing a hat.

You know, the more we argue,

the more we are wasting time.

There's only one solution that's going to keep both parties happy.

The haircut is not bad for England, but for Africa here, Kenya, it's really strange.

We don't want them to mistake you for a bad person, yeah?

This is very nice. I am so proud of you, Scott.

I'm so proud of you, really.

-I want my hair back.

-Very nice, it's great.

-I'm not happy.

Thank you.

It's what, just gone five o'clock, and we're up for school.

No. This is a joke.

Kenya has one of the highest literacy rates in Africa,

but education is still considered a privilege.

I hope it's like a half-decent school.

I reckon it's going to be strict.

Scott had an exclusive private education.

He's confident he can handle anything Kenyan school has to throw at him.

I'm kind of assuming I'll be the smartest kid there.

I mean, I'm fairly certain I was in the top sort of like...

1% of the world, like nation or whatever, I don't know.

I think I'm really, really smart.

Education is at the heart of the Mugazas' priorities, and Faith wants to make sure the teens know it.

Education is very, very important in your lives and for your future.

So please take it seriously and be co-operative, because you are representing our family.

So I don't expect Billie to start arguing with teachers, you know.

And Scott, as well, please behave at your best.

The teens are heading for Coral High, ten miles north of Mombasa.

The school motto is "Think Success"

and head teacher Rose Okemwa insists her 120 pupils achieve it.

Parents chose to bring their children here

because we are very, very particular about discipline.

We believe without discipline there is nothing you can do in life.

Coral High charges just £240 a year.

But that's as much as an average Kenyan's annual income, so many parents struggle to afford the fees.

In this district most of the children are disadvantaged.

They come from families that live below the poverty line.

Hello. Come right in, ma'am. How are you?

Fine, how are you?

-Welcome to Coral Junior High School.

-Thank you.

Yeah, it is a pleasure to have you here and we hope

you are going to do everything as per the school rules of this institution.

Those are our 30 commandments - rules.

Are you pleased about it? It's OK with you?

-Can't wait.

-Good.

So tomorrow when you come in I'll expect it to be up to here.

Oh, I'm not shaving my beard off.

Seriously, I'm not getting rid of that.

That's a school rule, my dear.

-I understand, but I'm not getting rid of it.

-OK, we'll talk about it later.

With lessons about to begin, Principal Okemwa wants the new pupils in uniform and in class.

But the school doesn't have a pair of trousers large enough for Scott.

36 inches and the legs 33.

36? We've not had that size.

It's OK. For now, for today we will allow him to be like that.

Is he not wearing anything like that?

It's because we haven't got his size, he hasn't got his size.

Today. Tomorrow he has to wear them.

Well, can I wear mine tomorrow then?

I don't see it's fair as Scott being allowed to wear his shorts today and I've got to wear uniform.

I can wear it tomorrow but if Scott's not wearing his today why should I wear mine?

You didn't come here because of Scott, my dear.

Come, no, I'm not having, I swear.

-See what's happening?

-I'm not wearing uniform if Scott don't.

-Shall I give you half an hour to think?

-No, I don't want half an hour to think.

-If I have to take action it is going to be very bad.

-And you are embarrassing me here.

-I'm not embarrassing you.

-You are and you're disrespecting my family.

-You're not listening to me.

-I have listened to you.

-You're not seeing where I'm coming from.

-You don't want to reason, that's why.

I am listening but you're not seeing where I'm coming from.

I think it's out of order. I'll wear uniform as soon as Scott wears uniform.

-I don't think it's fair.

-We've both come here for the same reason.

Look here. You are responsible for your own life.

I think this is taking the piss at the moment, to be honest.

Fine, then we will go back home and we will see what will be done at home. Because this is not right.

No, you need to understand where I'm coming from.

No, I won't understand. I refuse, because this is not your school.

This is just school rule.

Do you know what? Just give me the trousers. Just give me the trousers.

-You'll wear the trousers now?

-Yeah, just give me the trousers.

-Let's go to the office then.

No, I'll wait here. Can you get them because I've got to get changed?

I can't get them for you, my dear. You are younger than me. Go get your trousers.

Tell the principal that you are ready to wear your trousers now.

In our society here I wouldn't expect that. Even if my daughter wanted to

complain about something she would not do it in front of the principal.

It was not nice. But at least I'm happy that she finally accepted

which means that she actually backed down and she decided to understand.

We want to hear stories and experiences from Britain.

So we need to hear from the two friends of ours.

Scott, you're welcome.

Before starting lessons, the teens must introduce themselves to their fellow students.

Woo! Whoa! THEY CLAP

Hi, everyone, I'm Scott, I'm 18, from England in the UK.

Yeah, I went to a very good school in Britain, but I had a really low attendance.

I came in, like, two or three times a week.

I failed all my grades.

I drink a lot and do a lot...

And, erm, basically, I just like to party and I don't like to work.

What's the worst thing you've ever done?

I don't know. The worst thing I've done, like, steal money from my family.

Do drugs and then smash cars up on the way home and I've been to hospital for drinking too much.

Things like that.

I get in to a lot of fights at home.

Hello, my name's Billie.

I'm from England as well. At home I usually just sit on my computer.

Go out drinking. I've done

a lot of drugs from ecstasy to cocaine. Everything.

I've been in a lot of trouble with the police for fights, drinking.

I hit a policeman before and then I got, like, arrested for it.

I went home and my mum went mad.

While Scott and Billie are feeling pleased with themselves,

the bragging about their lifestyles has shocked their Kenyan classmates.

What I heard about them was shocking because the parents, they feel

hurt when they see their children stealing their money, taking drugs, abusing them.

Them taking drugs like cocaine.

It's like, wow, are you serious?

The life in England it is not good.

If you have been given a lot of money you will go

and drink and do whatever you want and you will forget about education.

Kenyan teenagers spend four years studying for a Certificate of Secondary Education.

But it's all too easy if, like Scott, you think you're one of the world's cleverest people.

Child work.

It's easy, though, so I can just get on with it and carry on.

Shouldn't really complain.

So, mental arithmetic, let me start with Mr Scott, eh?

If ten men can take five days to finish a job, how long would 15 men take?

Two and a half days... No! Uh...

The simple answer Scott's looking for is three and a third.

Ten men can take five days.

How long will 15 men take to finish the same job?

I can't put it into a calculation in my head.

-Erm.

-OK, thank you, thank you, thank you, Scott.

Literally like ten seconds after he went away I remembered how to do things.

But it weren't really important, so I'm not too bothered.

It's like primary school stuff.

There's no point.

It's boring.

After lunch, Scott is called into

the head teacher's office to discuss his non-regulation facial hair.

So you are not going to do anything about your beard?

I'm just not getting rid of it.

-Have you seen any boy in class with beards?

-No, not like mine.

I don't want to be the same as everyone else.

Even if I give you a BIC razor here, you cannot do it?

I'm not changing my mind.

-Don't want to change your mind?

-No.

-You are made up?

-Yeah.

Then I am not going to have you in the class. OK, just get out.

Never in the history of this school have I had a student who says, "I cannot shave my beard".

That kind of a child is a spoilt child completely.

Because sometimes like this it becomes a bad influence and shows to the other students.

So they only alternative I'm left with is to have him out of the school compound completely.

Mrs Mugaza has been called to come and collect Scott.

-Hello.

-What's happening?

Erm. I've been kicked out.

-Why?

-Because I won't shave.

It's good to sometimes make compromises.

-I don't think I should have to do any more.

-For two days, Scott.

Consider that it is also embarrassing me actually, it is embarrassing our family really, you know.

I have made effort to come here.

I have cut my hair and I have taken my piercings out and I've like...

This is very embarrassing for me.

-I don't even know how to face the principal.

-It's embarrassing for me.

Our family, Mr Mugaza is making calls all the way.

He is supposed to be in a meeting right now but he keeps calling me asking what is happening.

"Why has he done that?" You know?

It's a letdown completely.

I'm still not going to change my mind.

After school, the teens were expecting to go to the beach.

But Faith and Dickson want to talk to them about their behaviour in school.

As we're going to the beach, can I have a cigarette?

Cos I haven't had one in, like... ages and I really need to have one.

Like really need to have one.

And I'll be like two minutes. So...I really need one.

I think, yesterday, you heard us state very clearly that it's not allowed here.

-I need to have a cigarette.

-Nobody is going to the beach now.

-She's going to cancel the beach trip now because of that.

-Oh, she can suck my big toe, then!

I'll sunbathe on this bit of mud. "The beach trip will be cancelled."

Cancel the beach trip, doesn't really bother me.

I will come out here with my towel and I will lay down naked.

Actually, just in case it does get to the stage where they do want to take these...

So I've still got my stash.

Smoking is not just a breach of the Mugazas' trust.

Billie is only 17 so, in Kenya, she is breaking the law.

Now, Billie, what has happened?

I had to have a cigarette and no-one's stopping me.

So you are taking this whole thing like a joke?

-Because yesterday...

-Yesterday, you said you had no cigarettes.

-Yes.

-You are cheating us.

Yeah, all right, I might have told a little white lie.

But like, I don't know. I'm not going to give you my cigarettes.

I'm sorry, but if you're a minor in our country,

you don't say what is to be done in the house. There are rules that need to be followed.

Do you not think cancelling the whole trip is a bit over the top?

Yesterday, you cheated me that you don't have cigarettes and you have cigarettes now.

-You can't cancel the trip cos she...

-I have. I'm giving you punishment

and, if you not taking it, I know what to do later.

-I think that's ridiculous.

-I'm going to have a more worse punishment than that.

Even put you in cells. I don't care about it.

-I'm not going in any cells, I'm afraid.

-You will.

-I won't.

I think that's ridiculous, to be honest. That's just stupid.

The law does allow 18-year-old Scott to smoke,

but it's normal for Kenyan parents to call the police during family disputes.

I ain't having being threatened with a cell. That's ridiculous.

They won't put you in a cell. He's not the police!

He seems to think he's some big man. He won't put me in a cell, cos I'll leave.

-If he puts me in a cell...

-Knock him right out.

-..I'm sure I'll live a little bit.

If he tries to put me in a cell, I'm packing my bags and leaving.

I was shocked. I thought Billie was OK. She looked like she was adapting.

But then, she came out with the cigarettes and, yeah, so now, it's a whole different story.

They need to be taught that, in this world,

they cannot be selfish, and think what you do will affect other people.

So they have done something and they're going to pay for it. Badly.

Do you have anything you want to tell us now?

-Are you sorry for the smoking?

-I'm not sorry for it.

-Disobeying, disobeying our rules.

-I'm not sorry for it.

I'm not apologising, because I don't think I've done anything wrong, to be honest.

-You did not smoke.

-I've got to smoke.

-I did, but...

-So you don't care about our rules.

-No, I care.

-That's the conclusion we'll make.

-Some of the rules...

If you're saying you will do what we ask you not to do when here.

So now, because of that, we definitely have to do something about that.

-So we can't go to the beach cos of the cigarette?

-Yes.

-Oh, my God.

-Instead we are going elsewhere.

-Elsewhere like where?

We're going to visit Grandma. Scott is going to remain here while I go with you.

-Just me. I don't want to go.

-I need to speak to you privately.

-I don't want to go on my own. I'm not going on my own.

-You will.

-No, I'm not going there on my own! I'm not going!

-I'm going with you.

I'm not going somewhere I don't know on my BLEEP own. I'm not.

You see, again, you're using abusive language.

-I'm not going on my own.

-You see?

This is a very big problem here.

A big one.

The Mugaza children are no strangers to being punished at Grandma's.

Valerie has some wise words of experience for Billie.

I don't even think I've seen them like this in how many years.

-I haven't seen them like this. You've done something wrong.

-I really needed to have a fag!

But why can't you control your urge, in a way?

If you're stressed, take sweets, play something, run around.

You know, like have lollipops. Be hyper. Scream.

-I can't really just change, just...

-Well, are you willing to do it?

I am willing to do it and I will go.

-But if it gets too much, then...

-What will you do?

-I'll walk off and I won't do it.

-To where?

-Wherever there is to walk off to.

-There is nowhere to walk off to.

OK, there is a road, but you can't walk off there. It's dangerous.

You don't understand. This is Kenya.

Grandma's village is 30 miles from Mombasa.

Without any modern amenities, she's raised nine children here on her own.

Discipline is good, because children obey their parents,

respect the people, older people.

Drinking and smoking, we don't allow them.

DOG BARKS OK...

Here we are in Mazeras.

Grandma's place.

In Kenya, the word of elders is law.

-Sit down.

-So what Grandma says goes.

She decides that Billie's punishment is to perform physical labour, and stay in the village overnight.

-Tomorrow morning?

-Yes.

-I don't really want to stay.

-I know you don't want to stay.

You have come here not because you wanted to.

I'm not staying here.

I've just got here and they're telling me I'm staying here.

No, I'm not.

I'm not staying here.

I'm not staying here.

-There's nothing to be worried about.

-I haven't got anything against you.

It's not... I've just got here. I haven't got any of my stuff.

I don't feel comfortable just staying here.

-We are not bad people here.

-No, I know, I'm not saying you're bad.

I know you're not saying that. But I'm telling you,

-don't be worried.

-At home, Billie always gets her own way.

But despite the tears, Faith is determined not to back down.

You see, for me, it is wrong for me to go back and start asking her,

"Oh, we are sorry, why are you crying?" because, in our culture,

when you're instilling something, you have to make sure it is instilled.

You don't go back again on your word.

After talking to Grandma,

Billie agrees to stay and pound maize,

the staple food of the village.

This is good work. Almost done.

You see it's changing.

She's a good girl.

Grandma was born in 1920 and still pounds maize every day.

Her humble approach to life has touched Billie.

She's so nice. It makes me upset.

The fact she's really nice and she talks about her life and done it all on her own and stuff.

It's hard work, like you think... they have to do that every day.

Not a lot really makes me cry, but...

when you see things like this, it makes you realise what we've got.

After four hours solid effort, Billie has earned Faith's forgiveness.

Let me tell you that I'm very proud of you.

I am because you took that initiative.

You came and pounded the maize, which is a very hard task. You've never done it in your life.

So I do understand why you can feel quite upset, it's tiring also, but just take it as part of life.

Growing up. It's an experience. So don't think these people don't like me or they hate me.

No, we like you, just like Valerie, the way I love my daughter is the way I love you now.

Back in the city, Scott is about to find out what his punishment is.

Lazy people.

Mr Scott, wake up. Today, you will follow me to work.

As a part of his job, Dickson manages the city's rubbish collection department.

He's arranged for Scott to spend the day on the bins with his operations manager, Mr Sadiq.

I just wanted to brief Scott that this is Mr Sadiq.

So you are now today are going to be a rubbish man.

Since dropping out of college, work-shy Scott has never held down a job.

Dickson thinks it's about time he learnt the value of hard work.

He's never done anything before. Just sitting idle, drinking, boozing.

He's lazy. That's the only thing you put it. He's lazy.

Mr Sadiq wants Scott to join a team of eight men clearing up a busy market square.

-I'm not touching that.

-You'll get used to it.

I'm not getting used to anything. I'm not going near that, I promise.

It stinks!

Can't breathe! The whole street's just full of rubbish.

I'm not going near any of this.

It's disgusting. It's minging. I thought Southend was a shithole.

But Southend's like the Hilton compared to this place.

Almost half of all Kenyans are out of work.

And with no welfare state, a job can be the difference between life and death.

He doesn't want to work,

even if it means to earn a living.

So we must try to take him away from that attitude.

He must have an attitude change.

Appalled by Scott's behaviour, Mr Sadiq marches him

back to the pound to explain himself to Dickson.

The smell just made me really ill.

I couldn't touch the rubbish. It made me feel sick, to be honest.

-Unhygienic.

-The way it looks, you just want an easy life.

You sleep. You get money. How do you get money like that?

-Stealing?

-No. I borrow from my family.

That's nonsense. Really.

Look at me coming to work.

I'm not here to wait for my mama to give me money to buy my things.

This is very simple. Scott, decide for yourself.

Decide for your life. This is it.

What kind of boy is this? He's useless.

I've never been to Britain, but I'm surprised, I'm shocked.

If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.

Dickson could have given Scott's shift to one of the locals

who come to the pound every day desperate for work.

He wants Scott to realise what it would have meant to one of them.

The situation by now is very bad.

You know, because we all, people who don't have job

and we have no way to look after our families.

In fact, we come here only,

because there is not any other job outside this place.

But now we have nothing to do.

So, Scott, you can understand that he wants the job,

so that he could feed the family, he could look after the family.

And here you are... refusing the job.

Is that fair? Scott, is that fair, really?

No, it's not fair.

It's not fair.

I feel horrible. I've taken his job

and now, he's got no money to feed his family or whatever.

So, if they don't eat tonight, it's my fault.

It makes you feel like absolute shit.

Their punishment is over and the school have agreed

to accept the teens back, despite Scott's facial hair.

I'd like you to construct a sentence using "will" and "have".

I will have my dinner later.

I want a sentence that looks this way.

For Billie, it's a chance to hear about the lives of her classmates.

My dad is...he's a drunkard.

But the way I see him behaving with my mum,

-I totally don't like it.

-Yeah.

-Cos he gets drunk, beats up my mum.

Then I say, if getting married is like this, better living single.

And education helps you a lot. Like here in Kenya,

without education, there's nowhere you can go.

Nowhere at all. Life at home with your mother, how is it?

Me and my mum argue a lot.

About money and getting drunk and things like that.

But yeah, we can get on sometimes, but there's not a man in the house.

There's no dad so if there was a man there maybe it would be a bit more... A bit more strict.

'They really appreciate school and schoolwork and sort of getting on with things out here.'

A lot of my mates just have ambitions to become a footballer's wife.

It's not the same out here.

They really know what they want to be,

and I don't know, they want to do it for good sort of reasons.

I want to improve the modern technology of the aeroplanes.

I want to be the first person to make the fastest aeroplane ever seen in the world.

I would get a scholarship in a good university...

In English, pupils have been asked to read out speeches they've written about their ambitions in life.

Yes, Scott, tell us what you want to be after ten years.

I don't really want to read it, if that's OK.

Go on, Scott.

After all his showing off on the first day, Scott's confidence appears to have deserted him.

-You want to be...

-No, no, no, I don't want my speech read out.

-Why?

-Because it's embarrassing.

No, read. We're waiting for you.

You'll have to wait all day.

'He shakes as if he's going to faint, like something like that.'

Billie is like the boy and Scott is like the girl.

'He was shaking, he was sweating.'

He could only look down.

Scott's cocky front is crumbling as he struggles to be honest about his real feelings.

I answered the question.

I don't want to read the speech out.

After school, Mr Mugaza decides to give Scott a second chance to prove himself at work.

His own upbringing was in stark contrast to the average British teenager.

You know we had a really hard life, a really hard life. We were a family of about nine...

..and my father died when you were very young.

At your age I was doing everything for myself,

even getting some casual labour that I really worked hard for, because my mother could not afford it.

We are proud of that, and I say that because I know you can do it.

'I respect him quite a lot to be honest, he's done really well.'

He's worked solidly for, like, his whole life, even when he was young.

Yeah, he deserves full respect to be honest.

I just want to prove I can actually work without them just looking at me like some sort of failure.

OK, we are going to that heap.

Mr Sadiq puts Scott to work clearing piles of rubbish off the streets.

I've been working about ten minutes. Knackered!

I haven't done a full day's work for about a year.

I haven't done half a day's work for about a year, so...

There's dust everywhere.

'Ah, Mr Scott is doing tremendously now.'

Today he has proved that he can perform,

and he's doing it skilfully.

Congratulations for that change of heart.

Always have a change of heart,

always think that you can do good, you can do perfect,

and that will give you a drive to do any job on earth here.

After seeing the people here and that, and working and that,

I really feel I should get a job and work and earn my own living

instead of sponging off people,

because I think I'll get more of an achievement out of that,

the fact that I can earn my own money

rather than having to borrow and take from people.

One of you will pray today.

Who's praying?

I don't know really how to start it. I'll just try.

Oh, God. Thank you for blessing us with this food today.

-Amen.

-Amen.

It's a try!

How was your day today?

It's Scott and Billie's last day at Coral High,

and Principal Okemwa has entered them into the school poetry competition.

My family are very special to me.

I love and care for my family.

One day I hope to have my own family and be happy.

Family should have love, happiness, and respect.

A family should trust one another and care for one another.

APPLAUSE

Scott's never read a poem out in public before,

but with his confidence boosted, he has an opportunity to show he's matured.

'I find it difficult to talk about emotions in front of people,'

especially when you're trying to portray an arrogant, sort of blokey image.

And then you're reading out like emotional poems, or just anything about yourself.

'I find it difficult.'

Last but not least, it's Scott.

Big clap for him.

APPLAUSE

It's not very good, by the way.

What my family means to me.

I don't see much of my family, but they still mean the world to me.

Sometimes I think I drive them crazy, because I take their money because I'm lazy.

I spend it on alcohol that makes me sick,

and they all think that I'm a dick.

Then we argue for a while, but in the end we always smile.

There's nothing for me that they wouldn't do,

and I feel the same way about them too.

APPLAUSE

That's great, yeah.

APPLAUSE

It was great. I think that the two students did perfectly well,

but the best of the best was Scott's.

Because there was all that we needed in a poem.

THEY CHANT AND CLAP

'I think people have the wrong idea about me.

'I don't think I got a lot of sympathy as a kid, or attention.

'So I crave it in a different way.'

I make myself all arrogant and cocky and confident,

and draw all the attention to me.

I get stupid haircuts, and piercings,

and I like to be the person that the attention is drawn on.

I like to think I'm something special, when maybe I'm not.

If I want to be something special, I've got to try a lot harder.

-Hello.

-How are you?

I'm all right, thank you. You all right?

Back home, Billie and Scott are eager to show off their achievements to the Mugazas.

I've seen what you've done.

This is very good, don't you think?

-Yeah.

-We're so proud of you, we are really very happy.

I hope you guys are proud of yourselves too for achieving such...

Such results in such a short time.

I want to go back to school and sort of like focus on my work.

Try and get my A-levels, so I can go to university.

-Good.

-Thank you.

They gave us like a plant to plant in the ground for like memory.

We have a tree in Africa dedicated to us!

We're going to need to plant a Mugaza tree in England.

If only you could carry one.

-Thank you.

-Congratulations.

-We'll send you pictures of it as it grows.

It was very hectic in the beginning, but now I feel very proud,

because they have achieved so much in just a week. And you can see how good they are.

'So now I know I have four kids, not only two. Yes!'

The time has come for the British teens to leave Kenya and return to their families back home.

Thank you very much. I'll miss you.

-Hopefully we'll see you again.

-All the best.

Thank you.

You'll make me all teary now.

You've seen how my kids are really going to miss you.

It's not going to be easy. It's been a hard battle,

and we fought and we won together, so please let's keep in touch.

Very, very proud of you. I just want to see achievements in you.

-Thank you very much.

-You're a great family.

Thank you. You've learned what you've learned here.

You've seen what you've seen here. Please, don't let us down.

-Bye, everyone.

-Bye bye, see you.

'I'm always going to remember this week in Kenya, always.'

'Although I've argued with Mrs Mugaza a lot,'

I've realised that everything she was doing in the week was for my own good, and to help me.

It's made me realise I can do things for myself, and that I need to show a bit more respect at home.

'This experience was completely different to what I thought it would be. I expected a holiday,'

and to just give some random Kenyan parents a bit of attitude, and then go and enjoy myself.

'But I've widened my perspective on my entire life.'

I've seen things in myself I don't like, and I want to change them.

So that's something for the future.

I hope Billie comes back from Kenya with a different attitude to life, basically.

And realises that you just don't get anywhere if you don't try.

You've got to help yourself, and you've got to get on with it.

Hopefully, going on this trip, she will have learned something.

You know? We'll see, though, won't we?

-Hiya!

-How are you?

-You have a nice time?

-Yeah.

-Look at the colour of you!

-Look at you, how come you're so brown?

-I'm so happy to be home.

Do you want a cup of tea?

Er, yes, please.

-How come you've learned to make tea?

-I learnt to do a lot in Africa.

-Here you go, Mum. There's your tea.

-Thank you, my darling.

-I can't believe you've made me a cup of tea.

-That's all right. Any time.

She went out of the door as a child, and she's come back as an adult,

With some manners and everything. It's great!

It's really made me realise out there that

I've got to show you some more respect, and be nice.

And try and get on with my school work more.

And spend more time on my education and less on just going out partying and stuff.

So I'm definitely going to try.

I'm really sorry, Mum, for before.

Before Scott went away I was worried about his behaviour.

I hope this experience will change him to be completely different person.

-Hello, son.

-All right, Mum?

-I missed you.

-I've got some certificates from school, Mum.

Oooh! Well done.

I think it's only fair I apologise for being such a knob for the last few years.

And stop all my drinking and arguing

and moaning and complaining and poncing money.

I AM going to stop that now, and really just

try hard at looking for a job and doing well with my life.

I'm so pleased your attitude changed.

Things are going to look better now for both of us.

-I love you, Mum.

-'I feel so proud.'

I almost lost him for like two years, but now I'm really pleased I have my son back.

Next time on The World's Strictest Parents.

People say my attitude stinks. I love my attitude.

Gangsta girl Shevda Hussein and posh boy slacker Andrew Harwood...

This is a reflection of how messy your life is.

Yeah, it's my room! It's just a mess!

..get new parents in Texas.

Trust is the ace, for us.

-When you are ready to talk like an adult...

-Piss off. Go!

I don't like you, I'm not coming back in your house. That's that, innit?

Why are you taking their side? You're meant to be on my side.

-I'm not taking their side.

-Yeah, you are.

Subtitles by Red Bee Media Ltd

E-mail [email protected]