Two wayward British teenagers experience strict parenting on the other side of the world, as Aron and Nadia travel to Bangalore to spend a week with the Nanjundayya family.
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Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...
It's our responsibility as parents to be in control of the music they listen to,
the movies they watch and the friends they have.
Am I friends with my children? No.
I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.
..And immediate consequences.
My dad is really strict. If you break the rules, he can be very scary.
But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?
I was brought here on this earth to party.
She can be an absolute nightmare. It's awful.
My lifestyle is playing Xbox, getting hammered.
You! I'm getting you!
'I went to anger management.'
Got kicked out of anger management for being angry.
No one can tell me what to do.
Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do.
He's slapped me, he's poked me, he's pushed me. He's done it all.
I am what I am. If you don't like it, jog on.
To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind.
Maybe she'll come back and be nice.
-And head off to the far corners of the world,
where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.
You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados!
They're the most awful people I've ever met in my whole life.
She wants to throw a hissy fit, she can have her hissy fit.
I'm going home, bruv.
What are you gonna do? That's what I thought.
This is our rule. If you're gonna cop an attitude about it, forget it.
What's the point, yeah?
The point is a matter of trust.
If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.
-Julia, can you go and get my bag, please!
-Where is it?
-I'm not Cinderella!
-Yes, I know.
-16-year-old Nadia Traboulski is a spoilt diva.
-I'd say I'm probably a bit of a bitch.
If I don't like you, I don't like you.
Gosh, yeah, she's got a mouth on her.
Nadia's attendance at college was so bad, she was asked not to return.
I hate my teachers, and they hate me too.
So I'm not allowed to go back next year. Bunch of bitches.
She isn't silly, this is the annoying thing.
She's passed all her college exams.
This is what is so annoying.
She doesn't have a job, but Nadia still has very expensive tastes.
I'm working my way to getting a Louis Vuitton suitcase from my dad.
But I don't know if that'll work out.
She doesn't do cheap. It's got to be expensive, it's got to have a label.
Nadia wants all the finer things in life, the fancy cars and the big houses, but she doesn't realise
that she's never going to get it if she doesn't get out there and work for it.
I just want to be rich. Money's, like, my friend.
Single mum Gillian split up from her husband and returned to England from the Lebanon when Nadia was eight.
Since then, Nadia has played on her father's guilt.
If I don't get it for her, she'll just ring up her dad, and he'll give her money and then she'll get it.
-So she's spoilt, basically.
-I was like "Dad, I want a Range Rover".
I worry about Nadia's future. I worry immensely.
Because, the way she's carrying on at the moment, I just don't know where she'll end up.
Don't really give a shit.
60 miles away, another teenager is causing problems for his family.
Dope-smoking 16-year-old Aron Shave is a loose cannon.
You only live life once.
Enjoy it as much as you can, really.
If it means getting into trouble, it means getting into trouble.
But single mother Anna bears the brunt of his behaviour.
-We know that you've got a bad attitude.
-No, I don't.
-Sometimes you have.
-If you say so.
He's moody, he's lazy.
My mum thinks my attitude stinks.
Aron's problems with authority began while he was in school.
Teachers, I didn't get on with at my school.
That was because I was a little shit.
-I've called quite a few teachers
In his secondary school, I don't think he's done
even two pieces of homework for the whole of his secondary education.
They said he could be an A/B student, but he could not be bothered.
And it was frustrating for the teachers, almost to the fact they'd give up on him.
He thinks it's more fun just to be, like, a loser.
Aaron recently began a mechanics course at college.
But his mum is fearful that history will repeat itself and he'll soon be thrown out.
He might like the teacher he's got now, but if they get a new one who doesn't gel with Aron,
Aron will be rude to that person, and then he'll walk out.
Aaron's parents separated when he was two.
I spend one week at my mum's house, one week at my dad's house.
And things took a turn for the worse when he was 14.
His entire family was affected by the premature death of his grandmother.
He does really miss his nan.
My mum educated Aron. She looked after him so that I could go to work.
She's been a big part of Aron's life.
It always happens to nice people, kind of thing.
To try and get them to start thinking about their futures,
both families are sending their wayward teens to live with new parents in India.
Have a really nice time.
-See you later.
Just...enjoy yourselves, yeah?
-I love you. See you later.
Bye, darling. Bye.
I would like Aron to come back and be a bit calmer, a bit less aggressive.
Maybe stop smoking, maybe have more family respect.
Do you want help getting it out?
-Do you want help?
-I said yes!
-There you go.
-Let me shut the door.
Have a lovely time. Behave yourself.
-Do try to take on board what they tell you and listen.
Be careful. Look after yourself.
I feel quite nervous, really.
I feel nervous for her. She's going away.
Just hope she behaves herself...
although I'd be surprised if she does.
Oh, my God. I'm so scared.
-You all right?
-What's your name?
-Aron. What's yours?
Nadia. "I'm a bellend".
-It was my nickname for a while.
-"I'm a bellend". Did you get it made?
-Yeah, I got it made up Camden.
The British teens are flying 5,000 miles away to the Indian city of Bangalore.
Home to over 13,000 millionaires,
this bustling city is a technological powerhouse
helping to push India towards being an economic superpower.
One family who embody its ingrained work ethic are the Nanjundayyas.
Single mother Nalini owns her own business, which teaches cultural awareness and industry.
She's also a dedicated charity worker.
Her daughter, 18-year-old Niska, is one of three children and studying at university.
Grandmother Lalita is the head of the household.
-It's OK, stay there.
'My mother was very strict.'
For example, education was considered uppermost.
We had to perform well.
Today, Nalini insists that daughter Niska studies twice as hard.
She will do whatever it takes to get me educated, so I'm expected to get good grades at every level.
If I get average levels, she yells at me.
Why have you written it like this?
No, this is not good. Go back and check the other one.
15 years ago, Nalini's husband passed away,
so it was down to her to ensure that all three of her children achieved their full potential.
Nihar is my eldest son.
He has done his engineering here.
He's now working in London with Bank of America.
My second son did an MBA in finance, and now he is also in London.
I am Nalini. I am from the Rotary Club of Bangalore.
Coming from a wealthy family, Nalini likes to give back to her community.
And her commitment to charity is well respected.
Put your tables straight, please. Put them straight.
No, put this into that.
No mess allowed, OK?
If you are doing nothing, you must start clearing up the mess. OK?
What I say goes. It has to be respected,
because I have a reason for everything I say.
This is so that all of us can live together in harmony.
After a 12-hour flight, the British teens have arrived in Bangalore.
It's India's third biggest city.
-They all drive crazily.
-Chill the beans!
They're always tooting their horns, ain't they?
This is a weird country.
It really is.
-I wouldn't be able to live here.
It's too different from what my life is actually like.
Like just walking down the shop without being able to go in Topshop.
-Obviously, they won't have that here.
There's just, like, a cow walking in the street.
It's, like, so dirty. Like, look there, all the rubbish.
We don't have to live on this street, do we?
-Watch when we do now.
-I bet we do.
-Watch when we do.
-Oh, my God.
The Nanjundayyas live in the middle class area of Jayanagar.
This is going to be a fun week(!)
Oh, God. It looks all right, though.
-Hi, I'm Nalini.
-Hi, I'm Nadia.
Welcome to the Nanjundayya household.
-Hi, Aron. I'm Nalini.
-This is my mother Lalita.
My daughter, Niska. Welcome.
Can I help you with something?
For the next seven days, Aron and Nadia must abide by this family's rules and values.
Let me show you round the house. This, Nadia, is going to be the room you will share with Niska.
-So, I hope it's all right sharing a room with her.
Yeah, that's fine.
-This is Aron's room.
If there's anything you need,
water for you, everything is there.
OK. Thank you.
-Is it that one I'm going to put it in?
-Yeah, that's your cupboard.
-You go to, like, university or college?
-Yes, I'm in university.
-What you studying there?
-I'm doing a Bachelors in business management.
-It's nice. It's a lot of fun.
Uni life and college life is good fun.
I know it sounds horrible, but I didn't think she'd be smart,
and that she'd be at university and doing what she's doing,
because when we was driving round, the way it looked,
and people were walking round the street barefoot,
I wouldn't expect her to be at university
and she's really smart and doing really well.
They're not what I expected.
They are completely - it's completely the opposite.
I thought they'll be, you know, very, like completely wild and crazy
in their appearance and stuff, but they are very calm and docile.
Or it could be an act.
Absolutely. This could be an act.
They're probably... This could be the calm before the storm.
Joined by two members of her extended family,
Nalini is eager to let the British teens know how her household runs.
Rules of the house...
In this house, we concentrate on ambition and education,
and then discipline. Everyone must have ambition.
Without ambition, we're not going to achieve anything.
You will be attending school for three days.
You will have to attend.
Homework will have to be done, and I expect a very good report from school. Respect to elders.
We have lots of elders sitting here.
My mother here is 83-year-old.
While she has been keeping quiet, she is actually the head of this house.
No smoking, no alcohol, no drugs.
Now, I hope none of you are smokers.
What else do you do, Aron?
Erm, I smoke weed and I drink.
You smoke weed and you drink. OK, we will not be allowing you
to do in that in this house and it's not part of the culture here,
so you might want to give it up.
I hope you're not carrying anything with you. Are you?
I don't have any weed or alcohol. I've got fags,
but my fags are staying with me. I'm sorry, I'm sticking with that.
No, I'm sticking with my fags on me.
-OK. But I expect that you do not smoke it.
What you're wearing right now is inappropriate in homes
and in the market places, and things like that.
It's inappropriate because people around us are going to get a little shocked.
-So I can't wear, like, vest tops or shorts?
If you are dressed like this, Nadia, you will have eyes ogling at you.
That makes one feel very uncomfortable.
Aron is fine. Absolutely fine.
Except I do not understand what that means. What is a bellend?
-It says "I'm a bellend." Do you know what it means?
-Not really. No, we don't.
-Back in like London people find it funny.
I expect your best behaviour out of the house, because outside behaviour has got to be impeccable, right?
-Now, do you have any questions?
-You may leave the table now.
I admire Aron's honesty that he smokes and he does weed,
and I hope he appreciates that we, you know, he cannot do that in our house.
I think Aron might act up a bit, but I think he's quite sweet actually.
But I don't know. I think maybe. Him.
I think both of them may have some thoughts about the rules,
and they may not appreciate many of them.
-Can I go home now?
-What's the problem?
They think I'm actually going to not smoke.
It's not happening.
I'm fashion conscious, so I don't really appreciate it
when she's telling me that I should wear different clothes. It's, like, me.
I dress myself. I shouldn't have to, like, change for them.
Whilst the teens change out of their flight clothes,
it's a chance for Nadia and Niska to get to know each other a little better.
I'm not really, like, the good child, I'd say.
I could go out until, like, six in the morning, come home when I want.
Do you tell your parents where you are?
No, my mum knows where I go. If I ask her, she'll be, like, "Where you going?"
And then she's, like, "Are you coming home tonight?"
I'll be, like, "Yeah, well, I'll let you know." It depends.
That's really good. I would not try that with my mum.
She'd be, like, "Yeah, right, you come home
"and you're not going out ever."
Like I would be grounded, like house bound.
Unfortunately, it's not long before temptation becomes too much for Aron.
I'm proper craving.
-You can't do shush here! Seriously you can't.
-You can't smoke here.
That's like weed?
-What are you smoking? A rule is a rule.
-This is me.
It's like changing what I do.
But you do know my mum trusted you. That she's trusted you.
-I know, I know, I know.
-And you broke her trust.
You go and tell my mum herself that you did this.
-It needed to be done.
-So just tell her.
Inside, Niska has made it clear that he needs to 'fess up or she'll spill the beans.
-I caved in.
Why? Where did you cave in?
I had...I had a fag.
I'm a little upset that you've let me down.
Especially when you so seriously said that, "I won't do this".
I would really request you to give me the cigarettes if you can.
That way it'll help you not to smoke.
You're going to hang on to it.
Rather than getting into a row, Nalini's strategy is to patiently sit it out.
-A rule is a rule Aron, so I'd really appreciate it further if you gave me the cigarettes.
Come on, Aron, be a sport.
Right, you're actually doing my head in now. Put the stupid pouch on the bloody table. It's tobacco, yeah?
Don't start smirking at me, you're actually pathetic. Do you know how stupid you are?
We've been sat here for half an hour, and because of some stupid tobacco
you won't put it on the table and hand it over.
Do you know how pathetic you are?
-You're so pathetic.
And you know you are because you wouldn't be sat there going... and laughing and everything.
-You're an idiot.
Come on, Aron.
How about if I just like lock it in my suitcase and I, like,
leave a little bit hanging out the zip after it's locked, so you could still see it's in there?
-And you won't touch it ever?
-As long as you're here, that is.
-Right? Sure? Nadia, would you like to go with Niska.
Aron's new sisters are sent to police him.
I didn't think it was going to be like this. I didn't think one could be so stubborn.
We cannot do without rules in this house.
There'd be utter chaos, and these are just some rules, there are so many more rules, you know.
Just feel like I want to go home.
OK, Mum gave me the rule that I need to, like, cover up more, so I was, like, OK, fair enough, and I did
and then he has to sit there like an idiot
and it's, like, really annoyed me, and I really don't like him either.
I just feel the rest of this week's just going to be shit, to be fair.
It's day two of the British teens' stay in India and the first day of Indian school.
Good morning, Nadia.
Get up, get up, get up, we've got to get moving.
I'm going to bring your school uniform, Nadia, we're going to school this morning.
You'll love your uniform, it's a nice smart skirt and a top.
I have to wear a uniform?
Good morning. Wake up, you're going to school this morning.
Both Aron and Nadia have underachieved at their schools back home.
Nalini is determined to get their education back on track.
Remember that basically everything depends on your education,
your future depends on how much you study, what education
you get, what kind of degrees you get in the future, so please take your education very seriously.
What time does it finish?
Nalini and the teens are heading here.
Bangalore's national public school.
Voted the fifth best school in India, it's fee paying and has
a reputation for discipline and excellent exam results.
We are very, very strict, OK.
Getting very good grade is very, very important, because it's like a passport.
If you need to move forward in your life, in terms of your education,
as well as your career, you need to have good grades.
Back in the UK, Nadia and Aron both have a history
of confronting their teachers, low attendance and poor attitude.
Before lessons start, Principal Chandran wants to inform the British teens of the school's expectations.
This is Aron and this is Nadia.
We expect you to...concentrate,
because the foundation for your future
lies in the studies that happens now.
The first lesson of the day is English.
Good morning, class.
ALL: Good morning.
But before they get underway, the teens are invited to talk about their lifestyles back at home.
I have a lot more freedom than what most people in this country do.
I drink, I smoke, I do drugs.
You said that you do drugs. Have you stopped or are you continuing?
Not whilst I'm here I'm not.
But when I get home, I'm going to have a really nice big joint.
How well did you do in school?
Er, I didn't do too great at school.
I got two A*s in science, three Cs in business, and then I failed everything else.
My mum sent me here because I'm quite rude. I don't go to college.
Sometimes I come home at, like, six in the morning, and me and my mum
don't, like, get on really well, so that's why she sent me here.
What's the worst thing you've done to upset your parents?
Probably just being rude to them.
I don't have that much respect for them. I argue with them a lot.
So what is your ambition in life?
I don't really have one at the moment, I just want to be, like, rich, because I love money.
Now, I've got a little bit of homework
for Wednesday, and I expect everyone to do it.
Now the homework is "My ambition in life, and how do I go about getting that?"
That's it for the class for now. Thank you, class.
This is a pain in the arse, isn't it?
-I really want to
-off out of here.
Out in the playground, Aron relishes the chance to continue boasting to his new classmates.
I sometimes don't, I just don't usually go home.
Like, my mum asks me if I'm coming home and I'm just like, "Maybe, I'll let you know later,"
and then I sometimes, like, forget to ring her, to tell her that I'm staying out.
-Yeah, you have a curfew.
-What's your curfew then?
-Oh, mine is seven.
-Seven. Before it gets dark.
-How old are you then?
I only have a curfew because my mum's a bit of a bitch.
The next lesson is maths. One of Aron's least favourite subjects.
This is a new function I'm giving you.
I want you all to write down
what is f(1).
For minus 3.
Come here, Aron.
Then I expect you to meet at 3.00 today before you go.
Please come and meet.
Back in the UK, Aron's resistance to authority meant that he was constantly thrown out of school.
But in India, he decides to jump before he's pushed.
Aron's behaviour was a little bit of a shock to me. No doubt about it.
I just left him, because I can tackle it a little later after the class hours.
I'll go talk to Mrs Chandran.
But it's quite a shock, it's the first time that's happened in our school.
At break time, Aron's still trying to shock the students with tales about his drug taking.
-You do weed or what? Coke?
-Yeah, I do weed.
Awesome(!) Well, you know, you should, like, learn the fact that, you know, later on...
I don't know, I think I sound really lame and like a parent, but I'm saying you might think.
"Oh, my God, I'm so high right now, and this is my life,"
but later on you are... your body is going to totally die.
Like, it's going to be all down the drain.
I stopped weed for ten months once, I did stop for ten months.
-But I started again.
Neither Nadia nor the Indian students are impressed with Aron's bravado.
We find it so weird that they're into drugs and they're smoking, so we are asking them like, "Why?
"Why do you do it? What is the point?" and they are just like "Everyone does it."
I think that's really stupid, because he doesn't realise.
I mean, OK, a fag, do your thing, but don't get...
don't become, like... don't make it your life.
Aron's constant bragging has escalated into an argument with Nadia.
Aron's just being rude. I don't want to talk to him.
And there's all these girls standing around, and he's trying to show off and be an idiot as usual,
and I said something, and he said, "Oh, you moody bitch," or whatever,
but I asked him nicely to leave me alone.
He thinks he could talk to anyone like a piece of shit.
Aron's disrespectful attitude has got Nadia angry.
Who do you think you are? Take your headphones out and listen to me.
Who do you think you are, talking to me like that? What's the point of calling me a bitch?
I asked you to leave me alone and you called me a bitch.
-You're the one that made me...
-I told you to leave me alone.
-Don't put your hands in my face.
-You're putting your hand in my face.
You're so pathetic, you actually need to grow up. You're so immature.
-Listen to me!
-walk off. You're so immature.
How are you going to get a job, when you can't even...
You might be at college, you have no respect for anyone.
How are you going to get a job?
Oh, hello, Mrs Nanjundayya.
Principal Chandran never stands for bad behaviour.
The boy has been a little insolent in class, and now he just walked out. He's near the gates.
OK. But he refuses to come inside.
Nalini has been forced to drop everything to come and collect the teens.
What's going on, Aron? What happened?
OK, what happened exactly? I want to know what happened.
I'm having a fag.
Oh, but that's not fair.
That's not correct.
Can't have a fag here at all, and you're in the school premises. What's wrong with you?
When faced with abusive language, Nalini's culture demands reason rather than raising your voice.
No. I haven't had, like, a fag, since...
OK, don't think about it, talk like an adult.
Come on, you're in college, then behave like a college kid.
Not like a child. Come on.
Come on, tell me what it is. No, don't do this. Take it off.
-Why are you're going to snatch it off?
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't try that language on me, it's not going to work.
Come on, what happened?
We're going to have a big scene in the road and it's not a nice thing to walk around the city like this.
You understand? Aron?
You can't make a scene on the road.
In India, it's completely unacceptable to cause such a scene in public.
-He called me a bitch. You called me a bitch. You told me to
Did you? I think that's really bad.
I'm not sure who said it first, probably was me.
OK. Now listen, listen, listen. All right, stop it, both of you.
Stop it. Stop it now.
I think this is ridiculous. Everything escalates.
I mean, there's such a big issue taking place over nothing.
I mean, we're made a laughing stock like we're some kind of fools.
These things don't happen in this country.
So have we benefited by this?
No. So I suggest we now go home and take it from there.
At home, the teens have to face the wrath of Uncle Pradeep.
This is a terrible situation where the students, they go back and they'll talk.
How much ridicule will take place on this now?
Over a non-issue.
You use such foul language, and I think that is not acceptable.
We don't speak like that out here.
Have you noticed anyone screaming in this building, shouting loudly, calling people names?
We never do that.
You have to understand public behaviour is very very important.
Whatever happens, your self control has to be exercised.
Most important. You've got to be friends here, you've got to be...
I'm going to say, why should you be bitter towards each other for some small thing like this?
He walks away. Come here, Aron.
I don't know what's going through Aron's head right now.
I think he just needs to get over the situation and grow up.
Like, we don't have to get along, but when we're out, just like be civil to each other.
He's a child actually, and he is emotional and something is bothering him.
I can't put my finger on it yet.
At dinner time, the family want to get to the bottom of Aron's problem with anger.
My mum knows I've like, I've always had a short temper,
especially, like, to do with school and stuff like that.
So what have you done when you're angry?
Punched walls and that kind of thing.
Oh, terrible thing to do, Aron, I don't know.
I used to get wound up about the tiniest things, which...
You just said it. You just said it.
It's silly things.
That's your solution right there.
Nalini's family are not letting Nadia off the hook either.
Why did your mum think you should come here?
Because I'm spoiled.
I'm, like, given everything I want. I don't really help out round the house and I stay out till quite late.
So I might come home at, like, six in the morning. Sometimes five.
Are you happy with that lifestyle? I mean, how much can you go out all the time? You know, you're young.
-Or party or....
-Youth is on your side, but how much can you do that?
I don't know. I don't know what I want to do.
I don't know where I will be in ten years' time.
In the case of Nadia, it's all just landing on her lap, which should not happen.
So she never has found the need to do things for herself.
I'm, like, lazy. I need something or someone to, like, push me in the right direction.
I think goals have to be given to them, and they need to achieve those goals.
One of the Nanjundayyas family mottos is "service before self".
They firmly believe in giving back to society.
Realising the British teens are utterly selfish back home, Nalini wants to teach them a lesson.
All of the last week I've heard only about self, me, my problems, I think, I, I, all the time.
So this time I want you to experience what other people
less fortunate than you are going through, and to understand how fortunate you both are, you know.
If I have any bad behaviour, any fighting, any argument, OK,
I'm going to be really displeased, because remember, you're going to people who are less fortunate,
and they're going to be horrified if you behave like that, OK?
Today, Nalini is taking the teens to volunteer at one of her charities.
The local blind school.
There are 15 million visually impaired people in India.
The Sri Ramana School educates 250 young people aged between four and 20.
This is going to be very strange for you but it doesn't matter,
it's a learning experience, it's a cultural experience.
So things you may not be used to, you may be expected to do.
Please go along and do it with the spirit of learning.
Experiencing what things are in a new culture. All right?
The teens' first job is to help prepare lunch for the blind students.
Back home, Nadia wouldn't even dream of helping her mum in the kitchen.
Please make it nicely.
Taking orders from the Indian dinner ladies is proving difficult.
Not sure that Nadia can take the heat of the kitchen...
Another dinner lady steps in to help her out.
No, you can do it.
No, I'm not good enough, it's all right.
I'm not good enough for your cucumber cutting.
The next job is to clean the school's dairy cows.
That is bloody disgusting!
The school relies on volunteers to keep it going.
She is determined that the teens complete all the tasks ahead of them.
She wants us to clean the cow. I'm not cleaning it, I'm not cleaning it.
She just touched its bum!
Can you rub it, I don't want to rub it.
It's done another shit!
How much do these things go to the toilet, man?
After the udders have been cleaned, the cows are ready for milking.
Oh, my God! That looks like...
I'm scared to touch it.
It's lunchtime, but before they can eat themselves, Nadia and Aaron must serve the children.
I just feel really sorry for them.
I just feel really sorry for them.
When I was walking round I started to get a bit upset.
I don't even know why, I just feel really sorry for them.
After lunch, Nadia and Aron are introduced to two of the students.
Where will you go when you finish here, will you go back to live with your family?
I'd like to be a computer teacher,
and music also.
I want to work in computers.
Do you do a lot for your parents, would you say they are proud of you?
My father and mother are very happy.
We do help for them.
Bringing water and cleaning...the house.
I found it quite shocking when he said that he wanted to work for a computer company when he's older.
It's not exactly going to be an easy job for someone who is blind, it's going to be difficult for him.
He'll probably struggle doing it
but it's good that he has high ambitions, even though he is blind.
It makes me feel really selfish.
I'd say that they go on helping their mum and they can't even see,
and then there's me who just goes out, thinks of myself.
They are really thoughtful, I think.
It makes me look like a shit human being, to be honest.
That's how I feel.
The blind school seems to have had an impact on Nadia.
And she's settling well into family life.
Nalini has decided to take Nadia shopping, so she can bond with the selfish 16-year-old.
Do you buy a lot of all this?
My dad buys it for me.
Isn't that nice?!
This stuff is nice. I like this one.
She wants to share some of her own life experiences.
It's a really nice place.
I don't know if I'd told you this or Niska told you this...
-That her father died about 17 years ago.
Niska was one-year-old.
My husband was always the main breadwinner
so I had to sit down and think, what are my options, what can I do?
I can't work out of the house, so my only option was to set up a business.
I realised one thing in all of this.
That it is so important for us to be independent from the very beginning.
We cannot wait for a tragedy to strike us and then pick up our socks.
Women should be independent.
To make sure that you have your own money.
I've never asked anyone for money, I never have.
You shouldn't have to depend on working on your dad to get you things or your mother or whatever.
Supposing your dad said, "Sorry, I've had enough."
You don't want to face such a day, right?
You want to do your own thing, you like buying clothes, you should be able to afford it yourself.
I do need to be independent, I can't rely on everyone, especially my dad
because he's not always going to be there to give me money for everything that I need and want.
And it's inspiring as well because if she can do it and I don't have
responsibilities like children, then I should be able to do it too.
Nalini is a really special woman.
I sort of see her like my second mum now.
Nadia's mother is a single mother.
I understand that there is not too much of their relationship between the two of them at the moment.
I don't think she really gets to see her mother too much or do much for her mother.
'I don't really get on with my mum.'
I don't really like her are getting in the way because I'm sort of a Daddy's girl.
I just get on better with Dad so I'm going to like him more.
Your dad spoils you so much.
He doesn't realise that he makes it so difficult for me.
It makes you resent me even more.
Do you think I enjoy the way we carry on at each other?
I don't, I hate it.
Later that day, Nalini decides it's time for Nadia to hear from home.
Here's a letter from your mother.
-Ah, she sent me a letter!
"Dear Nadia, I'm hoping this week will help you realise some points about yourself.
"You cannot rely on your father for money.
"This has to stop. You have to be responsible for your own sake.
"I think you are aware of how your behaviour hurts me.
"The fact remains your attitude towards me is foul.
"There is a side that is extremely..."
Can I stop for a minute?
"There is a side that is extremely loving and protecting, especially of Julia.
"I just wish this side of you showed more often.
"I expect you to take on board everything from this week that makes you realise there is more
"to life than shopping, spending and staying out until all hours.
"Julia, Emily and Rosie send their love, as do I.
"I do miss you and will see you soon.
"Lots of love and hugs, Mum."
I don't mean to make my mum's life a misery.
I think it's I just don't think about her and I'm thinking of myself.
So I just turn around and say stuff and don't think
how it hurts her or that she's trying really hard to be a good parent.
The teens have been in India for nearly a week.
Tomorrow they return to school to present their homework.
Has it been really long since you've done homework?
Yeah. Like a year.
The assignment is to deliver a speech about their ambitions in life.
Aron has begun to reflect on his behaviour back home.
I've always known that I need more focus and stuff like that.
I've always known that, but I've never pushed myself at college and
worked for what I really want and stuff like that.
My mum is really worried that I'm going to end up not liking my course and dropping out,
just flunking college like I nearly did school.
Nalini has always taken a direct interest in her kids' homework.
You should read it and understand it and make your own judgment and assessment of it.
She believes it's a parent's duty to inspire learning.
I think your homework was on ambition and...
-What, that English one?
-I didn't end up finishing that English one, did I?
-Let's do it now, shall we?
Now she wants to help Aron map out his dream of running a garage.
-We obviously fix cars like what any normal garage does.
-You fix cars.
We will customise their car to what they want.
Say it was a pick-up style truck and it would have some
really big sub woofer speaker in the back of it, a bass speaker.
-Sound systems. Wow!
See, actually quite easy, isn't it? Yeah?
It doesn't seem easy cos you've got to get through each stage but yeah...
-No, but planning it was easy, wasn't it?
Come on, now we only have to follow out the plan.
The way that Nalini was going on about some huge garage doing all
this crazy stuff, it was all a bit much for me to understand at first
because I thought it would be best to start something small, but she wasn't having it.
The problem with him is while he realises he's got potential, today
when we did the business plan I had to prod him a bit, but he actually came up with some brilliant ideas.
You are going to do that next year, right?
I do worry quite a lot about failing because I've not exactly passed much in my life at the moment.
The teens are preparing for their final visit to Indian school.
The entire class is expected to publicly present
their private ambitions
in front of their friends.
My ambition was always to be like Steve Irwin, the animal naturalist who devoted his life in transferring
these endangered reptiles and wild animals to localities in the most human and non-tranquillising way.
Nadia takes centre-stage.
My ambition is to own my own fashion boutique on the London High Street.
I'd also like to go and do a degree in business, so I could
find out the background - finance, all the different things I need to learn for it.
Thinking about it now, seeing how hard all of you
work and study, I do need a proper education to be able to get a job.
Now Aron must step up to the mark.
My ambition in life is to have a good relationship, nice house, nice car.
I currently achieve this with my dream and my dream is to have my own fleet of
car garages worldwide that specialises in customising cars.
Here is what I need - knowledge, money and experience.
The knowledge I'll get from college,
which is first thing on the list.
Then I'll go to university, and then I will graduate from there and
then I will obviously have to learn to drive.
I think you have given us a good idea of how to go about it - very systematically you have drawn that.
The presentations have gone well.
Her brief spell back in education has encouraged Nadia to reflect on her future.
When I first came here I was, "I don't want to go to college, I don't
"want to do anything, I'm just going to find something
"and go off by myself."
But obviously I can't do that. No one is going to get along, no one is
going to be able to take their career or anything further if they don't have grades or a degree in something.
Even Aron has realised he needs to make the most of his potential.
I'm smart, but I'm just lazy.
I need to stop being so lazy and work, work hard.
Before the students break up for the holidays, the
teens are enjoying hanging out with their new friends for the last time.
That one. And do that.
So shake it.
-So you do clap, clap. That's it.
-Yeah! I done it.
-Hello. I missed you.
-I missed you too.
-How was school?
-Fun, I thought it was good.
-You like Indian school?
After Aron's performance at school, Pradeep wants to give him a treat that might encourage him further.
He's taking him to see a private collection of vintage cars owned by a millionaire friend.
Oh, my God!
Yeah, we have various cars.
Proper old Mercedes.
-Do you want to go inside and have a look inside? Go inside.
Go inside. Get the feel of it.
Oh, mate. Wow!
How could you...?
It's so big!
-Which is your favourite car?
-That car right there.
This is the left-hand drive.
I'd do anything to own one of these cars.
You do not understand.
That becomes your ambition.
-To own one of these cars.
-And then when you fulfil your ambition you will call me and I will ride with you in that, OK?
One day, you and me.
This car here, my nan used to have a red one.
My nan died years ago now, so it reminds me of my nan when I see one.
-When did your nanny die?
-It was about four years ago now.
OK. It was of old age?
-She died of cancer.
I'm sure she is there watching you now.
She's watching you and saying that this guy is going
to make me proud.
Relax. She's looking at you down below from there, looking at you.
I can see you still feel much for her.
At that time, how did you cope?
You know what we'll do?
We will get you a Beetle also.
Then you can tell nanny on top, see, I got a Beetle for you.
So you've got a Mustang on the line and you've got a Beetle.
You've got a lot of work to do, chum.
I've now seen two cars that I really like and would love to have.
If I had a choice between the two, I'm sorry, Mustang, but I have to choose that for my nan.
When he saw the Beetle, suddenly he's gone back down memory lane.
The two parents fall apart, then the nanny comes into the picture and takes
care of the child and gives him all the love and affection from her.
He's feeling so much so...
He's a very emotional guy and straightaway connects the Beetle and
nanny and love and affection - all of those things came back to him.
Four years ago I lost my mum to cancer.
We didn't put my mum in the hospice, we looked after her. She was only 63.
My nan used to take me on her bike to school,
pick me up after-school sometimes.
It was her first grandchild, she saw him being born.
The night it happened I didn't really show much emotion.
I don't think he really cried.
Or he didn't show me that he cried because he knew how upset I was.
I had to stay quite strong for my mum. But after it happened...
He doesn't talk to me about it, but I think he
does really miss his nan.
I've got a picture of her in my suitcase. Shall I show you now?
That's a picture of my nan in the locket.
Oh, she looks so lovely.
After my nan passed away I think everything got worse, my behaviour changed at school...
I don't know, everything changed, the way I am.
I should have really tried helping out my mum and trying to
make her life easier but instead I just made it more difficult for her.
Without even meaning to.
I don't think I will ever get over my nan's death.
It's one of those things you don't get over.
You know, Aron, death is something that we all have to deal with.
When my husband died, exactly like you I couldn't grieve.
You can't sit and grieve when you've got three children to look after.
I had to start life afresh, I had to come back to India, I had to start looking for a job to pay the bills.
Life goes on.
There's no point in clinging on to things.
You've really got to look at the beautiful memories you have.
'I think the family are really nice.'
They are all there for each other.
It's something that I wish that I did more often with my family.
The Brit teens are enjoying their last night with the Nanjundayyas.
A slap-up meal in Bangalore's finest hotel.
What do you think is really something you are going to take home
with you, something you are going to remember of Bangalore?
I need to realise that I'm really lucky for what I have
and stop spending my dad's money, because I already have enough in life and I don't need any more.
Fantastic! You give me a shake on that.
Aron and I have got closer.
We have this maybe a sibling relationship.
It's quite fun.
Since I've been living here
I've liked the way that you all stick together as a family.
The way that you all work together and do stuff together.
-All the best.
It's been great having you guys here.
It's time for the British teens to leave the Nanjundayyas and return
to their old families back home.
-I'm going to miss you.
It was lovely having you and you are a lovely guy.
You are so sweet, so considerate - just keep that up with your mum.
Back in a minute.
-All the best, chum.
I really am going to miss the Indian family because it's like I've only just got to proper know them,
there's still more to know about them and we are leaving already.
They weren't as bad as what I thought they were going to be.
I thought they were going to be really strict, but they were really nice.
Since I've been here and seen how Niska and Nalini are together, it's made me really miss my mum.
I want to give her a big hug and tell her how much I love her.
I hope she comes back having lost the attitude that she's got, this superior attitude.
Hello, Nadia. How are you?
-I'm fine, how are you?
-Did you have a nice time?
-It was actually really good.
Was it? You enjoyed it?
I'd say out of everything they taught me and the way
they are to each other, I need to respect you more.
And if we have a problem then I should sit down and talk to you about it instead of getting angry.
I also learnt that I need to stop sponging off dad.
I need to work for stuff.
Plus I want to go back to college anyway because I'm bored of being at home and being nowhere.
I really don't want to end up in Tesco's stacking shelves, as
you lot always keep telling me that I'm going to end up doing!
Come here, Mother!
-I missed you lots and I love you lots.
-I love you too.
I am really pleased that she says that she's going to go back to college and that she's realised the
importance of it and that she can do it for herself.
-Are you all right?
-How are you?
-I'm all right.
-I've realised now that I need to treat you with more respect than what I used to.
I think nan would be quite proud that I actually went to India and I did do it.
I did it all.
I'm going to talk to Aron about his nan again and
explain to him about grieving and show him a bit of closure really.
Next time on The World's Strictest Parents,
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..get new parents in Chicago.
I'm not happy with you telling me how to dress. I don't see why it should concern you.
It concerns me because I don't want to see your butt around my house.
If you don't change, for the rest of the day you don't eat.
-No, I'm still going to eat.
-How are you going to eat? Have you brought some food with you?
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Two rebellious British teenagers experience strict parenting on the other side of the world, as angry 16-year-old Aron Shave and spoilt 17-year-old Nadia Traboulsi get new parents in India. For a week they must live with the Nanjundayyas in Bangalore, India's Silicon Valley. They are a highly disciplined family who believe in education and ambition. Mum is a businesswoman and dedicated charity worker who, since her husband passed away 15 years ago, has raised her children with the help of her proud extended family - uncle Pradeep and uncle Mukesh - but has never taken her eye off the parenting ball.
Despite adapting their traditional family values to a modern society, the Nanjundayyas have a zero tolerance attitude towards bad language and public disorder. So when Nadia and Aron have a huge argument in the school playground, the family are humiliated.
Can the Nanjundayyas encourage Aron to control his anger and move on from a death in the family? And will Nadia become less selfish and focus on her education and find her ambition?