Holland The World's Strictest Parents

Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...

It's our responsibility as parents to be in control of the music they listen to,

the movies they watch and the friends they have.

Rigid boundaries...

Am I friends with my children?

-No, I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.

-..And immediate consequences.

My dad is really strict.

If you break the rules, he can be very scary.

But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?

I was brought here on this earth to party.

She can be a nightmare.

It's awful.

My lifestyle is playing Xbox and getting hammered.

You, I'm getting you!

I went to anger management.

Got kicked out of anger management for being angry.

No-one can tell me what to do. Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do!

He's slapped me, he's poked me, he's pushed me.

He's done it all.

I am what I am. If you don't like it, jog on.

To find out, two teens who've never met before

-will leave their fraught families behind...

-Maybe she'll come back and be nice.

-I doubt it.

-..and head off

to the far corners of the world where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.

You are not in the UK. You are in Barbados.

They're the most awful people I've ever met in my whole life.

If she wants to throw a hissy fit, she can have a hissy fit.

-I'm going home.

-What are you going to do?!

This is our rule. If you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.

-What's the point?

-The point is about trust.

If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.

-I've got myself to think about because I'm 17.

-That's all you think about.

Well, do you want me to move out?

-No...

-Stop it, then! It's my life.

17-year-old Forrest Talbott is utterly self-obsessed.

My main priority is probably me, and then my make-up and straighteners.

Before anything else, without doubt, her hair and make-up comes first.

I go through four bottles a week.

It's, like, £10 a bottle.

Forrest works part-time at a pet shop, but her wages

don't come close to paying for her expensive lifestyle.

I don't want to get a full-time job. If I say to my parents, "Can I have this?", and they say no,

I flip. It gets over the top sometimes.

I can't stand it. I end up screaming into my pillow because I'm so angry.

Forrest is spoilt. She doesn't do anything. It's gone past laziness.

I say, "Forrest, other than breathe, I do everything for you".

When Forrest was 11, her parents split up.

Now she lives alternative weeks with Mum and Dad.

I'm not lazy, Dad. I'm not lazy!

I would suggest that you're extremely lazy.

Number one, you don't do anything round the house.

-You can't be bothered getting out there when you were looking for a job.

-Cos I didn't want a job.

'If she wants to be treated like an adult who's left school, then act like one.'

Don't act like you're five years old with your temper tantrums.

"I want, I want, I want, and I'll stamp my feet until I get it".

She'll say to me, "You're just a part-time mum," because we have joint custody.

And that kills me because I'm her mum... I'm going to cry!

Since they divorced, Forrest has become an expert at playing one parent off against the other.

'I've been spoiled since I was little.

'If I wanted something, I'd get it.'

Now they've broke up, it's no different. I just get a bit more because they're both,

like, giving it me, do you know what I mean?

She's only 17. All her friends are moving on, and Forrest doesn't seem to be going in the same direction.

She is at a crossroads now, definitely,

where she could bum around now for the rest of her life if she's not careful.

Something needs to change now to shift this frame of mind she's in.

BOY RAPS: You got me chasing and I'm runnin' all the time

and I keep on getting closer but it's playing on my mind

and I keep on working harder but I keep falling behind,

I'm a wave in the ocean, going against the tide...

17-year-old Daniel Eyre is convinced he's the next big thing.

I just want to become famous and rich.

Be like Will Smith, but better.

-And he's already living the rap star lifestyle.

-What are you doing?

I'm trying to roll a spliff.

I am aware he has smoked marijuana, I am aware he drinks, I am aware that he's sexually active.

I've slept with 37 girls.

Older girls are better because they're more experienced.

I do speak to him as much as I can, and kind of try and guide him, but he's oblivious, it seems.

Daniel is passionate about music, and was in a band. But he was thrown out for partying too hard.

If you start getting into drugs and alcohol, then you will get lost, and you will not...

I don't know one rap artist or singer that doesn't smoke weed

-and drink - I don't know one.

-So they're your role models?

-Yeah.

Dan's dad left when he was eight months old.

Mum, Julie, is worried his idea of being a man has come straight from the world of gangster rap.

He's very angry quite a lot of the time.

He does swear at me -

you know, really awful words sometimes.

My mum nags a lot.

It does get a bit heated sometimes. I'll just ignore her and she'll shout at me.

Or I just get a bit too angry and...smash things and stuff.

Dan's at a crossroads now, where if he carries on smoking marijuana,

that he'll end up possibly in and out of prison.

It's a road that I've seen people go down and that's something I really don't want for Dan.

Desperate to turn their lives around, both families are sending

their troubled teens abroad, to live with new parents with strict rules.

Be good. Hope you learn something from this.

Come back brand-new. Love you, Dan.

-Just be careful and be good. I love you, babe.

-Love you, too.

The main thing she needs to get out of this I think is to be happy, but a bit more respectful to people,

well me, mainly, and just to focus

for what she wants to do with herself.

The teens will be heading to Holland - famous for its liberal attitudes to drink, sex and drugs.

But they won't be near any of this.

Forrest and Daniel will be staying here, the rural town of Born, home to the Van Berkel family.

They believe the secret to good parenting is to treat teenagers

with respect, but to demand responsibility.

For us, everything starts with trust - and they have to trust us.

It is the base of a good relationship

between the parent and a child.

Dad, Jan, is a middle manager and mum, Liesbeth, works three jobs in the local community.

17-year-old Amber and 14-year-old Frank both study full-time,

have part-time jobs and are expected to help out at home.

I am not the maid of the family. I expect everybody to work.

Did you vacuum today?

-Yes.

-Very good, Frank. You deserve dinner.

I don't mind doing it,

because it's not the end of the world if you have to do the dishes or something.

Every teenager needs rules.

If my parents tell you something, make sure you do it!

The Van Berkels embrace their country's liberal philosophy.

They give their children freedom but demand respect.

Just checking if you drank too much.

I don't approve of drunk people. They make fools out of themselves.

And there's no reason to get drunk.

So that's something as a parent you should teach your children - enough is enough.

And despite Holland's relaxed laws on cannabis,

the family are totally anti-drugs.

A lot of kids think one joint doesn't harm, but it does.

It does damage to your brain and your body - and we don't want children who smoke.

The Van Berkels know raising kids is no easy feat, but they set a high standard for themselves.

The biggest achievement in life when you have children, for me,

is to bring my children up to be stable, trustworthy, good people.

If I fail on that, I would be so embarrassed.

I smell some nice ganja!

The British teens have touched down

in the country's capital, Amsterdam, home to over 200 coffee shops that openly sell marijuana.

Coffee shop!

Argh! Oh, my days!

Please can we go in the coffee shop? I'm really up for getting stoned.

Please.

The Van Berkels live 150 miles away.

So long, Amsterdam dreams.

A bit countrysidey, isn't it? When I think of country, it's all dirt and poo, that's all I think of.

This is it!

-I'm anxious.

-I'm excited!

Very excited!

We're in a village, though.

I hope they are more nervous than we are!

And stressed!

-Oh, my god, this is so... How old is he?

-He's in his hundreds!

He's got white hair, he's got no hair!

-Hiya!

-Finally.

-Hi.

-Tired?

-No, not really.

-How are you?

-I'm all right, thank you.

-OK.

-Your name was?

-Forrest.

-Forrest. Love the name.

-Daniel.

-Daniel. I'm Liesbeth.

-And I'm Jan.

-Hi!

-Welcome.

For the next seven days,

Daniel and Forrest must live by the same rules as the Van Berkel children.

-Hiya. I'm Forrest.

-I'm Amber.

-Hi, I'm Frank.

-Dan.

I'm going to show you around a bit, so you know what home would be like for a few days.

-OK.

-Yeah?

We'll start with your room, Forrest...

The Van Berkels live in a modest four-bedroom house.

Daniel will get his own room, Forrest will share with daughter, Amber.

-This is yours. You think it looks comfortable enough?

-I'll have to see when I sleep in it.

-OK, Daniel, you have a room for yourself. It's a small room.

-It's nice. Nice.

The room looks nice right now. I'd like to keep it this way.

-And I'll check once in a while.

-That's cool.

-Yeah?

It's all right. It's not my cup of tea.

But it's not minging, is it?

-What do you think?

-It's not too bad.

What do you think of the parents?

-They're all right - what do you think?

-They're all right.

We need to get to know them.

They don't seem that strict, to be honest.

Not yet. Wait till they've put down the rules.

I think the woman wears the trousers, though.

-Yeah!

-Definitely.

She's a bit more tough than he is. I think she's a real female.

And I know what it's like. So I think that that might take some arguments.

When they came in, I was like, woooh, that's...

For me it was really extreme, I was expecting a little bit less.

I would never dress the way she dresses, because it's a bit too much skin.

Upstairs, the teens are checking out their surroundings...

Oh. I was expecting make-up.

She's quite boring, isn't she?

There's no make-up or anything.

..with little regard for daughter Amber's privacy.

BLEEP!

BLEEP!

I hear all kinds of sounds coming from upstairs.

I don't know.

God. Always...

Not worried about good first impressions,

the British teens are content to act like children.

-Hey, guys - what are you doing?

-I haven't done anything!

-Hey, hey, hey! What's the matter?

-He socked me!

-Daniel, open the door.

Tell her to stop throwing stuff at me, please.

-Daniel, what happened?

-She attacked me.

-Don't listen to him.

-She's crazy, man.

If that's true, then why am I more wet than him?

It isn't acceptable for me.

You just arrived and make a mess in this house.

-I apologise for her behaviour and my behaviour.

-I'm sorry as well.

That was just pretty funny, you know. Already, how long have we been here, about half an hour?

-We have a challenge in the house.

-I think so.

It will be a nice job for this coming week.

Let's see who is winning.

It's dead heavy - I can't take it up the stairs.

Oh, my God!

Forrest is keen to unpack, but Amber has just discovered the state of her room.

-Tell me...

-They're going to leave now.

I don't want them in the house any more.

My underwear was all over here. They went through all my stuff,

and they threw away something that's really expensive.

They went in my bed, my draws, everything was all over my room,

I just want to say I'm sorry.

All my stuff is all over the place!

Take the bed and go!

-Where do you want me to go, where am I supposed to put..?

-Over there behind the door, and close it.

I've just struggled all the way upstairs. I'm not taking that down now.

For Forrest, upsetting the people she lives with is par for the course.

-Can I take a shower now?

-No, first we do the rules.

After this less-than-perfect start,

the parents need to explain where the boundaries lie in their household.

So, our family rules, it's one of the important things to explain to you both.

The rules in our house are based mainly on trust.

Our motto is that trust brings freedom.

And that's one thing that's already broken. Everybody makes a mistake once,

but I really hope you learn from it, and it's not going to happen anything like this again.

I will continue. Absolutely no smoking in the house.

-In the house - does that mean we can do it outside?

-Outside is no problem.

-Oh, thank God for that. Thanks.

-Forrest, why do you have the towel in front of your face?

-Just, no, I'm not taking it off my face.

-It's very impolite to talk to people like this.

Well, I don't like wearing no make-up,

and you're trying to make me show my face with no make-up on, and I don't want to do that.

I think we have another rule in the house, not to hide behind towels when you talk to people.

I'm just going to have to break that rule tonight,

-because I'm not taking it off.

-Do you have rules at home?

-No.

-No rules?

-No.

-Well, we do have rules,

and you live here so you have to live by those rules. Let's continue.

You may have heard about Holland's coffee shops,

but drugs will not be tolerated in our house.

It is legal to drink alcohol in Holland when you're 16, but you must never be drunk.

-I was drunk once.

-In your life?

In my life, and never again. Forrest, do you drink?

I do, I drink with my mum, at home.

If I go out, I get really drunk.

You'll be in for a surprise here. We are not here to be your slaves,

-and everyone must do chores.

-Does that mean we've got to work?

-Yeah.

-OK.

You know, if I know we can trust you, you get a lot of freedom.

I think that has to be the start of this whole experience. Thanks a lot.

Now we've heard the rules and that, they're not that bad.

I was dreading it, because I thought they were going to take my make-up

and my tan, but they haven't even mentioned it, so... And I can still smoke!

I don't think she's a very happy girl, because she was so unhappy with her make-up rules.

So she needed a towel, so you could tell

she's not very, erm, very self-assured.

Daniel seems like a really nice kid, like a kid

you would like hug and take care of.

I was hoping to obviously go to a couple of the coffee shops, but, erm, they said that's a no-go.

I'm still thinking in my head whether to respect that or not.

In the Van Berkel household, everyone gets up on time.

-Good morning. Welcome to the world.

-It's too early.

Today, the teens will be doing what every Dutch teenager

-is required to do by law...

-Daniel, are you awake?

..attend school.

Daniel...?

Mmm? Are you awake?

Have a good day in school.

I'll see you today, OK, later on?

Liesbeth and Jan leave for work first. They must trust the teens to behave like grown-ups

and get themselves to college on time.

You know the rules. 10 euros.

-Thank you.

-Thank you.

-Enjoy it.

Keep in mind it's all based on trust.

-Thank you.

-And just in case they fancy bunking off,

Amber will be there to keep an eye on them.

I hope they don't embarrass me, because it's my first week, too.

So I still have to meet my own friends and everything there.

If they start acting really bad,

I think I'll just walk away and not be part of it!

I'm so scared. I'm scared!

With the help of traditional Dutch transport,

the day gets off to a good start.

I feel like such a twonk, you know.

Does your bum not hurt? Oh, no, my God!

Can you go a little bit faster, Daniel?

The teens will cycle 45 minutes to here, the Regional Community College of Twente.

It's a vocational college

that prepares teenagers for work in the catering industry.

Students run a restaurant that's open to the public and even operate a fully functional hotel.

Forrest and Daniel will be mentored by British teacher, Miss Robinson.

Here we have very, very high standards for our students,

especially with regard to personal presentation, articulation,

professionalism and hospitality.

I'm looking for a drug dealer. Anyone sell any cannabis round here?

See you later.

Back home, Daniel does have a college place, but his mum worries about him dropping out.

Forrest has given up her education altogether.

KNOCKS AT DOOR

-Why are you knocking so loud?

-Shut up. Hiya.

-Come in.

-Good morning.

-I'm Forrest.

-I'm Miss Robinson, nice to meet you.

-I'm Dan.

-Morning, nice to meet you.

Here in Holland, students have to go to school till they're 18.

If you don't go to school you will be visited by the truant officer.

But in addition to that, until you're 23, it's also compulsory for you

to go to school unless you've got some kind of formal qualification.

So you have to get an NVQ Level 2 minimum before you can stop school.

-Do either of you have an NVQ?

-No, what's that?

It's a National Vocational Qualification.

I've got a National Award in Animal Management.

That sounds like a Level 1 so I don't think that would be enough for you to quit school here.

You're going to be joining the service and hospitality department.

You'll be allocated a hotel room, which you have to clean.

I have instructions. HE BLOWS RASPBERRY

You will have to tie your hair back and I see you've got

-quite long fingernails, which is obviously unhygienic.

-I can't take them off.

-That's something we will have to discuss...

-I'm not taking them off.

-Any questions?

-Nope.

I ain't cleaning no toilet for shit, man.

I have my doubts about how they will get on here for the next two days.

Here in the Netherlands, the children, all the students, have far more respect for authority.

This is so embarrassing!

-Before they get to work proper...

-Hello. Good morning.

-Hi.

-..the teens must meet their fellow classmates.

OK, class, I'd like to introduce you to Forrest and Daniel.

-Hiya.

-They'll be spending two days with us here at school.

If you'd like to introduce yourself to the class.

-I'm Forrest and I'm 17.

-I'm Dan. I'm 16.

-FORREST LAUGHS

-OK.

And do you guys have any questions?

What kind of school did you went to?

I quit. I was so behind with work they were going to kick me out anyway.

And I was disruptive and stuff so I just left.

Do you smoke or drink?

-We do both, both of us.

-Do you have any hobbies?

I just like going out and getting drunk with my friends and stuff like that, really.

What do you think about drugs?

Certain drugs I wouldn't touch but cannabis, weed, it's sweet.

It's a nice feeling. You've got to have a few tokes.

-Does that shock you guys?

-Yes.

-Actually, yes.

-Do you prefer it to be like England where you can do whatever you want at 16 or do you enjoy this?

-No.

-You don't?! Do you like going to school?

-Yes.

-When we are old we want to have a nice job, so...

-I know but you're wasting your little teenage years.

To the Dutch students, the Brits' attitude is completely foreign.

They don't want to go to work. They don't want to go to school

or anything. So it's quite strange actually for me to hear about it.

They just want to be stupid, I think. I think they can handle school.

It won't be a problem for them but they are just lazy, I think.

Just lazy.

Their first assignment is to clean one of the college's hotel rooms.

They will be overseen be third year management student, Bart.

Oh, my God, that's well annoying.

-This is the checklist.

-There's so much!

-Look, we go...

-Is that the checklist just there?

No, no, no. This is the whole checklist. Doing all in 20 minutes.

Are you going to be watching us and seeing that we're working?

No, no, no. I will go away and then after 20 minutes I will check you.

-I need you to help me with making the bed.

-Get working on something else then.

-Like what?

-You're the main one that writes everything.

-Look through the list.

-I just

-BLEEP

-did!

What does a duster look like in Holland?

OK, I won't do that one.

Think of all the arses that have sat on this.

I've never, ever, ever cleaned a toilet in my life.

Time is up.

-You've changed the pillows?

-I've changed ever cover, everything.

It's right.

Oh, I'm impressed.

-This I have not expected.

-Did you expect worse?

Yes. SHE LAUGHS

But I'm very impressed, really.

It's not perfect but it's very good for the first time.

-Very good.

-I'm ecstatic.

Despite Bart's praise, Dutch schooling is doing little to inspire Forrest and Daniel.

I will never, ever, ever, ever do that for a job.

If it was the only job in the world, I wouldn't do it.

It was disgusting. It was minging.

But lunch break gives them the chance to question the students who actually want to study.

Do you not drink? Do you not drink at your parties?

Yeah, we do but we don't really get wasted or something.

I'll get really drunk. I always embarrass myself.

-Why don't you do marijuana?

-It's not that exciting because it's legal in Holland.

The people who do drugs, they just aren't cool, actually.

The college has one of the highest pass rates in Holland but students must work hard to qualify.

This afternoon, you're going to be working in the brasserie for two hours.

Dan, you can go straight off. I just want a quick word with you first.

-Do I get my 15 minute break now?

-You'll have to discuss that when we get down there.

So you're going to be in the kitchen this afternoon,

-what are we going to do about your nails?

-I don't know. I like my nails.

I really don't want to do this. I really don't want to do that.

It's co-operate and work in the brasserie kitchen this afternoon

or you'll have to be doing something really nasty outside.

I'll go and get my nails off then.

The school's firm but fair approach is having a strange effect on Forrest.

She's actually doing what she's told.

Is that OK?

Yeah, that's OK.

But Daniel is struggling with conformity.

Do I have to work for two hours straight

-or am I allowed out at some point to go for a cigarette?

-No.

I actually have to work two hours straight?

Yeah, but it's not possible. And when you work always your chewing gum out of your mouth. OK?

Sorry.

Fresh from the nail bar, Forrest is working with trainee chef Nelson.

I'm going to chop my fingers off if I do it as fast as you.

That's OK. This size, all right?

She still wants to convert the Dutch to her wayward British ways.

I don't think college is for everybody. Like, I just think

if you don't want to do it, then you shouldn't do it.

-Yes.

-I just don't like doing stuff that's hard work. I'm quite lazy.

First year, I'm the same as you, doing nothing,

smoking with my friends and drink a lot. That's not a good way of life.

It's much better when you're not drink and not smoke.

-But I like drinking and smoking though. I enjoy it.

-Yeah, OK,

OK. But your future, then?

I don't know what I want to do with my future but, like, I'd rather

-just wait until it comes to me what I want to do, if that makes sense.

-OK, yes.

They're so positive to learn.

When I was at school I was like, "I cannot wait to leave.

I just want to go and do my own thing." They're like, "Woo, school!"

It's like, "No, you don't do that."

People back in England, they're like, "Ah, I can't be arsed.

"I'm just going to go out. I don't care. I'll be on the dole."

Everyone here's, "I really want a good job. I really want this."

It's really weird hearing them being dead excited and positive about school.

Freaks.

Back home, the families settle down to dinner.

The Van Berkels eat together every evening.

In Holland the law allows 16-year-olds to drink alcohol.

Jan and Liesbeth let their kids have a beer with dinner

to teach them to drink responsibly.

Are you allowed to drink in your house with your family?

I don't really drink alcohol with my family.

If I went to a party then I would probably drink a lot of alcohol.

-You have the experience of getting drunk?

-Yes.

Do you like that you're allowed to have a glass of alcohol here?

-It's very cool.

-I would be absolutely shocked if my children would get drunk.

They have a lot of freedom, but they have to learn how to deal with it.

So if I tell the child you can have a beer,

absolutely not that they drink three beers.

Tonight Forrest and Daniel will be trusted to go out

but they must stick to the one-drink rule

and will have a strict curfew.

I'm looking forward to going out, ish. I can't get drunk,

so I'll just have to sit there with one wine.

Obviously I'm going to get drunk. When I'm drunk I can act sober.

Or I think I can. I don't know, I'm pretty drunk when I'm doing it!

-You all right?

-Are you all set to go?

-Yeah, we're going out now.

We trust you to be back at 10.30, so you have about two hours and ten minutes.

Just one beer, it's a Monday night. Tomorrow is school.

-Enjoy. Have a good time.

-See you later, everyone!

-Bye.

-See you later on.

Away from the watchful eyes of the Van Berkels,

Daniel is determined to make the most of his freedom.

SINGS: You show me where the coffee shop.

I want a smoke and some pot.

Apparently it's like ten euros for a gram.

-Do you do Stella? Stella Artois?

-We've got Grolsch.

I'll have one of them, please.

Although he knows that Jan and Liesbeth are completely anti-drugs,

for Daniel a beer simply isn't enough.

I'm going to go get some weed, man.

-I'm going to the coffee shop to try.

-BLEEP

-love it!

Liesbeth will be pissed, yeah.

But to be honest I've been being good all week and I'm kind of bored of it.

I'm back in two.

How many spliffs can I get for ten euros?

The legal age to buy marijuana is 18 and Daniel is refused by the staff.

I had it in my hands and then the man stopped me.

-Had it in my

-BLEEP

-hands, yeah. I put the note on the table.

This geezer just comes over and takes it out of my hands and puts it back

and says, "You're not old enough." I was like, "Yeah, I am."

BLEEP

-Should have brought my ID. Are you tipsy?

-A little bit. Yeah.

SHE MUMBLES

For Jan and Liesbeth, letting the teens out is a calculated move to test their character.

Everything is based on trust

because trust is so important to us if it's broken by other people.

There would also be this little voice in my head, "Be careful."

Party!

Cheers!

Both teens have long since broken the one-drink rule.

Forrest is leading the charge.

I don't want to go back yet.

I was going to say go back because then we're on time.

-I just want to get pissed. I don't care if anyone's around. I just want to get pissed.

-BLEEP.

I'm really pissed off.

They were allowed to go out. They should be home at 10.30.

Now it's like 45 minutes later and they're still not home.

I was in the shower with my pyjamas on and now I'm here in the rain.

I'm not exactly happy.

Instead of staying to face the punishment, Daniel does a runner.

Where's Daniel?

Where's Daniel gone?

-See you later, guys.

-Bye bye!

-Where's Daniel?

-I don't know.

Is that him down there?

He just left. He just took off.

We got Forrest.

But I don't know. He can go anywhere.

We're going to go to our car. You keep an eye out.

-There's no use in looking here.

-I'm not going back to your car till I find him.

-I'm not leaving him in the street.

-You should have thought of that before.

-An hour before.

No. No. I will try and find him. I'm not going back in your car.

How are you going to find him?

Two stubborn teenagers.

Neither the family, nor the production team know where Daniel has gone.

-But when Forrest tracks him down...

-Is that him down there?

There's him. Come here. I got worried about you.

..there's been a change in his behaviour.

Know what I'm saying? Bo!

Most wanted. Say something.

Why all you guys looking for me, man?

Daniel refuses to come home, testing Jan's patience to the limit.

-That's enough.

-That's totally enough, Daniel.

I'm saying goodbye to everybody else.

-No. You're disrespectful to me.

-I don't want to be disrespectful to more people.

-I'm sorry I'm disrespectful to you, I actually am.

-No, I don't think so any more.

-I don't think so any more. I don't trust you.

-What's the point?

-The point is a matter of trust.

-Come with me, then.

-It's a matter of trust, my man.

-Come with.

-Why?

Come with, if you don't trust me. Come with me while I say goodbye.

If you had the trust tome you come with me to the car.

Yes, I will. I do have trust in you.You have trust me, man.

-You said, "I do." Come.

-Prove it.

-Prove it, man.

You want to trust me, come this way. If not take that route.

That route's not a good route.

-Which one, this one?

-Yes. Get in the car.

Daniel is...out of control.

And I think, but I can't prove it right now, that he's taken some drugs.

You can tell his eyes are bright red.

He has a funny look in his eyes.

And there's no use in talking to him. And I...

It's kind of dangerous to have him in the house. I don't want the responsibility.

Suspicious he may have smoked cannabis, the Van Berkels refuse to take Daniel home.

Their zero tolerance to drugs means he'll be spending the night in a hotel.

Basically I started chatting with some people. They gave me a spliff.

I had half a spliff there. It's hardly like I smoked loads.

What's so bad about half a spliff?

I wonder if they have any idea what it means to trust someone or being trusted?

The way I look at it now, I hope she wants to stay,

because we would love to have her here, but only if she wants to.

With Daniel, don't think it will work.

For us, it's over.

The morning after the night before.

Forrest is nursing a sore head, but has a clear conscience.

We're here for like a week. I wanted to have a good time

so I didn't really care what time we came in or not.

It was funny and it's over now.

Do you know what I mean? No, I don't feel guilty...at all.

But alone at his hotel, Daniel has had time to reflect.

I understand why they're so upset.

Obviously, like, weed is a big thing for them.

I need to apologise to them for breaking their trust, to be honest, because I think that hurt.

That's the main thing that hurt about it, that we broke their trust.

So I need to apologise for that, to be honest.

I feel pretty shitty, to be honest.

We told Daniel about our views on marijuana.

I think it's bad for someone to smoke marijuana

because it has a big effect on your brain. It's just not healthy.

Last night he was a different person.

Liesbeth has agreed to hear Daniel out

and welcomes him back into the home.

We allowed you to go out and it was meant to be a privilege.

Why I decided to get drunk last night was because I just felt like

you wasn't letting us have fun and do our own thing as well as yours.

I just felt like it was your way or no way.

To me it sounds like if you want something,

I have to say yes OR something will happen.

Daniel, I was so shocked that you took off when you saw us.

-Why did do you that?

-Because, I'm not going to lie,

I had half a spliff smoked.

Obviously I like you guys, you're a nice family.

I didn't want to let you guys down

and make you guys upset and that.

I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to, like, lose your trust.

Daniel, that concerns me a lot, the using of marijuana,

and that's that important to you.

It's not that important.

It was important enough to break a rule. We talked about trust

and, you know, I kind of figure out that I can't expect someone

to live by that rule if you have no idea what it means.

Liesbeth wants to use Daniel's guilt to probe a little deeper into his behaviour.

-Do you remember the look on Jan's face?

-Yes, disappointment.

Upset.

I'm not really used to talking to, like, male role models and that,

because I'm always... I live with my mum and that.

For you, as a boy, growing up with your mum,

and your dad wasn't there...

Just to explain to me, how is that?

You're not following me out...

It was cos I drunk and smoked together, they messed with my mind. I was on that different level.

Liesbeth steers the conversation to how similar behaviour at home affects Daniel's mum.

Feels like I always let her down - and she's disappointed,

because she always brought me up well.

-And it feels like for her that I

-BLEEP

-up all the time...

And then

we have arguments together and shit,

and I don't like that.

Knowing that he trusted me enough to cry in front of me,

and tell me things about his life... He's worth investing in.

And there's more patience from my side. You can't change him in one day.

But I know there's a really good part of him that just needs to be found.

This is probably the first time I've been properly open with someone I don't really know.

Makes me feel good, and

like I got something off my chest I needed to get off.

Feel relieved, yeah.

The British teens' behaviour has unsettled Liesbeth.

Instead of returning to school, she decides Daniel and Forrest need to learn some bigger lessons.

They need to prepare themselves for a day out.

Let's get ready to leave at...12:00?

Have our jobs done by then.

I can't be ready for 12:00.

What else do you need to do besides ironing?

Put my extensions in. Make sure my hair's OK.

Do my make-up and fake tan.

Do that after.

I don't want to go out with no make-up.

-No-one knows you here.

-I know, but it doesn't matter.

For Forrest, being confronted over her appearance has touched a raw nerve.

I just don't like myself without anything... I just don't like myself without anything on.

If I felt in myself I looked better without it

I wouldn't wear all the make-up and stuff, but I feel like I have to, I feel like...

I feel like I'm just better with it on.

Now, she's refusing to leave the house without her make-up.

Not happy..? Why?

You're making us do something that we don't want to do. You're going to try and punish me for not doing it.

I just don't want to go.

If there's something really bothering you... Look at me.

..let me know, OK? Yeah?

Sensing there's something deeper going on, Liesbeth tries to get Forrest to open up.

A mother-daughter makeover is just the thing.

Is it the rain... or the fact no make-up?

I don't like being with no make-up on. So...

that's mainly why, because I didn't want to go out with nothing on my face.

So do you think you will ever change, with the make-up issue?

My mum and dad say it's just a phase and I'll grow out of it,

and I won't have to wear as much make-up all the time -

but I don't know, I love my make-up, so...

It amazes me. I've never met anyone like her.

If you never do anything or have to do anything,

your whole identity is not there.

Because that's just make-up and hair, and looks.

She has a big lack of self-confidence and there's no need for that at all.

While Daniel spends quality time with his new brother, Liesbeth

has decided that Forrest needs to start appreciating how lucky she is,

and how much she'll achieve if only she'd try.

I understand that most people, a lot of people, do things for you,

and today is your chance to do something for someone else.

-Right.

-It will be a new experience.

Forrest will spend the day working at a centre for people with learning difficulties.

Forrest...

-Hello!

-ALL: Hello.

First, manager Heidi introduces her to 17-year-old Charlena.

What are you doing?

-What am I doing?

-Yeah.

-What, today?

I've come to help you clean your house, like clean your apartment.

But first, Charlena needs to go shopping.

It's up to Forrest to support her and boost her self-confidence.

One, two...

Heidi has come along to keep an eye on things.

There you go...

-Shall we push it together?

-Yeah.

She's doing very well. Caring is really a selfless job,

and Forrest is showing that when she wants to be, she can be a selfless person.

It's nice to see her helping, and I also see that Forrest is enjoying it.

There you go.

At home, workshy Forrest refuses to do anything around the house.

Today, she must help cook dinner for 12.

What do you want me to do?

The rice...

The rice in there?

-16 cups.

-16 cups?

Can be a bit more...

Little bit more?

Yeah, that's right.

-Why are you getting support?

-I have autism.

-Autism? OK.

That is a little bit of a problem.

-Is that right?

-That is good.

-Right...

Do you like cooking in the home?

Do I like cooking at home? Um...no, I don't ever cook. My mum cooks.

The most I'll cook is probably toast -

-like bread in the toaster.

-Oh, toast, yeah.

I can't cook anything else. I'll burn it or something.

It does look really nice, actually. I cooked it myself so I've got to try it, haven't I?

Maybe you can do it at home...

Make it for my mum. Yeah.

As the day progresses, Forrest's selfish attitude appears to be taking a back seat.

-There you go.

-Thank you.

-It's OK.

Working here today, was it an eye-opener for you?

When I first come, I was quite nervous - like, I didn't know how it was going to be.

But I've really actually enjoyed it. Everybody's really nice.

I was like you. Really.

Spoilt, and didn't know the way I wanted to go.

And then I started working in care,

and it really gave me such a good feeling, that

my whole life changed. Yeah.

Working here, I haven't felt like I've been helping,

I just feel like I've just been with friends and had a good time. It's really weird.

You were smiling all the time, and you were helping.

It's in you. Really. You're really a nice girl.

Was that good? Yeah?

THEY CHEER

She did well. Big applause.

They were really nice people, like - I was just getting on with them.

Everyone was dead nice. "Oh, your cooking's good..." It makes ME feel good.

Well, it makes me feel like I can do everything on my own, like...

Do you know, if there was an actual place like this in Blackpool

I'd probably work there. It's quite cool.

To build on her successful day, the Van Berkels decide now's the time for Forrest to hear from home.

"You can do whatever you put your mind to.

"You're a beautiful girl with so much going for you

"and you don't need to hide behind make-up and fake tan.

"You need to let people see the real you -

"the funny, outgoing, confident, bubbly person that we know you are.

"It makes me sad knowing you've had so much given to you

"and so much done for you,

"but we never seem to get anything back in return from you.

"Like helping out around the house, keeping your room tidy.

"But for me, the most important thing for me is respect,

"which I feel you sometimes don't have for me.

"I know you have said in the past that I'm a part-time mum.

"I'm a mum all the time. I'm YOUR mum.

"It hurts so much to hear you say that because I love you more than you will ever know."

Everything's she's said, it's just true, isn't it?

After reading the letter, it makes me want to help her more

and give her stuff back

rather than just taking stuff from them both.

It's nearing the end of the week, and Daniel has settled well into family life.

But Liesbeth is still concerned about his relationship with marijuana.

Today, she wants him to meet their friend, Eddie Boevink,

a man who knows a lot about the dangers of drugs.

I was a school drop-out. I was addicted for 15 years.

I have been stealing a lot and deceiving a lot,

and I want to tell people from my experience that this isn't the path

that you should go on.

Hi.

-Hi, welcome.

-Hi, Eddie.

Hey. Daniel. Welcome here.

That's Eddie.

Daniel is a guy who has been getting into trouble.

He was using marijuana...

I don't really abuse drugs, but...

-But you use drugs?

-Now and again I smoke it.

-OK, OK.

-So I hope you can talk to him, tell him YOUR story.

-If I may?

Maybe you recognise some parts and maybe you don't, but I'd love you to talk to him about it.

It would be nice, it would be good, I think.

-Yeah.

-Bye. Enjoy, also.

Bye, Eddie. Bye.

-I have a jacket for you...

-OK.

Shall we do some work?

Daniel will spend the day helping to tidy up a local park that was once a hang-out for addicts.

Eddie works here voluntarily to keep the area clean.

What kind of background do you have? What kind of family you come from?

I just live with my mum and my little sister.

-My mum's like a single mum, just working and that.

-OK.

I didn't know my dad until, like, a year and a half ago.

What does your mum feel like? What is her concern?

She's concerned in the same way you are about drugs,

but I know in MY mind where I'm heading.

At home, Daniel's mum has been worn out by his frequent angry outbursts.

It's a familiar story for Eddie.

You know, my mother did her best, believe me - but I was lazy,

I was addicted, and I didn't want to do anything.

I called her names, you won't believe it.

I called her all bad names you can imagine.

And I can imagine that you called your mother also...

I've said a lot of horrible things to my mum and that.

I do feel in my heart, like, upset and angry sometimes that I've done that.

One day I said to my mother, when I was clean and I was doing well,

"Mother, can you forgive me what I called you, what I did, what I said?"

And she said some beautiful things.

"The way you are doing now, and the man you are now makes me more proud than anything in the world.

"Of course I forgive you."

And those are very important words, forgiveness.

It's necessary for you to open up to your mum.

Daniel's week in Holland has given him time to reflect on his behaviour at home.

Over dinner with the Van Berkels, he's keen to let them know what he's learned.

I don't have to, like, put on an act...

I can be who I am inside and that.

I don't have to be the man of the house,

just be a role model to my sister and my mother.

Not always be looking for a role model and use that as an excuse -

but to be a role model myself.

The audience is applauding.

The time has come for the teens to return to England.

I've learned a lot of stuff about respect and trust.

Obviously, I've still got my ambition to be a rapper and singer,

that's not going anywhere,

but I'm going to try and get another job as well.

Try and get to work and give my mum a bit of money.

I'm hoping that I can rebuild some trust and the whole relationship

with my whole family, to be honest - my mum, my little sister.

This experience has changed how I want to be with my mum and my dad, and be nicer to them.

I just realised, like, that I need to change really.

-Take care.

-You too.

-Have a good flight.

-Daniel...

-Thank you for having me.

-Goodbye, my man.

-Bye!

-Bye!

-Thanks for the opportunity.

You're welcome.

-Bye, Forrest. Bye, Daniel.

-Bye, Daniel. Bye, Forrest.

Deep down, they're really good kids and we wish the best of them for the future.

I'll miss you!

I can't wait to see her. I've missed her so much. I hope this week's been everything she hoped,

and that she's brought something positive back.

Hi!

I missed you so much.

Hi, Dad.

Amber, which was the girl, and the mum, they just had such a good relationship with each other

that it actually made me want to respect you more.

Because, like, I know I disrespect you all the time and stuff,

but it made me want to help you more and stuff like that.

-Don't cry, you

-BLEEP!

Stop it! It really made me want to change.

I felt bad, I really felt bad.

You know, when she said she wanted to respect me more, it did make me feel good. She can't always be right

all the time, and it's nice to hear her say that she's going to try.

And if she tries, it's a start, isn't it?

-It's a good thing.

-Here you are.

Oh, thank you, darling.

I hope that Dan's learned that every household has rules and you have to adhere to them.

I hope he's learned some respect, and

that I'm not so bad.

Hi, Mum.

Hi, Minxy-Pie.

-Are you guys all right?

-Yeah. Come in, bring your case in.

I just want to say I'm sorry and that things are going to change.

I'd like to win your trust back and, like, get a job and give you money

cos you ain't got anyone else to give you extra money.

I'm going to change my ways and prove to

you that I can be a good son and be a good role model for Caris as well.

I love you.

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-Stop it.

-No.

-OK, don't think about it. Talk like an adult.

He called me a bitch. You called me a bitch...

All right, stop it, both of you.

This is ridiculous. These things don't happen in this country.

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