Buenos Aires, Argentina The World's Strictest Parents


Buenos Aires, Argentina

Unruly teenagers Remzi Tomlin and Bryony Harris are sent to live with the Bustamante family in Buenos Aires, but Bryony is soon in trouble at school.


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Around the world, many parents

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raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...

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As I am the head of the house,

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I expect them to obey these rules whether we are right or not.

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-..rigid boundaries...

-Say sorry. You will not do again.

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My father controls my life every day.

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Are we going to see some progress in five minutes?

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..and immediate consequences.

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Stop!

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But can traditional parenting

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change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?

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Come and get me, I'm drinking underage!

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I took LSD, cocaine, ecstasy, weed,

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MDMA, ketamine.

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Being 17 you need to go out, you need to party,

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because before you know it, you'll be like, "It's game over".

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I'm not coming back today by the way.

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See you in 20 years!

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She's so incredibly rude. She's just a cow, really.

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-You just sweared at me..

-Dad, just be quiet!

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I don't care what people think about me. Rules are made for breaking.

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To find out, two teens who have never met before,

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will leave their fraught families behind...

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Come on, give us a hug!

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Behave yourself, Shola. I'm not joking, behave!

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..and head off to the far corners of the world

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where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.

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-Do you want a punch? Do you want a punch?!

-No, gosh.

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Get off me. Get off.

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Do me a favour and for once put some effort into your life!

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-Get off! Get off.

-Go out! Just go out!

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The world does not revolve around you!

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I'm trying to walk away and she's following me!

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They can't programme me.

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If all the British teenagers were like them...

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No good.

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MUSIC: "I Need a Dollar" by Aloe Blacc

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-I just want money to go out!

-I ain't got no money.

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-I don't care.

-What did I tell you?

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I don't care, just give me money.

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No, you've got no money. You get your own money now, yeah?

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-That's what's going to happen now.

-Dad, just be quiet!

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17-year-old college drop out Remzi Tomlin has one sole obsession.

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Remzi will always set me off about money.

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His aim is money, money, money and it always starts an argument.

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-Can I just have money?

-How much do you need?

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-I don't know, just money.

-I'll give you a tenner, that's all I've got.

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-Can I have that, as well?

-Now I've got no money!

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-Just give me the tenner then.

-Then I just give in like that.

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If I see something I'll buy it even though I don't need it.

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I know I'm spoilt but if they'd said, "No" when I was younger, I wouldn't be like this.

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Since Remzi's parents divorced five years ago,

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he hardly bothers to visit his mum and her new partner Neil.

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Remzi's always invited. He'll say, "Yeah," and then he'll let me down.

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Remzi now lives with his dad in a one-bed flat,

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hogging the only bedroom and forcing his dad to sleep on the sofa.

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And this is my bed here, you know, this is my bed here.

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So I've even done that for him, you know. I've even got him a place.

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Remzi never stops taking, but has nothing to give in return.

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'What do I do round the flat?'

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Nothing.

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No longer in education, Remzi now lives to spend his parent's money

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and thinks nothing of wasting it all on clothes and partying.

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Looks like Harry Potter!

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I'm getting to hate him, you know.

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I know it's bad to say that about my son, but he's got no respect for me.

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Why should I carry on doing what I'm doing for him?

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You've got to stand up, otherwise, you're going home on your own.

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No more drink!

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Remzi is on the road to nowhere, but doesn't even seem to care.

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'My master plan, I don't have one.'

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I don't think about the future. I think about what's happening now.

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Dad.

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Dad! Dad!

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-I'll get you a drink, but I'll get you a small bottle.

-Dad, that's what you always do!

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Oh, dear.

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16-year-old Bryony Harris has a very short fuse.

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-When you're at the shops, can you get me some drink, please?

-No.

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You said you will!

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She can get quite angry if she can't get her own way

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and she can swear quite a lot.

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When I get angry, I get so angry I literally... I can feel it all...

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It's horrible, even talking about being angry makes me angry.

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And it's not just at home that Bryony's anger has caused problems.

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Got kicked out of my mainstream school.

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I think it was just the end of year ten.

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She wasn't getting much of an education

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cos she was being put into isolation all the time.

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She'd go to school and disrupt the class.

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Next, her wild behaviour got her kicked out

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of two separate specialist schools

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and, by this point, even anger management couldn't help.

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An old woman sitting there and she's trying to tell me that I'm angry.

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I know I'm angry, you don't need to tell me that. It was crap!

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When Bryony was 11, her parents separated,

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dividing her family straight down the middle.

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Alisha stayed with me

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and I think Bryony went with her mum for about a year.

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But after her mum struggled on her own,

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Bryony moved back in with her dad.

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Now with no school, no job and no desire to do anything,

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she relies on Dad Bill to do everything for her.

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Bryony, can you come and clean the piss up please?

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I will when I come down.

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You know the procedure.

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There you go. Can you sort it out, please?

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No, Bryony, can you do the whole thing, please?

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Bryony's future is at a standstill, and for Bill, it's worse than ever.

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She's a spoilt little cow, yeah. That's my own fault.

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She treats me like a slave. She seems to have no respect for me.

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I just feel like from the time I get up in the morning to the time

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I go to bed, it's just a constant battle.

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To try and turn their irresponsible teenagers into mature adults,

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the desperate dads have agreed to send them to live with new parents

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on the other side of the world.

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-Do you want some pocket money?

-Yeah.

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-How much do you want? 20?

-No.

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-Have a good time.

-Thank you.

-Give us a cuddle, son. I'll miss you!

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You see, he won't even give me a hug!

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'I think this trip's really going to sink into him'

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and hopefully something good will come out of it.

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Be a good girl, all right? Make a good show of yourself, all right?

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-I will.

-Don't let the family down.

-I'll try not to.

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-And try and enjoy yourself a little bit.

-Oh, for goodness sake.

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-All right?

-All right? Hi, I'm Bryony.

-I'm Remzi. Are you nervous?

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-Yeah, really nervous. I've never flown before.

-Haven't you?

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-No.

-Really?

-Yeah, so I'll be really scared!

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They're heading to Argentina's capital, Buenos Aires.

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Famed for the tango,

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it's also the second biggest city in South America.

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The teens will be staying in an affluent gated community

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one hour north of the city...

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with the Bustamante family.

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Dad, Gonzalo, owns his own advertising firm

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and Guadalupe is a full-time mum.

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They have two kids - Juancho, 15, and Santiago who's 13.

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Santi, will you clean up the surface of the swimming pool please?

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The first and most important rule in our house is to follow the rules.

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We are not used to hearing "no" from our kids.

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Gonzalo has based his parenting style on his own upbringing.

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I grew up in a very strict house. My father was from the Navy

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and there were rules that must be done

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and that was the way that I grew up.

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In the Bustamante home, there is a formula to the hierarchy.

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Gonzalo is the captain and I am the first officer,

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but I am in charge.

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Sons Juancho and Santiago know that education comes before fun.

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The target is having a good family, nice kids

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and you begin with your school, so it's very important for me.

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-Are you doing your homework?

-Mm-hm.

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Look at this.

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But here is an "S".

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The Bustamante system of parenting works by their kids earning rights.

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If they respect the rules they can go to parties,

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they can come with friends to our house.

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If they don't respect the school rules or our rules,

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they know that the answer is "no".

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It's so cold.

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It's freezing. It's a piss take.

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After travelling almost 7,000 miles, Bryony and Remzi

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touch down in a wintry Buenos Aires, Argentina.

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Oh, my God, imagine if we lived there, look at that!

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No, look at them houses.

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They'd better be rich, otherwise, I can't sit in a mud hut.

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They look like they're going to fall over any second now.

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-I didn't expect this.

-I didn't expect this at all.

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The security guards at the Bustamante's gated community

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have two jobs - to stop undesirables getting in

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and unaccompanied children getting out.

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-Noventa y dos, quinientos y quince...

-I totally agree.

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I feel safer now we're going through the gates.

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Yeah, same. Cos all the little mud huts,

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-they seem better houses, don't they?

-Yeah.

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Oh, my God they're standing there.

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Do we just get out and shall we get suitcases?

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He looks really weird. Oh, God look at him.

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-He's fat.

-Oh, my God!

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Oh, my God. How scary.

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Oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God! Look at him!

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Hey, how are you?

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Hi, hello.

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Hi, how are you?

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-Bryony. Hello.

-Good morning, welcome.

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You all right?

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Welcome to our house, welcome to our family.

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The Bustamante's youngest son, 13-year-old Santiago,

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is ill in bed, but his older brother Juancho is ready and waiting.

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This is your brother, Juancho.

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All right?

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To the left...

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Is going to be lady's room...

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and this will be your room.

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You have plenty of toys, you can play a lot.

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I hope you'll be comfortable and enjoy your stay with Bustamantes.

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'Oh, they're too nice.'

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SPANISH ACCENT: "Hello, welcome home!"

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"Oh, hello, I'm your new dad. Oh, hello."

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It's not my new home. I'm here for seven days.

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It's a bit strange to me to have a girl,

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because I have two boys so I am worried about this because I treat

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my boys like if I was a father too,

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so we have to learn about each other.

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In anticipation of a smoking ban,

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the teens hide their stash of cigarettes.

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Put some in there.

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Gonzalo had a strict military upbringing,

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so establishing a code of conduct

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for his guests to follow is paramount.

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The first rule is respect the rules of our family.

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-Any one of you smokes?

-Mm-hm.

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Well you can smoke if you want, but outside. OK?

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As we tell our kids, school is your job.

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-You're going to go to school.

-I don't like school.

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I'm not going to school.

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How long do we have to go there for? Is it like six hours?

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No, I think in Argentina the bilingual schools

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are from eight to four, I think.

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Oh, God.

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You must have good manners at the dinner table,

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-no elbows on the table.

-Don't do this when we are eating.

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You must always try your hardest

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when you are representing our family.

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If people see you misbehave they will think badly of my name...

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of Bustamante.

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If you agree with them, I ask you to sign them.

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-If you don't, you have to sign them anyway.

-That's right.

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Because we don't discuss with our kids because we are the parents,

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you are the kids and this is not a democracy.

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We are in charge.

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One particular rule seems to have troubled the teens.

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School. BLEEP that.

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Eight, nine, ten, 11, 12,

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one, two, three, four...

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-nine hours.

-I don't want to go to school.

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-I've already been to school.

-Yeah.

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-I'm scared now.

-Why?

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Dunno, she seems like a right bitch.

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They don't like the rules, especially once or twice,

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but they don't have a choice because they will live here and this is...

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That's the way that we live.

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Before lunch, Bryony and Remzi question eldest son Juancho

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to see if he is friend or foe.

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Have you ever been drunk?

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I don't really like alcohol but...

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-Really?

-What about parties and stuff like that?

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-You should take us to a party.

-Yeah, of course.

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Of course, I go to those parties and I have fun

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but without alcohol. It's the same but...

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I think you should take us to a party.

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Excuse me, what is this? This was inside the toilet paper.

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Don't laugh. Be an adult, we are not five years old.

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I'm not laughing. How am I laughing?

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-Give me...

-Why are you telling me I'm laughing?

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Gonzalo told you that we don't allow you to smoke inside

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and this is in the kids' bathroom.

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-Why?

-Probably because we didn't know what you'd say...

-I'm...

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-Listen to me, I'm talking. They probably...

-But...

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-Shh! I'm talking....

-No, no.

-I'm talking, shh!

-Listen to me.

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-Don't get in my face! Who the BLEEP do you think you are?

-Listen to me...

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-WHO do you think you are?

-Listen to me, this is my house...

-Well done(!)

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..and you are not going to yell at me.

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You're not supposed to put this inside my boys' toilet.

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-Yes, I know, but what I'm saying...

-This was inside the toilet paper.

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Santi was throwing up on the inside and I say, "What is this?"

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Did you put this inside in the bathroom?

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We hid a few because we thought you would take them away

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so we were going to give you the pack with some hidden....

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No, because we trust you. We don't have to discuss in this matter.

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We were clear. We deserve some respect inside our house,

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and it's for your health.

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I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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-Do you?

-Mm-hm.

-OK.

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All I want to do is sleep and they're annoying me.

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Meal times for the Bustamante family are a social event

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and an important part of the daily routine.

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I want a small bit.

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-Please.

-Please.

-Is this OK?

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Enjoy our first meal. How does it taste?

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-Good.

-OK. It's cool.

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Tell us something about you.

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-Where do you live, in London?

-Essex.

-Crawley.

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London, basically.

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Who do you live with in London?

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-I live with my dad.

-Your dad? And you?

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-My dad.

-Your dad.

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-Is it all right if I go to the toilet, yeah?

-Yeah.

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But Bryony's already forgotten one of the mealtime rules.

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They are both at the side of the table.

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-I'm not eating any more.

-What?

-I'm not eating any more.

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Yes, but we are at the table so...

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When you're at the table, remember we try to have correct position.

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I'll just go to my room, then.

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-No, no, no.

-I don't feel well. Shut up.

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This is not the way that I want to spend this week.

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It's a baptism of fire for the Bustamantes.

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I prefer to speak things and try to understand each other.

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OK, OK, goodbye.

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Not goodbye, we just said "hello" two hours ago.

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We just get together at lunch.

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It's a family moment and I want to know about you.

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I just don't want to be told what to do and stuff, I just don't.

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OK, I will wait you, ten minutes, OK? Thank you.

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I think that's not the attitude because it's like,

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"come on, let's make this week the best experience for all of us,"

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and it's easy if you respect the rules. They're not difficult rules.

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"Oh, this is absolutely... Stop shouting at me!"

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Stop shouting at me.

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I just don't want to row with them but they're pissing me off.

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-The dad's the best, he's lovely.

-After a few days of her talking, I'll brain her. She don't shut up.

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-Yeah, she's just going on, she's like "Oh, yes".

-Shut the door.

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SHE MUMBLES

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Our first day, it was hard.

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I never expected that the things go so fast.

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Yeah, that surprised me.

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They're so bad!

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It's a big challenge because we are not used to that.

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-It's going to be OK.

-It's not easy but not impossible.

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Nothing's impossible.

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It's Remzi and Bryony's first full day in Argentina.

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Remember that you're going to school today.

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Gonzalo wants to make sure the teens know what's expected of them.

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Remember we were talking yesterday about my name

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and the Bustamante family.

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-Try to make me proud.

-OK.

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We will talk later when I come back and you tell me your experience.

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-Yep.

-I hope it will be positive.

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But for image-obsessed Remzi, it's the school uniform

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that's troubling him more than anything else.

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You've got the thing...

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Look at it...

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Do they actually wear this, like really actually wear this?

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It's not even about individuality.

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It's about looking like a dick basically,

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with a green frickin' woolly thing and tracksuit bottoms.

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The teens will be attending San Patricio's College,

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one of Buenos Aires many bilingual schools.

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San Patricio is a fee paying school

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and a strong work ethic is expected of all of its pupils.

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Kids who come to my school work really hard.

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We praise responsibility, we praise loyalty

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and we try and trust our students.

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And pupils at this school understand that any bad behaviour

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will not be tolerated.

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Do we have kids who misbehave here very often in my office?

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No, no, we don't.

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Guadalupe has brought the kids in early today

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so they can meet head teacher Marisa.

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Well, people at this school behave and we live like a family.

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We try not to break rules, we try to respect each other and especially

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we trust each other, yeah? So I beg you to behave and also to let

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other people behave. But I think that we will get along well, yeah?

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Today, the teens will be joining an English language class

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for final year students.

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Before we start I would like you guys to come here to the front

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and tell the rest of the class why you're here

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and what your aims are by this experience, OK?

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No, you do it.

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You can do it from there if you don't want to stand up.

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Um, I'm Remzi.

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We're here because we misbehave at home and they want to try

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and change us so we're better.

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-How about you?

-Just the same as him.

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Guys, would you like to ask them anything?

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I don't know, what they do back there, have any hobbies, sports?

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What do you enjoy doing?

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Just with my mates, just chilling...

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-Parties.

-Yeah, parties and stuff.

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OK.

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-Do you smoke or drink?

-Yeah.

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On average, how much do you spend every time?

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What, on a night out, like?

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-At a party.

-All of it.

-Party?

-All of it.

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It depends on if you have to get a cab home or something.

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If you do, it's 60 quid. If it's normal, it's 20 or 30.

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Introductions over, it's time to get down to some work.

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We're going to read a story about a person, OK?

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-I'm not reading.

-Can you get one and pass the rest?

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I'm not reading out loud, I'm really not.

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"Lance, being a seemingly healthy young man ignored the warning signs.

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"By the time the cancer was diagnosed it had spread to his lung,

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"abdomen and brain. His chances of survival limited."

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The reading task set by the teacher requires concentration from the whole class.

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You don't want to read and don't want to work, it's OK.

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I'm listening!

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Yes, but it's not enough, you're being disrespectful

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with that attitude.

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We'll have to ask you to leave the class if you keep doing that.

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What, because I'm just sitting here?

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-Because you're being disrespectful.

-I'm looking at you!

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I want you to grab the piece of paper and behave like the rest of the people.

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Can you start reading, please?

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I can't deal with BLEEP English.

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You need to stop saying those things because they're not allowed.

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You don't hear other people saying...

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I don't want to BLEEP learn. I don't want to listen to this.

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So, listen, either you stop saying that or...

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-OK, shush!

-I'm sorry, you're shouting at me.

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-Well done.

-Marisa, I'm going to have to ask you to take her out

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-because she's shouting...

-Come with me, please.

-..she's swearing.

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She's happy to come with me. Please pick up the chair.

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-No, I'm not bending down.

-Please pick the chair up.

-Don't touch me.

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I didn't touch you.

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I'm sorry.

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Stop there.

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Darling, calm, stop there.

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-I don't want to learn English.

-We know you don't want to.

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I'm not sitting in there. I've done school. I'm not doing it again!

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Sorry, please, could you please stop there? Could you please stop there?

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Let's go back to class, because I think you might find

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something interesting from what is being said there.

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Stop following me, please.

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TUTOR: This one. >

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What's cancer, it's not that difficult, is it?

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-Illness.

-An illness.

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Can I have the cigarettes? Thank you.

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-You can't smoke in here.

-I'm not smoking indoors. I'm going outside.

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You're not going to go out. So give the cigarettes back.

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-You BLEEP what?!

-Give the cig...

-BLEEP move!

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-Don't touch me.

-BLEEP move! Don't BLEEP do that!

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-Don't touch me.

-Move now!

-Don't touch me.

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Don't you dare! Let me out.

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Do you want a BLEEP punch, you old woman? Get me out of here!

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Let me out!

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-You're not going to...

-Don't you dare!

-Sit down, please.

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-I'm not sitting down.

-Sit down, please.

-No.

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-Yes, please.

-Do you want a punch?

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-No.

-Do you want a punch?

-I don't need to be aggressive.

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-Let me out!

-Gosh.

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Can I go, please, because I'm really angry

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and I'm going to punch that stupid old woman?!

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BLEEP old woman.

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-Bryony!

-What?!

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Concerned about Bryony's behaviour, Marisa decides to call Guadalupe.

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For the other classmates, it's been a real eye opener.

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She has no limits.

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You can not shout at a teacher or you can not push a teacher.

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She brought this on.

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She shouldn't have blocked the door while I wanted to go and calm down.

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She flips for no reason, it's weird. Like, she'll sit there and be quiet

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and then she like pushed the teacher and that

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and then she's like all...

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I don't know, moods are up and down all the time.

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Yeah, do come in, please.

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Unsure of what's taken place, Guadalupe is summoned to the school.

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First she just put her head on the table,

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then she started swearing in class.

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Then she came into the classroom,

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asked you for a cigarette, you gave her one.

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I told you you were not allowed to smoke here at school

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so that's why I think they shouldn't be staying

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for the rest of the day with us.

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-OK.

-I'm sorry.

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-Thank you very much, Marisa, I appreciate the effort.

-OK.

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With the teens suspended for disrupting the class

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and smoking on school grounds, Guadalupe takes them home

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to decide how to tackle the situation.

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No, go away!

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No, why?

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At the end of the day, we must talk about what happened today at school.

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Why you become mad so fast?

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I try to understand why.

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All right, please, go away!

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-We're going outside.

-Why?

-Yes, you can go but not her.

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-Why?

-You can go, not her.

-Where are you going?

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Because I don't allow it.

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-It's up to her. If she wants to be alone.

-No.

-I'm sure she's independent.

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No, you can't go, no.

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Don't you dare push me. Do you want it to happen what happened this morning?

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You are supposed to be alone. Don't force me to do this.

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-Don't force me to punch you in the face.

-What did you say?!

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-I said don't force me to punch you on the face.

-Don't you dare.

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-What are you BLEEP doing?

-Don't you dare!

-Get out of my face.

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-I don't touch, you but you have to stay here alone.

-Why?

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-Because it's that...

-What's wrong?

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What's wrong, I thought your kids don't get angry like this?

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-No, this is my kid, this is not yours.

-Yeah, I know that.

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He's angry because you're shouting at me. Tell me what's wrong.

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-Don't backchat my mum.

-What?

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-You have to respect her.

-OK, yep. Can I just go outside, then?

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If she says you can't go outside, you can't go outside, end point.

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It's my mum and I'm not going to let you speak like that.

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-I know it's your mum.

-So don't raise your voice to her.

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Oh, I just want to go home now!

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She started raising her voice and saying bad words,

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so I got really mad.

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It's OK.

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I love you, but this is not the way.

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I'm proud of you.

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Gonzalo's home, and he's keen to find out how Bryony

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and Remzi did at school today.

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-Is everything OK?

-Well...

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Well, not everything is OK

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because there was a little incident at school.

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Given the low-down from Guadalupe, Gonzalo decides

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to try a different approach.

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If you do crazy things there are going to be crazy results.

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Yeah...sorry.

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No, no, no, not sorry...

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You never tell me sorry to me. You have to say sorry of you.

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-OK.

-You lose the opportunity to get in touch with a different culture,

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with different kids, you know.

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The only one that loses is you when you behave this way.

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Yeah.

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Gonzalo's soothing words seem to have struck a chord with Bryony.

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I love Gonzalo. He's really nice, I get along with him loads.

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He's a good dad. It's just the mum really, she's so annoying.

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She doesn't shut up, she doesn't let you talk, she doesn't understand

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and she's just like, "Oh, no, no, shut up, get in your room, shut up."

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Suspended from school, Remzi and Bryony are at home,

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but Gonzalo's not planning on letting them take it easy.

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KNOCK ON DOOR

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< Hi, Ana.

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He's arranged for their neighbour, Ana, to take the teens

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to do some charity work today.

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Born and raised in Buenos Aires, Ana has witnessed the rise

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of the city's slum population

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and been doing what she can to help for the last eight years.

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Here in our gated community, we live in a privileged way,

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but there are some people that live outside that are not so lucky

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and Ana is the one that has the biggest heart in Talar De Lago

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and tries to give them a big hand.

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In Argentina, it's a common sight to see affluent gated communities

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sat side by side with slums.

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So Ana is taking the teens to a slum just ten minutes drive

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from the Bustamantes' doorstep.

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It's like they've just randomly pulled things off random houses and built a house.

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I've never been to a place like this before in my life.

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I'm scared.

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As many as 500,000 of a population of 3 million people

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live in communities like this in central Buenos Aires alone.

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The charity where Ana volunteers is a small school

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in the heart of the slum.

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Hola, chicos! Buenos dias. Como le va?

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Estan Bry y Rem.

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I didn't expect it to be like this, like where we've been

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in the house, like, it's so luxurious but like here,

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this is the real Argentina, ain't it? There's dogs everywhere.

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I feel like I'm in a third world country.

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It's not very nice, but it's upsetting as well

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because of all the little kids and stuff, but they seem happy.

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The job Ana has in mind for Bryony and Remzi is to begin

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the much needed redecorating of one of the classrooms.

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-Is it going in?

-Yeah, bits on the side so it's fine.

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And be generous with the paint

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because we've got to cover all this with one coat.

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With the teens out of the house,

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Guadalupe phones Bryony's dad, Bill, to try and find out more

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about the explosive behaviour she showed at school.

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Hello.

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Hi, I'm Guadalupe from Argentina.

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Good evening to you.

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Bryony is a nice girl,

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but she has a little bit issues that I would like to talk to you about.

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She has got some serious anger problems.

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'It kind of messed up her schooling.'

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She was excluded from school,

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then she was diagnosed at a very late stage with ADHD.

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Oh.

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But also she's got a very low concentration time, you know.

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She loses concentration very quickly.

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ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, affects levels

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of focus and concentration predominantly in children.

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The problem wasn't identified with Bryony

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until after she had been expelled from school.

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She was just a naughty little girl in the junior school,

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then she went up to secondary school and then the problems started

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because she had to do some serious work,

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but obviously the ADHD wasn't recognised.

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The school basically couldn't cope with her behaviour.

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There are ways to deal with ADHD, both medical and psychological,

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but it's Bryony's emotional response

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when she can't cope that causes her fits of rage.

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It's even gone beyond her schooling

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and is now affecting all areas of her life.

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These are my old trophies from Irish dancing.

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I used to do Irish dancing, but obviously I quit.

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That's my drama certificate and this is ages ago.

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This is from my musical theatre. That was when I had hobbies though.

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It's Bryony again, she loses interest, you know, very quickly.

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I just give up. I give up on a lot, which is quite stupid.

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The phone call with Bryony's Dad has been a revelation to Guadalupe.

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I learned a lot of things about Bryony that I didn't know

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and then I have to know and I have to think about

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all the things he told me.

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Back at the slum, Bryony's lost concentration

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and has stopped working, leaving Remzi to paint alone.

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If you're going to sit and do nothing just go outside.

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-Shut up.

-Can you just go outside?

0:35:150:35:16

-Shut up.

-No, you shut up.

-No, you shut up.

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-I'm not being funny, but we're all here to...

-I've done loads of shit.

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Oh, and I haven't?

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Why stand there when you could give me more paint or something?

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-You didn't ask for it.

-You just ask.

-Maybe next time, ask.

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-I can't be bothered to row with you.

-Why did you start rowing?

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You're annoying me. I don't understand why you have to stand there!

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Ana is shocked to see how the British teens act in front of her.

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Honestly, if it came from one of my grandchildren or something,

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yes, I'd be pretty surprised,

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but when she's angry and she's using bad language, I don't think

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she realises how ugly it all looks and it was a shame it happened.

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Ana takes Bryony aside.

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Do you always get angry that quickly? Yes?

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Well...you know you'll find out in time it's not worth it.

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When you get angry there's only one other thing you can do...

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get pleased again.

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You know you should never get angry because you're so pretty,

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-so pretty when you smile.

-OK.

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When all your teeth fall out and you can't smile then you can get angry!

0:36:240:36:30

Why don't you go and see how he's getting on?

0:36:300:36:35

What shall I say?

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"I'm sorry." That's all.

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You can do it. I know you can do it. You're terrific!

0:36:400:36:43

Remzi...I'm sorry. You've done a good job.

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-If you ever threaten to punch me again I will actually kill you.

-OK.

0:36:490:36:52

Today has been a chance for Remzi and Bryony

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to see a different side of Argentina.

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When we went out the gated community, we thought that was really bad

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but this is worse, but it's like friendly.

0:37:040:37:06

I thought it would have been like get shot or something, but it's really friendly for some reason.

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I was shitting myself!

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Even after a difficult start, Ana is keen for the teens

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to return and finish the job.

0:37:210:37:22

'We've already told them we're coming back on Thursday.'

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We've already told them we're going to paint flowers on the wall.

0:37:260:37:29

'If you promise, you've got to do it.'

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We've got one more white wall to do. We're going to go back to the house,

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draw some stencils and then on Thursday we're coming back

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to just decorate and clean it up and stuff like that.

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I'm looking forward to seeing their faces and that!

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I don't want to leave them.

0:37:440:37:45

I can't wait until we come back on Thursday now.

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As night falls over Buenos Aires,

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Marisa at San Patricio's College has called.

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There's been a meeting to discuss Bryony and Remzi's behaviour

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and the result is outright expulsion.

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The principal of the school called us

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and said that you're not allowed to get in to the school again.

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I asked you, please, to take care about my name.

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You didn't do any effort about that.

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-Remzi, what do you think about that?

-I just want to go to bed...

-I didn't understand.

0:38:180:38:22

Yeah, I know, I'm sorry.

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-You're going to be sorry if I get more angry.

-All right, yeah, cool.

0:38:250:38:28

I promise you. All right, yeah, I get your point.

0:38:280:38:31

-You're in my house and you have to respect my rules, is that clear?

-Yes, it is.

0:38:310:38:35

OK, think about it because the next time,

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-it's not going to be talking, you know.

-All right.

0:38:370:38:40

Thursday, I think you're not going again to the activity.

0:38:400:38:44

You have to earn it.

0:38:440:38:47

But we're not earning, we're helping people who are less fortunate.

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So you won't let us help people?

0:38:500:38:52

-If you want to go back...

-I do.

0:38:520:38:55

..show some, you know, effort, OK?

0:38:550:38:58

Thank you.

0:38:580:39:01

It's the first time the teens have had to deal

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with the consequences of their bad behaviour.

0:39:030:39:06

They're being BLEEP and taking the experience away.

0:39:060:39:09

What's the point of saying that we can't go back, yeah?

0:39:090:39:13

I'm not being funny, like, we've done half the work.

0:39:130:39:16

It's a bit out of order to just leave them with like half a room painted.

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I think they are going to improve.

0:39:200:39:23

The only thing that I want is to make them think.

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Bryony and Remzi know they need to change

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if they want to see Ana or the nursery school again.

0:39:330:39:36

Urgh, that one's got a leaf on it. I don't think I could do that one.

0:39:440:39:48

Remzi breaks the deadlock

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and starts helping Guadalupe with some jobs around the house.

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The first is to clear up after the Bustamantes' two dogs.

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Urgh, this one's all hard.

0:39:570:39:59

You need to stop feeding them.

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Don't feed them and they won't poo.

0:40:030:40:06

GUADALUPE LAUGHS

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And there are no temper tantrums when Guadalupe asks Bryony to take the dogs for a walk.

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When my dog sees big dogs like this,

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her tail tucks in and she goes really shy.

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In the hope of returning to the slum tomorrow, Bryony and Remzi work on designs for a mural.

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-How old are they, like, toddlers?

-They're well young.

-Like three...two, three.

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-They said they start learning English then, don't they?

-Mmm.

0:40:320:40:35

I'm very pleased they're doing this.

0:40:350:40:39

I know they have strong feelings about the kids,

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so it's really good these kind of things

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are coming from inside them.

0:40:480:40:52

They didn't need me to ask them for it.

0:40:520:40:55

-A sun at least. We need to put a sun.

-Yeah, a sun.

0:40:550:40:58

Yeah, just do that then.

0:40:580:41:00

With both teens showing signs of improvement,

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even Bryony is letting her guard down with the family.

0:41:060:41:09

That's quite good, actually. That's good.

0:41:120:41:14

Not only do Juancho and Bryony both play the drums,

0:41:140:41:17

but Juancho has also suffered from anger problems.

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The drums really helped me with my problem inside.

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I guess anger or something like that.

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The relationship with my parents improved. With my friends, too.

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It was something that I had inside, which this helped to release it.

0:41:320:41:39

I'm looking forward to playing the drums when I get back.

0:41:390:41:42

I'm going to ask my dad if I can have mine now.

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Then I'll be able to play them every day.

0:41:450:41:47

I think it would make me more calm and stuff.

0:41:470:41:50

You should keep with it.

0:41:500:41:52

-It's really helpful.

-Yeah.

0:41:530:41:57

'Me and Juancho have got quite a lot of stuff in common.'

0:42:040:42:08

We both have problems with anger.

0:42:080:42:11

We get our anger out by drums and he was saying it's helped him.

0:42:110:42:16

Now I've played since I've been here it feels like I definitely want to.

0:42:160:42:20

I was thinking of getting rid of my drum kit, selling it and spending it on myself.

0:42:200:42:26

Drums is just a really cool hobby, I like and I enjoy it.

0:42:260:42:31

And it makes me happy cos I can hear myself.

0:42:310:42:33

Remzi is helping Guadalupe prepare the dinner.

0:42:380:42:41

Back home, he hasn't eaten a meal with his dad in over a year.

0:42:410:42:45

I only live with my dad so we don't really do this at home.

0:42:450:42:50

The only time we all sit down for a meal is when we go round my nan's.

0:42:500:42:53

You live with your dad, not your mum, because your mum lives in another place?

0:42:530:42:58

When I did live with my mum, I used to cook food for her.

0:42:580:43:05

But it's not something I do with my dad. I just don't.

0:43:050:43:07

Spending time with Guadalupe has made Remzi reflect on his relationship with his own mother.

0:43:070:43:14

I didn't want to talk to her cos I thought she was selfish,

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expecting me and my sister to leave our whole lives

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just so she could move near her boyfriend. It really pissed me off.

0:43:210:43:24

I was just being really stubborn. Didn't want Neil in my life that much.

0:43:240:43:29

If I moved in with him that would've been it.

0:43:290:43:31

He would've had power over me. I didn't want that.

0:43:310:43:34

Both Bryony and Remzi hope to return to the charity tomorrow.

0:43:340:43:39

But the decision lies with Gonzalo.

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Tell me, how was the day today?

0:43:420:43:45

-Relaxing.

-Relaxing but they both made big efforts.

0:43:450:43:50

I wanted to hear that.

0:43:510:43:53

What would be the best thing that you'd love to do tomorrow?

0:43:540:44:00

-Go back.

-Go back.

0:44:000:44:02

Just to finish it off so we know that we've done it.

0:44:020:44:05

-If I went home now knowing that I've only done...

-Just painted it.

0:44:050:44:08

Painted it and haven't even finished the whole room, it would annoy me.

0:44:080:44:12

I think that you earned the right

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to go back and make happy those kids.

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Congratulations.

0:44:200:44:23

Before the teens head back to the charity this morning,

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a letter has arrived for Remzi from his mum and her partner, Neil.

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Do you want to read it alone?

0:44:450:44:48

Read it alone.

0:44:480:44:50

-Take a few minutes and afterwards, if you want, you call me. OK?

-OK.

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"Hello, Remzi. When you come home Neil and I would like a chat, get everything out in the open.

0:44:590:45:05

"Neil was saying how good this is for you and he also said you would go far in life, which I know you will.

0:45:050:45:12

'I love you, son, and I do hope the family see the way we do.

0:45:120:45:16

"Fun-loving and caring. Cos that's what you are.

0:45:160:45:18

"It's just I think we have all got a bit lost on the way.

0:45:180:45:23

"I want you to come round and be a part of this life and so does Neil.

0:45:230:45:28

"I'm proud of you for all you've done and I love you more than anything."

0:45:280:45:33

Aww. That's nice.

0:45:330:45:35

It's a nice letter.

0:45:350:45:37

It was the kind of thing you expected to read?

0:45:390:45:43

No, I was expecting her to be angry and her going on about the past instead of the future.

0:45:430:45:47

She's saying forget about what's happened and we can move on.

0:45:470:45:51

Perhaps this week it's the time enough for you and your family

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to try to change little things that are going to make big changes in the future.

0:45:580:46:03

I hope mine and my dad's relationship can be better,

0:46:030:46:07

mine and my mum's relationship can be better

0:46:070:46:09

and mine and my stepdad. Basically.

0:46:090:46:13

-Hopefully when I get home it will change.

-I hope so.

-It will change.

0:46:130:46:17

I know you will.

0:46:170:46:19

-You're a good man.

-So are you.

0:46:190:46:20

I know that Remzi has a lot of potential.

0:46:230:46:26

I see his changes here from the beginning of the week till now

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and he's amazing. He wants to make changes.

0:46:330:46:38

Bryony and Remzi arrive at the slum, keen to finish what they started.

0:46:490:46:54

-Do it right there?

-Yeah, like that.

0:46:540:46:56

-We can just do...

-Yeah, we can paint it on better any way.

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Whilst Bryony marks out the mural the teens designed yesterday,

0:47:010:47:05

Remzi finishes whitewashing the last wall.

0:47:050:47:07

At first I thought the family was being horrible, telling us we can't come back to help them.

0:47:070:47:13

But it was actually us cos we had to behave to help them.

0:47:130:47:19

It sounds weird, but if we were bad, we would've been selfish,

0:47:190:47:25

cos we wouldn't have been able to help them.

0:47:250:47:28

So I'm happy we behaved.

0:47:280:47:31

With the kindergarten class relocated outside for the morning,

0:47:310:47:34

Bryony and Remzi work double quick time.

0:47:340:47:38

And to finish it off in style, the teens have an idea.

0:47:380:47:43

Ready?

0:47:430:47:44

-Si!

-Si! Oh, no!

0:47:480:47:51

You want one more?

0:48:000:48:01

-You like blue.

-Where should we do it? Underneath them all.

0:48:050:48:10

One, two, three.

0:48:100:48:11

Aww!

0:48:140:48:15

With the transformation complete, it's time to reveal the results.

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They all want to thank you very much for having done the painting and drawings.

0:48:230:48:27

They're very, very grateful.

0:48:270:48:30

Thank you! >

0:48:300:48:32

I'm not used to people being happy for something I've done.

0:48:440:48:48

Being thankful for something you've done.

0:48:480:48:52

-Makes me want to smile.

-Yeah, I know.

0:48:520:48:55

-Cool.

-Yeah.

0:48:550:48:58

It's tremendous, and all I hope is that they carry on and remember

0:48:590:49:06

and that this really helps them change things

0:49:060:49:10

and see that what they have at home is pretty good.

0:49:100:49:15

I didn't think you could get a buzz from this without getting money.

0:49:150:49:19

It's crazy to think that little kids like that actually...

0:49:190:49:23

The amount of money I spend on clothes could build three of them.

0:49:230:49:26

It makes me feel really bad. Maybe if I went without a pair of trainers

0:49:260:49:31

for one month, they could get more food for one month. I feel like a dick spending all that money.

0:49:310:49:36

Bryony's time here has also made her think differently about her behaviour back home.

0:49:360:49:42

If someone says something I don't like or I don't agree with, I get angry.

0:49:420:49:47

When I'm angry I get upset and then I feel sorry what I say to them after.

0:49:470:49:53

I just need to calm down a bit, really.

0:49:530:49:56

It was four years ago that Bryony moved out of her mother's house

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to live with her dad.

0:50:100:50:12

Today, a letter has arrived, and it's from Bryony's mum.

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"My beautiful Bryony, only three days have gone,

0:50:160:50:18

"and it seems like three months.

0:50:180:50:20

"Not having any contact with you has been so difficult.

0:50:200:50:24

"Bryony, you have so many qualities.

0:50:240:50:26

"My wish is that you look at your inner self,

0:50:260:50:30

"and make the changes you know will make a difference.

0:50:300:50:34

"I know you can prove to yourself and others what you are capable of.

0:50:340:50:38

"Missing you so much. I love you, Mum."

0:50:380:50:41

-Are you happy?

-Yeah.

0:50:430:50:46

She does tell me stuff like this before. Like, quite a lot.

0:50:480:50:52

But it's never really got to me like this.

0:50:520:50:55

I've never really wanted to make changes and stuff. But I really do.

0:50:550:51:00

Your mum is so proud of you.

0:51:020:51:04

I know, because I'm proud, too.

0:51:080:51:10

Thanks for giving me the letter now.

0:51:120:51:14

And I'm just going to... just have some time by myself.

0:51:140:51:18

OK.

0:51:180:51:20

I'm glad that you have the letter.

0:51:200:51:23

Thank you.

0:51:230:51:24

First kiss!

0:51:240:51:25

Special barbecue.

0:51:310:51:34

It's Bryony and Remzi's last night in Argentina.

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And Gonzalo's laid on a traditional Argentinian barbecue

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for the whole family.

0:51:410:51:42

Thank you for everything. You've been the most amazingest parents ever.

0:51:420:51:46

And this isn't going to be the end.

0:51:460:51:49

-No.

-No. I hope so.

0:51:490:51:50

-And to meet again and keep in contact!

-Keep in touch.

0:51:500:51:54

Don't go to any more parties.

0:51:540:51:56

For the British teens, their week in Argentina is at an end.

0:52:160:52:20

This experience has helped me realise it's not all about me.

0:52:200:52:24

Cos all I did was care about myself.

0:52:240:52:26

And I took things for granted.

0:52:260:52:27

But I've tried to take things in a different way,

0:52:270:52:30

and, if I disagree, I just keep my mouth shut.

0:52:300:52:33

Otherwise, there'll be a big argument, so...

0:52:330:52:35

I'm just going to try and be more polite, and help around the house.

0:52:350:52:38

It has actually been a life-changing experience, like.

0:52:380:52:41

I used to just be horrible to everyone.

0:52:410:52:43

But now, I've learnt to put my self in other people's shoes.

0:52:430:52:48

How it would feel if someone done that to me. It's not nice.

0:52:480:52:51

You should treat someone how you want to be treated, I think.

0:52:510:52:54

Need to go home and think about stuff, now.

0:52:540:52:56

Thank you so much. You've been very kind.

0:52:580:53:01

-I love you.

-I love you, too.

0:53:010:53:04

Come on! You'll always be my girl, you know.

0:53:050:53:09

Thank you for everything. You make a big effort.

0:53:090:53:11

-I tried.

-No, you made an excellent effort.

0:53:110:53:14

-One more time?

-That's right.

0:53:140:53:16

Love you.

0:53:180:53:20

Very quiet without Bryony around the house. But I must admit,

0:53:390:53:42

I can't believe how much I have really actually missed her,

0:53:420:53:45

even though she can be a real pain sometimes.

0:53:450:53:47

Hello! All right, babe?

0:53:480:53:52

It's just been such a cool experience and stuff.

0:53:520:53:55

But yeah, I want things to change.

0:53:550:53:57

Good, I hope so. Are you going to help me around the house a bit more?

0:53:570:54:01

-Yeah.

-Perhaps we can do things together.

0:54:010:54:03

I just want it to be a bit more family like, where we talk more.

0:54:030:54:08

I can't wait.

0:54:080:54:09

Yeah, I can see a bit of a difference in her.

0:54:090:54:12

Even after a week, she's come back a little bit more calmer

0:54:120:54:15

and chilled out.

0:54:150:54:18

I can't change everything but I'm going to change all the stuff

0:54:180:54:21

I need to change.

0:54:210:54:23

I've shown myself I can do it,

0:54:230:54:24

so there's no point in being an idiot and not carrying it on.

0:54:240:54:27

So, yeah, of course I'm going to do it.

0:54:270:54:29

I'm hoping that he's not changed as a whole person, you know?

0:54:350:54:38

Just get the niggling things out of him like the cheekiness

0:54:380:54:42

and respect me a bit more and respect his money a bit more.

0:54:420:54:47

Just to take more responsibilities.

0:54:470:54:50

Hello, son. How's it going? Give us a cuddle. Aww.

0:54:500:54:54

I've missed you, son, are you all right, yeah?

0:54:560:55:00

I am really, really sorry for taking so much money off you and stuff.

0:55:000:55:03

I feel really bad.

0:55:030:55:05

And taking all my anger out on you when it weren't your fault.

0:55:050:55:09

And just basically pushing you away.

0:55:090:55:13

I'm just in shock, mate.

0:55:130:55:14

I really just, I really, I am going to help you, son.

0:55:140:55:18

I am going to help you a lot.

0:55:180:55:19

Give us another hug, son.

0:55:190:55:21

Do you know what? I'm really, really proud.

0:55:210:55:25

That trip has done something to him, you know?

0:55:250:55:28

With my help, with his mum's help, we can really pull through this, you know?

0:55:280:55:32

Inside I am quite emotional, you know?

0:55:320:55:35

Because I'm thinking,

0:55:350:55:36

"Wow, is this really my son talking to me like this?"

0:55:360:55:40

This is like, he hasn't spoken to me like this for ages but for him

0:55:400:55:43

to pour out to me like that, that really has got to me.

0:55:430:55:48

But it's a nice, it's a nice feeling.

0:55:480:55:51

I need to start thinking about my family more now.

0:55:510:55:54

I need to start sorting myself out.

0:55:540:55:56

I would have thought I would have came back

0:55:560:55:58

and just normal but this like proper motivated me not to be.

0:55:580:56:01

To change a little bit. Yeah, I'm looking forward to it.

0:56:010:56:05

Next time on The World's Strictest Parents -

0:56:050:56:08

wannabe big man Hamzah Wali,

0:56:080:56:11

and spoiled private schoolgirl Charlie Denny...

0:56:110:56:14

Come and get me. I'm drinking underage.

0:56:140:56:17

..get new parents in South Africa.

0:56:170:56:20

Oi! There's two women, what the...?

0:56:200:56:22

-Can we just bunk?

-Seriously?

-You want to bunk?

0:56:220:56:25

Are you impressed with yourself, young lady?

0:56:250:56:29

Just do me a favour and for once put some effort into your life.

0:56:290:56:33

I'm done with this. That is bollocks.

0:56:330:56:35

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Two despairing single dads agree to send their out-of-control teenagers to Argentina for a dose of good old-fashioned South American parenting.

17-year-old Remzi Tomlin from Romford in Essex is constantly sponging off his dad, who bankrolls him to the tune of £250 a month. 16-year-old Bryony Harris from West Sussex has such extreme temper tantrums, she has been kicked out of two separate schools.

To try to turn their terrible teenagers into mature adults, the desperate dads are sending them 7,000 miles away to live with the Bustamante family in the suburbs of Buenos Aires. But when Bryony threatens to punch the shocked head teacher of the school she attends, it looks like she may need a little more than a change of scene.

Can a week away transform the unruly teenagers and how will they behave when they finally return back home?


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